What I noticed is that as soon as they almost reach the tip of the pain in their stories, they stop. Their minds refuse to go over the edge and I’m sure it’s a defense mechanism.
Man I feel like people with the same name are so similar. I could see from how I am that Xander was holding a lot back. I do that too, and it can hurt a lot sometimes.
Matthew 3:2 “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. John 3 16-17 For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him. John 14 6 Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
@@fabienlc1692 One of my takeaways was that the instructions said "use your words" and they decided to be silent. But also, sharing stories and stirring up emotions can be a way to cry, but that's probably also for people who actually cry.
@@fabienlc1692men don’t usually like to open up about their feelings, it’s embarrassing to us to be put in a vulnerable position, or perhaps in the past we did open up and someone took advantage of that. We decide it’s best to keep it all inside
@@abigailyalew1304 Well I'm a man too and I can assure you that I don't cry. I may be able to get teary eyed with some movies but never from a personal matter.
Real compassion is UNDERSTANDING what people go through, not FEELING their emotions. We shouldn’t let other people’s emotions run into ours. To be truly there for someone is not to fall in the ditch with them. It’s being calm for them and letting them know that someone truly understands how they feel and then helping them find ways to climb out of the hole
Matthew 3:2 “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. John 3 16-17 For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him. John 14 6 Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
Honestly, and I know this is a joke- but I do not care about feeling a certain way in front of others... it is what it is... I am human I will fail sometimes... idk
Matthew 3:2 “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. John 3 16-17 For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him. John 14 6 Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
As a 39-year-old man, it took me 4 years of weekly therapy to be able to really cry. I could cry when a loved one died, or tear up at something sweet, but I couldn't cry for my own pain because it was never safe with my parents, brother, friends, or even romantic relationships. I had no clue how numb I was until therapy. I just thought I was really logical, but I was actually just numbing out my rage and sadness.
I cry at wholesome things and family/friends deaths and other things that generally make people cry, but yeah my own emotions I have only cried a few times as an adult, I had a mental breakdown at work and cried then, had another time where I broke down heading into the doctors (these 2 occasions were close together) I then found out I have high anxiety and stress and a bit of depression, after speaking to a psychologist, it helped so much and now my levels are way down and at a manageable level. I suspect I'm Autistic too, which would explain why I was so confused, I didn't understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling it, but after speaking to the psychologist and making the connection that I may be Autistic, it explained so much.
this was so interesting. men are so uncomfortable being vulnerable. its such a shame that they aren't allowed to grow emotional intelligence, or be vulnerable with each other - when they talk about their wounds they can sound like kids. this conversation is so important and will have such good impact on everyone in their lives. more please
I don't know about you, but I can't cry on command. Last time i cried was about three years ago. I am not uncomfortable, but it is just not easy for me to cry. It's like a skill most men don't have
@@michaelstimpfl9814 yh i hear u, crying on command isn’t easy but i was talking about how they struggled to be vulnerable. i also don’t think it’s healthy that most men rarely cry. it’s not a skill, babies don’t have to learn how to cry - it’s a form of expressing an emotion which most men are unfortunately raised to repress
As a woman this is absolutely insane to me, I know that the reason is probably societies expectations towards men not crying or being “weak” but it’s crazy that they really just couldn’t cry. I think women aren’t “weak” because of their emotions and that empathy is actually such a huge strength. I hope you make a few more videos like this.
Nah men are still emotional, they use anger. That’s why they get charged more for violent crimes, not even hating. But we’re human, we all get emotional somehow unless you’re a full on psycho.
It isnt a weakness to be unable to force such a strong emotional response. I can only cry when it feels like there is no other way to cope with whatever is making me feel upset. Most men just use other outlets to express emotion. @@avalee2103
Hopefully you’re in therapy for that. Tearing up over a loved one passing is the closest you come to crying? We’ve all got day to day shot to do. Do you think crying is an all day event?
It'd be the same for me honestly. At least for me that's a lot of the reason why I haven't cried in public since I was about 10, it feels really embarrassing.
As a guy, i can cry pretty easily. I get emotional about people dying, sweet moments, I cried tears of happiness the first time. I saw my baby girl during the ultrasound
It really is interesting seeing the shields they put up when they started sharing. You can see their mindset of not wanting to engage because of that fear of not being accepted or not being taken seriously, so they laugh it off. Allowing yourself to take it seriously is really powerful and honestly freeing, I hope everyone can find someone at sometime and just be vulnerable. Being accepted and loved in that place is honestly so healing.
imo I wonder if its learned or biological, cause like I'm a man that can cry, but during the saddest moment of my life (an extremely traumatizing final talk with an abusive "friend", complete self hatred, gaslighted, losing someone I believed I loved) I was laughing through the tears.
@@jeffreychandler8418it’s biological. Estrogen makes you more emotionally unstable. Men have less estrogen (usually) than women, but this is changing nowadays with our lifestyles and diet. The western world is purposefully trying to emasculate their own men to prevent rebellion.
This made me uncomfortable in the best way. I actually started uncomfortably laughing which I do in real life as well as an avoidant behavior. Props to these men for opening up! They did great 👏🏽
not really, crying is an extreme emotional response. There are plenty of other ways to manage and cope with emotions. Lots of us just express how we feel through either physical or logical outlets, like going to the gym or rationalizing what is making us upset and then trying to fix that issue.
@@jake_riptideBut the video is evidence that those “coping” mechanisms like working out don’t allow for deep connections. And humans need deep connections, they help people feel fulfilled
dont think its nessecerily a sexuality thing i get what you mean though personally im gay but not like flamboyant way i guess? its crazy the sociatal expectation to just not be sad
So I honestly think that this should be a series but with just straight men. I think society needs to see straight men open up to each other more. I would be curious to see how many more episodes you could make until all 6 straight men cry in it. I think we need so much more content and examples of healthy straight men having deeper connections, hugging each other, and being there for each other emotionally. A lot of the times men only rely on the women in their life for emotional support but there is some much more opportunity out there to cultivate deeper relationships. I think this could be a great way to have more examples of masculine vulnerability out there in the world for anyone who needs it and could have a great impact. I would love to see another episode with a different group of straight men. Okay that was my pitch thank you! Peace & Love
I feel like this could have been done better by making it more comfortable and intimate, to feel safe to be vulnerable. They’re all standing up and able to distract themselves and not make eye contact. They all look around and keep looking at the timer as well. This is a great concept that should be explored, though. It’s just so sterile and cold
Totally agree. If I needed to cry in that space, my first instinct would be to sit on the floor (and ask that guy to stop chewing gum as it was super-distracting!), but a couple of squishy sofas, a warm rug and some softer lighting would work even better :-)
@@somethingsomethingsarcasm i feel like that probably really hits deep into why someone would be unable cry, there probably is a deep unyielding discomfort. i couldn't cry for many many years, even by myself, but finally once i found a relationship with someone where i felt truly safe being vulnerable, suddenly i can cry with them, and now i cry regularly. it's wonderful, and a certain kind of comfort is definitely key imo. and i do think gender plays unfortunately often a big role. back when society viewed me as a boy/man, even from a young age it felt like most people actually didn't care about or straight up didn't want to know about my feelings, like my feelings were just a burden or a disruption, so i cut them off real early because expressing them just didn't result in anything good for me. i've heard many guys say they feel similar things from others. it's pretty heartbreaking to consider tbh..
