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- Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2019
- Sam Harris gives a truly inspirational speech on overcoming anxiety & depression. Follow this video's life advice and use meditation to seek happiness and change your future!
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I find it incredible that I’ve only been exposed to this type of thinking for the last few years. It’s a major crime that we weren’t taught this stuff when we were 10 years old.
The reason we were not exposed to useful patterns of thinking at ten years old is, for most people of my generation, because we were being taught useless goddamned Bible stories, which masqueraded as Moral Instruction. But hey, I'm not bitter or anything (happy humming sound).
They prefer a dumbed down populace
@@garethaustin3137 That's a sort of non-sequitur. You could have been taught both.
Most of this stuff wasn't even common knowledge, up until a few years ago. And they don't teach meditation in schools, because some people might think, that it's the tool of the Devil, and it has nothing to do with Christianity. Though in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.
@@aljay2955 I disagree that a 10 year old could never grasp the concepts. Maybe not as deeply, but I believe these concepts can be introduced to young children. There is a section for children in Sam's app for example.
0:15 "not suffering unnecesaary is a skill"
Impressive already. Wow, sir, you are amazing
Sam changed my life 10 years ago when I read his first book. Now I've read them all, listened to every podcast, watched pretty much every video on youtube of him, and I can't wait for him to write another book actually. Such an inspiration. I could never thank him enough.
Don't you think you should stop after first book and live your life ?
ok troll
Same here. But never stop questioning, also him. But he is really close to an ideal human being in my opinion. There was almost nothing I completely disagreed with. Like no one else, he manages finding the right words for such complex things.
Fa1rplayy Agree 100%. Sam is a clear a thinker and speaker as you will find today. Indeed he is very much the type of person I aspire to be. Caring, compassionate, honest to such a high degree that I must admit I am certainly envious of, although I am getting there. Thanks for the comment. There will however never be any shortage of smear campaigns against him. Mostly just tribalists with an agenda and worldview that doesn't line up with Sam's, but of course you can't please all of the people all of the time. Have a nice and safe holiday season to you and yours!
Noam Chomsky destroyed Sam Harris
*"Most people live their lives as if there are no alternatives"*
Acceptance of misery is the biggest self abuse of them all
Sometimes I get more value from your comments than the videos themselves, haha! Salute bro!!
@@DanTrustsTheFathersPlan Ey my man BadBoyD. Appreciate you. Be safe.
still , our universe, which is pitiless indifference and blind processes says it's all meaningless ...any attempt at creating our own arbitrary meanings ... it's all nonsense alongside with all our lives
@@Mr.Jasaw13 You're doing exactly what he talks about. The story you're telling yourself is a sad, and masochistic story. Our universe says *so* much more to us that we haven't even begun to see the tip of the iceberg beyond the horizon. Times infinity. I thought my life was and has been a tragedy of long, horrible, sad, and extremely depressing times, that I have tried suicide plenty of times a few of them should have killed a herd of elephants, and fun stuff like that.. but I have also experienced very short, few, and relatively far between glimpses of Love and true happiness, and more. Those things are definitely meaningful (to me, obviously, but that's all it takes) - so striving for "all conscious beings being in their most wonderful (beyond real words like that) state" is a very meaningful goal. We may or may not get to experience it, but the possibility itself has meaning. If you've never felt anything like that, I feel extreme remorse for you.
@@Mr.Jasaw13 Thats so true! wise words!
Accept anxiety, don’t try to make it go away. Feel the fear and do exactly what you would do without it. Learn to make it not matter. That’s what I’ve found.
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼 I needed to hear this.
wow so helpful
Why are you taking about anxiety? You’re expressing that statement as if you’re having a one on one conversation with someone who has anxiety. Some people, myself included, never experience any anxiety let alone fear
@@tofu8688 Then it doesn’t apply to you.
"Learn to make it not matter". Indeed, that's all there's to it! But it may also be thought of: "Easier said than done" - Yet, it's about the only way to go about it!
25 yrs of depression. This gives me hope.
Hang in there, you’ll get there.
