Why WOMEN are DIFFICULT in relationships
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This is an easy one. Women are difficult in relationships when they don't perceive you to be their best option. Much better to sort for women who feel lucky to be there, and/or to level up your game.
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"Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated."
Yes go here your celebrated The Philippines
@@jdbjoshua Man, I'm really one mouse click away lol 🖱+ ✈+ 🇵🇭 lol.
It’s crazy because the girl I’m dating makes me feel kinda celebrated. Though I’m still wary of her,
That’s EXACTLY what ALL WOMEN should do!! Get away from misogynistic little entitled boys of all ages for good! Well said! 😄😄😄
Get a dog. Much more fun.
I heard a pimp say the same thing: "Go with the girl that likes you not the girl you like" His reasons were pretty much the same as yours.
Seen that same short.
And will you or her be happy in that relationship?😐
Go with the girl who likes you: but for what?! So I can drool over the girls I am actually attracted to?
Well, how about, the guy is not interested?
Just because she likes you doesn't mean you're her best option and doesn't mean she'll pursue you. You have to be the best option in her eyes.
If a girl makes your life difficult in any way, remove her from your life immediately.
Also try and find those signs out early on, I thought the first 5 months were perfect and then she became a monster for the next 9 (yes, it took that long for me to leave, now I get why people don't just get out of abusive relationships)
@@joshuaafcutler7348 most underrated comment
💯 % true
As Chris Rock said: "Have you ever out the corner of your eye caught your wife looking at you and not saying anything? She is looking at you as her second choice. She is thinking about the man who got away. That's the man she wanted."
And become gay
Us men don't want difficult or challenging women. it becomes too chaotic. i think a lot of us men want peace of mind and not chaos.
A lot of us women want the same :)
@@Sarafara7 peace of mind that isn't linked to weekly material goods hon.
@@zadokprime4831 excuse me?
More like piece of 🍑Mindful and 🚫chaos
@SaraFara We must go out into a chaotic world in order to earn resources and provide for women. We bring order to the chaos.
But coming home to chaos makes men feel unbridled and homeless. Chaos is everywhere. Out-of-order women belong on the streets.
My ex was exactly like that. I made a poor choice. I learned my lessons. Bettered myself and now my current partner is simply awesome!
For now.
@The_Kirk_Lazarus pessimism is a sad path to go down (not attacking you or anything btw)
Partner?....Your the leader-not a partner. I see where things went wrong
It goes back to the saying, "the juice really isn't worth the squeeze." Always value those who value you.
Honestly, when u put it like that, makes me ask myself and others.. how easy is it to find another creamer and squirter in one?? 🤔🤔🤔
@@lemilomuro4498 quite frankly, they're dime a dozen. Find one who adds value to your life as opposed to being a liability. Once you can narrow your scope and focus on the more substantial matters, the rest will be easier.
She CAN do better than myself. Much better. She can find a better fool than myself. And I wish her the best 👌.
I love it when guys pat themselves on the back and try to elevate themselves for doing what should always be a default action; denying garbage women that they were never supposed to take seriously to begin with. And “no thanks” is a way healthier way to see it all, than to be spiteful and passive-aggressive. The only guy that takes joy in denying a woman, is a guy that rarely gets to do it.
@chrisstone2506 did you just passive aggressively put down passive aggressiveness?
@@andre1987eph she will never find another me. Nor get the love i gave her.
True 100% got to know this after my gf ended our 4 year relationship. The truth hurts
4 years was a nice journey still
it hurts at first but then after the transformation of self it's priceless.
Sorry buddy. I was in a 7 years and she cheated on me for a guy she thinks are richer than me. Tough world out there but that's just another day for men.
Yes, the moment a woman starts complaining about everything, including trivial things, it means that she thinks that she can do better than you. It might be on your first date, or 20 years into your marriage. If it's your first date, you may use it as motivation to improve yourself so that she cannot do better than you, or just move on. A friends wife started complaining about everything he did. He found out that she was having an affair with a coworker. (Now, a wife can have an affair with a coworker without complaining, because she sees the affair as just fun, not an opportunity to do better than her husband whom she still loves deeply. Surprising, but true.) Whether you decide to divorce your wife or try to keep her, the actions that you should take are the same. Start getting yourself ready to date on the open market. Slim down, lift weights, run, get fashionable clothing, improve your social skills, improve your income. This may demonstrate to her that she cannot do better than you, and she stops complaining. If not, and you divorce her, then you are ready to date on the open market. Remember, the only relationship security is being able to get the next one.
