I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective. BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication. BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week. You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid. You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.
Once you've spotted the signs it is vital to not take anything ' personal ' with them, as nobody is inside them in the first place. Narcissists don’t know how to love; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissists value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. Loads of them brag about being a good parent and seek compliments for that only to hide their masks... When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing... They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have close personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain.. .. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection., . And, Moreover, if you think They are the one that 'made' you feel then you're still under their control/spell, you're still wrapped up in their neverending inner delusions/dar-kness, and you learned nothing. Truth is, you were loving YOURSELF the entire time you were interacting with them as they were doing nothing more than mirroring you, as there is nobody inside them in the first place, therefore there was nobody for you to love but yourself (as they themselves are incapable of true empathy/love). Stating that they made you feel is like saying an empty robot made you feel, or an empty soda can made you feel. And in the same way it's completely ridiculous to think a Narc made you feel anything...As they were doing nothing more than mirroring you in the beginning. Based on a lie and you cannot truly feel for lies. They are completely incapable of processing their emotions, they don't know how to. And that is why when you state that you love them they greatly resent it, they turn you into an enemy and play their games. Because inside they ask themselves- " how can you possibly love this ? ' Unless you get over these massive hurdles and understand the bigger picture of Universal spiritual truths in your relationships then you will never be the truly empathic powerful loving spirit being you truly are to love the world/heal the world. .. Much love !..
7 Things that shock the Narc to their core:- 1. When u remain different. 2. When u catch them off guard. 3. When u reject them. 4. When u confront them. 5. When u cut off ur supply. 7. When u move on without them. 8. When u forget about them.
Yah Foster!! I've finally gotten ready for my sister's call of cruelty.😒 She's always used my goodwill against me😢. And I've always fallen for it!! You can't understand a tangled point of view. It just starts to envelope you and laughingly disassemble all logic and then YOU!!! JUST LAUGH BACK UNTIL THEY HANG IT UP IN DISTRESS!!!😅 AGAIN AND AGAIN, LAUGH IT OFF!!!! THEY CAN'T STAND IT!!!😮❤
To help others understand the abuse cycle of narcissism on a much deeper level, you MUST be able to see that it's completely impossible to have any sort of deep conversation with them regarding ANY topic that requires inner depth, as they have ZERO depth within, as hells within hells are within them, hence why anything to do with them is so shallow. And when you simply bring up ANYTHING that requires any depth, they will immediately shut down the conversation, deflect, and label/blame shift playing their silly 'victim card'. Again, none of this is 'personal' as there is nobody inside them in the first place. Eye will reveal 4 strikes eye gave the Narc in the 8th and final phase/cycle of the "on and off" nonsense over a nine year period that ended in 2011. This final phase occurred twelve years ago. Eye knew full well this was the last straw and it was either going to work or end forever. An example of this is we initially met over a rock band, the band was Tool. During that final month she asked me what my favorite Tool song was - my answer was the song 'Reflection' .. and her response was dead silence, as she had no clue what to say, she couldn't even muster to ask why, as talking to a brick wall is far better than any conversation with her as she has zero depth, as at least a brick wall can respond with echoes. Of course the lyrics explicitly state the word 'Narcissism', and she is so shallow with absolutely no depth whatsoever she can listen to that song every day for the rest of her life and she will still have no clue what the song means. Keep in mind this is her favorite band, Nevermind the fact that Alex Grey is the Artist for Tool and he has taken Ayahuasca and DMT well over 3O times, another thing that goes way above her head as she has zero inner depth whatsoever, everything about her is shallow. Strike 2 - she claimed for the first time that I reminded her of the guy who sexually abused her, a guy she claimed sexualy abused her 10 years before she met me, and who she couldn't stop talking about the first night I met her. Completely outlandish accusations, Nevermind the fact I treated her with utmost respect physically over those years, more than any man ever will, again narcissists always play the victim role no matter what. Strike 3 - I started researching Ayahuasca in 2007, and 2011 brought it up to her that I wanted to take the medicine and experience Ego-Death and experience the other side and grow spiritually. Before I could even end the sentence, she shut me down