So true. They love to sabotage any of your celebrations. My ex narc would start to drink getting up filthy drunk making a fool of himself to humiliate me in front of family and friends. As a result, we'd have to leave early . Next morning he'd claim he had no memory of what happened with no accountability, responsibility or apology.
Thank you so much Danish ...you dont know how you have helped my soul... covert narcissism is like you always have these intuitive hits that something wrong is happening but you dont have anything to point your fingers at. Only one video of yours was enough to validate my 3 years.
Wow yes , I been struggling with the the thoughts that I have got it all wrong. Until watching tonight's video. I can totally recall all these behaviours. I feel I have gained total clarity surrounding covert narcissism. Thankyou so much Danish for your knowledge & wisdom & expertise ... I want to personally thankyou. Feeling humble and excited for the future.. I finally grasped the concept🙏🏼🙏🏼
When I asked for iced tea and not hot tea, he said no man could please me begin screaming walked out the door and left for 3 days I had no idea where you went. He refused to discuss it before leaving and he said that was the past to just drop it when he came back.
I can relate to them letting you down and spoiling your birthday,we had plans for weeks then on the actual day 'something had come up' and hes too busy to be with me.
He lets his family be bigoted against me and treats me like I am doing what he does as he makes me shut up and not stick up for the minority groups they are bigots against.
My grandfather died and we were going the funeral. The funeral was a few hours drive away, so I went to my sister's house and I was going with them. There were kids too. Her narcissist sat in front of the TV and did not get ready to go until EVERYBODY else was ready. Then we had to wait for him. My sister was distraught and kept saying, "hurry up, we need to leave". He finally got in the car and said, "What's the big deal? The guy is already dead". We were all so teary and this was such a callous stab. When my stepfather died, that was sad too, and my sister's narcissist was there for that. He cried up such a storm that we had to comfort him. He only met my stepfather twice, whereas my stepfather RAISED us for many years. We had to control our own grieving to take care of him. She told me later that she was terrified to leave him. One day he pulled a gun on her and she ran out the door. She found a place to stay, but her teenage kids were still there. He was not going to hurt them. When their dad picked them up for their weekly visit, she told him, "Don't take the kids back to my house when you are done, but meet me at the McDonald's. She never went back. The kids are still damaged from his emotional abuse.
The way this KIND Does Not Care is breathtaking! I truly thought he was kidding the first time he told me,"I Don't Care". I'd been so sick with covid, months, and he'd taken off - of course! I needed him, so... Outta here! To her. 13 days without food. He called. Finally. I told him I was too weak to get to the kitchen and was starving. Could he bring me something to eat? He said no. I told him I felt like I might die. Then he said IDC!! OMG!! I laughed. That was a mistake. Whatever. That did it for me...done.
Danish, have you ever done a video on the "mask of normality" the abused must wear in public to get through a normal day? My ex constantly accused me of being a narcissist and of wearing a covert mask at my job. The mess I was when he was being abusive was, to him, my "real self". TBH, at some point I didn't know who my real self was, I was just trying to get through one moment at a time. But it was important that I didn't let the customers at my job know how sad, confused, lost, and angry I was.
I think that sounds like he was projecting on you. It would be unprofessional from you if you let your personal problems affect your work, so no mask to be worn. It is professional behaviour. Hope things are better for you now.
@@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589; It would have been unprofessional for me *not* to wear a "mask" when at work because in my heart and mind I was sad, angry, confused, hurt...so yes, I had to look and act as though my life wasn't being turned upside down. Life is much better, no contact for nine months now.
I feel exactly the same, I work for myself with young people and they expect a level of cheer and positive behaviour. I'm often in tears on my way to work and struggling to keep my happy mask on, but it has to stay on and the effort of keeping it on is exhausting.
@@deborahbather7808 Why do you do the exactly same thing as a narc? Why do you pretend that you're ok, when you're clearly not? Why don't you take a brake and take care of yourself instead of pretending a false persona for other peopele's expactations? That's narcissm. Why do want to live that way?
@@xyrius I'm not going to explain myself to you other than this. I work with teenagers and young people. They are my customers. I have to be a certain way in order to do my job well. How is this narcissistic? I do my very best to self care but my job is my job and it's a role I have to do. I've changed my working patterns to create more time for me. Please do not judge unless you know me.
Every moment you mentioned of the mask falling brought back memories.. over 20 yrs worth.. I missed all the red flags 🚩.. trying to be a good friend , fiancé then spouse 🙈.. I’m nurturing myself back from the depts of confusion, brain fog, smearing and fake love!! Through knowledge, faith and awareness!!
Very thorough video Danish. Well done. I will just share two anecdotes here, but there are many more. When my Mother died, my ex husband did not want me to leave him and be there for my Mom, my Dad, my family, my responsibilities.... He said, "she's dead, she doesn't need you anymore, I need you here..." I was so sickened by him that I almost threw up! I told him, ""I'm leaving!" When my Dad was dying a month later, my ex made me feel so badly about leaving, that I did a few more things around the house, left a bit later, and missed saying goodbye to my Father. I carry that regret heavily. These Narcissists think only about themselves. We must hold strong boundaries at all times. Do not fall for their selfish manipulations. There is no limit to how low they will stoop.
I was at my mothers deathbed which was abroad and he kept calling me until I believed he was having a mental health crisis… I left before she died got home and he was fine as if nothing had happened
@@Grrrrrrr123 I went back to your comment and am so deeply saddened by what happened to you. Instead of being able to fully be there for you mother while she lay dying, that man made it about him and his supply crisis. He maneuvered you away from where you needed to be to pay attention to him. He was alright, but he tore you in two. So did my ex....We have to live with that torn self and the guilt. I hope others read these stories and wake up to the horrible selfishness of the narcissist before being played into their games, as we were. Peace.
You are correct on all, however the c-section hit close to me. My now ex husband decided that going to work was more important than being at the hospital when I had my 3rd child by c-section. Fortunately the baby & I had no complications. Thank you for all the educational videos!
I can relate with 3rd ,4th and 5th. He had showed his monster's side when something was not went as per his plan. First time he abused me n showed his rage n anger 20 days after my marriage,reason being I have caught his gf's texts and saved her number in my phone. I was a new bride ,instead of apologizing or confronting he yelled n screamed at me by saying "how dare you" ... I couldn't forget that horrible day ,those wounds are so imprinted on my head n heart .
Bang on. What a fantastic video. That hospital scenario you used is bang-on what happened to me except it was not a C-section, it was a very premature birth.
