From Toxic To Healthy Relationship | Celibacy, Jealousy And More..
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- Опубликовано: 29 авг 2024
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This conversation is a reflection of how we view our relationship. What was our previous relationship history? What have we learned moving into this relationship and what can we work on in order to grow healthy as a family?
Shoutout to men respecting a woman in her walk with celibacy or abstinence!
My husband and I were celibate while dating! The best decision we’ve ever made, to God be the glory! Thank you for sharing Maya!
I think everyone needs an intentional abstinence period in their life 😭 it just pushes you to be better
Valid point!!
I just have to say that Maya looks incredible. The momma weight looks SO GOOD (hope its okay that I say this, idk if its a sore point)! Motherhood and this new environment, and happiness looks great on you :)
Good thing I don’t mind and yes I have mama weight 🤣🙌🏾 For now
I felt the love in your comment....❣
Mama looks goooooooood okay!!! Yes 🙌🏾
Yes, Mama Maya is looking beautiful! 💜
AGREE! She looks SO beautiful & sexy!
Thank you for this!!! Celibacy isn't dead! It is nice to feel represented in this regard. I'm proud of you Maya for waiting and proud of Max for being willing to wait! Celibacy is very important but unfortunately underrated in our society... You guys dealt with this topic so well. Healthy relationships do exists and it is a great thing to verbalise that!
Indeed, it wasn't until a few months into our relationship I realized how big of a part it played on our foundation. Glad you enjoyed our chat! / Max
@@MaxMayaLiving But before Max, you have not been celibate and then you decided to try it to help you grow yourself? :)
This was awesome! My husband and I were celibate while dating too and it was the best decision ever. Honoring God, during the dating phase, really made us appreciate each other & that experience even more in our marriage. 💍
Celibate 7 years and loving it!! I actually 🚫 blocked a guy recently because all he spoke about was sex. Even after I told him I had no interest and my celibacy will not be broken with just any guy. Or just because a dude finds me attractive and wants to be intimate with me.
I need for him to get to know me. Innerstand me. Respect me. Hear me. Listen to me. And be that person to allow me the opportunity to recognize the flaws within me that I don't readily see.
I think I’m on year five! Recently found a guy a few weeks ago while not looking, he’s obsessed with me and more than ok with my choice. Exploring me in other ways and I’m loving navigating dating someone without jumping all in, it feels so different and more fulfilling. Cheers to the journey sister 🥂
“I had to talk to Maya, I was obsessed” 😂😂😂😂 aw I love you two. So sweet.
Right after yet another guy immediately ghosts me (online dating) upon mentioning I'm waiting until marriage I have this video recommended to me!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Good lookin' out, God...good lookin' out!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
GOD BLESS Y'ALL for taking the time to share your story with us!!! 🤗🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾
We wish you all the best. God got your back 🙏🏽🙏🏻💕
@@MaxMayaLiving Awwwww, THANK YOU!!! ☺️🥰
AAAAAAAMEN, I know He does! 🙌🏾🙏🏾🤲🏾🙏🏾
Don’t tell men too soon. Let them date you and get to know u a little first. See if u can build a friendship. You”ll have a better chance that way.
@@Cheree_Wright - Thank you for sharing your perspective. 😊
@@Cheree_Wright I came her to tell her the same thing sis. Let the man find out your celibate status as they get to know you. Your sex life isn’t their business on the first date. I’m not saying deceive anyone, but don’t reveal too much too soon
Saga’s baby farts were so cute. On her behalf, I would like to quote Austin Powers: “Pardon me for being rude, it was not me- it was my food. It just “popped-up” to say Hello and now it’s gone back down below!” 🤣
Max and Maya- I love the openness and honesty of your friendship and marriage. Anything worth having, is worth working on and fighting for. I wish you guys the very best and thank you for sharing your life journey with us. Peace and blessings.
Max, you need a podcast, many men can benefit from your words. That was valuable information for relationships. Beautiful family!!
Agreed!
Agreed!
Healthy dialogue is SO NEEDED within marriage even when touching on issues that can make you feel uncomfortable, that’s where the growing starts if u neglect or deny issues nothing will change.
THIS!
You two have such a strong connection that the self-work is worth it.
Thank you!! 💕💕
What does this mean?
That part!!!!
@@alanaaga3890 right?
