He's Just NOT Into You... 😬 11 Signs He's Not Interested In You
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- Опубликовано: 7 окт 2024
- This video covers the signs he's just not into you with 11 signs he's not interested in you (that most women don't realize).
When he's not that into you (or he's not into you at all), it can be more confusing to know than most people realize.
You hear the phrase "he's just not into you..." uttered in pop culture (including even the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" from 2009), so you would think it would be easy to know the signs he's not into you or the signs he's lost interest.
The truth is that this dating advice and relationship advice isn't as obvious as you would assume. Sometimes the signs a guy doesn't like you are confusing or mixed signals.
In this dating advice for women video, I'll reveal exactly how to know if a guy doesn't like you, so there's no confusion (and no risk of you embarrassing yourself with misreading his signals).
You'll learn the signs a guy doesn't like you back and how to tell if a guy doesn't like you, as well as some essential love advice on exactly what to look for to spot the guy who does want you in all the right ways!
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"If you have to ask, you already know the answer." Period. 👌
@Blunt Blonde , Правдолюбивая Блондинка agreed
Thanks...yes
Meh not always true lol some dudes cannot communicate or admit
But I guess sometimes our minds trick us into overthinking and assuming the worst
I baught the book also get he lying sis
1. He is wishy washy
2. You are just not a priority
3. He doesn’t initiate contact
4. He says he doesn’t want a relationship
5. He isn’t interested in learning about you
6. He is just not around
7. He doesn’t care who you are hanging out with
8. He talks to you about other women
9. He treats you the same as everyone else
10. He doesn’t open up to you
11. You just know
Hoooly fuck thank you so much!
well damn. That hurt..
Men can also use that list to determine if a woman is interested in him.
Sad, but true
Why do i know this by heart 😕
Basically, a man is not into you if he's not obsessed with you.
Crazy but true.
Basically if a girl is an 8-10 aka super hot, only then a worthwhile guy will be totally into her....all the 5-7s will always be guessing and guys will be with them unless they find an 8,9 or 10......and below 5s, they know their reality so wont waste time on guys....bitter truth....
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e bullshit
Obsession leads to stalking. Not a good thing.
@@candacecasey5634 ur comment adds nothing....so its bullshit. You are a bitter and delusional moron!
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e You just can't grade people like that.
Who else is in heart break hell after watching this ?
Story of my life.
My heart is just breaking
I say screw them . We can get someone better .
I am...
Just keep it moving..
"He likes you just not enough" -depressing
Its the infinite loophole I get stuck in and can't escape from.
That one is a trap. Happened to one of my friends last year. I called it the dangling carrot experience.
totally
translation: he likes sex & will therefore do anything to keep you around... definition of a disappointment.
_pain_ 💢
A man can move mountains to be with the girl of his dreams
Best advice I ever heard: "If he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll be confused."
Hahahaha 😂😆
So true
Relationships are too much of a pain in the ass!
AGREED!!!💯👍😉
Nah they not
wixie lane
Yeah they are
Then don't get into a relationship. Simple.
If they're right they're easy .
When a guy really likes you, you never have to ask! ❤️
He doesn’t like me... sad but I will get over it
Same :/ but it is hard for me to move on
I also just figured it out. Off to block his ass..
@@lavellans yah. Ive been blocking him several times n unblocking.. though i could tell nothing is up.. bt after watching this video i think its time to finally let go. God has someone out there for us. We must just give it all to Him and be patient.. maybe us taking our time not to let go we're delaying our blessings. Time we stand uup ladies n build that self esteem n worthy.. am never getting stuck on a looser anymore..
We both will baby girl ❤️
Mary Mwinga amen 🙏
I used to feel bad whenever I found out a man who pretended to be interested in me actually wasnt.
These days, I realize it doesnt matter. His interest or lack thereof is not evidence that I am not worthy. It could mean that I am not his type but that takes nothing away from me.
AKA, it's none of my business.
If you show up everyday wanting to be in my life, I'll welcome you and make sure you like being in my world to the best of my ability. However , if you do not, that's fine. Look for someone else. I wish you well.
Sometimes I think my boyfriend just is pretending to like me and I am just actually friend.
And he’s trying to get back with his ex cuz I think he doesn’t just like her, he *loves* her.
And maybe that’s true.
Maybe it isn’t.
Maybe I’m just over exaggerating.
But his ex was a cheater.
She cheated on this guy and I’m afraid she’s gonna influence my boyfriend to cheat on me with her.
And he’s really close friends with her.
I’m afraid he’s gonna ditch me for her.
Because I like him.
And sometimes I see her getting close to him.
And she already has a boyfriend.
