Dealing with Difficult People
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Dealing with difficult people isn't always easy, but with this helpful advice from Dr. Irene Strauss Cohen, you can find ways to help manage your emotions around difficult people.
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Psych2Go - how are you on this amazing sunday? um yah. i worked retail for a number of years, negative people outweigh the positive ones. i would politely talk to them , then if i couldnt make them happy i called my supervisor to deal with them.
i had this one customer literally cuss me out because i showed them this grill that they didnt specify about and i never took the call to begin with.
they were rantin, i basically just shrugged n sed ' have a nice day now' - im not sarcastic am i?
Susie Guzman - were you one customer i delt with? lol
Psych2Go I swear u guys help me get through the day....thanks
Psych2Go - y still ever give a thot to a discord server?😆
What if the difficult person is your boss?
There’s only so many times you can fake a smile with really difficult people.
so true
Continual Improvement - unless its a maniacal smile 😁
Can you avoid them?
I’m probably the difficult person
Psych2Go - probably not , i deal with a few difficult people on a daily basis, i shake my head, say " mmhmm, yep , ok, scuse me im in the middle of making my meager paycheck"
I've been seen as the difficult person simply for not smiling, even though I'm not doing anything. I've actually had strangers become hostile towards me for not smiling like they expect me to. If this person simply wants me to be happy they have a weird way of showing it. Smh
Nigel Ismael I don't understand why people get like that. If I want someone to smile I don't tell them to, I try to give them a reason to.
Nigel Ismael same
So how do you deal with it if you're the difficult person?
Good question! Could you share aspects of what makes you difficult?
Psych2Go EVERYTHING!!!!
Psych2Go I think for most people, who need help, the biggest thing of difficultiness is the constant bad mood, which makes others to avoid you and you blame yourself for the bad mood you could cause
how did this get posted 2 months ago?
fangirling out loud omg I just noticed that!
Today, someone in my neighborhood asked me what to do with a clinically depressed person who's off their meds, and had expressed thoughts of suicide. They want him to get help, but they don't know how to get him to trust the doctor. The best I was able to do for them was to point them to your website (you've helped me with good advice on dealing with my own problems after all). I hope I did what was best in this situation.
This especially sucks when the person you deal with is your mother
Oh shoot. We will put up a video on that. Stay tune.
Psych2Go That would be super helpful! I am looking forward to it :)
Yup, especially if they slso seem intent on dragging you into their misery pit too. I say you can totally choose your family, you just hsve to jsve the resolve to cut out those who make you unhappy and can't be bothered to care.
Psych2Go or father*
Indeed. We know family members are harder since you have to rely on them and live with them, but the best solution really is physical distance if possible. But of course, you need to be able to sustain yourself before that can happen. best of luck and we will do one for fathers as well!
Being positive isn't pretending bad things are good, it's focusing on what good _is_ there, no matter how small. Everywhere in life there is both good and bad, otherwise the universe couldn't exist. Positivity involves thinking more about positive things, gratitude, and taking in the little things in life. If you really spend time thinking about the little things, you begin to realize how they can become symbolic of bigger things, things that are often positive. The big positive things many of us don't think about or appreciate enough. Like the very fact you are alive, for example. Or, if you are any type of theist, the fact that there is a God/Gods and why you love them. If you are an atheist, than the fact that you are such an astounding coincidence. No matter who you are, there is at least one huge good thing in life, and you can find it by focusing on the small things.
they spelled psychologist wrong. cute :p
NOoo! Good catch! We will fix that in future videos.
Psych2Go - i was gonna say that, but angie h sed it first😉
Psych2Go is now Pshyc2Go.
Angie H. Wait this video was uploaded 1 hour ago, but your comment was posted 2 days ago??
the conspiracy unravels
Sooo my bf is a depressive intelligent introvert who despises beeing helped but also in a deep need for help. Yea that summs it up pretty well. Wth am i gonna do tho :
Crassen Mlg Scopez "You can bring a horse to water but you can't force it to drink." The problem is you can't force someone to get help. Going along with the quote, bringing a horse to water might make it more likely to drink. Showing concern for him and requesting him to seek help might change his mind. However it might also anger him more. You know him better than I do.
