As an slightly older foster child (13 y/o) it warms my heart to see these parents trying so hard to make these kids life better. I’ve been through hell in the system (got kicked out of foster home at 12 and had to walk to 7-eleven barefoot, got physically assaulted, got screamed at outside a smoke shop, etc.) and it’s so refreshing to see people who care about the kids and not the money. I hope you keep on making these compilations!
I'm sorry I know that probably means nothing to you but I truly am I hope life gets a whole lot better for you. I hope you get to live the best life in the world because you deserve the world. Sending a virtual hug because you are loved.
Can’t wait to be old enough to be a foster parent so I can show my dad that foster parents aren’t bad. Making me and my siblings feel like it’s supposed to be a threat when he says he’ll put us in foster care. And making those kids in my care know that if trauma happens to you that it’s not the victims fault.
1:30 Thank you for taking the time to focus on ways to help them. I was assaulted twice as a kid and I hated showers for years because of that exact reason. After it happened, I scrubbed my body raw, desperately trying to get rid of the feeling of being dirty. Sometimes it’s still hard to shower because I keep thinking like that. It just makes me feel dirty again. I blame myself, even thought I now know it’s not my fault. It’s hard to get that out of your head sometimes, especially when anniversaries come by. Baths make a huge difference because it’s just laying down and relaxing. You don’t have to think about anything but how nice the bath feels. Thank you so much for taking the time to make sure you do everything you can to make them feel safe and comfortable in your home❣️
Does it help if you do a sink shower? Where you just wash your hair with the spray nozzle from the kitchen sink, or lean over the bath tub with a detachable shower head? You don't even have to take off clothes for that. I have sensory issues so sometimes I prefer to just wash my hair that way and not do the whole shower/bath thing, so I was just wondering if that would work as an option for people who are uncomfortable showering for other reasons?
To all the parents that foster…the good ones…thank you, for understanding, the system isn’t the best, and I was definitely not always lucky in placements, but the ones that were amazing made me so so happy and definitely helped me feel like I mattered ❤️
I’m only 14 but whenever I do end up thinking about raising kids in the future I always get hit in face with the fact that there are so many kids who don’t have the chance to have a normal and happy childhood and so I never end up considering having kids of my own, this is all still so far away but I already think that one day I might foster or adopt. I’ve never been very good working with young children but there are so many older kids that are overlooked because teens are complicated and many people don’t want to deal with them.
I'm 14 too and it makes me so sad to see these kids living horrible lives I hope they all get to have the best lives as soon as possible they all deserve the world.
Same. I know I’d probably want to take care of kids/teens at one point, and through these videos and further research, I realized being a foster parent might be what I want to do in the future!
I live in a foster family (biological, fostered siblings) and I would just like to thank my parents and all foster parents for helping children in need, I know they can be difficult sometimes but you do everything for them and are really under appreciated
As a young person who already has most of my life planned out, it's really awesome to see that i can foster children in the future and still do my dream job (an author). i really admire the people who can do this, and i want to be one of them someday. I wish everyone here a good day or night ❤️
I think foster care would be amazing but it’s a full time job and if I have kids I might not be able to handle that responsibility. I want them to have the best life and i can get easily overwhelmed so I probably wouldn’t be able to do it. If I’m unable to have children though, I would probably do foster care. I could give them all my attention and keep up with their pace. I would 100% wait till I’m married though either way. I have Adhd and sometimes can’t even find it in myself to handle myself. I would need a helper :) Edit: shout out to coaster parents (and honestly anyone who takes care of kid(s)) it’s a full time job and it’s something not everyone can handle 💛
Firstly abusive parents don't change and get rehabilitated. That's a lie. Classes aren't going to magically make a parent a good parent. I was beat and abused by my father my mother was an alcoholic. I had to help protect and shield my younger brother from the abuse. I went into care and I met my first foster mother she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I finally got to wear pretty dresses the only thing is I had to be separated from my two brothers. 2 years later my foster mom put me into a car and took me to social services telling me my parents were all better now and I was going to go back to live with them and my brothers. I was balling my eyes out begging them not to let me go home with those monsters it took my worker and my foster mom to pry me out of her car. Turns out if you get hit with a phone book it doesn't leave any bruises... my father didn't stop beating us he just got smarter about it not to leave any marks. Then when I turned 13 he started sexually assaulting me. Thankfully I got the courage to stand up to him and got him locked away. I went into care again and now as an adult I have a good life and made something of myself. The system is really messed up they are so focused on reunification if you have a child who is deadly terrified like I was, as foster parents if you see that... maybe you should ask yourself why that maybe something is wrong. My second time into care I wound up meeting my old social worker after I told her what happened after she put me back with them she looked so sad and she apologized to me but still. Some parents just shouldn't get their kids back ever. My father had a criminal record and they still placed us back.
