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When she started talking about how she had survived that car wreck and had to rebuild herself after suffering with brain damage, and dropping 2 deviations in her IQ level, which led to losing her sense of identity, because she had always been known as the smart girl. I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and was so happy when she said that she is now a professor at Harvard. She is the epitome of fake it until you become it but in the absolute best way possible, because she has lived it, simply, INCREDIBLE!!
I can't even deny it, I cried. I realized how far I have come after my accident. I spent almost a year in physical and occupation therapy , pushing myself because I have two little girls that were depending on me. My Army career was done after that...and it took me a while to realize that I was one of the lucky ones. Today, I still deal with the effects of the TBI, but I have adapt. I'm so grateful to have the opportunity of seeing my babies grow, one graduating from HS and the other close behind.
i literally call this my favorite ted talk ever. i watched it for the first time nearly 2.5 years ago when i was shy and unconfident in myself and my looks and personality and basically everything about myself. i followed this message and now i am the best and most beautiful person i know. i walk around like i run the place and i am not afraid of what people think of me mostly. i still am working on becoming better in social situations and being able to talk to anyone and not being afraid but i am way better now than i was before
I used to be extremely shy. To try and work on that, I used to challenge myself with "today I will ask one stranger for the time". That's it, and most times I failed even that. During all this time, I kept forcing myself to talk to people, to open up. I forced myself but never felt comfortable with it, I knew I'm faking a personality that I desire instead of being myself. Five years later, I keep making myself talk to strangers, but it doesn't feel like I'm forcing myself. I can do it as me, not a mask that I'm wearing, but my real, new self. I'm now able to talk to anyone. Last month I lead a conversation with two strangers for 10 minutes. It might not sound impressive to you, but the person I one were could never imagine doing that. So I really identify with what you said about faking it, because that is how you mold yourself to the person that you want to be
yeah. People just doesn't realize how easy it is to do things, just try. I'm still in my third year of middle school but I'd say I'm similliar to you. I used to be very awkward and shy, but now I can talk with strangers comfortably
In short words you gotta find a monster that hides inside you and start amplifying it, exploring it. Later, this demon will help you to interact with strangers. And you also need to learn how to engage in conflicts and be assertive. It's a must. If you wanna learn more, start listening to Jordan Peterson about agreeable people.
Little known fact: Originally, the video was not planned to be this long. She decided to add that last personal experience in the moment, which has evidently made it much more popular than it would have been.
@@Xirnatts I was just about to say this same thing, funny how people are still watching this whole thing after basically 7 years since the scientific evidence has been debunked and keep saying how this changed their lives, just goes to show how much people can believe stuff if they want to, even without any data to support the claims... Tnx statistics course!
@@boli6083 , as pessoas confundem ausência de confirmação científica com a verdade. O fato de não haver comprovação científica não significa que é uma mentira, ou que não possa ser defendido. Evidentememte, estamos falando de algo que não tem graves consequências o serem praticados.
The gospel is the GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM! Repent and believe the gospel! Follow Jesus’ teachings! Jesus is going to return and set up the kingdom of God ON THE EARTH! God’s government ON THE EARTH! The Messiah will resurrect his people! The destiny of the Messiah and his people is to be ON THE EARTH! The renewed restored earth! God also dwelling with them! Rev 21
“Fake it ill you become it”- The most impressive statement ever!! As a girl in middle school with so many outstanding fellows, I cried a river along my way to graduation. But through all those tearful years, I know found what my true identity was: Always keep up with your work, and don’t limit your identity as just a “normal” student
I am man and I also used to cry even in 5th or 6th grade publicly. Then later stopped doing that publicly but after I am at home with so much stress, tears also used to appear. In last year I was not sure if I am insane, when exams added even more stress and I had to be still aroud those idiots who care about illegal fighting and I was also in that organised crime, because my best friend kept telling me to do this and he was not leaving my home until I accepted. Good that police stopped us and we went home and noone was hurt. You are powerless child and how the schools are being done stupidly, I cannot imagine. If I would tell to lets say parents or some other adults about this, then it would be bad for me in school also. Was no way out besides maybe leaving the school, asking parents to drive me to another school which would be stress again and whole village would be talking about me going to other school, would ask me why and what would I say? Its insanity.
All those comments about her being annoying because of her "mouth noises" and sniffing are actually the reason why so many people, who are shy and not confident, will never take the risk to speak and "fake it, until they make (become) it"!
Your comment about the NEGETIVE comments posted here, Is exactly how I feel! I'm not a shy or person lacking in confidence , that's how I used to view my ability to forge ahead apparently fearless. Based on this "talk", I have realized I had been practicing exactly what she is talking about it turners out I have been doing all along without even realizing it! To all the people wondering if they should give this method a try, I say YES! Besides what do you have to loose? Thank you as well Elodie for spotting the HATERS!
It's because those who lack confidence have no other recourse to do than to pick at little things to belittle and drag others down, so when one sees comments like that insulting others, like the speaker in the video, it shows just who has the lowest amount of confidence in the comment chain.
For this issue I highly recommend Brene Browns TED Talks. She is everything! By sharing your personal story including your failures and pain to an enormous crowd you are a lot braver than the ones nitpicking anonymously in the crowd. - Watch her!
@@NChiggi I've watched her Power of Vulnerability speech. It is inspiring, though I seen to need to find a balance, because there is such thing as revealing too much. In this situation I am switching from online discussion to real life encounters. As I found out, sharing my vulnerabilities in an effort to appear brave and someone to be liked, more often than not, backfired. Instead I got treated as someone less competent, someone to be pitied, rather than respected. So There must be a happy balance somewhere. Sharing just enough of my weaknesses to gain trust, but not so much that people question if they should suggest I see a psychiatrist.There's another Ted talk I remember on this issue that I'm describing but the speaker's name is slipping from my mind. It has to do with those who are viewed by the crowd as being respectable and an with a level of expertise being more liked when they blunder vs those the crowd deems as incompetent and sees their blunders.
I did not realize how amazing this speech is until it comes to 16:10 when she started to share her own story. It is not about how great the the story is or how great the way she told the story, but she finally become not nervous anymore. She talked without stops, repetition and looking down to the floor or her hand, she started to look at the audience and speak more fluently. The change is not because she remembers this part of speech better than other parts, but you can feel that she really want to talk about that story and how big impact the story made on her. It is interesting because the topic of this speech is about body language of being powerful, and her own behavior just suits into the speech perfectly without herself maybe realizing that.When she finished her own story and came back to the final part of the talk, she went back to her initial way of giving the talk.
I agree with you analysis of her body language, however this sadly doesn't change the fact that what she says is wrong... (to be more exact it has not enough support by scientific studies)
I was in a CVS & a stranger smiled at me as she passed me in the aisle. This was years ago, pre-covid. Her spirit was radiant, so much that it made me stop & reflect on how lovely a human being she was & how the kindness of strangers can be so impactful. Then I got in line behind her, & another customer walking by stopped, turned to her & thanked her for writing a particular book. She graciously thanked him, & I remember going back to my car after that & searching the book to see who she was. It was Amy Cuddy, & then I remembered watching this, & it was kind of a mindfxck. Anyway yeah she's super chill & beautiful. Love coming back to this talk.
@@annmotts No,she is simply nervous and control herself. Drugs’ abusers look like less self-controlled and they seem to be unable to control the line of their speach for more than big audience …. It was an interesting, motivating and honestly speech for me.
One thing about society is it is in this Goldilocks fantasy... If your sad... its OK but if your sad over 3 days we are going to give you a pill... OH she was so happy... and nice... but after a while... she is just too positive... no one can be that happy... I have had interactions too like this...
The reason why this talk is so attention catching and touching is because Amy Cuddy is REAL, she shows herself truly in this talk and while the content is amazing as well, I truly believe that her soul shines through her words and her body language. Truly beautiful - thank you for the message!
+teddy Baltz Or in a more possitive way: We move forward together. It's not a about competition buddy. For example wouldn't you enjoy being around posstive confident people, thanks to this lady's talk?
+teddy Baltz All this info has been known for years. In the words of Jim Rohn, motivation is what it takes to get you started and habit keep it going. odds are, less than 5% of the people that watched this will put it into affect. You have the power to be among the few. I believe in you my brother!
@@imamgiuseppe5103 Seems to me she just needs some water. A dry mouth while you're talking, esp. on stage is gonna cause a little anxiety. I wish these speakers would stop and take a sip of water now and then.
I've never met anyone that gets completely over stage fright. Not professional actors/actresses, not professional dancers, not college teachers. No one. For some though it becomes kind of the fuel for going out to that stage. So if someone tells me they're not afraid to speak in public the available options are, they're lying, completely dead inside or can't feel any emotions
Aaron Oxborough amen to this brother!! Some of us lost it in our childhood, but some people lost is minutes from birth.. literally we are all born to be resilient and extremely powerful but life beats us down and makes it seem impossible!! Pray to god for strength and put in the WERK 💪💪
How did u come to that conclusion? In a split second we may develop an illness that causes us to rapidly deteriorate. Someone perfectly healthy today may end up I’ll tomorrow. And you think we are powerful?
@@jayceontaylor8195 Powerful in one's spirit, mindfulness, emotional well being, and confidence are all powerful ways of being... not just power in physical health. The speaker in this TedTalk is talking about inner courage / inner strength. ❤️
HER SPEECH GAVE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY. When she started talking about feeling like she was not supposed to be at Harvard but then one of her students said the same thing, it even gave goosebumps on my face. She is one successful woman. Internally and externally. Thank you so much!
I did this very thing when I was 16. I was a shy introvert when my family moved from one school district to another city. It was then I decided I didn't want to be shy and introverted but WANTED to be extroverted and outgoing. Since no one at the new school knew I wasn't already extroverted, I "faked" it till I became it. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. I am now 62 and most people I know can't believe I never lacked confidence.
