The fact they they can control their "narcissistic personality disorder" maladaptive behaviors around certain individuals and in certain environments but can't seem to control it in the privacy of their home speaks volumes.
My spouse and I are literally in this argument right now, how they control themselves around everybody else (their students, friends and family) but home alone, explodes all the time. Apparentl it’s my fault 😢
Married one for 9 years and finally got the strength to finally divorce him. I feel like God took me out of prison and set me free. I tell everyone that I am happily divorced, REALY!!! I am sooo happy now
Married 28 years. It’s real but not feeling real like”is this really happening “? It’s real. Yes, they are hateful and evil. And verbally mean. I’m free!
Congratulations. I was also 28 years married and 32 years in the relationship. After all these years the freedom and joy cannot be adequately expressed.
I'm glad I stayed single! I still have joy! I sing at night and worship God.... I love being joyful and cheerful! I would hate to be with someone who'd steal my joy!
Hello. How are you coping 1year later. I am in this period and I can't pull self out it's back and forth . Children biggest factor and my inability to unstuck from the provision he offers from kids fees ,shelter .it's crazy overwhelming though dry as hell
@@TataShiku Wellbutrin & cognitive behavioral therapy will help + study alchemy and ancient Egyptian kemetic spirituality or gnostic Christianity which is same thing.
I'm on my way out thank you Lord for removing me from this marriage . I love Jesus. ❤🙏❤🙏❤I am worthy! And I have value! Theses type of men are insecure and the sad thing is they will end up alone in the long run. Run Run Run Run💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃My God is a good good God!🙌🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤❤
I dated a narcissist for a couple of years. He practically moved himself onto my home. He had me convinced that what we had was true love. I was thinking about marrying him one day. I am so glad I got out instead! It was really hard to leave, but it was the best thing I could have done for myself. It's been over two years now. Since I left him I lost over 15 pounds, got a degree, started another degree,and learned to love myself. I never could have done that with him in my life. I feel awful for those stuck in these relationships. I pray that one day they make it out to experience again what life is like when the narcissist is no longer sucking all the energy out of them. The life they desrve.
I pray for you all!!! I am currently in a marriage with a narcissist I am so confused my heart is hurt so bad just seeing that I’m not alone gives me hope that one day I will be free from all of this I never in my life would have thought I would be in this position my God!!!! I have been watching these videos and reading the comments it’s making me stronger by the day!!!!! It like I think I’m crying out to God daily this is so unhealthy but it’s so hard to get out!!!!
I understand exactly what you're saying I am married to a narcissist as well we been together for 4 years we got married in 2020 and I'm already contemplating getting a divorce I never thought I'd be with someone that was this disingenuine and that blatantly does not care about me at all it's very painful I'll be praying for you as well and your journey to get free I'm still trying to figure things out but no matter what God bless 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I typically don’t comment (just watch videos for knowledge and support and move on) but I need prayers and support as well. I’m recently married and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl with a narcissist and I’m in pain daily. I was purposefully single for years (preparing myself for marriage) and he came along and swept me off of my feet. Now I feel depleted and ready to run because of the mental and emotional abuse. I’ve already told him that I will not remain in the marriage feeling miserable for the sake of our daughter. It isn’t fair to her and she deserves a healthy environment just as much as I do. Now I have to put a plan in place to leave because unfortunately I don’t see it getting any better. I’m sending up prayers to anyone whose suffering in silence and anyone that’s trying to find the strength, courage, and means to get out.
When he called you a psychopath…when you called you crackhead, crazy,dumb,stupid when he tells you that you are broken daily… when he breaks all of your things throws you clear across the room. Tells you not to buy food. But will spend ridiculous amounts of money. and when he tells you you’re not a wife you’ll never be a wife… you stay. When he wraps his hands around your neck you stay. When he bites you you stay. Yet You say you pray You must know God is not the author of confusion. You already know you need to leave. Narcissistic people also have other disorders or mental issues affecting their ability to be self aware. But you are aware. It’s YOUR MOVE!
"Mean, hateful, and evil" sounds like the correct description. I certainly experienced that with my ex-"husband". Fortunately we had a relatively problem-free divorce (no assets, no children), but a few years later I got sucked back in and now the monster is back in my life through the help and support of my narc mother. Never let your guard down with these monsters, no matter how nice they may seem (it's all an act). I'm making my way out now, after the monster destroyed even more than in the first round and left a barren, charred landscape in ruins from what he didn't manage to destroy initially. I've learned my lesson: "When somebody shows you who they are, believe them the first time".
Your eyes are wide open now. I fell for him again after 3 years being no contact and free, so I know how you feel. You are stronger and wiser now. You know exactly who and what he is. No more guessing if it will work. You already know.
I am a survivor of a narcissistic family and several narcissistic workplaces. These experiences have left me in severe poverty, unemployed, and homeless.
It starts in a family, then your alarm bell 🔔 is not ringing, because you are accustomed to these sort of abuse... and your alarms don't switch on when you're in abusive environments or entering abusive relationships...