But maybe she is just like that.
Maybe She’s really touchy.
And affectionate.
Some things I would never be.
Cuz I’m uncomfortable.
I don’t have the guts to get close to him like her.
And I don’t like showing my feelings either.
I’m insecure.
When I tell my friends that I know he doesn’t like me.
They tell me he does.
Cuz he talks about me all the time.
But I still have my doubts
Thinking that he set all that up so I could believe his stupid lie.
And I dunno why I do this.
Maybe cuz I don’t wanna jinx things.
Maybe that’s cuz I liked him for a long time.
And It’s weird but it’s kind of like a fantasy
It’s not real.
Sometimes I want to tell him I think this
Or why do you like me?
Or since when have you liked me?
Or Stop lying to me tell me the truth you don’t like me
Why are you doing this?!
Don’t make me feel bad and believe there’s actually “hope”
Just leave me to crush my feelings deep down inside and let them wither and die
Exactly
@@aprilmuguet talk to him and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that he does this. If he reduses to understand tell him you don't wanna feel this way and say you will end it if he keeps letting her be so touchy. Let that girl know her place. If you say you won't be in a relationship where you feel 2nd best, he will crawl back and get rid of her. Trust
@Star Light thanks.💖
I wanted to get that off my chest for a while
But I’m afraid to tell him that
@@aprilmuguet no problem. We can talk about it more on Instagram or snapchat. Just comment your username for either and I will message you to talk x
They say everyone has someone for them...but i think I'm left out because I'm never lucky, as soon as i think things are going well it's either he disappeares or just starts ignoring me...i think i just love too deeply and fast....i have had a bad relationship in the past and i just want to be happy i swear!
I relate to you and that's making me emotional🥺 sorry!
the common denominator between these dudes is you.
You need to do some introspection ,ask some trusted relatives or a friend about the negative things you do when in a relationship (or maybe you are someone quite emotionally dependant) , the type of men you usually fall into (is it the same type or not) and how you are right now: is your life fulfilled, do you feel unlucky in relationships only?
Once you have a better picture, ask yourself what you can do to make yourself feel better and what do you want from a relationship so you can target the right men. I do have my own little idea: you're very bright but once you're into someone, everything becomes around him and you seldom have a life for yourself (at least, that what you convey as a message to him)... if that dude doesn't feel the need to chase after you, well.. he'll stop chasing and he might even move on.
Good luck.
Find happiness in yourself first and leave men alone for now. Find what makes peace in your heart. When you find your own happiness and peace you will be ready to let someone else in.
sakthi priya me too ☹️
Same thing happens to me when i think im talkin tobthe right one he just not into me enough or is unsure of a relationship
This just opened my eyes to what I was trying to deny all these months. 💔
The bottom line if he is really interested in you he will pursue you.
Pretty much!
@@SabrinaBendory Basically if a girl is an 8-10 aka super hot, only then a worthwhile guy will be totally into her/obsessed/pursue.......all the 5-7s will always be guessing and guys will be with them unless they find an 8,9 or 10......and below 5s, they know their reality so wont waste time on guys....bitter truth....
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e How did you possibly come to that conclusion from thes video??
@@SabrinaBendory because these are very common and exact signs which I see among my girlfriends who are moderately attractive like 5-7 on attractiveness scale....the below average and model types do not face these...btw I hope it was a genuine question not saracastic or something 😬😆
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e you are a moron
Sometimes someone will be with you just enough and make you think they like you b/c they want things from you. :(
Lots of times!
Yes, especially when they're older & didn't save for retirement & they suspect you have money. And also you're a nurse.
Yes.. especially sex.. if you're having sex with a guy who's " not that into you".. he'll keep you around only for that purpose.. it's up to the individual if they choose to be used that way 🤷🏾♀️.
That's my case :(
I’m READY!!💯👍😉👏
Ladies..The ‘moral’ of the STORY IS...NEVER EVER, EVER CHASE THEM, IF THEY WANT YOU THEY WILL ‘COME AFTER’ YOU... PERIOD POINT BLANK!!!!!!💯👍😉🥰
Truth is sometimes hard to hear...but it is the truth. Thanks.
Right, I see I'm not the only one in la la land 😁😂
I'm glad I watched this video. I made my mind up last week about a guy I like. Ive know him 4 yrs and we hooked up in January 2020. After 2 dates, I get the I don't have the time to give you the attention you need phrase, but yet he sends me country love songs?! WTF?! Stickers and videos from Facebook. I finally called him out on his bullshit. He doesn't answer my questions, just sends me a Corona virus comedy video. Really? What sucks is our age. I'm 52, he's 48. I would expect at that age, he would be more direct. Time is precious. And I'm moving on. I don't have time for his BS.
