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Hi Sabrina, after repetitive emotional unavailability, we had a small fight when I told him -go to hell.. and its been 6days now, no contact from either side. How long should this continue ?
1. He's mad at you 2. He's not your boyfriend, and he's acting like he's NOT your boyfriend 3. He needs space 4. You're being TOO needy 5. He wants to break up with you 6. He doesn't like you
What to do if he ignores you: 1. Don't badger him, leave him alone 2. Don't subtweet him, or post stuff to get a rise out of him using social media 3. Don't stalk him in person or on his social media
This was so spot on. Harsh but something we all need to hear. I have been going through a rough breakup the last couple of months and these videos have been so helpful and honestly have really helped me get stronger as a person. I have found issues in myself that I have been working on in quarantine and getting to a place where I will be so much better and ready to have a truly healthy relationship. I want to thank you because everything you talk about makes me realize that I'm not the only one going through these situations and I really am getting a better understanding of why they're happening. This has truly helped me in my healing process and I really appreciate you and your videos 💕. P.S. Yes please to the ghosting video! Lol it happens wayyyyy too much these days. To be honest, I have caught myself doing it sometimes too. The best advice I have gotten when it comes to dating behavior is this: "when you have done to someone the behavior you're receiving, what was your intention behind it?" AKA.. when I have been short with someone, it was because I lost interest, therefore stop making excuses when a guy does that to me that they're "busy" or whatever. Learning to recognize the behavior and accept it for what it is, is really helpful for your own mental peace of mind.
@muskan rath I've spent a decade chasing unavailable guys. A lot of it comes from unresolved childhood issues, low self-esteem, addiction to drama and the list goes on. I've written a book about it and have videos on my channel talking about this and how you can change that pattern
What to do when a man ignores you: 1) Nothing. Let the bastard go. 😘 You tolerate immature bullshit, you get immature bullshit. Someone who cares should be willing to have an adult conversation. Ignoring you is disrespectful. Let. Him. Go.
Thank you for your videos! They are refreshing & highly informative. I would like to see a video about dating someone with "mental health issues/challenges". Thank you - continued blessings 💚
I’m so glad I found your channel it very helpful. I’m learning so much, even though I’m in my middle 40 ies. It’s never too late to learn, especially after having made mistakes in relationships.
What about just disappearing and getting back to hobbies and self-care? Hard to stay in love with or respect someone who takes that cowardly approach. It also reveals immaturity.
Hey Lady - I've listened to sooo many dating coaches - Rori Raye, Christian Carter, Matthew Coast, Renee Wade and by far you are my favorite. I am devouring your You Tube channel right now. Thanks so much for putting such great advice out there that makes me feel like confident, high value woman. There's something about you that makes me feel empowered about walking away from crappy situationships and ghosting. It's nice to have such great insight without someone charging an arm and leg.
What to do when a someone ignores you: 1: ask if they’re okay 2: if they don’t say or want to be left alone, check back in a week. 3: check back in a week. Ask if you’ve done anything wrong. 4: if they don’t say or want to be left alone, try being just friends. DO NOT RELY ON A RELATIONSHIP FOR YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
You’re really good... the best I have heard yet!! Thank you for your tips... they are really helping me see were I stand and need to move on. I’ve known this person for 25 years he has worked for our family business and we finally have an year long relationship but he’s just a toxin person for me. I just wonder why he could treat me this way knowing we have been friends all these years. It just blows my mind how he’s nice to everyone else but he’s don’t care about me at all... I was never good enough for him, he always seem to bring me down and not lift me up. I broke up with him over a month ago and told him everything that was on my mind some of it was harsh. So last week he says we will try and work it out and make it right again. Just don’t be jealous. But then I haven’t heard from him so I decided to not text, call or nothing. I actually just came home for the beach from 3 days and I still haven’t heard from him. What are your thought?
I'm so sorry Tonya. This must be really difficult. What would be your ideal relationship? Do you think the way he's being with you, how he's treating you and how he's showing up is what you truly want or would you like something different? You sound like you have a big heart and you look for the best in people. I think it's important to remember that you matter. I think it's important to weigh the prospects of the relationship evaluating how that person treats you instead of thinking how that could look like if he did X Y Z.. because he may never do. Would you stay if nothing changes?
because you want to proove that you can "win" him, that you can change him and turn him around. That is why woman like bad boys and not normal guys, they are "challenge". You want something you can't have and not something you can have easily. WTF I tought you woman knew this?
@@bintissa5929 unfortunately I must agree. But for longterm monogamous relationship to work, 1 person has to be reacher and other settler. And I think men have to be settler because woman will ask herself through whole relationship "is he right for me" and test him in various ways, while men won't so much. If woman is more in love in men then him in her, then relationship has much more chance to work. For men this relationship is sometimes boring but it's the only way.
Allow me to add some value to the already wonderful video of yours! I believe that you should care for your man and make him feel protected. Don't doubt his feelings when he tries to express his love. Put him in a comfort zone to open up his heart and mind entirely. He will not be able to ignore you anymore. Balance your relationship with excellent communication. That will make you both happy and satisfied. Most importantly, be his best friend. If you truly love him, it will be effortless to do that. It's fundamental to make him express his love to you; it's imperative in a relationship. Without his love, you can't do much, with his love there's nothing you cannot do!
i hear 'trying too' what does this trying too mean, imply or feel like? is it a thought process or an actionable process. The answers can help you do in short time what you have tried for 3 years. Wishing you love ,light and positivity. Love is beautiful, its a strong force and it exist. it is people who are difficult we love the wrong people but LOVE initself is worth it with the right one.
If he ignores me I will ignore him back and when he comes back I will be like......hey whose this please 😂😂 that pain in the a**. It doesn't matter if he's my bf .I stopped caring about men.he has to earn me this is 2020 Actually I have no energy to confront any man and ask him look explain to me bla bla ...if he goes silent I will delete your number and everything and move on 😉
Truth is that it works . It's called Mimicking.. when you mimick a man's behaviour ,actions or etc .You get clarity. Remember the Golden rule ~ do to others what you want them to do you. So if he as much as gives silent treatment he should be served atleast it does two things either makes both parties realise the need for communication of it makes both realise they dont respect each other so much to sit down and address stuff rather than hold someone accountable in silence.
