Sex and the City: How Samantha Was Right About Everything
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- Опубликовано: 3 июн 2024
- Samantha Jones is a self-assured and self-reliant icon who put the sex in Sex and the City. Samantha has always been a fan favorite, but during the show’s run she was often framed as the most out there one of the bunch - someone you’d want to be friends with but not necessarily be. But looking back, Samantha was right about so many things, even if she got flack for it at the time. And while she certainly wasn’t perfect, she offers a number of important lessons about building the life you want and staying true to yourself no matter what. So let’s take a look back at Samantha’s outlook on life and love and how she was way ahead of the curve.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro
00:47 Charlotte vs Samantha on relationships
02:13 Relationships should be enjoyable!
04:03 Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself
06:07 Be a good friend
08:24 Be open to new experiences
09:56 Put yourself first
12:02 Why Samantha (& the show) continue to be beloved
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Try being Samantha when you're not a 7+/10. Life will wake you up pretty quickly
Which is so ironic because Charlotte was the one with the doting husband
Samantha's refrain, "I love you, but I love me more" is sage advice and why she is irreplaceable.
Yes!!
That is true. But, to honest, if Smith Jerrod were the one who said that to her instead of the other way around, and after she stayed with him through a cancer... People would hate his guts.
@@guilhermesavoya2366 Yeah, because it's not in his character. Smith is a class act because he knows it's not about him.
@@KateBerger But that is the thing. He is not an accessory to Sam (I mean, he is, but if they were real people he would not be). If the roles were reversed, it would be about him. And we would hate him for doing the exact same thing Samantha did him. And I'm not even saying that as if I thought she was wrong. She was right, and he accepted it as he should. I'm just saying that our reaction would be different, a The Take video about him wouldn't be as praising of him.
Amen
Samantha was 100% the best character on Sex and the City. She was the most likable, the funniest, the least judgemental, and she was a mood. I sure hope her back is still in good shape after carrying Sex and the City on it.
The most dependable
If reverse the genders on independent woman narrative it called mysonygy
I love her!!
She was wonderful person 🥹
The best Of Friends
You forgot to mention all the ageism during those years about her. The joke was always about her being older... But she usually looks better than them.
It's not even older, it's more like she looks more experienced
Yeeees!!!!!
Most of the women watching the show were her age or older......
She did those jokes about herself many of times too
What about all the ageism now?
I am now the age she was then, and I’m being told, by this video, that most women back then were uptight Victorians 😂
Let's be real. Samantha left New York and the women on her life because she realized they were terrible friends and wasn't going to deal with their shit anymore.
Charlotte has always seemed like a pretty selfless friend in comparison to Miranda & Carrie (although not sure how much that’s saying..)
@@MarnieGolde7 I was referring mainly about those two actually hehe
Oh I like this theoryyy. In And Just Like That, people keep saying that Samantha wouldn't just leave Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte like that, but if you think about how much she was judged and disrespected by the three of them it makes perfect sense.
That's my headcanon as well
Yup 100
“If I worried what every bitch in nyc said about me..I’d never leave the house”. Samantha…believe it or not….nowadays a lot of hermits need to hear this !
Yhup, I do
Me Too
Me three!
Me too homie! Me too
I needed to read this
One of my many favorite Samantha’s moments is when she calls out Carrie for having a limited view of sexuality for a sex columnist.
That was so on point!
And she didn’t lie!
I love that moment between Char and Sam with the stolen baby name. Sam couldn’t give a shit about baby stuff but she loves Char and hates Laney so much she comes thru. That’s outstanding
I agree, Samantha couldn't care less about babies, and doesn't want one herself, but she didn't hesitate in defending Charlotte.
Samantha Jones was always the first to jump in to support her friends, it's aspirational.
Samantha was truly a great friend
I loved this moment too.
It was partially self serving. She didn't like her anyway so any reason to call her a bitch she would be a welcomed one.
Samatha was the best friend on the show. And the least problematic. And the sole reason I watched SATC. I miss her.
I miss her too she was the best
She cant be the sole reason. The only reason a show like this works is because of the character relationships reflected off each other.
And Just Like That is awful and the main reason is the Samantha is not part of it.