I was married to a malignant covert Narcissist who was physically and mentally abusive, I thank God I made it out alive after 37 years of marriage, it was horrible
So sad and heart breaking. I am married to my narcissist wife for 37 years and we had 1 son 34 years of ageo who inherited her narcissistic behavior. I was glad I separated from them I am so thankful
No Ma'am.... that's what we are NOT DOING here on out We will have a VOICE Get the STRENGTH Loving YOURSELF MORE etc etc... these Narcs got us F' UP... h&ll naw.... IF THEY REALLY RESPECT YOU THEN WE ( INCLUDING) MYSELF WILL NOT BE HERE... walking papers 📃 ARE ON THE WAY
Being a narcissist is spiritual. It's genetic pass through a generation curse. It's a evil curse that's over that person's life. That's why its so hard to understand the person. You're actually dealing with a spirit.
HOW DARE YOU! HOW DARE YOU BRING SPIRIT INTO THIS. Have you ever considered the slight possibility that there might be other factors that contribute to the behavior? I HAVE AUTISM. My brain is wired differently than most other peoples. There are gaps in the transmission of mirror-neurons in my brain chemistry that result in an inability to express empathy without some form of stimulus. I have dedicated countless hours in therapy and special education and PRAYER to developing better habits so that I can be more like neurotypicals like you. But NTs, like you, who suffer from major cranial rectal inversion syndrome think that they can go labeling others (like me) as "narcissist" and then have the audacity to speak on behalf of spirit.
AJ Eakin it usually gets confused. i dont who called you that but it shouldnt bother you if you know who u are. Ignore them, just watch out for people around you that are.
@@gayajay Nice elaborate excuse narcissist.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Autism symptoms and narcissistic traits seem similar but have different root causes of the behavior behind. You're just offended. Because like a narcissist in denial. You hate to admit you're unhappy because you have no soul, and hate to be labeled a narcissist. Because having a mental illness hurts your ego and makes you not perfect.
@@dianatrejo2006 You don't even know me. What credentials do you have to qualify your assessment of me? NONE. BTW.., I have no qualms about admitting to having mental disorders. I'm bipolar too. EGO.., yeah I have one. What's your point? You don't even know me yet you have so much to say about me based on what YOU think of me. Like I'm supposed to care what you think! GIVE ME ONE GOOD REASON WHY I SHOULD! Oh.., one more thing. I am perfect and guess what? so are you. If you cant see the perfection in others including yourself then that is your problem.
Great topic. The only way I fought back the narcissistic shaming for 30 yrs was to journal everyday( dilutes the gaslighting). Finally got out and healing from the constant drama, upheaval and flipped norms.
I'm so happy to be out of the marriage with the narc. He cried & complained for over 20 years about a prom date who he found in his car getting it on with 2 guys. The girl was JUST a prom date! Hearing him talk, he was in love with her, she might have married him. Boo-hoo-hoo. 20 years later he was STILL talking about it. I had counselors talk to him about his self centered attitude. He would start going to a counselor of his choice. Then? When the counselor disagreed with him? He'd stop going. Finally, I'd had enough of the manipulation instead of an adult conversation. I'd had enough of his hiding large purchases, then bitching about the amount of money I spent on groceries ti feed a family of 6. It all became too much. Divorcing a narcissist brings relief more than anything.
@brenda..omg!!! Thank God you left that big over grown baby!!!! Just reading about his ways in your comment had me so annoyed and angry!!! But that's exactly how they are!! I was in a relationship with ex narc for almost a year!! Thank God he allowed me to wake up before that piece of garbage stole my own being!! Good Riddens For Ever and Never going back!!!
Omg! So relatable my husband keep winning and crying about a freaking middle school crush MIDDLE SCHOOL CRUSH! he still searches for her on Instagram and tries to contact her, while I was pregnant he cried about her saying that he would had married her, I’m just so emotionally exhausted and it’s only been 7 years of marriage. I have to be asking him for permission to go out and if I don’t it’s a total meltdown and if I do call him to tell him where I’m gonna be at he is like “I don’t care I’m busy” like seriously. At the hospital when I gave birth he told me to hurry up and heal because he wanted to go home, when we left the hospital he make me carry the car seat because he didn’t want to make several trips to take our stuff the car. It’s a lot and I don’t think I have more patience for this!
I am also an author that journaled for years which set me free. When you read back at the redundant sick situations it gives you freedom and gives you strength.
I'm reading that people have dealt with their narc spouse for 30+ years...smh...That's a long time, but I don't judge them, because they are probably the empath and thought the narc would probably change or leave. Yet, Narcs love torturing their partner, making you feel small, belittling you, hurting you, etc. Not to mention the victim was probably serious about their vows (in good and bad times, until death), not knowing they would be emotionally tortured their entire marriage. I feel so sorry for them and pray for the victims of narcs.
"How to handle the exchange with a narcissist". Geesh, you don't, run for your life. You can't help them, and they don't want help, the life you save will be your own.