He said he adores me admires me, he likes my personality but he can't say that he loves me. Only when we meet in person and stay together that the admiration and the liking will fall into love.
Sabrina, I understood the reasons guys ignore us. I agree with the first solution you offered but everytime I think of not calling him, it backfires and I ultimately end up doing the opposite. Also, I couldn't understand the closure part. How can we give ourselves closure? On one hand I try to calm myself by saying its over, he's not interested in me anymore, I should move on. But the other half is dying to talk to him and make amends as mentioned in the video.
muskan rath I came up with a Calendar strategy with one of my girlfriends to help us get past that stage. Everyday we did not reach to him was a win. We marked it off on the calendar to give u some visual motivation. You see every time you don’t contact him, your empowering yourself and your dignity. It all boils down to confidence and self love. Now what’s more attractive than that?! ❤️ best of luck
I would say one way to give yourself closure is not to expect closure. I mean.. if you take it for what it is, for what he is serving you with then you wouldnt expect closure from someone who possibly does not respect or regard how his actions could make you feel. The other half that keeps dieing to make ammends even when you are not at fault what half is this? ~ what fears does this other half has?~ Fear of loosing him, or fear od not being good enough for someone else? or... Now turn that sabbotage around. Starting speaking highly to and of yourself, start aligning your thoughts positively to what you deserve. Who are you? remind yourself of your value and why you are trully one of your kind. When you start to see that You are the CAKE and not the icing your energy and vibrations will not settle for less than what you deserve. #best wishes in making effort for your own sanity
My ex and I are amazing face to face but when apart he ignores me for hours and then replies with emojis. Please I need help. He's so hot when together but cold when apart.
This video really helped me put things into perspective. I've been in a complicated relationship and things kinda imploded on Friday. His communication immediately changed. I sent him an email asking him not to leave me hanging or ghost me and just be honest with me. We've known each other for 35 years and he has been more or less part of the family. He responded yesterday morning and said that he wasn't ghosting me and that he just had some serious thinking to do. How long should I go with no communication before I ask him what's going on?
If he had some serious thinking to do, he’d go back to talking to you right after you told him you suspect he’s ghosting you. That’s what a guy who actually cares of what you think of him would do. He would be scared to lose you. This one doesn’t care about you and responded just to deny accusation (which is a true accusation as we can see now). Forget about him. You invest too much emotionally in a person that doesn’t care about you and is too cowardly to admit that.
You are cool , direct to the point, I just broke up with him when he thought I was joking when I asked him to help me in this though time , never asked anyone for help , work hard all my life, he took it very bad and I was welling to let go of the situation and I did txting him back and he was always answering with polite way but when I asked him if there’s anyone else in his life he simply answer it was over for him when I broke up with him, can you imagine ?
Recently we had an argument because what made me upset after 10 months of our relationship, when I commented to his post on facebook, he didn't like it and said, hes scared what his friends and colleagues say about my comment where as if we're girlfriend and boyfriend. So he's hiding me as his gf that is what I understand.
I"m going through this right now. It's driving me nuts!!!! I know it's nothing that I did but I just wish he would tell me that he needed space instead of just ignoring me. Oh well I have left him alone and if he comes back he'll come back
It's good that you are convinced it is nothing that you did. It would be helpful for your own sanity if you steo back and look.out for YOU. You did nothing so be assured he will come back around.. but what if he doesn't then there lies the answer you needed ~ he probably was not just that into you! It hurts but i would be thankful i found out earlier than later. Wishing you love and light.
It's ok for a guy to take space but if he repeatedly ghosts you despite the fact you told him it hurts you without any warning or real explanation, that's not a man, that's a boy. My boyfriend is doing this right now, yes he has a lot going on but he just disappears and denys my existence without even a text to say, 'hey I'm having an off day, I'll call you tomorrow'... That's all it takes, it's not hard
Heya gurlie ! I wanted to ask something- just how much is too much of ignoring? My guy hasn't responded to me in 2 days. Although he's come online multiple times. :(
Hi Sabrina! Are you a psychologist? You just nail it girl!!! Haha how can you know exactly how a guy thinks, as if you WERE one? It’s amazing. Thank you so much for your help🥰
Thank you! I majored in psychology but most of what I know comes from lots and lots of experience and interviewing TONS of men as research. And my co-founder of a new mode is a guy so he has been my male mind tour guide for many years!
Fantástico, so good reference then haha. Thank you so much, love the way you explain. Im only just learning to read men at 59 when my daughter already knows at 19🙄😩🙏😅. Best regards from Spain
Very helpful! Thank you! Question though - what if he frequently disappears - sometimes for a legitimate reason that he just neglected to tell me was going on & had no idea or way of knowing. (Long distance - idk if this is a real relationship - after on & off for five years - but consistently for the last year and a half - another issue altogether - if you have a video on that topic, it would be awesome. However, we keep going through this cycle & he keeps saying that he doesn’t want to end this whatever it is & serious about being together & don’t leave him alone... blah blah blah... & the cycle repeats itself. FREQUENTLY!! Idk what to think? I give him ample opportunities for an out. If I just back off - admittedly, I’m HORRIBLE at just shutting my mouth when I have no clue what’s going on. He ALWAYS comes back. Never apologizes for completely ignoring me, but he does frequently explain why he disappeared & gives me an update on his situation. I just get some weird random text - & like you said, the uncertainty & just not knowing is AWFUL!! Any insight as to why he keeps doing this? Or how do I deal with it better emotionally? (Oh yeah - he’s pretty emotionally unavailable too - that seems to be the type of guys I’m attracted to?!) One thing keeps coming to mind - & I finally asked about it. 1) he wants to be with me but he’s scared. 2) he’s almost 40 & only had 2 serious relationships. (& drop dead gorgeous - with the whole package to go along with it - or he would be long gone! Lol! He’s either this imaginary Prince Charming or absent??) Help!
