sadly this is literally how abusive people are every fucking time. they do the damnest shit to you, but once you do one (1) thing back the world explodes.
@@YuBeace the worst part is that abusive people turn that against their victim. "see??? you slapped me!! you're the worst! can't you see YOU'RE the bad one here?" it's awful.
It’s sad but being in love with someone really makes you blind to all their faults. It’s only after you’re no longer together that you realize how awful of a person someone can be.
DracotheDarkPrince - Well, it’s abuse no matter how many X chromosomes you have, and you have the right to self defense no matter how many X chromosomes you have. It’s hard to tell if all the slaps were truly in self defense, but it sounds like law enforcement arrested the right person.
@@sallyvillarreal4294 Retaliation *is* self defense, incapacitating the aggressor should be the victim's top priority of they can't guarantee immediate aid. This applies to men and women alike.
@@sallyvillarreal4294 no they were self defense. She attacked first, but him and kept biting until he retaliated with slaps. It was perfectly justifiable.
Look on the brighter side, since there is no "the one" it also means you have over a billion chances to find someone who makes you happy enough. And some of those chances will even be willing to sex you too.
( To OP) I had a boyfriend like that. No ring, though. But he was someone I had described as the kindest person I knew until we officially decided to be a couple, then all of a sudden this controlling, petty, publicly shaming monster replaced him. The last straw was when he went from hinting to actively stating to actively maneuvering to turn my cat ( read: feline infant substitute, light of my life, bestest buddy) into his cat. Oh, HELL no. I can replace *you*...
Lam Truong This is actually not bad advice, as long as one is willing to play Sam when necessary as well. BTW, Sam was the real hero of LOTR, I will declare that till my dying day. It’s a very Tolkeinian idea- while mighty tyrants and heroes wage war above our heads, it’s the choices of one solitary, seemingly powerless individual that changes everything.
@@kellyalves756 This kind of thing is such a special red-flag. If your new partner cannot understand your affection for your animal(s) - cat, dog, hamster, whatever - does not respect your affection for your animal(s), or worse, starts showing some bizarre kind jealously towards your animal(s), you probably seeing the tip of a very ugly iceberg. Caveat: Unless you are a hoarder. :)
@@kellyalves756 I had a friend once who had an ex-girl friend who wanted him to get rid of his cat "because it was taking attention away from her". He chose the cat and I think the feline did him a favor screening that one out.
"I was homeless for a bit" Imagine having to live on the streets because not even an abusive relationship is a good enough reason for your parents to support you. I hope she's doing well.
@@EternalWarrior1988 i don't think it's that easy to make money out of OP's emotional state then- and imo even if OP is a strong willed individual, it's still not easy to get a job with enough pay for rent.
Eternal Warrior You’re a dependent. You depend on your employers to pay you. You depend on stores to sell you things. You depend on everyone in your life, don’t shit on other people for needing help.
I'd say that is often true. One time my gf at the time called me and in a serious tone said that it's very very important for me to tell her if I cheated on her. I was very confused. She said she tested positive for trich, which is a harmless std but an std nevertheless. I assured her in all honesty that I did not cheat on her. It wasn't until I went to get tested myself that it dawned on me what was going on, and when I asked the doctor what the chances of someone getting trich other than through having sex, the doc just gave me the "you know the answer to that already" look.
@@RunawayYe i had a gf that cheated on me and she got herpes. Turns out the herpes was not because of sex, but because of stress. Funny enough, the stress came because she cheated. Sadly the guy didnt get anything
Broke up with my angry ex and got accused of cheating. When he was the one that threatened to chest on me a couple times when we were together. Pretty sure I got cheated on.
@@neverforgettodofacepulls782 not just 'scared'. Maybe they just can't leave the abuser, I mean.. The victim must have been in love with them before dating, so once the abuser got all mad and stuff, they tried to hope that it will pass and the guy/girl they once loved will come back
@@mysteryreadertheoriginal2145 She was afraid if she went to Disney College, she would lose his love (either bc of him or herself) and he was afraid of losing her because he really loved. She spent time away from him and realized she didn't really love him the way he loved her.
I think the more fucked up reality is that they might actually like you or love you, but their love for you will just never, ever be more important to them than their need for control, their own insecurities, their issues with aggression, possessiveness, paranoia, etc. No amount of enduring abuse will ever make you 'earn' a higher priority than their own toxic selfish bullshit. The mindfuck of all that is why it's often hard for people to leave abusive relationships--the hope that after enduring the abuse, your pain will motivate them to change/become healthy. No. It won't. Their love for you (or others) is not important enough to them to supersede their abusive tendencies. That's never your fault, ever--but it still fucking hurts. That reality leaves a massive emotional scar on victims. Their self-worth vanishes. For any victims who might read this, just remember: it's not your job to fix someone else, you didn't do a bad job, no one else's "love" is gonna be able to fix it either, it's not your failing. Non-abusive people are able to look past themselves and make loving you important. We don't earn it through abuse, we are given it willingly. You're important and deserve it. You'll have it. Big tip: Focus on how you feel when you're around a person, not what they're thinking of you. Stick around people who make you feel good when you're near them.
See this can be misleading, because it just says “person”. people who play football, are constantly hit and mainly by their teammates in practice, so your teammates have to like you to an extent. Also people that box are hit and are usually friends with other boxers, so like.....
She manipulated me through gaslighting, and alienated my family. When ending the relationship she called the police and falsely accused me of domestic violence. Spent 8 months disproving it in court so I could see my son again. Now she acts as though it never happened.
@@tanikshagokhale2602 gaslighting: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. Good example my ex would get drunk and hit me in the balls, then pretend it never happened the next day, or whisper things in my ear when she thought I was asleep and deny it.
@@cloudcampos4555 I am now thank you! I've been married to my wife 2 years in. August and for an early anniversary/late honey moon (we are poor lol) she bought me tickets to game grumps live this weekend
Was young. Was naive. We dreamed to go study in Japan together. One day I got scholarship to Japan. He didn't. I spared one month worth of scholarship money and gave it to him so at least he could visit his dream country. He promised he would. He never did. Used the money on other things instead without telling me. Didn't even apologize. I began to wonder about a lot of things and cut ties with him. A month after we broke up, he got married with another girl. Now he got two kids. Was fine, I thought we could stay friends. One day he said he still loved me. Blocked him for good.
@@BB-fj9xs He was a mess who messed me up--he was a posessive asshole who made me have little to no friends in my college life. I cried my heart out almost every day because he would make a fight with me for the smallest things. It was mentally tiring. I'm happy in the end I could get away. I do pity his wife, she seems like a good person and from what I heard she was an achieving student. Like me, she got a scholarship to go abroad, but unfortunately couldn't go because she was pregnant with his kid at the time. Idk if she's happy or not now and I could have told her about him before their marriage happened (she never knew that he had been with another girl before he got her), but back then I felt like I shouldn't be meddling with their business.
I don’t know why I clicked on this. This whole video is my worst nightmare. I would love to get married but I’m afraid that my fiancé/husband (heck, or even me) would change for the worst after getting married.
@Spanish Moustache I understand what you're saying and I thought about that too before. Honestly I don't really have a profound answer, I guess I'm just "traditional". Also, if I have kids, I prefer not to have them out of wedlock.
@@TheDanster4 IDK, all of the married friends I have did not say of any changes upon marriage. If the people have found it OK to live together for at least a year and the guy is over 25 (meaning a personality change is unlikely to happen) things seem to become stable.
The first one happened to me with a GF, and she accidentally sent me a video of the first deed too. Then she tried saying we agreed on an open relationship when we didn't. Yeahhh no
@@smurff1933 Might as well not date at all and just be fwb. I personally wouldn't be into that kinda stuff but I am surprised at the amount of people that are in "open relationships" guess its just part of the times
I left mine after he cheated on me. Turns out he’d met me when he was on break from his long term gf of 7 years. I saw posts and paragraphs about how much he loved her on his Instagram page. I also caught him texting her a few times. A year later I message the girl who he is no longer messing around with after deciding to stay in contact with him after much coxing, and we compared texts and conversations. They were identical. Turns out he was also three years younger than he’d told me, didn’t have a stable job, had multiple affairs, and was living at home with his family. I dodged a bullet.
He was threatening with killing himself if I left him. After some time I realized I cant be with him and that it wouldn't be my fault if he did something to himself. I told him he should get some help and left him.
I had this with a girl (I'm bisexual), she would threaten to harm herself every time I went offline. That's right, threats just to keep me online in DM systems. I was exhausted, just went to a new school, had homework to do, and she got mad and told everyone I was "abandoning" her. At some point, I got sick, HUGE infection, it was so bad I'm actually still chronically ill as a result 7 years later. All she did was call me on my phone "why are you not spending more time with me, I'm lonely, please love me, no-one will talk to me." I didn't even realise *I* was depressed as well, because I was too busy worrying about hers. Thank god I know how to spot emotional vampires now.
@@YuBeace Yo that sounds messed up and I am proud of you for getting out of that relationship. Guilt and emotional abuse in relationships is a messed up thing but its something we (as it happened to me too) can heal from over time and with emotional work. Wish you all the best and people who threat you right!
GraveRobbertt The thing I've learned about people who lever things like that just want attention directed completely directed at them. They weld it like a psychological weapon. When I get depressed, I close down and refuse to talk about it.
Was engaged to this girl, I was madly in love, like I had never been before. Any way, we had planned our wedding and were looking at rings and had picked a few that we liked and wanted to make a choice to make our engagement official (I had proposed before at a corn maze during a date night but I had no ring yet, we were just that "in love" with each other), one day out of the blue she texts me and says "I need a brake, I just have a feeling that you're going to leave me for someone else because of my condition" (she had been in very serious car accident years before were she was in a coma for 6 weeks and only had about a 1% chance of ever being back to normal, she had to learn how to talk and walk again, she was completely normal now, except for the occasional migraine and extra care we had to take with forcing her brain too much with stress and stuff like that) I said "I would.never do that, I want to marry you no matter what". She broke up with me over text, her and her family blocked me completely in every way possible and six months later she married her brother's best friend which was "too old for her" in her own words "he's like a big brother to me" she said (I was 25 she was 21, guy was 27), I only found out because we had 1 friend d in common. At the end she did loose me, I have a wonderful wife which I love greatly, we have a wonderful family and she has been my rock when I most needed it and would never trade her for anything in this world, it did take me a long time to find closure since everything was so sudden, my wife was such a blessing and so understanding, she loves me when I felt so broken for something I did not do, that's when I know she was my one and now we're happily married.
@@Zero_Shift so not knowing a language is an excuse, ok. I'm glad English is not hard for you, that's awesome; I'm a fucking surgeon with a hammer and and some nails but that doesn't mean that because it's easy for me it's easy for everyone, you don't have to be a dick about it.
What scares me the most is how those people spent so much time with their partners and they had a complete different side to all along is pretty difficult to comprehend I guess
That is why people should live together before getting married. If you're dating somebody that you don't live with you're seeing a representative of them not the real them. Gotta see them when they are not in a good mood and when they can't simply hide from you.
If "someone who used to make you super happy doesn't anymore" this doesn't mean you should immediately try to find someone else. There are ways to solve issues, improve relationships and become a better person in the process. I understand that this is not always an option, but running away when you feel the slightest discomfort is a really unhealthy thing to do. Ultimately, it's all about balance. You should work to change things you can change for the better, but you shouldn't waste time trying to change something that you can't change. And the most important part, you should strive to be wise enough to distinguish between the two, even tough it's really hard sometimes.
I love your comment so much because I resonate with it on a personal level and I hope my fiance would feel the same if she would have saw this post. Sometimes my feelings get blocked by sadness or anger(not necessarly towards her) and in that moment I think I am an unfeeling ghost, but the fact is she keeps bringing up the soft side of me and that is how I know I am in love with her.
Of course not immediately, but I've grown up around way too many dysfunctional families and couples because people spent too much time trying to make things work when they're simply not compatible people. Life is way too short to waste time on people that make you miserable. In my experience, while it's possible, most people don't change.
I understand what you're saying but I think what they wrote was just worded wrong, through omission. I think they were just pointing out that there is no such thing as the one/soulmate who will always make you happy; you aren't necessarily going to love someone as a partner forever. feelings change, it happens. and if there are soulmates they're rare and odds are you won't find them. ultimately the lesson is never get married lol
I don't think I ever really loved him. I was just drowning in depression and he was the first person in like 10 years to actually express interest in me, so I thought he was the best I was ever gonna get, and convinced myself to love him as best I could. But he was racist, sexist, and controlling. I enjoy BDSM in the bedroom, but he would constantly ignore my boundaries, and couldn't seem to accept that there was a difference between what I was OK with in bed, and what I was OK with out in public. He wanted me to be his obedient slave 24/7. He started demanding that I only eat the same food he ate. Tried to isolate me from my family and friends. He claimed he had a split personality, called, I shit you not, "The Wolf" - and that if "he" got mad and hurt me, it was my fault for making him angry enough to "let The Wolf out". He never actually hit me, but always made me feel like it could happen at any moment. Somehow, I was with him for 2 years, and had actually quit my job and was on the brink of moving across the country to live with him. I don't remember what the final straw was. I think I ended up breaking up with him over the internet because I was too scared to do it in person. That was nearly 10 years ago now and I'm on proper medication to get my mental shit together, and just celebrated my 6 year anniversary with the kindest and most wonderful woman I've ever known.
