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When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
I believe they all say the same things because it is the devil placing these thoughts in their minds with accompanying feelings. Most people have no defenses against "feelings." They also claim everyone else doesn't like you too, you chase all your friends away." When the truth is they are working at gossiping about you so your friends will not like you anymore.
Of course they did. There’s nothing new under the sun and the Bible warns us about these type of people. If their heart is set on themselves, they will never change
@@danielbotello4753 dang man learning all this is crazy ...thiught I was the only one ....when I'd confront her lovingly she'd just say, " I'm not talking about that now "....7 years later ....nothing ....but I've been out for awhile now....I'm sorry brother I know its brutal beyond belief
My ex-husband narc called me an angry black women for having boundaries. He was also mad because I filed for the divorce 91 days into our marriage when I realized he was a Christian covert narcissist. Chris you are right about everything you said in this video.
@stever507 , They have Jezebel, Leviathan, Python spirits. Yes, monitoring spirits as well, in many of them. Empowered by the enemy. But they know what they're doing & are charged up by the evil they do. They constantly need to extract "supply" (from their victims).
They spin it on you and say you are the problem.they pick at words and say u need tow top saying when it’s about what they mess up. It’s always u u are crazy you are mean and they are wonderful to you
What I heard from my ex’s mouth was “ it’s my way or the highway “ and it was truly meant. My family of origin and friends beliefs are that I owe them, and if I don’t share that belief, then I don’t exist. I never had the chance to set boundaries, I’m just ignored. Now I suffer from bitterness and resentment for not realizing I was used as a indentured servant to everyone.
1. She doesn’t get me 2. She wasn’t supportive 3. She’s a @!$/He’s just a jerk 4. They certainly don’t care what I’m dealing with 5. Whatever (they write you off quickly) 6. What the F@$! Is wrong with her 7. What can I do to get them back? 8. Why do I always pick the crazy ones! 9. After all I did for her, this is how she treats me! 10. They have trust issues/they are just too sensitive 11. What kind of person gives up on someone so easily?
The narcissts I know triangulatie, attack, divide and conquer. All the horrible things they do to you & others…. You can expect the script to be flipped, you did all those horrible things now & they are the victims trying to help everyone. So, they are hero’s now.
"They confuse forgiveness with trust" no matter how many times you previously forgave them and trusted them they will tell you you are unforgiving and that you expect them to be perfect when all you want is for them to stop hurting you.
I don't think so. They are having too much fun at the expense of others. They enjoy that they can hurt other people. It's a joy to them. If someone doesn't do their bidding, they will bawl and squall at the top of their lungs in self pity, but they love the attention that they get from that, so even that is a win for them.
@@bonnieblood3983 Sooner or later they'll tell on themselves and people will figure them. When you lie eventually you won't be able to keep your story straight. You tell one person one thing and another person something totally different.
@@jodizellmer994 Here's the thing that gets me, other people still tell me they like the narcissist. He's a liar, cheat, pervert, and several other things that rank real high in scum behavior, yet people say they know, but he was always nice to them. He was kind, helpful, etc..., maybe I should have tried harder.🤦🏻 They still welcome him into their homes, invite him for family parties, etc..., I was almost destroyed by this thing, yet people protect him, after all, I was probably too much to deal with. Poor guy, his wife was always depressed. You know, without him in my life, I am never depressed. When he was in my life, I was always depressed. I have dropped a lot of people. I am not going to associate with anyone who tries to tell me how much they like him, when truly, it's all a facade that they are seeing.
My late ex was a narcissist. He always made me feel worthless. I couldn't have the things for myself or our children. He controlled the money. It was my fault if he couldn't sell anything. (Salesman for a window company) I gave my all, yet it wasn't good enough. I felt that when he got Parkinsons, he was being punished for his vanity. He had a hard time believing he had Parkinsons. He went downhill fast. Family attributed that it was my fault he had it. He died on the worst possible scenario, and nobody believed me. I'm still trying to get my mind straight after 32 years of abuse.
Soo unusually true...its a long 36 yrs of tortures My narc husband was sooo sick with an autoimmune condition at the age of 45 He suddenly changed to his old yrs when kids were around 10yrs ...more narc ways n alcoholic abuses I felt he was demonic...cos he got better n we (wife n kids got autoimmune conditions)😮 We never harmed or hurt him ...but took care of him n made him stronger But was it worth it ?..cos he doesnt want to care for us ....n said he is waiting for our death ...even covid failed to harm us😮 He IS a true narc😢
My "mother" was the WORST type of narc: the COVERT NARC. She played the victim role well and nothing my father or I did was ever good enough. She coveted luxurious things: automobiles, furs and jewelry and got them for herself. My dad and I existed to serve the "queen". After dad died, I was accosted by "mom" and her extended crime "family". They all got together like mob bosses (who all hate each other) and caused me the most horrible and cruel harm. GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS! DON'T EVER CONTACT OR VISIT THEM OR YOU WILL BE SORRY!!!!!
My soon to be ex is narcissist he just wanted to string me along never wanted to work it out. He always called me a petulant child and I don't act like an adult. This so true and so sad. Trying take our boys from me and all ever want was to be a mom he knows that. God is holding my worry and stress and giving it to Him I love Jesus Christ and he saved me!
#7 The narcs in my life don't WANT me back because I called them out. They blocked me and gave me silent treatment. The last thing they want is me back. Saves me having 'the hoover'.....
They love bombed you in the dating stage and once married they devalued you and begin to discard you. Deceptive web of ignorance.. They have no desire to be married, extremely negative.
Wow That is exactly what I went through Praise God for his hand stretched out and pulling me out God delivered me and I am forever greatful I couldn't imagine if I never got away it would have been so much tormoil Thank u for this vid I appreciate u ❤️
Kris , i agree with the majority of the things you said here. Not all and here is why. I am a Empath and I know I am. I am extremely giving and loving. I have exhausted myself in this past relationship, mentally , physically, emotionally, financially. Huge life lesson. However, I often use that phrase "whatever" when I am fed up. I am not a narcissist, but trust me, when I have had enough, I have had enough and I can sometimes use phrases that seem narcisstic but I am not. I do every day self introspection and studied both empath and nassistic behaviors. I just wanted to clarify this.
ogh yes and when they cheat they blame you for their sins... no apology and just abuse, mental abusers,. low self esteem but high ego .. a real evil person like three siblings i know in my dead husbands family all three had demons in their heads,
Funny fact : they deny absolutely everything in their life & when you deny them the opportunity to come back into your life - it literally throws them into a full pledge tizzy !