I’m not in foster care but I’m seventeen and I live with abusive parents who’ve never been caught, and I was thinking about this type of thing throughout the whole video. Abusers don’t change. I know so many people with stories like mine, and yet never I’ve heard of abusers who put in the work to become aware of their own monstrosity and then improve themselves for their kids. People who abuse other people just aren’t willing to take responsibility for their actions and relationships. It’s why they’re abusers in the first place. Tonight is the first time I’ve ever even thought about fostering. I already hold myself to a huge standard when it comes to having kids; since I was young, I’ve been terrified of being for someone else what my parents are to me. I take caring for children so seriously, and since I intend to raise my own someday, I know I won’t be able to live with myself unless I’m being the best parent and person I can be for them at all times. On top of that, it’s my dream to become a high school teacher, so I might end up working with children all the time. I feel a huge responsibility to treat every single child I meet with love and fairness, and that passion drives a lot of what I want to do in life. Amidst all that, adoption and fostering were never really trajectories I thought about because I figured I didn’t want to take on more than I could handle if I already plan to have kids. But then a lone TikTok came up on my recommended page just now (the one with the lady preparing the shower for her foster teens) and something about it just hit. I started watching more content about it. I never really thought about the foster program as a whole. I paused this video midway through and looked into it, and it slammed into me just how little and how much impact foster parents have over their foster kids at the same time - they’re caring for them and giving them what they might’ve never had, but they’re haunted by the knowledge that they’re gonna have to throw these kids back into a den of wolves sooner or later. It sounds devastating from every perspective, but it also magnifies the responsibility of a foster parent to make every action count. Every single trait they exemplify for their foster kids can teach them about healthy relationships and provide them with love they never received. Every thoughtful deed can mean the world for someone whose world will be shattered again eventually. This is the first time I really contemplated any of this. Foster care strikes a sudden chord with me the more I think about it. I mean, it feels so messed up to return a kid to the source of all their trauma, but if there’s a way to make their life better before that inevitably happens, I’m all for that part. Overall, I’m not completely sure if foster care in my future, but if I find that it still feels right one day and I’m in the place for it, it could be something I endeavor to do. I’m so sorry for what you’ve went through. The injustice you’ve detailed in your life is nauseating and it makes me so upset that this is how the system operates. At the same time it makes me so happy to know that you’ve rebuilt yourself after all that. Thank you for sharing your story 💞 and if you have any more thoughts or advice to share I’d love to read. You’re amazing and strong, have a brilliant life :))
@@sophiaredwood5825 being a foster parent is something I plan to do later after my child is grown. Not I'm any way applying this to you but there are a lot of foster parents out there just for the money. That's why a lot of ex foster kids who know the system and managed to claw their way to a decent life choose to do foster parenting as we know for the most part exactly what these kids are feeling or even went through as we felt the fear and frustration on not being wanted. I was in one home where the parents were money driven they had their own kids and myself which wasn't a problem except that they always gave me worn clothes then their child would get a hot meal and I'd get a sandwich as a piece of fruit for example. I did meet a woman eventually who was a good foster parent she also was in the system and had a rough childhood so she understood my frustrations and fear of rejection doing things to make me feel comfortable. She also was a good voice for me with my emotions to my social worker even though I was a teen at the time. If you do choose to foster later on if your genuine I commend you. Know that the older foster children are the ones nobody wants as most parents mainly take in younger kids as they hope to be able to potentially adopt them while pushing older ones to the side. They also hope the younger ones will forget the trauma and be easier than the older ones who have more baggage. My last foster mom only wanted to take older teen girls for this reason and also they go on road trips and little kids don't travel well lol. Fostering won't be easy either since your going to get major push back from the kid who will act out bad as they are somewhere they don't feel comfortable and no matter the age expect you to give up on them and not care abandoning them just like everyone else did. I went through that phase with my last foster and I was one of the more well behaved good kids out of my agency. Your young so you have a lot of time to grow up and consider whether it's something you wanna do later so no rush. It's not an easy job no matter the age of the child and a huge wake up call since your dealing with majorly broken humans...
@@rebeccaanamu812 Thank you so much for typing all this out for me!! 🥺💞 It all means so much and I appreciate it. I’ll be keeping a lot of your story and advice in mind the more I think about this. Thanks again 💞
Shoutout to all the great foster parents out there! Thank you for the work that you do, and when I am old enough to become a foster parent, I plan on becoming one to help other kids.
My parents have thought of becoming foster parents once me and my siblings move out, but then they released the heartbreak of those kids eventually leaving.
when i was 8 i was in girl scouts and we had one assignment for each week. one week, we were supposed to make a poster showing who we want to be when we grow up/where we can see ourselves in the future - we were all given a poster, markers, and crayons. when i got home i took my markers and i wrote down many many things, filling up the whole poster. (doctor, babysitter, pianist, astronaut, scientist, veterinarian, stuff like that) looking back on it now, i see that one of the things i wrote down was a mom, and underneath it in parentheses was preferably to adopt or foster. it just warms my heart looking back on it now, i will keep it forever.
These videos make me so happy, it makes me happy to see people take care of kids that aren't their own biologically because so few people seem to care about others especially teenagers. I was a foster kid and I saw this so much with my foster siblings
If I can’t have kids/don’t have enough money to adopt/am single, I plan on becoming a foster parent. I want the opportunity to give kids with traumatic experiences find joy in life again. -- I also plan to have my own horse barn so I’ll train the horses as therapy animals as well :)
There's this lady in my town who used to foster and whenever a kid came up for adoption she would adopt them and I think she has over 50 grandkids now and maybe she's a great grandma too she used to babysit my mom and aunt and I was friends with one of her grandkids
I may just be 14 but I might try foster care when I am older because I know I don't want kids of my own cause I am not going through that pain cause I already know I am going to adopt at some point and like these people who do it are just really nice people and I applaud them for doing this
I'm a 13 year old in foster care and the first foster family I was in they mentally abused me and my brother who has a disability it took DCS and TI 3 months to move after they new and now I'm with a family who wants to adopt us if it comes to it and its so heart warming to see theses people actually care and informing people❤
“So what did their parents do?” MINE DIED! Thanks for asking! (Why do people think it’s okay to ask that!?! Who wants to share their trauma with every. Single. Random. Stranger?)
