Well good luck explaining that to those who don’t believe in the Bible being the Holy Word of God, or worse, say that it’s wrong because “X” reason. Sometimes you really do have to go beyond the idea of “well, *Why* does the Bible/God say it’s wrong?”
@Arcticmaster1190 Well that's the first part. You have to show them the Word of God and then let them find that put themselves (or show them the verses).
Sure, for some who already understands, yeah, but for those who don't, like he said in the video, "because the Bible says so," isn't a very satisfying answer for most people, especially when they feel like in the moment, that it doesn't feel wrong, or even feels good. I agree with the other comments that it's important to deeply understand this topic as well as others in regards to sin, so that when other people ask us why "X" is wrong, when it doesn't seem as obvious to them, we can give a thorough and well thought out answer to them, that hopefully makes sense to them. It can be very difficult to explain to people, especially now, in this "sex-positive" culture, why this is wrong. Heck, even just last year, I remember having a conversation about this with a friend of mine about this very thing, and he gave a lot of different reasons why having sex outside of marriage could be good, or why saving that for marriage could be bad, that I couldn't accurately counter at the time, because I myself have no experience in any of it, so I knew my words would ring hollow, especially if I just kept repeating "because the Bible said so." That paints me as woefully naive in his eyes, so there must be something more I could say, that could really explain the wisdom of God that could hopefully reach his mind, and most importantly, his soul. I asked another friend about the conversation, a friend who is a brother of Christ, who's _definitely_ more knowledgeable than me, and he helped give me a lot of points that I didn't know about the topic that I could bring up, should it ever come up again, both biblical and statistical, and real world advice on how to solve all the issues my other friend posed. Sometimes, situations can be messy, and look a bit gray, but the answer is always black and white, and the answer is always the one God laid out for us, but sometimes, it's hard to see him among all the grays, and so we justify our own blindness. In closing, perhaps for you, if it's in the Bible, and it's God's word, that could be enough, but it's always best to get a thorough understanding of his word beyond just what he says, for those that don't, and to help fortify yourself against all doubt and temptation. May God bless you. 🙏
As someone who fell into it before marriage with my ex, i can confidentially say, DO NOT do it before marriage, learn from others mistakes, it takes way too long to recover emotionally and spiritually from something you should have listened to God in the first place for. Theres reasons God says certain things are wrong
@@rangariraikunedzimwe2780 both, it took around 6 months to break the soul tie. I occasionally get flashbacks to moments but I no longer desire her sexually. Now that I’ve awakened love before it’s time like Songs of Solomon says, my desires have become stronger and I have to deny my flesh twice as much daily because ik how it feels and want it more. One of the worst parts is it’s causing me to have a ton of wet dreams, I’ve never dealt with that so much. I wake up mad about those dreams when they come up especially because I’m never thinking about the situation to even have the dream. The experience taught me a valuable lesson about listening to God, He’s not an annoying dad taking fun away, He’s extremely loving and knows what you’re gonna go through if you fall into your temptations. I nearly beg people to not do it before marriage, everything that happens after will never be worth satisfying yourself for the moment. The Bible is absolutely correct, it satisfies you for the moment, but emotionally and spiritually, it messes you up. We did love each other and left on good terms, but we lusted each other far more than loved. And a small tip for people who easily are attracted to people, just because the person is very physically attractive and beautiful/handsome with a good personality, doesn’t mean they’re meant to be with you. I won’t discredit her, she’s very beautiful and very physically attractive, but I should have let go of being lukewarm (both of us should have) and started listening to God, a good body and sexual experience DOES NOT mean the experience will be good forever UNLESS your married. To everyone waiting till marriage, keep going, it’s never worth it before marriage, I’m healed and moved on of everything, but it messes you up long term. (Lemme add something) but if you have fallen into it and realized your wrongs, God will truly forgive you and heal you if you genuinely want to repent of it. I can’t thank Him enough for everything He’s done for me, I don’t deserve to be forgiven, especially because I knew it wasn’t good till marriage, but His love is stronger than your sins, now I’m waiting for my future wife and most definitely setting boundaries.
My boyfriend and I had a toxic sexual relationship and life, I almost died and experienced a supernatural scary experience. We started watching bible movies to figure things out because something Happened and it scared me. Long story short we became born again Christians, healed our relationship, are now engaged and havent had sex in a year because we needed a reset and we now know how sacred and special sex is supposed to be. All this to say GOD can fix and heal anything if you trust in HIM.
Did you guys ever have to breakup to heal it? I’m only asking cause I’m in a relationship with someone and I know I need to fix my relationship with God and stop committing sin.
No, but we were going to have to if things didn't change. We started praying and asking Jesus to come into this relationship to heal it and he has in a big way and we still pray for our relationship every day. Getting married next month! GOD IS GOOD!
I’m a 19 year old virgin woman who’s also in college and the amount of men who told me that they refuse to wait until marriage because “men are sexual creatures.” Here are some other things I’ve dealt with: 1. Meeting “Christian” men who still do drugs, cuss, listen to explicit music, drink alcohol excessively, never go to church/Bible study, party, and have sex before marriage. 2. Female peers making fun of me for waiting until marriage (“What if your husband sucks at sex?”) 3. My church being 80% elderly, 10% married couples with kids, and 5% people my age but they come on Easter and Christmas 4. Seeing couples on social media and crying that I haven’t gotten it yet but God’s timing is worth it, just have to be patient 5. Temptation, temptation, temptation. It seems in this world these days you have to participate in a hookup, sex before marriage, or marry early to feel love, and I don’t want that. God doesn’t want that. 6. Missing out on majority of college events (parties and frats) because I want to worship God but I’m incredibly lonely 7. Men rejecting me because “I see you as a friend” but turn around and date a girl who does OF and has failing grades 8. Trying to remain positive about your future because God has it handled but…..it’s so isolating. Of course this doesn’t just apply to women because both men and women experience the struggles of waiting for marriage and being a Christian. But I just wanted to share my two cents as a Christian woman myself.
I have experienced this too and getting ghosted because I refuse to have sex before marriage. I am 27 years old and still a virgin. Obeying God is worth the wait. God's timing is the best
@afrofaeries Dear sister, I feel you. I can't say I know what it feels like to experience no. 1, 2, and 7, but I definitely have experienced 5 and especially no. 6. I do understand the loneliness/isolation that comes with following God/doing the right thing. But I'm always encouraged by the fact that Jesus is our satisfaction, and that He will always be with us even till the end of the age. Keep holding on, I'm sure that it will be worth it. I hope this encourages you. God bless =)
As a Muslim girl, I very much appreciate the Christians that also put value in preserving themselves and being modest and all that kind of things. 😊 Wish you all the best. ❤
i think that marriage correlates to a better relationship (regardless of whether you had sex before or after it) because of the planning, not because it’s a “natural good” or represents a turn away from the inherent objectification of bodies during sex. overall though, marriage is a hollow concept to me since the legal, social and civil aspect of it are completely replicable without it and it’s culturally and temporally constructed. that said i can come to respect the kinds of opinions that elevate it as a necessity even though i think they’re harmful to some people (i.e naturally casual daters and lgbt people who literally can’t marry in some countries as a form of discrimination)
Best decision we made. I broke up with my first boyfriend at 19 to save myself. Met my husband at age 20 and married as virgins and our relationship is unreasonably blissful. Everyone else we know has had sexual partners prior to their current spouses and struggle with all kinds of marital problems that make our relationship flaws look miniscule. We're celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary next month.
My husband and I had our first kiss and sex on our wedding day, and no words can explain how precious it was and still! We prayed before we made love and still; sex is such a blessing! It is worth the wait! 🙏 If you have given up to lust in your previous relationships, God can restore you! He will restore you. Taste and see that the Lord is good. Great blessings await those who are patient and obedient to God! 🙏❤️
That's really beautiful. I'm 22 and a virgin and I'm waiting til marriage. I'm really happy for you it gives me hope that just maybe someone is willing to wait with me, if not then I'll just stay single Lol.
Lost my virginity pretty much a year ago, never regretted anything as much as this. I‘ve suffered so much pain from this I wouldn’t want anyone going through this, it’s absolutely not worth it. I fully agree with this video, to anyone who’s still a virgin, don’t feel pressured to do so, it’s a gift from God made for marriage, not to exploit strangers for pleasure
@@ExtremeRy I caught a soul tie to the girl I was doing it with and it basically felt like I was in love with her because of that and unreciprocated love/heartbreak hurts a lot. Having those sort of feelings and that physical and spiritual connection with a woman is powerful, just make sure it’s with your wife.
As a 15 year old person, I’ve done the deed with a girl, at 14. I regretted it. I wish I never had done it… I hope God forgives you all, NEVER DO IT BEFOFE MARRIAGE!
God does forgive them, he forgive you, and he forgives me. Yes it does take your heart to allow yourself to grow and want forgiveness. But after you do that easiest thing. He immediately clears you. You’re an amazing child of God, and he is so happy that you his child see what he sees and how you’re allowing your conscious to grow closer to his! 🎉💖
You poor kids have been brainwashed by this secular nonsense and you unfortunately fall to the demon of lust so young. Its a sad sight to see honestly but at least you have seen your wrongs and have apologised to God
I have fallen to this sin. I grew up Christian and have always known pre-marital sex was wrong. I fell into this sin with love in my heart for my future spouse, we have been together for 5 years and have never regretted it. I wish I found this video before, I regret it now. Not the passion or love I feel and felt, but how I ignored the spiritual meaning of it. this video touched my heart and helped me realize what I did. for anyone who read this and also has fallen, it is never too to late ask god for forgiveness, he loves you. All of you. ❤
@@Kirstys635 i could just go and get married just to have sex, but that isnt marriage is for. there are many reasons why i do not want to get married at the moment, when the moment is right i will get married. but to get married just for sex, no. you have to understand i cannot go back, i did what i did and that is that. im not going to just marry my love to simply avoid a sin I keep falling to. its better to not assume peoples situations. ❤
I have also fallen into this sin. It pains me to remember that even at the time I knew that I was going against God's laws, and even though I sinned, that led me to a time of pain and sadness where I felt that everything had collapsed and I would always be alone. When I reached the lowest point of my sadness, that was where God looked for me. That was when I understood that I was not really alone because He was with me. It is never too late to seek God and ask for forgiveness for our sins. We are not perfect; we are weak against the enemy, but we must always have faith in the Lord and ask Him to always be with us, to guide us each day to Him, to paradise.
I have a couple of questions though. First of all, aren’t people marrying 10-12 years later now than they were a few thousand years ago, and wouldn’t that vastly alter the difficulty of this commitment? How would you know if you’re sexually compatible with your partner that you also can’t divorce for life? And when in the bible has “fornication” ever been an unambiguous translation and not just a replacement for sexual immorality? The issue, I feel like, is that if god wanted to prevent divorce, preventing the couple from having any knowledge of sexual interests before the covenant is locked in would be counterproductive.
I'm 33 years old. I'm still a virgin. I try to hold myself accountable for my sins, but I fall short a lot. I don't know if I will ever find someone to spend the rest of my life with and experience sex at all, but I will try to hold on to the word of God and leave everything in his hands.
Be strong, keeping God commandments are worth it. Yes there will be temptations, many temptations, but when you overcome those temptations you will be stronger than ever
Hi, I'll like to first commend you for making effort to stay chaste but I hope you are also making effort to stay pure in heart ? I say this because there's a difference between keeping virginity (some people do it not to please God but so they have what to boast about etc) and honoring God with our bodies. One can stay as a virgin but engage in everything from por.no.graphy, mast.urbation, anal se.xual involvement, fing.ering etc but claim they are virgins. I pray that as you make effort to honor God with your body, you do it holistically.
I am 24 years old waiting on God. Even though people judged me, I never regretted my decision. The most important thing for me is my spirituality and my closeness to God
I didn’t “lose” my virginity, I gave it to my husband as a gift on our wedding night! If you can do that, it’s awesome! If you’ve already lost your virginity, coming to Christ makes you a new person and your old sins are gone! (2 Corinthians 5:17) And remember, whether you’ve saved yourself for marriage or not, Jesus loves you! ❤ Excellent video!!
I’m 18 I had sex with my ex before marriage God delivered me from soul tie with her I’m a reborn Christian now and I now have a question should I say I’m a virgin now? Reborn virgin?
@javigutierrez3335 That’s a good question. I know someone who went through a similar situation. And the guy she married said, "You're my virgin." 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, "Anyone who is in Christ is a new creation. The old has gone. The new has come." I don't think you could honestly say, "I'm a virgin," but I think the term "newborn virgin" works. God bless you as you grow in Him!
@@javigutierrez3335 I don't agree with the virginity topic existing at all. But rather than calling it saving it till marriage. I would basically point out that I refuse to do with with someone I'm not married with yet. Because saying I'm saving it will make others to like oh I already lost it so I'll just keep doing it. That's not what it is about. It's about not doing it until you are married. Even if you were a virgin. You are no different. You are still a sinner who isn't perfect so basically you still have allot to repent as a virgin. Now as someone who has done it. You have allot more to repent about than sex.
I think it's important to note that just because you and your partner have been sexually immoral doesn't mean your relationship can't heal and become Godly. God bless ❤🙏
@@rahstara We have a clue in that later David and Bathsheba conceived Solomon, and it says in 2nd Samuel 12 that the Lord loved him. Blessing a marriage after so much pain and suffering with a child who have become a beloved king endeared to God is surely a sign of God's mercy.