As a person who attempt suicide and struggle with really bad mental health, it really opened a eye for me when they started talking about friends who passed away bc of suicide. Just the fact that, that was something they tought of, that made them so sad they could maybe cry, made me so funerable. Ofcourse i know i have friends and family around me who cares about me, but hearing from other people that losing a friend due to suicide is so extremely hard and understandeble, really gives me a reason to keep trying and work on my mental health
@@gmddolbaeb2191 I agree with him. I remember times when I was younger watching movies that would make me sad. I would’ve cried but I was forcing myself to hold back the tears with the idea that crying isn’t normal, and that’s based on society, and this is just one example
I cry plenty. My dad is in the hospital recovering from a stroke. If you don't cry when witnessing your father on the edge of death, unable to speak, I feel very sorry for you.
Seeing how awkward and uncomfortable they get when emotions started being shown is really telling. I hope these guys were able to see the strength in their emotions and in vulnerability after this exercise and find ways to tap in to their emotions in a healthy way after this.
@@puzzlepeace8859 ... It is objectively wrong to be inappropriately open/ emotional in public, especially to strangers ... It makes people uncomfortable and stinks up a room ... It's manipulative, which is not a manly way to operate. Everyone has a problem they are handling. And they are not interested in listening to yours unless it is something that they should be directly be involved in, by choice.
@@wayando My dad had a stroke on Saturday. I've been spending every day by his side alone because my brother was in the military and is uncomfortable showing his emotions. He knows he will cry, just as I do, but decides to stay home instead of visiting. Over the course of being with him for 9 hours yesterday in the ICU, I broke down a couple times. My father can't even speak, let alone feed himself. Society might think my brother is the real man, but I refuse to he afraid of vulnerability. I'll cry as much as I need to in front of every nurse and doctor in the hospital if it means doing the right thing and being there when he needs me.
@@puzzlepeace8859 ... Sorry for your dad's condition. Hope he gets better. Your particular situation is definitely not what I was talking about. You father had a stroke, not showing emotions would be inappropriate in that type of serious situation. But don't be quick to judge you brother. Everyone has their own way of processing high impact events. Personally, I had a serious situation in my family back in 2015. When it was happening I seemed emotionless. But I had to be, because I was the one in charge and controlling the direction of events. So I had to keep my head straight ... Later, like literally 3months later is when I really got the chance to process and show emotions for what had happened.
The people fighting in the back of the ad in the beginning of the video to grab our attention is the smartest thing I’ve ever seen. Well done. I’m actually baffled. Pushing the boundaries of advertising. You have a deep understanding of the gen-z attention span. You won
So proud of all of these men but CRAZY proud of Dani-Ace!!! With saying he wasn’t even going to share but then called out the comment of “this is probably the deepest we’ll get to know anyone for the next year” and decided to challenging that and actually say “no, we can change that, we can look deeper”. I genuinely hope this helped all of these men
Recently, I've been feeling the urge to cry over the smallest things. Like, I'm a dude, and I normally don't cry. I'm also not really in a bad place rn, but the last month I'd say I've been having the urge to get really emotional over small stuff. Like watching a show I've watched before and maybe something super tiny and slightly sad happens that doesn't phase me, but now I'll feel tears come up. Or like even just thinking about anything, like when someone complements me I feel like crying...idk whats going on, but I just wanted to rant
It’s a human emotion, go cry get some ice cream and just let it out. Whether it’s with someone you trust or on your own. It’s healthy and there’s no shame in it or weirdness to it. I love a good cry. Love ❤️
You could check your hormones, prolactin especially. As a woman, depending on the time of the month I have to go to the bathroom to cry and I have no reason to. Hormones are a major factor and a lot of people don't talk about it
@SQUELCH-zj7il honestly, I think that might be it, but I know very little about hormones. My next doctors appointment I'll ask if we can look into that....I was watching Avatar the Last Airbender, which I've watched a million times. I legit started crying over the cabbage guy losing his cabbages. My wife was comforting me but also trying not to laugh, which made me start laughing while crying because we were both confused about why I was crying. It's been a struggle lol
as a teenage girl, i can cry pretty much instantly about even shallow things. im happy that i can be so in touch with my emotions and to anyone who doesn’t relate to that i’m very sorry. everyone should have a space sanctuary, a comfort person who they can rant and fall apart too. everyone deserves people in their life who will help pick up the peices to make them whole again. crying is okay. even if you alone let it out, journal, make video entry’s. do not ball up for emotions.
Yo here I am trying to cry along with them cause I don’t remember how it FEELS to cry in a while, stay strong that definitely means being vulnerable my homies 🤝🫂
I would be curious to see this with 6 women, because I think the stereotype is that they would be able to do it easily, but I'm an AFAB woman and I was also taught to bottle my emotions and while I cry easily while watching sad movies and stuff like that by myself, I sometimes have a hard time opening up/crying in front of others. When I start to, sometimes I will naturally shut it down without even thinking about it, because I was yelled at for crying so much as a kid.
Relatable. The response to me crying as a kid was generally 'stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about' & after a while you just push it all down and end up with things like cptsd 😂 I have no issues sharing things straight away though, but people get awkward when I do because the emotion doesn't match up to what I might be saying - I'm also autistic though so that's just always been a thing 😂
agree!! this would be a good idea too, and I can relate to what you said, I was taught to do the same thing and feel uncomfortable crying in front of others.
Seeing this 2 months late...freakin awesome experiment. Can't stop watching it. So real and indicative of most peoples' relationships. I def wanna see more like this
Or turn away from each other so they didn’t feel like the others were watching them. They were peeking at each other and worrying if they were being watched.
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i get teary eyes frequently (alone) but not enough to get the required 1 drop. The last time i (properly) cried was 5-6 years ago while watching a pirated version of "million dollar baby", alone in my room. I lowkey kinda miss that bawling.
Man I would be so good at this, not with the sad version but with happy tears, those flow quick for some reason. The feeling of overcoming the things that you've been held down by for a long time is quick tears every time.
Have you tried therapy or speaking about your pain to a mentor. ik may be hard now but it gets better and you shouldn't just break down on the spot anytime you think of your past that means there's still open wounds not the healthiest way to live life...
love this episode. I just wish they would’ve had at least an hour. I felt like from the beginning I could tell they weren’t going to be able to do it, but towards the end it seemed like they were maybe warming up and getting close. there are societal pressures on men to be tough and devoid of emotion, and the producers are definitely aware of that. I feel like with that in mind it should’ve been a clear choice to do a longer time limit.
i think they should have a more comfortable setting, like couches maybe. its hard to cry when you're standing in a circle surrounded by white, but maybe thats part of the challenge
I struggle with crying even though I'm a super emotional individual, but just watching this video made me shed a little tear. seeing men open up and be vulnerable is something I value highly since I've had too many experiences with closed off and numb men throughout my life. thank you for this video! I loved it so much. please make more
Great... they all say that but i get bullied for crying as a straight adult male?😔 i just want love... with a female but im to damn scared to go get it.... ffs i hate my anxiety.... thx for reading my rant...