If the writing is on the wall,and divorce is en route, don’t forget to also lose all your liquid assets in a newly found gambling addiction 6-12 months prior 😂🙌
Or being able to enjoy your life without one. It’s like the old business adage: Any time you find yourself in a situation where you are unwilling to get up from the (bargaining) table and leave? You are negotiating from a position of weakness.
Eff that. Move on and keep to yourself. Women have you over a barrel at all times. No marriage. No dating. No cohabitation. No procreation. No servitude. No white knighting. No simping.
@@mwxtodd here here we will re evaluate the situation in 10 years
@@Jaco059 It will not change in 10 years. I have two young sons and I will tell them that if they resolve to marry, plan on an exit.
We cannot stay consistently happy with ANYONE. Hate to break it to you.
This is why you don't get with women who have been around too much.
Take my word for it, it's NOT just the ones who have been around too much
All women are like that
If she is acting like this she has already made up her mind that she can do better, dump her and move on. She is either already found another guy she likes or is actively looking.,
Monkey branching is real. My ex of 7 years (not married) did just that. She dumped me after she made another relationship with a richer dude. I wish her the best tho, I've learned to let go and I know I deserved better.
I've saying this for years, if a woman does what Redpillers call "fecal tests" and if she's easy to fall out of love she never really loved you to begin with. Also, women who have commitment issues are their own personality type and the moment you realise this you should probably look for someone else.
100% fecal tests (good one) are just nature's way of letting you know she's not really interested. That does not mean you can't still get in her pants. But it does mean she will end up being a waste of your time.
Brad Pitt can't keep a wife. Neither can Tom Brady. Same for Jeff Bezos, the richest man in the world.
I'm not as attractive as Brad Pitt.
I'm not as talented as Tom Brady.
I'm certainly not as rich as Jeff Bezos.
So what?
I'm in the same place they are. There's no one to make a wife.
If the man is a good bread winner, is not a wife beater & is not a cheater; then let him lead without giving him a hard time...
You can't do better than him; because there are things he can do, you can't do. And he can't do better than you, as a woman.💡
Let him be a man & lead. 📖👈🤷♂️
Be his helpmate, not his checkmate in a negative way. 📖👈🤭💡
Your place is equal, but different in role & responsibility.💡🕊💞
The foolish woman tears down her house. But the wise woman builds it up.💡📖👈🕊
Even a team has a leader.💡📖💞😉
Taraban: _”The trick is finding a woman who’s enthusiastic about being in a relationship.”
Good one, Taraban. The _PROBLEM_ is these women can easily be *Covert Narcissists* who *LOVE-BOMB* their victims just long enough to rope the man in, then pull back, breadcrumbing him into submission. The OTHER problem is that women are *MASTERS* at *SHARING NOTES* with each other. Even the SMARTEST man will find himself two or three steps behind the SISTERHOOD of WOMEN who are coaching each other on female dominance and revenge.
this is not true... this is for men who are simping and or arent high value enough for her to see herself as one of your NUMEROUS OPTIONS.. if you are high value enough, women dont think of playing these games cos they know you can cut them off immediately and do move to someone else who is PROBABLY BETTER THAN HER.. build yourself and have options
@@jeffreynyarko1154 no they don’t believe you will cut them off. That’s how highly they think of themselves. Also in the moment they can be cold, and so might not care that you cut them off until a week or 2 later. But if they have options they may go astray during that time or have already lined them up, once they start feeling your value because you haven’t returned and realize the new option isn’t what they thought, they will try to return. Effectively blowing up the relationship because now they can’t ever come back. A legit male would never take them back.
Life is so much better when you're with a girl who actually likes you lol
No matter what the fuck I watch on RUclips it always breaks my heart. Men are going through so much shit these days.
We all are and sadly my devout catholic wife doesn’t think her phone sex issue with a stranger she said she thought was me is ok and that was our first year of marriage. PS she gives the host out at church which I refuse to attend
@@ricvanwinkle1665 Sorry to hear. Stay strong and do your own thing.
Life sounds So hard for men
Men, it sounds as though you all get the short straw in 'life' you have to contend with All the hard bits..And, earn a living
Average young women regularly getting attention and sex from men who wouldn’t settle down with them is a strong contributing factor to these women’s future unhappiness with men they had to settle for.
1000 percent facts!!!
True
Women want control not happiness, they will end old and alone and angry and unhappy.
They hate you because you are the one they didn't want but had to accept
Haha … do people choose who they love? I suppose some do… but I just fell for my wife when I was not dating looking for a relationship… haha never even decided if she fit into some kind of criteria.