Best advice is try to find out why he is that way. It'll at least help you understand and possibly give you direction towards getting him help.
You can always enlighten him. Built trust with him, talk to him, but avoid making it seem like you're trying to help/change
him because some people get turned off by that. Change begins with mutual trust between two people.
I MADE A MISTAKE ITA MY BEST FRIEND NOT MY BOYFRIND x(!
Friend zoned haha
Ajinkya Jumbad yep she got
I was once told by a former partner that I will not be happy as long as we are together because he is difficult to deal with. Those words shuck me to the core.
The most difficult people are the people that tell you you're bad because you're not happy. That's kind of narrow-minded, if you ask me.
There will always be people that do the opposite of what you want. And some of that cannot be changed, i believe its just how some people are. Best thing is to not take everything personally and have likeminded people around.
As I smile, I want nothing more than to cry
As I weep, I crave an eternal sleep
I live in a fog of confusion
I seek an clear and sunlit vision
I sometimes want to just die
To create a better world and a new life
For the other hurting souls in a self dug hole
Yet I want to think alive
But here I am, scratching myself with knives
Then I think and again think
To achieve anything, my conscious must sink
As I think of infinite universes,
I see life as a meaningless repeated verse
What is wrong with me, I ponder,
Am I really anything more than a bother
To every other being
Who in this universe is still seeing
As I think all alone
The seed of death is sown
For all of us
As my selfish lust for life endures
I should die, but want to live
I want to perish through a sieve
Why am I still here
Because our own destiny we cannot steer.
(this is what my imaginary friend said to me as her subconscious connected momentarily to my existence, two universes out of an infinite amount communicating and contradicting yet again, through a phenomenon we refer to as dreaming)
She is my only friend. I think you can see why. Is this loneliness or just me?
Yep, it's just me.
Either way, I say good night and may you dream happily as any of the infinite versions of you seek your conscious in a parallel existence.
My head hurts.
oh what joy
K
David Redford - deep n philosophocal. sure these arent lyrics from a song?
I actually cried-
I have 5 children. All raised generally the same. The two that are the most difficult have been that way since we could remember. Some people just feed off of the happiness of others, without any real way of generating their own.
Moody and difficult person are my nightmares since im a fragil person rjeglrtkru
Oumimin well you should adapt since you'll experience many of those types of people in life :/
Same lol
Rjeglrtkru ?
No one has time to deal with negativity, life's too short. That's a good thing if you avoid them !
Oumimin, same. I just went through a really difficult break up with a friend who was difficult. I knew it was because of her anorexia and depression, but she was really verbally abusive and kept pushing me away. Ugh.
This is quite relatable because I/m one of those difficult people, especially towards my family.
I think keeping in mind where someone's coming from really helps in most situations that are negative or difficult. Reasoning that they are being more reactive than is necessary because they're stressed because of work or they're really pushing you to take out the trash because they equate small acts of service with a display of love and they're feeling under-appreciated or self-conscious so a gesture like that is what they need at that point, that kind of thing can help a little. It doesn't change what's happening or make it okay. It's not an excuse, but a reason. If you understand the person's motivation you have more of a chance to figure out how to combat the problem at its source and not just keep fighting off the symptoms. Sometimes they're super pushy to go to a game or watch a movie with you not just because they're looking forward to it, but because they may feel like they need one on one time and/or are lonely and maybe it reminds them of better times in the friendship/relationship. Or they might blow up over you not texting when you're late from work not just because they were worried about you but because it's what their ex used to do and they're afraid this relationship will turn out the same way and they need to be reminded that it won't necessarily end up like that. If you don't see the real problem, you don't have a lot of hope that you'll stumble onto any real solution. Remembering that you care about this person and you don't want to hurt them in any negative situation and taking a step back so that doesn't happen is imperative. It'll keep from the one point of friction leading to a string of problems and fights and keep from more damage being done to the relationship. Realizing it might not make sense for them to react they way they do, but that it comes from a history of pain is also helpful. Whether it's neglect, abuse, loneliness, or betrayal, things that have happened in the past make it seem like their reaction is justifiable, in their minds. They don't want to experience that pain again, so oftentimes they're trying to protect themselves. People will go to great lengths to avoid pain. Remembering this might help tamp down frustration or hurt and engender some extra empathy to deal with a disappointing interaction.
