This is what living with ADHD looks like | Mel Robbins
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Having ADD, ADHD, dyslexia or anything else that makes your brain work a little differently than others, is a SUPER POWER. 🌟
On the latest episode of the #melrobbinspodcast, I go deep into what #ADHD really is - a neurological disorder that affects the brain structurally and chemically.
I explain the signs and the science behind what is going on in your brain to help you embrace your beautiful, unique mind and live a better life.
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I'm weeping. As a 43 yr old woman w ADHD, this is not how I see, treat, or talk to myself anymore. Just the genuine kindness you had for yourself brings me to tears. It's like a foreign language.
Thank you.
Awe my heart is aching for you❤ Im 45 with ADHD and im proud of who i am because of all my quirks, strengths and weaknesses. Im going to pray that gratitude for all of lifes small things find you and that it fills you with acceptance and humor for everything that makes you who you are ❤
I know, a whole lifetime of that for me too.
Think about it as a power, you can do what others never could.
But NEVER PUT YOURSELF DOWN, SIENCE HAS PROVEN THAT THE PERSONS WITH ADHD WERE THE ONCE THAT WENT OUT HUNTING AND LOOKING FOR BETTER PLACES TO LIVE. THINK ABOUT THAT!!!
@barbroericson6415 got it. But it's not an easy thing to have as an adult woman, you don't fit the mold.
@@Christine-n6y Who wants to fit in a molde?I don't, it's not easy I know, but life never is
It’s nice to hear someone say something positive about ADHD for a change.
My husband says after 12 years if I can't handle the day to day confusion he just says I love you everyday is an adventure in where we last left it.
She should also be telling that having ADHD makes you loose your closeones and getting doubted upon.😢
I agree ADHD is fun sometimes but mostly heartbreaking
My 10 yr old daughter has adhd and I find it so difficult to accept. Thank you for showing me these occurrences are common and it’s not my child being defiant or neglectful. I just need to allow her to go at her own pace. Life is too short to be frustrated all the time over small things that can be laughed about later.
Feed her more nutrition, and keep her off the internet. Most hyperactive kids that cannot focus now a days, have a shitty diet.
Please read “delivered from distraction” it’s a profound book explaining it all and the biggest takeaway I gained was “focus on what you’re good at, (because we ADDers are REALLY good at certain things!) and stop trying to be good at what you’re bad at.” The more i embrace focusing on what I’m good at and delegating as much as possible what I am not, the more successful I am. 🙏
A 10 year old does not have "ADHD". It's a damn child. These labels were created to sell you Pharma. Figure out natural ways to deal with the symptoms & stop accepting what these insidious dr's tell you...
As a women with add with neurodivergent kids of a few kinds too.......I find looking for tricks or hacks to reduce occurrences of stuff like this.....which I have done myself a few times.....like I was always leaving my wallet or purse behind in stores ...then my phone when that became a thing.....I always put my keys in the pile of stuff now.....I may have to return to the store but only from the parking lot.
I also turn around and look at my car as a routine when I enter my house. To check for lights on....doors open....grocery bags left behind...coffee cup on roof 😊
So if I concentrate on how to work with my brain to stop doing this stuff instead of drowning in shame and stress it really helps.
@@Beccanator007 looooooooovvvvveee that book❤
I need more of this content. ADHD makes me feel like I’m never going to be a functional adult.
It’s really hard when everyone in your life is irritated and inconvenienced by you for all the little mistakes.
I feel that 😔
We try not to get upset because we love you and know that is who you are. I’m sure we do things that drive you crazy.
Ugh. TELL me about it. I am smack dab in the middle of a custody battle, I have with me an 8 month old , I take care of a 92 yr old woman , and I am TRYING to fix this almost 90 yr old house, no car, no job , FULLY dependent on my husband. This house is SOOO FULL OF STUFF EVERYWHERE . It drives me INSANE . As if it weren't bad enough that I have ALWAYS had the worst self talk , for the vast majority of m life, (I am also in recovery btw, prior to being diagnosed with ADHD I became addicted to opiates and benzos, so I could 'function' , not knowing that I was self medicating something that there was an actual treatment for) ~ anywho,I am under a microscope with the judge and the attorneys and the Guardian Ad Litems and the therapists ALL having ACTUAL LITERAL MEETINGS and emailing and zoom calling back and forth for the sole purpose to discuss EVERY SINGLE THING I do and DON'T do and how well or NOT well I did it. ~ sigh. It's very difficult, but I just keep on keepin on. And I have started STOPPING caring what ANYONE and EVERYONE ELSE thinks about me. I LOVE the way she talks to herself. I myself recently learned a REALLY cool AMAZING trick on how to love yourself and it has COMPLETELY changed my life and my perspective on life. Basically, treat yourself the way you would treat your child if they did what you did. Hug and love and console and comfort yourself the way you would ur little baby. Seriously!!!! ALLLLL that love u have to give to THEM , channel that right back towards yourself. If you wouldn't say or do it to your children , don't say it or do it to yourself. ❤
@cecilymulet7451,
Keep on! with your Bad Self! Do what you do, the way you do it! At least you know it! Be strong and carry on..