Similar story to you! I was really shy and had a bit of social anxiety before,but after starting at a new school,decided to fake the confidence when socialising with others. Although it was awkward and uncomfortable at first, one year on, it's second nature to me
Wow how awesome. Thanks for sharing your story, it is interesting to hear about these kinds of willful changes of self. I used to be very under-confident and suffered from pretty bad social anxiety, I lacked friends for most of my formative years and it left me lacking in social graces and positive self-image. Only until I came to a new state and met someone who made friends everywhere they went and saw how they acted, did I realize I could make the change. I adopted a very positive and confident persona at the college I began attending. I dressed differently, threw out the big sweaters and put a summer dress on for once. Ever since then things haven't been perfect but I've been so much happier with myself, and I expect as life progresses this positive attitude will lead me to my goals. I hope other women who feel powerless or like their value is dependent on societies expectations can evaluate how valuable real confidence, real love for your self, truly is.
You mean shy, not introverted. The first one is a state of mind, the second one is a personality trait which can't be changed. You either like having a lot of social interactions or you really really need time for yourself to recharge in order to be your best self in the next social event.
All she is saying is that humans are visual creatures when they're judging other humans and it's good to take advantage of it so we can be more successful in social interactions.
I recently gave myself a new habit/daily task to watch one TED talk each weekday in the morning before starting work. I come to the channel, sort the videos by popularity, and watch the next one down the list. The talks before this are very popular for good reasons (mostly) and the information they share is validly helpful, but this one, this one shattered me. This one grabbed 48-years of struggle, 48-years of feeling invisible and powerless, and showed me a different way. Obviously, it's not a magic pill, and I won't be interviewing for CEO of a Fortune 500 company next week (not that I would want to anyway,) but Ann gave us physical, tangible things to do, things to pay attention to, that have proven to help, even in the slightest of manners. Thanks for this, to TED, to Ann Cuddy, and everyone who had a part in the process.
I watched this for one of my classes and sometimes, I admit, I only half pay attention to required videos but this one completely captivated me. When she told her personal story I literally started to cry because I used to be that girl she was describing. I had horrible social anxiety and struggled so much with day to day interactions. Now I am getting more confident everyday and have taken on roles that I never thought I could do as a painfully shy teenager. Fake it until you become it really does work.
You know... you guys with negative comments about her hair, her mouth and so on you should stop now because all the one who are criticizing probbably don't even have enough courage to talk in front of their classroom, if her hair is to her left or right so what thats her personality and she said "fake it till you make it". Unfortunately i was looking for a comment in the comment section for someone who was standing up for her so i could like it and support them but unfortunately there were none, atleast not one that i saw. I honestly didn't even notice all those things because i was actually focusing on what she was teaching. Amy great job, you definitely made a big turning point in my life, so thanks keep it up! :)
I watched her speech on youtube when I have mentally ill.I couldn't have go out.but I tried to act the person who I want to be, my life has begun. I respect her.I really appreciate her. Arigato.
Amy Cuddy is a very good example of "fake it till you make it" because there is nothing scientific about power posing. It is highly debated because there is no evidence that it works. It is impossible to replicate because it is complete bogus.
I wonder why half the comments here are about her performance in delivering this talk rather than its content. The part about how even people blind since birth still strike the winning poses when winning an athletic competition is really interesting. Its a good reminder of how the mind and body are connected and you can learn a lot about humans by watching other speicies of animals.
Because the way you present something is as important as the content for some people. The lip smacking and constant heavy breathing is really really annoying and some people just concentrate on that more.
+g1g2g3g4g5gt I didnt realise it at all, mainly because I found the content she was talking about so interesting that I blocked off everything but the words.
+J13alls Because they have a petty spirit and they probably lean more towards having a social path/psycho path personality as opposed to being compassionate and understanding. I finished watching this video and thoroughly enjoyed Amy's message and presentation. I laughed, smiled , got a little teary eyed and felt better about myself while watching this video.I didn't notice any of the petty things that some of these commenters mentioned. I can only pity them and pray that they somehow become more enlightened and compassionate.
I tried the power posing for 5 minutes before my english speech in high school. (english isnt my mother tongue) and it did really help, calmed me down so much. and the shakiness was also gone. in the bathroom stall. just focusing on breathing. Amazing!
Minute 18:29 and I am sitting here crying, goosebumps on my arms. Our internal talk can be so damaging...or so eye opening. Faking it til I become it! Loved everything about this!
Steph Arlette the results were p-hacked, according the Cuddy’s co-researcher. In addition, numerous universities replicated the experiment and their results had no statistical significance
Amy Cuddy: Brilliant demonstration of a conscious effort to practice living out a dream. Great rhythm, pace and enthusiasm. Excellent speaking skill, and emotional connection made with audience. Bravo for choosing to win over your difficult experience. Your vision and hope have made a great story powerful.
@@LuisRobertoBelo Should not be too useful, unfortunately, as there has been no evidence for Power Posing in follow up studies (Simmons & Simonsohn (2017), Ranehill et al. (2015), Ronay et al. (2016), etc.) The first one from 2017 is the most important I think, as it compares 33 other studies, all showing no effect
When I need my self-esteem, I always come back to this. I have been living all my life with this idea, I’m not good enough. I tried hard to overcome, but the thought always caught my leg before going on to the next level that I looked up to. When I was in law school, I was so devastated with the competitive environment. I was surrounded with smart students and I felt I was no one. The fact that I was so insecure, made me more insecure. I knew I had something in me, but it didn’t seem to be shown. I was struggling so hard when I watched this video. And it really hit me. The idea that I can fake it until I become it gave me a strange relief that it was okay to admit that I am no one, but at the same time it gave me a strength to keep trying no matter what the results were. It was okay because I worked hard and it will get better. it was like a small disbelief within Greater belief. Thank you for sharing this ted. It really changed how I see me.
I relate to you completely because this is exactly what I'm going through at my university where everyone is literally a genius which makes me doubt my abilities. Like you, I am aware that I have something in me which hasn't blossomed for everyone to see yet. You are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing. Hwaiting ❤️
Next time, just before the act, close ur eyes and say "dear God, help this imperfect soul to connect and share my thoughts with other imperfect souls here". And imagine a connection between ur heart and their hearts, shining bright. :)
Sure, on one hand this may be an inspiring, empowering and even enlightening presentation, but on any level, for any of you did it not glaringly highlight how baselessly manipulatable, maliable, exploitable and insecure we can be despite how our faculties are "supposedly" superior to the "animals" we tout ourselves as being so separate from? I mean, appearances should bear some level of significance and without a doubt can immediately communicate a slew of information (though reception presents many problems and, as noted, potential loopholes), but it never has been more will be fully informative. I just see this information as being more an indicator of characteristics to beware, more closely examine, supercede and defend against rather than continue to endorse, mimic or employ for 'personal gain'. IMO, the premise of 'royal bloodlines' and other facades which only promote our division, warp value systems, impede progress and ultimately serve to further the destructive tendencies our kind's covetry have, as one example, perpetuated across and upon this beautiful planet, our species and our co-habitants. Truth is truth and also a lie is a lie is a lie. True power never comes from the outside just as it never yields to the misconceptions and lesser impressions that stem from the same source. Obama fist bumping that security guard was the perfect example of true power, because true power elevates all instead of merely seeking to allude to or project the appearance of being elevated above another.
if you're always feeling low on confidence check if you have hunched shoulders. if you do pull them back to where they should be. this made the world of difference to me, it literally is changing my life. I don't know if it's a placebo but I feel much more confident now
I feel like I'm very relieved about being reached this video. I've been struggling with my lack of confidence recently after I graduated my univ. This one just made me cry and gave me hope to overcome it. It is just a masterpiece!
I don’t know why but when she was talking about her personal story, I started to cry… That girl who used to think ‘I don’t belong’ here was me. I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. Thanks a lot, Amy.
Bruh, he's smiling not because he's excited (I'm not saying he's not excited) but because she was talking about body language, and he was jokingly fixing it
10:50 (right picture) this is how I sat when I was being interview by 4 people in my current job, I usually sit like this when I feel like im going to be scrutinized so instead of stressing about doing "the perfect thing", I realized I could only be myself comfortably and that if they didn't accept me for who I am in my most relaxed human state that I shouldn't work there in the first place. Its like a filtering mechanism, you are most happy when you are yourself and when you are relaxed, so if you want to be happy you do it by being honest to yourself, pretending to be someone you're not is dishonesty to self and others and it will only lead to misery. I changed because I realized I had no other choice, it wasn't rational for me to bury my true self and replace it with feelings of fear. Later i was told by 2 of the interviewers that the "interview" seemed more like a conversation, I was speaking to them without fear, I showed vulnerability while 4 people were looking at me writing stuff down on paper. In school you are taught how one "should pick up the phone" what sentence structures to use to be deemed "professional" how one should compose letters etc... Most of my fear when using the phone came from trying to abide by fixed rules of phone interaction which I didn't want to "get wrong" whatever that is. I erased this fear by realizing that the person on the other side of the line is exactly like me, they have fears, they have a family they have dreams, they are vulnerable, they are ultimately human, what they are not is "a manager", "a receptionist", "a service worker at a restaurant", these labels are people's functions in society they are not reality. I talk to these people like I would talk to a friend, my language is not official, I'm not afraid of talking to them in human terms "well what do you think I should do then?" you show vulnerability and you show trust in the person, you show that you value their opinion, and the person on the other end of the line will warm up to you on a human level. These interactions are priceless human moments. Sometimes I'll get someone on the phone who talks very officially, usually a younger person recently employed and "well trained", they don't treat me like a human, they go by their training and talk to me like a "customer", but the funny thing is that if you talk to them straight and don't participate in their little sterile interaction they start adapting to you because you make them realize that it feels far better to talk on a more personal level and to treat each others more like friends than caricatures of corporate society.
Thank you for this. I had done this method and lots of people say you will not become manager and always put me down and they told me your english is you’re third language. Manager needs to have great english language and your not one of them. The person who told me that was someone very close to me that is supposed to support me. So hearing from him, i felt very disappointed and doubt myself to then point i start agreeing with his point of view. Fake it till you become it and i did it at age 30 yrs old and i become a manager in prestigious firm and thank u so much for ur advice.