He won't change. It's rooted deep. You should consider seeking some counseling for yourself-- a therapist or counselor you can talk to about this in confidence.
We have similar names :-) If he is narcissistic, he will be looking for so-called "weaknesses", to exploit and buttons to push. You are trying to relate in a normal way and under normal circumstances, the person would care about your likes and dislikes, however, in this situation, he will use the things you have told him against you. I knew people like this and only shared what I had to, or things that they could not hurt me with. I prepared myself for them to try. In a marriage, it's different nut just wanted to send a heads up.
I was married to a female like this for 8yrs, I raised her kids, insured her kids(insurance as well where she wouldn't and ex husband wouldnt) I dont care to ever deal with another one. Been living alone since 2017
I almost married one. My first experience being with one. After 1 year, I too started keeping track of how ridiculous her accusations were. The first one was her getting a background check on me. Second one was her accusing me of possibly having an affair with her 25 y o dayghter. Her third was how i might go back to my x of 5 years with no contact. It floored me i broke the engagement. Close call. Thanks for making others aware.
Yeah me too. Sometimes I will say something that gives him the opportunity to pat his back but you need to decide what's best. I stayed with mine for financial reasons. So the occasional "Silent treatment,stomping like a toddler, name calling, blame games,Holier and smarter than the man upstairs. I know god exist an I know God has a sense of humor. Why else would he create a narcissist?
I am officially, legally at 20 FULL YEARS of horrendous, brutal, unbridled & indescribable Living Hell almost each & every moment to the KING of all Narcs
NARs never change. Just think how many issues have you been able to solve. None, probably... and that's how is gonna be FOREVER. The next time I dated (with a no NAR) I was so amazed of the diference. Thing wasn't lies anymore. Conversations started to have content, etc. Good luck to you :D
I don't have much words to say but every words say about you is really true and adequate, I wouldn't be talking here if not of this dude *BRAVENOTCH* thank you for your awesome job nice work
Oh I so hate it when people claim that GOD spoke to them, not that I don’t think that you can get a word from a higher place, but most of the times when I have witness what people say is a conversation with GOD it’s usually to enforce, deliver and or secure their own favorable narrative.
So true! Cause I receive the opposite from God, lots of correction and improvement and humbleness, I don’t know who these ppl are listening too because it’s not matching up with the Bible at all, God disciplines those he Loves ❤just like a good parent would.
I completely understand! My husband falls into this category. When we initially were married, I thought that I was losing my mind. I couldn’t believe what was happening or what I was doing incorrectly. All of this time I thought that I was losing my mind. I am on antidepressants and I kept wondering why I am so depressed. I believe it is that I have lost myself completely because my thoughts and desires really don’t matter.
@@srsrichmond513 I totally understand. Once I knew who he really was, I studied everything about narcissism and dealt with him as required. Now he has no power over me. I have no fear at all. I refuse to be bullied. I show him I have a mind of my own. I put my foot down in a very tactful way. No arguments no fighting. Just as I had read and told deal with thse types. We still live together but he has lost his grip and behaves well. When he tries to get a foot in, I take out my tactics. Luckily, I never succumbed completely to his vices. I am sometimes how I didn't go totally crazy, when I look back. I still don't trust him to this new version of himself. O ce bitten twice shy, right?
Daisy I completely failed. I never knew people were like this. He would hide my keys when I was doing something he didn’t want me to do such as getting my hair fixed. When I had a meeting that I was late coming home from work he hit my car and dented it. Crazy
@@srsrichmond513 Hiding things and making me look for them like I was the careless one was one of his favorites, too. Yes, keys, too. Like, I said, once I figured him out, I kept everything hidden from his reach. It took me 23 years. I became free in 2015. One thing he used to constantly say was, "I just can't make you obey me". Well, he did, in many ways. For the children's sake , I had to, at the time. Unknowingly, I used to use the same tactics that I have been advised to use, every now and then, but not to the fullest extent, as l didn't know about narcissism, back then. I still wish for many things but I am content now. At least I survived and didn't require medications. It's a miracle. My prayers for you, dear friend. I feel your pain. I still get caught up in the past but I don't let it control me. I have a future. You, too, honey. You are a strong woman. Be brave. Prayer helps. I learnt a lot from my experience. He was unable to bend the children like he did me because I just wouldn't allow it. He was an alcoholic, too. Today, he doesn't drink, he underwent de-addiction treatment, he was treated for his psychological problems for a year and he is normal on the outside. He claims that he knows I suffered a lot. But the sad thing about our marriage is I am unable to trust and love him anymore. He doesn't bring out his old self on me anymore but I can't trust him
I hope you figured this out... if you're still interested in suggestions, 1. Trust yourself 2. Realize how much power you have. Your child will be better off in a healthy environment, even if that means you by yourself. If you put your children around toxicity, you risk their mental health being negatively impacted. That said, it is healthy to try to work things out, but it is unhealthy to beat a dead horse. The difference is the results of your efforts. If your concerns are heard and you see a change for the better, then it's worth being patient for your child. However, if your concerns are only validated for a short period of time, then back to toxicity, then you know it was all just an act. If they treat you like crap, they are not going to treat your child any differently. If you're still together, put money to the side for you and your baby in case anything happens. Keep receipts for the things you are buying for your child and any bills you are paying. If your child is enrolled in childcare, make sure you do the paperwork for everything, so if you ever need to get full or primary custody, all of the proof is already there. Good luck my friend