Yep, very few people can tolerate and laugh with someone with ADHD. I drive my wife crazy with leaving cabinet doors open all the time. But in my mind, I’m never in the room. I will make coffee and prepare my meal (heating up leftovers) without ever remembering that I did it. I just wish those frustrated people realized that it’s even more frustrating for me.
My wife has ADHD.
It bothers her...
But to me it just makes her more adorable. She never understands when I tell her that.
We balance each other's super powers quite nicely ❤
❤👍🏽
Respect ❤
I cry
When you love someone, you love everything about them. That's sounds like you. Enjoy each other, more happiness for you guys.
i love you for doing so. Hope she can see herself like you do soon.
I did not know you have ADHD. Totally makes sense. You are brilliant and down to earth. More power to ya!
I worry that one of my kids have it, it can almost goes undiagnosed and people often mix it with memory probs, but very brave from her to share this with her followers. I believe nigella seed oil can improve it greatly, as long as you as the person affected keeps away from too much carbs that can deplete the vitamins from the oil.
@@sabrinaandhusband7791 that's interesting can you explain how to use nigella seed oil and what is the right amount
Yep. I grew up in the 60s hearing “The trouble with you is…” What? Slow the fuck down🥴
Sending Love ❤️..Tanya...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
@@shellylavigne5913😂 love it!!!
I am so glad that you are posting these videos on ADHD. I am 70 years old. A writer, a poet, an artist, and a musician and a garden designer by trade. Those things happened to me all of the time and I feel like such an idiot, and not good enough to live in this world. I am so affirmed by your post. Thank you thank you thank you.
I was diagnosed 20+ years ago and still struggle with thinking I’m lazy. Some days I just can’t get motivated to start a task knowing I might get distracted and not finish it. So then nothing gets done and anxiety sets in.
don't think
Just act
On the flip side, one way to guarantee that something will not get accomplished is if you do not start. If you start maybe there's a possibility that if you don't at least finish you can pick it up later. And I'm saying this as someone who is struggling greatly with getting up and starting something, anything. And I do not have ADHD to my knowledge. I just feel stuck, depressed and paralyzed.
@@stuartmoore6310 yes, it’s a terrible feeling. Can’t give up though 😞💛
@@stuartmoore6310ctually the solution to this is to stop overthinking & procrastinating.If you have a dream or an idea what you want from life just start with any small activity and rest all will follow and fall in place.Even if you keep failing just keep pushing 👍
Well I guess I have ADHD because I do this all the time here I thought I was just getting old and losing my memory
You're teaching me to find humor in my humanness, Mel. Not everyone thinks it's so cute when I do stuff like that, but you help me to feel more confident in myself. Maybe someday, people in my life will catch on and realize that we don't have to take everything soooo seriously. ADHDer high-5! Mmmmwah!!
I need to tell my son every single day that being with him is always amazing because of his loving creative spirit
So cute. She is.
@PEMDASbabydo you care to elaborate on what the heck this is meant to mean ?
Thank you for your honesty...my 32 year old daughter has ADHD and Dyslexia. She is an amazing person, and she's a high school art teacher. She has accomplished so much in her young life. I'm so proud of her every day!!❤❤❤
Well that made me cry. Thank you. Thank you for reframing my automatic guilt/shame trauma response. Seriously. Thank you.
Same
Same with me too!
Ditto!
Same❤
There are obviously different forms of ADHD. My 45 yr. old son has it & he would NEVER leave his car like that as everything has to be ‘just so’. His clothes colour-coordinated in his wardrobe, his cutlery perfect on the table along with the food on his plate. He won’t do ANYTHING unless the time is right…12.012, 5.05, 2.02, 8.08 & so on.