Hmmm. Deep! If i should give my 2 cents. I'd say you know him better than anyone else. 5 years is no joke but permit me ask in that 5 years did you invest in really understanding his personality?. Distance is hard , but what can you say you know forsure about him given the distance. What has been the plans to shorten the existing distance.. What do you want from the relationship? what matters to you? what serves you right~ that is what is or should an emotionally available relationship or man look like for you?. I know the heart can choose to stay stuck and build fantacy from just feelings, hopes, exoectations or dreams.But sometimes we gotta invite the head on journey as this. After 5 years how did you feel then? and how do you feel now and how likely that what you really want to feel will come through.. Show up for yourself.. The work is in your hands. You can ignite it for better or or worst. But are you willing to take the step?. ~I wish you positivity and love. Sisterly regards 🤗
So this is my situation, someone help please. So this guy ignores me, so I ignore him. Then he starts sending really whiny texts asking “why don’t you talk to me anymore?” I say “oh I was just giving you space” etc. then as soon as I text him more often, he ignores me again. The conversation is never really deep or interesting even when I try to make it that way. Wtf is going on.
Not sure if my input will be of benefit 2 months later lol... But I think he's playing games. He likes your attention when he wants it...but other than that he's not invested enough to take it seriously and nor should you. I hope you've moved on from this guy.
I always read about this in magazines sometimes and also in the relationships with people I've known. If I didn't have hobbies and things to do, the same as my husband, we'd drive each other crazy. We knew we love each other we don't need constant vaidation but we do our own thing, but, some people when they enter into a relationship, and I have been guilty of this myself in the past was the guy would be our everything. We have songs saying "you are one in a million, .you're my number 1 I'd do anything for you..." S club 7. We have songs about finding our soul mate, yearn for the kind of love we want but it's the yearning that when we finally get a relationship with someone it's not necessarily with a good guy, it's someone who's basically an abuser because all the other good guys are freaked out and abusers will send us mixed messages and give us the silent treatment until we go mad, literally insane.
Interest is good. also depends on what stage you two are in the relationship. Just be sure you are not being needy and wanting too much attention than his circumstance can allow ..Observe the relationship like a third party and be realistic with your expectations and realisations.If on other hand he is just not making effort and you feel you have tried accomodating him too much then ask yourself ; Is this really good enough for me?....
I appreciate you for the work you do but if somebody is undergoing this and would like to really let the info sink in, I hope you dont talk this fast because though the info is very helpful, some of your salient points are not being emphasized because you dont practice pause. but over all, what you are saying is good. i would appreciate it more if you talk slowly and pause. thanks and more power
Coincidentally, I've just commented in a similar vein. I was watching it on my TV but have changed my phone settings to allow subtitles, which saves the re-winds to hear what she's saying. Perhaps that would work for you too. I suppose it's an inverted compliment to her that it concerns us that we can't hear what she's saying! 😁
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my current bf has been ignoring me on and off and has blocked me on and off on different social media platforms over the course of our relationship. he's a nice guy and we've never even had a fight before and when i ask him if he is doing fine, if everything is okay (which is rare bc i dont want to nag)he says he is fine. I'm getting tired of the ignoring me for days and just being a blip on the radar. this was super helpful so thank you
Men communicate differently from women. Try to understand him first before you can make assumptions . However, if he goes as far as blocking you. Then it is healthy for you not to condone it. You show people how to treat you by what you accept. So i'l ask when he unblocks you and reaches out what does he talk about? what does he say rught after that and what do you say too? why would you conveniently allow someone mess with you feelings? how much do you care about YOU?. if you try ignoring him a lil longer than he does you.. if you address the blocking actions he does and let him know its a deal breaker .. or tell him your style of communication and he doesnt pay heed. Then he probably thinks you dont love yourself enough for him to love you a little. Start the job on you. And be positive that he will come back. If he doesnt be positive he will never find someone like you again.
Oge Nkume I thank you for the kind words! however my situation is a bit more complex than I explained it; I just didn’t want to make a super long drawn out post. he’s a good guy and I see the good in him but there are just some things that are hard to look past and figure out. he has blocked me on different platforms before for sometimes weeks at a time before following me again just to do the same thing a week later even though he kept his number unblocked. although things haven’t been completely silent when we do talk, it usually ends up becoming something sex related or I don’t hear from him for days at a time but when I take too long to respond for his convenience he leaves me like 6 messages in 10-15 minutes. Then there was some sketchy stuff with a friend of his ex tracking me down and trying to spin shit. I’ve been trying to understanding and cooperative but it’s just games at this point. Like telling me ‘we need to talk more’ after I distance myself a little bit but then proceeding to block me the day after he said that is just counterproductive and sends me mixed signals. sorry if this is super long Iol. thanks again for the advice!
You speak really really well and very clearly. Thank you for your videos. You’re very smart. Please make a video on how to find high value men without having to go long distance I’d like to meet someone near by so we can see each other often. Having a hard time meeting an attractive man. Too many uneducated guys around her who have not taken care of themselves. I’m older. I’ve raised kids already. Thks. Need someone well educated.
I wanna know why he dose not like me. He had been giving me a lot of compliments but now he wants to ignore me. I haven’t done anything wrong. He was telling me that how nice of woman I was. He was giving me so many compliments
Hi, Sabrina! Thank u so much for your videos! I don't know what to do...we've been texting each other for a month, we were having fun, laughing a lot and he was showing also interest and was iniciating communication in an equal way! But, suddenly he desappeared and I haven't heard about him in three days. I know that I shouldn't do anything but I'm afraid he won't come back... Should I leave him alone, shouldn't I? Maybe he took me for granted :(
He is not ignoring me but he texts less and we argued a lot and he never acknowledged or validated my feelings. And he didn’t spend vday with me. Just a happy vday msg. I didn’t ask him out either since I don’t want to care too much. And am not ready to ask for a break up :(
Alway great, direct information, but I often have to rewind to hear what you said. Don't know if it's the accent, or because you speak quickly, or the sound quality, or a combination of all 3. It's not something I notice on other channels. It's not meant as a criticism, just an observation 😊
How to bring closure Sabrina? Should I tell him that its OK..I got the message clear and its over? He told me to wait up till confinement is over then we can sit down and talk..but in meantime...we are not talking at all...barely communicating...and I am not really chasing him either knowing the attitude and also respecting his request to be alone....