Man this video resonated with me. He expects me to take him back and give him chance after chance. He once told me he wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire...
I dated my bosses daughter, because my boss is an amazing Christian woman, so I figured her daughter must be similar. I'll tell ya, I'm never going to date based on hopes and dreams again!! After her daughter broke up with me over a gross misunderstanding, I was left entirely confused. RUclips must have heard me telling someone about it (through my phone), because it recommended a vid of Kris Reece talking about covert narcissists later the same week. I'm luckier than most, I only had to deal with 60 days of abuse, instead of a divorce after weeks or years. Everything Kris said, explained my ex to perfection. I know what to do differently in the future, and what to look for. My boss didn't introduce us. She's told me since that she didn't really want us to get involved with each other. She promised me from the start that whatever happened, it wouldn't affect my job, so far that's been true. Based on that, I think she knows her daughter has a problem. While her daughter had nothing but negative things to say about me, I did nothing less than focus on all the good things we had. And her mom noticed that. Her daughter had me so twisted and confused I actually started to consider that I was the real source of the problem. Over the last few months, between Kris, prayer, Bible reading and study, and other sources of advice, I understand that my ex-girlfriend was (to a high degree of likelihood) a covert narcissist. I'll pray for her until I die. I used to be like her years ago, but Jesus changed my life forever. My hope is always for those who are lost to realize how and why they need Jesus. Especially the ones who think they're Christians and may not be.
Thank you. This is so helpful in the recovery process as even counselor's don't seem to fully understand narcissists. I left after 28 years of marriage and absolutely everything you have said is true.
Thank you so much for your word, it helps me to fix myself where I'm doing wrong. And I pray to God to fix me first and show me what I'm doing wrong. 🙏📖🕊️
Are meant to be kept and respected out of love..boundaries are for both people for a healthy relationship..not one-sided..one taking and withholding isn't Christ like...let God not give you mercy and grace you don't deserve..there needs to be deliverance and prayer to these people! We need to start casting out them ourselves! I pray that those in a marriage..pray pray without ceasing..and all others see red flags..run..in the family setting..only deal on your terms and reasonable all else..dust your feet..no more wasted parasite energy...
When I finally felt so low, I felt that God was extending grace to me and was sheltering me in the palm of his hand so I could grow stronger. He helped me find peace inside and stilled my spirit to not respond to the victimization. Finally, I was able to find a couselor who helped me end my marriage and start over. Life is so much better now.
Now that my mother is entering the middle stages of dementia, shes even more nasty and cruel to me. I have been trapped into being her caregiver, and at 53, I have my own health issues. She doesn't care, she won't let me go.
😢I am so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Both my son and I have many autoimmune issues, I believe brought on by my covert narcissist mother and ex husband. My father passed away from Parkinson’s in which my mother made his life even more torture. Endless complaining at him as though he could help having Parkinson’s!Unfortunately I never could get my dad to get away from her and then he was doomed. I’m an only child and my mom says you have to take care of me. I’m staying away but the imbedded guilt is still hard. For my son and I’s sanity we have to keep away So just be careful don’t let her beat you down. I’m 56 so I’ve been dancing the dance like you for a long time. We gotta step away ❤✝️🙏😇
😢😢that’s exactly my situation with my father right now! I’m determined to get out and be independent I’m the scapegoat so I’m treated the worst it’s only going to get worse as the aging process sets in I was sabotaged and made into being a caretaker / servant it’s disgusting 🤢
@@Not-the-usual-BS His scapegoat!! A true clear reason to leave that role once for all...fake back like him telling your health doesn't permit to do anything more..talk to a professionnal who can listen to you and your feelings needs to not get sick because of him!! Make hugh distances.... Take care...🕊
Dementia is a bad one to be around. I kept house for Dementia patients. They're scarry. What's happening is their brain is shrinking. It's very painful for them to go through. Prayers for you and your strength to overcome your obstacles.
I’m dealing with almost all on the list, but it baffles me because I had to think back like wow. I don’t think I’ve ever heard him say sorry to me or anyone in the 8 years we’ve been together
I supported financially my narcissistic brother while he was in prison. He didn't even let a PEEP out of who he really still was while incarcerated! Must be some code inside to never rock the boat that is going to save you! When he came out I let him live on our property for about 5 months. It was a rocky sea. And I did think he owed me for helping him all those years and thousands of dollars. Even though he ALWAYS says how grateful he will always be to us. I know he's grateful because a narc will let you do things for them ALL DAY LONG!! He did treat me like crap especially when he got back to smoking weed. It was hell.
This girl whom I have a love/hate relationship with is in India for a series of surgeries. After each surgery she'd go out touring around the country and partying. Since she asked a group of us to pray for her I felt compelled to tell her to calm it down and let her body heal. She managed to cause some internal injury which needed additional surgery. Since I am so dumb and can't see the wisdom of her ways she de-listed me on fb. Now I have no idea what her condition is. She knows everything, so of course I'm wrong.
New to your channel 🎉 thank you for sharing on a Faith Base Side of this issue. To God be the Glory I went from broken to healing on my way becoming whole again. In the Mighty and Matchless name of Jesus 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@Kris_Reece please do. My daughter is an empath and she got sucked in by a covert narcissist and he’s ruined her mental and physical health. She’s the mom of 3 small children and doesn’t know how to navigate leaving because she doesn’t want him having anything to do with the children. He already doesn’t, but you know the courts will say they have to have 50/50 custody. She is trying to protect the children at her expense.
Hives! I felt so sorry for her when I first saw the hives and she told me no one has ever taken her serious. I'm the first one to do so. Now everytime I leave, she gets sick and boom I'm back because I feel sorry for her. If I disagree with her rudeness, she physically treats me differently and when I say that's not okay especially if you're the one who hurt me, 10mins later, headaches into hives. I hate it. I hate myself and I'm the only idiot stuck here as if I have invisible chains around me... Everytime I pray, she takes me 10 steps back and now I have a lukewarm relationship with Jesus and physically in a state of emergency due to the adrenal failure.