I’ve never been in the system but I’ve always wanted to foster, the one about teen girls who have experienced SA, like I have, has me sobbing. The love that shows from that beautiful woman is so heartwarming. That was a better response than I got from my own mother. I would love to help a girl who had a hard childhood like I did, abuse always follows you. Therapy helps but it’s always hard. Love everyone who has opened their hearts and homes to children who need it, I hope when I’m out of college and have my own place, I can help some innocent angels too.
I don't hate on people who say "Oh I could never be a foster parent, I'd get too attached." It's a selfish attitude, so it's good that they don't want to be foster parents - because it's bad for a selfish person to be a foster parent. Personally even if I had the room for it, I don't think I have the right mental state to be a foster parent (anxiety+depression ftw) and I don't know how to act around kids. And I REALLY hate being touched, so while that would work fine for some kids because they also hate being touched, I could see that being potentially an issue for some kids who just want a hug.
i don’t think under any circumstances should a foster parent take pictures of their foster child while they’re in the bathtub. especially going further and posting it (even if you cover their identity with emojis) you just shouldn’t
As a former child in the foster care system I am very disturbed that these foster parents are using social media to gain likes from fostering. When you tell sensitive information, like how a child feels about bath time, it is intrusive and can be used against them. Also showing the back of a child's head does NOT prevent them from being recognized. Children should never be any part of your videos or pictures!
while i agree with you that the children should not be shown at all i have to disagree on your opinion about bath time a what not, Im interested in fostering myself and would have never thought about bath time making a child uncomfortable so i think these ideas are great for someone looking to foster and trying to learn all they can to help the children that may come into their care.
I'm so glad they mentioned vacations! I absolutely adore the thought of fostering, just giving a home to a child who needs it even if it's temporary(tho I do plan on adopting after fostering for a while, fostering is just so nice but I would love to adopt as well. But the vacations! I would love taking foster kids to places they probably would NEVER get the chance to go to! Like disney world and universal and more! It would be so fun and they'd be so happy! I'm so glad this was mentioned! Now I have BIG plans for fostering including disney world~
The reason i couldnt be a foster parent is for afew reasons. One, i have issues with loosing people, and, overall issues with any sort of changes in my life. Two, foster children need a mentally stable parent to support them, and i am no where near mentally stable. And three, i know what its like. I lived with my abusive drug addict parents for 4 years before switching to foster homes. I went to 2 foster homes before my grandparents taking us in.
I used to say I never wanted kids but now I am anxious to grow up and become a foster or adoptive parent. I have a friend who was in foster care, and I want to be that kind of support system for a kid who lacks one. Every child ( and teen ( even though teens are children but you get the point)) deserves a warm and loving home.
Foster care definitely isn’t for everyone and it takes a really strong kind of person to be able to deal with the heartbreak after your little one moves on to another home or gets reunited with their birth parent. I wouldn’t be able to do it especially since I plan on having my own biological children some day, but it’s inspiring to see that there are good foster homes out there. There’s too many foster care horror stories and we need more loving, caring, wonderful foster moms and dads to help these kids feel safe when they need it. It’s hard to let go, but you guys are the reason so many kids will have a better chance at life.
I’m hoping to be a foster parent when I am older, I hope to foster mostly older kids like teens and what not because it’s hard for them to find a foster family.
I’ve never really wanted kids but I would love to foster older kids. Most of the time I see that the younger children are fostered more often then the pre-teens/teens, I’m not old enough to foster but I can’t imagine going through this mentally :(
I think the hardest part of being in foster care is letting go of the foster parents who were so kind to you. I was lucky enough to be adopted by my loving new mom and dad, but some kids are still stuck in the system.
The one with the lady was talking about weird encounters When you have a foster child it was so heartwarming but funny at the same time I mean “they don’t have the same mother either” has me dead
i’m going to try to get a stable job when i’m older so that i can foster kids and give them a better life, i’m just hoping i’ll be financially stable enough to keep it up. it’s been my dream ever since i was younger
I’m pretty sure all the kids whose faces weren’t censored are bio/adopted children. I know I was confused about those two little boys shopping until it was revealed they were not the foster kids being talked about, but shopping in preparation for their arrival.
Yes! Definitely. I grew up with foster siblings all the time (I was biological, fostered siblings) they need more people willing to adopt older kids! Because most people would rather have younger kids because their ‘cuter’ and the teens get left out. By all means YES they people to adopt teens! Have a great day
I plan to be a foster parent when my kids go off to college. I hope I can help other children with disabilities. My kids turned out alright 😁. Jk they are great teens and we all would love to have a bigger family but even though I'm young I cannot longer have kids on my own and will probably be better provide a safe nurturing space for foster to kids
There was a woman who was a foster parent who isn’t now. Wanna guess why? She adopted all 5 of the kids, they all had problems and two she had had a sibling on the other side of the country and somehow got him. Even after her husband died she’s still taking care of them. That is a strong women I will always look up to, even with a baby on a breathing tube. She’s my idol
If it’s allowed, I would let kids or at least teens have a lock on their bedroom door so they feel more safe. ❤️❤️❤️ like 2:13 🥺 it’s probably my favorite since I’m a teen girl.
its my dream to be a foster parent i was so lucky to get born into nice family. Sadly some people didn't and i feel so sorry for them. thats why i want to help!