@@jedinharris-averhart8510 Interesting. My boyfriend and I had sex before marriage. I hesitated and waited but then one day I felt ready. I was afraid that after sex, I would feel afraid, shame, guilt, unloved. But with my boyfriend, I felt safe, love, security. We’re long distanced so luckily that helps us not be tempted more often but yeah. It’s been a year since I lost my virginity with him and we don’t fight, we have disagreements but we don’t shout and argue. I just feel like since we’ve already had sex, it’s challenging to hold off until marriage. I have a stronger relationship with God than my boyfriend since he’s had his struggles with feeling God is listening to his prayers so it would be hard to switch things up. I gave my life to Christ about 6 years ago and my boyfriend gave his life to Christ about 3 years ago.
You outlining that sin causes something to die hit my heart so hard. I can testify that its true. Though attending a catholic church and identifying as "Christian" my husband and I were living in an unhappy and unhealthy marriage. The details arent important but we both began living in unrepentant sin. Then suddenly..without any notice at all..i didnt recognize my self anymore.. it was as if the me I was, had died. id become sexually enslaved, losing my self in the process. id always been known as a loving, optimistic, patient, and merciful ( im a hospice nurse) person, but I was now quick tempered, angry, restless, merciless, joyless, self seeking, and cynical. And instead of living for my kids, i lived for my self...spending hours at the gym, obsessed w my body and appearance. I remember crying, unable to console my self begging " the universe" ( since i no longer talked to God) why have i changed?! Where has the ghost of who i was gone??! After truly seeking God, i came to understand that Jesus IS the truth and was in the blink of an eye, born again and totally changed. Seeing things clearly, i realized that despite feeling justified, i was deeply engrossed in sin. The Lord revealed Himself to both of us the same week, and we both confessed and repented. The Lord has completely renewed me in every way, including returning my peace, joy, patience, and mercy. I have forgiven my husband for his deception and he has forgiven me for mine. And the Lord has even re -made our marriage into an amazing walk together... full of love, joy, trust, and comfort. ❤
There's nothing wrong about wanting to be beautiful or taking care of your body. I believe we all are supposed to do that, because our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. So, going to the gym isn't a bad thing by itself, it's the abandonment of the needs of your kids. My father did the same thing but only with going to church. He didn't care much about our needs, he pretty much left them to our mum, all he cared about was to show up at church, probably because that was an easy way to take his mind off his problems. So, pretty much anything can be used as a cop- out.
@@lembergsohn I'm so sorry your dad wasn't present in your life. I agree that taking care of your body is a good thing. It's not that the gym was bad, but making my body and appearance an idol, was. And also what I used my body for. Society lies to us when it says there is freedom in sexual revolution. I was never more enslaved than I was then. There is freedom in Christ and joy in embracing an identity as monogamous wife and mother. ♥
All ages need to understand. I am about the age where folks in my age group gotten set in their ways and do only what they want even if it leads to severe consequences. At least people under 45 have a much better chance of people changing for the better.
@@lifeafterkings6315 We've been brainwashed 😂? Your the ones who worship an evil flying spaghetti monster. Good people being sent to hell is evil, end of. If you worship someone who does something like that, then news flash your worse than the bystanders in Nazi Germany. As at least the Jews only died once, compared to the eternal damnation that you belive I'll go through. Even though I've volunteered at the Holocaust center (UK) and volunteerd at multiple other chsritys as I like to help out my fellow man.
Thank you so much for making this video. I just recently ended a 4 year relationship and our relationship was filled with immense sexual sin. Including having sex without being married and both of us being addicted to p*rn (but we kept it secret from each other). Now that we are no longer together, I have decided to wait until marriage because I experienced firsthand the toxicity of sexual immorality. I am praying for those who are currently struggling with this sin and I encourage everyone to pray to God about it and repent earnestly and honestly. Don't be afraid to talk to God about it. God is patient and kind. Fill your heart with the Spirit and his word DAILY. As time goes on, you will build strength in fighting temptation whether you struggle with lust, p*rn, or other forms of sexual immorality. God gives you strength. Don't give your heart to lust but give your heart to the Lord.
keeping you in my prayers. God will bring the right person along for you, and I'm so happy that you have come to understand the gravity of your sin and asked for forgiveness 💕. Jesus loves you
This is amazing, we and my partner struggled with this before but our faith in God has became stronger. We also decided that it is the right decision to get married early because that is one of the reason. We want our relationship to accepted by God and want to do it right. I get so many people who say otherwise but at the end of the day man, like you only know that person is right when they bring you closer to God and away form sin
Im not sure if you really know this, but I want to personally tell you that your channel has been a massive blessing to those who find it including myself. Keep doing what you're doing and I pray you will continue to impact the world.
It's also very interesting to think how King David lost to sexual immorality when he was in a sense alone. Had David been off in battle, he wouldn't have seen Bathsheba. It's interesting to think, because the best way to overcome sexual immorality is to go and be socialable.
The flip side of that coin is that is what makes sexual sin so dangerous. Ultimately, there needs to be times where we are alone. Yet sexual sin most often corrupts our alone time. Which robs from us time to learn and grow and deeply study. It robs the very safety of our thoughts. David could’ve been at battle but he also could’ve been planning for the war, dealing with his administrative duties as king in the break he had from Battle, praying for his men in battle. Yet he was instead occupied with sexual sin.
I heard it explained like this: you're at a store, and you get a chocolate bar. You REALLY want this chocolate bar, so you eat it right there in the grocery store aisle. Now, you go to the check-out aisle with the empty candy wrapper. You're still paying for it, but it's just an empty wrapper. It's embarrassing because it shows you didn't have patience. My best lessons on this topic were from men who did have sex before marriage, and told us how it's not worth it, and how they regretted it. They were able to speak from experience and caution me against it.
I see it more like this: Marriage is a covenant of love between two people declared before God. Throughout the Bible starting from Abel, we are told to give to God the best of what we have: possessions, effort, intentions, etc. Remember "Love God with all your mindheartsoulstrength"? So how can we give God the best of who we ARE during the covenant If we're already tainted with lust? That violates Rom 12:1-2. But I like your analogy better.
That is a really screwed up analogy. And also I think a degrades people in a very inaccurate light. When my wife had sex with me before we got married she and I never felt like an empty wrapper. It was incredible, it was compassionate, and it felt safe. And having sex before marriage emotionally helped us both to understand that we were right for each other. Of course relationships are complex and there's other aspects to it. What are sexual compatibility was confirmed without a doubt. And that really helps us to build and grow together.
Well another analogy is: Say you go to a car dealership to buy a car. Who in their right mind would purchase a vehicle without going for a test drive? This entire "sex before marriage is wrong" debate is nothing but a matter of ethics. Ethics are a matter of perspective. There is no right or wrong when it comes to ethics, look up the trolley problem to understand why.
I am 35 year old female waiting for marriage. It is hard and falling into temptation of masturbation was a struggle for me last year because of hormones like once a month. I stopped after going to confession and repenting numerous times. God introduced me to someone 10 years ago and I know the wedding night for us will be fabulous
Brothers I’m 25 and still a virgin. Not gonna lie I have been feeling envious towards my brothers and sisters who are married because I wanna be where they are. But, I know our heavenly dad has a plan for me and for all of y’all when it comes to marriage. Hang in there and keep your eyes in God fam!
Brother I’m a 26 year old newly wed. I’ve waiting my whole life for sex in the right context. It’s absolutely worth it. You won’t be able to figure out immediately, but you’ll get to spend time figuring it out with your wife and NO ONE ELSE. That is a gift I would not trade for anything.
Sex before marriage especially with the wrong person will always create soul ties and making a soul tie with the wrong person can be very bad especially mentally
I’m so glad he went over the three reasons at the end. It brings a good conclusion and helps people remember the three reasons better. I’m so glad I found this video.
I know this might not have been easy to make this video. But you did the right thing. My wife and I saved ourselves for each other and our wedding day. After feeling the intense physical and emotional connection this created, we both can’t imagine doing it different than God’s way. Wait. I promise, it’s worth it. And if others who waited tell you it wasn’t, they’re not doing it right, and there are resources for that to be avoided that aren’t pornographic.
Oh no, I guarantee you it was incredibly easy to make this video. Saying "sex uoutside marriage is wrong" is a rather uncontrovertial statement among Christians
@@theankotze1292you’d be surprised, unfortunately. And then there’s the “Bible says don’t judge me,” Christians. When the Bible literally says to judge believers (and specifically not unbelievers), in order to turn them from their sin. (1 Cor 5:12) Not a well known verse or popular one, but true nonetheless.
@@theankotze1292 Yes, I think, no, believe so, too! Trust me, this is a video that's far away removed from anything that awkward on these kinds of sex-related topics... and I've seen some serious whoppers! Like should Christians (after marriage) engage in anal sex??? Now THAT couldn't have been an easy video to make, much less watched. 🙈🙈🙈
As a young divorced guy, missing the companionship and intimacy/ romance, this was a good reminder to seek god first. Thanks for all you do brother!! God bless.✝️
The missing of all those things is realy hard.. I feel you in this situation and want to say to keep strong with the help of Jesus!🙏🏼 (Sorry for bad english)
I’m an atheist, and there is a scientific explanation as well! We deeply bond to our first s*xual partner psychologically, and our ability to bond with s*xual partners greatly drops with each new partner. It’s called the pair bonding effect. Whether religiously or biologically, it’s wrong to sleep around.
You are correct. I stated that partly in my answer. The funny thing is that even though I consider myself a believer (not a good truly practicing believer, but definitely believer), I find myself wanting better scientific reasons for various issue with religion. And truly there are. Just as the basic reason for not eating pork was the high risk of salmonella, there are good solid reasons, even just sensible reasons if not scientific. The other sensible and partly biological reason is the more sex, the more likely a child is born. He should not have to deal with the screwy situations the parents put him in.
That's not accurate. Bonding is essential to human survival, if someone lacks the ability to bond it's usually a form of mental impairment. Any first experience is going to have a disproportionate amount of memory allocated to it. But just because you have one child, that doesn't prevent you from Loving more. Even so, the simple fact is that most people don't marry their first Love. My first Love shook my entire world to my core, I didn't even know what being in Love was. No relationship I ever have is going to effect me that way, but that doesn't mean that I lack the ability to bond with someone else. Frankly that first Love, with someone I never even touched, had more of an impact on me than all my other sexual experience combined. And considering the social element of sex, it shouldn't be surprising that some people related to sex differently.
@@GrokfordActually it is pretty accurate from what I recall of reports on this, though long past. The first sexual experience releases pheromones that can get one stuck on that person forever. Not good, if it's not your "true" love and not the parent of your children. It's not good to be visualizing the first, or any others, with sexual relations with who should be your mate. Your comments rather made that point, and that apparently is WITHOUT sexual contact.
@@theOlLineRebel I don't technically disagree, I just think that you're taking this information to a different conclusion. Lots of people become very attached to their first Love, their first kiss, their first sexual partner etc., but it's very rare that these three are all the same person; and people seem to manage. It's also rare that you marry any of those people. If I'm understanding you correctly the solution you seem to be suggesting is that people should never have love or sex until they're sure that the person is an ideal partner and a marriage is established.. Falling in love with someone is a rather involuntary thing, but regardless I don't see how a marriage actually makes you any safer. You can still get inordinately attached to someone if you're married to them. Which might not seem like a problem, but there's no guarantee that you're in a good relationship. Especially if you've been starving yourself of affection and intimacy(emotional, sexual or otherwise) is can be very easy to let your desire for that outweigh your ability to be rational. So in avoiding one obsessive tendency, you can inadvertently create another. I know a lot of young Christians who got engaged or married at 19 or 20, and If I'm being honest, I doubt that many of them would have if they had felt comfortable having sex without a wedding ring. And if you are in a good marriage, with a good partner, there's still a risk. If this person is your first Love, you first kiss, your first sexual partner.. anything good and exclusive to them, then it can be very easy to put them on a pedestal and let problems and issues fly under the radar[such as the issues that come from living together for the first time], perhaps becoming permanent, perhaps causing bigger problems later. It's a common trope to see couples bring up issues and hear "you never said anything before" because people can ignore problems when they're early in a relationship; hence the "honeymoon phase" Which can be made much worse if it's your first. I've known plenty of people who have explicitly wanted multiple relationships/ sexual partners just so they can be a bit more resistant to the hormonal shifts of a relationship or sex. Because yes, the first of any positive experience has a massive emotional effect; but heightening the effect by abstention doesn't make you immune to it. You're much more likely to tolerate bad behavior if someone is your one in only. But if you know that you could date or have sex with someone else the fact that you have a sexual or romantic relationship with someone isn't going to have you in a chokehold A good comparison might be your first job. If you got your first job at eighteen and worked there for 20 years, it likely that you're going to have a much higher tolerance for mistreatment and you might even be desperate to meet the demands of the job, because you know that you could get another job, you have no point of comparison for what's acceptable workplace behavior and you have a scarcity mindset. Meanwhile the more typical modern example is that people regularly switch jobs, so you know how to get another job if you want to, so you're far less likely to put up with mistreatment or poor pay. It wasn't until.. maybe my fifth job that I had any wherewithal to stand up for myself. If I had settled for any of the previous I would have been stuck in horrible working conditions I was smart, but at my first job I was still regularly lied to and stolen from. You said that you shouldn't be "thinking about your first" when you're with someone else, but I have to sincerely ask you if that's been a problem for you? I don't think I've ever kissed anyone and been thinking about a time I was kissing someone else. I know I've never been in Love with someone and spent any time thinking about how in love I had been with someone before. With brief exceptions, the only time I ever thought about a different job when I was at work was when I was working a job that I didn't like. I think that if you're in a relationship and you can't stop comparing your partner to a previous partner.. then eitheryou have a inaccurate fantasy of that past relationship, oh you're not actually that interested in your current partner, possibly both. I have fond memories and fond feelings for many of my past relationships.. but if I'm with someone and they're not exceeding a few random good moments from someone else, then what are they actually? They're probably not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. If you're not satisfied with a partner in the beginning, then what makes you think you'll be happier with them in thirty years. If the only way that something could be considered good is complete and total ignorance of any alternative.. then what's so great about it? "Good enough" might be okay for a quick lunch, but I think that if you're planning on building a life with someone(with an exclusive sexual and romantic partnership to boot) then I don't think that "good enough" cuts it.
