Good morning, RUclips family. Please keep Trey in your thoughts and prayers especially today. Last night, while Trey was holding her, Theresa took her last breath. Please know that she was peaceful and not in any pain. She left this earth in the arms of her love. Thank you all for your continued support, love, and kindness. - Cher 🙏🏻💜
Trey, I was a hospice chaplain for several years, and have been in the presence of patients and families who have gone through similar situations. It is such a challenge for everybody involved, and can be so very exhausting and heartbreaking. I am so sorry that you are going through this now, witnessing Theresa who you have loved so long and so well, move through this slow and painful decline. I know from experience that sometimes when Hospice is able to get the medication right, the patient rebounds. At other times it truly is the end of life approaching. Right now you are exhausted and hurting, and Teresa‘s behaviors are forming your most recent memories. With time, these brief memories will fade and what will last will be all of the love that you shared and the beautiful memories you created together. You do have my prayers and my support.
Hospice worker for 34 years. This disease is insidious. It's not Theresa anymore. I'm so sorry this happened to precious Theresa. I hope that hospice has educated you on what to expect. Love and light and the peace that surpasses all understanding is my prayer for you and your family.
Good evening, All. I thought I’d reach out to you all as a collective here with a brief update on T’s current status. I visited with her today and was able to get three separate grins from her. She knew I was there and even squeezed my hand briefly! Trey was there too and Theresa did let out a giggle when he kissed her cheek and snuggled her neck. The love between them is still very strong and heartwarmingly evident. While the sedation has left her so subdued that opening her eyes is a chore, she clearly hears us, grins, and grimaces with that which she hears. Gospel music and songs of praise truly calm her spirit. It is obvious on the peaceful look on her face when it’s played. This time has been excruciating on our souls. I can’t even imagine what my sweet friend must be feeling trapped somewhere inside of her earthly body. I do know that she would HATE anyone seeing her like this. She would HATE anyone hurting over her condition. Please know that this hasn’t been harder on any one more than Trey. Trey has dated true to his vows to love and cherish, in sickness and in health, and to see the love in his eyes when he looks at her is both heartbreaking and admirable congruently. He has done everything within his power to maintain Theresa’s dignity and wishes throughout this disease. He has advocated for her, defended her, pleaded for her, protected her, and more than anything has loved and cared for her greater than any human could fathom. And while I appreciate the incredibly kind words you all have expressed toward me, I am no hero. I could go on and on with stories of the times Theresa was my crying shoulder, my crutch to lean, and my hero. It takes an amazing human to set such an example. I hope that when she reaches her Heavenly home that she leaves us with peaceful hearts knowing that she’s with our Father and is happy for eternity with Him. Thanks to each one of you for your continued thoughts and prayers. It sincerely means so much to know that others may find support in Trey and Theresa’s story. You are never alone. May God bless each of you. 🙏🏻💜 -Cher
My husband was paralyzed by a medical mistake. I cared for him the best I could myself, bc I loved him, I wanted to. He always took care of me, he would have still cared for me if it had been me. I hated if people acted like I was doing anything " extra" or special, my duty. I wasn't doing it from obligation. It was my joy, my privilege. I was so grateful for that time, to share & love him in everything. I understand exactly what you mean. We receive such a precious gift when we're able to take care of those we love, it's as much for us as it is for them. I know in spite of the great pain you feel in losing Theresa these last days & hours will be a comfort you cherish long after she's gone to be with Jesus. God bless you. ❤
Thank you Cher for the update. Horrible disease! You and Trey are her angels. God bless you guys for the care, patience and love you have while caring for Theresa. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers!
You look so tired and I feel bad for you. My husband passed away 4 weeks ago, and it was very hard to watch him suffer .May God bless you and give you peace. You are very good husband
YES! My husband was caretaker for his first wife who passed from ALS, and when I heard how he’d handled that, I knew I’d met a PRINCE. We’ve been married 27 years now and he’s proven that to me every day. Trey, I’m so sorry for your pain.
Trey, I'm so very sorry. I'm going through similar with my husband with Alzheimers. I've been his 24/7 caregiver at home. Suddenly he refused to shower or dress or do anything. And when I tried to help him, he became violent and I had to call the police. He's now heavily medicated in a nursing home and declining rapidly as a result of the meds. He's still eating and drinking and awake but he's so out of it from the meds. It's all just heartbreaking. I just hate this disease. It really is kinder for them to just let go and leave their sick bodies behind I think. My heart goes out to you and Teresa. I feel your pain, truly.
Trey, as a nurse working with dementia patients my heart goes out to both of you. Please know that deep in Theresa memory she knows how much she's loved by you. I pray that God puts his loving arms around both of you for peace and comfort. Thank you for the update and I know how hard this must of been for you.
My mum had a seizure i they day never had them before I phoned the ambulance they have put her on seizure tablets it as stopped them but she is confused and been behaviour as been mad like pulling her hair and stacking her skin and say she as no head or tough and she is dieing and fusing no to eat or drink or going for shower she frights you she as not been she as dementia yet they want to do lumbar puncture because she does a lot of moving so she cant have a MRI scan and I am scared for her what should I do and do.yiu think she as dementia
I didn’t lose a spouse but my father. I can’t imagine how you feel. My dad’s decline was as dramatic. No combativeness but dramatic decline due to his diabetes injection-made him hugely ill which he just couldn’t come back from. The balancing act just can’t balance forever. I miss my dad from my younger years but not the dementia version of my dad. Peace to you.
I remember my mother going through the violence phase in her illness. She was diagnosed at 51. I was 16 at the time. We chose to keep her home for her entire illness which lasted 15 yrs. We took turns caring of her. My dad did most of the care as over the years we grew up & started our own families. He did have a nurse come in twice a day for many years to help him. People tell me, "I'm sorry for what you children had to go through with your mom". I tell them, don't be, it made me the strong confident adult I am today. I'm grateful to have been a part of her life journey. It taught me a lot. Best wishes for you.
I watched my husband deteriorate from a horrible cancer that robbed him of the sweet, loving personality he once had. To be honest, I lost my hubby long before he passed. Emotions are difficult things. There came a time when I had to think with my brain and not my heart. I thought about his quality of life, what he would have wanted, What I would want in this situation. I also had hospice help. In the end, I was so incredibly sad but also releived that he no longer suffered with this disease. It takes a toll on everyone. You are an incredible husband. I understand what you're going through. She sounds like an awesome woman afflicted with a terrible disease. Keeping you both in my prayers.
❤My husband did the same. He got violent and scary. After that he got worse. He stayed home. Then he got scary. I just got really scared of him. It's hard to explain. Then one day he said he was dieing and he wanted to go to the hospital. He died in a long Term Care Hospital. He was their for 3 months before he passed. He was 55 when he died last summer. I have PTSD now.
I am so sorry. I have almost called the police my hubby has gotten so bad two times. He storms at me scaring the crap out of me. Not the man I married. Please talk to someone. I do tapping to help me cope with the ptsd. 💜🙏🫂
I sadly just found your channel. I see Theresa is at the end of her Alzheimer's journey. Im so sorry and will be praying daily. Just remember she's not Theresa anymore the Alzheimer's has taken her over. Sending blessings today and everyday. I pray God helps you through this0.