Get over this. I know a pretty nice woman who is angry and permanently damaged from being with a man like this. So she constantly talks about other people, gets in their business JUST SO SHE CAN JUDGE THEM to make herself feel better about her own personal anger that is consuming her. She's damages in a very basic way. I don't have time for anger and you cannot tell this person anything about herself because, see, that's how Narcissists work! They learn from one another
@@mauricepatrickoconnor5634 im about to get engaged with him in few months, all are set up,how can i stop all those plan? omg!:( how is ur experience,please share with me
Please pay close attention to thier behavior Nacarcisst are alot of smoke and mirror EVERYTHING ALWAYS goes back to them u are always the reason why things are happening a lot of belittling and dishonesty You will be the blame for EVERYTHING they are very SELFISH ppl they view everyone as an object and and opportunity for themselves I was married to one for ten years...Wishing you the very best I pray the heavenly father guides your path be the light under your feet Sometimes u have to follow your instincts more so than your heart..Take care
Before u read this book and agree to anything about it, interrogate the husband and find out what his wife wasn't doing right. Ppl understand love differently
My husband can't remember if he had breakfast but he can recall 6 years ago of a conversation I had with him of all the things I do are wrong. Gas lighting?Ha! At every turn. Silent treatment after every argument. Deflecting. Omg!It's like playing tennis with yourself. You always win
Great info.. another tool to assist in awareness and healing.. DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help once the golden child - I became the scape goat then became aware & free..
Is it strange to anyone else that a black woman has put a white woman on the cover of her book... maybe she's hiding from the narcissist or possibly something else
I don't have much words to say but every words say about you is really true and adequate, I wouldn't be talking here if not of this dude *BRAVENOTCH* thank you for your awesome job nice work
The fact they they can control their "narcissistic personality disorder" maladaptive behaviors around certain individuals and in certain environments but can't seem to control it in the privacy of their home speaks volumes.
Oh Yes !
Controlling them a little bit is easier than long term at home.
My spouse and I are literally in this argument right now, how they control themselves around everybody else (their students, friends and family) but home alone, explodes all the time. Apparentl it’s my fault 😢
Why is that? Is that intentional?
Married one for 9 years and finally got the strength to finally divorce him. I feel like God took me out of prison and set me free. I tell everyone that I am happily divorced, REALY!!! I am sooo happy now
Congratulations
Me out after 22 years!
im officially out next week!
I need that strength and grace to come out
I'm happy for you. Can't wait to say the same.😔
Married 28 years. It’s real but not feeling real like”is this really happening “? It’s real. Yes, they are hateful and evil. And verbally mean. I’m free!
me too!
Congratulations. I was also 28 years married and 32 years in the relationship. After all these years the freedom and joy cannot be adequately expressed.
I thought I was the only one that sustained this long. 25 years for me. I gotta get out!! 😩
I'm glad I stayed single! I still have joy! I sing at night and worship God.... I love being joyful and cheerful! I would hate to be with someone who'd steal my joy!
20 yrs being married to a narcissists
I feel Like I lost my soul . but their is a god above he knows .
Yes ! I agree !
Amen......
You have not lost your soul.....I understand why you said that! I will.prsy for you.❤❤❤
15 years married to a narcissist and divorce for a year and it’s still amazing thinking back
Hello. How are you coping 1year later. I am in this period and I can't pull self out it's back and forth . Children biggest factor and my inability to unstuck from the provision he offers from kids fees ,shelter .it's crazy overwhelming though dry as hell
i can relate!
@@TataShiku Wellbutrin & cognitive behavioral therapy will help + study alchemy and ancient Egyptian kemetic spirituality or gnostic Christianity which is same thing.
30 here , don't know what to do.
I'm on my way out thank you Lord for removing me from this marriage . I love Jesus. ❤🙏❤🙏❤I am worthy! And I have value! Theses type of men are insecure and the sad thing is they will end up alone in the long run. Run Run Run Run💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃My God is a good good God!🙌🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤❤
The same lord u thanked when he brought him into your life? God doesn't put his beloved into temptations they can't thrive in
@@isaacadu3545 this comment is laced with assumptions
I’m on my way out of mine too We we’re married almost 6 years
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@@isaacadu3545 that’s so untrue! God will definitely let things happen to you if it’s in his will.Have you not read the book of JOB??
I dated a narcissist for a couple of years. He practically moved himself onto my home. He had me convinced that what we had was true love. I was thinking about marrying him one day. I am so glad I got out instead! It was really hard to leave, but it was the best thing I could have done for myself. It's been over two years now. Since I left him I lost over 15 pounds, got a degree, started another degree,and learned to love myself. I never could have done that with him in my life. I feel awful for those stuck in these relationships. I pray that one day they make it out to experience again what life is like when the narcissist is no longer sucking all the energy out of them. The life they desrve.