I was literally just wrestling with the thought of, "everyone does it, even my "Christian" friends say its not a big deal, so its ok to do it". Then I open up RUclips and without even having to scroll at all, this video was right there. God is good.
While I’ve never been married and is my goal. I’ve seen plenty of separate examples of how this particular sin has destroyed the sanity of many a man. Until god deems it my turn, I will strive for patience and self control.
I think that's just fear talking. Me and my wife had plenty of sexual partners before he met each other. But it wasn't until we had sex with each other that we figured out we were perfectly compatible for each other. We are going on 10 years strong and happy❤
This is all fear, the only Bible verse that doesn’t simply say sexual immorality (without saying what it is), or a word that has been mistranslated into fornication is in Deuteronomy. And even then, there are debates as to what the “violation” was in this verse, whether it was actually sex before marriage or something else like rape.
This video is perfect for Teens like me who is growing with God and doing everything possible to keep pureness. I have a friend I am worried for because she is not christian and is lost and slaved to sin. She is so young and regularly comits it. I pray for her In Jesus name she wants to change🤍✝️
I’m 17 years of age n I’m still a virgin it’s hard to live in a society where everyone praise sex before marriage n it’s hard to find relationships that actually wants to wait till marriage with me, I get insecure sometimes that all my friends done it n I haven’t I feel as tho I should too but sometimes I think of God n Ik it’s bad n I shouldn’t do it . This video helped me a lot no feel less insecure about being a virgin rather happy to keep myself pure n hopefully my spirit won’t die . Thanku
I was 17 only 6 years ago bro & let me tell you, having sex isnt gonna make you “cool” trust me on that. My buddies always used talk about it and I always felt like a loser deep down, after falling to sexual immorality I realized it didnt matter and tbh with you, building that confidence with God alone is all you need, you seem further than I was at 17, Be strong brother 💪🏻✝️
@@smuggoat5595 Do not sacrifice your inner honour to fullfill the temptating thoughts that may come. Having a humble and altruistic character will give you more than being like others in this world. If you like literature, try reading the first part of Goethe’s play Faust, it changed my view on sins.
Man.. this video showed up the day of this sin happening... you really opened my eyes so far... please pray for me, so that I can have the strength to follow gods commandments...
Thank you very much man.I'm 17 and I used to think not having sex at this age was for losers but now that you've explained it...I feel very much proud of myself no matter what people will say to me.Thank you
Hey man, I’m 19 now, I always wanted to wait until marriage but when I was 18 I slipped up with a girl I thought I was going to marry and now I wish I could’ve taken that back for both our sakes, and we didn’t even go all the way. Treasure what you’ve got, even now people make fun of me for not participating in sexual immorality. I promise you no matter what you’ve made the right call and you’re walking not only the righteous path, but the most enjoyable path as well. Stay strong and keep love in your heart brother
Thank God I could find a group of people that still hold this principle. Me, 22 y.o. virgin woman, still (and always) hold this principle. So grateful to find that still there are lots of Christians that follow words from the bible. GBU all❤
Dont feel compelled my brother; if she is the one she is the one, sex will not confirm your future trust me on this; you’re making the right decision brother ✝️💪🏻
I needed this 😢 i fell in this sin many times and I don't want it... it did make my relation with God harder I am fighting so hard now to get back on track spiritually and honor him and wait again for my marriage if I ever get married
1 Corinthians 6:18 "Run away from sexual immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body." Just gotta nope outta the situation if you ever feel tempted in such a way. [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. I know it's easier said than done, but perhaps having an escape plan in place could work? Like, if you ever feel tempted by something, you stop whatever you're doing, shut down those thoughts, pray for deliverance and then distract yourself with something more wholesome like watching a kids' movie. Maybe surrounding yourself with friends and family could help too, bc then you're not in private and can't do anything. Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but I hope it helps in some way shape or form. I'll keep you in my prayers. 🙏
This video was amazing. Not only did it teach about the dangers of sex before marriage but also the dangers of sin in general and how dangerous it really is. We should really think before we do.
I can't tell you how much your ministry has helped us in parenting our teens. This video (and finding "The One" and so many others) is so incredibly helpful! Because my husband and I did it the wrong way (we were the Christians that knew it was wrong but didn't know why) we want to break the cycle and teach our kids the right way. But often when we talk they just here waaa waa waa. Your biblically sound explanations and animation keeps their attention and it makes the convenience afterwards much more productive. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to use you to help create a new generation of Christ followers that are truly warriors for the Gospel not only in words but in deeds. Thank you so so much for giving God your YES!
Hi! Could you explain what did you find convaincing in these explanations, about sex between partners who are going to marry ? We struggle with my current partner who I know is the one for me and who want us to get married. We find this rule really frustrating and we can't understand how in which way it could be so benefical to wait...
simply watching this make me felt pure, with a sense of comfort, knowing that the sacrifice we made for God is meaningful, so that we have a good reason not joining the world in its promiscuity.
Pride is around the corner when we start to put our own "sacrifices" higher than his. There's nothing you can sacrifice to God, he's not that kind of being. He's full in himself and lacks nothing. On the other hand - you get to be in need of him. He is making you pure, not you watching a yt vid. Peace ❤
That’s the one thing I never understood: something dies. They add up, and eventually you hit a breaking point of some form. For me, everything died, and I couldn’t bear it anymore. I needed a savior.
Thanks so Mac for this video, I’m a virgin and the pressures are real, but I want to stay close to God and no one understands why I choose to remain pure, and when they ask it’s very annoying, that people won’t want to hang out with me. I hope you continue to make these videos and never stop. It’s really helpful in my life. Thanks sooooo much.
Honestly, thank you for this. I'm a Christian and serious about my walk with Christ. But this is the sin that I tried to ignore has consequences even though it was screaming at me. I believe this is God saving me from death like you've stated and I'm glad I saw this today. Thank you for the wake-up call, and may His name be lifted high forever and ever amen
I’m scared that I will never find someone who will want to wait for marriage. Especially in the generation where marriage and intercourse is becoming a joke and people are doing it without truly loving one another.
Same here idk I'm gonna keep my virginity til marriage but if no one wants to wait then I'll stay a virgin until God calls me home. Just try to encourage yourself and stay true to your relationship with God and what you want to do. But I do believe that there is someone made just for you that is willing to wait especially if they really love you like how God loves you. I hope this encourages you God bless you! 😊
Thank you so much for this video, I'm a recover*ing* porn addict, I was much worse before watching almost every day but now a few times a month. I'm still so ashamed and lie to hide it from my fiance, and very recently I admitted after so many months of lying about being clean. This message hit me like a truck, even though we aren't having sex my addiction still applies here. It is most definitely harming my relationship with God and my fiance, and sin definitely leads to more sin. I'm making progress but still not the man I need to be. I already knew all of this, but it's still good to be reminded of the severity of our sins to be reminded of how good Jesus is and how great of a sacrifice he made for us. Please pray for me, and if anyone is in the same boat as I am, I'll pray for you as well.
This is what I always try to tell my friends who move in with their girlfriends before they are married or even engaged! I know I made mistakes in the past, but I don't want any of my friends and family to go through what I went through. But no one I talk to wants to listen to me and always proceed to do what they want to. Only a few came back to me and said they wished they listened to me. Great video, and thank you for being brave enough to speak this truth.
@kingwooly6211 I would like to keep their information private since I do not have their permission to share their story. I hope you understand. Basically, they did not follow the appropriate path that God gives us when it comes to dating and relationships, and it didn't end the way they hoped.
If something is does for pure love, it’s not a marriage that will change things. My parents never been married but I’m here and I’m a Christian. the wrong thing, and science also confirms it, is not so much having sex before marriage, but having sex without love, with pure lust like Davide did.
Thats a soul tie to have sex before sanctification because that opens you up to the spirit of not only jealousy but adultery and as you all know adultery can be perceived in many ways.
The reason why God didn’t want us to sleep with someone before marriage is because that when you sleep with someone, it’s not just a physical bond it is a soul bond. You are creating a soul tie with someone. Has anyone ever wondered how it is that when they get into a relationship with someone and they have sex with them usually, if it’s before marriage, that relationship will fail, and because you have created a soul with that person that break up is going to almost kill you emotionally And usually when that person that you broke up with and rebounds, you were going to feel something in your heart and deep in your soul during the time at that person goes and rebounds, because they are tying their soul to somebody else as they have already been tied to you. Also, you have a tie with someone that you broke up with that is the reason as to why it is harder for somebody to move on because months years on down the road they are still thinking about that person and still have feelings for that person. That is why God did not want us to have sex before marriage because he did not want us to feel the pain of break ups.
I'm 29 y.o. Not a Christian.. As crazy as it sounds, I haven't even kissed a girl.. 😞 It's becoming kinda painful but I'm still gonna endure until I'm with my better half 😊
Your stance toward lust and holiness precisely is what shows to God whether your relationship with Him is genuine or not. And I say that as someone who struggled a lot with those types of sins. "For everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-comes not from the Father but from the world." 1 John 2v16
22 years old man here, still virgin. i thank God because he protected me until now, waiting for the woman of my life to come to me, and if this is not gonna happen in my temporary time in this world, i will Die purely and live again for eternity with my Lord Jesus, regardless that, and my reward will be high in heaven. Long Live the LORD JESUS. Amen.
I didn’t come to God until long after I met my fiancé, shortly after we found out we were pregnant. I’ve since proposed and we live together, preparing for the baby due in the spring, and we’re planning our marriage, applying for a marriage license this week.
Yeah well while that's fine and dandy some of us don't have much of a say; sadly I was molested as a child (9yrs old) so there's that. And like too many neglected and assaulted children I grew up and too quickly dabbled into sexual promiscuity through my late teens and throughout my 20s etc. By the grace of God I have been forgiven and delivered (am now in my 30s). It all starts in the home, teaching the importance of abstinence and also to keep kids safe too. So please protect your kids if you got 'em. Don't discount any child who bravely shares their relative touched them. Listen to them and protect them. God bless.
I’m so sorry to hear that. It seems like God has used it to bring you to him though and has blessed you, which is awesome. May God continue to bless you and help you move away from that past, and thank you for sharing such a personal thing.
Sex before marriage is important! Sex is a big part of a healthy marriage, don’t get locked in just to realize you’ll be miserable. Be safe and respectful but still do it!
Thank you for speaking about uncomfortable topics. I’m still a virgin and know no one around me who’s been so before marriage. Your video gives me courage in a world that condemns this. Thank you!
I can attest to what you’ve mentioned in the video. Unfortunately, I’ve had many sexual partners, and I’ve had so much heartbreak and loss in my life. I was lying about where I was going, I lied about getting pulled over by the police, and previously, I had disrespected the rules of the house. I decided that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. I am a born again Christian. I hate that I cannot give a potential future spouse the gift of a clean bed, but I have turned away from this sin and will never dishonor myself like this again. My life has gotten better since I stopped rejecting God’s gift of salvation
Thank you for making these videos, I'm only a "beginner teen" and to learn, and love God is actually really nice to do and know. You making these videos help and lets me know a lot of information, and I just want to say thank you again!
Exactly what this video talked about, is exactly what happened in my first relationship. This video has given me better understanding as to why things unfolded the way they did. Thank you for the understanding you have given us and God bless you for it.
Hey man, I have been going through some very specific struggles recently and I had to say your videos were very timely. First with the anime one and now this. I just want you to know I appreciate the work you do, and Im sure God has sent these videos to me as well. So God bless and keep up the good work.
I wished that I would known this as a boy at young age. Before things happened. But I am glad that I could learn a bit from you.Thank you for you hard work, service and the love you share.
I am a mid aged teenager and I have felt pressured to have sex outside of marriage. It is a shame how the world influences young men and women to commit fornication. I love God and understand that your body belongs to God and your temple is for the holy spirit 🙌🏽 I am grateful that I denied to have any sexual relation before marriage. I will continue to be a chaste virtuous female of God and I encourage other females and males to stay a virgin before marriage. I pray God will bless our marriages and send a righteous spouse our way🤲🏽 and reminder SIN IS SIN!!! no matter what people say is fun or cool if it goes against God its wrong
The reason you shouldn’t have sex before marriage is not just because the Bible said so but it’s also because it can lead to the father leaving or unintentional pregnancy’s and people having abortions. It never ends well. Ever.