Good morning, RUclips friends. I wanted to give an update on Theresa. First, thanks to each of you for your comments, thoughts, prayers, and continued support! It truly means so much that you all are here and engaged. Please know that we feel your love and are incredibly grateful. It has now been 9 days since the difficult decision was made to reach out to hospice for support. As a brief recap- Theresa became inconsolably agitated, aggressive, and violent last Friday out of was seemingly nowhere. Since that time she has been medically calmed/somewhat sedated. While she had been responsive even under this mild sedation, she has since transitioned into what Trey and I are calling a peaceful state. The past two days T has been mostly unresponsive and incredibly peaceful. Her breathing has changed significantly within the past 24 hours. She is now in the stage of shallow rapid breathing. Yesterday I spent time with her, singing to her, praying with her, talking to her, and holding her hands. Trey hasn’t left her side but for a moment to gather some things to stay with her every minute. He has continued to snuggle her, speak lovingly to her, stroke her hair, and remind her that he is by her side. Last night he laid in bed with her and held her through the night. Friends, Theresa does look beautiful and peaceful. We know that she is not in any pain and will continue to be with her through what we are now being told by doctors is the end of her journey here on earth. Trey and I and her close friends and family are finding comfort in knowing that Theresa is making her way to her Heavenly home. Please know that we will keep you all updated as much as we are able as we navigate this stage. Thank you all again for your continued thoughts and prayers. -Cher 🙏🏻
I just logged on to check this channel for an update. Thank you for updating. Positive thoughts, vibes and prayers for everyone. Deep breaths and one thing at a time. 🙏
I’ve worked in dementia for 30 years. You are a prince and both of you have been truly blessed. I know you’ve been mourning the loss of your wife for some time now - I hope she has a peaceful transition and we are praying for you in this continued loss.
my husband diagnosed 5 years this May, he was having issues before that but it took a bit for him to get the nerve up to go. After a second opinion and pet scan, mri, it was confirmed. He is hanging in there. He still has his hard drive, but the soft ware is not working so good. He cant drive, read, use computer and barely use his phone , he has visual spacing issues. He is in a Research program, but I dont know how much of it is working as they will not tell you (blind study) Can a person really turn this quickly as Theresa? She was almost normal last week and then in the same week went down quickly. My spouse is 75 now. Theresa was so young. I am so afraid for him. I hate to watch his decline. IM asking you because of your dementia experience. Thanks in advance for any answer.
My sister passed away in December. She was doing okay then stopped eating and drinking. It's hard to witness, but it's the body's way of moving on. I'm so sorry. May you have peace in this difficult time.
My sister in-laws also had early onset dementia. She was diagnosed in the later part of 2016 even though the disease probably had began at least a year before. The doctors said her life would probably end in six years and she passed a way in May 2022. My brother kept her at home all that time except for a few months in 2021. He brought her home and it was so difficult for the whole family. My brother became so exhausted. He remarked after her death that he didn't realize how tired he was but he had no regrets. Don't beat yourself about feeling that death would be her healing. Teresa's behavior is the wickedness of this disease. You have been a champion for Teresa. It has been so touching how devoted you have been through this journey.
Your love for your wife is so apparent. As you go through this journey remember, you’re doing your best. We will continue to pray for peace, rest and smiles for you and her.
So sorry for this turn of events. I agree with you. A quick goodbye would be preferable to a long miserable decline for both of you. You've been a great husband and friend to Theresa. Don't you dare hold any guilt for any reason. This is out of your hands.
Numbers 6:24-26 24 The Lord bless you and keep you; 25 the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; 26 the Lord lift up his countenance[a] upon you and give you peace.
After 20 years working in hospice all I can tell you that you made the best decision to sign her up to hospice. I applaud you for your courage and wisdom to recognize the time when the very best thing to let her go peacefully. Praying for you and Theresa 🙏🏻
Trey, this has broken my heart. Darren and I have followed you since February 2023. I am physically sick about this decline. One thing that I can tell you is that you have been 100% present for your precious wife. I could see from the beginning that she adores you. Today, again, I weep. I do not want to take anything away from your situation, but please continue to pray for me as my dementia (FTD) progresses. I will continue to pray for peace for Theresa and you. I appreciate your support of me since the beginning so please let me know if we can help in anyway way. - Sheila & Darren
As a nurse I’ve seen this so many times and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is so hard for loved ones to deal with. Please try to remember (albeit difficult) that the agitations and aggression is the disease and the disease only. It’s so hard for your heart to separate even when your brain knows that. At this point her safety (and yours) and comfort is paramount. Even if that means often in a sedated state. Nobody enjoys feeling agitated or aggressive so although as a loved one you may feel bad for sedating her with meds but remember that it means she’s comfortable and relaxed not feeling angry and upset agitated etc. Prayers for peace for both of you! You’re doing right by her and she knows how much you love her! Hold on to that! ❤
Trey. Your resignation to a reality you never envisioned nor imagined and the utter despair you’re experiencing is palpable through the screens on which we watch your updates. Please know, although it can’t make your situation any more palatable, your audience is rooting for you both. For inner peace. For release. For comfort. For strength. I wish these things and so much more for you. Take care of yourself in these coming weeks, months, years. Like I remind my own loved ones who are helping take care of family members in need, as flight attendants inform airplane passengers to put on their own oxygen mask before assisting others, remember to check that your metaphorical ‘mask’ is secure so that you are better prepared to assist your wife. Peace and strength to you both in this unimaginably difficult situation.
Trey let the medical staff take over her care. You have done everything possible, I’m so sorry for the pain of seeing her degrading. I will pray for you and Theresa to have the peace that passes understanding. God is walking with you and Theresa.
My heart and prayers are with you my friend. My wife was diagnosed a year ago and your videos have been a Godsend. Thank you so much for sharing this personal journey.
Trey, I have closely followed your story through Cher, my daughter. My heart aches for you as I know the person your Theresa is. She is golden and I'm sure, when it's her time, her wings will be golden too. Our prayers for you will continue. God bless you both.
Thank you for these kind words, Momma. We were all so blessed to know Theresa. It is truly so wonderful that so many members of my family had happy memories of her too. 🙏🏻❤️🕊️
Sending so much love. My Dad went into the hospital last Friday, hospice care on Tuesday afternoon, and passed away Wednesday morning. It has been the hardest week of my life. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
So very sorry to hear about Theresa’s rapid decline. Such a savage disease and so unfair. You have been an amazing husband and caretaker, and I’m glad you had this time at home with her as long as you did. I hope in days to come you’ll remember her sweetness and the peaceful times together. Hugs to you both and strength.
Thank you for the update Trey, but it brought tears to my eyes. It's a cruel, cruel disease. You're a hero. You've done everything humanly possible. We love you. ❤❤❤
Prayers for you and family. My sister also this switch happened like overnight I exprienced so many different feelings. I was so frustrated that I could't help her more. I kept her at home.I was her caregiver. Slept very little.Hospice stepped in last week of her time here. I found she was most relaxed when I played sounds of nature.The sea, and birds. She is just lost, it is so sad. Yet it is blessing, she will soon be in a beautiful place. Know you have done a wonderful job caring for her. Take your time.