I had been avoiding watching this TED talk for years! Every time the thumbnail appeared in my suggestions, I would think to myself "I don't want to watch a talk about body language!". Then today, I picked up Amy Cuddy's book "Presence" and realized that her talk was what I had been avoiding for all these years! All I can see is that, this came at the right time and when the student became ready, the teacher appeared. I'm going to start power posing to greatness!!!!
billiebille I don't mean to sound repetitive but this has been proven fake just google power posing is bad and you'll see edit: Also a new york times article When the Revolution came for amy cuddy.
The talk is from 2012. If you read the linked faq and the studies who tried to replicate it. You will see that not a SINGLE other study measured these hormone changes and also the other effects can only be reproduced from a few studies with very small sample size(means more variance and noise). The biggest study with 200 participants showed no relevant positives in any area. Amy Cuddy and her team were "p-hacking" - manipulating the data they got until the experiment gave them the results that they wanted it to. Pretty common practice to boost your studies. She is living the "fake it until you make it". In a sense she was unlucky that this talk got as big as it is. So that other studies tried to reproduce it.
Her study claims power posing: 1) Increases feeling of power. 2)Has a physical effect on hormones. While it is true that it appears there appears no effect on hormones on studies that tried to replicate it, the other effect - feeling more power after power posing is still very real. - Paraphrased from Forbes, April 3, 2018 article by Kim Elsesser. The article has several links to the contradicting studies as well. In short, IMO your mind is a huge factor on how one will respond to a situation. How one think's things are, is going to effect you the most. If going through the power poses help at those times when I'm low, then it can surely help.
@@angelsintahoe You know how absurd the feeling of power makes as an evidence. It is called placebo effect which makes all the more reason to call it absurd. Also, The article by Kim Elsesser is absurd to claim that criticism is due to male dominance and also included politics in the article which decreases the authenticity of article. Her conclusions for criticisms are absurd, she got huge criticism because her talk exploded so peers started checking her paper.
I'm born and raised in a village in southern India. Studied in all local govt/public, girls only, schools of not high standards. I was always a confident clown and a naughty student throughout my schooling, though my grades used to be among top 3. Cleared the entrance exam to get my free govt seat for Engineering. There I witnessed suddenly people from varied background from big cities, top colleges, highly stylish and glamorous girls/guys whose so-called cool looks and attitude I couldn't match. Most of them called me a villager but I proudly accepted, bcz there is nothing to be ashamed of. People used to mock me for my thick accent (Mother Tongue Influence) on speaking English. I said "Only a fool would expect a British accent from a person who spoke only his mother tongue for 20 years. I speak English not out of love, but only for convenience in communication". I remained original. I never changed my style or looks and my attitude/confidence remained the same. The remained most confident/powerful student in the class, used to crack jokes in the middle of the lecture, could make the entire class laugh for hours. Guys/Bullies used to be afraid of misbehaving with me, bcz I could give back thoroughly. I used to be on top with good grades even there, so professors used to be on my side mostly. Slowly people got used to me and they started even liking me. I was the most sought out friend to hangout with. Now I'm a 10 years experienced s/w developer/professional. I worked in (jumped) several MNCs and startups have encountered different types of seniors/managers/leaders. Even now some people are surprised at my looks and how I speak. They can't believe I'm a software professional living in a big city in India! Yet I'm the same, THE COOL CONFIDENT VILLAGER. The point here I'm making is- Confidence/Power(mental) doesn't come from your background, style, dress, grades, money, looks. It comes from a mental stage (consciousness) where "You know what you are, accept it as normal or different. Also know what you are/doing/saying is not wrong and there is absolutely no need to be afraid of anyone!". Don't need to fake it. Just know that what you're doing/behaving is RIGHT and your intentions are RIGHT. If you ask me there is absolutely no way for one to be not confident/powerless, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal person. Infact these people tend to be more confident, which THEY FAKE IT! Edit: Again, don't confuse CONFIDENCE with ARROGANCE! You can be Confident Yet HUMBLE!
I highly doubt you could consider yourself a villager if you have spent 35% of your life in Cities. Anyways, I like your conclusion but I would also like to add IQ in that list. Thanks for the post which is not insane like video.
@@colinelunaire nope I'm not a role model. I'm just a commoner precisely a villager. That's the exact point I'm trying to convey. There's absolutely no need for anyone to live a extraordinary life to get confidence! Confidence is something very basic trait, should be part of every commoners life. We are just brain washed to live a shabby life with low confidence for no damn reason! They say you should be a confident brave modern woman! But what modernity got to do with confidence? If you don't have straight hair you're unprofessional? If you have thick accent you're too be laughed at. If you can't get good grades you're a loser! If you don't dress up fashionably you're old and boring! Somehow, something unnatural is always sold as the source of confidence! The only source is, should be, conscience, morality!
I disagree to the part where you said that confidence is natural, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal. Confidence is a trait, one can obviously learn but it doesn't have to be natural, for a truthful, moral or loyal person too. Maybe it is you being too judgemental of anyone with low confidence, out of your confident self :)
@@keepcalmandstanot7.724 I'm NOT judgmental. I'm just saying, it SHOULD be the basic trait. "Even if you are not a confident person until now, just BE CONFIDENT naturally, bcz you are a person with right intentions, bcz there is no need to fear". "If you know you're right "JUST BE CONFIDENT" Even if you don't know you're right still, "BE CONFIDENT" being conscious that your intentions are right and accept if you're wrong gracefully when someone proves/clarifies it."
I think I did it subconciously. I had depression, anxiety, low self-esteem. I just remember walking in the hallway with my head up, big steps and shoulders back. I am confident today, and I dare to say I'm assertive.
Oh my god I adore this lady, she's so everything I wish I could say to the world. I went from social anxiety nut to a normal confident girl because I faked it until I loved that person, and it was just me. I cried listening to her speech, I hope she empowers so many people. I plan to tell my friends about that pose, lets all be confident together
Empowers them with lies? Her research didn't pan out. There is no power posing effect (even her coauthor said so), unless you believe in it (but that's a completely different phenomenon), meaning that it's all placebo and no underlying effect.
There is no financial gain for her to teach that to people (other than selling a book or a show seat) so why spoil it for others? Let them find out for themselves. Nothing wrong if it was just a placebo - and it worked. Don't you think it would be great if YOU could be confident?
Wow this brought tears to my eyes! Most of the beginning I knew bc I’ve read books on body language and plus I’ve always had “star mentality “ bc I used to want to be a rapper , so I’d always go first for presentations and I’ve always showed confidence. But the second half got me bc she’s right! Fake it til you become it! That’s literally the key
Amy's talk was inspirational. She married facts with emotion. Comments viewed her as stressed out, anxious and nervous, thirsty and her lip smacking drove them nuts. I saw her as excited, factual, passionate and the lip smacking showed anticipation and interaction with her audience. She was honest.
i actually cried watching this, becoz my experience also resonates with hers. i'm gonna be 22next year and i'm enrolling in uni also as a freshman. i have had gone through rough patches through my life and finally trying to straightening things out. and i know i will make it
Thank you for commenting about this, I cried too because I SO felt her past pain with my own experiences! I felt so much universal love for her and understanding. God bless you too :)
I watched this video 5 years ago many many times. Today I'm always so touched by Amy Cuddy's researches and her commitment to support people who doesn't believe in us.
The is very true of phobias, and what therapists teach people is; they are actually afraid of the feelings of fear, and not the thing itself. This said, we do have to keep aware of the feeling of fear as, sometimes the hair rising on the back of our necks and other feelings can be a warning to go into fight or flight when a dangerous situation is upon us.
Alexander Dumitru ikr times have changed, social media has become very powerful and influential worldwide and it has changed the way people act, speak, eat, learn, etc. with this things are constantly changing, for some of us this may be too fast so in return we become less confident
when i was supposed to be in the american high school, i was very afraid of being ostracized by my family and friends. also i became powerless and frustrated for weeks and weeks and weeks... but i was inspired with this lecture and my testosterone had increased!! also cortisol had decreased !!! thx for this lecture
I feel so gratified. I was a little self-confidence and boring people, and often look at everything with a desperate mindset, but after listening to Amy Cuddy's TED, it's not impossible to change, change the way, spend a couple of minutes, little by little change, there will be results.
I had a very important Presentation today about which I was very nervous about for a month. I say this not to make it look like a story because it might look like one, but luckily i saw this video before the Presentation, and miracle happened. Not only did i do well, i got so confident, I picked up 2 girls also :D Thank you :)
+Matiss Paradise i am suffering from social anxiety with girls. the purpose of saying that i picked up 2 girls wasnt to show women being treated as objects but to show how good this video is in helping me in my anxiety :)
Oh my god, I had been identified as gifted as a child and then had a Traumatic Brain Injury in an accident and at 40 years old, I had lost at least 30% of my core Personality strength and identity. When I found out I had lost so much of who I was and many other personality traits, and not only dropped out of at least the top 1% but down to the very, very average IQ and fell to the floor in grief and sadness and finally ran out of the room before they had even finished reading the rest of results. I have experienced the tremendous loss for the last 11 years and I know exactly what she is talking about. See her tears...those are real.
It’s so odd. I watched this five years ago in high school. Now 22 I don’t have the same confidence as I had younger. Spirit has been beaten, and I’m working to regain it all. Got back in college and I feel so behind and not worth anything. I hope I’ll be able to smile like her at the end of this talk. What’s also odd is the fact that the comments are completely different. Used to be very positive. Bows there’s nothing but negativity and that sucks. I don’t believe in faking it until you make it. Be truthful and be respectful to others. Work for who you want to be, and understand you are here for a reason. You’re worth it.
I watched it 3 years ago in college. Thought I would make good habits. Now I got a job but still I am the same. Watching the video again I realized I can still do it.