Women just get a little too hairy, and their perfumes are just a little too musky once they reach 35 years of age. It's the truth. Your 48-year-old friend did you a favor....consider yourself lucky. You now have a nice memory of him and have a story to tell.
Myra I’m in my mid 30s and also expected dating past 20s to be much easier- it’s the opposite. I had a similar situation....I told the guy I started talking to in Dec I wasn’t into hookups or friends with benefits and he led me on for months- he ended up just fading out and not even properly breaking up with me. It hurt me so bad, I’m over dating at this point :( Where are the real men at??? I blame online apps, makes guys act less personable.
KK69NYC shutup troll
@@kk69nyc31 . I think so. Saved me alot of time, frustration and hurt. I'm going to stick with TV, beer and dogs, the 4 legged kind😀
@AstroBetaSirius you are correct and I haven't. He did however text me in May and ask if I was ok. I'm like really? I didn't answer back, just crack open another beer and continued watching my favorite show.😀
Im literally shedding tears! Im so upset and hurt bcuz ive invested emotionally and financially into our situationship but hes not wanting to go anywhere more
Cheer up babe! You’re just being prepared for someone that’s way way better. You’ll meet the man who you deserve and who deserves you. You’re loved! 😘
Yeah I've been there too. It sucks but it's better to realize it now and not waste any more time on someone who doesn't care. Keep your chin up. There are plenty of men out there who would appreciate you and want to be with you.
You deserved better. You deserved a man that will make you his priority not his option.
Never invest ahead of time. It's unattractive. Correspond to their investment, but don't be the one doing everything expecting he will love you out of appreciation.
@@guadalupeeg5034 excellent advice!!
So basically none of my crushes have ever liked me lmaoooooo
As a guy I can say that we are usually straight forward. So it's obvious when we are interested.
If you're so straight forward why can't you just tell to the girl you're not interested in that you don't like her instead of ghosting them ?
Because she never actually told me she likes me soo
"Is he on the same page as you in this relationship?"
The relationship: *does not exist*
This....
Just realized that my crush doesn't like me enough 😭
Back off a lot and see what he does. If he does nothing than he's not driven enough or want u enough. Cause if he wants u he will notice your absence.
Me too 😢💔
Same hun
What happened to 50 50
Waited for him all day yesterday (Valentine's Day) to make any kind of sweet move he can while we live in different cities. Don't get me wrong, my day was actually great because I spent time with family and even went out to watch a movie by myself. But I was ready to settle for even just a short video call. But nothing. I didn't want to acknowledge what my gut kept telling me, until I found this. Really needed this tonight. Thank you 😭
Fleur Puao feel for you sister.....in the same situation and it’s so hurtful. You deserve better so go out and get it ❤️
He's a jerk! He doesn't want you to get too comfortable. Been there.
Same here, but mine lives in the same city (not 10 minutes away). The day before, he had me figure out what I wanted to do for sweetest day, so I searched all day and found something sweet, ,fun and affordable. But once the day came, he didn't have time to see me. He's acted sooo into me, then not a flower, not a knock on the door on sweethearts day? Really? He has told me he wants to be exclusive, then does that...?
Does he know v day is special to you? Does he know it hurt you? Or are you just venting tna t here? He can't sniff what you want. Tell him what you want
@@joycerose9210 Yes. I told him weeks before what Valentine's was always like for me for the past few years, that I would really appreciate it if he were there for me that day. It didn't have to be a grand gesture. We had a confrontation the night after that, approximately hours after I posted this comment. I needed a place to pour it all out first, so that when I face him, I'm able to deliver my side effectively. I have with friends, and then this video which coincidentally spoke straight to me. I've done more on my side than just to shove what I want up his nose, and he still doesn't do the slightest sniff, not just on the days approaching Valentine's Day, but majority of our relationship since it began. I learned he doesn't celebrate that day because it was his and his ex of five years' anniversary, and that he will "NEVER celebrate it with anyone, under any circumstances, EVER AGAIN" (His exact words). That's that. Curtains closed. I've stretched myself for that vague relationship long enough. I listened to the voice in my head that said it's my fault things aren't working, long enough. I had my faults but I was the only one working on them - he had his faults too, but there were no actions from his side.
That's the part I didn't include on my initial vent.
I love number 3 ! " If he's into you , he stands there , he doesn't have to pee,he doesn't need a drink... " As a guy I wonder if it's a good thing that we are so obvious !?
Is it true then? 😂
This sounds harsh but it is good to know. ❤️. It means you can let go and move on with life. Be happy.