Whispering Mischief good for you darling. Like i always say, there are 8 billion people in this world. If 99% of them didn't like you, that leaves 17 million, in that 1%, that do.
My fiancee was a psychotic mess who believed that something was always going to kill her. First it was her rotting teeth (they were fine), then a gingival (gum) abscess (which didn't exist), then a blood clot in her legs that was going to go to her brain (she showed no symptoms), then a blood clot in her leg that had gone to her lungs (again, no symptoms), then her teeth again. At the beginning of 2016, she tried to get multiple dentists and oral surgeons to rip out all her teeth so they could be replaced with dental implants. When this didn't happen, she tried to kill herself, so I calld the police and had her committed to a psychiatric ward. She signed herself out after three days. Happened again a month later. After that (late 2016 through 2017), it was memory issues caused by medication her mother had tricked her into taking against her doctor's advising. The entire relationship was a one-sided shitshow that consisted of me pouring everything I had into taking care of her and being there for her without an ounce of thanks in return. Broke it off at the end of 2017 and it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
Another comment on that last one: even after marrying someone, they aren't always going to make you happy. It might be like that for a while, but after a long time of being together, "being happy" sort of becomes a chore to do. So I think it's helpful to base a relationship with someone that's more than just "being happy"
She told me "I graduated from culinary school, not you" for the previous 5 years I helped cut stencils, give color choice ideas, and she yelled that at me after trying to give suggestions on how to put a doll inside of a dress cake. I told her to wrap the lower half of the doll that will be inside the cake with foil and she said, "what gives you the right to tell me anything, I graduated from culinary school, not you." I called my dad that night to borrow his van to move my stuff out the next morning. When I told her I was leaving, she said yeah right. *I left* and *left my engagement ring on her retail job walkie talkie*
Does nobody else think that this is a dramatic reaction? You said you were with her for 5 years. You ended it because she was frustrated and told you she went to culinary school? That doesn't add up.
That last one though.. At the core, we all know it's true, but it's also very hard to keep in mind that "the one" is a made up concept. Especially when you love someone very much.
No, people just have the wrong perception of what the one is. They buy into the Disney version of limitless happiness instead of the real one, which is based on the desire to build a family together. If you can find someone who will commit with you to raise a family and stick with it, come what may, then that is the one. At some point you may be less happy than before, bored, etc. but you'll always be partners. This requires a lot of work beforehand to explain who you are and what you want from a relationship.
After being forgiven for cheating on me twice on our 2 year relationship, she started claiming that if she'd do it again it still wouldn't count that she was cheating because "she was still inexperienced and couldn't control her feelings like I could" (she was 19, I was 21 when we first got together. It was our first serious relationship, so I was as inexperienced as her). Cheating wasn't even the reason I broke up with her, as she was starting getting really possessive and unbearable as the relationship went on. She would constantly nag about how I never liked her and that I wanted to be with other girls more (ignoring the fact that I would spend hours of travelling to be with her). I learned two things from this relationship: 1. People change after they've secured their relationship. 2. People can take you for granted if you're patient and understanding.
Wow. Her excuse for cheating makes me furious! Such bs I got into my first and still ongoing relationship when I was 19. We've had our ups and downs, but the one thing I put above all else is loyalty. Break that, and it's over. Hate to admit it though, the above commenter is right about how complicated cheating can be. It is possible to not only work through it but come out the other side together stronger. Like anything, I'd imagine it'd take a lot of work. I can tolerate and forgive & forget many things, but I'm not sure I'd be able to with cheating..
@Cat Satan I agree. But people are still people, we all make mistakes. Some are just more dire than others sometimes. If someone cheats the relationship is _most likely_ done for/not worth it next to 100% of the time (once a cheater always a cheater), but I know a couple people who've made it work out despite the one's fault. He had one more night with his ex, and she was quite mature about it and stuck it through with him. Now they're still together years later and have kids and everything and he works hard every day to provide for everyone and be a better person. Does the past issue still come up sometimes between them? I've no doubt it does, but like anything relationship problems take tons of work and love to overcome. But I'd like to make a point that I don't think it can work out this well for most cases, it's quite circumstancial. Most cases are done out of deceipt and maliciousness, completely and most likely unapologetically taking advantage of the other's trust. I wouldn't trust them to change. Would completely drop it then and there, it's not worth the pain and abuse.
@@P1ay3r7 You can get married for next to nothing. The only reason it's usually expensive is the notion that it has to be big and bold. Just a concept of consumer economy.
6:25 This is a very real law across all of the US if I'm not mistaken, or at the very least Illinois, that many people are not aware of. If cops are called to respond to a domestic violence dispute and anyone is harmed in an alarming manner (blood, bruises, broken bones, etc), someone *has* to be arrested in fear that the victim may be downplaying the assault. I'm sure this law has helped out many people in the past, but let me share a funny story about how I came into a brush with this law personally: I was in my late teens and going through the bull shit angst filled "Catcher in the Rye" rebellious phase which made me have a tenuous and strained relationship with my family, primarily my siblings. One day when the tensions reached a boiling point, I got in a fight with my older brother that was the epic climactic battle between a younger brother that was sick of getting pushed around by the older just because he was bigger, and the older brother not wanting to admit that the bratty and annoying younger brother had become old enough to be considered a peer (in size anyway, still had a long way to go in the brains department. Still do). After several minutes of a back and forth and me finally starting to get the upper hand against him, he reached out and grabbed for anything to hit me with and the first thing he grabbed just *happened* to be a samurai sword. Yes this is going exactly where you think it's going. He tried to beat me down with the sheath on like a baseball bat, but mid-swing the sheath flew off and the samurai sword sliced my left elbow open 12 inches across and two and a half inches deep. I lost 5 pints of blood, needed countless stiches and staples, and to this day still have 8 screws and a plate in my elbow to hold everything together. After the dust settled we found out about this law thanks to the ambulance calling the police in response to taking me to the hospital. Because of the law, someone needed to go to jail. If my brother went to jail, he would go to jail for attempted murder and be facing felony charges stacked with potentially decades of jail time. Me on the other hand would only face misdemeanor battery charges and probation since I was a minor, so I ended up getting prosecuted by the state after getting out of the hospital. After nearly bleeding out and a 10+ hour surgery, I was arrested. No hard feelings to my brother or the state, as my relationship with my family has worked itself out after I became less of a dumbass and somehow miraculously maintained full functionality in my left arm. I'd hate to think my brother would still be in jail over this considering it was just a bad fight between brothers that ended less than optimal, I just still laugh to this day that I nearly died and got arrested as a result.
@@feetwithtoesjoe8875 eh to this day I still dont really see it as a sacrifice, it just seems like the obvious choice to make for me. I played my part in contributing to the situation, so doing a handful of community service hours versus watching family rot in jail was not hard to see as better for the grand scheme of things.
@@giuliapaschoarelli4480 I mean yea can't disagree with you there but I can understand why this law is in place. It was a big learning experienxe for me, and if the law allowed my brother to not face charges for what happened then there could theoretically be cases where a wife is beaten within an inch of her life and and could potentially drop the charges against the piece of shit husband. I looked into it, and it regrettably happens more often then you think. The state's attorney was a capital C Cunt though, she didn't even read the docket and assumed I was the one who was the cutter rather than the cuttee and wanted to throw me in jail lol It was fun watching her make a fool out of herself in front of the judge though
Some states pick and choose when they want to use it. My stepfather was abusive only toward me. One day he bust my nose, broke my glasses by punching me in the face, and pulled my hair out of my scalp, I was wearing braids. The police responded. No one was arrested although I was bleeding. The cops said since I was the minor if I pressed charges I would have to find somewhere else to stay. Later found out it was all bs because I filed and was granted a restraining order which forced him to leave, even though his name was on the mortgage. That was the last straw, he told my mother he wasnt paying for a house he wasnt living in and filed for divorce
My roommate just broke up with her fiance after finding out he's expecting a baby with another girl... Mainly after doing the math and realizing he cheated for that to happen.
Realized something was wrong. We were the closest people in the world, but it just finally clicked for both of us we were really intensely close best friends, and we were closer as best friends than we then became and could ever be romantically, because the love we felt for each other was a passionate platonic love, not a romantic love. Still best friends, and only gotten better since we cut out the attempts to make this friendship into a romance that was just bringing us both down.
@@jpgamer1000 lemme guess, you're one of those guys who thinks that when a girl is nice to you that she wants to have sex with you. or one of those guys who's only friendly to girls when you want to get in their pants. or both
We were together for almost 4 years. We were engaged and I couldn't have been happier. He was my first serious relationship and I wanted to take on any challenges that were thrown our way because he was there, supporting me and I supported him. But then I had to move to another state due to family issues. We were tight on money so I wasn't able to visit him regularly, and because of this, he was accusing me of cheating, then getting angry with me when I'd try to explain that I wasn't. This kept going for a year and the feeling I had for him was gone by that point. I couldn't keep doing the emotional rollercoaster ( especially since my own mother was having depression and bipolar issues that drained me till I couldn't think anymore ) and the long-distance relationship. It just no longer worked out so I broke it off before anything harmful could be done and he said he understood. I told him that I'd still be there for him because I still cared for him as he cared for me, but he blocked me and cut me out of his life completely, even though I was confused with his actions, I understood if he was angry and wanted to be alone. A few days later after we stopped talking, he makes a post on facebook saying that I only broke up with him because of his grandmothers and dogs death, which wasn't true. He made up lies about me and accused me again that I was also cheating on him and that I was a slut, whore, skank. I was crying and thrown into a deep depression for a while. It hurt. It was ok though because after some time thinking it over and trying to move forward I realized that he never really loved me and that I was better off on my own. I was able to feel ok again. :) Edit: I didn't post this here for pity points or to have it gain attention. I just posted it here so others in the same situation can feel like they're not alone and maybe take action to better themselves by leaving the other person that's not making them happy or isn't benefitting them in any way ( everyone deserves to be happy ). If you wanna read it, like it, or comment, then that's fine. If you don't wanna read this, don't wanna believe the credibility of what's said, thumbs it down or tell me its bullshit then that's fine too. I really don't care. Do what you want, but I think sharing things like this is good. Thank you, to those who do read it. I really appreciate it.
dang. what a manipulative lying pos. I'm sorry you had to go through that being decieved. But I'm also happy you didn't marry him and get stuck with that. To call you such things and lie so blatantly isn't love. It's idiocy
That's tough I am sorry, I was in one for 15 years before I found out she was cheating on me, but we weren't getting married at that point and yes even after 15 years we were still not married, planned on it on her birthday but that never happened.
Thank you very much for sharing, I went though something similar once, I am very sorry you had to endure that, but I wish you the very best in life, you sound like a good person.
@@ZX-fn7zm lol nah its all good she's nowhere near as bad as the girl in the post, doesnt call me names or hit me. she did change quite a bit after we got married tho, which is weird and idk why. Thanks for your concern tho ✊
I am glad she did that too so he wasn't stuck and most likely either forced to stay with her forever or risk losing half his things and have to pay alimony. That being said, I always crack up when you see those type of women who think an engagement ring is an iron-clad commitment and either turn into a "harpy" like you said or a huge mess that lets everything go as if a ring means you can stop trying in a relationship.
Too many of these relationships seem to be like a living hell. People need to find a better match for themselves and hook up with someone who is willing to fulfill all the commitments it takes to have a successful relationship.
Your comment just screams that you have never been in a serious relationship that didn't end well. People are complicated, and often we fall in love before knowing anywhere near enough to be able to reasonably conclude that the person is as you put "someone willing to fulfill all the commitments it takes to have a successful relationship". Because we love the person and nobody is perfect, we are willing to put up with their flaws. Love easily blinds us from seeing clearly, which is why people in toxic relationships put up with things that to an outsider seem utterly horrible. It is only after breaking up that you see how unhealthy the relationship was for you.
so ... move out with your mom. 🤷 are you old enough to drive? Can you support her financially? it's not impossible for you both to leave your father eventually, you know. :)
Well we'd been engaged for three years and I'd started to crush on someone else in my work area... and my fiance one day got super mad... and we cut it off. I'm now happily married to my earlier crush, and we have three kids. My name is Pam Beasley
If you take the advice of the last guy you'll probably divorce multiple times in your life. I've seen many couples that are still genuinely in love with each other and it's the most beautiful thing. So, don't settle for just happy but don't hunt for love like it's the last thing you'll do because you'll jump at every opportunity to feel like you're in love. Just live your life, go cool places and you'll meet someone you love.
@Material girl it kind of reminded me of a blackpilled incel minus the desire to murder women. They've just given up trying because they're so used to disappointment.
