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what you NEED to know about being "that girl" | TikTok's new GLOW UP trend & how to be "that girl"
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- Опубликовано: 17 авг 2024
- A video analyzing the new "that girl" trend on tiktok! Hope you enjoyed :)
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00:00 introduction
00:47 negatives
03:14 positives
04:25 become your version of that girl
08:27 conclusion
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The "it girl" cares about aesthetics the most. Like why can't I just work out in my pajamas? Why should I spend 50-60$ on workout clothes? The main goal of it girl usually is aesthetics than actual productive, self-care activities. I feel like this would give another insight on how "perfection" actually works out
I know exactly what you mean, but I think these girls are working with the "aesthetical pleasing" theme because it's known that pretty things tend to motivate u a lot more. Of course it's toxic to bond these two things together and think that omg I need cute outfits to do a workout or anything else.
But I tend to see it as a beautiful Way to concentrate on make things for me more aesthethic it gives u a nice feeling and more motivation.
But yes it's definitely too much in those videos and can be confusing.
@@m.w.-87 yes! Motivation does link with aesthetics BUT it isn’t the ONLY way to be the it girl almost? You get what I mean? Like if you want to be the better you, I feel like focus on yourself FIRST and THEN think about aesthetics almost. So you have a plan going on
@@camillab8830 and that's amazing! I meant how sometimes the only foucus is aesthetics yk?
@@camillab8830 yeah, that's one of the main reason why I don't buy them, because they aren't worth it. I just use my pajamas to workout and it isn't it just some leggings
I workout in my pjs all the time!! I think it’s just personal preference, especially if you aren’t posting it on your story lol
Repeat " I am healthy,
I am wealthy,
I am rich,
I am that bitch
I am gonna go get that bag
and I am not gonna take your shit
I am protected, well respected, I'm a queen, I'm a dream
I do what I wanna do and I'm who I wanna be
'Cause I am me
AFFIRMATIONS YUHHH
yess I claim ❤️❤️
What a QUEEN! Have an amazing day :D
@@spacequeen3198 u too!
YASSS I LOVE THIS SONG BY yung baby tate😘😘😘
i got so caught up in becoming "that girl" that i forgot I'm a boy
edit: so I'm a girl now
LOL
LMAO🤣🤣
😭😭😭✋
*Wait actually? LOL 🤣🤣🤣*
@@eunicehung4246 yea but like the style and the aesthetic and such not suddenly that i became a girl xD
Honestly I really think confidence is what makes you 'that girl.' If you exude confidence people will take notice.
But sometimes it is hard to be confident,unfortunately.I hope one day I’ll believe in myself,become more confident and become “that girl” from Pinterest or tiktok,but in my rules.One day,I hope....
@@user-oc9yr6rt2z good luck, I know you can do it!! Just remember that you are already good enough the way you are💗
@@user-oc9yr6rt2z same
perfection isn't achievable neither is changing my race or my body type. I'm never going to have slim thighs and blue eyes but you bet I'm going to take care of my mental health and be my best self
Purr. As you should
yess become your best self ❤️
You go girl🥰
Yes ma'am
as you should 🥰✋ QUEEN 👑
Something that took me a long time to learn: The presence of one person’s beauty is not the absence of your own!!
Love this!!
True this, learning to appreciate others beauty without depreciating ur own will set u free and just make u happy overall
True that 💯✨
i feel like" that girl" irl is just addicted to social media and making everything perfect
yup
Exactly
true
definitely
Yes kkkkkk
I am already my own version of "that girl"
Good for you!
YESSSSSSSSS! I love that self confidence 😁💕
period girl
Me too!!
I love this
I really regret going on tiktok because for a while it got me in a mindset to having to look certain way to be looked at as “pretty” or “attractive”. It’s brainwashing us ALL to believe we have to look a certain way or live a certain life to be “perfect”.🙁
For sure! I’ve noticed that ever since I’ve been on Tiktok I have too much to worry about now. Like your “side profile” or “how you look when you turn around” who’s coming up with these?? Literally making a bunch of ppl insecure and then ppl profit off of that.
