Don't get mad you know it's true! When I was in the US military in Japan mostly all the japanese women I got involved there told me that at some point! It might be a stereo type but it's definitely true!🤭
@John bruh, even if they had micropenises, they have more chance of keeping a wife back home while most military personnel in the US lose their wife who cheat with family members, haha.
I'm a transfer student in an Asian country and I'm gonna have to disagree with her last statement. I understand where she's coming from, but from my experiences, it's easier said than done.
yeah but let's be real. how you can make people like each other? both of them need to know each other personality first, know what each other want etc. how to do that? they need to be able to communicate. it is very rare case for 2 people to like each other with language barrier. unless u talking about 2 people who likes each other looks and that's it.. doubt that kind of relationship will last long though
I lived in asia 4 years been on many dates and relationships, some of the most fulfilling ones we had a large language barrier.. it cant be helped if someone gives up, but then they weren't meant for you. If you truly like and love the person you guys will make it work even if it means learning the language
It's simple. If man tell you what they want. Then you wouldn't be dating. Man date to get sex. Any man will read the cue. A man shouldn't tell you how they feel. Emotional man are weak man. No woman want to hear a man about there feelings. Ie. I feel lazy today. I don't want to do anything. I feel like this and that. Imagine your a leader in life. A man goes. I don't feel like defending my country today. 100pl will die. . If I told you. Let's go on a date. And fuck after. You would reject my advances. Instead you want the subtle Courtship that leads to the bedroom. A secure man doesn't give a fuck. Either fuck or I go else where. If you play a games. Then you are wasting my time.
Not only, after a few dates, if she isnt trying to take you on dates then there's no need to invest more time and money on her, i think she confused western dating with asian dating
Someone said in Japan “You can talk like them, eat with them, learn all their of their cultures traditions, but they will not accept you truly as one of them.”
@@eccle4369 race and ethnicity really doesn’t matter! Outside of the initial physical attraction it’s the person within that truly shows beauty or not!!
This is very true. 😅 I wasn't searching for a Japanese date but I agreed to some. They really don't go beyond the first or second. Precisely that time limit. It's like a free trial period. They're sweet and act super kind and insist on paying for everything and spending the whole day together. Then disappear, poof, gone.
@@shiannafoxx two consenting adults who went into relationship together, both are equals. If you got yourself in a bad relationship and stayed for 2 years...? That's on you lol... 😂 It's your relationship, your decision to stay/leave, don't stay, call yourself a victim and say "victim blaming reeeeee" when someone points it out
@@kundakaps Again you've never been in an abusive relationship, platonic or otherwise, and it shows. Hmm, Idk? Maybe things like stockholm syndrome, love bombing, gaslighting, and abandonment issues all exist? You ever thought of that? No, because it's very clear you've never critically thought about anything for more than 2 seconds because the gears are not turning in there.
@@shiannafoxx you literally just shamed people for not being in abusive relationships. And all that other emotional garbage is just an excuse for your bad choices. So ofc these people would never know about that, as we don’t place ourselves in abusive relationships. And Abusive relationships aren’t a “waste of time” per say, they’re more like literal hostage situations. You’re offending women that have been physically assaulted, that’s real abuse. But of course, you wouldn’t know what thats like. Do better “queen” 😂😂😂
In South Korea, there’s a term for this: Riding the White Horse. Some Korean men will be all for fooling around with a western woman but won’t take it further than that.
Because that's what Western women have made themselves. Even in the West, full of propaganda, weakness, and poor upbringing, men are seeing Western women as "an experience" for the night or a weekend. Definitely not marriageable.
@@Cartman5101 How's it different than "Show me b00bs" by white guys? In fact every act of brown person is more or less associated with india. Pretty pathetic 😂
@@effsixteenblock50 you can youtube it actually. Japan has a special cleaning team. But what they clean are the deads who died alone in their homes and no family members cares for them.
@@AM-jl8he exactly my point. to categorize people’s worth based on where they are from. There are people who have adopted their freakin culture and live there permanently. Doesn’t matter. That’s why they have so much weird sexual stuff going on and they’re dying out.
Their weird sexual stuff pretty much happens everywhere else, they just digitalize it in Japan. Just like Epstein in USA. Or imagine if 15 years ago everyone though USA was obsessed with Cops Guns and WWE Theatrical Wrestling. Sure it's be true halfway that alot are obsessed but it doesn't paint the same picture as the reality of those who live here. As for their Xenophobia it's a very good thing they are that way, because that's Keeps them "japan" that's why as a tourist destination it's never wavered in popularity over the years, they maintain their own quality of life. And every good rumor you hear about japan like alleged low crime and atmosphere and clean public spaces all of those are only possible because they maintain their own country as only for themselves. As they should, xenophobia is what has made them preserve. The only problem with that is when Japanese travel overseas to be students and then complain about the host country, but unlike with other nationalities you almost never see Japanese or Chinese do that. Other Asian races do though. Japan does have a ton of problems like hostile oppressive workplace culture and that is a much bigger factor to their declining birth rates than anything to do with anti immigration policy. Because if that was the sole reason, they'd have died off already centuries ago. They have always been historically an isolationist country and its very easy to do so when you're a relatively small island (Japan is around the height of New York City to Miami Florida give or take) There is alot of internal suppression that goes on in their country and the locals do express themselves in weird ways when they find themselves being unable to really be themselves. Like apparently dying your hair blonde as a guy is seen as very rebellious. And that kind of social oppression I could not ever live in. I do think japan is a very strict and overbearing country and that mentality does more harm to its citizens than good. But as someone who isn't Japanese and has never lived there, I have no right to tell them how they should live. It's Japan's own right to be xenophobic and bit want outsiders. That's the whole reason their country is still seen as an ideal destination to immigrate to for alot of people, because they have MAINTAINED that culture of excellence that alot of people who wish to live in Japan admire. If they just started letting everyone in and making them feel welcome it would instantly stop being Japan and become a mix of cultures and immigrants who want here in Japan to be more like hkem and change it to fit and all of a sudden you've got the very real consequences of unchecked immigration. Japan has every right to not want outsiders and to make them feel unwelcome. Its their home and they have every right to want to keep it for themselves and not turn into a resort island known to give greedy hands the easy life. The only way Japan has been able to maintain their quality of life is BECAUSE they stay xenophobic and keep most people out. That's why Japan is still seen as "Japan" and not an amalgamation of many cultures. Like I said Japanese should also expect the same treatment when they go overseas, they aren't locals anymrke and have no right trying to change the local country. But they never do. Asians when they immigrate almost always live in some kind of "China Town" area even if it's not fully China Town youl lsee restaurants here in the west often that have no English signs or name at all, around heavily Asian Populus college districts. It's only South Asians who have been causing immigration issues in North America, at least my neck of the woods. I don't see anything wrong with being Insular as a nation. It is Japan's strength honestly. It will continue to stay as a an example of "civilized better countries" while they maintain their Xenophobia. Those two things are very related. I really do want to visit one day myself, but only because I know Japan is a terrible fit for me and I wouldn't feel welcome there. I don't want to fit in with their awful capitalist work before everything work 70 hours a week model. I. Don't like their oppression in how you can't express yourself and have to fit in or you get social suicide and there's even like a caste system in Japan. Asians in general are very shallow and materialistic if you have Asian friends you're good friends with, liem online Asian friends, ask them how using the internet as a young teen and andukt and being exposed to Western culture solely through the internet has affected them. They will have very interesting answers. Alot of them only get their idea of western life through the internet, the same way we only get an idea of Japanese life through our internet too. The reality is much different for both of us. Alot of young Asian people really want The freedom of Expression that the west has. But they have difficulty acclimating here because we aren't as heavily materialistic in our day to day relations and friendships and jobs. Asians place a really heavy emphasis on what we here in the west would call "the customer service voice" or "college guy with a rich dad" attitude. But in the west it's in your face, in Asia it's alot more elitist and pretentious but they don't get seen as "Cool" for being bad boys like we do in the west instead they get seen as "Cool" for being like ultra succesful in the Customer service voice. I'm not explaining it right but hopefully you get the idea. Customer service voice in a social setting, in public, with no customers I mean. Of course this opinion I have is derived from just the outside looking in, because of the aforemention heavy xenophobia, it's almost impossible for anyone who's not born Japanese to actually tell you what Japanese act like with each other. We just see from outside what they are life and can't understand their language so come to our own conclusions about what's being said. That thing I said about Asians being shallow, that's what all my Asian friends agreed with and told me, but they were all ones living in the West since birth or living in Asia since birth but used the internet so much they feel outcast at home and only feel like themselves online. Most of these while agreeing Asians in the west are shallow And materialistic, won't have a chance if they actually went to Asia proper because they'd be seen as a Gajinn themselves lol and their own materialism would be small compared to Asian locals shallowness and materialism. Im not saying they are bad people just they outcast you based on apperance and clothes and your social status alot faster than people in the west. Also the Asians here if they ever went to Asia they would have alot of trouble fitting in too, because they have been raised to express themselves and color themselves and their clothes with Art and personality alot since they were kids. Just like everyone else in The west. So they wouldn't grasp the local culture and be too much of individuals despite looking Asian. I'm indian myself but was born in the West. All Asians will tell you with pain of toxic Asian parenting culture and toxic households. Asian culture is pretty bad across the board of you immigrated overseas and grew up in Asian households in a Western White World. That right there is where both worlds collide. I'm saying this because it's another way xenophobia shows its face, for good and bad, just on the opposite end of the coin. Their strict crazy workplace culture is the real reason they are dying out. Yeah alot of it has to do with oppressive culture that crushes being independent, but if they opened their doors to everyone Japan would disappear faster than if they really died out. There's very many people in the west who don't want to give birth and can't afford a house either. The Global poverty and how expensive the world is becoming has got alot to do with it too. Alot of people say Japan is living in the future compared to the rest of the world, I think that's true, and also why they experience alot of social issues before the rest of us. Their island is like a trial run for many global things, like the Pandemic and how they dealt with it. I would love to live there for a few years. Because I know I wouldn't fit in. And I wouldn't care I'd feel so free not having the expectation to fit. In the kjdn of expressive person that Japanese would hate and that's why I only want to live there for 2 or 3 years just to experience the warm summer and see the blue foggy skyscrapers and their liminal city skyline and bike around blasting music and smoking green. There's a really weird old game called LSD Dream emulator, you should check that out. I want to live in Japan to have weird moments like that lol. But after typing this long rant I think I change my mind I do agree their oppressive culture is a major factor in low birth rate. Just not the only thing, and I think their xenophobia is what makes them succesful as a nation.
All these people think the language barrier is nothing important and can just be overcome by "really liking each other a lot" but it's not that simple. After working at an International Association over there and seeing case after case of foreigners with little to no Japanese and their Japanese spouse coming in for assistance in arbitration in a nasty divorce, anyone who goes into a relationship with someone they literally cannot talk to when they get into a fight, all I can say is, the relationships that last are built on a foundation of strong communication, and language ability is very very important in that. Remember, kids. A puppy is not just for Christmas, and a marriage is not just for the few years it takes for you to get through the honeymoon period.
I think there are a few podcast that you need to speak on, because I have heard guys say the language barrier is not important when choosing a wife from Asia.
