I literally started crying at the last one, I have always been feeling worthless because I’m not a professional and can’t help my best friend through their struggle. I‘ve always been a person that tends to develop way too much empathy to the point where their problems decide and become my life...I really need to work on that I think
I only have one criticism. Please don't say you can't love someone else until you love yourself. People with depression, eating disorders, mental health issues are fully capable of loving another person even if they're not there yet with themselves.
You actually can't You can simulate something that resembles loving others, somethind like a distorted form of love, but it can't be actually loving somebody
Clara Punkie I agree with you!!!! I do not love myself at all but I love my son and family very much. So yes it is possible. That's the case for me anyways
This is sort of true, but I live with someone who has depression and bi polar disorder. Often, he lashes out at others because he is not happy with himself. Although this may not always be the case, it is common enough to treat others poorly if you have a negative perception of yourself.
Tbh, I've never loved myself, or at least I can't remember to ever feel that way, but by knowing how much love I'm missing, I know what some people maybe need. I love my best friend so dearly, that's why I've been watching videos like this the past hour.
I think another good point is to not mention the person's weight. Even if you might think it's positive, it can have a negative affect on the person with the eating disorder.
I remember when I told a friend about my eating disorder before I went into recovery and he took it upon himself to research! That always blows my mind whenever I think about it, but it also made me feel loved. I've been in recovery for two years now!
One of the biggest advice : NEVER EVER comments on someone’s weight, plate, food ect… please don’t say things like « oh I’m glad you’re eating again » or « wow you gained weight I’m proud of you », just keep the « I’m proud of you », not « you seem healthier » or « Now that all of this is behind you » because most of the time, it’s not, even if we gained weight we’re still struggling, the thoughts remains and sometimes it’s even worse mentally after weight gain because we lose or sense of control that felt like a safe place.
One of my close friends was diagnosed with 2 health/eating disorders. Her doctors suggested to have a friend who she trusts to help her through school, I’m gonna ask the principle for the same schedule and seating arrangements so I could be with her and help with panic attacks along with making sure she eats at lunch and all that. I’m not gonna get into detail but I’m more than happy to take this responsibility to help my friend with this challenging battle. It’s gonna be good for both of us:)
I'm so glad that there's so many here that's willing to help a friend in need. But remember, your mental health matters too. Before you try to heal someone, ask them if they are willing to give up the things that makes them sick.
Where was this video a couple of months ago? :P One of my friends suffered from an eating disorder (she under-ate and overexercised) and I did a ton of research in order to help her. The fifth tip is the most important. I was so frustrated all the time because I wanted to help her but she didn't want to get the help cause she wasn't "bad enough" (which we know is bullshit). At some point I started working on my binge eating with my therapist and I was going through tough times. Things she told me were effecting me really badly. So I just told her that I can't handle it right now (her numbers and food choices) and I'm not talking to her about it, B-U-T if she's ready to start recovery I'm more than willing to help her get everything that she needs and she should tell me.
Hi, I am Sarah from Saudi Arabia and I have been watching your videos lately and they're very informative. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart, since you have been a great help to me. We lack professional treatment centers in our country (in the Middle East region in general) /it's not really accepted in society if you went to one or took any prescription medication. I show many signs of borderline and depression as well. I am taking things day by day since I don't have any other option, and again your videos have been a great help. Thank you.
How do you handle the guilt associated with parents who get emotional when they are concerned? I shut down when my mother is in tears because I can't handle my own emotions plus hers. You're awesome Kati- love the amazing contribution you are making to so many lives!
my friend came out and told me she’s anorexic and wanted help confronting her girlfriend so she could be supported by her and i’m so glad she chose to talk to ME over anyone else because i had bulimia but even still i’m struggling to think about how i would want people to treat me and the correct things to say to her to be supportive with an eating disorder since i haven’t really been bulimic in ages. this video helped a lot, thanks! i’m just really worried about her since she seems really tired and out of it, she sits next to me at lunch and she hasn’t eaten anything except her milk carton
I just told my friend that I think she has an eating disorder, she hasn't seen the message yet but I really hope she doesn't get mad because I decided to tell her because I really care about her and want the best for her. Edit: she just saw it and said "lol I don't have that problem", that really concerns me because if she doesn't get help she could get worse, she clearly shows a lot signs, she once literally said "I mean, I would eat more if it wasn't because of my weight" and she's soooo skinny like I weight more than her and still people always tell me that I'm really skinny, so you can imagine lol
Hey , im going through the same thing. My best friend is going through an eating disorder and i told her once that shes been eating so much less and she denied it saying shes okay. She got suuuper skinny and im really worried about her. How was it with ur friend?were u able to help her?
@@elam944 hi, i'm so sorry that your friend is going through that. Luckly things got better with my best friend, she realized that she had an eating disorder after a year of me telling her and she's getting professional help.
@@roseifyy thats amazing! Can u pls tell me how to convince her to seek help?she doesnt listen to her family and refuses to achnowledge her disorder. Will it work if i straight up tell her she has an eating disorder or are there any other ways?