I’m in tears. Thank you for sharing this, I needed to hear this today. Thank you
Me too! 😭 💕
❤
You’re not alone ❤
I love Mel showing us this, she’s smart and honest, and appears very happy and content . Good on you Mel.👍
I sent this video to my husband (with ADHD). He laughed. Later in the evening he walks into the kitchen, stops at the door and says, It’s been at least an hour since I was in the kitchen. I looked into the kitchen. The freezer door on the bottom was wide open. He left the kitchen without closing it, about an hour ago.
We love you. ❤
Thank you so much for this, I deal with ADHD & sometimes I just want to cry. This gives me hope hearing you talk about ADHD as a positive thing
Same. School was and is still so hard for me... I'm 23 and still finishing my last year of high school. I dropped out because my depression got too severe and I was hospitalized several times. I didn't know I was struggling bad with ADHD because mine is presented differently than my classmate Adam who was bouncing off walls and had the obvious signs while mine are mellow and I can hardly focus on a single task if at all.
When I was single, I lived at the end of a set of 8 units. I left to go to work one morning and decided to stay at my parents' overnight.
When I got home, I noticed that my security door was unlocked. I thought "oops I forgot to lock it."
My neighbour came over later and told me that I had left my front door open and lights on and he saw it about 11pm the night before. He called out to check if I was ok and realised I wasn't home, and I had left it open, so he turned off all my lights and shut my main door for me... 🤦♀️
Can relate! I'm also very good at locking the door but walking away and leaving the keys in it. My neighbour has a check of it every morning when she goes out to retrieve my keys if I've left them. She's a lovely woman, I call her second mom now, though it's a bit frustrating that I need someone to do that at my age. I'm glad she does though.
i stayed over for christmas eve at my hostel. everyone else left. forgot to close the main entrance. slept soundly in my room. next morning, came to learn that 2 rooms in the ground floor were burgled. laptops and other belongings, stolen. more than a decade later... my gut still wrenches.
Super Cool Powers, period.😊
You have a lovely neighbour.
I can’t clean house like normal people supposedly do or anything else really. I’ll start to clean up/straighten up the living room then see something that needs to go to the bathroom and stop on the middle of doing the LR and head to the bathroom but on the way there I might grab something else that goes to the bedroom as well. Once I get to the bathroom I’ll notice I need to clean the sink or toilet or whatever, set down everything and start on that but I realize suddenly my gloves and the disinfectant wipes/cleaner is in the kitchen so I stop and head to the kitchen and on the way there see something in the living room that needs to go to the bedroom and off I go…. Hours later I’ve half cleaned the bathroom, started to wash dishes but haven’t finished, gotten the vacuum out to do the floors starting with the living room but couldn’t find the attachment for finishing the couch and my bedroom has barely been touched although I’ve tossed a couple items onto whatever surface was closest and have a half finished basket of laundry I was folding and two drawers of my dresser are half open with socks that need their mate laying on the top, there’s items in the bathroom that need to go to the bedroom from way earlier, and I need to find my phone to make a phone call to have my prescriptions refilled and sent to me that I’ve forgotten to do for two weeks and I’m going to run out of meds now but I can’t find my phone so I’m looking for my iPad to use the Find my Phone app and can’t find my iPad that I was certain I had on the couch earlier then remember I’d gone out to my van with my phone earlier in the day so I walk out to my van but I don’t know where my van keys are and I look in the window to see my keys and my phone are laying on the front seat and then realize my bag that has my spare key in it is also sitting between the front seats, I’ve left my patio door open so my dog is now taking herself for a walk around the apartment complex and I can’t find her and I’m having a panic attack because I can’t leave my apartment to go looking for her because I can’t lock my door because I’ve locked my keys in my van and can’t call anyone to help me because my phone is locked in my van and now I’m freaking out…
Thankfully I have a few people who know me quite well and my dog goes to my friend’s apartment so she brings her back to me and my neighbor helps me get my van door open because I forgot to roll the window all the way up and there’s room for a coat hanger to easily get my van unlocked and I’m able to get my phone and my keys and my bag and go inside with my dog and then collapse on the couch exhausted and realize that it’s been 6 or 7 hours and my apartment is still a mess and I’m exhausted. Really has happened to me, and every day is a new adventure but quite familiar in this routine. ADHD. At least I know why I do the things I do or don’t do that I should. It’s a struggle to accomplish what many people seem to quite easily. I have learned to laugh about it but there are days it’s not so easy. Thank you Mel.
Girl this is lovely. I never looked at it this way. I always felt like I was loosing it when these things happen.
Well, I'm thinking that U were just so busy bringing a lot into the house & than once in the house U just became preoccupied w/putting stuff away, etc... what do I know 🤔
I love that you blurred the outside of your house! Good job staying safe! So many you tubers don't heed the warnings.