@@carrington2949 I'm sure it's not while the relationship is still running on sex or novelty or something like that, but that eventually has to wear off and give way to something deeper, and I know there are a lot of people who think they can plumb the depths of their partner's soul by wiggling their eyebrows a lot and gesticulating wildly with their hands, but I would never counsel anyone to take on a relationship if that was their grand plan. I'm not really interested in going on podcasts unfortunately, but if a few people read this comment and take something away from it, I'm quite happy.
She's delusional if she thinks the language barrier isn't a big deal. It's literally the key to understanding each other's culture and would be the source of endless frustration. If you're just looking to bang or get someone to pay your bills maybe it's not that important, but if you want a relationship your gonna need solid communication in a common language.
@@carrington2949the GUYS don't think it's important because they just want a housewife/slave or something to bang. I wouldn't be taking advice from wannabe kings like that if you want something lasting.
For Indians it is not big issues 😅😅 because we grew up learning 2 or more than 2 language and because indian is very very very diverse (28 official lang, more than 200 non official language and as very different cultures from each other), it is very normal to have a parent's who speaks different languages and 1 common language(mostly English) as a time go both of them will automatically learn the others language of there partner 😅😅(no body force them to learn language),they just learn it because they love each other enough to learn the new language, so ya ,if u love love them enough u can make it work
She really hit the nail on the head when she said "as foreigners, [they] don't really take us that seriously." I have worked for a couple of Japanese companies, and they're one of the most xenophobic cultures I've ever encountered. Not even in a malicious way; it's just so ingrained in them that they don't even realize when they're being condescending.
It does make sense for a small island that didn't really interact with the rest of the world til like 100 years ago, and that takes their culture very seriously. I don't blame them.
That's BS y interacted with the world by going around and killing everything in their path. America came along and put them in their place. Before Germany, it was Japan in the war path. That Nuke thought, it sure slowed things down a bit. The truth is it's not just the Japanese the entire world is 'xenophobic' towards each other. Everyone think that their culture and people are at the center of the universe.
@@chillpengeru Hi. I wouldn't call Japan a small island. It's bigger than most countries of Europe actually. And Japan has actually had more than a thousand years of interactions with China and Korea, although mainly restricted to the official level only.
I’ve snapped at some japs at sports venue might have sounded a little racist and they were pretty quiet. I felt kinda bad afterwards but now I after reading your comment I don’t feel so bad 😊
It's kind of two sided. The Japanese workforce is miles above any other countries' in terms of quality and diligence. They are smarter and work harder than anybody else, and when they look at a foreigner who can only do less than half of their work, what should they think?
I know her she and i used to go to the same tution class. She is very smart she knows Japanese and Korean as well I had a huge crush on her but couldn't ask her out cuz she was out of my league lol. Surprised to see her here lol
I went on a date with an Indian man, he was asking me so many marriage oriented questions on that first date, including how many children I wanted. They are focused! I can see how that would be very different to a Japanese man.
The only purpose for dating is marriage. If there are things in the woman that do not fit with the man's expectations (some of which are cultural), that should be enough for a man to move on. He should not waste the woman's time.
Just ended a 10 month situationship with an Indian guy. He went above and beyond to let me know how much of a player and not ready for commitment he could be. Not a good experience I would say.. didn’t seem focused to me.
It totally depends. I was pursued by a Japanese man who always did his best to make me feel loved and happy. He was kind, sweet, and caring. We had a healthy long-distance relationship until we got together and he proposed to me after a year of dating. Now we're happily married, and through ups and downs, I don't think I could ever find a loving, resilient husband like him.
@@ririii5109I was married to a Japanese man and dated a few other Japanese men, each one is different. In the end actions over words, rather in LDR it's intention which is a good rule of thumb. Showing respect, speaking kindly, being thoughtful, choice in gifts, those are all ways they show love and care. Does he share with you his daily life? Does he include you in decision making? Does he ask about your day or listen to you intently? Those are ways they show care and concern. But more than anything, communication is key. Ask and truly listen. If it isn't something you're comfortable with (some people aren't talkative) then attraction will not be enough if you're simply not compatible, no sense in forcing it. Otherwise, be easy going and let it grow and blossom on its own. ❤
@@KoiAi_ we've been together for about 2 weeks but we know each other for a year. i still barely know him so i communicated with him that i want him to be more open, ask questions, or talk about any thing in his life. i also send photos to where i go, what i eat or do to feel the connection, however, he doesn't do that but he do ask me about what my day have been. he's really private and reserved person but as his girlfriend, i do think that i deserve to know what he did for the day. i'm getting frustrated and tired to say what i need because i want him to take the initiative.
@@ririii5109 He is also a traditional Japanese guy; he is neither vocal nor sweet at first, and we had a serious heart-to-heart discussion about my expectations and needs in a relationship, and he listened and followed my demands and wishes. Constant communication, encouragement, and motivation is a must. Back when we were still LDR, he always made time to call even though he was busy. In his free time, he always prepares fun activities for us to enjoy; he writes me long love letters every month and makes cute DIY gifts for me. He also loves talking about Marriage, a wedding, and a family, and when I am mad, he calls me unstoppably to make me okay. I think it really depends on the guy and how patient you are with him.
It’s cause he’s right, she is very I did nothing wrong in her explanation with a lot of I’m very open. Guys are straight forward, if they all rejecting her it’s for a reason. Basically every women ever.
She's right, using the language barrier card is a way to say you're really not interested. If you're REALLY interested in each other you find ways to understand each other in many ways.
Yep, any time someone can come up eith reasons not to be with you it's because he's not really into you. People who are really into you find reasons to be with you rather than reasons to not be with you
To all foreign girls in japan, please bear in mind that japanese men still need to complete teacher, childhood friend, student council prez, and imoto routes before taking the foreign girl route.
The last point she made about language barrier is so true. I experience it myself with my partner. We both dont speak english as our native language but we have yet to experience any problems because of that. It somtimes requires some extra time and effort to talk about more intricate subjects but we both put in that energy when necessary. What I want to get at is: Be open and accepting, sometimes a little bit more effort can create beautiful things. The easiest road is the dullest one.
The ability to communicate through language is incredibly important for learning about one another. You are describing a situation where you still have the ability to communicate. An actual language barriar is not at all conducive to finding true love and understanding. Without the ability to articulate one's humor, ideals, interests, perspectives, ambitions, and feelings you cannot attain anything more than a superficial, shallow, understanding of one another, making your connection with someone tantamount to puppy love. English may not be your first language, but if you can still use it to articulate amd express your feelings to your loved one, then it isn't a barrier, its a bridge.
Japanese people is such a faker. They never genuinely happy when meeting someone new other than Japanese person. They got a face for this and a face for that. You know what I mean? So next time you see a Japanese people do kind stuff to you, don't rush it and expecting that you can be their friends. No. That's just the way they are.
@@albarjas8360 I wouldn't say it's very shallow. Neither is it completely physical (Long distance for now, so most of what we can do is talk). I won't claim we're perfect, far from. But it works for us, we never depended on an extensive vocuabulary to have deep conversations. We sometimes have to get creative though, hahaha. And when there is improvement over time it also feels so special and rewarding. Seeing how we've already grown, because we're both open minded, accepting and patient(!!!) with one-another, tells me that we have so much left to experience together. I can't help but feel excited when I think about it. A quick example is how I learn more about her or her culture everytime I improve my skills in her native language.
Last I checked, it was _women_ who had the children. So if children are not being had, it's because the _women_ made that decision. It doesn't take a lot of men.
I dated a Chinese woman for 3 years and she literally never told her parents I exist or that she was dating me. It hurt. She met my family and friends, I wanted to get married but basically I wasn’t rich enough to be worthy in the end. I hope she finds what she is looking for.
The Chinese have a bit of an obsession with money yeah, not all but most, especially old people probably due to the revolution. Because no matter how bad things get, if you got money you have a chance. And sinocentrism is still...there so unless you're Chinese middle class or so rich they don't care about your race/ethnicity...it'll be hard to make Chinese parents agree to a marriage, especially if it's with their daughter.
they're an old society, run by old society rules. the pressure of even TRYING to bring a girl/guy home/meet your family, without life long intentions must be almost impossible
@Stephen not all of them. The younger generation of Indian women follow western culture. Specifically American influence is pretty widespread in the Indian society.
@@wellesradio This whole channel is just western propaganda. There’s nothing wrong with how the Japanese are. Everyone else should fixate on themselves, their people, and their nations before marching into Japan with arrogance and maIice.
That last point was spot on, lmao. A friend of miners parents are Turkish and Japanese. The Turkish guy speaks Turkish and English, the Japanese woman speaks only Japanese. They still love each other and their kids are now grown and moved out, and they STILL DON'T SPEAK A SHARED LANGUAGE. They've been married for over 20 years and never learned to verbally communicate with each other. It's wild
japenese and korean both have hard time accepting foreigners but plus point for japenese people is that they are very polite even if they don't like u unlike koreans
Well for korean if u are pale foreigner they would love to date with you I see alot of them care about girls beauty more because they want to show people how pale and pretty gf they got Having pretty Gf and bf is like a competition for them. That's why if u go to Korea u will only see pale and pretty foreigners with korean men. It's disgusting
She's right. I dated a Japanese girl who didn't speak any English. I can speak Japanese very well, not fluently but very well. I thought her not having any English ability beyond "Hello, nice to meet you" would be an issue. Even with my Japanese level we were able to date effectively. Our relationship lasted for an entire year and ended for other reasons, but the language barrier was not one of them.
@@Atomic118 When the hell did India became part of western hemisphere?? Expressing your true feelings/experience is not western concept only! From where you get these ancient ideas???
@@Atomic118 She does every bit & also with that accent. Western media & popular culture is to be blamed for this lack of knowledge about India, which you are fed everyday. There are tons of people like her in India! 👍🏼
Racist guys are surprised coz they already have a stereotypical image of Indians as a jolly and weird type character like you see in many Hollywood movies above that India's are also lethargic when it comes to counter racism like Indians smell, curry, scam calls etc so yeah getting them exposed with an Indian who is completely opposite of their stereotypes they started behaving like a completely surprised person lol.
@@ilromapebecause she’s claiming she’s a victim and on those dates she is more than likely talking about how bad she has it and poor me and blah blah blah … thats why
@@jokerpilled2535 Seriously? You are not interested in the views, knowledge and feelings of a person? Then that's a very superficial relationship. How will you solve conflicts etc.?
@@kape2469 That’s not what he said. It’s just beyond your comprehend. He made it effortlessly, and that’s all you need for a person to fall in love. They chase their own dream, not chase a conflict.
@@crustyhotdog7940 not really. It’s how it works in a place like Japan. It’s a very closed society and most japanese people categorize foreigners as “different” and don’t want to spend their lives with them.
She’s right. Most Japanese men I dated just wanted to pass the time or to experience sex with a foreigner (a Latina in my case). But that’s ok, I wasn’t looking for anything serious at that time. Also, in the end love will come in the most unexpected way. My now Japanese hubby met me when he dmed me on insta after he saw my insta acc on my tinder profile, and even tho we didn’t match there we did in real life haha. Now, language and cultural barriers have made us have many arguments, but he’s just too handsome (for me), funny and reliable to give up on. And thanks to him now I have a beautiful, amazing daughter.
