my narc mother used to say “ you can’t win, can you?” she set us up to fail , another one was “you’re damned if you do & you’re damned if you don’t” with a smirk on her face, now she is old & alone
The moment you Realize (not just think, or suspect, but Actually Absolutely without a doubt, REALIZE and ACCEPT that Narcs actually do not care about you, do not actually love you), then nothing surprises you anymore. All starts to make sense. Just do not expect love from them, and you will see through all they do from that point onwards. Do not expect truth, do not expect love, do not expect normal care for each other, do not expect them to remember the truth, do not expect them to tell others the truth. Do Not Expect. Period. And you will be okay. The moment you expect any regular behavior from Narc, you are On Their Rope and then God Save You.
Oh how true is this. This is how I’m trying to live now… without any expectations, being indifferent towards them… it has given me some peace but just CANNOT understand how cruel they can just be???
My husband knew I had an abusive mother. He acted completely the opposite to her. And my narc mom openly said she didn't like him (which made me think he was a good choice). Then after we were married, I noticed him saying the very same abusive things that my mother had said many years earlier. Both wanted to dump me when I was sick. When my mother found out he was abusive, she started to like him. I told her he had punched me and her reply was "Well, he never did anything to me....I have nothing against him". Although he presented himself as completely opposite to my narc mom, they were the same person in different bodies.
It's very sinister how they are. They will take your vulnerability and act like they care to hook you then turn and do it to you. It's awful and I'm sorry you've gone through that.
It is true. My ex knew my father was very strict with me in childhood. He on the other hand was very gentle, caring..until short after wedding..he started to be passive agressive and he literally said: Apparently I have to start to be strict with you like your father was!
The moat confusing thing to me was how my ex could twist my words and accuse me of horrific things when I could PROVE them FALSE. I still can't understand how someone could seriously think they could convince me that I did and said things that I could PROVE were false.
My mothers smirk showed that she was thinking “l’m allowing you to be and live, but I can take it away whenever I want.”Ultimately she did! It almost killed me! EVIL exists in families
I think it's most accurate to call this psychological torture, especially when used to manipulate someone with pre-existing mental health problems. Also, anybody else have this turned around on them and accused of it for bringing up real problems: "you just want me to feel guilty about everything" when asking them to maybe put things back in the fridge after cooking or wipe up a spill before it becomes a mess that takes hours to scrub or sand off or close packages so food doesn't mold.
This is a very helpful video, thank you. Just said goodbye to a new friend who was showing narc signs. He recently texted me a seemingly friendly message with a question. I responded (after researching the question for 20 minutes) with a text and a link. He then sent me a stern text about how he was busy and would not look at the information until much later, sounding as if he was doing me a big favor by looking at it! No thank you or kind words. In the time he spent sending me two texts about my bad timing, he could have read the information I sent (it wasn’t a lot of reading). I was furious at his attitude and lack of appreciation. I’ve ended the friendship as there were many red flags!
(1:55) the most confusing thing was how they could seem to be so normal and "on the right side of things", and then turn around and be completely an agent of some kind of harm, for more and more extended periods of time
Another term for the double bind is something called the Hegelian Dialectic. You get two or more false choices, but whichever one you take leads to the same pre-planned or desired outcome.
Thank you for another great video. In All relationships with narcisists you are bound to lose because The nature of this relationship is corrupt and evil, it is based on a lie and deceit which is why it can not bear good fruit.
Thank you for this, Danish, for presenting on this difficult and painful topic. Your work is so critical to the healing of so many who have nowhere else to turn! You're deeply appreciated for your expertise and accessibility for many who have suffered. You are an international treasure!! Thank you for all you've done and continue to do for this community! God bless you!
He never says: You didn't do anything wrong. He doesn't talk to me like in your video saying "please don't blame yourself, you didn't do anything wrong." He has never communicated in that way. That's too nice and reassuring for him to speak that way to me.
You are simply amazing!! There has not been one video where I did not connect with what you are talking about. This video is again so bang on, to the way that my husband has been treating me for years!! Thank you so much, for opening my eyes, and helping me to realize that I am not imagining things!