What if he accused me of sth, that I didn’t do or didn’t do on purpose. But he thinks that I did. When I defended myself he just ends the conversation with: „he doesn’t wanna deal with it“ and doesn’t get back to me anymore?!
Ok. this is my situation. I am 50 and there is a 65 year old who I have known for about 10yrs. He has been attracted to me the whole time, but it's only in the last few months that he is now single (the end of a 34 year marriage, yes it's over, he's moved out). a few weeks ago we acknowledged the mutual attraction, but nothing has been said or done since. granted we are currently in isolation mode... i see him once a week for a consult (exercise physiology) and there is much flirting going on during that time. so, does he just need time? Is his age and the age gap between us daunting?
Im needy and insecure too... i always want him to give comments for the pictures i sent..... that's why now he ignoring me... it's just painful because we have lots of plan and suddenly he ignore meq
Ok I confessed ! He is my brother's best friend , He always scared or shy to talk to me but whenever when we were alone he was smiling so damn lot to me and make me laugh ! He even once protected me from someone was hitting on me , he complimented me to his friends by me being different from all girls , I confessed but I kind of regret now , It was my mistake ? Well I stalked him in facebook and sent him a message from a fake account , I confessed then he put pressure on me to tell who really am I , I said the truth after that he did not respond , he ignored the message and did not even read it and now it's have been two months ! I am still waiting I do not want to be clingy by sending him tons of messages ! But I feel so sad !
He says iam his official girlfriend (all of his frnz know about us) and also talk to his exes when I pull back he ignores those girls and stops talking to them and doesn't talk to me as well....on every 33rd day I stop caring he comes back...love bombs and then he start talking to his exes again..... How to deal with this mentally...???
This is amazing. I got all that i need. We just broke up we had been in a long distance relationship. soon he will come back as soon as the borders will open. But all my things are still in his apartment i don't know if i should get it now or just leave it till he comes back. Can you please give me an idea especially that i want to start working on myself i don't think if its good that i still have my things in there. Thank you in advance...
Sometines u didn't even do anything to him he just gets tired of texting u n when u ask them to admit they are done with u they say no yet still they keep ignoring ur messages
My situation is deffenitly the " cant expect him to be fully emotionalyl available to you" and the " being too needy", " no one wants to be responsible for someones emotional well being" What do i do now ? Do i just move on ? Wait for him to text me ? I did apologize for being emotional but he left me on read it has been 3 days
am now suffering from the same thing and i need an advice plz, he is divorced 40 years old man with a kid , i like him soooo much and both of us got attracted to each others very quickly and we have lots of things in common also he gave me all the attention in the world but when i thought that we are the closest to each other he took a few steps back ... i respected that and i thought he is just not ready for a relationship at the moment so i stopped texting him , then he texted me but not like the old days when we use to text alot .... so i don't know what to do ... am ready to move on, but he doesn't let me do so or even giving me a reason, he just says that he is sooo busy ...ps he is active on Instagram moooost of the day 🤔
Sorry you feel this way. Youbmay want to do some findings on what Needy means. Watch some sabrina videos on neediness. When you do that ask and answer yourself Are you Needy girl friend?. ..
This guy sounds like he’s full of it. Drop this fool like a bad habit. Write down what you’re looking for in a partner/relationship and deal breakers and stick to that list.
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Hi Sabrina, after repetitive emotional unavailability, we had a small fight when I told him -go to hell.. and its been 6days now, no contact from either side. How long should this continue ?
Great video! Would love to hear more on this topic
1. He's mad at you
2. He's not your boyfriend, and he's acting like he's NOT your boyfriend
3. He needs space
4. You're being TOO needy
5. He wants to break up with you
6. He doesn't like you
It's 1, 3,4. But 100% the #1 for me
What to do if he ignores you:
1. Don't badger him, leave him alone
2. Don't subtweet him, or post stuff to get a rise out of him using social media
3. Don't stalk him in person or on his social media
Ladies... when u understand " we can't be love and compatible with evryone " thats it. The key is ACCEPTANCE AND LET IT GO
This was so spot on. Harsh but something we all need to hear. I have been going through a rough breakup the last couple of months and these videos have been so helpful and honestly have really helped me get stronger as a person. I have found issues in myself that I have been working on in quarantine and getting to a place where I will be so much better and ready to have a truly healthy relationship. I want to thank you because everything you talk about makes me realize that I'm not the only one going through these situations and I really am getting a better understanding of why they're happening. This has truly helped me in my healing process and I really appreciate you and your videos 💕.
P.S. Yes please to the ghosting video! Lol it happens wayyyyy too much these days. To be honest, I have caught myself doing it sometimes too. The best advice I have gotten when it comes to dating behavior is this: "when you have done to someone the behavior you're receiving, what was your intention behind it?" AKA.. when I have been short with someone, it was because I lost interest, therefore stop making excuses when a guy does that to me that they're "busy" or whatever. Learning to recognize the behavior and accept it for what it is, is really helpful for your own mental peace of mind.
Sabrina, could you please post videos on how can we stop falling for emotionally unavailable guys.
Yes!!! That's on my list and I'm very excited about it.
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An imotional unavailable guy is just playing games ignore him
@muskan rath I've spent a decade chasing unavailable guys. A lot of it comes from unresolved childhood issues, low self-esteem, addiction to drama and the list goes on. I've written a book about it and have videos on my channel talking about this and how you can change that pattern
Ok why would you be interested in someone who ignores you?? You want to know what to do? Ignore him too!! NEXT!!
I agree with you
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Yeah can relate to, too needy. Need to fix myself first, like my insecurities. Thank you for your advice.
What to do when a man ignores you:
1) Nothing. Let the bastard go. 😘
You tolerate immature bullshit, you get immature bullshit. Someone who cares should be willing to have an adult conversation. Ignoring you is disrespectful. Let. Him. Go.
Its me moving forward...focus on self love the right one will come along..thank u sab more love to u..