I am deeply in love with my boyfriend....but no matter what he SAYS.. I can feel he doesn't feel at all the same way.....i just cannot face it
Puddles Galore trust me run !!!! You’re only waiting for him to leave you !!!! I was in this position !!!
Run, girl.
Wow that's going to lead to heartbreak for you...
Your gut feeling might be true but also consider if you have an anxious attachment style may be something happened before with your family or previous relationship made you anxious that you're going to lose your loved ones and that's why you don't believe what he says so think about both scenarios and think which one applies best to you
Stop wasting time! Move on!
Yes...men DO still call on the phone. It's only a rarity from your perspective is because of your age. The older more mature adults DO use the telephone to call one another. Texting is okay but we know it's pretty ignorant to use this as the sole form of communication.
Amen, sister!! The guy I'm talking to now likes to actually call me and talk, not text. Last conversation we had lasted 3 and a half hours! ☎️📞 time flew! Loved every minute of it. 🥰
If you're asking or wondering: He's not into you because if he did, he would let you know.
My life has gotten much easier when i realized that a guy. The right guy. Will show me he likes me and be vulnerable with me. Ill just know. I want something real and genuine, not something i have to break my head trying to figure it out for
I'm a guy, and I have food that I keep in my pantry that I like, but it stays there forever because I don't like it *enough* to ever eat it.
Wow thats something
Oh my gosh! Now this is the sentence I ever need. Thanks for this! You opened up my mind! Also, coming from a man’s point of view!
Lol that is kind of how I am. That is why I don't buy certain things. Unless I am really craving it.
@@ladennayoung2939 sarcasm
Yeah, okay and some guys lie and lead you on! Men in my generation are ridiculous and love isn't taken seriously. I'm 42 and I don't have time for BS games anymore!!
Yes they certainly lie and i guess we have to really watch their actions and they aren't showing up, don't fight for them, get them out of your life, without believing their excuses
Hope Wilson fr
Yep! That is odd to me. They are getting older, but they are still playing games at times.
It is better to not move quickly. It is also better to move on if they claim they are not ready for a relationship.
I’m 44 and I agree. No games!
Why for the love of all things pure and holy can’t they just say: I’m just not that into you. We are not that fragile!
Lisa Kay some are lol
Exactly or whatever the reason!!!!
There is this guy that isn't "believing" me... I told him in not ready for a relationship, I'm not interested in having one. He's constantly trying to pursue something that is not going to happen. It's very annoying telling someone you don't like them, for them to act like your man.
Next time he ask me out I'll just tell him I don't like him... again.
Aaliyah P had that happened to me and honestly if a guy told me that from the beginning I wouldn’t even keep talking to him cause it seems desperate but this one dude kept trying to talk to me last summer I told him I was gay that didn’t stop him( im not gay I was trying to be nice) then he kept trying to get sexual and ask to hang out I told him straight up I’m not into black guys and another white guy did this to me and even sent me his little baby dick talking about it’s “8 inches” I told him also I don’t date white guys or do long distance bye
Exactly geez come on tell the truth. I’m used to being rejected and very strong. Guys are all worried that they are going to hurt feelings but they don’t realize the lies and ignoring does plenty of damage.
He’s always too busy and he only want to see me on his own time instead of making plans, we argued over little things when weekend is approaching so we don’t have to talk about seeing each other . I ended it and now he’s making it seems like I’m in the wrong
Your right. I was trying ignore the truth. Lol but I gotta move on & truly find someone who really likes me 💫
Good video and so true. I hate the guys that demonstrate not being into you until you walk away, then they redouble their efforts to keep you around, then demonstrate it again that you’re just an option. Blah to them!
This is way more confusing...I guess he likes me but not enough😕
Basically if a girl is an 8-10 aka super hot, only then a worthwhile guy will be totally into her....all the 5-7s will always be guessing and guys will be with them unless they find an 8,9 or 10......and below 5s, they know their reality so wont waste time on guys....bitter truth....
@@user-yk5xu8gr1e Control and paste idiot
The only one that's true is #11 - we play games just like you do , we try not to make it obvious how "into you" we are .. cause if we do there is no challenge for you and girls (subconsciously) want a challenge - everything is and should be at least 50/50 .. don't expect us to put in 90% effort and you only 10% - the only ones that put way more effort in are the beta males who you aren't interested in
@@tomjones2157 shut up idiot
@@smokedpotato do guys behave like this with hot girls too or just the average pretty ones...because the guy can do better with the latter but not with the former...
Yup. I'm 40 and I dated a guy 19 years ago, in 2001. We were young, early 20s. We only dated for 9 months, but he was the first guy I fell in love with. Long story short, I messed things up with him and he broke up with me. I went crazy after that. But he still would always speak to me, always giving me hope.