Yes even before you defined it I thought it's probably like 'you're damned if you do...and damned if you don't. In other words it's set up so you can't win no matter what...it's a lose-lose for you. All rigged up by them. Unfortunately for them I am very strong-minded and strong-cored so the idea they can make me do something I don't want to do, or achieve the outcome they want is almost impossible.
@@ND-or5so You could say 'one is in the same environment as me'. What type of narc? Covert, malignant, antisocial, probably sociopathic, maybe psychopathic. Imo.
Can you pls talk about the hypocrisy and double standard that are clearly shown that even there own child notices it. He’s a neglectful parent but insist I’m keeping him away. When my child does ever be with his dad in reality it’s not to be with him but bc he wants to play with his fav cousins. When he’s back with me on his own he explains he had a great time playing and stuff but when it comes to his dad it’s a different story. It’s hostile and I see how my son will shift in moods he scared to stand up for himself and looks to him constantly for assurance that he’s doing what he wants him to in almost everything. It saddens me and depressing that I chose him for a father to my big hearted son. If you can pls just give insight in some way to this you have helped me so much
He’d tell me, “I choose you and you alone of all the women in all the world,” and then spend hours satisfying a porn addiction. He’d say, “You are the best cook in all the world. You could make even dirt taste good!” He’d tell our kids and friends this about me too, then he’d come home and tell me he’d been stopping on the way home from work to grab chicken sandwiches secretly because he didn’t want me to know. This never made sense. I don’t care if he eats out, I don’t need affirmation that’s so over the top on my cooking. Why say such things and then indicate just the opposite with actions. Why not simply be honest? It would made me feel like something is wrong with me in so many ways. It was so confusing. Yes, it’s way beyond emotional abuse.
Same here. His porn addiction became so bad that he went so far as to make his own porn with his 1st cousin for years behind my back. They had the studio set up at her house because she lives alone. And then she never invited anyone to her house, except him. I am a baker and he would brag to everyone how great a baker I am. Buy me all the high end professional gadgets and gear. But then would never eat anything I made. But would go to bakeries that sold the same things I would typically make, but theirs were never as good as mine and bring them home and eat those. I was with him for 25 years. Am finally out, now 3 months. Healing is slow, but I am healing.
Most confusing is the on the edge, stuck feeling of not understanding, not knowing what they are, wanted or needed because there was constant highs and lows and never a sense of peace clarity contentment kind of relating with them
I hate politics but still that's the first thing popped in my mind about "double bind". No matter which side "you chose" you're still their slave... Sorry, i just couldn't help it..
There have been many confusing instances My bf said he cant marry anyone as he doesnt want the commitment of marriage. But after sometime he says that we can be friends and we can be "physically connected" and that we could be friends with benefits so both of us could marry anyone we want but we could still hook up. After a month this guy says that he has deeply "fallen in love" with me and he wants to "give me a happy life" I asked him then why he saud he wouldn't marry anyone to which he said "dont know what destiny has for me and you" I was like confused he said he cant marry then he says friends with benefits and now it seems he is in deep love. ..its like multiple choice question for which I don't know how to pick the right answer
Both my son and narcissist husband said they would respect my wish to stay safe a avoid gathering since I have COPD and others risks if I got Covid. In the Firestone days of the pandemic he invited our other son to come right home from New Orleans and isolate here . The other son kept coming over often for coffee. With in days of both promising to respect my wishes even for a few weeks. Then he’s denied that I got long Covid. I was just lazy for two years. The local son fought down and arrested a guy who was taken to hospital with Covid. No one told me this for weeks.
My biggest question now is: do narcissists hurt other people consciously or is it just their illness, unconsciousness? Should we actually blame them for their deliberate, fully sane actions? Or, should we regard them as insane and - somehow - innocent of what they are doing?
I’ve heard another qualified psychologist say absolutely they choose to behave this way and are aware of what they’re doing, it’s just a means to an end.
This is a great question. I often wonder about it too. Here’s my two cents on this topic. I think a great indication that they KNOW what they are doing is when they can switch their personalities between people, that’s when you know they know exactly what they are doing. Or else, they will be abusive to everyone around them now wouldn’t they? But they’re not??!! Why? Because they CHOOSE to abuse some people. Hence, they KNOW that they are doing it but they just simply doesn’t seem to care because they are only focused on “supply”.