@@tinalove4324 yess! It’s extremely toxic. If it wasn’t for tiktok and all these f*cked up “trends” then half of the insecurities we have now most of us wouldn’t have anyway. I don’t know about anyone else but I can’t with it anymore. It gave my mental health, confidence AND self esteem a downfall.
It honestly is a very toxic app. I deleted it about a month ago and my mental health feels so much better since then. I couldn’t agree more.
that's why it's been more than 6 months since I've deleted tiktok and I feel so relieved(?)! :)
im scrolling through the comments and i appreciate the way she said "your version of that girl" my life is slowly coming back together. the truth is theres a balance to everything. find whatever is healthy for you :)
you become “that girl” by working on yourself on the inside and being productive. tik tok is glamorizing healing and wellness and making it an aesthetic. glowing up isn’t a trend... you can’t force growth, it’s natural. and it starts with your mind not your morning routine. you can do alllll of this and still be unhealthy mentally ! you can also do all of this as an addition to having a healthy lifestyle
ok but this is 100% better than people a few years ago glamorizing drug abuse and physical abuse like please glamorize glowing up so i may do it
an excellent thing to glamorize. Its the next step in "romanticizing your life" is romanticizing becoming healthy/your best self/that self you've always wanted to be/etc
i still want to be that girl but on my own terms. i want to be off social media because of how toxic it has became and focus on my mental and physical health. :)
Yess do ittt
Removing Instagram and tik tok off my phone was such a good decision for me... I realized those apps were the cause of my insecurities because I was always comparing myself. Now I can just work on myself at my own pace :)
@@darnosauur oh that’s lovely. well i delete them right now because i really can’t deal with it anymore.
@@sabrina6608 pls do i deleted instagram a week ago and never looked back! First few days i was quite anxious etc cos i didnt know what people were doig...but omg the comparing trap i was in is crazy
@@AugherAndy I did it. i deleted all my social media’s like tiktok, twitter, snapchat, and instagram. i felt really good about it but when i woke up this morning i always checked on it and it felt weird but boring too. now it’s been a couple hours and i feel really great. i only had tiktok still was because of these cute tiktoks that made my day but i can see tiktoks like that on my pinterest boards. i feel really great and happy about it. now i have much more free time and i don’t know what i could do. :)
1:35 this is so true. One important example is Lizzo. She works out every day, eats pretty healthy from what I can see. Is she skinny? no. Does that means she's living an unhealthy lifestyle? Also no. For some people it's literally just their genetics and people need to realize that.
And it shouldn't hold you back from living your life to the fullest!
the first step to becoming “that girl” is a healthy mindset
i was literally so self concious because i share a room with my little brother and my room doesn’t look “aesthetic” or straight out of pinterest. and idk if it’s just me but if my surroundings don’t look visually pleasing, i won’t get anything done
girlllll same. i’ve found that keeping it tidy and dedicating a space for school/exercise has helped tho
That girl is an illusion. Become the best version of you and don’t focus too much on being admired by others.
Literally was thinking about how I can become "that" girl 😌
become YOUR own version of that girl ❤️❤️
same.
🕴😎swag
LITERALLY SAME. OMG
Sameee
social media is destroying me. I don’t wanna be “that” girl. I’m creating a new version for myself.
• I’m eating healthy
• I’m staying away from Drama
• I’m focusing on my studies
• I’m staying out of social media
• Spending more time by myself, reading, cooking, dancing, working out (ect...)
And trust me, you’ll feel way better atleast the stress will go away
I don't wanna be THAT girl, I wanna be THIS girl. I'm starting a new trend now. (God, I hate social media).
beautiful trend! ill be glad to make a video spreading the word by giving u creds:)
I had no idea being "That Girl" was a trend. As someone who is naturally more productive at night and struggles with consistency, trends like this always make me feel bad about myself :')
I would recommend to do not download TIK TOK in the first place lol
I deleted tik tok months ago and im so much better now
@@theodorath7483 ikr Same
@@eglantines8661 same one month without tiktok and I'm living the best life
I deleted it recently I feel so good
Yes, i deleted tiktok because i found that when i started tiktok, i become lady, unmotivated and insecure. Ans now i felt better than ever 😊
*So happy you decided to upload 3 times a week now!! Instead of 3 times a month!!*
that’s the goal 😂
I just need a break, some time for myself. I need some self love.