I think y'all are misinterpreting what he said. He didn't say "You can't/won't be together with your partner for life". It was more along the lines of "Its okey If you aren't". There is no "the one" in the sense that there isn't this one person for everyone that's just perfect for them. Something like that doesn't exist and that's okay. Its actually a soothing thought. There is no pressure to find the one, you can just be happy with who you're with right now and there is not as much disappointment when the relationship you thought was for life didn't last. When you're in love you always feel like it's going to last forever and your feelings won't fade but life is often different
@@layla8830 I think what you're saying is true but those are things you should figure out before you marry, as the person in the video has, not when you're married.
And here I am, sitting on the most boring reason ever. I have always said that I don't want kids of my own. Whenever any of my relationships start getting serious, I always make sure they know this. No kids. Everyone, her included, always assumed I would change my mind somewhere along the way. That once I hit my thirties, I would change my opinion on it. When that didn't up happening, she broke up with me because she couldn't believe I didn't want to have kids. I specifically told her this YEARS in advance. I specifically told her that I WAS NOT going to change my mind on it. She wouldn't believe me. Kept thinking I would change my mind, despite me saying I wouldn't (and still haven't). Not the most exciting story, but there you have it.
@@kekelauren6251 That's a pretty long post incoming, but if you're interested, here it is: Same reason I'll never get married. I like the idea of doing whatever I want on my free time. That might sound selfish (and it probably is), but to me the idea of being forced to ask permission to see a movie with my friends or not being able to go out because I have a baby to look after feels very... suffocating. I don't think I could stand it, day after day. I am now at that age where most of my friends and family are into their 'baby period'. My best friend had his first son 3 years ago, then his second son 1 year ago, my brother had his first daughter seven years ago and his first son 2 years ago and my halfsister had her son 2 years ago and is currently pregnant with another boy. And all of their lives changed massively since the kids. A kid takes over your life completely. Where before we would frequently go out and do things with little to no planning, they now cannot do this anymore because they have children to look after. Any activity we do together now needs to be perfectly planned and line up with all their schedules. Their lives now completely revolve around their children and that's great for them, because they wanted that. They chose that. I love my niece and nephews and frequently look after them, but that's about as far as I'm willing to go with kids. I have a spare bedroom in my apartment that I made in a children's room so that they can spend the night every once in a while should their parents need that, but that's my absolute limit. I would never be able to devote all of my free time and energy on a kid, every single day of my life for however many years until their independence kicks in. I just don't have that in me. I love my free time. I need to know that when I wake up in the morning and I don't have work, I can sleep in or play a video game or skip doing the dishes that day or just go out bowling or see a movie and not have that be a burden on someone. If I can't bring myself to devote all my free time and energy and love on a baby of my own, then I shouldn't have one. Babies are a serious responsibility and deserve nothing less then a truly dedicated parent and I just don't have that in me and I doubt I ever will. Some people have it in them to be parent and some don't. I don't and I'm trying to be as honest about that as I can in my relationship. I don't open a relationship with that statement, but if it ever gets serious I do make sure that they know that so as not to mislead them into expecting things that will never happen. Living together with someone already comes very difficult for me. I feel limited in my ability to do what I want when someone else depends on me to do groceries or laundry or the dishes at a time when they need it, rather then whenever I want to do it. If that's already so hard for me to bear, I can't even imagine how much worse that would be with a baby in the house. At least my girlfriend is a grown woman who can cope on her own if I happen to not do something she needs, but a baby is helpless. If you don't take care of them when they need it, they can't cope on their own and ... well, that won't end well for anyone involved.
@@Xylarxcode I got you. And I don't mind the length lol. It's nice that you are a good uncle. How do you imagine your older years will be like? Like your 60's and 70's +
@@kekelauren6251 Hard to think that far ahead. I'm 34 now, so that's still 30 years away. I do sometimes think about it, but more in financial terms rather then how my social life would look like. I honestly don't know. Maybe I'll slow down a little as I get older and will actually settle down with a woman without feeling 'suffocated'. When I'm in my 60's or 70's, I won't have the energy to go out working all day and still have enough left to go out at night to catch a movie or go to a bar. There won't be any kids on my end, because I imagine that by the time I get there it would be too late to start having kids, but a relationship isn't out of the question. That could be a thing. It's not a given, though. Maybe I won't be in a relationship and I'll be alone in my apartment most of the time. Or with a friend or family. Most of my friends are roughly the same age as me. My brother is also my twin, so we're the same age, my sister is only 2 years younger and my best friend is 36. Most of my other friends are also in their 30's. I doubt I'll stay in touch with all of them until my 60's, but my brother and sister have been part of my entire life and I don't imagine that going away any time soon. My best friend has been part of my life since I was 16, so it's possible that he'll still be around too. People always tell me they get most worried about being left alone when they get older. That they would want their kids to visit them and that they want grandkids to spend time with. I'm not too worried about being left on my own. I'm not the most social guy in the world, but I do enjoy the company of others from time to time. My friends and family have always been enough for me to fill any social desire I have. Maybe that'll still be enough when I'm old. There's always the possibility that I'm gonna need to do some serious re-evaluating my old age at some point, but for now, I like to think I'm still young enough to not have to worry about that time too much. It's on my mind, but I don't freak out over something that's still 30+ years away. We'll see how things turn out as they happen, I guess.
He got drunk and threw a vase at me and absolutely shattered my elbow , it was pissing blood but I was too furious over what he had done that I just went and ducktaped it - then packed my shit and left . I was 18 , he was 24 with the two sweetest boys and if it werent for him becoming violent from even the slightest drop of alcohol - I wouldve stayed with him until the dawn of time . I still got the scar from it and this was only 3 years ago .
I'm so lucky, I married my husband after a little over a year together. I moved from the United States to Italy for him, I gave up everything familiar and comfortable to be with him, I can't imagine doing what I've done and it not lasting forever. We'll be having our 2nd wedding anniversary in April.
1:00 that makes me sad, that's an actual abusive realationship, both physical and psychological Edit: I have now realized after watching the entire video that a couple of these ( a lot ) were abusive realationships/manipulating partners and i somehow thought that clicking on a video that was about breakups would have mostly funny examples.
After we got engaged, I went to see my ex boyfriend in secret. He was my first love and I realized I still loved him when I spent a few says with him. I decided to leave my fiance for him. Sound familiar? It's the Notebook lol
My first ever gf did me so wrong lmao. She convinced me to stay in a LDR with her despite me asking multiple times if she wanted to back out now, she could (We'd met in person before). Turns out she lied a lot, made me doubt myself, made me feel bad for bringing up issues among us and wait for it, she cheated. Twice. It was pretty toxic. Till this day I will never forget my hero who exposed her. Her best friend who is my cousin lol
Both of these relationships were about to end, these were just the final straws. The first one was because of another girl. This girl tried to get his attention and texted him inappropriate things. I don't think he cheated or said anything he shouldn't have said but he still continued texting her. When I called him out on not breaking contact with her (they weren't at the same school or anything), he kept saying sorry and promised to delete her from his contacts and Facebook, which I made very clear I wasn't expecting, I just didn't want them to talk, but he insisted. A month later they were friends on Facebook again. The second was an IT guy. When we met, he worked at a low paying job he hated anyways and he haven't finished college because he didn't like the thesis topic options. I convinced him to finish it, but he didn't yet get the degree because he didn't have a language exam. He also got a different job that was much better and payed better, but still not a lot and he was in a huge debt from student loans. He was also living with his parents at the time (just like me) and tried to convince me to move in with them and have children when I was just beginning university (which he didn't like). The final straw was when he decided to start a new study in history(!). I found it very unreasonable because he was in a lot of debt already, had a language exam to take and a new job to work himself into. But what's worse is that I felt it greatly unfair that he would nag me for studying and not marrying him yet or moving in with his parents, while making decisions that would make it harder for us to have our own flat later on. I got the 'you're being unsupportive' card many many times and he left it for me to decide about it (which is, again, unfair, especially since he did it at the gate of the school). I told him to go, because I didn't think it was my decision to make and I didn't want him to hate me for a lifetime for it, but I really wanted to say no. We didn't last long after that and when I was breaking up with him, he told me he was afraid of my judgements and he had a health issue he didn't talk about because of that. He had a rare skin infection between his thighs (we weren't having sex for months due to my own stubborn health issues 'down there' so I couldn't know). That was when I knew ther was no coming back from this level of dishonesty. Looking back, I'm pretty sure he cheated on me. I don't know if his skin infection has anything to do with it, but my own health problems, especially their stubborn nature point in that direction. And I wouldn't be surprised if he did. He is the type of guy who is very moralistic and self rightous yet is in denial about his own actions, after all.
You shouldn't. It's totally wrong. I found the one. She was absolutely amazing. Brilliant, funny, beautiful, completely 100% unique. She passed away in 2016. I still have not been with another woman. I still think of her everyday. It's possible to find the one. If you do, hold onto them tight and never let them go.
That's exactly how it goes. If you get your heart broken you know how nice it was to have a relationship, to have someone who loved you and then ultimately to be backstabbed by them. Nothings worse than the last part. Especially not being single
She cheated on me multiple times, I was blind by love. Also, whenever she traveled to the states she broke up with me because she felt "lonely" and that I deserved better. The only woman I have truly loved with all my heart, we talked about getting married, how many kids, etc.
Years ago. [read: old guy] She gave me a list titled _THINGS THAT WILL CHANGE WHEN WE'RE MARRIED. ... subjects included: People I could no longer see or talk to. Things/Events I could no longer do. Food I could no longer eat. Items I could no longer own. Words I could not use. ...and on & on. The list was 4 pages long and single spaced. Worst thing, it was our 5th (& last) date and this was her idea of "advancing the relationship". My female friends then accused me of having a "key penis" ~ the kind that starts the crazy engine of an otherwise rational woman. I had no evidence of this not being true other than... "Is this a thing". Happily Married now for 15 years... Couldn't fathom dating in today's insanity.
She blamed me for anything even when I didn't do anything at all. Also, she cheated on me around the beginning of the relationship and told me two years later. Thanks, Skylar.
My brother was in his first serious relationship. They met and started dating. A year later, he proposed and then she started acting as a witch. Controlling him and manipulating him. He was a super nerd who read physics books fun, but she got him to drop out of college to support her and to go into carpentry. She bad mouthed my mother and had to have him do what she wanted. We moved across the country (Alaska to Florida) and he went without telling her he was as it would be easier because we had an extra driver who could swap out. He was gone for about a month and when he went back, he realized she was a bitch and that he wasn’t in love with her. They proceed to breakup. Years later to current time, my mom (who hated her after she changed) has been trying to get them back together. I believe he dodged not only a bullet, but a firing squad.
What really got me is, “And sometimes someone who used to make you super happy doesn’t anymore.” It’s kinda unrelated, but I’m bi, and I’ve always had a crush on my straight best friend, and I’ve kept it a secret for years, and I really just enjoyed being her friend but deep down knew it was never going to happen. We got older, and she moved, and it was alright at first, but then things started to get iffy when I mentioned politics, and she said she was a republican and had really conservative views. That’s not even what made me start doubting our friendship, though. It was when I wanted support from her when I was upset, and she usually would listen, but sometimes she would just leave me on “Oh” and wouldn’t say anything else. It made me really angry because I would always try to analyze the situation when she was upset and try to come to a good solution and offer advice to her. I think we both just grew apart and developed different personalities and ideas, but one things for sure, whoever said: “distance makes the heart grow fonder” was an idiot.
I (nearly 19) told my gf (19) that I was struggling with my faith in Christianity. We tried to keep the relationship alive, but about 3 weeks after that she called me to break up. I suppose there were other reasons involved as well (I had one or two conversations with her where I chastised her for not having a license and rudely vocalized how much extra strain that put on me.) A divide was starting to form and we both new it. The breakup was as good as anyone could ask for I suppose. We both told each other that we still loved one another and didn’t regret the time we spent together. We finished the call crying and hoping to be friends given enough time to let the pain fade. It has been about 3 weeks since the breakup, only now am I truly realizing what a diamond in the rough she is. She is nowhere near perfect but neither am I. If we can’t work romantically, I can handle that, but what I don’t think I can handle is losing my best friend. I want to just fix everything, but I don’t think that power is within my hands anymore.
I was 19 and had pretty much no self esteem, but still couldn't fathom spending my life with this person. I was trapped though, I had nowhere to go. Until one day one of our dogs escaped and was hit by a car. Our car needed a jump so I was running around frantically trying to find jumper cables so I could take him to the veterinary emergency room. He basically said there's no point and wouldn't do anything. I ended up helplessly just staying by his side until he passed (it took about 30 minutes). Then, he was too much of a chicken shit to pick him up so we could bury him. I (a 22 yo girl, he was 34) had to help his father do it. Pathetic. Two weeks later, my mother passed away (just an all around shit month to be honest) and he didn't do shit then either. Didn't even come to the hospital where she lay on her death bed to comfort me. I finally decided there was no way in hell I could be with this useless waste of space so I boarded my other dog on a ranch, and just moved in on my sister's couch until I could get a second job and get my own place. Best decision I've ever made!