I remember in our first or second year of marriage, my wife had a friend visit for maybe two hours. Wife did almost all the talking. I could not understand because it had been years since seeing this her friend. Mostly, I was in the computer room, and I wrote how disappointed I was. Didn't show it at all to anyone. I guess I needed to learn more (on my own).
Maybe I’m immune to cognitive dissonance. 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve been pretty quick to resolve apparent disparities in his messaging and actual behavior. Having explained the negative effect his bullying was having and seeing no change in the behavior, I decided that he, in fact, did not love me (whatever that means). It did take a few years. The bullying did not stop, but there was not the confusion. I told him he had a problem and the work I was doing to help myself would not fix it. Then, I learned about narcissism and realized this was a rabid robot situation. I adjusted my attitude and behavior to fit my reality and now he is on an extended quest to get his gig back. Ain’t happenin’. 28 years married. I suspect that my being autistic is an asset. I’d love to hear your thoughts on that.
So the Narcissist doesn't do the bad things to you that you've talked to him about? I've explained everything to this Covert Narcissist more than once on what not to do to me, and he still does it anyway.
Great example she got a restraining order after the birth of all 3 children- I took her back after each one on promises & love bombing to never do that again - I’ll never get a restraining order again she said - here I am in more trouble now than ever before for false testimony- this time was the worst & I wasn’t even there for the event in her mind - now I have cptsd
Dear danish this is really interesting but I don't understand it, please would you do another video but explain a covert narcissist mother and this double bond thing
I can't think how to react to my dad's unnatural behaviors .... always takes side to his daughter.... sometimes I do think I'm the Mannerless and the other time I just want to destroy everything dear to them even I have to accept the fact that when we're up to destroy something it's own self which gets destroyed first🌧️🌧️🌧️
Sorry for laughing but that made me laugh at how stupid and controlling that is. Can you say 'control FREAK'. Which I would say is definitely another term for narcissist.
I hope you read this☺️please please Do you have a video about this? I realyy like to know how to cope with a narcistic parent when they like ask you to do things The last time I said no… to a dinner I got ignored for 8months. I dont know how just to keep peace and at the same time just have more space between them and from them. because after those months I had to explain myself and a lot of drama, I dont want that… like for a coffee its ok but not those weird arguments. I dont know how to set boundries without all this drama and stress.
Do you have experience with religious narcissists that condemn you for your inequalities while pointing their finger so that you ignore their inequalities?
The Covert doesn't recognize how his actions hurt me or that he did wrong when he freaks out on me when I mention something to discuss that wasn't resolved and not explained. The next morning he will ignore me acting as if I am in the wrong when he overreacted and took a tantrum and yelled which blew it way out of proportion. I think he should be apologizing saying that he shouldn't have acted the way he did. Is he that stupid not to see his disturbing behavior made it wrong?
The beginners double bind (kiondergarden version taught by femvertising {actual discipline n advertising, let's call it selling out women unsder the pretext enabling to liberate, which is you should send away everyone who's good for you, andreplace it what ever is sold to you e.g. via dating) that beginners double bind is in german called "thte salad method".YOu prepare the salad and coat it with the dressing but then let it stand - only inthe versuion here that salad is supposed to rot afterwards.Teasing and 'ghosting', comes in variation with a languidly gaze from far, presenting a replacement with a fluing monkey who checks if you look, then the gaze somewhere else.That would be acceptable, if indeed simply another partner is found annd the person is happy.But to avoid that impression, there can be staged (mflying monkey checks if you look, then the drama-queen suffers until the ok comes for mission acciomplished).Never a clear word.And post-me-too in the west EVERY reaction or not reaction is possibly used as an argument, that it's the equivalent to a criminal begaiviour or at least stocking (andwhen you change the times to walk the dog, even- if possible-where, soon the person is there and claims that territory).Actually the amount of energy, time effort of organising necessary that person wastes for something, that doesn't objectivly make their life better - is fascinating autodestructive.Instead of organising 'the replacement exponat' staging the flying monkeys (ad probably there had been several unsuccesful runs, you'll be astonished), that energy could be used for having instead of the exponat a partner, instead of flying monkeys friends,(and you can do your own thing).Even a computer is based on accepting the minimum of failure, thus reducing the errors to that minimum.Only a narcissist thinks it's a tool of perfection for perfect controll and toys with the iinevitable system crash.