I finally moved on in 2006 and got married and had a baby. But our marriage failed bc I still had feelings for the ex and bc my husband def wasn't right for me. I settled for him. He's a good guy, just not for me. We're still close, for our child's sake.
But my ex and I still communicate after 19 years of being apart. He told me years ago he just wanted to be friends, but I took that as something I could change. I still haven't been able to do so.
But I still haven't REALLY worked on myself. I'm 40 with a child and no job and no ambitions. So it's about time I focused solely on myself. I told him yesterday that I need to focus on my life and I'd appreciate it if he didn't contact me. He said ok.
So I'm going to do what I should have done 19 years ago after we broke up. Work on me and forget about him. I am so in love with him that I don't want to stop talking to him. But I know this is the right step to take. Wish me luck. 😪
Nicole RH oh God I’m hearing you sister. Married 2 guys but never could get over my true love. Unless you’ve been there so hard for people to understand. I know I’ll never get over him and no one will ever come close in my eyes. Good luck Nicole I’m 🙏🏻 for you 😘
Nicole, sometimes we tend to idealise a guy because it's related to when we were young and because life was more easy then. You should stop beat yourself up for everything, if it didn't work with him at the time, it wasn't because of you only. Also question why he would keep contact with you if it's just friendship for him and he knows you want more. Maybe he's one of those narcissistic insecure guy who feed off women's attention.
Be more gentle with yourself, focus on yourself and explore who you are. Stay open to new things and new men!
Karina Hoskin exactly! I’m happy to see someone understands me. I’m praying for you too! Much love ❤️
@@nicolerh check out Susan Winter on YT.. She has fantastic videos that really poke at ur way of thinking.. She's got vids on every question uv prob ever asked urself.. I rely on her at times when I'm about to act dumb.. And I'm about to act dumb VERY soon with an old flame I haven't seen in 20yrs 🤣So I'm heading over there now.. Join me won't ya.. I fully understand where ur coming from.. I wish u all the best.. Xx
@@josyjump thanks and I will ☺
There's also the ones that say that they're not ready to date.
It could be daunting✔
Jennifer Warth yeah, and a month later he’s with some other girl
This is exactly what I have been doing
You really made it clear to me. Not only does he not come over to talk to me when he sees me he actually hurries away. I even made up excuses for that! Rejection is protection.
This made me realize my husband doesn’t even like me lol🤦♀️
🤣🤣😂😂😂🙏💖
What?!?! How is this possible 😭
Also comes down to personality,
My husband did almost all of these.. we have been together for over 10 years, he is shy, keeps to him self and isn't the sappy type, he shows his love diffently than most,
If a man is busy some times he is working, my husband has a very dangerous job and he can't play on his phone all day,
Secondly him and I both in the beginning tried to make each other jealous by talking about other girls, men ect.
Thirdly we have always been friends first, sometimes guys are just guys..
Married over 7 years, take it from me ,
Not every man has time to play on his phone, sometimes they are being responsible and working hard,
The hard working man is busy working
My Gemini man come with empty cups and false promises.
Ughhh I feel ya, the guy I like too is a May Gemini, mixed message and yeah never kept his word. I’m tired of this crush with him, that I wanna let go but something in me that doesn’t.
My new ex came with broken promises also
@@TheWonderwoman311 I let mine go today after three years of him he made me feel ugly
@@TheWonderwoman311 what star sign are you?
Your absolutely right. Most of the time, people just dont want to face and accept the truth. Especially when you tell them, plainly, they choose to stay in denial. It's like, you have to be drastic for them to get it.
Agree 100% . A guy I used to “see” would do everything you talked about in this video. I called it off with him about 4 months ago. I am now talking to a new guy for about a month now. It just seems so natural. He even told my happy Valentine’s Day which was really sweet of him.
Really sweet? It is a standard!
You mean he didn't get you anything? He just said Happy Valentines....I said that to my dog!
Tanya Leigh why would he get me anything? We just started talking. I wouldn’t want any man to get me anything for Valentine’s Day unless they truly love me, and it’s WAY to early to say I love you when you are just getting to know somebody.
@@christinamcqueen8803 Please don't sell yourself short. Valentine's day anyone can gift you something. I dated a guy and we met in January. Valentine's day came and he had two dozen roses, Teddy bears and a couple boxes of chocolate delivered to me. I was EXPECTING at least roses but received even more. If a man is talking to you everyday and pursuing you, why wouldn't he get you something?
French Vanilla I am glad you had a great Valentine’s Day. I can’t accept a gift from any man that I have only known for a short period of time. On the other hand if I was in a serious relationship ...I would be pissed if the man in my life did not give me anything.