I have been married 27 years and I have learned is to not speak with when I am angry- a very challenging discipline but it has served me well with both my husband and son. I want my relationship with my husband to serve as an example for my son. One of mutual respect, hard work and understanding.
I'm so happy that he brought up the jealousy issue and him working on it because a lot of men feel this way towards multi talented and successful women. A lot of them often times will try to purposely not acknowledge and encourage that woman's gifts and talents due to their insecurities. That was a great discovery. Very good! Another good point was doing the self work, but when in a relationship, you now have to do couple work. Self work is great in addition to the couple work. Great video!!!
I was confused. I wasn’t sure if Max saying he is jealous of other men being attracted to Maya or jealous of Maya’s success. It’s definitely rare for a man to admit to either sentiment
Respect is huge, if you love someone you would never purposely do something to hurt them. Always being available to hear out the other person and apologize when needed even if you may not understand why you are wrong but understanding the other person is hurting because of your actions.
I breastfed for two years. He just turned 2 in August this year. Every moment was so precious. The feeling of nourishment leaving me and going into him was so powerful for me. Unfortunately me and my ex are no longer together. Ive been celibate for 2 years now and I plan on staying this way for much longer.
I also bf for 2 years & currently doing it again. I love the precious moments-No regrets ❣️
My boyfriend & I feel so similar about trust & communication being our strong suits too! & we are waiting to have sex until marriage as well! We really are on the same page about glorifying God with our love & our bodies, & putting Him first.
It has helped to really bond us, & allows us to have a common vision for our lives. ♥️🙌🏿🙏🏿✨
As someone who believes in saving sex for marriage, I know exactly what you mean as far as some people thinking they can change your mind.. I remember this one guy I was cool with in college telling me at some point down the road how when I told him that initially he kind of had this "We'll see" mentality. And that was mainly because he had known so many women who said similar things but when it came down to it, they didn't actually stand behind that.. It was like it was just something to say.. To sound virtuous (I guess 🤷🏾).. I don't run into that as much in my 30s as I did when I was younger, Thank God! But it's still pretty ridiculous.. If a person tells you what they're about and you're not down for that, YOU need to move on. Don't pretend with the hopes of swaying them in a different direction, especially when you don't fully understand their logic/reasoning..
What Maya said about patience is so REAL! My boyfriend shows me my own flaws as well just because he is so calm and allows me to FEEL. I've never been in a relationship like that and it's because friendship and RESPECT is at the forefront. Loved this video & love u both!! Thank you for sharing💗
After two kids and I had the same intense breastfeeding experience plus lack of sleep . It can reck havoc on a marriage but you guys are doing great . Babies are precious but people should be honest at how hard it is you look amazing
When Max said he was obsessed… 💕💕💕.
Like literally 🤯
II applaud celibacy in a relationship. I think people should do what feels best for them. Unfortunately, I was not celibate with the person who is now my husband. My husband and I were friends first but we only dated for 10 months. We now have been married for 38 years.
Gosh, I don’t wanna get invested in another “yt” relationship but God bless and hold you two because this is just magical & I’m glad to see the journey ♥️
This is so good! Yes! And also something I’ve learned, while single and celibate, learning how to say sorry first and even after apologizing, not expecting an apology but rather doing it from a place of genuinity and allowing yourself to let go of something that has hurt you because odds are, you probably hurt the other person too...Which we humans tend to turn a blind eye to.❤️
This is amazing. It’s beautiful how we give one thing up and these realizations are coming to us. I wonder what to give up next? 🤔
Wow… Max has strong genes!!! 😮
We can see mummy from very many angles too
@@MaxMayaLiving Yes, Saga was bound to be beautiful with such gorgeous parents! ❤️
Been celibate since 2017, I'm grateful for it. I've done alot of growing through it and i have learned more about what i want in a person.
I see a lot of comments about Maya’s glow, and may I add Max is looking handsome in todays video!
For me personally, it’s soul healing watching u two talk about normal things. Wish u three all the blessings 🤓
Thanks for this convo. It’s hard out here for the abstinent people. But like you Maya I am glad it has been a protection. I don’t regret my choice. It is just disappointing that men don’t see it as you being self controlled but as something you are withholding from them.
But the self work did work, I think you are here with Max because of all the work done by you both prior to you meeting.. Maya you are beautiful and such a HUGE inspiration, you both deserve the best..happy marriage, God bless.
Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏾💕
Maya might be an Aries moon or something. I love her strength and warrior like attitude yet you can tell she’s beautifully sensitive.
I've been practicing celibacy 4yrs and learned and grown so much appreciation and love for myself and life in general. I am so excited to share my journey with someone now. Congratulations on finding someone to travel this roller coaster of a journey with.
Maya you're literally my goal. We share a birthday and you're 10 years my senior, you're so creative just like I am. Everytime I go through it, I always think ... what would Maya do/ what did Maya do ...
I love that you took the time to work on you, experience life, work on your purpose and passions and now you're just a proud nesting mama. Whenever forces tried ydu, you got up and fought back by keeping on going. I aspire to be in your level.
What a breath of fresh air.
Inhale, exhale. All the good vibes 💕
Awwww...Saga says "Excuse me guys... Better out than in!"
Shes a hand full 😂
This episode put a smile on my face. Ugh I am so happy for you guys. Happy Holidays.
aww thank you!! happy holiday
Per usual this is so refreshing as someone whose dating and been celibate for going on 3 years now and my partner up until meeting me wasn’t . I definitely can relate so many people have asked me if we really going to wait until we get married yes. Celibacy allows the relationship to develop organically and your vision is crystal clear their is no sex to blur it and it showed me that this man really is digging me for me while denying his flesh out of respect and love for me .I been watching Maya for a very long time and have seen all her ups and downs and to see her here with Max and a mom it’s a beautiful sight to see .
I'm so happy for you guys and your healthy relationship.☺️🌼 Unfortunately, based on your thumbnail you had a fair share of toxic relationships which is why you became celibate. I've had a lot going on in my life which didn't allow me time and have social anxiety which is why by default I've not been in a relationship/consider myself celibate. I used to feel bad but now I'm so happy to be single. I've learned and grown so much into myself. I watch a few different family/single RUclips channels and listen to their process of old and new relationships and generally they always enforce sex positivity .They explain reasons why they are celibate or having sex, but not in Relationship etc. There are so many people like me that has become a normal group so I feel less alone. Watching happy and healthy couples helps me figure out exactly what I'm looking for in a good relationship, easily site red flags and won't take anything less then I deserve.
I love this talk. I was staring at Saga all through. She's so precious. Stay blessed and united. 🙏🏾
I look forward to having a healthy relationship in the near future. I've done a lot of work on myself in therapy. I've had some life challenges also change my perception on things. I look forward to creating a foundation of friendship first.
I just love everything about you guys! You don't try to pretend to be a perfect couple, and you are just real about everything. Thanks for sharing Max & Maya ! 💛
Love 💕
Saga is so cute. Her face looks like "ummmm...how did I get here?"
This is what a true mature adult relationship looks like❤❤Stay blessed and beautiful, take care of yourselves and your precious bundle of life you guys brought into your lives. Love and light and God bless you❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great video, but I can't stop STARING at your gorgeous hair. We need a routine soon sis. You look beautiful and still glowing!
You’re so right, you can’t trust someone you can’t communicate with, and you can’t communicate with someone you don’t trust.
A healthy relationship is never guaranteed. Two people willing to work on it every single day is the key.
For us it's talking. Not necessarily always with words. Mindfulness!
We both had a marriage with kids before that wasn't good. Two divorces later we both lived at our own place with kids.
Now (over 26 years later) the kids are grown ups and live on their own, we still have our own places.
Knowing, that we always *can*, we never *have to*, is our safety.
Since covid we spend nearly 24/7 together. 😊👍🏻
This 🥲
Wow love this! Manifesting the married life !!
MANIFEST!
This is beautiful! You both have built such an awesome foundation. I remember NYC Maya, so glad to see you full of joy. 🥰
Maya motherhood looks great on you!! So happy for you both ❤️❤️
Every time I think I’ve watched your best Vlog (and God know I enjoy them all) you take it up yet another level. There is always something so wholesome and honest about what you share that it has a cleansing effect on the high levels of fakery and pretence that pervades on Social media platforms. You two are a joy to watch and listen to and you are definitely on the right path. As you’ve figured out, arguments can be a positive part of a healthy relationship when you are prepared to show your vulnerabilities and communicate your feelings to you each other during and afterwards. It would be great to see both of you (collectively and separately) producing Podcasts at some point..when it is confident of course. You are both naturally effective communicators with strong ethics and positive values and imho I think you would ‘influence’ lots and lots of people. Continue to be blessed🦋🍀 ps: Love the way Saga made her presence felt tho lol
My mom used to say, "A patient man rides a donkey." I say it all the time that even my 3 year old says it all the time🤣🤣 l
I apprecilove this message and conversation. I'm not celibate, however I no longer lead with my sexuality. I look for a partner who I can play, talk and do with.
