Narcissists Rewrite History
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
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This is absolutely crazy to realize the entire situationship was a lie
Even more sad and crazy when they admit all they did was lie.
It is very hard to accept that truth. Mourning something that was never real and an illusion all along.
@@sharon_rose724 absolutely! the grief is deep and very real.
Ben and Lee have opened my eyes to many things and I let people in other forums know about them
It is . It can be really tough to accept that, so i hope if it happened to you in the past, you find your healing and recover from it.
He always told me I had the bad memory and was using it to manipulate him….
That is exactly what he did, and you are like "Wtf, he was perfectly cognizant yesterday and now he has completely created a utterly new narrative and is adamant about what happened".
Yes, I was told a horrible sob story about his childhood and after 15 years I found out he lied about the majority of his past. He is not even remotely who I was led to believe he was. I'm finally seeing the truth and dig myself out of the hole that I've been buried in due to the trauma bond, gaslighting, abuse, cheating and manipulation.
It’s really irritating because everything the narc ex did to me and the kids, he now accuses ME of doing, in spite of having solid evidence showing he’s lying about the past events, even in his own written words.
CLASSIC projection, love. 😔
yep
It's like having the same nightmare every night
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Yup he's said( here you go making shit up again) even after sending him proof of things he said or did.
You are not alone. 💙
Would love to help you on your healing journey. If I can be of help feel free to grab a time here at www.calendly.com/rawmotivations
✋🏻 Me.
So freaking tired. Completely exhausted. 😮💨
Ya it happened and it's been one year and half years since discard and I'm still reconstructing and trying to understand what the f happened.. what is reality, perception, imagination.. what event happened.. what didn't.. am I making stuff up, maybe he is right. I'm an assole like he said I was. My head aches and.. its just difficult. Therapist said. Let go. I want to.. but it eats me.
When I brought up past events .. he looked at me with question marks like it never happened and he never said that. Even events. He says I suffer memory loss or if I speak something he said I was making up stuff.. over a period of time.. I just let go and believed whatever he said as truth. After discard and I didn't know what and why.. I started to rethink and I didn't have a clue.. and no version of my truth. I still don't know.
His goal is to put you in the ''crazy'' corner. As long as you doubt yourself you won't doubt the narc. Best thing is to accept the opposite of what's being said for the truth. Check the term Confabulation. It's what the narc does while talking to you. It's what makes you doubt yourself.
My Ex would try and re-write by saying it was all in my head, but my intuition told me it wasn't and I trust that more than anything or anyone. 🍒
My ex always does this he will look me dead in my face and lie about events we could never solve any problem he just couldn’t accept his abusive behaviour
Example of rewriting history. I said sure take my car for your Dr apt. Expecting to be gone about 2.5 or 3 hours... actually gone about 7-8 hours with no contact. I state my position about the boundary being broken. I can see from debit card usage that person was only at Dr for about 10 minutes. Several excuses and lies were told about length of visit, construction, getting lost and not their fault because they have no g.p.s. (silent dig at me because I wouldn't pay for phone service for them because I expected them to find a job and handle personal bills). Never any resolution found, matter dropped by them..."in the past" Weeks later, I find a text from person to their mom.. Person tells their mom that they might need a ride to their Dr apt because I will likely give them a hard time about taking the car... No elaboration as to why. No ownership to what happened or that my feelings are likely justified. Mom responded with "she is so manipulative" about me. Sigh.
I was told I was lying about being pregnant AFTER he saw the test and confirmed it with my family member. He blocked me and was on dating apps the very same day I miscarried.
It's true
My ex told me his end game was to make me crazy. Friggin loser.
Yes and yes. The last time I was visiting my ex, he was on the phone with his dad and told him I was there. His dad asked what had happened to _____, the woman he'd told me was just a friend but his dad exposed he had been seeing her (they had a baby after four months of dating while we were in no contact). When I confronted him, he said "Are you really going to ruin our good time?" The conversation lead to a previous situation that I was seeing was a lie.. he changed the timeline to favor him not having done what I was saying which he definitely did. Looked me right in the eyes and lied to save himself
A mix of lies, gaslighting and control! I hope you are recovering and healing from this. Wishing you the best! You deserve all the love
@@RawMotivations I am. Radical acceptance of the truth is painful but helping me not be so deep in rumination. Working on self forgiveness for turning a blind eye and making excuses for so long. Thanks for all of your insights, Ben. They're really helpful 💜
They try to rewrite your experience they don't have but can't
Yes they are also in their own fantasy world here's a quick video about it too ruclips.net/video/Rv97yyrUfGw/видео.html
I have to tell myself to believe myself every time it gaslight me. I refuse to have any more empathy for the barbaric lying manipulative child of a human. Even a child is wiser and less crazy
He used to go for walks with me before we got married.
I asked him the a week after getting married to go for a walk with me and he said he didn’t like to walk. When I brought up the fact that he went all the time with me, he told me he “never did that.”
Man they really don't like talking any blame do they? They want to avoid shame and guilt that bad. Their so naive to think just one person is the blame for the failure of a relationship. Their like a little child taking their ball 🏀 and going home 🏡 with it if they don't get their way.🤦🏾♂️
Sounds like America
They are everywhere. They look like us. They hate you. They want to see you dead. Beware.
At a friends house he decid ed to talk about an experience I had at the hospital a month ago n everything he said was a lie when I called him out he told me that I don't remember the situation ..n he insisted on telling it his way so I just sat there in disbelief
How about, when you ask a yes/no question
And the response is a litteral history of their life
Right!!
They do everything not to answer your question. Everything.
Yup!
Hoooo boy. Mom has probably been having a Field day for my sister and I's lives with telling her own stories. Dad wasn't clear about somethings so now that we are adults, we've been asking more. Now that I'm away from Mom, I'm questioning what she did tell me about the past but I remember inconsistency with her stories in the past so I don't really believe her stuff.