@@kimberlyturner820 There’s the rub. I thought I was. She was a regular church-goer, regularly referred to Scripture in our conversations, the whole nine. But a month or two into dating, she asked me if I was gay. Why? Because she wanted to jump into marriage very quickly, when we hardly knew each other, and was wondering why I was taking so long to take the next step.
I know this might sound cringy but… I remember getting a call from my uncle almost 2 years ago. He is a pastor at a church in Mexico and he gave me a tip that no one else has ever given me. He told me to pray for my future husband and for him to be a guy that will love God. I remember telling my uncle I was going to do that and I did. I prayed a couple times for my future husband. I’m sure God answered my prayers because he gave me a wonderful man. I’m not married to him. We’ve been dating for over a year. When we first started dating I asked him what his religion was. He told me he was an atheist. I told him I was Christian. But everytime I invited him to church he would come. He came to church at first for me but it slowly started to become for God. It’s currently our high school senior year. And a tragedy happened. His best friend of 11 years passed away in a car accident. He was devastated and my mom talked to him. She told him he’s with God because the guy that died would always encourage him to read the Bible. My boyfriend would ask his friend questions and he would answer them. He encouraged my boyfriend to get closer to God. He would always talk to me and sometimes us three would end up talking about God too. His death motivated my boy friend even more to get closer to God. He showed up to church service the day I couldn’t go because of school activities and he accepted Jesus in his heart. He says he wants to see his friend in heaven and he constantly prays for our future. We read the Bible together and he now plays the bass for our church ministry. I thank God for putting him in my life and guiding him to salvation. He now talks to his family about God and I’m hoping his family will soon come to church too Also forgot to mention we go to a Hispanic church and my boy friend is white. But the language barrier didn’t stop him from finding God. Once again thank you God ❤
Wow this is beautiful❤️this opened my heart bc I’ve been inviting my friend to church and God had been opening his heart. I’ve been starting to get discouraged but God will open his heart❤️
Dating in a proper context can help you get prepared for marriage, though. It shouldn't be the only thing it you do to prepare, but don't discount yourself and don't reject the learning opportunities that dating can give you, even if its not the right person. I learned some of my biggest lessons about what love actually was, dating a girl, and especially after we broke up. Was it hard? Yes. Was it painful? More than anything I had felt before. But was it worth it? Yes. Even though I didn't like how it played out, I don't HAVE to like it for God to use it for my good. And he did. Trust always in God, and lean not on your own understanding. Don't lead yourself, follow God and everything will happen as it is supposed to, for your good.
@@raheemcamal998 Do you really think that God just uses the bible to teach us? I hope you aren't so naive as to separate biblical lessons from life lessons.
@@cadenorris4009 but the bible has enough, we do not need to go through unnecessary hardships to learn about such things, alot of people in the bible didn't have to go through a load of dates to learn a thing and they where still able to love and honour there partner, therefore the word is enough. God will mostly only ever use life lessons when we stray or do not follow is word
i was a muslim…I had a boyfriend at that time who was a christian i really think he is the best thing what happened in my life and I’m very thankful he also helped me to convert to christianity and I feel so good for doing that thank you lord 🙏🏻
I have a question, and I don’t mean to be rude since you can’t read tones. Does it ever feel… wrong for converting? Like being taught as a child, “this this that that” and then converting and going “that that this this”?
@@LillyBursaw-br9hc Hi! I highly recommend Nabeel Qureshi’s book “Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus”. I’m sure everyone feel differently about conversion, but he writes about it very honestly and in great detail
@@LillyBursaw-br9hc Everyone's testimony is different, but as a former catholic and now a born again christian, I was actually shocked that my upbringing was based in lies and traditions not found in the bible. I know it's not my parents fault as they were deceived as well. The difference is that I chose to get out from that deception and live in truth, while they preffer traditions of men. So in summery, I felt joy converting.
Sometimes I wish I could hold on the hope of marriage and children but then I remember that sadly marriage doesn't last for eternity and at 32 almost 33 im too old to be waiting on something that's never given me reason to hold onto. I can only conclude that my failed relationships that never lasted longer than a week are a sign from God that I shouldn't bother. I hate having this desire, I want it to be removed. Nothing good will come of it. Im not rich, I live with my mother barely making 8k a year, I have no car, no license, nothing a girl wants. I'm not attractive in any sense of the word. I really wish God would remove this desire from me so I can finally get on with my life as best I can.
@@BansheeKing22 I'm not really in your situation cause I'm a lot younger but the best advice I can give is to focus on God first and all will fall into place. Whenever I feel a desire for companionship I remember that God loves me more than any companion that I may have. This gives me peace and keeps me focused on my goals. I also recommend the book 'atomic habits' which is a book that will help you form good habits which are important for progress in any area of life. Keep a journal as well write whatever in it but I have a journal where everyday I write down what I did to improve myself or work towards my goal for that day. These small things and having a deeper connection with the Lord will help you. I hope this helps g, God bless
Me too man, but cheer up! God always has a plan. "He has made everything beautiful in its time." - Ecclesiastes 3:11 "Love is Patient..." - 1 Corinthians 13:4a So keep fighting the good fight of faith, perhaps God will lead us somewhere we least expect, and so long as it is within his will, we will always find joy in him.
I want to have a relationship with someone who be able to Pray together ,worship together. Read the Bible at night together. Let God first in our relationship. How beautiful 😌🙏🏼✨
I always tell myself: Guys don't go for a Christian girl, go for a Proverbs 31 woman and Daughter of the king. Girls don't go for a Christian boy, go for a Man of God Love you all ✝️🤍
i’m so glad this video popped up in my recommended. me and my boyfriend are both 16, and have really been struggling with sexual immorality. it was easy to avoid at the start of our relationship, but then as time has gone on it’s just gotten more and more difficult. we both love the Lord because He brought us together, and we both love each other and want to do good; but it’s just so hard. it seems like everyone whom i’ve talked to this about doesn’t think of it as a big deal, even though i’ve told them that we’ve committed certain acts. our relationship is mostly wholesome, but i still feel those moments drawing me away from God. i feel shame and sometimes the enemy tells me that He hates me. it seems like i can’t tell myself that God still loves me whenever i sin. i completely understand why sexual immorality is wrong now. i just don’t know what to do. i love the Lord so much, but my flesh is so selfish. this boy treats me SO WELL, so i want to make it work in any way i can. for the first time in my life, i see my future with someone. any advice is appreciated.
Hi! When I was reading your comment what first came to mind to me is when the devil tried tempting Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11 (you guys can read it). Resist the enemy or temptation and that will flee. That's the authority Jesus gave us. I believe that's what you and your boyfriend have to do. What I would say is don't do this with your own strength but ask the Lord to help and guide you. Your boyfriend should pray this as well. The flesh may feel strong, but the Holy Spirit in you is stronger. Use His help. I also think you and your boyfriend need to make healthy boundaries. Everyone needs them. So that you don't have the space to easily sin. For example, instead of being alone in a room together, you can instead go to a restaurant in public. Limit being in places or situations that you think would cause you guys to sin. You guys need to keep each other accountable. And if you and your boyfriend do end up making mistake, you should ask for forgiveness to Jesus. He has grace for you both. It's not an excuse to sin, but it does mean that you don't have to live in shame. Both of you are unconditionally loved by Him. God bless you both and praying the Lord guides your relationship :)
@@rudypIays thank you, this is the most respectful and mature response i’ve gotten yet regarding the situation. it’s such an understanding response, and it’s really motivating. i’m going to talk to him tonight more about what’s been going on. i know Gods got a future for us because we really do value each other besides the times we slip up. it really is a wholesome relationship, we just make mistakes that we need to get a lot better from. i’ve also just started reading matthew and i think it’s so cool that you thought of that, it’s lovely :)
When faced with fleshly desires and thoughts, acknowledge them that they are there but don't entertain them. That has helped me a lot. Resist the devil firmly. James 4:7. We are sinful beings but we have a Saviour Jesus Christ who frees us from the bondage of sin. Romans 7:14-25. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and He will help you when faced with any temptation. He is our help. Also set clear boundaries with your lover. Sin thrives in secrecy so try by all means not to set up an environment that invites temptation❤
@@ihateitwhenmychildrencrawl69 You're very welcome, I'm glad I was able to help!! You both can do it!! Even if sometimes you don't feel it, He's with you guys! And that's so cool I just started reading Matthew too! Look how God works :D
I'm not trying to be rude but why are you even dating at 16 ? I'm 17 and not dating is what you should do. At this age you have more important things to focus on than boys. I don't think that starting a relationship at our age is good and you do not have to look for your future husband already. You could wait until you'll be a 21 year-old grew up woman and then you could start having a serious relationship with a man who is mature. Don't be so risky. Be honest with yourself. Your relationship is obviously leading you to sexual immorality.
I am not a christian. Yet i am fascinated by religion in general, and i have studied islam, judaism, hinduism, and christianity alike. These comments are lovely to read and videos like these give insight into how life is for Christians in the modern day. I applaud you all for what you do for god, and may you live a peaceful and fulfilling life ❤
@@Macc- “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.” James 1:26 KJV
there is a point. its called romantic experience. 37% of marriages end in divorce. now imagine if you married someone without having any romantic experience. you are setting yourself up for failure. dating as a teen isnt a bad thing. if you think so you are very misguided and ignorant. gather that experience so when you meet the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. it lasts. this take you have is dangerous and you should really seek help and fix it. because that way of thinking will end up hurting the people you are trying to help.
Hard disagreement, there's so much more to relationships than 'just temptation.' you learn a lot about yourself (as well as others) and what you like and don't like (vs what you THINK you liked and what is actually reality), as well as gain so much empathy towards another person and learn hard lessons. It takes serious work! Most people are flawed when it comes to their first relationships, and often fail. People often think they are ready to be married, but in reality, are farther from the truth.