....one day they make it out.....
sounds like a physical prison as well as a mental one
Praise God❤
I pray for you all!!! I am currently in a marriage with a narcissist I am so confused my heart is hurt so bad just seeing that I’m not alone gives me hope that one day I will be free from all of this I never in my life would have thought I would be in this position my God!!!! I have been watching these videos and reading the comments it’s making me stronger by the day!!!!! It like I think I’m crying out to God daily this is so unhealthy but it’s so hard to get out!!!!
I understand exactly what you're saying I am married to a narcissist as well we been together for 4 years we got married in 2020 and I'm already contemplating getting a divorce I never thought I'd be with someone that was this disingenuine and that blatantly does not care about me at all it's very painful I'll be praying for you as well and your journey to get free I'm still trying to figure things out but no matter what God bless 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I typically don’t comment (just watch videos for knowledge and support and move on) but I need prayers and support as well. I’m recently married and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl with a narcissist and I’m in pain daily. I was purposefully single for years (preparing myself for marriage) and he came along and swept me off of my feet. Now I feel depleted and ready to run because of the mental and emotional abuse. I’ve already told him that I will not remain in the marriage feeling miserable for the sake of our daughter. It isn’t fair to her and she deserves a healthy environment just as much as I do. Now I have to put a plan in place to leave because unfortunately I don’t see it getting any better. I’m sending up prayers to anyone whose suffering in silence and anyone that’s trying to find the strength, courage, and means to get out.
@@2008kaila Hi I'm praying for you 🙏🏽🙏🏽
When he called you a psychopath…when you called you crackhead, crazy,dumb,stupid when he tells you that you are broken daily… when he breaks all of your things throws you clear across the room. Tells you not to buy food. But will spend ridiculous amounts of money. and when he tells you you’re not a wife you’ll never be a wife… you stay. When he wraps his hands around your neck you stay. When he bites you you stay. Yet You say you pray You must know God is not the author of confusion. You already know you need to leave. Narcissistic people also have other disorders or mental issues affecting their ability to be self aware. But you are aware. It’s YOUR MOVE!
@@angeleyes8340 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃 RUN
"Mean, hateful, and evil" sounds like the correct description. I certainly experienced that with my ex-"husband". Fortunately we had a relatively problem-free divorce (no assets, no children), but a few years later I got sucked back in and now the monster is back in my life through the help and support of my narc mother. Never let your guard down with these monsters, no matter how nice they may seem (it's all an act).
I'm making my way out now, after the monster destroyed even more than in the first round and left a barren, charred landscape in ruins from what he didn't manage to destroy initially. I've learned my lesson: "When somebody shows you who they are, believe them the first time".
O my heart. I can only imagine the pain. Going through this after 17years of sadness .not even sure how I did it.
Your eyes are wide open now. I fell for him again after 3 years being no contact and free, so I know how you feel. You are stronger and wiser now. You know exactly who and what he is. No more guessing if it will work. You already know.
@@TataShiku I'm so proud of you! You inspire me to finally leave my toxic and narcissistic husband after being manipulated by him for 14 yrs.
@@cloyewoods are you back with him? Is it better now or worse?
@@Layla-hg4ux We are NOT together.
I am a survivor of a narcissistic family and several narcissistic workplaces. These experiences have left me in severe poverty, unemployed, and homeless.
It starts in a family, then your alarm bell 🔔 is not ringing, because you are accustomed to these sort of abuse... and your alarms don't switch on when you're in abusive environments or entering abusive relationships...
I was married to a malignant covert Narcissist who was physically and mentally abusive, I thank God I made it out alive after 37 years of marriage, it was horrible
I've been with mine for almost 30 years. I have no idea how I haven't lost my mind yet. I just keep my mouth shut and hope KARMA does her thing!
Me 29 year's God keeps us sane He will settle our Account
30 years? SMH.. LEAVE and get YOURSELF HELP!!
So sad and heart breaking. I am married to my narcissist wife for 37 years and we had 1 son 34 years of ageo who inherited her narcissistic behavior. I was glad I separated from them I am so thankful
No Ma'am.... that's what we are NOT DOING here on out
We will have a VOICE
Get the STRENGTH
Loving YOURSELF MORE etc etc...
these Narcs got us F' UP... h&ll naw....
IF THEY REALLY RESPECT YOU THEN WE ( INCLUDING) MYSELF WILL NOT BE HERE... walking papers 📃 ARE ON THE WAY
Why do you want to live like that?
Being a narcissist is spiritual. It's genetic pass through a generation curse. It's a evil curse that's over that person's life. That's why its so hard to understand the person. You're actually dealing with a spirit.