Did you receive you PhD from Amazon or eBay...???
So a woman is acting like a female. Who knew.
Interesting. So this means that men perfect. They can act however they want, and she’s not her best in return, she thinks too much of herself. *scratching head*
'Anything else is a job'. BOOM. Spot on. I've never had such bad relationships - though some were like that at the end before the breakup. What some men tolerate is crazy to me. I think some do like the misery.
I think it's more that society conditions us to take more than we should.
You need to understand - we love our children and would go through any amount of pain to be with them...
No, not all men love their children. Some make out that they earn zero so they don't have to contribute to the growing up assistance of the children they jointly made. This was learned through Experience @@cyrusp100
I think you are right. It seems to me that a lot of men actually seek out the qualities that the doctor listed at the beginning of this video
Imagine the outcry if men did these things to women because they felt they could do better.
I'm 60 and at this point I don't put with ANY BS. The first sign of it and I walk. No Vajaja is worth it.
you never confront women on their bullshit?
@@dontreadmyname4396 it's mostly useless because it's rare that they reflect on their behavior and actively try to improve themselves.
It's no coincidence that self-improvement messages are generally directed to men and not women.
Overall, if she's difficult, better to leave her and move on with your life.
@@Hollowed2wiz what if i strongly feel she is lying to me? for example i asked her if she was okay doing me a favor a month ago, she said "i can but not right now" i waited, then i asked her again 2 weeks later and she said "sorry i forgot" and i asked when then, she said "hmmm maybe soon, i gtg now, bye!" and waited 1 more week, i asked again today "hey are u really forgetting or you dont want to do it? please be honest answering, if you are really just forgetting we should try to get it done the next time we talk or you will keep forgetting" she said "yes i forget, lots of things in my mind" and i didnt insist after that and we talked about other stuff
i am wondering what do i do now.. do i ask her later tonight if "can we do it now before the day ends?" or something? i really feel she dont wanna do it or is lazy or something, but i specifically asked her if she dont wanna do it to be honest about it, and she kept saying she forgetting
Same here 58.
@@dontreadmyname4396what did you ask her to do? Sounds like she’s just stringing you alone bro. I’d just do it myself at that point. She sounds like she doesn’t respect you not reciprocate. You can try to get her to, but it’s likely a losing battle. 😊
You get 100 points for looking like Captain Kirk. Nice outfit.
Wow, there is some resemblance there. Haha!
Actually, he kinda reminded me of Shaggy 😄
How is he gonna look like Kirk AND Shaggy simultaneously? 😅😂
Same is true with a man! So stop looking for a “trophy” woman. Consider weighing everything. I mean not just her beauty outside but inside as well.
I learned this one the hard way, but I did avoid getting married. We as men tend to want to “fix” problems, but in this particular case, it’s better to cut your losses. In hindsight, my situation is amusing. Her family loved me, and questioned why she would act so difficult for no apparent reason.
If she's anything other than Addicted to your presence it's best to start planning your Exit. You better believe she is whether you wanna believe it or Not. Being Difficult, Or Demanding is the 1st stage of Monkey branching for women. It's there way of hoping you'll move on so she doesn't have to make the decision of leaving you risking violence. Do yourself a favor & move on 1st, know your value & demonstrate your value by finding someone else that enjoys it. If nothing else it will really stick in her craw that you didn't Need her & found someone else. Don't kid yourself, at the point your picking up on her signals, she's already interviewed your Replacement!!!
The only problem is: the woman who are enthusiastic to you doesn’t turn you on , and it’s human nature to chase people who are better than us( no matter they pretend to be or true)
I couldn't agree more. I saw the longer video and it is on point.
This of course is discounting the fact that a female partner may have developmental, psychiatric, physiological,PTSD, substance abuse,character and or educational issues.
The specific individuals feminine psychology, or personality constellation is best checked by referring to a complete history of that individual.
A female individuals most likely pattern of behaviour will simply mirror their past behaviours.
A leopard does not change its spots.
IMO, women just are who they are. It doesn't matter who their BF is. If they're ungrateful & bitchy, they will be that no matter who they're with.
You forgot to mention that there are trillions of people with serious attachment issues that cause demanding, claiming, agression and more just because they're afraid of losing you and want to cut the relationship off before they get hurt from you first
What’s worse is the woman who believes she “can do better” but isn’t going to go find better. She’s just going to stay around and make the guy’s life a living hell to exact her revenge or she forces the guy to make the decision to end it so she can be the victim on 14 different social media sites.