Yesss 🙏🏻🙏🏽
I love how sincere and kind his heart is ! Maya you are one lucky gyal 💐💕
And Max one lucky man! 😬😬
@@MaxMayaLiving Two 🍀🍀 in the same garden ✨
This is random but you guys have a great taste in music and I think you both would like the song Yebo/Sema by Masego if you don’t know it already
We’ll check it out 🙏🏽🙌🏼
We are ever evolving !!!!! Trust the process.
When we met, I thought my partner was gay and there was also an age gap, so I never even pictured us as a couple, we just became very good friends very fast. Then, when we started feeling the feels and he told me was in fact not gay, we were in quarantine! So sex (other than the phone kind) was not an option. I think the lack of expectatives, being open and vulnerable and really letting that chemistry and confidence build up was (and usually is) the key.
It's really cool to watch you guys
You guys are too cute! I smiled and laughed so hard! Beautiful truths 👏🏽💕
Hahaha yes. Glad you sat down with us, we appreciate it 🙏🏻🙏🏽
I always get approached by younger men and I usually don't take them seriously due to the large age gap and don't want to waste my time, but watching you both has made me more open to the possibility of a younger partner, love you guys and Saga is such a cutie ❤️
You guys are awesome. Keep rising shinning stars.
We rise together!!
Omgoodness the way max talks about maya! So beautiful!
I really like the perspectives you guys share. It’s much different than the typical couple channels.
We love hearing this. We value transparent and candid conversation and even more so when shared with you! 👏🏼👏🏾💕
I really hope I have a beautiful relationship like this. You guys give me hope ❤️
Aww this was beautiful. I still feel some type of way when I inform guys that I'm celibate; just because you can be vibin and then it's like oh btw. Although I'm happy and set in my decision for a few reasons, but it's challenging dating even more now. I love when you two have these conversations because it is quite important and for other people who don't know what healthy relationships look like.
I have been following (and rooting/supporting) Maya for so long. I feel like I’m that cyber Auntie 🤣🤣
Is it just me yall?
Cmon auntie CYBORG!!!
Y’all are literally my favorite couple to watch. So beautiful. I love the love you two have for each other.
You both look so beautiful in this video. Idk if it’s the warm lighting but you’re both glowing! Love this video as usual! It’s clear you both are not perfect people but what makes you both special is your willingness and ability to be curious, reflective and gentle with each other/yourselves. Happy holidays!
I'll send this to my person I am also on my celibacy journey, love from, Malmö.
Yes I def agree. Being a volatile person with a quiet person can change you. Especially if the quiet person stays and puts up with your bullcrap
I love your energy guys! There's so much wisdom in what you're saying. When you're single there is no mirror for your own issues. Partner and people in general, when they annoy us, very often they reflect our own problems. I love the idea that you shared that when someone projects their nasty energy it's good to step back and not respond with the same vibe so they can maybe (hopefully) see their flaw. Thanks!
Ya'll are lovely...the patience part was so real...similar issue here..it can really damage the relationship
Awe!!! You guys were so cute and you’re still cute together. It warms my heart ♥️
I truly love to see the love in your eyes. I randomly remember scrolling YT and I saw this video of a girl with balloons on the steps. I immediately followed and fell in love with you. Then you did a video saying your dad was from Chicago. You immediately became my sister/cousin/friend (in my mind) you’ve been so inspiring. Thank you for sharing your journey from those steps to a family. It has been amazing to watch ❤️.
Maya, I've seen so much growth in you over the last few years of watching your channel, super proud of you 🤗
I remember when you gave your life to Christ, I knew a new ans better chapter had begun and I prayed that you'd learn to navigate it with discernment and courage ...... and this remains my prayer for not just you, but your husband and child, the blessings of the Lord.
Forgetting what is behind, press forward, because the Lord God has begun a new thing in you and He will bring it to a good end. Always lean on His word...🙏🏽
Oh my goodness she gave her life to Christ???? That is so exciting. No wonder she became this wholesome.