My God. Thank you for your honesty and humbleness. I am not alone.💕
You give me a totally new perspective on my ex-husband (ADHD and dyslexia)!
I'm so thankful I found you and that you open my mind to new possibilities.
Sending Love ❤️...Abbie...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
BEAUTIFUL Mel. I get down on myself so hard when I do stuff like that. Which isn’t every day. Instead of immediately going to, “At ‘my age’ … is this the onset of … ???“ THANK YOU MEL!
Times are faster now. 😅 enough time for nothing. We are gonna forget something. Just breathe and embrace it. No one is perfect ❤❤
What a great perspective, I wish schools had more programs to help ADHD kids embrace their interesting brains 💜
Cognitive therapy helps TREMENDOUSLY!
Unfortunately schools have to make sure students graduate with an education at least enough for them to have choice of whether to enter a trade school, college, or simply get some kind of job and be able to support themselves.
It is not profitable, that's wyh
My teachers always called me scatter brained cause they didn't understand ADHD when I was growing up
Girl, I can relate. The struggle is real and awful & wonderful. 😂
Not sure how much she's struggling. Range Rover, nice house in the country. Just sayin'
I love the positive self talk! This is refreshing. Thank you💝
I've found positive self talk is useless ,
If I don't get off my ass and get shit done. Lol 😆
😂 oh my goodness I love that you said, “laugh and embrace that you have a brain that thinks differently.” Love it! ❤❤❤❤
Way better example of self talk than I gave myself most of my life! ❤and someone with adhd doesn’t need to hear how they messed up again because they’ve almost always already beat themself up before you ever will.
Calling it a superpower is the absolutely most stupid ridiculous thing I've ever heard..
@@HostileWorkplaceEXPOSED In defense of that.. It can be, it does have it's upside but the downside gets most of the attention.
@@HostileWorkplaceEXPOSED easy to understand your feelings given that this is highlighting the downsides that ADHD can come with. However, there’s a lot of upsides to ADHD that get overlooked. For example, because the ADHD neurodivergent brain is usually running full speed on all cylinders seemingly at all times, during slow quiet times we may seem like absolute restless fidgeting fools but we have the ability to hyper focus during a time of stress or in an emergency. Because there’s so much busyness happening in our brain it kind of syncs up in a time of crisis because of all the busy-ness as it were and we can focus on what needs to be done to help. Not all ADHD folks are like this, but many are. There’s a lot examples of the upsides and to someone with ADHD who often feels like they fall short in the eyes of the normal brained neurotypical people around us, we beat ourselves up enough for not being like everyone else. So sometimes it helps to seek out and be okay and show grace to ourselves when we fall short and recognize that we do have advantages in many other areas.
This and the anxiety guilt and shame from hearing this all yourself causes CPTSD.
This constant cocktail of anxiety brew thrn causes even more mistakes, questioning, paralysis, inability to be self aware- doubt - on and on-- and it isn’t simple to unravel.
You can do some for yourself but it gets super complicated when you have to make higher level decisions and educate and hope that others- partners, graduate schools, work believes and works with you.
This time is coming but it takes a WHiLe for us to actually get over the trauma…
And for some of us, figure out what to say when and how.
@@Christine-n6yalso, it is a superpower for ourselves- IF the world filled in the gaps - say we could afford mind readers, admin assistants, motivational speakers, cheering squad, servants…etc all by our side all the time.
Then the stuff in our heads would become superpowers .
But it’s NOT a blessing when the chaos stays in your head and even overwhelms and bothers you… or you’re aware that nothing happening in here ever becomes an actuality.
And the daily getting through life without the time scale or allowances is literally exhausting.
Let’s be real.
Having a stroke or speaking another language and not speaking a country’s language can exercise you, but it significantly changes life and in the case of stroke- the actuality of daily living is that it is a HUGE bummer.
Yes, you can make lemonade out of lemons.
But what if it took you 80 per cent of your day to make the lemonade every day?
😊
Yup. I’m ADD. Didn’t get the hyperactivity but my best friend….oh boy. She is off the charts. She is so colorful and fun. When we are together we start bouncing like our ADD gets magnified! Life is definitely interesting.
Its all under the umbrella of adhd now. I was surprised to find it out too.
Also please be aware that the hyper part can also manifest as hyper-FOCUS. You know, the ability to binge an entire season of a show in a day, or get lost in Pinterest for several hours at a time. That’s one of the reasons that women aren’t diagnosed with ADHD as often or as early as men because females tend towards hyper focus.