Cut her and let her test the market. If she fails and realizes that you were treating her decently enough with regards to being fair to her and reasonable in resource giving, though checking her on her shit tests, she will likely return, or try to return. You can take her back, but that should mostly be for, using the words of AMS, "she is going to have to S a whole lot of D!"
They all believe they "can do better." Most cannot.
It’s hilarious how all women think they deserve better and still end up single 😅😂
If you COULD do better, don't you think you WOULD have done better? God women are the sh!ts
All women end up single? In what Universe do you live? 😂
@@goldenparachute392 Not all.But mostly in today's era.
Most young men are single. Most young women are not. That's the statistic.
It's hilarious how statistics show that 60+% of men are single today and only 30+% of women are 😅😂
A sure way and fail-proof approach to all of this is always be the chooser.
For women, it's easy 'coz generally they don't need to build value to be in this position.
But for men, until such time you manage to put yourself in that position, the chooser, you'll always lose.
Be the chooser.
we know all that. The problem is that the women with whom we could have effortless relationships are not the women who get us hard. In that case, it's better to stay alone.
👏I'll clap for that because it's finally some real honesty from a man.
And she's not necessarily an unattractive woman,just not our type😅
Just act like you are not impressed, don't need her that much, and don't put her on a pedestal or inflate her ego, meanwhile, date other girls and focus on yourself, trust me, she'll come out of them delusions really fast.
This is not necessarily true about "doing better". Sometimes women think that you should be doing "more". Which is similar I guess. But I agree about getting someone who wants to be there
Women's enthusiasm is not a constant. It responds to environmental cues.
@Vanessa C By “environmental cues” do you mean her relative degree of perceived happiness? If so I agree.
... it's temporarily opportunistic, and usually blurredly multi-conditional. nothing to waste m.e.a.t. for on trial to trigger.
@@east5871If all her friends are upset with their partner, she will be upset with you.
Noone's enthusiasm Is constant, but playing games on your partner in order to get what you want is childish and most likely It will leave both parties unsatisfied
Heavily influenced by culture. Enter the classic bait and switch, starter husband's society and culture disproportionately pander to women at the expense of men. There's a reason women are increasingly going to be single and unmarried. Simply not worth risking anymore in today's current environment
Or she’s simply toxic. Bottomline is that your conclusion is correct. At the end of the day you have a situation that isn’t worth the effort.
If she isn’t happy to be there, nothing you’re going to do is ever going to make her happy. All you’ll wind up doing is expending a lot of energy and resources on someone who treats you poorly, while insisting that it’s your fault she’s doing it.
Get out. Find someone who is happy to be with you, and is easier to get along with.
She wouldn’t be toxic if she genuinely believed she couldn’t do better than you because she wouldn’t want to act in a way that would lose you. This only applies if the arguments are always demeaning and undermine you however, if she’s slashing your tires belling your phone turning up at your door when you tell her not to that’s when she’s actually toxic this is just about women who specifically make everything an argument and make life difficult for you.
@@kobragaming9420 No. Some people are simply toxic because Life damaged them in a very fundamental way long before they got around to choosing a mate. Think Amber Heard….
@@kobragaming9420Making everything an argument, power struggle, diminishing and devaluing you, etc. is the need to be in control due to emotional insecurity and immaturity. It IS toxicity. She doesn't need to commit property crimes in order to be toxic. Emotional and psychological abuse is far worse in my opinion.
All facts my guy… Some women you just can’t save..
@@sirmodd6199 It’s not your job to save anyone. Didn’t cause it. Can’t control it. Can’t cure it. She needs to save herself.
When Shaggy starts giving dating advices.
ZOINKS!!!
LOL!!!!!
I was thinking the exact same thing! Great comment 😂
That's funny.
He's only using 1% of his power 😎
dfkm lol, dude spits game though
Like Christ Rock said, "It's because you're not her first choice."
Problem is, nobody is the first choice of that arrogant 304.
You are so right. Dedication and loyalty are qualities only mature people have. 🙏❤️
And if you consistently try to score women who reject you, then either up your game or realise you are also delusional about what you can get
tom Brady couldn't even keep his wife happy
That's what happens, when you marry a woman, that has more money than you. Tom Brady had no business marrying that type of woman.
Will Smith, too.
@@SKBottom
Smith’s problem was his attempts to please her. Jada is classic alpha widow and she settled for Will. Will on paper is awesome but his mental point of origin is her not himself. Hopefully, you’ve seen the clip of Will with Mark Ruffalo, Samuel L Jackson, and others A list actors he explains what drives him to do everything he does is to prevent being cheated on. His first girlfriend cheated on him.