This made SOOOOO much sense. The last picture you showed of the low powered poses, the one where the girl is holding her neck, is me EVERYDAY. I also raise my hand in a low powered way like that, and don't talk much. I only really show my true crazy funny confident self around my friends. I should give this a try for my next presentation in class! XD THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!
+Percy Cebo The people here looking for good speeches and who don't care about the actual content don't like the minor mistakes she makes like unnecessary pauses. Never even noticed till I read the comments, I don't care even now that I know. But I'm here for the content not the speech. That and some people are misinterpreting her "image is important" point for "images is everything". She's saying image is incredibly useful and a part of you. Which is true. Never once did she say it was the *only* thing that defines you. You don't need a good image to be successful, but it's certainly helpful.
+Percy Cebo The logical reason will become clear if you Google "Amy cuddy scientific overreach" to see that she was proven wrong. This whole study she is promoting is based on 17 people. Studying 300 more, other researchers found her findings completely made up.
I remember when I was younger I wasn't as social as I am now. I wouldn't say I was afraid to talk to people but if I didn't have to I never would. When I started my Retailmanagement major in college all those years ago I was forced to do internships in stores and businesses and interact with all kinds of people, even though I sometimes knew nothing about the product they had questions about. I had to deal with new customers, interested customers, angry customers,... anything you can imagine. Having to do this made me significantly more comfortable dealing with people, especially in unexpected scenarios. I would recommend everyone to get out of their comfort zone and do what scares you. Do what you think will make you freeze or lock up. It won't be easye but damn is it satisfying afterwards when you realize you CAN do it.
@@greatmerlin2731 hysterical 😂 well said. I wish she wasn’t so nervous, especially on a talk about body language. Super ironic haha and also immensely distracting
UPDATE: This research has recently been debunked along with hundreds of other famous psychology experiments, some of which amounted to full fraud. The collection of incidents has been called the reproducibility crisis and some organizations including the Society for the Improvement of Psychological Science are looking into ways to solve the problem of misinformation in the psychology community.
everyone's saying how her delivery of the speech was poor, but i think that apart from maybe being a little nervous and speaking a little too fast, this was actually really good especially bearing in mind her story. I mean sure she's nervous but i was enthralled the whole way through this talk, and that's not just down to content that's because of the delivery too.
I really had shivers and goosebumps and tears in my eyes in the last 5 minutes. I really admire your courage! Well deserved standing ovation 👏 Keep up with the good work..
Although this was a video assigned by my professor, its very motivational. I appreciate Amy Cuddy, and the "Fake it till you become it" analogy..amazing!
I genuinely impressed because she is speaking fluently and efficiently, I will try those poses when I look for a job thank you Amy cuddy you are a priceless woman. This video was recomended by my certificate course now I am glad to be here.
I decided to do this when I was 15 years old, just because I was tired of some of the people in my high school, and I was interacting with a new group. I made even more modification when I went into college and again when I moved to this country. She is completely right, you posture, the way you conduct yourself, the way you talk and interact with other, can really change a shy 14 year old kid into an amazing person that is ready to go and be the best version of oneself.
Thanks for changing my life!!!! I'm currently in grad school for counseling psychology and I feel like an impostor, like I shouldn't be there. I know that's wrong but my critical voice is louder than I thought. Thanks again!
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@@mitchellc4 the letter J wasn't invented until 1524. The Hebrew alphabet doesn't contain a J or an e. Jesus and Yahweh are not the father and sons name are they? The fact that verses like Proverbs 30:4 exists asking the reader if you know the father and the sons name? I do and it's not Jesus Christ. Iesos kristos is not the Messiah's name. Acts 4:12 says there is only ONE name under heaven which men are appointed salvation. Many will say lord lord havent we prophecied in your NAME???? He will say depart from me for I never knew thee....... Lukewarm christians don't know they are worshipping an Idol. Its clear as day if you actually take the time to look. Those with eyes to see know JESUS isnt the messiah. YAHUAH is the father. His son is Yahusha Yahushua ha mashiach Yahushua means Yahuah is salvation. You're welcome.
@@mitchellc4 how about instead of trying to validate your ego by comparing your own theological knowledge over mine based on the answer to a question about the "gospel" which you obviously are not familiar with because...... It has been changed and to take away from or add to the word is recipe for destruction, how about you try and address what I said and prove me wrong?
This is one of the best TED Talks of all time. I took an “Executive Speaking” class a few years ago and the instructor showed us this video in full. Ever since that day, I aced all my presentations and job interviews. It helped me come out of my shell and performed well with my MBA. I still use these techniques today in my presentations. Thank you Amy. ❤🎉
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But they are hidden..... Smh
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I showed this TedTalk to my son
Now he is my Father
Faizan Siddiqui, You need to watch it again and be his grandpa!
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When she started talking about how she had survived that car wreck and had to rebuild herself after suffering with brain damage, and dropping 2 deviations in her IQ level, which led to losing her sense of identity, because she had always been known as the smart girl. I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and was so happy when she said that she is now a professor at Harvard. She is the epitome of fake it until you become it but in the absolute best way possible, because she has lived it, simply, INCREDIBLE!!
Only those who have experienced that can give this kind of full-intensity speech.
I like to reframe the saying “fake it till you make it” to “face it till you make it!”
Fortunately I haven't been involved in any such tragedy, still I was overwhelmed with emotions and was clenching my jaw
I can't even deny it, I cried. I realized how far I have come after my accident. I spent almost a year in physical and occupation therapy , pushing myself because I have two little girls that were depending on me. My Army career was done after that...and it took me a while to realize that I was one of the lucky ones. Today, I still deal with the effects of the TBI, but I have adapt. I'm so grateful to have the opportunity of seeing my babies grow, one graduating from HS and the other close behind.
i literally call this my favorite ted talk ever. i watched it for the first time nearly 2.5 years ago when i was shy and unconfident in myself and my looks and personality and basically everything about myself. i followed this message and now i am the best and most beautiful person i know. i walk around like i run the place and i am not afraid of what people think of me mostly. i still am working on becoming better in social situations and being able to talk to anyone and not being afraid but i am way better now than i was before
read the book named" the what if principle"
I’m so happy for you and aspire to be like you one day!
Yaaass 💪🏽
RIGHT there with ya!
wow
I used to be extremely shy.
To try and work on that, I used to challenge myself with "today I will ask one stranger for the time". That's it, and most times I failed even that.
During all this time, I kept forcing myself to talk to people, to open up. I forced myself but never felt comfortable with it, I knew I'm faking a personality that I desire instead of being myself.
Five years later, I keep making myself talk to strangers, but it doesn't feel like I'm forcing myself. I can do it as me, not a mask that I'm wearing, but my real, new self.
I'm now able to talk to anyone.
Last month I lead a conversation with two strangers for 10 minutes. It might not sound impressive to you, but the person I one were could never imagine doing that.
So I really identify with what you said about faking it, because that is how you mold yourself to the person that you want to be
Even I experienced the same situation.....
yeah. People just doesn't realize how easy it is to do things, just try. I'm still in my third year of middle school but I'd say I'm similliar to you. I used to be very awkward and shy, but now I can talk with strangers comfortably
I am so proud of you ❤
In short words you gotta find a monster that hides inside you and start amplifying it, exploring it. Later, this demon will help you to interact with strangers. And you also need to learn how to engage in conflicts and be assertive. It's a must. If you wanna learn more, start listening to Jordan Peterson about agreeable people.
Very nyc...❤
the saying " I 'm not supposed to be here", "No, you are" is so touching for me.
yeah i cried at that point
@@serdarbicer719 me too
I cried there as well!
Most powerful moment. Gets me every time!
Interesting
Little known fact: Originally, the video was not planned to be this long. She decided to add that last personal experience in the moment, which has evidently made it much more popular than it would have been.
The power of vulnerability 😅
Little known fact: there’s no science behind power poses and the only research speaking about it wasn’t able to be replicated 🙊
@@Xirnatts I was just about to say this same thing, funny how people are still watching this whole thing after basically 7 years since the scientific evidence has been debunked and keep saying how this changed their lives, just goes to show how much people can believe stuff if they want to, even without any data to support the claims... Tnx statistics course!
As someone who records a podcast, the mouth clicks almost drove me insane.
@@boli6083 , as pessoas confundem ausência de confirmação científica com a verdade. O fato de não haver comprovação científica não significa que é uma mentira, ou que não possa ser defendido. Evidentememte, estamos falando de algo que não tem graves consequências o serem praticados.
Awww, she got a standing ovation! She deserved it too.
The gospel is the GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM!
Repent and believe the gospel! Follow Jesus’ teachings!
Jesus is going to return and set up the kingdom of God ON THE EARTH! God’s government ON THE EARTH! The Messiah will resurrect his people! The destiny of the Messiah and his people is to be ON THE EARTH! The renewed restored earth! God also dwelling with them! Rev 21
@@mitchellc4 Amen
The masses love pseudoscience.
Did you also see that one guy who didn't clap?
“Fake it ill you become it”- The most impressive statement ever!! As a girl in middle school with so many outstanding fellows, I cried a river along my way to graduation. But through all those tearful years, I know found what my true identity was: Always keep up with your work, and don’t limit your identity as just a “normal” student
I am man and I also used to cry even in 5th or 6th grade publicly. Then later stopped doing that publicly but after I am at home with so much stress, tears also used to appear. In last year I was not sure if I am insane, when exams added even more stress and I had to be still aroud those idiots who care about illegal fighting and I was also in that organised crime, because my best friend kept telling me to do this and he was not leaving my home until I accepted. Good that police stopped us and we went home and noone was hurt. You are powerless child and how the schools are being done stupidly, I cannot imagine. If I would tell to lets say parents or some other adults about this, then it would be bad for me in school also. Was no way out besides maybe leaving the school, asking parents to drive me to another school which would be stress again and whole village would be talking about me going to other school, would ask me why and what would I say? Its insanity.
All those comments about her being annoying because of her "mouth noises" and sniffing are actually the reason why so many people, who are shy and not confident, will never take the risk to speak and "fake it, until they make (become) it"!