ADD has been an outdated term since 1987
@@itsdune079but still helpfully used informally. I’m a Clinical Psychologist and my clients and I still use ADD - but I clarify that technically it’s no longer a formal diagnostic term. Personally I think it should be, as it always sounds ridiculous to explain that it’s now ADHD - Inattentive Type- in spite of the Hyperactivity component not being present for you.
Wow! Mystical or what? I have dyslexia and I have such a hard time sometimes. I'm sitting here crying and your post showed up. I feel better. Thank you.
How do you test for dislexia? I am trying to find out...
@@maiajanashiasmith I was tested by a psychologist when I was 20 years of age. I was brutalized in school every single day and branded 'retarded'. In fact I am really creative and never was retarded.
@@merrylynnallison6922 I wrote a book and have great public speaking skills. English is my 3rd language. But when it comes to spelling a simple word it is challenge some times. And I use to reverse letters when I was a kid. I have suspicious I may have dislexia.
@@merrylynnallison6922 Sending Love ❤️...Are you single? ❤️😊🌹🌹
@@nickadams1519 You are a gross old idiot- You are extremely disrespectful of this form and the people involved. Do you see anybody else commenting like this?! There are more than enough websites for you Perverted disgusting individuals- Hopefully you never multiplied
Adjusting to my boyfriend’s ADHD was hard at first due to me being the complete opposite but we regularly sit down and communicate ways to realistically help himself get organized and cope with the shame he sometimes feels about it. Reading up on your partner’s health conditions and personality traits can really save a relationship
You guys should probably break up and let him find someone who will accept him fully for who he is and not try to change him.
You seem like a really nice person , I wish and yours nothing but the best.
Thank you Mell my sister for taking the shame and stigma out of this “disorder”. I watched her podcast and it gave me so much power and inspiration. I’ve been living untreated until I watched her.
This makes me feel soooo much better as a 58 yr old ADHD person.
ADHD is actually a nutrient deficiency. That information will never be recognized by the medical industry for obvious reasons but do some research on it and you'll soon find out the root cause
Did you experience that your symptoms worsened with getting older ?
@@lovepeace2373 you know, that is an excellent question. Honesty I don’t know if it they are worse of that I am more aware of it since I started meditating daily. I do know this, my 80 yr old father is off the charts ADHD, and it seems to have ramped up as he has aged.
@@skyethewylder I saw this in other comments and find it in myself as well.
Wishing you the best !
You sharing this about yourself really makes me feel comfortable in my own skin❤
This is awesome. What a positive role model for those living with ADHD. ❤
I love how you own it! Great self talk.. I'm they're with you! Thank you Mel!!
I feel you. I lose everything even when it’s not lost, I forget everything, you have to laugh 😅or cry😢
Thank you for demonstrating such a positive attitude. You are a great example for all people.
Thank you for making me feel normal!!
Well this is when you hope there is a good/great support system for those days when things are really not going well, and for when they are, you can bring all of us along. I don't know what ADHD is like, but I've been around it. Creative/different way of thinking, great description! Glad no one stole your car.
Loved your positive insights and positive self talk on ADHD. Also loved how you ended this short with this statement, “Love the fact that you’ve got a brain that just thinks different”.
Not super to be causing climate change with that ridiculous vehicle
I grew up being told I was lazy and stupid. Till God started showing me He made me like this. And just what you say, it's a wonderfully interesting, colorful world to live in.
Strongs to all of us!
Same here…I’m 70 now and wasn’t tested/diagnosed until I was 50! I literally cried my eyes out b/c I finally understood why I perceived myself as different! I’m smart, kind, and creative….but still struggle with staying focused or hyper focusing! It’s ok…I’m retired and can set my own pace! It’s either laugh or cry! I choose to laugh at myself…but seek help from my adult kids when I have a project requiring organizational skills! Life! 🤷♀️🤷♀️
@@bamanana2922 What did the doctors do for you? Did you use medication? If so what kind & did it help? I can’t get a doctor to help me.
GOD DID NOT make you this way. JESUS healedALL the sick and afflicted and HE said "HE does what His Father says ". If GOD had made sickness why would he He tell us to"go into all the world and cast out the demons: heal the sick and by doing this you will spread the gospel".
"I have NOT given you a spirit of fear( affliction) but one of Love, Power and a SOUND MIND."
@@fyrnahardman4206children of lesser god
yah showed me this but so far I still need Vyvanse and tea to barely function.
