You're absolutely correct. Radical acceptance is essential. Once I realized, and accepted, how little I really meant to her (I was nothing but a placeholder, in spite of her bullshit "future talk"). And how easy it was for her to string me along and cheat on me. I lost any desire to see her again for the rest of my life. Allowing myself to love her, and believing that she actually loved me, were the worst mistakes of my life. Walking away from anyone has never been so easy for me now. Fuck "giving benefits of a doubt."
It's a difficult but necessary step, I told her that I knew that letting go was my true act of love for her, because in the end when we truly love someone we want what's best for them even if it hurts us, it hurt and still hurts, but no contact for a month now has been good for me. I deleted her number even. I still care for her but I hope these feelings will go away
@@marguskiis7711 how am I ever going to know that if I literally have 0 contact with her she could be with another guy I don't and I don't wanna know, I want her to be happy above all
It’s been 5 months since I blocked him and have been in no contact. I’m feeling a lot better now but it’s so hard to accept that he cheated on me and discarded me after 14 years together. And I miss our big fluffy dog that he took away from me. Healing takes so long 💔
Yeah that’s rough and heartbreaking We tend to make acceptance about how we feel. However, we need to focus on the truth of the actions. He did what did because that’s who he is and always has been. I know it’s the worst feeling in thy world, but it’s not about you per se, it’s about him and his bullshit. You’re gonna be fine.
Dear Nick. What if you share small Kids? Almost every week I have to communicate about something (both of us keep it very brief and short) which breaks no contact and delays my healing. Whenever I start feeling better the nesecary co parenting stuff f** up my recovery process. My Kid also talks about his rebound frequently and it kills me. Its hard to get unstuck. I start wishing him well, gave or threw away most of the many gifts he gave to me and sometimes even a feeling if relief comes up. But I am still am deeply in a trauma bond (almost 9 months after breakup). To me he was the whole package in many aspects. When thing were good, we seemed to fit each other like gloves. Is it possible to get out of a bond like this? Could you eventually make a viedeo about this toppic one day with your own experience and the experience of your coachees? I belive it is a main hindrance in healing and mire than a concious decision. Best regards and thank you as always my friend.
Thank you for sharing. I can only imagine how that is for you. I’ve had many one to one clients in your situation. They implement smart contact which is only discussing the kids which you’re doing already. Sadly, there is no magic way around the hard feelings that come with that. What I can tell you is, it gets easier over time, but you must be doing the work on yourself in the background. What have you been doing to heal yourself? Would I be correct in saying that you and your ex had a rollercoaster relationship? When it’s good it’s really good, and when it’s bad, it’s really bad?
Thank you for giving me and us space to share here. Yepp you are right, we had a rollercoaster relationship with several break ups in between. 10 years alltogheter. I can not stress enough hiw good it is that you honestly talk about the bullshit if taking an ex back. Even if they worked hard on them and you worked on you (as we both did), it can fail again. And this is another kind if pain then. What I did: Sessions with you, Meditation, somatic work, gym, time in nature, a little funeral where I burried the "Us" / the relationship (whenever I think of wanting him back, the grave comes to my mind and that helps tremenously). No dating. Started a dancing class. Hinking on my own. Reading books. Working on my fears, my attachment style and my unresolved anger. I talked a lot with friends and will apply for therapy (again). Anywanys I do struggle daily, have a strong chest pain (broken heart sydrome). I miss and still love my ex dearly. So much sadness amd gief and it is a very dark and lonely journey sometimes.
What if you kind of been talking to them and trying to get back with them with 3 months before going no contact... even when you knew they were talking to someone new? They called me randomly one day when I was at work and I answered right away, I said I was at lunch but afterwords I was upset with myself for answering so easily and fast. I feel like their perception of me is very low even though they say I still have a place in their heart, they care about me, they respect me, want the best for me, etc.
