I appreciate the way that you have exposed a subject that has been shrouded in darkness for too long. You are not afraid to take a stand and say it: this form of sex is unnatural, and also pointing out the harm it causes. That's what helped me.
What happens if husband won't have sex with a wife because Alcohol comes first and the husband isn't a Christian and doesn't want sex with his wife. And wife wants sex 😏 what's she supposed to do 🤔
The Bible talks about sodomy, and oral and anal sex are sodomy by definition. So the Bible talks about them. It's not the natural design that God made man and woman to have sex.
I know this wasn’t an easy teaching, but it was a necessary one for those of us who seek the Biblical Truth of a matter. Thank you for your efforts to help us gain understanding through the Word.
I’m 22 and I’m still a virgin. I made a promise to myself as a teen that I wouldn’t have sex until I was married and I’m glad to have kept that promise. Well, it’s been quite easy because I don’t have a boyfriend or never had an encounter that I almost lost it I sometimes feel a certain way about that but that’s for another time. I feel guilty sometimes because I myself struggle with adultery. Sometimes I give into watching porn or masterbate and I always feel guilty after, it never fails. I’ve been on a path where I’m keeping away from all those unholy things because I really do want to live my life the way God wants me to and I believe that’s the best way. Everything he said on here makes perfect sense. I keep all these things to myself not even my closest friends know that sometimes I do this stuff and that’s because they talk about porn, toys, sex, hooking up like it’s a regular thing and I know too well that it’s all wrong. The thing is every time I’m doing good staying away from all the sexual things and I feel so proud of myself for not giving in, evil always comes back and wins. I’m tired of it. I believe God will heal me and give me a great husband and bless me with a good sex life. All the lust I have experienced and seen unfold in front of me will never fulfill me. Thank you so much for this video and insight I love learning new scriptures and knowing God wants the best for us always. God bless you!
Ironically, men do not typically look on women as having the desires, because men have far more testosterone. Masturbation = fornication and it is sin against God. Intimacy was a part of my marriage that I enjoyed immensely. When problems arose between us, the sex lessened a lot, eventually ending after her cheating. Pornography and promiscious sexual activity prior to marriage from both of us, helped lead to the destruction of our marriage. All those strong sexual desires did not go away though. Often, they seemed to intensify. We are in a war so a battle plan is needed: 1) Identify the triggers that get you thinking of pleasuring yourself 2) Plan a way to divert yourself away from that ahead of time 3) Bring God into it by talking to him while this is happening. Ask him to help you. Start thanking him and worshipping him 4) Turn on praise music or sing your own while reading the word for a bit While those urges are incredibly strong, victory is acheivable.
Be encouraged. By God's grace and constant help, I am able to say that I successfully waited for sex until marriage and it has blessed my life. Look at the journey as one day at a time. I say again, be encouraged.
You aren't the only one who struggles with this subject. I was a virgin technically till age 28 in the late 80s.Yeah,most people are likely to laugh at me but I don't follow anyone.I wanted to wait for a husband who was worth it.I was date raped by a narcissistic guy who later apologized 😢. It wasn't the way I intended it to work out.God eventually found me a great hubby and we're married 32 yrs
Remember that if you hang around people who are sexually living in sin, that spirit might be having an affect on you. As children of God most of the sexual temptations we encounter are initiated by the enemy, whether through outside temptations or inner conflicts. Our minds are like sponges, images from 20 years ago are not easily erased, and Satan uses the things we have seen in the past to create struggles in the present. So careful what you watch, hear and those you hang around.
I’ve been married for 43 years. My wife and I are in our 60’s and I am so blessed. Our lives are centered around Christ and we have a very healthy sex life. It is better than ever with a deep spiritual connection between us. When God is in the center of the marriage and with the desire of both husband and wife to seek the best for their partner it creates the environment in the marriage for a very healthy and active sexual relationship.
My brother and I (I’m 18 he’s 20) had a conversation while in the woods the other day, and both admitted to each other that we’ve watched porn and had a problem with it for years, it’s so much easier to quit when you know there are other people going through the same thing, especially people so close to you. I’m never watching it again because I want a healthy marriage in a few years and porn will never let that happen
I agree with everything you said. One thing no one talks about is being married to someone who won't have sex. This is probably one the most hurtful, damaging, things a spouse can live with. It causes the other partner to sin. It also causes shame, feelings of rejection, bitterness and anger. If you don't like sex or if you're not attracted to your spouse then for their sake don't get married. They will have sorrow and struggle the rest of their life. We all have sexual desires. If you don't have a godly outlet there will be sin involved. It breaks the heart of the rejected spouse to live in a constant state of struggle and rejection. Many married couples have one spouse that won't have sex. It's soul crushing.
This predominantly happens when she does not feel safe with her husband emotionally. Does she feel she has a full voice in the partnership of marriage? Are you accepting of her ideas on everything from projects to dreams? Most women cannot feel vulnerable to participate in s$x unless they feel safe emotionally.
@@donnafoxdavis3215 This is about a man with his wife. He's the one who has refused. Because we are both Christians there was no way out. Nothing worked. Nothing.
So, first of all, these cases are extremely rare and yes, it is possible Keep in mind that a person who does not want to have sex has almost no chance, not to say no chance, of getting married, because sexual desires are the main motivation to get married and deal with marital problems. But if we say that somehow in some super weird way it happens that you are married and your partner doesn't want you to have sex. First of all you have to keep your composure and talk to him to find the root because it is very possible that there is some sexual trauma or something but if there is nothing like that, that is, if the reason is that the person has no libido, that is, sexual desires and energy, or is sexually inactive, then he will not ask for sex for the rest of your life or agree to sex as many times as you will have children and the end. In that case there is nothing you can do but divorce because a marriage WITHOUT SEX has NO WAY TO EXIST IT WILL BE DESTROYED IMMEDIATELY. now I know what the Bible says about divorce, but there is no other way if your partner does not have sex with you, the other thing is that you are married only on documents because you have not had sex and your partner does not want to. Think about it, you live with him, you're close to him and you want more sex that way, he doesn't give you the rest, IS IT a little, the struggle with sex before marriage? BUT THE BIBLE SAYS TO AVOID FORECAST LET EVERY MAN HAVE HIS WIFE AND MARRIAGE BE RESPECTED SO I HOPE I HAVE BEEN HELPFUL IF THERE IS ANYTHING ASK ME I WILL BE HAPPY TO HELP YOU BECAUSE I HAVE READ A LOT OF BOOKS ABOUT MARRIAGE AND I WILL THIS AREA
I know how you feel. Really! There are quite a lot of things you can do about him. But first, you should think about this. If unmet sexual desire hurts you so much, then it is not from god because it sets you in slavery. God only creates things that do not hurt us. For me it was/is a very hard thing, to actually decide, that sex should not be important in my life. The weird thing is, that something in me wants sex to be important, even when I can't have it. If God would give me a choice and would say to me - "If you push that button, you will never have sex again, but you also will never be sad about it for one second. Sex will be completely erased from your life." - it would feel very bad to hit that button, although it would cure the problem. This made me a little bit skeptical, whether my sexual desires are really so pure or if there is some kind of corruption. So you could try this: When you have this desire and frustration the next time. Close your eyes and really try to locate the feeling of desire in your body and try to observe that feeling from an outer perspective. Where is it, how does it feel? Does it feel like a part of me? Does it feel peaceful or more like a a defiant child? And when you located and examined it a little while, ask the holy spirit how you should think about this and ask him to give you his thoughts about it. Then I do this, the desire often goes down. Then read some teachings about the crucifixion of the flesh. Could also help if you found out that your sexuality has some kind of uncontrolled demanding rebellious side. Then you could read "God's Power To Change: Healing the Wounded Spirit" from the Sandfords. There is an example in it where a person that had zero interest in sex got delivered from that in a specific way and totally turned around. Also "Pigs in the Parlor" by Frank Hammond would surely be a great help. In the end, I think from all I know about it, there is definitely something that blocks your partners sexuality. You should go to war against it. Seek it and destroy it. And please don't think about divorce. If your partner is so blocked, that he doesn't even see that this is a problem, he is really in bondage in a lot of parts of his thinking. And if you love him, I know that you'll have the desire to free him from that. And if you honestly go with Jesus into that battle, you'll be utmost victorious. Remember what Proverbs 6.31 says about thieves "But if he is taken in the act he will have to give back seven times as much, giving up all his property which is in his house". So wherever satan tries to steal the happiness out of your marriage, catch him and make him pay back seven times. And never give up! Be courageous and aggressive against the devil and fight for what's yours. These are the situations where you can show of what you are really made off. And Christ will be with you in this and everything else until the end of this world.
As a Christian for 47 years, I've never heard a more open, honest discussion. It's much needed in the church today! Bless you for your courage in saying things that should be discussed more openly. We're thanking God for 53 years of (mostly!) a terrific marriage!
This so called pastor can't call things by their name. Is it bad to engage in oral sex? is it bad to use toys? he does not wanna offend anyone or maybe he practices those things. How could he be so hesitant to quote a single verse in the scripture concerning these issues?
Oral sex is just fine in the bedroom. Song of Solomon talks about a husband and wife enjoying it together and God blessed them. Sex toys aren't mentioned in the Bible obviously, but as long as both parties are okay with using it as a part of their sex life and it isn't replacing the spouse, why not? Also 80% of couples use or have used them according to surveys done over the past 20+ years
@@Joreel In which universe does that passage account for an ok practice? Besides that interpretation is open for a discussion, only for crazy oral sex ppl want to interpret in that way when he talks about well you guys want to equal it to vagina, really? Stop practicing oral sex bro, that is not right. I wanna know why American ppl are so obssesed with oral sex, in other parts of the world that practice is disgusting even AMONG UNBELIEVERS. What a shame to the gospel!!!