I think it’s sad that rehabilitation is always the goal. It’s not like a parent who hits their kids doesn’t understand what they’re doing is wrong. They could take all the parenting classes in the world and still physically hurt their kids, it’s an issue of morals not education. The only time I could see reunification being good is when a parent with substance abuse issues cleans up their act for good, or if they had financial issues and got back on their feet. But the people who get their children taken away because they physically put their hands on them should not be allowed to get them back
I agree, if you hurt your child you do not deserve to have them. But it turns out, so I've heard from one of these foster parents, the majority of the time kids get taken away is due to poverty, which is labeled by CPS as "neglect". In these cases parents usually try their very best for their kids but are unable to pay for their neccessities to keep them clean and fed.
You should never record or take pictures of kids in the bathroom, never. It's good that these foster parents are helping, and have good intentions, but you shouldn't take pictures of the kids. It's a nono for me.
No foster parent should be putting their foster child's face on camera. At 7:21 you can clearly see that child's face! It's a safety and consent issue!
Those are the womans biological children picking out items for the foster children they will be taken in later on 😊 But you're correct, it is not legal to post your foster childrens face on social media
This video needs to be taken down and kids' face blurred or left down. Foster parents are NEVER supposed to release the names and faces of children in their custody.
Those are not foster children, those are that woman's biological children picking out items for the foster kids that are going to their home later that day.
hey, my name is soleis and im 13. my mom is threatening to put me in foster care. anything to know? (this comment will be copy-pasted over a bunch of foster tiktoks)
Sorry but why is the woman at 7:13 not blurring their faces that seems like a breach of privacy I don’t have tik tok so I can’t investigate further . I don’t wanna jump to conclusions can anyone explain?
Those are her biological children picking stuff for the foster children coming later. You are correct though, it is illegal to show your foster children's faces on social media because it can potentially endanger them.
me my parents and my siblings becoming are a foster family we are really having trouble deciding the wall color the age is 0-4 and it has to be gender neutral and a light color does anybody have recommendaitions
kids who are in foster care, often eventually leave the foster home either to go home if that ends up being an option or if they're adopted by another family.
As an slightly older foster child (13 y/o) it warms my heart to see these parents trying so hard to make these kids life better. I’ve been through hell in the system (got kicked out of foster home at 12 and had to walk to 7-eleven barefoot, got physically assaulted, got screamed at outside a smoke shop, etc.) and it’s so refreshing to see people who care about the kids and not the money. I hope you keep on making these compilations!
hey sorry all that happend to you! do you have any Advice to help us foster parents help teens?
I am 13 as well and I can't imagine going through that I hope your situation is better now! Stay safe ❤️
I'm sorry I know that probably means nothing to you but I truly am I hope life gets a whole lot better for you. I hope you get to live the best life in the world because you deserve the world. Sending a virtual hug because you are loved.
i'm so sorry that has happened. there's so much horrible stuff in the world, and i hope you go into a better place. many hugs from a far!!
Sorry all that happened to you, I hope you’re better now tho!
Can’t wait to be old enough to be a foster parent so I can show my dad that foster parents aren’t bad. Making me and my siblings feel like it’s supposed to be a threat when he says he’ll put us in foster care. And making those kids in my care know that if trauma happens to you that it’s not the victims fault.
i plan on being a foster parent when i'm older! there are so many kids in need, especially older kids!
Me too! I’ve been waiting so long and will keep waiting because I’ve always wanted to that
I’m planning on adopting at least 1 kid/teen when I’m around 30. This is my motivation to get a good job
I want to to I’m just afraid I’ll get attached
ya same and im gay
I have always wanted to!
1:30 Thank you for taking the time to focus on ways to help them. I was assaulted twice as a kid and I hated showers for years because of that exact reason. After it happened, I scrubbed my body raw, desperately trying to get rid of the feeling of being dirty. Sometimes it’s still hard to shower because I keep thinking like that. It just makes me feel dirty again. I blame myself, even thought I now know it’s not my fault. It’s hard to get that out of your head sometimes, especially when anniversaries come by. Baths make a huge difference because it’s just laying down and relaxing. You don’t have to think about anything but how nice the bath feels. Thank you so much for taking the time to make sure you do everything you can to make them feel safe and comfortable in your home❣️
Does it help if you do a sink shower? Where you just wash your hair with the spray nozzle from the kitchen sink, or lean over the bath tub with a detachable shower head? You don't even have to take off clothes for that. I have sensory issues so sometimes I prefer to just wash my hair that way and not do the whole shower/bath thing, so I was just wondering if that would work as an option for people who are uncomfortable showering for other reasons?
To all the parents that foster…the good ones…thank you, for understanding, the system isn’t the best, and I was definitely not always lucky in placements, but the ones that were amazing made me so so happy and definitely helped me feel like I mattered ❤️
You do matter I am so glad you know that.