I've always thought that if humanity ever invents immortality billions of years from now then absolute mental stability is a nonnegotiable prerequisite.
David Burns “feeling great” book is a really great option. All depression stems from distorted negative thinking.
I'm 42 and, until about a year ago, have been depressed and anxious since at least 15. The first step is coming to believe that you have some control over how you feel. The second step is starting the work of changing your inner dialogue. The idea of working on something can be extremely overwhelming if you are depressed, but start with really small changes that don't require much effort. Find a good therapist (not just the first one you come across) that does some sort of CBT, MBSr, etc. Gentle external accountability and emotional support will help you stay on track. Just don't get frustrated and give up! If you get frustrated, it's because you are expecting too much from from yourself and not being grateful/happy about the subtle progress you've made. At some point the more postive inner dialogue becomes a habit and you don't have to work on it much. It's like a shepard watching his flock for wolves. She only has to keep one eye on them.
How did you improve the past 6 months? What differences have you noticed?
I know no one who explains mindfulness as good as Sam Harris
I know no one who explains mindfulness as good as Bruce Lee
@Saida Bella i know its weird, but he is very knowledgeable about the brain and his mindfulness videos are second to none.
@Saida Bella Standing up for what you believe in is now a problem is it?
@Saida Bella Being a mindful person doesn’t entail allowing evil to flourish.
@@yoshihorror1948 You equating Trump as evil is hate-based thinking. You would do well to dispel such destructive, blinding emotion.
As an empath with low self-esteem, life for too long has been about coping with suffering. Mindfulness has been the key to improving my self-esteem enough to begin to heal.
He's absolutely right. I'm stranded in the uk awaiting for some decision about my visa, working long hours, nearly three years without seeing my family and I still wake up being grateful and thankful every morning because life is a gift and no pebble on my way will deflect my thoughts from the blessings I being given.
My main remedy is smile to life, pray and eat as healthy as I can.
People are deceived by social media and all this unfair comparisons but more than anything people don't try to see any silver line of being here.
I think you missed the point completely here perhaps you could consider that maybe spending some time with the people you love most may improve your life and theirs and living in the moments with them instead of working long hours for what?
Sam is also an atheist.
Robert Rathswohl. He got a heart from M.
Where you going?
I would only add that maybe you should do less "praying" and more "thinking". Praying is irrational thought. Just framing it differently. Critical thinking and rational thought gets you closer to being mindful of what's around you. As opposed to hoping that an imaginary force or figure will work your life out for you.
@@rileydavidjesus I think OP is in UK waiting for a decision on his visa (possibly an extension).... He has been working there a few years already while his family are back in his home country. - that is my comprehension.
My mother taught me Meditation when I was a child. I forgot about it for almost twenty years. Today I am 34 years old and relearning this Mindfulness. I am Lucky she is still alive. The older I get, The more I appreciate what my parents taught me. I am Taking videos of her so I can remember her in 50 years when I am old & she'll be dead
I instinctively observed everything and everyone my entire life. My parents left me alone with my thoughts and defended me at school when teachers complained about my learning ”disabilities”. I am autistic but 40 years ago, never understood. Perhaps my parents never really knew how to care for me in this undiagnosed sense, but thank the gods. This allowed my mind to reveal itself from within instead of competing constantly at school, which is what all schools are and do, I developed inner senses that are like meditation and third eye vision. I now teach this. Everyone can learn it.
My *only* fear in life is for the child that grows up hardened to only know the outside.
All children are naturally tuned inwards.
It is the conditioned man that tries to condition a child.
You have a bright mother
Who would have thought that anxiety and excitement are the same physical feeling with a different framing, the narrative we are telling ourselves. That in itself is the game changer. I am so glad I re-discovered Sam Harris today. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful video.
Most good psychologists would say that
"Rediscovered" Yeah, That's the word I would use too. The first time was when i was a hardcore militant atheist, lol and now life events brought me back to him which is very nice.
@@Ryosuke1208 Life's ups and downs LOL, everyday is a school day and it never ends.