So true ! I finally understand that " dating to marriage " actually means , you should start dating when you're ready to get married , that's how you look for a WIFE, cause you are ready to get married and know what you want . When you are too young to get married you are also too young to understand what you want in marriage. Things will he different when you get a job or move etc . Also if you enter a relationship when young then you may feel guilty and just go with the motions and end up marrying someone who isn't right for you!!!!
alright I'm gonna be honest, I've really felt alone & like there's no one out there for me, and it's been making me desperate, but I always remember a quote "Never go shopping when you're hungry, you'll grab the wrong things. Likewise, never get into a relationship when you're desperate and lonely, because you'll grab the wrong things." and seeing this video has really helped me what to look for, although now my options are more limited 😂 but my point is, if you're like me, learn to embrace singleness, before getting into relationship. I know how it feels guys, but being single is okay!!!
So true. There's a wonderful book by this guy, Case Kenny, titled "Single is your Super Power." It's a workbook type of thing for you to figure out what you REALLY want. Also, do no be afraid to ask God for what you want! Tell him, "I want a partner!!!" But add to it as well, "...but I want the RIGHT partner that you have envisioned for me in Divine Mind." Because you don't just want any person to be your eventual spouse, you want the RIGHT one. :D Cheers and God bless!
Today I prayed for wisdom on this topic, recently I noticed that I was searching for a partner only because I wasn't finding my worth in God because I didn't look for it there . I so desperately wanted someone to give me love so I could feel worth and I realize now that is wrong. If you aren't ok now with yourself and don't feel worth enough from God alone, avoid relationship it will end in sorrow. Thank you for this video.
I’m just a teenager, but from experience I can’t emphasize the importance of boundaries enough, physical and emotional. I know what it’s like falling madly in love with a non-believer even without dating, and letting go after realizing the mistake has been extremely painful and hard. Always keep this advice in mind, and even more importantly loving God, even above a potentially pleasing and happy relationship founded on feelings alone.
yes, also in our life we have stages. If you are a teenager, I do not recommend dating since you are in a growth stage. Take the opportunity to study and know God
tbh ya'll... i think the hardest thing i've ever done was to breakup with the guy that i thought was my soul mate. God new better, and each day i see it more and more. its insane, i always imagined a real fight for my faith against satan, like dying a maryter or something. But the real fight is being able to wake up everyday and to not slip into a harmful mental state. Like how satan tries to drag you into depression. Its a fight for my mind and im only winning because Jesus is a good and faithful God.
I'm glad yk how that feels I did the same when I was younger and I had to walk away when I remembered that she wasn't all too religious. It was extremely painful but it's a valuable lesson which will help you grow to do the right thing.
As another Christian who's also a teenager, I relate, I keep on falling in love and lusting for people who aren't Christian and I end up having to face reality and let them go and it's always so difficult for me and painful
Some timing that this showed up. My girlfriend broke up with me and its been really hard trying to figure out if i should wait for her or let her go. She has been nothing but good too me and i treated her awefully back then. I became emotionally abusive to summarize it. She helped me find God in the end but i completely ruined her mental health. And i feel like the worst person on earth because i hurt this sweet girl who was there for me in my darkest hour and gave me so many chances to clean up my behaviors. She truely loved me. God has helped me become a better person and i humbly apologized to her but she needs to heal. I just dont know if i should wait for her or move on. I want to try again with her but with God. She helped me find God and now i want to do the same for her. I just dont know what to do. Im tormented by my guilt. (Edit: Hallo friends! Thank you for the support! I am well and our Father has been with me and healing me. God bless!)
Hey man, so no matter what happens always remember Jesus loves you. And sure you can wait for her to maybe come back in the future. But this also my be growing pains for when you become an adult, and might be training you for your future spouse. We all need to find security in our savior Jesus Christ. Your brothers and sisters are always here to give comfort and support to each other. If you ever need help, we’re all here for you!😄🙏🏼
Keep in mind that God loves her more than you ever possibly could, and he loves you more than she ever possibly could. So pray for her and pray for yourself that God will guide you two in the right direction.
@Mr. Fujin There's grace for you! You need to forgive yourself and ask Jesus to forgive you too! Keep praying and hoping. The Lord is able! He turns everything around for His good and yours. So trust Him in what He is doing. Don't lose hope in Him, He doesn't lose it in you! He wants that guilt, give it to Him. You are not your choices. You are who God says you are. And nothing high or low can separate you from His love. God bless
Well first and most important of all dont feel guilty anymore its good to feel some guilt when you did something bad but not forever. Amd yes god forgave you already so try to forgive yourself and ask him to help you🔥🤙🏼
Thank you for making videos like these. Sometimes it feels like single Christians get the short end of the stick. I get pressure from both sides like “you’re in your 30’s? Why aren’t you married yet!?” and my pastor and church leaders are like “that’s fine, God has a plan. By the way since you have all that free time help in x y and z ministry…!” without giving me actual practical advice. Again, thank you!
@@Wimplo86I wouldn't say it's to take advantage I think what your pastor was trying to do was show you that God calls some people to singleness and that it's not a bad thing It gives you less to worry about and more time with God
@@soaphia1987 im pretty sure that's called prophecizing over others and im fairly certain that's not biblical. How would those preachers even know for certain. They're just making a baseless assumption because the thirty year old is still alone. Id like to think God wouldn't give us a desire for marriage only to keep it unfulfilled for our entire lives, unless he's admitting to being cruel for cruelties sake which since he's a God of love that would be wrong right? Just my thoughts since im in the same boat so to speak. Alone at 32 and with no hope in site. Luckily I cant be as easily manipulated like some people out there. Preachers don't like me because I've questioned way too much and they get defensive about my questioning and use terms like "who are you to question God" and things like that. I chalk it up to how I was made.
I’m so glad that there is still Christian content on the internet. All I see are videos that make me mad and it feels like nobody even knows anymore. Things for making a difference 😊
Sorry.. You're glad there is STILL Christian content on the internet. Like 80% of the internet is christian content what do you mean ? " All I see are videos that make me mad and it feels like nobody even knows anymore. Things for making a difference" WHAT I SEE HERE IS 1. A Sentence that doesn't make sense and that doesn't describe anything 2. A person saying they get MAD over VIDEOS hmm that's highly illogical and kinda stupid why would you get mad over a video ?
@@martinkulizayou think that 80% of RUclips is Christian content because you keep on interacting and commenting on Christian videos so RUclips keeps on recommending you more.
@@1_Alistair_1 NO........ I DIDN'T SAY 80% OF YOU TUBE is christian content i said approx 80% of THE INTERNET There is a HUGE Difference there and likewise you don't see the internet because you only interact with you tube also, i don;t actually keep interacting wtih christian content i usually interact with electronics contenct, that's my main thing
I dated with the intention to marry (actually my first question that started us dating was: will you marry me). We were engaged for a year until the wedding. It was a though time, as I thought why should we wait, if we already decided to marry. However with gods help we managed to stay holy. 6 years married and two lovely girls. It’s totally worth to wait. And for those arguing, how you can marry if you don’t know how the sex will be and if you are compatible. We were both virgins, so we don’t have any comparison. And that‘s great because we learnt everything together and it‘s a great feeling. And as long as you are a man and a women you are compatible.
You can date with the intention to marry without knowing if the person is right for you to marry. People date to get to know a person better because they, hopefully, recognize people can change a bit when it comes to romantic partners compared to ‘just’ a friendship.
@@_Sloppyham Who had premarital sex? Did you read my post? I clearly stated, that we did wait until the marriage. But yes, both of those things are equally bad in the eyes of god.
Don't worry about it. Youre just as responsible for the datelessness you have as the person who dates a lot is for the amount of dates they get. Dating is EXTREMELY spirit driven. If you're a believer and not dating then trust God as He has what is best for you. If you're not a believer and you are dating then it doesn't really matter because the devil has your soul and your on your way to hell. Dating can be a blessing but for most it is a curse and a hindrance from God's plan for your life.
@@austin33785 bro, that escalated quickly. I mean, in the first half i agreed with you but then what you said seemed prtty exagerated to me 😅. Im talking about the part with "the devil has your soul and your going to hell if your a nonbeliver". Idk man.
Yeah, I never got this point of criticism no matter who it came from. When it comes to a partnership, it’s ok to want to wait till marriage and it’s ok to not want that. Breaking up with someone because of this difference of values, not matter which side a person is on, should not be judged harshly. The only time a person should be criticized is when they try to pressure their partner into doing something they don’t want to do, now that is immaturity to say the least.
I personally am agnostic but as I'm growing older I realize that my morals and the morals I want in a partner are found in most Christian's and very rarely outside of those who arnt religious. So I've come to conclude that I would be happiest with someone who shares my morals and therefore probably a Christian. This video helped me figure out how I should treat a relationship with a Christian. Thank you
Okay, I'm having a crush on someone who is not a Christian. This is just right for me because I'm struggling right now to keep myself from falling deeply in love with her. It hurts that I can't really date her, but it's the right thing to do. I hope and I pray that I will be able to overcome this struggle.😊
Same here. The story of Sampson comes to mind. He loved Delilah but she had allegiances to herself and eventually sold him out. I think I’m similar because I just want to ignore the call but it’s never good longterm. Your allegiances will be pulled and you’ll go to a place unintended. Sampson had his eyes burned out grinding in a mill. God still used Sampson in the end but he could’ve saved himself a lot of trouble had he not trusted in his own understanding and thus pride.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. We started dating in high school when we were 16 and now both of us are about to turn 19. I love this guy and although we've struggled together, we've made it through some tough times and my family loves him and his family loves me. We've planned to get married after he graduated college. But about a week ago I was praying and I got this feeling that God needed us to separate. I've talked to my close friends, spiritual leaders, and parents about it but they all say that there might be something else going on. I tried to block the thought from my mind but it sent me into a spiral. I ran to God finally again the other night and he told me the same thing. Things we're just starting to get better with us, we made so much improvement and we're closer than ever. Obviously I love God more than anything and trust him. But I feel like I'm losing my mind a little bit. I know I'm not supposed to understand and that I just need to obey and to trust that God has a plan but SHEESH is this painful. I feel stuck, scared, crazy, and miserable.