@@elam944 oh I'm not sure how you could help her realize that she has an eating disorder, because even though I told my friend that she probably had one for a long time she didn't listen to me and she just laughed it off, she ended up realizing that she had an eating disorder by herself, so the only advice I can give you is to tell her that you're worried about her and that she should at least get it checked with a psychologist just to be sure
@@roseifyy thank you so much for ur help, i appreciate it! I hope she will realise it as soon as possible before its too late, and i will help her as much as i can. Again thank u
I have been diagnosed with anorexia like 2 years ago, now I’m weight restored but mentally I’m definitely not there, I’m struggling a lot with depression and stuff. And now, one of my best friend got diagnosed with an Ed too, and god, I don’t know how to act ? I mean, I should now how I would have liked to be helped but I don’t know what to say, I just feel so helpless in front of her, I let her know I’m here for her and stuff but I don’t know what to do… I would like to push her trough recovery but I know how hard it is to hear someone saying that to you… I just don’t want her to go trough the same things as I did, to suffer in the same way.
I'm trying to find the way to open up to mom but it's so hard cause she's so controlling and has always expected me to be perfect in everything:clothes,manners,education,piano lessons,languages,school,university...ugh...it's so hard...but i gotta find a way.
As a mom I could tell you that sometimes we go through the motions and don't realize what is going on in front of our noses.Tell her that you need to talk don't wait .Good luck. Your life is precious, take care.
Thanks a bunch! This is super helpful. Could you do one on self harm as well? I think that one is super difficult to know what to do to help someone who self harms.
These are really good tips, thank you! I struggle with bulimia my self and my roommate checks up on me regulary with just talking about my life and also his life and tells me that he noticed it when he did (when I come withh reary easy out of the bathroom) but puts no pressure on me! This is also so important: don't force us to do anything it won't work! He's just caring and says regulary that I always can come to him for help - knowing this helps me with my recovery and therapy
Thank you Kati for making these videos they're super helpful especially if people don't understand what you're going through! Your videos brighten up my Mondays:)
Thank you so much for this, i tried this with my girlfriend and I am happy to say that she is doing so well and she is doing so well and I just want to thank you for the tips. 💓💓💓
I've always heard that saying, that we need to learn to love ourselves fully before we can love others, but how do you actually do that? How do you work on accepting who you are and loving yourself, so you are able to understand, love and help others to the best of your ability? Keep up the great work Kati :)
Once I tell my family about it, this is DEFINITELY something that I need to show them! I have a question: so my psychiatrist said that I'm in the in the beginnings of having bulimia, but I was wondering if it's common to sometimes not want to purge, but you feel like you have to punish yourself for eating so much? Thank you, and thank you for all that you do! You're such an amazing person! ❤ XOXO #KatiFAQ
This is really helpful, thank you! One thing I'd like to hear a bit more about is number 5. How do we take care of ourselves? What does that look like?
Hi kati could you please do a video specifically for how parents can help their kids who have eating disorders? Especially regarding how to approach the subject when the kid is denying it or lying about it. I have a family member who really needs help. There are so many "how to tell your parents" videos on RUclips but so little info on "how to approach your kid/teen" on the subject. The teen is in denial and lying about it and I'm so worried but I have no idea what to tell the parents to do other than what *not* to do (aka don't punish or shame her).
Thank you! I have a best friend that got bullied a lot and got called fat...at lunch she, wont eat. Me and my small group of friend have been helping her, She is a shy kid too....so well, earlier she said "Thank you for helping me"
hi kati, could you do a vid on pure O OCD? One of the ways mine manifests itself is in my eating habits which has led my family to think I have an ED. A big part of my compulsions involve "starting over" and resetting myself so I go between eating absurdly healthy to binging on anything and everything for various amounts of time (also effects my hygiene & educational/professional life) and its made my weight extremely unstable for years now.
Let me start off by saying KATIE YOU ARE THE BEST!! Now boring stuff: I can't really tell anybody about my "eating disorder" bc they will just be pissed and I really don't want to be a disappointment. Sometimes I wish I could get past the anxiety that occurs when I talk or think about talking to someone about it but I can't. I have issues with Low self-esteem and self harm. I feel like my issues aren't serious enough. My mom has had problems with depression in the past but now she thinks medication anything else is useless, she wouldn't help me verify asked. I'll be 18 in May so I'll be able to work that out by myself, and probably all these other issues that I'm dealing with. Anyway Katie you're such a big help thank you for all the videos you put out keep doing the great work!!!💜💜 Sorry for spelling/grammar I ramble and I'm a pathetic dyslexic :/
Great video Kati! I am currently struggling with my recovery from 14 years of ED behaviour. Needless to say it's taking some time for recovery to really sink in, despite my willingness and good intentions. I am quite candid with my friends and family now, and have made public posts on Facebook for the sake of demonstrating that its okay to be vulnerable and to show that more often than not other people will in turn be vulnerable themselves when we do, despite our tendency to believe they will tear us down. :) Long story short, I'm posting this video to my Facebook page. Thank you so much for shedding some helpful and concise insight that can help my extended circle.
My best friend has Anorexia or BDD. I want to be as supportive as I can, but hearing her talk about her weight and how bad it's gotten can make me have suicidal episodes. How can I help her without triggering my depression? I try my hardest to be happy for her whenever she eats and support her working out, but she sometimes over works or throws up. How do I help her the most in this situation?
I tried to help a friend with ED.... it ended up me feeling so bad because it hurts so much to know that she‘s in pain that now I‘m about to have an ED by myself...