Bud, you and Theresa are so loved and cared about. How proud we are all of you. Thank you for being concerned about updating us. What a tremendous act of service you have performed by sharing your path with us.
I'm so sorry Trey, you have been such an amazing husband & caregiver to Therese. Please remember that Therese is not angry at you or anyone, it's just the wretched disease taking over. So glad she has Gospel music in her room which will soak right into her. Much love
❤❤❤❤❤ lost my mom to this disease. I was her caregiver. I feel the weight of the world in your voice. Her brain is misfiring. So hard to watch. The long goodbye is so very, very difficult. God bless you. May he be gracious to you and Teresa.
Trey, My great grandmother had Alzheimer's and at 15 years old during the 1970's, the highway we were driving on was 70mph back then, my grandmother (my great grandmother's second oldest daughter) was driving her Buick which back in those days did not have the safety locks yet. So, when you pulled the handle to open the door, even if it was locked would open. My great grandmother wanted to exit the vehicle AT THAT VERY MOMENT, I was sitting in the backseat and it took ALL my strength to hold that lock down as my great grandmother clawed at my hands trying to release the lock of the car. She wanted to go home to her momma and nothing was going to stop her. Most of my great grandmother's time being taken care of by her daughters and yes even me at 15 years old to sit with her during the day while my great aunt and uncle would go to work was my first experience with Alzheimer's. She would "run away" every day almost. Once she got away from another great uncle of mine and she was found 20 miles away at a house she used to live in 50 years prior. (It was in a very bad neighborhood and she was only 4'11" tall) At that time, my family members realized that she could no longer be taken care of by family-it was beyond our means and they placed her in a care facility in which her older sister (who was a nun and long since passed) used to work in. In the beginning the nuns and nurses would tell us how when she was strapped into a wheelchair, she dismantled the wheel chair using only her fingernails as screwdrivers. (Oh, during WWII she also worked on building tanks for the Americans)So she was very resourceful, she lived 10 years and we watched as she digressed from speaking English to the family High German, she was the first generation American on that line of my family. So, while she was growing up, the family spoke German in the home. Until she stopped speaking altogether and just became a vegetable. After she stopped speaking, I had my son and at 3 weeks old, we wanted to get a 5 generation photograph, so we went out to the nursing home which of course babies always get the infirm attention. I laid my son on her tray over her wheelchair and I said, grandma, this is your great great grandson Edward. Well, she came from a family of 16 children and she had a brother who had passed away in the 1950's, so when I said, "Edward" she responded with "No, he's dead". For a brief moment we had gotten her back to the 1950's, and we were currently in the 1980's. So, brief as it may have been, that was the closest we ever came to recovering her memory of any of us. But, when she looked at my son, she caressed and coo'ed to him as she used to do with all her grandchildren. She lived to be 97 years old. As I became an adult, I also do private care for Alzheimer's patients. The violence was common, I had a 5' female adult almost tear down a bathroom door so she could get at me. My mother in law also had Alzheimer's and attacked my father in law. She was taken to the hospital for commitment that night. I had to sit in the back seat to keep her under control until we got her to the hospital. Other's have stated that it is not the person, and they are right. The person you knew and loved might be a silent witness/prisoner hidden deep inside her mind but they are under the control of the demon illness known as Alzheimer's. At this point, all you can do is to love who they once represented, given care and love as if they can hear you somewhere on the subconscious level and be grateful once their suffering has ended. My great grandmother lived 10 years with this illness. So you and your family were spared 4 more years of potentially watching this illness progress. It is not tasteless to tell you to thank god for these small gifts. It is at these exact moments when each person faces the dilemma and the morale question of quality versus quantity. Each one of us has to debate the quality of life versus the quantity or duration of that life. I can not speak for anyone but myself, but under these same circumstances, I would choose quality and once my quality fell below a basic standard of life and I was no longer in control, I would pray and wish for the end. You and your family did all you could do and it is commendable for most do not accept the responsibility let alone sick around throughout this nightmare of an ordeal. Carry on with your lives now, at peace knowing that all that could be done was tried. Do not look at this as any type of failure or a defeat, understand, this became a draw between Alzheimer's and Theresa. Alzheimer's might have had the upper hand at the end, but Theresa pulled the plug so as to limit it's ability to control her any longer. Look at those moments of hostilities as Theresa's only ability to fight the invisible demon on a surreal plane and in the end, she earned her peaceful rest. She fought the only way she could. RIP Theresa and say hi to my great grandmother and mother in law up in heaven. Believe me, she will be in great company right about now.
Hi Loris - thank you so much for sharing this. Your words speak to me as I have been struggling with how I could have done more to improve quality and extend quantity. I knew Alzheimer's would eventually win over, but I didn't expect it to take over so rapidly at the end. I take comfort that she is no longer suffering and the fight is over. God Bless
I’m so sorry! It has to be so hard to watch your sweet wife change so drastically! I’m sure you know that she has no idea what she’s doing. Many prayers for all of you!
This is such a horrible disease!! My mom passed in December for Alzheimer’s and my dad is on hospice with LewyBody. Dad is close to the end. It will be a relief that he won’t be suffering anymore. I’m glad you have some help. I hope you have support around you locally so you can talk about this. Hang in there! ❤
Trey, there can be no doubt among the viewers who followed your journey with Theresa that you provided her with the best quality of life possible. You are a hero to us even though you were just honoring your vows. If you want more information about what happened to Theresa, I would recommend Hospice Nurse Julie. She has amazing videos describing the death experience. I will be praying for you and Theresa.❤
just came across ur channel an boy do i gotta say what a stand up husband and human you are! the love an compassion is inspiring keeping u in my prayers
Im sorry to all the people going through this. I never knew that Dementia / Alzheimers can affect them to the extreme Im hearing and reading about here..WOW! Im truly surprised. Thanks you for posting as its truly enlightened me. My heart goes out to you all. Lots of love and strength in your times of need. ❤🙏
I am sorry for what you and your wife are going through. My wife went over the great divide a month short of three years ago after eleven years of decline. We had been married nearly 51 years. Her decline was slow at first then slowly accelerated. It was nine years from her diagnosis to the end. She died in my embrace with me singing a song she loved to here. I wish I could tell you how to heal your heart but best I can do is tell you there are many out here who've walked that path and we wish we could help you more. Hugs for you. Prayers for you and the wife.
Trey, I am so sorry to hear about Theresa. Thank you for the update. I pray for the both of you every day. Her life is in God's hands, and having the gospel music going, and letting her know you love her, and her letting you know she loves you, is crystal clear. I am happy she could express that to you. May God's loving hand be on your lives at this difficult time.
Thinking of and praying for you daily. You were the best husband to her and she knew how much you loved her. You were with her every step of the way. Thank you for deciding to document your journey to the extent of inviting your subscribers into your home and hearts. I miss Theresa. ❤
I know what you are going through. My late husband was the most kindest, loving, adorable husband in the world. The last 6 months of his life were devastating to go through, he had vascular dementia. He would have some episodes but not as bad as you just described. It was heartbreaking to see. You are a wonderful husband and it is obviously how much you love Theresa. Thank-you for bringing your lives to our lives, I am sure you have helped many people. Sending you both healing and loving light💕🙏
Aww, Trey, that's hard. You are such a good man for having such unbounded love and support for Theresa. Thank you for sharing your journey. Sending my love to both of you ❤
Thank you for being courageous enough to fight for the best quality of life possible for Theresa and to be able to share your story publicly. That is not an easy thing to do and you've done it with grace. You've got a community of love and support here.