Hello, my sister in christ. Jesus says that we must to stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly, using the words of God (John 7:24). That means that you must see if your relation is going well on spirtiual side. you must to assure if your path and yours boyfriend are in line with God, if its not, you must to pray for Lord to forgive your sins and aline your path and to keep you away from the things that makes you sin. We must to not only keep away from temptations but also run from the ways that bring us to temptations. Dont forget to pray,and meditate in His words daily, and to put that in practice in your life. The Holy Spirit of God will give peace to your heart and strength to fight against the sin. In christ alone your hope is found!! He is your light, Your strength and your song. No matter whats happens, you must to keep your trust in God! He have greats plans to you: Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). May God be with you and your boyfriend. God Bless you all.
@nowhy3066, First I want to congratulate you for choosing God's voice over the crowd Obeying God is usually very uncomfortable and maybe painful at first but the end is usually rewarding. Lemme share my testimony with you. When I was about 23-25 I had different relationships at different times and I sensed God wanted me to let go but it just didn't seat well because everyone around me at a time had one or multiples and even in my church then, consecration, abstinence etc wasn't preached So I didn't know I could honor God with my body. After a little back and forth, I obeyed God, cut off from my friends because they didn't understand why I decided not to date, and I began to read my Bible and pray more. Yes there were temptations of going back and I had days I felt I needed warmth and hugs even though I didn't want to indulge in sex again but the holy spirit constantly reminded me that no man could fill these gaps but only God could because It's in the place of prayer and studying the word of God will I draw strength for my future and guess what, even though I had no desire to marry at that time, I found out God was preparing me for marriage without me knowing. He wanted me to gather oil/strength for when I marry because whether we agree or not, challenges come in our day to day lives. 1st day of January of the year I turned 26, my husband who was just a friend I knew but wasn't dating called me (which was normal because we were Friends sort of so calls once in a while wasn't unusual)we talked about random things but I guess he was trying to confirm things cos I found out later that while he was talking to God about a spouse, God said I was the one but he never liked me as one he could spend his life with and I felt same way about him. He on the other hand had a lady he was dating and God told him she's not the one (imagine if he had asked God before he began dating or if he had stayed away) 4th of January he told me that after praying, he's sure God will like me to be his wife but I should go pray about it. I gave him a yes on the 7th after praying too and he came with me to see my Pastor I was living with at that time. By June he introduced me to his parents, September I took him to mine and by November we were married. No we didn't date, we courted the months leading to our marriage, and we didn't kiss or sleep with each other until marriage and today to the glory of God, we are doing great and we will be 9 years in marriage soon. So if God is calling you deeper, just obey and trust his timing. If you'd like to speak with someone, you can wh@.t.sap me on ➕ two three four eight zero six six one seven four nine seven nine or check my profile for directions. God bless you.
I'm saying this 6 Months after, Don't know what you finally decided but God's ways are not ours noh does he see the way we do. Your boyfriend may check all the scriptural guidelines but if God says no then trust Him. There's something in the future or behind the scenes you Don't see and His looking out for you. Remember God doesn't see the way man sees. Reason why your parents and pastors may not be seeing what He God sees. God bless
"A little bit"?! Girl, you're borderline psychotic! 😶 Are you seriously thinking about dumping your loved one over voices in your head? How shallow is your love?! I mean, it's your funeral. The guy would be better off away from you if you're like that, but there's a mountain of regret waiting for you if you do it
Unequally yoked: I Have a friend, I don't feel her eagerness towards serving God those not the same as mine but all i can do is pray that she grows deeper into God's love but for now I'll look for someone else who will encourage me to walk with God together. But it's hard to find someone. I liked her then that she was and said that she was a Christian but i fear her faith/trust in God might be shallow and her lack of dependence in The Word and reading The Word everyday might lead her astray. Pray for me brothers and sisters that i may be a friend to help guide her to God and pray that the Holy spirit may lead us to a better Character.
Yeah, unfortunately I kinda got yoked with an unbeliever and the relationship has had many rocky bumps. I remember taking her to church and she even claimed to have accepted Christ into her heart, but ever since then she only really hangs out with her friends and doesn’t talk to me that much, and makes excuses on to not coming to church, to where she blatantly just said she doesn’t want to go. I’ve been wanting to end ties with her, but for some reason I can’t bring myself to do it for some reason (probably because she reminds me of my sinful nature and how I sometimes do the same stuff against Jesus…). She really makes me sad most of the time and I try to write her poems about it too. I guess another thing is that with her upbringing, it’s really hard for her to show love and I guess with me being “healthy” she can’t comprehend it and pushes me away. It’s all so complicated and I don’t know how to feel. Another reason I don’t want to end ties with her is so that she doesn’t harm herself because of me with what she’s already going through. I really don’t have much to offer, so I decided that if she really didn’t want to be with me, she would be the one to break up with me. In the meantime I want to show the example of God’s unconditional love where I’ll be with here no matter what even if cheats on me, that I’ll help her lead to God’s undying love and the cross, so that she may grow in faith. I don’t know if what I’m doing is even right and I prayed that if she’s not the right one for me then she would break up with me (since like I said I basically have nothing compared to the other boys in our school and I just want her to be at peace), but I just feel all too complicated on what to do… especially since I’m struggling with lustful sin and I feel all by myself on this. I know for one thing God wants the best for me, so I’ll rely on Him to show me what to do.
@@raheemcamal998 So after watching the video again and reflecting on myself, I realized I was just being a stupid idiot blind to what I thought was love. I asked God to forgive me and through His guidance was able to mature and grow on how to better represent Him than what I thought lol 😅. God surely is great for being so merciful and patient with me and I still talk to the girl trying to help her. But I know the only one I should be chasing is God and Him alone. I wanted to delete the comment I made out of embarrassment, but I think it’s good reflector to see how I was in the pass and to remind myself how much I grew since then. I’ll keep on reading God’s word and chase Him only, and if He happens to have someone for me, then His will be done! In the meantime, I’ll keep staying pure and clean to show my love and obedience. God Bless ❤️
I failed at guideline number 1... Tragically. And not even while dating... If at all you feel like you want to give in outside marriage? DON'T. Trust me. I thought I was a whole Christian: going to church, praying, reading the Bible... But despite all that, there wasnt an honest, true connection with God. (And of course the exposure and freedom I have here at Uni). Now that there is, I'm questioing a whole lot about my life, the choices I made then AND still make as a Christian. It's true that you carry a piece of someone when you've been intimate with them. I wept as I asked for forgiveness from God, and I still do when I look back at how far I've come. I wouldnt be here without Him... Even though I lost a tonne of friends and dont get any more attention from boys I thought were my friends, I'm happy in this place❤. And I'm in a heathy, God centered relationship. I wouldn't want anyone to live with the regret that I still carry around. Please, create and maintain those physical boundaries and form a deep connection with God. Its really important in life. This video spoke to me. You definitely have a new subscriber❤
well 1. There never is a true and honest connection to god.........EVER !! 2. You didn't fail at guideline 1... THIS VIDEO FAILED... the video is stupid 3. Re this "I wouldn't want anyone to live with the regret that I still carry around." AND.. WHAT DOES RELIGION DO TO PEOPLE ?
I think we need to talk a little more about maintaining relationships. finding them is easy but ones that stand the test of time even in marriage are incredibly rare
Hi Christopherbriscoe8665, This is not a godly instructions in anyway. God does not support dating before marriage. What's the essence of dating the person for years so start as early as 13, 16 when they have no business dating but be in school? This is contrary to God's plans. Dating is just Satan's ploy to push people to sin , fornicate and disrespect God and their bodies
I absolutely love this whiteboard series! please never stop these series as it has helped me know more about God and his ways! I'm thankful to God for providing you this opportunity to spread God's word in a creative way like this!
This is extremely hard for me. My significant other I’ve been with for 3 years. I was terrible. Treated her horribly. Fast forward and I become Christian. She isn’t diving in like I did and is not as serious. She isn’t motivating me to live for God and I find myself sinning every time I’m with her. She served me for 3 years and now that I want to leave she asks why and she doesn’t understand and it kills me because she was there for me at my worst. I want to lead her to God but I can’t force her. And I can’t set the right example If I’m giving into sexual immorality. What’s worst is that I was her first. I have already claimed her as mine by doing so and I want to wait until she’s saved but it’s never ending circles and I feel like I’m getting no where.
You need to set and keep the physical boundaries. It's really difficult to do if you didn't start off with that boundary in place but it's something God wants from us. As Michael said, you also should be praying about it. It may be that God will help her to open her heart to Him, but maybe not (or not yet), and eventually if she's still not willing to accept Jesus you might have to give up the relationship. It's hard but you cannot allow your future to be defined by your past sins. You need to forgive yourself if you have repented and God has forgiven you.
@@trevrockrock16 I think you’re missing the “freedom of will” aspect of this. Regardless of my decision God can and will make it into a blessing if he chooses. I can’t force her to follow God but if I am willing to follow God and lead her as well I believe that is Godly. I am not having premarital sex, we are long distance and there is nothing wrong with me trying to lead her to God. I’m talking about the future and long term. If she chooses not to follow God then yes I will leave. But I want to at least give her a chance. And I can’t expect her to believe if I’m not setting the right example 100%
@Tyler Lee wow that’s amazing that you are in the worship band! I live in Charleston SC but I am originally from Venezuela. I am 23! I go to church too every Sunday and I volunteer with the toddlers there 🥰
I really appreciate your videos! The way you explain things simply with illustrations that are easy to understand is so appreciated. Thank you and may God always guide you as you teach
So there’s this girl at school right. We go to a Christian school and we both love God. I’ve liked her for 2 years now but God had kept telling me to wait. Now I know that he told me to wait for her because I wasn’t quite in a great relationship with God. This summer I fully accepted Jesus and was called to ministry and I was committed to being all in. I am in my Junior year now and we have been casually having conversations after school. Whenever I think of her, I think of us together just having fun and God just having a smile on his face while looking at us. I am looking forward to what else God has planned for me.