It’s amazing how well Sam Harris puts into words what I often think. His words are so illuminating and potent that it really changes my thinking every time I listen to him.
yehh contradiction do that to you ... spiritual atheist lol
What is contradictory about a spiritual atheist?
@@joshboston2323 what does that even mean ? let's first see if you understand ...
@@Mr.Jasaw13 Well, I think the definition of spirituality is quite broad. I do not necessarily connect it to a religion or to spirits. I think many people would agree that meditation for instance, is a spiritual practice. In that sense, an atheist can be both an atheist and spiritual right?
It's not contradictory at all. You should read Sam's book Waking Up if you think otherwise.
Sam Harris and Jourdan Peterson have had a profound effect on my life. Its hard to define or explain, nor can I place some material value to it. Simply some of the most important substance in my mind.
Schools spent hundreds of hours teaching me grammar I already knew and formulas I will never use. If some of that time was spent teaching me how to be in better control of my life, if I hadn't wasted so much time doing things wrong, I can only imagine where I'd be.
I have heavy anxiety today and this guided meditation made me cry. I don't even know why or what happened, but apparently I really needed this. Thanks, Sam. ❤
It took me 15 years of mindfulness to become happy. The one single idea the set me going was that your feelings are based on thoughts, so if you can change your thoughts, you can change your feelings. Everything that Sam says here it perfectly aligned with the conclusions I have myself come to the past 20 years or so, and that I try to pass on to others.
On the same path. Hope it doesn't take me so long though
Well, for me it took me like 15 weeks to feel more noticeable changes in mi daily life and be happier. I've been able to do things like I've never done before, like be completely calm when I'm stuck in heavy traffic and learning to actually be present in those moments. If really gives life a different perspective.
My experience has been different (not to say better). Practising meditation (a form of Vapasanna the same as Sam) has shown that I in fact cannot change my thoughts contrary to as you describe, they manifest much the same way as dreams, I don't manufacture them, they come of their own accord into my conscious stream. thoughts are purely transient, impermanent, they come to be and then pass, over and over, and meditation gets you to the a position of mind where you can remain detached from those thoughts, you can just observe them and then return to the object of meditation (the breath when starting out). This then gets you to the point that you can just be. You don't need to be thinking positive or not having any negative thoughts, as your thoughts have no influence or power over your emotions (should you choose that way in any given moment). "With strong mindfulness we can experience a deep sense in which self-loathing and romantic thoughts are the same: like all other thoughts, these are passing moments of mind.." - The Science of Meditation.
@@pozzarefds yes, detaching yourselves from thoughts means that the feelings they create can also change, this is absolutely true.
I can attest to the fact that mindfulness helps with public speaking anxiety. Though i didn't even medidate. You just need to learn to kind of acknowledge your anxiety without trying to make it go away or wanting to flee from it and without considering it as a bad or shameful thing, because the want to flee from it is what then makes it worse and uncontrollable instead of when you simply accept it.
I am happy to see that Sam Harris read about our Upanishads (written in 800 BCE) of Indian Philosophy where it was written, discussed and prescribed "CONTROL OF THOUGHTS IS LIBERATION" and later Gautama, the Buddha taught people how to achieve Equanimity of Mind. Kudos to Sam for preaching the advice of age old ancient Indian sages.
Sam the goat
He’s voice alone gives peace 👍🏻
True that💜💜💜
His*
wol.jw.org/en/wol/binav/r1/lp-e 😀
@@vagabond7684 hey Ross
The best advice I ever received regarding this topic was as a teen: Whenever people ask "how are you?" the common response typically received is in the negative or otherwise dismal ("oh, you know, not so good" , "could be better", "same as always", etc...), by consciously answering in a positive way ("I'm doing great!" -whether you truly feel it or not), it triggers the mind take a new view of your situation and eventually alters your self confidence and world view, as well as others' opinion of you.
I became responsible for children when I too was still a child. That experience defined me and destroyed me. I didn't know how to take care of me while being responsible for two other lives with no adult experience. I guess that is why I have been wrought with anxiety and anger most of my life. I wasted my life before I ever had my own. I hope this helps some young person to think about their own life altering choices that can destroy your entire life. It is hard when you are young and people are out to take advantage. Be careful...most people are not good.
