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Drinking my cheap maxwell house this morning for porch coffee. Not really feeling like I’m ready to start the work week.
I am at the point where there is some cheap coffee i just cant drink
I'm thinking of switching from a fancier brand to a cheaper brand, but struggling to decide and execute the change. I've been all about Lavazza but the Folgers at my in-laws house actually tasted better to me, which is confusing to me, but a win for the budget.
So I'm curious what cheap and expensive brands you drink.
Please give yourself permission to just be. You are enough, you're doing enough. I am amazed you're out of bed given the recent trauma. Do what you need to and don't worry so much about putting out videos (unless it helps you) for a while. Those who love you understand. I always apreciate porch coffee and your honesty. But if you take a week or two off I'll still be here after. Thanks X x
Thank you Julia for the reminder. I am trying to just keep moving as much as I can and try to take care of my physical and mental care
Thanks for sharing everything you share Claire. I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 I hope you’re able to get your “four days of sleep” and just the space you need to grieve. I think Those in between emotions are the “feels”, they have no name and are meant to be experienced/felt. Wishing you a week full of love, light, grace and space. 🫶🏻
Space to grieve - i think that phrasing is so perfect
I got my Porch Coffee mug! I also have alexithymia and it takes soooo long for me to process emotions. I have a lot of conflicting emotions going on myself. I hope you feel better soon though.
Exhausting so I never make decisions…
Thank you for ordering a mug Jack! I am so impressed that they get shipped out so quickly!
@Woodshed Theory I absolutely love it and I'm glad it arrived before my birthday.
Poor little Oscar...poor you 😢 I watched your video about it but didn't comment because well it got me thinking about my pet losses. Very difficult times for me. Found myself crying over the death of my first cat Psyche. She lived to be 20 and died in 2005 and here I am still grieving...silly I know. What I'm trying to say is I think losing a pet can really affect us. I'm really sorry this happened to Oscar. I'm glad you found his little body. At least you know. Having a little ceremony for him sounded like a nice thing to do. I lost my 16 year old cat 4 years ago. Just disappeared. I still look for him. Just have to keep telling myself that I was lucky to have them in my life at all. Take care, Claire 🤗❤️⚔️🔥🐎
I am so sorry for your loss
Give yourself time to process through things as you can. ❤❤❤
thank you Iris that is good advice
So sorry to hear of your loss.
your support means a lot to me
So sorry to hear about Oscar😢 If you need a good cry, I find watching sad movies helpful. This weekend I watched The Way We Were
That is sound advice.
A-lexi-thymia literally translates as 'no words for emotions' (& not 'no emotions' as I've sometimes encountered). I'm very similar in range to you.
Think of time spent recuperating / processing as needed maintenance. If you don't schedule it will schedule it for you, usually when most inconvenient.
Trike has been up together enough for a couple of shake-down runs. Now the engine /carb's running nicely & on full power some of the rest of it is feeling the strain. Had a weld give way on one cross brace on the swingarm, rear brake fluid reservoir leak & a rear direction indicator ripped off from shear acceleration (actually more likely from the crappy potholed roads round here). Cross brace & reservoir are fixed, replacement indicators on the way. Still good to be out on the road for a change & that acceleration - !!!!! (I've a short video I can link for you if you wish to see what it looks / sounds like).
Hope you have a steady wk & the required snuggling / sleep (so important). Have those as a priority. 💜
Thank you for clarifying that - I used to think I am so in touch with my emotions but it is only when it is extreme emotionals everything else feels grey
Treat yourself with the good stuff, you deserve good coffee!!
well I don't mind treating myself sometimes but i do drink a lot of coffee.
What if you save the good stuff for Sundays?
I’m glad that while certainly not the same as a vacation, you got to enjoy delicious coffee. Hugs
thanks Sarah
*virtual hugs*
This whole emotional processing stuff is what friends are for, I hear you!
thank you harriet i so appreciate you
Heyyy! I am soo sorry you have had a tough week! Sending you a hug, if you want one!
