I’m No Longer Attracted to My Husband, What Should I Do?
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- Cindy’s husband has put on a few pounds. He’s lost his looks, and Cindy is no longer attracted to him. What can she do? Is she being too harsh with her partner?
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Laura is right on the money! We nee this type of thinking in today's world!... the caller needs to find a way to motivate and support a change in her husband.
She needs to change her outlook and perspective and quit listening to her b*itchy girlfriends griping about their husbands! Golly be grateful for what you have and build on it.
she wants to bail....
I used to listen to Dr. Laura on the radio all the time.
The thing that bugged me about this video was the advertising right in the middle that was as long or longer than the content.
You can fast forward
Yes. But advertising goes with most videos. I just fast forward ten times and it’s about the right amount of time.
Is he a good lover? No... Was he? ...yes - so, what changed? Practice more, tell him what you like - engage in the activity eagerly and give him the love and affection he needs from you. So common, so selfish...
You got that right sister.
If after all these years, he’s not an inspiring lover, she lost her motivation a long time ago.
I think she checked out a long time ago. What wife doesn't know exactly how long she's been married?
he married a selfish woman
she met someone else and wants to cheat or leave him for the new one. she has already checked out and the weight gain and physical appearance is the final straw. she thought you would be on her side and empathize with you
Yep
She might be having an affair and wants to excuse it. That's the vibe. My opinions.
that's what I was thinking, or she wants to have an affair and is trying to ease her conscience by making it his fault
That almost made me sick at my stomach to listen to how disgusting that was
Women would do well to recognize the influence they have on their husband's health. When I grocery shop in the morning my heart breaks seeing all these hardworking men with wedding rings grabbing a couple donuts and an energy drink for breakfast. I contend most married men are unwell due to their wives' dereliction of duty. It's not that difficult to cook up a bunch of bacon and eggs for your man every morning.
Or they just do what they want despite what their wives tell them...
@@chrish8803false. No man will refuse a healthy breakfast prepared by his loving wife. Hasn’t been born yet
The selfishness of today’s wives is unprecedented
@@chrish8803wives don’t win their husbands by telling them to change. Wives win their husbands with loving behavior like good morning, Honey, I made you a huge ham and cheese omelette! I started making my husband big meat and egg breakfasts and he lost 100 pounds!
A bunch of bacon and eggs is calloric.
Great call ❤😊
Why can't the wife try to help the husband lose a few pounds? He sounds like a decent guy whose only fault is the effects of aging. The wife may not be fat, but I guarantee she has aged too. Be grateful for what you have.
The effects of aging alone don't make you morbidly obese.
@@Viracocha88the effects of aging alone make any woman look less desirable even without excess weight. Plus she never said he was MORBIDLY obese. And as Dr Laura said there are a lot of women who’ll take him off her hands as he is now
You really can't do much to help someone else with diet other than just making healthy meals. They have to want it for themselves because any adult can get drive thru.
@@jmcast3195yes but she could be supportive rather than being repulsed by him. She probably hasn’t made a meal for him in years
I’d be more repulsed by facial Santa Claus hair that men grow in their 40s, 50s, and 60s and not cutting one’s hair regularly. Men are repulsive when they hit the wall.
Guess what? He's not attracted to you anymore either!
Women forget how fast men get bored with the same woman
@Clireneexactly!!!!
I may be wrong here, but I think she called in hoping for Dr. Laura’s permission to leave her poor husband as evidenced by her statement, “You are right as usual, darn you.” He sounds like a very loving father and husband, and she is obviously feeling that she’s better than he is at the moment. He deserves her best, not the crumbs she’s throwing his way.
So would you be happy to have a guy who is 300 lbs of mostly blubber on top of you?
I'm happy to see alot of women respond this way, they know.
@@Viracocha88I’m absolutely sure she’s not as attractive as she used to be and he has health issues.
Very rude girl , she already checked out …
Cook heathy meals and encourage him to exercise.
I guarantee she’s interested in someone else and has been for a long time now. She’s just making excuses and secretly wants to leave him.
Be the change you want to see in your world
It is a peeve of mine when Dr. Laura says something thoughtful and the caller, who is seeking advice, immediately respond with "exactly" or "100 percent." There is no reflection. We all know you hadn't thought of that already, or you wouldn't have called in. It happens constantly on this show and I love it when Dr. Laura mentions it, like today, by calling it "distracting."
And I agree. Two people can’t talk at the same time
It would have been nice to know how much he's gained. If it's 20 lbs (which they say a 1lb a year is average), then I agree, she's being overdramatic. But if it's 60+, I don't blame her for being lost. Food could be an addiction as well.
She said nothing of the kind and she said that he’s had health issues. My husband just lost 40 pounds and he can still lose 10 more. I’ve never seen him this skinny and he’s always been very handsome to me. Plus for a very tall man like my husband the extra 50 pounds is nothing
Thank you for telling her the truth even though she don't want to hear it. Conversely the same rules apply to a man. It's to bad that for better or worse don't mean a thing anymore.