Any tips on helping a friend who refuses treatment or doesn't really see the issue? There's only so muvh you can talk to them about in terms of hey i think you should be eating more. Any small things I can do? Bc I don't want to annoy her by bringing it up all the time
im struggling with a ed and has a friend who is as well I want to help her but i feel like im not doing as much as I can but i also feel like a huge hypocrite for not trying to better myself. I literally cry bc I care so much about her and hate seeing her struggle but im not sure if i myself am in the right place to help her
What should I do if it is very clear to ME that they are struggling with eating issues, but they are in denial? One of my friends will not eat AT all and even makes herself throw up, but when I ask her if she is ok or that I think she needs to talk to someone, she just says "I'm fine" and changes the subject. I really don't know what to do and I'm losing sleep over it, struggling in class because I'm always thinking about it; I'm really worried about her but she refuses to talk to anybody. So what do I do in that scenario?
i have a friend online and they live in a terrible home environment and im pretty sure they have an ed. i wanna do more research so i know what to say and not be disrespectful or pushy about it with them
someone i know has an eating disorder and is suicidal. I have done a lot of research about it and depression, with she also has. her parent know about it and she is seeing a psychologist but she feels that they are trying to take the control from her and now she wont tell her psychologist anything ore take help from her parents. she talks to me very openly about it(to the extent that i know where she vomits, when her parents wont let her use the bathroom) and i try to make her see that she is losing control but she is convinced that she is in full control and she dos not wont to stop her eating disorder. (her goal is 40 kg) is there a way to help her more?? i beg of you to tell me.
I have a question: When I tell my friend she looks amazing and doesn’t need to do anything to look skinnier, am I helping or is it an affirmation that she looks good because of her anorexia? -I also say that she would be my friend no matter how she looks, but is the first statement okay??
I think you shouldn't focus on the person's body and how they look but more on health and how they feel. When I was underwheigt many people complemented me for my body. They were trying to help me but I just developed a even bigger fear of gaining wheigt and looking different because I was sacred they wouldn't like me anymore
I developed anorexia because I kept having allergic reactions to chemical preservatives in all the boxed/pre-made food my grandparents kept buying. They almost never kept anything that wasn't junk food or ready to make foods. That and they let us eat candy all day during holidays, and as a child, I sure didn't know any better. Years later, I'm still struggling to eat even two meals a day and I'm starting to see signs of a thyroid disorder my dad has so...it's been rough and I'm scared to go to the doctor.
i don't have a diagnosed eating disorder but have something similar which my GP had never heard of before. i have a panic attack every single time i eat for no reason, nothing about body image or whatever just literally no reason so then i won't eat to stop them even though i get about 5 anyway every day. i don't know what to do no one ever really understands.
Hi, Kati! I am new to your channel and glad I found it! I am still in my undergrad program (psychology) but graduating this Fall! I will be applying for grad school soon after to get my masters in clinical mental health counseling... I really want to focus on helping someone with an addiction, especially eating disorders. Anyway, I was reading about yourself on your website and was wondering how you started in the inpatient eating disorder center. I am not sure where to go to find something like that in my area, how did you find it and apply? Was it an actual job? I suffer from BED and I have learned a lot about it and ways to overcome it (but I am still a work in progress) Thank you!
Hey Kati, any tips on how to help someone who doesn't accept they could have an eating disorder? I have a friend who occasionally makes themselves sick after a meal. It's not after every meal, they don't binge and purge or anything like that, just occasionally if they think they've over-eaten recently (even if they haven't). I'm not sure when something like this actually becomes an eating disorder (if it isn't already), but she see's at as just a throwaway thing that happens occasionally and isn't a big deal. I'm worried by it, even if she isn't because, if nothing else it could be the fist step to an eating disorder. I've only brought it up twice over the course of our friendship and I don't want to push it for fear of doing more harm. Is this something that I should be legitimately concerned about and how do I support her if so?
Well I straight up told my friends and they told me I was crazy, told my other friends wihout my permission, made me feel like shit about it, told me to just "not do it", and said I was completly fucking stupid because obviously it´s not a solution. I´m starting to go in deep in this disorder but I´m watching this so if someone ever tells me they are suffering from the same thing or I see a pattern myself, I know how to not be a fucking insensitive asshole and try give the support and love that I haven´t been given in my worst ed moments.
My bestfriend has been struggling and not eating for days and days. I’ve struggled with the same thing and even I don’t know what I can say or do to help her.
When I was in residential treatment they wouldn't let my boyfriend come see me. He supported me and I talked good about him all the time but I told about my family and the abuse and emotions and the people let the family see me. But not my boyfriend. It made me so angry.
my bsf i think has an eating disorder and i’m trying to help her realize and eat with her so she will eat but i’m afraid that i’m gonna make her feel like shes only doing it for me when i want her to do it for her idk what to do. she feels sick when she eats idk what to do
Any time is right, if you feel something is wrong you should talk to someone you know or a psychiatrist in order to help yourself before something happens x
I have a very specific question. I have a friend that is suffering anorexia and depression. She has a very difficult family so my friends and I can't count on them. She has suicidal thoughts and I don't know what to do. We live far away and because of the pandemic everything is harder. Is very difficult to communicate and doesn't want medical help. I'm really sorry what should I do?
I have a bad eating disorder, and now I found out one of my friends has one too. He's really underweight and I'm so scared for him. Is this how my other friends feel about me?
Not just with ED, but with supporting anyone who is in need of support, you can't let it be at a cost to your own well being. If you can't bring yourself into the relationship healthy, then you'll both be worse off for it.