I wanna keep this person company, he’s so mean to me and keep trying to push me away, but at the same time ik that he needs it.
I like how this address the problem objectively rather than subjectively...this actually helps me so much. I've been doing most of this things actually before I've watch this video.
I have to be honest, I know that. To everyone about that: it hurts. So stay strong and have support for having difficult people around
I thought my notifications were two months late.
And then my brain turned on and realized they aren't actually two months late.
What about when the difficult person blames you for their bad moods? Everything is always my fault.. I'm highly sensitive
Yes I agree. It’s very hard but then you just don’t pay as much attention to them and set boundaries and not let them treat u like a punching bag
From the sounds of it I'm pretty much a difficult person. I've had a bad past, sure, but I try to be positive and whatnot. Others don't see that though. They get a feeling about me and hold that feeling as truth even though most of them couldn't be further from it.
Example: one friend wanted me to watch her climb a rock wall set up at a block party on my college campus. So she did it a couple times. Then I told her I was going and said I'll see her later. The next day she asked if I was angry at her. I wasn't, in fact I was glad she wanted me to watch her. That day I help set up bed lofts for the dorms. It was 120 degrees in the back of that truck, there were over a thousand of them. I was exhausted. Apparently when I'm tired people say I look like I'm about to murder someone even if I'm happy. She was different though because she was curious and asked. Not many would do that.
Half of the problems I face are misunderstandings such as this and the person comes to a conclusion without consulting me. If I have a problem with someone I'll respectfully discuss it with them. The rest is the fact a lot has happened in the past (and continues to happen) and if I talk about it most people just abandon me. When people refuse to leave and are there for me my mood improve. These people are usually my best friends. I feel if more people do this my attitude might get to the point where I don't need them anymore and can sustain a good mood by myself. Though I do have PTSD so maybe not.
Tavier I have a friend that often looks like he doesn’t care about you. Almost always people abandon him after few attempts to get his attention.
But I got curious what with him and I decided to continue communication.
I found out that he enjoys when people spend time with him but doesn’t know why they go away.
At some time I asked why he reacts like he exhausted by talking even when it’s not and even when he needs to talk. He didn’t even know that he did it. When I asked him to try to show his real thoughts and emotions he answered that he has a problem with it. It’s hard for him to expose his real feelings. He acts roles and he shows emotions of his role.
Sometimes we manage to make him express that he want.
But it became harder when we tried to dispose of those roles. He can’t describe his emotions and what he wants. He described it like he has no feelings or feelings are blurred.
I really wanna help him. But it is really hard when you don’t get feedback about your actions. We can’t discover what he really wants. I don’t know what to do to make him happy. I often get anxiety because I think that I’m doing something unpleasant for him.
At least YOU'RE trying, THEY'RE not. It's not your fault.
@@rosemaryclarke2348 Thanks for responding to a 4 year old comment. Since then I changed on an extreme level. Drama isn't allowed in my life anymore. I apply that to myself especially. If you're holding me back you're out of the club, don't talk to me or about me. I've cut people out like the drop of a hat and never looked back. I don't care what people think about me anymore, good or bad. It's only about how I see myself and I'm my own biggest fan.
My life has never been this good. 10/10 would recommend for everyone.
@@CyranofromBergerac GOOD FOR YOU!