I lived with my grandma for the last year of her Alzheimer's battle. Was able to keep her in her house even on hospice. What I learned is don't force her to do anything. If she isn't eating or drinking don't make her because it causes her to have more aggression. If she gets aggressive walk a way and that should help her settle down. Do what you can be with her and don't leave her alone. Always have someone with her. Even when its hard to be there. I was right next to her when she passed. I always kissed her on her forehead and told her good morning. Right at that time she sat up and tried to talk and was moving her hands around. She laid down and took her last breath. I have no idea what she was trying to tell me. I'm just thankful that I was right there with her when she took her last breath. It's hard to be a care giver to a person who you love and care for deeply. In the end you know you did all you have done and she knows you were with her. You'll never get over it but in time you'll peace. 💜
Her agressive reaction towards the end is more common than you realize. She stopped eating and drinking because she was ready to finally go home our "Real Home" after such a horrific experience . She was so tired of being poked and probed along with all the meds it's totally understandable why she became agressive 😢 There wasn't anything else that this precious husband could do.
Oh this hurts so much. I remember when my mama was in my care and same thing happened it's a rollercoaster of emotions. I just want to say God will always be by your side throughout. You have been the most loving, caring husband to your sweet Teresa and so has her Bestie Cher. Will continue to pray for y'all during this extremely sad times. God Bless 💜
So very sorry Trey. I’ve been watching your videos since the beginning & am very sad about Theresa’s rapid decline. You, Theresa and Cher are in my prayers🙏🏼❤️
I am so terribly sorry. In the 21 years I did dementia care I have unfortunately seen this so many times. It’s so hard for loved ones to understand. Just always know when they are so angry it isn’t you or anyone around them it’s that horrific disease attacking them in turn attacking around them. When you said her being free of the disease touched my heart deeply. That’s such an unselfish statement. With this you have to say quality of life over quantity. I am praying for you and your family and Teresa. This is the hardest road of the horrible journey. It’s so touching watching you together you can feel the love you have and she will continue to feel that from you. Bless you both
I've watched many of your videos but normally don't comment. My good friend was in the same situation as you, her husband had early onset dementia at age 60. Like you, she made every effort to keep him at home where he was most happy. His decline was also extremely rapid. He had to go into care and within 30 days he passed while in the hospital. It was an extremely hard month for her, but when it was over she was relieved his suffering was over. She'd been silently grieving for years, but the man she fell in love with, lived with, and had hoped to grow old with had been gone for quite a while. Dementia had slowly eaten away at who he was as a person. It was just the physical shell that was being taken care of. I hope that whatever is best for your wife is what happens. Dementia is horrible disease and I think you and Theresa have been an inspiration to so many through it. My prayers for you both.
Thank you for taking time to update us at this difficult time. And for treated us like trusted friends. My heart breaks for Sweet Theresa. Bless her heart. You have shown remarkable courage during this journey. You look tired and exhausted. But not defeated. Regardless if she continues this earthly road or takes to streets made of pure gold, you have shown the remarkable couple you are, your deep and abiding love. You two have set a fine example. Will continue to hold you both up in prayer.
You have my sympathy, my friend. The same thing has happened to my wife. I am sorry for your pain. Hang in there, and best of luck. I can't say it will get better. So hang in there.
I'm sorry to hear this. My heart is breaking for you... Right now I'm caring for a man with this disease.. My biggest job is helping his wife to cope and understand the changes and what to expect, how to embrace every moment whether good or bad... It's a very difficult road to walk... You are doing a great job to love her and to be patient with the changes.... My thoughts and prayers 🙏 are with you!!!!
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Good morning, RUclips family.
Please keep Trey in your thoughts and prayers especially today. Last night, while Trey was holding her, Theresa took her last breath. Please know that she was peaceful and not in any pain. She left this earth in the arms of her love.
Thank you all for your continued support, love, and kindness.
- Cher 🙏🏻💜
Condolences to you, too, Cher.
Cher, sincere condolences on your great loss.We should all be Blessed to have such a wonderful friend ❤️ as you. Hugs and Prayers🙏 🙏 🙏
Praying for you all.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful dear friend Cher. Thank you for sharing this difficult journey. I'm sending u all prayers and peace.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sending love to you all ❤
Trey, I was a hospice chaplain for several years, and have been in the presence of patients and families who have gone through similar situations. It is such a challenge for everybody involved, and can be so very exhausting and heartbreaking. I am so sorry that you are going through this now, witnessing Theresa who you have loved so long and so well, move through this slow and painful decline. I know from experience that sometimes when Hospice is able to get the medication right, the patient rebounds. At other times it truly is the end of life approaching. Right now you are exhausted and hurting, and Teresa‘s behaviors are forming your most recent memories. With time, these brief memories will fade and what will last will be all of the love that you shared and the beautiful memories you created together. You do have my prayers and my support.
Beautifully articulated
A beautiful post.
Amen ❤
This is so meaningful. Thank you for the reminder regarding memories
Thank you for this post!
I'm so sorry for your loss. My sister-in-law passed from Alzheimer's recently at age 62 after an 8-year battle. Sending you prayers for strength.
So sorry for your loss as well Carrie. God Bless
It's not Theresa attacking and hitting, it's the disease. I am so sorry you are going thru this, it's such a horrible condition.
Thank you for saying this. It is very true. My dad has Alzheimer's . They really need to find a cure for this terrible disease.
Hospice worker for 34 years. This disease is insidious. It's not Theresa anymore. I'm so sorry this happened to precious Theresa. I hope that hospice has educated you on what to expect. Love and light and the peace that surpasses all understanding is my prayer for you and your family.
Went through this with my mother in law 😢😢😢 very evil disease
Good evening, All.
I thought I’d reach out to you all as a collective here with a brief update on T’s current status.
I visited with her today and was able to get three separate grins from her. She knew I was there and even squeezed my hand briefly!
Trey was there too and Theresa did let out a giggle when he kissed her cheek and snuggled her neck. The love between them is still very strong and heartwarmingly evident.
While the sedation has left her so subdued that opening her eyes is a chore, she clearly hears us, grins, and grimaces with that which she hears.
Gospel music and songs of praise truly calm her spirit. It is obvious on the peaceful look on her face when it’s played.
This time has been excruciating on our souls. I can’t even imagine what my sweet friend must be feeling trapped somewhere inside of her earthly body. I do know that she would HATE anyone seeing her like this. She would HATE anyone hurting over her condition.
Please know that this hasn’t been harder on any one more than Trey. Trey has dated true to his vows to love and cherish, in sickness and in health, and to see the love in his eyes when he looks at her is both heartbreaking and admirable congruently. He has done everything within his power to maintain Theresa’s dignity and wishes throughout this disease. He has advocated for her, defended her, pleaded for her, protected her, and more than anything has loved and cared for her greater than any human could fathom.