Beautiful… I really appreciate this! Well put together. The visuals and the audio- concise and informative! I really loved the fact that it was straight forward and easy to follow!
Im a married man, being a Christian is very hard, temptation is very strong and i continue to pray much more. Also our first anniversary with my wife is comming up and scrollong through yt the Holy Spirit led me to this video and just helped me❤❤ thank u
This was such a great video. I appreciate all the scriptures with where they’re from in it because that’s where we need to get our information from is straight from the Bible not just what people say and the depictions were also very helpful. I just watched it by myself and I’m about to watch it with my boyfriend
God works in amazing ways. I was just thinking about this earlier, about someone I really like and what a relationship would be like with them. Literally only 30 minutes later I log onto my computer and I get this video in my recommended. I love that He's watching out for me and I know that He'll always be there. :) If I do get in a relationship, I would want us to grow together through our faith and bring each other closer to God. But, it's all in His plan, what happens or what doesn't.
I agree with all of these. Good job. I will tell you from experience that the #1 reason to not have sex before marriage is quite simple; you do not want to get emotionally involved with a loon. When you give in to the intense emotional connection that sex can bring, you can easily loose sight of who you are really dating. You'll end up married to someone you come to find out you don't even like, but now there are kids involved and families and obligations and promises, etc... You need to remain sober minded. This is the most important decision of your life. Pick your spouse the same way you pick your friends - patiently, and based on character, not physical attraction. Listen to your parents and other godly advisors. They want what's best for you, too, but their eyes are not clouded by what you think is love, but may not be.
I recently became a Christian, prior to that I lived a horrible life of grand sin which I am not going to get into however I will say this much I developed a condition which affect my bladder and it made it extremely hard to not just engage in intimacy but just be around anyone in general. About 6 months before I gave my life to God the bladder symptoms eased up a lot so much that it is almost non existent now so for me to fight these temptations of sexual immortality isn't so bad because I can assure you that you are not missing out but again I don't wanna elaborate because that is going back into my past where as I am trying to move forward! God bless each and everyone of you ❤ Amen. 🙏
I have face a lot of trauma in my life that made dating hard because I didn't know how to correctly do it, and the only view on relationships I had growing up were toxic, i.e. I have no idea how to properly apologize when I'm wrong. I started reading the book of Proverbs and got to the part about the perfect wife, and pairing that with what I learned in the book of Ephisians about how marriage should look, I've been doing my best with that. I know this video doesn't help me fully with all the stuff I need to know, but this helped me in so many ways just understanding how to conduct myself and my relationships, thank you
Amen! Amen! been there and let go because of all the points that were mentioned. Definitely put God first, he will send the one when you realize you don’t need a parter because you have everything in Christ and you serve him with your life!
awesome, I‘m really impressed of how good you summarised the important facts. That really helps me as a young man to again focus on the important things. God bless you! I think there‘s one more important guideline to consider: In asking god and making a decision if the other person is the right one or not (or if it’s the right time or not) we should always include older brothers/sisters, who are more mature in faith than we are. Because when we desire a spouse and may already have feelings it is almost impossible to hear god speak clearly and make an unbiased decision. …I speak from my own experience :D
I specifically relate to rule 3. Whenever I think that God is showing me who he wants me to marry, I'd start having these fantasies about spending time with the person on date night's and our wedding. These were thoughts I knew I shouldn't be having, but sometimes it felt like I couldn't help it. But God is showing me that all things will be ready in due time
@@faby_baby see this is exactly how we should be spreading the gospel!! Props to you, so many Christians are too aggressive spreading the word of God, and because of it they drive people away from Christianity, which is not what we want! You did it in such a good way :)
@@Belmont1714 my point was that people have done their “little digging” and genuinely asking questions and have gotten to two opposing conclusions. To say “just do a little digging” when OP possibly has, can be seen as condensing
I think I needed to know this ... I avoided it because I thought I should only watch it if I’m actually in a relationship .. but I think I need it more now .. before any mistakes . And I’m really glad that I found that my heart is still aimed at that “ I really wanna love him right “ and right is the way God purposed . Only that I need to pray more about this and spend a lot of more time on my relationship with God and simply loving Christ . I’m sure then I will be able to discern GodS will for this relationship. And also how to go moving forward in everything .. God loves all of you ! Thank you for this knowledge and wisdom .. I’ll use it 😊
Hi, I'm glad you want to do marriage according to God's words but dating is not how to have a godly marriage that will please the Lord. Waiting on God and praying for the right person and timing makes things a lot easier and while people feel they can date without disobeying God, it's not possible because what's the essence of starting a relationship at 13 when they are to marry at 25 or 26? Why put a child through that level of emotional stress? When they could read their books and engage in more child friendly activity that could build them up?
I used to think like that and it may happen to you though for me that has not been the case. In fact it's good to date in order to learn as there is a lot to learn.
Cool! May God strengthen you in the wait even when people tell you that it's impossible! I'm waiting too! God is able to answer our prayers abundantly! 🙏😊
Thank you for sharing, I just found your channel and I have learnt so much in just a little while. God bless you for what you're doing. Thanks very much. Watching from 🇬🇧 ❤
Now this is something I needed especially for my future ❤️ I’m really glad I found this video. I love you so much and thank you for these amazing tips! God bless you Impact Video Ministries!! ❤️✝️🕊️
I’m a Christian girl who fell in love with my before online best friend who is a Muslim. We both love each other and we love god. We have a lot in common and we both are happy that we believe in god. Both of us don’t want to have sex before marriage and that’s what makes me so happy; that he understands me and will never push me to do anything. I’m happy with him. I thank god every day that we’ve found each other ❤
I can imagine how wonderful it feels. However I must warn you that scripture tells us to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. We are told not to partner with unbelievers
It's great that you two don't tempt each other to sin sexually, but are you able to help each other grow in faith? If the relationship turns to marriage, will you be able to emulate Jesus' marriage to the church? Just some thoughts!
only possible reason a christian and a muslim can be in a marriage (or dating) relationship together is if one or both are either not serious about their faith, or one or both do not understand the theology of their faith. i don't know about islam because i don't read quran but according to the bible, christian God and muslim God are NOT the same God. if you've heard something like this before, and still disagree, we'll agree to disagree. if you haven't heard this before, give it some thought. i'm more than happy to discuss further if you want.
"But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be [b]accursed. 9 As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed." Galatians 1:8-9 "Moreover, brethren, I declare to you the gospel which I preached to you, which also you received and in which you stand, by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to you-unless you believed in vain. For I delivered to you first of all that which I also received: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures" 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 Do muslim peoples preach this gospel ? If not, they are like unbelievers and you should act according to 2 Corinthians 6:14-15
I love the whiteboard series so much infact my mom and sister love as well and it gives them clarity on a lot of topics and the illustrations and visual are so AMAZING!!! Don't end the whiteboard series! You're doing God's work ! Keep it up !❤ All the way from South Africa 🇿🇦❤
Thanks for your Godly wisdom great guidelines. This will help many disciples who are serious in having a Godly attitude towards their sister in Christ. The key word is being cautious and not running ahead of oneself easy to say yet very hard to do but not impossible.
Remember men, if you’re doing everything right and keeping the relationship holy, and she asks if you’re gay, move on. She isn’t the one.
Lmao u saying this by experience 😂😂
@@creepypastasmaster As a matter of fact, yes. Lol. Should have taken my own advice, looking back.
Or just date a true Christian woman.
@@kimberlyturner820 Yuppppppppp!
@@kimberlyturner820 There’s the rub. I thought I was. She was a regular church-goer, regularly referred to Scripture in our conversations, the whole nine. But a month or two into dating, she asked me if I was gay.
Why? Because she wanted to jump into marriage very quickly, when we hardly knew each other, and was wondering why I was taking so long to take the next step.
I know this might sound cringy but…
I remember getting a call from my uncle almost 2 years ago. He is a pastor at a church in Mexico and he gave me a tip that no one else has ever given me. He told me to pray for my future husband and for him to be a guy that will love God. I remember telling my uncle I was going to do that and I did. I prayed a couple times for my future husband.
I’m sure God answered my prayers because he gave me a wonderful man. I’m not married to him. We’ve been dating for over a year. When we first started dating I asked him what his religion was. He told me he was an atheist. I told him I was Christian. But everytime I invited him to church he would come. He came to church at first for me but it slowly started to become for God. It’s currently our high school senior year. And a tragedy happened. His best friend of 11 years passed away in a car accident. He was devastated and my mom talked to him. She told him he’s with God because the guy that died would always encourage him to read the Bible. My boyfriend would ask his friend questions and he would answer them. He encouraged my boyfriend to get closer to God. He would always talk to me and sometimes us three would end up talking about God too. His death motivated my boy friend even more to get closer to God. He showed up to church service the day I couldn’t go because of school activities and he accepted Jesus in his heart. He says he wants to see his friend in heaven and he constantly prays for our future. We read the Bible together and he now plays the bass for our church ministry. I thank God for putting him in my life and guiding him to salvation. He now talks to his family about God and I’m hoping his family will soon come to church too
Also forgot to mention we go to a Hispanic church and my boy friend is white. But the language barrier didn’t stop him from finding God. Once again thank you God ❤
Beautiful...the Lord is working in your life...Amen
May God bless your relationship.