Hi Kati, how do I support my girlfriend when we both have eating disorders? I am coping better most of the time but I am no where near recovered so anything she tells me is really triggering and I don't know how to help her... Thanks x
Rachel Lisa I have no advice for you I am sorry!! I just wanted to say I am sorry both of you guys struggle with an eating disorder. I couldn't imagine me and my spouse both struggling. It must be so hard for you. Best of luck!!
My ex girlfriend or whatever she considers us to be is suffering from this. Is there anyway I could help. She hates herself and has just had a negative perception of everything.
Kati could you give me a shoutout in your next video? My real name is Drew (girl) and your videos have been so helpful and made me realize that I needed help for my eating disorder. I have made progress, I was at a stable weight for almost 2 months but recently had a relapse and it made me remember how bad it was and I don't want to go back there. Thank you for all you do.
I tried telling my girlfriend that I have an ed twice but she ignored me. I think she doesn't know what it is so idk how to explain it to her without making it awkward or making it seem like I want attention?
I have a serious question. So my friend is not eating at all, she sleeps during lunch and when she shows signs of passing out or she feels faint she will have a health bar. The problem is that she keeps saying that she forgets to eat or she doesn't have food laying around the house. I know she is tired being hungry and I want to help her but I don't know the best way I can. I don't know the name of her eating disorder nor how to approach this. What do you suggest?
My friend stopped eating because her uncle called her fat. We were all on call and my friend said she needed more food and I said me too. She said That she needed more air bc She doesn’t eat anymore but she laughed it off. What should I do?
hi! I already asked this on another video but I'm hoping for an answer so I'm asking again:) so I want to tell my parents that I think I might have an eating disorder but 1) I don't know how to tell them and 2) I'm afraid I'll get put impatient because I'm underweight. What do i do? please respond
just watched it but I really didn't want to talk to a therapist at a certain point in time so i got rid of it and now I can't go to therapy again cause the therapists my parents use make me uncomfortable so I need to figure out a way to slowly tell them. sorry xx
Okay so my mom has been on and off with anorexia and bulimia for years (I’m 14 and she’s been doing this for longer than that) but she tries to make it seem okay. For instance, if I tell her to not buy a new pack of cigarettes she’ll tell me that she then needs to make herself throw up because it’s either one or the other. It’s very frustrating because I know she isn’t okay but her and my dad won’t listen to me. I really feel like she needs to go back to treatment or something like that but my dad says there’s nothing we can do and he just acts as if nothing is happening. I feel like I’m alone in this. I’m only in high school so I don’t have any control over what happens but it’s a very unstable environment and I know she needs help. Any suggestions on what to do?
My friend has an ED, but he can't get treatment. He often comes to me to vent, but I have no idea what to say to help him. I listen, and I let him know I'm there, I give him compliments but I don't knoooow help
This is a bit late, but sometimes just being there to listen is the best thing you can do. I would advise against complimenting them as that might just end up frustrating them, as opposed to making them feel better. In what way can they not get treatment? If nobody knows, tell a parent/close family member of theirs, even if they don’t want you do. Their health & life is more important than your friendship, as awful as that sounds. I really hope they recover and that you manage to cope with it okay, it’s so stressful having a best friend with an ED :(❤️
I literally started crying at the last one, I have always been feeling worthless because I’m not a professional and can’t help my best friend through their struggle. I‘ve always been a person that tends to develop way too much empathy to the point where their problems decide and become my life...I really need to work on that I think
yea issa lifestyle doea
realize that nothing you say or do can stop a person from having an eating disorder no matter who you are. 🖤
Your most likely a empath I am to I feel your struggle be careful often times people don’t reciprocate those feelings you have back and use you
You do and you can
same. My best friend told me yesterday and i am so worried and i feel useless.
I only have one criticism. Please don't say you can't love someone else until you love yourself. People with depression, eating disorders, mental health issues are fully capable of loving another person even if they're not there yet with themselves.
You actually can't
You can simulate something that resembles loving others, somethind like a distorted form of love, but it can't be actually loving somebody
Clara Punkie I agree with you!!!! I do not love myself at all but I love my son and family very much. So yes it is possible. That's the case for me anyways
This is sort of true, but I live with someone who has depression and bi polar disorder. Often, he lashes out at others because he is not happy with himself. Although this may not always be the case, it is common enough to treat others poorly if you have a negative perception of yourself.
Tbh, I've never loved myself, or at least I can't remember to ever feel that way, but by knowing how much love I'm missing, I know what some people maybe need. I love my best friend so dearly, that's why I've been watching videos like this the past hour.
@@Quilbo Bullshit.
I think another good point is to not mention the person's weight. Even if you might think it's positive, it can have a negative affect on the person with the eating disorder.
emma bradshaw yeah but that is what NOT to do. I find it helpful to know what to do, rather that what not to
I remember when I told a friend about my eating disorder before I went into recovery and he took it upon himself to research! That always blows my mind whenever I think about it, but it also made me feel loved. I've been in recovery for two years now!
Emily Melo that’s what I’m doing right now. My friend just told me she has anorexia and im researching like crazy on how to help her
One of the biggest advice : NEVER EVER comments on someone’s weight, plate, food ect… please don’t say things like « oh I’m glad you’re eating again » or « wow you gained weight I’m proud of you », just keep the « I’m proud of you », not « you seem healthier » or « Now that all of this is behind you » because most of the time, it’s not, even if we gained weight we’re still struggling, the thoughts remains and sometimes it’s even worse mentally after weight gain because we lose or sense of control that felt like a safe place.