This hurts so much. I have been married two times and neither time was there any love in the marriage. Both times after getting married I figured out they were wanted me for my money. I hurt so bad because at 65 I doubt I will ever get to see what it is like to have a partner that really loves me and cares for me. I cry out to God and tell him I am so lonely but I do not hear anything from God. I love the Lord with all my heart and will not stop loving Him even if I never get to know love from a woman. But I will continue to pray out to the Lord for a loving companion. It must be awesome to have a wife that does love you.
True love is out there for you! I was married 30 years to a narcissist divorced him and met a man when I wasn’t looking he is 60 and we are getting married after 3 years of dating..God is good!
Dude, you are saved. You can look forward to getting into heaven. There you'll have a lifetime to find your true love. Your true soul mate. I imagine how much fun it will be 'dating' & developing female friendships. I can go on an infinite number of dates! btw: in heaven, it won't be about your money! That said. I will pray that you come across someone in this world. Someone whom you enjoy being with, great conversations (bantering?). Someone who's probably retired, have no real need for more money. Prefer good companionship! Who knows, maybe you get to fall in love.
Thank you so much Pastor Mike for delivering this message and being transparent. Never have I ever heard this kind of preaching before. God bless you. ❤
Lmao…people saying that this video will be sexually repressive??? This is probably one of the most sexually liberal teachings I have ever heard from a Christian minister!!! Thank you for being bold and transparent Pastor Mike. Our generation needs more teachings like this fr❤️🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
How is this 'liberal'? How is God's creation that includes SEX, be enjoyed and called liberal? This is unfortunately the general mindset of Christians, and it is from the Devil. Why do I say this? Because anything that counters God's creation is actually supportive of the Evil One.
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I've been battling a porn addiction since I was 11 and God spoke to me yesterday while in my deer blind and said "there is separation From intimacy" and then he confirmed his word watching this. Thank you pastor Mike for talking about stuff most won't and bringing truth and light to others. Very well done and God bless you and your wife!
I had the same problem i started watching porn at 16 and was addicted to it for almost 20 years i would watch porn like 6 hours a day everyday it was horrible and Finally i cried out to God to take it from me and was able to give it up it wasn't easy at all but God really helped me and i will be praying for you
@@brendanjobe6895 he speaks to me a lot, but that's because of my relationship with him. You are free to view God however you want me but the Holy spirit, God's spirit, that spoke to people in the old testament still speaks to his children. I don't know why you felt the need to comment telling me that what I experienced was faulty when you should be building up fellow believers.
@@theloneuchyeehaw8097 I do "build up" fellow believers - but not the ones who claim God spoke directly to them just as He did with Joseph Smith, Ellen G. White, Oral Roberts, Charles T. Russell - and Jim Jones of the People's Temple. God supposedly spoke one-on-one with all of them, yet they told wildly different tales, with one resulting in nearly a thousand deaths. No thanks. I'll take the Bible - and the Bible alone, and let God speak to me through His word.
Thank you for this teaching. It’s sad that a lot of people in the church are uncomfortable discussing sex biblically. My husband was just talking about how the church don’t talk about sex like their scared or whatever.
Literally got maximum respect for you pastor Mike. The body of Christ needs this teaching. So many of us working out our salvation and waiting on the Lord for levels of healing and transformation .. we need this spiritual "birds and the bees" education and edification. Kudos to you for taking on this topic. Thanking God for His Great Grace that carried you through it 🙏🏼 God bless you brother!
@@MikeSignorelli_ thank you for this teaching, it's help me understand why I've had so many problems concerning sex, I know it started in my childhood an I know some of the reasons why I can't function normal ..but this teaching has helped me understand more when you talked about the forcing an the the types of sex that hurt me ..wish I could meet you in person.
I believe this man has to fight off at least several women in his ministry, he is so “savior” like I can see lost women needing him in more ways than 1😫 I bet it isn’t an easy path for him, probably something not talked about much but needs to be said, so long as he continues to regularly cast demons out of himself and others I have faith he is strong enough to endure🙏🏼♥️
I believe we have the wrong view of marriage and sexual relationships because we always choose the person’s we want to be with and it’s absolutely an disaster we don’t wait for God’s best and the person God wants us to be with for the rest of our lives especially in order for it to be an fruitful joyful marriage. God saves us for ourselves. I’m waiting and have been waiting for an very very long time and it’s an great struggle. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for speaking biblically on this delicate subject. The devil has lied and confused people about this subject, through movies and music, for years. This is why parents need to be absolutely in charge of what their children are watching. 🙏🔥
Good talk, Pastor Mike. I’m a single man that was set free from a number of sexual sin strongholds. I’m praying and believing the Lord for a wife one day. This is important conversation. I don’t want to bring anything into my relationship with my wife that shouldn’t be there. I found value in this and appreciate you.
I love that you placed safety above all else! That’s so true. It’s so vulnerable & scary to be so intimate, and trust & communication & safety are keys.
It’s not about safety It’s all about defiling one’s self Being pure and righteous before god 1corinthians 6:9 Romans 1:24 Jude 1:7 Just to name a few. Sexual immorality is the greater sin because it is against one’s self
A wonderful teaching, young man! My husband and I were married for 52 years when he passed away 6 years ago. I think the best part of our marriage was the lovemaking! He had a lot of problems from being in Vietnam while he was in the Navy, but I think that somehow he knew most of this stuff that you've been talking about today. God bless you for stepping out and saying the things that people need to hear! Keep up the good work! May God continue to give you wisdom and boldness to say what people need to hear nowadays! Blessings!
This is so needed in the body of Christ! The fact that it’s avoided & makes people uncomfortable in my opinion is because how the World/Culture has perverted it but GOD! It’s such a beautiful gift shared between husband & wife made for each other…2 becoming 1 🥰🙏🏻
I became born again after being out in the world. Not married but my prayer is to have God erase my idea of sex as I knew it and to have me experience it in a whole new way as he created in holy matrimony. I'm sure His way is indescribable.
Absolutely bang on preaching Mike! Topics that are usually ignored have been addressed so well. Like everything good that God has given us, the enemy/world has "stolen" sex and debased it and tries so hard to give us a counterfeit back via our own flesh, the media, or many other places. I will be sharing this with my wife and am sure she will be in agreement too. May God richly bless and protect you and yours in Jesus' name. Dave. New Zealand.
Great job! Married almost 23 years now. We got married at 20 years old. Sex is way better now at 22 years than it ever was the first 10 years. Communication is key! Share this with your young adult kids if you have them. Very well done! I just sent it to my daughter that is 19.
Great job explaining. I have taught middle school abstinence for over 35 years and realize a long time ago that most parents don't feel comfortable talking to their kids about sexuality. Christians need to step up to the plate and realize if they don't teach their expectations backed by scripture, then the kids will learn the world's expectation in the back of the bus while attending school. Start talking early and take advantage of "teachable moments".
This is actually helping even the young if they happen to come across this channel. The world lets kids believe that sexual immorality is normal so I believe explaining it is actually good for everyone
What helped me most was your transparency and careful selection of words. My husband & I have held to the same principles. “ Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled” - going on 45 years
Having a very open talk about all of this before you enter into a relationship is crucial. If you are not on the same page with intimacy, don't get married. It will save you a world of pain later. Find someone you are compatible with. Love is complicated but also wonderful. However, it won't solve sexual incompatibility.
I believe sexual compatibility can be learned through the loving communication he speaks of, just like other types of compatibility. The two people thinking about getting married need to consider how important similar attitudes on lot of issues are: politics, religion, child rearing, sex, etc. If you are looking for a "soul mate"-type perfect match, i.e., someone who likes exactly what you like in the bedroom, you may never find anyone.
No 2 people are exactly alike but there are some must haves regarding intimacy. Not having a compatible partner with the must haves is a deal breaker.@@gemelindacjp7976
I really appreciate this video. There are topics that just aren't talked about at all. And when it is, it's twisted. Like, "wives give your husband's sex whenever they want it or it'll be your fault they stray". My husband and I were brought up with sex is bad, dirty, sinful...except for in marriage. But what we discovered is that it's hard to flip that switch in your brain once you are married. We both felt dirty and sinful even though we were married. Plus, I was molested by multiple people as a child. But, finally after 11 years together, we are in a healthy place sexually. And it took communication. A lot of communication. And understanding. And patience.
So powerful. When I was married, there was much healing and unity in our married sex life. We had been promiscuous before and man. Married sex is so healthy and wonderful! I think it needs to be celebrated and spoken of freely in church.
Loved how you brought in the biological information. Also loved when you said: "God's design reveals God's purpose". Loved how you showed us how to look to nature, when scripture doesn't specifically address a topic. That was really good. Romans 1 tells us that creation reveals God's attributes. Excellent video!
Great stuff Pastor Mike!! One thing my wife and I did was pray in bed before committing what we were going to do to the glory of God and that it would honor Him and he pleasing in His sight since He created it and created us to bring Him pleasure.Rev. 4 Also I’d pray for the Spirit’s leading. We ask Him to lead and guide us for everything else, why not the most intimate thing two people can do that are both Spirit filled. 🙏🏻
Great topic brother Mike.. too many people have been deceived and the word has to be spread to lead people into repentance.. thanks for bringing some truth into a fallen world.