my narc mother used to say “ you can’t win, can you?” she set us up to fail , another one was “you’re damned if you do & you’re damned if you don’t” with a smirk on her face, now she is old & alone
The moment you Realize (not just think, or suspect, but Actually Absolutely without a doubt, REALIZE and ACCEPT that Narcs actually do not care about you, do not actually love you), then nothing surprises you anymore. All starts to make sense. Just do not expect love from them, and you will see through all they do from that point onwards.
Do not expect truth, do not expect love, do not expect normal care for each other, do not expect them to remember the truth, do not expect them to tell others the truth. Do Not Expect. Period. And you will be okay.
The moment you expect any regular behavior from Narc, you are On Their Rope and then God Save You.
Oh how true is this. This is how I’m trying to live now… without any expectations, being indifferent towards them… it has given me some peace but just CANNOT understand how cruel they can just be???
My husband knew I had an abusive mother. He acted completely the opposite to her. And my narc mom openly said she didn't like him (which made me think he was a good choice). Then after we were married, I noticed him saying the very same abusive things that my mother had said many years earlier. Both wanted to dump me when I was sick. When my mother found out he was abusive, she started to like him. I told her he had punched me and her reply was "Well, he never did anything to me....I have nothing against him". Although he presented himself as completely opposite to my narc mom, they were the same person in different bodies.
It's very sinister how they are. They will take your vulnerability and act like they care to hook you then turn and do it to you. It's awful and I'm sorry you've gone through that.
It is true. My ex knew my father was very strict with me in childhood. He on the other hand was very gentle, caring..until short after wedding..he started to be passive agressive and he literally said: Apparently I have to start to be strict with you like your father was!
They know you have been abused. They view you as a vulnerable target. Nothing makes them happier.
It is deeply spiritual .A principality is attacking you through the people around you (Jezebel Spirit) The devil comes to steal,kill and destroy
The moat confusing thing to me was how my ex could twist my words and accuse me of horrific things when I could PROVE them FALSE. I still can't understand how someone could seriously think they could convince me that I did and said things that I could PROVE were false.
My mothers smirk showed that she was thinking “l’m allowing you to be and live, but I can take it away whenever I want.”Ultimately she did! It almost killed me!
EVIL exists in families
Then she couldnt
My stbx overt narc mil told her son (my covert narc husband) the similar thing.
I think it's most accurate to call this psychological torture, especially when used to manipulate someone with pre-existing mental health problems. Also, anybody else have this turned around on them and accused of it for bringing up real problems: "you just want me to feel guilty about everything" when asking them to maybe put things back in the fridge after cooking or wipe up a spill before it becomes a mess that takes hours to scrub or sand off or close packages so food doesn't mold.
This is a very helpful video, thank you. Just said goodbye to a new friend who was showing narc signs. He recently texted me a seemingly friendly message with a question. I responded (after researching the question for 20 minutes) with a text and a link. He then sent me a stern text about how he was busy and would not look at the information until much later, sounding as if he was doing me a big favor by looking at it! No thank you or kind words. In the time he spent sending me two texts about my bad timing, he could have read the information I sent (it wasn’t a lot of reading).
I was furious at his attitude and lack of appreciation. I’ve ended the friendship as there were many red flags!
This is what broke me this right here! I felt so dirty and disgusting, I couldn’t wash him off of me no matter how much I showered! It’s pure torture.
(1:55) the most confusing thing was how they could seem to be so normal and "on the right side of things", and then turn around and be completely an agent of some kind of harm, for more and more extended periods of time
Another term for the double bind is something called the Hegelian Dialectic. You get two or more false choices, but whichever one you take leads to the same pre-planned or desired outcome.
very good point!