And I’ve had to accept not having a career after many attempts at both business and graduate school.
I am trying to embrace small beginnings and I thank Yah for the confused and reluctant lifelong financial support of my parents, but it’s demoralizing and confusing not being able to be independent and support yourself-- I’m just trying to embrace the small beginnings He keeps giving and let go of trying what I learned to try all my life
Maybe He wants me dependent to teach and work on others.
This is REALLY tough and I keep hoping and trying and letting go and trying for my Moses moment- or Joseph day…. Or Hannah’s answered prayer….
But I’m also scared of just having it for a moment and gone again.
I just want it normal.
Thank you for the different reaction / response. I need to be more kind to myself.
mee too😢
This is empowering. Thank you, Mel
Thank you very much, Mel, for helping me to realize that it's alright to except my goofball condition, and be happy with it ! You are very
appreciated, because you remind me of self
in so many ways. Thank you for being who you are, because you are a blessing in my life !
Love you 💗🙏
Sending Love ❤️...Kathleen...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
ADHD is having half a dozen televisions on different channels in the same room. Having
a buzzing mosquito interrupt a thought. Talking about a subject while thinking of another. Difficulty focusing on a task but sometimes hyper focusing and not being aware of what is going on around you. Having a house that is messy but you find a screw in a junk drawer and know exactly where it belongs. The artistic ability and creativity is a plus as well as multitasking. That is my personal definition.
I love this! I follow my husband around closing doors, shutting off lights & picking up what he's dropped! 😂
That’s pretty sweet ❤
I love your spirit in general! Love that you are so candid about your challenges! Super-love how chill and upbeat/positive you are about how your life goes!!! ❤
My wife sent this to me. I feel your pain lil sister. I have to stop myself and say focus. Or it’s oh look a squirrel!!! An hour later you remember what you were doing meanwhile you’ve already started three other projects. ADHD, dyslexia and CDO which is OCD in alphabet order.
Thanks Mel, keeping it real ❤
Girl, 43 yr old over here with depression, anxiety, dyslexia, trauma, and finally diagnosis with ADHD earlier this year. Her self-talk is shocking to me too. I’ve never talked like that to myself. I’m seeing a new therapist this week. I want to work on myself. Hang in there friend.💜💜
Pl try doing pranayama and meditation it will help 💯%.Do try art of living guided meditation available on RUclips.🇮🇳
You’ve just got trauma. Stop putting every label you can on yourself and change your lifestyle to help cope with the problems. No one can help you but yourself and the worse thing you can do is be a part of this pathetic little mental health club. You are not what happened to you
@@shunyabinduinteriors Dont let Satan fool you! You can try everythung you can think of, but just remember Christ will be the final answer to a breakthrough and victory . ❤❤❤
@@zp2010moreal wold problem so no relevance
Sounds like you had a helping of everything from the psych book. I’d respectfully suggest that you not focus so much on yourself and use some of your time to help others and maybe get a job and/or a hobby to keep your mind off yourself. Only you can fix you. God bless.
I needed to hear this today
Can’t tell you how much I needed to hear that love you so much Mel!
Sending Love ❤️...Audrey...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
This makes me like you even more!! You are an incredible human.
Thank you for sharing this.
It's beyond the words " so nice to see someone else does this too"how this makes me feel.
Thank you, I’m working to feel as you do, living with ADHD, and love how you talk to yourself. Powerful and thank you!
As someone diagnosed at 55 with ADHD, and 45 with Dyslexia, Dyscalcula, and dysgraphia, I have a tentative diagnosis of Autism as well, but waiting to see a specialist to get that confirmed, I definitely wish I had known earlier in my life as I wouldn’t have been as brutal on myself. It’s a relief to know I’m not just weird and stupid. Thanks for this.
they sure rack up the money finding things wrong with people. label it and make money on it.
Well, did I write this? 9 months with the diagnosis. Craft videos like this does not help. I have never left three doors open. I have left when door open and half the groceries in the car.. not three doors open and no groceries. Get real mel.
@Sweetlyfe: So the diagnosis will let you off the hook? What actual value is it to be told those things about yourself? How will that change your life?
@@deborahdean8867They wouldn't make a penny if people were not willing to go along with the program.
@@lemurianchick I have no need to be left off the hook, I have worked hard my whole life, traveled the world, it’s also made me a very good Teacher of Adults, because I can understand my students and encourage them in ways that other people aren’t able too, I also offer them one to one support when they need it, I do it because I love learning and what doors education can open for you, I’m not talking just monetarily, but the achievement of doing something that you felt that you couldn’t do, or felt scared about. I have no need to explain to you what it means, if you can’t or won’t understand it from what I wrote, or you’re just being contrary. Goodbye.