REBUKE that demon in the name of Jesus!” in the name of Jesus Christ , our Lord and savior , I rebuke thee “. you can say this in your head . it doesn’t have to be out loud . It works ! God Bless .
I feel that is hard to tell who the narcissist is in some relationships. I feel that no matter how I feel about something it either isn’t a good enough apology or if I sit and take the accusations silently I am still damned no matter what I do! There is never any clear abuse that I am guilty of. And perceptions of my behaviour are ABSOLUTELY wrong (and I am not lying to myself). This is about my daughter who as soon as she could walked acted like the cuckoo in the nest barging in front of her shy elder brother and trying to win at everything in sports (her motto was “I win!”). She says I favoured my son whereas I feel she constantly demanded special treatment. She is highly intelligent but seems to lack empathy (or shuts out overly empathic feelings to protect herself). I really believe calling every difficult person a narcissist is a real cop out! It is creating more victim mentality that I have ever seen in my lifetime. When a person doesn’t get what they want (all the time) they throw that epithet at the withholder(s) and accuse them of being a bully when quite the reverse is true! Relationship dynamics are far more complicated that a narcissist label for all the problems in it!
I agree. There is often a backstory where one HAS been given up on too early in the family. The toxicity centers around improper concern for a child. My older sister probably considers me the narcissist, and i agree i check some of the boxes, but i came by it honestly! My older sis was very difficult, not a loving sis, ignored me and told her friends to ignore he, waa rude as hell to my parents, my dad was physical with her but she and my shallow materialistic mother goaded him mercilessly, i would bite my arm to keep from screaming while fighting went on, even when my sister left at 18. I bought my parents a self help book at age 10, was a latch key kid, alone a lot, watched tv all summer, etc. Stands to reason i would become an insecure overthinker excusing everyones behaviour yet no one trying to understand mine. No communication anywhere.
You are killing me softly with your song because so much of what you described here, was a part of my childhood upbringing too. I am also an insecure over thinker who excuses unacceptable behavior. But, no longer Frodo! I am working on me; day by day.
If anyone with a good heart and years of trying to fix a narcissist, knows Dr. Reece is speaking the truth. Maybe 40% applies to your situation. But 80% applies to mine. I love my wife enough to never personally attack her, but I just wish there were better ways of helping people that are like this. There have been times where she seemed to genuinely acknowledge an issue, but only to repeat the same behavior a day later. It seems extremely difficult for them to acknowledge any sort of problem. Then they accuse of blaming them, when clearly the “ink is all over there hands”. I try to take accountability for my part in an argument for example, yet that doesn’t matter to a narcissist. They will give such a partial apology, sometimes apologizing for something that was barely an issue, while you are left deeply hurt by the actually problem like name calling or other hurtful acts.
You had me at #1! I hear that all the time! And his name of choice for me was "c*nt". "B*tch" comes up every now and then, but nothing like the good ol' "You don't get me! You're a f***ing c*nt!"
Reminds me of Blame it on the Rain song by Milli Vanillin: You said you didn't need her You told her goodbye (goodbye) You sacrificed a good love To satisfy your pride Now you wished that you should had her (had her) And you feel like such a fool You let her walk away Now it just don't feel the same Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something) Gotta blame it on something Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin' Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah You can blame it on the rain Should've told her you were sorry (sorry) Could have said you were wrong But no you couldn't do that, no, no You had to prove you were strong Oh-oh, if you hadn't been so blinded (blinded) She might still be there with you You want her back again But she just don't feel the same Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something) Gotta blame it on something Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin' Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night Whatever you do don't put the blame on you Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah Come on and blame it on the rain 'Cause the rain won't mind And the rain don't care You got to blame it on something
Good grief! This is exactly correct!! I think mine finally decided he was going to divorce ME… (The divorce I initiated has been final for 2 months now.)
The Narcassist ..... Isaiah 26:10- Let favour be shewed to the wicked, yet will he not learn righteousness: in the land of uprightness will he deal unjustly, and will not behold the majesty of the LORD.
My narcissist twin brother dismissed my helping him with a car while a had broken ribs, and gave him a lot of money. He blamed me for using up his coffee. He blamed me for him to lose his temper. He blamed me for disturbing him while he was out smoking up his van, while his stroke riddled wifem was dragging laundry up a steep basement stair. Oh yeah, brother is a areal winner.
Over time the trew person shines right trew. As I’d say yu can’t change who yu are no matter how long yu try it’s comes fright trew yu so be real yur self anywhere yu go no rates and graces just yu I do if yur not liked that’s ok. But iv known a man that wore a mask for 14 years it’s funky off and it’s very hurtful 😊
As an empath I can say these same things about the malignant narcissist I’m with. 1.He doesn’t get me (he doesn’t care about anyone who’s not making it about him) 2.He doesn’t support me unless it’s advantaging him 3.Oh man he is the biggest jerk I’ve ever met. 4.He doesn’t care about anything I go through/dealing with. Again, because if it’s not about them it’s not his problem. 5He was worth my time until I realized 8 years in..10 now what he is and I can’t change it. 6I used to wonder what the (eff) was wrong with him lol 7.- I don’t want him back so this isn’t true for me 8.I DO pick all the “crazy” ones I’m a magnet for narcissists now that I reflect and look back lol 9I did a lot but I don’t reflect on all I did for him but it did bother me that he completely forgot all the things I’ve done. He has his own recollection on things I did which were nothing for him but he did for me. 9 omg he HAS huge trust issues. He sleeps with his cloths on and phone hidden in his cloths with keys and wallet. Thinks I’m stalking him, in his things. Stealing. Cheating. Getting people to follow him… I’m not. 10 I can’t wait for the day he gives up on me ❤️
My current pastor made a really smart comment about picking good ones. He says don't look at potential in people, look for PATTERN! I really liked that! It stuck with me.
Yep.....my granddaughter... blamed me for saying something id NEVER SAY...my family knows that id NEVER SAY WHAT SHE BLAMED ME for....yet my grandaughter manipulated everyone in the family to believe her ...now im the bad guy.....go figure ... 🤨👎🤦🤔🤮
Honestly I have come to the point where I do not care what they (husband and his siblings) say about me. I need to move on and find peace and have some closer.
My son married a nutcase who keeps him in the legal system. She self projects and is sick enough to occasionally sound articulate in order to manipulate the court system. God isn't finished and im looking forward to seeing how He gets her attention n fights in our defense.
