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When a LOVE ADDICT meets a NARCISSIST
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Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail.com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
Dr. Ramani, thank you for this! I have personally found it's better to be alone. At least for me. I once couldn't imagine living my life growing old alone, but after what I have been through and seen and the fact that this seems all too rampant, it's better safe than sorry. Peace is priceless.
This is a very powerful message. You made the choice to live peacefully. You are not vulnerable any longer. And you don’t need a flawed rescuer. Peace is indeed, priceless.
“Travel and tell no one, live a true love story and tell no one, live happily and tell no one, people ruin beautiful things.” - Khalil Gibran †
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Actually, there is a universal book that can benefit any marriage between a man and a woman as long as they follow the guidelines. It's known as The BIBLE.
A narc needs a love addict to survive and thrive..
And to create more chaos. 😅
Their no.1 supply cos it's true no doubt the love addict is a very good person 😢 all I kno is thank u lord for Dr. RAM❤
Love to dance? Love music? Love ice cream? Love potatoe chips? Love their job? Love charming princes? Ugh, Love a terrible Hallmark movie? Ugh , valentines day is just over.
Yeah, it is called "supply." A narcissist needs supply to thrive and live their lives. It is a personality disorder.
When A Love Addict Meets A Narcissist The Codependent Love Addict May Try To Create An Ideal Relationship However The Narcissist Becomes More Demanding Abusive And Uncaring In Return And The Cycle May Continue In A Downward Spiral.
Exactly.
@@steph2834 It Really Is!!
Interesting
😮😮😮 omg 😱 I did not know this and I thought I am the narcissist.
💯I am a love-addict! My love language(s) are time and touch. In relationships that I have had with narcissists... I become addicted and the shock from them when they stop "loving" me is REALLY hard and completely unexpected.
Może to deficyt nazywa się fiksacja oralna..
Love addiction might be a thing, but you also have to admit that society sold us, particularly women and girls, a bad bill of goods about relationships. We are shamed into getting in relationships and bullied if we are 'single cat women'. I love cats, and I prefer being single, especially after dealing with narcissists. I would bet the 'love addict' would change easily if they had better information, not the flat out lies about what happens in hetero relationships.
This. I usually blame Disney in my case… they made those princesses look so happy, so joyful, and so loved. I wanna be spun around by someone hot who’s into me too 😅
This describes the narcissistic relationship I was in very accurately. She gave a lot of affection and closeness at the beginning and I became addicted, then when she started to pull away and devalue I was devastated, people I worked with started to see it just looking at me. Well now ten years later when she tried to hoover, she’s blocked.
A borderline and a narcissist walk into a bar...
You're not wrong!
Well love addicts arnt always bpd
@@roslynrivet4801 I agree! I was a childhood trauma abuse survivor and had no healthy relationship role models. I am not sure what my diagnosis would be , because it crosses so many
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Thank you for helping us love addicts 😅 My parents have been narcissists most of my life and I needed to learn this so I can do better for me❤
I am the kind of love addict Dr. Ramani describes in this video & she described my narcissistic relationship to a T. including the physical health & mental health consequences. Also helps explain why I stuck around for 20 years despite the fact that we had no children nor was I dependent upon him financially. It made me cry a little bit to hear this video, but it also made me feel better. A lot of it is what I already suspected. Hearing it put so well and so succinctly by Dr. Ramani softens the sting a bit and gives me more permission to let it all go and focus on healing.
I think I was a love addict towards my narc husband, and I was for 30 years into my marriage with my husband and for the past 10 years thanks to my menopause I don't give a rat's ass for his love or attention. Finally I feel good.
First time I ever heard positive commentary on the menopause 😂 Maybe that’s what opened my eyes too. Take care xx
made me giggle . menopause like flyspray lol 😂
This was me 10 years ago when I met my narcissist. What I would give to know then what I know now.!! I'm 9 years in and I now know exactly what I'm dealing with, and still don't have the heart to leave. But it's not because I'm addicted to love. It's because I feel immensely guilty for leaving him. There's definitely an addictive quality to our relationship, but I'm no longer snowed by his facade. I know exactly who he is, and there are parts of him I love deeply, but it is truly painful to be his partner.