Lol "we make things so much more complicated than necessary." Yup.
I’m living proof of someone who holds onto guys who don’t like me. It’s a terrible thing and no wonder I’m single and never married at 46. 🙄 they even make it obvious they are just using me and I still fantasize that one day they might sweep me off my feet and whisk me away. I’m a perpetual reject.
7. He doesn’t care who you are hanging out with.
Maybe he's just not the jealous/insecure type...
But they are the protective type
Hi, really like this & I am going to tell my friend about it. She’s seeing a guy that so many of these things are red flags. But I feel like me telling her this for months now isn’t sinking in because she knows that since I am a good friend I’m ultra picky for her &!no one will measure up.
So thank you for validating my concerns!
Every thing that you said is true like 100% , after all this even if he said he like me I will reject him, I don’t feel like thinking about him anymore.
It is so hard to focus on anything else when you are THIS obsessed and depressed
I'm male. This is exactly correct. I have several female friends and see them go thru all the confusion about guys that are displaying many of these 11 signs. If a guy is into you, he is making it happen and the reason women don't seem to get it is that being that way about a women makes us feel like men.
Dope ass intro
Leaves as soon as she says he’s just not into you
LMFAOOO
1. He's wishy-washy (2:40)
2. You're not a priority (3:32)
3. He doesn't initiate contact (4:10)
4. Says he doesn't want a relationship (5:12)
5. He isn't interested in learning about you (6:38)
6. He isn't around (7:11)
7. He doesn't care who you are hanging out with (7:42)
8. He talks to you about other women (8:33)
9. He treats you the same as everyone else (10:19)
10. He doesn't open up to you (10:40)
11. You just know (11:50)
Wow thank you for this comment, this is great!
NM Thanks :)
You're right! Guys love to have any options, freedom. "that's my ex" his Never enough and Push me away when meet new person.
I appreciate your advice because it's always good to get someone else's perspective on relationship advice. 🥀🌿
I loved this video!!! Thank you!
He doesn't like me 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
You hit the nail on the head! I'm going through heartbreak at a time when I needed him most. I realize I was just an option, not a priority! His friends tell me he talks about me all the and that he loves me! He told me he doesn't want a relationship! Confused!
I was watching this video with a guy, and he started the I like you convo out of nowhere. So thanks!!! 😊😂
Omg, you lady are so freaking 💯 correct. All of your arguments and statements are just so correct. I just dumped one guy who i was hanging out for 4 months on and off and he did exactly the same to what all your says. I am so thankful that i made the right decision to end us. I could have ended the dating way earlier if found your RUclips video. But thank you and thank you.
Same here. I was seeing a guy for about 3 months then I felt like I was wasting my time so I brought it up to him and he decided to dump me. Oh well.
"it's like asking is my shirt black"
Me: guess I'm color blind to love
Im so so obsessed with him that idc what he does he rejected me but the obsession wont stop 😔
SAMEEE HE REJECTED me and litterally I still can’t move on..I tried every thing...i keep thinking of all the good things he’s done to me but not the bad things..I even unfriended him 2 times hoping he would just let me be and understand that I still like him and that I need to do something so I could let go but when I unfriended him he would text me and ask me “why? Did you unfriend me” like DUDE IM TRYING TO GET OVER YOU PLEASE!!! I don’t get you..you reject me..push me away..then just text me all of the sudden when I unfriend you?
I feel ya , you can’t stop thinking of them, hoping they’ll come back, and say they were wrong, that’s how I’ve Felt before, it took me a year to get over someone I feel in love with, but the best thing to do is keep your mind occupied, go with your girls or guy friends laugh a lot and have fun.
I thought he did, he’s younger, unstable, came back super affectionate, etc, then disappeared again. Supposed to have a date tomorrow. 😢💔
He's seeing other people.
Omg. The relationship nomans land is the worst place to be. You nailed this video. Truth is painful
This is my first time viewing your channel...thanks for the advice...i have a guy friend that's shows interest but his daughter takes up his time..im not gonna chase a man
Its obvious he doesn't like me🙂
i loled
Wow. All those “not that into” you boxes checked! 😕 not together now, but I see why.
The question at the end is brilliant
Never fall in love with people! Let people fall in love with you!
Ok my brain is about to explode. So what you are saying never fall inlove with people? now you saying , fall in love with people. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
@@tvb4227 😂😂😂
@@tvb4227 are you and aries or a leo :D
@@tvb4227 lmao
Yup! He is not interested. What a surprise right? Like I didn’t know that before👍🏼🙄 Great video.