"... become it"
Your comment about the NEGETIVE comments posted here, Is exactly how I feel! I'm not a shy or person lacking in confidence , that's how I used to view my ability to forge ahead apparently fearless. Based on this "talk", I have realized I had been practicing exactly what she is talking about it turners out I have been doing all along without even realizing it! To all the people wondering if they should give this method a try, I say YES! Besides what do you have to loose? Thank you as well Elodie for spotting the HATERS!
It's because those who lack confidence have no other recourse to do than to pick at little things to belittle and drag others down, so when one sees comments like that insulting others, like the speaker in the video, it shows just who has the lowest amount of confidence in the comment chain.
For this issue I highly recommend Brene Browns TED Talks. She is everything! By sharing your personal story including your failures and pain to an enormous crowd you are a lot braver than the ones nitpicking anonymously in the crowd. - Watch her!
@@NChiggi I've watched her Power of Vulnerability speech. It is inspiring, though I seen to need to find a balance, because there is such thing as revealing too much. In this situation I am switching from online discussion to real life encounters. As I found out, sharing my vulnerabilities in an effort to appear brave and someone to be liked, more often than not, backfired. Instead I got treated as someone less competent, someone to be pitied, rather than respected. So There must be a happy balance somewhere. Sharing just enough of my weaknesses to gain trust, but not so much that people question if they should suggest I see a psychiatrist.There's another Ted talk I remember on this issue that I'm describing but the speaker's name is slipping from my mind. It has to do with those who are viewed by the crowd as being respectable and an with a level of expertise being more liked when they blunder vs those the crowd deems as incompetent and sees their blunders.
I did not realize how amazing this speech is until it comes to 16:10 when she started to share her own story. It is not about how great the the story is or how great the way she told the story, but she finally become not nervous anymore. She talked without stops, repetition and looking down to the floor or her hand, she started to look at the audience and speak more fluently. The change is not because she remembers this part of speech better than other parts, but you can feel that she really want to talk about that story and how big impact the story made on her.
It is interesting because the topic of this speech is about body language of being powerful, and her own behavior just suits into the speech perfectly without herself maybe realizing that.When she finished her own story and came back to the final part of the talk, she went back to her initial way of giving the talk.
I agree with you analysis of her body language, however this sadly doesn't change the fact that what she says is wrong... (to be more exact it has not enough support by scientific studies)
@@user-J.M.A.I is it wrong? Does it not work for you?
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I was in a CVS & a stranger smiled at me as she passed me in the aisle. This was years ago, pre-covid. Her spirit was radiant, so much that it made me stop & reflect on how lovely a human being she was & how the kindness of strangers can be so impactful. Then I got in line behind her, & another customer walking by stopped, turned to her & thanked her for writing a particular book. She graciously thanked him, & I remember going back to my car after that & searching the book to see who she was. It was Amy Cuddy, & then I remembered watching this, & it was kind of a mindfxck. Anyway yeah she's super chill & beautiful. Love coming back to this talk.
is she on cocaine? why all of the nasal?
@@annmotts what nasal, Miss Bigot? Seriously, if you think that lowly of people who are born with nasal voices...wow. I almost feel sorry for you.
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No,she is simply nervous and control herself. Drugs’ abusers look like less self-controlled and they seem to be unable to control the line of their speach for more than big audience ….
It was an interesting, motivating and honestly speech for me.
One thing about society is it is in this Goldilocks fantasy... If your sad... its OK but if your sad over 3 days we are going to give you a pill... OH she was so happy... and nice... but after a while... she is just too positive... no one can be that happy... I have had interactions too like this...
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The reason why this talk is so attention catching and touching is because Amy Cuddy is REAL, she shows herself truly in this talk and while the content is amazing as well, I truly believe that her soul shines through her words and her body language. Truly beautiful - thank you for the message!
These Ted Talks man, they're changing my life, they're changing everyone's lives. Thank you!
+teddy Baltz Or in a more possitive way: We move forward together. It's not a about competition buddy. For example wouldn't you enjoy being around posstive confident people, thanks to this lady's talk?
+teddy Baltz All this info has been known for years. In the words of Jim Rohn, motivation is what it takes to get you started and habit keep it going. odds are, less than 5% of the people that watched this will put it into affect. You have the power to be among the few. I believe in you my brother!
+teddy Baltz Thats capitalism speaking
dookdawg214 He he, I wish you can witness my story. Let's just say I won a "potential 1 million dollars".
accidentally flagged it. sorry. anyways, yeah. it really changes how you see others and you kinda look for this stuff
She still has a little stage fright, but she toughed it out and gave a charming and heartfelt talk. That took some guts.
Really what shows?
@@imamgiuseppe5103 Seems to me she just needs some water. A dry mouth while you're talking, esp. on stage is gonna cause a little anxiety. I wish these speakers would stop and take a sip of water now and then.
@@imamgiuseppe5103 She breathes a lot and kinda loudly. Also talking slightly too quickly
Idgaf what u ladies are saying did you get this amazing persons message ?
I've never met anyone that gets completely over stage fright. Not professional actors/actresses, not professional dancers, not college teachers. No one. For some though it becomes kind of the fuel for going out to that stage. So if someone tells me they're not afraid to speak in public the available options are, they're lying, completely dead inside or can't feel any emotions
I realised being powerless is being fake, becoming powerful is the true you, we just lost ourselves somewhere.
Aaron Oxborough amen to this brother!! Some of us lost it in our childhood, but some people lost is minutes from birth.. literally we are all born to be resilient and extremely powerful but life beats us down and makes it seem impossible!! Pray to god for strength and put in the WERK 💪💪
*indeed*
I strongly agree .
How did u come to that conclusion? In a split second we may develop an illness that causes us to rapidly deteriorate. Someone perfectly healthy today may end up I’ll tomorrow. And you think we are powerful?
@@jayceontaylor8195 Powerful in one's spirit, mindfulness, emotional well being, and confidence are all powerful ways of being... not just power in physical health. The speaker in this TedTalk is talking about inner courage / inner strength. ❤️
HER SPEECH GAVE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY. When she started talking about feeling like she was not supposed to be at Harvard but then one of her students said the same thing, it even gave goosebumps on my face. She is one successful woman. Internally and externally. Thank you so much!
I did this very thing when I was 16. I was a shy introvert when my family moved from one school district to another city. It was then I decided I didn't want to be shy and introverted but WANTED to be extroverted and outgoing. Since no one at the new school knew I wasn't already extroverted, I "faked" it till I became it. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. I am now 62 and most people I know can't believe I never lacked confidence.
Similar story to you! I was really shy and had a bit of social anxiety before,but after starting at a new school,decided to fake the confidence when socialising with others. Although it was awkward and uncomfortable at first, one year on, it's second nature to me
Wow how awesome. Thanks for sharing your story, it is interesting to hear about these kinds of willful changes of self. I used to be very under-confident and suffered from pretty bad social anxiety, I lacked friends for most of my formative years and it left me lacking in social graces and positive self-image. Only until I came to a new state and met someone who made friends everywhere they went and saw how they acted, did I realize I could make the change. I adopted a very positive and confident persona at the college I began attending. I dressed differently, threw out the big sweaters and put a summer dress on for once. Ever since then things haven't been perfect but I've been so much happier with myself, and I expect as life progresses this positive attitude will lead me to my goals. I hope other women who feel powerless or like their value is dependent on societies expectations can evaluate how valuable real confidence, real love for your self, truly is.
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Risa Puzas you look amazing for 62
You mean shy, not introverted. The first one is a state of mind, the second one is a personality trait which can't be changed. You either like having a lot of social interactions or you really really need time for yourself to recharge in order to be your best self in the next social event.
I notice a lot of people here are confused. All she is saying is to fake confidence until you become confident... that's it.
thanks
Here you go, have an internet point for saving me all that time.
All she is saying is that humans are visual creatures when they're judging other humans and it's good to take advantage of it so we can be more successful in social interactions.
She is probably lying to a large extent: www.thecut.com/2017/04/amy-cuddy-death-threats.html en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Cuddy
that's what most people do, and that's where the word poser came from, right?
I'm a behavior Specialist with a doctorate, but Amy Cuddy is a better instructor than any professor I've ever been around!
I recently gave myself a new habit/daily task to watch one TED talk each weekday in the morning before starting work. I come to the channel, sort the videos by popularity, and watch the next one down the list. The talks before this are very popular for good reasons (mostly) and the information they share is validly helpful, but this one, this one shattered me. This one grabbed 48-years of struggle, 48-years of feeling invisible and powerless, and showed me a different way. Obviously, it's not a magic pill, and I won't be interviewing for CEO of a Fortune 500 company next week (not that I would want to anyway,) but Ann gave us physical, tangible things to do, things to pay attention to, that have proven to help, even in the slightest of manners. Thanks for this, to TED, to Ann Cuddy, and everyone who had a part in the process.
I watched this for one of my classes and sometimes, I admit, I only half pay attention to required videos but this one completely captivated me. When she told her personal story I literally started to cry because I used to be that girl she was describing. I had horrible social anxiety and struggled so much with day to day interactions. Now I am getting more confident everyday and have taken on roles that I never thought I could do as a painfully shy teenager. Fake it until you become it really does work.
The same! Lots of uni videos are too boring but this is spot on interesting constantly
I'm watching this for my AP Psychology class, I Love it!!
Same here! I got this assigned to me for a class and now I have tears streaming down my face! I feel so inspired and grateful.
i love this comment for its relatability
You know... you guys with negative comments about her hair, her mouth and so on you should stop now because all the one who are criticizing probbably don't even have enough courage to talk in front of their classroom, if her hair is to her left or right so what thats her personality and she said "fake it till you make it". Unfortunately i was looking for a comment in the comment section for someone who was standing up for her so i could like it and support them but unfortunately there were none, atleast not one that i saw. I honestly didn't even notice all those things because i was actually focusing on what she was teaching. Amy great job, you definitely made a big turning point in my life, so thanks keep it up! :)
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Exactly
I watched her speech on youtube when I have mentally ill.I couldn't have go out.but I tried to act the person who I want to be, my life has begun.