Thank you for making this content, Dr. It's been a Godsend for me to make sense of the insanity I'm living in. 🙏💙🙏
If he is a true Narc you won't see all of who he really is until you leave. That's when the mask completely falls and when you see how evil they can be. Even then it can take years as they hoover and morph like a chameleon over and over to suck you back. Don't ever go back because this is where they punish you even worse. Eventually, you will see you loved who he made himself to be, who you wanted him to be, but none of who he was at all. He will only get worse as time goes on. They prey on strong, kindhearted, loving, empathetic souls so don't beat yourself up. It's actually quite a compliment. Like Dr. Ramani says, "IT'S NOT YOU". If you can get the strength to leave for good, you will find the warrior within.
"if you can't put your relationship into words, you have a problem" 🚩
The narcissist is the 'lust' addicted, they have no love.
Without saying too much this resonates with my situation. I will schedule an appointment with my therapist. Thank you!
Same.
Dr. Ramani is a god in human form, people like us who cant go to therapist and mainly doest even know what we are dealing with and the mental stress no one understands her session's are gift for us positive life changing, thank you for being their for us, its clear that u care about the empathetic people u understand how much it matters for the society and not doing for money, the amount of time that she spends here if she spends in her session she will earn more than this still she choose to do it for us through this RUclips channel thanks for doing for us thanks for creating such a positive impact thank you 🙏 hope u realise how great u r and your work is, thanks a lot... God bless you and your family... ❤
Well I am a believer in one’s calling. This can get pretty far out but I believe in the indigo, starseed and crystal children . We were born here for a purpose. I know I am one. Like I said I totally believe in this like others hold tight to their bibles .
I honestly believe her work changed human consciousness forever, particularly that she was brave enough to put this on RUclips in a digestible, down-to-Earth format. Dr. Ramani is a true gem.
Sounds maybe similar in ways with trauma bonding things? I feel like I used to be this way when I got into a relationship with narcissist, but have a greater sense of myself now so would rather be single than with the wrong person. Totally value my time alone and therapy. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
This was me. I was the love addicted person. I dont wish to be that person again.
It's the worst when you are friends with a love addict and you also know about the narcissist. Even if your friend comes to you for advice you are always put in a precarious position.
If you try to warn your friend, you get accused of being discouraging of the relationship, or worse, if you're single you get accused of jealousy or sabotage.
In your heart of hearts, you know how the relationship is going to end but the love addicted friend refuses to see it for what it is or what it will become.
And you know when the relationship inevitably fails you are the first shoulder the love addict friend cries upon. And you never want to be the jerk who says "I told you so!"
It's a three-way you never want to be involved in. I have actually lost a few friends over this because I resolved to let them find out for themselves.
And if experience is the best teacher, maybe they need to take as many refresher courses as they need until they figure out the difference between healthy and toxic.
What I just posted above may sound cold. But I see it this way:
If you warn someone about a giant hole in the middle of the street and they walk and fall in it anyway, what do you do as a friend or any compassionate human being? You go over, help them out of the hole, dust them off, maybe kiss a boo-boo or two and send them on their way.
But if you see them walking and you warn them again about the same hole but they fall in anyway, after the 5th or 6th time it gets old really, really quickly.
There's only so much you can do to try to be a good friend for such a person.
Had to end friendships with ppl who were narcissistic and love addicts. Both were exhausting!
When the Sadist and Masochist become best friends. 😂
So true. LOL.
lol 😂
Hi 👋🏻
This sounds like a lot of the relationships we see in Hollywood.
Thank you Dr Romani ❤ Rose
This is the exact dynamic I was stuck in for over a year
Just got out and feel so free and like a weight lifted, or as if someone reached in me and pulled a big chunk of cancer out
I can’t even describe it
I won’t allow a hoover from him if it happens either
The best way to get your narcissist partner off your back. Tell them yes I will do that for you, but for each minute I do that for you,you have to watch Dr. Ramani with me......
Recovering love addict here. The malady is in remission. Definitely not co-dependent or a sex addict. Right-on, Dr. Ramani.
This explains me. I’m the love addict with a narcissist female.
Me too, best twenty years I ever threw away. Don't even recognize myself.
I had love addict patterns in my dating, but objectively it wasn’t compulsive because I had intentions to create a long-term stable relationship and I didn’t hop from one dating partner to the next. For me it has always been emotional starvation or compulsive seeking. I’ve gotten a lot better at being happy with God. Sometimes I just feel like it’s a life unseen, though, and I wonder how long. There isn’t going to be that one person who comes in to make it all better, but it’s hard not to want a change for the better. 😢
I've noticed that proper boundaries are always missing in people with bad or pathological relationship skills. They cannot comprehend that you are a whole person with your own needs and self. They see you as a reflection of themselves and so constantly assault your boundaries. It could be the positive version such as love addiction, or the negative, narcissism. But the key is to learn how to both hold and respect boundaries. As long as we are unclear about those, everything else is up for grabs. People need to learn this, and take steps to set themselves up so that their lives support their boundaries. Boundaries are our own self defense against toxicity. A person who loves and cherishes you will respect your boundaries.