There’s only 1 sign! If you ask yourself “is this guy into me?” Right there, your answer is NO!
I like the way you talk. The speed of your words. Yet understandable. Very nice.
Yep... I totally hear you. I made the necessary changes finally. Thank you. This helped give me the confidence to do so.
Thank you for the video, you just saved my time that I have been waisting on guys who's not into me x
The best way to beat a player at his own game , is not to play at all. .......
My favorite is when a girl says "he must be gay" when a guy rejects them. 😂
Thank you for this. I can let him go now. ☺️🥺
In peace 😂
Sometimes we don't fall in love with the person, we fall in love with the idea we have made in our minds of who the person is.. then when their real self comes out.. our world is shocked and shattered. When you fall for a guy for looks, when you fall for a guy for his success, etc.. you're falling for an idea you have of him.... not the real person he is. It takes time to really know a person, sometimes people don't reveal themselves easily..and only patience reaches the goal.
Love requires patience, time and honesty to thrive, and sometimes guys are not comfortable accepting their real selves if they know their real selves are not so shiniy
Agreed though sometimes falling for the idea of a person means falling for an idea of romance, not necessarily his looks or success (attraction is a factor sure but not the only one). For example I think a lot of online relationships are guilty of this. People meet on dating sites and before they even meet and get to know each other in person they've got this idea of how things will go. They fantasize about having this great relationship with them based upon what they've been told, not actually witnessing the other person's actions and character over time.
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All this are so related, thank you. Please do videos on ldr. 👌🏽
I hope I saw this video a year ago. Very helpful. Now, I have more clarity.
I'm not into dating applications it's just weird for me. I know we're in a century now, where almost everything happens on the internet. Is dating app weird for other people too?
Hi, Sabrina , thanks for sharing !
One thing I didn't enjoy, is this speed of talking. I mean , one needs a moment to focus on what are you saying. I suggest, when there's more info to share , to make two parts video and breathe with a normal speed :)
Please please please make a video on a about what does it mean if a guy hold eye contact with you no expression please :)
Been a silent watcher who doesn’t comment but I just wanted to say.. can you please make a video about your makeup to help a girl out? You’re so gorgeous with so little makeup I love it and your confident is so radiantly glowing from your face I really admire you for your help 🥰
Thank you so much! I don't know if I'd feel comfortable doing a video on that on RUclips but I share beauty stuff on my instagram- @anewmode. Maybe someday I'll film my makeup routine if enough people want it!
@@SabrinaBendory sure thanks for the reply, I'll be sure to follow you on instagram~
It’s long distance. So I’m so confused. He tells me it would be different if i was where he is. He’s not a talker either.
I hear his reasons but i still feel like he only sees me on his timetable, so i know I’m just an option. I don’t know what to do to get over him. It’s very painful. He doesn’t ever pursue me.
I guess i have known for awhile that he’s not into me.
I'll always watch this when I'm second guessing myself. Love this video! Best content I've ever found.
I just want guys to tell the truth why is it so hard for them to🤦🏽♀️
..because some women WANT to believe the lie.. some women WANT the veil.. I want the truth!!.. if a guy shows little interest I already know the deal.. we can talk or text for hours, I'm not coming over.. 😈
Great video! Very direct! I like that you don’t sugar coat it! Question: what about when the text but start with: hi, how are you but they don’t text your name? Yet in person when around other people he mentions my name very often? Why?
So true. I'm off, on and as of yesterday off again with a man who is all of these. I'm done with him. I finally have it figured out...and guess what...we are both in our mid 60s and it took me this long to get it. My late husband of 40 years passed away 2 years ago. I became involved with a medical professional and he just won't make time for me at all. I don't have time in my life to hold this man's hand and turn him into someone he will never be. I've only known him for nearly two years and most of our relationship has been more off than on. Again...I can just walk away at this point and I'm not looking back.
thank you for sharing I am 28 I married at 18 i was young but in love we was together for 5 years when he passed away in his sleep in 2015. I'm currently in another relationship and he just doesn't seem like he wants to be with me not one bit and like you I don't have time to try to turn him into something he just not gonna be. I think it's time for me too let him go and not look back as well. thank you again for sharing.
Sabrina, it’s sooo good to hear all of these truths. Until what point is it Ok ti invest on a guy like this. Is it always “Thank u, next?”
Can you tell us how the hell stop ourselves waiting for a text or a response? It is eating me alive
Having other stuff to do
You're right... Holding on to a glimpse of hope.
Today is Greek Independence Day and today I will get my freedom and my heart back (after 2 years of being broken!). I have had enough neglect, mental suffering, and manipulation. Game Over.