Wow this is beautiful❤️this opened my heart bc I’ve been inviting my friend to church and God had been opening his heart. I’ve been starting to get discouraged but God will open his heart❤️
Amen great testimony I hope I find my husband also 🙏
THIS IS BEAUTIFUUUUL 😢 bendiciones para ustedes ❤❤❤❤
1. Keep relationship Holy and undefiled
2. Be equally yoked
3. Live real life together
4. Love God more than partner (put God first) 😊💟
Amen to that.
Amen
This will just make the relationship boring
@@vicmaster5310 What a childish, foolish comment void of any wisdom or supplement.
@@vicmaster5310 Ever tried living holy and living REAL life? It‘s an awesome adventure full of joys, challenges, and surprises.
"Don't awaken love before it pleases"
Amen! Folks, If we are not ready for marriage, dating is not the goal
Amen
Dating in a proper context can help you get prepared for marriage, though. It shouldn't be the only thing it you do to prepare, but don't discount yourself and don't reject the learning opportunities that dating can give you, even if its not the right person.
I learned some of my biggest lessons about what love actually was, dating a girl, and especially after we broke up. Was it hard? Yes. Was it painful? More than anything I had felt before. But was it worth it? Yes. Even though I didn't like how it played out, I don't HAVE to like it for God to use it for my good. And he did. Trust always in God, and lean not on your own understanding. Don't lead yourself, follow God and everything will happen as it is supposed to, for your good.
@@cadenorris4009 nope, the bible has given us enough
@@raheemcamal998 Do you really think that God just uses the bible to teach us? I hope you aren't so naive as to separate biblical lessons from life lessons.
@@cadenorris4009 but the bible has enough, we do not need to go through unnecessary hardships to learn about such things, alot of people in the bible didn't have to go through a load of dates to learn a thing and they where still able to love and honour there partner, therefore the word is enough. God will mostly only ever use life lessons when we stray or do not follow is word
i was a muslim…I had a boyfriend at that time who was a christian i really think he is the best thing what happened in my life and I’m very thankful he also helped me to convert to christianity and I feel so good for doing that thank you lord 🙏🏻
I have a question, and I don’t mean to be rude since you can’t read tones. Does it ever feel… wrong for converting? Like being taught as a child, “this this that that” and then converting and going “that that this this”?
@@LillyBursaw-br9hc Hi! I highly recommend Nabeel Qureshi’s book “Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus”. I’m sure everyone feel differently about conversion, but he writes about it very honestly and in great detail
@@LillyBursaw-br9hc Everyone's testimony is different, but as a former catholic and now a born again christian, I was actually shocked that my upbringing was based in lies and traditions not found in the bible. I know it's not my parents fault as they were deceived as well. The difference is that I chose to get out from that deception and live in truth, while they preffer traditions of men. So in summery, I felt joy converting.
@@marysheffield4713I LOVE HIS BOOK WITH ALL MY HEART!! I AM SO HAPPY TO SEE SOMEONE READING IT🥹🤍
@@robsonfrancisco3719what were the lies and traditions if you don’t mind me asking?
Rule no. 1
Only date to that person if you are serious about marriage not to fulfill wordly desires.
@@trevrockrock16 Amen
I date to marry
word
Sometimes I wish I could hold on the hope of marriage and children but then I remember that sadly marriage doesn't last for eternity and at 32 almost 33 im too old to be waiting on something that's never given me reason to hold onto. I can only conclude that my failed relationships that never lasted longer than a week are a sign from God that I shouldn't bother. I hate having this desire, I want it to be removed. Nothing good will come of it. Im not rich, I live with my mother barely making 8k a year, I have no car, no license, nothing a girl wants. I'm not attractive in any sense of the word. I really wish God would remove this desire from me so I can finally get on with my life as best I can.
@@BansheeKing22 I'm not really in your situation cause I'm a lot younger but the best advice I can give is to focus on God first and all will fall into place. Whenever I feel a desire for companionship I remember that God loves me more than any companion that I may have. This gives me peace and keeps me focused on my goals. I also recommend the book 'atomic habits' which is a book that will help you form good habits which are important for progress in any area of life. Keep a journal as well write whatever in it but I have a journal where everyday I write down what I did to improve myself or work towards my goal for that day. These small things and having a deeper connection with the Lord will help you. I hope this helps g, God bless
me watching this while single :(
Me too man… me too..
Me too man, but cheer up! God always has a plan.
"He has made everything beautiful in its time."
- Ecclesiastes 3:11
"Love is Patient..."
- 1 Corinthians 13:4a
So keep fighting the good fight of faith, perhaps God will lead us somewhere we least expect, and so long as it is within his will, we will always find joy in him.
God knows best for us. He's never late.
@@DecadesRemain amen
you learn how to bake a cake before baking the cake
I want to have a relationship with someone who be able to Pray together ,worship together. Read the Bible at night together. Let God first in our relationship. How beautiful 😌🙏🏼✨
Me too , to cuddle and prayer over each other 🥰🥰🙏🏽
❤
Thts would be awesome
May God give what your heart desire for
I always tell myself:
Guys don't go for a Christian girl, go for a Proverbs 31 woman and Daughter of the king.
Girls don't go for a Christian boy, go for a Man of God
Love you all ✝️🤍
🙏🏽🥰🥰💯
❤
Yes you say right
Rightly said
I really like how this is backed up by scripture it warms my heart 🤍🍃
yesss I defo feel the same 💯🥰
Amen
i’m so glad this video popped up in my recommended.
me and my boyfriend are both 16, and have really been struggling with sexual immorality. it was easy to avoid at the start of our relationship, but then as time has gone on it’s just gotten more and more difficult. we both love the Lord because He brought us together, and we both love each other and want to do good; but it’s just so hard. it seems like everyone whom i’ve talked to this about doesn’t think of it as a big deal, even though i’ve told them that we’ve committed certain acts.
our relationship is mostly wholesome, but i still feel those moments drawing me away from God. i feel shame and sometimes the enemy tells me that He hates me. it seems like i can’t tell myself that God still loves me whenever i sin. i completely understand why sexual immorality is wrong now.
i just don’t know what to do. i love the Lord so much, but my flesh is so selfish.
this boy treats me SO WELL, so i want to make it work in any way i can. for the first time in my life, i see my future with someone.
any advice is appreciated.
Hi! When I was reading your comment what first came to mind to me is when the devil tried tempting Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11 (you guys can read it). Resist the enemy or temptation and that will flee. That's the authority Jesus gave us. I believe that's what you and your boyfriend have to do. What I would say is don't do this with your own strength but ask the Lord to help and guide you. Your boyfriend should pray this as well. The flesh may feel strong, but the Holy Spirit in you is stronger. Use His help.
I also think you and your boyfriend need to make healthy boundaries. Everyone needs them. So that you don't have the space to easily sin. For example, instead of being alone in a room together, you can instead go to a restaurant in public. Limit being in places or situations that you think would cause you guys to sin. You guys need to keep each other accountable.
And if you and your boyfriend do end up making mistake, you should ask for forgiveness to Jesus. He has grace for you both. It's not an excuse to sin, but it does mean that you don't have to live in shame. Both of you are unconditionally loved by Him. God bless you both and praying the Lord guides your relationship :)
@@rudypIays thank you, this is the most respectful and mature response i’ve gotten yet regarding the situation. it’s such an understanding response, and it’s really motivating.
i’m going to talk to him tonight more about what’s been going on. i know Gods got a future for us because we really do value each other besides the times we slip up. it really is a wholesome relationship, we just make mistakes that we need to get a lot better from.
i’ve also just started reading matthew and i think it’s so cool that you thought of that, it’s lovely :)
When faced with fleshly desires and thoughts, acknowledge them that they are there but don't entertain them. That has helped me a lot. Resist the devil firmly. James 4:7. We are sinful beings but we have a Saviour Jesus Christ who frees us from the bondage of sin. Romans 7:14-25. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and He will help you when faced with any temptation. He is our help. Also set clear boundaries with your lover. Sin thrives in secrecy so try by all means not to set up an environment that invites temptation❤
@@ihateitwhenmychildrencrawl69 You're very welcome, I'm glad I was able to help!!
You both can do it!! Even if sometimes you don't feel it, He's with you guys!
And that's so cool I just started reading Matthew too! Look how God works :D
I'm not trying to be rude but why are you even dating at 16 ? I'm 17 and not dating is what you should do. At this age you have more important things to focus on than boys. I don't think that starting a relationship at our age is good and you do not have to look for your future husband already. You could wait until you'll be a 21 year-old grew up woman and then you could start having a serious relationship with a man who is mature. Don't be so risky. Be honest with yourself. Your relationship is obviously leading you to sexual immorality.
I am not a christian. Yet i am fascinated by religion in general, and i have studied islam, judaism, hinduism, and christianity alike. These comments are lovely to read and videos like these give insight into how life is for Christians in the modern day. I applaud you all for what you do for god, and may you live a peaceful and fulfilling life ❤
You are such a beautiful soul and rare person....wow. I wish I knew someone like you in real life
Orthodox Christianity is the only real religion
@@Macc- this does not help
@@Macc- “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.”
James 1:26 KJV
@@croddysosdy3458 Catholics are ignorant
I can’t emphasize enough, that there is no point in dating until you’re ready to get married, otherwise it’s literally just temptation
What about serching a Person you really love ?
there is a point. its called romantic experience. 37% of marriages end in divorce. now imagine if you married someone without having any romantic experience. you are setting yourself up for failure. dating as a teen isnt a bad thing. if you think so you are very misguided and ignorant. gather that experience so when you meet the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. it lasts. this take you have is dangerous and you should really seek help and fix it. because that way of thinking will end up hurting the people you are trying to help.
...but isn't the point of dating to determine if the other party is marriage material?🤔
Hard disagreement, there's so much more to relationships than 'just temptation.' you learn a lot about yourself (as well as others) and what you like and don't like (vs what you THINK you liked and what is actually reality), as well as gain so much empathy towards another person and learn hard lessons. It takes serious work! Most people are flawed when it comes to their first relationships, and often fail. People often think they are ready to be married, but in reality, are farther from the truth.