OMG! Exactly same happened to me. The amount of stress during pregnancy cannot even be explained. Every single day was a living hell. Never ever changed a diaper or feed the baby. Never held the baby until 1. Horrible devastating experience. Never ever knew any my son’s school teachers. When he passed away, my son said, “Why should I feel sad, he never ever did anything for me”. My son was 12 at that time. Only now I can understand through these videos. Thank God, he is dead and gone. No birthdays were celebrated. I stopped celebrating anyone’s birthday. At 50 my friends gave me a party and this is my first birthday ever celebrated because my Mom was worse than a Malignant Narc…..
@@jbrown2908 Yes and NO. Now dealing with my son’s NPD and ASD. From my Mom’s side and my husband’s too many mental illnesses including many many Narcs. My son is the 4th gen. Due to ASD I did lots of blood work. Many vitamins and minerals and many chemical reactions are messed up significantly. More and more research is needed on this subject and matter. For NPD, mostly they say that severe Trauma at young age causes the disorder. I think there are many vitamins and minerals are missing and their chemical reactions are different accompanied with Trauma could be the cause because not all children going through Trauma end up as NPD. I am very grateful for these videos. I am doing my research work in therapies available to help my child.
@@jbrown2908 Not only that many young or youth die due to suicide. NPD parents impose too much expectation and standards on children. When children can’t meet their expectations, they don’t support instead blame, shame, condemn, and punish them. Empath can’t handle. I remember my Mom pulling my hair and hitting my head on the wall. Many illness are caused by these Trauma too. I had bald head at 13. At 30 cancer and now adrenal fatigue. No doctors office screens for NPD victimizations in patients. We have just touched the tip of the issue. Pediatric care must screen for NPD, but the problem is if identified what to do with the children? Where to place the children? Can the child understand? If parents cannot be trusted, then who? The problem is within the close knit family… now what to do?
@@jbrown2908 Thanks for your encouragement. Unfortunately it is very difficult to identify NPD before any damage is caused. There are no drugs to control NPD. Therapy can help them 10-25%. They will remain still with NPD. Victims must identify that the longer they stay, the more they will lose. NPD destroys relationships, financial and health of the victims. These are the three areas they target. NPD constantly evaluates their targets if they are showing joy, peace, financial stability, good health, good relationships etc and slowly brick by brick they destroy. My Dad now just has my Narc Mom. No cash balance as she took all. She destroyed all of his friends and family relationships. He is 83. Not many victims understand hovering and love bombing so they stay. Yes Knowledge is Power. As I went no contact, my Mom love bombed and smear campaigned. Now I am on low to min contact to keep an eye on how my Dad is doing. I did few genetic tests and they are of no use. This technology has to improve a lot. But few vitamins and mineral tests can be done through bio med. I am a victim and had low B12, Mg, Fe, Ca, vit D and Zn. This caused severe fatigue. We victims deplete B12 and Mg a lot. Vit C is needed too. Sometimes regular PCP can do these tests. Good luck to you and stay safe,
I agree with you totally Danish. I was trapped in a dysfunctional marriage with a monstrous narcissist for twenty long years. I had gone through all this. When I was fully convinced that divorce was the only solution I took a conscious decision that I would somehow tolerate him till my son reached adulthood as I did not want this monster to use the little boy as a pawn. When my son became eighteen I moved out of the house along with him and have been living peacefully ever since. I also filed a case against him and took back my share of the joint property.
Hi Danish...Thank you for your work... Behind closed doors- terrifying... They have also lied all over the place and pre-set you up...And I mean emotionally, legally, etc... I have photos of the damage done to a room they used...more than once... I have spinal( serious) problems... They have now left the country...And I have some things I need to fix re my name... I am 60... I was helping this person...Male age 34.. Truly terrifying..and said if I do anything they will destroy me... Influenced a couple of my friends too...I am left with debt to one...I am on disability pension... No one would guess he was that way...Came across as caring... But did say to me he would do anything to get what he is after... $$ was main thing..loved it and spent it .. I said he had demonic problems. He said he had 3...He used to chat with them, but he did that only when others weren't going to see. The demons had him wrapped around their fingers..He thought they worked for him... They were getting their supply through him.He through others.... People, please take things seriously and be careful. Take photos of any tantrum evidence and any body damage....Please..
Goodness gracious me Danish!!! You covered absolutely every dynamic, spectrum of complete Narc Cant add anything more. Hope this video opens someone eyes, and give them clarity and courage and strength to cope and handle Life and make good decisions for their future. Thanks for video.well done.
My own experience is... 1) when you call them out on any mistake they made. 2) when you suddenly appear without them expecting you (more body language - but they look like scared child.) 3) when you have a fun conversation with anyone who isn't them (they hide away with angry look.) 4) if you walk past and ignore them (scared, angry look) 5) make joke about them Infront of others/covert joke about them Infront of others (angry look/hide away scared. 6) will suddenly walk away if conversation is in anyway negative about them or not about them.
The mask cracked when I said no😂. It came off fully, when I cancelled going to an event. However, the event was us going to a birthday party for one of my friends. A friend that I knew she was having an affair with behind mine and his second wife’s back. She wanted to get that hit of dupers delight euphoria at my expense again.
it was nine eleven that buildings went down and so did all my hopes and respect for the coldness I heard come out of the persons mouth I thought I loved , it was the nastiest thing . There where many other times he was cold towards me or others but that one just hit me hard on that day . I love everyone even if I don't like them and I was appalled he didn't care at all . I saw he not only was cold to me , but everyone in the world .
Sad thing is.... so many seem to be this way now. My experience! All desert you when your pet passing, no support, no call, nothing, months later, say hi, like nothing happened. You ask for a lift, they tell you to loitering outside tesco for 9 hours, might turn up, if they available? You have hospital appointment, they dissappear, don't even ask you how you got on. Like you don't exist. Yet, when they want some help, expect you to drop everything to be there for them. Drive like a nutter, knowing it upsets you, smirking! No consideration, no kindness, only gaslight, keep you on edge.
Much is spot on. My covert narc husband I have never seen drop his mask around his friends and family, etc, It's only with me, and some times has been in my daughter's presence. EVERYONE loves this guy for what a wonderful man he is. Think I'm lying./am the bad one as he tells them I am. It's mind blowing.
After 20 years seeing only minor slippage here and there I saw the mask slip unmistakably and irrevocably. A friend of his (a former friend of mine) tried to force his mouth on my mouth after I asked for a boundary that we only hug hello and not kiss. He agreed to that boundary. When he subsequently violated my request and tried to force his mouth on mine I had to shove this 'friend' off me to prevent contact. When I told my 'love' that I could no longer sit or socialize with this person, he went into a tailspin of hostility and self-pity because I'd ruined his friendship with the guy who accosted me. I was horrified and lost. I'm trying to find my way again.