@@dy578 haha, so by my comment you thought i just whored around? I guess it can be misinterpreted like that. Do you care? Should he? He knows I've had a past, just like any other person. He also knows he will get home every day to warm meals, clean clothes, clean house, a cute daughter and a loving loyal wife. If that isn't enough for him, you or any men, then stay single
@@brecatherina every has past but what kind of a past is important. Most women lie about their wh0rish past or act like it's not big deal to sl3ep with lots of people. I don't think any men will *knowingly* get in relationship with those women. Unless women lie about it or act like everyone do it so i she also have h03 phase. Having past dating experience and sle3ping with lots of men so you can settle with one man after h03 phase is 2 different things.
@@dy578 1. why do YOU care? 2. if worry about h0e phase of other people, move your attention to men. they have much more past partners & wh0re attitude. yet society and individuals like you somehow always blame and judge women (which is minority compared to men)
@@dy578you're so judgy haha its kinda of pathetic, go have sexual experience and let people live their life. If it was a man that posted this comment you would have never said any of this shit. Stop hating
Idk the language barrier really is an issue though. You can be initially attracted to someone and have a good time with each other, but if you can't speak enough of the same language, then you're not really getting to know them, just your imagined idea of them.
I found what she said about the language barrier really interesting because I can relate very much. When my now-husband started dating, his English speaking ability was super low and it took us an insane amount of effort to communicate, especially on a deeper level. But we took that effort because we were really invested! I would never go through that for someone I wasn’t extremely attracted to.
Nonsense. Language barrier is never an issue. If you really like each other you will spend enough time together to learn. Pillow talk is the best way to learn a language.
I always thought that I was being too fast in terms of relationship but after hearing this I just realize that its better to be fast than ends up nothing or boredom
You got that right ,thats also something to keep in mind when taking it further and start live together,its better move in while your madly in love so you tolerate more problems😀i know couple that was together many years,traveling together spend free weekends together but not living together.When they finally did so they broke up after some months only because everyday life showed them the fact they wasnt really compatible to one another...
Am in a relationship with a guy that doesn't speak my mother tongue. Trust me, there's no such thing as language barrier in a relationship. Liking a person is the best motivation to learn the language in like 3 days 😂
@@muchanadziko6378well honestly some languages are easier than others, it doesnt matter who talks which, what matters that it works for them. hey maybe they are both billingual and use their 2nd language or she's living in his country 😊
@@muchanadziko6378 it's oke, online miscommunication happens all the time 👌 this is why we shud approach respectfully before finding out the differences and uhm.. getting ugly 😂 either way i hope u have a nice day 🤞
Communication is hard enough when both parties speak the same language. I personally can’t envision a relationship working when there’s a language barrier. I don’t care how attractive someone is inside and out we have to be able to communicate from the start
I’m Filipino-Canadian..I agree with this ..I dated a Japanese guy for 7 years but boy he just wasted my time…so I eventually ended the relationship..He didn’t really express what he wanted in the relationship..he just led me on..and I waited for 7 years..before officially ending the relationship.. personally I think majority of Japanese men prefer to date their own race.
I don't know why those who say this think it makes people feel better 😂... I've said it couple times but I had VERY good reason for saying it, it wasn't just a casual way of rejecting, and the girls I've had to eventually say it to were extremely inconsiderate.
Let's boil it down to the basics: The Japanese are exceptionalist and don't rate foreigners that high. Call it also racism, xenophobia or superiority, but it's deeply anchored and results in not wanting to create lasting relationships or families with non-Japanese partners. That said, things have been changing over the past 30 years. Exposure to rest of the world (TV, media, technology, travelling, music, etc.), cultural flexibility and more foreigners living in Japan have resulted in a larger number of bi-racial relationships and families, and more acceptance of the unknown.
I had a Japanese boyfriend, He wanted to marry me and take me to Japan but. I was scared to go to another country where I didn't know anyone. He was very polite as well as his mom. They both were great to me, what lovely people they were. 😊
How can you judge from a 2 min interview. She looks good, seels smart and good at communicating. That's about all. One thing for exemple is she doesn't seem to speak japanese much -probably an issue. Also she seems to under realise language issue in a relationship.
@@emmanuelwilliamquinton9152 - She looks good, she's articulate, probably smart and well educated. - She's living abroad at a youg age and doesn't looks like she's doing it because of necessity, that shows resolve. And since we know she's not there with a partner I'll assume she's independent. Two are valuable qualities to me. - It's kind on her part that she's not looking back in anger at all those japanese man that wrote her off after the first or second date just because of her nationality, which is kind of rude. - She's not under realising anything, that's the problem. Even if she knows zero japanese, which I doubt, the human being is capable of learning languages, you know? Their japanese counterparts are under estimating her ability to learn and to adapt. While she's open enough to date guys from a different ethnicity/culture and give love a chance, those guys are too closed minded to even try. - Body language tells me she has a high degree of confidence - Last but not least I like her sytile, she's got a good fashion sense.
@Homelandz -you can be articulate and not be smart... plus she just said basic things -living abroad takes nothing. You just go and do it if you have the money - those men owe you nothing. If she got angry then she would be entitled. They went on a date and then didn't like it, simple. How is that objectively rude? Did they ghost her?? -how are they close minded when they did go on a date with her? You are glazing her hard. Just because they didn't want to date her after meeting her don't mean that they are close minded Just say that you find her pretty and done cause you are definitely on her d
She said that language won't be a barrier if you like each other. You either do not comprehend well or you intentionally misrepresented her to be dumb. Not sure why.
Nah Japanese arent racist like Koreans it's more of xenophobia, they're just curious (and refrain) from standing out too much. I've seen many PoC content creator share that in Japanese people are more curiois than in S.K ppl straight up diss ur ass. Both place have native-only bars tho 🤡
the culture in Japan is to keep and protect Japanese culture & if they mix with a foreigner is because they are considering to incorporate that foreigner’s culture into their family.
I love what she said at the end, my ex has a different nationality and we both spoke English when we were together but after we broke up he said that he couldn’t fall in love with me cause we were speaking English… LOL
She's got a point. It's normal that many people, not just men, envision a future with people from the same culture; many things won't have to be discussed or debated and are just inherently understood. I hope she'll find an open-minded man who's excited abouts exploring the differences rather than seeing them as inconvenient
@@lazaropeedro8881Sorry.. But I don't like getting involved with white women. Asian, Indian are good for me too. White women are good on screen only.
Gurl, 2 weeks? Mine was 3 years. He was nice, kind, sexy, and respectful. Too respectful to the point of being aloof that i ended up feeling anxious as to whether he hates my affections or not. Finally i gave up. I GIVE UP!
Ya my wife didn’t speak a word of English when I first met her. We did break up over time because things were hard and I was immature so was she, years later we met up again randomly And stayed together since she knew English now and the relationship became much simpler to communicate (for the most part lol), so been married a few years now and getting a house
Its because the 3rd date is known at "The Commitment" where the guy ask you to be his girlfriend and it becomes official......all these comments saying "it won't go past the first of second date. This is why, if they do then they're committed to you. Its not like western cultures where you hang out around each other enough then ask for the first date then it's an unspoken Commitment. For them the 3rd date is a Vocal commitment and they respect it as such. Also Japanese men and women cheat after marriage and it's a know thing so be careful 🤗
@@kayjay9104dude this is common knowledge even between non japanese people. They have a culture of this and its not always after marriage but it is more common after than before. Similar to how everyone knows theres a serious SA problem that goes widely unreported because of the culture. However in that instance if youre a foreigner they tend to see you as a bit too much of a risk and therefore leave you alone. Coming from someone with 2 close friends living in different parts of japan
in the US it actually USED to be the 3rd date is the verbal commitment and such but now people have delved into uncertain "situationships" and "links" its terrible
introversion has nothing to do with being straight forward. They say time is money and I'm telling you, instead of wasting their time, people appreciate honest and straight forward people.
Man. Says. I just want to fuck. Simple and straight to point. If she said no. Then they wouldnt first , 2nd or even a third date. Woman are complex. Man have to understand woman, play their dumb game and woman have to do nothing. After two. They know who she is. Simple.
I remember i chatted with a Japanese guy. Then he immediately asked me out. And i said yes. Then days passed, no communication, he completely left and forgot me😂 I also remember a rom drama where Yamashita Tomohisa is the leading man where in he let his girl marry someone else. I guess most Japanese men are like that is why they're afraid of going forward lol
She's cool, loved hearing from her and she's painfully aware of the reality but you never know, she may meet someone who is right for her whether they are Japanese or not, we are all individuals with different life experiences and interests. It is only a matter of time
Yeah. But overcoming that isn't really rocket science. Learning language is easy. If you are struggling then a little effort is required from your end i guess. And you may not believe it but learning languages are really great for your brain. Target 4 or 5 languages to learn. Its awesome.
@@bluethunder666 what is rocket science to me at least to the point that is idiotic is getting into a relationship with someone you can't communicate with... That is the root of the issue with her "poetic" statement.
@@raizan5946 You have clearly never had natural chemistry with someone who doesn’t speak your language. Sometimes things just click - You laugh, joke, maybe even work with and have a connection with someone without being able to speak each others language well. Most communication is not verbal and you being so arrogantly ignorant and angry at other people for understanding a bond which you don’t is quite problematic for you.
The G7 recently had a two day women empowerment meeting with their female representatives in Japan. And Japan decided to send a male representative to it……that sums up everything about how Japanese men view women…..
My experience when I dated there was that men either wanted to date a foreigner briefly for the novelty, or wanted to drag out dating just long enough to get to sleep with a foreigner, maybe a few times, then ghost if the conversation got more serious. I speak Japanese so the language barrier was not a thing for me, yet it was still like this. I did end up married for 4 years, but I think he married me thinking being married in Japan specifically meant he could "teach"/control me...he was abusive, and I eventually left when my life felt threatened. Idk what the stats are in Japan because I doubt it's been researched, but in the US, international relationships result in the "foreign" partner being abused almost 50% of the time, so it is not uncommon. Keep in mind the power dynamic when dating internationally. I'm now back in the US after almost 6 years in Japan, and while there are slimy people in domestic dating as well, it's easier to spot and avoid. I am now happily married to someone who treats me well and am expecting my first child. 😊 (Yes, 4 years of marriage with the Japanese guy and he did not give us any children. Yet, I was able to conceive easily with my current partner despite being older...) Dating abroad was hard-- don't let emotions put you in dangerous situations. PS-- I have nothing against her outfit or many of the foreign women I see interviewed, but while in Japan, if you want to show enough skin to be cute and not perceived as "easy" (I'm sorry, this is culture, I don't see you this way!) I recommend a higher cut top. If you want to show skin, shorts, a skirt, or a sleeveless but high cut top all work. Showing too much chest sends the wrong message imo. Sorry!😅
@@limitleskyYes, pulling out hair, slapping, threatening to set me on fire by flicking a lighter in my face. Also verbal abuse. I just hit a point where I knew if I had kids with the guy, he'd hurt them, too, and that gave me the courage to leave. I left with my two suitcases and nothing else. I did not give a crap about any compensation my Japanese coworker said he would owe me; I just wanted away from him ASAP, so I stamped the divorce form (it's a single form if you don't wanna go to court and if you have access to both inkan stamps only one of you have to go to city hall) and started over again back in the US from 0.
