When my ex and I would fight I would aways come back first and offer a "hug of conciliation". Without fail, she would reject it and choose to remain angry. Fast forward 5 years, nobody is hugging her these day. Her anger and sadness is no longer a me problem. Thank God.
She just said something that struck me! Women being out of pocket because they feel unloved. So they act up and then they expect you to give them a hug which is not a natural response for a man when someone is disrespecting them.
As a man in a relationship, this stuff she spittin is true. When yo woman feels *unloved* just get to the bottom of that ASAP. Have that conversation. Am talkin bout a good mature woman not these chicken head hoes lol! And once ya woman feels you at least *LISTEN* to what she has to say her mood changes automatic. Its when we ignore their behavior and act super macho is when the disrespect ratches up. Cuz sometimes women just wanna be heard. You be surprised what they say. When i figured that out, things got easy real quick. Less arguments more cuddle time. It works.
Once you recognize it's their way of getting your attention(as immature a way as it is)you can learn to develop the kind of patience that the situation requires. Imagine a child doing this. Eventually you'll realize there's something else going on that not even the child can articulate.
I love how she quotes the ENTIRE verse in context and not just the part of “wives, submit to your husbands”….but that husbands need to LOVE their wives (as Christ loved the church) - meaning that husbands don’t just boss their wives around and they need to listen
And when a man doesn't know what they do wrong, the woman get angry and says "you should know what you did wrong". And when we aren't "straight forward", women get angry because men are not "straight forward". Theres no winnin being a man.
@@patriotrep2093not realy, depends if you take care about your self. Women and men can look attractive in their 50s today.,They also can look like junkies in their 20s.
An ex girlfriend of mine used to try to get me angry just to see if she could get me angry, she wanted to be confrontational all the time, she had no respect for me and this behavior escalated until I finally told her that we were done. That was the best decision I ever made in my life.
You guys should look into Dr. Ramani's YT channel on narcissism. Your whole world will start to make sense. Plus she teaches how to spot the red flags and stay away from these type of people.
@@youtubehashandlesnow me too bro it’s Psychotic and it’s becoming normalized. Left her yesterday now she tryna be all law and order the way to win is not feed them with any energy, human beings becoming ghouls pretty much
A Lot of men are just sick and tired of all these games and abuse. This is why many of us are staying single, keeping our possessions, keeping our self respect. To put it simply... it's no longer worth it.
An Italian man told me over a decade ago, you can have 10 men around a table for dinner that all despise each other, and the meal will pass without any issues. But you can have 10 female friends around a table for dinner and you can guarantee a squabble is coming. I was in my 20s then and it didn't mean much to me, but now at 45, I see it all the time. He was 💯
I see it all the time also, I’ve got 5 brothers, we all get along but sometimes piss eachother off and make up after a day, the sisters in my family though, they say a couple mean things to eachother and don’t talk for months, also get more toxic when they argue over petty things.
Because women use their words as violence and it doesn't physically hurt anyone most of the time. So when they get angry there are no repercussions, but if men get too mouthy it will 9 times out 10 end with fists. When words have no consequences they flow freely.
Right, but men feel loved when they're respected, women generally do not because they don't tie love with respect like men do. They tie love with spending time with them, listening to them, and caring for them.
@@rakashaagain wrong. If you’re a woman and you marry someone who doesn’t respect you, you deserve to be treated like the child you are. If you’re a man and you marry someone who doesn’t love you, you deserve to be treated like the fool you are.
@@Fearlessly91 your getting confused there not saying men respect you without loving you and women love you without respecting you. Men don't feel or show love the same way as women do. A man's version of feeling loved IA being respected if you treat your man respectfully like a king he will understand the love and for women you show her love by being loving in the ways she wants to love somebody is to show them respect. She sjust saying if one of the parties don't get what they need out if the relationship it usually starts a cycle of anger between the two people. Which is relatively true. It has nothing to do with being childish or foolish people are humans and humans emotions wax and wane some days are good days and some days are bad days so to say somebody should always be doing something or the other is a bit childish it's all about just taking it as it goes and understanding when your in one of those cycles and being the adult and hopping off the cycle to ease the other person off the cycle.
Those are pretty fluid. There will definitely be times in a relationship (whether you’re married or not) when your girl doesn’t show you respect and when you don’t love your girl. Since you’re both adults it’s on both of you to fix your ends of the deal and make the relationship work instead of acting like kids. I’m getting close to two years of marriage and still learning this. Pretty much everything said in the video was true.
This is why long marriages seem to work so well. We have figured out what to waste our energy on, and being right is not one of them. Giving up, and giving in become so easy that we seem whipped by the other. When in truth, we choose to get along. We have learned each other's quirks, likes and dislikes and just choose not to fight about that which we know serves no purpose other than to upset the other. I want my husband to be happy with his choice. I am happy with my choice, so I want him to know and feel that. 34 years so far....
Perfect. I have been married to the same woman for 27 years...this pretty much what we do. Any vindictive disrespectful behavior is called out the instant it takes place. We have developed an unspoken pact . When the disrespectful flag is tossed...all interaction ceases until logic and problem solving resume
@@jbb8261 argument is fine, even healthy at times. As long as it isnt fueled by spite or anger. There has to be a point besides winning. Nobody ever wins an argument unless something is learned
I don't know about that. I was once laying in the bed with my aunt (not in a weird way, just watching tv) and she told me the only reason she hasn't divorced her husband after 22 years of marriage is for her children's sake. It was about two years ago, I was laying in bed with my ex's mom. Again, just watching tv, and she said the same thing. I've had practically every older woman tell me the same thing. It's just that young women are selfish and they don't think about that.
@@rajbhattacharya4427 My kids are adults and living on their own. I have always told my wife that if she ever thought she would prefer to live without me...just be honest and up front....no need to cheat or provoke animosity...we both agreed to that. So far so good
I learned this before even getting married... everyone is all about how is this relationship benefiting me but never how can I benefit the person I love.
It's almost like a relationship was NEVER 50/50 and if you treat it as such, it will fail. Both of you should give everything for your partner, not half.
@@bobsimon8547isn't riot one of the least applicable words to link to the Dalai Lama? I agree with the point of your comment, but feel that riot is a poorly fitting word there.
Just keep in mind: when you hop off, don't expect the other person to reciprocate immediately. Just because you remove the reason for being angry, does not stop the feeling they are experiencing. Emotions have inercia and it can be frustrating for someone to take away your right to feel angry and it does not stop the fact that you do feel angry. Don't jump back in the cycle just because they shoot down your olive branch.
yeah fuck all that. choose people who are emotionally mature and can bounce back in a decent time frame. There's just too many amazing people in the world for us to be creating a whole life strategy around dealing with toxic people. Everybody makes mistakes. everybody had those days. But the content of someone's character holds the answer to how they deal with life.
That’s what she was talking about love and respect… it is also love and responsibility… if you truly love a person you will respect and be responsible for your own self in order to find the means for the common good (the love between each other)… like you stated it won’t be easy but both parties should reciprocate to come back to the objective by means (respect and responsibility)… if this doesn’t happen then one party is not respecting and being responsible. Once again, not saying in one second later, the feelings will come down, but one must work to love the person and not fight against the person
Major facts. I try to suppress those thoughts best I can but every now and then it slips out. But when I’m giving him his peace and keeping busy around the house and he’s giving me reassurance and intimate attention all is in perfect harmony 😅 I just gotta remember that when he’s being distant or nonchalant usually it’s because he’s focused on the next goal and can’t afford me that much attention. Recognizing that is key so instead of getting antsy, you can just use that energy to do something for him. I.e. make lunch for the week, laundry, ironing, whatever
My husband grew up in a broken home and isn't that great at showing me love in my love language. I work on giving him grace everyday I know he works hard for our family and since both of our sets of parents were not a good example of a healthy relationship I try not to get upset with him because we both have childhood traumas and deal with them in different ways.
@@jessicadittmer8942That's heart warming, thanks for sharing that. I hope you and your husband can reach a better understanding. Pray you both heal and open up to new experiences
Yeah if I feel disrespected I'm leaving the relationship. I don't tolerate disrespect from anybody and I'm certainly not going to share the same house with somebody who doesn't respect me 🤷♂️
As a homemaker in a healthy marriage, the kind of disrespect she's talking about is not the same kind that street women give. I totally get what she's saying, and the point is that with relationship hurt cycles (which happen even in good marriages), you have to know when to break that cycle ESPECIALLY as a woman. Sometimes, when I feel unloved, I have to make my husband feel respected first, then communicate to him that I need more affection. Otherwise, he won't listen. Sometimes, when my husband feels disrespected, he shows me some kind of affection in order for me to feel open enough to listen to what I should do differently. Either way, in our marriage at least, we don't normally mean to disrespect/neglect each other on purpose. If you're dating a woman who is highly disagreeable and disrespectful, I agree that you should not tolerate it and under no circumstances should you wife it.
On my local news, i heard about a guy that killed his wife and jumped in front of a truck on the interstate. They both worked and had 3 kids. As a recently divorced guy, i immediately was like “o i bet money she wanted a divorce and was stressed out from 3 kids, a job, and a husband who still wants sex..!”
The moment she feels she can readily “do better” is the moment that no amount of good advice matters. It’s over. Even if there are kids and property involved, it’s over. Chad slid into the DM‘s months ago and it’s been over. There will always be a Chad. When Chad gets bored, he will pursue anything that’s even average attractiveness for fun/sport (multiples at once) so no marriage is safe anymore with the Internet the way it is.
I agree no relationship can survive infidelity which is a disrespect in itself and a violation of trust and loyalty. Because I lean introvert I see kicking her to the curb and being by myself as a slight advantage. I would prefer being in a respectful (I don't hold happiness or love higher than respect) relationship but I have no problems ending a toxic one.
@@GT6SuzukaTimeTrials I recommend Gottman 8 dates. It says it's for budding relationships but the topics are so deep I think you should wait until you over a year into the relationships before this intervention.
That’s wrong . In general women don’t cheat regardless of how attractive some other dude is, there’s outliers of course but women aren’t wired to find many mates or value physical attractiveness like men. If you’re in a serious LTR and she cheats on you it’s definitely not “outta the blue” you’ve probably had big problems you didn’t notice long before she started even thinking of cheating. Like this video said it really comes down to those 2 things, love and respect. Before cheating she’s going to start losing respect for you for whatever reason, she’s going to be more sarcastic, roll her eyes, be condescending, or be passive aggressive towards you. A lot of guys don’t know how to handle their girl getting like this so just give her space or laugh it off saying “must be that time of month”. In reality this is her losing respect and needs to be addressed right away before bigger issues develop. Letting it slide is completely the wrong move and things will only get worse till she’s openly disrespectful to you, and eventually disrespecting you around others and/or cheating. Some women act like that on purpose bc they want to be checked, but whether it’s on purpose or not the right move is to check them. This is the real reason girls tend to like bad boys and even domestic abusers over “nice guys” and wimps. Those kinds of guys aren’t scared to check them. She definitely needs to respect you. You could be an ultra successful giga chad but it won’t matter if she doesn’t respect you, conversely you can be broke af living off her and she won’t think about “doing better” if she truly respects you.