I gotta say, thank you so much Pastor Mike for stepping out by providing this teaching! I can’t imagine how nerve-wracking it must’ve been, but I’ve had these questions for a long time and this brought so much clarity and healing. Blessings to you!
Wow..I have never had so much inside ever since I have been a Christian. This kind of teachings has never been dealt with deeper like in this channel. Am so grateful for your teaching.God bless you
Thank you for your teachings!!! They’ve been a tremendous help!!!Urgent prayer request ‼️⚠️❗️My husband and I have been separated for months now. Please pray God restores our marriage, brings freedom and keeps us pure until then 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@mireyamanso6707 wow i realized now that this is the reason why I have been waking up at 3 am. Please pray for mine and my husband’s marriage restoration. I have been on a 7 day prayer early in the morning. When the 7 day was completed I was still waking up at 3 am but I never put an alarm on. The Holy Spirit has been prompting me to keep the fire of prayer. The enemy will not win. Jesus Christ is victorious over our marriages!
Thank you for discussing this.. the enemy has hijacked this area and taken the true pleasure out of it. But Sex is God's idea... Every good and perfect gift comes from HIM.
Thank you so much for your message. My husband is in porn and it’s killing our marriage. Every time I confront him he denies it but I’ve caught him. I waited all my life for the man I would marry and I never thought it would be like this. Addiction to porn and masterbation is a marriage killer
Keep praying to soften your husbands heart and release the strongholds! When my husband and I stopped self-pleasure and looking at anything even a bit sexualized like instagram models we had so much more sexual energy and drive for each other. Father in Heaven is always right.
So right on! Thank you for this study. My wife and I have been married for 42 years, and being Christians we sometimes wondered if we crossed the line, and after study, we came up with the same things that you taught. What we never thought about, but always did, was communicate about our sexual relationship. In fact, alot of times permission was asked during sex. So, thank you. Your teaching was confirmation that we do follow Gods design and guidelines for our marital intimacy. Thank you for being bold enough to teach this! God bless you!!
Great talk!!! My husband is an agnostic Jew, of course praying for him to be saved always!!! I have looked into this subject a few times over years wanting to be right with GOD's Will. Thank you I this helps so much. From what I can see is we must be sensitive to each others needs using common sense and not doing things that make oneself uncomfortable. At 56 I think I finally got it!!! Thank goodness my husband is a very good and loyal man even without being spiritual or saved. I pray soon he will be and it'll be time for a Wedding with Jesus at the center!! Amen❤
thank you so much for this teaching Pastor, i know you were nervous but i’m so glad you pushed through. i’ve had questions and thoughts on sex from, what’s ok and what’s not and i thought it religiously like you mentioned. but, i never asked anyone, including my spiritual mother because it just felt uncomfortable and embarrassing to ask, so it just makes me feel better that you did this teaching. again, thank you 🙏🏽❤️
This sermon is about time!! Thank you!!! We are all adults. We should be able to handle this. A hidden pornography addiction was the beginning of my divorce. Had no idea he was into all that and chose to watch it while I slept! Me. A Young bride at 20. Had no idea.
@@WillyEckaslike You are gross. Men like you have marriages dirty and corrupted. And for your info, the first time I saw an actual porn video was 12 years later! Never had interest to see that garbage. Then when I saw that first video, I was repulsed not turned on
Your teaching is excellent! You never have to make an excuse for truth. It resonates with those who are seekers of truth. It sets the captives free Thank you for your courage & desire to establish Gods design in our lives That brings the boat, desired intimacy and holiness. Blessings. Barbara.
Thank you Pastor, this is confirmation of what had been in my heart to do for women's life groups. This struggle is real and there are many marriages quietly struggling in this area of their lives for lack of knowledge or understanding in His word. Or simply asking our creator for guidance! Some are in a season of waiting, where God can make white what satan had perverted for years! God is the only one who can make a men and women virgin again, in spirit and in mind! Thank you Jesus and I Thank God for giving you boldness to speak about a very important topic in marriage. Let nothing separate what God has joined together as One! Bless you!
Thank you for this teaching! I think everyone can benefit from this. I know it was an intense and uncomfortable discussion but you did an awesome job explaining things! Keep up the great work!
Ty for saying it... Ive been trying for years to give this message to those who've said porn is OK..if only the ones who need to hear it will come across this video!!!
This is the best teaching I have ever heard on this particular subject matter thank you ! Pastor Mike Sign orelli. There are to many pastors and ministers that are never taught properly how to communicate with their parishioners or fellow congregants about any serios subjects and or problems that married couples generally have to deal with. You are absolutely correct when you stated that pornography is a deadly devised plan to destroy not only marriages but as well as humanity as a whole. It fully corrupts and destroys.
Thanks, as a married woman of God , I wanted to talk to another leader about what and what not, we as saints can do. I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit to help me in this area as a minister of Gospel this is confirmation, confirmation. Thank you
There are some things said in here that need to be prayed about. Certain things stated in here are not okay in the marriage bed and can defile. We need to be careful, what we know and have been taught in modern times about what is normal and okay isn't at all.
This was my life for years (30plus). Only because of Jesus did our marriage survive! I've actually published my story in hope of letting others know they're not alone and there is hope.
WOW! I wish I had someone like you to talk to 37 years ago. This is an important conversation to have. Thank you for being honest and confronting an uncomfortable topic.
Thank you for addressing the hard topics… it’s too rare. I appreciate you addressing the need for safety and trust in marriage. Forced by strength or manipulation creates an unsafe environment for sexual intimacy to take place. Thank you
In total agreement with your perspective. Thank you for the courage to address disturbing issues in many marriages that are often ignored and yet so central in couples well being.
This was great, pastor! I am in my 60s and I totally agree with everything and can relate to what you have said. I love the scriptural foundation and the way it was handled was honorable and honest. Thank you so much Pastor Mike!
Thank you for clarifying the truth when so many so-called "sex experts" promote unhealthy practices that actually lead people away from true intimacy between two committed lovers. I also appreciate the science and research that back up the divine design of intimacy within marriage
I am a student at a Christian University. I will be getting my MA in Christian/Pastoral Counseling. I needed a topic to write about regarding a specific sexual issue, and I was having a hard time coming up with a topic. I came across your video and decided to watch it. Very informative. I like the reasons why anal sex might not be a good idea. It is important to give reason/s, and it is also good the reasons are scientific, especially since there is no actual scripture that specifically says not to indulge in anal sex. Also, where the term sodomy comes from. I also like what you said about intimacy and that sex is not just what happens physically but what happens mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When those are all in sync, you have agape love (safety). I believe you did a good job. It is a good start for the conversation to begin; the whole view was informative. Thank you, and God bless.
Both anal sex and oral sex are mentioned in the Bible, those acts fall under sodomy. There isn't really much difference between the two. Some argue that oral sex is an even worse sin than anal sex because you use your mouth to receive holy communion/ the Eucharist. Webster's dictionary defines sodomy as both anal and oral sex but it could also include all other non procreative methods of having sex which would include toys, hand sex, using the pull out method ect. The Bible says no sodomite will enter the kingdom of heaven "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? 'Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]SODOMITES, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. " - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Notice how homosexuals and sodomites are used separately meaning they are two different things. Oral and anal sex fall under the sin of Onan (masturbation falls under this as well) In Genesis 38:8-10 Onan spilled his seed on the ground and God struck him dead on the spot. Sperm was designed to go into the vagina only it was not meant to be spilled onto the ground, swallowed or wasted in anyway. Oral and anal sex are fruitless to God's kingdom and it directly goes against His command to "be fruitful and multiply"- Genesis 1:28. Oral and anal sex is unnatural and God warns against unnatural forms of sex : Rom. 1 Verses 26 to 29 "[27] And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet." Oral sex and anal sex is unclean. The Bible talks about uncleanliness multiple times in both the old and new testament (2 Corinthians 6:17& 7:1 being only a few examples) Cleanliness is next to nothing to godliness! It's not godly to go drink from a toilet seat so why would Christians put their mouths where urine, blood and waste come from? The eating of waste and drinking of blood and urine is something Satanists do. How can you praise a holy God, kiss your child or take holy communion with the same mouth you used to suck on someone's genitals? That should not be-James 3:10. Also from a logical point of view anal sex is wrong because it would be hypocritical of us Christians to try and stop the homosexuals from having sex but then we go do the exact same thing in our marriage beds. However lesbians can not have anal sex... They only have oral sex (as well as other unnatural sexual acts but for the sake of the discussion I'll just stick to oral sex) So if oral sex is okay then what exactly is wrong with lesbianism? Nothing! Why can't two lesbians who are married to each other have oral sex but we Christians can? That's also hypocritical. Same sex attraction is not a sin. There are Christians who have same sex attraction but they choose to remain celibate and not to act upon those feelings. So therefore it is the homosexual/ lesbian act that is sinful and what is the homosexual/lesbian act? Any form of non vaginal intercourse (oral sex, anal sex, hand sex, sex toys ect.) So since the act itself is sinful it doesn't matter if heterosexual sexual couples do it it will still be a sin. Either oral sex and anal sex are allowed for both same sex and heterosexual couples or it's not allowed for both same sex and heterosexual couples and clearly it's not allowed for same sex couples. God bless!