@@luiscampos7949 You mean the wrong guy in Japan. Yeah, they're everywhere, but I am saying that there is a large number of guys in any country that pick foreign wives for the control aspect. In my case, since I am American, it was easier to filter those kinds of guys out back home after my bad experience. For a Japanese woman, perhaps the opposite is true-- she'd have trouble figuring out which American men to trust, whereas she can see the signs easier with Japanese men. Make sense? And if you read my second comment, I stamped the form for both he and I and filed it myself. If I tried to have him sign, he would not have left me divorce and leave.
@@luiscampos7949He hid a lot, but his family even knew what he was like beforehand and told me nothing until I talked to his mom about it after the first time he struck me. He has a younger brother he hasn't spoken to in 15+ years because he had collapsed the dude's lung. He was not yakuza, but he had Nationalist ties when he was younger, and I did not know until 6 months into marriage. If you wanna marry someone from a different country, become a detective and find out their whole life story first!
You dropped this Queen. 👑 Am not Japanese or Even Indian (cause she mentioned that race), but this gave me hope. The problem is I don’t even meet people. xD
Monday get know each other, Tuesday dating, Wednesday engage, Thursday wedding, Friday live together and quarrel, Saturday divorce, Sunday get rich by divorce. NO WASTE OF TIME. Next week, again, again and again. Richer and richer, why not?
They really don't like foreigners because of cultural barrier same goes with the girls there actually very few people actually are interested in dating most of them prefer to be single the reason there birth rate is declining 💀💀💀
100% someone who is right on the money, the guys spent 2 dates on her, either she wasnt interesting or she didnt show interest, so why would they waste their time and money further?
Full interview
ruclips.net/video/JTifbDPZEE8/видео.html
A woman basically saying "I'm not the problem, all the men I date are"
The real problem is over there 99% percent of the men are only packing 3 inches!😮🙆🤦😱
@@john-sp8jk sounds like you have experience measuring 99% of Japanese men.
Don't get mad you know it's true! When I was in the US military in Japan mostly all the japanese women I got involved there told me that at some point! It might be a stereo type but it's definitely true!🤭
@John bruh, even if they had micropenises, they have more chance of keeping a wife back home while most military personnel in the US lose their wife who cheat with family members, haha.
“At least he wasted my time for 2 weeks and not 2 years” major major major facts right there
On the other hand, cherish every second you spend with someone, even if it's just 2 weeks, because that 2 weeks is all you'll get.
Hahaha! MAJOR!
@@heroclix0rz Fact
She is pretty, but having kid and spending a whole life with her looks/sounds exhausting
@@heroclix0rznah screw people who just want hookups.
She just explained why Japan's birth rate is declining 💀
fact
LMAO
and why India population exceeded China 😅
@@deep.space.12 Nope, India is doing good now .
Fertility around 2.1 which is perfect..
@@randomchess7044 why china and other countries less their population rate, only because of food and resources safety of country -_-
Shes got a good point. If two people like each other then theyll make it work
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I'm a transfer student in an Asian country and I'm gonna have to disagree with her last statement. I understand where she's coming from, but from my experiences, it's easier said than done.
@@halleyalex7544 which country?
yeah but let's be real.
how you can make people like each other?
both of them need to know each other personality first, know what each other want etc.
how to do that? they need to be able to communicate.
it is very rare case for 2 people to like each other with language barrier.
unless u talking about 2 people who likes each other looks and that's it..
doubt that kind of relationship will last long though
I lived in asia 4 years been on many dates and relationships, some of the most fulfilling ones we had a large language barrier.. it cant be helped if someone gives up, but then they weren't meant for you. If you truly like and love the person you guys will make it work even if it means learning the language
She is wise. Well said.
No comments?
I dont think about dating random men is something a wise woman would do
She is beautiful and smart.
Amen
no....HE's wise, he knows how to relax and NOT RUSH into relationships. Lots of asian women WANT to marry american men just to pass immigration....
"At least he waisted my life for 2 weeks instead of two years!" - Priceless.
At least he didn't chest your life.... 🤷🏻♂️
Wasted*
Chhina @lam jalali Kali/fake BBS Teacher Cheater.. Wastes 7yrs..+
*wasted
That girl is kind of full of herself haha.
She described it very well. There’s a cultural barrier, they don’t tell you, but you can feel it.
Also cause they have small pp, maybe embarrassing for them to indulge in sexual activity as they could be insecure bout their manlyhood
Yea no shit 😅 you’re not them
It's simple. If man tell you what they want. Then you wouldn't be dating. Man date to get sex. Any man will read the cue. A man shouldn't tell you how they feel. Emotional man are weak man. No woman want to hear a man about there feelings. Ie. I feel lazy today. I don't want to do anything. I feel like this and that. Imagine your a leader in life. A man goes. I don't feel like defending my country today. 100pl will die. .
If I told you. Let's go on a date. And fuck after. You would reject my advances. Instead you want the subtle Courtship that leads to the bedroom. A secure man doesn't give a fuck. Either fuck or I go else where. If you play a games. Then you are wasting my time.
Not only, after a few dates, if she isnt trying to take you on dates then there's no need to invest more time and money on her, i think she confused western dating with asian dating
Japanese people are actually very racist to the point they don't know they are racist😂
Someone said in Japan “You can talk like them, eat with them, learn all their of their cultures traditions, but they will not accept you truly as one of them.”
It is kind of true
That's how it shoud be. U Are not one of them
I think that quote is from an interviewee in this same channel. Forgot which video.
@@MasumKhan-ug8nr We Brits used to say the same about your lot. That was considered heinous in retrospect, no? ;)
@@cgavin1 well a large majority still dont consider any non white person British
Their loss she’s gorgeous!
You can't lose an Indian.
I wouldn't have guessed she is indian. She's indeed gorgeous
@@eccle4369 race and ethnicity really doesn’t matter! Outside of the initial physical attraction it’s the person within that truly shows beauty or not!!
@@Sasha-dr4ordamn some Indian hurt you deep
@@eccle4369average incel who rots in the basement
This is very true. 😅 I wasn't searching for a Japanese date but I agreed to some. They really don't go beyond the first or second. Precisely that time limit. It's like a free trial period. They're sweet and act super kind and insist on paying for everything and spending the whole day together. Then disappear, poof, gone.
They see what time it is 😂
Y'all are killing my dream of meeting my handsome Japanese prince 🤣🤣🤣 jkjk I already knew I had no chance lol
@@DanielleBaylor Aww, you never know!
Do they just hit it and dip?
Or do they for some reason just act nice and leave for no apparent reason lol?
Lol Free Trial
The power behind "At least he wasted my time for 2 weeks and not 2 years"
@@PrecYsely Ah yes. Victim blaming at its finest
@@shiannafoxx two consenting adults who went into relationship together, both are equals.
If you got yourself in a bad relationship and stayed for 2 years...? That's on you lol... 😂
It's your relationship, your decision to stay/leave, don't stay, call yourself a victim and say "victim blaming reeeeee" when someone points it out
@@shiannafoxx
How are you an adult if you can get stringed for 2 years without asserting your own wishes?
@@kundakaps Again you've never been in an abusive relationship, platonic or otherwise, and it shows. Hmm, Idk? Maybe things like stockholm syndrome, love bombing, gaslighting, and abandonment issues all exist? You ever thought of that? No, because it's very clear you've never critically thought about anything for more than 2 seconds because the gears are not turning in there.
@@shiannafoxx you literally just shamed people for not being in abusive relationships. And all that other emotional garbage is just an excuse for your bad choices. So ofc these people would never know about that, as we don’t place ourselves in abusive relationships. And Abusive relationships aren’t a “waste of time” per say, they’re more like literal hostage situations. You’re offending women that have been physically assaulted, that’s real abuse. But of course, you wouldn’t know what thats like. Do better “queen” 😂😂😂
They probably see us foreigners as an experience and not relationship possibilities
In South Korea, there’s a term for this: Riding the White Horse. Some Korean men will be all for fooling around with a western woman but won’t take it further than that.
Exactly 💯
Because that's what Western women have made themselves.
Even in the West, full of propaganda, weakness, and poor upbringing, men are seeing Western women as "an experience" for the night or a weekend. Definitely not marriageable.
No man(MAN) in the world take a American woman seriously. Where as foreign women do( not all) take American men seriously.
It's because they are racists 🤷🏻♂️
She's an influencer. Born and raised in Assam❤
I always wonder why Assam and north-eastern states have prettiest girls.
Tell her @
Them Indian dudes would literally create a whole music video just for you 😂
Exaggeration
@@asingha94the truth though
@@Cartman5101 How's it different than "Show me b00bs" by white guys?
In fact every act of brown person is more or less associated with india.
Pretty pathetic 😂
"show me bobs and vagene, I SAID I NEED TO SEE THE BOBS AND VAGENE!!"
@rhinnwai95 You think there are background music in our daily life? 🤣
Most Japanese men can't imagine themselves bringing a foreigner home to meet mom.
It's really that simple.
Or this women is just weird? Quick to blame Japanese men but not this women?😂
More accurately, a western woman.
No because they just leave their parents to rot literally.
@@nathanielrobles3284 wut
@@effsixteenblock50 you can youtube it actually. Japan has a special cleaning team. But what they clean are the deads who died alone in their homes and no family members cares for them.
The Japanese seem like a very welcoming yet insular people.
Seem like a bunch of fake judgemental assholes to me. 🤷🏾♂️
They are like foxes
You are just gaijin for them
@@AM-jl8he exactly my point. to categorize people’s worth based on where they are from. There are people who have adopted their freakin culture and live there permanently. Doesn’t matter. That’s why they have so much weird sexual stuff going on and they’re dying out.
Their weird sexual stuff pretty much happens everywhere else, they just digitalize it in Japan. Just like Epstein in USA. Or imagine if 15 years ago everyone though USA was obsessed with Cops Guns and WWE Theatrical Wrestling. Sure it's be true halfway that alot are obsessed but it doesn't paint the same picture as the reality of those who live here. As for their Xenophobia it's a very good thing they are that way, because that's Keeps them "japan" that's why as a tourist destination it's never wavered in popularity over the years, they maintain their own quality of life. And every good rumor you hear about japan like alleged low crime and atmosphere and clean public spaces all of those are only possible because they maintain their own country as only for themselves. As they should, xenophobia is what has made them preserve. The only problem with that is when Japanese travel overseas to be students and then complain about the host country, but unlike with other nationalities you almost never see Japanese or Chinese do that. Other Asian races do though.
