Adoption is Toxic
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- Опубликовано: 6 апр 2024
- Step into the intricate journey of adoptive experiences as AdoptedGals presents a compelling exploration into the complex world of adoption. In this episode, we delve into the often overlooked aspects of toxicity within adoption processes and the intersectionality of adopting children for religious purposes. Join us as we navigate through the multifaceted layers of familial dynamics and societal expectations, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs faced by adoptees and their families. Through candid conversations and insightful discussions, we uncover the profound impact of toxic environments on adoptive children and the significance of embracing one's identity amidst religious undertones. Tune in as we advocate for understanding, resilience, and healing, emphasizing the crucial role of therapy in navigating the intricate paths of adoption.
Omg. I had to stop eating and pause the video to write this !! You guys!! This is what we need !! I hope this channel flourishes.
I am a 24 yo black women. Adopted by two white parents. I have 3 siblings who are also adopted NONE of us are biologically related. 1 black sister 1 half black brother and 1 white brother. I RELATE TOO EVERYTHING!!
I would LOVE to me friends like you because it’s been hard understanding my past. I’ve come to terms with a lot recently but found this channel at a perfect time.
THANK YOU❤
I'm glad we were able to reach you. This platform is especially created for adoptees like you♥️
I always saw this type of scenario as problematic.... 🤦🏿♂️
It definitely usually is.. but at the end of the day black orphans and fostered kids need to be adopted too so someone has to do it.
That's why we created this space for education and open communication.
@@AdoptedGals We should adopt our own then ... 💖😁
Ask yourselves who is it really benefiting????
Love your videos that I have watched. As a white mother of interracial adopted children I found joining my local foster/adoptive parent association very helpful. I hope that it helped my kids see that there were other families that looked like ours, my husband and I got support in how to help our kids navigate the racial divide in the USA and we did fun stuff. This was back before the internet so for hair care help I would ask black women shoppers in Target/Walmart for advice. They were all very helpful and kind.
Great conversation ladies!
Thank you! Welcome to our channel 🎉
Great discussion ladies
Thank you so much!
It’s so funny because we would be delighted to welcome the girl into our areas and help with her hair. The mother is scared for nothing. As if there are no bad white areas.
Giirllllll I'm saying!
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I hope you both had as good a childhood as possible. I'm British so somewhat naive about the nature of race relations in the USA, but when I visited New York I was struck by the segragation and emphasis on it. I can understand that parents of a different race adopted child will need to think deeply about the experience of that child. What I find sad is that as children in the home it may not be so much of an issue, but more outside things can and will come up that need to be discussed.
In terms of the way to cope with the experience of race in US culture, I would be curious where you stand on the views of writers like Ibram X Khendi/Robin DiAngelo vs Coleman Hughes or John McWhorter?
Thank you for taking the time out to write a well thought out through message.
It may seem like it's not an issue at home, but it actually is. It starts at home.
The way the kids perceive themselves based on conditioning from the home will set a standard for how they show up to the world.
You have a little girl who does not get positive attention at home from mom and dad, she will go out and try to find that validation from outside and get burned in the end
Same with adoption. If your race and cultural identity is not celebrated, normalized and accepted, then adopted kids go out and try to find culture and identity and often hurt themselves, others or their relationship with their adoptive family.
Will have to look these authors up. Thank you for the referral.
@@AdoptedGals ok thanks for letting me know about this aspect. I was told that children tend not to see race in the same way as adults which is why I said that, but I can see what you mean. Best wishes.
These people are not concerned any of this, they just want what they want.
Yeah, it's sad honestly.
My grandparents adopted my brother who was black and treated him better than they did there own children but ok
Yeah. Everyone has different experiences.
As mentioned in the video, I said "...does not mean that you should treat your adoptive kids better then your bio children..."
Also I am guessing because you had that one experience that means that everyone else had that experience? 😅
If that is the case then shooo, keep it pushing, nothing to see here.
@@AdoptedGals I guess the but ok wasn’t necessary for me to say i have seen lots of different scenarios my brother is one of the more fortunate situations that I’ve seen most people didn’t have his experience and it is all good for us to share our experiences with this i grew up as a white boy with a black older brother so I am just speaking from my experience with him that’s all I hate that it’s still so much negativity in the conversations we are all human beings and hopefully we can start to treat each other better
@@bingflosbydoes your brother personally feel this way or is that your perception? Things may not always be what they seem from the outside looking in. However, if that was in fact his personal experience, it’s awesome that he had a good experience as an adopted child.
@@AiahVarh The only thing he complained about was that when he found his biological father the family didn’t accept him and he oddly rejected us as well he’s tried to remain close to me but in a toxic controlling way sadly I looked up to him as a child I’m sure he had the typical problems and was one of the first generation raised by yt people
Just curious, if you could have gone back and not been adopted by your white parents. Would you have wanted that?
Great question! You just inspired us to do our next video just on this topic!
Be on the looks out, coming in a couple weeks.
not being adopted and let them grow up without parents is why 50% of them are going to kill their friends or end up
🐂+💩 comment, 🐂+💩 thought, 🐂+💩 perspective
Interracial adoption should be outlawed! It's not ethical and not child-centered.
My family were messed up but I'm so grateful I never was raised by white people thank God
Facts
I was raised by white people and they are and were amazing people. What a sad way for you to look at the world.
as a white therapist, do you mind sharing why you are so thankful to g-d that we did not raise you?
@@SHope-rq1hc because they're what they pretend to be fighting 😂 racist.
@@stefanharris659 lol. 😂😂😂 Yes and they over compensate.
People who overcompensate rarely get the effect they hope for and end up getting themselves or others.