Lee Ann OLeary I hope you are ok. Thanks for sharing.
I appreciate your words of encouragement and wisdom. In a sense, your story sounds like one of those situations where others should consider and be grateful for their opportunities and/or circumstance.
I hope this does not come across as insensitive to what you went through, but is it possible that these mindfulness techniques and skills may even be applied to your own life? I do not think you are "destroyed" (as you have put it), for example!
@@christianmiranda7887 it sounded good until he talked about clinical depression from which I suffer from. No hope for us. Thank you for your kind reply in any case.
@@leeannoleary1881 Of course, thank you, as well.
I understand to an extent, too, clinical depression (from having been diagnosed before myself and from having friends and mutual acquaintances that suffer greatly from it) and so I will not patronize you. It is a horrible disease that is suffered from it.
I still can't help in wishing you the best, though. Thank you for being here and sharing what you did all those months ago.
EDIT: I also remember when he started talking about clinical depression in the video and remember it feeling a bit careless lumping it in as he did with the rest of his thoughts. I'm sure, at least, he meant well like a lot of people do when trying to talk about mental illness.
If only children could be taught these lessons from a young age we would all be in a much better place today.
Yes we can start today to make tomorrow better
Then there will be others who will be better than you and out compete you so you would only get scraps. This world is make up of looser and winner. There's no In between the spoils go to the Victor the rest is history
Grateful to God for giving a sinner like me a new life. Grateful to God and to my remarkable gentleman forever
We can all choose to be more mindful of our experiences and thoughts. If we choose to be more mindful in our lives. Life quality will shoot up 🙏 Much Love💯
what religion is that ?
Some of these things I've actually thought of myself, and that's why I'm happy to see more people thinking is similar ways.
Clash Gamer Considering--according to Sam Harris free will is an illusion! Perhaps it’s a collective energy affecting the masses creating a shift in consciousness of a better way to be?
You thought of it yet you did not make a video of it
@@andressanchez6546 I mean, I have like 10 subs so why would I go into unnecessary effort of creating a video, I have better things to do.
I love Sam so much. I might seems strange but I have learned more from Sam than my parents.
Reframing to consider all the bad stuff that you're NOT going thru is the beginning of cultivating gratitude.
Thanks Dr. Harris,
You answered my question.
You are loved.
Be mindful and become AWARE of the stories that you are telling yourself, be AWARE of your thoughts and feelings, discover your limiting beliefs, discover what your beliefs are and know that you are capable to let go of what's holding you back, just know that not everything that you see needs a LABEL, we can just become the OBSERVER and find acceptance, be present and live every experience in slow motion. We are capable of controlling our thoughts, choosing our thoughts and change our mindset... to be able to change our life.
@The Borderline Life sending lots of love !!! Have a beautiful day ♡
Sam isn't very mindful when he talks about Trump...he becomes unglued. lol
...To effortlessly cooperate with creative and happy strangers...
That was wonderful. I'm putting that on my desktop.
Sam Harris is amazing! He is one of the most highly evolved humans that we have!
Good grief. SH is regurgitating non original and not very insightful information that’s been around and written about for ages. Not very esoteric. Millions of people worldwide say the same things every day.
@@yashathebelgianmalinois348 You're a fucking idiot that probably lives in his mom's basement. Damn incels are everywhere.
I’ve tried so hard but can’t get into it. Respect SH immensely and it saddens me to admit this
What is it exactly you're trying to achieve? Awareness is effortless - you surely don't have to _try_ to be aware? I'm wondering if there's merely some confusion here.
watched this and I've just purchased his book "waking up" excited for it to come in
There is also full audio book on youtube if anyone is interested 👍
It’s dope. All his books are good.
Thoughts are always there. This man, like I do, recognizes them in the moment. They always seemed important to me. I try to 'direct' them, but neuroscience seems to show there are fractions of a second before any awareness that decisions are made. Still I seem to have to try.