And after enough abuse they will bring you down to the same level and behaviour. I self-auditted and saw myself doing most of those points described. Of course only strong personal insight allows such reflection and lack of insight is a major attribute of NPD. So one is left wondering if you yourself is the problem...
How do I know if I am a toxic person? I wish to be Christlike. I wanna love as Jesus Loved and be a help to people. Sometimes I feel as though I may have tendencies due to Childhood pain. I love people but I need space.
Rather than badgering and criticizing Christians who struggle with mental health and narcissism, it would be nice share a video with tips to help these individuals and show some compassion and love to individuals as God does.
My suggestion: go to a psychotherapist who specializes in personality disorders and be completely sincere about your behavior and the behavior of others you interact with.
I would love to do that IF those people were interested in changing. But since they're not, I find it more helpful to teach others how not to get slaughtered by treating wolves as sheep. These people are causing tremendous damage and many of God's people are being led astray by erroneous teachings on how to "love" these types of people. Yes, there's a difference between broken people and toxic people and my hope is to bring clarity between the two.
I'm also struggling with a narcissist husband. I'm still standing for him as a wife and plea to God to deliver my husband from that evil spirit. I believe in God's willing miracle will happen. May God give us the strength that we need until that miracle happens 🙏🏼🙌🏻
That's so true!!! at the beginning it seems so wonderful the love bombing the sweet talk the lies I guess and you know I don't need therapy you are mt therapy just you letting me talk like this it just means alot and to know you care!! I know you do You really care!!! I know that's true they don't like when you don't agree with them!!! My female narc she wanted me to like her well her!!! She was I guess grooming me!!! I know that scares me it really does!!! She talked about everyone she was like the one who was mistreated all the time!!! I can get over this!! I can but it takes time!!! I have words still swimming in my head!!! You don't know unless it is you going through it!!! And when they feel you are about to figure it out that's where it all starts!!! I don't think my female narc was into women but she was just to into me sometimes!!! I don't know what it was with her!! She wanted me to not be friends with anyone but her!!! with her she had to be the center of attention all the time narcs can't share!!! My female narc named Flo she was always the hero but she wasn't she would brag and all that she was an angel in her eyes!!! She even called herself angel eyes!!! I want to be her boss just for a day!!! I don't know she had this sick obsession with my life oh yeah like it's so exciting!!! I want to be mean so bad I do but I can't and that's where narcs get you they cry or tell you Please don't give up on me!!! Yeah like as crazy as this sounds Kris But this is Flo's mind she was paranoid I was I don't know meeting Donald Trump Oh yeah sure just because I posted stuff about him like I have him on speed dial please he has enough to worry about not about Flo and her paranoid mind!!! I am laughing so hard right now at what I just told you!!! But she did tell me that once!! No wonder he doesn't want to come to Cleveland she'd hunt him down but see when you are a public figure!!! She is so in love with him!!! You have to see the whole picture here at my other jobs we were all normal about politics not Flo. Oh I needed that laugh!!! She's good for a belly laugh at times!!! this is one of those times!!!
Thank you for all your videos, and God bless you. Due to all the trauma, it is challenging to concentrate with the background music. Will you please consider removing the music?
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SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH EVERY TOXIC PEOPLE I ENDED UP BEING ALONE WITH GOD AND SO MUCH PEACE AROUND ME WHICH MAKES ME HAPPY
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing.
They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves.
When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection.
Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
This was spot on ! My son married a narcissist. She won me over with her charm & deception and then chewed me up and spit me out!
Me too I’m going through it now. I really thought she loved me.
Any concern for your son tho ...remember he was married to her ...just like i was ...So he is hurt way more than you...dont you think
@@earniewaterman6511 definitely
I believe they all say the same things because it is the devil placing these thoughts in their minds with accompanying feelings. Most people have no defenses against "feelings." They also claim everyone else doesn't like you too, you chase all your friends away." When the truth is they are working at gossiping about you so your friends will not like you anymore.
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They were NEVER your real friends then. Even if you were guilty; your real friends will forgive your flaws.
Hive minded or appears to be hive mind- like because so similar or exactly the same phrases
Yes, demonic spirits are behind it
That's true.
Of course they did. There’s nothing new under the sun and the Bible warns us about these type of people. If their heart is set on themselves, they will never change
It sure does. Narcissists can change if they're willing. Most are not willing
It's a true mind bender when she goes to church actually more than me ....the lack of empathy and forgiveness baffled me for 20 years
@@greghayes7933 same here. I called her out on it then she found another person
@@danielbotello4753 dang man learning all this is crazy ...thiught I was the only one ....when I'd confront her lovingly she'd just say, " I'm not talking about that now "....7 years later ....nothing ....but I've been out for awhile now....I'm sorry brother I know its brutal beyond belief
@@Kris_Reece they are evil not sick evil
My ex-husband narc called me an angry black women for having boundaries. He was also mad because I filed for the divorce 91 days into our marriage when I realized he was a Christian covert narcissist. Chris you are right about everything you said in this video.
Lucky you, got out after 91 days.
I pretty much stand my ground with them and tell them the truth whether they like it or not..stay strong...
Its sooo hard when u see ur kids are tortured by the narc
They truly live in a Barbie world where they are Ken-like perfect. The more i learn on this topic the crazier it gets.
Sadly, yes, there's many layers to this distortion. thanks for watching
This is exactly why I don't trust many people. 😑
They have some kind of Jezebel , Monitering spirit
@stever507 , They have Jezebel, Leviathan, Python spirits. Yes, monitoring spirits as well, in many of them.
Empowered by the enemy. But they know what they're
doing & are charged up by the evil they do. They constantly need to extract "supply" (from their victims).
They spin it on you and say you are the problem.they pick at words and say u need tow top saying when it’s about what they mess up. It’s always u u are crazy you are mean and they are wonderful to you
Yep.
What I heard from my ex’s mouth was “ it’s my way or the highway “ and it was truly meant.
My family of origin and friends beliefs are that I owe them, and if I don’t share that belief, then I don’t exist.
I never had the chance to set boundaries, I’m just ignored.
Now I suffer from bitterness and resentment for not realizing I was used as a indentured servant to everyone.