Such a powerful message 👏🏿 and this can be looked at as all sin because sin separates us from God. I thank God for inspiring you guys for making these helpful videos. Continue God's work, He is definitely working through you guys
I'm 29, and since I was 18 and lost my virginity, every sexual encounter I had led to something bad. It was always either heartbreak, dissapointnent, or some other bad scenario. Obey God. Wait til you're married.
For me as a young Christian it was a lot simpler then this. I just read a bunch of statistics and realized it's not worth the risk. 1. Statistics show people who have sex outside of marriage are far more likely to get divorce. 2. They also show there are no 100% safe protections when it comes to sex. In other words, you likely will either conceive a child you are not ready for, or you'll get STDs at least. 3. For vast majority oxytosis is released less and less when you switch partners. In other words, you'll ruin your future sex life by engaging in sex before marriage.
I remember being super young, I'm talking 13 or 14 years old, when students in my high school began talking about explicit stuff like sex before marriage, drugs etc, and I remember that, for the sex topic, I just straight up asked them what the point of sex was with a person who you're not dedicating yourself to. Mind you, I hadn't really understood the Bible or the commandments at this point, did NOT care as a kid; in one ear out the other, and I was going through some tough things that made me distance myself and actively despise God. (don't worry I'm better now) But not gonna lie, was super proud of myself for that one because of how nonchalant and inconceivable I found the idea of sex before marriage. Like, I firmly believed that sex wasn't just about bodily pleasure, it was about baring yourself completely to this other person, letting them embrace you, touch you in this intimate way that nobody else could. Why would you ever want to do that with someone you didn't love and cherish? Why would you CHEAPEN that experience just for short-term gratification? Didn't make sense to me at all. I remember the boys and girls got really quiet and their jaws were just hanging open as I told them that. Still a hilarious memory to think of to this day.
@NTP-yq5cl Oh yeah, the lack of sex education definitely contributes in a massive way, especially when our culture and society is so....reliant on sex. We're exposed to ideas of promiscuity and we're a society that promotes sex without actually teaching our children to understand what sex entails, including the unpleasant or rather, realistic aspects.
@NTP-yq5cl Definitely agree on both. Education on the reproductive system will help young children about how their body is changing and should serve as reassurance because this is a very drastic shift for them, both in their bodies and also in their minds, while proper sex education, including protection, the danger of underaged sex, how to properly conduct sex, will ensure that they actually understand how sex works in a controlled environment, and they don't just believe whatever they see on social media or think porn is an actual model for how to do sex, because I know people like that and it's completely wrong on so many levels. Sex shouldn't be treated as a taboo subject or paraded around. It's an important life lesson for children to carry and treat properly when they're adults.
@NTP-yq5cl I definitely think a warning about porn should be given, and not just on porn, but also on other explicit materials like magazines or books or just social media. They should know to be cautious, to understand how our society flaunts sex and they should do their own proper research. The point that should be emphasized is to take great care around the topic of sex. After all, the ideal is that you bring pleasure and intimacy to your partner and they should be able to do the same for you, because you love them. You don't want to hurt them. So, take it seriously. Talk to your partner, plan, treat it like you're planning your honeymoon or a vacation or anything where you want to squeeze out as much enjoyment out of and not stress over situations that catch you off guard.
I am part of the 3rd camp🫤 I am not bragging It eats up my conscious and I try by all means... I pray about it so the lord can make a way for me to escape this dreadful sin... I feel trapped
Keep praying. I was the same way. Stay in Galatians 5 and find a trusted accountability partner who is spiritually mature to help you. It is a long process as the Holy Spirit chips away at this all encompassing sin but let me tell you He is faithful! He delivered me from this sin and He continues to renew me every day. Read the Word, Pray, Journal and know that He is working. It may not feel like it but stay on the narrow path my friend. The shackles are cracking and will soon break!
🙏 - Sincere turn from (practice) of (sin) and (willful sin) or (All) will perish Luke 13:3 KJV I tell you, [Nay:] but, except [ye repent,] ye shall [all] [likewise] [perish.]
It's worth the wait, trust me! When you're looking into your beloved's eyes knowing you have that covenant that nobody else has with either of you you'll be so glad you saved it just for them. Any fleeting time of enjoyment I could have had with another man is nowhere near as valuable as what I have with my husband.
@@Servant44 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do-this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it Romans7 15to20 It is impossible for me to leave sin by my will... I honestly try all I can do is wait for christ Jesus to help me in my repenting
As someone struggling with lust, this video really helped, and I pray that whoever sees this comment and is struggling with sin may be cleansed of their sin and be pure. A verse that helps me is 1 Corinthians 10:13. May God Bless you, AMEN!!! 💕❤️✝️🙏
This is such a good animation to explain this issue. May our sisters and brothers reflect on this genuinely. Hands up to my virgin siblings out there! May we find our God-chosen person to share this with. God bless us all.
I would like to clarify something at 3:50. Your usage of 2 Samuel 11:2-4 is not equivalent to saying “sex before marriage leads to loss.” The point of David losing his connection to God and suffering tremendous consequences because of his sexual immorality was because of his covetousness of another man’s wife, it was not because it was sex before marriage. It was very clearly describing the consequence of coveting and lusting after one another’s wives. This is a particular form of evil under sexual immorality, but it is not because it was before marriage. It was an abomination to the commandments of Moses, breaking the seventh law.
I feel like this video did a great job but it talked mostly about how it causes us to sin more. I would like another video focusing on why it is a sin. Great video!
As someone who followed what God asked of me (and I wasnt perfect about it, but thankfully I never crossed that line) It is so so important to wait. I love being able to say that my husband is my one and only.
You do not show an example of a person losing from making sex before Marriage. The sin of david was not that he had sex before marriage, but that he desired someone elses woman and acted on that desire. Not once did you show a clear example of sex before marriage actually being a sin. Sex outside marriage is a sin because you have promies yourself to someone, but then sleep with another. Not just because it is outside marriage.
Exclusivity Exclusive Love ❤️ That's how God sees His love between God and His Redeemed , Holy & Pure A marriage is a Closed marriage , exclusively each other's... Not open for others as The Lord calls that Adultery Sin corrupts and seperates trust 😢
The more I read it the more I’m starting to believe that the Bible is ACTUALLY talking about those who cheat on their spouse. Sometimes people bring others home and sleep with them in the bed they share with their spouse. Marriage should be respected meaning that people shouldn’t try to sleep with a married person and a married person shouldn’t lie to their spouse.
I struggled with this sin, but the consequences of my actions resulted in my kids are now fatherless ... I repent ever committing this sin... I love my daughters and as a single mom... I vow not to continue in this sin
@@ChibiGanondorf I haven’t played all of them yet, I’m working on Link between worlds at the moment. but my favourite is probably tears of the kingdom.
I kind of wish you brought up the reason why sex is wrong outside of marriage. Which is for both the husband and wife to accept creating a child through the bonding love they are about to have with one another.
Hey thats great, but god knows that and idk if its so good to present it to everybody you know what I mean? I mean if its for that everybody sees how great you are in that part of your life. Its not offensive meant, god bless you
You're not pure, you're a virgin. Anyone who's told you that your level of sexual experience(or lack thereof) is an indicator of your worth is setting you up for failure.
Wow, God bless you, for me this was God talking and teaching me, me and my fiancé are having issues with this and we want to stop for good, but its really hard. Just after some hours when we talked about it, you sent a video exactly about our conversation! For me this God using you to talk with us and everybody else with this sin, thank you and thank God, God bless you always ❤️🙏🏻
were you a christian before proposing to her? and is your gf also christian?im in a similar situation with my gf and even gave her a promise ring when we started dating that was meant as a promise of me going to marry her. As much as I want to marry her, I am still young and broke and can't afford to even get our own place. How do you bring up the topic with her?
and remember even when we do mess up God is the God of the Impossible He can save and restore you but you must take what he says seriously whatever causes you to sin Get Rid of it.
I unfortunately fell into this sin last year, I lost my virginity to my now ex and I regret it terribly, I wish I could go back.......however, because of the heart break it did open my heart to God; so I'm happy it led me here, because before I was an unbeliever. Before, I didn't see an issue with it, but the whole process of it felt exciting but wrong.
I already repented and asked God for forgiveness but I regret doing it so much :( I wish I would have taken sin seriously back then or be interested in God. I was depressed and did lots of things cuz i thought God gave me all the Pain I experienced all those years. Now iam happy to be faithful and obedient to God and when iam having a boyfriend again iam gonna wait till marriage to not do the same sin willingly this time˚₊‧꒰ა ₍ᐢ. .ᐢ₎ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚
Praise God! Know that God loves you and does not condemn you. Don't let guilt and shame keep you from your loving Father. He is always willing to forgive ❤🙏 Romans 8:1 NKJV [1] There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Sometimes you dont need to explain why something is a sin. Sometimes the Bible saying it's a sin is all the reason I need
of course, but a deep understanding of the subject makes a great weapon againts evil
Well good luck explaining that to those who don’t believe in the Bible being the Holy Word of God, or worse, say that it’s wrong because “X” reason.
Sometimes you really do have to go beyond the idea of “well, *Why* does the Bible/God say it’s wrong?”
@Arcticmaster1190 Well that's the first part. You have to show them the Word of God and then let them find that put themselves (or show them the verses).
@@Arcticmaster1190first obvious reason,the rampant spread of sexual diseases that shouldn’t even exist,but guess that isn’t enough reason
Sure, for some who already understands, yeah, but for those who don't, like he said in the video, "because the Bible says so," isn't a very satisfying answer for most people, especially when they feel like in the moment, that it doesn't feel wrong, or even feels good.
I agree with the other comments that it's important to deeply understand this topic as well as others in regards to sin, so that when other people ask us why "X" is wrong, when it doesn't seem as obvious to them, we can give a thorough and well thought out answer to them, that hopefully makes sense to them. It can be very difficult to explain to people, especially now, in this "sex-positive" culture, why this is wrong. Heck, even just last year, I remember having a conversation about this with a friend of mine about this very thing, and he gave a lot of different reasons why having sex outside of marriage could be good, or why saving that for marriage could be bad, that I couldn't accurately counter at the time, because I myself have no experience in any of it, so I knew my words would ring hollow, especially if I just kept repeating "because the Bible said so." That paints me as woefully naive in his eyes, so there must be something more I could say, that could really explain the wisdom of God that could hopefully reach his mind, and most importantly, his soul. I asked another friend about the conversation, a friend who is a brother of Christ, who's _definitely_ more knowledgeable than me, and he helped give me a lot of points that I didn't know about the topic that I could bring up, should it ever come up again, both biblical and statistical, and real world advice on how to solve all the issues my other friend posed.
Sometimes, situations can be messy, and look a bit gray, but the answer is always black and white, and the answer is always the one God laid out for us, but sometimes, it's hard to see him among all the grays, and so we justify our own blindness.
In closing, perhaps for you, if it's in the Bible, and it's God's word, that could be enough, but it's always best to get a thorough understanding of his word beyond just what he says, for those that don't, and to help fortify yourself against all doubt and temptation.
May God bless you. 🙏
As someone who fell into it before marriage with my ex, i can confidentially say, DO NOT do it before marriage, learn from others mistakes, it takes way too long to recover emotionally and spiritually from something you should have listened to God in the first place for. Theres reasons God says certain things are wrong
Same. Agree
DFEINITELY reasons why God says things are wrong. Better to follow before we regret and can't look back anymore.
I agree, but, what exactly did you experience? Was it 'just' shame & guilt?🤔
@@rangariraikunedzimwe2780 both, it took around 6 months to break the soul tie. I occasionally get flashbacks to moments but I no longer desire her sexually. Now that I’ve awakened love before it’s time like Songs of Solomon says, my desires have become stronger and I have to deny my flesh twice as much daily because ik how it feels and want it more. One of the worst parts is it’s causing me to have a ton of wet dreams, I’ve never dealt with that so much. I wake up mad about those dreams when they come up especially because I’m never thinking about the situation to even have the dream. The experience taught me a valuable lesson about listening to God, He’s not an annoying dad taking fun away, He’s extremely loving and knows what you’re gonna go through if you fall into your temptations. I nearly beg people to not do it before marriage, everything that happens after will never be worth satisfying yourself for the moment. The Bible is absolutely correct, it satisfies you for the moment, but emotionally and spiritually, it messes you up. We did love each other and left on good terms, but we lusted each other far more than loved. And a small tip for people who easily are attracted to people, just because the person is very physically attractive and beautiful/handsome with a good personality, doesn’t mean they’re meant to be with you. I won’t discredit her, she’s very beautiful and very physically attractive, but I should have let go of being lukewarm (both of us should have) and started listening to God, a good body and sexual experience DOES NOT mean the experience will be good forever UNLESS your married. To everyone waiting till marriage, keep going, it’s never worth it before marriage, I’m healed and moved on of everything, but it messes you up long term. (Lemme add something) but if you have fallen into it and realized your wrongs, God will truly forgive you and heal you if you genuinely want to repent of it. I can’t thank Him enough for everything He’s done for me, I don’t deserve to be forgiven, especially because I knew it wasn’t good till marriage, but His love is stronger than your sins, now I’m waiting for my future wife and most definitely setting boundaries.