Sam doesn't claim to be mindful of every thought or sensation he has. Nor does he deny the importance of being lost in thought for the purposes of achieving demanding cognitive tasks. Also, mindfulness is not about learning to direct your thoughts or emotions.
Sam Harris is my Idol. So grateful for his insights!!!!!
Thoughtful and compelling, as always. Thank you.
Control your life by writing down all your daily choiches and then analyze them🔥
Little tip😌
If I had anywhere near that sort of motivation I'm sure I'd be just fine. haha
Great idea..! Will be hard at first
overthinking is a superpower.
At the end of the day (recalling all the decisions you’ve made throughout the day)? Or early in the morning (let’s you make the choice to plan to do xyz)?
@@RecreatingRealityFilms it's a double edged sword.
I think what Sam is saying is...
“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. ” (Philippians 4:6-9.)
"Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful." (Col 3:9-15).
And so many other admonishments just like these! ;)
I use to think the ' internet' was useless for me mentally.....after watching and LISTENING to this I think otherwise. Glad I discovered Mr. Sam Harris!😀
What life do you want to live?
DECIDE! And then pursue it relentlessly.
yes cus universe don't care ..it's arbitrary and meaningless either way so choose your own illusion ^^
@Tarzan why tho ? it makes no difference in the ultimate sense ...like pretending that something is this or that
I just realized how good Jordan Peterson is!
Had to listen to this one many many times again. Probably one of the best excerpts of his philosophy.
Even though I’m a Christian, Harris is my favorite of the Four Horsemen. He really is a very thoughtful and gentle human being.
Yonna Gonna who are the four horsemen?
Daniel Dennet, Sam Harris, Christopher Hitchens, and Richard Dawkins.
Jonathan Lee Christopher Hitchens is a close second because he had such wit, but I really like Harris. I would even say he’s taught me life lessons that have helped me be a more conscientious Christian.
"You can change the code that you are running moment to moment." (your positive thought can help you survive}
No need to think better thoughts, positive thoughts to psych yourself up.
Instead of being identified with thoughts (immersed in thought) be a watcher of thoughts; that's your true self.
In a level of watcher there are no problems; thoughts create problems. Even if you try to create better thoughts like "at least I don't have a cancer", you're still operating on a level of thoughts and in a mercy of ever changing thoughts.
You are not your thoughts, thoughts happen in you. You are bigger than your thoughts, you are the space where thoughts come and go. Be a watcher of thoughts, like clouds drifting by.
But if you are thinking of watching thoughts and observing them you are STILL operating on a level of thoughts.
@@sjuuilson You're right, "watcher" was probably not so good word to use.
So, no thinking of watching or observing. Thoughts happen by themself and You just let them come and go.
Sam Harris’s influence on my life has been incredibly meaningful. What a great human being..
The spiritual practice, with application, and without all the mumbo jumbo. 🙏
Thank you Dr. Harris.
That was a wonder talk
When the student is ready - the teacher will appear.
My journey has brought me here because I am ready for this lesson. And - I will keep going.
I am responsible for my life.
Thank you, Universe.
I truly believe that we as humans all give ourselves the answers in our subconscious mind, but unless our thoughts are verified it becomes just a thought. Sams way of putting his thoughts into words that people can understand is something I admire so much. Thank you 🙏
Sam just another savior that everyone longs for to tell them how to show them there way, there truth and there life..
I guess I could join the Sangha at last. I know what to do at 66. It becomes a matter of actualization for me. The intent, will, stamina, clarity and serenity will all be needed for me to improve my mental state and evolve.
This is enlightening thanks
Putting God in everything we do!!!✊🙏🙌✨
Please leave religion out of this. Sam Harris will be the first one to tell you precisely that.
This all resonates with what the essence of the state of enlightenment is... Taught for centuries by spiritual masters but unfortunately manipulated by those who wanted to establish a source outside yourself as the answer, hence creating dependency on a higher authority that requires worship, following, obedience, etc, etc. The treasure is within, it has always been, devoid of the past and speculation about the future. Without labels, judgments, projections or beliefs but direct experience with reality itself.