@@BwInNewJersey no she was the only reason. The only reason a lot of watched it. They meant what they said and it's not wrong for them. That's subjective and it's pedantic to correct someone over their opinion. Let people have opinions. 😒
@@SR77736 Its really not subjective. Thats my opinion. Let me have it.
Kim Cattrell was such a legend, that when they offered her a ton of money for Sex and the City 3, she turned it down and was disgusted with the proposed storyline of her seducing teenage Brady.
yes, that was a story idea. that was when she refused to return, aside from the AJLT cameo. Samantha Jones, is confident, assured, and happy in her life and sexuality, but like hell was the character going to sleep with a child, who she baby sat in the show!
She did a good job really. Over 50 Samantha going after a barely legal boy would've been worse than the Che-Miranda storyline. They also had Charlotte thirsting after a minor . AJLT was trash . Yikes .
When she could've been the perfect auntie to educate him about relationships and sexualities without moral judgement!! What a waste of opportunity!
Oh wow!! Didn't know that - yuck!
Also have you guys seen teen Brady? Samantha would never go for that
AJLT?
The only thing that never made sense about Samantha was why she was friends with the 3 others 🤔 She deserved better.
I guess she was their mentor or big sister in a sense. She couldn’t leave these people to go down a path she didn’t see as right
I've had friends who frankly I've matured faster than; I stick with them because I love them and hope to encourage them one day to embrace their best and lovely selves and to surrender to the beauty of this life and love. I'm sure there's been people like this in my life too, as time passes different friends offer different things to one another.
There were only so many extremely successful, single wealthy women in NYC that she could stand hanging around with
She also in my opinion had a wardrobe that aged the best, I loved her style then and most of it still now
She always looked so fabulous.
Exactly - Carrie was supposed to be the fashin icon, but whereas her outfits were sometimes great, a lot of the times they were horrible. Samantha always looked good no matter what.
Because she had a sense of style + personal brand that went perfectly with her personality. She was always feminine, sensual, elegant and appropriate, in business meetings or on a night out. Carry never knew what to do with herself: she was promiscuous, she was close minded, she was into hookups, she was into monogamy, she was for marriage but against having kids. She couldn't make up her mind on anything so her style followed her volatile personality and that's why most of the time she looked hideous despite having a bombastic body. Samantha had a more 'brave' version of Charlotte's style. Classical elegance with occasional extravaganza.
You saying a cowboy hat and a newspaper dress haven’t aged well? 😂
I always loved Samantha’s wardrobe best
Theres a reason why gay guys love Samantha and Blanche: confident in themselves, assured in their sexuality, loyal to their sisters.
YESSS BLANCHE!!! Her and samantha are fabulous TV icons!!!
The Golden Girls was really the blue print for SATC: The Slut, The Ditz, The Cynic and The Witty Best Friend. Sound familiar?
@@gee_emmThey did it better: they had a Samantha (Blanche); a Charlotte (Rose); a young Miranda (Dorothy) and old Miranda (Sophia), but no Carrie. 😂😅
@@dieterdelange9488 Lol. So true!
Samantha should have been the main character. Shame we didn't get a spin off series
She is the main character, Carrie was just the narrator. Kim Cattrall was also the best actress of the lot. That’s why SJP was so jealous and hate filled. 😂
She should but it was just impossible at the time the show aired. Sam’s character was treated horribly by critics. After all, it was in 1998! Men were not at all prepared nor willing n agreement with her lifestyle. The critics called her every misogynistic name under the sun ( who&re, sl&ut etc) she was accepted because she was funny and not the main character.
Thank god times have changed because she Was SATC. Plus she represented the future ❤
Ohhh i love the shade😂
It wouldn't make sense- women like this are treated like lepers even still!
And Carrie as the PR rep. SJP does not vibe with the idea of sex. I think more people would have watched as well. SJP is not a poster child for beauty.
"Relationships should complement your life, not drag it down" Holy shit, this. Thank you.
Carrie didn't deserve Sam's friendship and loyalty.