@@Miner_20 ah I feel you. just know that expressing your feelings is never wrong. that’s one of the most normal things to experience as a human. and at the end of the day, who really cares about people’s opinions on you? they don’t know you! you do. and trust me, if you want that love, go get it 🙌🏻 I would recommend looking within the arts, that’s where you find most emotionally stable women :) also- I’m always here if you need a friend to talk to✨
This is great. It shows just how radicated the "strong men dont show emotions" idea truly is. I wish we were more open about our feelings and wouldnt be ashamed to show our emotion because it is SO healthy to do so, they are there for a reason, they connect us, make us process things and so much more. I'm glad these young men realized how difficult it was and why it was. To all men and women from a very emotional woman, dont be afraid to cry, feel sad, ashamed or weak !!! it's a big part of life, dont let old ideas dictate how you should live and show yourself ! Love yourself and your emotions, theyre valid !!!
As a Woman, you will never be able to understand how men process things. That's okay. But this really needs to be said... Stop trying to tell men how they "should" feel or act. One of the many ways women dont understand men (clearly) is that we dont get fulfillment from the same things as women. Typically men don't care aboit "connecting" or being validated through others opinions. We want to create and provide and protect. You can sit there and say you want an over emotional man but i guarantee you dont. The biggest population of over emotional men is where?.. Prison. Its full of men who couldn't control their emotions. There's way too many reasons to list here for you to even begin to understand why men being over emotional is not only not healthy, but not good for either gender, but another big factor is women themselves. Its been proven millions of times over throughout history. Imagine your man or husband comes home bawling his eyes out because he got fired and doesnt know what hes gonna do or how hes gonna pay rent or feed the kids. You know very well you would lose respect for him, versus him just "manning up" and taking care of the problem like hes supposed to. Most women dont even know what THEY want, so to sit here and think you know what we want is actualy ludicrous.
This is a weird and unnatural scenario first of all, standing around in a room with cameras being told by a PA to cry. Second, it's also weird how they all repeat this modern idea that men not crying all the time is a bad thing, like it's a mantra for a cult that they've been told to believe in. Society today is trying somewhat successfully to pathologize natural male hormones and behavior. They feel like there's something wrong with them because they don't cry at random.
Angel talking about his son and not being there for him everyday crushed me clearly he wants to be the best dad he possibly can but physically he can’t be there for his son
When I’m alone I’m such a crier but around others especially people you just met would probably be much harder, the suicide part would have got me 😢 great video, I feel like this message is so important
This was an amazing video. This is how you advocate for men’s mental health, not as an excuse to discredit what women go through but to actually bring light to the issue. Seeing men recognizing society’s stigma on manliness and get vulnerable was really emotional. Keep this format up!
Even tho they lost the “challenge” I think that their ability to open up was beautiful to watch. I know so many men crave these deeper connections (especially w other men) but are so scared of vulnerability. Good job guys, continue the assignment in real life
Typically, no. They don't. Men and women reach fulfilment from very different things. We dont really care about "connecting" or having our feelings validated by someone elses opinion. We want to create, provide, protect, etc. Do you know what the biggest population of emotional men is? Inmates. Prison is full of men that couldnt control their emotions. Men and women are different. We are not equal. Thats not to say one is better than the other, that just means we are different. Humans are at their best together. Women rarely know what they want.. To sit there and just assume we want things because thats what you want is just narcissistic and frankly simple minded.
Ahhhh! The minute they talked about losing someone or su**ide 10 seconds later I shed a few tears… I thought of my best friend that 0D’d last year and it made it really hard to hold it in… usually I’m pretty good about containing my tears but recently I’ve just been an emotional mess.
Death is messed up. Even the strongest feel it ... If someone won't cry when someone close dies, then it's likely you will never see them cry ever ... Or they just don't trust the people they are with.
Times I've seen my husband cry were when our sons were born because he was so full of love and joy. And more recently, they're teenagers now, when he's worried about being a good father to them, when he's so proud of them for something, and thinking of them going off to live their own lives some day. So basically, when he's overwhelmed with love for his children. ❤ I've noticed women will sob when they're upset crying. But with men it's more stoic, tears will just flow but they don't tend to sob. I think it would take something really bad for the average man to actually cry the way women do. Also I noticed if a man is shedding tears he will often hide it, turn away or won't let it happen unless he's alone.
This series seems to me like one of those things where it’s not about the destination (getting everyone to cry for $1000) but the journey. Even if they don’t win the money, the video is still great because they learned and experienced something on the way. I like this new series idea. Side note: I’m not a huge fan of the voice changer effect lol. Maybe it’s just me, but the voice changer gives me “The Button” vibes, and I think it’s kinda cringy and unnecessary. But again, that might just be me. Just thought I’d give some feedback. I loved everything else about the video.
the saddest part abt this video is that all of us shut our emotions out because we’re taught at a young age that men don’t cry and it’ll make you less of a man for crying. it makes us feel like opening up will result in us being judged and the sad part is that it’s true. the worst part about our reality is how people are judged for having real human emotions just because it doesn’t fit the social norm. throughout our entire lives we weren’t allowed to cry which results in it being impossible to cry when we’re older. it’s a sad world we live in but it’s just how it is.
Honestly, it feels as though Twobilee did this with the intent of the prize money being unwinnable, but rather with the intent to get men to connect and be vulnerable with each other. I'm so here for it. This was such a great idea. Its nice seeing men connect on a deeper level and unknowingly too.
lmao respectfully these dudes prove just how guys arent willing to take anything seriously. We’re so far away from our feelings that crying seems like an impossible task. Its quite sad
as a man, I can cry. And sometimes quite easily, like watching a movie. But I would find this very hard as the people are strangers, you know you're on camera with hundreds of thousands of people watching. My anxiety would prevent me from crying. It's easier to cry in a relaxing environment.
Ion got no trauma I’ve turned heartless, had one of my parents friends I’ve known and hung out with all the time growing up recently die and thought nothing of it.
It's awesome to see men in a safe space to open up and be vulnerable with eachother, when families and society constantly have told them it's not safe and not okay. Men have the highest success rates of suicide, and more spaces and moments of connection like this is a huge part of what they need. This warmed my heart to see. I only hope more of these spaces and moments happen for men so they can not feel so alone inside ethat it literally takes their life. To all the men out here--your entire being is worthy of being seen and heard, not just the mask. It's ok to not be ok and vulnerability is a powerful weapon that you deserve to use. What happened to you was not your fault.
Listening to these men made me realize that damn! It is actually a real thing to just go through life without the pains and tears I endure as a human being.
I really enjoyed this video. Despite them not being able to complete the challenge and maybe being the type of guys who have bottled up emotions in general (as so many men do unfortunately), they showed a lot of maturity to at least give it a go and share some of the stuff they did. Would definitely like to see more content like this.
Feeling is very important. But the reason men tend to not dwell on their feelings of pain is because we must be capable to think and act wisely and not be controlled by emotions in our actions.
as someone who’s transmasc and taking testosterone, i haven’t been able to cry since i’ve been on it. i can maybe force a tear out or two when i get really sad, but it’s pretty hard for me physically. i believe that has to do with the amount testosterone that inhibits our production of prolactin. hormones can affect your ability to cry, although it’s not the same for everyone and it’s not what determines it overall. so in THAT way i can understand how hard it is for them ;-;
I'm MTF and on estrogen and yeah for sure hormones affect it. I never cried before estrogen but now I can do it whenever. It's not just societal, but hormonal as well.