One of my close friends was diagnosed with 2 health/eating disorders. Her doctors suggested to have a friend who she trusts to help her through school, I’m gonna ask the principle for the same schedule and seating arrangements so I could be with her and help with panic attacks along with making sure she eats at lunch and all that. I’m not gonna get into detail but I’m more than happy to take this responsibility to help my friend with this challenging battle. It’s gonna be good for both of us:)
You are so sweet !!
Thank you Kati! My best friend has anorexia, this is really helpful.
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) thank you!!
I absolutely love how you say "we & us" so that we never feel alone. Thank you for always being there and educating us, Kati ❤
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) OMG YOU REPLIED THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤❤❤❤
KristenBrendan AndBaby I love how she uses us and we as well. Kati is so great!!!! ❤❤
My gf has a eating disorder I'm trying learn as much as possible to help thank you for this video
I'm so glad that there's so many here that's willing to help a friend in need. But remember, your mental health matters too. Before you try to heal someone, ask them if they are willing to give up the things that makes them sick.
Where was this video a couple of months ago? :P
One of my friends suffered from an eating disorder (she under-ate and overexercised) and I did a ton of research in order to help her.
The fifth tip is the most important. I was so frustrated all the time because I wanted to help her but she didn't want to get the help cause she wasn't "bad enough" (which we know is bullshit).
At some point I started working on my binge eating with my therapist and I was going through tough times. Things she told me were effecting me really badly. So I just told her that I can't handle it right now (her numbers and food choices) and I'm not talking to her about it, B-U-T if she's ready to start recovery I'm more than willing to help her get everything that she needs and she should tell me.
My friend just died after 35 years of struggle. She had all kinds of help and didn’t want it.
It’s heartbreaking!
Hi, I am Sarah from Saudi Arabia and I have been watching your videos lately and they're very informative. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart, since you have been a great help to me. We lack professional treatment centers in our country (in the Middle East region in general) /it's not really accepted in society if you went to one or took any prescription medication. I show many signs of borderline and depression as well. I am taking things day by day since I don't have any other option, and again your videos have been a great help. Thank you.
How do you handle the guilt associated with parents who get emotional when they are concerned? I shut down when my mother is in tears because I can't handle my own emotions plus hers. You're awesome Kati- love the amazing contribution you are making to so many lives!
my friend came out and told me she’s anorexic and wanted help confronting her girlfriend so she could be supported by her and i’m so glad she chose to talk to ME over anyone else because i had bulimia but even still i’m struggling to think about how i would want people to treat me and the correct things to say to her to be supportive with an eating disorder since i haven’t really been bulimic in ages. this video helped a lot, thanks! i’m just really worried about her since she seems really tired and out of it, she sits next to me at lunch and she hasn’t eaten anything except her milk carton
Perfect!! Sharing this with my family
I just told my friend that I think she has an eating disorder, she hasn't seen the message yet but I really hope she doesn't get mad because I decided to tell her because I really care about her and want the best for her.
Edit: she just saw it and said "lol I don't have that problem", that really concerns me because if she doesn't get help she could get worse, she clearly shows a lot signs, she once literally said "I mean, I would eat more if it wasn't because of my weight" and she's soooo skinny like I weight more than her and still people always tell me that I'm really skinny, so you can imagine lol
Hey , im going through the same thing. My best friend is going through an eating disorder and i told her once that shes been eating so much less and she denied it saying shes okay. She got suuuper skinny and im really worried about her. How was it with ur friend?were u able to help her?
@@elam944 hi, i'm so sorry that your friend is going through that. Luckly things got better with my best friend, she realized that she had an eating disorder after a year of me telling her and she's getting professional help.
@@roseifyy thats amazing! Can u pls tell me how to convince her to seek help?she doesnt listen to her family and refuses to achnowledge her disorder. Will it work if i straight up tell her she has an eating disorder or are there any other ways?
@@elam944 oh I'm not sure how you could help her realize that she has an eating disorder, because even though I told my friend that she probably had one for a long time she didn't listen to me and she just laughed it off, she ended up realizing that she had an eating disorder by herself, so the only advice I can give you is to tell her that you're worried about her and that she should at least get it checked with a psychologist just to be sure
@@roseifyy thank you so much for ur help, i appreciate it! I hope she will realise it as soon as possible before its too late, and i will help her as much as i can. Again thank u
Number 5 hits me in my soul. My goodness, you are on point.
Thankyou, my girlfiend is going through a eating dissorder and I think this will help
Can you make a video on Hypochondria/Health Anxiety?! Thanks!
thanks dad
I have been diagnosed with anorexia like 2 years ago, now I’m weight restored but mentally I’m definitely not there, I’m struggling a lot with depression and stuff. And now, one of my best friend got diagnosed with an Ed too, and god, I don’t know how to act ? I mean, I should now how I would have liked to be helped but I don’t know what to say, I just feel so helpless in front of her, I let her know I’m here for her and stuff but I don’t know what to do…
I would like to push her trough recovery but I know how hard it is to hear someone saying that to you…
I just don’t want her to go trough the same things as I did, to suffer in the same way.
Thank you! I needed this, I’m 15 and my brother has one, it’s really scary as he never had any mental struggles, I needed to be educated with ED’s
Hahahahahaha ur pfp
I'm trying to find the way to open up to mom but it's so hard cause she's so controlling and has always expected me to be perfect in everything:clothes,manners,education,piano lessons,languages,school,university...ugh...it's so hard...but i gotta find a way.