I respect her.I really appreciate her. Arigato.
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I've watched this speech many years ago, and it still gets me to cry every time she says "you are going to fake it till you make it" to that student.
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Amy Cuddy is a very good example of "fake it till you make it" because there is nothing scientific about power posing. It is highly debated because there is no evidence that it works. It is impossible to replicate because it is complete bogus.
I wonder why half the comments here are about her performance in delivering this talk rather than its content. The part about how even people blind since birth still strike the winning poses when winning an athletic competition is really interesting. Its a good reminder of how the mind and body are connected and you can learn a lot about humans by watching other speicies of animals.
Because the way you present something is as important as the content for some people. The lip smacking and constant heavy breathing is really really annoying and some people just concentrate on that more.
+That Girl Lia Then you have an OCD. I've also noticed it, but I could overcome it. There are many nervous people.
+g1g2g3g4g5gt I didnt realise it at all, mainly because I found the content she was talking about so interesting that I blocked off everything but the words.
+J13alls Because of the irony of someone speaking about the importance of body language, while not recognizing her own distracting habit
+J13alls Because they have a petty spirit and they probably lean more towards having a social path/psycho path personality as opposed to being compassionate and understanding. I finished watching this video and thoroughly enjoyed Amy's message and presentation. I laughed, smiled , got a little teary eyed and felt better about myself while watching this video.I didn't notice any of the petty things that some of these commenters mentioned. I can only pity them and pray that they somehow become more enlightened and compassionate.
I tried the power posing for 5 minutes before my english speech in high school. (english isnt my mother tongue) and it did really help, calmed me down so much. and the shakiness was also gone. in the bathroom stall. just focusing on breathing. Amazing!
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Minute 18:29 and I am sitting here crying, goosebumps on my arms. Our internal talk can be so damaging...or so eye opening. Faking it til I become it! Loved everything about this!
I feel like my like wasn't enough. Powerful speech.
Steph Arlette the results were p-hacked, according the Cuddy’s co-researcher. In addition, numerous universities replicated the experiment and their results had no statistical significance
Yes, me too, at videos like this I also wish to give more than just one LIKE. LIKE LIKE :)
@@ethanknifsend9775 But alas, it was a powerful speech :)
@@ethanknifsend9775 so it is not scientifically true?
Moral of the story is to T-pose when nobody's looking
I'm dead !
Actually yes XD
RIP @@dawkso1945
*;-)*
X-pose for optimal spread
1. Fake it until you BECOME it!
2. Try a power pose to cope the best for that situation. Just for 2 minutes.
Most people never "BECOME". Or worse get themselves in position above their ability and make mess of situation.
Amy Cuddy: Brilliant demonstration of a conscious effort to practice living out a dream. Great rhythm, pace and enthusiasm. Excellent speaking skill, and emotional connection made with audience. Bravo for choosing to win over your difficult experience. Your vision and hope have made a great story powerful.
This really was a very good lecture! Very usefull for our daily lives.
@@LuisRobertoBelo Should not be too useful, unfortunately, as there has been no evidence for Power Posing in follow up studies (Simmons & Simonsohn (2017), Ranehill et al. (2015), Ronay et al. (2016), etc.) The first one from 2017 is the most important I think, as it compares 33 other studies, all showing no effect
@@user-J.M.A.I Thanks for bringing me this knowledge, dear friend.
When I need my self-esteem, I always come back to this. I have been living all my life with this idea, I’m not good enough. I tried hard to overcome, but the thought always caught my leg before going on to the next level that I looked up to. When I was in law school, I was so devastated with the competitive environment. I was surrounded with smart students and I felt I was no one. The fact that I was so insecure, made me more insecure. I knew I had something in me, but it didn’t seem to be shown. I was struggling so hard when I watched this video. And it really hit me. The idea that I can fake it until I become it gave me a strange relief that it was okay to admit that I am no one, but at the same time it gave me a strength to keep trying no matter what the results were. It was okay because I worked hard and it will get better. it was like a small disbelief within Greater belief. Thank you for sharing this ted. It really changed how I see me.
I relate to you completely because this is exactly what I'm going through at my university where everyone is literally a genius which makes me doubt my abilities. Like you, I am aware that I have something in me which hasn't blossomed for everyone to see yet. You are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing. Hwaiting ❤️
Next time, just before the act, close ur eyes and say "dear God, help this imperfect soul to connect and share my thoughts with other imperfect souls here".
And imagine a connection between ur heart and their hearts, shining bright. :)
@@karan257 That's so beautiful 🥰
Sure, on one hand this may be an inspiring, empowering and even enlightening presentation, but on any level, for any of you did it not glaringly highlight how baselessly manipulatable, maliable, exploitable and insecure we can be despite how our faculties are "supposedly" superior to the "animals" we tout ourselves as being so separate from? I mean, appearances should bear some level of significance and without a doubt can immediately communicate a slew of information (though reception presents many problems and, as noted, potential loopholes), but it never has been more will be fully informative. I just see this information as being more an indicator of characteristics to beware, more closely examine, supercede and defend against rather than continue to endorse, mimic or employ for 'personal gain'. IMO, the premise of 'royal bloodlines' and other facades which only promote our division, warp value systems, impede progress and ultimately serve to further the destructive tendencies our kind's covetry have, as one example, perpetuated across and upon this beautiful planet, our species and our co-habitants. Truth is truth and also a lie is a lie is a lie. True power never comes from the outside just as it never yields to the misconceptions and lesser impressions that stem from the same source. Obama fist bumping that security guard was the perfect example of true power, because true power elevates all instead of merely seeking to allude to or project the appearance of being elevated above another.
Did your professor told you to watch this also?
Give this a like if yes!🤣😊
Yee
My English teacher
ruclips.net/channel/UCTAmQtwc30j6CVjoO71HUIw
Erika Joy Primero I searched for it myself lol
Yes! :p
She’s a good human being; a sweet soul.
Yup such a kind soul she is :)
Simp
She's one shooter from being a sjw and it's anoying.
These people are the fakest humans on earth.
2:21 how effective body language is.
7:10 can we change our feeling and mind?
15:11 Presence overcomes everything.
18:28 emotional story
if you're always feeling low on confidence check if you have hunched shoulders. if you do pull them back to where they should be. this made the world of difference to me, it literally is changing my life. I don't know if it's a placebo but I feel much more confident now
I just nailed a job interview after watching this. :)
Well done!
Wow!!
Good job
Congratulations 👏👏👏
Congratulations
This is one of the best TEDx speeches I've ever heard.
Would rate it 5 stars over and again if given the chance.
The power pose study wasn't able to be recreated by anybody.
5 stars from us at Music Cosmo !!!!!!!!!
@@DaihatsuCharade1993 tedx?
Power posing is not replicable by any other psychologist and should not be taken seriously
11 years later and I'm not tired of watching over and over again ❤🎉 just bought your book and I'm so excited!!
I feel like I'm very relieved about being reached this video. I've been struggling with my lack of confidence recently after I graduated my univ. This one just made me cry and gave me hope to overcome it. It is just a masterpiece!
Yes. For now on, I will fake it until I become it.
Even better: Fake it until you fake it.
Become it until you fake it.
do your best to fake it
faker best lol player
+trksanity LOL xD
I tried this back in 2012 and now Im 1 of the top managers for a high profile company. Fake it till you succeed. It really works.
Peter Huang was gonna call bs but your last name made me think twice
I would love to hear your story! Would you like to share it with me?
I don’t know why but when she was talking about her personal story, I started to cry… That girl who used to think ‘I don’t belong’ here was me. I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. Thanks a lot, Amy.
Kind regards, I feel the same way too. I hope you're better now.
Look how excited the man with the notebook at 0:45 is, It's contagious.
Nice observation!
Bruh, he's smiling not because he's excited (I'm not saying he's not excited) but because she was talking about body language, and he was jokingly fixing it
This is a lecture she put out to help people out. Instead of criticizing her, find a way to help people too.
10:50 (right picture) this is how I sat when I was being interview by 4 people in my current job, I usually sit like this when I feel like im going to be scrutinized so instead of stressing about doing "the perfect thing", I realized I could only be myself comfortably and that if they didn't accept me for who I am in my most relaxed human state that I shouldn't work there in the first place.
Its like a filtering mechanism, you are most happy when you are yourself and when you are relaxed, so if you want to be happy you do it by being honest to yourself, pretending to be someone you're not is dishonesty to self and others and it will only lead to misery. I changed because I realized I had no other choice, it wasn't rational for me to bury my true self and replace it with feelings of fear.
Later i was told by 2 of the interviewers that the "interview" seemed more like a conversation, I was speaking to them without fear, I showed vulnerability while 4 people were looking at me writing stuff down on paper. In school you are taught how one "should pick up the phone" what sentence structures to use to be deemed "professional" how one should compose letters etc... Most of my fear when using the phone came from trying to abide by fixed rules of phone interaction which I didn't want to "get wrong" whatever that is.
I erased this fear by realizing that the person on the other side of the line is exactly like me, they have fears, they have a family they have dreams, they are vulnerable, they are ultimately human, what they are not is "a manager", "a receptionist", "a service worker at a restaurant", these labels are people's functions in society they are not reality. I talk to these people like I would talk to a friend, my language is not official, I'm not afraid of talking to them in human terms "well what do you think I should do then?" you show vulnerability and you show trust in the person, you show that you value their opinion, and the person on the other end of the line will warm up to you on a human level. These interactions are priceless human moments.
Sometimes I'll get someone on the phone who talks very officially, usually a younger person recently employed and "well trained", they don't treat me like a human, they go by their training and talk to me like a "customer", but the funny thing is that if you talk to them straight and don't participate in their little sterile interaction they start adapting to you because you make them realize that it feels far better to talk on a more personal level and to treat each others more like friends than caricatures of corporate society.
Anarchon thanks!