Had a serious relationship with a girl I knew from high school, I was 27 and her 25 when it started, not long into it she kept mentioning marriage and kids, I wanted to wait a bit, she couldn't handle that for very long, we were living with her parents and all I wanted was us to be out of there before we got married, some months later she gave me an ultimatum, either I marry her or she was gonna marry her best friend (who was also a girl) after trying to laugh it off and say you're joking, she maintained she would do it, eventually I got serious and said " than go marry your friend cuz I'm not gonna be pressured into such a commitment over a dumb ass ultimatum like that" the relationship quickly fell apart over some months after, I ended up having to live with my dad for a little while but I'm glad AF I dodged that bullet
AdrianAtGaming you're absolutely right she needed it to validate herself, I think because her friends were slowly all getting married she didnt wanna be the last 1 and that's not the right reason to make such a major commitment
I loved her more than myself Was preparing to propose when i got the sad truth She was thinking about breaking up with me cause she couldn't love me anymore.. 2 months passed to hear that she got engaged to another guy .. Lucky me i guess :/
Ahh that’s the classic breakup scenario. You can’t love your partner more than yourself. You can’t be too nice, romantic or gentle. Women like guys that are hard to please. You need to look up some dating channels
We both loved each other and if I'm being honest I'll never stop loving her. She didn't do anything wrong. Infact she was perfect, but ultimately she may have thought she loved me, but she didn't. Not like I loved her. So she left and is now dating my bestfriend. I don't hold any anger, or resentment. They're great people and I know it's going to work out perfectly for them and I'm glad for them, but I guess it just proved to me that love can't save you. It's just a word and even if someone says they love you they might just be lying to themselves as much as you think they're lying to you. It's okay when someone leaves you if you truly love them. You'll be hurt and a little hung up, but it'll be alright.
@@Kontaras987 no no dude. It ain't like that. It's not out of spite and she didn't do anything wrong. She was complete faithful to me till the very end. Seriously I had access to all her stuff she never hid anything. Plus she still supports me hardcore and so does he. They're great people and I'm happy for them
@@Kontaras987 he's my best friend because he's a good man. I'd rather her date someone who I know is good than someone who will treat her awful. You're absolutely right it doesn't change it, but the only other way I'd rather have it is for her to still be with me. As long as they're happy I'll be happy for them.
@@ebilveryebil3091 its great that you can be happy for her but your "friend's" morale is highly questionable. He must have known that you still have feelinga for her but that didnt stop him. Either way, a best friends ex is off limits.
Over the course of a month grandma died, my dad was in the hospital after he got stabbed and my grandma's death made my God-mother's health deteriate. She dumped me because I was too emotionally dependant on her during this chaotic time. What a waste of three years.
Dated this girl four two years I really loved her alot and I thought she loved me back but she loved my best friend I tried so hard to denie it but it came to the point were she was only her happiest with him so I stepped aside and let them be together it was hard but I had to do it
He broke up with me, but I'm glad he did. We weren't engaged yet, but we talked about marriage a lot. But he was not ready for that kind of commitment. He dumped me right after a buddy of his dumped his girlfriend, and I'm pretty sure they all just wanted to mess around and not have any commitments. I've looked him up since then (about 7-8 years ago) and it seems like he's still just messing around with his friends and not really doing much with his life. Meanwhile, I've been happily married to an amazing men for 5 years :) the other guy just was not right for me. We didn't want the same things, despite the dozens of times he told me he did want those things.
It was my highschool sweetheart. We were together 3 years. One day I just woke up and knew something wasn't right with us. After honestly weeks of a lot of thought I decided to end it with him. We were on good terms about it. Said our goodbyes and hugged and cried and all that. Never understood why I felt the need to, until just a couple months ago I saw a picture of him. Now he's gay and a crossdresser. I have nothing against that and hope the best for him. I'm married and happy and I hope he's happy too. I guess that one day I knew he had a lot of things to work out and now I'm really happy I ended it when I did. Looking back tho there was no signs I could possibly see that I was blind to to him deciding to come out later. He hid it well
Not engaged to the guy, but it was a pretty serious relationship. After a lifetime of issues without any sort of healing, he started depending on me as his external self esteem/suicide watch, and I eventually cracked under the stress as he got worse. It ended up damaging my own mental health, and I started to sink with him. After we broke up, I insisted he saw a therapist. This is why psychiatry and therapy is a professional field, people.
I hope YOU saw a therapist also. Your need" to "fix him" is going to repeat itself in another relationship. You need to learn about healthy boundaries and relationships too. He wasn't the only one with issues in that relationship. When people threaten harm to themselves, "normal" people insist they get help IMMEDIATELY not try to "fix it " for them. I use the term normal loosely. -From someone that has been there.
He cheated with a mutual friend.... his mum *Heart skips a beat*
... accidentally walked in on them
😂I was like wtf too
I had the same thought 😂
At least she didn't take his side.
I KNOW
*SWEET HOME ALA-* oh nvm
That mom is the true mvp, to be so rational to choose honesty over her son
Imagine disappointing your mom like that💔She'd never look at me the same.
If you heard a poetic quote of the contrary to that in you're next favourite movie you'll be applauding.
Snitchin ass
@Taylah Warren I'm actually 8, if I was 9, I'd probably kick your ass
What if the mom lied just to break them up?
Woman: *Tackles man to the ground and Bites him hard enough to draw blood TWICE*
Man: *Slaps her*
Woman: **Shocked Pikachu face**
sadly this is literally how abusive people are every fucking time. they do the damnest shit to you, but once you do one (1) thing back the world explodes.
@@YuBeace the worst part is that abusive people turn that against their victim. "see??? you slapped me!! you're the worst! can't you see YOU'RE the bad one here?" it's awful.
Olly Booth B I T E S
A S S
@@zatrat5696 and bigger.
*Whoops, it's because I'm a caprisun lol*
You know it's gonna be a long story when the letters are small
everytime's the first time or when it starts at the very very top
LoL
I don't understand why people stay with cheating partners and think of being engaged to them.
sometimes the values aren't chained to the bed
When you love someone, I believe you can get delusional, believing it’ll work out.
It’s sad but being in love with someone really makes you blind to all their faults. It’s only after you’re no longer together that you realize how awful of a person someone can be.
I can understand, especially if they are honest and own up to it, it takes guts to own up to cheating on someone you care about.
Because they’re weak minded
It doesn't matter how many X chromosomes they have, if someone bites you you have the right to knock out their teeth.
DracotheDarkPrince - Well, it’s abuse no matter how many X chromosomes you have, and you have the right to self defense no matter how many X chromosomes you have. It’s hard to tell if all the slaps were truly in self defense, but it sounds like law enforcement arrested the right person.
@@sallyvillarreal4294 Retaliation *is* self defense, incapacitating the aggressor should be the victim's top priority of they can't guarantee immediate aid. This applies to men and women alike.
@@sallyvillarreal4294 no they were self defense. She attacked first, but him and kept biting until he retaliated with slaps. It was perfectly justifiable.
Gender means nothing. Self defense is self defense
I think if they’re under the age of 5 you should probably make an exception.
'...there is no "the one". there is only people who make you happy, and people who dont.' That is comforting and simultaneously sad.
That whole last paragraph is deep...
It's sad but it's true. A SO should be a good friend too, not just some stupid sex object or something
That last one hit me right in the feels.....
Look on the brighter side, since there is no "the one" it also means you have over a billion chances to find someone who makes you happy enough. And some of those chances will even be willing to sex you too.
Sans can they be an intelligent sex object?
0:57 "things were so perfect but as soon as she got that ring, everything changed"
MY PRECIOUS
Get a wife/husband like Sam treats Frodo
( To OP) I had a boyfriend like that. No ring, though. But he was someone I had described as the kindest person I knew until we officially decided to be a couple, then all of a sudden this controlling, petty, publicly shaming monster replaced him.
The last straw was when he went from hinting to actively stating to actively maneuvering to turn my cat ( read: feline infant substitute, light of my life, bestest buddy) into his cat.
Oh, HELL no. I can replace *you*...
Lam Truong This is actually not bad advice, as long as one is willing to play Sam when necessary as well.
BTW, Sam was the real hero of LOTR, I will declare that till my dying day. It’s a very Tolkeinian idea- while mighty tyrants and heroes wage war above our heads, it’s the choices of one solitary, seemingly powerless individual that changes everything.
@@kellyalves756 This kind of thing is such a special red-flag. If your new partner cannot understand your affection for your animal(s) - cat, dog, hamster, whatever - does not respect your affection for your animal(s), or worse, starts showing some bizarre kind jealously towards your animal(s), you probably seeing the tip of a very ugly iceberg.
Caveat: Unless you are a hoarder. :)
@@kellyalves756 I had a friend once who had an ex-girl friend who wanted him to get rid of his cat "because it was taking attention away from her". He chose the cat and I think the feline did him a favor screening that one out.
"I was homeless for a bit"
Imagine having to live on the streets because not even an abusive relationship is a good enough reason for your parents to support you. I hope she's doing well.
Make your own money. Pay your own way and you won't end up relying on assholes for a roof over your head.
@@EternalWarrior1988 i don't think it's that easy to make money out of OP's emotional state then- and imo even if OP is a strong willed individual, it's still not easy to get a job with enough pay for rent.
@@EternalWarrior1988 are you her ex?
@@Goochie2Sorry not into people that are dependants.
Eternal Warrior You’re a dependent. You depend on your employers to pay you. You depend on stores to sell you things. You depend on everyone in your life, don’t shit on other people for needing help.
I feel the need to say this, if he/she’s accusing you of cheating there is a 99% chance he/she is already cheating on you with someone else.
I'd say that is often true. One time my gf at the time called me and in a serious tone said that it's very very important for me to tell her if I cheated on her. I was very confused. She said she tested positive for trich, which is a harmless std but an std nevertheless. I assured her in all honesty that I did not cheat on her. It wasn't until I went to get tested myself that it dawned on me what was going on, and when I asked the doctor what the chances of someone getting trich other than through having sex, the doc just gave me the "you know the answer to that already" look.
@@RunawayYe i had a gf that cheated on me and she got herpes.
Turns out the herpes was not because of sex, but because of stress.
Funny enough, the stress came because she cheated.
Sadly the guy didnt get anything
Broke up with my angry ex and got accused of cheating. When he was the one that threatened to chest on me a couple times when we were together. Pretty sure I got cheated on.
... no.
@hohoho class war very
Her name was Karen and was planning on taking my kids
BUT DID SHE VACCINATE!
@@RealCryptoTest probs not
The FBI would like to know Karen’s location
damn bitch u sexy
C J, U nasty
“She cheated on me. Multiple times.”
*Kirby music plays*
You're an intellectual.
Wats the song
@@rowdylandgraf9906 I think it's gourmet race.
@@rowdylandgraf9906 it's gourmet race and king dedede's theme on piano
search on yt 1 2 outmeal
"I had reached the event horizon for my tolerance of emotional manipulation and abuse"
That's honestly a pretty raw line
Bars
@SomethingScanning me too. i find these so stunning. i'm mot kissimg anybodys ass (figuratively)
@SomethingScanning Cause they're too scared to try to do something about it??
@@neverforgettodofacepulls782 not just 'scared'. Maybe they just can't leave the abuser, I mean.. The victim must have been in love with them before dating, so once the abuser got all mad and stuff, they tried to hope that it will pass and the guy/girl they once loved will come back
@@anda8957 Yes exactly. Thanks for clarifying.
Being unable to get a girlfriend suddenly seems a lot better now.
Indeed
Yes. And that's why we shouldn't get married too
which is why i'm looking for a boyfriend
Szobiz Nah, that seems just as bad.
Yeah fuck that. Single is the new goals lmao
6:45 “Married for 22 years and in that time she has never bitten me and I have never slapped her” had to pause and throw my head up to laugh
NAMIIII ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
OMG YOU WATCH THESE
NamiiCho Yeah, like, good job man
Hey Nami :)
fucking same i nearly cried
"Her worst fears came true. So did mine." OMG :'(
Right! That one really got me
Self fulfilling prophecy
Um. I don't get it. Can someone explain it to me?
@@mysteryreadertheoriginal2145
She was afraid if she went to Disney College, she would lose his love (either bc of him or herself) and he was afraid of losing her because he really loved.
She spent time away from him and realized she didn't really love him the way he loved her.
Thanks a lot, makes sense now!
She was playing minecraft with someone else
Sorry to hear that, nobody deserves that.
Unsubscribe to that bish.
Dang bro I hope you find a better woman
I feel you man, hope you feel better
I'll find you a new girl, one more faithful than her
Relationships can be hard, but here's an easy one:
If a person hits you,
that person doesn't like you.