HOW DARE YOU! HOW DARE YOU BRING SPIRIT INTO THIS. Have you ever considered the slight possibility that there might be other factors that contribute to the behavior? I HAVE AUTISM. My brain is wired differently than most other peoples. There are gaps in the transmission of mirror-neurons in my brain chemistry that result in an inability to express empathy without some form of stimulus.
I have dedicated countless hours in therapy and special education and PRAYER to developing better habits so that I can be more like neurotypicals like you.
But NTs, like you, who suffer from major cranial rectal inversion syndrome think that they can go labeling others (like me) as "narcissist" and then have the audacity to speak on behalf of spirit.
Its demon. They're satan in human form.
AJ Eakin it usually gets confused. i dont who called you that but it shouldnt bother you if you know who u are. Ignore them, just watch out for people around you that are.
@@gayajay Nice elaborate excuse narcissist.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Autism symptoms and narcissistic traits seem similar but have different root causes of the behavior behind. You're just offended. Because like a narcissist in denial. You hate to admit you're unhappy because you have no soul, and hate to be labeled a narcissist. Because having a mental illness hurts your ego and makes you not perfect.
@@dianatrejo2006 You don't even know me. What credentials do you have to qualify your assessment of me? NONE. BTW.., I have no qualms about admitting to having mental disorders. I'm bipolar too. EGO.., yeah I have one. What's your point?
You don't even know me yet you have so much to say about me based on what YOU think of me. Like I'm supposed to care what you think! GIVE ME ONE GOOD REASON WHY I SHOULD!
Oh.., one more thing. I am perfect and guess what? so are you. If you cant see the perfection in others including yourself then that is your problem.
I was married to a narcissist for 30 + years pure hell a lifetime of it 7 yrs free and just loving me
I am married to a narcissist. The best way to deal with him has been to decenter him from my life.
Great topic. The only way I fought back the narcissistic shaming for 30 yrs was to journal everyday( dilutes the gaslighting). Finally got out and healing from the constant drama, upheaval and flipped norms.
Its draining!!! Married for 16 years now. My husband driving me crazy. Im trying to stick with it. Im on the verge to walk away. Its harrrrddddddd.
Can I ask a question? Are you afraid of him and do you find yourself taking up for him when he hurts other people?
I'm so happy to be out of the marriage with the narc. He cried & complained for over 20 years about a prom date who he found in his car getting it on with 2 guys. The girl was JUST a prom date! Hearing him talk, he was in love with her, she might have married him. Boo-hoo-hoo. 20 years later he was STILL talking about it. I had counselors talk to him about his self centered attitude. He would start going to a counselor of his choice. Then? When the counselor disagreed with him? He'd stop going. Finally, I'd had enough of the manipulation instead of an adult conversation. I'd had enough of his hiding large purchases, then bitching about the amount of money I spent on groceries ti feed a family of 6. It all became too much. Divorcing a narcissist brings relief more than anything.
@brenda..omg!!! Thank God you left that big over grown baby!!!! Just reading about his ways in your comment had me so annoyed and angry!!! But that's exactly how they are!! I was in a relationship with ex narc for almost a year!! Thank God he allowed me to wake up before that piece of garbage stole my own being!! Good Riddens For Ever and Never going back!!!
Omg! So relatable my husband keep winning and crying about a freaking middle school crush MIDDLE SCHOOL CRUSH! he still searches for her on Instagram and tries to contact her, while I was pregnant he cried about her saying that he would had married her, I’m just so emotionally exhausted and it’s only been 7 years of marriage. I have to be asking him for permission to go out and if I don’t it’s a total meltdown and if I do call him to tell him where I’m gonna be at he is like “I don’t care I’m busy” like seriously. At the hospital when I gave birth he told me to hurry up and heal because he wanted to go home, when we left the hospital he make me carry the car seat because he didn’t want to make several trips to take our stuff the car. It’s a lot and I don’t think I have more patience for this!
Mine says i csnt have clothes , i should live the same . Plus sew his to fit.
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I am also an author that journaled for years which set me free. When you read back at the redundant sick situations it gives you freedom and gives you strength.
I'm reading that people have dealt with their narc spouse for 30+ years...smh...That's a long time, but I don't judge them, because they are probably the empath and thought the narc would probably change or leave. Yet, Narcs love torturing their partner, making you feel small, belittling you, hurting you, etc. Not to mention the victim was probably serious about their vows (in good and bad times, until death), not knowing they would be emotionally tortured their entire marriage. I feel so sorry for them and pray for the victims of narcs.
"How to handle the exchange with a narcissist". Geesh, you don't, run for your life. You can't help them, and they don't want help, the life you save will be your own.
Good
I thankfully divorced the malignant NPD alcoholic. A living Nightmare is an understatement describing my “marriage “ to A sadistic android robot .
Yes I used to feel like a robot, I stopped he beat me
Im really having a hard time because he keeps doing things i hate even we talk many times.
He won't change. It's rooted deep. You should consider seeking some counseling for yourself-- a therapist or counselor you can talk to about this in confidence.