Thank you for this. I had done this method and lots of people say you will not become manager and always put me down and they told me your english is you’re third language. Manager needs to have great english language and your not one of them. The person who told me that was someone very close to me that is supposed to support me. So hearing from him, i felt very disappointed and doubt myself to then point i start agreeing with his point of view.
Fake it till you become it and i did it at age 30 yrs old and i become a manager in prestigious firm and thank u so much for ur advice.
I had been avoiding watching this TED talk for years! Every time the thumbnail appeared in my suggestions, I would think to myself "I don't want to watch a talk about body language!". Then today, I picked up Amy Cuddy's book "Presence" and realized that her talk was what I had been avoiding for all these years! All I can see is that, this came at the right time and when the student became ready, the teacher appeared. I'm going to start power posing to greatness!!!!
billiebillie same.
billiebille I don't mean to sound repetitive but this has been proven fake just google power posing is bad and you'll see
edit: Also a new york times article When the Revolution came for amy cuddy.
agreeeeeeeee
why did you feel the need to avoid this information?
This talk is gold.
The talk is from 2012. If you read the linked faq and the studies who tried to replicate it. You will see that not a SINGLE other study measured these hormone changes and also the other effects can only be reproduced from a few studies with very small sample size(means more variance and noise). The biggest study with 200 participants showed no relevant positives in any area. Amy Cuddy and her team were "p-hacking" - manipulating the data they got until the experiment gave them the results that they wanted it to. Pretty common practice to boost your studies. She is living the "fake it until you make it". In a sense she was unlucky that this talk got as big as it is. So that other studies tried to reproduce it.
She was completely discredited
Her study claims power posing: 1) Increases feeling of power. 2)Has a physical effect on hormones.
While it is true that it appears there appears no effect on hormones on studies that tried to replicate it, the other effect - feeling more power after power posing is still very real. - Paraphrased from Forbes, April 3, 2018 article by Kim Elsesser.
The article has several links to the contradicting studies as well.
In short, IMO your mind is a huge factor on how one will respond to a situation. How one think's things are, is going to effect you the most. If going through the power poses help at those times when I'm low, then it can surely help.
Pure diamond. This is like ARV for HIV patient
@@angelsintahoe You know how absurd the feeling of power makes as an evidence. It is called placebo effect which makes all the more reason to call it absurd. Also, The article by Kim Elsesser is absurd to claim that criticism is due to male dominance and also included politics in the article which decreases the authenticity of article. Her conclusions for criticisms are absurd, she got huge criticism because her talk exploded so peers started checking her paper.
I love her commitment and her emotion . . .
I started to tear up by her anecdote at the end. Such a wonderful TED talk 💖
I'm born and raised in a village in southern India. Studied in all local govt/public, girls only, schools of not high standards. I was always a confident clown and a naughty student throughout my schooling, though my grades used to be among top 3. Cleared the entrance exam to get my free govt seat for Engineering. There I witnessed suddenly people from varied background from big cities, top colleges, highly stylish and glamorous girls/guys whose so-called cool looks and attitude I couldn't match. Most of them called me a villager but I proudly accepted, bcz there is nothing to be ashamed of.
People used to mock me for my thick accent (Mother Tongue Influence) on speaking English. I said "Only a fool would expect a British accent from a person who spoke only his mother tongue for 20 years. I speak English not out of love, but only for convenience in communication".
I remained original. I never changed my style or looks and my attitude/confidence remained the same. The remained most confident/powerful student in the class, used to crack jokes in the middle of the lecture, could make the entire class laugh for hours. Guys/Bullies used to be afraid of misbehaving with me, bcz I could give back thoroughly. I used to be on top with good grades even there, so professors used to be on my side mostly. Slowly people got used to me and they started even liking me. I was the most sought out friend to hangout with.
Now I'm a 10 years experienced s/w developer/professional. I worked in (jumped) several MNCs and startups have encountered different types of seniors/managers/leaders. Even now some people are surprised at my looks and how I speak. They can't believe I'm a software professional living in a big city in India! Yet I'm the same, THE COOL CONFIDENT VILLAGER.
The point here I'm making is- Confidence/Power(mental) doesn't come from your background, style, dress, grades, money, looks. It comes from a mental stage (consciousness) where "You know what you are, accept it as normal or different. Also know what you are/doing/saying is not wrong and there is absolutely no need to be afraid of anyone!". Don't need to fake it. Just know that what you're doing/behaving is RIGHT and your intentions are RIGHT.
If you ask me there is absolutely no way for one to be not confident/powerless, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal person. Infact these people tend to be more confident, which THEY FAKE IT!
Edit: Again, don't confuse CONFIDENCE with ARROGANCE! You can be Confident Yet HUMBLE!
I highly doubt you could consider yourself a villager if you have spent 35% of your life in Cities. Anyways, I like your conclusion but I would also like to add IQ in that list. Thanks for the post which is not insane like video.
You're a role model.
@@colinelunaire nope I'm not a role model. I'm just a commoner precisely a villager. That's the exact point I'm trying to convey. There's absolutely no need for anyone to live a extraordinary life to get confidence! Confidence is something very basic trait, should be part of every commoners life. We are just brain washed to live a shabby life with low confidence for no damn reason! They say you should be a confident brave modern woman! But what modernity got to do with confidence? If you don't have straight hair you're unprofessional? If you have thick accent you're too be laughed at. If you can't get good grades you're a loser! If you don't dress up fashionably you're old and boring! Somehow, something unnatural is always sold as the source of confidence! The only source is, should be, conscience, morality!
I disagree to the part where you said that confidence is natural, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal.
Confidence is a trait, one can obviously learn but it doesn't have to be natural, for a truthful, moral or loyal person too. Maybe it is you being too judgemental of anyone with low confidence, out of your confident self :)
@@keepcalmandstanot7.724 I'm NOT judgmental. I'm just saying, it SHOULD be the basic trait. "Even if you are not a confident person until now, just BE CONFIDENT naturally, bcz you are a person with right intentions, bcz there is no need to fear".
"If you know you're right "JUST BE CONFIDENT"
Even if you don't know you're right still, "BE CONFIDENT" being conscious that your intentions are right and accept if you're wrong gracefully when someone proves/clarifies it."
I think I did it subconciously. I had depression, anxiety, low self-esteem. I just remember walking in the hallway with my head up, big steps and shoulders back. I am confident today, and I dare to say I'm assertive.
Oh my god I adore this lady, she's so everything I wish I could say to the world. I went from social anxiety nut to a normal confident girl because I faked it until I loved that person, and it was just me. I cried listening to her speech, I hope she empowers so many people. I plan to tell my friends about that pose, lets all be confident together
Empowers them with lies? Her research didn't pan out. There is no power posing effect (even her coauthor said so), unless you believe in it (but that's a completely different phenomenon), meaning that it's all placebo and no underlying effect.
Tricking the mind... :o
Neverward - she uses flawed scientific studies
Placebo works tho, sometimes will power alone is enough.
There is no financial gain for her to teach that to people (other than selling a book or a show seat) so why spoil it for others? Let them find out for themselves. Nothing wrong if it was just a placebo - and it worked. Don't you think it would be great if YOU could be confident?
11 years later but the lesson still remains its true valuability
I had a horrible day with my mental health issues today. And I am watching this to find the strength again. Thank you Dr. Cuddy.
Tears were shed at the 19 minute mark, it really it hit me.
my cat watch this last night...now she fakes herself as a TIGER!!
+Pankaj Singh lol
+Pankaj Singh 😂😂😂😂
she makes mew or roared, lol
Hahahahahah
haha =)))
Wow this brought tears to my eyes! Most of the beginning I knew bc I’ve read books on body language and plus I’ve always had “star mentality “ bc I used to want to be a rapper , so I’d always go first for presentations and I’ve always showed confidence. But the second half got me bc she’s right! Fake it til you become it! That’s literally the key
I watched 60-minute today, and it brought me here. This is revolutionary for me. From now on, I will fake it 'till I become it.
Amy's talk was inspirational. She married facts with emotion. Comments viewed her as stressed out, anxious and nervous, thirsty and her lip smacking drove them nuts. I saw her as excited, factual, passionate and the lip smacking showed anticipation and interaction with her audience. She was honest.
i actually cried watching this, becoz my experience also resonates with hers. i'm gonna be 22next year and i'm enrolling in uni also as a freshman. i have had gone through rough patches through my life and finally trying to straightening things out. and i know i will make it
good luck!
Thank you for commenting about this, I cried too because I SO felt her past pain with my own experiences! I felt so much universal love for her and understanding. God bless you too :)
Yes you will
Tom Swinburn nver herd that b4, thx tom.
Yes you can!! Every single person has the power to smash through life's barricades I believe in you all!
I watched this video 5 years ago many many times. Today I'm always so touched by Amy Cuddy's researches and her commitment to support people who doesn't believe in us.
"An honest man has nothing to fear, so try your best not to be afraid." - Frank Abagnale Jr.
Did Frank Abagnale actually say that? What irony 😂
Haha I think what he meant by this was since he isn’t honest, he has to try not to be afraid.
The is very true of phobias, and what therapists teach people is; they are actually afraid of the feelings of fear, and not the thing itself. This said, we do have to keep aware of the feeling of fear as, sometimes the hair rising on the back of our necks and other feelings can be a warning to go into fight or flight when a dangerous situation is upon us.
She’s a good human being; a sweet soul.
I just watched this yesterday! 😁
Watching this for 20 minutes it really changes my life. Even everyone often ignore these things, but its so important for your happiness life
I have pretty low self esteem. I think I will definitely give this a try every night and every morning.
Thanks for letting the whole world know you have low self-esteem.
NLP?
Neuro Linguistic Programming.
Basically related to covert hypnosis. For more info contact me on G+. :)
You do that :)
Alexander Dumitru ikr times have changed, social media has become very powerful and influential worldwide and it has changed the way people act, speak, eat, learn, etc. with this things are constantly changing, for some of us this may be too fast so in return we become less confident
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when i was supposed to be in the american high school, i was very afraid of being ostracized by my family and friends. also i became powerless and frustrated for weeks and weeks and weeks... but i was inspired with this lecture and my testosterone had increased!! also cortisol had decreased !!! thx for this lecture
Anyone else paying $$$$ on online school just to be 'taught' through RUclips ???