And while I appreciate the incredibly kind words you all have expressed toward me, I am no hero. I could go on and on with stories of the times Theresa was my crying shoulder, my crutch to lean, and my hero. It takes an amazing human to set such an example. I hope that when she reaches her Heavenly home that she leaves us with peaceful hearts knowing that she’s with our Father and is happy for eternity with Him.
Thanks to each one of you for your continued thoughts and prayers. It sincerely means so much to know that others may find support in Trey and Theresa’s story. You are never alone.
May God bless each of you. 🙏🏻💜
-Cher
Thankyou for the update Cher. My heart is breaking for you all. God Bless xo
❤❤ You are truly the best friend anyone could ever be blessed to have. God Bless you Cher.
My husband was paralyzed by a medical mistake. I cared for him the best I could myself, bc I loved him, I wanted to. He always took care of me, he would have still cared for me if it had been me.
I hated if people acted like I was doing anything " extra" or special, my duty. I wasn't doing it from obligation. It was my joy, my privilege. I was so grateful for that time, to share & love him in everything. I understand exactly what you mean. We receive such a precious gift when we're able to take care of those we love, it's as much for us as it is for them. I know in spite of the great pain you feel in losing Theresa these last days & hours will be a comfort you cherish long after she's gone to be with Jesus. God bless you. ❤
Thank you Cher for the update. Horrible disease! You and Trey are her angels. God bless you guys for the care, patience and love you have while caring for Theresa. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers!
Thank you, Cher.
You look so tired and I feel bad for you. My husband passed away 4 weeks ago, and it was very hard to watch him suffer .May God bless you and give you peace. You are very good husband
Only 4 weeks ago? Please accept my sincere condolences. How are you holding up?
I’m sending prayers , I’m so very sorry for your loss . My partner is currently end of life on hospice ~ it’s very difficult . ❤
God loves you friend. So sorry you are going through this.
Sending love and prayers to you @@JustPoet0819 and dear @dankabianka@5682 and dear Trey. Such difficult times! We all feel for you. xx
I am sorry for your loss. ❤
God bless
Thank you for showing women what a good husband looks like. You are a wonderful man. You are a rarity.
YES! My husband was caretaker for his first wife who passed from ALS, and when I heard how he’d handled that, I knew I’d met a PRINCE. We’ve been married 27 years now and he’s proven that to me every day. Trey, I’m so sorry for your pain.
Yes he is. God bless his heart
Trey, I'm so very sorry. I'm going through similar with my husband with Alzheimers. I've been his 24/7 caregiver at home. Suddenly he refused to shower or dress or do anything. And when I tried to help him, he became violent and I had to call the police. He's now heavily medicated in a nursing home and declining rapidly as a result of the meds. He's still eating and drinking and awake but he's so out of it from the meds. It's all just heartbreaking. I just hate this disease. It really is kinder for them to just let go and leave their sick bodies behind I think. My heart goes out to you and Teresa. I feel your pain, truly.
Praying for comfort and peace for you and your husband. I also feel your pain, as my mother went through the same thing with Alzeheimers. Love, Diane
Praying for you.
Praying for you and your spouse. Sorry you are also going through this.
God Bless you Trey
I'm here with you and for you I'm going to through the same with my husband
Trey, as a nurse working with dementia patients my heart goes out to both of you. Please know that deep in Theresa memory she knows how much she's loved by you. I pray that God puts his loving arms around both of you for peace and comfort. Thank you for the update and I know how hard this must of been for you.
Can you help me because you work with people with dementia
My mum had a seizure i they day never had them before I phoned the ambulance they have put her on seizure tablets it as stopped them but she is confused and been behaviour as been mad like pulling her hair and stacking her skin and say she as no head or tough and she is dieing and fusing no to eat or drink or going for shower she frights you she as not been she as dementia yet they want to do lumbar puncture because she does a lot of moving so she cant have a MRI scan and I am scared for her what should I do and do.yiu think she as dementia
Oh My! My heart is just breaking for you both. You look exhausted. Hug and love to you both❤.
I didn’t lose a spouse but my father. I can’t imagine how you feel. My dad’s decline was as dramatic. No combativeness but dramatic decline due to his diabetes injection-made him hugely ill which he just couldn’t come back from. The balancing act just can’t balance forever. I miss my dad from my younger years but not the dementia version of my dad. Peace to you.
I remember my mother going through the violence phase in her illness. She was diagnosed at 51. I was 16 at the time. We chose to keep her home for her entire illness which lasted 15 yrs. We took turns caring of her. My dad did most of the care as over the years we grew up & started our own families. He did have a nurse come in twice a day for many years to help him. People tell me, "I'm sorry for what you children had to go through with your mom". I tell them, don't be, it made me the strong confident adult I am today. I'm grateful to have been a part of her life journey. It taught me a lot. Best wishes for you.
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I watched my husband deteriorate from a horrible cancer that robbed him of the sweet, loving personality he once had. To be honest, I lost my hubby long before he passed. Emotions are difficult things. There came a time when I had to think with my brain and not my heart. I thought about his quality of life, what he would have wanted, What I would want in this situation. I also had hospice help. In the end, I was so incredibly sad but also releived that he no longer suffered with this disease. It takes a toll on everyone. You are an incredible husband. I understand what you're going through. She sounds like an awesome woman afflicted with a terrible disease. Keeping you both in my prayers.
❤My husband did the same. He got violent and scary. After that he got worse. He stayed home. Then he got scary. I just got really scared of him. It's hard to explain. Then one day he said he was dieing and he wanted to go to the hospital. He died in a long Term Care Hospital. He was their for 3 months before he passed. He was 55 when he died last summer. I have PTSD now.
I am so sorry. I have almost called the police my hubby has gotten so bad two times. He storms at me scaring the crap out of me. Not the man I married. Please talk to someone. I do tapping to help me cope with the ptsd. 💜🙏🫂
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So sorry to hear this ❤
I sadly just found your channel. I see Theresa is at the end of her Alzheimer's journey. Im so sorry and will be praying daily. Just remember she's not Theresa anymore the Alzheimer's has taken her over. Sending blessings today and everyday. I pray God helps you through this0.
Good morning, RUclips friends.
I wanted to give an update on Theresa. First, thanks to each of you for your comments, thoughts, prayers, and continued support! It truly means so much that you all are here and engaged. Please know that we feel your love and are incredibly grateful.
It has now been 9 days since the difficult decision was made to reach out to hospice for support. As a brief recap- Theresa became inconsolably agitated, aggressive, and violent last Friday out of was seemingly nowhere. Since that time she has been medically calmed/somewhat sedated. While she had been responsive even under this mild sedation, she has since transitioned into what Trey and I are calling a peaceful state. The past two days T has been mostly unresponsive and incredibly peaceful. Her breathing has changed significantly within the past 24 hours. She is now in the stage of shallow rapid breathing.
Yesterday I spent time with her, singing to her, praying with her, talking to her, and holding her hands. Trey hasn’t left her side but for a moment to gather some things to stay with her every minute. He has continued to snuggle her, speak lovingly to her, stroke her hair, and remind her that he is by her side. Last night he laid in bed with her and held her through the night.
Friends, Theresa does look beautiful and peaceful. We know that she is not in any pain and will continue to be with her through what we are now being told by doctors is the end of her journey here on earth.