Yes, this has been confirmed scientifically. It honestly kind of annoys me how men moan about "feeling numb" and can't peice together that it is just a biological issue. It's not like men are all battling with a hidden depression or distress. They just struggle to cry the same way as women do
What I noticed is that as soon as they almost reach the tip of the pain in their stories, they stop. Their minds refuse to go over the edge and I’m sure it’s a defense mechanism.
Yup and it’s not even them doing it intentionally, it’s like hitting a mental wall
Mhmmmm preach brotherrr
@@Bunny-pk9ozPlease leave religion out of this
@@PiggyBonkers0309 Are you 12
@@PiggyBonkers0309 telling someone to preach is not just pertaining to religion. It's also used to show agreement or support.
The Asian dude with the blue was really going through it. Just wanna give him a hug, you can tell he was holding a lot back
Xander started making me tear up
We're all going through it. Some people are just better at hiding it than others.
@@dandymcgee This hits hard to realize that.
Man I feel like people with the same name are so similar. I could see from how I am that Xander was holding a lot back. I do that too, and it can hurt a lot sometimes.
Matthew 3:2
“Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
John 3 16-17
For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
John 14 6
Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
The fact that their first real attempt was to just all stand there in silence and make themselves cry speaks volumes
what do you mean ? I'm legitimately interested
@@fabienlc1692 One of my takeaways was that the instructions said "use your words" and they decided to be silent. But also, sharing stories and stirring up emotions can be a way to cry, but that's probably also for people who actually cry.
With us, forcing yourself to cry requires going to a very dark place in your mind. So Silence usually helps with that.
@@fabienlc1692men don’t usually like to open up about their feelings, it’s embarrassing to us to be put in a vulnerable position, or perhaps in the past we did open up and someone took advantage of that. We decide it’s best to keep it all inside
I can try to force crying but there is nothing tragic I can think of that will make me cry.
The sound of Zach chewing his gum was enough to make me cry of pain
FRR
Ty.. it was disgusting to listen to. Why is he even allowed to chew gum during the shoot..?
Omg thankyou so much for the warning in this comment, I would’ve genuinely panicked if I’d watched the video so cheers!
@@XavieraMarie misophonia gang💅
YAAAAAAAAS MISOPHONIA GANGGGG i'm watching this for coping 💅💅💅💅
I LOST it when their 1st reaction to make everyone cry was, "can we hit each other???" 🤣
It’s so mind baffling because it goes to show that men would rather physically hurt themselves than be temporarily emotionally hurt
@@RedJo7 as a man this is 100% correct pain after shame
lmao
@@RedJo7 this is surprisingly true
That part was more sad than funny
No one is talking about the only guy who cried looked like he was the happiest...
it's always like that
He didnt
He didn’t seem the happiest to me, but I thought for sure the Hispanic was gonna cry first
@@PenPal2be💀
I thought he was gonna cry first he looks like he cries a lot and his eyes look teary from start idk how u cant notice that
I generally cry quite easily tbh but I couldn’t cry in front of other people
😂 definitely that's why it took them long
@@abigailyalew1304 The public setting probably made it more difficult, but a lot of men can't even cry while being alone.
@@PPCAPOGAMING I refuse to believe they don't cry when alone 💀 but being public Def made it harder
@@abigailyalew1304 Well I'm a man too and I can assure you that I don't cry. I may be able to get teary eyed with some movies but never from a personal matter.
That's me
The most effective way to cry is compassion. Not vulnerability.
Definately tear up when I see animals getting rescued but not so much when I get my heart broken lol
@@BSGCCollective I think it can be many time
Real compassion is UNDERSTANDING what people go through, not FEELING their emotions. We shouldn’t let other people’s emotions run into ours. To be truly there for someone is not to fall in the ditch with them. It’s being calm for them and letting them know that someone truly understands how they feel and then helping them find ways to climb out of the hole
2:26 “alr, let’s lock in 😠”
“Let me think 🤔”
“I’m cooking here”
😂😂😂 ... Am feeling something!
@@wayando my dog just died😦
Matthew 3:2
“Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
John 3 16-17
For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
John 14 6
Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
@@Jesuslovesyou-316-p1w 6 DOLLAR SRIMP SPECIAL
@@Jesuslovesyou-316-p1wyes amen
as a woman i can think of almost anything and cry instantly
as a man. i can do this too
As a woman can’t relate. But the pressure probably would have made me cry lol
I timed myself to see how long it would take me to make myself cry. 1 minute 28 seconds (I'm a woman lmao)
lol same
Everyone knows this lol… you’re not the only woman. We are just more sensitive than men are. Men are not biologically wired to be crying all the time
Hilarious how they knew they would try to get physical💀
Because they are intelligent just like you.👍🧠
@@superboy3633good one superboy3633
@@superboy3633that’s a good compliment. Respect
That's how men are biologically. We get physical when the emotions get intense. Most of us when we love someone we hug them or want to be close often
@@hainleysimpson1507Exactly
I already hear my friends voice sayin: "first to cry is gay"
They ve been programmed to react that way.
@@VivBeyer1111 it's a joke
Faking subs is crazy dude
Honestly, and I know this is a joke- but I do not care about feeling a certain way in front of others... it is what it is... I am human I will fail sometimes... idk
Sub bot wanting clout
"i've numbed myself" realest thing ever.
I think it's just a mindset thing ... So e people just jump to trying to fix it, rather than process it.
Man that hit hard for me because that's the truth 💯 don't feel the same anymore because that's what gets u hurt 🎯 smh
sigma 💩💩💩🤡🤡🤡👿👿👿👿👿👿
@@TheBabymaker1 im too alpha male for this 👹👹
Matthew 3:2
“Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
John 3 16-17
For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life. 17For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
John 14 6
Jesus replied: "I am the way the truth and the light,no one comes to the Father except through me
Can you do this episode but with women , but give them serious questions to talk about and the challenge is NOT to cry 😂
this is such a good idea
🤣🤣
EXACTLY PLEASE
Id win
i would want to watch this!! 😅😂
Genius idea 🤯
As a 39-year-old man, it took me 4 years of weekly therapy to be able to really cry. I could cry when a loved one died, or tear up at something sweet, but I couldn't cry for my own pain because it was never safe with my parents, brother, friends, or even romantic relationships. I had no clue how numb I was until therapy. I just thought I was really logical, but I was actually just numbing out my rage and sadness.
Same here.. I’m sorry you’ve never felt safe enough 😢 I hope you have that now, you deserve it!
I cry at wholesome things and family/friends deaths and other things that generally make people cry, but yeah my own emotions I have only cried a few times as an adult, I had a mental breakdown at work and cried then, had another time where I broke down heading into the doctors (these 2 occasions were close together) I then found out I have high anxiety and stress and a bit of depression, after speaking to a psychologist, it helped so much and now my levels are way down and at a manageable level. I suspect I'm Autistic too, which would explain why I was so confused, I didn't understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling it, but after speaking to the psychologist and making the connection that I may be Autistic, it explained so much.
I haven't cried for more then 20 years now.