Thank you for your videos! They are refreshing & highly informative. I would like to see a video about dating someone with "mental health issues/challenges". Thank you - continued blessings 💚
I’m so glad I found your channel it very helpful. I’m learning so much, even though I’m in my middle 40 ies. It’s never too late to learn, especially after having made mistakes in relationships.
What about just disappearing and getting back to hobbies and self-care? Hard to stay in love with or respect someone who takes that cowardly approach. It also reveals immaturity.
Hey Lady - I've listened to sooo many dating coaches - Rori Raye, Christian Carter, Matthew Coast, Renee Wade and by far you are my favorite. I am devouring your You Tube channel right now. Thanks so much for putting such great advice out there that makes me feel like confident, high value woman. There's something about you that makes me feel empowered about walking away from crappy situationships and ghosting. It's nice to have such great insight without someone charging an arm and leg.
Thank you! That really means so much to me.
What to do when a someone ignores you:
1: ask if they’re okay
2: if they don’t say or want to be left alone, check back in a week.
3: check back in a week. Ask if you’ve done anything wrong.
4: if they don’t say or want to be left alone, try being just friends.
DO NOT RELY ON A RELATIONSHIP FOR YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
You’re really good... the best I have heard yet!! Thank you for your tips... they are really helping me see were I stand and need to move on. I’ve known this person for 25 years he has worked for our family business and we finally have an year long relationship but he’s just a toxin person for me. I just wonder why he could treat me this way knowing we have been friends all these years. It just blows
my mind how he’s nice to everyone else but he’s don’t care about me at all... I was never good enough for him, he always seem to bring me down and not lift me up. I broke up with him over a month ago and told him everything that was on my mind some of it was harsh. So last week he says we will try and work it out and make it right again. Just don’t be jealous. But then I haven’t heard from him so I decided to not text, call or nothing. I actually just came home for the beach from 3 days and I still haven’t heard from him. What are your thought?
I'm so sorry Tonya. This must be really difficult. What would be your ideal relationship? Do you think the way he's being with you, how he's treating you and how he's showing up is what you truly want or would you like something different? You sound like you have a big heart and you look for the best in people. I think it's important to remember that you matter. I think it's important to weigh the prospects of the relationship evaluating how that person treats you instead of thinking how that could look like if he did X Y Z.. because he may never do. Would you stay if nothing changes?
Why am I attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable?
I'm going to do a video on this. Stay tuned!
because you want to proove that you can "win" him, that you can change him and turn him around. That is why woman like bad boys and not normal guys, they are "challenge". You want something you can't have and not something you can have easily. WTF I tought you woman knew this?
@@davidgates5189 this goes to men to . They want challenging women
@@bintissa5929 unfortunately I must agree. But for longterm monogamous relationship to work, 1 person has to be reacher and other settler. And I think men have to be settler because woman will ask herself through whole relationship "is he right for me" and test him in various ways, while men won't so much. If woman is more in love in men then him in her, then relationship has much more chance to work. For men this relationship is sometimes boring but it's the only way.
Because interesting, attractive guys don't like spending their time talking about their feelings
Allow me to add some value to the already wonderful video of yours! I believe that you should care for your man and make him feel protected. Don't doubt his feelings when he tries to express his love. Put him in a comfort zone to open up his heart and mind entirely.
He will not be able to ignore you anymore.
Balance your relationship with excellent communication. That will make you both happy and satisfied.
Most importantly, be his best friend. If you truly love him, it will be effortless to do that.
It's fundamental to make him express his love to you; it's imperative in a relationship.
Without his love, you can't do much, with his love there's nothing you cannot do!
I find your videos very helpful cuz ur a straight talker and I need that. I have been trying to get over this guy for 3 months now
I'm so sorry, me too. Except I've been trying for 30 years 💔
@@cjsmomom we can be the fixing our broken hearts club. We can get through this
@@bloodq574 Yes you can! You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Stay strong!
i hear 'trying too' what does this trying too mean, imply or feel like? is it a thought process or an actionable process. The answers can help you do in short time what you have tried for 3 years. Wishing you love ,light and positivity. Love is beautiful, its a strong force and it exist. it is people who are difficult we love the wrong people but LOVE initself is worth it with the right one.
Jane Rogers can i join the club?
This video has been enlightening for me. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome!
If he ignores me I will ignore him back and when he comes back I will be like......hey whose this please 😂😂 that pain in the a**.
It doesn't matter if he's my bf .I stopped caring about men.he has to earn me this is 2020
Actually I have no energy to confront any man and ask him look explain to me bla bla ...if he goes silent I will delete your number and everything and move on 😉
Im not going to beg any man to talk to me or do anything at all with me I've learned to just not care what guys think any more
Truth is that it works . It's called Mimicking.. when you mimick a man's behaviour ,actions or etc .You get clarity. Remember the Golden rule ~ do to others what you want them to do you. So if he as much as gives silent treatment he should be served atleast it does two things either makes both parties realise the need for communication of it makes both realise they dont respect each other so much to sit down and address stuff rather than hold someone accountable in silence.
No one ignores any one without any reason but with that attitude please go for dog not for man.....
@sharti Kumar maybe you are real definition of a dog😂😂😂😉 grow some balls.
@@shaktikumar2693 oh u a guy I see
He said he adores me admires me, he likes my personality but he can't say that he loves me. Only when we meet in person and stay together that the admiration and the liking will fall into love.