My friend, it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about you. What matters is what you think about yourself. Love is a choice and an action, no a feeling. We must therefore choose to love ourselves first. That’s what is attractive.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick statistics don’t mean s**t 😂😂. Your channel isn’t the most popular because you’re honest and real. If you were to make videos on ,how to get your ex back‘ and this nonsense you’d be having 6 digits of followers
Your videos are so good. Once she said she was done, I walked out (literally) from her apartment. I blocked her after she unfollowed me on social media. She’s 46 and acts like a child and the last time she had power over me. I took the power back and blocked her. She can always call me or text me or message me at work since we work together if she wants to reconcile but right now I am working on me. If I don’t hear from her that’s ok as well. She sent stuff she bought for me like underwear and even a ketchup bottle i never used. Wth
@ it’s gotten worse. She ended up being a covert narc and cheating the whole time. We got back after that because her dad died and I got suckered in. Finally left for good in October. It’s been tough breaking the trauma bond for sure.
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Awwww thank you so much. 😊😊😊😊🫂🫂
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Your welcome:). Also it is time to feed that algorhytm so more people will find you:).
All glory to the hive queen that is the algorithm! 😁
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You're absolutely correct. Radical acceptance is essential.
Once I realized, and accepted, how little I really meant to her (I was nothing but a placeholder, in spite of her bullshit "future talk"). And how easy it was for her to string me along and cheat on me. I lost any desire to see her again for the rest of my life.
Allowing myself to love her, and believing that she actually loved me, were the worst mistakes of my life.
Walking away from anyone has never been so easy for me now.
Fuck "giving benefits of a doubt."
I’m sorry to hear that, but I’m glad you put yourself first.
I hope you’re feeling better.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you.
Split today with her the relationship was severely toxic I've never had a partner that pushed me to the brink i feel relieved but i still miss her
I hear you.
You can still someone and the breakup be the right decision.
Absolutely best walk away info on this earth .❤
Aww thank you so much.
I hope it helped.
It's a difficult but necessary step, I told her that I knew that letting go was my true act of love for her, because in the end when we truly love someone we want what's best for them even if it hurts us, it hurt and still hurts, but no contact for a month now has been good for me. I deleted her number even. I still care for her but I hope these feelings will go away
You’re doing great man. 💪💪😊😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks Nick this channel saved my life honestly it comforts me!
Wow! Thank you for your kind words. That’s means a lot.
I’m just showing you the door. You’re doing the work and walking through it. 😊
@@marguskiis7711 how am I ever going to know that if I literally have 0 contact with her she could be with another guy I don't and I don't wanna know, I want her to be happy above all
It could never be the same as it was - I’ve changed
NC 3 months blocked him on everything
He’s toxic so no going back
Its hard but its the best choice that we can take, great video Nick, I hope you are doing well, take care my friend.
Thank you, sir. Appreciate your support as always.
It’s savagely hard. 😩
It’s been 5 months since I blocked him and have been in no contact. I’m feeling a lot better now but it’s so hard to accept that he cheated on me and discarded me after 14 years together. And I miss our big fluffy dog that he took away from me. Healing takes so long 💔
I feel ur pain, I’m 18 months in it gets easier but takes time take care of urself
Yeah that’s rough and heartbreaking
We tend to make acceptance about how we feel. However, we need to focus on the truth of the actions.
He did what did because that’s who he is and always has been.
I know it’s the worst feeling in thy world, but it’s not about you per se, it’s about him and his bullshit.
You’re gonna be fine.
He will be back but you need to move on and never give any power, never speak to him ever again.
Dear Nick. What if you share small Kids?