I finally have my channel online, and i tell you... i have such an german mountain slang, nobody will ever understand me, lol. I am working on subtitles but i expect to stick gratefully with my six subscribers,haha❤ love to you, sarahli
And, Claire! Just take your time, sleep tight!❤
I just subbed! I haven't done Germany for the autism world tour yet so let me know if you are open to being interviewed!
@@WoodshedTheory ohhh, thank you so much! Thats so sweet! Yeah, i am interessted. We have emailed already because of that. All the best to you!
Saw your post the other day, so sad. Lots of hugs.
No cool things for me this week, lots of sleeping and not sleeping, too tired and scattered
I hope that you feel better soon.
@@faeriesmak awww thank you, most kind. I have anaemia and it's kicking my bum atm. Makes me so sleepy I'm like a doormouse XD
Hi Miss Groves I hope things get better for you soon
@@WoodshedTheory thank you sweets, you too! Mug Empire rules!
🎵🎶 I hear you singing your intro in my head every time I drink coffee from my Woodshed Theory mug. Every time. It’s nice 🎵🎶🙏
Ahh thank you for sharing that with me
I understand ❤
thank you Brianna
Omg Claire I haven’t seen the other video yet. I can’t believe you’ve lost your sweet Oscar. I am so so sorry. I am a fellow cat lover so I know how hard it is to lose a kitty. Please take care of yourself, sending so much love.
Thank you Elyse it has been a tough time
Thank you for sharing ❤ snuggles and lots of rest ❤️
thank you for the support
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thanks for always being here
Do what you can and take it easy! I'm feeling down too. I want to visit MT this summer but both friends I'm trying to connect with there aren't replying to me. I know everyone is busy but I'm struggling not to take it personally, I have some abandonment issues from childhood. I think it wouldn't be so hard if I had a friend in my area but since I'm not your average parent, I'm a caregiver as well, I don't get much time to myself. Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a peaceful week Claire and friends! 💞
I am sorry you are having trouble contacting friends. sometimes i have to remind myself it's not me they have lives too
Gosh, I'm so sorry you've had such a difficult week. I wish I had something cool to share from this week, but it was a tough week at our house too. I definitely struggle with alexithymia as well. I guess what I'm trying to express is that I can relate to you a lot in this video. You're awesome, thanks for sharing all this. Thinking of you ❤️
Haley thanks for sharing your story it means a lot to me
Hi Claire, I'm so sorry for your grief. Alexhytimia is my thing too.
hi pass - i hope things are going a little better
It sounds like it's been quite a rough past few days. I'm so sorry for your loss, Claire. Not a lot has been going on with me. I'm finally starting to feel better after a week of having to take antibiotics and pain meds for a nasty infected tooth cavity. I have to wait another month for a root canal. I don't know how I've managed to go 42 years without getting a cavity, but this one is a doozy! I'm enjoying a chilled Starbucks drink as I share porch coffee with you. I hope you can get some rest and the time to grieve and relax this week.
I love a starbucks treat!
I hope you are able to rest and recharge this week ☀️
working on it!
Sending you lots of love. Grief is hard, I’m sorry again about your sweet Oscar.
Thank you for your support Michele
I believe I have this. It's tough but I feel better for having that word for it. It feels like I have a limited repertoire of emotions and also that I feel them (often inappropriately too) strongly. Also that I can't differentiate between them, say between angry/scared or excited/frightened. Thanks for sharing Claire. Best wishes to you.
Thanks for sharing as well
That will be the next product #mugclub coffee. Processing trough stuff can be rough. Especially when working through stuff at the same time. Couple that with the travel stress. Yeah I get that your tired and need some time to process.
Oscar will be missed. It always seems like we don’t deserve animals. I seem to be going through something myself at the moment. So no autistic excitement here. Or any good stories. I need to make it outside then i should be fine. Time to make some tea and see where that takes us.
Have a good week Claire and friends.
Thanks Berry for your kind words
Sorry about your struggles. Self care is important so take time off and enjoy special coffee if that helps you feel a little better. No guilt! You've earned it.