The worst thing is when someone who you don't get on with befriends all of your friends (whether intentionally or unintentionally) and then manipulates you, leaving you nobody to go to.
can you do a video on letting go of an old friend? it would help me and a lot of other people more than you could ever imagine. thank you
Why did I barely get notified for this 2 month old video?
It was unlisted.
Yes haha. We do our diligent to make sure we make content in advance. Last two weeks, we've released over 4 videos, even though we aim for 1 a week.
You can talk of anxiety being around people. In recent years I have been very anxious when dealing with people or in environments with many people without reason, before I did not have this problem. Sorry for my english and thanks
My entire is difficult, And it took a while to learn what to do but overalll it’s nice being reaffirmed that I’m doing it right.
I feel that having an understanding of why someone may be difficult is useful for understanding that their reasons for being difficult may not entirely be their fault. However, I still feel their not usually worth the effort. I don’t want to use My time navigating a difficult person, I’d rather spend my time with people who make me happy or even just by myself.☺️
I find that picking up the difficult person, screaming "BEGONE THOT", and throwing them works quite well.
Granted, after doing that everybody avoids you. Which considering my social issues seems to help.
It's really hard to get the trust of those difficult people, especially if they have a negative view of things that is caused by some event that triggered them to act like that way (though not all of them are like that, and is just a little lost). If you're in front of them, just act normal. They indeed need some help, but they wouldn't like the fact that you're trying to help them. The only way to fix this is to build up your trust, spend more time with them and they would open up to you.
Difficult people just need love and understanding
Exactly. You nailed it.
If I could, I would go out and give everyone a hug, well, not *everyone,* but you know what I mean.
Congratulations.
You just spelled out most teens and young adults nowadays. If _only_ people followed this advice.
Good delivery dis video, on the table, pure simple, (Not easy, but simple!) and well said, +1 Like.
I'm a difficult person =-=
No worries. We can all relate. Video coming up soon on that topic.
do you mean it?
How to deal with over protective parents? I know my parents mean well but they are creating a toxic environment for me and I'm seeing no guilt-free way out.
Only thing this video helped me understand is that I am a difficult person
Mhm. I'm sure we can all relate too at some level. no one is perfect neither are us.
If i got a flat tire on the way to a meeting, i would probably be really happy.
0:29 You spelled "Psychologist" wrong lol.
Sometimes if you don’t understand something then you need to get rid of it. Some toxic people are black holes. There is nothing you can do to help them accept fire them or get them out of your life so they don’t bring you down with them
I found this out on my own always been doing it but your help me bring things together
Happy to hear!
Toxic friendships shouldnt be keot up if they only bring you down...
Can you make a video about relationship or differences between the characteristics of an introverts or someone who’s been abuse or neglected and a difficult person?
Can you please do one on ODD and ADHD? I’d really like one
im a difficult person and im not changing that about myself. People feel like im automatically a victim and try to help me when i never asked for help. Then they complain about me being difficult, its annoying.
What's the difference between a difficult person and a narcisist?
A difficult person wants to get something that he can't and a narcissist is someone who thinks he's better than everyone
I've been in a romantic relationship with my girlfriend who is a difficult person for six months now. I thought that we could mutually help one another, however, her constant negativity and bleek outlook has been stifling my positive optimism to the point I've attempted suicide, destroyed my own belongings, online photos/friendships and have grown a hatred of her and my own life. Her treatment resistance depression mixed with major depression and anxiety (plus allergies to her two dogs) pushes me overy limit daily.
Hopefully this week I'll be able to break free with her financial support, though we've talked about it three times before...
What I love about this channel is whenever I've been currently through something, the video that related to my condition just appeared in the next or few days later. Lol. Are you guys psychic
I use optimism as a coping mechanism for my anxiety to try to ignore it
I don’t know, I don’t know bro. I had deal with a difficult person and I didn’t know what to do which then lead to breaking me and losing myself in the long run. I don’t want to go through the same thing again. Especially when the person doesn’t know how to communicate it’s so stressful.