Amen ❤
Yup
The best thing about Samantha was that she knew and liked herself, which is why she could put herself first so easily and still empathize with her friends’ struggles. Miranda knew and disliked herself, Carrie was always seeking validation in the men she dated and Charlotte aspired to be someone she wasn’t and lived her life trying to achieve what she believed that person would’ve wanted. It’s why Samantha grew but never really changed, and why she stayed the best character on the show throughout the entire series
Samantha was always the first one to support her friends. She was the comedic relief.
No she wasn't. She would ditch you the moment you had something in your life she didn't agree with. She did to Miranda and Charlotte numerous times. She didn't even want to go to Miranda's mothers funeral.
she didnt want to go to Mirandas mothers funeral because she didnt know how to behave in that situation, but at the end she went and started crying. Samantha was a good friend, for example when Carrie cheated on Aidan, she never judged Carrie or when Charlotte needed to talk about her sexual life, Samantha was there for hearing her friend. She had her problems, but wasnt a bad friend.
@@murph8837 You're wrong, she didn't ditch Carrie when she was cheating Aiden, for example, she couldn't care less about the baby names and she stood for Charlotte anyway. Samantha had more emotional intelligence than all of them to realize that when she wasn't at her best, she wouldn't get involved so as not to make the situation worse, that's why she didn't want to go to Miranda's mother funeral.
Samantha ran so millennial women can walk. She taught an entire generation that we don't have to limit ourselves for men and we are finally catching up with what she was talking about 2 decades ago!
This take is exactly why I was so angry with AJLT. They assassinated Sam’s character for a petty off screen feud. Throughout six seasons (and two atrocious movies), the writing consistently reinforced that Sam was nonjudgmental, incredibly loyal, and upfront with those closest to her. To suggest she fell out with Carrie and the gang due to a completely uncharacteristic disagreement is ridiculous (and let’s be honest: it would’ve been Sam desperately trying to convince Carrie to shift gears in a rapidly changing media landscape, while Carrie would’ve dug in her heels refusing to adapt as always, leaving them both in a precarious position). But also to suggest she wasn’t upfront and honest in her discussions about it (rather than aloof and distant), is completely out of Sam’s character. Having Sam die and Big run off permanently to London without explanation would have been far more honest to both characters. And having Carrie take on and honor Sam’s characteristics of self-love, directness, and empowerment while navigating divorce could have been a way to respect Sam’s character while also respecting off screen issues.
Yeah they should have killed the character and it would have made sense. Sam was always working for Carrie for FREE. Why should she suddenly see her as an ATM? She’s the last person of the bunch to do that. She was the most loyal.
Yes to everything you said. Sam was the best❤ I missed her in AJLT, it's just not the same without her.😢
This analysis is spot on. I’ve always felt they should have switched Big’s and Samantha’s storylines in AJLT. So much of that reboot ignores the characters’ core personalities, which makes it hard to watch beyond being curious about the trainwreck of it all.
Beautifully said.
Great point! Sam coming out of remission or something along those lines, and Big running off would have definitely made more sense.
When I was in the teens I thought I should be like a charlotte, but now that I’m in my 30s, I realized that should have lived my best Samantha fantasy. She truly was the best character.
I liked Miranda. I thought her boring at first but she told it like it was and wasn't a people pleaser.
I loved Big. Samantha and Big were self centered, brutally honest, free spirited in their relationships, all about their good looks, and didn’t care who they hurt. However, Big is demonized while Samantha is praised.
@@gbear2253To me Big looked like someone who has relationship issues. He said to Carrie that he needed time for everything but she didn’t want to give it to him. But I wouldn’t compare him to Sam. She was very honest that she doesn’t want to have a relationship.
@@loisen big didn’t wanna get married either and Carrie went crazy on him. Samantha hit on Big the very first episode and he rejected her. He wasn’t impressed with her femme fatal vixen tactics and vip privilege. Samantha got burned 😂
Samantha was already in her 40s.
A healthy relationship of any kind should never make you feel trapped. If you feel trapped by it, then it is not serving its purpose.
Amen!!
Samantha even put this in a very simple words - she said sth like I know that when you look and feel sad because of a relationhip, than it's not a good relationship - it's really simple as that
Even when I'm a complete opposite from the character Samantha in most aspects, I would watch the show and I would found myself siding with her in almost all scenes/fights/confrontations. I really liked her! I would love to have a friend like her in real life.