Trey and I and her close friends and family are finding comfort in knowing that Theresa is making her way to her Heavenly home.
Please know that we will keep you all updated as much as we are able as we navigate this stage.
Thank you all again for your continued thoughts and prayers.
-Cher 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for the update Cher. Positive vibes to you and Trey. xoxo🙏
Sending peace and prayers. I am so very sorry fot all this.
Thank you for the update, Cher. I am thinking of and praying for Theresa, Trey and you, and all of their family and friends at this difficult time.
You all are in our hearts during this time of transition. Thankful she is at peace and is ready to go home!
I just logged on to check this channel for an update. Thank you for updating. Positive thoughts, vibes and prayers for everyone. Deep breaths and one thing at a time. 🙏
I’ve worked in dementia for 30 years. You are a prince and both of you have been truly blessed. I know you’ve been mourning the loss of your wife for some time now - I hope she has a peaceful transition and we are praying for you in this continued loss.
my husband diagnosed 5 years this May, he was having issues before that but it took a bit for him to get the nerve up to go. After a second opinion and pet scan, mri, it was confirmed. He is hanging in there. He still has his hard drive, but the soft ware is not working so good. He cant drive, read, use computer and barely use his phone , he has visual spacing issues. He is in a Research program, but I dont know how much of it is working as they will not tell you (blind study) Can a person really turn this quickly as Theresa? She was almost normal last week and then in the same week went down quickly. My spouse is 75 now. Theresa was so young. I am so afraid for him. I hate to watch his decline. IM asking you because of your dementia experience. Thanks in advance for any answer.
Hang onto that “I love you too” - those words will stay with you forever. I promise. ❤
My thoughts exactly.
Your post made me cry. That is such a sweet sentiment and so true.
My sister passed away in December. She was doing okay then stopped eating and drinking. It's hard to witness, but it's the body's way of moving on. I'm so sorry. May you have peace in this difficult time.
Sorry for your loss
Love and prayers being sent ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My sister in-laws also had early onset dementia. She was diagnosed in the later part of 2016 even though the disease probably had began at least a year before. The doctors said her life would probably end in six years and she passed a way in May 2022. My brother kept her at home all that time except for a few months in 2021. He brought her home and it was so difficult for the whole family. My brother became so exhausted. He remarked after her death that he didn't realize how tired he was but he had no regrets. Don't beat yourself about feeling that death would be her healing. Teresa's behavior is the wickedness of this disease. You have been a champion for Teresa. It has been so touching how devoted you have been through this journey.
Your love for your wife is so apparent. As you go through this journey remember, you’re doing your best. We will continue to pray for peace, rest and smiles for you and her.
So sorry for this turn of events. I agree with you. A quick goodbye would be preferable to a long miserable decline for both of you. You've been a great husband and friend to Theresa. Don't you dare hold any guilt for any reason. This is out of your hands.
So sorry to hear of the passing of your much loved wife. You are such a loving and devoted husband. May you be blessed and comforted at this time.
😢so o sorry thank you for sharing your story. I am 52 years old living with early onset Alzheimer’s disease. Thank you for sharing.
WE ALL SHOULD PRAY FOR HIM AND TERRY!!!!🕊😇😭👵🏻❤❤
Prayer is useless
Numbers 6:24-26
24 The Lord bless you and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord lift up his countenance[a] upon you and give you peace.
After 20 years working in hospice all I can tell you that you made the best decision to sign her up to hospice. I applaud you for your courage and wisdom to recognize the time when the very best thing to let her go peacefully. Praying for you and Theresa 🙏🏻
The world needs more men like you Trey.. God bless you and Theresa ❤
Trey, this has broken my heart. Darren and I have followed you since February 2023. I am physically sick about this decline. One thing that I can tell you is that you have been 100% present for your precious wife. I could see from the beginning that she adores you. Today, again, I weep. I do not want to take anything away from your situation, but please continue to pray for me as my dementia (FTD) progresses. I will continue to pray for peace for Theresa and you. I appreciate your support of me since the beginning so please let me know if we can help in anyway way. - Sheila & Darren
As a nurse I’ve seen this so many times and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is so hard for loved ones to deal with. Please try to remember (albeit difficult) that the agitations and aggression is the disease and the disease only. It’s so hard for your heart to separate even when your brain knows that. At this point her safety (and yours) and comfort is paramount. Even if that means often in a sedated state. Nobody enjoys feeling agitated or aggressive so although as a loved one you may feel bad for sedating her with meds but remember that it means she’s comfortable and relaxed not feeling angry and upset agitated etc. Prayers for peace for both of you! You’re doing right by her and she knows how much you love her! Hold on to that! ❤
Oh, I had the worst luck, working over 34 yrs. & it was the hardest cases. So tragic. God Give You Strength, in Jesus's name. AMEN
Trey. Your resignation to a reality you never envisioned nor imagined and the utter despair you’re experiencing is palpable through the screens on which we watch your updates. Please know, although it can’t make your situation any more palatable, your audience is rooting for you both. For inner peace. For release. For comfort. For strength. I wish these things and so much more for you. Take care of yourself in these coming weeks, months, years. Like I remind my own loved ones who are helping take care of family members in need, as flight attendants inform airplane passengers to put on their own oxygen mask before assisting others, remember to check that your metaphorical ‘mask’ is secure so that you are better prepared to assist your wife.
Peace and strength to you both in this unimaginably difficult situation.
That is beautifully said. That means alot for you to say all that, it even helps others reading this message. Thank you for your kind soul.
Trey let the medical staff take over her care. You have done everything possible, I’m so sorry for the pain of seeing her degrading. I will pray for you and Theresa to have the peace that passes understanding. God is walking with you and Theresa.
My heart and prayers are with you my friend. My wife was diagnosed a year ago and your videos have been a Godsend. Thank you so much for sharing this personal journey.
My prayers with you as well. God Bless
Trey, I have closely followed your story through Cher, my daughter. My heart aches for you as I know the person your Theresa is. She is golden and I'm sure, when it's her time, her wings will be golden too. Our prayers for you will continue. God bless you both.
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Thank you for these kind words, Momma. We were all so blessed to know Theresa. It is truly so wonderful that so many members of my family had happy memories of her too.
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Sending so much love. My Dad went into the hospital last Friday, hospice care on Tuesday afternoon, and passed away Wednesday morning. It has been the hardest week of my life. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
Many thoughts and prayers for peace and condolence to you in this time, @thesesimplemoments 🙏🏻🕊️
So sorry for your loss - my condolences, love and support. God bless
So very sorry to hear about Theresa’s rapid decline. Such a savage disease and so unfair. You have been an amazing husband and caretaker, and I’m glad you had this time at home with her as long as you did. I hope in days to come you’ll remember her sweetness and the peaceful times together. Hugs to you both and strength.
Rest in peace beautiful Theresa💗
Thinking of you and praying for you daily. I loved Theresa and will miss seeing her on your channel.