Make the change from within to feel the change without
💜
People are so misguided and disillusioned that even a hint of an alternative seems like a profound revelation.
What sorts of things do you think people believe that makes them misguided and disillusioned?
@@barry.anderberg People are misguided and disillusioned by many modern beliefs. Such as the universe lacking design, the creation of life being a random fluctuation of matter, free will not existing, or the world coming to an end through anthropogenic climate change just to name a few.
@@timothymcgoldrick2222 Agreed, and there are lots of others.
@@timothymcgoldrick2222 people are also misguided by ancient beliefs. Such as not believing something that contradicts their sacred books, there being an invisible thing watching everything every moment, there being a place where you'd be punished for eternity as a result of what u did in this "short" (compared to eternity) amount of time, just to name a few
@@TheOne-zt6tb I'm unfamiliar with this invisible thing you described, or which sacred texts you are referring to.
Low key, down to earth presentation going straight to the point packed full of wonderfully helpful advice. Thanks Sam.
Always something worthwhile from the mind of Sam Harris.
Sam Harris is like Alan Watts 2020
Doesn't have as good an accent though
alan watts was pretty much spiritual. i would not put Sam into that category. allthough i suspect he will end up there some day. cheers.
Not at all
@Ela Lamblin in what way would you say he is brainwashed?
and what are you referring to when you mention his political views?
It's hard to put concepts such as these into words
Most of us feel anxiety or worry because of a combination of experience and how we are wired not because you tell yourself to feel that way and can talk or think yourself out of it. I do agree with the last thing he said though around error correction as that is important and does work.
We think ourselves into it unconsciously. To consciously think your way out of anxiety takes practice and self control.
I achieve my goals by doing the ridiculous, but just dropping what I am doing and doing my goals, and not carrying about the anxiety of people thinking it's crazy that I do that. I had an x who had an amazing body because he did what I do now. I will be talking to people and just busy out and do squats and crunches. My body looks so much better now. 😊
I needed this. Sam is great when he’s not constantly bashing faith.
You call it 'bashing', I call it 'dismantling'. It is something that needs dismantling as there is no other facet of human life where having 'faith', the willingness to believe something without any evidence whatsoever, is seen as a good thing. And it is this faith and dogma which holds the human race back. Back to a time where only 'faith' had answers that have long been shown to be phantasmagorical.
He's great then, also.
@@Kixtia013 Agreed
@@beees3499 I completely agree with you. Religion is the root cause of so much death and destruction.
Such a wise gentleman💜 I hope to find a guy like him one day !!
You dont need to.
@@M.Free23 why not??
@@divyasingh4505 You dont need a man to be complete.
@@M.Free23 Absolutely agree with you. I somehow had guessed in my mind that you would say that cause I believe in it as well. Thank You for your words but again I am taught not to think negative about marriage cause it could bring happiness if it is with a right compatible person.
@@divyasingh4505 I understand, I wish you all the best!
Mine is my mind to control. Why fear attempting to understand never having control. Self accountability and self appreciation is so unacknowledged in life itself. When they are the very keys to anything and everything you may someday become. You legit changed everything for me when I felt lost and socially distracted and distraught.
*deep exhale*
This has been very helpful this year. Thank you.
Yes its nice to be kind to people bub some people cant be an its not all ways the fear of do something its people.
Fear is fear weather the stimulus is a lion or another person. I believe, people who struggle with other people (who are nasty/unreasonable) stay silent.
The Cure to that is you you don't always have to be nice, sometimes and really all the time, you need to look after yourself. If you can be nice to do that great! Go for it but if nice is not working switch gears.
If there is a word I'd recommend you it's be assertive when necessary and that'll solve that "person" problem.
We're still such an immature species . Imagine how different we could be as a global community if we were taught things like this as young adults instead of being indoctrinated into stupid old traditions.
like religion.