Me too!! I am not as sexual as Samantha but i will fight for her right to be as sexual as she wants and not be slutshamed!
I LOVE this comment!
@@NuhniiyaBehNez-ly2yr Thank you 🥰
We didn't realize how great she was until we saw the show without her 😢
She was the show ❤
The rest is a mess.
I wish I had Samantha's confidence!
i dont she ended up with a lot of duds
I also love that she has moments of doubts or challenges herself to open up and be vulnerable to love, not just a one-dimensional headstrong character
Samantha was my fave then and now. During the original run of the series, I was in college, so I liked her one-liners. But now, as a 40-something married mother of 2, I like what she stood for. She was unapologetically her and while she didn't always see eye to eye with her friends, she was still supportive of their choices. Her friends, weren't for her though. Samantha needed better friends.
Loved Samantha! She lived unapologetically for herself. Miranda I liked too but wish she hadn’t compromised herself with that loser Steve. Carrie I thought was a mess.
My love for samantha is exactly why I'm not watching And Just Like That. It's just not Sex and the City without her.
a lot of these independent woman narrative in reverse sound like mysonygy
It's not sex and the city it's and just like that. That's why they named it something different, it's a different show
@nordette and it sucks bad
Same!
@jessstaxx1864 yeah, the first season was brutal but the second got a little better. Lol I'm hoping the third gets it right. They seem to be finding their footing
*"I love you, but I love me more."*
This is the most POWERFUL, iconic line! Unwavering self love is what REALLY threatened the patriarchy.
Not just that Samantha had a lot of sex... not even that she enjoyed it... but that she WASN'T ASHAMED of herself for it. She couldn't be controlled through shame. She unapologetically loved herself too much.
Independent women with high self esteem who put themselves first were (still are) targeted by misogyny. Including the internalized misogyny of other women.
But thanks to characters like Samantha, more women are standing up for themselves and "loving themselves more." ❤
The "Faced with her own inadequacy" line when Carrie is describing Samantha's throwing and "I don't have a baby" shower was one of several moments in the first season where the writers clumsily tried to have their cake and eat it too by implying that Samantha's self-confidence was delusional. They did the character dirty at first, before finally realizing what the audience already knew: that she was great.
But it was correct about her. She was severly delusional and had feelings of inadequacy. Samantha wasn't good with relationships because she was too confident and above it all. She could not handle a serious relationship and it was a commonly repeated part of her character. She is a cautionary tale of what happens when you are emotionally inadequate and delusional.
@@murph8837 Many people aren't good at serious relationships. So far so good, but why is this character delusional? Just because she's confident and doesn't try to fit into a relationship model?
@@glitzerplastikchichi no, because she thinks she is above it all and somehow a stronger better person. She wasnt like that with James, the man she thought she could marry. That plot offered us a Sanantha who was more human and realistic who took other people's feelings into consideration. She was willing to try everything to save that relationship because she didn't think that having a small....private part was enough to give up on love. It gave her character some humanity. She was even willing to go to couples counseling with him. He ultimately broke up with her....though I doubt it would gave continued after she finally broke. But the Samantha after that was this selfish, nymphomaniac. When she was it a serious relationship she would lose all sense of herself and become a paranoid, needy sterotype of the women she disliked. She was worse than Charlotte. She was doing things like giving Richard a painting of hearts and expected him to hang it up right away. She started pulling stunts like stalking him undercover. She lost her sense of self, something that Samantha in previous seasons would have never done. She was pathetic and unstable. She also had Jared who obviously adored her and stuck with her through her cancer struggle. She eventually accepts him and they end up an exclusive relationship. In the movie they undue all that character to development because she cant take that with his rising stardom that he isn't always available. She gets upset that he didnt intuit that she covered herself in homemade sushi and came home late. She was becoming needy and unstable the pointof overeating. Then she proceeds to break up with Smith because she "loves me more" a warped take on her pevious use of theline she used with Richard. Samantha did not avoid relationship because she was some strong, empowered woman who went against convention. She avoided relationships because of a weakness withn herself. She couldn't handle relationships.
None of the women were right or wrong. That’s the point. They are all complex women who are happy and sad and support each other and fight. It was one of the earliest shows to show women like that. They grew and changed and fucked up and again and again. They were human. Which why at the time, early Samantha was the least relatable, but over time the show corrected and made her human too, flaws and all. And the girls were friends through it all.