Almost every week I have to communicate about something (both of us keep it very brief and short) which breaks no contact and delays my healing. Whenever I start feeling better the nesecary co parenting stuff f** up my recovery process. My Kid also talks about his rebound frequently and it kills me. Its hard to get unstuck. I start wishing him well, gave or threw away most of the many gifts he gave to me and sometimes even a feeling if relief comes up. But I am still am deeply in a trauma bond (almost 9 months after breakup). To me he was the whole package in many aspects. When thing were good, we seemed to fit each other like gloves. Is it possible to get out of a bond like this? Could you eventually make a viedeo about this toppic one day with your own experience and the experience of your coachees? I belive it is a main hindrance in healing and mire than a concious decision.
Best regards and thank you as always my friend.
Thank you for sharing.
I can only imagine how that is for you.
I’ve had many one to one clients in your situation. They implement smart contact which is only discussing the kids which you’re doing already.
Sadly, there is no magic way around the hard feelings that come with that.
What I can tell you is, it gets easier over time, but you must be doing the work on yourself in the background. What have you been doing to heal yourself?
Would I be correct in saying that you and your ex had a rollercoaster relationship? When it’s good it’s really good, and when it’s bad, it’s really bad?
Thank you for giving me and us space to share here.
Yepp you are right, we had a rollercoaster relationship with several break ups in between. 10 years alltogheter. I can not stress enough hiw good it is that you honestly talk about the bullshit if taking an ex back. Even if they worked hard on them and you worked on you (as we both did), it can fail again. And this is another kind if pain then.
What I did:
Sessions with you, Meditation, somatic work, gym, time in nature, a little funeral where I burried the "Us" / the relationship (whenever I think of wanting him back, the grave comes to my mind and that helps tremenously). No dating. Started a dancing class. Hinking on my own. Reading books. Working on my fears, my attachment style and my unresolved anger. I talked a lot with friends and will apply for therapy (again).
Anywanys I do struggle daily, have a strong chest pain (broken heart sydrome). I miss and still love my ex dearly. So much sadness amd gief and it is a very dark and lonely journey sometimes.
Sessions with me? What’s your name?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Hey Nick. I do not want to write my name in public and will tell you when we have our next Session.
Fair enough. Speak soon. 😊
What if you kind of been talking to them and trying to get back with them with 3 months before going no contact... even when you knew they were talking to someone new? They called me randomly one day when I was at work and I answered right away, I said I was at lunch but afterwords I was upset with myself for answering so easily and fast. I feel like their perception of me is very low even though they say I still have a place in their heart, they care about me, they respect me, want the best for me, etc.
My friend, it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about you.
What matters is what you think about yourself.
Love is a choice and an action, no a feeling. We must therefore choose to love ourselves first.
That’s what is attractive.
Nick is the goat!!
RUclips statistics would disagree, but thank you for your amazing support. It means a lot to me. I appreciate you. 😊😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick statistics don’t mean s**t 😂😂. Your channel isn’t the most popular because you’re honest and real. If you were to make videos on ,how to get your ex back‘ and this nonsense you’d be having 6 digits of followers
Thank you, my friend.
I have made videos on getting an ex back, but that to is all about radical responsibility and focusing on yourself.
Sir can we please have a little chat ?...
Sure. If you want to book a coaching session, tap the link below to book it in.
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@@TheLoveFix-Nick sir I can't afford to book your session RN
Okay buddy.
You can join the Facebook support group. It’s free.
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Your videos are so good. Once she said she was done, I walked out (literally) from her apartment. I blocked her after she unfollowed me on social media. She’s 46 and acts like a child and the last time she had power over me.
I took the power back and blocked her. She can always call me or text me or message me at work since we work together if she wants to reconcile but right now I am working on me. If I don’t hear from her that’s ok as well.
She sent stuff she bought for me like underwear and even a ketchup bottle i never used. Wth
Thanks buddy.
Working on yourself, never a bad thing.
Keep doing what you’re doing. 💪💪
Must be tough if you work with her
@ it’s gotten worse. She ended up being a covert narc and cheating the whole time. We got back after that because her dad died and I got suckered in. Finally left for good in October. It’s been tough breaking the trauma bond for sure.