I don't really say anything,no matter what I just TRY to understand. It's hard though,its not that their negative at all.
Of course, even the most emotional and angry person or the bully have stories.
My sister is somewhat difficult, a middle child and often impulsive, angry, negative, and anxious, although somewhat intelligent.
Now I feel bad, because I realized I forced positivity onto her- wish I could've seen it sooner.
Yes! I need this since my little sister is difficult
My problem is I'm the difficult person, and I think the worst part is when my mom tells me that I have to start talking more to people and be more kind and receptive, but is not that easy because it's like I'm going to make some mistake or I just don't want to talk. I do have depression and anxiety too, so that makes everything harder, because I'm afraid that with my "not good" behavior people will go away and I'll be all alone or living in my parents house for the rest of my life and it's so hard for me to trust and to make friends without thinking they'll go away or they not being true with me or they just planning something to laugh of me. I need my time alone, I'm negative, I'm super clingy sometimes but in other times I don't like any kind of contact, but it's not like I can control all of this and make people stay because this takes all my energy away...
Omg this is me, I am a difficult person as in someone who turns off most people. Most people don't like me when they get to know me for long time. They like me for the brief moment when we meet. Then it's over. They expect my unable to openess to be temporary. Truth to told, I want to talk, talk a lot, but I simply don't know how. The only people who talk to me despite my bad attitude is my parents.
Could you please share a video on healthy father daughter and mother daughter relationships ?
I don’t know what to do because my (ex?) best friend is definitely a difficult person. She got angry at me for being paranoid and asking if she’s mad all the time when I think she sounds mad because it’s annoying, and proceeded to say things like how she wanted me to be mean to her, but when I asked if she really meant it, she said no. I feel like she really does want my concern but can’t help but be mean about it and get mad at me unreasonably when I show it, saying she doesn’t want my pity and things, and after our friendship has potentially ended now, I still feel bad and thinking I should have tried harder to be understanding and nice as I usually do, and then it would have been okay. But at the same time, my mum and one other friend (who gives advice when this happens but I find hard to be close with) are telling me either to just not reply to her or to tell her that she’s wrong and “fight fire with fire” as my friend put it. I ended up just not replying to her after she said she wouldn’t speak to me again if I didn’t say anything now, because I felt she’d just gotten too used to me being the one to pull us back together every time, to be the one who puts in the effort, even if that means subjecting to her harsh words and not standing up for myself, which I should have started to do before she got too comfortable. Maybe then I could have saved it. I just feel like I should have done something more, that I should have found the right words and tried harder to understand her again, but at the same time she just made me so upset, she’s said so many things to me that I don’t know how to handle, she’s been so difficult and changed me in many ways. She previously argued with me that I had “changed” into a sassy person and since then, I’ve become paranoid instead, and now she’s mad about that too. I just don’t know how to deal with her anymore and understanding just makes me feel so small and weak and hurt. I don’t know if I’ve done the right thing, especially because we actually get on very well when these things aren’t happening.
This makes me feel so guilty cuz I know I'm being difficult af... But I just can't help it, I'm really going through a shitty stage of my life...
Wow this is soo true..I have a trust issue problems and I have a lot of faces and I know how and when to use them...I try coming out but all my beloved one never care and they thought I was joking
Well we all fake after all right..sorry for being so emotional here
I feel bad I'm difficult but ive had so much emotional damage it's hard to be happy
Idk how to start this but my problem is that I feel like difficult people want us to be there for them and be caring but when we are in trouble they don't do the same. It's not a win-win situation. I've been around d.p. and it's always the same way, they want support but they never give it back, and it becomes frustrating, because everyone goes through bad things, and I still try to be a better person and help others still having a lot of unfinished problems with myself. I just feel they don't put themselves in the others place. Thinking that makes me feel guilty and insenstive, but I still think the same.
