I agree with Melinda on this one. I doubt he’d sit with her and be available to her and also to his own feelings. But he could learn to do that. Lead with vulnerability and humility is excellent advice!
Wonderful. Having received an email about this, may I assume I will be notified of future episodes? Or, do we sign up? I would like to make my couples clients aware of this new Real opportunity.
Glad you like this episode, more is coming, to make sure you don't miss any episode turn on the channel's notification, so when I post new content you get notified.
I have watched and enjoyed many talks and interviews with Terry, including the recent Relationship Summit, which was excellent.. and, having the two of you together is the BEST... hearing your different perspectives and your interaction is the most educational and informative... thank you so much... hope you continue with your real talk...
Belinda’s brilliant intuition and points of view about both attachment avoidance in the first question, and the systemic nature of that which we share and create from within our separate patterns of injury and abandonment in the second: all insights accurate, loving and profound. It’s nice to see the quality of your own humor and grace with each other. Thank you! both.
Terry, please let once in a while go of the idea that the man is the disconnected one and the woman suffers on it. It's a pattern that I see quite frequently in videos but it's not as predominant as people like to believe. Yes, we do have the tendency to disconnect instead of challenging when it comes to the women in our lives... but that's because we know better than to engage with them in those moments.
You are both adorable! Thank you for doing this , it is a great idea and very powerful to learn more. Pearls is wisdom and great modeling. Hugs from Switzerland
Thank you so much, Terry and Belinda for sharing your insights online together. I find your approach to breaking down the walls of patriarchy through RLT so refreshing and affirming in a world where we are bombarded with information that feeds the frenzy of disconnect, individualism, power, and control. I am really looking forward to your forthcoming episodes!
Thank you for the encouragement and insights! I’m so grateful to you both for the brave new experience packed in this new model of intimate relationship. 🥰 And as an aside thank you for sharing yourselves and representing your relationship so authentically. A breath of fresh air and a delight! Wishing you all the best, B
"You can't get mad at what you didn't ask for" Thanks Terry. I also appreciate Belinda's perspective. Although I am an amazing connector - I hug people all the time. Thank you for those amazing insights! We love you too Terry & Belinda!
Not only asking, but asking in a way your partner can hear, feel respected, and lean in to. And critical next step, reinforcing the positive when you get movement in the desired direction, even if just the start. Reinforce the effort and you're more likely to see more of it. -- Asking via critical or complaint will move your partner further away. Complaint or harsh/negative tone in acknowledgment of the effort will undermine the desire to continue striving to improve, if not make it even harder to regain momentum later.
I'm disppointed that Terry & Belinda didn't hear Corolla say that she DID ask, but Allan defended himself rather than giving her what she asked for. And hugging can be a very superficial kind of connection
I really want to thank you both for these videos. I study YOU! I did not grow up with good role models and disagreement TERRIFIES me. So much so that I have not been able to be in a relationship because the minute conflict shows up, I'm out. even in friendships, I have difficulty accessing that next level intimacy because, vulnerability leads to disagreement, disagreement leads to violence. I get activated just hearing you two briefly disagree intellectually, but I find it so helpful how you model moving through it. Seriously, thank you for disagreeing!
Nice that we finally get to see Belinda! What an awesome person!
Lesa Pascali -currently in small grp mentoring
I agree with Melinda on this one. I doubt he’d sit with her and be available to her and also to his own feelings. But he could learn to do that. Lead with vulnerability and humility is excellent advice!
Wonderful. Having received an email about this, may I assume I will be notified of future episodes? Or, do we sign up? I would like to make my couples clients aware of this new Real opportunity.
Glad you like this episode, more is coming, to make sure you don't miss any episode turn on the channel's notification, so when I post new content you get notified.
Enjoyed watching this very much. Great to hv both perspectives and see your dynamic working beautifully.
I have watched and enjoyed many talks and interviews with Terry, including the recent Relationship Summit, which was excellent.. and, having the two of you together is the BEST... hearing your different perspectives and your interaction is the most educational and informative... thank you so much... hope you continue with your real talk...
Belinda’s brilliant intuition and points of view about both attachment avoidance in the first question, and the systemic nature of that which we share and create from within our separate patterns of injury and abandonment in the second: all insights accurate, loving and profound. It’s nice to see the quality of your own humor and grace with each other. Thank you! both.
Absolutely loved this session with both of you!! Can’t wait for more!
@20:05 LOL So nice to see you two together, and working through your differences with grace and humor.
How wonderfull to see you together. Thank you for such quality content again
Terry, please let once in a while go of the idea that the man is the disconnected one and the woman suffers on it. It's a pattern that I see quite frequently in videos but it's not as predominant as people like to believe. Yes, we do have the tendency to disconnect instead of challenging when it comes to the women in our lives... but that's because we know better than to engage with them in those moments.
You are both adorable! Thank you for doing this , it is a great idea and very powerful to learn more. Pearls is wisdom and great modeling. Hugs from Switzerland
Thank you for your presentation and so candidly speaking to the questions presented. Please do more of this!!!
Super fun seeing you do this video together!! Great idea and hope it becomes a regular feature of your channel!!
Yes that is certainly our plan!
Love you both! So deeply, joyful and instructive. And what a great dynamic between you both- want more! Greatings from Germany 😘
Thank you so much, Terry and Belinda for sharing your insights online together. I find your approach to breaking down the walls of patriarchy through RLT so refreshing and affirming in a world where we are bombarded with information that feeds the frenzy of disconnect, individualism, power, and control. I am really looking forward to your forthcoming episodes!
Thank you for the encouragement and insights! I’m so grateful to you both for the brave new experience packed in this new model of intimate relationship. 🥰 And as an aside thank you for sharing yourselves and representing your relationship so authentically. A breath of fresh air and a delight!
Wishing you all the best,
B
Inspiring, thanks! I went off to hug my husband right away!
"You can't get mad at what you didn't ask for" Thanks Terry. I also appreciate Belinda's perspective. Although I am an amazing connector - I hug people all the time. Thank you for those amazing insights! We love you too Terry & Belinda!
Not only asking, but asking in a way your partner can hear, feel respected, and lean in to. And critical next step, reinforcing the positive when you get movement in the desired direction, even if just the start. Reinforce the effort and you're more likely to see more of it. -- Asking via critical or complaint will move your partner further away. Complaint or harsh/negative tone in acknowledgment of the effort will undermine the desire to continue striving to improve, if not make it even harder to regain momentum later.
I'm disppointed that Terry & Belinda didn't hear Corolla say that she DID ask, but Allan defended himself rather than giving her what she asked for. And hugging can be a very superficial kind of connection
Love you two together! I wish the girl could speak while discussing
I really want to thank you both for these videos. I study YOU! I did not grow up with good role models and disagreement TERRIFIES me. So much so that I have not been able to be in a relationship because the minute conflict shows up, I'm out. even in friendships, I have difficulty accessing that next level intimacy because, vulnerability leads to disagreement, disagreement leads to violence. I get activated just hearing you two briefly disagree intellectually, but I find it so helpful how you model moving through it. Seriously, thank you for disagreeing!
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