Sad that people don’t understand what it means to show grace anymore. They blame others first before looking at themselves, because they love themselves more than others.
My ex told our friends I was "reactive" One of HER friends asked "to what" Made me think about everything differently "Don't start none, won't be none" As soon as they can't get the desired reaction, they get bored and move on to less suspecting targets.... fortunately
Also, Think about conversions you had with your partner, scale them from positive to negative. And give compliments on the other person weather good or bad Keep refreshing the relationship
DO not share very personal or problems with your women. She will lose attraction and start to disrespect you. When that happens, she will weaponize what you tolde her.
@@johngalt6838 a committed woman should not weaponize things against you. If she is doing that, she should be called out on it. As a couple you should be able to open up with each other and share your struggles/problems.
She hit the nail on the head 100% the problem is in today's world everybody wants to be the top g, and nobody wants to humble themselves for the greater good of their relationship.
I did. Swallowed some massive pride blows but i just knew that if i did not make the ego sacrifice as the wiser person, it would end up with more than just me being damaged down the line
If your woman disrespects you, she sending you a test that you’re not being strong and taking the lead as a man. It’s not her fault, she doesn’t even know why she does it. If you fail to shape up, she will do it more, and it will become out of control until you fix it. You must stay calm and confront her logically. She will continue, and then you must remove yourself for a couple of hours. When you come back, and you talk, again, the same logic applies. If she doesn’t snap out of it, then you will need to escalate in terms of denying her your attention. Remain disciplined, remain calm, never get physical. If she can’t pull out of it, then break up with her. Go sleep with a prettier girl. My girlfriend when I went through this cycle several times. We would somehow talk and get back together again. It drove my friend Crazy. However, no matter if I slept with a prettier girl, she was still more a effeminate, nurturing, sexual, and full of life . she had daddy issues because her dad betrayed her. They say one in three women are molested as children. I hope that statistics wrong, but if it’s true, then there’s no getting around this behavior. These women are destined for a life of misery and divorce, unless they find a strong enough man. If you can stay strong, eventually, she will settle down and realize that she doesn’t have to worry you’ll become unstable and leave her. I must caution you, if you give in to this behavior, you don’t belong in a relationship with your woman, and you aren’t ready to raise children. Because what she’s doing is pushing your buttons irrationally similarly to how a child would. Giving in or getting violent just won’t work in the long run.
@@Greg-yu4ij I honestly agree with pretty much all you're trying to say but it kinda makes me feel like women are crybabies who're never willing to compromise and have zero patience. I mean they just tryna live their best lives off you and that's an established fact in today's world 😂 (Although, I assure you there are some sensible, mature women too)
Instead of thinking women being traumatized makes them immature, why don’t you think maybe YOU are traumatized so it gives you a skewed understanding of women
"Submit" You're obsessed with getting your sense of dominance from anyone. It's as simple as "love and respect each other" which are obviously connected, but people are out there trying to make everything complex and make it their whole personality.
Learn her love language. You can't love someone the way YOU want to love them. You have to love in the way they receive love (this goes for both parties)
@@TweenyMq True on one hand, but if she felt appreciated originally and then just feels like he doesn‘t love her anymore, EVEN THOUGH his behavior didn‘t change at all, thats on her. If she doesn‘t feel love from the get go, or she feels like his behavior changed and he acts like nothing happened or doesn‘t seem to notice why she‘s upset, she needs to TALK to him, LIKE A MATURE ADULT. Not throw temper tantrums. The same thing would be true in reverse of course, but when a man is disrespected, his natural reaction isn‘t love and kindness. And I‘m willing to bet my that goes both ways. What do these women honestly expect?
@@MrSurvivalgecoLP I don't disagree... It can be an extension of my statement. Love language is a conversation that should come earlier in the relationship so as to avoid ending up in that situation as best it can be avoided
As a woman, it's me that blows up. It's usually tears. I'm not one to respond with "nothing " when my man asks what's wrong. I tell him and address my feelings. You can only do this so much. I've addressed, and they didn't listen. It's always "baby, I'm not feeling enough love, I would appreciate more affection at night. More intimacy as well. " once I've said this over and over again, and nothing changes, that's when I end up blowing up. I don't ask for much, just love.
Well yeah you're making it all about yourself, next time include his feelings if you're gonna type all that. Plus if you're the one constantly blowing up as a man you're making his life miserable total turn off. If you're constantly throwing tantrums eventually it sticks. Why tf would he want to show you more love and affection when he knows you're just gonna blow up again. You're creating the cycle any self respecting man will distance himself from a child such as yourself. I already can tell you don't give him "nothing" you probably talk his ear off all about you. So keep crying for yourself.. Maybe for once ask about him and hear him out why he feels the way he does or that relationship is never gonna last. .
Some men have different appetites. As a man I have found some women can't keep up and give that "it's not all about sex" BS. I've found that the women that can keep up are way more affectionate and passionate. Just find your match sweetheart best of luck x
@Psycho Bear I hate "sex isn't important" speech. It is! At least while we're young enough to do it, and if we don't, one night at least show me a bit of love by holding me for a while. My love is just never-ending. It doesn't stop after 3 or 5 or even 9 years. It grows.
@@jaimebeth2746 you just have to find the right person. I'm guessing we both are affectionate, passionate people that love sex and hugs and cuddles, the lot. I've been with women that were beautiful, cool and funny things I love but were not are affectionate as I need. I don't want to be forcing someone to be like that and I understand that there has been women that loved me but we're just not like that. Thing is that's who I am and I need to be around someone like that or it will just end up bringing me down. Don't settle for second best you know how the person is straight away or in the first few weeks so if they are not right get out before you fall for them..... Something I imagine you find it easy to do! x
Would you apologize to your kids when they're in the wrong? I understand you're compromising for short term happiness, but you're creating a long term disaster down the road. Eventually all her delusion will add up and cause her to do something so stupid that you can no longer apologize to her for it. Eg, maybe she burns the house down because you were too scared to tell her to stop using 99 cent store extension cords with the electric heater that she uses because she's always cold because she wants to walk around half naked in February.
@@loveismylanguage9162 True, a wife is an adult female, not a child, but all relationships have to have hierarchy in order to be productive. Equality looks good as a slogan, and it's great when two people agree with each other, but when two equal forces pull opposite each other, neither is able to move, and that ultimately leads to the court system stepping in to be the tie breaker. If you want to avoid court, someone in the relationship needs to have the final word.
@@hirokomlm131 Yes, I agree the man has the final word. That doesn’t mean if he is wrong he can’t admit and apologize. Humility is more powerful than pride!
Whenever my girlfriend and I argue (which hasn’t been much) we always talk things out and after we talk it out and hear each others perspective we always say that we’re sorry and that we love each other because we know that it’s usually never a big deal in the first place
Absolutely right. There’s a Yin and Yang in a marriage. You’re in a state of balance where you complement each other. There is also an equal and opposite reaction when that balance gets disturbed. When respect and love gets neglected it’s going to cause each person pain, until one or both decide to correct the balance. Let’s say a husband is having a hard time at work and is neglecting his wife. In time she might end up doing the same thing when he gets thru his stress. A cycle would begin of this back and forth. If the husband realizes they’re drifting, then starts taking steps to show his love, the wife will (either knowingly or unknowingly) reciprocate. That cycle breaks and balance can be restored.
Some people would rather keep a fight going than to stop that fight and give each other a chance to maintain peace. Communication, listening and being understanding is what's most important in all relationships.
I think we truly undervalue the importance of respecting both sexes. For instance, I as a woman do not respond in kind to disrespect and I tell my husband to lead with respect. You cannot love me and disrespect me on the same instance. And i cannot disrespect my partner and claim to love them.
Respect amongst men is based on the threat of violence, that is why we love you but respect only on paper. I know you can't do anything to me no matter what I say or do, so we respect you the same way you respect kids, it's respect, but it isnt at the same time. Respect would imply we see you as an equal
Dr Emerson Eggrichs has fantastic talks about love and respect. I listened to them before I got married and I’m certain it has helped me stay married for seventeen years. My husband and I have never shouted at each other, and though I have often been worried my words may have come out wrong or hurtful, he says he’s never felt disrespected by me. We women need to consciously and intentionally watch our words, our tone of voice, and our facial expressions. Men need to watch their interests and their actions. All of these things should be used to build up our spouses.
My husband and I agreed to hug after arguments to reaffirm our love. We argue, but it also need to be done when it's over. You can't keep those negative feelings
That's actually a pretty good one for me to stop on and think about. That explains alot why my ex got so disrespectful. I thought I showed her enough love.. when it was over I remember her saying "I didn't know you loved me that much" hmm 🤔
Amen! My Pastor says that in any broken relationship, there should be a Redeemer! Whether it's family or spouse there should always someone who brakes that cycle or it will be a never ending story where history will continue to repeat itself!
My girlfriend and I have "breaks" when we are fighting. Fighting or having serious discussions about things we feel passionate about are extremely important for us to learn about the other one, finding compromises and grow as a team. But sometimes, when it gets too much at once we have a "break", take a step back, and just cuddle because we know we always talk things out and even if we aren't at that point yet, we certainly will be. So all gud and love
You said it. When you feel unloved, that feeling is totally subjective, and depends on a lot of things you got during the day, week or month, not on just an act of your partner. But when you disrespect someone, that is normally an act or a ser of actions, objective actions you say or do. That is a big different and is just an excuse to be felt unloved.
If you ask that you get called a victim blamer. But once people started asking “Well what did Rihanna do?” it all turned out be a much more mutually abusive. Accountability isn’t blame. I always ask who/why/what/when/where, which was included in an English lesson…in school…in second grade.
My husband and I have been together for 24 years. It's called picking your battles. Most things are not worth fighting over. Whenever he does something that I could easily get angry about, I stop and ask myself how it would benefit us to fight about it. 99% of the time, it won't so I let it go.
Every time I tell anyone they always tell me to talk to them about it, but they don’t realize me talking about it makes it a problem, but me not talking about it is even worse. I need a mental break 😂
I don't think women are problem solvers like that, generally. She wants you to read her mind (not literally) which can be good because it keeps you connected to your empathetic side and can strengthen your connection to her. She should not say her need out loud, because it's not elegant, in her asking what you should already know. If she does happen to express her feelings, then the motivation is not her selfish demand but a desire to restore that spiritual connection.. but I think the problem that you were thinking is about the disrespect. So I think that it springs from the conscious or ego personality rather than the subconscious which is more reserved or conservative, and that orientation of self may be a cultural phenomenon. Dark side of the ego.. If she is disrespecting you but still loves you in her true emotions, she is still giving you a chance to restore your authority and harmony.. Although, if she does not really love you, I don't know why she would do that. Unless there is something deeply problematic or just pure evil?
Yeah l dont understand that this something that women can do. And the way these red pill women talk like if we can’t change how we are. If l don’t feel loved l would definitely say something. If anything, l did it before so it’s shows ❤something
@@cassandramuniz7056 always sounds good on paper but when put in practice fails quite often. Do you really think every man isn’t begging his partner to cut out the attitude and just explain what is wrong?? Woman in general suck at it.