He is right about the issue being between your ears. As one ages it becomes more and more about intimacy and not about physical action. The older I get the more I am glad I picked my wife but God went ahead in a big way. When I was much younger I heard older men I was around mention about how their wives became increasingly attractive. While I could not understand it then, I say the same thing to younger men now. My wife and I have been married 41 years and I find her increasingly attractive. The longer I am married the more I desire my wife and that I see how God knew more about who I needed and who I wanted when I had no idea the extent of that. I would suggest every young person be led by an older person. Older people can help give a realistic picture of what really matters most. When I was younger I ignored beauty and purposely sought a woman who had the character I desired. My wife has loads of the one thing I desired most. Both my wife and I are the first Christians in our families. When my family met my wife when we were dating my dad said, "You had better marry her because you will not find another one like her." Before my wife and I were married we had the full support of our families. I feel incredibly blessed to have in a wife much much more than I ever expected. It makes me feel good when members of my family call my wife to talk with her. We have seen God's timing and intervention as we have sought him in so many things we have done. We have sought to put God first and let the finances be lower on the rungs of life. In the end we have so much more than what we ever expected.
Thank you pastor Mike for this valuable and bold teaching. Makes perfect sense. God is sovereign and His design is perfect for a husband and wife with Him at the center in a covenantal relationship. Amen. 💕
Thank you Pastor Mike for having the courage to talk about a subject that most avoid. I know that you are helping people find Biblical wisdom, and the importance of our sovereign God’s design. Glory to God in all things!
Thank you mike. Ive been battling a porn addiction for years. And i just stopped porn/masturbating about a month ago. Ive been really proud of myself. Praying and talking to God everyday and turning my life around feels so accomplishing. But during this past week ive been lusting in my mind. This video is reassurance that im doing good and to keep up this mission. Thank you Mike and thank you God. May God bless all of you going through hardships, i pray for the best for all of you.
Thanks Pastor Mike ! This was a very informative and educative video ! Thank you for being brave enough to present it to us ! So many of us carry into marriage the words of shame and guilt that were ingrained in us growing up , not mention the lack of self esteem & self worth that mental & physical abuse brain washed us into believing . Those are such difficult thoughts to rid ourselves of. And when your spouse is telling you all the positive affirmations you always wanted to hear from them , your brain just keeps denying the true joy you desire to feel. Thank you so much again for giving us the true meaning of sex within marriage from God's design ! 😇✝️🙏♥️🤗 AMEN & AMEN !
“The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4, NASB95)
@@aramisy.cajigas744 maybe more down to mutual respect, cos what if for whatever reason the other is not in the mood, it therefore can’t be forced upon the other
@@aramisy.cajigas744 🤦🏻 yeah right, I guess you’re 1 of those that wouldn’t take no for an answer from your spouse, you’re right charming, absolute rubbish that something must’ve happened during the day, have you ever considered that different people have different rates of sex drive, or d’ya just think of yourself
Pastor Mike. I was very impressed with your teaching on this important subject. I am a pastor who addresses similar subjects when conducting marriage seminars, and I was edified by this video. I commend you for your boldness. Keep up the good work.
Hey Pastor Mike, you are dead on teaching this stuff. 30yrs back I fiund a copy of The Act of Marriage at a Christian mission in San Antonio. Tim & Beverly LaHaye helped SO MANY w that book. I gace it to a young girl I met in college. She was engaged to a missionary but admitted to me she loved him endlessly but she was terrified of her wedding night. 2wks later, she was glowing happy & thanked me for the gift. She said she was shariing it w her LDR fiance by phone & they ralked & prayed together about it. She said she was so excited & looking forward to it then that she'd changed her mond about waiting to marry later & they were going to marry in just 3mos, before she finished college. I saw her just once after her marriage. Happiest girl ever! She was practically dancing on clouds. There's always a big need for honest talk & good Godly teachobg on this subject.
Thank you for covering such an uncomfortable topic but so important. Especially the last part. I think that subject matter is part of the reason for the high divorce rates. Imagine living back when everyone thought that saving yourself for marriage was highly regarded. If only. 💔
Thank you for being so vulnerable with all these topics! I know this was challenging and uncomfortable and difficult, but thank you for being obedient!
Thank you for this teaching/ conversation. God bless you Pastor Mike! I agree that husbands need to cultivate a sense of safety for their wives for true intimacy to flourish.
I so appreciate your transparency as a Pastor, Mike! It is very helpful. We have been married almost 45 years and are aging, so things change a bit. Thank you.
Well OMGosh!! This was such an excellent teaching. My late husband and I had the most incredible sex life because of God, because of that intimacy, and because of trust. He was a “reformed bad boy w**re monger” - he told me that he had the best sex of his life as a married man. He came to our marriage after he was reformed, and had learned to do things God’s way. He did not realize that sex outside of marriage was a no-no because no one talks about it in church, from behind the pulpit, or in any groups. He also said that he had more offers for sex from church women, which shocked him. This that you so bravely taught is vital and important 💕
Never heard a pastor talk about this before!!!....however, i welcome it. Love the biblical references as well as science references. I think you handled this sensitive subject quite well...appreciate you and thank you! God bless!!🙏🏽
Thank you Pastor Mike for being bold and teaching things that others won’t! I believe that the Lord will use this and there will be healing that comes to marriages because of this teaching!
Thank you for lifting the lid on this vital subject. As a married mother of two young men, this teaching is so needful and valuable. God bless you Pastor Mike. Shalom 🙏🏾.
Thank you Pastor for sharing and teaching about this subject, I believe if more Pastors were to teach about this many marriages and future marriages will be saved. God bless you and your family ✝️ 🕊 📖 🙏🏾♥️
Very well done. Having seen so many confuse lust with love over the years; straying down multiple destructive paths through this confusion, misuse, and/or basic misunderstandings. This is definitely a lesson of great value, and consequence. One that would be useful not just before marriage, but before any sexual act is explored in any way. Fore everything we do, and/or have done to us; has an effect on who we are, what we will become. And in my experience as a man who survived multiple early childhood abuses; now walked this earth for over 60 years. What happens to us is not always a choice, but how we move forward from it is. In choosing any path it would be easier/beneficial to not start additional bad acts/habits; than needing to somehow stop them and asking forgiveness for after. But we don't always see clearly, all options for what they are in the moment. That's a part of being human, Satan's influence on this world. Do your best to stay focused on The Lord, surrounded by good people who can help keep you on the right path, and God's eternal rewards can be yours. After all, life is eternal. Make it a journey worthy of your eternal goals. God Bless.
Thank you for having the strength to address this subject. My marriage suffered from the practice of variant sexual acts. I have questioned my response to variant sexual acts and your message has given me a release from any signs of guilt that I have carried for years.
Give this video a thumbs up if it helped you! Then comment with what helped the most!
I appreciate the way that you have exposed a subject that has been shrouded in darkness for too long. You are not afraid to take a stand and say it: this form of sex is unnatural, and also pointing out the harm it causes. That's what helped me.
What happens if husband won't have sex with a wife because Alcohol comes first and the husband isn't a Christian and doesn't want sex with his wife. And wife wants sex 😏 what's she supposed to do 🤔
The Bible talks about sodomy, and oral and anal sex are sodomy by definition. So the Bible talks about them. It's not the natural design that God made man and woman to have sex.
I know this wasn’t an easy teaching, but it was a necessary one for those of us who seek the Biblical Truth of a matter.
Thank you for your efforts to help us gain understanding through the Word.
@@j.a4982 I finally left after 35 years of marriage and about 22 years of no sex
I’m 22 and I’m still a virgin. I made a promise to myself as a teen that I wouldn’t have sex until I was married and I’m glad to have kept that promise. Well, it’s been quite easy because I don’t have a boyfriend or never had an encounter that I almost lost it I sometimes feel a certain way about that but that’s for another time. I feel guilty sometimes because I myself struggle with adultery. Sometimes I give into watching porn or masterbate and I always feel guilty after, it never fails. I’ve been on a path where I’m keeping away from all those unholy things because I really do want to live my life the way God wants me to and I believe that’s the best way. Everything he said on here makes perfect sense. I keep all these things to myself not even my closest friends know that sometimes I do this stuff and that’s because they talk about porn, toys, sex, hooking up like it’s a regular thing and I know too well that it’s all wrong. The thing is every time I’m doing good staying away from all the sexual things and I feel so proud of myself for not giving in, evil always comes back and wins. I’m tired of it. I believe God will heal me and give me a great husband and bless me with a good sex life. All the lust I have experienced and seen unfold in front of me will never fulfill me. Thank you so much for this video and insight I love learning new scriptures and knowing God wants the best for us always. God bless you!
Ironically, men do not typically look on women as having the desires, because men have far more testosterone. Masturbation = fornication and it is sin against God.
Intimacy was a part of my marriage that I enjoyed immensely. When problems arose between us, the sex lessened a lot, eventually ending after her cheating. Pornography and promiscious sexual activity prior to marriage from both of us, helped lead to the destruction of our marriage. All those strong sexual desires did not go away though. Often, they seemed to intensify.
We are in a war so a battle plan is needed:
1) Identify the triggers that get you thinking of pleasuring yourself
2) Plan a way to divert yourself away from that ahead of time
3) Bring God into it by talking to him while this is happening. Ask him to help you. Start thanking him and worshipping him
4) Turn on praise music or sing your own while reading the word for a bit
While those urges are incredibly strong, victory is acheivable.
Be encouraged. By God's grace and constant help, I am able to say that I successfully waited for sex until marriage and it has blessed my life. Look at the journey as one day at a time. I say again, be encouraged.