@@barbossa70 incorrect you just have no idea what religion actually is about, Let me tell you its nothing to do with ghosts and gods and the afterlife
A lot of what he is saying is very much in alignment with a process called ACT ( Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/ Training)
Exactly! You, Sam, should adopt that principle yourself.
You know you on the right path of transforming your life if you so early on such RUclips kind of content ❤ Keep it up
At what point in our thousands of years of evolution did job interviews, public speaking, careers become considered normal? We feel anxious and depressed cz this life is all someone else’s idea and the above tasks are imposed upon us through indoctrination without our consent.
I feel pain when i hit my thumb with a hammer so i avoid it.
My brain is brain is telling me to stop it.
Regular and constant anxiety and depression is not normal, our brains are reacting to an unacceptable situation.
At what point then did driving a car, flying on airplanes, taking boat rides, climbing up tall ladders, using computers, watching tv or cinema become normal? This is not a case of normal vs not normal or what humanity used to do some eons ago. There are people who like public speaking and they do it and theres people who dont like it (fear, anxiety etc) and they still do it. The people who dont like it, by doing it, they are facing their fears which slowly mitigates their fear response from their bodies. We all have fears and different scenarios that scare us and not seem that normal to us. And just for the record youre right about life being more complex now compared to what it used ti be but if you do not adapt (adapt in this case means developing crucial skills that better mitigate and regulate emotional pain in your life) then you will perish (with perish i mean having a very hard emotional experience-life).
JoeySkate24 some great points there for sure. However, I think if we keep living this way of indoctrination, consumerism, led by the nose etc we will perish. We are conditioned to consume before we are even old enough to comprehend it. Adapting doesn’t only have to mean fitting in with the main stream.
@@paddyfriend3999 yes i agree with that 100%. Its true that the life now is more friendly towards people with money rather than providing a fullfilling life.
What makes you so certain people hundreds of years ago didn't have anxiety and depression? They wouldn't have had words for them. Lives were a lot more simple, short and filled with much more material suffering (sickness, injury, death, etc.). Also, at some point people didn't know how to write. We'd all be pretty smart compared to people throughout evolution so, who is to say that we are not just evolving through an awkward stage? Maybe the way through it is simply through mindfulness.
He never says to control your thoughts, as if that could even be possible. The trick isn't controlling thoughts, it's noticing them as mere thoughts, as appearances in consciousness, and not becoming lost in them. And further recognizing that there's not even a thinker, or a self, there's only awareness. That's liberation.
Took me all of my life to discover this. After many years of different types of meditation.
Excellent clip, but the piano loop in the “background” is distracting and an unfortunate choice.
Yes, wouldn't it be wonderful, to just chat with anyone at anytime. It's so sad that we are conditioned to be suspicious and afraid to chat kindly with "strangers". No lonely people, if it was normal to approach anyone, and have a chat.
I do it, but I know it is difficult.
Girls talk to anyone
@@andressanchez6546 thats sure not my experience.
4:40 This is actually *Really, really good* .
Exactly on the head, excitement is much easier to deal with, and a far more positive emotion, actually easy to trade with anxiety for excitement internally, give it a go.
But even the environment plays a major role right?..... For me it does
Absolutely.
For me its how I react to the environment. I believe Sam is saying that suffering is a choice once you recognize that it comes from how we frame reality.
I definitely believe environment can limit or enhance you, personally.
That's not to say you don't have some control and can't work with it. But there's a point when you realize you can put yourself in a better environment, that better environments exist.
The key is to minimize the extent to which one's environment has an influence over their happiness. Changing all we can and accepting what we cannot
Great video.
Ultimately, you can lie to yourself and convince yourself it's not a lie. Then, you've set yourself free. Never to be found again as the same soul. There is another way; to retain yourself as much as possible. Give yourself to another; and admit your life is out of your hands.
Don't confuse sanity and consciousness with joy and happiness. Most importantly, you don't always have to focus on the truth; but for the love of love (and not the love of life), don't forget it. This is the rare case where the less you have to lose, the more you have to win.
I tried mindfulness meditation but I just don’t have the patience though I do use it occasionally. This guy is a wonderful communicator, great video.