I was difficult
I was a teen
This is a good video. Very helpful.
this and high functioning depression video sums me up.
this came just in time...I'm a difficult person...I don't know what to do..I'm all angry and hurt that my online bf called my past, I thought I share. "pointless drama" when it isn't that, it happened to me in real life that left me depressed for 4 years and almost being sent away to get help! and now, I don't want to talk to him at all, or nothing to do with him. and to add to my plate, he said my drama, added to him not wanting to talk to me, and he was about to hold a grudge. but he didn't and we texted. but I'm a person with pretty bad case of anxiety and relationship anxiety. I need help.....
Somebody send this to Phyllis to help her with Angela
I love this channel, would you mind doing a video on how not to be that difficult person? I'm starting to be one and I don't like it :'c
Thank you 💯♥️
And always try to find the silver lining in every cloud! - AKA: look for the bright side of every situation.
Yes! A great little piece of advice! :) Thank you for sharing this!
3:33 Me looking at all the subjects I've failed this year
I love your videos! It would be so cool if you could do some videos on Bipolar Disorder! Please! Keep going! :)
Wish there was a video on how to deal with being the difficult person
Will you guys ever do a video on bipolar disorder.
Yes, please. I don't get angry that often but living with my manic man definitely makes me struggle to kerp my patience, so a bipolar or manic video would rock
How would you categorize people who are easily offended, take stuff the wrong way, and gossips about it to people who validate them and vilify the other person (without even knowing the full story)?
yes
Thanks ~
Self-Care is chugging a lavalamp
Informative video. There are so many variables in dealing with difficult people - and why they are difficult AND taking in to account our own personality, it would vary from person-to-person. I have my own ways on how I deal with these people; But I am in a different situation than most of you. I may vlog about this in my next video.
When you came to learn out how to deal with people you think ate difficult but it describes you instead
Sometimes these videos make me feel hopeless and idk how to cope with a problem if it isn't what i wanna hear
*2:10 I half expected that butterfly to suddenly be consumed by flames.
I first just thought of myself but it seems to fit my brother too...
This one girl at my school just told everyone in my grade that my best friend is gay and that I’m also gay and I’m dating her. Which both of those are NOT true I’m Bisexual and we never dated, now everyone in my grade now and I tried to tell the girl she better stop what’s she’s doing because it’s been going on for months and I’m ready to make Karma get her but she was being super stubborn and saying I can tell people what I want.
You described my father
I'm tired of people telling me to get over it.
It's going to take me years to finally "get over" CSA, and now, the suicide of one of my friends, not seconds.
I really am trying to feel happy and make healthy decisions, but it's _really_ hard, and having people not even try to understand or even listen, makes it harder... I just want someone to listen and at least try to be open-minded.
Sometimes people can be nasty for really sad reasons. (strangely enough, i usually ask my friends if they're 0K if i'm going through something extreme, like, I don't know, the death of one of my friends I could have saved)
I like this video but a lot of your points seem to be very unrealistic. An “important meeting” is an important meeting in which, in most cases, cannot be rescheduled. That’s just life and no one can change it. And I question I have is, if you’re born into a family of hate and yelling, can you ever escape?
Clara Boime Accepting that '' that's just life '' is a very mature and wise way to look at it also. Understanding that you are not responsible for their happiness and focusing more on your own happiness via self-care can be your escape from their hold on your emotional and mental health. Also, finding or having a social circle other than your family in which you feel comfortable and positive can greatly help. Make eye-contact and smile at people, talk to acquaintances. Don't give up and be strong!
My bf twin brother is my best friend,he doesn't mind we have our good times and our bad times We talk about dumb stuff but he isnt open with himself and I know he has Depression ,and he has been hiding it until he broke up with his gf😢 I cried cause my bf said his eyes where only glossy. I wish i was with him at that moment but no😞 makes me sad cause all the shit they have gone through
Can you guys please make a video about alexithymia.
I would really appreciate it 💟
3:36 Proof that going towards the light doesn't mean death.