We need more people like this in the world
I’m only 14 but whenever I do end up thinking about raising kids in the future I always get hit in face with the fact that there are so many kids who don’t have the chance to have a normal and happy childhood and so I never end up considering having kids of my own, this is all still so far away but I already think that one day I might foster or adopt. I’ve never been very good working with young children but there are so many older kids that are overlooked because teens are complicated and many people don’t want to deal with them.
I'm 14 too and it makes me so sad to see these kids living horrible lives I hope they all get to have the best lives as soon as possible they all deserve the world.
Same. I know I’d probably want to take care of kids/teens at one point, and through these videos and further research, I realized being a foster parent might be what I want to do in the future!
I live in a foster family (biological, fostered siblings) and I would just like to thank my parents and all foster parents for helping children in need, I know they can be difficult sometimes but you do everything for them and are really under appreciated
As a young person who already has most of my life planned out, it's really awesome to see that i can foster children in the future and still do my dream job (an author). i really admire the people who can do this, and i want to be one of them someday.
I wish everyone here a good day or night ❤️
I'd love to be an author too, and fostering would be wonderful
I think foster care would be amazing but it’s a full time job and if I have kids I might not be able to handle that responsibility. I want them to have the best life and i can get easily overwhelmed so I probably wouldn’t be able to do it.
If I’m unable to have children though, I would probably do foster care. I could give them all my attention and keep up with their pace. I would 100% wait till I’m married though either way. I have Adhd and sometimes can’t even find it in myself to handle myself. I would need a helper :)
Edit: shout out to coaster parents (and honestly anyone who takes care of kid(s)) it’s a full time job and it’s something not everyone can handle 💛
i know i want to be a foster parent, i hope i can get training
part of getting your license is training! the state will support you so much along the way and there are many resources!
Firstly abusive parents don't change and get rehabilitated. That's a lie. Classes aren't going to magically make a parent a good parent. I was beat and abused by my father my mother was an alcoholic. I had to help protect and shield my younger brother from the abuse. I went into care and I met my first foster mother she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I finally got to wear pretty dresses the only thing is I had to be separated from my two brothers. 2 years later my foster mom put me into a car and took me to social services telling me my parents were all better now and I was going to go back to live with them and my brothers. I was balling my eyes out begging them not to let me go home with those monsters it took my worker and my foster mom to pry me out of her car. Turns out if you get hit with a phone book it doesn't leave any bruises... my father didn't stop beating us he just got smarter about it not to leave any marks. Then when I turned 13 he started sexually assaulting me. Thankfully I got the courage to stand up to him and got him locked away. I went into care again and now as an adult I have a good life and made something of myself. The system is really messed up they are so focused on reunification if you have a child who is deadly terrified like I was, as foster parents if you see that... maybe you should ask yourself why that maybe something is wrong. My second time into care I wound up meeting my old social worker after I told her what happened after she put me back with them she looked so sad and she apologized to me but still. Some parents just shouldn't get their kids back ever. My father had a criminal record and they still placed us back.
I’m not in foster care but I’m seventeen and I live with abusive parents who’ve never been caught, and I was thinking about this type of thing throughout the whole video. Abusers don’t change. I know so many people with stories like mine, and yet never I’ve heard of abusers who put in the work to become aware of their own monstrosity and then improve themselves for their kids. People who abuse other people just aren’t willing to take responsibility for their actions and relationships. It’s why they’re abusers in the first place.
Tonight is the first time I’ve ever even thought about fostering. I already hold myself to a huge standard when it comes to having kids; since I was young, I’ve been terrified of being for someone else what my parents are to me. I take caring for children so seriously, and since I intend to raise my own someday, I know I won’t be able to live with myself unless I’m being the best parent and person I can be for them at all times. On top of that, it’s my dream to become a high school teacher, so I might end up working with children all the time. I feel a huge responsibility to treat every single child I meet with love and fairness, and that passion drives a lot of what I want to do in life. Amidst all that, adoption and fostering were never really trajectories I thought about because I figured I didn’t want to take on more than I could handle if I already plan to have kids. But then a lone TikTok came up on my recommended page just now (the one with the lady preparing the shower for her foster teens) and something about it just hit. I started watching more content about it.
I never really thought about the foster program as a whole. I paused this video midway through and looked into it, and it slammed into me just how little and how much impact foster parents have over their foster kids at the same time - they’re caring for them and giving them what they might’ve never had, but they’re haunted by the knowledge that they’re gonna have to throw these kids back into a den of wolves sooner or later. It sounds devastating from every perspective, but it also magnifies the responsibility of a foster parent to make every action count. Every single trait they exemplify for their foster kids can teach them about healthy relationships and provide them with love they never received. Every thoughtful deed can mean the world for someone whose world will be shattered again eventually.