Women file 90% of divorces
When men say they are no longer attracted to their wives because the wives have gained weight she blames the wife.
She’s doesn’t love him…bottom line.
Maybe file for divorce, so he can find a lady who would love him.😊
👍👏
Yeah.
She just wants justification to leave, cheat, etc...
This is really good.
The comments on here are terrible as well as this "Dr's" advice.
Why does the woman bear the responsibility to get the guy looking good or making a change? HE needs to put in effort.
I would not stay with him if HE did not change.
The ball is NOT in her court. It's in his.
Because you're probably a lonely cat woman.
@Clirene It never takes long for the misogyny to come to the surface.
@@BrandyBaker-gj7vo don’t use big words you don’t understand. Your misandry is showing
You still have to keep yourself up no matter how long you've been together. It not her responsibility to get the weight off of him, it's his.
if a person truly loves another person, weight is never an issue. all cats are grey in the dark.
Yup, your partner could 150 lbs overweight, and you should enjoy it when he climbs on top of you.
@@Viracocha88stop simping
@Clirene once again? Who the hell are you? And if I am "simping," then Dr. Laura, with her pushing women to F men whom they are not attracted to, is pimping. I wonder what her corresponding advice for men is, being that men can't fake arousal?
This! I’m surprised Dr. L didn’t address this. She doesn’t love or respect him and hasn’t for awhile, so her sexual disinterest is just a symptom of that. My husband and I have both gone through numerous weight and appearance changes in the years we’ve been married, and we’re hotter for each other than ever. That’s what happens when you love the person and not just their body.
He could start to eat healthier. Getting fat is not inevitable.
Buy healthy things for your husband to eat, go on walks, my husband was overweight, but I changed his diet and he’s lost over 20 pounds help him lady.
I have a prediction. This caller will have an affair in 3, 2, 1...
If she isn't already.
I understand we change as we age but we can still try to take care of ourselves the best we can. People give up and get fat.
She never said he was lazy. She said he’s very hard working and a good provider with health issues. Why don’t you pay attention?
@ I meant that people get lazy with not keeping themselves slim and in shape. Even if you have health issues, you can still stay slim.
@@sassysandie2865 I’m usually very active. I’ve been sick on and off for two months. Practically bed ridden. How am I supposed to worry about my weight while I’m trying to get back on my feet??? Sure I didn’t get fat but I gained several pounds and lost my muscle tone I’m sure. And I’m a housewife. So I have no pressure to go to work and provide for a self centered wife like her husband does
@@sassysandie2865
Just imagine for a minute that it was the husband calling in and telling Doctor Laura these same things about his wife. Do you think that he would be treated the same by commenters, fussing about his wife's weight? Of course not, most people in the comments would be condemning and criticizing the guy for being a misogynist. Love, patience and understanding go both ways. And for the record, I do agree that (if possible) he should work on his physical appearance. Being overweight is certainly not good for any person's health and marital relationship.
@ I’ve heard men call in and say their wife has gained weight. Sorry, but it is a turn off. I can understand 10-20 pound weight gain but over that I think someone stopped trying. So many people think they don’t have to try once they have been married for a while. I know our bodies change as we age but we can still try to manage our weight and strive to be healthy for ourselves and our spouse.
If the wife keeps herself in shape, looks very young and the husband looks 20 years older because he doesn’t give a damn how much weight he gains, does nothing about it, eats whatever he wants, doesn’t exercise and expects his wife to just accept it when he knows it bothers his wife, the husband is wrong. The men want their wives looking good. So do the women.
Maybe th wife is able to keep herself in shape and take such good care of herself BECAUSE of the husband being a great provider and enabling the wife to have time and resources to eat well and workout. It’s a lot easier to keep in shape if you don’t have to work full time and take care of everything on top of that. If he is working even 40 hours a week and comes home tired it can make it harder to stay in shape and healthy. Just some food for thought.
Yes, I hear what you’re saying. He’s working and I’m sure she’s working too whether in the home or outside. Taking care of a home and kids is work too.
@@crystal5674 there is never a credible excuse for becoming morbidly obese, which is what this husband probably is. Nobody is forcing him to eat donuts rather than apples.
I would take him off her hands with that list. Except that I have had my one true love already. When you get a cancer diagnosis and are heading in for surgery, this part won’t matter. The good man part will!
I’ll take him!
If you want 300 lbs of sweaty blubber on top of you, well, there is no shortage of guys like that these days, and many of them are hard-up, so I guess you'd be offering a public service as well.
You definitely got your head screwed on straight.
She sounds insufferable and I feel terrible for her husband. He sounds like a great guy that most women would love to have in their life.
Her husband needs to go on a carnivore diet… I disagree with Dr Laura… ugh.. you are wrong…
how do you know what he does or does not need? Are you his personal doctor?
I think this caller wanted some tips on how to coax her hubby to get healthy. Maybe she could exercise with him since she "stays fit", even if it's only taking a short easy going walk every day.....just sayin'. That alone might bring them closer....