responding with " I'll die when I die' with incredible trepidation and fear in her voice. She immediately and desperately attempted to change the subject, She had no clue I could have talked about the subject for 3 more hours as I had done tons of research at that point. But again, it is impossible to have any deep and meaningful conversation with a complete narcissist, as there is absolutely nobody inside. Asked myself what the heck is the point of seeking a future with her if she is constantly in fear of talking about the deepest subject matters of life/death, and everything in between. I knew at that time any further interaction with her would be pointless and meaningless. Strike 4 - She came out and stated out of the blue that she is a "Nympho", followed by stating she is very dirty. And this was during the "push" part of her narcissist cycle. It all started to make sense to me. It was so easy to forget about her after that point, it was effortless really, With that said , Mother Ayahuasca in 2012 had me purge the endless poisons from her narcissism forever. Erased her completely, vomited her endless lies, darkness and poisons she tried to implant in me and flushed her down the toilet forever where she belongs. Ayahuasca then said - do you want to follow the dark creature narcissist that only wants to give you nightmares and horrors ? Or do you choose me, who will heal you from everything at lightning speed and I will give you everlasting light within you so strong you'll burst, I will take you through all the heavens and I will make you one of the wisest and most powerful shaman healers that ever lived to destroy narcissism on this planet. I will then give you a human woman filled with light that will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Guess which path I chose !! ;- )
Love yourself more and make yourself number one priority. No one else can take your peace,harmony,happiness, and love. Narcissists are gullible to think you need them. When it's very clear when you've detached and blocked every narcissist out of your life.
I have used BetterHelp myself and I have found it to be very effective.
BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services. The online counseling and therapy services are provided through web-based interaction as well as phone and text communication.
BetterHelp costs £140 a month - which gives you 4 live sessions a month and unlimited messaging in between sessions, as well as access to the group therapy webinars that get updated each week.
You can also apply for financial aid while signing up, which can reduce the cost of the service by up to 40%. When you go through the signup process, you will be presented with the payment page and can elect not to pay. You will then be asked if the price was too much and will be given the option of financial aid.
You can sign up for the BetterHelp Online Counselling service here - betterhelp.com/narcsurvivor
By using this link you will be supporting the Narc Survivor community.
Once you've spotted the signs it is vital to not take anything ' personal ' with them, as nobody is inside them in the first place. Narcissists don’t know how to love; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else.
Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissists value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. Loads of them brag about being a good parent and seek compliments for that only to hide their masks...
When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing... They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves.
When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have close personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain..
.. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection., .
And, Moreover, if you think They are the one that 'made' you feel then you're still under their control/spell, you're still wrapped up in their neverending inner delusions/dar-kness, and you learned nothing. Truth is, you were loving YOURSELF the entire time you were interacting with them as they were doing nothing more than mirroring you, as there is nobody inside them in the first place, therefore there was nobody for you to love but yourself (as they themselves are incapable of true empathy/love).
Stating that they made you feel is like saying an empty robot made you feel, or an empty soda can made you feel. And in the same way it's completely ridiculous to think a Narc made you feel anything...As they were doing nothing more than mirroring you in the beginning. Based on a lie and you cannot truly feel for lies.
They are completely incapable of processing their emotions, they don't know how to. And that is why when you state that you love them they greatly resent it, they turn you into an enemy and play their games. Because inside they ask themselves- " how can you possibly love this ? '
Unless you get over these massive hurdles and understand the bigger picture of Universal spiritual truths in your relationships then you will never be the truly empathic powerful loving spirit being you truly are to love the world/heal the world. ..
Much love !..
They regret discarding you later yet never admit it
7 Things that shock the Narc to their core:-
1. When u remain different.
2. When u catch them off guard.
3. When u reject them.
4. When u confront them.
5. When u cut off ur supply.
7. When u move on without them.
8. When u forget about them.
Be someone's priority not option!