So true ! I finally understand that " dating to marriage " actually means , you should start dating when you're ready to get married , that's how you look for a WIFE, cause you are ready to get married and know what you want . When you are too young to get married you are also too young to understand what you want in marriage. Things will he different when you get a job or move etc .
Also if you enter a relationship when young then you may feel guilty and just go with the motions and end up marrying someone who isn't right for you!!!!
alright I'm gonna be honest, I've really felt alone & like there's no one out there for me, and it's been making me desperate, but I always remember a quote "Never go shopping when you're hungry, you'll grab the wrong things. Likewise, never get into a relationship when you're desperate and lonely, because you'll grab the wrong things." and seeing this video has really helped me what to look for, although now my options are more limited 😂
but my point is, if you're like me, learn to embrace singleness, before getting into relationship. I know how it feels guys, but being single is okay!!!
i think better pray about it...and check if there is peace or not@@alpha-dt8qz
This is spot on!
I’m a single freashman and I don’t want to date anyone yet. But I do have a lot of struggles liking people.
So true. There's a wonderful book by this guy, Case Kenny, titled "Single is your Super Power." It's a workbook type of thing for you to figure out what you REALLY want.
Also, do no be afraid to ask God for what you want! Tell him, "I want a partner!!!" But add to it as well, "...but I want the RIGHT partner that you have envisioned for me in Divine Mind." Because you don't just want any person to be your eventual spouse, you want the RIGHT one. :D
Cheers and God bless!
But I embraced singleness for 8 years without getting one, and after 35, your ability to make children decreases, if you're a man.
0:53 Set Up Physical Boundaries
3:25 Check Their Pace
5:31 Live Life, Not Fantasy
7:18 Love God More Than Your Partner
Thanks heaps!
thought that said "check their race" for a second 😅
**leaving comment for algorithm boost**
same 😭
Today I prayed for wisdom on this topic, recently I noticed that I was searching for a partner only because I wasn't finding my worth in God because I didn't look for it there . I so desperately wanted someone to give me love so I could feel worth and I realize now that is wrong. If you aren't ok now with yourself and don't feel worth enough from God alone, avoid relationship it will end in sorrow.
Thank you for this video.
I’m just a teenager, but from experience I can’t emphasize the importance of boundaries enough, physical and emotional. I know what it’s like falling madly in love with a non-believer even without dating, and letting go after realizing the mistake has been extremely painful and hard. Always keep this advice in mind, and even more importantly loving God, even above a potentially pleasing and happy relationship founded on feelings alone.
yes, also in our life we have stages. If you are a teenager, I do not recommend dating since you are in a growth stage. Take the opportunity to study and know God
I applaud you for being intelligent enough to think of this, espe emotional boundaries. It would have never occured to me to do so when I was one.
tbh ya'll... i think the hardest thing i've ever done was to breakup with the guy that i thought was my soul mate. God new better, and each day i see it more and more. its insane, i always imagined a real fight for my faith against satan, like dying a maryter or something. But the real fight is being able to wake up everyday and to not slip into a harmful mental state. Like how satan tries to drag you into depression. Its a fight for my mind and im only winning because Jesus is a good and faithful God.
I'm glad yk how that feels I did the same when I was younger and I had to walk away when I remembered that she wasn't all too religious. It was extremely painful but it's a valuable lesson which will help you grow to do the right thing.
As another Christian who's also a teenager, I relate, I keep on falling in love and lusting for people who aren't Christian and I end up having to face reality and let them go and it's always so difficult for me and painful
Some timing that this showed up. My girlfriend broke up with me and its been really hard trying to figure out if i should wait for her or let her go. She has been nothing but good too me and i treated her awefully back then. I became emotionally abusive to summarize it. She helped me find God in the end but i completely ruined her mental health. And i feel like the worst person on earth because i hurt this sweet girl who was there for me in my darkest hour and gave me so many chances to clean up my behaviors. She truely loved me. God has helped me become a better person and i humbly apologized to her but she needs to heal. I just dont know if i should wait for her or move on. I want to try again with her but with God. She helped me find God and now i want to do the same for her. I just dont know what to do. Im tormented by my guilt. (Edit: Hallo friends! Thank you for the support! I am well and our Father has been with me and healing me. God bless!)
Hi, same here let's pray that God will give us a sign when dealing with this kind of situation. Amen 🙏🙏
Hey man, so no matter what happens always remember Jesus loves you. And sure you can wait for her to maybe come back in the future. But this also my be growing pains for when you become an adult, and might be training you for your future spouse. We all need to find security in our savior Jesus Christ. Your brothers and sisters are always here to give comfort and support to each other. If you ever need help, we’re all here for you!😄🙏🏼
Keep in mind that God loves her more than you ever possibly could, and he loves you more than she ever possibly could. So pray for her and pray for yourself that God will guide you two in the right direction.
@Mr. Fujin There's grace for you! You need to forgive yourself and ask Jesus to forgive you too! Keep praying and hoping. The Lord is able! He turns everything around for His good and yours. So trust Him in what He is doing. Don't lose hope in Him, He doesn't lose it in you! He wants that guilt, give it to Him. You are not your choices. You are who God says you are. And nothing high or low can separate you from His love. God bless
Well first and most important of all dont feel guilty anymore its good to feel some guilt when you did something bad but not forever. Amd yes god forgave you already so try to forgive yourself and ask him to help you🔥🤙🏼
Thank you for making videos like these. Sometimes it feels like single Christians get the short end of the stick. I get pressure from both sides like “you’re in your 30’s? Why aren’t you married yet!?” and my pastor and church leaders are like “that’s fine, God has a plan. By the way since you have all that free time help in x y and z ministry…!” without giving me actual practical advice. Again, thank you!
@JonJ Vlogs or take advantaged of the fact that we are not…
@@Wimplo86I wouldn't say it's to take advantage
I think what your pastor was trying to do was show you that God calls some people to singleness and that it's not a bad thing
It gives you less to worry about and more time with God
@@soaphia1987 im pretty sure that's called prophecizing over others and im fairly certain that's not biblical. How would those preachers even know for certain. They're just making a baseless assumption because the thirty year old is still alone. Id like to think God wouldn't give us a desire for marriage only to keep it unfulfilled for our entire lives, unless he's admitting to being cruel for cruelties sake which since he's a God of love that would be wrong right? Just my thoughts since im in the same boat so to speak. Alone at 32 and with no hope in site. Luckily I cant be as easily manipulated like some people out there. Preachers don't like me because I've questioned way too much and they get defensive about my questioning and use terms like "who are you to question God" and things like that. I chalk it up to how I was made.
To be fair, helping in different ministries while single is a great learning experience.
1 Corinthians 7:25 - 7:35.
1 Corinthians 7:40 “Yet in my judgment she is happier if she remains as she is.”
I’m so glad that there is still Christian content on the internet. All I see are videos that make me mad and it feels like nobody even knows anymore. Things for making a difference 😊
Sorry.. You're glad there is STILL Christian content on the internet.
Like 80% of the internet is christian content
what do you mean ?
" All I see are videos that make me mad and it feels like nobody even knows anymore. Things for making a difference"
WHAT I SEE HERE IS
1. A Sentence that doesn't make sense and that doesn't describe anything
2. A person saying they get MAD over VIDEOS
hmm that's highly illogical and kinda stupid
why would you get mad over a video ?
@@martinkulizayou think that 80% of RUclips is Christian content because you keep on interacting and commenting on Christian videos so RUclips keeps on recommending you more.
@@1_Alistair_1
NO........ I DIDN'T SAY 80% OF YOU TUBE is christian content
i said approx 80% of THE INTERNET
There is a HUGE Difference there
and likewise you don't see the internet because you only interact with you tube
also, i don;t actually keep interacting wtih christian content
i usually interact with electronics contenct, that's my main thing
I dated with the intention to marry (actually my first question that started us dating was: will you marry me). We were engaged for a year until the wedding. It was a though time, as I thought why should we wait, if we already decided to marry. However with gods help we managed to stay holy. 6 years married and two lovely girls. It’s totally worth to wait.
And for those arguing, how you can marry if you don’t know how the sex will be and if you are compatible. We were both virgins, so we don’t have any comparison. And that‘s great because we learnt everything together and it‘s a great feeling. And as long as you are a man and a women you are compatible.
Amen!
1st Corinthians 7:36-38 Summs it up really well
You can date with the intention to marry without knowing if the person is right for you to marry. People date to get to know a person better because they, hopefully, recognize people can change a bit when it comes to romantic partners compared to ‘just’ a friendship.
And you had premarital sex? Sex between a man and another man is bad in the eyes of god but so is premarital sex???
@@_Sloppyham Who had premarital sex? Did you read my post? I clearly stated, that we did wait until the marriage.
But yes, both of those things are equally bad in the eyes of god.
You don't have to worry about guidelines if nobody wants to date you. That's my guardian angel's favorite joke 😐
Same here.
Don't worry about it. Youre just as responsible for the datelessness you have as the person who dates a lot is for the amount of dates they get. Dating is EXTREMELY spirit driven. If you're a believer and not dating then trust God as He has what is best for you. If you're not a believer and you are dating then it doesn't really matter because the devil has your soul and your on your way to hell. Dating can be a blessing but for most it is a curse and a hindrance from God's plan for your life.
@@austin33785 bro, that escalated quickly. I mean, in the first half i agreed with you but then what you said seemed prtty exagerated to me 😅. Im talking about the part with "the devil has your soul and your going to hell if your a nonbeliver". Idk man.
@@fabiangolea9930 don't trust me or believe anything I say. Look at the Bible and see what it has to say.
@@austin33785 Judgement is for God, and God alone.
