How to prove coercive and controlling behaviour
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- Опубликовано: 13 июл 2018
- Are you in a controlling or coercive relationship, with a partner or with someone in your family? Jill Canvin explains what the legal definitions are of controlling or coercive behaviour. What records should you keep and what evidence should you gather in order to get legal help to protect you and enable you to take back control of your own life?
You might have saved my life. Thank you forever.
Really pleased you found it helpful Morgan. Thanks for commenting. Jill
I live in America and there is little to no help for women who go through this kind of abuse. The police will not arrest your partner for domestic violence if you don't have outward signs of physical harm. when my husband left me he made sure that I was on none of the accounts or our house. I had no money for a lawyer. he even talked the mobile home park manager into taking me off the lease to my home, so I became homeless. my lawyer didn't help me except to take $9,000 from my family, and I'm trying to pay that bill. I felt like I was abused by the system after I was mentally raped by the man who had promised to love me. he even sent other men into my life to mess my mind up more. Misogyny is the root of all evil in my opinion I am older and so broken I have to couch surf because I cannot function anymore
It's important to note an important abuse (child and domestic) that falls under coercive controlling behaviour and that is blocking a living parent and their child from connecting and parental alienation. PIease do a separate video on this showing the patterns and impact and how it denigrate, destroys reputation and livelihood, mental health and loving family relationship with the child and parent and often the whole family in that parents side.
Take a look at these two interviews - ruclips.net/video/L4BoZvm1Lr8/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/jsl0f8euDH4/видео.html
Thank you so much...am just an awakened 63 year old...just sharing this video will explain to my family from hell😓😓😓
You are not on your own I had never heard of such a person until now, once you know you will never unsee it and see alarm bells so it never happens again, I don't think I will ever date again but that's another story,
This is so helpful...i just realized that i am already a victim of this coercive and controlling abuse... thank u for having this video..
Hello Maya. Pleased you found it helpful. Jill
This is unbelievable My wife did EXACYLY many of these to me, I didn't realize this was an issue, in the end I had to leave thinking I wasn't good enough for her. Then she threatened me with going to the authorities saying claiming to be the victim unless I paid money
I’m pleased it was helpful to realise it was abusive behaviour. Jill
For 20 years of marriage. My ex lived off me on my low income, let along giving me any allowance. Does it account as domestic Abuse? I feel I was his slave, at home, I did 90 % chores, at the same time I have to go out to earn money to keep the roof on our head. Then he could do his piano, art and games at home. When my son was 7, he said he wanted to be like his dad when he grew up, the. He can do anything he wants at home. Now he is 16, he changed his mind that he wants to study a subject at university which can guarantee him a job when he graduate. I think he understands that in order to have security in life, it is important to have a job, but not staying at home.
My ex when I was ready to leave him after I really began to notice how much the crap was basically making me feel as if I was wasting to nothing mentally and was always in mental hospitals or jail. I told him before I got out I was leaving him. For some odd reason be really thought that it would work out long distance and offered to send cash because he didn't believe in divorce and he recalled how I said when we got married that I never wanted to either. Well after years of things being done to you and him involved that was meant for evil and me going through hell by being harassed by multiple people. I wanted nothing more but to end it and had to. To make sure it was ending I refuse to take any cash from him and wanted nothing but myself and my peace of mind and I will never get back the time that was wasting for going through things I know I didn't deserve.