Divina Pangalangan Unfortunately I understand exactly what you mean😣
We have similar names :-) If he is narcissistic, he will be looking for so-called "weaknesses", to exploit and buttons to push. You are trying to relate in a normal way and under normal circumstances, the person would care about your likes and dislikes, however, in this situation, he will use the things you have told him against you. I knew people like this and only shared what I had to, or things that they could not hurt me with. I prepared myself for them to try. In a marriage, it's different nut just wanted to send a heads up.
@Sue Andrews Amen!!!! Please do not stay!!! Broken up with ex narc earlier this year!!! At times I still get paranoid.. Because he's sneaky!!smh...
They have no empathy. Your feelings don't matter to them.
I hope to get your book!! Thank you for writing about being married to a narcissist.
I was married to a female like this for 8yrs, I raised her kids, insured her kids(insurance as well where she wouldn't and ex husband wouldnt) I dont care to ever deal with another one. Been living alone since 2017
Thank You Sounds like my husband to a tee.
Same😞
@@childofchrist7625 Good Morning to you you smile It's a fixed Fight! Be Blessed
Absolutely
@@christineescajeda8167 I will look into the book. Thanks So Much
Same here, he makes it about himself, insults me everyday I just don’t think I can take this mental abuse any longer
I almost married one. My first experience being with one. After 1 year, I too started keeping track of how ridiculous her accusations were.
The first one was her getting a background check on me.
Second one was her accusing me of possibly having an affair with her 25 y o dayghter.
Her third was how i might go back to my x of 5 years with no contact.
It floored me i broke the engagement. Close call. Thanks for making others aware.
Why should I handle a narcissist. Just leave !
There's always a hidden agenda.
I'M DEFINITELY MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST....
Hi & so am I. Would love to connect. No one understands what I’m going through.
If you're on this site, we all know what you're going through
Yeah me too. Sometimes I will say something that gives him the opportunity to pat his back but you need to decide what's best. I stayed with mine for financial reasons. So the occasional "Silent treatment,stomping like a toddler, name calling, blame games,Holier and smarter than the man upstairs. I know god exist an I know God has a sense of humor. Why else would he create a narcissist?
Me too and I'm so sad all the time being with him but when he goes to work I'm so happy
@@carolynswan1171 They have bad energy attached to them
Excellent description given.
No self awareness egocentric energy vampires glad I walked away
😭my life with a narcissist
Its heart breaking 💔 horrible 💔 leave ladies
I belive i married to a narcissist too and we just not talking and she think everything bout her and her feeling
I am officially, legally at 20 FULL YEARS of horrendous, brutal, unbridled & indescribable Living Hell almost each & every moment to the KING of all Narcs
And Forrest Gump was right. Life is like a box of chocolates.
Got rid of mine
Ive been with narc abuse for 4 years.. still trying to escape until now as he still keeps on coming back even he already have a new supply.
NARs never change. Just think how many issues have you been able to solve. None, probably... and that's how is gonna be FOREVER.
The next time I dated (with a no NAR) I was so amazed of the diference. Thing wasn't lies anymore. Conversations started to have content, etc.
Good luck to you :D
Not all NARs are violent. Trust me on that.
@@con2mms2000 I hope I can find someone who will love me
Run!!!!!
@@con2mms2000 not all violent?
The best way to handle a narcissist is to not to at all… thank me later
I don't have much words to say but every words say about you is really true and adequate, I wouldn't be talking here if not of this dude *BRAVENOTCH* thank you for your awesome job nice work
Pray for em dats all God changes situations
They need Deliverance fasting and praying only way out.
I’m writing about my experience as well. Most of this is unbelievable.
Oh I so hate it when people claim that GOD spoke to them, not that I don’t think that you can get a word from a higher place, but most of the times when I have witness what people say is a conversation with GOD it’s usually to enforce, deliver and or secure their own favorable narrative.
So true! Cause I receive the opposite from God, lots of correction and improvement and humbleness, I don’t know who these ppl are listening too because it’s not matching up with the Bible at all, God disciplines those he Loves ❤just like a good parent would.
There are wives that stay toxic and bitter always and there shd be a book about that as well
It's the same book. Narcissism has no gender.
Yes, my husband
I completely understand! My husband falls into this category. When we initially were married, I thought that I was losing my mind. I couldn’t believe what was happening or what I was doing incorrectly. All of this time I thought that I was losing my mind. I am on antidepressants and I kept wondering why I am so depressed. I believe it is that I have lost myself completely because my thoughts and desires really don’t matter.
@@srsrichmond513 I totally understand. Once I knew who he really was, I studied everything about narcissism and dealt with him as required. Now he has no power over me. I have no fear at all. I refuse to be bullied. I show him I have a mind of my own. I put my foot down in a very tactful way. No arguments no fighting. Just as I had read and told deal with thse types. We still live together but he has lost his grip and behaves well. When he tries to get a foot in, I take out my tactics. Luckily, I never succumbed completely to his vices. I am sometimes how I didn't go totally crazy, when I look back. I still don't trust him to this new version of himself. O ce bitten twice shy, right?