Thanks Benia
I’m so sorry about Oscar. I can so relate! My heart goes out to you. Found you through Mom on the Spectrum. Emotions omg I stay stuck! At least you understand that it’s an issue. I have struggled with it my whole life. I never realized till 2020 that I may have struggled so badly because I was autistic! I heard you say on Taylors channel that 2020 was somewhat of a relief…and i so agree. I loved not having to go out and not having to socialize and I thought what is wrong with me. Well I think i understand a little bit better now that there’s nothing wrong it’s just the way that I am wired. It’s such a relief to finally understand and not beat myself up for thinking that way! I still haven’t gotten diagnosed officially. I am 74 years old and I am not sure that I will bother. But just realizing that I have been normal my whole life, has really calmed my anxiety 100%. I’m so glad that you’re young and you have already figured it out and can move on from there.
Lucy thank you so much for sharing
"People with alexithymia have difficulties recognizing and communicating their own emotions, and they also struggle to recognize and respond"
I do struggle with my internal sense of emotion. Like Clair, unless the emotional reaction is somewhat extreme, I have a hard time knowing and communicating what I am feeling. Complexity of emotional state is defiantly a thing but I feel "nuance" is much harder. The gentle touch of an emotion, which I think is more common than complex emotions, that flutter of feeling that smooths across your cheek, is much much harder for me to identify internally.
Though knowing how I am feeling is difficult, what is harder for me is seeing and recognizing or correctly identifying the emotions others are feeling. This element of alexithymia is for some reason not discussed a whole lot. I don't know if it is a fairly rare trait of alexithymia or not. I am pretty sure it isn't taboo.
The inability to perceive emotions in others is actually one of the hardest, if not the hardest, trait for me to deal with. It is actually the most frequent thing to set of my meltdowns. There are basically 2 primary spheres of emotion: good feelings and bad feelings. I have an incredibly hard time identifying and understanding bad feelings in others. I cannot reliably identify and then gauge the severity of the feeling unless it is extreme. to illustrate: sadness , disgust, and plain old anger literally all look the same to me. It isn't until the emotions reach levels like abject hatred or morose sadness do I start to understand. Likewise emotions that are in the realms of fear or surprise look very much the same, even though surprise can be pleasant.
Imagine a life in which someone you are close to is irritated by having cut veggies wrong but seeing it as naked anger. Then, after seeing nothing that kind of anger could possibly be aimed at or caused by, you assume you are the focus because nothing else could otherwise be.
Hi Tenshi thank you for sharing your experience it helps other people
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@@WoodshedTheory ofc! thank you for making these videos
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Hi Philip YAY!
Oh man, I'm so sorry about Oscar. I want to watch your tribute video for him. I will too, just not sure when! I love love love cats and so I know that video will make me sad. I know it's emotional for you the most though so please keep taking care of yourself. I definitely experience alexathymia. Right now for instance. I'm not even sure what I'm feeling aside from saying I have low enthusiasm.
Carla thank you for your kind support. I am trying to take good care of myself.
We got a new electronic bed base and a new Purple Mattress in hopes that I will sleep better and it will help with my chronic pain, we also got a new couch and love seat set. So it was a weekend of removing all the very old stuff out of the cabin and moving in the new stuff. Other than that, I crocheted and took care of the boys. OH I did play Bunko with some ladies, first time I ever played. That was this last Friday. It went pretty well.
what does the electronic base do? does it help with the angle of sleeping?
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Thank you Laura
So sorry Claire - please try and look after yourself while you grieve the loss of sweet little Oscar. I lost my little one 5 months ago and am still coming to terms with her no longer cuddling into me. Take the time you need to heal ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m so sorry for your loss
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thank you
❤So sorry.❤ Hope you have a better week.🙂
Thank you Stevie
I don't know if this will help or frustrate, but maybe don't try to catch on the comments. I love when you respond back because I love you, but if what you need is to leave it and focus on Claire and your grief. Wish I could wrap you in a hug.
I know! I am not sure I can catch up at this point but i do love feeling connected to everyone in the comments
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thank you chloe
Oh Claire I’m so sorry about Oscar! I lost my Bruno 5 years ago and I still miss him. I had no idea that processing emotions was an autistic trait. Omg I have so deeply struggled with this my whole life. Does that ever get better? Any hints?
I think just being aware of it is important. It helps you not to make split decisions based on emotions
Do people always know what they are feeling?
i am not sure - i can only speak to my own experience
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