If you're like me, I want you to know you are perfect. You don't need an 3000$ handbag to be "cool". You don't have to be all "trendy" and "aesthetic". People love you for who you are. You're your own person. It's your life, no one else's. And all you need is some more self care/self love. Treat yourself, to a bubble bath or even a hot steaming shower. You are so perfect. God created you for a reason.
Take care
The phrase “that girl” describes it perfectly. There’s nothing particularly remarkable about that girl except for the fact that she’s perfect
I'm literally just 13yo but seeing my other friends living 17-18-19 people life made me feel like WAIT..Why am I alone living the life of a child, and this make me just wanna glowup at 13.
You're perfect the way you are! You don't need to active your friends, trust me. Growing up too fast takes the fun out of your childhood. If I could go back to when I was 13 I would definitely stop being occupied with these things and just live life and have fun while I'm still a kid!
@@nemo2179
Aww thank you sm ilyyy🥺💗💗💗💗.
Be yourself at 13, you don’t need to be like these other girls, embrace your age.🤍
@@keneishaedwards532
Thxx💗💗.
girl youre so young try not to worry abt these things! enjoy being a child lol you will miss it later
screw tiktok, I'm hot as hell and idk if im not like them BECAUSE.
I always had good grades and Im still having them even tho I don't study BECAUSE I PAY ATTENTION TO CLASSES
ur profile pic is doooope
@@cookie-gw5em thank you lady (sir)
periodt sis ! I love the confidence
Luv your pfp and ur name and your confidence! You go girl! 🥺💕💕
TELL EM
When a grown ass man catches himself wanting to be that girl too 🤣
“There will always be someone better than you in some aspect” that hit me different and kinda woke me up to the fact that everyone is their own version of “that girl”. Thank u for this 😚
i love your take on this trend! your opinions are very strong in a good way, and they're really nice to hear! i like how you pointed out the facts that the trend divided itself into the "certain race, certain size" type, i never really thought about that. i feel like the whole trend on pinterest and tik tok gives us a form of escapism, just by watching it we're subconsciously invested in others being productive and motivated over focusing on building and loving ourselves. your voice is incredibly soothing and you're so gorgeous, keep doing what you're doing
Shes so wise,calm and sweet sis take this 👑
I love you so much! U inspired me to start being productive! This is my first day of change tho:) I woke up at 6, made my bed, worked out, journaled and went for a walk this morning! Also I did my homework , studied, ate healthy color coordinated my clothes and did some chores! I am going to shower, wash my hair and go hiking!Thank you so much, for everything.
omg amazing job ❤️
@@RebeccaJayy AHH THANK YOU SO MUCH
That is amazing! Super proud of you 💕
@@spacequeen3198 Thank you so much , truly :,
@@user1234ax Awwwww don't thank me, thank yourself for being able to wake up early and be productive. Have a great day ❤️
You are the only person that keeps me going throughout quarantine
❤️ u got this
I think it's so great you bring this up! I have recently been told that a lot of my friends see my as "put together" (which is kinda just what that girl is). And I fit the mold: White, skinny, relatively pretty, doing well in school, having a nice apartment, cute outfits and so on. But I don't feel like "that girl". They don't see how lonely I am, how long I procrastinate on YT instead of doing uni work, how I struggle financially and so on. Nobody's life is perfect, but that doesn't mean we aren't all bad bitches! At least in one (but probably more) aspect of life! And it's impossible to do EVERYTHING!