I think the more fucked up reality is that they might actually like you or love you, but their love for you will just never, ever be more important to them than their need for control, their own insecurities, their issues with aggression, possessiveness, paranoia, etc. No amount of enduring abuse will ever make you 'earn' a higher priority than their own toxic selfish bullshit. The mindfuck of all that is why it's often hard for people to leave abusive relationships--the hope that after enduring the abuse, your pain will motivate them to change/become healthy. No. It won't. Their love for you (or others) is not important enough to them to supersede their abusive tendencies. That's never your fault, ever--but it still fucking hurts. That reality leaves a massive emotional scar on victims. Their self-worth vanishes. For any victims who might read this, just remember: it's not your job to fix someone else, you didn't do a bad job, no one else's "love" is gonna be able to fix it either, it's not your failing. Non-abusive people are able to look past themselves and make loving you important. We don't earn it through abuse, we are given it willingly. You're important and deserve it. You'll have it. Big tip: Focus on how you feel when you're around a person, not what they're thinking of you. Stick around people who make you feel good when you're near them.
See this can be misleading, because it just says “person”. people who play football, are constantly hit and mainly by their teammates in practice, so your teammates have to like you to an extent. Also people that box are hit and are usually friends with other boxers, so like.....
But like I get your point
Unless you're in elementary school...
Imagine biting a dude twice and being shocked that he retaliates
Maybe if I was a woman this would seem normal to me
That girl is insane
She manipulated me through gaslighting, and alienated my family. When ending the relationship she called the police and falsely accused me of domestic violence.
Spent 8 months disproving it in court so I could see my son again.
Now she acts as though it never happened.
@@tanikshagokhale2602 gaslighting: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
Good example my ex would get drunk and hit me in the balls, then pretend it never happened the next day, or whisper things in my ear when she thought I was asleep and deny it.
@@es-rh8oo pretty much, yeah it's an evil evil thing to do to someone
@@RageUnchained what the hell ?? Hope you're good now
@@cloudcampos4555 I am now thank you! I've been married to my wife 2 years in. August and for an early anniversary/late honey moon (we are poor lol) she bought me tickets to game grumps live this weekend
@@es-rh8oo went great hell of a show
She said she subscribed to T-Series
>:-(
Glad she’s out of your life now
At least she wasn't subscribed to pewdiepie
What if she also subscribed to Pewdiepie?
Then she wouldn't have subscribed to t series
Was young. Was naive. We dreamed to go study in Japan together. One day I got scholarship to Japan. He didn't. I spared one month worth of scholarship money and gave it to him so at least he could visit his dream country. He promised he would. He never did. Used the money on other things instead without telling me. Didn't even apologize. I began to wonder about a lot of things and cut ties with him. A month after we broke up, he got married with another girl.
Now he got two kids. Was fine, I thought we could stay friends. One day he said he still loved me. Blocked him for good.
@@BB-fj9xs He was a mess who messed me up--he was a posessive asshole who made me have little to no friends in my college life. I cried my heart out almost every day because he would make a fight with me for the smallest things. It was mentally tiring. I'm happy in the end I could get away.
I do pity his wife, she seems like a good person and from what I heard she was an achieving student. Like me, she got a scholarship to go abroad, but unfortunately couldn't go because she was pregnant with his kid at the time.
Idk if she's happy or not now and I could have told her about him before their marriage happened (she never knew that he had been with another girl before he got her), but back then I felt like I shouldn't be meddling with their business.
@Memeorandum of Understanding They can detect deceivable beings I guess
Yet another "good girl" drawn to a "bad boy". It's good that you've managed to leave that bag of poo of a man behind.
@@vladimirserpov6773 he didn't give off that bad boy vibe when I first met him.. He just slowly revealed himself afterwards and I was stupid.
Wise choice. For his wife's sake, I hope you told her what he was up to.
they poured the milk before the cereal
You dodged a bullet
My god...
Those kinds of people never change. good for you.
That's how you fucking do it you bunch of degenerates
Hope it wasn’t too hard of a split... you’re in a better place now! :)
I don’t know why I clicked on this. This whole video is my worst nightmare. I would love to get married but I’m afraid that my fiancé/husband (heck, or even me) would change for the worst after getting married.
@Spanish Moustache I understand what you're saying and I thought about that too before. Honestly I don't really have a profound answer, I guess I'm just "traditional". Also, if I have kids, I prefer not to have them out of wedlock.
@@TheDanster4 IDK, all of the married friends I have did not say of any changes upon marriage. If the people have found it OK to live together for at least a year and the guy is over 25 (meaning a personality change is unlikely to happen) things seem to become stable.
Spanish Moustache actually marriage makes couples happier as a study had founded that they reported to be happier.
@@kakyoin9688 you got a credible source?
That's why you have a long relationship where you live together for several years before marriage.
She has never bitten me
And I had never slapped her
A good couple
Would do that
The other woman literally ate ass
@@karlac3053 lmaooo true dat
Unless they're into that
@Jonas Minus the back scratching I don't like it 😩
@Jonas Okay that's good 😂
The first one happened to me with a GF, and she accidentally sent me a video of the first deed too. Then she tried saying we agreed on an open relationship when we didn't. Yeahhh no
@@smurff1933 Might as well not date at all and just be fwb. I personally wouldn't be into that kinda stuff but I am surprised at the amount of people that are in "open relationships" guess its just part of the times
Yikes
jesus fucking christ recorded it too wow
There's many reasons why people may choose to have an open relationship. No shame in it if both parties are consenting to it.
Too bad you had to find out the hard way
I left mine after he cheated on me. Turns out he’d met me when he was on break from his long term gf of 7 years. I saw posts and paragraphs about how much he loved her on his Instagram page. I also caught him texting her a few times. A year later I message the girl who he is no longer messing around with after deciding to stay in contact with him after much coxing, and we compared texts and conversations. They were identical. Turns out he was also three years younger than he’d told me, didn’t have a stable job, had multiple affairs, and was living at home with his family. I dodged a bullet.
Lmao you were dating a man baby
Lmao no woman you got hit w that bullet you just was able to walk out the hospital
how do you guys find these losers attractive?
...So is noone going to talk about this guys username 😂
ᴹᵃʳˢʰᵃᶫ ᴸᵉᵉ ᵀʰᵉ ᴾᵘˢˢʸ ᴰᵉˢᵗʳᵒʸᵉʳ ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Damn.
He was threatening with killing himself if I left him. After some time I realized I cant be with him and that it wouldn't be my fault if he did something to himself. I told him he should get some help and left him.
As someone who's been depressed before to the point of suicide, I don't understand why someone would use that as leverage. Truly a horrible thing.
I had this with a girl (I'm bisexual), she would threaten to harm herself every time I went offline. That's right, threats just to keep me online in DM systems. I was exhausted, just went to a new school, had homework to do, and she got mad and told everyone I was "abandoning" her. At some point, I got sick, HUGE infection, it was so bad I'm actually still chronically ill as a result 7 years later. All she did was call me on my phone "why are you not spending more time with me, I'm lonely, please love me, no-one will talk to me." I didn't even realise *I* was depressed as well, because I was too busy worrying about hers. Thank god I know how to spot emotional vampires now.
You are right, if he dies, he dies!
@@YuBeace Yo that sounds messed up and I am proud of you for getting out of that relationship. Guilt and emotional abuse in relationships is a messed up thing but its something we (as it happened to me too) can heal from over time and with emotional work. Wish you all the best and people who threat you right!
GraveRobbertt The thing I've learned about people who lever things like that just want attention directed completely directed at them. They weld it like a psychological weapon. When I get depressed, I close down and refuse to talk about it.
*Cheery music plays in background as people share some of their most depressing stories*
Perfect
We broke up because I realised I'm gay. Cliché but true.
Sunflower Cara one of my reasons as well.
@@bi-bibabyblue9649 gays unite!
Yep, happens sometimes.
I mean I broke up with my "Bi" boyfriend cuz he realised he was gay, and about 1 year later I realized I was too XD
What gave it away
She was playing Roblox with someone else...
Ended it right there and then
Relationship lasted about 3 1/2 minutes
Dude them roblox chicks are so slutty. They end up with a different guy every 10m. Like why can’t you be my one and only Oof
Oof
That bitch, oof.
I talked to a guy who actually had a relationship on Roblox like that. His girl cheated on him with a troll.
You did the right thing, soldier
She stole my memes without upvoting my posts.
that fucking bitch has me fuming
fucking destroy her
Pedobear TheBeast Take this seriously.
@@no00b53 oh yeah yeah
That bitch
Was engaged to this girl, I was madly in love, like I had never been before. Any way, we had planned our wedding and were looking at rings and had picked a few that we liked and wanted to make a choice to make our engagement official (I had proposed before at a corn maze during a date night but I had no ring yet, we were just that "in love" with each other), one day out of the blue she texts me and says "I need a brake, I just have a feeling that you're going to leave me for someone else because of my condition" (she had been in very serious car accident years before were she was in a coma for 6 weeks and only had about a 1% chance of ever being back to normal, she had to learn how to talk and walk again, she was completely normal now, except for the occasional migraine and extra care we had to take with forcing her brain too much with stress and stuff like that) I said "I would.never do that, I want to marry you no matter what". She broke up with me over text, her and her family blocked me completely in every way possible and six months later she married her brother's best friend which was "too old for her" in her own words "he's like a big brother to me" she said (I was 25 she was 21, guy was 27), I only found out because we had 1 friend d in common.
At the end she did loose me, I have a wonderful wife which I love greatly, we have a wonderful family and she has been my rock when I most needed it and would never trade her for anything in this world, it did take me a long time to find closure since everything was so sudden, my wife was such a blessing and so understanding, she loves me when I felt so broken for something I did not do, that's when I know she was my one and now we're happily married.
Happy ending with the story but your English is horrible to read
@@Zero_Shift English is not my first language, but thanks.
@@victorm.cisneros1381 it's not my first language either and I hate that excuse. It's not a hard language especially not with spellcheck and shit.
@@Zero_Shift so not knowing a language is an excuse, ok. I'm glad English is not hard for you, that's awesome; I'm a fucking surgeon with a hammer and and some nails but that doesn't mean that because it's easy for me it's easy for everyone, you don't have to be a dick about it.
@@Zero_Shift oh shut up
"He cheated with a mutual friend. His mom... (huge break gives me a shock) walked in on them." (Sigh of relief)
LOL ME TOO
LMAO I stopped scrolling down the comments section to turn the video on full screen due to shock. Thankfully, it was different from what I thought.
What scares me the most is how those people spent so much time with their partners and they had a complete different side to all along is pretty difficult to comprehend I guess
That is why people should live together before getting married. If you're dating somebody that you don't live with you're seeing a representative of them not the real them. Gotta see them when they are not in a good mood and when they can't simply hide from you.
If "someone who used to make you super happy doesn't anymore" this doesn't mean you should immediately try to find someone else. There are ways to solve issues, improve relationships and become a better person in the process. I understand that this is not always an option, but running away when you feel the slightest discomfort is a really unhealthy thing to do. Ultimately, it's all about balance. You should work to change things you can change for the better, but you shouldn't waste time trying to change something that you can't change. And the most important part, you should strive to be wise enough to distinguish between the two, even tough it's really hard sometimes.
I love your comment so much because I resonate with it on a personal level and I hope my fiance would feel the same if she would have saw this post.
Sometimes my feelings get blocked by sadness or anger(not necessarly towards her) and in that moment I think I am an unfeeling ghost, but the fact is she keeps bringing up the soft side of me and that is how I know I am in love with her.
Very well written
Of course not immediately, but I've grown up around way too many dysfunctional families and couples because people spent too much time trying to make things work when they're simply not compatible people. Life is way too short to waste time on people that make you miserable. In my experience, while it's possible, most people don't change.
I understand what you're saying but I think what they wrote was just worded wrong, through omission. I think they were just pointing out that there is no such thing as the one/soulmate who will always make you happy; you aren't necessarily going to love someone as a partner forever. feelings change, it happens. and if there are soulmates they're rare and odds are you won't find them. ultimately the lesson is never get married lol
the old motivational bs huh?
I don't think I ever really loved him. I was just drowning in depression and he was the first person in like 10 years to actually express interest in me, so I thought he was the best I was ever gonna get, and convinced myself to love him as best I could. But he was racist, sexist, and controlling.
I enjoy BDSM in the bedroom, but he would constantly ignore my boundaries, and couldn't seem to accept that there was a difference between what I was OK with in bed, and what I was OK with out in public. He wanted me to be his obedient slave 24/7.
He started demanding that I only eat the same food he ate. Tried to isolate me from my family and friends.
He claimed he had a split personality, called, I shit you not, "The Wolf" - and that if "he" got mad and hurt me, it was my fault for making him angry enough to "let The Wolf out".
He never actually hit me, but always made me feel like it could happen at any moment.
Somehow, I was with him for 2 years, and had actually quit my job and was on the brink of moving across the country to live with him. I don't remember what the final straw was. I think I ended up breaking up with him over the internet because I was too scared to do it in person.
That was nearly 10 years ago now and I'm on proper medication to get my mental shit together, and just celebrated my 6 year anniversary with the kindest and most wonderful woman I've ever known.
Whispering Mischief good for you darling. Like i always say, there are 8 billion people in this world. If 99% of them didn't like you, that leaves 17 million, in that 1%, that do.
" If 99% of them didn't like you "
It should never be just about them liking you, hope we agree on that.
So you're gay now?
@@fmjjjjn7510 People can be bi. And that's not a question you ask like that.