Welllll, once we see through their facade....... and that takes time, documentation, and WATCHING........ their PATTERNS!
NO CONTACT. LIFETIME.
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1. She doesn’t get me
2. She wasn’t supportive
3. She’s a @!$/He’s just a jerk
4. They certainly don’t care what I’m dealing with
5. Whatever (they write you off quickly)
6. What the F@$! Is wrong with her
7. What can I do to get them back?
8. Why do I always pick the crazy ones!
9. After all I did for her, this is how she treats me!
10. They have trust issues/they are just too sensitive
11. What kind of person gives up on someone so easily?
Thanks. Blessings
The narcissts I know triangulatie, attack, divide and conquer. All the horrible things they do to you & others…. You can expect the script to be flipped, you did all those horrible things now & they are the victims trying to help everyone. So, they are hero’s now.
wow. I feel so validated. I feel like I can put my head up
But not for long ....cos people also hound u ...they believe the narc😢
"They confuse forgiveness with trust" no matter how many times you previously forgave them and trusted them they will tell you you are unforgiving and that you expect them to be perfect when all you want is for them to stop hurting you.
They must be in terrible pain to treat others without compassion. Got no time for it, their loss. ❤
I don't think so. They are having too much fun at the expense of others. They enjoy that they can hurt other people. It's a joy to them. If someone doesn't do their bidding, they will bawl and squall at the top of their lungs in self pity, but they love the attention that they get from that, so even that is a win for them.
Tracy Newton: The narc's only pain is your joy/pleasure. YOUR pain is their pleasure.
@@bonnieblood3983 Sooner or later they'll tell on themselves and people will figure them. When you lie eventually you won't be able to keep your story straight. You tell one person one thing and another person something totally different.
@@jodizellmer994
Here's the thing that gets me, other people still tell me they like the narcissist. He's a liar, cheat, pervert, and several other things that rank real high in scum behavior, yet people say they know, but he was always nice to them. He was kind, helpful, etc..., maybe I should have tried harder.🤦🏻 They still welcome him into their homes, invite him for family parties, etc..., I was almost destroyed by this thing, yet people protect him, after all, I was probably too much to deal with. Poor guy, his wife was always depressed. You know, without him in my life, I am never depressed. When he was in my life, I was always depressed. I have dropped a lot of people. I am not going to associate with anyone who tries to tell me how much they like him, when truly, it's all a facade that they are seeing.
I like how she emphasized , "all said" that never met, but can all speak the same language; and some don't believe in demons?
Next week's video is about the demonic spirits behind narcissism. 👍
Hive minds controlled by a spiritual principality of demons.
My late ex was a narcissist. He always made me feel worthless. I couldn't have the things for myself or our children. He controlled the money. It was my fault if he couldn't sell anything. (Salesman for a window company) I gave my all, yet it wasn't good enough. I felt that when he got Parkinsons, he was being punished for his vanity. He had a hard time believing he had Parkinsons. He went downhill fast. Family attributed that it was my fault he had it. He died on the worst possible scenario, and nobody believed me. I'm still trying to get my mind straight after 32 years of abuse.
you are FREE !
Soo unusually true...its a long 36 yrs of tortures
My narc husband was sooo sick with an autoimmune condition at the age of 45
He suddenly changed to his old yrs when kids were around 10yrs ...more narc ways n alcoholic abuses
I felt he was demonic...cos he got better n we (wife n kids got autoimmune conditions)😮
We never harmed or hurt him ...but took care of him n made him stronger
But was it worth it ?..cos he doesnt want to care for us ....n said he is waiting for our death ...even covid failed to harm us😮
He IS a true narc😢
My "mother" was the WORST type of narc: the COVERT NARC. She played the victim role well and nothing my father or I did was ever good enough. She coveted luxurious things: automobiles, furs and jewelry and got them for herself. My dad and I existed to serve the "queen". After dad died, I was accosted by "mom" and her extended crime "family". They all got together like mob bosses (who all hate each other) and caused me the most horrible and cruel harm. GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS! DON'T EVER CONTACT OR VISIT THEM OR YOU WILL BE SORRY!!!!!
I am SOOOO sorry for all who wrote...
I can say one thing for sure.....
THERE IS HOPE AND HEALING ...
keep on learning ...
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My soon to be ex is narcissist he just wanted to string me along never wanted to work it out. He always called me a petulant child and I don't act like an adult. This so true and so sad. Trying take our boys from me and all ever want was to be a mom he knows that. God is holding my worry and stress and giving it to Him I love Jesus Christ and he saved me!
He got angry with me if I didn't agree with him.
@@PyrPupMom did he not understand how to agree to disagree? Or would disagree with you and then tell you 6 ways from Sunday why you’re wrong?
#7 The narcs in my life don't WANT me back because I called them out. They blocked me and gave me silent treatment. The last thing they want is me back. Saves me having 'the hoover'.....
They love bombed you in the dating stage and once married they devalued you and begin to discard you. Deceptive web of ignorance.. They have no desire to be married, extremely negative.
In the narcissists' stories they're always the hero or the victim.
Wow That is exactly what I went through Praise God for his hand stretched out and pulling me out God delivered me and I am forever greatful I couldn't imagine if I never got away it would have been so much tormoil Thank u for this vid I appreciate u ❤️
Thank you god that no weapon formed against me shall prosper.
Thank you for blessing my womb with a child💙🧿
Kris , i agree with the majority of the things you said here. Not all and here is why. I am a Empath and I know I am. I am extremely giving and loving. I have exhausted myself in this past relationship, mentally , physically, emotionally, financially. Huge life lesson. However, I often use that phrase "whatever" when I am fed up. I am not a narcissist, but trust me, when I have had enough, I have had enough and I can sometimes use phrases that seem narcisstic but I am not. I do every day self introspection and studied both empath and nassistic behaviors. I just wanted to clarify this.
I swear you spoke to my mother. Thank you
😮 Mine as well!
My mom and sister here.
ogh yes and when they cheat they blame you for their sins... no apology and just abuse, mental abusers,. low self esteem but high ego .. a real evil person like three siblings i know in my dead husbands family all three had demons in their heads,
Funny fact : they deny absolutely everything in their life & when you deny them the opportunity to come back into your life - it literally throws them into a full pledge tizzy !
yup!
Unless they have a Golden Child that wants your part of the inheritance. Then it's crickets.....