Danish i can never listen to your video non stop as i m memorizing all the experiences as you are taking in between your video. Exactly same as my bad nightmares.. my years of blood tears
He ignored me and let people come over while I was sobbing over a dying friend. Treated it like a period. He blamed me for being suicidal the last time and didn’t offer to take me to the doctor. Snapped at me for not being better and spurning all his good advice. Left me sobbing so many times. He had money and I didn’t but forced me to lose almost everything to treat our cat with emergency surgery.
Yup! My narc / BPD husband discarded me right after we signed a new lease and I got fired! 😂 now i have a bankruptcy and eviction because of him but good riddance to bad trash!
When you mentioned about having a c section I got chills that's exactly what happened to me no emotional support at all he fakes being supportive and just let me fend for myself..he was there and bought food but it was like I was alone ..
At the wedding reception, the groom dissappear, goes off on a pub crawl. On the honeymoon, they again dissappear for whole time, arrived back day of return flight.
My ex narc would take off his mast all the time. I just never new what it was. As far as care and empathy it was nonexistent. He never took care of me when i was sick or after surgery. He helped me cook my meals but that was all. Actually he always wanted to socialize and I often told his I didn't want to go because every time we met some of our very rich friends he was always jealous and that would screw it up for me. He didn't care he always made it about himself. "I want, I need, you are not giving it to me the way I want it" but when I did the same, he discarded me. He never cared about my feelings and would hurt me all the time covering it up with love bombing. But in front of people he was always the best and the brightest, he would always let me start speaking on the subject just to interrupt me and to say that what I am saying is a lie or bs and continue himself. He did the same in the 4 way conference with our lawyers, but I didn't fall for it this time. But most of all his mask fell completely during and after discard, but his friends see him as such a victim even thought they know he is wrong. Still it's festinating!
@@rolandoscar1696 I call it the 'zombie stare'. It becomes glaringly obvious when their whole body goes white as a plain sheet, as if they have been caught with their hands in the cookie jar.
My best friend from high school passed away after a battle with mental illness. I found out the day before her funeral. We were both 38. My partner started a fight with me while I was in the shower, getting ready to go to the funeral. He told me that he never liked my friend and he was happy that she was dead. He never missed opportunity to pile on trauma.
Thanks so much for explaining this behavior. My cousin died and he said that he was going to the funeral with me, but on the day he made no move to accompany me. I said nothing and went by myself.
I have seen nearly all of your videos. Each one resonates more and more with me. Mr.Danish, what happens when a covert narcissist marries a grandiose narcissist? How does that equation work?
I was having a lot of problems, so I went to the endocrinologist. He ran the tests and said, "You are pre-diabetic. No more carbs for you". I went home and I cut out the carbs. It was a struggle for me, but I was doing my best so that I would not become diabetic. My husband, who did not have to change his diet or anything said, "I know I said, 'In sickness and in health, but I didn't mean THIS!!" Wow. I thought, "What if I had a REAL problem, like cancer? He would not want to be there for me."
Speaking of pregnancy The malignant narcissist I divorced not only was never there for me at any stages of my pregnancies, he made sure to ramp up his abuse even more and neglect, abandon me and my children.In labor he intentionally drove slower when I was pleading to drive faster to the hospital. When my parents passed ..each time he made sure to weaponize my emotions and feelings , against me and neglect and abandoning me at its worst. Every special occasion was destroyed by him so we never looked forward to any birthday, holiday , Mother’s Day , family gatherings,vacations, etc.. He’d go out of his way to sabotage every one of them .
When I had my first spinal surgery he wasn't there for me wasn't even there for me for my second one my mother had to come down and help me and stay with me for a whole week. I needed some medicine he took all day to bring me some.I was in pain all day.
All true, my wife want to visit most expensive hospital not most experienced doctor, she want to send my in expensive school but not in good school. She will not allow me to attend any my family celebrations, she will make drama just before the occasion. She pretend to be nice in public and very rude in private, if she wish something then it should be available same time. I got crazy
You are correct by saying that money moves. It's akin to exchanging energy, money is meant to be cultivated - practical saving & spending so it can take on a cyclical life of its own. Those who put a wedge in that cycle are essentially stopping the flow altogether, however, this is also linked to material instability & fear of loss. It is a tricky program of Lack, but if people were to treat it like a healthy cycle then they would enjoy themselves in life through a mini-vacation, treating themselves with something nice from time to time, treating another...etc When you die, you leave everything behind...so may as well enjoy what you have & share it with others when you can.
When I had my first heart attack June 1999, 2nd one 09/2022 and doctors could not get him to stay or answer phone broken left femur got home and had to help scrape floor so he could lay fake wood floors. Left me alone in wheel chair during the Texas ice storm no heat or power no phone service to keep the water flowing so pipes wouldn’t freeze while he disappeared for the day. He was upset when I left to stay at don’s house.
In grade 4 i had a sports accident in school which led to a concussion. My narc mom didn't bother to leave her teaching job to pick me up. The school eventually had to call an ambulance after many hours of waiting. I could write a book about being stood up by her in my worst moments. 2006 i moved 9000 km away and that's how I saved my life.
What you said in this episode is very true in my life.... Your videos helped me a lot.. Thanks 🙏🙏🙏 and blessing🙏🙏.. Eagerly waiting for the next one....
Exactly same happened with me when I was going through c section. He dint turn up at all. My mother took care of me. Also when my daughter was hospitalized,he refused to pay and dint turn up. It was only when everything was settled he came and offered the mediclaim for the rest of the bills.
Thank you for such clear and relatable information. I have struggled with having bad feelings about myself being in one of these relationships and so much self doubt. Your videos seem written about my experiences in almost every example. Now iam able to understand and try to free myself. Thank you so very much! Will keep listening as you have a wealth of info.
I told her my father had just been diagnosed with cancer, she said she couldn't support me as she had enough on her plate, she was moving home!! I wasn't asking for support just consideration.
They don't care about your reasons they don't like that you can have your own intellect and intelligence, when they feel ignored and common, behind closed doors with you when they feel have control on you and when no-one is watching wear mask with others,when you need most, special occasion like birthday they destroy it by using different kinda drama to get the attention to them
When I was ill, losing a lot of blood, weak and falling onto the bed, asked the ex narc to call my doctor to find out what to do. He refused to call, and didn’t even come to see what was wrong. Didn’t bring me a phone, either. Disgusting.