Daisy I completely failed. I never knew people were like this. He would hide my keys when I was doing something he didn’t want me to do such as getting my hair fixed. When I had a meeting that I was late coming home from work he hit my car and dented it. Crazy
@@srsrichmond513 Hiding things and making me look for them like I was the careless one was one of his favorites, too. Yes, keys, too. Like, I said, once I figured him out, I kept everything hidden from his reach. It took me 23 years. I became free in 2015. One thing he used to constantly say was, "I just can't make you obey me". Well, he did, in many ways. For the children's sake , I had to, at the time. Unknowingly, I used to use the same tactics that I have been advised to use, every now and then, but not to the fullest extent, as l didn't know about narcissism, back then. I still wish for many things but I am content now. At least I survived and didn't require medications. It's a miracle. My prayers for you, dear friend. I feel your pain. I still get caught up in the past but I don't let it control me. I have a future. You, too, honey. You are a strong woman. Be brave. Prayer helps. I learnt a lot from my experience. He was unable to bend the children like he did me because I just wouldn't allow it. He was an alcoholic, too. Today, he doesn't drink, he underwent de-addiction treatment, he was treated for his psychological problems for a year and he is normal on the outside. He claims that he knows I suffered a lot. But the sad thing about our marriage is I am unable to trust and love him anymore. He doesn't bring out his old self on me anymore but I can't trust him
21 years and if it wasn’t for my kids and faith in god, I wouldn’t be here
Sounds like someone I know. His wife is a saint😭☠️
Can someone tell me if her spouse was clinically diagnosed?
I have a 7 months baby, what should I do? wait for the baby to grow a bit more? I worry about my child's mental health, pls, suggest.
I hope you figured this out... if you're still interested in suggestions, 1. Trust yourself 2. Realize how much power you have. Your child will be better off in a healthy environment, even if that means you by yourself. If you put your children around toxicity, you risk their mental health being negatively impacted. That said, it is healthy to try to work things out, but it is unhealthy to beat a dead horse. The difference is the results of your efforts. If your concerns are heard and you see a change for the better, then it's worth being patient for your child. However, if your concerns are only validated for a short period of time, then back to toxicity, then you know it was all just an act. If they treat you like crap, they are not going to treat your child any differently. If you're still together, put money to the side for you and your baby in case anything happens. Keep receipts for the things you are buying for your child and any bills you are paying. If your child is enrolled in childcare, make sure you do the paperwork for everything, so if you ever need to get full or primary custody, all of the proof is already there. Good luck my friend
omg Try Dr.Ramani
Yesssss her first minute of explaining a narc
Get over this. I know a pretty nice woman who is angry and permanently damaged from being with a man like this. So she constantly talks about other people, gets in their business JUST SO SHE CAN JUDGE THEM to make herself feel better about her own personal anger that is consuming her. She's damages in a very basic way. I don't have time for anger and you cannot tell this person anything about herself because, see, that's how Narcissists work! They learn from one another
My cousin!!!!
i think im about to get married with this kind of man personality,what should i do? :(
Velle Jane danggggg run!!!!! I have a kid n u cant even imagine...then ur stuck !! Reply if u need help!!
@@FB-bo3sj yes i need help
Don't marry. I know from my experience.
@@mauricepatrickoconnor5634 im about to get engaged with him in few months, all are set up,how can i stop all those plan? omg!:( how is ur experience,please share with me
Please pay close attention to thier behavior Nacarcisst are alot of smoke and mirror EVERYTHING ALWAYS goes back to them u are always the reason why things are happening a lot of belittling and dishonesty You will be the blame for EVERYTHING they are very SELFISH ppl they view everyone as an object and and opportunity for themselves I was married to one for ten years...Wishing you the very best I pray the heavenly father guides your path be the light under your feet Sometimes u have to follow your instincts more so than your heart..Take care
How do i divorce a narcissist?
Before u read this book and agree to anything about it, interrogate the husband and find out what his wife wasn't doing right. Ppl understand love differently
What. You act like a narc. Get lost.
I think you are correct.. and then ask the wife what the husband was not doing right 🙄
Always someone else's fault
No that doesn't work with narcissists....
My husband can't remember if he had breakfast but he can recall 6 years ago of a conversation I had with him of all the things I do are wrong. Gas lighting?Ha! At every turn. Silent treatment after every argument. Deflecting. Omg!It's like playing tennis with yourself. You always win
Too true !!!!
ESACTLY
Great info.. another tool to assist in awareness and healing.. DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help once the golden child - I became the scape goat then became aware & free..
Wowwwwww
How are these people diagnosing the spouses? 🤣.
If you can't work it out for yourself with all the videos on RUclips, don't bother asking.
Is it strange to anyone else that a black woman has put a white woman on the cover of her book... maybe she's hiding from the narcissist or possibly something else
Book sales💀….
I don't have much words to say but every words say about you is really true and adequate, I wouldn't be talking here if not of this dude *BRAVENOTCH* thank you for your awesome job nice work