You don't have a single idea on how yo videos have positively changed my life thanks so much🙏🙏
Sabrina, I understood the reasons guys ignore us. I agree with the first solution you offered but everytime I think of not calling him, it backfires and I ultimately end up doing the opposite. Also, I couldn't understand the closure part. How can we give ourselves closure? On one hand I try to calm myself by saying its over, he's not interested in me anymore, I should move on. But the other half is dying to talk to him and make amends as mentioned in the video.
muskan rath I came up with a Calendar strategy with one of my girlfriends to help us get past that stage. Everyday we did not reach to him was a win. We marked it off on the calendar to give u some visual motivation. You see every time you don’t contact him, your empowering yourself and your dignity. It all boils down to confidence and self love. Now what’s more attractive than that?! ❤️ best of luck
I would say one way to give yourself closure is not to expect closure. I mean.. if you take it for what it is, for what he is serving you with then you wouldnt expect closure from someone who possibly does not respect or regard how his actions could make you feel. The other half that keeps dieing to make ammends even when you are not at fault what half is this? ~ what fears does this other half has?~ Fear of loosing him, or fear od not being good enough for someone else? or... Now turn that sabbotage around. Starting speaking highly to and of yourself, start aligning your thoughts positively to what you deserve. Who are you? remind yourself of your value and why you are trully one of your kind. When you start to see that You are the CAKE and not the icing your energy and vibrations will not settle for less than what you deserve. #best wishes in making effort for your own sanity
My ex and I are amazing face to face but when apart he ignores me for hours and then replies with emojis. Please I need help. He's so hot when together but cold when apart.
He just compliments me I don’t go fishing for compliments
Pls do the ghost video :) new subbie, absolutely love you!!! You’re so spot on and helpful xx
Hi Sabrina! I love your videos!! If we have a personal situation we're going through and want some quick advice, what's the best way to reach you?
Dm me on instagram- @anewmode
I'm loving all your videos! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom!!
This video really helped me put things into perspective. I've been in a complicated relationship and things kinda imploded on Friday. His communication immediately changed. I sent him an email asking him not to leave me hanging or ghost me and just be honest with me. We've known each other for 35 years and he has been more or less part of the family. He responded yesterday morning and said that he wasn't ghosting me and that he just had some serious thinking to do. How long should I go with no communication before I ask him what's going on?
Christina Brown don’t wast your life on a narcissist
If he had some serious thinking to do, he’d go back to talking to you right after you told him you suspect he’s ghosting you. That’s what a guy who actually cares of what you think of him would do. He would be scared to lose you. This one doesn’t care about you and responded just to deny accusation (which is a true accusation as we can see now). Forget about him. You invest too much emotionally in a person that doesn’t care about you and is too cowardly to admit that.
You are cool , direct to the point, I just broke up with him when he thought I was joking when I asked him to help me in this though time , never asked anyone for help , work hard all my life, he took it very bad and I was welling to let go of the situation and I did txting him back and he was always answering with polite way but when I asked him if there’s anyone else in his life he simply answer it was over for him when I broke up with him, can you imagine ?
Recently we had an argument because what made me upset after 10 months of our relationship, when I commented to his post on facebook, he didn't like it and said, hes scared what his friends and colleagues say about my comment where as if we're girlfriend and boyfriend. So he's hiding me as his gf that is what I understand.
It is okey if someone is ignoring you because he is mad at you. We need to understand the situation. My sincetest SORRY for everything.
Very amazing advices, vry well explained. Thank you❤️
So helpful content and so elegantly put! Thank you.
I don’t go fishing for compliments.
If someone is ignoring you, just stop deluding yourself about having something with this person.
I"m going through this right now. It's driving me nuts!!!! I know it's nothing that I did but I just wish he would tell me that he needed space instead of just ignoring me. Oh well I have left him alone and if he comes back he'll come back
It's good that you are convinced it is nothing that you did. It would be helpful for your own sanity if you steo back and look.out for YOU. You did nothing so be assured he will come back around.. but what if he doesn't then there lies the answer you needed ~ he probably was not just that into you! It hurts but i would be thankful i found out earlier than later. Wishing you love and light.
It's ok for a guy to take space but if he repeatedly ghosts you despite the fact you told him it hurts you without any warning or real explanation, that's not a man, that's a boy.
My boyfriend is doing this right now, yes he has a lot going on but he just disappears and denys my existence without even a text to say, 'hey I'm having an off day, I'll call you tomorrow'... That's all it takes, it's not hard
Heya gurlie ! I wanted to ask something- just how much is too much of ignoring? My guy hasn't responded to me in 2 days. Although he's come online multiple times. :(
Hi Sabrina! Are you a psychologist? You just nail it girl!!!
Haha how can you know exactly how a guy thinks, as if you WERE one? It’s amazing.
Thank you so much for your help🥰
Thank you! I majored in psychology but most of what I know comes from lots and lots of experience and interviewing TONS of men as research. And my co-founder of a new mode is a guy so he has been my male mind tour guide for many years!
Fantástico, so good reference then haha. Thank you so much, love the way you explain. Im only just learning to read men at 59 when my daughter already knows at 19🙄😩🙏😅. Best regards from Spain
Very helpful! Thank you! Question though - what if he frequently disappears - sometimes for a legitimate reason that he just neglected to tell me was going on & had no idea or way of knowing. (Long distance - idk if this is a real relationship - after on & off for five years - but consistently for the last year and a half - another issue altogether - if you have a video on that topic, it would be awesome. However, we keep going through this cycle & he keeps saying that he doesn’t want to end this whatever it is & serious about being together & don’t leave him alone... blah blah blah... & the cycle repeats itself. FREQUENTLY!! Idk what to think? I give him ample opportunities for an out. If I just back off - admittedly, I’m HORRIBLE at just shutting my mouth when I have no clue what’s going on. He ALWAYS comes back. Never apologizes for completely ignoring me, but he does frequently explain why he disappeared & gives me an update on his situation. I just get some weird random text - & like you said, the uncertainty & just not knowing is AWFUL!! Any insight as to why he keeps doing this? Or how do I deal with it better emotionally? (Oh yeah - he’s pretty emotionally unavailable too - that seems to be the type of guys I’m attracted to?!) One thing keeps coming to mind - & I finally asked about it. 1) he wants to be with me but he’s scared. 2) he’s almost 40 & only had 2 serious relationships. (& drop dead gorgeous - with the whole package to go along with it - or he would be long gone! Lol! He’s either this imaginary Prince Charming or absent??) Help!