You aren't the only one who struggles with this subject. I was a virgin technically till age 28 in the late 80s.Yeah,most people are likely to laugh at me but I don't follow anyone.I wanted to wait for a husband who was worth it.I was date raped by a narcissistic guy who later apologized 😢. It wasn't the way I intended it to work out.God eventually found me a great hubby and we're married 32 yrs
You’ve traveled the right road, hang in there, The Lord made us, his instruction is best!
Remember that if you hang around people who are sexually living in sin, that spirit might be having an affect on you. As children of God most of the sexual temptations we encounter are initiated by the enemy, whether through outside temptations or inner conflicts. Our minds are like sponges, images from 20 years ago are not easily erased, and Satan uses the things we have seen in the past to create struggles in the present. So careful what you watch, hear and those you hang around.
I’ve been married for 43 years. My wife and I are in our 60’s and I am so blessed. Our lives are centered around Christ and we have a very healthy sex life. It is better than ever with a deep spiritual connection between us. When God is in the center of the marriage and with the desire of both husband and wife to seek the best for their partner it creates the environment in the marriage for a very healthy and active sexual relationship.
"lust will never be fulfilled"
TRUTH!
I think the only fulfillment lies in recognizing God's purpose is Love.
My brother and I (I’m 18 he’s 20) had a conversation while in the woods the other day, and both admitted to each other that we’ve watched porn and had a problem with it for years, it’s so much easier to quit when you know there are other people going through the same thing, especially people so close to you. I’m never watching it again because I want a healthy marriage in a few years and porn will never let that happen
I never thought I would hear a preacher talk about this subject. Thank you.
I agree with everything you said. One thing no one talks about is being married to someone who won't have sex. This is probably one the most hurtful, damaging, things a spouse can live with. It causes the other partner to sin. It also causes shame, feelings of rejection, bitterness and anger.
If you don't like sex or if you're not attracted to your spouse then for their sake don't get married. They will have sorrow and struggle the rest of their life. We all have sexual desires. If you don't have a godly outlet there will be sin involved. It breaks the heart of the rejected spouse to live in a constant state of struggle and rejection.
Many married couples have one spouse that won't have sex. It's soul crushing.
This predominantly happens when she does not feel safe with her husband emotionally. Does she feel she has a full voice in the partnership of marriage? Are you accepting of her ideas on everything from projects to dreams? Most women cannot feel vulnerable to participate in s$x unless they feel safe emotionally.
@@donnafoxdavis3215 This is about a man with his wife. He's the one who has refused.
Because we are both Christians there was no way out.
Nothing worked. Nothing.
Thank you…
So, first of all, these cases are extremely rare and yes, it is possible
Keep in mind that a person who does not want to have sex has almost no chance, not to say no chance, of getting married, because sexual desires are the main motivation to get married and deal with marital problems.
But if we say that somehow in some super weird way it happens that you are married and your partner doesn't want you to have sex. First of all you have to keep your composure and talk to him to find the root because it is very possible that there is some sexual trauma or something but if there is nothing like that, that is, if the reason is that the person has no libido, that is, sexual desires and energy, or is sexually inactive, then he will not ask for sex for the rest of your life or agree to sex as many times as you will have children and the end.
In that case there is nothing you can do but divorce because a marriage WITHOUT SEX has NO WAY TO EXIST IT WILL BE DESTROYED IMMEDIATELY. now I know what the Bible says about divorce, but there is no other way if your partner does not have sex with you, the other thing is that you are married only on documents because you have not had sex and your partner does not want to. Think about it, you live with him, you're close to him and you want more sex that way, he doesn't give you the rest, IS IT a little, the struggle with sex before marriage? BUT THE BIBLE SAYS TO AVOID FORECAST LET EVERY MAN HAVE HIS WIFE AND MARRIAGE BE RESPECTED SO I HOPE I HAVE BEEN HELPFUL IF THERE IS ANYTHING ASK ME I WILL BE HAPPY TO HELP YOU BECAUSE I HAVE READ A LOT OF BOOKS ABOUT MARRIAGE AND I WILL THIS AREA
I know how you feel. Really! There are quite a lot of things you can do about him. But first, you should think about this. If unmet sexual desire hurts you so much, then it is not from god because it sets you in slavery. God only creates things that do not hurt us. For me it was/is a very hard thing, to actually decide, that sex should not be important in my life. The weird thing is, that something in me wants sex to be important, even when I can't have it. If God would give me a choice and would say to me - "If you push that button, you will never have sex again, but you also will never be sad about it for one second. Sex will be completely erased from your life." - it would feel very bad to hit that button, although it would cure the problem.
This made me a little bit skeptical, whether my sexual desires are really so pure or if there is some kind of corruption.
So you could try this: When you have this desire and frustration the next time. Close your eyes and really try to locate the feeling of desire in your body and try to observe that feeling from an outer perspective. Where is it, how does it feel? Does it feel like a part of me? Does it feel peaceful or more like a a defiant child? And when you located and examined it a little while, ask the holy spirit how you should think about this and ask him to give you his thoughts about it. Then I do this, the desire often goes down. Then read some teachings about the crucifixion of the flesh. Could also help if you found out that your sexuality has some kind of uncontrolled demanding rebellious side.
Then you could read "God's Power To Change: Healing the Wounded Spirit" from the Sandfords. There is an example in it where a person that had zero interest in sex got delivered from that in a specific way and totally turned around. Also "Pigs in the Parlor" by Frank Hammond would surely be a great help.
In the end, I think from all I know about it, there is definitely something that blocks your partners sexuality. You should go to war against it. Seek it and destroy it. And please don't think about divorce. If your partner is so blocked, that he doesn't even see that this is a problem, he is really in bondage in a lot of parts of his thinking. And if you love him, I know that you'll have the desire to free him from that. And if you honestly go with Jesus into that battle, you'll be utmost victorious. Remember what Proverbs 6.31 says about thieves "But if he is taken in the act he will have to give back seven times as much, giving up all his property which is in his house". So wherever satan tries to steal the happiness out of your marriage, catch him and make him pay back seven times. And never give up! Be courageous and aggressive against the devil and fight for what's yours. These are the situations where you can show of what you are really made off. And Christ will be with you in this and everything else until the end of this world.
As a Christian for 47 years, I've never heard a more open, honest discussion. It's much needed in the church today! Bless you for your courage in saying things that should be discussed more openly. We're thanking God for 53 years of (mostly!) a terrific marriage!
This so called pastor can't call things by their name. Is it bad to engage in oral sex? is it bad to use toys? he does not wanna offend anyone or maybe he practices those things. How could he be so hesitant to quote a single verse in the scripture concerning these issues?
Oral sex is just fine in the bedroom. Song of Solomon talks about a husband and wife enjoying it together and God blessed them. Sex toys aren't mentioned in the Bible obviously, but as long as both parties are okay with using it as a part of their sex life and it isn't replacing the spouse, why not? Also 80% of couples use or have used them according to surveys done over the past 20+ years
@@Joreel In which universe does that passage account for an ok practice? Besides that interpretation is open for a discussion, only for crazy oral sex ppl want to interpret in that way when he talks about well you guys want to equal it to vagina, really? Stop practicing oral sex bro, that is not right. I wanna know why American ppl are so obssesed with oral sex, in other parts of the world that practice is disgusting even AMONG UNBELIEVERS. What a shame to the gospel!!!
That hits the nail on the head! God bless you!
You covered my divorce in everything topic I was broke at 17 by my husband on each topic. Yes. No also teach me divorce is ok
This hurts so much. I have been married two times and neither time was there any love in the marriage. Both times after getting married I figured out they were wanted me for my money. I hurt so bad because at 65 I doubt I will ever get to see what it is like to have a partner that really loves me and cares for me. I cry out to God and tell him I am so lonely but I do not hear anything from God. I love the Lord with all my heart and will not stop loving Him even if I never get to know love from a woman. But I will continue to pray out to the Lord for a loving companion. It must be awesome to have a wife that does love you.
True love is out there for you! I was married 30 years to a narcissist divorced him and met a man when I wasn’t looking he is 60 and we are getting married after 3 years of dating..God is good!
@@lizlou7601 I am so very happy for you. I am praying that God would help me find someone.
@@johnjohnston2489 He will.. just allow the process
Dude, you are saved. You can look forward to getting into heaven. There you'll have a lifetime to find your true love. Your true soul mate.
I imagine how much fun it will be 'dating' & developing female friendships. I can go on an infinite number of dates!
btw: in heaven, it won't be about your money!
That said. I will pray that you come across someone in this world. Someone whom you enjoy being with, great conversations (bantering?). Someone who's probably retired, have no real need for more money. Prefer good companionship!
Who knows, maybe you get to fall in love.
My heart goes out to you. The scripture Jes 54 has helped me a lot. Please read it. Big hugs from me to you.
Thank you for all the young people coming along . I’m an old lady. Been there , done that . People need you and your help. Bless you , amen .
Thank you so much Pastor Mike for delivering this message and being transparent. Never have I ever heard this kind of preaching before. God bless you. ❤
Lmao…people saying that this video will be sexually repressive??? This is probably one of the most sexually liberal teachings I have ever heard from a Christian minister!!! Thank you for being bold and transparent Pastor Mike. Our generation needs more teachings like this fr❤️🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You get it! 💯🔥
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How is this 'liberal'? How is God's creation that includes SEX, be enjoyed and called liberal? This is unfortunately the general mindset of Christians, and it is from the Devil. Why do I say this? Because anything that counters God's creation is actually supportive of the Evil One.