If she/he doesn’t respect that you don’t wanna fornicate before marriage she isn’t worthy to be your partner in the first place 🙏
Yeah, I never got this point of criticism no matter who it came from. When it comes to a partnership, it’s ok to want to wait till marriage and it’s ok to not want that. Breaking up with someone because of this difference of values, not matter which side a person is on, should not be judged harshly.
The only time a person should be criticized is when they try to pressure their partner into doing something they don’t want to do, now that is immaturity to say the least.
Amen
I personally am agnostic but as I'm growing older I realize that my morals and the morals I want in a partner are found in most Christian's and very rarely outside of those who arnt religious. So I've come to conclude that I would be happiest with someone who shares my morals and therefore probably a Christian. This video helped me figure out how I should treat a relationship with a Christian. Thank you
fyi most christians only want to date other christians bc w want to be equally yolks
God bless you :)
Beautiful ! Then you should become a Christian because we are called to not be unequally yoked with unrighteousness
@@thatone_comment thank you🙏 God bless you too
Did you watch the video? Don’t chase Christian women if you’re agnostic
Dating a Christian guy is so awesome. We worship and pray together, and have the wildest theological discussions. I love it ♥
Casual dating that doesn't lead to a serious relationship / marriage serves ZERO PURPOSE as a CHRISTIAN!
Okay, I'm having a crush on someone who is not a Christian. This is just right for me because I'm struggling right now to keep myself from falling deeply in love with her.
It hurts that I can't really date her, but it's the right thing to do. I hope and I pray that I will be able to overcome this struggle.😊
Welcome to the club brother
you're not alone...
Remember, the one can't be a Christian
Same here.
The story of Sampson comes to mind.
He loved Delilah but she had allegiances to herself and eventually sold him out.
I think I’m similar because I just want to ignore the call but it’s never good longterm. Your allegiances will be pulled and you’ll go to a place unintended.
Sampson had his eyes burned out grinding in a mill.
God still used Sampson in the end but he could’ve saved himself a lot of trouble had he not trusted in his own understanding and thus pride.
Sampson lmao
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. We started dating in high school when we were 16 and now both of us are about to turn 19. I love this guy and although we've struggled together, we've made it through some tough times and my family loves him and his family loves me. We've planned to get married after he graduated college.
But about a week ago I was praying and I got this feeling that God needed us to separate. I've talked to my close friends, spiritual leaders, and parents about it but they all say that there might be something else going on. I tried to block the thought from my mind but it sent me into a spiral. I ran to God finally again the other night and he told me the same thing.
Things we're just starting to get better with us, we made so much improvement and we're closer than ever.
Obviously I love God more than anything and trust him. But I feel like I'm losing my mind a little bit. I know I'm not supposed to understand and that I just need to obey and to trust that God has a plan but SHEESH is this painful. I feel stuck, scared, crazy, and miserable.
Hello, my sister in christ.
Jesus says that we must to stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly, using the words of God (John 7:24). That means that you must see if your relation is going well on spirtiual side. you must to assure if your path and yours boyfriend are in line with God, if its not, you must to pray for Lord to forgive your sins and aline your path and to keep you away from the things that makes you sin. We must to not only keep away from temptations but also run from the ways that bring us to temptations.
Dont forget to pray,and meditate in His words daily, and to put that in practice in your life. The Holy Spirit of God will give peace to your heart and strength to fight against the sin.
In christ alone your hope is found!! He is your light, Your strength and your song. No matter whats happens, you must to keep your trust in God! He have greats plans to you: Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
May God be with you and your boyfriend.
God Bless you all.
@nowhy3066,
First I want to congratulate you for choosing God's voice over the crowd
Obeying God is usually very uncomfortable and maybe painful at first but the end is usually rewarding.
Lemme share my testimony with you.
When I was about 23-25 I had different relationships at different times and I sensed God wanted me to let go but it just didn't seat well because everyone around me at a time had one or multiples and even in my church then, consecration, abstinence etc wasn't preached So I didn't know I could honor God with my body.
After a little back and forth, I obeyed God, cut off from my friends because they didn't understand why I decided not to date, and I began to read my Bible and pray more. Yes there were temptations of going back and I had days I felt I needed warmth and hugs even though I didn't want to indulge in sex again but the holy spirit constantly reminded me that no man could fill these gaps but only God could because It's in the place of prayer and studying the word of God will I draw strength for my future and guess what, even though I had no desire to marry at that time, I found out God was preparing me for marriage without me knowing. He wanted me to gather oil/strength for when I marry because whether we agree or not, challenges come in our day to day lives.
1st day of January of the year I turned 26, my husband who was just a friend I knew but wasn't dating called me (which was normal because we were Friends sort of so calls once in a while wasn't unusual)we talked about random things but I guess he was trying to confirm things cos I found out later that while he was talking to God about a spouse, God said I was the one but he never liked me as one he could spend his life with and I felt same way about him.
He on the other hand had a lady he was dating and God told him she's not the one (imagine if he had asked God before he began dating or if he had stayed away)
4th of January he told me that after praying, he's sure God will like me to be his wife but I should go pray about it. I gave him a yes on the 7th after praying too and he came with me to see my Pastor I was living with at that time.
By June he introduced me to his parents, September I took him to mine and by November we were married.
No we didn't date, we courted the months leading to our marriage, and we didn't kiss or sleep with each other until marriage and today to the glory of God, we are doing great and we will be 9 years in marriage soon.
So if God is calling you deeper, just obey and trust his timing.
If you'd like to speak with someone, you can wh@.t.sap me on ➕ two three four eight zero six six one seven four nine seven nine or check my profile for directions.
God bless you.
I'm saying this 6 Months after, Don't know what you finally decided but God's ways are not ours noh does he see the way we do. Your boyfriend may check all the scriptural guidelines but if God says no then trust Him. There's something in the future or behind the scenes you Don't see and His looking out for you. Remember God doesn't see the way man sees. Reason why your parents and pastors may not be seeing what He God sees. God bless
You’re gonna get a lot of flack (and rightfully so from my pov) if your justification for ending a relationship is “god told me so”.
"A little bit"?! Girl, you're borderline psychotic! 😶 Are you seriously thinking about dumping your loved one over voices in your head? How shallow is your love?! I mean, it's your funeral. The guy would be better off away from you if you're like that, but there's a mountain of regret waiting for you if you do it
I have no idea why God showing me this again and again, although I don't even plan to build any relationships yet
But who knows, maybe something will happen soon?
It may be preparation.
i’m looking for someone, so it’s probably preparation
Amen 🙏
This video helped me understand my breakup more. Thank you for these guidelines and reasons why my relationship was not meant for forever.
Unequally yoked: I Have a friend, I don't feel her eagerness towards serving God those not the same as mine but all i can do is pray that she grows deeper into God's love but for now I'll look for someone else who will encourage me to walk with God together. But it's hard to find someone. I liked her then that she was and said that she was a Christian but i fear her faith/trust in God might be shallow and her lack of dependence in The Word and reading The Word everyday might lead her astray. Pray for me brothers and sisters that i may be a friend to help guide her to God and pray that the Holy spirit may lead us to a better Character.
Yeah, unfortunately I kinda got yoked with an unbeliever and the relationship has had many rocky bumps. I remember taking her to church and she even claimed to have accepted Christ into her heart, but ever since then she only really hangs out with her friends and doesn’t talk to me that much, and makes excuses on to not coming to church, to where she blatantly just said she doesn’t want to go. I’ve been wanting to end ties with her, but for some reason I can’t bring myself to do it for some reason (probably because she reminds me of my sinful nature and how I sometimes do the same stuff against Jesus…). She really makes me sad most of the time and I try to write her poems about it too. I guess another thing is that with her upbringing, it’s really hard for her to show love and I guess with me being “healthy” she can’t comprehend it and pushes me away. It’s all so complicated and I don’t know how to feel. Another reason I don’t want to end ties with her is so that she doesn’t harm herself because of me with what she’s already going through. I really don’t have much to offer, so I decided that if she really didn’t want to be with me, she would be the one to break up with me. In the meantime I want to show the example of God’s unconditional love where I’ll be with here no matter what even if cheats on me, that I’ll help her lead to God’s undying love and the cross, so that she may grow in faith. I don’t know if what I’m doing is even right and I prayed that if she’s not the right one for me then she would break up with me (since like I said I basically have nothing compared to the other boys in our school and I just want her to be at peace), but I just feel all too complicated on what to do… especially since I’m struggling with lustful sin and I feel all by myself on this. I know for one thing God wants the best for me, so I’ll rely on Him to show me what to do.
@@luistornez6058 are you truly doing it for god or is it for your own gain?
@@raheemcamal998 So after watching the video again and reflecting on myself, I realized I was just being a stupid idiot blind to what I thought was love. I asked God to forgive me and through His guidance was able to mature and grow on how to better represent Him than what I thought lol 😅. God surely is great for being so merciful and patient with me and I still talk to the girl trying to help her. But I know the only one I should be chasing is God and Him alone. I wanted to delete the comment I made out of embarrassment, but I think it’s good reflector to see how I was in the pass and to remind myself how much I grew since then. I’ll keep on reading God’s word and chase Him only, and if He happens to have someone for me, then His will be done! In the meantime, I’ll keep staying pure and clean to show my love and obedience. God Bless ❤️
This is all good advice for when I actually find someone...
Thank you for sharing! So many people today don't have a godly sense of dating and it's really inspiring to hear people who do.
"LOVE GOD MORE" this is so true
I failed at guideline number 1... Tragically. And not even while dating...
If at all you feel like you want to give in outside marriage? DON'T. Trust me. I thought I was a whole Christian: going to church, praying, reading the Bible... But despite all that, there wasnt an honest, true connection with God. (And of course the exposure and freedom I have here at Uni).