I saw his mask off actually quite often already in love bombing phase but then I didnt get it..that moments of coldness and detachment when we were out, that subdued anger when me or somebody didnt do what he expected, those subtle hurting remarks and many more...
After my studying karate for nearly twenty years my narc ex decided to come to my 5th degree test for the first time. He entered and sat down in front of where I was sparring and opened up a Financial Times ( a pink newspaper) and read. When I asked him later about why he came to watch and then sat there and read and he answered he didn’t want to make me nervous,
Thank you Danish Bashir for your valuable guidance through your videos for those who are confused about narscisst partners and helping break the trauma bond.... I am from Hyderabad, India and married to narscisst for 10 years and having three children.. I have been able to get divorced as per Shariah law.
I've lived with a devil for 25 years and got divorced now. Still, i watch these videos just to reassure that I'm right in taking this decision. Even though the divorce is done, he still turns my kids against me and my peace is lost. All these you mention in your vodeos are exactly what I've experienced.
Sooo true, my Nex abandoned me abused me while i was admitted for tumour operation. He planned his holidays with his 1st wife and kids to Europe while i was fighting for life last time i saw him while i had oxygen mask on me and when i asked him i need his moral support and want him with me he said no i cant be with u nd if i come i ll come for 2 hours. Imagine he was telling me all this while i had tumour surgery and was paralysed 😊
Hi hun. I feel your pain. With a narcissist, you can’t be good looking enough, intelligent enough, young enough, caring enough etc. the list goes on and on. The stress with living with one caused my auto immune disease. One year into the marriage and I fell unwell. The sad thing was no one could see, because he wore another mask for public and friend. In fact, many many times i was told that I had the faults and for the marriage to survive I had to make that change. I hope your recovered and in the best of health. I wish you every happiness for the future. Your a warrior lovely
Pregnancy was the moment I started seeing his true colours.I couldn’t pinpoint it then but I knew his behaviour was abnormal. The neglect,abandonment and emotional abuse I experienced straight after traumatic C-section is beyond explanation. I begged him and even offered to cover his wages to stay at home for a few weeks and care for me and the baby. Obviously,I was left with everything on my own. And yes,all bdays and holidays spoilt. I lost both of my parents over the last 3 years and even though I had already left him he still came with his abuse in those most painful moments.He stopped maintenance on the day of my dad’s funeral.on my mum’s funeral day he lodged a case against me in a family court. I don’t think a human being can stoop so low… hence,in my eyes he is not a human being but some evil creature.
Danish... While we was at counselling When he went for daughters school meeting he created scene there. I have sevear financial liability which l had as I blindly trusted him
I have been no contact with my sister for years. She has opted out of family gatherings, christmas, birthdays, etc. She hasn't seen our grandparents in at least 3 years. Grandma is in hospice and all of a sudden my sister is going there every day and offering to help with the funeral. What should I expect? I haven't been to see my grandma recently because it seems as though the narc sibling is there all the time now.
My narcissistic elder sister -for years she manipulated and projected over me that I can't have as a good boyfriend as she has(I was just not interested in anyone in reality ) and she is superior to me socially .I started believing it I am not beautiful..I don't deserve complements I don't deserve friends..and she manipulated her boyfriend through me..she projected me ideally to him..as my family is so great and you have to raise your standards and make more effort for me..and used me as mask several times..which was confusing to me as how she becomes nice to me in front of him...I saw her cheating on him so clearly..and when I used to point out she used to get so angry..you don't understand relationship u don't know anything..u are naive...when she was clearly cheating just cheating...she left him after 7 years very cruelly to marry a richer person. And within days she started posting we are best couple in universe. I feel sorry for her husband as he is a good person and he will have to go through this crap...he is under her narcissistic spell and would never believe me
Wen i was vry vry unwell many times,he left me n also my father passed away suddenly I really really needed him to b der for me but he wasn’t der one bit
When he ghosted me, I texted him, asked him where he was: was he dead, kidnapped, sick in hospital dying, in serious trouble with police, he got insulted and satire me "very heart felt kind of message", but I really thought he's in trouble. It turned out he's on vacation, but he didn't tell me. He wanted me to worry. If I worry I will look for him, and he get famous and important.
Mask fell off when i pulled her up on her disrespect she showed to my choice of restaurant we went to on our first date. It was all downhill after that. I think bcos I pointed our her error and did not let it sly caused her mask to crack. As a result, she never recovered from that "narcissistic injury". Almost like a king hit. She was an angel for 2 months before the first date. Very scary looking back at it tbh
When my gradmother died the next morning she sent me a message "What up you little filth?" She said it was just a joke. Really? hat "joke" in person would cost her life. That's how fucked up these creatures.
Sir, I'm Abhishekk from India and I have been victim of narcissistic abuse and still suffering staying in relation. Most of the people in India are suffering from it but has no ngo to save those victims and expose narcissistic people. I want to start to work on ground level. I don't know how and where to start. But I am confident that if you guide me just for once, I can start. I am waiting for your reply...
So true. They love to sabotage any of your celebrations. My ex narc would start to drink getting up filthy drunk making a fool of himself to humiliate me in front of family and friends. As a result, we'd have to leave early . Next morning he'd claim he had no memory of what happened with no accountability, responsibility or apology.
Thank you so much Danish ...you dont know how you have helped my soul... covert narcissism is like you always have these intuitive hits that something wrong is happening but you dont have anything to point your fingers at. Only one video of yours was enough to validate my 3 years.
Wow yes , I been struggling with the the thoughts that I have got it all wrong. Until watching tonight's video. I can totally recall all these behaviours. I feel I have gained total clarity surrounding covert narcissism. Thankyou so much Danish for your knowledge & wisdom & expertise ... I want to personally thankyou. Feeling humble and excited for the future.. I finally grasped the concept🙏🏼🙏🏼
When I asked for iced tea and not hot tea, he said no man could please me begin screaming walked out the door and left for 3 days I had no idea where you went. He refused to discuss it before leaving and he said that was the past to just drop it when he came back.
I can relate to them letting you down and spoiling your birthday,we had plans for weeks then on the actual day 'something had come up' and hes too busy to be with me.
Always not a priority on his list.
He lets his family be bigoted against me and treats me like I am doing what he does as he makes me shut up and not stick up for the minority groups they are bigots against.