And you can't even try to talk to them too soon afterwards. When they are angry (even if it wasn't your fault) they often don't want to be bothered to hear from you.
@@davidm4566 it's called freezing. It's a fight or flight response. It happens with some people when they're sad or angry. It's not that they don't wanna talk, it's just that their body has gone to the freezing mode and they CAN'T talk until the body senses the danger is gone.
Ladies are the ones who are supposed to be submissive. When the man "hops off" as you say, he yields, submitting to her - and she has even less respect for him. The few times I suspected I might have been wrong in an argument with my wife, I approached it like this: I'd tell her that if she wants me to hear her out, she needs to tone down the disrespect. I'm not customer service at Best Buy who doesn't care, I'm your husband with a vested interest in the relationship. Show me you as the wife also has a vested interest in the relationship by giving my your data without all the emotion and make wrong attached to it, and then I'll listen. Clearly this is important to you; show me that it's important enough to suppress your animosity long enough to get the point across. After listening, I'd ask clarifying questions as needed. If she's right, I'd acknowledge she's right, and we'd go with that. If she realizes she's wrong, she'd yield. If we are still at an impasse, the final decision was usually still up to me, which meant in most cases I would override - but there were exceptions. For example, if the argument was over handling an issue with health insurance, she worked in that field before becoming a stay at home mom - unless I had compelling cause, I would yield disagreements in that area to her. There's always the final line, which I almost never needed to resort to: if you don't like being with me or my program, there's the door. No one is forcing you to stay. The above is a representation of how I approach conflict, at least on my better days. Secret: vet the woman's values before you get into a long term relationship. If your values line up fundamentally, such conflicts will be few and far between in the first place.
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I think the last line of what you said is what people these says forget to do. They create a mental checklist of weight, height, looks, financial stability, sex drive, but then leave out values. Values should be in the top 3 things to check before even considering settling.
Let me get this straight. Not only does she not love you, she's actively disrespecting you. Sounds like she's the problem. It's hard to show love to someone that doesn't show any love back. It's even harder if that person also disrespects you.
It's more the fact she doesn't feel loved. So she becomes disrespectful. The problem is with that is that often is that women (and men) who act tyrannical see love as a resource. They push the situation in love to be how they think it should be instead of letting it guide them in how they feel about it. Idk how I did explaining it, but I hope it's easy enough to make sense of. I'm not the best at explaining it.
What starts from the get go is called female instinct. She smells insecurity and she may not even know herself why she is being disrespectful. This stuff goes deep in the subconscious. You can respect a man from the moment they set foot in a room if they give out a certain vibe, without saying a word.
This hit home today on the heels of an argument I had with my gf. And it came down to what she said. Looking back at that, I felt disrespected and withdrew love, making her feel like she had to walk on eggshells and not say anything. Which is not what I wanted.
If she is disrespecting you, then she absolutely should learn to walk on egg shells around you after that. A woman thinking she can get away with disrespecting her man will destroy the relationship. No woman wants to be with a man so pathetic he allows himself to be disrespected by her. That's one of the reasons women like bad boys so much.
4 year relationship ended after this dynamic. I began to walk on eggshells but he never healed from my display of disrespect. I just felt like I should talk less, do less. It got to a point where we just grew in distance and we broke up. If something is wrong it’s best to be vulnerable and voice what’s really going on inside. A knee cap to knee cap conversation. Don’t listen to ole dude above… your relationship will dissipate. You will tell yourself she wasn’t for you just to keep the cycle of getting your way with another. It WILL end a relationship or form an unhealthy one. One in which Max needs to maintain power over respect. His woman will leave him or ignore his calls from his dying bed.
@@Karen-mm6yt I never held love from my ex wife, she disrespected me anyways. Men never be vulnerable to someone who doesn't respect you period!! It was always me coming to her saying sorry ect. I was wrong I should have just left. Your women's feelings and emotions are not your job to fix. If she is not submitting that's disrespect also. Men take back your roles, homes, marriage and relationships.
@@jmangames5562 well that’s you. trying to reconcile with a stubborn person can be hard. From a woman’s perspective… I was you in your situation. I tried to get him to understand and was always sorry… always tip toeing around him not to make him mad… I chased after him. The woman feelings you speak of, you as a man have honed. You’re just doing to another what was done onto you. If you continue this it will lead to a quiet woman, yes. But I will say there is an 87% chance she is pretending/a people pleaser/ a doormat. She will learn that that’s no way to live. It may take a year or 30, but she will realize that she could have had a better man. She will leave you or ignore your calls from your death bed when your games lose their potency on her mind. This path is not the path of lease resistance. I know the game, but I don’t play. To the men/women who want to be influential…Be honest, be polite… don’t be a fool. Your mentality is a dime a dozen… this is for those who want to be different. What’s a home if you have forced and molded your woman and children into it… just a house with people living in it.
@Max Powers I said I felt disrespected. Since we're adults it came down to simply having a conversation about what triggers me and why. Then, how to have better outcomes for both of us. Thing is, I don't want her to walk on eggshells, I just want her to know how to interact with me in a way that doesn't piss me off. And that's something that needs to be taught by setting reasonable boundaries and enforcing them.
worry about how he feels is much more important because most likely his happuness is the key to your amazing future he could build for you and if thats not the case you chose the wrong man to be with ...are you hearing him? learn to listen befor learning to be listened to.
Problem is that a man can sit still, do nothing, say nothing, look at nothing and be peaceful. A woman needs to feel something, so she goes out of her way to generate a feeling, triggered by something or someone external, doesn't matter what it is, as long as she gets to feel something. Hence peace is broken.
@@David91690 that's fine, but it how one goes about it. Actors and comedians crave attention, and musicians, and they each become entertaining in different ways in order to get it. So it is consensual attention, eagerly given. And that makes all the difference.
Absolutely 💯 its a vicious cycle. With my mental health I have a bad habit of getting into my own feelings and blowing up for no reason. Ive been with my fiancé for 8/9 years and it has been a road of ups and downs but once we figured out communication really is key and me getting the help I needed to understand my emotions helped tremendously. We go through different things everyday and sometimes we forget to look at what the other person is going through and become selfish in our feelings❤
If both ppl in a relationship can admit when theyre wrong n apologise…. That relationship will last. You cant help but respect a person whos capable of self assessing and putting ego aside for the greater good.
Women never blame themselves. Ever. Ask her during a heated argument about that thing she 'apologized' for three years later if you'd like to know who she really blames.
@@Skindoggiedog haha yeah 99% the women ive ever met will blame anything and everything around them over something tht doesnt even matter. The plot twist being if they just said “yeah my bad thats on me” it be resolved. They dont want resolution though. Its like an ego thing about not backing down
The second I don’t feel respect, I am out of there. Why should I be somebody’s rock and somebody’s source of love and validation if she can’t even respect the man she’s with?
@@dennisrobinson8008 that’s what I did. I got crucified in family law court, to the point where I’ll never have much again. I don’t care, though; I have my freedom and I don’t have to compromise my self-respect to be with somebody.
@@arsenal4444 no way out, in cali family-law. Hell. They don’t even care about dna out here. If your name’s on the certificate, OR if you requested ONE VISIT, they have you. visitation is parental rights. Ask to see the kid ONCE (even if it’s just for the test) and they’ve got you. Or do you know more than my attorneys?
This isn't really possible. there is no respect without love,,and there is no love without respect. Don't confuse love for sexual attraction. And don't confuse respect for fear.
@@keithbrown2425 Love isn't sexual attraction! And respect isn't fear! Respect is the highest level of appreciation you can have for a human being. You do respect character, knowledge, or skills. Since respect is a positive feeling towards other person, love is involved. Love isn't only between sexual partners. Love is between friends, family members, and you even can love an idol. Love is a strong bond. It's basically high level of liking and care you feel towards someone. I believe you confused arousal for love, and fear for respect.
There is always walking away. First time, if the disrespect isn't too great, radio silent for a couple days, then see if she's willing to yield, and if so, return. If it's a repeat offense, or the disrespect is too great, cut her off and leave. ALWAYS be willing to leave. Doesn't matter if you have children. Although it's hard, you cut it down to only contact regarding the kids - everything else is off limits. If she says something like she'll end up in a ditch if you don't do X, tell her that's not your problem - you'll collect the kids and life goes on. That's the price of disrespect. If she threatens the kids, get evidence of that insanity and contact the authorities. Until society recognizes men have reproductive rights too [not just obligations], this is the only way. Pro tip: vet her for her values - make sure they line up with yours, so that such fights are few and far between to begin with. Otherwise, you have no business building a life, never mind a family, with such a woman, particularly in this society.
Because they all want a red buttler to lose control and have (wild sex with them) so they don't have to take accountability. Gone with the wind very boring movie but a good window into a woman psychology.
The problem is, typically one person in a relationship is aware of an issue "I don't feel respected" / "I don't feel loved." but instead of acknowledging it, they or you decide to play passive-aggressive games, which only makes things worse. Why not, instead of being distant, ask your partner, "Hey, are you alright? You've been distant/angry/disrespectful/etc. lately. Is there anything I can do?" Because childish actions only result in childish responses. Source: Being 44 with a 22 year year marriage.
I always asked that question I had other ppl just say the man is wrong and I'm like what did she do cause I know he didn't just wake up that morning and start wilding out you said or did something to him.
They should have showed us this when we are kids, all these Disney movies characters marrying, people question when are we marrying, parents, family, and all that B.S... if i could do it all over again, I would remain a bachelor with no children
@@tommiegirl2441 nah, not the same for women. as age passes women get worse, look worse & mentally become slower. Don’t mislead women to the same thing that’s best for me so they can be sad and miserable. A women should marry a good men and respect him and cater to the family if she truly wants to be loved, cherished, respected & if she wants to be happy & cared for. Y’all dooming each other fr fr.
yes, that sounds good, and the right move. But many men, especially in today's wacky ass dating scene, the guy may be thinking I lucked out with her, I am not going to find another girl like this, so they bend and bend and bend to her wants. They would rather be with someone and not very happy,. Than alone for another 5 years or longer. That is exactly why women start 80% of divorces.
RTTP - Right to the point Nailed it. The key to dealing with these 304s is to not care. I seem to notice the less I care about a chick the more she wants to be with me and vice-versa
Too many men obtain most of their self worth based on if they currently have a woman's approval or not. I have known many pathetic men, that thought themselves better than other men, just because they had a wife. Those men see having a wife as some sort of status symbol to lord over other men.
Well to be fair she did start off by saying "the reason why we disrespect you guys" ... it sounded like she was going to try and justify why women disrespect men.
@@danmcalester1716 incorrect. She asked a question she didn't make a statement. You heard a statement and made an assumption without giving her the "love" of just listening. To her point. Hence the reason I started with "incorrect". See how that works. Peace to you kind soul.
Feeling unloved is subjective, it’s her feelings. Being disrespectful is objective. Vs being unloving is objective. But she distinctly said feeling unloved.
Both are subjective/objective in their own respects, something disrespectful to you might not be disrespectful to me, just as making you feel unloved is different for everyone, but there are sure fire objective ways to make people feel both of these things.