@@2bituser569 I've seen it.
Normally, I'm skeptical about therapy and I think society over uses it as a crutch, but I really think Will could use a few sessions with a red pill, man oriented therapist.
Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, average American man. I give up, American women are just not worth the effort.
Your description of difficult is the precise description of my ex-husband after he became successful financially. Now, I am happily married for the second time. He is still alone, regretful. Anything I could do differently to prevent such development of our relationship, still trying to understand? Becoming difficult is not female only prerogative. Please, concider that.
My ex husband was a sweetheart guy. Then he got financially successful, became a arrogant @hole. That's why he's an ex.
In one side, you have failed to support him and failed to stay on his lowest. You know, like that silly vow "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."
Marriage is a joke these days.
They difficult because they love DRAMA. It creates things to get a thrill. My wife is difficult and I ain’t bothered…I learned to ignore her which creates more drama 😂
If she was married to Elvis circa 1957 she'd still think she could do better eventually. Let's not forget it was Priscilla that filed for divorce. A womans general disposition, despite social media portrayals, is general unhappiness with the occasional good day. Most of the time they don't want to be happy and have an almost instintcual contradictory nature, on the one hand, an almost sociopathic need to serve her perceived best interests and an equal self destructive need to destroy anything that might cause sustainable happiness.
Elvis was controlling and started screwing Priscilla at 15. If you let a woman feel like she's choosing, she'll always come back to you.
@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 do you think she'd let any man do that at 15? She chose him!
@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 That is not true.
Priscilla destroyed Elvis's life and after his death let some of the men she was dating take turns on her young daughter.
She put everybody in an early grave.
This entire comment section is an overload of truth and self awareness…
Summary: women are agents of CHAOS
Depends what you mean by demanding. Some men really do need to step up and become better people. More cooperative, more generous, more thoughtful & considerate, more educated, Etc. Some guys really do nothing besides let you live in their house and maybe split the grocery bill with you. No romance, no thoughtfulness, when you have trouble they dont come help you instead they say figure it out, they dont clean after themselves, they could care less about your feelings and your family,etc etc
Women initiate 70% of all abuse/far more controlling/control freaks/emotionally manipulative and abusive towards men/women initiate 90% of divorces and even though men still are 99% of household breadwinners women control 80% of spending power which means men are still giving their all. Women are severely lacking yet demanding everything.
@@tedoymisojos Exactly! God bless you for the common sense that you just shared in here.
So what about when they dont choose the one who's enthusiastic about being there?
So, where is the course?
Because in the end, you are here to sell a course, right?
They are all delusional. None of them know the real value of anything
So basically, the vast majority of them. No wonder men are avoiding the marriage snare.
The reason is most women are delusional. Low value women don't deserve mid or high level men but they think they do and get pissed when they don't get what they want.
Marriage happens if a woman wants it, men don't have a choice to deny marriage as women are the gatekeepers of relationships and men are always demanding it.
@@-haclong2366 I disagree. Women benefit far more from marriage than men, giving men a lower incentive to get married in the first place and more leverage to negotiate the contract.
@Hac Long. With all due respect, i think you got it twisted sir. Women are the gate keepers of seggs, while men are the gatekeepers of marriage.
I got asked and both my Dad and best friend said No.
Yeah that relationship crashed after that and I'm better for it
Orion lowkey looks like Shaggy 🤣
So simple, yet so true.
I’m a woman. And I think I’m difficult not because I think I could do better. It’s because I think he had better. Dr Taraban, I like your blunt straight forward style of talking and I know your channel is aimed at mostly men. But it would be awesome to see more content giving advice to women like myself.
I want to be a better partner but I am also very stubborn and feel I need someone to make all of this make sense for me in a realistic manner. Too much advice out there for women I feel is aimed at making us feel we are superior or better but that doesn’t work for me.
I want something to click, make rational sense. I’m more of a red pill person but I also want to be able to know “okay so life, sucks, what can I do about it? How can I see things in a positive way without having to delude myself?”
My ex wife and her sisters said the same thing. "We can't help it, you men have to educate us and teach us what's right." I listened and divorced my wife (after 4 years of hell) she is now on the streets because there is no better place for a woman like that to learn. The brothers-in-law didn't listen and are still living in this hell.
@@MrOsmanu I'm sorry to hear you had hell? What did she do?
There will always be nuances and different circumstances for why people say or behave the way they do. It's not always the same reason all around.
Some people truly want to learn and others don't and just say it with no emphasis behind it.