I also have ADHD and can totally relate to this. 🙌🏻 Embrace your superpower, friends! Thanks for all you do, Mel 🥰
Sending Love ❤️...Heather....Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
thank you, lovely ❣️ good reminder to re-program the inner monologue 🙏
Mel, you’re awesome ❤ I get frustrated with myself more than I like to admit…probably better to laugh at my silly mistakes than get angry at myself! I needed this, thank you
The way that you’re so kind to yourself immediately made me want to follow you because I just want to learn more on how to do so myself. Thank you truly ❤
I so needed this today. 😊
Confirmation bias.
You remembered the groceries. I’d say that’s a win!! 🙌🏻
Good one!!! 😜
Indeed. In the past 2 days I've been to a supermarket 3 times. I don't have a car and there's a limit to how much I can carry. Still don't have any bread in the house, though I did remember to get butter. Lol
I love your content Mel, thanks for helping me heal from adhd rejection. I embrace and love me!
I totally get it..I'm 57 and have been this way most of my life, my husband would always say, he wished he could follow me around with a video camera, he'd make a million bucks, you definitely learn to laugh at yourself and to take things with a grain of salt, or you'd be upset with yourself all the time and I would much rather find humor in it all❤
SO Glad and Grateful you have taken a positive pov on this 🙏❤
Mel your Humor is inspiring, as I usually beat myself about those things. Need more Mel in my life. thank you. we need to be more loving to ourselves!
Living with ADD: I’d still be in the car, listening to my tunes, thinking about taking the groceries in.
Mel, you helped me change. I didn’t think anyone could. I love you.
Lol me too!😂
Truly from my heart, thank you so much for this 💗 this simple, short video had such a huge impact for me. Letting go of my shaming self-talk and shifting to this positive, self-loving, self-talk✨
You’re an amazing person to truly explain ADHD in an understandable way.
Bravo 👏🏻
I love that I found you! You have no idea how much your podcast and videos have helped me in the past 6 months. Thank you for helping me to finally love myself.
I just love you for being so cool about it! Way to go, Mel… keep smiling… it suits you!
Thank you so much for this! I felt myself grow lighter and more accepting of myself as I heard you embrace your own quirks 🥰 as others have said, this is not how I handle it but I want to.
Thank you so much for this. I did not know how much I needed to hear it right now. As a 33yo only diagnosed at 29 and trying to figure out how to help myself not spiral with frustration, this gentle joyful insight touched my heart and gave me hope for a better, confident, happy future ❤
This is so me, every day of my life. I am constantly making careless mistakes and jumping to conclusions without seeing all the details. My mind works differently and I am embarrassed a lot, but like you, I am learning to accept that this is who I am.
Good luck inthe corporate world😢
Thank you for giving me this wonderful perspective on ADHD.
Mel! “ I love you more today than yesterday!” Sister from another mister.
❤ me too!
How did I miss out on this?!?
I have never heard this phrase before. 🧐 🤔
It’s Absolutely Fantastic!
I’ve been living under a rock.
What a freaking amazing response!! 100%
I love this so much! 💗 Thanks for sharing, sis! 😘
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You know, as a 57 year old woman, highly successful in both my personal and professional life, it never occurred to me to seek out a diagnosis, but when one of my children was recently diagnosed, I got curious. Turns out I too have ADHD. My whole life makes so much more sense now. I believe that I successfully lived half a century with untreated ADHD because, like you, I learned early on that these were my quirks, just the way I operate, and I didn't hold them against myself. Thank you! Sharing this content will help so many ADHDers!!
"It's a superpower" -- I loooove that! And I love *you* too, Mel! Thank you for such an important reminder -- it is indeed our superpower!
Wow!! Your insight is profound! X
I don't have ADHD but my partner does and I'm trying to learn how to be more supportive of him and find more effective ways for us to function in our home together. It's hard sometimes to deal with his messy chaotic brain, but also very beautiful when he brings so much creative passion and energy to our space.
20.000 children woke up today with nothing to eat. Get a life your alive so is your husband try to remember no matter how hard you think your life is. Yeh people are are dying in wars etc and everyone theee days seems to have adhd Bla Bla Bla just an excuse.
Yesssaaaa!!!! Oh my days I love that you have ADHD and speak of it in this way! It is our super power when we’re not debilitated by the chaos of it. I hope you talk more on this and how to stay in the love of it xxx
I love that you call it a superpower! That makes me feel much better! I can embrace it and run with it now! Thank you Mel you have helped change my life in so many ways for the better.