I don't know about that. But sometimes when you hop off quick every time she acts up it can easily become a trend. She knows she can get away with it everytime
Ok so you’re telling me that if you were not married then you wouldn’t be working? Y’all make it seem like everything you do in your life is for your family when in reality, whether you had a family or not, you’d be doing the same thing just have more money
@@michellerericha2120 When did i ever say anything that is in your sentence?? You know when i was a minor (which i still am) but younger i had a job and my girlfriend still cheated on me isn’t that crazy? But i was still expected to take her on dates and we were supposed to talk daily. But i guess it’s always the working man’s fault having to work and try your hardest to talk to the woman you love most daily but then you hear chatter around that she’s cheating. Think what you want about me Michelle or my dating life but at least be mature enough to recognize that i had an actual well paying job and still got cheated on.
@@UmmTeejay anyone could be cheated on, millionaire to homeless, not sure your age but if you’re still a minor please listen to my advice… if a woman cheats on you two things, first LEAVE. Unless you have been married for years and you have children together and you know without a doubt you can move past it and she won’t again, then leave.. also remember she cheated on you, that particular woman, not all of them, don’t go through your life being insecure about women you date, you will self Sabotage every relationship you ever have. Don’t feel entitled to love and or real just because you give a woman your paycheck, a house, car etc. if you’re with a woman that is with you because you spend money on her then you’re with the wrong woman.. be loyal to her, communicate with her, communicate early in the relationship your expectations and ask her hers, listen to her, I mean really really listen. If you give her children then father them and support her in raising them. If you have a son/sons, it’s your job to turn them into men, you’re their example of how a man should treat a woman so treat their mom good.. if you have daughters it’s your job to show them how a man should treat her. Good luck in Your relationship life.
Love & Respect is one of my all time favorite books. My husband and I read it with the work book. It was extremely eye opening and makes you sooo self aware! I feel like that book can help a lot of if not all of the relationships in the world.
It boils down to discipline, love and humility. Both people have to have discipline, love and humility, otherwise no one gets what they need from the relationship. However these days women tend to be the most stubborn, prideful person in relationships. Feminism has created women who suffer with a great deal of hubris. It turned women into disgusting human beings, unfit for any kind of long-term relationship.
This comment section is so sad. Communication should come from any gender. If they can’t do that they need to work on themself. I have plenty people of both genders in my life BECAUSE they have insight and humility. Met plenty men and women who can’t communicate appropriately and those people need to grow up.
@@emclaire18 I did not say not to move on, but the feelings won't be there. The marriage will simply become a shared appartment. Especially when the disrespect occured multiple times and/or in front of other people.
@@YEinherierY marriage requires work. Sure, physical labor, but mostly emotional labor. It’s not easy to forgive your spouse and work toward a common goal but that’s what has to happen. Allowing your marriage to become just a “shared apartment” is unacceptable behavior.
@@emclaire18 i think he means to say that of his loved one, is a two faced person because of her friends or family, and especially if she is disrespecting in this persona, in front of these people, it just screams insecurity and men tend to get away from these woman, because these are the same woman that wouldn't hesitate to stab you in your back, so yea its more for our own protection we disable our love to this girl, because you actually realy dont know her true persona
I really appreciate that last part. People will look at the guy as a villain but he ain’t just gonna pop off for no reason or out of the blue. It’s built up over time. Now putting your hands on her is a different story. I’ve said some things I definitely regret but it came from a place of being disrespected over and over
The problem with her advice of just hopping off is that women will NEVER admit they are wrong or being spiteful, even when they want to, they wont. They have to make sure that you know that she believes that it is your fault. Making him give in is more important than the relationship. This is one of the many reasons why I am single.
That's not true. A woman that cares about her relationship will. I have many many times with my husband. I doubt I am the only one. This is just another case of the ones that are loudest getting the most attention. You don't know what's going on in a happy marriage because they are quiet.
@@sarahanna5222 Not really. You'll apologize, but still won't feel it's truly your fault. Something that happened 'made' you feel and act that way. You're not *really* responsible for that, are you?
@@Skindoggiedog lol You just get on the internet and tell all women they are the same?....my relationship has been going for 10 years. My marriage 8.....you don't stay married that long without learning to genuinely look at yourself and see your own faults and mistakes and that you aren't perfect. Maybe what you said was how I viewed things at the beginning of my relationship when I was in my early 20s but it would never have gotten where it is now if I had stayed that way.
@@Skindoggiedog how do you know what this woman really feels given you have no context of the arguments she gets into with her husband? You've never even met her and you think you can project your experiences with other women onto her.
Their disrespect is merely a test. A test of your character. She is testing to see if your still the strong masculine man she deep down wants. If you succumb to her games she will see you as weak and leave you for something better someone who won’t put up with her shit. See through the Games. Know when it’s a cry for help and know when it’s a test. Body language, tone, these will all come into play to make your decision.
When my ex and I would fight I would aways come back first and offer a "hug of conciliation". Without fail, she would reject it and choose to remain angry.
Fast forward 5 years, nobody is hugging her these day. Her anger and sadness is no longer a me problem. Thank God.
if put Jesus in your marriage then these things may resolved quicker and better.
@@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683 yes or the tooth fairy or Easter bunny I suppose could help.
@@seangarvey8232 thank you for showing me how cringe I used to sound. So glad I'm not like you anymore.
“Hug of conciliation.” Wow I love that. We can tell who was the mature one in that situation.
Lol 😂 i did not expect that story end. Also. She sound like she has a mega thick skin.
She just said something that struck me! Women being out of pocket because they feel unloved. So they act up and then they expect you to give them a hug which is not a natural response for a man when someone is disrespecting them.
😂😂😂
This girl trying to be like the two cool chicks who actually know what's up and don't play games
Hence the cycle.
As a man in a relationship, this stuff she spittin is true. When yo woman feels *unloved* just get to the bottom of that ASAP. Have that conversation. Am talkin bout a good mature woman not these chicken head hoes lol! And once ya woman feels you at least *LISTEN* to what she has to say her mood changes automatic. Its when we ignore their behavior and act super macho is when the disrespect ratches up. Cuz sometimes women just wanna be heard. You be surprised what they say.
When i figured that out, things got easy real quick. Less arguments more cuddle time. It works.
Once you recognize it's their way of getting your attention(as immature a way as it is)you can learn to develop the kind of patience that the situation requires.
Imagine a child doing this. Eventually you'll realize there's something else going on that not even the child can articulate.
I love how she quotes the ENTIRE verse in context and not just the part of “wives, submit to your husbands”….but that husbands need to LOVE their wives (as Christ loved the church) - meaning that husbands don’t just boss their wives around and they need to listen
And when a man doesn't know what they do wrong, the woman get angry and says "you should know what you did wrong".
And when we aren't "straight forward", women get angry because men are not "straight forward".
Theres no winnin being a man.
Right
What is submission?
but if we dont take the lead they will find a man that does
@@pineappleonpizza395 I hold you down and waste your V bucks and eat your pb&j
If a woman disrespects you she is telling you , she over it.
Super over it!
Keep that attitude up when you hit the wall. Men look great 20
YeRs after women.
If a man disrespects you it means he no longer sees you or even considers you as a human being. But nothing more than trash.
But women also hold grudges too
@@patriotrep2093not realy, depends if you take care about your self.
Women and men can look attractive in their 50s today.,They also can look like junkies in their 20s.
An ex girlfriend of mine used to try to get me angry just to see if she could get me angry, she wanted to be confrontational all the time, she had no respect for me and this behavior escalated until I finally told her that we were done. That was the best decision I ever made in my life.
You guys should look into Dr. Ramani's YT channel on narcissism. Your whole world will start to make sense. Plus she teaches how to spot the red flags and stay away from these type of people.
Ducking women!
@@GavinScrimgeour ☕️
My ex used to try to bait me into hitting her then call me a pussy for not abusing her 😅
@@youtubehashandlesnow me too bro it’s Psychotic and it’s becoming normalized. Left her yesterday now she tryna be all law and order the way to win is not feed them with any energy, human beings becoming ghouls pretty much
A Lot of men are just sick and tired of all these games and abuse. This is why many of us are staying single, keeping our possessions, keeping our self respect. To put it simply... it's no longer worth it.
Many of us can't even land a woman. Tf are you talking about? xD
@@Shushkin yeah because the expectations are ridiculously high. Literally unreasonably so.
I’ve been saying it for years! Women act like what we once called sociopaths. Nothing exists unless it serves them.
I am sorry a lot of you feel this way.
True
An Italian man told me over a decade ago, you can have 10 men around a table for dinner that all despise each other, and the meal will pass without any issues.
But you can have 10 female friends around a table for dinner and you can guarantee a squabble is coming.
I was in my 20s then and it didn't mean much to me, but now at 45, I see it all the time. He was 💯
I see it all the time also, I’ve got 5 brothers, we all get along but sometimes piss eachother off and make up after a day, the sisters in my family though, they say a couple mean things to eachother and don’t talk for months, also get more toxic when they argue over petty things.
Men know a verbal altercation can easily turn physical, and that's rarely worth it.
Aren’t Italians the guys that invented the Mafia? I don’t think that’s where we need to look to learn peace and stability.
Because women use their words as violence and it doesn't physically hurt anyone most of the time. So when they get angry there are no repercussions, but if men get too mouthy it will 9 times out 10 end with fists. When words have no consequences they flow freely.
I work with like 15 guys and 3 women and dead ass, the three women stay at each other's necks and the 15 guys are ALWAYS keeping it a buck
All I have to say is respect goes both way no matter what ur gender is.
Love is respect. Respect is love.
@@brittany7573 fakiu
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Only correct comment
Right, but men feel loved when they're respected, women generally do not because they don't tie love with respect like men do. They tie love with spending time with them, listening to them, and caring for them.
If a woman gifts you her disrespect.
You as a man gift her your absence.
Ooooooooooo I like that. That’s deep!
Ignore.
That's exactly what she meant
@@Ksgr867 😂😂
@@frederickripps152 female?
@@georgejung5429 No, just a late night 😉
I would never marry someone who doesn’t respect me, or marry someone I don’t love. Both qualities are required from both spouses.
One is more important for the other. Men is respect and woman is love
@@rakashaagain wrong. If you’re a woman and you marry someone who doesn’t respect you, you deserve to be treated like the child you are. If you’re a man and you marry someone who doesn’t love you, you deserve to be treated like the fool you are.
@@Fearlessly91 your getting confused there not saying men respect you without loving you and women love you without respecting you. Men don't feel or show love the same way as women do. A man's version of feeling loved IA being respected if you treat your man respectfully like a king he will understand the love and for women you show her love by being loving in the ways she wants to love somebody is to show them respect. She sjust saying if one of the parties don't get what they need out if the relationship it usually starts a cycle of anger between the two people. Which is relatively true. It has nothing to do with being childish or foolish people are humans and humans emotions wax and wane some days are good days and some days are bad days so to say somebody should always be doing something or the other is a bit childish it's all about just taking it as it goes and understanding when your in one of those cycles and being the adult and hopping off the cycle to ease the other person off the cycle.