@@rangariraikunedzimwe2780probably loss of intimacy
My boyfriend and I had a toxic sexual relationship and life, I almost died and experienced a supernatural scary experience. We started watching bible movies to figure things out because something Happened and it scared me. Long story short we became born again Christians, healed our relationship, are now engaged and havent had sex in a year because we needed a reset and we now know how sacred and special sex is supposed to be. All this to say GOD can fix and heal anything if you trust in HIM.
Did you guys ever have to breakup to heal it? I’m only asking cause I’m in a relationship with someone and I know I need to fix my relationship with God and stop committing sin.
No, but we were going to have to if things didn't change. We started praying and asking Jesus to come into this relationship to heal it and he has in a big way and we still pray for our relationship every day. Getting married next month! GOD IS GOOD!
@@shellsaver231idk how you almost died but be warned once a psycho always a psycho
Ah, the classic shared psychotic disorder ❤️🥰
@@gasparortiz6556 liking your own comment is wild
I’m a 19 year old virgin woman who’s also in college and the amount of men who told me that they refuse to wait until marriage because “men are sexual creatures.”
Here are some other things I’ve dealt with:
1. Meeting “Christian” men who still do drugs, cuss, listen to explicit music, drink alcohol excessively, never go to church/Bible study, party, and have sex before marriage.
2. Female peers making fun of me for waiting until marriage (“What if your husband sucks at sex?”)
3. My church being 80% elderly, 10% married couples with kids, and 5% people my age but they come on Easter and Christmas
4. Seeing couples on social media and crying that I haven’t gotten it yet but God’s timing is worth it, just have to be patient
5. Temptation, temptation, temptation. It seems in this world these days you have to participate in a hookup, sex before marriage, or marry early to feel love, and I don’t want that. God doesn’t want that.
6. Missing out on majority of college events (parties and frats) because I want to worship God but I’m incredibly lonely
7. Men rejecting me because “I see you as a friend” but turn around and date a girl who does OF and has failing grades
8. Trying to remain positive about your future because God has it handled but…..it’s so isolating.
Of course this doesn’t just apply to women because both men and women experience the struggles of waiting for marriage and being a Christian. But I just wanted to share my two cents as a Christian woman myself.
Keep waiting and be strong, the one will find you
I have experienced this too and getting ghosted because I refuse to have sex before marriage. I am 27 years old and still a virgin. Obeying God is worth the wait. God's timing is the best
Stay strong, and stay righteous in God.
@afrofaeries Dear sister, I feel you. I can't say I know what it feels like to experience no. 1, 2, and 7, but I definitely have experienced 5 and especially no. 6. I do understand the loneliness/isolation that comes with following God/doing the right thing. But I'm always encouraged by the fact that Jesus is our satisfaction, and that He will always be with us even till the end of the age. Keep holding on, I'm sure that it will be worth it.
I hope this encourages you. God bless =)
Straight facts
I love how it always ends with "Jesus loves you" ☺
Yeah, this brings me hope everytime
Right? Me too😊
It’s gives me so much Joy❤️
Makes me cry EVERY TIME!!!
Brings me to tears when I hear that❤️😭
As a Muslim girl, I very much appreciate the Christians that also put value in preserving themselves and being modest and all that kind of things. 😊 Wish you all the best. ❤
@@rangefromtblt4047 as a muslim guy i also feel like i ve learned something and wont forget for a long time
As a Muslim entity I do not support the message ]:
Jesus loves you ❤
@@begmuhammethajyyewJesus is calling you home ❤
@@billcipher4368Jesus loves you 😊
As someone who has struggled with this sin I can confidently agree with what He says it destroys everything good in your life
thank for sharing this. i hope you didn't get too much affected by the fruit of sin and that you're healed
@@jojof.n5594 I did but finally am getting rid of it and repairing my relationship with God and others
So true 😔
i think that marriage correlates to a better relationship (regardless of whether you had sex before or after it) because of the planning, not because it’s a “natural good” or represents a turn away from the inherent objectification of bodies during sex. overall though, marriage is a hollow concept to me since the legal, social and civil aspect of it are completely replicable without it and it’s culturally and temporally constructed.
that said i can come to respect the kinds of opinions that elevate it as a necessity even though i think they’re harmful to some people (i.e naturally casual daters and lgbt people who literally can’t marry in some countries as a form of discrimination)
same
Best decision we made. I broke up with my first boyfriend at 19 to save myself. Met my husband at age 20 and married as virgins and our relationship is unreasonably blissful. Everyone else we know has had sexual partners prior to their current spouses and struggle with all kinds of marital problems that make our relationship flaws look miniscule. We're celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary next month.
That's really wonderful. May GOD continue blessing your Marriage.
You have a happy anniversary, and God bless you and your family.
that’s beautiful.
exactly.. when ppl have sex before hand and then move on without fully healing they are most likely still stuck on their ex
Amen
My husband and I had our first kiss and sex on our wedding day, and no words can explain how precious it was and still! We prayed before we made love and still; sex is such a blessing! It is worth the wait! 🙏
If you have given up to lust in your previous relationships, God can restore you! He will restore you. Taste and see that the Lord is good. Great blessings await those who are patient and obedient to God! 🙏❤️
That's really beautiful. I'm 22 and a virgin and I'm waiting til marriage. I'm really happy for you it gives me hope that just maybe someone is willing to wait with me, if not then I'll just stay single Lol.
I am waiting no sex before marriage no exceptions
You had your first kiss on your wedding day!?
That is really great.
Honestly, that's really sweet and pure. I hope to have something like that
i’m 24 yo virgin waiting on Gods timing to bring me my woman.
same im a male 26
God bless you!
Same im a 20 yo male. I feel like God has sort of protected me from engaging in fornication.
Good for you ❤
Better avoid Brunettes like the Plague then...
Lost my virginity pretty much a year ago, never regretted anything as much as this. I‘ve suffered so much pain from this I wouldn’t want anyone going through this, it’s absolutely not worth it. I fully agree with this video, to anyone who’s still a virgin, don’t feel pressured to do so, it’s a gift from God made for marriage, not to exploit strangers for pleasure
Thank you for your sincerity.. with that said, for opening peoples eyes and helping them staying strong in faith!
I’m not trying to rub salt in the wound but how does it hurt like what part of it? I want to understand so it helps me to not commit the sin
Thank you for sharing
😅 God forgave David. If you repent God will forgive you too ❤❤
@@ExtremeRy I caught a soul tie to the girl I was doing it with and it basically felt like I was in love with her because of that and unreciprocated love/heartbreak hurts a lot. Having those sort of feelings and that physical and spiritual connection with a woman is powerful, just make sure it’s with your wife.
As a 15 year old person, I’ve done the deed with a girl, at 14. I regretted it. I wish I never had done it… I hope God forgives you all, NEVER DO IT BEFOFE MARRIAGE!
God does forgive them, he forgive you, and he forgives me. Yes it does take your heart to allow yourself to grow and want forgiveness. But after you do that easiest thing. He immediately clears you. You’re an amazing child of God, and he is so happy that you his child see what he sees and how you’re allowing your conscious to grow closer to his! 🎉💖
@@Dreamworld789_ amen! ❤️🩹🙏 For Christ loved shall we love always and forever, amen!!
You poor kids have been brainwashed by this secular nonsense and you unfortunately fall to the demon of lust so young. Its a sad sight to see honestly but at least you have seen your wrongs and have apologised to God
it’s crazy that you could do that so young 😨… (I’m the same age 💀 )
Many people will judge you, but it’s brave that you admitted and realized it’s wrong. God loves you! Romans 12:2
I have fallen to this sin. I grew up Christian and have always known pre-marital sex was wrong. I fell into this sin with love in my heart for my future spouse, we have been together for 5 years and have never regretted it. I wish I found this video before, I regret it now. Not the passion or love I feel and felt, but how I ignored the spiritual meaning of it. this video touched my heart and helped me realize what I did. for anyone who read this and also has fallen, it is never too to late ask god for forgiveness, he loves you. All of you. ❤
Get married. How hard is that?
Literally go sign the papers at the court house and it's no longer a sin.
Problem solved.
@@Kirstys635 i could just go and get married just to have sex, but that isnt marriage is for. there are many reasons why i do not want to get married at the moment, when the moment is right i will get married. but to get married just for sex, no. you have to understand i cannot go back, i did what i did and that is that. im not going to just marry my love to simply avoid a sin I keep falling to. its better to not assume peoples situations. ❤
I have also fallen into this sin. It pains me to remember that even at the time I knew that I was going against God's laws, and even though I sinned, that led me to a time of pain and sadness where I felt that everything had collapsed and I would always be alone. When I reached the lowest point of my sadness, that was where God looked for me. That was when I understood that I was not really alone because He was with me. It is never too late to seek God and ask for forgiveness for our sins. We are not perfect; we are weak against the enemy, but we must always have faith in the Lord and ask Him to always be with us, to guide us each day to Him, to paradise.
God, capital G
I have a couple of questions though. First of all, aren’t people marrying 10-12 years later now than they were a few thousand years ago, and wouldn’t that vastly alter the difficulty of this commitment? How would you know if you’re sexually compatible with your partner that you also can’t divorce for life? And when in the bible has “fornication” ever been an unambiguous translation and not just a replacement for sexual immorality?
The issue, I feel like, is that if god wanted to prevent divorce, preventing the couple from having any knowledge of sexual interests before the covenant is locked in would be counterproductive.
I'm 33 years old. I'm still a virgin. I try to hold myself accountable for my sins, but I fall short a lot. I don't know if I will ever find someone to spend the rest of my life with and experience sex at all, but I will try to hold on to the word of God and leave everything in his hands.
wow This is inspiring
Be strong, keeping God commandments are worth it. Yes there will be temptations, many temptations, but when you overcome those temptations you will be stronger than ever
Hi, I'll like to first commend you for making effort to stay chaste but I hope you are also making effort to stay pure in heart ?
I say this because there's a difference between keeping virginity (some people do it not to please God but so they have what to boast about etc) and honoring God with our bodies.
One can stay as a virgin but engage in everything from por.no.graphy, mast.urbation, anal se.xual involvement, fing.ering etc but claim they are virgins.
I pray that as you make effort to honor God with your body, you do it holistically.
Are you financially capable of taking care of a wife & kids?🤔
Stop questioning him , hes saving himself @@rangariraikunedzimwe2780
I am 24 years old waiting on God. Even though people judged me, I never regretted my decision. The most important thing for me is my spirituality and my closeness to God
I didn’t “lose” my virginity, I gave it to my husband as a gift on our wedding night! If you can do that, it’s awesome! If you’ve already lost your virginity, coming to Christ makes you a new person and your old sins are gone! (2 Corinthians 5:17) And remember, whether you’ve saved yourself for marriage or not, Jesus loves you! ❤ Excellent video!!
I’m 18 I had sex with my ex before marriage God delivered me from soul tie with her I’m a reborn Christian now and I now have a question should I say I’m a virgin now? Reborn virgin?
@javigutierrez3335 That’s a good question. I know someone who went through a similar situation. And the guy she married said, "You're my virgin." 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, "Anyone who is in Christ is a new creation. The old has gone. The new has come." I don't think you could honestly say, "I'm a virgin," but I think the term "newborn virgin" works. God bless you as you grow in Him!
@@ChristinewithaC I agree! Thank you. 😊 💯
@@javigutierrez3335 You're welcome, friend!
@@javigutierrez3335 I don't agree with the virginity topic existing at all. But rather than calling it saving it till marriage. I would basically point out that I refuse to do with with someone I'm not married with yet. Because saying I'm saving it will make others to like oh I already lost it so I'll just keep doing it. That's not what it is about. It's about not doing it until you are married. Even if you were a virgin. You are no different. You are still a sinner who isn't perfect so basically you still have allot to repent as a virgin. Now as someone who has done it. You have allot more to repent about than sex.
I think it's important to note that just because you and your partner have been sexually immoral doesn't mean your relationship can't heal and become Godly. God bless ❤🙏
Hi, do you have scriptures that is alike to your comment?
the bed room need to be pure or is unholy before the lord @@rahstara
@@rahstara it says God can forgive any sin and can you if you seek him
@@rahstara We have a clue in that later David and Bathsheba conceived Solomon, and it says in 2nd Samuel 12 that the Lord loved him. Blessing a marriage after so much pain and suffering with a child who have become a beloved king endeared to God is surely a sign of God's mercy.
@@jedinharris-averhart8510 Interesting. My boyfriend and I had sex before marriage. I hesitated and waited but then one day I felt ready. I was afraid that after sex, I would feel afraid, shame, guilt, unloved. But with my boyfriend, I felt safe, love, security. We’re long distanced so luckily that helps us not be tempted more often but yeah. It’s been a year since I lost my virginity with him and we don’t fight, we have disagreements but we don’t shout and argue. I just feel like since we’ve already had sex, it’s challenging to hold off until marriage. I have a stronger relationship with God than my boyfriend since he’s had his struggles with feeling God is listening to his prayers so it would be hard to switch things up. I gave my life to Christ about 6 years ago and my boyfriend gave his life to Christ about 3 years ago.