I can't cry at anything and I try I think I'm just too numb for too long
Shout out to Xander he was so open and vulnerable and let the whole conversation down a beautiful Path
this was so interesting. men are so uncomfortable being vulnerable. its such a shame that they aren't allowed to grow emotional intelligence, or be vulnerable with each other - when they talk about their wounds they can sound like kids. this conversation is so important and will have such good impact on everyone in their lives. more please
I mean yes but also in general with anybody it's hard to just force yourself to cry in front of strangers. 😊
I don't know about you, but I can't cry on command. Last time i cried was about three years ago. I am not uncomfortable, but it is just not easy for me to cry. It's like a skill most men don't have
@@michaelstimpfl9814 yh i hear u, crying on command isn’t easy but i was talking about how they struggled to be vulnerable. i also don’t think it’s healthy that most men rarely cry. it’s not a skill, babies don’t have to learn how to cry - it’s a form of expressing an emotion which most men are unfortunately raised to repress
@@jemg9359real.
Crying has nothing to do with emotional intelligence 🤦♂️ crying is being more emotionally expressive not emotionally intelligent
“I feel like I’ve numbed myself” realest thing I’ve heard yet
As a woman this is absolutely insane to me, I know that the reason is probably societies expectations towards men not crying or being “weak” but it’s crazy that they really just couldn’t cry. I think women aren’t “weak” because of their emotions and that empathy is actually such a huge strength. I hope you make a few more videos like this.
Yeah I think it’s almost “weak” of them not to be able to cry even for money
I’m p sure biological men produce less of the chemical that makes you cry, while women have more lol
Nah men are still emotional, they use anger. That’s why they get charged more for violent crimes, not even hating. But we’re human, we all get emotional somehow unless you’re a full on psycho.
It isnt a weakness to be unable to force such a strong emotional response. I can only cry when it feels like there is no other way to cope with whatever is making me feel upset. Most men just use other outlets to express emotion. @@avalee2103
@@avalee2103that just shows you how stereotypes and societal expectations can effect you so badly :/
So many men have that speech of "I used to be a cry baby, but then I just stop and cannot cry even if I try"... that's so sad
That's normal for most guys
@@Lsw_1 frfr crying comes by itself mannn. When someone I know close dies I tear up. But never in my day to day life. I got other sh*t to do then cry.
yeah
Hopefully you’re in therapy for that. Tearing up over a loved one passing is the closest you come to crying? We’ve all got day to day shot to do. Do you think crying is an all day event?
it would be sad to keep crying like a baby after your nuts drop
zach chewing the gum the whole time already made me cry. I put down the volume and put on closed captions 💀
Must be difficult to become that vulnerable in front of a camera…
My point exactly.
Nobody gets to see my cry face especially not thousands of strangers online lol
and a timer
exactly
It'd be the same for me honestly. At least for me that's a lot of the reason why I haven't cried in public since I was about 10, it feels really embarrassing.
As a guy, i can cry pretty easily. I get emotional about people dying, sweet moments, I cried tears of happiness the first time. I saw my baby girl during the ultrasound
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this is such a sweet comment aw
Me2 I cried twice yesterday ☺️🙏
you are pathetic.
@@llvkey boy you soft as hell
It really is interesting seeing the shields they put up when they started sharing. You can see their mindset of not wanting to engage because of that fear of not being accepted or not being taken seriously, so they laugh it off. Allowing yourself to take it seriously is really powerful and honestly freeing, I hope everyone can find someone at sometime and just be vulnerable. Being accepted and loved in that place is honestly so healing.
imo I wonder if its learned or biological, cause like I'm a man that can cry, but during the saddest moment of my life (an extremely traumatizing final talk with an abusive "friend", complete self hatred, gaslighted, losing someone I believed I loved) I was laughing through the tears.
@@jeffreychandler8418it’s biological. Estrogen makes you more emotionally unstable. Men have less estrogen (usually) than women, but this is changing nowadays with our lifestyles and diet. The western world is purposefully trying to emasculate their own men to prevent rebellion.
@@jeffreychandler8418its 100% learned
This made me uncomfortable in the best way. I actually started uncomfortably laughing which I do in real life as well as an avoidant behavior. Props to these men for opening up! They did great 👏🏽
Jesus Loves you so much! You may not think it but there is a reason you’re seeing this. He wants you to know Him so you Two can have a Relationship:)
@@Jesus_Loves_you2499Amen 🙏🏾
@@Jesus_Loves_you2499 Jesus AS is in heaven and a prophet like your scriptures has stated multiple times. God loves you more than Jesus AS (ISA)
This is crazy to me that they can't cry in 30 minutes. Maybe I'm just depressed but I could with 10 minutes in my thoughts 😂
I think you’re just depressed
@@sirrparker47yeah
Your name implies your a woman so you aren't depressed also once you get depressed enough you won't be able to cry
i can cry in seconds 😂
@@get6149 everyone is different
thinking of lost close relatives is the best way to bring the tears on for me.
Zach was the person who smiled the most at the first but has a dark story
the fact that straight guys dont cry for years and years is a huge problem
not really, crying is an extreme emotional response. There are plenty of other ways to manage and cope with emotions. Lots of us just express how we feel through either physical or logical outlets, like going to the gym or rationalizing what is making us upset and then trying to fix that issue.
My friends ex cried when she broke up with him
@@jake_riptideBut the video is evidence that those “coping” mechanisms like working out don’t allow for deep connections. And humans need deep connections, they help people feel fulfilled
dont think its nessecerily a sexuality thing i get what you mean though personally im gay but not like flamboyant way i guess? its crazy the sociatal expectation to just not be sad
@@hunio-iw5zp how is crying creating a connection? every time i cry people tell me to stop
The fact that most men don’t even get there first flowers until there funeral is crazy.
enough to make a grown man cry
Most man don't want flowers, why would you want that?
It's not about the flowers, it's about the gesture.
@@DeadStoneTheSecond exactly
Thank the patriarchy for this ❤
So I honestly think that this should be a series but with just straight men. I think society needs to see straight men open up to each other more. I would be curious to see how many more episodes you could make until all 6 straight men cry in it. I think we need so much more content and examples of healthy straight men having deeper connections, hugging each other, and being there for each other emotionally. A lot of the times men only rely on the women in their life for emotional support but there is some much more opportunity out there to cultivate deeper relationships. I think this could be a great way to have more examples of masculine vulnerability out there in the world for anyone who needs it and could have a great impact. I would love to see another episode with a different group of straight men. Okay that was my pitch thank you! Peace & Love
This guys are straight already
Gay
@@nathanstoebe4647 instead of saying unnecessary stuff maybe think and try to open up about the fact that this person wants to help people.
That’s a great idea!
I agree! I would love to see how many episodes it would take
I feel like this could have been done better by making it more comfortable and intimate, to feel safe to be vulnerable. They’re all standing up and able to distract themselves and not make eye contact. They all look around and keep looking at the timer as well. This is a great concept that should be explored, though. It’s just so sterile and cold
Totally agree. If I needed to cry in that space, my first instinct would be to sit on the floor (and ask that guy to stop chewing gum as it was super-distracting!), but a couple of squishy sofas, a warm rug and some softer lighting would work even better :-)
Exactly, you need to be comfortable to be able to cry 😅
@@somethingsomethingsarcasm i feel like that probably really hits deep into why someone would be unable cry, there probably is a deep unyielding discomfort. i couldn't cry for many many years, even by myself, but finally once i found a relationship with someone where i felt truly safe being vulnerable, suddenly i can cry with them, and now i cry regularly. it's wonderful, and a certain kind of comfort is definitely key imo.
and i do think gender plays unfortunately often a big role. back when society viewed me as a boy/man, even from a young age it felt like most people actually didn't care about or straight up didn't want to know about my feelings, like my feelings were just a burden or a disruption, so i cut them off real early because expressing them just didn't result in anything good for me. i've heard many guys say they feel similar things from others. it's pretty heartbreaking to consider tbh..