Duh. On this context she is talking about when you are already married or in the relationship and have an argument.
Those are pretty fluid. There will definitely be times in a relationship (whether you’re married or not) when your girl doesn’t show you respect and when you don’t love your girl. Since you’re both adults it’s on both of you to fix your ends of the deal and make the relationship work instead of acting like kids. I’m getting close to two years of marriage and still learning this. Pretty much everything said in the video was true.
This is why long marriages seem to work so well. We have figured out what to waste our energy on, and being right is not one of them. Giving up, and giving in become so easy that we seem whipped by the other. When in truth, we choose to get along. We have learned each other's quirks, likes and dislikes and just choose not to fight about that which we know serves no purpose other than to upset the other.
I want my husband to be happy with his choice. I am happy with my choice, so I want him to know and feel that.
34 years so far....
Perfect. I have been married to the same woman for 27 years...this pretty much what we do. Any vindictive disrespectful behavior is called out the instant it takes place. We have developed an unspoken pact . When the disrespectful flag is tossed...all interaction ceases until logic and problem solving resume
My husband and I got into an argument over bread the other day.
Bread. It was squashed after five minutes but that’s what marriage is 😂😂😂
@@jbb8261 argument is fine, even healthy at times. As long as it isnt fueled by spite or anger. There has to be a point besides winning. Nobody ever wins an argument unless something is learned
I don't know about that. I was once laying in the bed with my aunt (not in a weird way, just watching tv) and she told me the only reason she hasn't divorced her husband after 22 years of marriage is for her children's sake. It was about two years ago, I was laying in bed with my ex's mom. Again, just watching tv, and she said the same thing. I've had practically every older woman tell me the same thing. It's just that young women are selfish and they don't think about that.
@@rajbhattacharya4427 My kids are adults and living on their own. I have always told my wife that if she ever thought she would prefer to live without me...just be honest and up front....no need to cheat or provoke animosity...we both agreed to that. So far so good
There are like fifty books about this love/respect relationship dynamic, thousands of pages. She just summarized it perfectly in a 30 second clip.
By quoting a 5000 year old book, in fact one of the oldest books there is...
Where
I learned this before even getting married... everyone is all about how is this relationship benefiting me but never how can I benefit the person I love.
For me she said I’ve been cheating on you with your brother but now she’s saying please let me out of the basement
It's almost like a relationship was NEVER 50/50 and if you treat it as such, it will fail. Both of you should give everything for your partner, not half.
if all they see in the relationship is how it benefits them, thats not love
All these podcasts are rycycling the perspective of a transactional relationship. A narcissistic one, or almost.
@@jameswayton2340 whats narcissitic or transactional about a traditional relationship ?
If she thinks highly of the Kardashians, RUN!!!
@alicewatson974 anyone who worships another person really, especially celebrities, religious figures (except the Dalai Lama, dude's a riot)
@Alice Watson
Worshipping anybody else but God is bad. But there’s nothing wrong with a man who looks up to Andrew Tate.
@Alice Watson Andrew Tate is a Legend!
That part
@@bobsimon8547isn't riot one of the least applicable words to link to the Dalai Lama?
I agree with the point of your comment, but feel that riot is a poorly fitting word there.
Just keep in mind: when you hop off, don't expect the other person to reciprocate immediately. Just because you remove the reason for being angry, does not stop the feeling they are experiencing. Emotions have inercia and it can be frustrating for someone to take away your right to feel angry and it does not stop the fact that you do feel angry. Don't jump back in the cycle just because they shoot down your olive branch.
excellently worded
yeah fuck all that. choose people who are emotionally mature and can bounce back in a decent time frame. There's just too many amazing people in the world for us to be creating a whole life strategy around dealing with toxic people. Everybody makes mistakes. everybody had those days. But the content of someone's character holds the answer to how they deal with life.
That literally sounds like a spreadsheet of dealing with. a toxic person that has no emotional maturity or resilience. Hard pass on that
That's why an immediate "I'm not gonna argue with you about this" is so infuriating. Like we're not gonna talk about this AT ALL?
That’s what she was talking about love and respect… it is also love and responsibility… if you truly love a person you will respect and be responsible for your own self in order to find the means for the common good (the love between each other)… like you stated it won’t be easy but both parties should reciprocate to come back to the objective by means (respect and responsibility)… if this doesn’t happen then one party is not respecting and being responsible.
Once again, not saying in one second later, the feelings will come down, but one must work to love the person and not fight against the person
Major facts. I try to suppress those thoughts best I can but every now and then it slips out. But when I’m giving him his peace and keeping busy around the house and he’s giving me reassurance and intimate attention all is in perfect harmony 😅 I just gotta remember that when he’s being distant or nonchalant usually it’s because he’s focused on the next goal and can’t afford me that much attention. Recognizing that is key so instead of getting antsy, you can just use that energy to do something for him. I.e. make lunch for the week, laundry, ironing, whatever
My husband grew up in a broken home and isn't that great at showing me love in my love language. I work on giving him grace everyday I know he works hard for our family and since both of our sets of parents were not a good example of a healthy relationship I try not to get upset with him because we both have childhood traumas and deal with them in different ways.
@@jessicadittmer8942That's heart warming, thanks for sharing that. I hope you and your husband can reach a better understanding. Pray you both heal and open up to new experiences
Yeah if I feel disrespected I'm leaving the relationship. I don't tolerate disrespect from anybody and I'm certainly not going to share the same house with somebody who doesn't respect me 🤷♂️
As a homemaker in a healthy marriage, the kind of disrespect she's talking about is not the same kind that street women give. I totally get what she's saying, and the point is that with relationship hurt cycles (which happen even in good marriages), you have to know when to break that cycle ESPECIALLY as a woman. Sometimes, when I feel unloved, I have to make my husband feel respected first, then communicate to him that I need more affection. Otherwise, he won't listen. Sometimes, when my husband feels disrespected, he shows me some kind of affection in order for me to feel open enough to listen to what I should do differently. Either way, in our marriage at least, we don't normally mean to disrespect/neglect each other on purpose. If you're dating a woman who is highly disagreeable and disrespectful, I agree that you should not tolerate it and under no circumstances should you wife it.
“When men blow up, I feel like we should start asking ‘what did she say’” 🏆
On my local news, i heard about a guy that killed his wife and jumped in front of a truck on the interstate. They both worked and had 3 kids. As a recently divorced guy, i immediately was like “o i bet money she wanted a divorce and was stressed out from 3 kids, a job, and a husband who still wants sex..!”
YEP!!
I always do
Dave Chappelle- "Well what did she do".
@@brent4073 Or he’s just a psychopath like Chris Watts
The moment she feels she can readily “do better” is the moment that no amount of good advice matters. It’s over. Even if there are kids and property involved, it’s over. Chad slid into the DM‘s months ago and it’s been over. There will always be a Chad. When Chad gets bored, he will pursue anything that’s even average attractiveness for fun/sport (multiples at once) so no marriage is safe anymore with the Internet the way it is.
I agree no relationship can survive infidelity which is a disrespect in itself and a violation of trust and loyalty. Because I lean introvert I see kicking her to the curb and being by myself as a slight advantage. I would prefer being in a respectful (I don't hold happiness or love higher than respect) relationship but I have no problems ending a toxic one.
The paranoia of knowing your girl is probably going to cheat sooner or later keeps me single.
@@GT6SuzukaTimeTrials I recommend Gottman 8 dates. It says it's for budding relationships but the topics are so deep I think you should wait until you over a year into the relationships before this intervention.
FACTS
That’s wrong . In general women don’t cheat regardless of how attractive some other dude is, there’s outliers of course but women aren’t wired to find many mates or value physical attractiveness like men.
If you’re in a serious LTR and she cheats on you it’s definitely not “outta the blue” you’ve probably had big problems you didn’t notice long before she started even thinking of cheating.
Like this video said it really comes down to those 2 things, love and respect. Before cheating she’s going to start losing respect for you for whatever reason, she’s going to be more sarcastic, roll her eyes, be condescending, or be passive aggressive towards you. A lot of guys don’t know how to handle their girl getting like this so just give her space or laugh it off saying “must be that time of month”. In reality this is her losing respect and needs to be addressed right away before bigger issues develop. Letting it slide is completely the wrong move and things will only get worse till she’s openly disrespectful to you, and eventually disrespecting you around others and/or cheating.
Some women act like that on purpose bc they want to be checked, but whether it’s on purpose or not the right move is to check them. This is the real reason girls tend to like bad boys and even domestic abusers over “nice guys” and wimps. Those kinds of guys aren’t scared to check them. She definitely needs to respect you. You could be an ultra successful giga chad but it won’t matter if she doesn’t respect you, conversely you can be broke af living off her and she won’t think about “doing better” if she truly respects you.
Respect is earned.
Sad that people don’t understand what it means to show grace anymore. They blame others first before looking at themselves, because they love themselves more than others.
My ex told our friends I was "reactive"
One of HER friends asked "to what"
Made me think about everything differently
"Don't start none, won't be none"
As soon as they can't get the desired reaction, they get bored and move on to less suspecting targets.... fortunately
Who knew lil' John would be so profound 🤣
It’s a reason why communication is so important in a relationship. Share everything with each other ❤️
Also, Think about conversions you had with your partner, scale them from positive to negative.
And give compliments on the other person weather good or bad
Keep refreshing the relationship
DO not share very personal or problems with your women. She will lose attraction and start to disrespect you. When that happens, she will weaponize what you tolde her.
@@johngalt6838 agreed.
@@johngalt6838 a committed woman should not weaponize things against you. If she is doing that, she should be called out on it. As a couple you should be able to open up with each other and share your struggles/problems.
Absolutely not.
She hit the nail on the head 100% the problem is in today's world everybody wants to be the top g, and nobody wants to humble themselves for the greater good of their relationship.
I did. Swallowed some massive pride blows but i just knew that if i did not make the ego sacrifice as the wiser person, it would end up with more than just me being damaged down the line
If your woman disrespects you, she sending you a test that you’re not being strong and taking the lead as a man. It’s not her fault, she doesn’t even know why she does it. If you fail to shape up, she will do it more, and it will become out of control until you fix it. You must stay calm and confront her logically. She will continue, and then you must remove yourself for a couple of hours. When you come back, and you talk, again, the same logic applies. If she doesn’t snap out of it, then you will need to escalate in terms of denying her your attention. Remain disciplined, remain calm, never get physical. If she can’t pull out of it, then break up with her. Go sleep with a prettier girl. My girlfriend when I went through this cycle several times. We would somehow talk and get back together again. It drove my friend Crazy. However, no matter if I slept with a prettier girl, she was still more a effeminate, nurturing, sexual, and full of life . she had daddy issues because her dad betrayed her. They say one in three women are molested as children. I hope that statistics wrong, but if it’s true, then there’s no getting around this behavior. These women are destined for a life of misery and divorce, unless they find a strong enough man. If you can stay strong, eventually, she will settle down and realize that she doesn’t have to worry you’ll become unstable and leave her. I must caution you, if you give in to this behavior, you don’t belong in a relationship with your woman, and you aren’t ready to raise children. Because what she’s doing is pushing your buttons irrationally similarly to how a child would. Giving in or getting violent just won’t work in the long run.