You outlining that sin causes something to die hit my heart so hard. I can testify that its true. Though attending a catholic church and identifying as "Christian"
my husband and I were living in an unhappy and unhealthy marriage. The details arent important but we both began living in unrepentant sin.
Then suddenly..without any notice at all..i didnt recognize my self anymore.. it was as if the me I was, had died.
id become sexually enslaved, losing my self in the process. id always been known as a loving, optimistic, patient, and merciful ( im a hospice nurse) person, but I was now quick tempered, angry, restless, merciless, joyless, self seeking, and cynical. And instead of living for my kids, i lived for my self...spending hours at the gym, obsessed w my body and appearance.
I remember crying, unable to console my self begging " the universe" ( since i no longer talked to God) why have i changed?! Where has the ghost of who i was gone??!
After truly seeking God, i came to understand that Jesus IS the truth and was in the blink of an eye, born again and totally changed. Seeing things clearly, i realized that despite feeling justified, i was deeply engrossed in sin. The Lord revealed Himself to both of us the same week, and we both confessed and repented.
The Lord has completely renewed me in every way, including returning my peace, joy, patience, and mercy. I have forgiven my husband for his deception and he has forgiven me for mine. And the Lord has even re -made our marriage into an amazing walk together... full of love, joy, trust, and comfort. ❤
There's nothing wrong about wanting to be beautiful or taking care of your body. I believe we all are supposed to do that, because our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. So, going to the gym isn't a bad thing by itself, it's the abandonment of the needs of your kids. My father did the same thing but only with going to church. He didn't care much about our needs, he pretty much left them to our mum, all he cared about was to show up at church, probably because that was an easy way to take his mind off his problems. So, pretty much anything can be used as a cop- out.
@@lembergsohn I'm so sorry your dad wasn't present in your life. I agree that taking care of your body is a good thing. It's not that the gym was bad, but making my body and appearance an idol, was. And also what I used my body for. Society lies to us when it says there is freedom in sexual revolution. I was never more enslaved than I was then. There is freedom in Christ and joy in embracing an identity as monogamous wife and mother. ♥
Sin leads to more sin…SO TRUE. I hope young people can understand this.
I'm 24 I understand but most won't understand this because they've been Brian washed.
All ages need to understand. I am about the age where folks in my age group gotten set in their ways and do only what they want even if it leads to severe consequences. At least people under 45 have a much better chance of people changing for the better.
@@lifeafterkings6315 We've been brainwashed 😂? Your the ones who worship an evil flying spaghetti monster. Good people being sent to hell is evil, end of. If you worship someone who does something like that, then news flash your worse than the bystanders in Nazi Germany. As at least the Jews only died once, compared to the eternal damnation that you belive I'll go through. Even though I've volunteered at the Holocaust center (UK) and volunteerd at multiple other chsritys as I like to help out my fellow man.
You always sin lol
@@saferides2474 Yes, we all sin.
Thank you so much for making this video. I just recently ended a 4 year relationship and our relationship was filled with immense sexual sin. Including having sex without being married and both of us being addicted to p*rn (but we kept it secret from each other). Now that we are no longer together, I have decided to wait until marriage because I experienced firsthand the toxicity of sexual immorality. I am praying for those who are currently struggling with this sin and I encourage everyone to pray to God about it and repent earnestly and honestly. Don't be afraid to talk to God about it. God is patient and kind. Fill your heart with the Spirit and his word DAILY. As time goes on, you will build strength in fighting temptation whether you struggle with lust, p*rn, or other forms of sexual immorality. God gives you strength. Don't give your heart to lust but give your heart to the Lord.
keeping you in my prayers. God will bring the right person along for you, and I'm so happy that you have come to understand the gravity of your sin and asked for forgiveness 💕. Jesus loves you
Proud of you taking this step, ur amazing and can do it :)
AMEN! Praise God!❤
Amen, friend!!! True that is.
This is amazing, we and my partner struggled with this before but our faith in God has became stronger. We also decided that it is the right decision to get married early because that is one of the reason. We want our relationship to accepted by God and want to do it right. I get so many people who say otherwise but at the end of the day man, like you only know that person is right when they bring you closer to God and away form sin
Im not sure if you really know this, but I want to personally tell you that your channel has been a massive blessing to those who find it including myself. Keep doing what you're doing and I pray you will continue to impact the world.
It's also very interesting to think how King David lost to sexual immorality when he was in a sense alone. Had David been off in battle, he wouldn't have seen Bathsheba. It's interesting to think, because the best way to overcome sexual immorality is to go and be socialable.
Or find something to do, thats y boredom leads to temptation
The flip side of that coin is that is what makes sexual sin so dangerous. Ultimately, there needs to be times where we are alone. Yet sexual sin most often corrupts our alone time. Which robs from us time to learn and grow and deeply study. It robs the very safety of our thoughts. David could’ve been at battle but he also could’ve been planning for the war, dealing with his administrative duties as king in the break he had from
Battle, praying for his men in battle. Yet he was instead occupied with sexual sin.
Thus true, always have something meaningful to do so that you are not idol.
spelunky pilot
I heard it explained like this: you're at a store, and you get a chocolate bar. You REALLY want this chocolate bar, so you eat it right there in the grocery store aisle. Now, you go to the check-out aisle with the empty candy wrapper. You're still paying for it, but it's just an empty wrapper. It's embarrassing because it shows you didn't have patience.
My best lessons on this topic were from men who did have sex before marriage, and told us how it's not worth it, and how they regretted it. They were able to speak from experience and caution me against it.
I see it more like this: Marriage is a covenant of love between two people declared before God. Throughout the Bible starting from Abel, we are told to give to God the best of what we have: possessions, effort, intentions, etc. Remember "Love God with all your mindheartsoulstrength"? So how can we give God the best of who we ARE during the covenant If we're already tainted with lust? That violates Rom 12:1-2.
But I like your analogy better.
That is a really screwed up analogy. And also I think a degrades people in a very inaccurate light. When my wife had sex with me before we got married she and I never felt like an empty wrapper. It was incredible, it was compassionate, and it felt safe. And having sex before marriage emotionally helped us both to understand that we were right for each other. Of course relationships are complex and there's other aspects to it. What are sexual compatibility was confirmed without a doubt. And that really helps us to build and grow together.
Well another analogy is:
Say you go to a car dealership to buy a car. Who in their right mind would purchase a vehicle without going for a test drive?
This entire "sex before marriage is wrong" debate is nothing but a matter of ethics. Ethics are a matter of perspective.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to ethics, look up the trolley problem to understand why.
@@TheMathias95 You missed the entire point of the video, dude. If you're christian, then ethics are pretty clearly laid out for you.
@@Calx9 Did you actually watch the video, dude?
I am 35 year old female waiting for marriage. It is hard and falling into temptation of masturbation was a struggle for me last year because of hormones like once a month. I stopped after going to confession and repenting numerous times. God introduced me to someone 10 years ago and I know the wedding night for us will be fabulous
Brothers I’m 25 and still a virgin. Not gonna lie I have been feeling envious towards my brothers and sisters who are married because I wanna be where they are. But, I know our heavenly dad has a plan for me and for all of y’all when it comes to marriage. Hang in there and keep your eyes in God fam!
Thanks man I’m 24 couldn’t agree with you more
Brother I’m a 26 year old newly wed. I’ve waiting my whole life for sex in the right context. It’s absolutely worth it. You won’t be able to figure out immediately, but you’ll get to spend time figuring it out with your wife and NO ONE ELSE. That is a gift I would not trade for anything.
I understand you perfectly. I'm 27 and sometimes seen as a joke in the family. But if God made the promise, he will fulfill it, keep believing.
Sex before marriage especially with the wrong person will always create soul ties and making a soul tie with the wrong person can be very bad especially mentally
Soul ties aren’t biblical
I’m so glad he went over the three reasons at the end. It brings a good conclusion and helps people remember the three reasons better. I’m so glad I found this video.
I know this might not have been easy to make this video. But you did the right thing.
My wife and I saved ourselves for each other and our wedding day. After feeling the intense physical and emotional connection this created, we both can’t imagine doing it different than God’s way.
Wait. I promise, it’s worth it. And if others who waited tell you it wasn’t, they’re not doing it right, and there are resources for that to be avoided that aren’t pornographic.
Oh no, I guarantee you it was incredibly easy to make this video. Saying "sex uoutside marriage is wrong" is a rather uncontrovertial statement among Christians
@@theankotze1292you’d be surprised, unfortunately. And then there’s the “Bible says don’t judge me,” Christians. When the Bible literally says to judge believers (and specifically not unbelievers), in order to turn them from their sin. (1 Cor 5:12) Not a well known verse or popular one, but true nonetheless.
Thats why I know I'll die alone. I want a virgin wife but since im not a virgin myself, im not good enough...
@@theankotze1292 Yes, I think, no, believe so, too! Trust me, this is a video that's far away removed from anything that awkward on these kinds of sex-related topics... and I've seen some serious whoppers! Like should Christians (after marriage) engage in anal sex??? Now THAT couldn't have been an easy video to make, much less watched. 🙈🙈🙈
@@BansheeKing22That’s not how it works, my friend. Grace and forgiveness abound and your future wife can be gracious and forgiving.
As a young divorced guy, missing the companionship and intimacy/ romance, this was a good reminder to seek god first. Thanks for all you do brother!! God bless.✝️
I miss her dude, but this sin destroyed my relationship.
Oof
The missing of all those things is realy hard.. I feel you in this situation and want to say to keep strong with the help of Jesus!🙏🏼
(Sorry for bad english)
I’m an atheist, and there is a scientific explanation as well! We deeply bond to our first s*xual partner psychologically, and our ability to bond with s*xual partners greatly drops with each new partner. It’s called the pair bonding effect.
Whether religiously or biologically, it’s wrong to sleep around.
thanks for sharing!!
You are correct. I stated that partly in my answer. The funny thing is that even though I consider myself a believer (not a good truly practicing believer, but definitely believer), I find myself wanting better scientific reasons for various issue with religion. And truly there are. Just as the basic reason for not eating pork was the high risk of salmonella, there are good solid reasons, even just sensible reasons if not scientific. The other sensible and partly biological reason is the more sex, the more likely a child is born. He should not have to deal with the screwy situations the parents put him in.
That's not accurate.
Bonding is essential to human survival, if someone lacks the ability to bond it's usually a form of mental impairment.
Any first experience is going to have a disproportionate amount of memory allocated to it.
But just because you have one child, that doesn't prevent you from Loving more.
Even so, the simple fact is that most people don't marry their first Love.
My first Love shook my entire world to my core, I didn't even know what being in Love was.
No relationship I ever have is going to effect me that way, but that doesn't mean that I lack the ability to bond with someone else.
Frankly that first Love, with someone I never even touched, had more of an impact on me than all my other sexual experience combined.
And considering the social element of sex, it shouldn't be surprising that some people related to sex differently.
@@GrokfordActually it is pretty accurate from what I recall of reports on this, though long past. The first sexual experience releases pheromones that can get one stuck on that person forever. Not good, if it's not your "true" love and not the parent of your children. It's not good to be visualizing the first, or any others, with sexual relations with who should be your mate. Your comments rather made that point, and that apparently is WITHOUT sexual contact.
@@theOlLineRebel
I don't technically disagree, I just think that you're taking this information to a different conclusion.
Lots of people become very attached to their first Love, their first kiss, their first sexual partner etc., but it's very rare that these three are all the same person; and people seem to manage.
It's also rare that you marry any of those people.
If I'm understanding you correctly the solution you seem to be suggesting is that people should never have love or sex until they're sure that the person is an ideal partner and a marriage is established..
Falling in love with someone is a rather involuntary thing, but regardless I don't see how a marriage actually makes you any safer.
You can still get inordinately attached to someone if you're married to them.
Which might not seem like a problem, but there's no guarantee that you're in a good relationship.
Especially if you've been starving yourself of affection and intimacy(emotional, sexual or otherwise) is can be very easy to let your desire for that outweigh your ability to be rational.
So in avoiding one obsessive tendency, you can inadvertently create another.
I know a lot of young Christians who got engaged or married at 19 or 20, and If I'm being honest, I doubt that many of them would have if they had felt comfortable having sex without a wedding ring.
And if you are in a good marriage, with a good partner, there's still a risk.
If this person is your first Love, you first kiss, your first sexual partner.. anything good and exclusive to them, then it can be very easy to put them on a pedestal and let problems and issues fly under the radar[such as the issues that come from living together for the first time], perhaps becoming permanent, perhaps causing bigger problems later.
It's a common trope to see couples bring up issues and hear "you never said anything before" because people can ignore problems when they're early in a relationship; hence the "honeymoon phase"
Which can be made much worse if it's your first.
I've known plenty of people who have explicitly wanted multiple relationships/ sexual partners just so they can be a bit more resistant to the hormonal shifts of a relationship or sex.
Because yes, the first of any positive experience has a massive emotional effect; but heightening the effect by abstention doesn't make you immune to it.
You're much more likely to tolerate bad behavior if someone is your one in only.
But if you know that you could date or have sex with someone else the fact that you have a sexual or romantic relationship with someone isn't going to have you in a chokehold
A good comparison might be your first job.
If you got your first job at eighteen and worked there for 20 years, it likely that you're going to have a much higher tolerance for mistreatment and you might even be desperate to meet the demands of the job, because you know that you could get another job, you have no point of comparison for what's acceptable workplace behavior and you have a scarcity mindset.