For me I just kept telling my partners that they could do better. I didn't realize it was driving them away by being honest when I told them I thought their past partners were prettier, etc. Now I know not to always question why a guy chose to be with me. Because that can get annoying
@@Ladeliciadelinda Every man is at war within himself. Just because he's quiet doesn't mean a man doesn't have feelings. I now even assume that a man has more feelings than a woman but can control them better. When you tell a man, be the way I want you to be. Then he understands that you want someone else. And that means war for him. Well, I wish you insight and success in your future.
@@MrOsmanu thanks for the insights. We are all human so of course we all have feelings and emotions. As for me I have low self esteem so I often think I'm not attractive or funny enough. Thats my own insecurity though
@@Ladeliciadelinda You don't need to, I've seen your videos and you're a beautiful woman. However, you don't need to hear that from anyone but your husband. Good luck.
I am on the point of giving up, why bother anymore... It is just too damn difficult!
Same here, how you doin?
@@sweetsmakemeshredded3672 I want to try it one time, and try it good! If that fails, I'll never talk to any woman again.
Same
Come on man. Did you think you'd find some kind of perfect soulmate, first couple of tries? It can takes years to find an excellent match. You take tons of Ls, you move on and learn from them. Giving up is for pussies. I wish you the best!
@@alexandrodl1371 Sounds like wishful thinking, if they all suck then why do you think one of them would not?
So your saying choose a woman w a lower self worth?
Oh damn , Let me send this to my husband right now . …
"... Anything less is a job." 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
To summarize: She settled and you’re not her first choice. Probably not even the runner up.
If she is any of these.... *_Ditch her! No questions asked!_*
I was recently pursued by one who wasn’t my first choice, but you’re right - the experience is much much better when they’re simply keen vs. when I’m trying to win them over.
I’ve learnt to not aim for the top girl, because the top girl is generally impossible to please (and will generally exhibit the behaviours you mentioned).
He has another video where he explains that relationships usually work best when the man is the adored (the prize) and the woman is the adorer (looking up to him as the prize she wants to win. This is because women want an emotional experience in a relationship. And being in the position of adorer a man that she sees as a prize to her gives her that emotional experience she wants in a relationship.
At 55, I feel a little like the wise old donkey in Orwell's Animal Farm. I observe and I acknowledge, but I don't fully participate. I've been dating the same woman for over 8 years. Most people would have been married or cohabiting by now, but her kids make it too difficult. Plus, I have my own (paid off) home, a well-paying job that gives me plenty of free time, I'm very fit and in shape, and I play the guitar & sing in a popular tribute band. Finding another woman wouldn't be a problem, and to be fair, she'd have no problem finding another man; she's 58 but looks early 40s. But by having my own fully-autonomous life, I can deal with her moods and her bullshit without having to worry about divorce/losing half my shit. I really can't see why on earth any man would get married; if-or should I say when-your wife turns into a difficult pain in the arse who grudgingly allows you crumbs of sex and attention, what weapons do you have to counter that kind of thing if you're married? As long as you're not married and you're not cohabiting, you have at least some leverage.
If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan.
Become the celebrity and the groupies will line up.
"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner." - Neil McCauley - Heat
Almost all married men are their women's fans and she the celebrity. If you refuse to treat the woman as a celebrity, she doesn't want anything to do with you.
@@EE12CSVT Treating women like simps forces them to look at you as a supplicator from a superior position. You lost the game before you started.
there are no incentives for a man to get married especially in the west, so in a sense you’re right cause men risk a lot more than women in marriage. What you’re saying is a modern western perspective though. It is why the rest of the world is laughing at the west and why men of the west would rather travel abroad to find women than to stay. Within heterosexual relationship dynamics, there is a leader and a follower.
I believe the man should be the only driver to his own vehicle, going on a journey to his destination that will take the rest of his life. She is just the latest passenger he picked up. If she adds value to the experience, he might stop and get them ice cream, or take the scenic route to make her happy. He might even alter the destination if her suggestion inspires him, but never give her the wheel and he should kick anyone out that is more negative than positive to the mission.
Ask her "are you on your period or something?" Works every time.
My woman is 58; I think she'd actually laugh if I said that
i think the key takeaway here is enthusiasm, as you mentioned. find a woman who genuinely wants to spend time with you, looks forward to seeing you and hearing from you, and appreciates your company. It's also important to be the kind of man who deserves that kind of enthusiasm, as well. Finding a woman who is enthusiastic as being with you should bring out some enthusiasm in you as well, for her 😁
Most women believe that they can do better. While they can usually have sex with "better" it's extremely rare that any of them can have a long term relationship with better.