Or kick her to the crub
@@Greg-yu4ij I honestly agree with pretty much all you're trying to say but it kinda makes me feel like women are crybabies who're never willing to compromise and have zero patience.
I mean they just tryna live their best lives off you and that's an established fact in today's world 😂
(Although, I assure you there are some sensible, mature women too)
This is true. Mature women naturally submit to love. Immature women don't respect being loved.
Traumatised,i think.
@@Freedom_for_Palestina That too
@@paidtourist6563 trauma is the reason of being immature for a woman.
Instead of thinking women being traumatized makes them immature, why don’t you think maybe YOU are traumatized so it gives you a skewed understanding of women
"Submit"
You're obsessed with getting your sense of dominance from anyone.
It's as simple as "love and respect each other" which are obviously connected, but people are out there trying to make everything complex and make it their whole personality.
Yes. This is actually very true. Once the honeymoon period ends its a gradual loss of love and respect in the relationship.
She gives away the game: I *feel* unloved. Nothing's changed but your feelings and now you're in a cold war with your husband.
Great point. The guy could be loving in his own way, and it goes unappreciated or unrecognized..
Learn her love language.
You can't love someone the way YOU want to love them. You have to love in the way they receive love (this goes for both parties)
@@TweenyMq True on one hand, but if she felt appreciated originally and then just feels like he doesn‘t love her anymore, EVEN THOUGH his behavior didn‘t change at all, thats on her. If she doesn‘t feel love from the get go, or she feels like his behavior changed and he acts like nothing happened or doesn‘t seem to notice why she‘s upset, she needs to TALK to him, LIKE A MATURE ADULT. Not throw temper tantrums. The same thing would be true in reverse of course, but when a man is disrespected, his natural reaction isn‘t love and kindness. And I‘m willing to bet my that goes both ways. What do these women honestly expect?
@@MrSurvivalgecoLP I don't disagree... It can be an extension of my statement. Love language is a conversation that should come earlier in the relationship so as to avoid ending up in that situation as best it can be avoided
"I feel" you Sir are on to something.
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As a woman, it's me that blows up. It's usually tears. I'm not one to respond with "nothing " when my man asks what's wrong. I tell him and address my feelings. You can only do this so much. I've addressed, and they didn't listen. It's always "baby, I'm not feeling enough love, I would appreciate more affection at night. More intimacy as well. " once I've said this over and over again, and nothing changes, that's when I end up blowing up. I don't ask for much, just love.
Well yeah you're making it all about yourself, next time include his feelings if you're gonna type all that. Plus if you're the one constantly blowing up as a man you're making his life miserable total turn off. If you're constantly throwing tantrums eventually it sticks. Why tf would he want to show you more love and affection when he knows you're just gonna blow up again. You're creating the cycle any self respecting man will distance himself from a child such as yourself. I already can tell you don't give him "nothing" you probably talk his ear off all about you. So keep crying for yourself.. Maybe for once ask about him and hear him out why he feels the way he does or that relationship is never gonna last.
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Some men have different appetites.
As a man I have found some women can't keep up and give that "it's not all about sex" BS. I've found that the women that can keep up are way more affectionate and passionate. Just find your match sweetheart best of luck x
@Psycho Bear I hate "sex isn't important" speech. It is! At least while we're young enough to do it, and if we don't, one night at least show me a bit of love by holding me for a while. My love is just never-ending. It doesn't stop after 3 or 5 or even 9 years. It grows.
@@jaimebeth2746 you just have to find the right person. I'm guessing we both are affectionate, passionate people that love sex and hugs and cuddles, the lot.
I've been with women that were beautiful, cool and funny things I love but were not are affectionate as I need.
I don't want to be forcing someone to be like that and I understand that there has been women that loved me but we're just not like that. Thing is that's who I am and I need to be around someone like that or it will just end up bringing me down. Don't settle for second best you know how the person is straight away or in the first few weeks so if they are not right get out before you fall for them.....
Something I imagine you find it easy to do! x
@@jaimebeth2746 try the Love Dare. It works if you both participate.
Damn good breakdown. I always try to apologize to my wife even when it's small stuff. I don't believe in letting things fester plus I hate drama.
Would you apologize to your kids when they're in the wrong? I understand you're compromising for short term happiness, but you're creating a long term disaster down the road. Eventually all her delusion will add up and cause her to do something so stupid that you can no longer apologize to her for it. Eg, maybe she burns the house down because you were too scared to tell her to stop using 99 cent store extension cords with the electric heater that she uses because she's always cold because she wants to walk around half naked in February.
@Just Chill What? Hahahaha You’re a beta for being humble enough to know you’re wrong?? Your definition of strength is actually weakness!
@@hirokomlm131 A wife isn’t a child:
@@loveismylanguage9162 True, a wife is an adult female, not a child, but all relationships have to have hierarchy in order to be productive. Equality looks good as a slogan, and it's great when two people agree with each other, but when two equal forces pull opposite each other, neither is able to move, and that ultimately leads to the court system stepping in to be the tie breaker. If you want to avoid court, someone in the relationship needs to have the final word.
@@hirokomlm131 Yes, I agree the man has the final word. That doesn’t mean if he is wrong he can’t admit and apologize. Humility is more powerful than pride!
Whenever my girlfriend and I argue (which hasn’t been much) we always talk things out and after we talk it out and hear each others perspective we always say that we’re sorry and that we love each other because we know that it’s usually never a big deal in the first place
Sounds disgusting
Healthy relationship right there.
Healthy relationships like this deserve more attention and respect.
@Michelle RERICHA you're probably single 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@PastelCerulean agreed
That’s call learning how to communicate , if you have to disrespect me I don’t want chu
Absolutely right.
There’s a Yin and Yang in a marriage. You’re in a state of balance where you complement each other. There is also an equal and opposite reaction when that balance gets disturbed. When respect and love gets neglected it’s going to cause each person pain, until one or both decide to correct the balance.
Let’s say a husband is having a hard time at work and is neglecting his wife. In time she might end up doing the same thing when he gets thru his stress. A cycle would begin of this back and forth. If the husband realizes they’re drifting, then starts taking steps to show his love, the wife will (either knowingly or unknowingly) reciprocate. That cycle breaks and balance can be restored.
Some people would rather keep a fight going than to stop that fight and give each other a chance to maintain peace. Communication, listening and being understanding is what's most important in all relationships.
I think we truly undervalue the importance of respecting both sexes. For instance, I as a woman do not respond in kind to disrespect and I tell my husband to lead with respect. You cannot love me and disrespect me on the same instance. And i cannot disrespect my partner and claim to love them.
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You can't love someone if you don't respect them.
*F A C T S*
That’s the cycle she’s talking about
Respect amongst men is based on the threat of violence, that is why we love you but respect only on paper. I know you can't do anything to me no matter what I say or do, so we respect you the same way you respect kids, it's respect, but it isnt at the same time.
Respect would imply we see you as an equal
@@giovannimelendez8726 Yeah, it's a sad world when you choose your partner and think that person is below you.
This is the cycle.
Dr Emerson Eggrichs has fantastic talks about love and respect. I listened to them before I got married and I’m certain it has helped me stay married for seventeen years. My husband and I have never shouted at each other, and though I have often been worried my words may have come out wrong or hurtful, he says he’s never felt disrespected by me. We women need to consciously and intentionally watch our words, our tone of voice, and our facial expressions. Men need to watch their interests and their actions. All of these things should be used to build up our spouses.
My husband and I agreed to hug after arguments to reaffirm our love. We argue, but it also need to be done when it's over. You can't keep those negative feelings
You not submitting to your husband if you arguing with him
That's actually a pretty good one for me to stop on and think about. That explains alot why my ex got so disrespectful. I thought I showed her enough love.. when it was over I remember her saying "I didn't know you loved me that much" hmm 🤔
Never listen to what a woman says. It's almost never aligned with what is actually going on.
Amen! My Pastor says that in any broken relationship, there should be a Redeemer! Whether it's family or spouse there should always someone who brakes that cycle or it will be a never ending story where history will continue to repeat itself!
I get bratty sometimes too. Blame the Irish/Sicilian/Native in me!!! But I told my husband to give me a spankin and it will make me change my tune 😂
Reflection while being manhandled hardly helps most men in this conversation lady!
Although I might add your hubby is a luck man.😏❤🙏🏽
Until you get spiteful and it lands in court and you, crying, detail how he used to regularly beat you.
@@SkindoggiedogGod damn you people know so much about everyone. Are you a fly on the wall?
She should just have her own podcast.
Consistently giving grounded well put together views.
My girlfriend and I have "breaks" when we are fighting. Fighting or having serious discussions about things we feel passionate about are extremely important for us to learn about the other one, finding compromises and grow as a team. But sometimes, when it gets too much at once we have a "break", take a step back, and just cuddle because we know we always talk things out and even if we aren't at that point yet, we certainly will be. So all gud and love
It is not all good and love, if she continues the disrespect leave her.
You said it. When you feel unloved, that feeling is totally subjective, and depends on a lot of things you got during the day, week or month, not on just an act of your partner. But when you disrespect someone, that is normally an act or a ser of actions, objective actions you say or do. That is a big different and is just an excuse to be felt unloved.
Wow. That made me think and look back my past relationships
If you show love to a women, while she has no respect for you, your values, feeling or boundaries. She will never give you your courage back.
So what do you offer
@@Freedom_for_Palestina make her anxious of losing you. It's sadistic but the only way to protect yourself from abuse and heart break
@@Herr_Brechmann it is better to change yourself and always try to become the better version of yourself ,pray to The Almighty to guide you.
@@Freedom_for_Palestina there is no reason to change when you are the one being abused
Bad advice from @breakable
If you ask that you get called a victim blamer. But once people started asking “Well what did Rihanna do?” it all turned out be a much more mutually abusive.
Accountability isn’t blame. I always ask who/why/what/when/where, which was included in an English lesson…in school…in second grade.
She’s 100% right. When my husband and I finally figured it out and “hopped off” our relationship improved significantly.
It used to be asked, "What did she say?" I do.
Not with me sunshine. If I mess up, I say sorry, I own it. If you mess up, I'll make you own it too 😂😂😂
Your one of the few. But my ex I wouldn't even call a narcissist, it went so far past that.
I like that lol
Before u date a girl, plz make sure to go interview the ex bf/husband.
@@jkfd97 If she has an ex bf, doesn't mean she is not a virgin.
@@jkfd97 Ok.
@@jkfd97 Sure.
My husband and I have been together for 24 years. It's called picking your battles. Most things are not worth fighting over. Whenever he does something that I could easily get angry about, I stop and ask myself how it would benefit us to fight about it. 99% of the time, it won't so I let it go.
Gold.
Every time I tell anyone they always tell me to talk to them about it, but they don’t realize me talking about it makes it a problem, but me not talking about it is even worse. I need a mental break 😂
I have never related to anything more in my life 😂 Exhausting.