I know I'm not the difficult person. When you continue to lie,cheat and steal. I don't agree with those behaviors. This is what they have done to me. Trying to control my life
I know a very difficult person. Someone who pisses others off very easily and gets pissed off very easily. How can someone so sensitiv to everything be so unsensitiv?
I mean, she's rude to me, and when i signal her, that im not listening anymore, she throws eveything off and gets mad at me.
Or like almost everytime, she can decide whatever, but when others try to figure out the best solution for a situation, she gets pissed off, because she wasnt inside the discussion to solve the problem. But we layed down all our solutions and she just had to say if she is fine with one of them.
We also cant discuss WITH her, because you cant talk against her, and tell her, that her idea has some flaws (is shit), no matter how friendly you tell her with wisly chosen words.
Or the one time, she requested a boardgame evening at my place. So i invited some people so we are a full party. But after hearing that i invited someone unknown to her, she got relly pissed and didnt show up at that evening, dragging 3 others with her to not showing up.
I cant remember that she ever askes me for something out of consideration. the only times she askes me, is when she wants something from me. Actually im glad, that she isnt related to me, but my brother decided to marry her the other day...
What happens if you can't reschedule the meeting because you are just a lackey who has been told you need to be there? Then it really is a bad situation.
Some people want their ass kissed, attention seek as well, make little situation's snowball into something else & overly sensitive.I'm verrrrrry direct when i can pick up on a "difficult person".
How do I stop being a difficult person
We will put a video up on that. What aspects of yourself do you find difficult to others?
Alejandra Styles - listen to what people have to say. hear thier side, then be difficult😉
Agree with Quigster. It starts with feeling good about yourself first..
I actually hate myself, so there's that getting in the way of not being difficult.
I don't really trust people anymore
I am easily drained in large groups
I'm extremely emotional, and it sucks because I hate being weak around anyone. (I view basically everyone I've ever met as a possible threat or enemy, so I try hard to keep my guard up)
The thing I love most is talking to my online friends, but one lives in Ireland and the other is extremely depressed. She increases my anxiety and sadness but God it feels so good when she talks or messages back. It's honestly sad how attached I've become. That's probably another reason I hate expressing myself around other people. I've gotten attached and hurt way too many times.
I honestly want someone to help, but at the same time I don't. It frustrates me when I recognize I need help, and I retreat deeper into my phone to try and escape that need for assistance.
Obviously it isn't working because here I am, throwing myself a pathetic ass pity party when I don't deserve shit.
Oh.... Um... I relate to The last one really... it's like Okay... Um yesterday... My.. Pens dissappeared and i was like "....Oh that's fine! Maybe i do something wrong today??" And again,again,and again. It was like a circle. My moneys dissappeared my reactions's still the same, "Well~ I guess that's fine?" And now my phone's dissappeared. Okay let me tell you! When i'm in panic(that i can't found my phone anywhere) Usually I found it again or just the next day i found my phone back but with other reasons. Buuuut If i'm totally relaxed And thinks that "everything's going to be fine~" my phone won't come back.... It's weird alright?!(You can tell now that i lost a LOT of phones) Ik ik what you're thinking... why can't i just panic? Well... i already tried mkay? And... It won't work! No matter how many times i try it... It just won't work dammit! So i Pretend to be panic and scared in front of my friends/classmates when they know i lost my phone. I don't want to be known as a 'weird kid' that didn't react when they phone gone or as a 'rich kid' that don't care about phones or moneys. You can say... I'm ashamed of myself... Lol... I'm pretending Everyday... it's like my job now... To keep my reputations... Ow... My chest hurt... What's going on...
Feuhhwwww!!! After watching this, I realized that I just overcame being a difficult person. 😂😂
I'm a little like this now it was ten times as worst when I was younger
What if I am the difficult person? How do I change so I don't bring down my loved ones anymore?
When I moved to another city everyone literally started acting werid. It's like people can't hear me as well or they take what I say out of context. Or they over think what I say. Ik it isn't me because I talk to my friends online and they act so regular