I deleted tik tok like 5 months ago, and i can ensure that is one of the best decisions i've ever made. I started focusing in myself without any pressure. Just living my life how I always dream abt. Not worrying on anybody, living just for myself🌞
Same here
I'm literally in love with the way you pointed out consistency > insistency and the pursuit of excellence > perfection!!! Such a thought provoking reminder
your videos are always so organized and helpful ahhhhhh 😩
ahah thank you ❤️❤️
The thing you told about not focusing on how things look and just getting things done your own way is so so important. Like these days everything is for "the aesthetics" rather than the actual functionality of things! This video literally made me think, you're amazing! Thankyou for this Masterpiece🤍✨
Love from India 🇮🇳
i feel like the "that girl" "aesthetic" is abt living your best life and being your best self.
Love this video, and especially the last part, "Embody the person you want to be".
Consistency not intensity!!! Love that. So true and it’s seen a lot when people try to make very intense life changes that work for a week and then they’re right back where they started. Loved this video
I’ve been binging your videos and all are delivered in a very simple manner, yet effective and exactly what we all need to hear. Keep on doing the Lord’s work!
Your video is so well balanced, well thought through. Also, really objective! Perfection is a myth. Thank you for sharing this.
I love this so much!! This really cleared my perspective on trying to become “that girl”. I’m so happy I discovered your channel
This is my first video of yours I’ve watched and I’m obsessed! You seem so wise & mature and have such a calming voice. I love that you presented both sides of this and most importantly showed that the best girl to be is yourself 💕
WOW! This video just changed my whole way of thinking about myself, especially during these difficult times. Thank you soo much for saying things that I've needed to hear for a long time!
Watching your videos makes me so happy bc you always take concepts that usually have a negative impact on people and find a positive way to carry things out. That’s literally such a great platform to convey and I have mad respect for you and your channel :)
Whenever it comes on my fyp I always feel kinda discouraged by how well others are doing and having it all while I'm struggling in so much comparing to them. Thank you for this video I now feel like I need to view this trend as a way to inspire and motivate me to find my own 'That girl' if it makes any sense, I really appreciate the advices you gave to reach you goal not for a week but to make it sustainable because I always ends up giving up whenever I try to change because I focus so much on intensity rather than consistency.
I mean, if you feel like you have a good, healthy routine, I feel like you shouldn't care about making it look aesthetic. But, do you! Do what makes you happy and healthy. Just, don't feel the pressure to be "picturesque", it's really not worth it.
This is so important to think about and the stereotypes that a lot of them have!
thank you for being realistic and showing us that perfection isnt attainable ❤️🥺
omg, this video’s more interesting and motivating then all “ideal” videos because it’s about real life, real habits, real people! thank you really much! you’re marvelous!
Love this! So happy I found your channel. You pin point the current struggles we all have.
Hi!! I literally love this video it makes becoming THAT girl seem so much more attainable and i love that you put so much thought into the topic omw to be that girl!
Really liked how you addressed the societal norms that people literally can’t change about themselves
my own definition of being that girl is working towards making myself better, physically and mentally growing to have a better life for MYSELF
Just remember that life isn’t all about you and also you see yourself differently than other people do. You could already be someone’s “it” girl, so don’t try too hard. Just be a kind person and spread God’s love.
i loved this video! its really easy to become envious of those girls online but its possible for everyone to feel good and make positive changes in life. about two months ago i started waking up at 5am to workout and since then i have been making consistent changes in my life. im now vegan, improving my grades, and reading more! my life does not exactly mirror “that girl” but i am happy and comfortable and thats all that matters. :)
This video has honestly given me such a better outlook on life and it's recharged my hope that I can improve. Thank you sm for making it ❤
Love this video. Thank you for emphasizing self-worth & ways to improve self-esteem while striving for growth.
That was a very good take on the topic 🙌🏻 I think it is amazing how women show their healthy lifestyles and encourage other women to do the same ☺️
Greetings from Germany
THIS VIDEO IS COMPLETELY NECESSARY 🥰
This honestly felt like such genuine content to me for some reason. Love it and do continue to make such positive videos!