I'm a gen z and that's exactly why I love it, it's such a cool show and seems very unbiased, they're all flawed and valid in their approaches. There arent any other shows like that coming out now
Agreed. However I would argue that Carrie as a grown woman in her 30's demanded Charlotte give her the money to buy her apartment just because they were friends even though Charlotte had nothing to do with Carrie's financial mismanagement. You can't chalk that up to just being human, she was an adult. Not her finest hour.
Or they are all the same woman living different phases of the same life.
I know many women who had a samantha phase in their 40s and 50s especially after a divorce.
I totally agree. That's why I always get annoyed by people hating on Carrie for her bad choices. We're all Carrie at some point or another. We're complex and we make mistakes and we're self-involved and flawed. If the characters were perfect, the show would be boring.
@@brooksiedoodle5087 Above all, Carrie guides the viewer through the plot of each episode with her column and thoughts. She can't be a "perfect" character who always does everything right.
Unpopular opinion; I would like to be like Samantha. But not an exact replica, just some of her qualities. There’s many things you could learn from her. She was a great businesswoman and had connections. She was well dressed and groomed. She was a great friend, despite how they treated her. She would not judge her friends, no matter how in the wrong they were. She always had your back. She also has strong head on her shoulders. Honestly, I wish they would’ve had a show on her instead of Carrie. Carrie was judgmental and hypocrite. she’s talking down on Samantha for the action committed. But how about her sleeping with a married man and cheating on her boyfriend Adrian? Does anybody recall the time that Charlotte caught crabs with a one night stand?
And Carrie was so irresponsible with money at her thirties and expected her friend Charlotte to pay her when she was abt to loose her apt due to her own mismanagement with money. She infact guilted her when Charlotte didn’t offer. Carrie was judgmental irresponsible and hypocritical
@@ozymandias7372 that episode boiled my blood. You spend thousands of dollars on shoes and expect someone else to clean up the mess for you? Carrie was immature and expected the world to revolve around her.
@@ozymandias7372 I thought this episode was particularly good because Charlotte decided to give Carrie the ring as a loan (!) for the apartment. Leaving aside the financial mismanagement, it was very refreshing to see a woman supporting another woman in this way in a series. You rarely see something like that.
Carry is just an immature person with many narcicisstic traits.
I don't like her.
This video came at the right time for me. I just ended a relationship last week because I wasn't happy, and I was wondering if I had made a mistake. I don't think I did. Putting myself first for the win!
Hope you the best 🤗
@@UsiQuotidiani.18 Thank you so much 💓
You probably did make a mistake.
@@murph8837 😂😂😂
I hope Kim Cantrell knows she’s a legend for bringing us Samantha Jones.
Totally agree I wouldn't sleep around like Samantha. She told the truth about marriage. Never give up your friends. Put yourself first. Learn when to let go if a relationship. Be happy by yourself
Words to live by:
"I love you but I love me more." Self-love at its finest.💖
Self-love is the prerequiste of ALL loves.
I just love her character so much and Kim Cattrall you will always be fabulous! I always thought she was wise while giving Mae West Energy.
Also, Samantha had great taste in men lol (along with being a Bicon/PanIcon)
As a teen i used to love Carrie. I realized i just loved her fashion. Samantha was the mood! And the inspiration 🙌
She was the heart and soul of Sex and the City.
She's the embodiment of Shakespeare's famous quote, "To thine own self be true".
Love Samantha! 🔥
The only thing that was out of character was not getting tested for STIs regularly. I think the writers dropped the ball on that.
I think it makes perfect sense tbh. The show presented an outdated and mainly heterosexual notion (even at the time) of sex. Even though people knew straight people could get HIV and Sam had that scare people still weren't getting tested. Even now most straight people having frequent casual sex don't get tested, the only ones who get tested regularly are consenually nonmonogamous people and gay/bi men.
@@DMMA0726 Gosh! That makes sense! Didn’t think of that.
