Do We Wish We Were Not Adopted By White Parents?
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- Опубликовано: 20 апр 2024
- Step into an insightful episode of AdoptedGals as we welcome Hawa and Emily to the conversation. In this candid discussion, they reflect on their experiences of being adopted by white parents and grapple with the question: do they wish they were not adopted by white parents?As they delve into the difficulties of being adopted, Hawa and Emily also ponder what might have happened if they weren't adopted. Through their reflections, we gain a deeper understanding of the profound impact adoption has had on their lives. Join us as we explore the nuances of their stories, contemplating the complexities of belonging, heritage, and family. Tune in as we honor their voices and uncover the resilience and strength that have carried them through their adoption journeys.
I am so glad you tube recommended your video to me. I am a white woman who has adopted five black and brown children. They are now in their twenties. Their stories are a little different from yours as they were born in the US and they joined our family as infants and toddlers. I am so looking forward to learning more from you lovely ladies. No one can fully grasp another's journey but I know your insights will help me better understand my children's journeys especially my daughter's.
Thank you and welcome. Our channel is for adoptive parents as well.♥️
Great video! Adoption shouldn’t be dependent on race, it should not be a relevant factor. I’m white and I don’t care if I had been adopted by a black family as long as they loved me. I was long term fostered and I love my foster family more than my bio family. My bio family was messed up, my foster family showed me love, so to me blood isn’t the determining factor. I’m glad you guys were fortunate enough to be adopted away from a rough life
Happy to hear that you had such a good experience with your adoptive parents. Not every adoptee is that fortunate so happy that it happened for you.
As far as being adopted into a different race it's hard to say unless you have actually walked that path, but at the end of the day the goal is to get kids into a loving, caring and educated home.
America is so different to the UK. Maybe because it's smaller so we have to live together. My neighbourhood in a desirable borough of London is multi racial with many "mixed" marriages who live harmoniously as we have the same aspirations.
Love to hear this!
I’ve not been adopted but I’m from Africa and I can tell you the answer to your question regarding self esteem, is « not really ». I understand that you haven’t been raised there but the love that you’re talking about is not really shown by Africain families.
I get that when you haven’t had something sure you question the alternative but from someone that I was born and raised there, even with your birth family in Africa, you would’ve have the same questions.
The difference treatment between man and woman, is clearly visible no matter if you’re living with your birth family.
To a lot of africain families, putting you to school, feeding you, clothing you, is all. The rest is not that important and it’s white stuff.
Also even with your birth parent, what society think is more important than what YOU want.
Colorism is also a problem in Africa even if you are in your birth family.
The extended family also is a big issue. Jealousy within families is on another level.
I get that this is your personal life experience, but I also know that even with a black family again we still have those questions regarding our identity and no they might not have understood cause most black family don’t talk about that.
I don't know whos little brown face it is in the thumbnail but MY GOD what a cutie ❤😍😍😍 absolutely adorable 😩❤️🥰
Hi,Fatmata! I’m wondering why you don’t have any more relationship with your adopted parents?Just asking ?
Very well articulated.
Hmmm 🤔 i
I'm a white English woman and youtube just suggested this to me. I've been listening with fascination. I think it's good that you are both grateful towards your adopted white parents and it's good that you note what the alternatives would have been. What I can't understand is why you have distanced your selves from the white culture that raised you and loved you, I would posit your adoptive parents are your people, not those you escaped on the African continent. Hearing that our best isn't good enough, it would make me hesitate to hold out a helping hand to foreign people who would still bite it.
I don’t think they are rejecting their adoptive parents. As someone who grew up between Africa and the UK, then moved to the US, I can tell you it is white culture that rejected them. Their parents are obviously great people. But maybe they were surrounded by people who didn’t treat these women well as children.
For me, as a black person, living in America was a huge shock compared to the UK. Some People here are not shy about being horrible to children that don’t look like them.
Also, they escaped their particular situations in Africa, they did not escape their families. But notwithstanding, their adoptive parents are their family.
Adoption and especially interracial adoption is not for everyone and it is good that you recognize where you would struggle. That being said adoption for the child always starts as a loss no matter how good a parent the adoptive parent is or how awful the birth family situation is.
@@temitopeej8407 Well put
If you do things for people just to feel good about yourself and to get "thank you oh great person" - stop and don't help anyone foreign - that is my suggestion - you are not a good person it seems but a NICE one - that is different
@@carolinekamya2339 Lol, get a grip.
Marriage at 12 is mad I think 15 would be more reasonable based on that reality
A child being married is not reasonable at all.
dude WTF
Marriage at 15 - are you ok???
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