This is the reason why we're quickly converting to 'passport bros'...women from other countries are more enthusiastic about relationships...I appreciate the good Doc!
Isn't it interesting how we have to talk about this stuff day in and day out and 50,000 channels on RUclips talk about this stuff, and yet marriage has gone down down down down down the hill.
So we raise raise raise fences, fences, parameters, boundaries… Instead of tolerating compromise.
I'm with you, doctor, when you said, the word is sacrifice, instead of compromise in this regard, so let's replace my word with sacrifice. Instead of sacrificing, people are demanding more and more use of boundaries.
Damn, commitment starts to make them think they can do better. Thats why their demands increase.
Before commitment my ex = cleaning house, laundry folded, dinner served, sex all the time, loving and caring.
After commitment = tantrums, nagging, demands, decrease in sex, distance, disrespectful, breakup.
Also could have just ran it's course..she got to know you by then and didn't really like you
@@janetomes you could be onto something.
Man exchanges goods for services. Woman exchanges her services for goods. This is almost exactly like an employer to employee relationship. Man provides and protects and woman respects and serves. It is in the nature of employee to seek more pay for less work. Don't let her do it. It is in the nature of employer to seek paying less for more work. There is a silent battle between employee and employer. If you don't recognize this silent battle you will get clobbered. I have seen teachers behave like students with their students and they constantly get taken advantage of. It is the same thing here. Ask yourself, what can I do to not get taken advantage of by my employee. It sounds like a dumb question but the answer applies to women too, that is if you are the breadwinner and she is the dependent. If your relationship is the opposite, you are the woman.
Delusion is dangerous in life. Pride is a cardinal sin, and Humility is a must for a fulfilling life.
In my experience difficulty in women is caused by difficulty in their upbringing and parenting.
This is the TRUTH. As a man, you are going to be up against her childhood. Was it difficult or nurturing?
@@davidking42086 Which poses a question: Do I, as a female with difficult childhood and complicated family dynamics, have to be punished by a man in him leaving me and giving up on me only because I had it tough in the past resulting in my fear of abandonment while all I long for is love, care and affection that I haven't been given?
It is shocking that he has to say this, isn't it obvious?
If a women behaves like in a marriage or long term. She probably does think about doing better, just would prefer being alone to being with you.
IT IS SO OBVIOUS THAT YOU HATE WOMEN. You are generalizing your theory instead of being more specific and individual.
PLEASE STOP fueling men against women
YOU ARE NOT EVEN TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION THAT THE CULTURE OF THE PARTNER PLAYS A BIG ROLE IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Always give 100 %, and if you get 50 % back, then you know you are wasting your long-term prospects
But men tend to appreciate what he have with struggle and difficulties than the one who are happy with him from beginning. That's men nature. I crave your content up until now.
No.We definitely not want to have struggle with relationship.Who want headache?????
This matches what Rich Cooper says. They need to have Burning Desire for you. They need to believe you are their best option.
I know a few women who always thought they "deserve better". They are either still single in their late forties or had to settle for someone who was simply available and was looking to settle as well
Relationships are only for having kids,it's the only bond connecting you both,other than that it's just rubbing up against each other with no bond and no future
They all think that no matter how good u are, if eve can eat the apple by listening to the devil (sisterhood) over God or her man she’s a liability. A good feminine trusting caring woman can get a man who will do everything in his power to see she’s protected.
Yes "The Reason for the 'unpleasant' behavior DOESN'T Matter" So that's a valid time for THE MAN to exercise HIS INDEPENDENCE and do that... "Bye-Bye-Baby, Baby Bye-Bye..." thing that The Four Seasons sang about "Back-In-The-Day..." : )
-StayWellAll -70SomethingGuy
Sometimes the woman is “difficult “ in response to the man being “difficult” which usually happens because he gets scared and pulls away. That leaves her feeling insecure and unsure about the man and…difficult.
Also she may APPEAR difficult just because the man went into the situation with lots of pressure-conceived expectations for how she SHOULD be, and since she’s being herself and not his “perfect” woman, he views her as difficult.
That's why men in Western countries MUST become Passport Brothers, move to non Western countries PERMANENTLY, & not come back. Tell women in non Western countries when you 1st meet them that you have no intention of moving back to the West, it roots out those women just looking to move to a Western country. Women in non Western countries are far less complicated & considerably easier to satisfy than Western women. 1st though, find a way to earn $ online before you move & get paid in Western currency. It doesn't have to be a lot of $, but it needs to be consistently reliable. I keep hearing over & over from men that became PB's that it was the best decision they ever made. Avoid Eastern Europe, South Korea & Japan.