“When I don’t feel loved I get disrespectful” oooorrrr… you could just talk to your man about it and BAM!! Problem solved
I don't think women are problem solvers like that, generally. She wants you to read her mind (not literally) which can be good because it keeps you connected to your empathetic side and can strengthen your connection to her. She should not say her need out loud, because it's not elegant, in her asking what you should already know. If she does happen to express her feelings, then the motivation is not her selfish demand but a desire to restore that spiritual connection.. but I think the problem that you were thinking is about the disrespect. So I think that it springs from the conscious or ego personality rather than the subconscious which is more reserved or conservative, and that orientation of self may be a cultural phenomenon. Dark side of the ego.. If she is disrespecting you but still loves you in her true emotions, she is still giving you a chance to restore your authority and harmony.. Although, if she does not really love you, I don't know why she would do that. Unless there is something deeply problematic or just pure evil?
Yeah l dont understand that this something that women can do. And the way these red pill women talk like if we can’t change how we are. If l don’t feel loved l would definitely say something. If anything, l did it before so it’s shows ❤something
@@cassandramuniz7056 always sounds good on paper but when put in practice fails quite often. Do you really think every man isn’t begging his partner to cut out the attitude and just explain what is wrong?? Woman in general suck at it.
And you can't even try to talk to them too soon afterwards. When they are angry (even if it wasn't your fault) they often don't want to be bothered to hear from you.
@@davidm4566 it's called freezing. It's a fight or flight response. It happens with some people when they're sad or angry. It's not that they don't wanna talk, it's just that their body has gone to the freezing mode and they CAN'T talk until the body senses the danger is gone.
Ladies are the ones who are supposed to be submissive. When the man "hops off" as you say, he yields, submitting to her - and she has even less respect for him.
The few times I suspected I might have been wrong in an argument with my wife, I approached it like this: I'd tell her that if she wants me to hear her out, she needs to tone down the disrespect. I'm not customer service at Best Buy who doesn't care, I'm your husband with a vested interest in the relationship. Show me you as the wife also has a vested interest in the relationship by giving my your data without all the emotion and make wrong attached to it, and then I'll listen. Clearly this is important to you; show me that it's important enough to suppress your animosity long enough to get the point across.
After listening, I'd ask clarifying questions as needed. If she's right, I'd acknowledge she's right, and we'd go with that. If she realizes she's wrong, she'd yield. If we are still at an impasse, the final decision was usually still up to me, which meant in most cases I would override - but there were exceptions. For example, if the argument was over handling an issue with health insurance, she worked in that field before becoming a stay at home mom - unless I had compelling cause, I would yield disagreements in that area to her.
There's always the final line, which I almost never needed to resort to: if you don't like being with me or my program, there's the door. No one is forcing you to stay.
The above is a representation of how I approach conflict, at least on my better days.
Secret: vet the woman's values before you get into a long term relationship. If your values line up fundamentally, such conflicts will be few and far between in the first place.
What She Thought You Meant
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Man that’s very rational and in order. You have a good woman as well that actually follows the plan you prescribed. Good sh*t.
I think the last line of what you said is what people these says forget to do. They create a mental checklist of weight, height, looks, financial stability, sex drive, but then leave out values. Values should be in the top 3 things to check before even considering settling.
VERY WELL SAID...
She yield ,you acknowledge ?does the different words used to describe the situation change facts ?
Love and respect are completely two different things. Men and women need BOTH! Not one or the other.
Let me get this straight. Not only does she not love you, she's actively disrespecting you. Sounds like she's the problem. It's hard to show love to someone that doesn't show any love back. It's even harder if that person also disrespects you.
And she claim she is traditional woman. Just sad.
We know if you show love she doesn't deserve, she will not respect you. You have to check her, or she will always disrespect you
It's more the fact she doesn't feel loved. So she becomes disrespectful. The problem is with that is that often is that women (and men) who act tyrannical see love as a resource. They push the situation in love to be how they think it should be instead of letting it guide them in how they feel about it. Idk how I did explaining it, but I hope it's easy enough to make sense of. I'm not the best at explaining it.
"The mature one moves first." Emerson Eggrichs
Most women in this generation disrespect men EVEN BEFORE "AN RELATIONSHIP" Gets STARTED GOOD !!!
from the jump
But women are different look those countries that love their men and love family and take care everything
@@Smiler2724 Don't let the dating coaches hear you...
It's because the whole relationship was played out in her mind from the moment you said hi to her
What starts from the get go is called female instinct. She smells insecurity and she may not even know herself why she is being disrespectful. This stuff goes deep in the subconscious. You can respect a man from the moment they set foot in a room if they give out a certain vibe, without saying a word.
Making alot of sense. Addressing a common situation and giving her take on it without being disrespectful. This is how a debate/ convo should go.
The one who cares less always controls the relationship
This hit home today on the heels of an argument I had with my gf. And it came down to what she said. Looking back at that, I felt disrespected and withdrew love, making her feel like she had to walk on eggshells and not say anything. Which is not what I wanted.
If she is disrespecting you, then she absolutely should learn to walk on egg shells around you after that. A woman thinking she can get away with disrespecting her man will destroy the relationship. No woman wants to be with a man so pathetic he allows himself to be disrespected by her. That's one of the reasons women like bad boys so much.
4 year relationship ended after this dynamic. I began to walk on eggshells but he never healed from my display of disrespect. I just felt like I should talk less, do less. It got to a point where we just grew in distance and we broke up.
If something is wrong it’s best to be vulnerable and voice what’s really going on inside. A knee cap to knee cap conversation.
Don’t listen to ole dude above… your relationship will dissipate. You will tell yourself she wasn’t for you just to keep the cycle of getting your way with another.
It WILL end a relationship or form an unhealthy one. One in which Max needs to maintain power over respect.
His woman will leave him or ignore his calls from his dying bed.
@@Karen-mm6yt I never held love from my ex wife, she disrespected me anyways. Men never be vulnerable to someone who doesn't respect you period!! It was always me coming to her saying sorry ect. I was wrong I should have just left. Your women's feelings and emotions are not your job to fix. If she is not submitting that's disrespect also. Men take back your roles, homes, marriage and relationships.
@@jmangames5562 well that’s you. trying to reconcile with a stubborn person can be hard. From a woman’s perspective… I was you in your situation. I tried to get him to understand and was always sorry… always tip toeing around him not to make him mad… I chased after him.
The woman feelings you speak of, you as a man have honed.
You’re just doing to another what was done onto you.
If you continue this it will lead to a quiet woman, yes. But I will say there is an 87% chance she is pretending/a people pleaser/ a doormat. She will learn that that’s no way to live. It may take a year or 30, but she will realize that she could have had a better man.
She will leave you or ignore your calls from your death bed when your games lose their potency on her mind.
This path is not the path of lease resistance. I know the game, but I don’t play. To the men/women who want to be influential…Be honest, be polite… don’t be a fool.
Your mentality is a dime a dozen… this is for those who want to be different. What’s a home if you have forced and molded your woman and children into it… just a house with people living in it.
@Max Powers I said I felt disrespected.
Since we're adults it came down to simply having a conversation about what triggers me and why. Then, how to have better outcomes for both of us.
Thing is, I don't want her to walk on eggshells, I just want her to know how to interact with me in a way that doesn't piss me off. And that's something that needs to be taught by setting reasonable boundaries and enforcing them.
She is just spitting facts!!! It's so hard to be submissive when I don't feel appreciated or heard!
worry about how he feels is much more important because most likely his happuness is the key to your amazing future he could build for you and if thats not the case you chose the wrong man to be with ...are you hearing him? learn to listen befor learning to be listened to.
Indeed
The “well what did she say” is the one. WHAT DID SHE SAY?!?! She crossed all boundaries, that’s all you can say.
Problem is that a man can sit still, do nothing, say nothing, look at nothing and be peaceful. A woman needs to feel something, so she goes out of her way to generate a feeling, triggered by something or someone external, doesn't matter what it is, as long as she gets to feel something.
Hence peace is broken.
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My mother in a nutshell. A day will be perfect until she wakes up.
So true. These bishes love drama.
It’s like they crave attention it’s pathetic
@@David91690 that's fine, but it how one goes about it. Actors and comedians crave attention, and musicians, and they each become entertaining in different ways in order to get it. So it is consensual attention, eagerly given. And that makes all the difference.
In my experience, she goes out of her way to make me feel unloved and doesn’t respect me
The problem is the quote "men need to be respected and women need to be loved". Both men and women NEED and SHOULD be respected and loved.
@@calmlyeverafter3248 I think it’s the same thng
Absolutely 💯 its a vicious cycle. With my mental health I have a bad habit of getting into my own feelings and blowing up for no reason. Ive been with my fiancé for 8/9 years and it has been a road of ups and downs but once we figured out communication really is key and me getting the help I needed to understand my emotions helped tremendously. We go through different things everyday and sometimes we forget to look at what the other person is going through and become selfish in our feelings❤
If both ppl in a relationship can admit when theyre wrong n apologise…. That relationship will last. You cant help but respect a person whos capable of self assessing and putting ego aside for the greater good.
Women never blame themselves. Ever. Ask her during a heated argument about that thing she 'apologized' for three years later if you'd like to know who she really blames.
@@Skindoggiedog haha yeah 99% the women ive ever met will blame anything and everything around them over something tht doesnt even matter. The plot twist being if they just said “yeah my bad thats on me” it be resolved. They dont want resolution though. Its like an ego thing about not backing down
Love is not a feeling it is a state of mind
love is a decision
@@timohaikarainen3957 just decide to produce oxytocin and vasopressin then lmao
@@arsenal4444 exactly
The second I don’t feel respect, I am out of there. Why should I be somebody’s rock and somebody’s source of love and validation if she can’t even respect the man she’s with?
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exactly. Cause she's going to respect someone. If it ain't you let her go.
@@dennisrobinson8008 that’s what I did. I got crucified in family law court, to the point where I’ll never have much again. I don’t care, though; I have my freedom and I don’t have to compromise my self-respect to be with somebody.
@@paulprovenzano3755 holup you had 3 ways out of that trap and used none of them?
@@arsenal4444 no way out, in cali family-law. Hell. They don’t even care about dna out here. If your name’s on the certificate, OR if you requested ONE VISIT, they have you. visitation is parental rights. Ask to see the kid ONCE (even if it’s just for the test) and they’ve got you. Or do you know more than my attorneys?
Wowww… I’ve never ever heard exactly what I feel and have been trying to explain put so in words so easily. This!
Men would rather be respected than loved.
This isn't really possible. there is no respect without love,,and there is no love without respect. Don't confuse love for sexual attraction. And don't confuse respect for fear.
@@puclopuclik4108that’s not true you can respect somone and not Iove them and you can love someone and disrespect them.
@@keithbrown2425 Love isn't sexual attraction! And respect isn't fear!
Respect is the highest level of appreciation you can have for a human being. You do respect character, knowledge, or skills. Since respect is a positive feeling towards other person, love is involved.
Love isn't only between sexual partners. Love is between friends, family members, and you even can love an idol.
Love is a strong bond. It's basically high level of liking and care you feel towards someone.
I believe you confused arousal for love, and fear for respect.