Hmmm. Deep! If i should give my 2 cents. I'd say you know him better than anyone else. 5 years is no joke but permit me ask in that 5 years did you invest in really understanding his personality?. Distance is hard , but what can you say you know forsure about him given the distance. What has been the plans to shorten the existing distance.. What do you want from the relationship? what matters to you? what serves you right~ that is what is or should an emotionally available relationship or man look like for you?. I know the heart can choose to stay stuck and build fantacy from just feelings, hopes, exoectations or dreams.But sometimes we gotta invite the head on journey as this. After 5 years how did you feel then? and how do you feel now and how likely that what you really want to feel will come through.. Show up for yourself.. The work is in your hands. You can ignite it for better or or worst. But are you willing to take the step?. ~I wish you positivity and love. Sisterly regards 🤗
So this is my situation, someone help please. So this guy ignores me, so I ignore him. Then he starts sending really whiny texts asking “why don’t you talk to me anymore?” I say “oh I was just giving you space” etc. then as soon as I text him more often, he ignores me again. The conversation is never really deep or interesting even when I try to make it that way. Wtf is going on.
Not sure if my input will be of benefit 2 months later lol... But I think he's playing games. He likes your attention when he wants it...but other than that he's not invested enough to take it seriously and nor should you. I hope you've moved on from this guy.
I haven’t heard from this man in two days
I don’t why he dosent like and he was giving me all these compliments
I always read about this in magazines sometimes and also in the relationships with people I've known.
If I didn't have hobbies and things to do, the same as my husband, we'd drive each other crazy. We knew we love each other we don't need constant vaidation but we do our own thing, but, some people when they enter into a relationship, and I have been guilty of this myself in the past was the guy would be our everything. We have songs saying "you are one in a million, .you're my number 1 I'd do anything for you..." S club 7. We have songs about finding our soul mate, yearn for the kind of love we want but it's the yearning that when we finally get a relationship with someone it's not necessarily with a good guy, it's someone who's basically an abuser because all the other good guys are freaked out and abusers will send us mixed messages and give us the silent treatment until we go mad, literally insane.
@dignity Italy good, thank you
I wonder why he dosent like me and he gives me all these compliments
I really like this guy.
I would love to have a video about ghosting and what to do about it
It's coming on Monday!
Me too..
Send this if you're ghosted ; 👻. It's like* hey u ghosting me ? (But not desperate.)
This literally helps alot lately apparently i was paranoid, he is interested in me but he is very super busy person, its sucks when he is a front line
Interest is good. also depends on what stage you two are in the relationship. Just be sure you are not being needy and wanting too much attention than his circumstance can allow ..Observe the relationship like a third party and be realistic with your expectations and realisations.If on other hand he is just not making effort and you feel you have tried accomodating him too much then ask yourself ; Is this really good enough for me?....
What if he's just doing this so you can get upset and break up with him, instead of him breaking up with you.
Simple answer go on about your life like they don't exist. A girl chases a woman goes on un-phased
I appreciate you for the work you do but if somebody is undergoing this and would like to really let the info sink in, I hope you dont talk this fast because though the info is very helpful, some of your salient points are not being emphasized because you dont practice pause. but over all, what you are saying is good. i would appreciate it more if you talk slowly and pause. thanks and more power
Coincidentally, I've just commented in a similar vein. I was watching it on my TV but have changed my phone settings to allow subtitles, which saves the re-winds to hear what she's saying. Perhaps that would work for you too.
I suppose it's an inverted compliment to her that it concerns us that we can't hear what she's saying! 😁
Thank you for your video!It is really helpful
Happy to hear it!
Not confident and not stable men ghosted, they are too weak to break up or just tell:wait for me, I have some problems now..etc.
I'm a new sub....love u and ur channel!! Love ur advice and humour!!! Great help yk hear the truth about what they want!!! Btw ur beautiful!!!! Have great hair!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰love from uk 💯💯💯💜💜💜💜
Thank you!!!
Love this video!!!! Thank you!
I love your blush. Which one do you use?
I have been nice to him and have bought him something.
my current bf has been ignoring me on and off and has blocked me on and off on different social media platforms over the course of our relationship. he's a nice guy and we've never even had a fight before and when i ask him if he is doing fine, if everything is okay (which is rare bc i dont want to nag)he says he is fine. I'm getting tired of the ignoring me for days and just being a blip on the radar. this was super helpful so thank you
Men communicate differently from women. Try to understand him first before you can make assumptions . However, if he goes as far as blocking you. Then it is healthy for you not to condone it. You show people how to treat you by what you accept. So i'l ask when he unblocks you and reaches out what does he talk about? what does he say rught after that and what do you say too? why would you conveniently allow someone mess with you feelings? how much do you care about YOU?. if you try ignoring him a lil longer than he does you.. if you address the blocking actions he does and let him know its a deal breaker .. or tell him your style of communication and he doesnt pay heed. Then he probably thinks you dont love yourself enough for him to love you a little. Start the job on you. And be positive that he will come back. If he doesnt be positive he will never find someone like you again.
Oge Nkume I thank you for the kind words! however my situation is a bit more complex than I explained it; I just didn’t want to make a super long drawn out post. he’s a good guy and I see the good in him but there are just some things that are hard to look past and figure out. he has blocked me on different platforms before for sometimes weeks at a time before following me again just to do the same thing a week later even though he kept his number unblocked. although things haven’t been completely silent when we do talk, it usually ends up becoming something sex related or I don’t hear from him for days at a time but when I take too long to respond for his convenience he leaves me like 6 messages in 10-15 minutes. Then there was some sketchy stuff with a friend of his ex tracking me down and trying to spin shit. I’ve been trying to understanding and cooperative but it’s just games at this point. Like telling me ‘we need to talk more’ after I distance myself a little bit but then proceeding to block me the day after he said that is just counterproductive and sends me mixed signals. sorry if this is super long Iol. thanks again for the advice!
my ex ignores me on purpose, because i said things i shouldnt but its killing me.
Another great one
You speak really really well and very clearly. Thank you for your videos. You’re very smart. Please make a video on how to find high value men without having to go long distance I’d like to meet someone near by so we can see each other often. Having a hard time meeting an attractive man. Too many uneducated guys around her who have not taken care of themselves. I’m older. I’ve raised kids already. Thks. Need someone well educated.
Wow Sabrina Amazing Stuff !!! You are helping me to get rid of so much Baggage .THANK YOU ❤❤❤❤❤😍
You are so welcome!