Choice is taken away , they dangle a carrot constantly to keep you by their side . Very informative.
Thank you for another great video. In All relationships with narcisists you are bound to lose because The nature of this relationship is corrupt and evil, it is based on a lie and deceit which is why it can not bear good fruit.
Thank you for this, Danish, for presenting on this difficult and painful topic. Your work is so critical to the healing of so many who have nowhere else to turn! You're deeply appreciated for your expertise and accessibility for many who have suffered. You are an international treasure!! Thank you for all you've done and continue to do for this community! God bless you!
He never says: You didn't do anything wrong. He doesn't talk to me like in your video saying "please don't blame yourself, you didn't do anything wrong." He has never communicated in that way. That's too nice and reassuring for him to speak that way to me.
Survivor of a narcissistic relationship with my mother. Thank you for these videos
You are simply amazing!! There has not been one video where I did not connect with what you are talking about. This video is again so bang on, to the way that my husband has been treating me for years!!
Thank you so much, for opening my eyes, and helping me to realize that I am not imagining things!
So encouraging to hear what the narcs agenda of manipulation is and they operate. This has made me more aware.
I meant how they operate
By far this is one of the ULTRA PRO MAX CONTENT ON NARCISSISM Thank you DANISH 🙏
Most insightful, thank you. Amazing video. Please talk more about the double bind in the future.
Thanks!
You said it right
Oh my god , you know exactly how victims are suffering
God bless you
When he acted like he really wanted me when he really hated me.
Yes even before you defined it I thought it's probably like 'you're damned if you do...and damned if you don't. In other words it's set up so you can't win no matter what...it's a lose-lose for you. All rigged up by them. Unfortunately for them I am very strong-minded and strong-cored so the idea they can make me do something I don't want to do, or achieve the outcome they want is almost impossible.
@kennethlapointe...:
Are you with a Narcissist? If so,
what type of Narcissist is that person?
@@ND-or5so You could say 'one is in the same environment as me'. What type of narc? Covert, malignant, antisocial, probably sociopathic, maybe psychopathic. Imo.
How he could just up and leave with no explanation and just not talk to me anymore
Can you pls talk about the hypocrisy and double standard that are clearly shown that even there own child notices it. He’s a neglectful parent but insist I’m keeping him away. When my child does ever be with his dad in reality it’s not to be with him but bc he wants to play with his fav cousins. When he’s back with me on his own he explains he had a great time playing and stuff but when it comes to his dad it’s a different story. It’s hostile and I see how my son will shift in moods he scared to stand up for himself and looks to him constantly for assurance that he’s doing what he wants him to in almost everything. It saddens me and depressing that I chose him for a father to my big hearted son. If you can pls just give insight in some way to this you have helped me so much
He’d tell me, “I choose you and you alone of all the women in all the world,” and then spend hours satisfying a porn addiction.
He’d say, “You are the best cook in all the world. You could make even dirt taste good!” He’d tell our kids and friends this about me too, then he’d come home and tell me he’d been stopping on the way home from work to grab chicken sandwiches secretly because he didn’t want me to know. This never made sense. I don’t care if he eats out, I don’t need affirmation that’s so over the top on my cooking. Why say such things and then indicate just the opposite with actions. Why not simply be honest? It would made me feel like something is wrong with me in so many ways. It was so confusing. Yes, it’s way beyond emotional abuse.
Same here. His porn addiction became so bad that he went so far as to make his own porn with his 1st cousin for years behind my back. They had the studio set up at her house because she lives alone. And then she never invited anyone to her house, except him. I am a baker and he would brag to everyone how great a baker I am. Buy me all the high end professional gadgets and gear. But then would never eat anything I made. But would go to bakeries that sold the same things I would typically make, but theirs were never as good as mine and bring them home and eat those. I was with him for 25 years. Am finally out, now 3 months. Healing is slow, but I am healing.
Most confusing is the on the edge, stuck feeling of not understanding, not knowing what they are, wanted or needed because there was constant highs and lows and never a sense of peace clarity contentment kind of relating with them
Oh my god...correct ..I felt this I suffered this💔
I hate politics but still that's the first thing popped in my mind about "double bind". No matter which side "you chose" you're still their slave... Sorry, i just couldn't help it..