Yeah it’s going for more of a side men vid even though it’s gonna be more intimate challenge
how do you get comfortable to cry
As a person who attempt suicide and struggle with really bad mental health, it really opened a eye for me when they started talking about friends who passed away bc of suicide. Just the fact that, that was something they tought of, that made them so sad they could maybe cry, made me so funerable. Ofcourse i know i have friends and family around me who cares about me, but hearing from other people that losing a friend due to suicide is so extremely hard and understandeble, really gives me a reason to keep trying and work on my mental health
Bro take care of urself, you okay right?
Bless you!
Are you alright?
You are never alone. God is always with you. Pray to him and he will answer. May God Bless you and help you with your struggle.
please don't give up on yourself, i promise you are worth it 🧡
The problem is men have trained themselves to not cry for so long
they haven't trained themselves. society taught them
@@jeffreychandler8418 no, we have trained ourselves based on what we got from society
@@yasser1993319 i disagree.
@@gmddolbaeb2191 I agree with him. I remember times when I was younger watching movies that would make me sad. I would’ve cried but I was forcing myself to hold back the tears with the idea that crying isn’t normal, and that’s based on society, and this is just one example
I cry plenty. My dad is in the hospital recovering from a stroke. If you don't cry when witnessing your father on the edge of death, unable to speak, I feel very sorry for you.
The deep voice of the narrator DEMANDING a single tear must fall makes this that much funnier 😭
That hug,you dont know how much it means to me
Seeing how awkward and uncomfortable they get when emotions started being shown is really telling. I hope these guys were able to see the strength in their emotions and in vulnerability after this exercise and find ways to tap in to their emotions in a healthy way after this.
No way is it a good idea to just open up and be emotional Infront of strangers 😂 ... Unless it's an act ... Like when local politicians do it.
@@wayandoI can't believe people think this way. It's objectively wrong.
@@puzzlepeace8859 ... It is objectively wrong to be inappropriately open/ emotional in public, especially to strangers ... It makes people uncomfortable and stinks up a room ... It's manipulative, which is not a manly way to operate.
Everyone has a problem they are handling. And they are not interested in listening to yours unless it is something that they should be directly be involved in, by choice.
@@wayando My dad had a stroke on Saturday. I've been spending every day by his side alone because my brother was in the military and is uncomfortable showing his emotions. He knows he will cry, just as I do, but decides to stay home instead of visiting. Over the course of being with him for 9 hours yesterday in the ICU, I broke down a couple times. My father can't even speak, let alone feed himself. Society might think my brother is the real man, but I refuse to he afraid of vulnerability. I'll cry as much as I need to in front of every nurse and doctor in the hospital if it means doing the right thing and being there when he needs me.
@@puzzlepeace8859 ... Sorry for your dad's condition. Hope he gets better.
Your particular situation is definitely not what I was talking about. You father had a stroke, not showing emotions would be inappropriate in that type of serious situation.
But don't be quick to judge you brother. Everyone has their own way of processing high impact events.
Personally, I had a serious situation in my family back in 2015. When it was happening I seemed emotionless. But I had to be, because I was the one in charge and controlling the direction of events. So I had to keep my head straight ... Later, like literally 3months later is when I really got the chance to process and show emotions for what had happened.
The people fighting in the back of the ad in the beginning of the video to grab our attention is the smartest thing I’ve ever seen. Well done. I’m actually baffled. Pushing the boundaries of advertising. You have a deep understanding of the gen-z attention span. You won
I skip all ads so I missed that part 😂
Bruh, we skipped…
This is the best thread I’ve ever read 😂
Wait.... wich ad? I think i skipped it
we don’t watch ads dawg
So proud of all of these men but CRAZY proud of Dani-Ace!!! With saying he wasn’t even going to share but then called out the comment of “this is probably the deepest we’ll get to know anyone for the next year” and decided to challenging that and actually say “no, we can change that, we can look deeper”. I genuinely hope this helped all of these men
my dad is like this. no matter how sad anything gets. never seen him cry before
I think that's most dads .... Me stop crying after around teenage. I think the last time I was like 14yr ( am over 40yrs now)
The first time I've seen my dad cry was at his mom's funeral. He Said something like "I wish I could talk to her rn". He made me emotional too.
Recently, I've been feeling the urge to cry over the smallest things. Like, I'm a dude, and I normally don't cry. I'm also not really in a bad place rn, but the last month I'd say I've been having the urge to get really emotional over small stuff. Like watching a show I've watched before and maybe something super tiny and slightly sad happens that doesn't phase me, but now I'll feel tears come up. Or like even just thinking about anything, like when someone complements me I feel like crying...idk whats going on, but I just wanted to rant
It’s a human emotion, go cry get some ice cream and just let it out. Whether it’s with someone you trust or on your own. It’s healthy and there’s no shame in it or weirdness to it. I love a good cry. Love ❤️
it's healthy to let yourself cry.. take care
Gimme a couple beers, let me talk about my childhood traumas and I promise I’ll cry uncontrollably like a little girl
You could check your hormones, prolactin especially. As a woman, depending on the time of the month I have to go to the bathroom to cry and I have no reason to.
Hormones are a major factor and a lot of people don't talk about it
@SQUELCH-zj7il honestly, I think that might be it, but I know very little about hormones. My next doctors appointment I'll ask if we can look into that....I was watching Avatar the Last Airbender, which I've watched a million times. I legit started crying over the cabbage guy losing his cabbages. My wife was comforting me but also trying not to laugh, which made me start laughing while crying because we were both confused about why I was crying. It's been a struggle lol
as a teenage girl, i can cry pretty much instantly about even shallow things. im happy that i can be so in touch with my emotions and to anyone who doesn’t relate to that i’m very sorry. everyone should have a space sanctuary, a comfort person who they can rant and fall apart too. everyone deserves people in their life who will help pick up the peices to make them whole again. crying is okay. even if you alone let it out, journal, make video entry’s. do not ball up for emotions.
Bro im being dead serious ive cried once in the last few yewrs, and thats because i was listening to Glass Eyes by Radiohead
Im actual into this idea based off of the premise. I think I want to see it more, but it’s obvious that its a very difficult challenge
These guys were never getting the money 😂
shi I knew they wasn't getting it when they said you couldn't be physical😂
Spoiler ahh niqqa
@@rolexkr don’t read the comments before watching the video then 🤦♂️ I also typed that comment before watching the video, pretty obvious to guess
@@rolexkr they themselves said it
Seeing guys cry breaks me heart, I wish it was more acceptable for them, I just want to give them all a hug
Yo here I am trying to cry along with them cause I don’t remember how it FEELS to cry in a while, stay strong that definitely means being vulnerable my homies 🤝🫂
I would be curious to see this with 6 women, because I think the stereotype is that they would be able to do it easily, but I'm an AFAB woman and I was also taught to bottle my emotions and while I cry easily while watching sad movies and stuff like that by myself, I sometimes have a hard time opening up/crying in front of others. When I start to, sometimes I will naturally shut it down without even thinking about it, because I was yelled at for crying so much as a kid.