I wanna know why he dose not like me. He had been giving me a lot of compliments but now he wants to ignore me. I haven’t done anything wrong. He was telling me that how nice of woman I was. He was giving me so many compliments
Hi, Sabrina! Thank u so much for your videos! I don't know what to do...we've been texting each other for a month, we were having fun, laughing a lot and he was showing also interest and was iniciating communication in an equal way! But, suddenly he desappeared and I haven't heard about him in three days. I know that I shouldn't do anything but I'm afraid he won't come back... Should I leave him alone, shouldn't I? Maybe he took me for granted :(
You are amazing! Thank youuuuu ❤
I don’t why he dose not like me and he said a lot of good things about me
He is not ignoring me but he texts less and we argued a lot and he never acknowledged or validated my feelings. And he didn’t spend vday with me. Just a happy vday msg. I didn’t ask him out either since I don’t want to care too much. And am not ready to ask for a break up :(
Alway great, direct information, but I often have to rewind to hear what you said. Don't know if it's the accent, or because you speak quickly, or the sound quality, or a combination of all 3. It's not something I notice on other channels. It's not meant as a criticism, just an observation 😊
I have been so nice to him
How to bring closure Sabrina? Should I tell him that its OK..I got the message clear and its over? He told me to wait up till confinement is over then we can sit down and talk..but in meantime...we are not talking at all...barely communicating...and I am not really chasing him either knowing the attitude and also respecting his request to be alone....
i sometimes wonder why guys ignore me because i come off too strong after a couple first dates
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It's like a tree. If he wants to be a leaf then I will let him go. If he wants to be a root then I'm also happy for that too.
Mirror 🪞 his behaviour 🥰
What if he accused me of sth, that I didn’t do or didn’t do on purpose. But he thinks that I did. When I defended myself he just ends the conversation with: „he doesn’t wanna deal with it“ and doesn’t get back to me anymore?!
Good advice much love from Africa Kenya ❤❤
I hate THAT the break up talk
Thanks
Ok. this is my situation. I am 50 and there is a 65 year old who I have known for about 10yrs. He has been attracted to me the whole time, but it's only in the last few months that he is now single (the end of a 34 year marriage, yes it's over, he's moved out). a few weeks ago we acknowledged the mutual attraction, but nothing has been said or done since. granted we are currently in isolation mode... i see him once a week for a consult (exercise physiology) and there is much flirting going on during that time. so, does he just need time? Is his age and the age gap between us daunting?
Hi, I got tired on how my man was treatng mi so I texted him on how I feel n he didn't reply even a single text what do I do??
Im needy and insecure too... i always want him to give comments for the pictures i sent..... that's why now he ignoring me... it's just painful because we have lots of plan and suddenly he ignore meq
I did most of them mistakes..... ya it’s over
Thanks for the videos. What if he ignored me as in he did not replied on my calls and message😢
I don’t why he dosent like me anymore
Your telling the hole truth👏
I don’t why he dosent like me. I did something nice for him but he chooses to ignore me
when a woman ignores you and share very few details and it seems hard to reciprocate... should men pull back?
Ok I confessed ! He is my brother's best friend , He always scared or shy to talk to me but whenever when we were alone he was smiling so damn lot to me and make me laugh ! He even once protected me from someone was hitting on me , he complimented me to his friends by me being different from all girls
, I confessed but I kind of regret now , It was my mistake ?
Well I stalked him in facebook and sent him a message from a fake account , I confessed then he put pressure on me to tell who really am I , I said the truth after that he did not respond , he ignored the message and did not even read it and now it's have been two months !
I am still waiting I do not want to be clingy by sending him tons of messages ! But I feel so sad !
He says iam his official girlfriend (all of his frnz know about us) and also talk to his exes when I pull back he ignores those girls and stops talking to them and doesn't talk to me as well....on every 33rd day I stop caring he comes back...love bombs and then he start talking to his exes again..... How to deal with this mentally...???
This is amazing. I got all that i need.
We just broke up we had been in a long distance relationship. soon he will come back as soon as the borders will open.
But all my things are still in his apartment i don't know if i should get it now or just leave it till he comes back. Can you please give me an idea especially that i want to start working on myself i don't think if its good that i still have my things in there.
Thank you in advance...
The borders opening? I won't ask
I have been nice to him but now he wants to ignore me
Sometines u didn't even do anything to him he just gets tired of texting u n when u ask them to admit they are done with u they say no yet still they keep ignoring ur messages
What does it mean when he says I like you? to know in what sense it says it
Great video.
My situation is deffenitly the " cant expect him to be fully emotionalyl available to you" and the " being too needy", " no one wants to be responsible for someones emotional well being"
What do i do now ? Do i just move on ? Wait for him to text me ?
I did apologize for being emotional but he left me on read it has been 3 days
Give some space, and when he text you just talk like adult. Leave your ego behind, it never helps.
@@Lukasz.Kaa09 thank you , i will deffenitly do that
am now suffering from the same thing and i need an advice plz, he is divorced 40 years old man with a kid , i like him soooo much and both of us got attracted to each others very quickly and we have lots of things in common also he gave me all the attention in the world but when i thought that we are the closest to each other he took a few steps back ... i respected that and i thought he is just not ready for a relationship at the moment so i stopped texting him , then he texted me but not like the old days when we use to text alot .... so i don't know what to do ... am ready to move on, but he doesn't let me do so or even giving me a reason, he just says that he is sooo busy ...ps he is active on Instagram moooost of the day 🤔
I know how you feel.
Sorry you feel this way. Youbmay want to do some findings on what Needy means. Watch some sabrina videos on neediness. When you do that ask and answer yourself Are you Needy girl friend?. ..
This guy sounds like he’s full of it. Drop this fool like a bad habit. Write down what you’re looking for in a partner/relationship and deal breakers and stick to that list.
The truth he is not ready to settle down with one lady yet,,,do you really want to wait for someone like that?
Yeaaah we totally want the ghost video please
It's coming! Just filmed it.
Sabrina you are really the best your videos had helped me like you couldn’t imagine i feel better about myself and know i am not alone in this
I bought him something and then he decided to ignore me.
Very nice