Simply lower your own standards lol. Men think that beautiful, smart women will be easy. They're not. Pick the mediocre or below average looking woman with low income and she might "please" you the way you want. I married a great guy 8 years ago. He can take my temper, my mood swings... he takes it all. He's a real man and I love him. If you can't take a little pain, a little hardship in your life, then simply live alone for the rest of your life lol. There are no easy going fun women out there. That is reality. We're all human and are difficult. Imaginary non lasting relationships start off easy and then always in the end, you'll face some kind of difficulty or when the romance dies off... I hope you're at least with a person that's strong, supportive and loyal. And a person like that doesn't have to be EASY and FUN. A life long relationship is hard work, not an Instagram fantasy.
Maybe she has a difficult personality and should be avoided. She won't change..
u gotta write a book sir. we will read them
This behavior usually appears because sexual, emotional, or intellectual needs aren’t being met. Something is missing….
I had a woman in my life. We met and some sort of attraction was there for almost 2 weeks of time.
Later she was not even interested in meeting me further.
I never treated her like a princess/ celebrity also so that she will treat me like fan.
In 2 weeks time, I understood she is already in relationship with someone but that guy is not taking it to where she wanted, probably a marriage. So she is using me as backup option to simp for here. In 2 or 3 days after that 2 week period I immediately cut off all ties with her.
I am very much into history. He doesn't even know who Kaiser Wilhelm, Katherine the Great or Julius Caesar were. Sure not looking for another stupid man. Their only interests are their home, their job and their stupid pets. My brain is going to die if I stay I refuse to compete with online games. I doubt if he'll notice I have left for Europe. I wish him well. My brain still works,even if his doesn't!
The Shaggy look suits ya
Social media - the great thief of joy.
likely she has GOTTEN better from this same guy.... But now he is spending more time gaming or now. He is spending more time working or now. He is spending more time following out with the boys?
I agree with you mostly. It's just that no matter what the reason. Whether she used to be with Mr. Perfect before you... She should STILL always be respectful to you. It doesn't matter if the guy is a homeless guy on the floor. The only correct response is for her to be respectful. That's the only correct response to just any human. Something is wrong with her if she isn't respectful to you or anyone for that matter unless we're talking about ACTUAL guys who bad or evil
OMG what a load of nonsense! If a woman wants a high value man then she will go and get one. Why waste her time being in a relationship with someone that she doesn’t see fit…..
Perhaps the inconsistent behaviour and the rest of it, is because that’s how she is being treated….?
Stop giving ‘nice’ guys half-arse advice.
Men really should take their relationship advice off women not men. And vice versa for that matter
So she's either delusional or rejected, and she's suffering from a false sense of grandeur. Therefore, she's the problem...not the cheating, abusive, devaluing SO. No of course it's the woman's fault for not being enthusiastic about him anymore. I mean a man that is getting BJers, sex, meals, cleaning, fun, toys, outfits, and he still cheats he should be treated like he's amazing.
What about the dude who wants my conversation, my advice, the peace I provide (his words) the great sex I provide, but “wants to be just friends”? He also thinks he can do better and is not worthy of my time, my wisdom and my body. It goes both ways!
This one is easy: reflect. If she acts this way to you, just act that way back to her. If she’s distant, you become distant. Easy. She usually comes around. When you get really good at mental games you can be the one who initiates it and only does it temporarily. What I do is I ignore, then after maybe a couple of minutes I ask her “ok how did that make you feel? Do you understand what it is like to be on the receiving end of that behavior? Do you want to do that to me or anyone else ever again?” She’ll understand that you’re not there to take her shit at that point, and that you know your stuff. Easily turn disrespect around. One thing in my personal relationship that happened early on was when I’d try to hold her hand she’d pull it away from me after a couple seconds. “My hands are sweaty” she’d say. Absolute bullshit and I knew it. So here’s what I did. The next time she went to hold my hand, I did the exact same thing to her. “My hand hurts from (insert bullshit activity that could plausibly injure your hand).” Of course she had a hurt look on her face when I said this (not like me when she did the same thing to me. I felt bad but didn’t show it because I know to never show weakness to a woman). I looked her in the eyes and said “do you understand how it makes me feel when you do that to me?” She nodded and said “I understand.” Let’s just say,.. she never pulls her hand away from mine anymore. In fact later on she doubled down on the intimacy 😏 but I can’t put those details down here 😂. Anyways hope you guys learned something take care and stay sharp.