She sounded privileged and superficial. If she’s herself is so fit why hasn’t she helped her husband with HIS fitness? Because she’s probably cheating on him
slip ozempic in his noodles
You’re not supposed to be attracted to your spouse after 20 years. Marriage is about companionship. I can tell by the caller’s voice she likely isn’t easy on the eyes.
You can tell by the callers voice?? That is literally impossible. lol
@ no, it is very reliable.
@@AutomHattershe sounds self absorbed and repelling
So if you marry at 22, by 42 you shouldn't be attracted to your spouse, even if you stay in shape? I feel sorry for your wife.
@ a husband is a saint if he doesn't cheat and still sleeps with his wife after 20 yrs. Every married man, and a smart married woman, knows that.
I agree with the wife because if the role was reversed Dr. Laura would be telling the wife to lose weight. Men are typically vocal about not wanting a fat wife but we are suppose to be ok with a fat husband, even when their belly hangs over their genitals. She can be respectful and love him but the husband should not expect his wife to have sex while he chooses to be morbidly obese.
I agree with the advice Dr. Laura gave this woman but what happens when the mans girth gets in the way of him being able to have sex? When a man has a large belly it is hard for him to get it in. That is a fact. Sometimes excessive weight or a large belly makes it impossible for him to make your body sing.
The wife never said that it’s physically impossible to be intimate. Pay attention. And I can bet a million dollars he hasn’t felt HIS body sing with her for years
I've read that the number one cause of break-ups in marriages and relationships in general (and this could even apply to employer-employee agreements) is conflicting and unspoken expectations of what the relationship was supposed to be about. Dr. Laura talks about how you should date somebody for two years before you marry them. I will take it a step further; I think before you marry somebody you should have a frank discussion about commitment to physical fitness. If remaining in the best physical shape you can be at any age and leading a healthy lifestyle is a priority for you, but it is not for the individual you are dating, then you should NOT get married. This woman does not say HOW fat her husband has become, but if she has a healthy BMI, while he's morphed into morbid obesity, I am sorry, Dr. Laura, but I don't think that "love" will save the day. And seriously, how much does he love HER if he lets himself turn into Jaba the Hut, all the while knowing that she's making an effort to look good for him?
Most of your comment is spot on but the last part was not clearly thought through. Yes, we should be our best selves for our spouses but life isn't always kind. Health issues come up and other events that change circumstances. That's why the wedding vows include the topics that they do. If my wife were to put on significant weight and have serious mental issues after giving birth does that give me license to walk away from the marital vows? If I am part of a layoff and have difficulty finding work does that mean my wife can walk away from the marriage? Marriage is much more than just a casual friendship or relationship. Our spouses happiness and well-being should be our highest priority, regardless of life's challenges.
@@darrenjorgensen1917 I had a friend who was morbidly obese. which she blamed on her "genes," but the reality is that like the woman's husband in the above clip with Dr. Laura, my friend was seriously addicted to eating. My friend eventually died from uterine cancer, which is an almost inevitable consequence of extreme obesity in women. And having once been overweight myself, before I lost it all throught diet and exercise, I know enough about obesity to assert that the only thing that creates fat cells is an excess consumption of calories, ESPECIALLY carbohydrates. There is not a single disease or health issue in the world that creates this secondary health issue known as obesity. It's purely the result of overeating, and overeating is an addiction, just like an addiction to alcohol, pills, illegal drugs, gambling, and pornography - all of which involve making choices. That's completely different from post-partum depression or being laid-off, which are things that HAPPEN to you, not things like overeating, which you CHOOSE. Personally, I think this woman SHOULD remain in the marriage to offer her husband emotional support, but I don't think she's obliged to have sex with him. It's one thing to be about 20 pounds overweight, but if he's morphed into a massive, Jaba the Hut-like tub of guy because he keeps shoveling junk food into his mouth, no, I don't think she's obliged to have sex with him, and in fact, she'd be doing him a favor if she said that and she told him why, because it might motive him to get off his fat rear-end and change. That's why the analogy Dr. Laura used of "you probably have wrinkles and gray hair" is a false one. Aging does not involve personal choice - and in fact, I know plenty of seniors who look good because they stay in shape - but getting and remaining fat IS.
You sound like another selfish out to lunch female.
You have never been married. You’re simping for women way too hard
@Clirene Well, good night Irene, I'll see you in my dreams...and who the hell are you and how do you know so much about my personal life? Are you clairvoyant or something? And what, you're also Dr. Laura's appointed gate-keeper and bouncer?
Easy answer
Stick to your marriage vows
Help him!
This woman wants out. It's obvious. She is looking for permission and excuse to get out. She wants to blame her husband for wanting out. She needs to grow a spine and do what she truly wants. Stop looking for excuses. Do what you want. You know you are going to anyways. Just don't blame anyone else.
For better or worse, for richer or poor, doesn't say anything about physical attraction.
that would fall under ''better or worse'' lol :/
What more could you want from a man?
This is an example why marriage is a bad move for both sides. You must accept/settle for the one you choose knowing full well it will never get better. It is better the live separately and see each other when you can arrange it.
Cheat !