Japan does have a ton of problems like hostile oppressive workplace culture and that is a much bigger factor to their declining birth rates than anything to do with anti immigration policy. Because if that was the sole reason, they'd have died off already centuries ago. They have always been historically an isolationist country and its very easy to do so when you're a relatively small island (Japan is around the height of New York City to Miami Florida give or take)
There is alot of internal suppression that goes on in their country and the locals do express themselves in weird ways when they find themselves being unable to really be themselves. Like apparently dying your hair blonde as a guy is seen as very rebellious. And that kind of social oppression I could not ever live in. I do think japan is a very strict and overbearing country and that mentality does more harm to its citizens than good. But as someone who isn't Japanese and has never lived there, I have no right to tell them how they should live. It's Japan's own right to be xenophobic and bit want outsiders. That's the whole reason their country is still seen as an ideal destination to immigrate to for alot of people, because they have MAINTAINED that culture of excellence that alot of people who wish to live in Japan admire. If they just started letting everyone in and making them feel welcome it would instantly stop being Japan and become a mix of cultures and immigrants who want here in Japan to be more like hkem and change it to fit and all of a sudden you've got the very real consequences of unchecked immigration. Japan has every right to not want outsiders and to make them feel unwelcome. Its their home and they have every right to want to keep it for themselves and not turn into a resort island known to give greedy hands the easy life. The only way Japan has been able to maintain their quality of life is BECAUSE they stay xenophobic and keep most people out. That's why Japan is still seen as "Japan" and not an amalgamation of many cultures. Like I said Japanese should also expect the same treatment when they go overseas, they aren't locals anymrke and have no right trying to change the local country. But they never do. Asians when they immigrate almost always live in some kind of "China Town" area even if it's not fully China Town youl lsee restaurants here in the west often that have no English signs or name at all, around heavily Asian Populus college districts. It's only South Asians who have been causing immigration issues in North America, at least my neck of the woods.
I don't see anything wrong with being Insular as a nation. It is Japan's strength honestly. It will continue to stay as a an example of "civilized better countries" while they maintain their Xenophobia. Those two things are very related.
I really do want to visit one day myself, but only because I know Japan is a terrible fit for me and I wouldn't feel welcome there. I don't want to fit in with their awful capitalist work before everything work 70 hours a week model. I. Don't like their oppression in how you can't express yourself and have to fit in or you get social suicide and there's even like a caste system in Japan. Asians in general are very shallow and materialistic if you have Asian friends you're good friends with, liem online Asian friends, ask them how using the internet as a young teen and andukt and being exposed to Western culture solely through the internet has affected them. They will have very interesting answers. Alot of them only get their idea of western life through the internet, the same way we only get an idea of Japanese life through our internet too. The reality is much different for both of us. Alot of young Asian people really want The freedom of Expression that the west has. But they have difficulty acclimating here because we aren't as heavily materialistic in our day to day relations and friendships and jobs. Asians place a really heavy emphasis on what we here in the west would call "the customer service voice" or "college guy with a rich dad" attitude. But in the west it's in your face, in Asia it's alot more elitist and pretentious but they don't get seen as "Cool" for being bad boys like we do in the west instead they get seen as "Cool" for being like ultra succesful in the Customer service voice. I'm not explaining it right but hopefully you get the idea. Customer service voice in a social setting, in public, with no customers I mean.
Of course this opinion I have is derived from just the outside looking in, because of the aforemention heavy xenophobia, it's almost impossible for anyone who's not born Japanese to actually tell you what Japanese act like with each other. We just see from outside what they are life and can't understand their language so come to our own conclusions about what's being said. That thing I said about Asians being shallow, that's what all my Asian friends agreed with and told me, but they were all ones living in the West since birth or living in Asia since birth but used the internet so much they feel outcast at home and only feel like themselves online. Most of these while agreeing Asians in the west are shallow And materialistic, won't have a chance if they actually went to Asia proper because they'd be seen as a Gajinn themselves lol and their own materialism would be small compared to Asian locals shallowness and materialism. Im not saying they are bad people just they outcast you based on apperance and clothes and your social status alot faster than people in the west. Also the Asians here if they ever went to Asia they would have alot of trouble fitting in too, because they have been raised to express themselves and color themselves and their clothes with Art and personality alot since they were kids. Just like everyone else in The west. So they wouldn't grasp the local culture and be too much of individuals despite looking Asian.
I'm indian myself but was born in the West. All Asians will tell you with pain of toxic Asian parenting culture and toxic households. Asian culture is pretty bad across the board of you immigrated overseas and grew up in Asian households in a Western White World. That right there is where both worlds collide. I'm saying this because it's another way xenophobia shows its face, for good and bad, just on the opposite end of the coin.
Their strict crazy workplace culture is the real reason they are dying out. Yeah alot of it has to do with oppressive culture that crushes being independent, but if they opened their doors to everyone Japan would disappear faster than if they really died out. There's very many people in the west who don't want to give birth and can't afford a house either. The Global poverty and how expensive the world is becoming has got alot to do with it too. Alot of people say Japan is living in the future compared to the rest of the world, I think that's true, and also why they experience alot of social issues before the rest of us. Their island is like a trial run for many global things, like the Pandemic and how they dealt with it.
I would love to live there for a few years. Because I know I wouldn't fit in. And I wouldn't care I'd feel so free not having the expectation to fit. In the kjdn of expressive person that Japanese would hate and that's why I only want to live there for 2 or 3 years just to experience the warm summer and see the blue foggy skyscrapers and their liminal city skyline and bike around blasting music and smoking green.
There's a really weird old game called LSD Dream emulator, you should check that out. I want to live in Japan to have weird moments like that lol.
But after typing this long rant I think I change my mind I do agree their oppressive culture is a major factor in low birth rate. Just not the only thing, and I think their xenophobia is what makes them succesful as a nation.
All these people think the language barrier is nothing important and can just be overcome by "really liking each other a lot" but it's not that simple. After working at an International Association over there and seeing case after case of foreigners with little to no Japanese and their Japanese spouse coming in for assistance in arbitration in a nasty divorce, anyone who goes into a relationship with someone they literally cannot talk to when they get into a fight, all I can say is, the relationships that last are built on a foundation of strong communication, and language ability is very very important in that.
Remember, kids. A puppy is not just for Christmas, and a marriage is not just for the few years it takes for you to get through the honeymoon period.
I think there are a few podcast that you need to speak on, because I have heard guys say the language barrier is not important when choosing a wife from Asia.
@@carrington2949 I'm sure it's not while the relationship is still running on sex or novelty or something like that, but that eventually has to wear off and give way to something deeper, and I know there are a lot of people who think they can plumb the depths of their partner's soul by wiggling their eyebrows a lot and gesticulating wildly with their hands, but I would never counsel anyone to take on a relationship if that was their grand plan.
I'm not really interested in going on podcasts unfortunately, but if a few people read this comment and take something away from it, I'm quite happy.
She's delusional if she thinks the language barrier isn't a big deal. It's literally the key to understanding each other's culture and would be the source of endless frustration. If you're just looking to bang or get someone to pay your bills maybe it's not that important, but if you want a relationship your gonna need solid communication in a common language.
@@carrington2949the GUYS don't think it's important because they just want a housewife/slave or something to bang. I wouldn't be taking advice from wannabe kings like that if you want something lasting.
For Indians it is not big issues 😅😅 because we grew up learning 2 or more than 2 language and because indian is very very very diverse (28 official lang, more than 200 non official language and as very different cultures from each other), it is very normal to have a parent's who speaks different languages and 1 common language(mostly English) as a time go both of them will automatically learn the others language of there partner 😅😅(no body force them to learn language),they just learn it because they love each other enough to learn the new language, so ya ,if u love love them enough u can make it work
She really hit the nail on the head when she said "as foreigners, [they] don't really take us that seriously." I have worked for a couple of Japanese companies, and they're one of the most xenophobic cultures I've ever encountered. Not even in a malicious way; it's just so ingrained in them that they don't even realize when they're being condescending.
It does make sense for a small island that didn't really interact with the rest of the world til like 100 years ago, and that takes their culture very seriously. I don't blame them.
That's BS y interacted with the world by going around and killing everything in their path. America came along and put them in their place. Before Germany, it was Japan in the war path. That Nuke thought, it sure slowed things down a bit. The truth is it's not just the Japanese the entire world is 'xenophobic' towards each other. Everyone think that their culture and people are at the center of the universe.
@@chillpengeru Hi. I wouldn't call Japan a small island. It's bigger than most countries of Europe actually.
And Japan has actually had more than a thousand years of interactions with China and Korea, although mainly restricted to the official level only.
I’ve snapped at some japs at sports venue might have sounded a little racist and they were pretty quiet. I felt kinda bad afterwards but now I after reading your comment I don’t feel so bad 😊
It's kind of two sided. The Japanese workforce is miles above any other countries' in terms of quality and diligence. They are smarter and work harder than anybody else, and when they look at a foreigner who can only do less than half of their work, what should they think?
😂 "at least he wasted my time for two weeks and not two years"- so true
Exactly! 😄
It is just "Hit it and quit" relations)) of course they dont need 2 years
I know her she and i used to go to the same tution class. She is very smart she knows Japanese and Korean as well I had a huge crush on her but couldn't ask her out cuz she was out of my league lol. Surprised to see her here lol
@@ichigoborgo3636then ask her to go out 😂
I went on a date with an Indian man, he was asking me so many marriage oriented questions on that first date, including how many children I wanted. They are focused! I can see how that would be very different to a Japanese man.
He asked you about children on the first date?
The guy must have been being hassled by his family to get married.
@@abhilash9918ikr
The only purpose for dating is marriage. If there are things in the woman that do not fit with the man's expectations (some of which are cultural), that should be enough for a man to move on. He should not waste the woman's time.
Just ended a 10 month situationship with an Indian guy. He went above and beyond to let me know how much of a player and not ready for commitment he could be. Not a good experience I would say.. didn’t seem focused to me.
He must be an immigrant from India. Indian men born in the Western world are a bit different.
Takashii has the best tuned baddie finder in all of Japan.
Knowing my man he shot his shot with her, I'm sure he was like I'm very open right now 😂
Takashii got that approachable rizz
It totally depends. I was pursued by a Japanese man who always did his best to make me feel loved and happy. He was kind, sweet, and caring. We had a healthy long-distance relationship until we got together and he proposed to me after a year of dating. Now we're happily married, and through ups and downs, I don't think I could ever find a loving, resilient husband like him.
hello, may i know how does he shows his love for you? i have japanese bf and we are in LDR, he's not very vocal and sweet to me TT
@@ririii5109I was married to a Japanese man and dated a few other Japanese men, each one is different. In the end actions over words, rather in LDR it's intention which is a good rule of thumb. Showing respect, speaking kindly, being thoughtful, choice in gifts, those are all ways they show love and care. Does he share with you his daily life? Does he include you in decision making? Does he ask about your day or listen to you intently? Those are ways they show care and concern. But more than anything, communication is key. Ask and truly listen. If it isn't something you're comfortable with (some people aren't talkative) then attraction will not be enough if you're simply not compatible, no sense in forcing it. Otherwise, be easy going and let it grow and blossom on its own. ❤
@@KoiAi_
we've been together for about 2 weeks but we know each other for a year. i still barely know him so i communicated with him that i want him to be more open, ask questions, or talk about any thing in his life. i also send photos to where i go, what i eat or do to feel the connection, however, he doesn't do that but he do ask me about what my day have been. he's really private and reserved person but as his girlfriend, i do think that i deserve to know what he did for the day. i'm getting frustrated and tired to say what i need because i want him to take the initiative.