Doctor Ramani, please make a more detailed "Love Addict" focused video soon..
My Best Friend’s Wedding meets Sleeping With The Enemy
JLo and Ben Affleck anyone?
And I, ooop..... 😳😅
Oh gosh, I knew someone who was a love-addict partnered up for 20 years with a malicious, nasty, narcissistic woman. It was so sad to see how she treated him so cruelly, and how he kept on telling the story and making excuses for her. He was literally ready to fall in love again within months of her passing away.
Love that one, Ramani - "Top of the cupcake!" Again, you "nail it" in every piece! The reason I say that is because I Understand. How about "Rebound Relationships?"
A narcissist never gets it. It like talking to a brick wall when negotiating with these people. My mother is one of them.
Dr. Ramani! As usual, an incredible piece. One that spoke to me even more than all the others. If that were even possible. PLEASE! Where can i find more information about this idea of a love addict?? Thank You!!!!!!!!
I keep getting your videos in my suggestions. I think it’s a sign😣. There’ve been red flags I ignored, I’m tired of this cycle. I am the love addict, and have been in a five year relationship with a narcissist. It’s like I’m so used to the abuse it will feel strange if it stopped. I’m still trying to gain the mental strength to finally leave and get my life back. It’s not easy but I am set on leaving.
This is what happens when a love attic meets a narcissist I was 17 when I met my wife she was 32 about 24 I realized she was a narcissist didn't know the word but realize something was different Some how i figured out how to make her love bomb me. When ever I wanted. We have been married 33 years now
Was together with her 2 years. Worst part is… she’s not just a narcissist. She’s an avoidant dismissive, undiagnosed BPD 100000% and is a love addict. Hasn’t not been in a relationship since she was 14. She’s 21 now. Got together with me 2 weeks after she dropped her ex before me! I was so starved for affection that I blatantly ignored the signs. I’m really really really not okay atm… I have so much trauma from what she did to me. Hitting me, putting me down, throwing things at me. You name it she did it. Told me to kill my self everything under the sun. Going to see a doctor tomorrow and start a mental health plan. Haven’t spoken to her in a week. Blocked her on everything except messages in case she wants to apologise or whatever. But I doubt it… she’s a narc it’s practically impossible without their being an alterior motive behind or just manipulation.
Recovering love addict here. I was fearful avoidant. You’re right narcissist-like people were irresistible, the lows screwed with my entire life because of the despair.
I’m now much more secure, worked on self love w/ psychedelics and learned to set stronger boundaries.
have you tried relationships since
Id rather be addicted to love over hate
Why do people hate women when they turn 30 what's the Psychology behind this??the amount of hatred and narcissism directed towards me because am no longer 20 and people treat me like am ancient or no longer important it's extremely narcissistic anyone else going through this??I also get treated like I don't matter and my life has no value on a daily basis??
I’m so sorry you are going through this :( I don’t want to gaslight you because I don’t know your situation but it seems to me that you are struggling with self love. If you can talk with a therapist to start loving your beautiful self inside and out unconditionally. Maybe read some books on radical acceptance? You need to fall in love with yourself warts and all (we all have them) to be able to accept love from others. Look at Betty White! She only got more beautiful and lovable with age. Love and hugs to you 💗
@@learningstuffontheyoutube thanks for replying am not struggling with self love what I struggle with is people treating me like garbage and with hatred,,as someone who has gone through so much narcissistic abuse I didn't get to experience or enjoy my 20s it was the worst time of my life and I had no money I thought 30s would be bring me freedom and peace but it has brought nothing but pain it's a different kind of pain when strangers I don't know treat me like trash and are so narcissistic this is the Psychology that I don't understand
@@tfkdandsvkc thank you so much for explaining! Dr. Ramani says that very emphatic people can be a magnet for narcissists. Maybe you are a “highly sensitive person” and feel things deeper than most which can be incredibly overwhelming. I hope you have a good support system. If not it is so important to talk to a therapist about this. Nobody should go through this kind of hurt and confusion alone. I have no idea who you are but your words stood out and broke my heart. I can tell you have been going through needless suffering for far too long. Wish I could give you a big hug right now.