Talk about disrespectful behaviour on the part of my whole family
There have been many confusing instances
My bf said he cant marry anyone as he doesnt want the commitment of marriage. But after sometime he says that we can be friends and we can be "physically connected" and that we could be friends with benefits so both of us could marry anyone we want but we could still hook up.
After a month this guy says that he has deeply "fallen in love" with me and he wants to "give me a happy life" I asked him then why he saud he wouldn't marry anyone to which he said "dont know what destiny has for me and you" I was like confused he said he cant marry then he says friends with benefits and now it seems he is in deep love. ..its like multiple choice question for which I don't know how to pick the right answer
Deeper than explanation !!!!!
That is exactly what I live with in the aftermath 😢
Both my son and narcissist husband said they would respect my wish to stay safe a avoid gathering since I have COPD and others risks if I got Covid. In the Firestone days of the pandemic he invited our other son to come right home from New Orleans and isolate here . The other son kept coming over often for coffee. With in days of both promising to respect my wishes even for a few weeks. Then he’s denied that I got long Covid. I was just lazy for two years. The local son fought down and arrested a guy who was taken to hospital with Covid. No one told me this for weeks.
Dissociation at its finest. Don't get together, but let's get together. Saw lots of that too. Magical thinking.
I really enjoy your videos!
My question is how is so much theory about narcissist available ? Whatever you are sharing is correct.
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Yes then what happens , damn if you do and damn if you dont
Please, forgive me for comment sp@mming... But this is the most validating (albeit painful) video I've seen thus far. Thank you so much, Danish
My biggest question now is: do narcissists hurt other people consciously or is it just their illness, unconsciousness? Should we actually blame them for their deliberate, fully sane actions? Or, should we regard them as insane and - somehow - innocent of what they are doing?
I’ve heard another qualified psychologist say absolutely they choose to behave this way and are aware of what they’re doing, it’s just a means to an end.
They know exactly what they’re doing and what the outcome will be from the beginning to the end.
They are sick people.
This is a great question. I often wonder about it too. Here’s my two cents on this topic. I think a great indication that they KNOW what they are doing is when they can switch their personalities between people, that’s when you know they know exactly what they are doing. Or else, they will be abusive to everyone around them now wouldn’t they? But they’re not??!! Why? Because they CHOOSE to abuse some people. Hence, they KNOW that they are doing it but they just simply doesn’t seem to care because they are only focused on “supply”.
@@AllahsServant12 Wow! To the point! Thank You so much for your contribution and your brilliant description!
I remember in our first or second year of marriage, my wife had a friend visit for maybe two hours. Wife did almost all the talking. I could not understand because it had been years since seeing this her friend. Mostly, I was in the computer room, and I wrote how disappointed I was. Didn't show it at all to anyone. I guess I needed to learn more (on my own).
That's a funny one
@@chimasunday4415 Not funny 33 years later. Dead serious.
This IS TRUTH!
Maybe I’m immune to cognitive dissonance. 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve been pretty quick to resolve apparent disparities in his messaging and actual behavior. Having explained the negative effect his bullying was having and seeing no change in the behavior, I decided that he, in fact, did not love me (whatever that means). It did take a few years. The bullying did not stop, but there was not the confusion. I told him he had a problem and the work I was doing to help myself would not fix it. Then, I learned about narcissism and realized this was a rabid robot situation. I adjusted my attitude and behavior to fit my reality and now he is on an extended quest to get his gig back. Ain’t happenin’. 28 years married. I suspect that my being autistic is an asset. I’d love to hear your thoughts on that.
Still married???????
So the Narcissist doesn't do the bad things to you that you've talked to him about? I've explained everything to this Covert Narcissist more than once on what not to do to me, and he still does it anyway.
Great example she got a restraining order after the birth of all 3 children- I took her back after each one on promises & love bombing to never do that again - I’ll never get a restraining order again she said - here I am in more trouble now than ever before for false testimony- this time was the worst & I wasn’t even there for the event in her mind - now I have cptsd
Wow. Fantastic!
i have no memory of my mom or dad ever saying, “I love you.”