My grandfather died and we were going the funeral. The funeral was a few hours drive away, so I went to my sister's house and I was going with them. There were kids too. Her narcissist sat in front of the TV and did not get ready to go until EVERYBODY else was ready. Then we had to wait for him. My sister was distraught and kept saying, "hurry up, we need to leave". He finally got in the car and said, "What's the big deal? The guy is already dead". We were all so teary and this was such a callous stab. When my stepfather died, that was sad too, and my sister's narcissist was there for that. He cried up such a storm that we had to comfort him. He only met my stepfather twice, whereas my stepfather RAISED us for many years. We had to control our own grieving to take care of him. She told me later that she was terrified to leave him. One day he pulled a gun on her and she ran out the door. She found a place to stay, but her teenage kids were still there. He was not going to hurt them. When their dad picked them up for their weekly visit, she told him, "Don't take the kids back to my house when you are done, but meet me at the McDonald's. She never went back. The kids are still damaged from his emotional abuse.
The way this KIND Does Not Care is breathtaking! I truly thought he was kidding the first time he told me,"I Don't Care".
I'd been so sick with covid, months, and he'd taken off - of course! I needed him, so...
Outta here! To her.
13 days without food. He called. Finally. I told him I was too weak to get to the kitchen and was starving. Could he bring me something to eat? He said no. I told him I felt like I might die. Then he said IDC!! OMG!! I laughed. That was a mistake. Whatever.
That did it for me...done.
Yes . The same story with me . That was what broke the camel's neck for me .
@@veryintelligentsmartperson the camel's neck! Lol! I like it!!
IDC? sorry?
Danish, have you ever done a video on the "mask of normality" the abused must wear in public to get through a normal day? My ex constantly accused me of being a narcissist and of wearing a covert mask at my job. The mess I was when he was being abusive was, to him, my "real self". TBH, at some point I didn't know who my real self was, I was just trying to get through one moment at a time. But it was important that I didn't let the customers at my job know how sad, confused, lost, and angry I was.
I think that sounds like he was projecting on you.
It would be unprofessional from you if you let your personal problems affect your work, so no mask to be worn. It is professional behaviour.
Hope things are better for you now.
@@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589; It would have been unprofessional for me *not* to wear a "mask" when at work because in my heart and mind I was sad, angry, confused, hurt...so yes, I had to look and act as though my life wasn't being turned upside down. Life is much better, no contact for nine months now.
I feel exactly the same, I work for myself with young people and they expect a level of cheer and positive behaviour. I'm often in tears on my way to work and struggling to keep my happy mask on, but it has to stay on and the effort of keeping it on is exhausting.
@@deborahbather7808 Why do you do the exactly same thing as a narc? Why do you pretend that you're ok, when you're clearly not? Why don't you take a brake and take care of yourself instead of pretending a false persona for other peopele's expactations? That's narcissm. Why do want to live that way?
@@xyrius I'm not going to explain myself to you other than this. I work with teenagers and young people. They are my customers. I have to be a certain way in order to do my job well. How is this narcissistic? I do my very best to self care but my job is my job and it's a role I have to do. I've changed my working patterns to create more time for me. Please do not judge unless you know me.
I had a flat tire once and he was in the car with me. The narc turned to me and said “I don’t know what you’re going to do”. Unbelievable
Every moment you mentioned of the mask falling brought back memories.. over 20 yrs worth.. I missed all the red flags 🚩.. trying to be a good friend , fiancé then spouse 🙈.. I’m nurturing myself back from the depts of confusion, brain fog, smearing and fake love!! Through knowledge, faith and awareness!!
Of all the videos I've watched, this one of yours is truly a gem, Danish! All points resonate.
Very thorough video Danish. Well done.
I will just share two anecdotes here, but there are many more. When my Mother died, my ex husband did not want me to leave him and be there for my Mom, my Dad, my family, my responsibilities.... He said, "she's dead, she doesn't need you anymore, I need you here..." I was so sickened by him that I almost threw up! I told him, ""I'm leaving!"
When my Dad was dying a month later, my ex made me feel so badly about leaving, that I did a few more things around the house, left a bit later, and missed saying goodbye to my Father. I carry that regret heavily.
These Narcissists think only about themselves. We must hold strong boundaries at all times. Do not fall for their selfish manipulations. There is no limit to how low they will stoop.
I was at my mothers deathbed which was abroad and he kept calling me until I believed he was having a mental health crisis… I left before she died got home and he was fine as if nothing had happened
@@Grrrrrrr123 Sounds far too familiar....
@@Grrrrrrr123 I went back to your comment and am so deeply saddened by what happened to you. Instead of being able to fully be there for you mother while she lay dying, that man made it about him and his supply crisis. He maneuvered you away from where you needed to be to pay attention to him.
He was alright, but he tore you in two. So did my ex....We have to live with that torn self and the guilt. I hope others read these stories and wake up to the horrible selfishness of the narcissist before being played into their games, as we were. Peace.
@@susanparker9877 it’s a terrible thing to go through 🙏
You are correct on all, however the c-section hit close to me. My now ex husband decided that going to work was more important than being at the hospital when I had my 3rd child by c-section. Fortunately the baby & I had no complications. Thank you for all the educational videos!
I'm so very saddened to hear this. It is like a giant betrayal.
I'm so sorry that was done to you. You didn't deserve that. I hope you found healing for your mind, body and soul.
Gone through all of these. Birth of my child, death of my father, all birthdays and vacations. You are so on point, Danish. 😢
I can relate with 3rd ,4th and 5th.
He had showed his monster's side when something was not went as per his plan.
First time he abused me n showed his rage n anger 20 days after my marriage,reason being I have caught his gf's texts and saved her number in my phone.
I was a new bride ,instead of apologizing or confronting he yelled n screamed at me by saying "how dare you" ... I couldn't forget that horrible day ,those wounds are so imprinted on my head n heart .
Traumatizing! So horrible..
Bang on. What a fantastic video. That hospital scenario you used is bang-on what happened to me except it was not a C-section, it was a very premature birth.
OMG!
Exactly same happened to me.
The amount of stress during pregnancy cannot even be explained.
Every single day was a living hell.
Never ever changed a diaper or feed the baby. Never held the baby until 1. Horrible devastating experience.
Never ever knew any my son’s school teachers.
When he passed away, my son said, “Why should I feel sad, he never ever did anything for me”. My son was 12 at that time.
Only now I can understand through these videos. Thank God, he is dead and gone.
No birthdays were celebrated. I stopped celebrating anyone’s birthday. At 50 my friends gave me a party and this is my first birthday ever celebrated because my Mom was worse than a Malignant Narc…..
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Yes and NO.
Now dealing with my son’s NPD and ASD.
From my Mom’s side and my husband’s too many mental illnesses including many many Narcs.
My son is the 4th gen.
Due to ASD I did lots of blood work.
Many vitamins and minerals and many chemical reactions are messed up significantly. More and more research is needed on this subject and matter.