As a mom I could tell you that sometimes we go through the motions and don't realize what is going on in front of our noses.Tell her that you need to talk don't wait .Good luck. Your life is precious, take care.
Great information! I'm sharing this video with my husband, thanks Kati!
augafey do you have an eating disorder?
Thanks a bunch! This is super helpful. Could you do one on self harm as well? I think that one is super difficult to know what to do to help someone who self harms.
Oh yeah! I remember that video! I forgot. The title is kind of confusing. It makes it seem it's more directed towards the person who self harms.
Thank you!
These are really good tips, thank you! I struggle with bulimia my self and my roommate checks up on me regulary with just talking about my life and also his life and tells me that he noticed it when he did (when I come withh reary easy out of the bathroom) but puts no pressure on me! This is also so important: don't force us to do anything it won't work! He's just caring and says regulary that I always can come to him for help - knowing this helps me with my recovery and therapy
+Fresh Arche also, we both study psychology so we know what's up with this disorder
Thank you for this Kati! My sister was unfortunately diagnosed with anorexia a few months ago.
Thank you Kati for making these videos they're super helpful especially if people don't understand what you're going through! Your videos brighten up my Mondays:)
One of my friends hasn’t eaten and I didn’t wanna tell him to just go eat, this really helped thank you sm.
thank you so much for this
#5 fucked me up, thank you
Thank you so much for this, i tried this with my girlfriend and I am happy to say that she is doing so well and she is doing so well and I just want to thank you for the tips. 💓💓💓
Can you do this for people with anxiety?
This was very helpful for school purposes !
What do you do when they are denial? And the comorbidity of associated issues?
I've always heard that saying, that we need to learn to love ourselves fully before we can love others, but how do you actually do that? How do you work on accepting who you are and loving yourself, so you are able to understand, love and help others to the best of your ability? Keep up the great work Kati :)
Once I tell my family about it, this is DEFINITELY something that I need to show them!
I have a question: so my psychiatrist said that I'm in the in the beginnings of having bulimia, but I was wondering if it's common to sometimes not want to purge, but you feel like you have to punish yourself for eating so much? Thank you, and thank you for all that you do! You're such an amazing person! ❤ XOXO #KatiFAQ
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) Thank you so much! 😊 I definitely will! I hope you had a wonderful weekend and have a great week ahead! 😊 XOXO
Thanks for sharing your knowledge. Your videos have helped me so much. Please keep making videos.
A lot of these can work for things other than Ed! :) great vid Kati
This is really helpful, thank you! One thing I'd like to hear a bit more about is number 5. How do we take care of ourselves? What does that look like?
So answered a lot of my questions thanks Kati! I am so happy I found you I look forward to seeing your videos here and Facebook 👏🏼
Hi kati could you please do a video specifically for how parents can help their kids who have eating disorders? Especially regarding how to approach the subject when the kid is denying it or lying about it. I have a family member who really needs help. There are so many "how to tell your parents" videos on RUclips but so little info on "how to approach your kid/teen" on the subject. The teen is in denial and lying about it and I'm so worried but I have no idea what to tell the parents to do other than what *not* to do (aka don't punish or shame her).
Thank you! I have a best friend that got bullied a lot and got called fat...at lunch she, wont eat. Me and my small group of friend have been helping her, She is a shy kid too....so well, earlier she said "Thank you for helping me"
awsome vid kati as always hope you are doing OK looking forward to the rest of this week.
I won't be on I can't dunno how to use it awwww.
hi kati, could you do a vid on pure O OCD? One of the ways mine manifests itself is in my eating habits which has led my family to think I have an ED. A big part of my compulsions involve "starting over" and resetting myself so I go between eating absurdly healthy to binging on anything and everything for various amounts of time (also effects my hygiene & educational/professional life) and its made my weight extremely unstable for years now.
Let me start off by saying KATIE YOU ARE THE BEST!!
Now boring stuff: I can't really tell anybody about my "eating disorder" bc they will just be pissed and I really don't want to be a disappointment. Sometimes I wish I could get past the anxiety that occurs when I talk or think about talking to someone about it but I can't. I have issues with Low self-esteem and self harm. I feel like my issues aren't serious enough. My mom has had problems with depression in the past but now she thinks medication anything else is useless, she wouldn't help me verify asked. I'll be 18 in May so I'll be able to work that out by myself, and probably all these other issues that I'm dealing with. Anyway Katie you're such a big help thank you for all the videos you put out keep doing the great work!!!💜💜
Sorry for spelling/grammar I ramble and I'm a pathetic dyslexic :/
Thank you. This is so timely. I just found out that I friend of mine has anorexia, and I've been unsure about how to support her.
Great video Kati! I am currently struggling with my recovery from 14 years of ED behaviour. Needless to say it's taking some time for recovery to really sink in, despite my willingness and good intentions.
I am quite candid with my friends and family now, and have made public posts on Facebook for the sake of demonstrating that its okay to be vulnerable and to show that more often than not other people will in turn be vulnerable themselves when we do, despite our tendency to believe they will tear us down. :)
Long story short, I'm posting this video to my Facebook page. Thank you so much for shedding some helpful and concise insight that can help my extended circle.
Thanks so much for this, your tips have helped me a lot.