It sounds like internalized misogyny.
The people that do that might have internalized misogyny. Just my take btw.
When you lay down your interests....personhood.... selfhood. TRYING TO keep Another person happy...Huge red Flag....
Great clip - so true! How do we get through excruciatingly painful impasses? What is missing, since we cannot undo the past? We could become aware that competition and cooperation are not mutually exclusive, but require a balance along the continuum. Humans must, and do, compete and cooperate at the same time, all the time, usually unaware (subconscious stuff, trauma, outdated adaptation to inadequate families, suffering). Love addiction is dysfunctional cooperation; narcissism dysfunctional competition. We can be aware of the balance in each situation, each relationship, each moment. We are all competing and cooperating, so let's talk about that balance in this context, too. It ain't rocket science, and it would put us on less judgmental common ground. 🌷
This was protein packed. Lots of useful info. Movies, romance novels and music fuel this type of relationship.
Limererence/Infatuation high addict u can say.
thanks so much for sharing all this to us, you are very very important to have around! thank you
I am a love addict. 5 marriages in I finally get it. But how do I get healthy?
just stay single
My mom was married 5x
My dad was married 4x
Love yourself
Go for holiday
Enjoy your own company
No one will care like selfcare
Hello, my name is Matthew and I am a love addict.
Thx Dr Ramni.
Sounds like an episode out of 90 Day Fiance
She taught me how to love myself
Good gravy love addict! I know back when I first started dating,being an empath with no boundaries, I got caught up in to many relationships! I really thought I felt something. I really didn’t. This is mind blowing! I have a wonderful friend in her 40s. This describes her!! I think the dude she is hooked on may be narc but not sure. But he’s definitely unavailable.. this video blows me away!
Purple chair 🪑🪑🪑
@@user-sp4eh6vj8u lol
Sadly, sounds like the type of relationship promoted by Hollywood, and why movies generally end in the infatuation stage. I have seen someone like this - where they have a new relationship lined up before they exit their current relationship. The person I saw with this pattern, left a trail of badly damaged "loves" behind her.
Has anyone else seen that narcissists are really into PDA (public displays of affection) - way past their teenage years?
Well, no surprise there then as Hollywood is full of narcissistic people. From the director to the tea lady.
In my dreams im all these horrible things and all these beautiful things in dreams.or so im told.i never remember any dreams but my dreams are responsible for so much GAME.you know obliviate spell in harry potter the forget .its a real thing just when you are waking up.and the dark occould is who steals my memory from me. They're using me for the stories and whatever else i do. I'm trying to find light too hopefully allow healthy change but the family who made me the villin wont let me.
And jokingly people call this narcessist as dm and they are in twinflame journey 😂oh God
This is 10000% my friend, in her relationships, but she refuses to listen to me or learn about it 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@SylPaperworks excuse me ? I commented that my friend has a love/needy addiction and is always drawn to narcissistic men….your comment seems off kilter to mine.
Controlling (trying to make your friend change), Ignoring (your friend not listening to you), and public criticism (syls response) can all be seen as narcissistic with further investigation. Without it, not sure who is being accused of narckiness here.
Probably shouldn't even get involved, lol. Too much mud on me already.
@@madge2114 I’m not making my friend listen….no one can make anyone do anything. She is off the deep end, sleeping with married men, other men in relationships, phone sex with strangers….YOU don’t know this situation, I am holding out a hand to my friend, with words she needs to hear…she’s even stopped going to get therapist. YOU are out of line ….have nothing better to do than judge the comments of others ?
Basically explain my whole dating life. From late teens through twenties. That's why I gave up dating 3 years ago to actually heal.