@@ririii5109 He is also a traditional Japanese guy; he is neither vocal nor sweet at first, and we had a serious heart-to-heart discussion about my expectations and needs in a relationship, and he listened and followed my demands and wishes. Constant communication, encouragement, and motivation is a must. Back when we were still LDR, he always made time to call even though he was busy. In his free time, he always prepares fun activities for us to enjoy; he writes me long love letters every month and makes cute DIY gifts for me. He also loves talking about Marriage, a wedding, and a family, and when I am mad, he calls me unstoppably to make me okay. I think it really depends on the guy and how patient you are with him.
If more japanese men are like your husband then they could really save the birth rate problem
She’s so gorgeous and seems sincere how on earth are Japanese men not going forward with her??!
You got all of that from this one interview? (That's clearly edited no less...)
You need to meet more women.
@@Introversion399 what’s up with you, dude lol
@@Introversion399 bro ,all he said is she SEEMS sincere.
Bro she ain't even cute. You have poor taste I'm sorry.
It’s cause he’s right, she is very I did nothing wrong in her explanation with a lot of I’m very open. Guys are straight forward, if they all rejecting her it’s for a reason. Basically every women ever.
She just doesnt realise yet that she is the MC of a romance anime. And she has to wait 12 episodes (or at least a year) just to get that first kiss
The anime got discontinued
@@4m4n40the manga got fucking cancelled at chapter 0 💀
Lol yeah 😂
Hahaha...the female protagonist didn't want to wait.
Very reasurung to hear how a fictional character got their true love in a canceled anime😂
She's a good and nice person the way she speak it up.
what's her Instagram
You have no clue whether she's a nice or good person
Every Japanese guy has a plot they have to go through 😂
All according to keikaku
Note: Keikaku mean plan
They need to suffer tragedy then isekai and then return to this world, only after that can they can continue their plot
Very anime plot to me😂
You have to date the Main Character otherwise there's no plot armor for the side Character 😂
they need at least 50 episode to develop love feeling. So basically it's her fault
She's right, using the language barrier card is a way to say you're really not interested. If you're REALLY interested in each other you find ways to understand each other in many ways.
Yeah, i can learn any language for my date even if we shall not get into a serious relationship😂
@@Blankpaper_openbookway to completely misinterpret the comment to make ur joke 😂😂😂 so funny 🤣
Yep, any time someone can come up eith reasons not to be with you it's because he's not really into you. People who are really into you find reasons to be with you rather than reasons to not be with you
But sometimes you need the language first to create a strong bond...
@@Simon-ch6lw no
She is so pretty!!
her name what ?
To all foreign girls in japan, please bear in mind that japanese men still need to complete teacher, childhood friend, student council prez, and imoto routes before taking the foreign girl route.
The childhood friend seldom wins...
Imoto?👀
This comment is EVERYTHING 😂
おい！日本人の真実を明かすんじゃあない！
それはトップシークレットの内容やからな！
@@urmomdotcom4039 shhh...
that's a thing.
If a guy ghost you he doesn't like you, it's universal
Japanese men are weird dude. Trust me she ain’t getting ghosted constantly like that in America.
Nah she got 0 rizz
@KennyChinzah When someone who you’ve been seeing/in contact with suddenly stops responding and disappear as if they never existed like a ghost...
Youre right i know a couple here japanese guy married to a filipina here in philippines they been living for almost 20 years now and theyre happy..
@KennyChinzah ghost are paranormal beings like the one you see in sleep paralysis
The last point she made about language barrier is so true. I experience it myself with my partner. We both dont speak english as our native language but we have yet to experience any problems because of that. It somtimes requires some extra time and effort to talk about more intricate subjects but we both put in that energy when necessary. What I want to get at is: Be open and accepting, sometimes a little bit more effort can create beautiful things. The easiest road is the dullest one.
The ability to communicate through language is incredibly important for learning about one another. You are describing a situation where you still have the ability to communicate. An actual language barriar is not at all conducive to finding true love and understanding. Without the ability to articulate one's humor, ideals, interests, perspectives, ambitions, and feelings you cannot attain anything more than a superficial, shallow, understanding of one another, making your connection with someone tantamount to puppy love.
English may not be your first language, but if you can still use it to articulate amd express your feelings to your loved one, then it isn't a barrier, its a bridge.
I also usally talk with her in English even my native language is "Bodo"(बड़)
Japanese people is such a faker. They never genuinely happy when meeting someone new other than Japanese person. They got a face for this and a face for that. You know what I mean? So next time you see a Japanese people do kind stuff to you, don't rush it and expecting that you can be their friends. No. That's just the way they are.
Your relationship must be very shallow then, or completely physical.
@@albarjas8360 I wouldn't say it's very shallow. Neither is it completely physical (Long distance for now, so most of what we can do is talk). I won't claim we're perfect, far from. But it works for us, we never depended on an extensive vocuabulary to have deep conversations. We sometimes have to get creative though, hahaha. And when there is improvement over time it also feels so special and rewarding. Seeing how we've already grown, because we're both open minded, accepting and patient(!!!) with one-another, tells me that we have so much left to experience together. I can't help but feel excited when I think about it.
A quick example is how I learn more about her or her culture everytime I improve my skills in her native language.
Japanese guy in animes🗿 in real life🤡
You in rl 🤡 japanese men in rl 🗿
@@CloudyRain-music was i supposed to laugh
And u are RL🤡🤡🤡 😂😂😂@@CloudyRain-music
@@CloudyRain-music I think its their choice,if they don't wanna date more,what is the problem
That basically means you want to make everyone think you're more sigma (superior) than Japanese guy
she literally pointed the main cause of Japanese dying population crisis and solution for it. C'mon Japanese man go get it..
Yeah grap it man
Last I checked, it was _women_ who had the children. So if children are not being had, it's because the _women_ made that decision. It doesn't take a lot of men.
Japanese Men are not simps. I respect that.
@@Introversion399 loving someone is not simping… username checks out
@@tusharsrivastava370
Who's talking about love though?
You should rename yourself to LackOfComprehension.
I dated a Chinese woman for 3 years and she literally never told her parents I exist or that she was dating me. It hurt.
She met my family and friends, I wanted to get married but basically I wasn’t rich enough to be worthy in the end. I hope she finds what she is looking for.
The Chinese have a bit of an obsession with money yeah, not all but most, especially old people probably due to the revolution. Because no matter how bad things get, if you got money you have a chance.
And sinocentrism is still...there so unless you're Chinese middle class or so rich they don't care about your race/ethnicity...it'll be hard to make Chinese parents agree to a marriage, especially if it's with their daughter.
That's sad to hear bro. Hope you find someone who appreciates you as much as you them
Good thing you never married her. If she is in love with your pockets, she doesn't deserve your commitment.
You're worthy, brother. You always were. ❤🙏
You had a lucky escape chief👍
they're an old society, run by old society rules.
the pressure of even TRYING to bring a girl/guy home/meet your family, without life long intentions must be almost impossible
Then why did she say Indian guys (old society run by old rules) are different?
But this is how Indians are too
@Mr. W there's plenty of modern minded Indian women though.
@Stephen not all of them. The younger generation of Indian women follow western culture. Specifically American influence is pretty widespread in the Indian society.
@@wellesradio This whole channel is just western propaganda. There’s nothing wrong with how the Japanese are. Everyone else should fixate on themselves, their people, and their nations before marching into Japan with arrogance and maIice.
That last point was spot on, lmao. A friend of miners parents are Turkish and Japanese. The Turkish guy speaks Turkish and English, the Japanese woman speaks only Japanese. They still love each other and their kids are now grown and moved out, and they STILL DON'T SPEAK A SHARED LANGUAGE. They've been married for over 20 years and never learned to verbally communicate with each other. It's wild
Bruh what kind of relationship is that 😭
🧐
Cute! But I’m surprised they never invested time in learning a shared language?!
japenese and korean both have hard time accepting foreigners but plus point for japenese people is that they are very polite even if they don't like u unlike koreans
Well for korean if u are pale foreigner they would love to date with you
I see alot of them care about girls beauty more because they want to show people how pale and pretty gf they got
Having pretty Gf and bf is like a competition for them.
That's why if u go to Korea u will only see pale and pretty foreigners with korean men.
It's disgusting
Japanese won't care much you because you're a foreigner, but Koreans would hate you because you are a foreigner and you're below them.
Isn't that the Problem? I think it's much harder in Japan to tell who likes you and who does absolutely not.
@@densetsu7430 u are right but it's still better than korea where people will be rude to u and shout at u to go back to ur own country
lol
She's right. I dated a Japanese girl who didn't speak any English. I can speak Japanese very well, not fluently but very well. I thought her not having any English ability beyond "Hello, nice to meet you" would be an issue. Even with my Japanese level we were able to date effectively. Our relationship lasted for an entire year and ended for other reasons, but the language barrier was not one of them.
Japanese women are more open to dating foreigners than the men. Most women have trouble dating abroad for this and many other reasons.
Shit I'm Japanese but if she's this beautiful wtf is my brothers doin bruh
@@Atomic118 not western, she's Indian🙄
@@Atomic118 When the hell did India became part of western hemisphere?? Expressing your true feelings/experience is not western concept only! From where you get these ancient ideas???
@@Atomic118 Bro attend geography classes seriously...☠️
@@Atomic118 She does every bit & also with that accent. Western media & popular culture is to be blamed for this lack of knowledge about India, which you are fed everyday. There are tons of people like her in India! 👍🏼
@@Atomic118 that is an Indian accent my friend
Guys why are so surprised that she is indian....india is very diverse and there are alot beautiful girls in india ....ALOT .... :)
Who is surprised??
She looks Indian
No one is surprised
Racist guys are surprised coz they already have a stereotypical image of Indians as a jolly and weird type character like you see in many Hollywood movies above that India's are also lethargic when it comes to counter racism like Indians smell, curry, scam calls etc so yeah getting them exposed with an Indian who is completely opposite of their stereotypes they started behaving like a completely surprised person lol.
surprised where? surprised who?
Who tf care as a northeast person racist Indian's gay supporter Indian's 🤮
Being seen as a token "exotic bf/gf" is 10 times worse than getting straight out rejected by someone
i dunno...i am my japanese wife's exotic husband and she is my exotic wife. works for me!
I'm the exotic boyfriend of my Russian girlfriend and it also works for me hha
@@milaemouse8442 The same for me with my Taiwanese gf and myself Spanish haha
@@993bluezones9 same for me my Taiwanese wife and I am half Spanish French American.
Women pov
She's so pretty ✨✨
Roast beef sandwiches usually do come in pretty wrapping 😂
I was wondering if I was the only who thought that, then i found your comment 🤝
@@dynastyfamily00disgusting
@@dynastyfamily00 what do you mean im genuinely curious?
@@clovebeans713he’s referring that she is ran trough. another low iq hurt boi.
there’re lots of them
nowadays
She’s gorgeous
Lay off. She is mine. 😂
she could be gorgeous for you but not for everyone, I wouldn't be able to date any Indian person, they have that strong curry smell.
@@अल्लाह72हूरोंकादल्ला-न8णhold up dawg wait in line now
shes gorgeous
YES
She so smart and well spoken
And annoying… pretty sure its her thats the reason why no second dates lol
I totally agree 👍
Not really.
@@sir_iosis6760why did you think this?