PS. While I was being harassed and trying hard to focus and get the basic things taken care of to get a job and leave this situation for good with my own money I kept getting set back because of money being spent on medication, a therapist, and other man made remedies that was posted to take that was bad for my body and was a waste of money. It was done with an intent to send me through more hell. I it was hard to maintain a life free from drug addiction and my ex all he could say was try smoking pop it would help me relax how does drugs help you relax and be calm while being harassed day and night and even while at work? He even paid for me to take these harmful toxic chemicals and knew what was going on with these people because he was talking to them. Talking about a jerk and an ass**** watching me go through all that crap and gaslighting me about not having a clue. When things got really bad and he knew I was about to leave and go to a shelter so I could better have help and leave not replying or needing to rely on his family or mine or his disrespect friends and my family was worse he told me to burn in hell with them and I had already been through so much hell I wanted to die
@@queendivine3044 The Creator loves you so much, and they are just evil toxic spirits trying to keep your lovely light from shining brighter than theirs. I understand completely, what has happened to you, and we all have to rise above those that comply with media lies so that they can use us to gaslight, trample our rights, target for their own self-loathing. WE are stronger by faith, love, peace, hope. We will all overcome our adversaries one day at a time. Love and Peace Soldiers Unite, they are my flock of pigeons, started from a pair of hawk rescues that healed at my home. Have a beautiful life going forward looking for peace and love.
These are overt signs. Covert signs of coercion would have been more helpful
I was in a relationship like this was gonna get married
Thank you .
I'm glad I seen this video because thw people who was harassing me in my last relationship some of these people was even family members I want nothing to do with. They messed with my health so bad with the harassment that I was triggered my mental health was that I was sleep deprivated I lost alot of jobs and was being called a hoe and a bitch and was even told that if I left that they would get my address. I left any and these people are still harassing me. I have lost alot of jobs as well. When I got into trouble because I got so stressed that I tried to kill myself behind all the street they caused me I went to jail I'm court I had no proof of these people was doing this the cop on the scene took a sobriety test and told me straight to my face that I was showing no signs of drug use and she could tell I was dealing or shall I say she said, "Fighting another battle that had nothing to do with drug use or drinking this was the cause of all the harassment. I know if this police officer was brought into court she would tell you the same thing. After I went to jail these people still harassed me about my ex and did other things as well. I had no one to really turn to. I need some justice to be brought to these people and when I was searching on my phone for a a place to go because what they was doing to me was effecting my recovery they then hacked my phone and tried to make it appear that Dallas tx where my ex lives was the place I should move. But I knew that moving anywhere with my ex would not help me heal and these people was always harassing me about sex that I didn't want to have with my ex I was so depressed. When I did have sex with him afternoon all that I was just being harassed and I still have sickness to my stomach and flash backs from what they did to me. It effected my health and still does somewhat have an effect on me still one because the people behind this is still messing with me. Sometimes I go around other people some times I don't want to go around no one at all. These people have tried to say that it's my mental health when it really the results of everything they have done to me. I went through a stage of suicide attempts because of them and trying to stay strong and not have thoughts of wanting to die behind the mental, emotional and phycological abuse that they caused me and did and have been doing to me. I heard a judge tell another person in a court case that that kind of of abuse is mental and phycological violence that causes serious effect on a person mentally. Something needs to be done because of what they've done. I want nothing to do with them. I mean it with all my heart.
Yes
I am married to a narcissistic controlling person, April last year I lost my fight, but glad to say I made it through I threw him out and I have so much help moving forward,
There are alot more things involved, that he put me though but this really helped me thankyou what's the app you talk about ?
www.myonrecord.com/ Here’s our website Lesley. Pleased you found the video helpful. Jill
Your video is very helpful. Thank you.
Great. If you have any ideas about other topics to cover let me know.
Hi, I really could use some help. My ex has sabotaged my life since my pregnancy...this was 8 years ago. I have removed myself and son from this horrible situation but he is still using some tactics mentioned. I would appreciate any advice.
Surprised you don't have many comments on this
What do you do if you know this is happening to someone you know but there to scared to say anything to anyone themselves
thank you lovley lady
It is very informative
That’s good. Thank you.
Pleased you found it useful.
Does it mean unreasonable requests too?
Yes it does. Be clear about what it is.
So the app is called "on record"?
Yes it’s ONRECORD. Take a look at our website myonrecord.com
Hope you’ll find it helpful.
Enough, you are getting abused then go, just leave, for a woman it is easy.