I absolutely love and appreciate you for this!❤
It makes you even more lovable.. ❤
I have been suspecting ADHD for a couple of years. Your recent episode on ADHD is what gave me the certainty / confirmation, before a formal diagnosis. Many thanks! 💗
Would be great if it was shared here again. Thanks!
Absolutely love this and the comments. Thank you Mel for sharing this with all of us. Especially for those of us who are really struggling to figure this mess out. I'm 56 and haven't Officially been diagnosed with ADHD but have always thought I was ADHD. After reading all these comments and realizing "Dang girl that sounds like you" and it also makes me feel like I'm Not alone out here. We love you to pieces Me. You're a super human being 🤗🤗🤗
your a relaxing person to listen to Mel may the holyspirit freely bear fruit in your life enjoying God because he adores you
As a spouse. It’s no picnic sometimes. It takes a lot of patience, understanding and forgiveness. Not for the faint of heart.
When I left my flat in South of France for Brittany I left my entry door open!
Fortunately my neighbour phoned me and wondered what happens...
He closed my door for me!🥰🙏🤗
Love you Mel❤
I love people that teach us to be more accepting and kinder to ourselves. Thank you -we need you -please keep reminding us :)
My son will be turning 50yrs a few weeks. He has ADHD discovered by his teacher in elementary school. He is now a scientist at one of the leading space agencies in the world and widely respected. He was a such a pleasure to raise along with his brother and I’m so proud of him. He is very funny and full of humor. Oh yes, I have it also. He’s my hero
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ADHD & OCD commonly go along with very high intelligence. Good job to your son!
I’m dyslexic an adhd, and in complete gratitude for these gifts💚🙏💚
People need to stop using these labels as their victim identity.
You people are really using gratitude the wrong way!
@@Lol98-wk18 lol
This is me and finding a partner that understands and excepts these things is key
Even if you don't it's not the end of the world. Choose friends who will accept you as you are. Marriage is too challenging and wrought with stress when you have mental health issues.
@@jessethepersiankitty2377 Yeah, marriage is challenging, but it can actually help to have someone remember the things you forget a lot and know your triggers. My husband knows me so well now that he just removes them or fixes them half the time before they even become a problem. 😅
@@Observer100-cn7gv I think if i wasn't always trying my best and finding ways that work for me to better function then I would say you have a point, but what one person finds annoying, another person might find endearing. Nobody is perfect, you just gotta find someone who is perfectly imperfect for you. I've been with my husband for nearly 15 years. He still looks at me like the sun shines out my ass. No idea how I got that lucky.
Your so genuine!
Love you!!!
You are amazing and I love you for who you are! ❤
I can't tell you how many times I have unloaded my groceries and left my car running in front of my house. I now have it programmed to shut off after 10 minutes. Got to love ADHD
Yes I got up early in morning......looking for my car keys. ?????????? MAYBE ILEFT EM IN THE CAR...... I LEFT THEM IN THE CAR ALRIGHT ( ENGINE RUNNING) ALL NIGHT 😄 GOOD THING I HAD A FULL TANK OF GAS .😄😄😄😄😄😄
That’s a great idea. About 25 years ago, a couple near here died of CO2 poisoning in their sleep. Their car was found running in the garage below.
37 years old. No food in the house to cook dinner for my kids. Went to the grocery store and when I got back home I went in the house without the groceries looking through the fridge for something to eat. Not a clue that I had left the groceries in the car until 10 minutes later.
Bingo. This is what is helpful. This video is absolutely ridiculous and over-the-top. If you want to be authentic. Where's the groceries?
I'm 63, been suffering with OCD for decades. I have within the last couple of years developed ADD. I think it was caused by being on the internet, and constantly jumping from one subject to another.
I love how you express ADHD and make it a positive thing. It’s brilliant. More people need to think of it like this
And when we do think like this ourselves…. Just more neurotypicals and the world around us needs to.
Those closest to us or those we work with.
Those on the margins can enjoy our quirkiness but when they are intertwined or depend on us, the real stuff comes out.
I’m in love with this woman. So punctual and genuine.
I remember decades ago getting a call from my neighbor saying I left the trunk open. The good old days
I think I actually forgot that neighbors used to be neighborly like this
I am in a small city in the Midwest and we at this corner are still like this.
@@joannbaumann4028lucky you. Hope it lingers.
@@sourgreendolly7685true.