@@reesedaniel5835 yup 😒
True video. My narcissits sistet told me those words and the attitude that goes with them. I stau no contact with her. Only Jesus. God bless
Thanks for sharing, God Bless!
Man this video resonated with me. He expects me to take him back and give him chance after chance. He once told me he wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire...
eeek ! stay away from that evil pisser !
I dated my bosses daughter, because my boss is an amazing Christian woman, so I figured her daughter must be similar. I'll tell ya, I'm never going to date based on hopes and dreams again!! After her daughter broke up with me over a gross misunderstanding, I was left entirely confused. RUclips must have heard me telling someone about it (through my phone), because it recommended a vid of Kris Reece talking about covert narcissists later the same week. I'm luckier than most, I only had to deal with 60 days of abuse, instead of a divorce after weeks or years. Everything Kris said, explained my ex to perfection. I know what to do differently in the future, and what to look for.
My boss didn't introduce us. She's told me since that she didn't really want us to get involved with each other. She promised me from the start that whatever happened, it wouldn't affect my job, so far that's been true. Based on that, I think she knows her daughter has a problem. While her daughter had nothing but negative things to say about me, I did nothing less than focus on all the good things we had. And her mom noticed that. Her daughter had me so twisted and confused I actually started to consider that I was the real source of the problem.
Over the last few months, between Kris, prayer, Bible reading and study, and other sources of advice, I understand that my ex-girlfriend was (to a high degree of likelihood) a covert narcissist. I'll pray for her until I die. I used to be like her years ago, but Jesus changed my life forever. My hope is always for those who are lost to realize how and why they need Jesus. Especially the ones who think they're Christians and may not be.
Thank you. This is so helpful in the recovery process as even counselor's don't seem to fully understand narcissists. I left after 28 years of marriage and absolutely everything you have said is true.
Thank you Reese! Everything you shared is on point
Yes it really is. ❤❤❤
Omgah I went thru this. I chose to stay as far away as I can, I'm at peace now. What's sucks is they are in the family. I just ignore, it's amazing!!!
You say what you want Kris spot on all true cheers 👍
Thank you so much for your word, it helps me to fix myself where I'm doing wrong. And I pray to God to fix me first and show me what I'm doing wrong. 🙏📖🕊️
This is also what I said to Jesus in my prayers. If i'm wrong, correct me. I harbor hurts and bitterness because of the abuse. I became toxic too.
My husband's favorite comment was, promises are made to be broken.
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Are meant to be kept and respected out of love..boundaries are for both people for a healthy relationship..not one-sided..one taking and withholding isn't Christ like...let God not give you mercy and grace you don't deserve..there needs to be deliverance and prayer to these people! We need to start casting out them ourselves! I pray that those in a marriage..pray pray without ceasing..and all others see red flags..run..in the family setting..only deal on your terms and reasonable all else..dust your feet..no more wasted parasite energy...
When I finally felt so low, I felt that God was extending grace to me and was sheltering me in the palm of his hand so I could grow stronger. He helped me find peace inside and stilled my spirit to not respond to the victimization. Finally, I was able to find a couselor who helped me end my marriage and start over. Life is so much better now.
Thank you Minister Reece God Bless you. Amen ❤️🙏🏾😇
Now that my mother is entering the middle stages of dementia, shes even more nasty and cruel to me. I have been trapped into being her caregiver, and at 53, I have my own health issues. She doesn't care, she won't let me go.
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😢I am so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Both my son and I have many autoimmune issues, I believe brought on by my covert narcissist mother and ex husband. My father passed away from Parkinson’s in which my mother made his life even more torture. Endless complaining at him as though he could help having Parkinson’s!Unfortunately I never could get my dad to get away from her and then he was doomed. I’m an only child and my mom says you have to take care of me. I’m staying away but the imbedded guilt is still hard.
For my son and I’s sanity we have to keep away
So just be careful don’t let her beat you down. I’m 56 so I’ve been dancing the dance like you for a long time. We gotta step away ❤✝️🙏😇
😢😢that’s exactly my situation with my father right now! I’m determined to get out and be independent I’m the scapegoat so I’m treated the worst it’s only going to get worse as the aging process sets in I was sabotaged and made into being a caretaker / servant it’s disgusting 🤢
@@Not-the-usual-BS His scapegoat!! A true clear reason to leave that role once for all...fake back like him telling your health doesn't permit to do anything more..talk to a professionnal who can listen to you and your feelings needs to not get sick because of him!! Make hugh distances.... Take care...🕊
Dementia is a bad one to be around. I kept house for Dementia patients. They're scarry. What's happening is their brain is shrinking. It's very painful for them to go through. Prayers for you and your strength to overcome your obstacles.
I have heard all these same comments from every person I have ever come in contact with at one time or another, even myself.
This was good.
I’m dealing with almost all on the list, but it baffles me because I had to think back like wow. I don’t think I’ve ever heard him say sorry to me or anyone in the 8 years we’ve been together
Its sooo pathetically true that they lie to which everyone believes as the truth 😮
N our truth becomes lies😢
It never seems to end
That’s aweful Jesus enlighten this world 🙏🏽
You came into my life at the right time. Thank you for your content. You are doing a great work. ❤
I supported financially my narcissistic brother while he was in prison. He didn't even let a PEEP out of who he really still was while incarcerated! Must be some code inside to never rock the boat that is going to save you! When he came out I let him live on our property for about 5 months. It was a rocky sea. And I did think he owed me for helping him all those years and thousands of dollars. Even though he ALWAYS says how grateful he will always be to us. I know he's grateful because a narc will let you do things for them ALL DAY LONG!! He did treat me like crap especially when he got back to smoking weed. It was hell.
This girl whom I have a love/hate relationship with is in India for a series of surgeries. After each surgery she'd go out touring around the country and partying. Since she asked a group of us to pray for her I felt compelled to tell her to calm it down and let her body heal. She managed to cause some internal injury which needed additional surgery. Since I am so dumb and can't see the wisdom of her ways she de-listed me on fb. Now I have no idea what her condition is. She knows everything, so of course I'm wrong.
New to your channel 🎉 thank you for sharing on a Faith Base Side of this issue. To God be the Glory I went from broken to healing on my way becoming whole again. In the Mighty and Matchless name of Jesus 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Hi Kris, can you do a video on the difference between being an empath vs being codependent?