This is the first time I really contemplated any of this. Foster care strikes a sudden chord with me the more I think about it. I mean, it feels so messed up to return a kid to the source of all their trauma, but if there’s a way to make their life better before that inevitably happens, I’m all for that part. Overall, I’m not completely sure if foster care in my future, but if I find that it still feels right one day and I’m in the place for it, it could be something I endeavor to do.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve went through. The injustice you’ve detailed in your life is nauseating and it makes me so upset that this is how the system operates. At the same time it makes me so happy to know that you’ve rebuilt yourself after all that. Thank you for sharing your story 💞 and if you have any more thoughts or advice to share I’d love to read. You’re amazing and strong, have a brilliant life :))
@@sophiaredwood5825 being a foster parent is something I plan to do later after my child is grown. Not I'm any way applying this to you but there are a lot of foster parents out there just for the money. That's why a lot of ex foster kids who know the system and managed to claw their way to a decent life choose to do foster parenting as we know for the most part exactly what these kids are feeling or even went through as we felt the fear and frustration on not being wanted. I was in one home where the parents were money driven they had their own kids and myself which wasn't a problem except that they always gave me worn clothes then their child would get a hot meal and I'd get a sandwich as a piece of fruit for example. I did meet a woman eventually who was a good foster parent she also was in the system and had a rough childhood so she understood my frustrations and fear of rejection doing things to make me feel comfortable. She also was a good voice for me with my emotions to my social worker even though I was a teen at the time.
If you do choose to foster later on if your genuine I commend you. Know that the older foster children are the ones nobody wants as most parents mainly take in younger kids as they hope to be able to potentially adopt them while pushing older ones to the side. They also hope the younger ones will forget the trauma and be easier than the older ones who have more baggage. My last foster mom only wanted to take older teen girls for this reason and also they go on road trips and little kids don't travel well lol. Fostering won't be easy either since your going to get major push back from the kid who will act out bad as they are somewhere they don't feel comfortable and no matter the age expect you to give up on them and not care abandoning them just like everyone else did. I went through that phase with my last foster and I was one of the more well behaved good kids out of my agency. Your young so you have a lot of time to grow up and consider whether it's something you wanna do later so no rush. It's not an easy job no matter the age of the child and a huge wake up call since your dealing with majorly broken humans...
@@rebeccaanamu812 Thank you so much for typing all this out for me!! 🥺💞 It all means so much and I appreciate it. I’ll be keeping a lot of your story and advice in mind the more I think about this. Thanks again 💞
Im not crying, your crying ... :(
I think we're both crying
I’m smiling it’s so heartwarming to see people going out of their way to make foster children feel safe
I've decided, me and whoever I marry will do foster homes, this is something I needed a while back. So I want to help.
Shoutout to all the great foster parents out there! Thank you for the work that you do, and when I am old enough to become a foster parent, I plan on becoming one to help other kids.
My parents have thought of becoming foster parents once me and my siblings move out, but then they released the heartbreak of those kids eventually leaving.
when i was 8 i was in girl scouts and we had one assignment for each week. one week, we were supposed to make a poster showing who we want to be when we grow up/where we can see ourselves in the future - we were all given a poster, markers, and crayons. when i got home i took my markers and i wrote down many many things, filling up the whole poster. (doctor, babysitter, pianist, astronaut, scientist, veterinarian, stuff like that) looking back on it now, i see that one of the things i wrote down was a mom, and underneath it in parentheses was preferably to adopt or foster. it just warms my heart looking back on it now, i will keep it forever.
These videos make me so happy, it makes me happy to see people take care of kids that aren't their own biologically because so few people seem to care about others especially teenagers. I was a foster kid and I saw this so much with my foster siblings
I really hope that one day I can foster kids! I’ve always wanted to help people in some way and watching videos like these are so heartwarming
"Actually, they were all out of purple" is my favorite line from this whole video omg 6:06
This is such a noble profession, helping out kids in need
❤❤❤its not there fault, not many people want older kids but they need just as much love as the younger kids❤❤❤
If I can't have kids when I'm older I'm definitely gonna do fostering
And If I can, imma do fostering after kids
If I can’t have kids/don’t have enough money to adopt/am single, I plan on becoming a foster parent. I want the opportunity to give kids with traumatic experiences find joy in life again. -- I also plan to have my own horse barn so I’ll train the horses as therapy animals as well :)
Praise Yah for how these people care for children! It's a BEAUTIFUL thing to see! Please continue doing things like this!
There's this lady in my town who used to foster and whenever a kid came up for adoption she would adopt them and I think she has over 50 grandkids now and maybe she's a great grandma too she used to babysit my mom and aunt and I was friends with one of her grandkids
I may just be 14 but I might try foster care when I am older because I know I don't want kids of my own cause I am not going through that pain cause I already know I am going to adopt at some point and like these people who do it are just really nice people and I applaud them for doing this
I'm a 13 year old in foster care and the first foster family I was in they mentally abused me and my brother who has a disability it took DCS and TI 3 months to move after they new and now I'm with a family who wants to adopt us if it comes to it and its so heart warming to see theses people actually care and informing people❤
“So what did their parents do?” MINE DIED! Thanks for asking! (Why do people think it’s okay to ask that!?! Who wants to share their trauma with every. Single. Random. Stranger?)
I plan on being a foster parent, I mean these videos are inspiring!!!
I’ve never been in the system but I’ve always wanted to foster, the one about teen girls who have experienced SA, like I have, has me sobbing. The love that shows from that beautiful woman is so heartwarming. That was a better response than I got from my own mother. I would love to help a girl who had a hard childhood like I did, abuse always follows you. Therapy helps but it’s always hard. Love everyone who has opened their hearts and homes to children who need it, I hope when I’m out of college and have my own place, I can help some innocent angels too.