This is interesting. First SATC wave of feminism was Carrie. Then we appreciated understated Miranda. Now it’s Samantha’s wave 😅
I LOVE IT
Omg. I just realized I'm a Samantha. I don't share her romantic history, but her philosophy of "I'm going to live on my terms and people can judge all they want" is totally relatable.
I love Melanie Hamlett's videos on Kim Cattrall and how she loved Samantha's character.
Ah thanks for that. I've been following Melanie for a few months now and was always thinking she reminded me of someone!
Is she scrraming and shaking and gaggöing and wiggling or does Mel once behave like a mature woman?
Mrl might be right in manyyyy ways, but her acting out is not my cup of tea.
I was told she has au Tism and AD HD but I don't care, I just don't like her Toddler Tantrums.
When you look back at the show now, Samantha was ICONIC. She had decided to live her life and love her life. She is a secret hero of mine
ever since I saw this show for the first time when I was a teenager (35yo now) I loved and admired Samantha but back then didn't really know much WHY I loved the character so much.. all my friends were like "ew, no, you should wanna be like Charlotte".. the older I get, the more I can see that she is exactly what a woman should be - confident, loving herself first and not take any bs from anyone, including her judgemental "friends"
When she threw herself an "I don't have a baby shower"!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥
I love Samantha’s character but for sure she wasn’t right about everything. Making all your relationships so heavily based on sex comes from an intimacy problem and a dehumanization of the other (and ofc this is true for overly sexual man too).
I really enjoy her freedom, confidence and openness, but she is, like the other three, a flawed character, and I think thats whats amazing about the storylines of SATC
While I agree that she wasn’t right about everything, I don’t think she has a problem with intimacy in general since she has such close friends - she just really doesn’t value romantic intimacy, especially when it clearly comes at a greater cost of independence than it comes to men and is even socially enforced in ways - even now, there isn’t a male equivalent of the vitriolic stereotype of the “old cat lady”
IIRC I think her intimacy issues are also somewhat addressed in the episode when she gets really sick as well as her cancer scare. Flawed as she is, I understood her reasoning for not staying with her partner because she felt indebted to him for being with her through her cancer and even though I wouldn’t have chosen that for myself, I was glad she was brave enough to to stick to her convictions
@@janettewong9900There is: "The bum living on the streets"
@@DiamondsRexpensive
Divorced bum at that....ex-wife took everything...
Intimacy problem?
She just doesn't settle. Not everybody thinks they are not a full person without a romantic relationship.
I am Single by choice, my life is good, I don't want a romantic relationship.
I have to many good things going on, don't want to be a caretaker for a guy.
If Affairs weren't extremely risky and if there were more hot guys I would go fully Sam.
I just don't have the time and energy to deal with the Real Life men.
Yes because when she tried to get into relationships she always thought it was too much emotional work and talking.
she was the best character, only good friend and authentic person in the show. she was always funny, smart, non-judgemental, outgoing and had real growth but stayed true to herself. her one liners, delivery and storylines remain the best in the show.
When I was younger and first exposed to Sex and the City, I thought I was Carrie. As time went on, I became more of a Miranda. But, in all of it, Samantha is aspirational. Considering how problematic Carrie and Miranda were/are, I remember the first thing that empowered me- "I'm trysexual, I'll try anything once." To a young bisexual person, I needed that confident saying to reverberate in my head until I came out. Now, it's in my head as a regular attitude.
Still sound like a Miranda to me 😂
@@Soitbesme Fair enough- except my relationships are written better.
@@outinsider that’s true !! Miranda just couldn’t handle a relationship it was just a full mess .
@Soitbesme I think she can handle a relationship, she just couldn't handle someone else's baggage.
Samantha was the greatest, she never backtracked and stood by what she believed in! Always had a soft spit for her🎉
I just realized that Samantha might have been on the AROMANTIC spectrum too. She's my favourite. Inspirational.
Omg you are right 🤔
I thought she was but they don't have words then to explain it
"Aromantic" 😂
You crazy kids with your made up labels.
I'm aro (not ace) and she's always been super relatable to me.
The understanding when to leave a relationship event though you both "love" each other, very aro of her!!
@@brooksiedoodle5087 People over 40 use these labels too, the concepts aren't new (ever heard of platonic love) you should go out sometimes :) Also why people finding words to express their feelings and finding themselves make you react? Something to dig into if you ask me! secure people don't react, just accept.