Great suggestion!
@@Kris_Reece please do. My daughter is an empath and she got sucked in by a covert narcissist and he’s ruined her mental and physical health. She’s the mom of 3 small children and doesn’t know how to navigate leaving because she doesn’t want him having anything to do with the children. He already doesn’t, but you know the courts will say they have to have 50/50 custody. She is trying to protect the children at her expense.
Hives! I felt so sorry for her when I first saw the hives and she told me no one has ever taken her serious. I'm the first one to do so. Now everytime I leave, she gets sick and boom I'm back because I feel sorry for her. If I disagree with her rudeness, she physically treats me differently and when I say that's not okay especially if you're the one who hurt me, 10mins later, headaches into hives. I hate it. I hate myself and I'm the only idiot stuck here as if I have invisible chains around me... Everytime I pray, she takes me 10 steps back and now I have a lukewarm relationship with Jesus and physically in a state of emergency due to the adrenal failure.
REBUKE that demon in the name of Jesus!” in the name of Jesus Christ , our Lord and savior , I rebuke thee “. you can say this in your head . it doesn’t have to be out loud . It works ! God Bless .
I feel that is hard to tell who the narcissist is in some relationships. I feel that no matter how I feel about something it either isn’t a good enough apology or if I sit and take the accusations silently I am still damned no matter what I do! There is never any clear abuse that I am guilty of. And perceptions of my behaviour are ABSOLUTELY wrong (and I am not lying to myself). This is about my daughter who as soon as she could walked acted like the cuckoo in the nest barging in front of her shy elder brother and trying to win at everything in sports (her motto was “I win!”). She says I favoured my son whereas I feel she constantly demanded special treatment. She is highly intelligent but seems to lack empathy (or shuts out overly empathic feelings to protect herself). I really believe calling every difficult person a narcissist is a real cop out! It is creating more victim mentality that I have ever seen in my lifetime. When a person doesn’t get what they want (all the time) they throw that epithet at the withholder(s) and accuse them of being a bully when quite the reverse is true! Relationship dynamics are far more complicated that a narcissist label for all the problems in it!
I agree. There is often a backstory where one HAS been given up on too early in the family. The toxicity centers around improper concern for a child. My older sister probably considers me the narcissist, and i agree i check some of the boxes, but i came by it honestly! My older sis was very difficult, not a loving sis, ignored me and told her friends to ignore he, waa rude as hell to my parents, my dad was physical with her but she and my shallow materialistic mother goaded him mercilessly, i would bite my arm to keep from screaming while fighting went on, even when my sister left at 18. I bought my parents a self help book at age 10, was a latch key kid, alone a lot, watched tv all summer, etc. Stands to reason i would become an insecure overthinker excusing everyones behaviour yet no one trying to understand mine. No communication anywhere.
I so get you!
@@marthacarlson6106 thx for response!
You are killing me softly with your song because so much of what you described here, was a part of my childhood upbringing too. I am also an insecure over thinker who excuses unacceptable behavior. But, no longer Frodo! I am working on me; day by day.
If anyone with a good heart and years of trying to fix a narcissist, knows Dr. Reece is speaking the truth. Maybe 40% applies to your situation. But 80% applies to mine. I love my wife enough to never personally attack her, but I just wish there were better ways of helping people that are like this. There have been times where she seemed to genuinely acknowledge an issue, but only to repeat the same behavior a day later. It seems extremely difficult for them to acknowledge any sort of problem. Then they accuse of blaming them, when clearly the “ink is all over there hands”. I try to take accountability for my part in an argument for example, yet that doesn’t matter to a narcissist. They will give such a partial apology, sometimes apologizing for something that was barely an issue, while you are left deeply hurt by the actually problem like name calling or other hurtful acts.
You had me at #1! I hear that all the time! And his name of choice for me was "c*nt". "B*tch" comes up every now and then, but nothing like the good ol' "You don't get me! You're a f***ing c*nt!"
Thank you 🙏🏽✨
Super duper helpful and insightful.
So they mirror your valid experience with them
Textbook narc behavior. Ty for this message. 3 yr survivor 🎉
Oh, she can call it right
Reminds me of Blame it on the Rain song by Milli Vanillin:
You said you didn't need her
You told her goodbye (goodbye)
You sacrificed a good love
To satisfy your pride
Now you wished that you should had her (had her)
And you feel like such a fool
You let her walk away
Now it just don't feel the same
Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something)
Gotta blame it on something
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'
Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah
You can blame it on the rain
Should've told her you were sorry (sorry)
Could have said you were wrong
But no you couldn't do that, no, no
You had to prove you were strong
Oh-oh, if you hadn't been so blinded (blinded)
She might still be there with you
You want her back again
But she just don't feel the same
Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something)
Gotta blame it on something
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'
Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night
Whatever you do don't put the blame on you
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah
Come on and blame it on the rain
'Cause the rain won't mind
And the rain don't care
You got to blame it on something
Yes they say all these things …
It appears that my second wife and I were co-Narcissists. Now that she's gone, I can return to some kind of peace of mind.
Good grief! This is exactly correct!!
I think mine finally decided he was going to divorce ME…
(The divorce I initiated has been final for 2 months now.)
The Narcassist .....
Isaiah 26:10- Let favour be shewed to the wicked, yet will he not learn righteousness: in the land of uprightness will he deal unjustly, and will not behold the majesty of the LORD.
No that doesn’t talk of the narcissist specifically, even though narcissists can be included. And this channel isn’t a Christian channel.
Learning a lot .
Thank you my sister for this message
Yes 👍🙌👍 about time someone goes behinde the mask
Right on!
My narcissist twin brother dismissed my helping him with a car while a had broken ribs, and gave him a lot of money. He blamed me for using up his coffee. He blamed me for him to lose his temper. He blamed me for disturbing him while he was out smoking up his van, while his stroke riddled wifem was dragging laundry up a steep basement stair. Oh yeah, brother is a areal winner.
Over time the trew person shines right trew. As I’d say yu can’t change who yu are no matter how long yu try it’s comes fright trew yu so be real yur self anywhere yu go no rates and graces just yu I do if yur not liked that’s ok. But iv known a man that wore a mask for 14 years it’s funky off and it’s very hurtful 😊
As an empath I can say these same things about the malignant narcissist I’m with.