Relatable. The response to me crying as a kid was generally 'stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about' & after a while you just push it all down and end up with things like cptsd 😂 I have no issues sharing things straight away though, but people get awkward when I do because the emotion doesn't match up to what I might be saying - I'm also autistic though so that's just always been a thing 😂
it should be easy looking the way you look 🤢
agree!! this would be a good idea too, and I can relate to what you said, I was taught to do the same thing and feel uncomfortable crying in front of others.
What is an AFAB woman? Genuinely curious, I urban dictionaried it but I just want clarification, does it mean you're trans?
@@LS-wo3ve Ah okay, thanks
Seeing this 2 months late...freakin awesome experiment. Can't stop watching it. So real and indicative of most peoples' relationships. I def wanna see more like this
I find it interesting that even though they had the option to cry tears of joy, they didn’t explore it as much.
they shouldve been talking cracking jokes or something to make everyone laugh uncontrollably and have tears coming out lol
Or turn away from each other so they didn’t feel like the others were watching them. They were peeking at each other and worrying if they were being watched.
@@raimeyewens7518 Jesus Loves you so much! You may not think it but there is a reason you’re seeing this. He wants you to know Him so you Two can have a Relationship:)!!!!!!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Jesus Loves you so much! You may not think it but there is a reason you’re seeing this. He wants you to know Him so you Two can have a Relationship:)😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Definitely could have worked, they said happy tears count
i get teary eyes frequently (alone) but not enough to get the required 1 drop. The last time i (properly) cried was 5-6 years ago while watching a pirated version of "million dollar baby", alone in my room. I lowkey kinda miss that bawling.
This is actually heartbreaking to watch :( bottling up emotions is such a sad thing
Having emotional displays ready to fire off in public in front of strangers would indicate abnormal levels of estrogen in these men.
they should’ve made each other laugh really hard, for me that’s instant tears 😂
Made me cry when they started talking about losing family. Cant answer the door anymore, or a text or fone call. Thanks!!!
All these guys seem so chill. Respect for them taking it seriously. That Rachi guy was fire too, bro was spitting facts.😮💨
It's honestly so sad that it took 30 minutes for 1 of 6 men to cry. This is our reality.
I don’t even think 1 of them cried. He jus claimed he did and they awarded it.
Why is it sad?
@@beianimeyah24 it was probably nervous sweat that irritated his eye when he rubbed it
@@ankit7942 Because men should be able to cry it's normal. Women could easily make each other cry (though it depends on the women chosen.)
@@nutmeg0144 thats even worse
Man I would be so good at this, not with the sad version but with happy tears, those flow quick for some reason. The feeling of overcoming the things that you've been held down by for a long time is quick tears every time.
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I could cry in a second thinking about all the sh*t I went through
Have you tried therapy or speaking about your pain to a mentor. ik may be hard now but it gets better and you shouldn't just break down on the spot anytime you think of your past that means there's still open wounds not the healthiest way to live life...
i hope you heal from the things you don’t talk about 🫶🏾
What did you go trough, if I may ask? That it's so painful you could cry instantly?
real asf
Clearly
Men bein vulnerable and not "weak" should be considered normal as a society plz do more of this videos
love this episode. I just wish they would’ve had at least an hour. I felt like from the beginning I could tell they weren’t going to be able to do it, but towards the end it seemed like they were maybe warming up and getting close. there are societal pressures on men to be tough and devoid of emotion, and the producers are definitely aware of that. I feel like with that in mind it should’ve been a clear choice to do a longer time limit.
i think they should have a more comfortable setting, like couches maybe. its hard to cry when you're standing in a circle surrounded by white, but maybe thats part of the challenge
I'm a women and I can't cry at all. I feel them. I was raised like a boy, always needed to stay strong. It's painful to not being able to let it out
I struggle with crying even though I'm a super emotional individual, but just watching this video made me shed a little tear. seeing men open up and be vulnerable is something I value highly since I've had too many experiences with closed off and numb men throughout my life. thank you for this video! I loved it so much. please make more
Great... they all say that but i get bullied for crying as a straight adult male?😔 i just want love... with a female but im to damn scared to go get it.... ffs i hate my anxiety.... thx for reading my rant...
@@Miner_20 ah I feel you. just know that expressing your feelings is never wrong. that’s one of the most normal things to experience as a human. and at the end of the day, who really cares about people’s opinions on you? they don’t know you! you do. and trust me, if you want that love, go get it 🙌🏻 I would recommend looking within the arts, that’s where you find most emotionally stable women :) also- I’m always here if you need a friend to talk to✨
@@Miner_20thank you for ranting🫶🏻
@@fridaoliviagood person alert🚨🚨 ur under arrest for generosity !!
@@ExtraPracticeahh I will happily let you arrest me. best compliments I could ever receive! 🫶🏻
This is great. It shows just how radicated the "strong men dont show emotions" idea truly is. I wish we were more open about our feelings and wouldnt be ashamed to show our emotion because it is SO healthy to do so, they are there for a reason, they connect us, make us process things and so much more. I'm glad these young men realized how difficult it was and why it was. To all men and women from a very emotional woman, dont be afraid to cry, feel sad, ashamed or weak !!! it's a big part of life, dont let old ideas dictate how you should live and show yourself ! Love yourself and your emotions, theyre valid !!!
As a Woman, you will never be able to understand how men process things. That's okay. But this really needs to be said... Stop trying to tell men how they "should" feel or act. One of the many ways women dont understand men (clearly) is that we dont get fulfillment from the same things as women. Typically men don't care aboit "connecting" or being validated through others opinions. We want to create and provide and protect. You can sit there and say you want an over emotional man but i guarantee you dont. The biggest population of over emotional men is where?..
Prison. Its full of men who couldn't control their emotions. There's way too many reasons to list here for you to even begin to understand why men being over emotional is not only not healthy, but not good for either gender, but another big factor is women themselves. Its been proven millions of times over throughout history. Imagine your man or husband comes home bawling his eyes out because he got fired and doesnt know what hes gonna do or how hes gonna pay rent or feed the kids. You know very well you would lose respect for him, versus him just "manning up" and taking care of the problem like hes supposed to. Most women dont even know what THEY want, so to sit here and think you know what we want is actualy ludicrous.
This is a weird and unnatural scenario first of all, standing around in a room with cameras being told by a PA to cry.
Second, it's also weird how they all repeat this modern idea that men not crying all the time is a bad thing, like it's a mantra for a cult that they've been told to believe in.
Society today is trying somewhat successfully to pathologize natural male hormones and behavior.
They feel like there's something wrong with them because they don't cry at random.
I'm proud of them, for opening up and acknowledging it did them good and trying to do that more!
