This is GOLD! Thank you for going beyond the typical "Just don't respond" or "Ignore the behavior" and talking about how once you start that, the child will escalate the bad behavior before you will make any progress, and this will be triggering as the parent. No one talks about this part, and parents feel defeated when they do the "don't engage, don't argue" and the child pulls out ALL THE STOPS! And then the parent feels even more defeated when their child triggers them and they react. Thanks for reminding us parents we are human too, and that's okay, but here's what to expect so keep at it. For some of us, it can take YEARS to make real progress, but that's still better than no progress! Well worth the effort!
Agree! But some advice on HOW to continue to stay calm once they start destroying property would be extremely helpful. My son gets triggered extremely quickly if I ignore the initial behavior and start demanding I answer him. When property gets destroyed though I get mad because I have already spent a ton of money that I don't have on replacing things.
Gosh, I just have to share this: you speak as if you read my mind and soul😉😏... I am an experienced teacher, used to deal with really challenging situations - but having the same with my own child it's a COMPLETELY different story! At first I was deeply...disapponited with myself, but then realized it's not that easy in such case. Thank you 🌷
Great advice. I use language of accountability a lot since I went through your course and I've found it very effective. Affective calmness is used but not always, I'm constantly working on it.
This is just in time. Day before yesterday my son got so oppositional, that I felt I was triggered almost constantly. Intuitively I decoded to stop reacting to this behavior with emotion. So yesterday was even worse. Looks like I was doing the right thing and just need to keep it up.
Thank you so much. The daily expectations chart has changed our day completely. Parent training and taking accountability for our own behaviour, rather than treating this as the child's problem is the ONLY way we saw real change. Your content has really made a huge difference! I would seriously recommend Gabor Mate's book Scattered Minds to EVERY parent who really wants to help their child. No therapy and no medicine and a better family life for all. Do it for you.❤
Thank you so much, reading this made my day! I'm really grateful to hear the material has been helpful. I did want to share this with you, if you're not familiar with Dr. Barkley he's consider the leading expert in the world on ADHD: ruclips.net/video/bO19LWJ0ZnM/видео.htmlsi=oPmgtR9ZrDR4BIeX
This is GOLD! Thank you for going beyond the typical "Just don't respond" or "Ignore the behavior" and talking about how once you start that, the child will escalate the bad behavior before you will make any progress, and this will be triggering as the parent. No one talks about this part, and parents feel defeated when they do the "don't engage, don't argue" and the child pulls out ALL THE STOPS! And then the parent feels even more defeated when their child triggers them and they react. Thanks for reminding us parents we are human too, and that's okay, but here's what to expect so keep at it. For some of us, it can take YEARS to make real progress, but that's still better than no progress! Well worth the effort!
Fantastic comment : )
Agree! But some advice on HOW to continue to stay calm once they start destroying property would be extremely helpful. My son gets triggered extremely quickly if I ignore the initial behavior and start demanding I answer him. When property gets destroyed though I get mad because I have already spent a ton of money that I don't have on replacing things.
Gosh, I just have to share this: you speak as if you read my mind and soul😉😏... I am an experienced teacher, used to deal with really challenging situations - but having the same with my own child it's a COMPLETELY different story! At first I was deeply...disapponited with myself, but then realized it's not that easy in such case. Thank you 🌷
Thank you so much for watching!
Great advice. I use language of accountability a lot since I went through your course and I've found it very effective. Affective calmness is used but not always, I'm constantly working on it.
I have a hard time handling that behavior, I get triggered....
Me too....good to know I'm not the only one
This is just in time. Day before yesterday my son got so oppositional, that I felt I was triggered almost constantly. Intuitively I decoded to stop reacting to this behavior with emotion. So yesterday was even worse. Looks like I was doing the right thing and just need to keep it up.
Thank you so much. The daily expectations chart has changed our day completely.
Parent training and taking accountability for our own behaviour, rather than treating this as the child's problem is the ONLY way we saw real change. Your content has really made a huge difference!
I would seriously recommend Gabor Mate's book Scattered Minds to EVERY parent who really wants to help their child. No therapy and no medicine and a better family life for all. Do it for you.❤
Thanks for the book recommendation!
ruclips.net/video/bO19LWJ0ZnM/видео.htmlsi=oPmgtR9ZrDR4BIeX
Thank you so much, reading this made my day! I'm really grateful to hear the material has been helpful. I did want to share this with you, if you're not familiar with Dr. Barkley he's consider the leading expert in the world on ADHD: ruclips.net/video/bO19LWJ0ZnM/видео.htmlsi=oPmgtR9ZrDR4BIeX
Omg that's all I can't do ...stay calm 🙈😔
Haha! I know just what you mean! Talk about easier said than done!!! The triggering cycle is pretty intense!