Please Pray !Going Along with d new tenant as carpentry works were going on contract was effective much later from 1st Nov all d keys ,docs,photos, both Row Villa n flat in a lucrative costly coastal area missing n he took over in d bargain both as Im an ex breast cancer chemo operated ,widow only daughter taken n left with out marriage with a child n refusing legal marriage n I have no contact,no help
Call this guy a pastor??? LoL
Anal sex really
Never bring in a third party(this would mean things thoughts or people),,, a wise woman of God shared this wisdom @ woman’s retreat ❣️
“God’s design points to God’s purpose.”
Love.
I've been battling a porn addiction since I was 11 and God spoke to me yesterday while in my deer blind and said "there is separation From intimacy" and then he confirmed his word watching this. Thank you pastor Mike for talking about stuff most won't and bringing truth and light to others. Very well done and God bless you and your wife!
I had the same problem i started watching porn at 16 and was addicted to it for almost 20 years i would watch porn like 6 hours a day everyday it was horrible and Finally i cried out to God to take it from me and was able to give it up it wasn't easy at all but God really helped me and i will be praying for you
God didn't speak directly to you. You have a Bible. Read it and study it. Don't expect God to single you out and speak to you.
@@brendanjobe6895 he speaks to me a lot, but that's because of my relationship with him. You are free to view God however you want me but the Holy spirit, God's spirit, that spoke to people in the old testament still speaks to his children. I don't know why you felt the need to comment telling me that what I experienced was faulty when you should be building up fellow believers.
I hate pornography. What God said is the truth. It's hard to stop at first, but it gets far easier as time goes on.
@@theloneuchyeehaw8097 I do "build up" fellow believers - but not the ones who claim God spoke directly to them just as He did with Joseph Smith, Ellen G. White, Oral Roberts, Charles T. Russell - and Jim Jones of the People's Temple. God supposedly spoke one-on-one with all of them, yet they told wildly different tales, with one resulting in nearly a thousand deaths. No thanks. I'll take the Bible - and the Bible alone, and let God speak to me through His word.
Thank you for this teaching. It’s sad that a lot of people in the church are uncomfortable discussing sex biblically. My husband was just talking about how the church don’t talk about sex like their scared or whatever.
"how the church don't talk about sex like they are scared " and yet the world is teaching our children about sex ,even at school
Literally got maximum respect for you pastor Mike.
The body of Christ needs this teaching. So many of us working out our salvation and waiting on the Lord for levels of healing and transformation .. we need this spiritual "birds and the bees" education and edification. Kudos to you for taking on this topic. Thanking God for His Great Grace that carried you through it 🙏🏼 God bless you brother!
this means a lot, thank you!
@@MikeSignorelli_ de Nada! Glory to God for deeper understanding and deliverance 🙌🏼🙏🏼
His Love never fails ❤️🔥👑💛
@@MikeSignorelli_ thank you for this teaching, it's help me understand why I've had so many problems concerning sex, I know it started in my childhood an I know some of the reasons why I can't function normal ..but this teaching has helped me understand more when you talked about the forcing an the the types of sex that hurt me ..wish I could meet you in person.
Amen
I believe this man has to fight off at least several women in his ministry, he is so “savior” like I can see lost women needing him in more ways than 1😫 I bet it isn’t an easy path for him, probably something not talked about much but needs to be said, so long as he continues to regularly cast demons out of himself and others I have faith he is strong enough to endure🙏🏼♥️
I believe we have the wrong view of marriage and sexual relationships because we always choose the person’s we want to be with and it’s absolutely an disaster we don’t wait for God’s best and the person God wants us to be with for the rest of our lives especially in order for it to be an fruitful joyful marriage. God saves us for ourselves. I’m waiting and have been waiting for an very very long time and it’s an great struggle. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for speaking biblically on this delicate subject. The devil has lied and confused people about this subject, through movies and music, for years. This is why parents need to be absolutely in charge of what their children are watching. 🙏🔥
Good talk, Pastor Mike. I’m a single man that was set free from a number of sexual sin strongholds. I’m praying and believing the Lord for a wife one day. This is important conversation. I don’t want to bring anything into my relationship with my wife that shouldn’t be there. I found value in this and appreciate you.
I love that you placed safety above all else! That’s so true.
It’s so vulnerable & scary to be so intimate, and trust & communication & safety are keys.
More than anything it's what God thinks because He is the One Who will judge.
It’s not about safety
It’s all about defiling one’s self
Being pure and righteous before god
1corinthians 6:9
Romans 1:24
Jude 1:7
Just to name a few. Sexual immorality is the greater sin because it is against one’s self
Communication is a form of intimacy. Yes, amen!
Without communication physical intimacy has no meaning other than to satisfy a physiological need.
I totally %100 agree with you on communication is everything in a marriage!!
I also believe communication is important with intimacy! I try with my wife .
I’m trying all the with My wife .sometimes it does work. Sometimes it doesn’t.my wife has trouble with intimacy getting. Close with me!
A wonderful teaching, young man! My husband and I were married for 52 years when he passed away 6 years ago. I think the best part of our marriage was the lovemaking! He had a lot of problems from being in Vietnam while he was in the Navy, but I think that somehow he knew most of this stuff that you've been talking about today. God bless you for stepping out and saying the things that people need to hear! Keep up the good work! May God continue to give you wisdom and boldness to say what people need to hear nowadays! Blessings!
Adding this gem to my “before we get married” playlist 🔥🔥🔥
This is so needed in the body of Christ! The fact that it’s avoided & makes people uncomfortable in my opinion is because how the World/Culture has perverted it but GOD!
It’s such a beautiful gift shared between husband & wife made for each other…2 becoming 1 🥰🙏🏻
I became born again after being out in the world. Not married but my prayer is to have God erase my idea of sex as I knew it and to have me experience it in a whole new way as he created in holy matrimony. I'm sure His way is indescribable.
Absolutely bang on preaching Mike! Topics that are usually ignored have been addressed so well. Like everything good that God has given us, the enemy/world has "stolen" sex and debased it and tries so hard to give us a counterfeit back via our own flesh, the media, or many other places. I will be sharing this with my wife and am sure she will be in agreement too. May God richly bless and protect you and yours in Jesus' name. Dave. New Zealand.
Great job! Married almost 23 years now. We got married at 20 years old. Sex is way better now at 22 years than it ever was the first 10 years. Communication is key! Share this with your young adult kids if you have them. Very well done! I just sent it to my daughter that is 19.
lol this is either a typo or a clever troll, either way I laughed.
You mean after the first ten years when each can finally accept their faults and affairs and be comfortable with living a lie?
Ty Pastor Mike! It’s ONLY the TRUTH that will ever set anyone free!…ever!
Intimacy needs communication to feel like love, just like it needs consent to feel right 🙏🏼
You are a brave pastor! You addressed a sensitive subject, especially for Christians. Thank you for your courage.
Great job explaining. I have taught middle school abstinence for over 35 years and realize a long time ago that most parents don't feel comfortable talking to their kids about sexuality. Christians need to step up to the plate and realize if they don't teach their expectations backed by scripture, then the kids will learn the world's expectation in the back of the bus while attending school. Start talking early and take advantage of "teachable moments".
This is actually helping even the young if they happen to come across this channel. The world lets kids believe that sexual immorality is normal so I believe explaining it is actually good for everyone
Are you married
What helped me most was your transparency and careful selection of words. My husband & I have held to the same principles. “ Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled” - going on 45 years
Having a very open talk about all of this before you enter into a relationship is crucial. If you are not on the same page with intimacy, don't get married. It will save you a world of pain later. Find someone you are compatible with. Love is complicated but also wonderful. However, it won't solve sexual incompatibility.
I believe sexual compatibility can be learned through the loving communication he speaks of, just like other types of compatibility. The two people thinking about getting married need to consider how important similar attitudes on lot of issues are: politics, religion, child rearing, sex, etc. If you are looking for a "soul mate"-type perfect match, i.e., someone who likes exactly what you like in the bedroom, you may never find anyone.
No 2 people are exactly alike but there are some must haves regarding intimacy. Not having a compatible partner with the must haves is a deal breaker.@@gemelindacjp7976
I really appreciate this video. There are topics that just aren't talked about at all. And when it is, it's twisted. Like, "wives give your husband's sex whenever they want it or it'll be your fault they stray". My husband and I were brought up with sex is bad, dirty, sinful...except for in marriage. But what we discovered is that it's hard to flip that switch in your brain once you are married. We both felt dirty and sinful even though we were married. Plus, I was molested by multiple people as a child. But, finally after 11 years together, we are in a healthy place sexually. And it took communication. A lot of communication. And understanding. And patience.
So powerful. When I was married, there was much healing and unity in our married sex life. We had been promiscuous before and man. Married sex is so healthy and wonderful! I think it needs to be celebrated and spoken of freely in church.
That's why I'm waiting until I get into marriage first to start being sex active
I have no business getting married. I'm not a virgin so my used up garbage body has no business being seen by any girl.
Single people need to learn all they can and apply the purity before marriage rather virgin or not
So much healing and unity that you divorced? lol ok
@@ChristopherMH I think most of us know that different things cause divorce. But, nice try little one.
Loved how you brought in the biological information. Also loved when you said: "God's design reveals God's purpose". Loved how you showed us how to look to nature, when scripture doesn't specifically address a topic. That was really good. Romans 1 tells us that creation reveals God's attributes. Excellent video!