We stan a bi icon
My fiancee was a psychotic mess who believed that something was always going to kill her. First it was her rotting teeth (they were fine), then a gingival (gum) abscess (which didn't exist), then a blood clot in her legs that was going to go to her brain (she showed no symptoms), then a blood clot in her leg that had gone to her lungs (again, no symptoms), then her teeth again. At the beginning of 2016, she tried to get multiple dentists and oral surgeons to rip out all her teeth so they could be replaced with dental implants. When this didn't happen, she tried to kill herself, so I calld the police and had her committed to a psychiatric ward. She signed herself out after three days. Happened again a month later. After that (late 2016 through 2017), it was memory issues caused by medication her mother had tricked her into taking against her doctor's advising. The entire relationship was a one-sided shitshow that consisted of me pouring everything I had into taking care of her and being there for her without an ounce of thanks in return. Broke it off at the end of 2017 and it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
There is no “the one.” There’s just people who make you happy, and people who can’t.
Powerful words.
Fmono • 38 years ago thanks for the worthless response
Fmono • 38 years ago the classic “no u”
Another comment on that last one: even after marrying someone, they aren't always going to make you happy. It might be like that for a while, but after a long time of being together, "being happy" sort of becomes a chore to do. So I think it's helpful to base a relationship with someone that's more than just "being happy"
And the honeymoon phase will eventually end, so say a big NO NO NO to rushing into marriage
She told me "I graduated from culinary school, not you" for the previous 5 years I helped cut stencils, give color choice ideas, and she yelled that at me after trying to give suggestions on how to put a doll inside of a dress cake. I told her to wrap the lower half of the doll that will be inside the cake with foil and she said, "what gives you the right to tell me anything, I graduated from culinary school, not you."
I called my dad that night to borrow his van to move my stuff out the next morning. When I told her I was leaving, she said yeah right.
*I left* and *left my engagement ring on her retail job walkie talkie*
Oh no she went to culinary school, how could you!
Nice.
so kind of you to return the ring. i propabably would sell mine if i broke up
That a boy!
Does nobody else think that this is a dramatic reaction?
You said you were with her for 5 years. You ended it because she was frustrated and told you she went to culinary school? That doesn't add up.
2:03 scared me for a second because I just heard the voice go "He cheated with a mutual friend one night. His mom..."
That last one though..
At the core, we all know it's true, but it's also very hard to keep in mind that "the one" is a made up concept. Especially when you love someone very much.
No, people just have the wrong perception of what the one is. They buy into the Disney version of limitless happiness instead of the real one, which is based on the desire to build a family together. If you can find someone who will commit with you to raise a family and stick with it, come what may, then that is the one. At some point you may be less happy than before, bored, etc. but you'll always be partners. This requires a lot of work beforehand to explain who you are and what you want from a relationship.
There's not the one and treating people in a narcissistic way. And also other things like having ideals
@SomethingScanning I agree, love is a choice
6:45 "This November will be our 22nd anniversary. She has never bitten me. I have never slapped her." Talk about a boring and vanilla marriage damn.
You can be not vanilla without slaps and bites. The issue is having similar interests and drive or being open minded enough to try new things.
yeah, but what if they piss on each other in secret?
you guys are crazy. and kinky
i don't understand the hate for vanilla relationship...
Y'all missing out that THIS IS A JOKE!
After being forgiven for cheating on me twice on our 2 year relationship, she started claiming that if she'd do it again it still wouldn't count that she was cheating because "she was still inexperienced and couldn't control her feelings like I could" (she was 19, I was 21 when we first got together. It was our first serious relationship, so I was as inexperienced as her). Cheating wasn't even the reason I broke up with her, as she was starting getting really possessive and unbearable as the relationship went on. She would constantly nag about how I never liked her and that I wanted to be with other girls more (ignoring the fact that I would spend hours of travelling to be with her). I learned two things from this relationship:
1. People change after they've secured their relationship.
2. People can take you for granted if you're patient and understanding.
@Melissa Tavarez It can definitely be more complicated than that. I'm not defending cheaters, but they're also not always monsters.
Wow. Her excuse for cheating makes me furious! Such bs
I got into my first and still ongoing relationship when I was 19. We've had our ups and downs, but the one thing I put above all else is loyalty. Break that, and it's over.
Hate to admit it though, the above commenter is right about how complicated cheating can be. It is possible to not only work through it but come out the other side together stronger. Like anything, I'd imagine it'd take a lot of work.
I can tolerate and forgive & forget many things, but I'm not sure I'd be able to with cheating..
@Cat Satan I agree. But people are still people, we all make mistakes. Some are just more dire than others sometimes.
If someone cheats the relationship is _most likely_ done for/not worth it next to 100% of the time (once a cheater always a cheater), but I know a couple people who've made it work out despite the one's fault. He had one more night with his ex, and she was quite mature about it and stuck it through with him. Now they're still together years later and have kids and everything and he works hard every day to provide for everyone and be a better person.
Does the past issue still come up sometimes between them? I've no doubt it does, but like anything relationship problems take tons of work and love to overcome.
But I'd like to make a point that I don't think it can work out this well for most cases, it's quite circumstancial. Most cases are done out of deceipt and maliciousness, completely and most likely unapologetically taking advantage of the other's trust. I wouldn't trust them to change.
Would completely drop it then and there, it's not worth the pain and abuse.
@Cat Satan I never at any point claimed otherwise.
@Cat Satan Haha, ok. Doesn't hurt to be safe about it, a lot of impressionable people read comments. ^^
The amount of cheaters and psychos in this make me scared to start dating
you can have sex but no relationships
@@yoruichixx6951 I'm religious though, so I can't do that.😭 I don't believe in sex before marriage
@@hanaomer4940 pray to god to never pay alimoney then
@@hanaomer4940 Just curious, what if you marry and you don't match in the bed department?
@@violeta585 you're out of luck. Try to make it work or stick to your vibrator/hand.
0:27 she became gollum
THE RING IS CORRUPTING
"He both loves and hates the ring" to quote the wise Gandalf the Grey
Be careful what kind of weddingring you get
@@theweepingskull9839 Watch the ring burn
PREEEECIOUS
That was my first thought as well though haha
Yeah if the other person is cheating / in any way abusive please don't marry that person
In all of the "he/she didn't propose" stories I always wonder why that person didn't propose themselves if it was so important for them.
Maybe in their hearts they wanted the other person to prove their love.
In my case is because i have not enough money. But i have a plan for this year
@@P1ay3r7 You can get married for next to nothing. The only reason it's usually expensive is the notion that it has to be big and bold. Just a concept of consumer economy.
@@Rommelicious1 learned that a week ago lmao. You are right
She called my light up sketchers and bionicles collection childish
How heckin' dare she...
Smh my head
Were they the old bionicles or the reboot ones?
@@TheBonkleFox better be the originals, those were fire
lol
6:25 This is a very real law across all of the US if I'm not mistaken, or at the very least Illinois, that many people are not aware of. If cops are called to respond to a domestic violence dispute and anyone is harmed in an alarming manner (blood, bruises, broken bones, etc), someone *has* to be arrested in fear that the victim may be downplaying the assault.
I'm sure this law has helped out many people in the past, but let me share a funny story about how I came into a brush with this law personally: I was in my late teens and going through the bull shit angst filled "Catcher in the Rye" rebellious phase which made me have a tenuous and strained relationship with my family, primarily my siblings. One day when the tensions reached a boiling point, I got in a fight with my older brother that was the epic climactic battle between a younger brother that was sick of getting pushed around by the older just because he was bigger, and the older brother not wanting to admit that the bratty and annoying younger brother had become old enough to be considered a peer (in size anyway, still had a long way to go in the brains department. Still do).
After several minutes of a back and forth and me finally starting to get the upper hand against him, he reached out and grabbed for anything to hit me with and the first thing he grabbed just *happened* to be a samurai sword. Yes this is going exactly where you think it's going. He tried to beat me down with the sheath on like a baseball bat, but mid-swing the sheath flew off and the samurai sword sliced my left elbow open 12 inches across and two and a half inches deep. I lost 5 pints of blood, needed countless stiches and staples, and to this day still have 8 screws and a plate in my elbow to hold everything together.
After the dust settled we found out about this law thanks to the ambulance calling the police in response to taking me to the hospital. Because of the law, someone needed to go to jail. If my brother went to jail, he would go to jail for attempted murder and be facing felony charges stacked with potentially decades of jail time. Me on the other hand would only face misdemeanor battery charges and probation since I was a minor, so I ended up getting prosecuted by the state after getting out of the hospital. After nearly bleeding out and a 10+ hour surgery, I was arrested.
No hard feelings to my brother or the state, as my relationship with my family has worked itself out after I became less of a dumbass and somehow miraculously maintained full functionality in my left arm. I'd hate to think my brother would still be in jail over this considering it was just a bad fight between brothers that ended less than optimal, I just still laugh to this day that I nearly died and got arrested as a result.
Dang. That sacrifice.
@@feetwithtoesjoe8875 eh to this day I still dont really see it as a sacrifice, it just seems like the obvious choice to make for me. I played my part in contributing to the situation, so doing a handful of community service hours versus watching family rot in jail was not hard to see as better for the grand scheme of things.
The State is disgusting
@@giuliapaschoarelli4480 I mean yea can't disagree with you there but I can understand why this law is in place. It was a big learning experienxe for me, and if the law allowed my brother to not face charges for what happened then there could theoretically be cases where a wife is beaten within an inch of her life and and could potentially drop the charges against the piece of shit husband. I looked into it, and it regrettably happens more often then you think.
The state's attorney was a capital C Cunt though, she didn't even read the docket and assumed I was the one who was the cutter rather than the cuttee and wanted to throw me in jail lol It was fun watching her make a fool out of herself in front of the judge though
Some states pick and choose when they want to use it. My stepfather was abusive only toward me. One day he bust my nose, broke my glasses by punching me in the face, and pulled my hair out of my scalp, I was wearing braids. The police responded. No one was arrested although I was bleeding. The cops said since I was the minor if I pressed charges I would have to find somewhere else to stay. Later found out it was all bs because I filed and was granted a restraining order which forced him to leave, even though his name was on the mortgage. That was the last straw, he told my mother he wasnt paying for a house he wasnt living in and filed for divorce
My roommate just broke up with her fiance after finding out he's expecting a baby with another girl... Mainly after doing the math and realizing he cheated for that to happen.
that's fucked, not offenses but I would recommend you to stop being friends(in case you are) with your roomate.
@@kevinurielfonseca I think you may have misunderstood me... My roommate is the one who got cheated on.
@@kevinurielfonseca The roommate (Girl A) had a "Fiancé" who was expecting a baby from Girl B
@@twiharryfan212 the meaning of your post swings both ways. its bizzare.
At this point, I feel totally fine being single. I'm scared to be honest.
2:00 ever thought about, that her mother in law didn't like her and that's why she told this girl this story? 🤣
Realized something was wrong. We were the closest people in the world, but it just finally clicked for both of us we were really intensely close best friends, and we were closer as best friends than we then became and could ever be romantically, because the love we felt for each other was a passionate platonic love, not a romantic love. Still best friends, and only gotten better since we cut out the attempts to make this friendship into a romance that was just bringing us both down.
Out of The Hat Platonic relationships don’t exist
Edit: Platonic relationships with Females since some of y’all can’t read between the lines
@@jpgamer1000 Well as you can see, they do.
@@jpgamer1000 "Platonic relationships don't exist" then do you have a romantic relationship with all your friends...?
#willandgrace (even if you’re both straight)
@@jpgamer1000 lemme guess, you're one of those guys who thinks that when a girl is nice to you that she wants to have sex with you. or one of those guys who's only friendly to girls when you want to get in their pants. or both
We were together for almost 4 years. We were engaged and I couldn't have been happier. He was my first serious relationship and I wanted to take on any challenges that were thrown our way because he was there, supporting me and I supported him.
But then I had to move to another state due to family issues. We were tight on money so I wasn't able to visit him regularly, and because of this, he was accusing me of cheating, then getting angry with me when I'd try to explain that I wasn't. This kept going for a year and the feeling I had for him was gone by that point. I couldn't keep doing the emotional rollercoaster ( especially since my own mother was having depression and bipolar issues that drained me till I couldn't think anymore ) and the long-distance relationship. It just no longer worked out so I broke it off before anything harmful could be done and he said he understood. I told him that I'd still be there for him because I still cared for him as he cared for me, but he blocked me and cut me out of his life completely, even though I was confused with his actions, I understood if he was angry and wanted to be alone. A few days later after we stopped talking, he makes a post on facebook saying that I only broke up with him because of his grandmothers and dogs death, which wasn't true. He made up lies about me and accused me again that I was also cheating on him and that I was a slut, whore, skank. I was crying and thrown into a deep depression for a while. It hurt. It was ok though because after some time thinking it over and trying to move forward I realized that he never really loved me and that I was better off on my own. I was able to feel ok again. :)
Edit: I didn't post this here for pity points or to have it gain attention. I just posted it here so others in the same situation can feel like they're not alone and maybe take action to better themselves by leaving the other person that's not making them happy or isn't benefitting them in any way ( everyone deserves to be happy ). If you wanna read it, like it, or comment, then that's fine. If you don't wanna read this, don't wanna believe the credibility of what's said, thumbs it down or tell me its bullshit then that's fine too. I really don't care. Do what you want, but I think sharing things like this is good. Thank you, to those who do read it. I really appreciate it.
dang. what a manipulative lying pos. I'm sorry you had to go through that being decieved. But I'm also happy you didn't marry him and get stuck with that. To call you such things and lie so blatantly isn't love. It's idiocy
That's tough I am sorry, I was in one for 15 years before I found out she was cheating on me, but we weren't getting married at that point and yes even after 15 years we were still not married, planned on it on her birthday but that never happened.