@@ilromapebecause she’s claiming she’s a victim and on those dates she is more than likely talking about how bad she has it and poor me and blah blah blah … thats why
My dad and his wife barely understand each other. I actually think that's why they're happy together.
They understand their roles
@@jokerpilled2535 Possibly, but for most women that's not enough, and for good reasons
@@kape2469 what reasons
@@jokerpilled2535 Seriously? You are not interested in the views, knowledge and feelings of a person? Then that's a very superficial relationship. How will you solve conflicts etc.?
@@kape2469 That’s not what he said. It’s just beyond your comprehend. He made it effortlessly, and that’s all you need for a person to fall in love. They chase their own dream, not chase a conflict.
If Japanese guys are like this im willing to take the women they rejected. 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Im not sure if i should call you a scum or just strategic
Bruh the fact that every guy is rejecting her that quickly is a red flag.
@@crustyhotdog7940 pump and dump it is then.
@@crustyhotdog7940 not really. It’s how it works in a place like Japan. It’s a very closed society and most japanese people categorize foreigners as “different” and don’t want to spend their lives with them.
They think foreign women will sleep with them on the first date and when that doesn’t happen they bail all together
She is very smart. I hope she finds a nice guy Japanese or not, she deserves to be treated like a queen💖
I don't get you. She seems intuitive, observant, but I didn't get any hint of her intelligence from this interaction. How do you imply smart?
@@musicb5202the way her talk and that hand sign wave 👋 maybe ?
@@musicb5202intuitive and observant are literally the main characteristics that make up the concept of smart lmao
@@ryzalboyz9511 what?
@@musicb5202 a professional Politics, Professor and mostly Genius people talk like that...they wave sign hand
She's so cute! I hope she finds a guy that treats her well and takes her seriously.
Nah. Most women have gotten banged so many times now today, so it is impossible to even take a woman seriously, no less a Western woman.
Not with that revealing top
Decent Japanese men don’t want to be seen in public with non conservative dressed girls simple fact
The person she's looking might be top 5% of men who doesn't settle
You wish her well because she is cute? Otherwise you wouldn't have cared wow.
@@muhammadmafaz8530 redpill statistics don't represent the real world. Go out and touch some grass. You're spouting some terminally online shit bruh
She’s right. Most Japanese men I dated just wanted to pass the time or to experience sex with a foreigner (a Latina in my case). But that’s ok, I wasn’t looking for anything serious at that time. Also, in the end love will come in the most unexpected way. My now Japanese hubby met me when he dmed me on insta after he saw my insta acc on my tinder profile, and even tho we didn’t match there we did in real life haha. Now, language and cultural barriers have made us have many arguments, but he’s just too handsome (for me), funny and reliable to give up on. And thanks to him now I have a beautiful, amazing daughter.
Does your husband know you have been ran thru?
@@dy578 haha, so by my comment you thought i just whored around? I guess it can be misinterpreted like that. Do you care? Should he? He knows I've had a past, just like any other person. He also knows he will get home every day to warm meals, clean clothes, clean house, a cute daughter and a loving loyal wife. If that isn't enough for him, you or any men, then stay single
@@brecatherina every has past but what kind of a past is important. Most women lie about their wh0rish past or act like it's not big deal to sl3ep with lots of people. I don't think any men will *knowingly* get in relationship with those women. Unless women lie about it or act like everyone do it so i she also have h03 phase. Having past dating experience and sle3ping with lots of men so you can settle with one man after h03 phase is 2 different things.
@@dy578
1. why do YOU care?
2. if worry about h0e phase of other people, move your attention to men. they have much more past partners & wh0re attitude. yet society and individuals like you somehow always blame and judge women (which is minority compared to men)
@@dy578you're so judgy haha its kinda of pathetic, go have sexual experience and let people live their life. If it was a man that posted this comment you would have never said any of this shit. Stop hating
i adore this woman, a beauty with a brain
what her name ?
Indians are straightforward 😅......🇮🇳🇮🇳
I mean we are but you fure sure sound like not. Chill be a giga chad
We are chill after knowing eachother in-person and Japanese they still acts like introvert even knowing the person very well !
😆
I like that tbh.
I see many Indian guys asking for "bobs" and "vegene" pictures in comment sections. Really straightforward.
Japanese men don’t want to bring a foreigner home to their parents. That’s the issue.
Bro how you know that?
@@xshadow_world8281 its a cultural thing. The parents frown upon it.
@@WesleyAPEXahh same in India also (not all but most of them)
@@anmoldwivedi5403 this girl herself is Indian
@@Uehehdjdjsh yeah ik
Japanese guys missing out! She is a cutie!
After 29 they are no longer cuties 😂
@@leatherface2649wdym
She deserve a kind heart
Idk the language barrier really is an issue though. You can be initially attracted to someone and have a good time with each other, but if you can't speak enough of the same language, then you're not really getting to know them, just your imagined idea of them.
Guess it depends on how severe the barrier is, but I know I’d like to have deep convos at some point.
I found what she said about the language barrier really interesting because I can relate very much. When my now-husband started dating, his English speaking ability was super low and it took us an insane amount of effort to communicate, especially on a deeper level. But we took that effort because we were really invested! I would never go through that for someone I wasn’t extremely attracted to.
Spot on. Must have experience 😯
It's not
Nonsense. Language barrier is never an issue. If you really like each other you will spend enough time together to learn. Pillow talk is the best way to learn a language.
is it just me or is she absolutely gorgeous?!
Yep! She is beautiful - and seems extremely bright.
She's 12 year old with no breast
Yeah only you. She look like thai trans!
Just you
Hindu simp
I always thought that I was being too fast in terms of relationship but after hearing this I just realize that its better to be fast than ends up nothing or boredom
You got that right ,thats also something to keep in mind when taking it further and start live together,its better move in while your madly in love so you tolerate more problems😀i know couple that was together many years,traveling together spend free weekends together but not living together.When they finally did so they broke up after some months only because everyday life showed them the fact they wasnt really compatible to one another...
She’s analyzing Japanese men’s personality very accurately, very wise for her age amazing
Am in a relationship with a guy that doesn't speak my mother tongue. Trust me, there's no such thing as language barrier in a relationship. Liking a person is the best motivation to learn the language in like 3 days 😂
He didn’t learn yours though
@@muchanadziko6378well honestly some languages are easier than others, it doesnt matter who talks which, what matters that it works for them. hey maybe they are both billingual and use their 2nd language or she's living in his country 😊
@@rovanajean9550 I know and understand and wasn’t trying to be mean
@@muchanadziko6378 it's oke, online miscommunication happens all the time 👌 this is why we shud approach respectfully before finding out the differences and uhm.. getting ugly 😂 either way i hope u have a nice day 🤞
Communication is hard enough when both parties speak the same language. I personally can’t envision a relationship working when there’s a language barrier. I don’t care how attractive someone is inside and out we have to be able to communicate from the start
I’m Filipino-Canadian..I agree with this ..I dated a Japanese guy for 7 years but boy he just wasted my time…so I eventually ended the relationship..He didn’t really express what he wanted in the relationship..he just led me on..and I waited for 7 years..before officially ending the relationship.. personally I think majority of Japanese men prefer to date their own race.
They're racist
7 yrs is too much 😢
😊
Exactly. I have dated a Japanese man before but they lose interest in the long run...
If he's getting what he wants already, why would he advance the relationship further?
Legend has it she still hears "it's not you, it's me" to this day
Honestly i didnt expect that I would be hearing the sounds just from reading these words 😂😂
I don't know why those who say this think it makes people feel better 😂...
I've said it couple times but I had VERY good reason for saying it, it wasn't just a casual way of rejecting, and the girls I've had to eventually say it to were extremely inconsiderate.
Exactly
Let's boil it down to the basics: The Japanese are exceptionalist and don't rate foreigners that high. Call it also racism, xenophobia or superiority, but it's deeply anchored and results in not wanting to create lasting relationships or families with non-Japanese partners. That said, things have been changing over the past 30 years. Exposure to rest of the world (TV, media, technology, travelling, music, etc.), cultural flexibility and more foreigners living in Japan have resulted in a larger number of bi-racial relationships and families, and more acceptance of the unknown.
Very apt.
Takashi be like "just give me a chance".
She is very beautifull, intelligent and fit japoneses beauty standards
Minus the " being japanese" part unfprtunately
She is Indian tho
I had a Japanese boyfriend, He wanted to marry me and take me to Japan but. I was scared to go to another country where I didn't know anyone. He was very polite as well as his mom. They both were great to me, what lovely people they were. 😊
Sounds like a lovely experience you had, even though it didn't last.
@@margaritakleinman5701
I chose not to, but we were together for two years. Two wonderful years.
So you wasted two of the guys years 😂
@@aks9736 Just because a relationship doesn't last, doesn't mean the time was wasted.
@@aks9736 No, because I always told him I didn't want to move to another country and live there. He was waiting for me to change my mind
Imagine discarding this girl just because she's a foreigner. A very japanese short sightedness for sure. She's a gem.
How can you judge from a 2 min interview. She looks good, seels smart and good at communicating. That's about all. One thing for exemple is she doesn't seem to speak japanese much -probably an issue.
Also she seems to under realise language issue in a relationship.
@@emmanuelwilliamquinton9152
- She looks good, she's articulate, probably smart and well educated.
- She's living abroad at a youg age and doesn't looks like she's doing it because of necessity, that shows resolve. And since we know she's not there with a partner I'll assume she's independent. Two are valuable qualities to me.
- It's kind on her part that she's not looking back in anger at all those japanese man that wrote her off after the first or second date just because of her nationality, which is kind of rude.
- She's not under realising anything, that's the problem. Even if she knows zero japanese, which I doubt, the human being is capable of learning languages, you know? Their japanese counterparts are under estimating her ability to learn and to adapt. While she's open enough to date guys from a different ethnicity/culture and give love a chance, those guys are too closed minded to even try.
- Body language tells me she has a high degree of confidence
- Last but not least I like her sytile, she's got a good fashion sense.
Take her on two dates, seems to be as long as it takes to see she’s not what she seems on the packet
Hope she sees this though bro
@Homelandz
-you can be articulate and not be smart... plus she just said basic things
-living abroad takes nothing. You just go and do it if you have the money
- those men owe you nothing. If she got angry then she would be entitled. They went on a date and then didn't like it, simple. How is that objectively rude? Did they ghost her??
-how are they close minded when they did go on a date with her? You are glazing her hard. Just because they didn't want to date her after meeting her don't mean that they are close minded
Just say that you find her pretty and done cause you are definitely on her d
Atleast she understands that.... To be in relationship two people have to like each other
God like fr who could have thought that
She said that language won't be a barrier if you like each other. You either do not comprehend well or you intentionally misrepresented her to be dumb. Not sure why.