Thank you for the update Trey, but it brought tears to my eyes. It's a cruel, cruel disease. You're a hero. You've done everything humanly possible. We love you. ❤❤❤
Prayers for you and family. My sister also this switch happened like overnight
I exprienced so many different feelings. I was so frustrated that I could't help her more. I kept her at home.I was her caregiver. Slept very little.Hospice stepped in last week of her time here. I found she was most relaxed when I played sounds of nature.The sea, and birds. She is just lost, it is so sad. Yet it is blessing, she will soon be in a beautiful place. Know you have done a wonderful job caring for her. Take your time.
Thank you for sharing and for your prayers and support.
So, so hard. So very sorry.
Bud, you and Theresa are so loved and cared about. How proud we are all of you. Thank you for being concerned about updating us. What a tremendous act of service you have performed by sharing your path with us.
I'm so sorry Trey, you have been such an amazing husband & caregiver to Therese. Please remember that Therese is not angry at you or anyone, it's just the wretched disease taking over. So glad she has Gospel music in her room which will soak right into her.
Much love
❤❤❤❤❤ lost my mom to this disease. I was her caregiver. I feel the weight of the world in your voice. Her brain is misfiring. So hard to watch. The long goodbye is so very, very difficult. God bless you. May he be gracious to you and Teresa.
I am so exteremely sorry. She was doing so well. Just remember it is the condition, not her.. Blessings to you both. May peace come to you both.. 🥺
Trey, My great grandmother had Alzheimer's and at 15 years old during the 1970's, the highway we were driving on was 70mph back then, my grandmother (my great grandmother's second oldest daughter) was driving her Buick which back in those days did not have the safety locks yet. So, when you pulled the handle to open the door, even if it was locked would open. My great grandmother wanted to exit the vehicle AT THAT VERY MOMENT, I was sitting in the backseat and it took ALL my strength to hold that lock down as my great grandmother clawed at my hands trying to release the lock of the car. She wanted to go home to her momma and nothing was going to stop her. Most of my great grandmother's time being taken care of by her daughters and yes even me at 15 years old to sit with her during the day while my great aunt and uncle would go to work was my first experience with Alzheimer's. She would "run away" every day almost. Once she got away from another great uncle of mine and she was found 20 miles away at a house she used to live in 50 years prior. (It was in a very bad neighborhood and she was only 4'11" tall) At that time, my family members realized that she could no longer be taken care of by family-it was beyond our means and they placed her in a care facility in which her older sister (who was a nun and long since passed) used to work in. In the beginning the nuns and nurses would tell us how when she was strapped into a wheelchair, she dismantled the wheel chair using only her fingernails as screwdrivers. (Oh, during WWII she also worked on building tanks for the Americans)So she was very resourceful, she lived 10 years and we watched as she digressed from speaking English to the family High German, she was the first generation American on that line of my family. So, while she was growing up, the family spoke German in the home. Until she stopped speaking altogether and just became a vegetable. After she stopped speaking, I had my son and at 3 weeks old, we wanted to get a 5 generation photograph, so we went out to the nursing home which of course babies always get the infirm attention. I laid my son on her tray over her wheelchair and I said, grandma, this is your great great grandson Edward. Well, she came from a family of 16 children and she had a brother who had passed away in the 1950's, so when I said, "Edward" she responded with "No, he's dead". For a brief moment we had gotten her back to the 1950's, and we were currently in the 1980's. So, brief as it may have been, that was the closest we ever came to recovering her memory of any of us. But, when she looked at my son, she caressed and coo'ed to him as she used to do with all her grandchildren. She lived to be 97 years old. As I became an adult, I also do private care for Alzheimer's patients. The violence was common, I had a 5' female adult almost tear down a bathroom door so she could get at me. My mother in law also had Alzheimer's and attacked my father in law. She was taken to the hospital for commitment that night. I had to sit in the back seat to keep her under control until we got her to the hospital. Other's have stated that it is not the person, and they are right. The person you knew and loved might be a silent witness/prisoner hidden deep inside her mind but they are under the control of the demon illness known as Alzheimer's. At this point, all you can do is to love who they once represented, given care and love as if they can hear you somewhere on the subconscious level and be grateful once their suffering has ended. My great grandmother lived 10 years with this illness. So you and your family were spared 4 more years of potentially watching this illness progress. It is not tasteless to tell you to thank god for these small gifts. It is at these exact moments when each person faces the dilemma and the morale question of quality versus quantity. Each one of us has to debate the quality of life versus the quantity or duration of that life. I can not speak for anyone but myself, but under these same circumstances, I would choose quality and once my quality fell below a basic standard of life and I was no longer in control, I would pray and wish for the end. You and your family did all you could do and it is commendable for most do not accept the responsibility let alone sick around throughout this nightmare of an ordeal. Carry on with your lives now, at peace knowing that all that could be done was tried. Do not look at this as any type of failure or a defeat, understand, this became a draw between Alzheimer's and Theresa. Alzheimer's might have had the upper hand at the end, but Theresa pulled the plug so as to limit it's ability to control her any longer. Look at those moments of hostilities as Theresa's only ability to fight the invisible demon on a surreal plane and in the end, she earned her peaceful rest. She fought the only way she could. RIP Theresa and say hi to my great grandmother and mother in law up in heaven. Believe me, she will be in great company right about now.
Hi Loris - thank you so much for sharing this. Your words speak to me as I have been struggling with how I could have done more to improve quality and extend quantity. I knew Alzheimer's would eventually win over, but I didn't expect it to take over so rapidly at the end. I take comfort that she is no longer suffering and the fight is over. God Bless
I’m so sorry! It has to be so hard to watch your sweet wife change so drastically! I’m sure you know that she has no idea what she’s doing. Many prayers for all of you!
This is such a horrible disease!! My mom passed in December for Alzheimer’s and my dad is on hospice with LewyBody. Dad is close to the end. It will be a relief that he won’t be suffering anymore. I’m glad you have some help. I hope you have support around you locally so you can talk about this. Hang in there! ❤
So sorry for your loss - much love and support to you as your dad's nears the end.
Thank you!! ❤ He passed yesterday. No more suffering.
Trey, there can be no doubt among the viewers who followed your journey with Theresa that you provided her with the best quality of life possible. You are a hero to us even though you were just honoring your vows. If you want more information about what happened to Theresa, I would recommend Hospice Nurse Julie. She has amazing videos describing the death experience. I will be praying for you and Theresa.❤
I am so sorry
I’m so sorry that she has declined so quickly. You are amazing!
I am so sorry about Theresa’s decline. Your journey has been so sad. You have done everything you could possibly have done.
God bless❤
Offering prayers for Theresa and you at this challenging time.
This is the first video of yours I have seen. Just breaks my heart. I am praying for you.
I’m so sorry, Trey. Your love for and devotion to Theresa is so apparent. I’ll pray for you.
Praying for her😢😢❤❤❤❤❤
Trey praying a prayer for you both. I feel your deep hurt. God has you in His hands!
My thoughts are with you.
Oh Trey....I am so sad for everything. I am keeping you both in prayer, and sending hugs and peace your way.
Prayers for you. I took care of my little sister with Down’s syndrome that passed with Alzheimers. You have done your best. Take care of yourself
So sorry to hear this! Sending prayers for strength as you go through this🙏
just came across ur channel an boy do i gotta say what a stand up husband and human you are! the love an compassion is inspiring keeping u in my prayers
Thank you- God bless
Im sorry to all the people going through this. I never knew that Dementia / Alzheimers can affect them to the extreme Im hearing and reading about here..WOW! Im truly surprised.