You really have a way of understanding the truth behind trends and it's so so so encouraging to watch these videos! Thank you for your honestly it's so rare to see :)
Thank you so much ❤️❤️
her voice is so soothing wow. glad shes in my recommended:) also perfection is attainable because we all have different definitions of perfection. you're someone's perfection, and maybe even your own
I love this it's a positive way of analysing trends and I would agree that for the most part, it's simply intended as motivational material to encourage the formulation of healthier behaviours as opposed to showing off something unattainable
I was just searching up this exact topic last night, and now this is in my recommendations. i love this and thank you 💌😌
✨THIS VIDEO IS A GEM GIRL 💎✨
i’m so happy that i became self confident in my early 20s. it happened to me when i started focusing more on myself. and not let others opinions matter. once you can do that you can do so much. i’ve never liked how society works and it’s beauty standards. everyone looks the same now all bc of the unrealistic standards. it’s sad to see younger girls want to grow up so fast. there is literally no rush but social media does that. so sad but i hope girls snap out of it and realize that social media is fake
your channel is so underrated
i love your take on this trend. it’s great inspo for self improvement but people seem to feel less then of their life still isn’t photogenic. i’m going through that now. i’m bettering myself but i still end up wanting to feel more perfect and put together. i remind myself that i’m only me and doing what i can is enough.
your voice gives me peace, thank u for talking about this!
i love how your videos are like powerpoint presentations, where you explain everything step by step, so its easier to understand. thank u so much!!
I needed this video so much, thank you. I just started my healing process after about a year of struggling with depression, and saw this as the ideal life. So glad i was able to realize that im still me and i dont have to change my whole self to live happily
I love your videos and even though I only recently found them they are very helpful. I also absolutely love that you don’t use the blurring filter but you are aware that you’re still beautiful.
Your content is the closest I can find to relatable ones. Thanx to you, I'm actually really changing because you made me realize that I didn't have to have things or be rich to be healthy and confident. So thank you
i love how you always acknowledge both sides of an argument and dissect the problem at hand so logically, it’s so clear and satisfying ❤️
Totally unrelated, but your voice is so calming! This video felt really relaxing. Thank you 💟
You are so down to earth, I'm not on tiktok so I dont follow anyone on there.
But I'll watch your videos, keep doing your thing, you're doing so well 💯
I love it how realistic you show yourself to us
girl plz keep going what u doing is great nd super helpfull ,u are showing things from a good pov
I just want to say that this helps me so much!:) keep doing what you’re doing! I am sure you are helping tons of people! I love your vids so much and it gives me much motivation!:)
I've been wanting to be that girl all my life and at some point it destroyed me. I'm trying my best to stay healthy and your videos are helping me to not loose motivation so thanks a lot:))
I’ve worked out in my pajamas before and I will do it again lmao
Happy this landed on my page! Keep it up!
Thank you so much for your videos! I discovered you thanks to Tiktok and when I learned that you had a RUclips channel I immediately started following you.
You are a real source of motivation and I discovered you when I needed it. I am becoming the best version of myself mostly since last year and your arrival helps me staying motivated for school in particular. I am arriving in a real harsh time as we were in lock down since the beginning of April and now we have to go back to school and have to end the trimester while preparing our tests to obtain our high school diploma (+ I have my European section oral at the end of the month and we are not prepared at all for this.) Moreover, this is a really tough period as there are huge inequalities between the different high scools and we have everything to manage in a short time period. However, thanks to you, I think that I will be able to organize myself and stay as calm and positive as possible.
Sorry for this message about my life and I hope that it was understandable as English is not my first language.