Really 😮
@@timowayne6993 No
If you’re white and blonde, they’ll take it beyond in a heartbeat 😂
I couldn't agree more👏
Ha ain't that the truth 🤣 🙄
@user-zc7ls8cx8xdoes
Nope...they behave the same way with every foreigner,they just cant accept a different culture and language
Nah Japanese arent racist like Koreans it's more of xenophobia, they're just curious (and refrain) from standing out too much. I've seen many PoC content creator share that in Japanese people are more curiois than in S.K ppl straight up diss ur ass. Both place have native-only bars tho 🤡
She just explained Japan in the last part💀
She's gorgeous
she 100% right. indian nd pakistani guys will make it KNOWN their true intentions. maybe its the culture in japan but her experience is so valid
Don't drag porkistan alongwith India
and their intentions be like: show bob and vegana 💀
the culture in Japan is to keep and protect Japanese culture & if they mix with a foreigner is because they are considering to incorporate that foreigner’s culture into their family.
Where did pakistan come from
Nah, Pakistani ain't like that
I love what she said at the end, my ex has a different nationality and we both spoke English when we were together but after we broke up he said that he couldn’t fall in love with me cause we were speaking English… LOL
Its not uncommon. I know an American in Brasil who broke up with his Brazilian girlfriend because he didn't know Portuguese
Tell me he was French..
@@UniVerse-to4mq no, he was Israeli LOL
@@ChocoParfaitFra oh so many nationalities use this excuse then. I thought it was French’s favorite excuse.
@@UniVerse-to4mq i honestly don’t know but it made me laugh 😂
She's got a point. It's normal that many people, not just men, envision a future with people from the same culture; many things won't have to be discussed or debated and are just inherently understood. I hope she'll find an open-minded man who's excited abouts exploring the differences rather than seeing them as inconvenient
Actually language barrier is a huge issue if you're actually in a relationship. Lack of deep communication is disastrous for any relationship.
As an Indo Canadian, I might have a better chance meeting the right Indian girl in Japan 😂
😂😂😂
Brother you need to go forward not backward
😂😂
@@lazaropeedro8881Sorry.. But I don't like getting involved with white women. Asian, Indian are good for me too. White women are good on screen only.
Gurl, 2 weeks? Mine was 3 years. He was nice, kind, sexy, and respectful. Too respectful to the point of being aloof that i ended up feeling anxious as to whether he hates my affections or not. Finally i gave up. I GIVE UP!
Braindead.
Ya my wife didn’t speak a word of English when I first met her. We did break up over time because things were hard and I was immature so was she, years later we met up again randomly
And stayed together since she knew English now and the relationship became much simpler to communicate (for the most part lol), so been married a few years now and getting a house
She wrote a whole thesis. She has a Phd in foreign relationships hahahaha
She is actually pursuing for PhD...she is a indian cosplayer and also a professor at japan🤣🤣
@@beautydey5352 I'm oddly attracted to that
@@beautydey5352 what professor in japan? Not really. I know her and she's just pursuing her masters from a private uni at japan lol
@@rumpum768 she is Professor of department of 'Phycology of Japanese Men'.
@@beautydey5352 bro tell me her name
The young lady being so intellectual and analytical for Asian men, especially Japanese, she's quite charming and angelic though 🌞🌞🌞
Ewe huemans... missing all the points......
She is a cosplayer and very smart did her studies from one of the best colleges in India and knows a lot of languages.
she is also asian ( Indian) be more specific, like east asian or something
Its because the 3rd date is known at "The Commitment" where the guy ask you to be his girlfriend and it becomes official......all these comments saying "it won't go past the first of second date. This is why, if they do then they're committed to you. Its not like western cultures where you hang out around each other enough then ask for the first date then it's an unspoken Commitment. For them the 3rd date is a Vocal commitment and they respect it as such. Also Japanese men and women cheat after marriage and it's a know thing so be careful 🤗
what are you talking about? you don't know any Japanese people.
@@kayjay9104dude this is common knowledge even between non japanese people. They have a culture of this and its not always after marriage but it is more common after than before. Similar to how everyone knows theres a serious SA problem that goes widely unreported because of the culture. However in that instance if youre a foreigner they tend to see you as a bit too much of a risk and therefore leave you alone. Coming from someone with 2 close friends living in different parts of japan
in the US it actually USED to be the 3rd date is the verbal commitment and such but now people have delved into uncertain "situationships" and "links" its terrible
@@bunnywavyxx9524let's just hope it's a phase 😂😅 im being lil too hopeful am i lol
Who wouldn't want to date this beautiful, intelligent woman?
She: Indian guys are very straightforward and expressive.
Indian me who is very shy and introverted: I think I am in wrong country 😅
Than u need to use hand for rest of ur lyf
introversion has nothing to do with being straight forward. They say time is money and I'm telling you, instead of wasting their time, people appreciate honest and straight forward people.
@@aniket4337 factz ☠️
@@aim3192 Wanna be my tool?
@@southasianbrat3878 in this world everyone is a tool
Man why I don’t have such talking skills, girl literally said same thing in 10 different ways
Man. Says. I just want to fuck. Simple and straight to point. If she said no. Then they wouldnt first , 2nd or even a third date. Woman are complex. Man have to understand woman, play their dumb game and woman have to do nothing. After two. They know who she is. Simple.
same thoughts lmao
She just explained the art of Indian persuasion
I remember i chatted with a Japanese guy. Then he immediately asked me out. And i said yes. Then days passed, no communication, he completely left and forgot me😂
I also remember a rom drama where Yamashita Tomohisa is the leading man where in he let his girl marry someone else. I guess most Japanese men are like that is why they're afraid of going forward lol
Monster
& aren’t women like this to men everywhere in the world?
@@MrShaiya96 no?
@@MrShaiya96 what do u mean monster? And idk maybe coz that was my first and last time chatting with a foreigner
He said monster because of your name.
@@johanliebert1012 monster is the name of the anime your profile picture comes from. Johan Liebert is the main antagonist from the show
At least she's respectful of her country.
She's cool, loved hearing from her and she's painfully aware of the reality but you never know, she may meet someone who is right for her whether they are Japanese or not, we are all individuals with different life experiences and interests. It is only a matter of time
Date a filipino, loving, caring and good cooks too
Language barrier will be an issue even if you "really really like each other". Communication is a vital point in a strong long relationship.
Yeah. But overcoming that isn't really rocket science. Learning language is easy. If you are struggling then a little effort is required from your end i guess.
And you may not believe it but learning languages are really great for your brain. Target 4 or 5 languages to learn. Its awesome.
I agree. How did they even get into a relationship without communicating... This girl is obviously a problematic one.
@@bluethunder666 what is rocket science to me at least to the point that is idiotic is getting into a relationship with someone you can't communicate with... That is the root of the issue with her "poetic" statement.
@@raizan5946 that i dont disagree.
@@raizan5946 You have clearly never had natural chemistry with someone who doesn’t speak your language. Sometimes things just click - You laugh, joke, maybe even work with and have a connection with someone without being able to speak each others language well. Most communication is not verbal and you being so arrogantly ignorant and angry at other people for understanding a bond which you don’t is quite problematic for you.
The G7 recently had a two day women empowerment meeting with their female representatives in Japan. And Japan decided to send a male representative to it……that sums up everything about how Japanese men view women…..
Ok, that cracked me up😂 Seriously? Hahaha😂
based japan
My experience when I dated there was that men either wanted to date a foreigner briefly for the novelty, or wanted to drag out dating just long enough to get to sleep with a foreigner, maybe a few times, then ghost if the conversation got more serious. I speak Japanese so the language barrier was not a thing for me, yet it was still like this. I did end up married for 4 years, but I think he married me thinking being married in Japan specifically meant he could "teach"/control me...he was abusive, and I eventually left when my life felt threatened. Idk what the stats are in Japan because I doubt it's been researched, but in the US, international relationships result in the "foreign" partner being abused almost 50% of the time, so it is not uncommon. Keep in mind the power dynamic when dating internationally.
I'm now back in the US after almost 6 years in Japan, and while there are slimy people in domestic dating as well, it's easier to spot and avoid. I am now happily married to someone who treats me well and am expecting my first child. 😊 (Yes, 4 years of marriage with the Japanese guy and he did not give us any children. Yet, I was able to conceive easily with my current partner despite being older...) Dating abroad was hard-- don't let emotions put you in dangerous situations.
PS-- I have nothing against her outfit or many of the foreign women I see interviewed, but while in Japan, if you want to show enough skin to be cute and not perceived as "easy" (I'm sorry, this is culture, I don't see you this way!) I recommend a higher cut top. If you want to show skin, shorts, a skirt, or a sleeveless but high cut top all work. Showing too much chest sends the wrong message imo. Sorry!😅
abusive as in physically abusive?
@@limitleskyYes, pulling out hair, slapping, threatening to set me on fire by flicking a lighter in my face. Also verbal abuse. I just hit a point where I knew if I had kids with the guy, he'd hurt them, too, and that gave me the courage to leave. I left with my two suitcases and nothing else. I did not give a crap about any compensation my Japanese coworker said he would owe me; I just wanted away from him ASAP, so I stamped the divorce form (it's a single form if you don't wanna go to court and if you have access to both inkan stamps only one of you have to go to city hall) and started over again back in the US from 0.
No that's everywhere you just chose the wrong guy in America there are those that actually wouldn't even let you leave
@@luiscampos7949 You mean the wrong guy in Japan.
Yeah, they're everywhere, but I am saying that there is a large number of guys in any country that pick foreign wives for the control aspect. In my case, since I am American, it was easier to filter those kinds of guys out back home after my bad experience. For a Japanese woman, perhaps the opposite is true-- she'd have trouble figuring out which American men to trust, whereas she can see the signs easier with Japanese men.
Make sense?
And if you read my second comment, I stamped the form for both he and I and filed it myself. If I tried to have him sign, he would not have left me divorce and leave.
@@luiscampos7949He hid a lot, but his family even knew what he was like beforehand and told me nothing until I talked to his mom about it after the first time he struck me. He has a younger brother he hasn't spoken to in 15+ years because he had collapsed the dude's lung. He was not yakuza, but he had Nationalist ties when he was younger, and I did not know until 6 months into marriage. If you wanna marry someone from a different country, become a detective and find out their whole life story first!
Indian bros are winning
You dropped this Queen. 👑
Am not Japanese or Even Indian (cause she mentioned that race), but this gave me hope.
The problem is I don’t even meet people. xD
She mentioned it because she's Indian btw
The final comment is so true! When my parents met they didn't share any languages but fell in love anyways
She is beautiful and smart
Well japanese have huge respect for TIME and PUNCTUALITY. And in her case I guess they didn't want to waste their time.
Monday get know each other,
Tuesday dating,
Wednesday engage,
Thursday wedding,
Friday live together and quarrel,
Saturday divorce,
Sunday get rich by divorce.
NO WASTE OF TIME.
Next week, again, again and again.
Richer and richer, why not?
@@dannychong6093 isang linggong pag ibig lang😂
@@dannychong6093Solomon grenndy
They really don't like foreigners because of cultural barrier same goes with the girls there actually very few people actually are interested in dating most of them prefer to be single the reason there birth rate is declining 💀💀💀
100% someone who is right on the money, the guys spent 2 dates on her, either she wasnt interesting or she didnt show interest, so why would they waste their time and money further?
She’s like the second or third person I think you’ve interviewed who has said the same thing. I’m starting to believe it to be true.
She explained that really well, some people do beat around the bush
Translation: She gave it up quick and he moved on to the next one
@@OverRule1 or she wasnt interesting to him or showed enough interest and he moved on