For NPD, mostly they say that severe Trauma at young age causes the disorder. I think there are many vitamins and minerals are missing and their chemical reactions are different accompanied with Trauma could be the cause because not all children going through Trauma end up as NPD.
I am very grateful for these videos.
I am doing my research work in therapies available to help my child.
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Not only that many young or youth die due to suicide. NPD parents impose too much expectation and standards on children. When children can’t meet their expectations, they don’t support instead blame, shame, condemn, and punish them. Empath can’t handle.
I remember my Mom pulling my hair and hitting my head on the wall.
Many illness are caused by these Trauma too. I had bald head at 13. At 30 cancer and now adrenal fatigue.
No doctors office screens for NPD victimizations in patients.
We have just touched the tip of the issue.
Pediatric care must screen for NPD, but the problem is if identified what to do with the children? Where to place the children? Can the child understand?
If parents cannot be trusted, then who?
The problem is within the close knit family… now what to do?
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Thanks for your encouragement.
Unfortunately it is very difficult to identify NPD before any damage is caused. There are no drugs to control NPD. Therapy can help them 10-25%. They will remain still with NPD.
Victims must identify that the longer they stay, the more they will lose.
NPD destroys relationships, financial and health of the victims. These are the three areas they target. NPD constantly evaluates their targets if they are showing joy, peace, financial stability, good health, good relationships etc and slowly brick by brick they destroy.
My Dad now just has my Narc Mom. No cash balance as she took all. She destroyed all of his friends and family relationships. He is 83.
Not many victims understand hovering and love bombing so they stay. Yes Knowledge is Power. As I went no contact, my Mom love bombed and smear campaigned.
Now I am on low to min contact to keep an eye on how my Dad is doing.
I did few genetic tests and they are of no use. This technology has to improve a lot. But few vitamins and mineral tests can be done through bio med.
I am a victim and had low B12, Mg, Fe, Ca, vit D and Zn. This caused severe fatigue. We victims deplete B12 and Mg a lot. Vit C is needed too. Sometimes regular PCP can do these tests.
Good luck to you and stay safe,
I agree with you totally Danish. I was trapped in a dysfunctional marriage with a monstrous narcissist for twenty long years. I had gone through all this. When I was fully convinced that divorce was the only solution I took a conscious decision that I would somehow tolerate him till my son reached adulthood as I did not want this monster to use the little boy as a pawn. When my son became eighteen I moved out of the house along with him and have been living peacefully ever since. I also filed a case against him and took back my share of the joint property.
I hope that all of the positive feedback you have received from thousands of your viewers has helped to heal your soul.
Hi Danish...Thank you for your work...
Behind closed doors- terrifying...
They have also lied all over the place and pre-set you up...And I mean emotionally, legally, etc...
I have photos of the damage done to a room they used...more than once...
I have spinal( serious) problems...
They have now left the country...And I have some things I need to fix re my name...
I am 60...
I was helping this person...Male age 34..
Truly terrifying..and said if I do anything they will destroy me...
Influenced a couple of my friends too...I am left with debt to one...I am on disability pension...
No one would guess he was that way...Came across as caring...
But did say to me he would do anything to get what he is after...
$$ was main thing..loved it and spent it ..
I said he had demonic problems. He said he had 3...He used to chat with them, but he did that only when others weren't going to see.
The demons had him wrapped around their fingers..He thought they worked for him...
They were getting their supply through him.He through others....
People, please take things seriously and be careful.
Take photos of any tantrum evidence and any body damage....Please..
Goodness gracious me Danish!!! You covered absolutely every dynamic, spectrum of complete Narc
Cant add anything more. Hope this video opens someone eyes, and give them clarity and courage and strength to cope and handle
Life and make good decisions for their future. Thanks for video.well done.
My own experience is...
1) when you call them out on any mistake they made.
2) when you suddenly appear without them expecting you (more body language - but they look like scared child.)
3) when you have a fun conversation with anyone who isn't them (they hide away with angry look.)
4) if you walk past and ignore them (scared, angry look)
5) make joke about them Infront of others/covert joke about them Infront of others (angry look/hide away scared.
6) will suddenly walk away if conversation is in anyway negative about them or not about them.
The mask cracked when I said no😂. It came off fully, when I cancelled going to an event. However, the event was us going to a birthday party for one of my friends. A friend that I knew she was having an affair with behind mine and his second wife’s back. She wanted to get that hit of dupers delight euphoria at my expense again.
Wow that’s super nasty 😮
I would have cancelled too.
100 percent correct Danish
it was nine eleven that buildings went down and so did all my hopes and respect for the coldness I heard come out of the persons mouth I thought I loved , it was the nastiest thing . There where many other times he was cold towards me or others but that one just hit me hard on that day . I love everyone even if I don't like them and I was appalled he didn't care at all . I saw he not only was cold to me , but everyone in the world .
My de-masking moment
Thanks Danish!
Sad thing is.... so many seem to be this way now.
My experience! All desert you when your pet passing, no support, no call, nothing, months later, say hi, like nothing happened.
You ask for a lift, they tell you to loitering outside tesco for 9 hours, might turn up, if they available?
You have hospital appointment, they dissappear, don't even ask you how you got on.
Like you don't exist.
Yet, when they want some help, expect you to drop everything to be there for them.
Drive like a nutter, knowing it upsets you, smirking! No consideration, no kindness, only gaslight, keep you on edge.
Bad beyond description!
Yes and so accurate
Much is spot on. My covert narc husband I have never seen drop his mask around his friends and family, etc, It's only with me, and some times has been in my daughter's presence. EVERYONE loves this guy for what a wonderful man he is. Think I'm lying./am the bad one as he tells them I am. It's mind blowing.
After 20 years seeing only minor slippage here and there I saw the mask slip unmistakably and irrevocably. A friend of his (a former friend of mine) tried to force his mouth on my mouth after I asked for a boundary that we only hug hello and not kiss. He agreed to that boundary. When he subsequently violated my request and tried to force his mouth on mine I had to shove this 'friend' off me to prevent contact. When I told my 'love' that I could no longer sit or socialize with this person, he went into a tailspin of hostility and self-pity because I'd ruined his friendship with the guy who accosted me. I was horrified and lost. I'm trying to find my way again.
He cared only about appearances, not you. How horrible.
@@susanparker9877 That's the reality, I'm afraid. But once you know it, you can get free of it. Thanks and best wishes to you.
Danish i can never listen to your video non stop as i m memorizing all the experiences as you are taking in between your video. Exactly same as my bad nightmares.. my years of blood tears
He ignored me and let people come over while I was sobbing over a dying friend. Treated it like a period.