I don't hate on people who say "Oh I could never be a foster parent, I'd get too attached." It's a selfish attitude, so it's good that they don't want to be foster parents - because it's bad for a selfish person to be a foster parent.
Personally even if I had the room for it, I don't think I have the right mental state to be a foster parent (anxiety+depression ftw) and I don't know how to act around kids. And I REALLY hate being touched, so while that would work fine for some kids because they also hate being touched, I could see that being potentially an issue for some kids who just want a hug.
My freind was adopted but has been in various foster homes and she told me so much! 😖✋🏻❤️❤️❤️
I'm not crying, its just the wind in my eyes😥. This video was so sweet and I am so glad that there are many kind-hearted foster carers out there.
i don’t think under any circumstances should a foster parent take pictures of their foster child while they’re in the bathtub. especially going further and posting it (even if you cover their identity with emojis) you just shouldn’t
It's lovely to see more good foster parents out there. Having a good foster home was a luxury for me, and this warms my heart.
I plan to foster to adopt there’s so many children who are in need of good homes.
As a former child in the foster care system I am very disturbed that these foster parents are using social media to gain likes from fostering. When you tell sensitive information, like how a child feels about bath time, it is intrusive and can be used against them. Also showing the back of a child's head does NOT prevent them from being recognized. Children should never be any part of your videos or pictures!
while i agree with you that the children should not be shown at all i have to disagree on your opinion about bath time a what not, Im interested in fostering myself and would have never thought about bath time making a child uncomfortable so i think these ideas are great for someone looking to foster and trying to learn all they can to help the children that may come into their care.
I think on the feelings part, they're generalizing so you can be prepared..
Woah, do NOT assume things that harshly, that’s an example of an opinion that you need to keep to yourself.
@@emilyblocher4224 assuming these people are using their foster kids to gain like and that crap. Wrong.
@@emilyblocher4224 well I agree with you. :)
i was put in foste care at the age of 8 i didnt understand why but i am liveing a happy life mostly and i hope evryone is as lucy as i am
I appreciate people who take in foster children with love, especially the older kids, they’re usually over and it break my heart :(
I'm so glad they mentioned vacations! I absolutely adore the thought of fostering, just giving a home to a child who needs it even if it's temporary(tho I do plan on adopting after fostering for a while, fostering is just so nice but I would love to adopt as well. But the vacations! I would love taking foster kids to places they probably would NEVER get the chance to go to! Like disney world and universal and more! It would be so fun and they'd be so happy! I'm so glad this was mentioned! Now I have BIG plans for fostering including disney world~
The reason i couldnt be a foster parent is for afew reasons. One, i have issues with loosing people, and, overall issues with any sort of changes in my life. Two, foster children need a mentally stable parent to support them, and i am no where near mentally stable. And three, i know what its like. I lived with my abusive drug addict parents for 4 years before switching to foster homes. I went to 2 foster homes before my grandparents taking us in.
I’m adopted so it feels great to know that even thought kids don’t have the same life as me they are getting love from their foster parent/s
if i ever decide i want kids in the future i might foster or adopt
I’ve already decided to foster to adopt.
I used to say I never wanted kids but now I am anxious to grow up and become a foster or adoptive parent. I have a friend who was in foster care, and I want to be that kind of support system for a kid who lacks one. Every child ( and teen ( even though teens are children but you get the point)) deserves a warm and loving home.
I wanna be a foster but I can’t let go of things and people.
Same !
adoption is another great option, it helps kids get permanent homes
Foster care definitely isn’t for everyone and it takes a really strong kind of person to be able to deal with the heartbreak after your little one moves on to another home or gets reunited with their birth parent. I wouldn’t be able to do it especially since I plan on having my own biological children some day, but it’s inspiring to see that there are good foster homes out there. There’s too many foster care horror stories and we need more loving, caring, wonderful foster moms and dads to help these kids feel safe when they need it. It’s hard to let go, but you guys are the reason so many kids will have a better chance at life.
I’m hoping to be a foster parent when I am older, I hope to foster mostly older kids like teens and what not because it’s hard for them to find a foster family.
I’ve never really wanted kids but I would love to foster older kids. Most of the time I see that the younger children are fostered more often then the pre-teens/teens, I’m not old enough to foster but I can’t imagine going through this mentally :(
I think the hardest part of being in foster care is letting go of the foster parents who were so kind to you. I was lucky enough to be adopted by my loving new mom and dad, but some kids are still stuck in the system.
People confuse foster care for Procter care. There's a HUGE difference.
To all foster parents, you are all real heroes!
The first one tho 🥺💕
You are all doing God’s work. One hears so many horrible stories about foster homes - these homes would be blessings to any child.
I want to foster and show them love like they are my bio kids
I could never do this. I’d get way too attached.
I think being a foster parent is amazing
when i am older i want to be a foster parent because i think everyone deserves someone to love them.
The one with the lady was talking about weird encounters When you have a foster child it was so heartwarming but funny at the same time I mean “they don’t have the same mother either” has me dead
i’m going to try to get a stable job when i’m older so that i can foster kids and give them a better life, i’m just hoping i’ll be financially stable enough to keep it up. it’s been my dream ever since i was younger
why are the foster kids in some of these videos?? isn’t that illegal or, worse, dangerous for some of them?