Great stuff Pastor Mike!! One thing my wife and I did was pray in bed before committing what we were going to do to the glory of God and that it would honor Him and he pleasing in His sight since He created it and created us to bring Him pleasure.Rev. 4
Also I’d pray for the Spirit’s leading. We ask Him to lead and guide us for everything else, why not the most intimate thing two people can do that are both Spirit filled. 🙏🏻
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Great topic brother Mike.. too many people have been deceived and the word has to be spread to lead people into repentance.. thanks for bringing some truth into a fallen world.
Much needed ! Thank you pastor for stepping out of comfort zone and doing this❤️
I gotta say, thank you so much Pastor Mike for stepping out by providing this teaching! I can’t imagine how nerve-wracking it must’ve been, but I’ve had these questions for a long time and this brought so much clarity and healing. Blessings to you!
Thank you for having the confidence to do this teaching. I am confident that you have helped a lot of Christians who are struggling with these issues.
Wow..I have never had so much inside ever since I have been a Christian. This kind of teachings has never been dealt with deeper like in this channel. Am so grateful for your teaching.God bless you
The realisations I have while watching you talk about this topic are so unbelievably powerful! Thank You So So Much🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you for your teachings!!! They’ve been a tremendous help!!!Urgent prayer request ‼️⚠️❗️My husband and I have been separated for months now. Please pray God restores our marriage, brings freedom and keeps us pure until then 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
May the Lord give you the desire of your heart.
Going through the same thing Jenny. Continue to be a prayer warrior and face God. Pray for wisdom and discernment
Fast and pray. Praying at 3 am is powerful. Make vigils. Read the Word. Pray nonstop. Pay attention to God's voice.
@@mireyamanso6707 yes, I’m on my 9th day of fasting and I’m up until 4am praying or in the word
@@mireyamanso6707 wow i realized now that this is the reason why I have been waking up at 3 am. Please pray for mine and my husband’s marriage restoration. I have been on a 7 day prayer early in the morning. When the 7 day was completed I was still waking up at 3 am but I never put an alarm on. The Holy Spirit has been prompting me to keep the fire of prayer. The enemy will not win. Jesus Christ is victorious over our marriages!
Thank you for discussing this.. the enemy has hijacked this area and taken the true pleasure out of it. But Sex is God's idea... Every good and perfect gift comes from HIM.
Anal sex is wrong in any Bedroom scenario.
Thank you so much for your message. My husband is in porn and it’s killing our marriage. Every time I confront him he denies it but I’ve caught him. I waited all my life for the man I would marry and I never thought it would be like this. Addiction to porn and masterbation is a marriage killer
Does he refuse to have sex with you ? Does he do this because you are not sexually available ?
Keep praying to soften your husbands heart and release the strongholds! When my husband and I stopped self-pleasure and looking at anything even a bit sexualized like instagram models we had so much more sexual energy and drive for each other. Father in Heaven is always right.
Totally agree with you💯💯
ABSOLUTELY RIGHT
HALLELUJAHHA@@72marie
So right on! Thank you for this study. My wife and I have been married for 42 years, and being Christians we sometimes wondered if we crossed the line, and after study, we came up with the same things that you taught. What we never thought about, but always did, was communicate about our sexual relationship. In fact, alot of times permission was asked during sex.
So, thank you. Your teaching was confirmation that we do follow Gods design and guidelines for our marital intimacy. Thank you for being bold enough to teach this! God bless you!!
Thank you thank you thank you!!! ❤❤❤
Great talk!!!
My husband is an agnostic Jew, of course praying for him to be saved always!!!
I have looked into this subject a few times over years wanting to be right with GOD's Will.
Thank you I this helps so much. From what I can see is we must be sensitive to each others needs using common sense and not doing things that make oneself uncomfortable.
At 56 I think I finally got it!!!
Thank goodness my husband is a very good and loyal man even without being spiritual or saved. I pray soon he will be and it'll be time for a Wedding with Jesus at the center!!
Amen❤
Amen I stand in agreement with your breakthrough..it in its way GLORY TO GOD
Acts 2:37,38
thank you so much for this teaching Pastor, i know you were nervous but i’m so glad you pushed through. i’ve had questions and thoughts on sex from, what’s ok and what’s not and i thought it religiously like you mentioned. but, i never asked anyone, including my spiritual mother because it just felt uncomfortable and embarrassing to ask, so it just makes me feel better that you did this teaching. again, thank you 🙏🏽❤️
Amen
Amen
The Holy Spirit is our helper...and must guide us in all things.
So informative! We need more Christian teaching like this! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 We praise God!
This sermon is about time!! Thank you!!! We are all adults. We should be able to handle this. A hidden pornography addiction was the beginning of my divorce. Had no idea he was into all that and chose to watch it while I slept! Me. A Young bride at 20. Had no idea.
should have given him what was on the screen..thats your job
@@WillyEckaslike You are gross. Men like you have marriages dirty and corrupted. And for your info, the first time I saw an actual porn video was 12 years later! Never had interest to see that garbage. Then when I saw that first video, I was repulsed not turned on
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@@WillyEckaslike Willy are you serious?!
@@sherbetstraw yes its the wifes duty to make her man happy
Your teaching is excellent! You never have to make an excuse for truth. It resonates with those who are seekers of truth. It sets the captives free Thank you for your courage & desire to establish Gods design in our lives That brings the boat, desired intimacy and holiness.
Blessings. Barbara.
Thank you for discussing what no one else would! You handled it respectfully
Thank you Pastor, this is confirmation of what had been in my heart to do for women's life groups.
This struggle is real and there are many marriages quietly struggling in this area of their lives for lack of knowledge or understanding in His word. Or simply asking our creator for guidance!
Some are in a season of waiting, where God can make white what satan had perverted for years! God is the only one who can make a men and women virgin again, in spirit and in mind!
Thank you Jesus and I Thank God for giving you boldness to speak about a very important topic in marriage. Let nothing separate what God has joined together as One!
Bless you!
Thank you for this teaching! I think everyone can benefit from this. I know it was an intense and uncomfortable discussion but you did an awesome job explaining things! Keep up the great work!
Ty for saying it... Ive been trying for years to give this message to those who've said porn is OK..if only the ones who need to hear it will come across this video!!!
Amen
This is the best teaching I have ever heard on this particular subject matter thank you ! Pastor Mike Sign orelli. There are to many pastors and ministers that are never taught properly how to communicate with their parishioners or fellow congregants about any serios subjects and or problems that married couples generally have to deal with. You are absolutely correct when you stated that pornography is a deadly devised plan to destroy not only marriages but as well as humanity as a whole. It fully corrupts and destroys.
Thank you for stepping out on a limb and talking about this and giving tons of scripture to back it all up.
Thanks, as a married woman of God , I wanted to talk to another leader about what and what not, we as saints can do. I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit to help me in this area as a minister of Gospel this is confirmation, confirmation. Thank you
This really blessed me.
There are some things said in here that need to be prayed about. Certain things stated in here are not okay in the marriage bed and can defile. We need to be careful, what we know and have been taught in modern times about what is normal and okay isn't at all.
This was my life for years (30plus). Only because of Jesus did our marriage survive! I've actually published my story in hope of letting others know they're not alone and there is hope.
Yes it's definitely benefiting I've always wanted to know what is right and what is wrong under God's rules thank you so much for this education
WOW! I wish I had someone like you to talk to 37 years ago. This is an important conversation to have. Thank you for being honest and confronting an uncomfortable topic.
You are so welcome
Thank you for addressing the hard topics… it’s too rare.
I appreciate you addressing the need for safety and trust in marriage. Forced by strength or manipulation creates an unsafe environment for sexual intimacy to take place. Thank you
In total agreement with your perspective. Thank you for the courage to address disturbing issues in many marriages that are often ignored and yet so central in couples well being.
This was great, pastor! I am in my 60s and I totally agree with everything and can relate to what you have said. I love the scriptural foundation and the way it was handled was honorable and honest.
Thank you so much Pastor Mike!
Thank you for clarifying the truth when so many so-called "sex experts" promote unhealthy practices that actually lead people away from true intimacy between two committed lovers. I also appreciate the science and research that back up the divine design of intimacy within marriage
This was absolutely incredible and as a christisn for a long time, have never had this subject been talked about with such wisdom. Thank you.
I am a student at a Christian University. I will be getting my MA in Christian/Pastoral Counseling. I needed a topic to write about regarding a specific sexual issue, and I was having a hard time coming up with a topic. I came across your video and decided to watch it. Very informative. I like the reasons why anal sex might not be a good idea. It is important to give reason/s, and it is also good the reasons are scientific, especially since there is no actual scripture that specifically says not to indulge in anal sex. Also, where the term sodomy comes from. I also like what you said about intimacy and that sex is not just what happens physically but what happens mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When those are all in sync, you have agape love (safety). I believe you did a good job. It is a good start for the conversation to begin; the whole view was informative. Thank you, and God bless.
Both anal sex and oral sex are mentioned in the Bible, those acts fall under sodomy. There isn't really much difference between the two. Some argue that oral sex is an even worse sin than anal sex because you use your mouth to receive holy communion/ the Eucharist.
Webster's dictionary defines sodomy as both anal and oral sex but it could also include all other non procreative methods of having sex which would include toys, hand sex, using the pull out method ect.
The Bible says no sodomite will enter the kingdom of heaven "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? 'Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]SODOMITES, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. " - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Notice how homosexuals and sodomites are used separately meaning they are two different things.
Oral and anal sex fall under the sin of Onan (masturbation falls under this as well) In Genesis 38:8-10 Onan spilled his seed on the ground and God struck him dead on the spot. Sperm was designed to go into the vagina only it was not meant to be spilled onto the ground, swallowed or wasted in anyway.