Binge watching Max and Maya videos on a Sunday
ugh its so frustrating meeting people who claim they respect you for your celibacy but then get mad that they're not getting any play.
You guys are LOVEEE! my partner and I resonate much with what you experience and say. And your smiles are everything btw.
One of my favorite things about my fiance is that we are great friends and I also love his work ethic. He enjoys taking care of his family and it's beautiful to be a part of.
You guys are absolutely beautiful!!! Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is true strength Maya... a strength like no other...you're amazing! 😘 Beautiful family 🙏🏽
Please do more of these I Love your journey! Can you guys talk about your relationship with Christ as a unit. How did you guys blend that part of your life so well?
I’ve been celibate for two years and almost another 2 yrs before I made a (boo boo). It’s very hard to find men over 35+ who will accept that being sexually active is off the table, especially in Asia. I’m totally okay with that because I have goals, strong morals, and highly independent. The women in Bangkok (Thailand) are “very open” when it comes to Foreigners > sex first and building a friendship/relationship comes last. 90% of those sex-uations are built on the men being sponsors for the women and their families. The quality men aren’t here and it’s excellent for staying on track with keeping the cookies in the jar : ) No complaints! I really look forward to exploring fun dates once I start traveling and COVID is finally over. Nothing beats having a date in a new country every few weeks or months.
This is a huge problem is the USA as well!
This was soo refreshing to see! You guys are absolutely adorable! Sending lot's of love! 🙏🏻💞✨
You're a wonderful couple. Loved listening to this.
Mya you are blessed to be very flexable. You seem to have taken some very different paths in life and just adapted well.
Ah ah!!! How dare you mock my girl Saga when she's serving us her best farts tunes 🤣👍I hope you'll keep learning and growing as a family🤗 Take care!!!
I know we are awful 😂😂😂
I love how you guys can laugh. When both of you were laughing so hard I just cracked up even more. Setting aside Ego and acknowledging a person feeling is huge for my husband and I. Also understanding each other humors. I am so glad that you’re both in a good place. Even after 17 years of marriage my husband and I will still have a few spats.
I ❤️ hearing your happy laughter.
Love from Chicago
Chicago!! I really wanna go / Max
Greetings family.
Happy Holidays ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Healthy and Strong Relationships are vital to Life and Sanity👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Nothing is perfect.
Progression over Perfection!
Seems like Maya got lucky! After living in a pretty superficial, loveless world she met Max a heartfelt, honest and real person!
Such a beautiful family 🤩 Maya, your hair is thriving!!!😍 I really appreciate this video. I don’t often come across too many RUclipsrs that have decided to choose the celibacy route until marriage so this is very refreshing.👼🏾💛
Yeap tell him/her upfront. It tells you where you both stand.
Maya you are absolutely radiant. Happiness suits you.I really appreciate that you’ve allowed us to watch your evolution. Your growth is evident and yes you did do a lot of self work. You presented Max the wonderful gift of the best version of yourself!! Congratulations on all of your blessings, individually and collectively.🙏 #Family Jackie,Jackie,Jackie!!
Awesome video as always, love the transparency.
Video request: I would love to hear both of your thoughts on how your friendships have changed since being married and after having a baby.
Have you become distant with some friends and closer to others?
Love the vibes and sending only positivity and blessings your way 🤎.
Never been this early! Still watching, very interested in this chat :)
We definitely enjoyed this chat. Let us know what you liked about it and have an amazing day 💕
Wow..interesting dynamic..didn't work for me, Taurus also here, married a covert narc, also celibate till marriage..age difference similar, friend ship was also most important to me..this dynamic seems so familiar..anyhow wishing you guys fair better🙏
You guys are soo Sweet! I Love your Love!!
Thank you for tuning in and thank you for the love always!!
Yes, mama breastfeeding on camera! Love to see you being yourself on camera. I love to see it.
Shameless!!
Max is such a beautiful soul💛 so happy for you maya. I wish you an abundance of blessings for you and your family!
Thank you for this! I am on a journey of abstinence myself and you guys have me hope 😊
I love when breastfed babies make those cute sounds of like “Yes! Mommy’s milk! Yumm’”
👍🙏💝Love this. Been watching Maya from the beginning & the curly hair videos. Bless you both & baby Saga. 🙏💝🤗