Thanks you for posting as its truly enlightened me. My heart goes out to you all. Lots of love and strength in your times of need. ❤🙏
I am sorry for what you and your wife are going through. My wife went over the great divide a month short of three years ago after eleven years of decline. We had been married nearly 51 years. Her decline was slow at first then slowly accelerated. It was nine years from her diagnosis to the end. She died in my embrace with me singing a song she loved to here. I wish I could tell you how to heal your heart but best I can do is tell you there are many out here who've walked that path and we wish we could help you more. Hugs for you. Prayers for you and the wife.
Trey,
My heart breaks hearing this recent update of Theresa. I am so sorry!! My prayers are going out for you.
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Trey, I am so sorry to hear about Theresa. Thank you for the update. I pray for the both of you every day. Her life is in God's hands, and having the gospel music going, and letting her know you love her, and her letting you know she loves you, is crystal clear. I am happy she could express that to you. May God's loving hand be on your lives at this difficult time.
Thinking of and praying for you daily. You were the best husband to her and she knew how much you loved her. You were with her every step of the way. Thank you for deciding to document your journey to the extent of inviting your subscribers into your home and hearts. I miss Theresa. ❤
I know what you are going through. My late husband was the most kindest, loving, adorable husband in the world. The last 6 months of his life were devastating to go through, he had vascular dementia. He would have some episodes but not as bad as you just described. It was heartbreaking to see. You are a wonderful husband and it is obviously how much you love Theresa. Thank-you for bringing your lives to our lives, I am sure you have helped many people. Sending you both healing and loving light💕🙏
So so hard! My mom went through this so I feel your pain! Prayers 😢
I am so sorry for your loss. May Jesus be your Strength through these difficult times.
Prayers for you and Theresa.
Aww, Trey, that's hard. You are such a good man for having such unbounded love and support for Theresa. Thank you for sharing your journey. Sending my love to both of you ❤
Trey sending lots of hugs and prayers for you and your sweet Theresa from Fl. God bless you both🥰😘🙏🙏🙏🙏Donna
Thank you for being courageous enough to fight for the best quality of life possible for Theresa and to be able to share your story publicly. That is not an easy thing to do and you've done it with grace. You've got a community of love and support here.
Sending love to you both...it is a horrible disease. 💔💔💔
I lived with my grandma for the last year of her Alzheimer's battle. Was able to keep her in her house even on hospice. What I learned is don't force her to do anything. If she isn't eating or drinking don't make her because it causes her to have more aggression. If she gets aggressive walk a way and that should help her settle down. Do what you can be with her and don't leave her alone. Always have someone with her. Even when its hard to be there. I was right next to her when she passed. I always kissed her on her forehead and told her good morning. Right at that time she sat up and tried to talk and was moving her hands around. She laid down and took her last breath. I have no idea what she was trying to tell me. I'm just thankful that I was right there with her when she took her last breath. It's hard to be a care giver to a person who you love and care for deeply. In the end you know you did all you have done and she knows you were with her. You'll never get over it but in time you'll peace. 💜
I’m so glad you were able to be with her as she passed. What a precious gift after an extremely difficult path.
I am SO sorry. You need to keep yourself safe.
Her agressive reaction towards the end is more common than you realize. She stopped eating and drinking because she was ready to finally go home our "Real Home" after such a horrific experience . She was so tired of being poked and probed along with all the meds it's totally understandable why she became agressive 😢
There wasn't anything else that this precious husband could do.
You mean ready to die? 😢
Oh this hurts so much. I remember when my mama was in my care and same thing happened it's a rollercoaster of emotions.
I just want to say God will always be by your side throughout. You have been the most loving, caring husband to your sweet Teresa and so has her Bestie Cher.
Will continue to pray for y'all during this extremely sad times.
God Bless 💜
So very sorry Trey. I’ve been watching your videos since the beginning & am very sad about Theresa’s rapid decline. You, Theresa and Cher are in my prayers🙏🏼❤️
My heart goes out to you. I hope she arrives at a place of peace and you find solace.
I am so terribly sorry. In the 21 years I did dementia care I have unfortunately seen this so many times. It’s so hard for loved ones to understand. Just always know when they are so angry it isn’t you or anyone around them it’s that horrific disease attacking them in turn attacking around them. When you said her being free of the disease touched my heart deeply. That’s such an unselfish statement. With this you have to say quality of life over quantity. I am praying for you and your family and Teresa. This is the hardest road of the horrible journey. It’s so touching watching you together you can feel the love you have and she will continue to feel that from you. Bless you both
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There is no need to comment or reply
Much respect,my friend
I'm soooooooo sorry Trey. You're both in my thoughts and prayers. 😢
I've watched many of your videos but normally don't comment. My good friend was in the same situation as you, her husband had early onset dementia at age 60. Like you, she made every effort to keep him at home where he was most happy. His decline was also extremely rapid. He had to go into care and within 30 days he passed while in the hospital. It was an extremely hard month for her, but when it was over she was relieved his suffering was over. She'd been silently grieving for years, but the man she fell in love with, lived with, and had hoped to grow old with had been gone for quite a while. Dementia had slowly eaten away at who he was as a person. It was just the physical shell that was being taken care of. I hope that whatever is best for your wife is what happens. Dementia is horrible disease and I think you and Theresa have been an inspiration to so many through it. My prayers for you both.
Thanks!
Thank you so much Leonie !
She must be terrified.
Yes, there with you and plz do not think you need to respond to your viewers. We appreciate your updates ❤
Thank you for taking time to update us at this difficult time. And for treated us like trusted friends. My heart breaks for Sweet Theresa. Bless her heart. You have shown remarkable courage during this journey. You look tired and exhausted. But not defeated. Regardless if she continues this earthly road or takes to streets made of pure gold, you have shown the remarkable couple you are, your deep and abiding love. You two have set a fine example. Will continue to hold you both up in prayer.
You are helping many people by letting us know all this
You have my sympathy, my friend. The same thing has happened to my wife. I am sorry for your pain. Hang in there, and best of luck. I can't say it will get better. So hang in there.
My sympathy to you as well- thank you for sharing and your support.
When the anger and rage phase happens, it is just awful for everyone. So sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry to hear this. My heart is breaking for you... Right now I'm caring for a man with this disease.. My biggest job is helping his wife to cope and understand the changes and what to expect, how to embrace every moment whether good or bad... It's a very difficult road to walk... You are doing a great job to love her and to be patient with the changes.... My thoughts and prayers 🙏 are with you!!!!
I'm so sorry to hear ❤
Love you Trey ❤
May she have a safe and peaceful journey home.
Patti. Caregiver in Colorado
She can hear and smell sweet scents.
Stay strong sweet man
Very Sad! God bless you Sir 🌹.
So very sorry for her suffering it’s heartbreaking.
Trey you are so strong. This is such a terrible disease. It’s so unfair to everyone. Praying for you 🙏🏻
Praying for you and your family.
Trey, my heart is breaking for you. You have an army of prayer warriors thru this online family.
We are with you. You are doing the best you can. Hopefully Theresa‘s suffering will be over soon and she can be at peace.