Based on Carrie's diaries (the book), Samantha turned that way AFTER a failed marriage to a wealthy man
Samantha deserved better friends.
Samantha was the best friend of the group.
I love Samantha, her feminine power, her confidence, style and fierce loyalty to her friends.
I will not be judged by you or society, I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want so long as I can breathe and kneel HAHAHA. One of my favourite one liners
The realest and wisest friend of the bunch
Cant forget the iconic line “i don’t live my life waiting for a man!” 😂 changed my life.
Samantha is women’s James Bond, even though the character has some unearned skills and confidence and skills, it seems like it’s a fun fantasy for the audience… she’s so ridiculously built up in confidence, sexiness, money, privilege etc with little to no downsides that it’s actually comical. The irony of course is that Kim Cattral seemed over the characters portrayal + and of course the lifetime girlfriends fantasy didn’t actually pan out in real life LOL
No reason why it should. I mean they were ACTING.
Thank you, that’s my point exactly.. they were ‘acting’ out a fantasy that’s in fact harder to match to real life
I was always the Samantha of my group of friends. I personally thought so and they would say it as well. Sometimes you really have to just love yourself enough to get what you want and need outta life.
Me too 😊❤
AMAZING video! Perfection in describing her and the clips you used! THANK YOU for posting this. REALLY ENJOYED IT
Samantha Jones was a tv character like no other before and there hasn't been anyone like her since. There is a reason for that: her message is dangerous to the patriarchy. Because she showed us we should love ourselves first and foremost, stand firmly in our values, be good suportive friends, live the life we want to live without waiting for anyones permission (specially not a man). She was afraid of romantic intimacy, but as a true trysexual she even tackled that fear head on and didn't let it stop her from being happy. She was a truly dangerous woman!
Grew up watching her and I just realized I am her. I'm in no rush to get married and have kids. I enjoy my life as is and am not crying over not meeting made up societal expectations
Samantha is why we watched. She was always the best person on the show.
Even when sjp became jealous and tried to put Sam in embarrassing situations, Sam was the friend you wanted in your corner
The ICON she is!!🙌💯
I think this is definitely an interesting take on Samantha's character with some great points, but I do wish that the fact that she struggles with vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and is emotionally unavailable was emphasized more as well. I think back to her brief relationship with a woman as well as her response to Miranda's mother's death that indicates this.
(also just wanted to note I haven't finished the series so this is my opinion from what I've seen so far)
Finally someone said that! I DO believe she had an avoidant attachment style and deep inside she was just afraid of meaningful and long-term relationships with men! Yes, she is an interesting character, for sure, but the lifestyle she was living mostly stemmed from the fear of real intimacy and bonding.
Samantha had the best one liners !
Thank you for this video. Ive been struggling with not having a relationship for a while and i really needed to hear this
Another person can't fill your inner void.
Learn how to build strong friendships that are not an unpaid caretaker for you
She was the grown woman in the group. 😂
Samantha was the best!
the most powerful and important lesson I learned from Samantha (and only understood about 15 years and a bad marriage later) is the line "I love you, but I love me more" (it's even mentioned in the video at 3:50 and 11:27 and actually the conclusion of all), which is the equivalent of putting on your own oxygen mask first. it is not selfish, it is the healthy and right thing to do.
a therapist once said to me "it is only truly good, if it is also good for you", meaning if it is good for someone else, but not for me, it is just not good for me, so it comes from the same place. women often grow up getting indoctrinated to not be selfish at all costs and to be there for others first, and this is actually such an unhealthy and wrong mindset.
Protagonistic self-interest is either a positive attribute for everyone or no one.
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That's great that she encouraged her friends to leave relationships that weren't working. The characters I see resisting relationships look like they're doing it out of fear of commitment.
What is this "fear of commitment"?
Being responsible for someone else's actions?
Samantha was the best ❤ and my fav on SATC
I love this comment section because everyone thinks Sam was the best and most loyal friend of the bunch ❤ personally, Chaelotte comes second best. Yes, she was traditional to the point of being annoying, but she always showed up for her friends ❤
Best character on that show. Loved Samantha..