1.He doesn’t get me (he doesn’t care about anyone who’s not making it about him)
2.He doesn’t support me unless it’s advantaging him
3.Oh man he is the biggest jerk I’ve ever met.
4.He doesn’t care about anything I go through/dealing with. Again, because if it’s not about them it’s not his problem.
5He was worth my time until I realized 8 years in..10 now what he is and I can’t change it.
6I used to wonder what the (eff) was wrong with him lol
7.- I don’t want him back so this isn’t true for me
8.I DO pick all the “crazy” ones I’m a magnet for narcissists now that I reflect and look back lol
9I did a lot but I don’t reflect on all I did for him but it did bother me that he completely forgot all the things I’ve done. He has his own recollection on things I did which were nothing for him but he did for me.
9 omg he HAS huge trust issues. He sleeps with his cloths on and phone hidden in his cloths with keys and wallet. Thinks I’m stalking him, in his things. Stealing. Cheating. Getting people to follow him… I’m not.
10 I can’t wait for the day he gives up on me ❤️
My current pastor made a really smart comment about picking good ones. He says don't look at potential in people, look for PATTERN! I really liked that! It stuck with me.
Yep.....my granddaughter... blamed me for saying something id NEVER SAY...my family knows that id NEVER SAY WHAT SHE BLAMED ME for....yet my grandaughter manipulated everyone in the family to believe her ...now im the bad guy.....go figure ...
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Correct!!!!! 1000%
# 9 All the time!
Very true
Thank you!
Honestly I have come to the point where I do not care what they (husband and his siblings) say about me. I need to move on and find peace and have some closer.
I have to seriously depend on the Lord for my focus and affirmation. Without Jesus I would be a total mess but I keep my eye on The Prize!!
"Your crazy"
"You need to go see a psychiatrist "
"Your not going to have children now"
"You can't be happy with your pregnancy"
You’re great!
Thankx ...... I guarantee this info, I was with a narcshee
Thank you
My son married a nutcase who keeps him in the legal system. She self projects and is sick enough to occasionally sound articulate in order to manipulate the court system. God isn't finished and im looking forward to seeing how He gets her attention n fights in our defense.
Oh my gosh this is my husband’s attitude exactly. Fyi I left him, but of course still getting hit
They can't see. Their hearts and minds are blinded. They make excuses for everything they do. They believe their own lies
PERFECT!!
And after enough abuse they will bring you down to the same level and behaviour.
I self-auditted and saw myself doing most of those points described. Of course only strong personal insight allows such reflection and lack of insight is a major attribute of NPD.
So one is left wondering if you yourself is the problem...
No, that's called Reactive Abuse. Look into it.
@@reesedaniel5835 read your own retort and go look in the mirror.
Ditto!
Thank you
It's true that they always say “Whatever” and that they trash talk all the time. They are massive giveaways. 🤔
How do I know if I am a toxic person? I wish to be Christlike. I wanna love as Jesus Loved and be a help to people. Sometimes I feel as though I may have tendencies due to Childhood pain. I love people but I need space.
Rather than badgering and criticizing Christians who struggle with mental health and narcissism, it would be nice share a video with tips to help these individuals and show some compassion and love to individuals as God does.
Narcissists are highly destructive people and their victims need a lot of help to heal. If you are a narcissist please seek help.
@@kshaw9179 I completely agree with you
My suggestion: go to a psychotherapist who specializes in personality disorders and be completely sincere about your behavior and the behavior of others you interact with.
I would love to do that IF those people were interested in changing. But since they're not, I find it more helpful to teach others how not to get slaughtered by treating wolves as sheep. These people are causing tremendous damage and many of God's people are being led astray by erroneous teachings on how to "love" these types of people.
Yes, there's a difference between broken people and toxic people and my hope is to bring clarity between the two.
@@Kris_Reece Well said. Quite well spoken.
From the horse’s butt itself! Thanks Kris for bringing what’s known to light.
💯 %truth 🐍snakes
How can someone have a huge inflated ego and at the same time have very low self esteem?
Please help what is the best solution for living with a narcissit husband? Can they ever be delivered or the best is to leave them??
I'm also struggling with a narcissist husband. I'm still standing for him as a wife and plea to God to deliver my husband from that evil spirit. I believe in God's willing miracle will happen. May God give us the strength that we need until that miracle happens 🙏🏼🙌🏻
That's so true!!! at the beginning it seems so wonderful the love bombing the sweet talk the lies I guess and you know I don't need therapy you are mt therapy just you letting me talk like this it just means alot and to know you care!! I know you do You really care!!! I know that's true they don't like when you don't agree with them!!! My female narc she wanted me to like her well her!!! She was I guess grooming me!!! I know that scares me it really does!!! She talked about everyone she was like the one who was mistreated all the time!!! I can get over this!! I can but it takes time!!! I have words still swimming in my head!!! You don't know unless it is you going through it!!! And when they feel you are about to figure it out that's where it all starts!!! I don't think my female narc was into women but she was just to into me sometimes!!! I don't know what it was with her!! She wanted me to not be friends with anyone but her!!! with her she had to be the center of attention all the time narcs can't share!!! My female narc named Flo she was always the hero but she wasn't she would brag and all that she was an angel in her eyes!!! She even called herself angel eyes!!! I want to be her boss just for a day!!! I don't know she had this sick obsession with my life oh yeah like it's so exciting!!! I want to be mean so bad I do but I can't and that's where narcs get you they cry or tell you Please don't give up on me!!! Yeah like as crazy as this sounds Kris But this is Flo's mind she was paranoid I was I don't know meeting Donald Trump Oh yeah sure just because I posted stuff about him like I have him on speed dial please he has enough to worry about not about Flo and her paranoid mind!!! I am laughing so hard right now at what I just told you!!! But she did tell me that once!! No wonder he doesn't want to come to Cleveland she'd hunt him down but see when you are a public figure!!! She is so in love with him!!! You have to see the whole picture here at my other jobs we were all normal about politics not Flo. Oh I needed that laugh!!! She's good for a belly laugh at times!!! this is one of those times!!!
Thank you for all your videos, and God bless you. Due to all the trauma, it is challenging to concentrate with the background music. Will you please consider removing the music?
I had to stop listening because of the musikk too.