I’m pretty sure all the kids whose faces weren’t censored are bio/adopted children. I know I was confused about those two little boys shopping until it was revealed they were not the foster kids being talked about, but shopping in preparation for their arrival.
Any foster parents know if it's possible to foster just older kids. Like 13 +
i think so
Yes! Definitely. I grew up with foster siblings all the time (I was biological, fostered siblings) they need more people willing to adopt older kids! Because most people would rather have younger kids because their ‘cuter’ and the teens get left out. By all means YES they people to adopt teens! Have a great day
@@margaritapeggyschuylervanr2486 thank you for the information! I love your name:)
@@spins_jj9820 thank you so much!
@@margaritapeggyschuylervanr2486 I’m willing to adopt teens and if they have siblings I’ll adopt their siblings to.
7:25 I’m glad society is changing. Not long agos boys would be mentally abused for asking for a Frozen nightlight
You all are ANGELS!!!!
THANK YOU FOR THE INSPIRATION!!! I hope I can be as amazing as y'all when I Foster!
This is heartwarming 🥺
I plan to be a foster parent when my kids go off to college. I hope I can help other children with disabilities. My kids turned out alright 😁. Jk they are great teens and we all would love to have a bigger family but even though I'm young I cannot longer have kids on my own and will probably be better provide a safe nurturing space for foster to kids
The first one got me😭
Hi ya I’m adopted and I love that these people who have no idea what there foster children want they just came from whatever to see what they
There was a woman who was a foster parent who isn’t now. Wanna guess why? She adopted all 5 of the kids, they all had problems and two she had had a sibling on the other side of the country and somehow got him. Even after her husband died she’s still taking care of them. That is a strong women I will always look up to, even with a baby on a breathing tube. She’s my idol
That trampoline needs a net in the first tiktok
That first one 😢
If it’s allowed, I would let kids or at least teens have a lock on their bedroom door so they feel more safe. ❤️❤️❤️ like 2:13 🥺 it’s probably my favorite since I’m a teen girl.
That first one made me sad tho…
I’m crying now, omg this is so real.
12:50 IVE BEEN TO THIS E X A C T SHAKE SHACK BEFORE
its my dream to be a foster parent i was so lucky to get born into nice family. Sadly some people didn't and i feel so sorry for them. thats why i want to help!
I want to give birth to my own kids but I also want to foster.
That first one got me
I think it’s sad that rehabilitation is always the goal. It’s not like a parent who hits their kids doesn’t understand what they’re doing is wrong. They could take all the parenting classes in the world and still physically hurt their kids, it’s an issue of morals not education. The only time I could see reunification being good is when a parent with substance abuse issues cleans up their act for good, or if they had financial issues and got back on their feet. But the people who get their children taken away because they physically put their hands on them should not be allowed to get them back
I agree, if you hurt your child you do not deserve to have them. But it turns out, so I've heard from one of these foster parents, the majority of the time kids get taken away is due to poverty, which is labeled by CPS as "neglect". In these cases parents usually try their very best for their kids but are unable to pay for their neccessities to keep them clean and fed.
JESUS LOVES YOU ✝️👑
You should never record or take pictures of kids in the bathroom, never. It's good that these foster parents are helping, and have good intentions, but you shouldn't take pictures of the kids. It's a nono for me.
I love 50 first dates
I'm crying, I can't wait until I'm ready to foster. I hope I will be enough for them.
I plan to adopt kids I need to learn how to treat them so they aren't scares
No foster parent should be putting their foster child's face on camera. At 7:21 you can clearly see that child's face! It's a safety and consent issue!
Those are the womans biological children picking out items for the foster children they will be taken in later on 😊 But you're correct, it is not legal to post your foster childrens face on social media
@@antonlavern7301 oh phew, I was really worried, thank you for clarifying
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ik i am 9 but can i make myself 25 or something so i can faster i fell so bad for the kids i am crying
This video needs to be taken down and kids' face blurred or left down.
Foster parents are NEVER supposed to release the names and faces of children in their custody.
Those are not foster children, those are that woman's biological children picking out items for the foster kids that are going to their home later that day.
Not to be mean, but some of the TikToks were shown more than once.
hey, my name is soleis and im 13. my mom is threatening to put me in foster care. anything to know? (this comment will be copy-pasted over a bunch of foster tiktoks)
You should definitely speak to another trusted adult in your life. This is mental abuse!! I hope your situation is better now 💗
Sorry but why is the woman at 7:13 not blurring their faces that seems like a breach of privacy I don’t have tik tok so I can’t investigate further . I don’t wanna jump to conclusions can anyone explain?
Those are her biological children picking stuff for the foster children coming later. You are correct though, it is illegal to show your foster children's faces on social media because it can potentially endanger them.
@@antonlavern7301 oh okay I was very concern for a second
me my parents and my siblings becoming are a foster family we are really having trouble deciding the wall color the age is 0-4 and it has to be gender neutral and a light color does anybody have recommendaitions
I feel like a light/pastel blue or green would be cute 💙 lmk what yall end up going with beause now I'm invested
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adults doing tiktok dances continues to cringe me the f out
Wait did the first one die?
At the start did the kids d!e or get taken away?
kids who are in foster care, often eventually leave the foster home either to go home if that ends up being an option or if they're adopted by another family.