My daughter after walking out of my life for 11 years had me meet with her yesterday to check my mental temperature of what my role is for her wedding that she is planning in only four months. She told me that she didn’t want this large wedding but it is because of me she is spending 70k on a wedding to save our relationship. She said you are worth 70k. Then she told me pretty much how to act or I will be removed from events. She is judging me on her seeing me one time a year at my parents home but has nothing to do with me otherwise. She also proceeded to tell me she is starting a family immediately and she wants us to be able to sit in her living room one Christmas with her little one while watching her wedding video one day otherwise what will she tell little Cindy why we don’t talk. She isn’t even pregnant. She is such a control freak. Broke up with a guy because he didn’t buy her a house when it was basically on her to do list in life for that year. Well 9 months later she and her new boyfriend moved into a Million Dollar home. She wants “us” to start over right now because she expects me to be perfect by her wedding. I don’t even want to open up this door. I have only accepted we were not going to have a relationship for less than 2 years. I was finally happy and loving the people that want me in their life besides the “perfect “ family picture. After she vomited on me with her emotional trauma she said “well that’s all for today. Now that I know you will wear blue when I tell you I can now start my wedding plans. I am just staring into space telling myself she hasn’t changed. She is only panicking because she said she may decide to have a picture of me zipping her dress. I am literally a prop for her pretend world and everyone that knows me says she will dump me again right after the wedding. So now everything falls on my shoulders she dumped it all on me. I am not doing well. My husband is angry that I slipped back into sadness and crying. I honestly do not know the answer. All I heard for two hours about pictures and Christmas watching her wedding video. My soul what was left is almost dry. My faith is what I hold onto I am so broken all over again. My narcissistic father died this year and peace literally filled me and then this.
My God you poor thing. Listen carefully to this Doctor. She is wonderful, wise, empathetic and articulate. Hear her words. You are NOT the problem.Make your own demands to this manipulative Daughter .. First, ask her to go to therapy before you give in to one of her demands. If she chooses not to or/ and explodes in your face, you have your answer. Do NOT blame yourself!!
I am so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. Do you have someone other than your husband you can talk to and get support from? Faith is paramount but it's nice to have the comfort and support of others as well. You are not alone. Hugs and blessings to you!🤗"So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Deuteronomy 31:6
Dear Dr. Ramani
I'd love to hear your thoughts on polygamy and polyamorous relationships.
A while back, I read an article by Giulio Perrotta. I found the correlation between Culster B personalities and non-monogamy frightening, given the growing trend of these relationships. I myself have experienced people who tried to heal me, with tactics such as free-love, let go of fear, toxic positivity, etc.
Thank you for a fantastic informativ channel
When you belind normally we all belind.
I used to be love addict, since I had no love 3ducation in family. I considere I am successfuly healing since I nurture no more phantasies neither I believe in cirque du soleil declarations any longer. I trust myself now.
Hi can you also pls tell us how to overcome our longing for care, affection,love, intimacy and sex? As these are always denied.pls pls pls talk about this
Romanticism ❤. I realize me posting this is contemptuous. I’m sorry.
What if the love addict is a narcissist?!
We have a VP wife running who is from India first time❤❤❤❤❤ Dr RAMANI and she's Yale grad.
Thank you
What about a love addicted narcissist!? I know 1
Also, after the love bombing the narcissist frequently reminises about woman they used to date or who they could have married but didn't, yada yada yada! The love addiction that was aimed only toward you, is now aimed at any female around you. So the narcissist and love addict are intertwined in the same body, not two separate individuals.
Love addicts anonymous 👸🏻
Hard to say, and this does sound like me. I'm very fast and intense into whatever I'm doing. It doesn't really matter what it is I'm doing. But I'm often alone. I love people, but I need more time with myself than with anyone else. So, this might not be me at the same time. I'm 100 percent into whatever it is I'm focused on that is. Emotions are in overdrive. I love strong, I learn strong, and I do it all and more without break. Well, until I burn out, which generally just means until I go to sleep. Right back at it once I'm awake. Anyway, if this is me, I am an addict, but also not. As this is something I can chose to turn off. It won't, however, turn off, unless I'm paying attention to the fact I'm doing it and also chose to shut it off.
It's not narcistic for me. I score way too low to even think I'm narcissistic. I would need to have both an External Locus of control, a care for what other people are doing or thinking, and overall need to be judging both myself and other people; Which I don't. Selfish in a way I suppose, but my love for others has no bearing on them actually loving me back. I don't care if they do.
Don't get this crossed. I care about people. Just don't need people. So, if it wasn't clear; That's why this might not be me. Also, my loving something or someone has no bearing on me actually being engaged or active with that something or someone. I love eating daifuku. It's my favorite food, but I rarely make it or eat it.
Anyway, what I'm talking about is associated with a lot of people with ADHD; Which I have. Thing is, whilst these are traits of narcissism, they're not done for the reasons a narcissist would. My emotions are always authentic. They're just too much for many people. They're also too often confused for narcissism, as people hear about the behaviors and think they understand the people they're judging with the behaviors, and as such misjudging those with them.