I love this video Kati! Keep up the good work, you help so many! 💕
Katie, you're looking extra extra beautiful wow. You're glowing! You look amazing!
awesome video as always!! hope you're doing well! xoxo
Thank you so much for making this :D :)
Katie, you are so great! I shared with everyone! :)
My best friend has Anorexia or BDD. I want to be as supportive as I can, but hearing her talk about her weight and how bad it's gotten can make me have suicidal episodes. How can I help her without triggering my depression? I try my hardest to be happy for her whenever she eats and support her working out, but she sometimes over works or throws up. How do I help her the most in this situation?
I tried to help a friend with ED.... it ended up me feeling so bad because it hurts so much to know that she‘s in pain that now I‘m about to have an ED by myself...
Any tips on helping a friend who refuses treatment or doesn't really see the issue? There's only so muvh you can talk to them about in terms of hey i think you should be eating more. Any small things I can do? Bc I don't want to annoy her by bringing it up all the time
im struggling with a ed and has a friend who is as well I want to help her but i feel like im not doing as much as I can but i also feel like a huge hypocrite for not trying to better myself. I literally cry bc I care so much about her and hate seeing her struggle but im not sure if i myself am in the right place to help her
What should I do if it is very clear to ME that they are struggling with eating issues, but they are in denial? One of my friends will not eat AT all and even makes herself throw up, but when I ask her if she is ok or that I think she needs to talk to someone, she just says "I'm fine" and changes the subject. I really don't know what to do and I'm losing sleep over it, struggling in class because I'm always thinking about it; I'm really worried about her but she refuses to talk to anybody. So what do I do in that scenario?
i have a friend online and they live in a terrible home environment and im pretty sure they have an ed. i wanna do more research so i know what to say and not be disrespectful or pushy about it with them
someone i know has an eating disorder and is suicidal. I have done a lot of research about it and depression, with she also has. her parent know about it and she is seeing a psychologist but she feels that they are trying to take the control from her and now she wont tell her psychologist anything ore take help from her parents. she talks to me very openly about it(to the extent that i know where she vomits, when her parents wont let her use the bathroom) and i try to make her see that she is losing control but she is convinced that she is in full control and she dos not wont to stop her eating disorder.
(her goal is 40 kg)
is there a way to help her more?? i beg of you to tell me.
I have a question:
When I tell my friend she looks amazing and doesn’t need to do anything to look skinnier, am I helping or is it an affirmation that she looks good because of her anorexia?
-I also say that she would be my friend no matter how she looks, but is the first statement okay??
I think you shouldn't focus on the person's body and how they look but more on health and how they feel. When I was underwheigt many people complemented me for my body. They were trying to help me but I just developed a even bigger fear of gaining wheigt and looking different because I was sacred they wouldn't like me anymore
@@emmaneher3084 OMG NOOO THATS NOT THE MESSAGE I WANNA SEND!! Thank you I will not say that again!! Also I hope U are doing better!!
my friend doesn’t feel comfortable in their skin it’s hard for them and i don’t know how to support them
I developed anorexia because I kept having allergic reactions to chemical preservatives in all the boxed/pre-made food my grandparents kept buying. They almost never kept anything that wasn't junk food or ready to make foods. That and they let us eat candy all day during holidays, and as a child, I sure didn't know any better.
Years later, I'm still struggling to eat even two meals a day and I'm starting to see signs of a thyroid disorder my dad has so...it's been rough and I'm scared to go to the doctor.
What if the person doesn't want to see a therapist?
Hi Kati, when you see a therapist and a psychiatrist do they always give you a diagnosis? love your videos!
***** thank you! Have a wonderful day!
i don't have a diagnosed eating disorder but have something similar which my GP had never heard of before. i have a panic attack every single time i eat for no reason, nothing about body image or whatever just literally no reason so then i won't eat to stop them even though i get about 5 anyway every day. i don't know what to do no one ever really understands.
Hi, Kati! I am new to your channel and glad I found it! I am still in my undergrad program (psychology) but graduating this Fall! I will be applying for grad school soon after to get my masters in clinical mental health counseling... I really want to focus on helping someone with an addiction, especially eating disorders.
Anyway, I was reading about yourself on your website and was wondering how you started in the inpatient eating disorder center. I am not sure where to go to find something like that in my area, how did you find it and apply? Was it an actual job?
I suffer from BED and I have learned a lot about it and ways to overcome it (but I am still a work in progress)
Thank you!
Hey Kati, any tips on how to help someone who doesn't accept they could have an eating disorder? I have a friend who occasionally makes themselves sick after a meal. It's not after every meal, they don't binge and purge or anything like that, just occasionally if they think they've over-eaten recently (even if they haven't). I'm not sure when something like this actually becomes an eating disorder (if it isn't already), but she see's at as just a throwaway thing that happens occasionally and isn't a big deal. I'm worried by it, even if she isn't because, if nothing else it could be the fist step to an eating disorder. I've only brought it up twice over the course of our friendship and I don't want to push it for fear of doing more harm. Is this something that I should be legitimately concerned about and how do I support her if so?
Well I straight up told my friends and they told me I was crazy, told my other friends wihout my permission, made me feel like shit about it, told me to just "not do it", and said I was completly fucking stupid because obviously it´s not a solution. I´m starting to go in deep in this disorder but I´m watching this so if someone ever tells me they are suffering from the same thing or I see a pattern myself, I know how to not be a fucking insensitive asshole and try give the support and love that I haven´t been given in my worst ed moments.