What online school are you paying for?
That sounds rough lol. Have faith in college :) I just received my first internship. (STEM major)
Yes, in online school about meditation and yoga ^^ but $$$$ - is donation. So it's actually free online school
Yess😒
Pain.
that was great to hear at my lowest point in my life right now ,and to hear this was an uplift
So good that you feel better! I hope you can be get the best out of your life. Good luck!
I feel so gratified.
I was a little self-confidence and boring people, and often look at everything with a desperate mindset, but after listening to Amy Cuddy's TED, it's not impossible to change, change the way, spend a couple of minutes, little by little change, there will be results.
I had a very important Presentation today about which I was very nervous about for a month.
I say this not to make it look like a story because it might look like one, but luckily i saw this video before the Presentation, and miracle happened.
Not only did i do well, i got so confident, I picked up 2 girls also :D
Thank you :)
congratulation man for pick up the tow girls that's mean you did very well in your presentation
i don't think the moral of this conversation is to treat women like objects :)
are you being sarcastic or?
+Matiss Paradise i am suffering from social anxiety with girls.
the purpose of saying that i picked up 2 girls wasnt to show women being treated as objects but to show how good this video is in helping me in my anxiety :)
+Andrei Onisie i guess my happiness while i wrote comment was so evident that it was taken as sarcasm
no i meant it ☺
Oh my god, I had been identified as gifted as a child and then had a Traumatic Brain Injury in an accident and at 40 years old, I had lost at least 30% of my core Personality strength and identity. When I found out I had lost so much of who I was and many other personality traits, and not only dropped out of at least the top 1% but down to the very, very average IQ and fell to the floor in grief and sadness and finally ran out of the room before they had even finished reading the rest of results. I have experienced the tremendous loss for the last 11 years and I know exactly what she is talking about. See her tears...those are real.
I am so hoping some of these tips may help me, if even in a very small way.
It’s so odd. I watched this five years ago in high school. Now 22 I don’t have the same confidence as I had younger. Spirit has been beaten, and I’m working to regain it all. Got back in college and I feel so behind and not worth anything. I hope I’ll be able to smile like her at the end of this talk.
What’s also odd is the fact that the comments are completely different. Used to be very positive. Bows there’s nothing but negativity and that sucks. I don’t believe in faking it until you make it. Be truthful and be respectful to others. Work for who you want to be, and understand you are here for a reason. You’re worth it.
I watched it 3 years ago in college. Thought I would make good habits. Now I got a job but still I am the same. Watching the video again I realized I can still do it.
Isn't this theory pseudoscience?
faith H
Thank-you!
@JimboParadox Thanks for searching it up, I didn't really look much into it before.
The ending got me in the feels so much.
You can tell that is how it really went down cause she was on verge of tears.
This made SOOOOO much sense. The last picture you showed of the low powered poses, the one where the girl is holding her neck, is me EVERYDAY. I also raise my hand in a low powered way like that, and don't talk much. I only really show my true crazy funny confident self around my friends. I should give this a try for my next presentation in class! XD THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes I wonder is there a logical reason for people to dislike the video cause i think it was informative and engaging
+Percy Cebo The people here looking for good speeches and who don't care about the actual content don't like the minor mistakes she makes like unnecessary pauses. Never even noticed till I read the comments, I don't care even now that I know. But I'm here for the content not the speech.
That and some people are misinterpreting her "image is important" point for "images is everything". She's saying image is incredibly useful and a part of you. Which is true. Never once did she say it was the *only* thing that defines you. You don't need a good image to be successful, but it's certainly helpful.
+Randy Marsh and according to my experience simple ideas make big change
+Percy Cebo The logical reason will become clear if you Google "Amy cuddy scientific overreach" to see that she was proven wrong. This whole study she is promoting is based on 17 people. Studying 300 more, other researchers found her findings completely made up.
+Percy Cebo www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/14/power-poses-body-language_n_7057658.html
amen. I wonder the same thing.
First time I watched this was a year ago just before my exams. Changed a lot. Still love it today. #fakeit
I remember when I was younger I wasn't as social as I am now. I wouldn't say I was afraid to talk to people but if I didn't have to I never would.
When I started my Retailmanagement major in college all those years ago I was forced to do internships in stores and businesses and interact with all kinds of people, even though I sometimes knew nothing about the product they had questions about. I had to deal with new customers, interested customers, angry customers,... anything you can imagine. Having to do this made me significantly more comfortable dealing with people, especially in unexpected scenarios.
I would recommend everyone to get out of their comfort zone and do what scares you. Do what you think will make you freeze or lock up. It won't be easye but damn is it satisfying afterwards when you realize you CAN do it.
I love it 😍
I needed to read this! 🙏 thank you
I appreciate this life changing talks. Her powerful voice coming from deep inside touches me and give me the power.
the way you said this is so correct. Hope the world catches up!
Verbal and non verbal is specilist
Powerful voice should be deep and slow a little bit. Her voice is hysterical and a way too fast
@@greatmerlin2731 hysterical 😂 well said. I wish she wasn’t so nervous, especially on a talk about body language. Super ironic haha and also immensely distracting
When she cried about her student I went "NO DON'T CRY PLEASE" 😂 This was amazing, definitely gonna do it
This video is eight years old, and in 2020 it is actual, powerful and finally instructive. Thank you Emmy Caddy for such an amazing lesson.
UPDATE: This research has recently been debunked along with hundreds of other famous psychology experiments, some of which amounted to full fraud. The collection of incidents has been called the reproducibility crisis and some organizations including the Society for the Improvement of Psychological Science are looking into ways to solve the problem of misinformation in the psychology community.
@@dimitriisov1262 can you give me the link please
Little known fact: there’s no science behind power poses and the only research speaking about it wasn’t able to be replicated
Every minute spent listening this was worth billions!!!!
Anyone else addicted to ted talks?
Ofcourse
its easier to watch than do, so... yes!
here :) watching Ted talks is the best thing that could happen to me .)
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everyone's saying how her delivery of the speech was poor, but i think that apart from maybe being a little nervous and speaking a little too fast, this was actually really good especially bearing in mind her story. I mean sure she's nervous but i was enthralled the whole way through this talk, and that's not just down to content that's because of the delivery too.
I came to this conclusion 40 years ago and have been "pretending" ever since. It works!
I really had shivers and goosebumps and tears in my eyes in the last 5 minutes. I really admire your courage! Well deserved standing ovation 👏 Keep up with the good work..
Although this was a video assigned by my professor, its very motivational. I appreciate Amy Cuddy, and the "Fake it till you become it" analogy..amazing!
I genuinely impressed because she is speaking fluently and efficiently, I will try those poses when I look for a job thank you Amy cuddy you are a priceless woman.
This video was recomended by my certificate course now I am glad to be here.
Little known fact: there’s no science behind power poses and the only research speaking about it wasn’t able to be replicated
This video was recommended by my course now I am pissed off that I'm here. you spelled "recommended" wrong
the best ted talk that i have seen almost made me cry. She is a very eloquent speaker.
The Unintended
I decided to do this when I was 15 years old, just because I was tired of some of the people in my high school, and I was interacting with a new group. I made even more modification when I went into college and again when I moved to this country. She is completely right, you posture, the way you conduct yourself, the way you talk and interact with other, can really change a shy 14 year old kid into an amazing person that is ready to go and be the best version of oneself.
Thanks for changing my life!!!! I'm currently in grad school for counseling psychology and I feel like an impostor, like I shouldn't be there. I know that's wrong but my critical voice is louder than I thought. Thanks again!
tedtalks: exist
Teachers: I'll take your entire stock
Tf does this mean
The gospel is the GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM!
Repent and believe the gospel! Follow Jesus’ teachings!
Jesus is going to return and set up the kingdom of God ON THE EARTH! God’s government ON THE EARTH! The Messiah will resurrect his people! The destiny of the Messiah and his people is to be ON THE EARTH! The renewed restored earth! God also dwelling with them! Rev 21
@@mitchellc4 the letter J wasn't invented until 1524. The Hebrew alphabet doesn't contain a J or an e. Jesus and Yahweh are not the father and sons name are they? The fact that verses like Proverbs 30:4 exists asking the reader if you know the father and the sons name? I do and it's not Jesus Christ. Iesos kristos is not the Messiah's name. Acts 4:12 says there is only ONE name under heaven which men are appointed salvation. Many will say lord lord havent we prophecied in your NAME???? He will say depart from me for I never knew thee....... Lukewarm christians don't know they are worshipping an Idol. Its clear as day if you actually take the time to look. Those with eyes to see know JESUS isnt the messiah. YAHUAH is the father. His son is Yahusha Yahushua ha mashiach Yahushua means Yahuah is salvation. You're welcome.
@@krmitt5 what is the gospel?
How does the Bible end?
@@mitchellc4 how about instead of trying to validate your ego by comparing your own theological knowledge over mine based on the answer to a question about the "gospel" which you obviously are not familiar with because...... It has been changed and to take away from or add to the word is recipe for destruction, how about you try and address what I said and prove me wrong?
18:55 best moment ever.. I love this ted talk
This is one of the best TED Talks of all time. I took an “Executive Speaking” class a few years ago and the instructor showed us this video in full. Ever since that day, I aced all my presentations and job interviews. It helped me come out of my shell and performed well with my MBA. I still use these techniques today in my presentations. Thank you Amy. ❤🎉
I just realized that I did this 40yrs ago, and believe me folks, it really works, it did change me.....
Noel Anderson for the better lets hope
@@Callmepapimami Yes for the better, both for me and my family.......
@@Callmepapimami what happened now? 😼
@@noelanderson6625 what did you did bro?
THE BEST TED TALK I'VE EVER SEEN!
Wow! Every minute worth it. Touching the emotions too.