Suppose, boiling it down, it might not be for a very different reason. I know people I care about better than they often know themselves. Not just their minds and bodies. Their emotions. Why they do what they do. Even what they want when they don't know it themselves. Also, I'd freak out meeting someone with NPD. They wouldn't be able to read me. If correct about NPD anyway, they're not authentic enough for me to bother with. Again, I overdo everything. Meaning I understand whatever it is I'm doing very well. No need to bother with trust as such, as I know fast if someone is being real with me or not. To put this a simple way. I don't like people that tell me they do or did things I understand they couldn't have. As they simply lack the fundamental understandings of those claims they're making.
Maybe. I'm still not certain I've ever met anyone with NPD. I'm also not certain I understand properly what's being said today.
Why do I read this in such a fast pace? This is like me in my mind always, like constant babbling.
@@r.trace9665 Fast thoughts read fast. Who would've thunk it?
@@susanooalarichard I like to read something like this tho, something that I can relate. I can feel the emotions behind the text.
I would love Dr Ramani to do a take on Paris in Love. I know Dr Ramani would not comment to breach some sort of integrity, but my lord...Mrs Hilton!! with Nicky as a blind winged monkey. Dr Ramani, please watch it. Poor Paris Hilton, who is not perfect, but her mum is narcissistic!!!! I think Paris goes to Europe each summer just to get away from her mother and teies very hard to earn her own income so she is not controlled. A must see! So much sympathy for Paris now. Toxic when you watch all episodes
This is familiar! I've got several friends who've gotten stuck like this. Thankfully they got out, but haven't addressed the underlying issues that have them lilypading into another romance right away with no down time to sort thru the mess.
My friend who is a love addict her mom is too. More to the story -
Totally agree!!!!! Sadly sounds like me... Thank you thank you!!!! 👍❤❤❤
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would you be able to point me to any of your podcasts that deal with being a friend of somebody who has a narcissistic husband it’s getting to the point where it’s their relationship is affecting me I wanna be there for her, but I’m starting to……I just almost can’t deal with it anymore but I Idi t want to let het down .
Well someone here is clearly IN LOVE... With Mc'Donalds.🍔🍟 🐽🐷🐖
Obesity is not healthy at all.🐄
Bless your hateful heart.
Thanks!
very much relate to the constant thinking of texts and just ruminating about the person/relationship all the time.
I thought I was a narc... But I might be a love addict. I have done all of what youve mentioned and then some.
I am also very jealous of my partner. I dont know how to be alone. Always trying to find the one.
"The one" is within you, and can only ever be found within you. I was a 'love/dating addict' for years , while on useless toxic dating sites and apps. The only thing I learned is that a toxic hole can't be filled with toxic waste (toxic men).
Question about something you didn’t cover more, but touched on… that love addict not codependent… “can get lost in relationship” suggests the opposite to me…can you expand why you think not codependent?
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Hey if you want to break this down more, it is definitely relevant. 😅
Love addicts fall for narcissists like my comments getting deleted and falling into oblivion
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What is the difference between love addiction, limerence, and “favorite person”?
Is this about JLo & Ben Affleck? I have a friend who has not been single for more than a month. She gets a new bf before she dumps the previous. Can the love addict also be a narcissist.
Me me me!!!!! 🤣
How do you know that you are a love addict ?
Is this JLo 😂
Yup
Pizza pies amorie valentines day is over. Keep it simple they say be friends first they say be business partners they say be a rubber band they say flexible to snapping, cupid just doesn't have good aim. Oop!! It's a mess not returning to it.
JLO?
6th, 15 July 2024
I feel personally attacked. Just kidding.
I might as well face it, I'm addicted to love.
@@PinkiePi you know there’s a great video on RUclips addicted to love
Robert Palmer was THE BEST!!😊
Wtf is a love addict?
Ask Robert Palmer
Extremely bad choice of words Joe.
"Addiction to love" sounds like love is something bad for us. And Joe Palmer sings about lust.
We are all dependent on love as it is important for our well being. But love is not the same as lust, obsession, attachment and whatever. Love resides in a place of balance and temperance, it's inclusive and therefore doesn't deny neither emotions nor rationality.🤷
"Addiction to love" is a very bad choice of words.
And I might add that some level of physical touch is a need we all have, just to make it clear that I don't see it as a bad thing in itself. It's all about balance🤷
As a professional, you never should have mentioned President Trump in a criticizing manner in a previous video. It was very disappointing. Makes me think completely different about you. I had shared your videos in the past because I believed in you. I no longer do.
That's your problem then. TRUMP is a classic narcissist..Dr Ramani couldn't have provided a better example.
@@barhawley123 though I think he is better of the two evils lol