Same here.
They never change
Most confusing thing is how he thought he was smarter than everyone else.
Dear danish this is really interesting but I don't understand it, please would you do another video but explain a covert narcissist mother and this double bond thing
I can't think how to react to my dad's unnatural behaviors .... always takes side to his daughter.... sometimes I do think I'm the Mannerless and the other time I just want to destroy everything dear to them even I have to accept the fact that when we're up to destroy something it's own self which gets destroyed first🌧️🌧️🌧️
That narc thinks a care about what they see me. I know who they are, that’s more than billions and the power that narc think they have
He would yell at me every morning if I peed before making coffee.
Sorry for laughing but that made me laugh at how stupid and controlling that is. Can you say 'control FREAK'. Which I would say is definitely another term for narcissist.
Someone had issues. He should have made his own coffee. Sorry, it's not funny at all. I might have had an accident.....
@@susanparker9877 I peed first of course and got yelled at.
That is insane.
@@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 he was extremely controlling.
I hope you read this☺️please please
Do you have a video about this?
I realyy like to know how to cope with a narcistic parent when they like ask you to do things
The last time I said no… to a dinner I got ignored for 8months.
I dont know how just to keep peace and at the same time just have more space between them and from them.
because after those months I had to explain myself and a lot of drama,
I dont want that… like for a coffee its ok but not those weird arguments.
I dont know how to set boundries without all this drama and stress.
go no contact!
U are a very smart man
👍🏻 thanks bro
Do you have experience with religious narcissists that condemn you for your inequalities while pointing their finger so that you ignore their inequalities?
He had me dressing acting like a cat. Got me to get a cat when I was allergic. It's humiliating
thank you
I really don’t know how to get out of it 😢
just leave!
Assassination especially for a child under care of parent is apparent. 9:44
My narcissist father set me up to be approached by a man he knew. I was married and had 1 child with me.
Danish:
Good video.
This topic seems is the cathedar
Danish:
In the very beginning of your video, I think they are trying to train us and wear us down.
EXACTLY
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Ugh… this. 😢
THE BATES MOTEL NEIGHBORS.
The Covert doesn't recognize how his actions hurt me or that he did wrong when he freaks out on me when I mention something to discuss that wasn't resolved and not explained. The next morning he will ignore me acting as if I am in the wrong when he overreacted and took a tantrum and yelled which blew it way out of proportion. I think he should be apologizing saying that he shouldn't have acted the way he did. Is he that stupid not to see his disturbing behavior made it wrong?
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The beginners double bind (kiondergarden version taught by femvertising {actual discipline n advertising, let's call it selling out women unsder the pretext enabling to liberate, which is you should send away everyone who's good for you, andreplace it what ever is sold to you e.g. via dating) that beginners double bind is in german called "thte salad method".YOu prepare the salad and coat it with the dressing but then let it stand - only inthe versuion here that salad is supposed to rot afterwards.Teasing and 'ghosting', comes in variation with a languidly gaze from far, presenting a replacement with a fluing monkey who checks if you look, then the gaze somewhere else.That would be acceptable, if indeed simply another partner is found annd the person is happy.But to avoid that impression, there can be staged (mflying monkey checks if you look, then the drama-queen suffers until the ok comes for mission acciomplished).Never a clear word.And post-me-too in the west EVERY reaction or not reaction is possibly used as an argument, that it's the equivalent to a criminal begaiviour or at least stocking (andwhen you change the times to walk the dog, even- if possible-where, soon the person is there and claims that territory).Actually the amount of energy, time effort of organising necessary that person wastes for something, that doesn't objectivly make their life better - is fascinating autodestructive.Instead of organising 'the replacement exponat' staging the flying monkeys (ad probably there had been several unsuccesful runs, you'll be astonished), that energy could be used for having instead of the exponat a partner, instead of flying monkeys friends,(and you can do your own thing).Even a computer is based on accepting the minimum of failure, thus reducing the errors to that minimum.Only a narcissist thinks it's a tool of perfection for perfect controll and toys with the iinevitable system crash.