My bestfriend has been struggling and not eating for days and days. I’ve struggled with the same thing and even I don’t know what I can say or do to help her.
hi hru? i miss your videos i hope everything is alright
Hey, Kati! Can you make a video about dermatillomania?
Oh, thanks. Sorry, never saw that video.
When I was in residential treatment they wouldn't let my boyfriend come see me. He supported me and I talked good about him all the time but I told about my family and the abuse and emotions and the people let the family see me. But not my boyfriend. It made me so angry.
my bsf i think has an eating disorder and i’m trying to help her realize and eat with her so she will eat but i’m afraid that i’m gonna make her feel like shes only doing it for me when i want her to do it for her idk what to do. she feels sick when she eats idk what to do
when people say they care but don't check on you, oof it hurts fr
Oh... The 5th one hurt...
i love this! thank you!(: xx
Thank u i try to help people for tiktok and they are like 6-12 year old its sad
Does anybody have a working link to the ED workbook?
I wish I could show this video my past self.
At what point should someone talk to someone about an eating disorder? I think I have one, but I don't know when to bring it up to my psychiatrist
Any time is right, if you feel something is wrong you should talk to someone you know or a psychiatrist in order to help yourself before something happens x
I just got of my relationship with my (now ex) boyfriend who had bulimia
I have a very specific question. I have a friend that is suffering anorexia and depression. She has a very difficult family so my friends and I can't count on them. She has suicidal thoughts and I don't know what to do. We live far away and because of the pandemic everything is harder. Is very difficult to communicate and doesn't want medical help. I'm really sorry what should I do?
I have a bad eating disorder, and now I found out one of my friends has one too. He's really underweight and I'm so scared for him. Is this how my other friends feel about me?
Dahlia Rasmussen most likely yes be there for eachother!
Not just with ED, but with supporting anyone who is in need of support, you can't let it be at a cost to your own well being. If you can't bring yourself into the relationship healthy, then you'll both be worse off for it.
Hi Kati, how do I support my girlfriend when we both have eating disorders? I am coping better most of the time but I am no where near recovered so anything she tells me is really triggering and I don't know how to help her... Thanks x
Rachel Lisa I have no advice for you I am sorry!! I just wanted to say I am sorry both of you guys struggle with an eating disorder. I couldn't imagine me and my spouse both struggling. It must be so hard for you. Best of luck!!
My ex girlfriend or whatever she considers us to be is suffering from this. Is there anyway I could help. She hates herself and has just had a negative perception of everything.
How do I help my gf
Kati could you give me a shoutout in your next video? My real name is Drew (girl) and your videos have been so helpful and made me realize that I needed help for my eating disorder. I have made progress, I was at a stable weight for almost 2 months but recently had a relapse and it made me remember how bad it was and I don't want to go back there. Thank you for all you do.
I tried telling my girlfriend that I have an ed twice but she ignored me. I think she doesn't know what it is so idk how to explain it to her without making it awkward or making it seem like I want attention?
what song do you play at the end of your videos kati? its so catchy :D
I eat alot but still below the standard weight, i am 36 kg
I have a serious question. So my friend is not eating at all, she sleeps during lunch and when she shows signs of passing out or she feels faint she will have a health bar. The problem is that she keeps saying that she forgets to eat or she doesn't have food laying around the house. I know she is tired being hungry and I want to help her but I don't know the best way I can. I don't know the name of her eating disorder nor how to approach this. What do you suggest?
My friend stopped eating because her uncle called her fat. We were all on call and my friend said she needed more food and I said me too. She said That she needed more air bc She doesn’t eat anymore but she laughed it off. What should I do?
hi! I already asked this on another video but I'm hoping for an answer so I'm asking again:) so I want to tell my parents that I think I might have an eating disorder but 1) I don't know how to tell them and 2) I'm afraid I'll get put impatient because I'm underweight. What do i do? please respond
just watched it but I really didn't want to talk to a therapist at a certain point in time so i got rid of it and now I can't go to therapy again cause the therapists my parents use make me uncomfortable so I need to figure out a way to slowly tell them. sorry xx
Okay so my mom has been on and off with anorexia and bulimia for years (I’m 14 and she’s been doing this for longer than that) but she tries to make it seem okay. For instance, if I tell her to not buy a new pack of cigarettes she’ll tell me that she then needs to make herself throw up because it’s either one or the other. It’s very frustrating because I know she isn’t okay but her and my dad won’t listen to me. I really feel like she needs to go back to treatment or something like that but my dad says there’s nothing we can do and he just acts as if nothing is happening. I feel like I’m alone in this. I’m only in high school so I don’t have any control over what happens but it’s a very unstable environment and I know she needs help. Any suggestions on what to do?
My friend has an ED, but he can't get treatment. He often comes to me to vent, but I have no idea what to say to help him. I listen, and I let him know I'm there, I give him compliments but I don't knoooow help
This is a bit late, but sometimes just being there to listen is the best thing you can do. I would advise against complimenting them as that might just end up frustrating them, as opposed to making them feel better. In what way can they not get treatment? If nobody knows, tell a parent/close family member of theirs, even if they don’t want you do. Their health & life is more important than your friendship, as awful as that sounds. I really hope they recover and that you manage to cope with it okay, it’s so stressful having a best friend with an ED :(❤️