"AT LEAST ONE TEAR MUST FALL"
i would love to see this exact video again with a new group
what a good bunch. i hope they all meet friends to confide in and make them feel safe enough to cry. letting it out really makes a great difference
Angel talking about his son and not being there for him everyday crushed me clearly he wants to be the best dad he possibly can but physically he can’t be there for his son
I can’t cry unless I’m alone or I really trust the people around me :/
skill issue
@@thy-posh-dev real
After this you know a few homies were made
I loved the group hug at the end😭❤
Ngl this could become one of my fav jubilee type of episodes
The closer I get to missing out on that $1k I’ll be crying 😂
this is too funny 😭
When I’m alone I’m such a crier but around others especially people you just met would probably be much harder, the suicide part would have got me 😢 great video, I feel like this message is so important
This was an amazing video. This is how you advocate for men’s mental health, not as an excuse to discredit what women go through but to actually bring light to the issue. Seeing men recognizing society’s stigma on manliness and get vulnerable was really emotional. Keep this format up!
What makes this more emotional is that you can hear their heartbeat as they cry😢
I think this concept would be a great addition to jubilee
Even tho they lost the “challenge” I think that their ability to open up was beautiful to watch. I know so many men crave these deeper connections (especially w other men) but are so scared of vulnerability. Good job guys, continue the assignment in real life
Typically, no. They don't. Men and women reach fulfilment from very different things. We dont really care about "connecting" or having our feelings validated by someone elses opinion. We want to create, provide, protect, etc. Do you know what the biggest population of emotional men is? Inmates. Prison is full of men that couldnt control their emotions. Men and women are different. We are not equal. Thats not to say one is better than the other, that just means we are different. Humans are at their best together. Women rarely know what they want.. To sit there and just assume we want things because thats what you want is just narcissistic and frankly simple minded.
13:06 this right here EVERY guy goes through this. it is hard to be vulnerable to others and it's scary opening up to people about how we feel
This was therapy for these guys.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Ahhhh! The minute they talked about losing someone or su**ide 10 seconds later I shed a few tears… I thought of my best friend that 0D’d last year and it made it really hard to hold it in… usually I’m pretty good about containing my tears but recently I’ve just been an emotional mess.
Death is messed up. Even the strongest feel it ...
If someone won't cry when someone close dies, then it's likely you will never see them cry ever ... Or they just don't trust the people they are with.
Times I've seen my husband cry were when our sons were born because he was so full of love and joy. And more recently, they're teenagers now, when he's worried about being a good father to them, when he's so proud of them for something, and thinking of them going off to live their own lives some day. So basically, when he's overwhelmed with love for his children. ❤ I've noticed women will sob when they're upset crying. But with men it's more stoic, tears will just flow but they don't tend to sob. I think it would take something really bad for the average man to actually cry the way women do. Also I noticed if a man is shedding tears he will often hide it, turn away or won't let it happen unless he's alone.
I'd say your observations are correct. I broke a years long not-crying streak recently and I sure as hell wasn't letting anyone see that lol.
Didn't realize how hard it is to cry.
This series seems to me like one of those things where it’s not about the destination (getting everyone to cry for $1000) but the journey. Even if they don’t win the money, the video is still great because they learned and experienced something on the way. I like this new series idea.
Side note: I’m not a huge fan of the voice changer effect lol. Maybe it’s just me, but the voice changer gives me “The Button” vibes, and I think it’s kinda cringy and unnecessary. But again, that might just be me. Just thought I’d give some feedback. I loved everything else about the video.
I liked the effect. Doesn't take itself too seriously.
agreed. the voice effect is dramatic and odd
the saddest part abt this video is that all of us shut our emotions out because we’re taught at a young age that men don’t cry and it’ll make you less of a man for crying. it makes us feel like opening up will result in us being judged and the sad part is that it’s true. the worst part about our reality is how people are judged for having real human emotions just because it doesn’t fit the social norm. throughout our entire lives we weren’t allowed to cry which results in it being impossible to cry when we’re older. it’s a sad world we live in but it’s just how it is.
This just helped me understand men more. Also it is a super power to not cry in life, but still be able to function. Love this video!!
U a woman?
I say we try till we meet a group where everyone cries
I agree
In order for that to happen they would all need be feminine.
0:17 when he says smash that like button the like button glows
Honestly, it feels as though Twobilee did this with the intent of the prize money being unwinnable, but rather with the intent to get men to connect and be vulnerable with each other. I'm so here for it. This was such a great idea. Its nice seeing men connect on a deeper level and unknowingly too.
This concept is acually so good. Please make more!
I'm an emotional person bruh if i see someone cry i will cry💀
lmao respectfully these dudes prove just how guys arent willing to take anything seriously. We’re so far away from our feelings that crying seems like an impossible task. Its quite sad
as a man, I can cry. And sometimes quite easily, like watching a movie. But I would find this very hard as the people are strangers, you know you're on camera with hundreds of thousands of people watching. My anxiety would prevent me from crying. It's easier to cry in a relaxing environment.
The deflection is craaaazzzzzyyyy
@@blockify i actually agree with you. But i wouldnt laugh. If theres money in the line you best believe im bringing up the trauma lmao
@@notesaisame but id just start being funny idk... cant cry sad tears... they tickle...😖
Ion got no trauma I’ve turned heartless, had one of my parents friends I’ve known and hung out with all the time growing up recently die and thought nothing of it.
It's awesome to see men in a safe space to open up and be vulnerable with eachother, when families and society constantly have told them it's not safe and not okay. Men have the highest success rates of suicide, and more spaces and moments of connection like this is a huge part of what they need. This warmed my heart to see. I only hope more of these spaces and moments happen for men so they can not feel so alone inside ethat it literally takes their life. To all the men out here--your entire being is worthy of being seen and heard, not just the mask. It's ok to not be ok and vulnerability is a powerful weapon that you deserve to use. What happened to you was not your fault.
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I cried just hearing all these men talking about the difficulty of crying... makes me so sad.
Listening to these men made me realize that damn! It is actually a real thing to just go through life without the pains and tears I endure as a human being.
they still have pains they just can't cry anymore unless something dramatic happens in real life in front of them I don't think they will cry
I really enjoyed this video. Despite them not being able to complete the challenge and maybe being the type of guys who have bottled up emotions in general (as so many men do unfortunately), they showed a lot of maturity to at least give it a go and share some of the stuff they did. Would definitely like to see more content like this.
Feeling is very important. But the reason men tend to not dwell on their feelings of pain is because we must be capable to think and act wisely and not be controlled by emotions in our actions.
Imagine they could win a million each. They would cry for not winning. But it would be to late to get te money. Would be hillarious😂
as someone who’s transmasc and taking testosterone, i haven’t been able to cry since i’ve been on it. i can maybe force a tear out or two when i get really sad, but it’s pretty hard for me physically. i believe that has to do with the amount testosterone that inhibits our production of prolactin. hormones can affect your ability to cry, although it’s not the same for everyone and it’s not what determines it overall. so in THAT way i can understand how hard it is for them ;-;
Jesus Loves you so much! You may not think it but there is a reason you’re seeing this. He wants you to know Him so you Two can have a Relationship:)
I'm MTF and on estrogen and yeah for sure hormones affect it. I never cried before estrogen but now I can do it whenever. It's not just societal, but hormonal as well.
both of you are freaks@@mooshkeys
Libtards finding out that gender roles are not the cause of gender differences but a consequence of biology
Yes, this has been confirmed scientifically. It honestly kind of annoys me how men moan about "feeling numb" and can't peice together that it is just a biological issue. It's not like men are all battling with a hidden depression or distress. They just struggle to cry the same way as women do