I absolutely loved Samantha and wanted to be her because of her confidence. She was my fav character followed by Miranda for her bluntness. That episode where Carrie walks in on Samantha giving a BJ and judging her for it really pissed me off and I liked that S defended herself. She never wavered and stayed true to who she was until the very end.
Thank you for this video! Samantha’s attitude and advice is still very much spot on! ❤Defo my favourite character in the series and the main reason I watched them.
Samantha Jones IS New York City.
Samantha was the best, there's really no place for an argument
Samantha stole the show
There was no way the show would have been This popular without her
I love this video and the message! I struggle so hard with putting myself first and I feel that's why I am always disappointed. In relationships in friendships i will always try to prioritize other ppl and when they don't return the feelings i feel used alot.
I needed to hear this!
Definitely love Samantha. It works for Samantha. It doesn’t work for a life with kids though.
I loved watching this video!!!! Samantha was def a VIBE!!!! 🔥 True to herself no matter what, stylish AF, spoke her truth, and lived her fu*king life unapologetically. I’m so happy they brought a character like this in for this show, such an iconic show, loved every minute of watching this, never saw And Just Like That. Wasn’t thrilled that Samantha wasn’t a part of it AND Kim played the heck out of this role. Thank you for making this! Great reminder! 😊
Looking back on the 4 of them Samantha was really the Sex & The City...I always viewed her with my jaw to the floor (I was young when the show originally aired) but I would often nod in agreement when she gave solid advice..I have a friend like her character...and she is priceless 🙂🙂
Samantha was always my favorite character. I admired how she was true to herself and walked her talk, for better or worse. She fearlessly embraced her life. Such an inspiration.
Samantha was my absolute favorite when the show came out (I was 19 when I discovered the show). I admired her confidence, how she owned her sexuality, her independence, business savvy, etc. I had never seen a woman like her on tv. Surely, she had some issues, but that’s what made her relatable IMO. She was like any of us, flawed, but also with lots to offer as a friend, lover, human being. Over the years, Miranda grew on me also.
Samantha was an incredible character and I looked up to her so much growing up. “I love you but I love me more” is sage wisdom for the ages.
Samantha was the best part of the original Sex and the City.I could not watch the reboot simply because she was not in it
Samantha is an icon
Samatha was hands down the best character. She always supported her friends, was open minded and respected herself enough to have boundaries. I loved that she didn't aspire to marriage or being in a relationship. The ultimate independent woman who I look up to!
What was great about Samantha is what's great about the difference between 40 year olds and 30 year olds, and the growth that comes in those 10 years. Samantha was about 10 years older than them. But do not call extreme sexual acting out and promiscuity freedom, liberation, feminism or some kind of empowerment, because it is the opposite of those things. Anyone with basic sense knows, and can feel, that a loving, long term, committed, monogamous, soulmate relationship is the pinnacle of all union, the thing that will most propel us forward and help us grow to our highest potential. Just because that is relatively uncommon, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Anyone doing anything well or right is relatively uncommon, but it is still the standard. What Samantha had, as she expressed early on, was cynicism. She had given up on finding love, after too many heartbreaks, was angry about the power men take, but didn't want to give up sex, so her personality and psyche morphed into a hypersexualized persona, which also helped her feel empowered in other areas of life, such as in business. Any therapist, basic Psych 101 student or person who grew up understanding healthy relationships could tell you that it's obvious Samantha is hurt, terrified and instead of feeling her grief and doing the hard work, she has chosen a coping mechanism and built a whole life around it.
This is such a good analysis,
I wish I had a friend like Samantha. Until then I will be my own Samantha
People love Sam for the same reason people love Joey. Wish more people were like those two in real life
I LOVED when she said that she was monogamous and must have "caught it" from one of the other girls! I also loved how she proudly proclaimed her love for her body just the way it was. Samantha is the personification of the mantra "do you".
I never liked this show, but it was always on in my household because the people I lived with loved it.
Just based on my observations, I always found Samantha to be the only likable character.
I've never watched it and this video is making me consider it just for Samantha
Out of the cast and characters, Samantha really made the show. Let's call it as it is. There were problems here and there, but overall, SATC couldn't exist without Samantha.
Really enjoyed watching this take on Samantha ❤