Usually people who swear you're cheating are the ones who are actually cheating and projecting it onto you.
TL;DR
Thank you very much for sharing, I went though something similar once, I am very sorry you had to endure that, but I wish you the very best in life, you sound like a good person.
Good thing that Harpy that did the 180 when she got the engagement ring showed her true colors then instead of waiting for that wedding band.
Yeah that dude was lucky, my wife waited until we were married to do the 180. But thats what most women do so i hear.
@@BarnacleBoy42069 dude, if your wife is calling you ugly and hitting you, shes abusive. you should get out of there. stay safe :(
@@ZX-fn7zm lol nah its all good she's nowhere near as bad as the girl in the post, doesnt call me names or hit me. she did change quite a bit after we got married tho, which is weird and idk why. Thanks for your concern tho ✊
I am glad she did that too so he wasn't stuck and most likely either forced to stay with her forever or risk losing half his things and have to pay alimony. That being said, I always crack up when you see those type of women who think an engagement ring is an iron-clad commitment and either turn into a "harpy" like you said or a huge mess that lets everything go as if a ring means you can stop trying in a relationship.
@@BarnacleBoy42069 Can you explain ways she's changed? I've become weary of getting married after hearing about shit like this for awhile now
Too many of these relationships seem to be like a living hell. People need to find a better match for themselves and hook up with someone who is willing to fulfill all the commitments it takes to have a successful relationship.
Donald Trump is actually speaking some fax here
Your comment just screams that you have never been in a serious relationship that didn't end well. People are complicated, and often we fall in love before knowing anywhere near enough to be able to reasonably conclude that the person is as you put "someone willing to fulfill all the commitments it takes to have a successful relationship". Because we love the person and nobody is perfect, we are willing to put up with their flaws. Love easily blinds us from seeing clearly, which is why people in toxic relationships put up with things that to an outsider seem utterly horrible. It is only after breaking up that you see how unhealthy the relationship was for you.
@@johannes_9078 Wow how cool. Seems better to just stay single and get a dog. Dogs are cuter.
*eye rolling*
thing is, most people are terrified of being alone. Very few people have come to terms with themselves.
I like pears
so ... move out with your mom. 🤷 are you old enough to drive? Can you support her financially?
it's not impossible for you both to leave your father eventually, you know. :)
francis von stackelberg I’m 13 lol
francis von stackelberg 3-7 years?
Oof, my friend is in the same boat. Her mom is only with her dad because he has money to financially support them.
@@muhammadthien5167 you can work when you're 14, ask the city, jobCorp, school, and anyone who'd be willing to hire
Well we'd been engaged for three years and I'd started to crush on someone else in my work area... and my fiance one day got super mad... and we cut it off. I'm now happily married to my earlier crush, and we have three kids.
My name is Pam Beasley
She got super mad for what? Does she have bipolar disorder, is she crazy, does she just have random mood swings. I dont understand please elaborate.
@@infallible7425 I'm just talking about Pam's first relationship on The Office. Great show you should check out
Damn I haven’t gotten to the part with the 2nd and 3rd kid yet
Thanks for the spoilers 😢😛
There were only 2 kids
If you take the advice of the last guy you'll probably divorce multiple times in your life. I've seen many couples that are still genuinely in love with each other and it's the most beautiful thing. So, don't settle for just happy but don't hunt for love like it's the last thing you'll do because you'll jump at every opportunity to feel like you're in love. Just live your life, go cool places and you'll meet someone you love.
@Material girl it kind of reminded me of a blackpilled incel minus the desire to murder women. They've just given up trying because they're so used to disappointment.
I think y'all are misinterpreting what he said. He didn't say "You can't/won't be together with your partner for life". It was more along the lines of "Its okey If you aren't". There is no "the one" in the sense that there isn't this one person for everyone that's just perfect for them. Something like that doesn't exist and that's okay. Its actually a soothing thought. There is no pressure to find the one, you can just be happy with who you're with right now and there is not as much disappointment when the relationship you thought was for life didn't last. When you're in love you always feel like it's going to last forever and your feelings won't fade but life is often different
@@layla8830 I think what you're saying is true but those are things you should figure out before you marry, as the person in the video has, not when you're married.
preach
LazyGibbon - yeah. You should figure it out before hand. Why would you marry someone you don’t think is gonna make you happy one day.
Karen took the kids and left me
*cri*
Dammit Karen
6:40 So it was about 25 years ago? Count yourself lucky, if they had today's laws back then, you'd still be behind bars.
And here I am, sitting on the most boring reason ever.
I have always said that I don't want kids of my own. Whenever any of my relationships start getting serious, I always make sure they know this. No kids. Everyone, her included, always assumed I would change my mind somewhere along the way. That once I hit my thirties, I would change my opinion on it. When that didn't up happening, she broke up with me because she couldn't believe I didn't want to have kids. I specifically told her this YEARS in advance. I specifically told her that I WAS NOT going to change my mind on it. She wouldn't believe me. Kept thinking I would change my mind, despite me saying I wouldn't (and still haven't).
Not the most exciting story, but there you have it.
Lmao ngl kinda laughed at this "broke up with me cuz I didn't want kids" wtf 😂
Out of curiosity, why don't you want kids?
@@kekelauren6251 That's a pretty long post incoming, but if you're interested, here it is:
Same reason I'll never get married. I like the idea of doing whatever I want on my free time. That might sound selfish (and it probably is), but to me the idea of being forced to ask permission to see a movie with my friends or not being able to go out because I have a baby to look after feels very... suffocating. I don't think I could stand it, day after day. I am now at that age where most of my friends and family are into their 'baby period'. My best friend had his first son 3 years ago, then his second son 1 year ago, my brother had his first daughter seven years ago and his first son 2 years ago and my halfsister had her son 2 years ago and is currently pregnant with another boy. And all of their lives changed massively since the kids.
A kid takes over your life completely. Where before we would frequently go out and do things with little to no planning, they now cannot do this anymore because they have children to look after. Any activity we do together now needs to be perfectly planned and line up with all their schedules. Their lives now completely revolve around their children and that's great for them, because they wanted that. They chose that. I love my niece and nephews and frequently look after them, but that's about as far as I'm willing to go with kids. I have a spare bedroom in my apartment that I made in a children's room so that they can spend the night every once in a while should their parents need that, but that's my absolute limit. I would never be able to devote all of my free time and energy on a kid, every single day of my life for however many years until their independence kicks in. I just don't have that in me. I love my free time. I need to know that when I wake up in the morning and I don't have work, I can sleep in or play a video game or skip doing the dishes that day or just go out bowling or see a movie and not have that be a burden on someone.
If I can't bring myself to devote all my free time and energy and love on a baby of my own, then I shouldn't have one. Babies are a serious responsibility and deserve nothing less then a truly dedicated parent and I just don't have that in me and I doubt I ever will. Some people have it in them to be parent and some don't. I don't and I'm trying to be as honest about that as I can in my relationship. I don't open a relationship with that statement, but if it ever gets serious I do make sure that they know that so as not to mislead them into expecting things that will never happen. Living together with someone already comes very difficult for me. I feel limited in my ability to do what I want when someone else depends on me to do groceries or laundry or the dishes at a time when they need it, rather then whenever I want to do it. If that's already so hard for me to bear, I can't even imagine how much worse that would be with a baby in the house. At least my girlfriend is a grown woman who can cope on her own if I happen to not do something she needs, but a baby is helpless. If you don't take care of them when they need it, they can't cope on their own and ... well, that won't end well for anyone involved.
@@Xylarxcode I got you. And I don't mind the length lol. It's nice that you are a good uncle.
How do you imagine your older years will be like? Like your 60's and 70's +
@@kekelauren6251 Hard to think that far ahead. I'm 34 now, so that's still 30 years away. I do sometimes think about it, but more in financial terms rather then how my social life would look like. I honestly don't know. Maybe I'll slow down a little as I get older and will actually settle down with a woman without feeling 'suffocated'. When I'm in my 60's or 70's, I won't have the energy to go out working all day and still have enough left to go out at night to catch a movie or go to a bar. There won't be any kids on my end, because I imagine that by the time I get there it would be too late to start having kids, but a relationship isn't out of the question. That could be a thing. It's not a given, though.
Maybe I won't be in a relationship and I'll be alone in my apartment most of the time. Or with a friend or family. Most of my friends are roughly the same age as me. My brother is also my twin, so we're the same age, my sister is only 2 years younger and my best friend is 36. Most of my other friends are also in their 30's. I doubt I'll stay in touch with all of them until my 60's, but my brother and sister have been part of my entire life and I don't imagine that going away any time soon. My best friend has been part of my life since I was 16, so it's possible that he'll still be around too. People always tell me they get most worried about being left alone when they get older. That they would want their kids to visit them and that they want grandkids to spend time with. I'm not too worried about being left on my own. I'm not the most social guy in the world, but I do enjoy the company of others from time to time. My friends and family have always been enough for me to fill any social desire I have. Maybe that'll still be enough when I'm old.
There's always the possibility that I'm gonna need to do some serious re-evaluating my old age at some point, but for now, I like to think I'm still young enough to not have to worry about that time too much. It's on my mind, but I don't freak out over something that's still 30+ years away. We'll see how things turn out as they happen, I guess.
He got drunk and threw a vase at me and absolutely shattered my elbow , it was pissing blood but I was too furious over what he had done that I just went and ducktaped it - then packed my shit and left . I was 18 , he was 24 with the two sweetest boys and if it werent for him becoming violent from even the slightest drop of alcohol - I wouldve stayed with him until the dawn of time .
I still got the scar from it and this was only 3 years ago .
Holy shit how cool can you be literally fucking ducktaped a gash and walk away. Damn
@@skya6863 most badass woman on the planet
Please tell me you reported his ass. He can't be near children with such a reckless behavior.
Only thing that would've made this more badass would be if she used Flex Tape.
U badass!
I'm so lucky, I married my husband after a little over a year together. I moved from the United States to Italy for him, I gave up everything familiar and comfortable to be with him, I can't imagine doing what I've done and it not lasting forever. We'll be having our 2nd wedding anniversary in April.
Italians are known to be one of both ways......passionate or Rocky Balboa
1:00 that makes me sad, that's an actual abusive realationship, both physical and psychological
Edit: I have now realized after watching the entire video that a couple of these ( a lot ) were abusive realationships/manipulating partners and i somehow thought that clicking on a video that was about breakups would have mostly funny examples.
Break ups are never that funny
@@miunya yeah i know, i don't know what i was thinking when i clicked on the vid
i find ur edit funny
After we got engaged, I went to see my ex boyfriend in secret. He was my first love and I realized I still loved him when I spent a few says with him. I decided to leave my fiance for him.
Sound familiar? It's the Notebook lol
Also entirely too many Lifetime romance movies.
2:18 Now we know who let the dogs out. Finally.
She thought Instagram memes were meaningful
Memeingless
Oof. That's basically what started my current relationship.
I'm sure the cancer has taken care of her now
Wellllll.... Was there a beach, sunrise, sunset and/or someone looking wistfully out at a mountain range?
My first ever gf did me so wrong lmao. She convinced me to stay in a LDR with her despite me asking multiple times if she wanted to back out now, she could (We'd met in person before). Turns out she lied a lot, made me doubt myself, made me feel bad for bringing up issues among us and wait for it, she cheated. Twice. It was pretty toxic. Till this day I will never forget my hero who exposed her. Her best friend who is my cousin lol
I shouldn't laugh but when he said she bit him on his ass cheek I lost it 😂😂
Edit: "gnashing on my ass like a dog with a chew toy" I CAN'T BREATHE😭😭
Both of these relationships were about to end, these were just the final straws.
The first one was because of another girl. This girl tried to get his attention and texted him inappropriate things. I don't think he cheated or said anything he shouldn't have said but he still continued texting her. When I called him out on not breaking contact with her (they weren't at the same school or anything), he kept saying sorry and promised to delete her from his contacts and Facebook, which I made very clear I wasn't expecting, I just didn't want them to talk, but he insisted. A month later they were friends on Facebook again.
The second was an IT guy. When we met, he worked at a low paying job he hated anyways and he haven't finished college because he didn't like the thesis topic options. I convinced him to finish it, but he didn't yet get the degree because he didn't have a language exam. He also got a different job that was much better and payed better, but still not a lot and he was in a huge debt from student loans. He was also living with his parents at the time (just like me) and tried to convince me to move in with them and have children when I was just beginning university (which he didn't like).