Meanwhile the more typical modern example is that people regularly switch jobs, so you know how to get another job if you want to, so you're far less likely to put up with mistreatment or poor pay.
It wasn't until.. maybe my fifth job that I had any wherewithal to stand up for myself.
If I had settled for any of the previous I would have been stuck in horrible working conditions
I was smart, but at my first job I was still regularly lied to and stolen from.
You said that you shouldn't be "thinking about your first" when you're with someone else, but I have to sincerely ask you if that's been a problem for you?
I don't think I've ever kissed anyone and been thinking about a time I was kissing someone else.
I know I've never been in Love with someone and spent any time thinking about how in love I had been with someone before.
With brief exceptions, the only time I ever thought about a different job when I was at work was when I was working a job that I didn't like.
I think that if you're in a relationship and you can't stop comparing your partner to a previous partner.. then eitheryou have a inaccurate fantasy of that past relationship, oh you're not actually that interested in your current partner, possibly both.
I have fond memories and fond feelings for many of my past relationships.. but if I'm with someone and they're not exceeding a few random good moments from someone else, then what are they actually?
They're probably not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
If you're not satisfied with a partner in the beginning, then what makes you think you'll be happier with them in thirty years.
If the only way that something could be considered good is complete and total ignorance of any alternative.. then what's so great about it?
"Good enough" might be okay for a quick lunch, but I think that if you're planning on building a life with someone(with an exclusive sexual and romantic partnership to boot) then I don't think that "good enough" cuts it.
The timing is insane😮💨
What timing?
God's timing is perfect! He is calling us!
Bro. Tell me about it. It always is. Im so grateful for this channel. God really speaks my language to me through it.
It is!!
I was literally just wrestling with the thought of, "everyone does it, even my "Christian" friends say its not a big deal, so its ok to do it". Then I open up RUclips and without even having to scroll at all, this video was right there. God is good.
While I’ve never been married and is my goal. I’ve seen plenty of separate examples of how this particular sin has destroyed the sanity of many a man.
Until god deems it my turn, I will strive for patience and self control.
I think that's just fear talking. Me and my wife had plenty of sexual partners before he met each other. But it wasn't until we had sex with each other that we figured out we were perfectly compatible for each other. We are going on 10 years strong and happy❤
This is all fear, the only Bible verse that doesn’t simply say sexual immorality (without saying what it is), or a word that has been mistranslated into fornication is in Deuteronomy. And even then, there are debates as to what the “violation” was in this verse, whether it was actually sex before marriage or something else like rape.
This video is perfect for Teens like me who is growing with God and doing everything possible to keep pureness. I have a friend I am worried for because she is not christian and is lost and slaved to sin. She is so young and regularly comits it. I pray for her In Jesus name she wants to change🤍✝️
@@gracemiranda664 keep praying, the first one who is changed is you, my friend
As someone who has struggled with lust, I really needed this video. May God bless you and your loved ones.
I’m 17 years of age n I’m still a virgin it’s hard to live in a society where everyone praise sex before marriage n it’s hard to find relationships that actually wants to wait till marriage with me, I get insecure sometimes that all my friends done it n I haven’t I feel as tho I should too but sometimes I think of God n Ik it’s bad n I shouldn’t do it . This video helped me a lot no feel less insecure about being a virgin rather happy to keep myself pure n hopefully my spirit won’t die . Thanku
I was 17 only 6 years ago bro & let me tell you, having sex isnt gonna make you “cool” trust me on that. My buddies always used talk about it and I always felt like a loser deep down, after falling to sexual immorality I realized it didnt matter and tbh with you, building that confidence with God alone is all you need, you seem further than I was at 17, Be strong brother 💪🏻✝️
I’m 16 and still going strong💪🏼
I'm 15 and I know this sort of influence and temptation is coming soon. Anyone have any advice on how to deal with it?
@@smuggoat5595 Do not sacrifice your inner honour to fullfill the temptating thoughts that may come. Having a humble and altruistic character will give you more than being like others in this world. If you like literature, try reading the first part of Goethe’s play Faust, it changed my view on sins.
22 never ever kissed . But my bf forced me to do 😢😢😢 I don't want it.
Man.. this video showed up the day of this sin happening... you really opened my eyes so far... please pray for me, so that I can have the strength to follow gods commandments...
Thank you very much man.I'm 17 and I used to think not having sex at this age was for losers but now that you've explained it...I feel very much proud of myself no matter what people will say to me.Thank you
That's so good. Know that God is very proud of you too, with the hosts of heaven. Hebrews 12:1
God bless you dear
dont feel like a loser, there's no real time limit
Hey man, I’m 19 now, I always wanted to wait until marriage but when I was 18 I slipped up with a girl I thought I was going to marry and now I wish I could’ve taken that back for both our sakes, and we didn’t even go all the way. Treasure what you’ve got, even now people make fun of me for not participating in sexual immorality. I promise you no matter what you’ve made the right call and you’re walking not only the righteous path, but the most enjoyable path as well. Stay strong and keep love in your heart brother
Honey wake up. New Impact Video just dropped.
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@@deborahrivera9371 Thank you 😂
W username haha
Thank God I could find a group of people that still hold this principle. Me, 22 y.o. virgin woman, still (and always) hold this principle. So grateful to find that still there are lots of Christians that follow words from the bible. GBU all❤
I had a conversation with my gf about this, so I needed this praise Christ may you be blessed
Dont feel compelled my brother; if she is the one she is the one, sex will not confirm your future trust me on this; you’re making the right decision brother ✝️💪🏻
I needed this 😢 i fell in this sin many times and I don't want it... it did make my relation with God harder
I am fighting so hard now to get back on track spiritually and honor him and wait again for my marriage if I ever get married
1 Corinthians 6:18
"Run away from sexual immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body." Just gotta nope outta the situation if you ever feel tempted in such a way. [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. I know it's easier said than done, but perhaps having an escape plan in place could work? Like, if you ever feel tempted by something, you stop whatever you're doing, shut down those thoughts, pray for deliverance and then distract yourself with something more wholesome like watching a kids' movie. Maybe surrounding yourself with friends and family could help too, bc then you're not in private and can't do anything. Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but I hope it helps in some way shape or form. I'll keep you in my prayers. 🙏
i am a Muslim, thank you. that was g good video i love that islam and Christianity have the same values . may peace come upon us all .
This video was amazing. Not only did it teach about the dangers of sex before marriage but also the dangers of sin in general and how dangerous it really is. We should really think before we do.
I can't tell you how much your ministry has helped us in parenting our teens. This video (and finding "The One" and so many others) is so incredibly helpful!
Because my husband and I did it the wrong way (we were the Christians that knew it was wrong but didn't know why) we want to break the cycle and teach our kids the right way. But often when we talk they just here waaa waa waa. Your biblically sound explanations and animation keeps their attention and it makes the convenience afterwards much more productive. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to use you to help create a new generation of Christ followers that are truly warriors for the Gospel not only in words but in deeds. Thank you so so much for giving God your YES!
Hi! Could you explain what did you find convaincing in these explanations, about sex between partners who are going to marry ? We struggle with my current partner who I know is the one for me and who want us to get married. We find this rule really frustrating and we can't understand how in which way it could be so benefical to wait...
simply watching this make me felt pure, with a sense of comfort, knowing that the sacrifice we made for God is meaningful, so that we have a good reason not joining the world in its promiscuity.
Pride is around the corner when we start to put our own "sacrifices" higher than his. There's nothing you can sacrifice to God, he's not that kind of being. He's full in himself and lacks nothing.
On the other hand - you get to be in need of him. He is making you pure, not you watching a yt vid. Peace ❤
That’s the one thing I never understood: something dies. They add up, and eventually you hit a breaking point of some form. For me, everything died, and I couldn’t bear it anymore. I needed a savior.
Thanks so Mac for this video, I’m a virgin and the pressures are real, but I want to stay close to God and no one understands why I choose to remain pure, and when they ask it’s very annoying, that people won’t want to hang out with me. I hope you continue to make these videos and never stop. It’s really helpful in my life. Thanks sooooo much.
Honestly, thank you for this. I'm a Christian and serious about my walk with Christ. But this is the sin that I tried to ignore has consequences even though it was screaming at me. I believe this is God saving me from death like you've stated and I'm glad I saw this today. Thank you for the wake-up call, and may His name be lifted high forever and ever amen
I’m scared that I will never find someone who will want to wait for marriage. Especially in the generation where marriage and intercourse is becoming a joke and people are doing it without truly loving one another.
Same here idk I'm gonna keep my virginity til marriage but if no one wants to wait then I'll stay a virgin until God calls me home. Just try to encourage yourself and stay true to your relationship with God and what you want to do. But I do believe that there is someone made just for you that is willing to wait especially if they really love you like how God loves you. I hope this encourages you God bless you! 😊
Thank you so much for this video, I'm a recover*ing* porn addict, I was much worse before watching almost every day but now a few times a month. I'm still so ashamed and lie to hide it from my fiance, and very recently I admitted after so many months of lying about being clean. This message hit me like a truck, even though we aren't having sex my addiction still applies here. It is most definitely harming my relationship with God and my fiance, and sin definitely leads to more sin. I'm making progress but still not the man I need to be. I already knew all of this, but it's still good to be reminded of the severity of our sins to be reminded of how good Jesus is and how great of a sacrifice he made for us. Please pray for me, and if anyone is in the same boat as I am, I'll pray for you as well.
God delivered me from adult content. I will pray for you.
I suggest reading the Freedom Model, it talks about addiction and helps alot.
@y33seam your not alone bro fasting praying and staying busy helps check out nana the soul
@@kickmuncher3 he has enough guilt already
I used to think not sinning means being a good girl/boy who isn't looking for trouble, but as i get older, i realize it's to avoid literal disasters
This channel is encouraging and I just want to say that I'm grateful for it.
Amen to that
This is what I always try to tell my friends who move in with their girlfriends before they are married or even engaged! I know I made mistakes in the past, but I don't want any of my friends and family to go through what I went through. But no one I talk to wants to listen to me and always proceed to do what they want to. Only a few came back to me and said they wished they listened to me. Great video, and thank you for being brave enough to speak this truth.
Could you share a little bit more about those who came back to you, like what do they regret?
@kingwooly6211 I would like to keep their information private since I do not have their permission to share their story. I hope you understand. Basically, they did not follow the appropriate path that God gives us when it comes to dating and relationships, and it didn't end the way they hoped.
@@RelaxingDisney
Very honorable of you to keep confidentiality.
If something is does for pure love, it’s not a marriage that will change things. My parents never been married but I’m here and I’m a Christian.
the wrong thing, and science also confirms it, is not so much having sex before marriage, but having sex without love, with pure lust like Davide did.
Thats a soul tie to have sex before sanctification because that opens you up to the spirit of not only jealousy but adultery and as you all know adultery can be perceived in many ways.
Adultery is only when you have sex with someone who wasnt your spouse. Otherwise it’s just fornication
U can do the same when u married just don't see the difference stop acting u don't see this in movies
The reason why God didn’t want us to sleep with someone before marriage is because that when you sleep with someone, it’s not just a physical bond it is a soul bond. You are creating a soul tie with someone. Has anyone ever wondered how it is that when they get into a relationship with someone and they have sex with them usually, if it’s before marriage, that relationship will fail, and because you have created a soul with that person that break up is going to almost kill you emotionally And usually when that person that you broke up with and rebounds, you were going to feel something in your heart and deep in your soul during the time at that person goes and rebounds, because they are tying their soul to somebody else as they have already been tied to you. Also, you have a tie with someone that you broke up with that is the reason as to why it is harder for somebody to move on because months years on down the road they are still thinking about that person and still have feelings for that person. That is why God did not want us to have sex before marriage because he did not want us to feel the pain of break ups.
Why is u lieyin
I'm 29 y.o. Not a Christian.. As crazy as it sounds, I haven't even kissed a girl.. 😞 It's becoming kinda painful but I'm still gonna endure until I'm with my better half 😊
Your stance toward lust and holiness precisely is what shows to God whether your relationship with Him is genuine or not. And I say that as someone who struggled a lot with those types of sins.
"For everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-comes not from the Father but from the world."
1 John 2v16
This is GOT TO BE. The most eye opening video with convictions ever!
22 years old man here, still virgin.
i thank God because he protected me until now, waiting for the woman of my life to come to me, and if this is not gonna happen in my temporary time in this world, i will Die purely and live again for eternity with my Lord Jesus, regardless that, and my reward will be high in heaven.
Long Live the LORD JESUS.
Amen.
I didn’t come to God until long after I met my fiancé, shortly after we found out we were pregnant. I’ve since proposed and we live together, preparing for the baby due in the spring, and we’re planning our marriage, applying for a marriage license this week.
HalleluYah! May The Most High bless your union and cause it to be fruitful. Amen.
Yeah well while that's fine and dandy some of us don't have much of a say; sadly I was molested as a child (9yrs old) so there's that. And like too many neglected and assaulted children I grew up and too quickly dabbled into sexual promiscuity through my late teens and throughout my 20s etc. By the grace of God I have been forgiven and delivered (am now in my 30s).
It all starts in the home, teaching the importance of abstinence and also to keep kids safe too. So please protect your kids if you got 'em. Don't discount any child who bravely shares their relative touched them. Listen to them and protect them. God bless.