Yah Foster!! I've finally gotten ready for my sister's call of cruelty.😒 She's always used my goodwill against me😢. And I've always fallen for it!! You can't understand a tangled point of view. It just starts to envelope you and laughingly disassemble all logic and then YOU!!! JUST LAUGH BACK UNTIL THEY HANG IT UP IN DISTRESS!!!😅 AGAIN AND AGAIN, LAUGH IT OFF!!!! THEY CAN'T STAND IT!!!😮❤
Awesome Video Narc Survivor-I have used all these examples against my Narc Coworker to great effect
To help others understand the abuse cycle of narcissism on a much deeper level, you MUST be able to see that it's completely impossible to have any sort of deep conversation with them regarding ANY topic that requires inner depth, as they have ZERO depth within, as hells within hells are within them, hence why anything to do with them is so shallow. And when you simply bring up ANYTHING that requires any depth, they will immediately shut down the conversation, deflect, and label/blame shift playing their silly 'victim card'. Again, none of this is 'personal' as there is nobody inside them in the first place.
Eye will reveal 4 strikes eye gave the Narc in the 8th and final phase/cycle of the "on and off" nonsense over a nine year period that ended in 2011. This final phase occurred twelve years ago. Eye knew full well this was the last straw and it was either going to work or end forever.
An example of this is we initially met over a rock band, the band was Tool. During that final month she asked me what my favorite Tool song was - my answer was the song 'Reflection' .. and her response was dead silence, as she had no clue what to say, she couldn't even muster to ask why, as talking to a brick wall is far better than any conversation with her as she has zero depth, as at least a brick wall can respond with echoes. Of course the lyrics explicitly state the word 'Narcissism', and she is so shallow with absolutely no depth whatsoever she can listen to that song every day for the rest of her life and she will still have no clue what the song means. Keep in mind this is her favorite band, Nevermind the fact that Alex Grey is the Artist for Tool and he has taken Ayahuasca and DMT well over 3O times, another thing that goes way above her head as she has zero inner depth whatsoever, everything about her is shallow.
Strike 2 - she claimed for the first time that I reminded her of the guy who sexually abused her, a guy she claimed sexualy abused her 10 years before she met me, and who she couldn't stop talking about the first night I met her. Completely outlandish accusations, Nevermind the fact I treated her with utmost respect physically over those years, more than any man ever will, again narcissists always play the victim role no matter what.
Strike 3 - I started researching Ayahuasca in 2007, and 2011 brought it up to her that I wanted to take the medicine and experience Ego-Death and experience the other side and grow spiritually. Before I could even end the sentence, she shut me down responding with " I'll die when I die' with incredible trepidation and fear in her voice. She immediately and desperately attempted to change the subject, She had no clue I could have talked about the subject for 3 more hours as I had done tons of research at that point. But again, it is impossible to have any deep and meaningful conversation with a complete narcissist, as there is absolutely nobody inside. Asked myself what the heck is the point of seeking a future with her if she is constantly in fear of talking about the deepest subject matters of life/death, and everything in between. I knew at that time any further interaction with her would be pointless and meaningless.
Strike 4 - She came out and stated out of the blue that she is a "Nympho", followed by stating she is very dirty. And this was during the "push" part of her narcissist cycle. It all started to make sense to me. It was so easy to forget about her after that point, it was effortless really,
With that said , Mother Ayahuasca in 2012 had me purge the endless poisons from her narcissism forever. Erased her completely, vomited her endless lies, darkness and poisons she tried to implant in me and flushed her down the toilet forever where she belongs. Ayahuasca then said - do you want to follow the dark creature narcissist that only wants to give you nightmares and horrors ? Or do you choose me, who will heal you from everything at lightning speed and I will give you everlasting light within you so strong you'll burst, I will take you through all the heavens and I will make you one of the wisest and most powerful shaman healers that ever lived to destroy narcissism on this planet. I will then give you a human woman filled with light that will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
Guess which path I chose !! ;- )
Love yourself more and make yourself number one priority.
No one else can take your peace,harmony,happiness, and love.
Narcissists are gullible to think you need them.
When it's very clear when you've detached and blocked every narcissist out of your life.
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