The final straw was when he decided to start a new study in history(!). I found it very unreasonable because he was in a lot of debt already, had a language exam to take and a new job to work himself into. But what's worse is that I felt it greatly unfair that he would nag me for studying and not marrying him yet or moving in with his parents, while making decisions that would make it harder for us to have our own flat later on. I got the 'you're being unsupportive' card many many times and he left it for me to decide about it (which is, again, unfair, especially since he did it at the gate of the school). I told him to go, because I didn't think it was my decision to make and I didn't want him to hate me for a lifetime for it, but I really wanted to say no.
We didn't last long after that and when I was breaking up with him, he told me he was afraid of my judgements and he had a health issue he didn't talk about because of that. He had a rare skin infection between his thighs (we weren't having sex for months due to my own stubborn health issues 'down there' so I couldn't know). That was when I knew ther was no coming back from this level of dishonesty.
Looking back, I'm pretty sure he cheated on me. I don't know if his skin infection has anything to do with it, but my own health problems, especially their stubborn nature point in that direction. And I wouldn't be surprised if he did. He is the type of guy who is very moralistic and self rightous yet is in denial about his own actions, after all.
I totally agree with the "theirs no such thing as "the one"" in terms of relationships.
You shouldn't. It's totally wrong. I found the one. She was absolutely amazing. Brilliant, funny, beautiful, completely 100% unique. She passed away in 2016. I still have not been with another woman. I still think of her everyday. It's possible to find the one. If you do, hold onto them tight and never let them go.
0:30 That’s fricking domestic abuse right there.
Yeah absolutely, I think she thought that he was stuck with her and she could release her true self
Yes, emotional and physical.
Jonathan Lynch - That may be part of it. Many abusers think this is what Love looks like, because it’s what their parents did.
Yeah but he’s a man, so no one cares
@@DigimonVids wtf?!
No
It doesn t matter the gender
Fucking feminazy
2:07 I THOUGHT THEY MEANT SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT FOR A SECOND OMG
Same, I thought he cheated with his mom xD
*Kirby music plays in background*
King Dedede’s theme
I was thinking FoD from Melee but I guess that is from Kirby
LOL Imagine Kirby hardcore dancing behind the text. FeelsBadMan
Ahhhh soo glad I'm a loner and a Virgin and Single.
This doesn't feel right
Well at least you ain’t married
I mean, it's better to have never loved than to have your heart broken, my dude.
@@Zero_Shift That's not how that goes, but it's appropriate for this situation lol.
That's exactly how it goes. If you get your heart broken you know how nice it was to have a relationship, to have someone who loved you and then ultimately to be backstabbed by them. Nothings worse than the last part. Especially not being single
Sans Depends how you define “backstabbing.” And it usually goes “Better to have loved and lost, than to not have loved at all.”
She cheated on me multiple times, I was blind by love. Also, whenever she traveled to the states she broke up with me because she felt "lonely" and that I deserved better. The only woman I have truly loved with all my heart, we talked about getting married, how many kids, etc.
Where are you from :) ?
@@PuzzleMessage hmm why do you wanna know? 🤔
Years ago. [read: old guy]
She gave me a list titled _THINGS THAT WILL CHANGE WHEN WE'RE MARRIED.
... subjects included:
People I could no longer see or talk to.
Things/Events I could no longer do.
Food I could no longer eat.
Items I could no longer own.
Words I could not use.
...and on & on.
The list was 4 pages long and single spaced.
Worst thing, it was our 5th (& last) date and this was her idea of "advancing the relationship".
My female friends then accused me of having a "key penis" ~ the kind that starts the crazy engine of an otherwise rational woman. I had no evidence of this not being true other than... "Is this a thing".
Happily Married now for 15 years... Couldn't fathom dating in today's insanity.
You dodged a bullet, man.
what the fuck is a key penis? 😐
She blamed me for anything even when I didn't do anything at all.
Also, she cheated on me around the beginning of the relationship and told me two years later. Thanks, Skylar.
hush little baby no problem walter
My brother was in his first serious relationship. They met and started dating. A year later, he proposed and then she started acting as a witch. Controlling him and manipulating him. He was a super nerd who read physics books fun, but she got him to drop out of college to support her and to go into carpentry. She bad mouthed my mother and had to have him do what she wanted. We moved across the country (Alaska to Florida) and he went without telling her he was as it would be easier because we had an extra driver who could swap out. He was gone for about a month and when he went back, he realized she was a bitch and that he wasn’t in love with her. They proceed to breakup. Years later to current time, my mom (who hated her after she changed) has been trying to get them back together. I believe he dodged not only a bullet, but a firing squad.
What really got me is, “And sometimes someone who used to make you super happy doesn’t anymore.” It’s kinda unrelated, but I’m bi, and I’ve always had a crush on my straight best friend, and I’ve kept it a secret for years, and I really just enjoyed being her friend but deep down knew it was never going to happen. We got older, and she moved, and it was alright at first, but then things started to get iffy when I mentioned politics, and she said she was a republican and had really conservative views. That’s not even what made me start doubting our friendship, though. It was when I wanted support from her when I was upset, and she usually would listen, but sometimes she would just leave me on “Oh” and wouldn’t say anything else. It made me really angry because I would always try to analyze the situation when she was upset and try to come to a good solution and offer advice to her. I think we both just grew apart and developed different personalities and ideas, but one things for sure, whoever said: “distance makes the heart grow fonder” was an idiot.
I (nearly 19) told my gf (19) that I was struggling with my faith in Christianity. We tried to keep the relationship alive, but about 3 weeks after that she called me to break up. I suppose there were other reasons involved as well (I had one or two conversations with her where I chastised her for not having a license and rudely vocalized how much extra strain that put on me.) A divide was starting to form and we both new it. The breakup was as good as anyone could ask for I suppose. We both told each other that we still loved one another and didn’t regret the time we spent together. We finished the call crying and hoping to be friends given enough time to let the pain fade. It has been about 3 weeks since the breakup, only now am I truly realizing what a diamond in the rough she is. She is nowhere near perfect but neither am I. If we can’t work romantically, I can handle that, but what I don’t think I can handle is losing my best friend. I want to just fix everything, but I don’t think that power is within my hands anymore.
You can still try even if you think it is a long shot
I was 19 and had pretty much no self esteem, but still couldn't fathom spending my life with this person. I was trapped though, I had nowhere to go. Until one day one of our dogs escaped and was hit by a car. Our car needed a jump so I was running around frantically trying to find jumper cables so I could take him to the veterinary emergency room. He basically said there's no point and wouldn't do anything. I ended up helplessly just staying by his side until he passed (it took about 30 minutes). Then, he was too much of a chicken shit to pick him up so we could bury him. I (a 22 yo girl, he was 34) had to help his father do it. Pathetic.
Two weeks later, my mother passed away (just an all around shit month to be honest) and he didn't do shit then either. Didn't even come to the hospital where she lay on her death bed to comfort me.
I finally decided there was no way in hell I could be with this useless waste of space so I boarded my other dog on a ranch, and just moved in on my sister's couch until I could get a second job and get my own place. Best decision I've ever made!
She took my shiny lugia card and all my other pokemon cards. Luckily she's just in my nightmares but still, it's a horrible thought.
Had a serious relationship with a girl I knew from high school, I was 27 and her 25 when it started, not long into it she kept mentioning marriage and kids, I wanted to wait a bit, she couldn't handle that for very long, we were living with her parents and all I wanted was us to be out of there before we got married, some months later she gave me an ultimatum, either I marry her or she was gonna marry her best friend (who was also a girl) after trying to laugh it off and say you're joking, she maintained she would do it, eventually I got serious and said " than go marry your friend cuz I'm not gonna be pressured into such a commitment over a dumb ass ultimatum like that" the relationship quickly fell apart over some months after, I ended up having to live with my dad for a little while but I'm glad AF I dodged that bullet
She didn't marry her best friend??
Ulti I don't think she did but it doesn't matter cuz she's out of my life
well, i think she was just impatient, that was it, she couldn't wait for too long
AdrianAtGaming you're absolutely right she needed it to validate herself, I think because her friends were slowly all getting married she didnt wanna be the last 1 and that's not the right reason to make such a major commitment
when he said theres no the one, only people who make you happy..... I felt that.
I loved her more than myself
Was preparing to propose when i got the sad truth
She was thinking about breaking up with me cause she couldn't love me anymore..
2 months passed to hear that she got engaged to another guy ..
Lucky me i guess :/
Ahh that’s the classic breakup scenario.
You can’t love your partner more than yourself. You can’t be too nice, romantic or gentle. Women like guys that are hard to please. You need to look up some dating channels
Thanks for sharing, sorry to hear it but I hope u are happy now
We both loved each other and if I'm being honest I'll never stop loving her. She didn't do anything wrong. Infact she was perfect, but ultimately she may have thought she loved me, but she didn't. Not like I loved her. So she left and is now dating my bestfriend. I don't hold any anger, or resentment. They're great people and I know it's going to work out perfectly for them and I'm glad for them, but I guess it just proved to me that love can't save you. It's just a word and even if someone says they love you they might just be lying to themselves as much as you think they're lying to you. It's okay when someone leaves you if you truly love them. You'll be hurt and a little hung up, but it'll be alright.
she is dating your best friend? Cut ties to both of them. Wtf dude, your best friend is a piece of shit
@@Kontaras987 no no dude. It ain't like that. It's not out of spite and she didn't do anything wrong. She was complete faithful to me till the very end. Seriously I had access to all her stuff she never hid anything. Plus she still supports me hardcore and so does he. They're great people and I'm happy for them
@@ebilveryebil3091 that doesnt change the fact that her new bf is your bestfriend
@@Kontaras987 he's my best friend because he's a good man. I'd rather her date someone who I know is good than someone who will treat her awful. You're absolutely right it doesn't change it, but the only other way I'd rather have it is for her to still be with me. As long as they're happy I'll be happy for them.
@@ebilveryebil3091 its great that you can be happy for her but your "friend's" morale is highly questionable. He must have known that you still have feelinga for her but that didnt stop him. Either way, a best friends ex is off limits.
Over the course of a month grandma died, my dad was in the hospital after he got stabbed and my grandma's death made my God-mother's health deteriate. She dumped me because I was too emotionally dependant on her during this chaotic time. What a waste of three years.
FrontEndUtilityClerk I feel you man same thing . I’m 100% fine now and she’s all depressed. You’ll be fine eventually
Wow some people have been through some shit.
Dated this girl four two years I really loved her alot and I thought she loved me back but she loved my best friend I tried so hard to denie it but it came to the point were she was only her happiest with him so I stepped aside and let them be together it was hard but I had to do it
😢 hold strong
Brave man. Ur a beast
:’(
He broke up with me, but I'm glad he did. We weren't engaged yet, but we talked about marriage a lot. But he was not ready for that kind of commitment. He dumped me right after a buddy of his dumped his girlfriend, and I'm pretty sure they all just wanted to mess around and not have any commitments. I've looked him up since then (about 7-8 years ago) and it seems like he's still just messing around with his friends and not really doing much with his life.
Meanwhile, I've been happily married to an amazing men for 5 years :) the other guy just was not right for me. We didn't want the same things, despite the dozens of times he told me he did want those things.
He said England is his city
Merlita Martinez please stop 😂
It was my highschool sweetheart. We were together 3 years. One day I just woke up and knew something wasn't right with us. After honestly weeks of a lot of thought I decided to end it with him. We were on good terms about it. Said our goodbyes and hugged and cried and all that. Never understood why I felt the need to, until just a couple months ago I saw a picture of him. Now he's gay and a crossdresser. I have nothing against that and hope the best for him. I'm married and happy and I hope he's happy too. I guess that one day I knew he had a lot of things to work out and now I'm really happy I ended it when I did. Looking back tho there was no signs I could possibly see that I was blind to to him deciding to come out later. He hid it well
Some of these are actually really sad
All of them are. Bonus points if you had long relationships that died gruesomely. I had like two or three of them.
Not engaged to the guy, but it was a pretty serious relationship.
After a lifetime of issues without any sort of healing, he started depending on me as his external self esteem/suicide watch, and I eventually cracked under the stress as he got worse. It ended up damaging my own mental health, and I started to sink with him. After we broke up, I insisted he saw a therapist.
This is why psychiatry and therapy is a professional field, people.
I hope YOU saw a therapist also. Your need" to "fix him" is going to repeat itself in another relationship. You need to learn about healthy boundaries and relationships too. He wasn't the only one with issues in that relationship. When people threaten harm to themselves, "normal" people insist they get help IMMEDIATELY not try to "fix it " for them. I use the term normal loosely. -From someone that has been there.
This happened to me twice. : (
2:07 got me freaked out for a second. “He cheated with a mutual friend one night. His mom.”
idk my dad wanted to marry me but i wanted to keep it lowkey
....what?
smart one
home sweet alabama
Shut up, Chris...
@@mcwotguy6918 wait wasn't it sweet home alabama? Or am I having a stroke