He blamed me for being suicidal the last time and didn’t offer to take me to the doctor. Snapped at me for not being better and spurning all his good advice. Left me sobbing so many times.
He had money and I didn’t but forced me to lose almost everything to treat our cat with emergency surgery.
He has no empathy for myself or his child. He just doesn't care. It's really crazy how evil people can be.
@Smokey Mcb way ahead of you. It will be 2 years in June since I've been away.
Yup! My narc / BPD husband discarded me right after we signed a new lease and I got fired! 😂 now i have a bankruptcy and eviction because of him but good riddance to bad trash!
I have never E.V.E.R. heard anything so true in my life❗❗❗❗❗
When you mentioned about having a c section I got chills that's exactly what happened to me no emotional support at all he fakes being supportive and just let me fend for myself..he was there and bought food but it was like I was alone ..
At the wedding reception, the groom dissappear, goes off on a pub crawl.
On the honeymoon, they again dissappear for whole time, arrived back day of return flight.
so sad to hear that...
My ex narc would take off his mast all the time. I just never new what it was. As far as care and empathy it was nonexistent. He never took care of me when i was sick or after surgery. He helped me cook my meals but that was all. Actually he always wanted to socialize and I often told his I didn't want to go because every time we met some of our very rich friends he was always jealous and that would screw it up for me. He didn't care he always made it about himself. "I want, I need, you are not giving it to me the way I want it" but when I did the same, he discarded me. He never cared about my feelings and would hurt me all the time covering it up with love bombing. But in front of people he was always the best and the brightest, he would always let me start speaking on the subject just to interrupt me and to say that what I am saying is a lie or bs and continue himself. He did the same in the 4 way conference with our lawyers, but I didn't fall for it this time. But most of all his mask fell completely during and after discard, but his friends see him as such a victim even thought they know he is wrong. Still it's festinating!
I called these Freudian Slips when he did it. Their voice changes.
And their eyes go black.
@@rolandoscar1696 I call it the 'zombie stare'. It becomes glaringly obvious when their whole body goes white as a plain sheet, as if they have been caught with their hands in the cookie jar.
@@simonpegg1196 Yes, l remember my dad always going white with rage. Not red.
My best friend from high school passed away after a battle with mental illness. I found out the day before her funeral. We were both 38. My partner started a fight with me while I was in the shower, getting ready to go to the funeral. He told me that he never liked my friend and he was happy that she was dead. He never missed opportunity to pile on trauma.
Accurate 100%
Thanks so much for explaining this behavior. My cousin died and he said that he was going to the funeral with me, but on the day he made no move to accompany me. I said nothing and went by myself.
They don't care, they are the great pretenders
I have seen nearly all of your videos. Each one resonates more and more with me. Mr.Danish, what happens when a covert narcissist marries a grandiose narcissist? How does that equation work?
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I was having a lot of problems, so I went to the endocrinologist. He ran the tests and said, "You are pre-diabetic. No more carbs for you". I went home and I cut out the carbs. It was a struggle for me, but I was doing my best so that I would not become diabetic. My husband, who did not have to change his diet or anything said, "I know I said, 'In sickness and in health, but I didn't mean THIS!!" Wow. I thought, "What if I had a REAL problem, like cancer? He would not want to be there for me."
Speaking of pregnancy
The malignant narcissist I divorced not only was never there for me at any stages of my pregnancies, he made sure to ramp up his abuse even more and neglect, abandon me and my children.In labor he intentionally drove slower when I was pleading to drive faster to the hospital.
When my parents passed ..each time he made sure to weaponize my emotions and feelings , against me and neglect and abandoning me at its worst.
Every special occasion was destroyed by him so we never looked forward to any birthday, holiday , Mother’s Day , family gatherings,vacations, etc..
He’d go out of his way to sabotage every one of them .
When I had my first spinal surgery he wasn't there for me wasn't even there for me for my second one my mother had to come down and help me and stay with me for a whole week. I needed some medicine he took all day to bring me some.I was in pain all day.
Excellent video!
All true, my wife want to visit most expensive hospital not most experienced doctor, she want to send my in expensive school but not in good school. She will not allow me to attend any my family celebrations, she will make drama just before the occasion. She pretend to be nice in public and very rude in private, if she wish something then it should be available same time. I got crazy
Your wife is a street angel. House devil. Secret life. Run. Save yourself.
Thank you for these videos.
Doing yoga and listening to this. Validation is relaxing af
You are correct by saying that money moves. It's akin to exchanging energy, money is meant to be cultivated - practical saving & spending so it can take on a cyclical life of its own. Those who put a wedge in that cycle are essentially stopping the flow altogether, however, this is also linked to material instability & fear of loss. It is a tricky program of Lack, but if people were to treat it like a healthy cycle then they would enjoy themselves in life through a mini-vacation, treating themselves with something nice from time to time, treating another...etc
When you die, you leave everything behind...so may as well enjoy what you have & share it with others when you can.
When I had my first heart attack June 1999, 2nd one 09/2022 and doctors could not get him to stay or answer phone broken left femur got home and had to help scrape floor so he could lay fake wood floors. Left me alone in wheel chair during the Texas ice storm no heat or power no phone service to keep the water flowing so pipes wouldn’t freeze while he disappeared for the day. He was upset when I left to stay at don’s house.
In grade 4 i had a sports accident in school which led to a concussion. My narc mom didn't bother to leave her teaching job to pick me up. The school eventually had to call an ambulance after many hours of waiting. I could write a book about being stood up by her in my worst moments. 2006 i moved 9000 km away and that's how I saved my life.
What you said in this episode is very true in my life.... Your videos helped me a lot.. Thanks 🙏🙏🙏 and blessing🙏🙏.. Eagerly waiting for the next one....
Exactly same happened with me when I was going through c section. He dint turn up at all. My mother took care of me.
Also when my daughter was hospitalized,he refused to pay and dint turn up. It was only when everything was settled he came and offered the mediclaim for the rest of the bills.
❤ great video as always
Thank you for such clear and relatable information. I have struggled with having bad feelings about myself being in one of these relationships and so much self doubt. Your videos seem written about my experiences in almost every example. Now iam able to understand and try to free myself. Thank you so very much! Will keep listening as you have a wealth of info.
I told her my father had just been diagnosed with cancer, she said she couldn't support me as she had enough on her plate, she was moving home!! I wasn't asking for support just consideration.