Oral and anal sex are fruitless to God's kingdom and it directly goes against His command to "be fruitful and multiply"- Genesis 1:28.
Oral and anal sex is unnatural and God warns against unnatural forms of sex : Rom. 1 Verses 26 to 29
"[27] And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet."
Oral sex and anal sex is unclean. The Bible talks about uncleanliness multiple times in both the old and new testament (2 Corinthians 6:17& 7:1 being only a few examples) Cleanliness is next to nothing to godliness! It's not godly to go drink from a toilet seat so why would Christians put their mouths where urine, blood and waste come from? The eating of waste and drinking of blood and urine is something Satanists do.
How can you praise a holy God, kiss your child or take holy communion with the same mouth you used to suck on someone's genitals? That should not be-James 3:10.
Also from a logical point of view anal sex is wrong because it would be hypocritical of us Christians to try and stop the homosexuals from having sex but then we go do the exact same thing in our marriage beds. However lesbians can not have anal sex... They only have oral sex (as well as other unnatural sexual acts but for the sake of the discussion I'll just stick to oral sex) So if oral sex is okay then what exactly is wrong with lesbianism? Nothing! Why can't two lesbians who are married to each other have oral sex but we Christians can? That's also hypocritical.
Same sex attraction is not a sin. There are Christians who have same sex attraction but they choose to remain celibate and not to act upon those feelings. So therefore it is the homosexual/ lesbian act that is sinful and what is the homosexual/lesbian act? Any form of non vaginal intercourse (oral sex, anal sex, hand sex, sex toys ect.) So since the act itself is sinful it doesn't matter if heterosexual sexual couples do it it will still be a sin.
Either oral sex and anal sex are allowed for both same sex and heterosexual couples or it's not allowed for both same sex and heterosexual couples and clearly it's not allowed for same sex couples.
God bless!
He is right about the issue being between your ears. As one ages it becomes more and more about intimacy and not about physical action. The older I get the more I am glad I picked my wife but God went ahead in a big way. When I was much younger I heard older men I was around mention about how their wives became increasingly attractive. While I could not understand it then, I say the same thing to younger men now. My wife and I have been married 41 years and I find her increasingly attractive. The longer I am married the more I desire my wife and that I see how God knew more about who I needed and who I wanted when I had no idea the extent of that. I would suggest every young person be led by an older person. Older people can help give a realistic picture of what really matters most. When I was younger I ignored beauty and purposely sought a woman who had the character I desired. My wife has loads of the one thing I desired most. Both my wife and I are the first Christians in our families. When my family met my wife when we were dating my dad said, "You had better marry her because you will not find another one like her." Before my wife and I were married we had the full support of our families. I feel incredibly blessed to have in a wife much much more than I ever expected. It makes me feel good when members of my family call my wife to talk with her. We have seen God's timing and intervention as we have sought him in so many things we have done. We have sought to put God first and let the finances be lower on the rungs of life. In the end we have so much more than what we ever expected.
Thank you pastor Mike for this valuable and bold teaching. Makes perfect sense. God is sovereign and His design is perfect for a husband and wife with Him at the center in a covenantal relationship. Amen. 💕
Thank you Pastor Mike for having the courage to talk about a subject that most avoid. I know that you are helping people find Biblical wisdom, and the importance of our sovereign God’s design. Glory to God in all things!
Thank you mike. Ive been battling a porn addiction for years. And i just stopped porn/masturbating about a month ago. Ive been really proud of myself. Praying and talking to God everyday and turning my life around feels so accomplishing. But during this past week ive been lusting in my mind. This video is reassurance that im doing good and to keep up this mission. Thank you Mike and thank you God. May God bless all of you going through hardships, i pray for the best for all of you.
Massive respect to you Pastor talking on this subject. I've learnt a lot. God bless you
Thanks Pastor Mike ! This was a very informative and educative video ! Thank you for being brave enough to present it to us ! So many of us carry into marriage the words of shame and guilt that were ingrained in us growing up , not mention the lack of self esteem & self worth that mental & physical abuse brain washed us into believing . Those are such difficult thoughts to rid ourselves of. And when your spouse is telling you all the positive affirmations you always wanted to hear from them , your brain just keeps denying the true joy you desire to feel. Thank you so much again for giving us the true meaning of sex within marriage from God's design ! 😇✝️🙏♥️🤗 AMEN & AMEN !
Well done pastor
“The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4, NASB95)
Kind of confusing
@@aramisy.cajigas744 maybe more down to mutual respect, cos what if for whatever reason the other is not in the mood, it therefore can’t be forced upon the other
Nice. Quoting Bible especially in bed. Nice. You know it never works 😅
@@aramisy.cajigas744 🤦🏻 yeah right, I guess you’re 1 of those that wouldn’t take no for an answer from your spouse, you’re right charming, absolute rubbish that something must’ve happened during the day, have you ever considered that different people have different rates of sex drive, or d’ya just think of yourself
Pastor Mike. I was very impressed with your teaching on this important subject. I am a pastor who addresses similar subjects when conducting marriage seminars, and I was edified by this video. I commend you for your boldness. Keep up the good work.
Hey Pastor Mike, you are dead on teaching this stuff.
30yrs back I fiund a copy of The Act of Marriage at a Christian mission in San Antonio. Tim & Beverly LaHaye helped SO MANY w that book.
I gace it to a young girl I met in college. She was engaged to a missionary but admitted to me she loved him endlessly but she was terrified of her wedding night. 2wks later, she was glowing happy & thanked me for the gift. She said she was shariing it w her LDR fiance by phone & they ralked & prayed together about it. She said she was so excited & looking forward to it then that she'd changed her mond about waiting to marry later & they were going to marry in just 3mos, before she finished college. I saw her just once after her marriage. Happiest girl ever! She was practically dancing on clouds.
There's always a big need for honest talk & good Godly teachobg on this subject.
Thank you for covering such an uncomfortable topic but so important. Especially the last part. I think that subject matter is part of the reason for the high divorce rates. Imagine living back when everyone thought that saving yourself for marriage was highly regarded. If only. 💔
I found this channel last night and I'm so excited about all I'm hearing.
Thank you for being so vulnerable with all these topics! I know this was challenging and uncomfortable and difficult, but thank you for being obedient!
Thank you for this teaching/ conversation. God bless you Pastor Mike! I agree that husbands need to cultivate a sense of safety for their wives for true intimacy to flourish.
You are very welcome
Excellent teaching. Thank you for putting yourself out there to bring understanding.❤
God definitely speaking through you.Thanks for this teaching! 🙏🏽
I’ve been in church my whole life and this topic was NEVER covered. With your spouse only, sex is important and gets better with time.
I so appreciate your transparency as a Pastor, Mike! It is very helpful. We have been married almost 45 years and are aging, so things change a bit. Thank you.
I got a lot of respect for him for speaking on this as a Pastor
I think a good and very needed teaching, we need more in all of our churches, God bless you my brother!!!
Well OMGosh!! This was such an excellent teaching. My late husband and I had the most incredible sex life because of God, because of that intimacy, and because of trust. He was a “reformed bad boy w**re monger” - he told me that he had the best sex of his life as a married man. He came to our marriage after he was reformed, and had learned to do things God’s way. He did not realize that sex outside of marriage was a no-no because no one talks about it in church, from behind the pulpit, or in any groups. He also said that he had more offers for sex from church women, which shocked him.
This that you so bravely taught is vital and important 💕
Never heard a pastor talk about this before!!!....however, i welcome it. Love the biblical references as well as science references. I think you handled this sensitive subject quite well...appreciate you and thank you! God bless!!🙏🏽
Thank you Pastor Mike for being bold and teaching things that others won’t! I believe that the Lord will use this and there will be healing that comes to marriages because of this teaching!
Thank you so much!
EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR THIS AND TO TALK ABOUT IT BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!
This subject needs to be taught more to the youth , I have been committed to Jesus for 32 years . Great teaching from the holy Spirit
Thank you for lifting the lid on this vital subject. As a married mother of two young men, this teaching is so needful and valuable. God bless you Pastor Mike. Shalom 🙏🏾.
Thank you Pastor for sharing and teaching about this subject, I believe if more Pastors were to teach about this many marriages and future marriages will be saved. God bless you and your family ✝️ 🕊 📖 🙏🏾♥️
Very well done. Having seen so many confuse lust with love over the years; straying down multiple destructive paths through this confusion, misuse, and/or basic misunderstandings. This is definitely a lesson of great value, and consequence. One that would be useful not just before marriage, but before any sexual act is explored in any way. Fore everything we do, and/or have done to us; has an effect on who we are, what we will become. And in my experience as a man who survived multiple early childhood abuses; now walked this earth for over 60 years. What happens to us is not always a choice, but how we move forward from it is.
In choosing any path it would be easier/beneficial to not start additional bad acts/habits; than needing to somehow stop them and asking forgiveness for after. But we don't always see clearly, all options for what they are in the moment. That's a part of being human, Satan's influence on this world. Do your best to stay focused on The Lord, surrounded by good people who can help keep you on the right path, and God's eternal rewards can be yours. After all, life is eternal. Make it a journey worthy of your eternal goals. God Bless.
I literally just prayed about this topic and your video came on my timeline 💯
Thank you for having the strength to address this subject. My marriage suffered from the practice of variant sexual acts. I have questioned my response to variant sexual acts and your message has given me a release from any signs of guilt that I have carried for years.
Thank you for teaching on this! So many need this but are not comfortable even in counseling!