I’m so sorry to hear that. It seems like God has used it to bring you to him though and has blessed you, which is awesome. May God continue to bless you and help you move away from that past, and thank you for sharing such a personal thing.
Sex before marriage is important! Sex is a big part of a healthy marriage, don’t get locked in just to realize you’ll be miserable. Be safe and respectful but still do it!
I would change it to sex without love/connection is wrong
Very timely for the weekend before Valentine's! Thank you for your ministry! Praying that God brings about a powerful impact through you.
Thank you for speaking about uncomfortable topics. I’m still a virgin and know no one around me who’s been so before marriage. Your video gives me courage in a world that condemns this. Thank you!
I can attest to what you’ve mentioned in the video. Unfortunately, I’ve had many sexual partners, and I’ve had so much heartbreak and loss in my life. I was lying about where I was going, I lied about getting pulled over by the police, and previously, I had disrespected the rules of the house. I decided that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. I am a born again Christian. I hate that I cannot give a potential future spouse the gift of a clean bed, but I have turned away from this sin and will never dishonor myself like this again. My life has gotten better since I stopped rejecting God’s gift of salvation
Thank you for this reminder ! Praying we will all be strong and free from sexual sin !
Thank you for making these videos, I'm only a "beginner teen" and to learn, and love God is actually really nice to do and know. You making these videos help and lets me know a lot of information, and I just want to say thank you again!
Exactly what this video talked about, is exactly what happened in my first relationship. This video has given me better understanding as to why things unfolded the way they did. Thank you for the understanding you have given us and God bless you for it.
Hey man, I have been going through some very specific struggles recently and I had to say your videos were very timely. First with the anime one and now this. I just want you to know I appreciate the work you do, and Im sure God has sent these videos to me as well. So God bless and keep up the good work.
I wished that I would known this as a boy at young age. Before things happened. But I am glad that I could learn a bit from you.Thank you for you hard work, service and the love you share.
I am a mid aged teenager and I have felt pressured to have sex outside of marriage. It is a shame how the world influences young men and women to commit fornication. I love God and understand that your body belongs to God and your temple is for the holy spirit 🙌🏽 I am grateful that I denied to have any sexual relation before marriage. I will continue to be a chaste virtuous female of God and I encourage other females and males to stay a virgin before marriage. I pray God will bless our marriages and send a righteous spouse our way🤲🏽 and reminder SIN IS SIN!!! no matter what people say is fun or cool if it goes against God its wrong
The reason you shouldn’t have sex before marriage is not just because the Bible said so but it’s also because it can lead to the father leaving or unintentional pregnancy’s and people having abortions. It never ends well. Ever.
Such a powerful message 👏🏿 and this can be looked at as all sin because sin separates us from God. I thank God for inspiring you guys for making these helpful videos. Continue God's work, He is definitely working through you guys
I'm 29, and since I was 18 and lost my virginity, every sexual encounter I had led to something bad. It was always either heartbreak, dissapointnent, or some other bad scenario. Obey God. Wait til you're married.
Right, that wouldn´t happen after marriage....
For me as a young Christian it was a lot simpler then this. I just read a bunch of statistics and realized it's not worth the risk.
1. Statistics show people who have sex outside of marriage are far more likely to get divorce.
2. They also show there are no 100% safe protections when it comes to sex. In other words, you likely will either conceive a child you are not ready for, or you'll get STDs at least.
3. For vast majority oxytosis is released less and less when you switch partners. In other words, you'll ruin your future sex life by engaging in sex before marriage.
In short: Abstain.
that explains a lot since having a good intimate life is the corner stone of a stable marrige
I'm crying right now watching this, thank u so MUCH for making this video man, this will help a lot in my life now
I remember being super young, I'm talking 13 or 14 years old, when students in my high school began talking about explicit stuff like sex before marriage, drugs etc, and I remember that, for the sex topic, I just straight up asked them what the point of sex was with a person who you're not dedicating yourself to. Mind you, I hadn't really understood the Bible or the commandments at this point, did NOT care as a kid; in one ear out the other, and I was going through some tough things that made me distance myself and actively despise God. (don't worry I'm better now) But not gonna lie, was super proud of myself for that one because of how nonchalant and inconceivable I found the idea of sex before marriage. Like, I firmly believed that sex wasn't just about bodily pleasure, it was about baring yourself completely to this other person, letting them embrace you, touch you in this intimate way that nobody else could. Why would you ever want to do that with someone you didn't love and cherish? Why would you CHEAPEN that experience just for short-term gratification? Didn't make sense to me at all. I remember the boys and girls got really quiet and their jaws were just hanging open as I told them that. Still a hilarious memory to think of to this day.
@NTP-yq5cl Oh yeah, the lack of sex education definitely contributes in a massive way, especially when our culture and society is so....reliant on sex. We're exposed to ideas of promiscuity and we're a society that promotes sex without actually teaching our children to understand what sex entails, including the unpleasant or rather, realistic aspects.
@NTP-yq5cl Definitely agree on both. Education on the reproductive system will help young children about how their body is changing and should serve as reassurance because this is a very drastic shift for them, both in their bodies and also in their minds, while proper sex education, including protection, the danger of underaged sex, how to properly conduct sex, will ensure that they actually understand how sex works in a controlled environment, and they don't just believe whatever they see on social media or think porn is an actual model for how to do sex, because I know people like that and it's completely wrong on so many levels. Sex shouldn't be treated as a taboo subject or paraded around. It's an important life lesson for children to carry and treat properly when they're adults.
@NTP-yq5cl I definitely think a warning about porn should be given, and not just on porn, but also on other explicit materials like magazines or books or just social media. They should know to be cautious, to understand how our society flaunts sex and they should do their own proper research. The point that should be emphasized is to take great care around the topic of sex. After all, the ideal is that you bring pleasure and intimacy to your partner and they should be able to do the same for you, because you love them. You don't want to hurt them. So, take it seriously. Talk to your partner, plan, treat it like you're planning your honeymoon or a vacation or anything where you want to squeeze out as much enjoyment out of and not stress over situations that catch you off guard.
I am part of the 3rd camp🫤 I am not bragging It eats up my conscious and I try by all means... I pray about it so the lord can make a way for me to escape this dreadful sin... I feel trapped
Keep praying. I was the same way. Stay in Galatians 5 and find a trusted accountability partner who is spiritually mature to help you. It is a long process as the Holy Spirit chips away at this all encompassing sin but let me tell you He is faithful! He delivered me from this sin and He continues to renew me every day. Read the Word, Pray, Journal and know that He is working. It may not feel like it but stay on the narrow path my friend. The shackles are cracking and will soon break!
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- Sincere turn from (practice) of (sin) and (willful sin) or (All) will perish
Luke 13:3 KJV
I tell you, [Nay:] but, except [ye repent,] ye shall [all] [likewise] [perish.]
Holy Spirit help you
It's worth the wait, trust me! When you're looking into your beloved's eyes knowing you have that covenant that nobody else has with either of you you'll be so glad you saved it just for them.
Any fleeting time of enjoyment I could have had with another man is nowhere near as valuable as what I have with my husband.
@@Servant44 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do-this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it
Romans7 15to20
It is impossible for me to leave sin by my will... I honestly try all I can do is wait for christ Jesus to help me in my repenting
As someone struggling with lust, this video really helped, and I pray that whoever sees this comment and is struggling with sin may be cleansed of their sin and be pure.
A verse that helps me is 1 Corinthians 10:13.
May God Bless you, AMEN!!! 💕❤️✝️🙏
This is such a good animation to explain this issue. May our sisters and brothers reflect on this genuinely. Hands up to my virgin siblings out there! May we find our God-chosen person to share this with. God bless us all.
I would like to clarify something at 3:50. Your usage of 2 Samuel 11:2-4 is not equivalent to saying “sex before marriage leads to loss.” The point of David losing his connection to God and suffering tremendous consequences because of his sexual immorality was because of his covetousness of another man’s wife, it was not because it was sex before marriage. It was very clearly describing the consequence of coveting and lusting after one another’s wives. This is a particular form of evil under sexual immorality, but it is not because it was before marriage. It was an abomination to the commandments of Moses, breaking the seventh law.
I feel like this video did a great job but it talked mostly about how it causes us to sin more. I would like another video focusing on why it is a sin. Great video!
As someone who followed what God asked of me (and I wasnt perfect about it, but thankfully I never crossed that line) It is so so important to wait. I love being able to say that my husband is my one and only.
*GLORY!!!I'm favoured, $255k every 3weeks! I can now afford anything and also support God's work and the church.*
congratulations!!
I will love to be your friend dear as well. as sharing some ideas which you're benefiting.
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the timing of this video came exactly when i was asking this question thank you so much
You do not show an example of a person losing from making sex before Marriage. The sin of david was not that he had sex before marriage, but that he desired someone elses woman and acted on that desire. Not once did you show a clear example of sex before marriage actually being a sin. Sex outside marriage is a sin because you have promies yourself to someone, but then sleep with another. Not just because it is outside marriage.
He also literally HAD SOMEONE KILLED
Exclusivity
Exclusive Love ❤️
That's how God sees His love between God and His Redeemed ,
Holy & Pure
A marriage is a Closed marriage , exclusively each other's... Not open for others as The Lord calls that Adultery
Sin corrupts and seperates trust 😢
The more I read it the more I’m starting to believe that the Bible is ACTUALLY talking about those who cheat on their spouse. Sometimes people bring others home and sleep with them in the bed they share with their spouse. Marriage should be respected meaning that people shouldn’t try to sleep with a married person and a married person shouldn’t lie to their spouse.
I'm so thankful with God, I had a boyfriend who was lustful, and wanted to drive me into it too, but my father protected me as always
I struggled with this sin, but the consequences of my actions resulted in my kids are now fatherless ... I repent ever committing this sin... I love my daughters and as a single mom... I vow not to continue in this sin
Thank you for covering hard topics that need to be talked about 🙏🏿
Wow! Lots of Christian LOZ lovers here!😂
@@TheHeroOfHyrule881 Fr If Christ is my first love, LOZ is in the top 10 lol
Same! It’s definitely the best game world!😄
@@ChibiGanondorf I haven’t played all of them yet, I’m working on Link between worlds at the moment. but my favourite is probably tears of the kingdom.
My favorite is definitely Breath of the Wild, but I do enjoy Skyward Sword a lot!
I kind of wish you brought up the reason why sex is wrong outside of marriage. Which is for both the husband and wife to accept creating a child through the bonding love they are about to have with one another.
You don't have to have a child to have sex, in fact there are many many cases where you shouldn't have a child.
thank you :( I was fall on these temptations; I thought my sin will not be forgiven. But I glad I finished the video. Jesus loves us.❤
You are truly serving God while making these vids. Good job and keep it up
I'm an Indian,23, and pure. I'm saving myself for my future spouse.
Hey thats great, but god knows that and idk if its so good to present it to everybody you know what I mean? I mean if its for that everybody sees how great you are in that part of your life. Its not offensive meant, god bless you
You're not pure, you're a virgin.
Anyone who's told you that your level of sexual experience(or lack thereof) is an indicator of your worth is setting you up for failure.
@@mangokaiser4607 Thanks a lot. I will follow your advice. Thankyou. God bless you too
Wow, God bless you, for me this was God talking and teaching me, me and my fiancé are having issues with this and we want to stop for good, but its really hard.
Just after some hours when we talked about it, you sent a video exactly about our conversation! For me this God using you to talk with us and everybody else with this sin, thank you and thank God, God bless you always ❤️🙏🏻
Just get married. Go to the courthouse!
@@kimberlyturner820 We want to get married, but we dont have the money for it yet, we dont live together
were you a christian before proposing to her? and is your gf also christian?im in a similar situation with my gf and even gave her a promise ring when we started dating that was meant as a promise of me going to marry her. As much as I want to marry her, I am still young and broke and can't afford to even get our own place. How do you bring up the topic with her?
@@aromaz1707 im a christian since i was born and she as well
@@aromaz1707 how long have you been together?
and remember even when we do mess up God is the God of the Impossible He can save and restore you but you must take what he says seriously whatever causes you to sin Get Rid of it.
I unfortunately fell into this sin last year, I lost my virginity to my now ex and I regret it terribly, I wish I could go back.......however, because of the heart break it did open my heart to God; so I'm happy it led me here, because before I was an unbeliever. Before, I didn't see an issue with it, but the whole process of it felt exciting but wrong.
I already repented and asked God for forgiveness but I regret doing it so much :( I wish I would have taken sin seriously back then or be interested in God. I was depressed and did lots of things cuz i thought God gave me all the Pain I experienced all those years. Now iam happy to be faithful and obedient to God and when iam having a boyfriend again iam gonna wait till marriage to not do the same sin willingly this time˚₊‧꒰ა ₍ᐢ. .ᐢ₎ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚
Praise God! Know that God loves you and does not condemn you. Don't let guilt and shame keep you from your loving Father. He is always willing to forgive ❤🙏
Romans 8:1 NKJV
[1] There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
@@ChibiGanondorfYou can marry a girl like the og poster.. you guys have a similar past, that's a good fit for you.
@@ChibiGanondorf If you are not 40+ then yes. But if you and your chosen one don't want to have kids, then even 40+ is not late.