Thank you "The New Mode" for helping me see the light, gain my internal power and get my mental strength back.
💪💖🇬🇷🙏🏻🍀🧿😇
My guts said "HE LIKES YOU A LOT BUT AS A FRIEND!!"
Narrcissist traits brought me here
I had a narcissist as well he was a Jack of all the bad shit I got rid of him yesterday
I'm 50 ladies I am getting really tired
Hello! I just discovered your channel today. You present in a very practical, down to earth style which I find refreshing. Also, the accessibility you reflected in sharing from your life experience is warmly disarming. I believe that quality lends to your attractiveness. Thanks for stepping out!
I believe a man will fall in love with you if you treat him like shit....and you act like you don't care if he is in your life or not...I learned that...the hard way..
I think that it works because the guys that o treated like shit seemed to be obsessed and in love with me
I’m talking to a guy for about one year he asked me to be his girlfriend Thursday and I haven’t heard from him since he’s always saying he’s broke and we never went out on date and we go days weeks months without talking
yup, some of the signs were there, Confirmed why i had to break it off, i just cant believe I let go on longer than i should have
Thank you so much for this video. Best I've heard. I need to take the rose color glasses off.
I always walked from the nice guy now I can't find any!.😂 Damn I broke so many hearts.
Don't worry u
God will give uh d best
Same here
I feel this on a cellular level. Wish I hadn't
Irony:
Boy likes girl
Girl shows no interest in boy.
Boy loses interest in girl
Girl likes boy.
Omg I absolutely love your videos! After taking in your advice I’m starting to realize what I’m doing wrong. So to give you some insight I just over a relationship of two years that when we moved into together he got arrested and been in jail since. That whole relationship changed my mentality and I’ve been moving on trying to change my mind set bc it did such a number. I lived by myself for over two years so ofc I’m lonely and cling onto any attention there is. After that breakup I tried to move on twice. The first guy I tried to date went to a dead end. Only hung out once and then it was Valentine’s Day told him so I gave him a card and told him to text me later to hang out and he totally ghosted me that night. At the time I know this is bad but I did call his phone iver 20 times bc I was upset getting blown off especially on the holiday. The second guy is deff better and I do like him. We had a good first two to three weeks we went to the movies once and bc of the corano thing we can’t really go anywhere. Anyways the last time it was me initiating to hang out I’m usually the one messaging first and that’s where I learned my first mistake is that I didn’t give enough space and should’ve backed off and I didn’t. So anyways this is recent to that I messaged him on a Tuesday asking that if I made wings in the crockpot what day works best for him and he told me Friday night. When that night came I didn’t hear from his At All but he was online til 1 am. The next morning I’m venting to my friend and yes another mistake I sent a big paragraph the next morning which I really really shouldn’t have. It said Dude so what happened last night? We made plans in advance. You could’ve just told me straight up you didn’t want to come instead of leaving me hanging. And not for nothing but everytime I try to invite you over it always seems like a prob. Like you always do shit for me so I was trying to return the favor and actually do something nice for you by making dinner. Like Im not gonna lie I do like you and wanna be with you but I’m not gonna waste my time anymore if you don’t feel the same way. I actually do like hanging out w you but usually it’s me always asking. If you don’t want anything just say so we’re adults we can talk it out or just tell me straight up. It’s all I ask and just how I feel. After two days I realized that wasn’t the smartest thing to say. After watching your videos I learned my mistakes were that I threw myself out there I did too much but the reason why I did too much and is bc I thought I was doing too less and wanted to show like hey I’m here I can do this. He always made me food so I wanted to do the same. Anyways it’s literally been a week now I still haven’t heard from him. I think he lost interest but I’m not gonna lie I really do like this guy and thought there was this connection. Maybe to just me. But anyways after seeing your videos imma do that whole give him no contact rule for 3 weeks and just send a simple text and see where that goes. I’m hoping he will message me before but I feel like he would’ve. This happened really recent so I feel like it’s not too late to “fix it” but I should just let him come to me. That’s another thing I wanna ask too bc in both situations I overreacted and said something I shouldn’t of but why do guys just cut off right away when the smallest thing happen. Why not forgive and move on. And both times I never even dated the guy but I’m more upset bc they didn’t even try to see where it would go. With it happening twice I’m starting to feel like I’m always doing something wrong. You said in your vid that our fear eats at us of them leaving and bc we act on it they always do. Again you’re amazing and you honestly helped me look at relationships at a new light and I better not repeat the same patterns!
I was wondering if he likes me but this video makes me wonder if I like him?
I find it pretty ironic how this was posted on Valentine's Day lol Very helpful video!!!
The truth and well said. Thank you. An old lady.