"you know why we disrespect you right" because you know we can't do anything to you
There is always walking away. First time, if the disrespect isn't too great, radio silent for a couple days, then see if she's willing to yield, and if so, return. If it's a repeat offense, or the disrespect is too great, cut her off and leave.
ALWAYS be willing to leave.
Doesn't matter if you have children. Although it's hard, you cut it down to only contact regarding the kids - everything else is off limits. If she says something like she'll end up in a ditch if you don't do X, tell her that's not your problem - you'll collect the kids and life goes on. That's the price of disrespect. If she threatens the kids, get evidence of that insanity and contact the authorities. Until society recognizes men have reproductive rights too [not just obligations], this is the only way.
Pro tip: vet her for her values - make sure they line up with yours, so that such fights are few and far between to begin with. Otherwise, you have no business building a life, never mind a family, with such a woman, particularly in this society.
Trust they know
What did they 5 fingers say to her face? 👋
@@nvm7191 exactly, than go to another plate
@@TechnoMageB5 just leave. Radio silence or the silent treatment is emotional abuse and not something that should be engaged in.
Man, I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
How did your disrespect you?
She monkey branched to your new husband from her ex. She is no different than the rest of the women she implies she is better than
All i heard was, "Even though I initiated the disrespect, I'm too petty and childish to be the bigger person "
Yoo Bill burr said this EXACT thing during his bit about domestic violence😂
Because they all want a red buttler to lose control and have (wild sex with them) so they don't have to take accountability.
Gone with the wind very boring movie but a good window into a woman psychology.
The problem is, typically one person in a relationship is aware of an issue "I don't feel respected" / "I don't feel loved." but instead of acknowledging it, they or you decide to play passive-aggressive games, which only makes things worse. Why not, instead of being distant, ask your partner, "Hey, are you alright? You've been distant/angry/disrespectful/etc. lately. Is there anything I can do?"
Because childish actions only result in childish responses.
Source: Being 44 with a 22 year year marriage.
I always asked that question I had other ppl just say the man is wrong and I'm like what did she do cause I know he didn't just wake up that morning and start wilding out you said or did something to him.
Guys just don't get married. Ever. Period. I promise you'll be much happier and healthier if you focus on money and meaningful friendships
They should have showed us this when we are kids, all these Disney movies characters marrying, people question when are we marrying, parents, family, and all that B.S... if i could do it all over again, I would remain a bachelor with no children
Truth. Ladies, same.
@@tommiegirl2441 nah, not the same for women. as age passes women get worse, look worse & mentally become slower. Don’t mislead women to the same thing that’s best for me so they can be sad and miserable. A women should marry a good men and respect him and cater to the family if she truly wants to be loved, cherished, respected & if she wants to be happy & cared for. Y’all dooming each other fr fr.
Wow all these years . This makes so much sense . So simple . She disrespected me because I didn't show love . My mind is blown .
Lmao 😂😂😂 what a joke of an advice hahah
Men, just call out your woman on their shit......and if they don't want to take responsibility for their actions, leave them......tf?
Right
yes, that sounds good, and the right move. But many men, especially in today's wacky ass dating scene, the guy may be thinking I lucked out with her, I am not going to find another girl like this, so they bend and bend and bend to her wants. They would rather be with someone and not very happy,. Than alone for another 5 years or longer. That is exactly why women start 80% of divorces.
RTTP - Right to the point
Nailed it. The key to dealing with these 304s is to not care. I seem to notice the less I care about a chick the more she wants to be with me and vice-versa
Facts I’m not doing this run around game
Too many men obtain most of their self worth based on if they currently have a woman's approval or not. I have known many pathetic men, that thought themselves better than other men, just because they had a wife. Those men see having a wife as some sort of status symbol to lord over other men.
That sounds 💯 right!!!
He immediately rolled his eyes before hearing her out. Everyone responds to disrespect differently.
That part.
Well to be fair she did start off by saying "the reason why we disrespect you guys" ... it sounded like she was going to try and justify why women disrespect men.
@@danmcalester1716 incorrect. She asked a question she didn't make a statement. You heard a statement and made an assumption without giving her the "love" of just listening. To her point. Hence the reason I started with "incorrect". See how that works. Peace to you kind soul.
@@ahumanlewis4793 100%
This was the most brilliant wrong logic I’ve ever heard in my life
Honestly, you disrespect men because you don't want to understand what you want as women, I think. What you say contradicts what you want.
hm that makes sense hey :)
Feeling unloved is subjective, it’s her feelings. Being disrespectful is objective. Vs being unloving is objective. But she distinctly said feeling unloved.
Both are subjective/objective in their own respects, something disrespectful to you might not be disrespectful to me, just as making you feel unloved is different for everyone, but there are sure fire objective ways to make people feel both of these things.
Good luck in your relationships with humans claiming being loving is subjective hahaha what a bitter dolt
"Let me explain why we get to disrespect you" go on I'd love to hear 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't know about that. But sometimes when you hop off quick every time she acts up it can easily become a trend.
She knows she can get away with it everytime
Stupid mindgames.
That where voting comes into play.
@@timbattle4035 Voting? Naahh
I walk away during fights, my ex-husband always thought it was disrespectful to walk away from him.
So ridiculous.
I know why its an ex
@@rakashaagain I came here just to say this. Take my upvote.
look at the 43 horses of apocalpyse of relationship of doctor Gottman, check the fourth one.
If all men knew you did this, nobody would ever date you in the future either.
@@ollep0lle..Its bad that I would rather walk away than to argue and fight with someone??
Imagine coming home from a graveyard shift to take care of the family all for her to say she don’t feel love and starts disrespecting you…
Ok so you’re telling me that if you were not married then you wouldn’t be working? Y’all make it seem like everything you do in your life is for your family when in reality, whether you had a family or not, you’d be doing the same thing just have more money
@@michellerericha2120 When did i ever say anything that is in your sentence?? You know when i was a minor (which i still am) but younger i had a job and my girlfriend still cheated on me isn’t that crazy? But i was still expected to take her on dates and we were supposed to talk daily. But i guess it’s always the working man’s fault having to work and try your hardest to talk to the woman you love most daily but then you hear chatter around that she’s cheating. Think what you want about me Michelle or my dating life but at least be mature enough to recognize that i had an actual well paying job and still got cheated on.
@@UmmTeejay anyone could be cheated on, millionaire to homeless, not sure your age but if you’re still a minor please listen to my advice… if a woman cheats on you two things, first LEAVE. Unless you have been married for years and you have children together and you know without a doubt you can move past it and she won’t again, then leave.. also remember she cheated on you, that particular woman, not all of them, don’t go through your life being insecure about women you date, you will self Sabotage every relationship you ever have. Don’t feel entitled to love and or real just because you give a woman your paycheck, a house, car etc. if you’re with a woman that is with you because you spend money on her then you’re with the wrong woman.. be loyal to her, communicate with her, communicate early in the relationship your expectations and ask her hers, listen to her, I mean really really listen. If you give her children then father them and support her in raising them. If you have a son/sons, it’s your job to turn them into men, you’re their example of how a man should treat a woman so treat their mom good.. if you have daughters it’s your job to show them how a man should treat her. Good luck in
Your relationship life.
Love & Respect is one of my all time favorite books. My husband and I read it with the work book. It was extremely eye opening and makes you sooo self aware! I feel like that book can help a lot of if not all of the relationships in the world.
It boils down to discipline, love and humility. Both people have to have discipline, love and humility, otherwise no one gets what they need from the relationship. However these days women tend to be the most stubborn, prideful person in relationships. Feminism has created women who suffer with a great deal of hubris. It turned women into disgusting human beings, unfit for any kind of long-term relationship.
This comment section is so sad. Communication should come from any gender. If they can’t do that they need to work on themself. I have plenty people of both genders in my life BECAUSE they have insight and humility. Met plenty men and women who can’t communicate appropriately and those people need to grow up.
Once a man gets disrespect, he loses his love for the woman. It's nothing you can "hop off".
Childish. Forgive, forget, a d move on for the sake of the marriage.
@@emclaire18 I did not say not to move on, but the feelings won't be there. The marriage will simply become a shared appartment. Especially when the disrespect occured multiple times and/or in front of other people.
@@YEinherierY marriage requires work. Sure, physical labor, but mostly emotional labor. It’s not easy to forgive your spouse and work toward a common goal but that’s what has to happen. Allowing your marriage to become just a “shared apartment” is unacceptable behavior.
@@emclaire18 i think he means to say that of his loved one, is a two faced person because of her friends or family, and especially if she is disrespecting in this persona, in front of these people, it just screams insecurity and men tend to get away from these woman, because these are the same woman that wouldn't hesitate to stab you in your back, so yea its more for our own protection we disable our love to this girl, because you actually realy dont know her true persona
@@petermaaskantje then why marry her? Once you’re married there’s no excuses for letting it fail.
I really appreciate that last part. People will look at the guy as a villain but he ain’t just gonna pop off for no reason or out of the blue. It’s built up over time. Now putting your hands on her is a different story. I’ve said some things I definitely regret but it came from a place of being disrespected over and over
The problem with her advice of just hopping off is that women will NEVER admit they are wrong or being spiteful, even when they want to, they wont. They have to make sure that you know that she believes that it is your fault. Making him give in is more important than the relationship. This is one of the many reasons why I am single.
That's not true. A woman that cares about her relationship will. I have many many times with my husband. I doubt I am the only one. This is just another case of the ones that are loudest getting the most attention. You don't know what's going on in a happy marriage because they are quiet.
@@sarahanna5222 You are the 20%
@@sarahanna5222 Not really. You'll apologize, but still won't feel it's truly your fault. Something that happened 'made' you feel and act that way. You're not *really* responsible for that, are you?
@@Skindoggiedog lol You just get on the internet and tell all women they are the same?....my relationship has been going for 10 years. My marriage 8.....you don't stay married that long without learning to genuinely look at yourself and see your own faults and mistakes and that you aren't perfect. Maybe what you said was how I viewed things at the beginning of my relationship when I was in my early 20s but it would never have gotten where it is now if I had stayed that way.
@@Skindoggiedog how do you know what this woman really feels given you have no context of the arguments she gets into with her husband? You've never even met her and you think you can project your experiences with other women onto her.
"You know why we disrespect you right?". Because u know i won't punch u in the face....
Bam! It's as simple as that.
Their disrespect is merely a test. A test of your character. She is testing to see if your still the strong masculine man she deep down wants. If you succumb to her games she will see you as weak and leave you for something better someone who won’t put up with her shit. See through the Games. Know when it’s a cry for help and know when it’s a test. Body language, tone, these will all come into play to make your decision.
The difference is the love will always be there when they need it and they be throwing disrespect all over the place
Sounds like a lot of BS could be avoided if the woman just said she felt unloved
That takes a lot of self awareness and humility though…
I thought they were great communicators
@@TheAwe50me They’re not you gotta see the signs she gives you. She gives off the signs.
@@TheAwe50me they are - when it comes to gossip about other people, and letting you know when they are unhappy (in passive aggressive ways).
@@BleuBelair I shouldn’t have to be an expert at reading signs to be able to communicate properly, she should just use her words