"not clinical depression but feeling like life sucks and you're a failure" well gee there's a definition of clinical depression if I ever heard one. Life sucks and I'm a failure and I believe this and feel this in my bones and I'm not clinically depressed at all, said no one.
So true though
It’s a vicious cycle
Just like anything
Having that thought and feeling consistently for a prolonged period is the extra requirement.
Yes clinical depression sucks!!! Which colors ones world in the darkest sense possible! And it’s very difficult to eradicate! Sam also believes free will is an illusion --does that mean the choice to implement such wisdom isn’t a choice its happenstance! Destiny perhaps! What to do if you aren’t able to change? It seems collectively many are awakening to a more joyful way of being through adopting a healthier diet, meditating etc! Some are unable to see the wisdom of, some agree but are unable to make the changes through no fault of their own? Interesting. What if the world view is shifting and it’s like dominos falling? The less depressed individuals become that collective positive energy affects everyone!? I’ve been seriously clinically depressed! I still battle the tendency, but I’m not now! The first step is accepting what is......with a tiny glimmer of hope the situation will improve! It can and it will.
Zyan Z problem is
Free will is what every human possesses as a human. There is no such thing as installed free will
Your personal thoughts are your free will.
Unfortunately it’s been deluded by an unknown power that floats around?
Like the rest of the religions.
Religion was a guideline and a judicial system for kings to rule
Also a self made thought to rule, Bettered the odds of survival.
But that is the dark ages
I think humans can grow up and put pretend happiness aside and start believing in yourself as a human
where do i find more of this , 10-20 mins or so just aint enough , for my needs...haha
This was actually taken from an interview sam harris did on the impact theory
ruclips.net/video/StzNlYXnCm4/видео.html
Sam Harris didn’t come up with these concepts (and I’m sure he never claimed to). One can learn these practices with a therapist who practices cognitive behavior and/ or acceptance-commitment therapy, and also from any respected teachers of mindfulness. Jon Kabat-Zinn, Tara Brach, Pema Chodron, to name a few. Best wishes on your journey! ~Michele
ABM LLC his app: Waking Up
Very articulate. Thank you.
The Mind is not the secret, the secret is the answer for your mind as a sign of guidance to any solution, on how to use your mind in better ways to think to form your thoughts in higher form to understand knowledge.
This ability to “just feel” anxiety, is exactly what happens when you microdose psilocybin
When you are microdosed and you feel a sense of anxiety come over you. You notice how it’s there but it doesn’t interfere with your homeostasis. It becomes a secondary feeling in a list of other feelings that you are experiencing. So for example, I can be at a maximum state of comfort, relaxation and even euphoria, yet I’m anxious about something, that isn’t bothering me. You realize that it’s there, but it’s not in control. It’s like a crying baby, you can tune it out at some point. Furthermore, the feelings of joy and positivity take control and anxiety is simply in the background, doing its thing, but effecting nothing.
I'm interested in that and I've read a lot about psychedelic phenomenology, but a bit frustrated because I've no idea where or how or who from to get any of that right now.
Paul R grow your own
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Sry for my english, its not my first language
This is the epitome of a click-bait title! Credit to Motivation Madness though
it made me click and it did provide value. Peace & Prosperity from BBD folks!!
If everyone was so bright as Sam the world would be fine.
It's great to hear someone like Sam Harris speak common sense like this, because, although most of this SHOULD be common sense to most people, it may, perhaps, come with not enough confidence, or strength of conviction. Hearing someone SPEAK it, as clearly as Sam does, fortifies this conviction- at least, I can say for myself that it does.
Shout outs to the guy that just found out he only has 2 months to live.
10-12 years.
I am from arab countries. not every one can understand the tube of yours , it will be better if you translate your tube .
best wishes 🌷
JUST GOTTA LOVE SAM'S DEEPNESS.......
Thanks Sam
1st comment yes
always great to hear Sam Thanks
People can conjure up anything they believe whether it's true or not, to get above the thinking is to find truth through reality.awm
Thank you Sam