I wish you the best and thank you from France
You got this ❤️
This was so so helpful. Social media always made me feel abad about myself but this helped. Thank you 💕💕
Love this video, your editing and the message you’re sending❤️❤️❤️💪🏼
Thank you :))
Literally telling yourself “I am ______” is so powerful. I’ve gone my entire life with my family telling me I’m not athletic, I’m uncoordinated, etc. so I never tried to workout and better my health because I thought only “athletic” people worked out. I’ve been telling myself that I am athletic and coordinated and now I’ve got a gym membership and I’m enjoying it! Also I found out my family is freakishly athletic by normal standards so I’m not even unathletic my family is just extra.
so wholesome 💖 its so clear how much effort was put into creating this video
I feel my ed coming a bit back because the only photo representation of “that girl” is always a type of skinny I’m never going to be unless it’s in an unhealthy way. But I really want to be like that
Finished the video and I’m crying
me too :( for me biking and swimming helps lose weight or tone me, so maybe u could try those !! pls be safe 🥰
@@mad_8321 thanks a lot. I don’t really have a bike and there’s no any beaches or lakes in my city. I might try with some covered swimming pools but I’m very insecure to be in a bathing suit and alone
omggg ur voiceeee😭❤️❤️ i love itt and this videos was reaaaalllly nice like it was actually wt someone had to talk about this trend
Just discovered your channel with this video. You’re so calm and organised I could listen to you for hours !! Immediately subscribed :)
You don't know how thankful I am that you made this video!
that's the most motivating video i've ever seen. thank u for being so honest with people who are watching you! the part about habits was the most inspirative, thank you so much!!
Be that girl but ur own version and how you picture you being a better person everyday and work on it ❤️
love this video! x
I think when you are at the healing point or stable in your life this videos can give you that rush of energy and inspiration and motivation
But when you are going trough something major or having depression this videos can make you feel guilty/not good enough and even jealous and angry-which leads again to shame and guilt
So in my opinion this kind of things are good but what is needed is also a clarification how somebody got to this point
I know it's not the intention from these people to make depressed people feel guilty or shame
And nobody should make themselves smaller to make others feel comfortable
But we also shouldn't make ourself look bigger than we actually are
But it's our responsibility to make sure that what we show off is reality and not faked (to make things look better than they actually are)
And also to speak more out how we got to this point maybe
So that we can give hope to others
I know there are people who you can tell all your struggles and they still will judge you and call your succssess "nOt fAiR" but we shouldn't even focus on that
It's not about them
It's about people who are willing to grow but just can't at this point
That we show them that everybody struggles and that many of us had to overcome depression, trauma and anxiety
And yes there are also people who didn't have this struggles and this is also okay I think we can learn a lot from people who where raised in a good household and never had to experience trauma
Yeah
🌸🌼
Being your best self is only possible for people who really want to change and accept change
If you are stable you will get faster to this point and if you are dealing with mental issues it can take a little bit longer and it's also okay
That you want to be your best self, is already good enough because we need people in this world who learned how to love, care, respect themselves and can make a difference between normal pain and abuse
And that you are aspiring this for yourself IS THE BIGGEST STEP
And healing starts with authenticity
If you lost yourself try to define what you are not first
And accept that you are hurt and that you lost yourself
Sometimes you don't have to "search for yourself"
You have to accept this situation as it is (not accepting the pain of the trauma but your response to it)
This is the moment when your you finds YOU
I can't explain it properly but idk I have the feeling that one person who reads this will need it
Authenticity is the key
Don't push yourself with the question "who am I" away
Rather say
This. Is. Me.
Because of the struggle that I went trough this is me at this moment
This is a part of me
Our survival mode is also a part of us if we like it or not
And if you feel shame or guilt ask yourself if it's really you who should feel shame or guilt
I felt so guilty about so many things and I later realized it's not me
I spoke up - speaking up is what sets us free because it give the truth more power than shame
thank you so much! i was having a lot of anxiety and i was putting to much pressure on myself to be "that girl" and watching your vid has made me feel a bit better x
Hey rebecca, I started watching your vids last week and I just wanna say that i love your soft spoken tone, I've always thought of having a friend like you cuz you're generally my type in friends and congo on thriving on yt, your vids are so good for inspiring teen girls like me these days, keep the positivity and great work up ❤
I am constantly trying to be that girl. Such a helpful video 💘 this was made for me, thank you
I'm rlly happy I found ur video tysm for all ur words it rlly motivated me and I'm gonna start my healthy life TO BE HEALTHY not to be skinny or white tysm 💗