They don't care about your reasons they don't like that you can have your own intellect and intelligence, when they feel ignored and common, behind closed doors with you when they feel have control on you and when no-one is watching wear mask with others,when you need most, special occasion like birthday they destroy it by using different kinda drama to get the attention to them
Ohh my God this is sooooo true!!
You are saying my heart voice exactly
When I was ill, losing a lot of blood, weak and falling onto the bed, asked the ex narc to call my doctor to find out what to do. He refused to call, and didn’t even come to see what was wrong. Didn’t bring me a phone, either. Disgusting.
I saw his mask off actually quite often already in love bombing phase but then I didnt get it..that moments of coldness and detachment when we were out, that subdued anger when me or somebody didnt do what he expected, those subtle hurting remarks and many more...
Your examples are Spot on! Thank you
After my studying karate for nearly twenty years my narc ex decided to come to my 5th degree test for the first time. He entered and sat down in front of where I was sparring and opened up a Financial Times ( a pink newspaper) and read. When I asked him later about why he came to watch and then sat there and read and he answered he didn’t want to make me nervous,
Thank you Danish Bashir for your valuable guidance through your videos for those who are confused about narscisst partners and helping break the trauma bond.... I am from Hyderabad, India and married to narscisst for 10 years and having three children..
I have been able to get divorced as per Shariah law.
Point no1 coincided with my narc husband when my daughter was born by c section.i am with him for 30 years .still trying to leave him
True in my case when my father passed away
I've lived with a devil for 25 years and got divorced now. Still, i watch these videos just to reassure that I'm right in taking this decision. Even though the divorce is done, he still turns my kids against me and my peace is lost. All these you mention in your vodeos are exactly what I've experienced.
Sooo true, my Nex abandoned me abused me while i was admitted for tumour operation. He planned his holidays with his 1st wife and kids to Europe while i was fighting for life last time i saw him while i had oxygen mask on me and when i asked him i need his moral support and want him with me he said no i cant be with u nd if i come i ll come for 2 hours. Imagine he was telling me all this while i had tumour surgery and was paralysed 😊
Hi hun. I feel your pain. With a narcissist, you can’t be good looking enough, intelligent enough, young enough, caring enough etc. the list goes on and on. The stress with living with one caused my auto immune disease. One year into the marriage and I fell unwell. The sad thing was no one could see, because he wore another mask for public and friend. In fact, many many times i was told that I had the faults and for the marriage to survive I had to make that change. I hope your recovered and in the best of health. I wish you every happiness for the future. Your a warrior lovely
I'm here for it all.
In public 2 weeks ago, his mask fell. Screaming at me to where someone called the police. I walked away and holding strong since.
Pregnancy was the moment I started seeing his true colours.I couldn’t pinpoint it then but I knew his behaviour was abnormal. The neglect,abandonment and emotional abuse I experienced straight after traumatic C-section is beyond explanation. I begged him and even offered to cover his wages to stay at home for a few weeks and care for me and the baby. Obviously,I was left with everything on my own. And yes,all bdays and holidays spoilt. I lost both of my parents over the last 3 years and even though I had already left him he still came with his abuse in those most painful moments.He stopped maintenance on the day of my dad’s funeral.on my mum’s funeral day he lodged a case against me in a family court. I don’t think a human being can stoop so low… hence,in my eyes he is not a human being but some evil creature.
Thank you
Thank you🎉
Right on 😢
Right, right you are. 😉👍♥️
During devaluation and discard
Ur so correct
My NEX left my daughter and I without a place to live. Literally homeless on the streets. And he just left and went on his Merry MF way.
I was not sure about him. Now I am.
Danish...
While we was at counselling
When he went for daughters school meeting he created scene there.
I have sevear financial liability which l had as I blindly trusted him
I have been no contact with my sister for years. She has opted out of family gatherings, christmas, birthdays, etc. She hasn't seen our grandparents in at least 3 years. Grandma is in hospice and all of a sudden my sister is going there every day and offering to help with the funeral. What should I expect? I haven't been to see my grandma recently because it seems as though the narc sibling is there all the time now.
My narcissistic elder sister -for years she manipulated and projected over me that I can't have as a good boyfriend as she has(I was just not interested in anyone in reality ) and she is superior to me socially .I started believing it I am not beautiful..I don't deserve complements I don't deserve friends..and she manipulated her boyfriend through me..she projected me ideally to him..as my family is so great and you have to raise your standards and make more effort for me..and used me as mask several times..which was confusing to me as how she becomes nice to me in front of him...I saw her cheating on him so clearly..and when I used to point out she used to get so angry..you don't understand relationship u don't know anything..u are naive...when she was clearly cheating just cheating...she left him after 7 years very cruelly to marry a richer person. And within days she started posting we are best couple in universe. I feel sorry for her husband as he is a good person and he will have to go through this crap...he is under her narcissistic spell and would never believe me
Wen i was vry vry unwell many times,he left me n also my father passed away suddenly I really really needed him to b der for me but he wasn’t der one bit
When he ghosted me, I texted him, asked him where he was: was he dead, kidnapped, sick in hospital dying, in serious trouble with police,
he got insulted and satire me "very heart felt kind of message", but I really thought he's in trouble.
It turned out he's on vacation, but he didn't tell me. He wanted me to worry. If I worry I will look for him, and he get famous and important.
Mask fell off when i pulled her up on her disrespect she showed to my choice of restaurant we went to on our first date. It was all downhill after that. I think bcos I pointed our her error and did not let it sly caused her mask to crack. As a result, she never recovered from that "narcissistic injury". Almost like a king hit. She was an angel for 2 months before the first date. Very scary looking back at it tbh
When my gradmother died the next morning she sent me a message "What up you little filth?" She said it was just a joke. Really? hat "joke" in person would cost her life. That's how fucked up these creatures.
Sir, I'm Abhishekk from India and I have been victim of narcissistic abuse and still suffering staying in relation. Most of the people in India are suffering from it but has no ngo to save those victims and expose narcissistic people. I want to start to work on ground level. I don't know how and where to start. But I am confident that if you guide me just for once, I can start. I am waiting for your reply...
When I got sick once, he came to the hospital to check up on me, but I was getting allergy shots for him. So if you behave, they will be there for you
They are very cruel, they enjoy cruelty
So true
Do everyone has some narcissistic traits???
I was suffocating
It is so painful to hear this because that exactly what I went through. Now he is my Ex
My mother died and I was estranged from my father. The narc ex said “thats why you don’t have parents.”
14 months after my son passed away my husband cheated on me....
It happened to me two times 😢😢 when I gave birth to my boys
They are on BIG power trips but are really very SMALL people!
Narcissist can be nice if you are doing what they want you to do.
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