Now that there is, I'm questioing a whole lot about my life, the choices I made then AND still make as a Christian. It's true that you carry a piece of someone when you've been intimate with them. I wept as I asked for forgiveness from God, and I still do when I look back at how far I've come. I wouldnt be here without Him... Even though I lost a tonne of friends and dont get any more attention from boys I thought were my friends, I'm happy in this place❤. And I'm in a heathy, God centered relationship.
I wouldn't want anyone to live with the regret that I still carry around. Please, create and maintain those physical boundaries and form a deep connection with God. Its really important in life.
This video spoke to me. You definitely have a new subscriber❤
I've made the same mistake but your words helped me too
well
1. There never is a true and honest connection to god.........EVER !!
2. You didn't fail at guideline 1... THIS VIDEO FAILED... the video is stupid
3. Re this
"I wouldn't want anyone to live with the regret that I still carry around."
AND.. WHAT DOES RELIGION DO TO PEOPLE ?
Thank you for sharing!! ❤
I think we need to talk a little more about maintaining relationships. finding them is easy but ones that stand the test of time even in marriage are incredibly rare
So thankful to have a godly girlfriend. Thank you Jesus!!
Dude. I'm so grateful for these videos!!!! They're so encouraging! Keep letting the Lord use you!
Thank you for preaching the Gospel, I really needed this. God first and all will be right! Bless you.
I can't express how much I enjoy listening to your videos. They are really helpful for people for love God. Thank you, thank you so much.
What peace I am receiving as I am encouraged by scripture and your gracious illustration!❤
Great Video and full of Godly instruction. In this world where so many people's goals are dating rather than marriage, it's a breath of fresh air.
Hi Christopherbriscoe8665,
This is not a godly instructions in anyway. God does not support dating before marriage. What's the essence of dating the person for years so start as early as 13, 16 when they have no business dating but be in school?
This is contrary to God's plans. Dating is just Satan's ploy to push people to sin , fornicate and disrespect God and their bodies
I absolutely love this whiteboard series! please never stop these series as it has helped me know more about God and his ways! I'm thankful to God for providing you this opportunity to spread God's word in a creative way like this!
If he/she loves God he/she will love you
This is why I am preparing myself for marriage rather than for dating.
Love reading all these comments!! Thank you to everyone for being so open and sharing thoughts ❤️
Thank you for this video. I’ve been wondering about this for a while.
This is extremely hard for me. My significant other I’ve been with for 3 years. I was terrible. Treated her horribly. Fast forward and I become Christian. She isn’t diving in like I did and is not as serious. She isn’t motivating me to live for God and I find myself sinning every time I’m with her. She served me for 3 years and now that I want to leave she asks why and she doesn’t understand and it kills me because she was there for me at my worst. I want to lead her to God but I can’t force her. And I can’t set the right example If I’m giving into sexual immorality. What’s worst is that I was her first. I have already claimed her as mine by doing so and I want to wait until she’s saved but it’s never ending circles and I feel like I’m getting no where.
Have you taken out time to pray about it?
You need to set and keep the physical boundaries. It's really difficult to do if you didn't start off with that boundary in place but it's something God wants from us. As Michael said, you also should be praying about it. It may be that God will help her to open her heart to Him, but maybe not (or not yet), and eventually if she's still not willing to accept Jesus you might have to give up the relationship.
It's hard but you cannot allow your future to be defined by your past sins. You need to forgive yourself if you have repented and God has forgiven you.
@@reference_realistic yea as well as fasted.
Get married.
@@trevrockrock16 I think you’re missing the “freedom of will” aspect of this. Regardless of my decision God can and will make it into a blessing if he chooses. I can’t force her to follow God but if I am willing to follow God and lead her as well I believe that is Godly. I am not having premarital sex, we are long distance and there is nothing wrong with me trying to lead her to God. I’m talking about the future and long term. If she chooses not to follow God then yes I will leave. But I want to at least give her a chance. And I can’t expect her to believe if I’m not setting the right example 100%
I want to have a relationship based on our Lord so bad! Pray together and worship together. Read the Bible at night. ✨🙏🏻
@Tyler Lee I think that I have not been around many Christians my age or close! How about you?
@Tyler Lee wow that’s amazing that you are in the worship band! I live in Charleston SC but I am originally from Venezuela. I am 23! I go to church too every Sunday and I volunteer with the toddlers there 🥰
@Tyler Lee just did! :)
Beautiful and super relevant! ❤ Thank you!
Thank you for this incredible and beautiful video, it was of much blessing!
I really appreciate your videos! The way you explain things simply with illustrations that are easy to understand is so appreciated. Thank you and may God always guide you as you teach
So there’s this girl at school right. We go to a Christian school and we both love God. I’ve liked her for 2 years now but God had kept telling me to wait. Now I know that he told me to wait for her because I wasn’t quite in a great relationship with God. This summer I fully accepted Jesus and was called to ministry and I was committed to being all in. I am in my Junior year now and we have been casually having conversations after school. Whenever I think of her, I think of us together just having fun and God just having a smile on his face while looking at us. I am looking forward to what else God has planned for me.
Planned by God.
Beautiful… I really appreciate this! Well put together. The visuals and the audio- concise and informative! I really loved the fact that it was straight forward and easy to follow!
Im a married man, being a Christian is very hard, temptation is very strong and i continue to pray much more. Also our first anniversary with my wife is comming up and scrollong through yt the Holy Spirit led me to this video and just helped me❤❤ thank u
This was such a great video. I appreciate all the scriptures with where they’re from in it because that’s where we need to get our information from is straight from the Bible not just what people say and the depictions were also very helpful. I just watched it by myself and I’m about to watch it with my boyfriend
I really really love the animations. They're cute and funny but convey the needed information
This was helpful thank you.
I wasn't even actively looking for this, must be a sign from the big man upstairs.
Halajuah.
This video is a blessing thank you.🙂
God works in amazing ways. I was just thinking about this earlier, about someone I really like and what a relationship would be like with them. Literally only 30 minutes later I log onto my computer and I get this video in my recommended. I love that He's watching out for me and I know that He'll always be there. :) If I do get in a relationship, I would want us to grow together through our faith and bring each other closer to God. But, it's all in His plan, what happens or what doesn't.
Thankful to God for your channel. ❤
May God bless you abundantly! 😇
The sweetest way to explain this great wisdom, how to date right and holy💝 May God bless the author of this Video!
I agree with all of these. Good job. I will tell you from experience that the #1 reason to not have sex before marriage is quite simple; you do not want to get emotionally involved with a loon. When you give in to the intense emotional connection that sex can bring, you can easily loose sight of who you are really dating. You'll end up married to someone you come to find out you don't even like, but now there are kids involved and families and obligations and promises, etc... You need to remain sober minded. This is the most important decision of your life. Pick your spouse the same way you pick your friends - patiently, and based on character, not physical attraction. Listen to your parents and other godly advisors. They want what's best for you, too, but their eyes are not clouded by what you think is love, but may not be.
I recently became a Christian, prior to that I lived a horrible life of grand sin which I am not going to get into however I will say this much I developed a condition which affect my bladder and it made it extremely hard to not just engage in intimacy but just be around anyone in general.
About 6 months before I gave my life to God the bladder symptoms eased up a lot so much that it is almost non existent now so for me to fight these temptations of sexual immortality isn't so bad because I can assure you that you are not missing out but again I don't wanna elaborate because that is going back into my past where as I am trying to move forward!
God bless each and everyone of you ❤
Amen. 🙏
Thank you so much for these videos and support for others and it Is really making a change in our World and THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Absolutely excellent insight!
thank you, God bless you abundantly!!
Im happy and content being single but thank you so much for that video ! It was worth watching ❤
Great wisdom in this video!! Thanks to you both! Helps heaps
This is really good video - shor and full of best quality guidelines. Looks like filmed directly from my heart.
I have face a lot of trauma in my life that made dating hard because I didn't know how to correctly do it, and the only view on relationships I had growing up were toxic, i.e. I have no idea how to properly apologize when I'm wrong. I started reading the book of Proverbs and got to the part about the perfect wife, and pairing that with what I learned in the book of Ephisians about how marriage should look, I've been doing my best with that. I know this video doesn't help me fully with all the stuff I need to know, but this helped me in so many ways just understanding how to conduct myself and my relationships, thank you
Walking down the aisle with the man you love would be one of the best things in the whole wide world that you will get to experience 💓💓💓
Amen! Amen! been there and let go because of all the points that were mentioned. Definitely put God first, he will send the one when you realize you don’t need a parter because you have everything in Christ and you serve him with your life!
awesome, I‘m really impressed of how good you summarised the important facts. That really helps me as a young man to again focus on the important things. God bless you! I think there‘s one more important guideline to consider: In asking god and making a decision if the other person is the right one or not (or if it’s the right time or not) we should always include older brothers/sisters, who are more mature in faith than we are. Because when we desire a spouse and may already have feelings it is almost impossible to hear god speak clearly and make an unbiased decision. …I speak from my own experience :D
I specifically relate to rule 3. Whenever I think that God is showing me who he wants me to marry, I'd start having these fantasies about spending time with the person on date night's and our wedding. These were thoughts I knew I shouldn't be having, but sometimes it felt like I couldn't help it. But God is showing me that all things will be ready in due time
That is true.
As an atheist, the "live in real life" part should apply to every relationship. Excellent advice!
I pray you get to know Jesus soon! there is so much proof of God's existence all you need to do is a little digging :)))) have a great day/night!
@@faby_baby see this is exactly how we should be spreading the gospel!! Props to you, so many Christians are too aggressive spreading the word of God, and because of it they drive people away from Christianity, which is not what we want! You did it in such a good way :)
@@citrusmoth1103the only thing I’ll say is the “do a little digging” could be interpreted as condescending
@@_SloppyhamNot really... just ask questions, and you'll eventually come to the answer.
@@Belmont1714 my point was that people have done their “little digging” and genuinely asking questions and have gotten to two opposing conclusions. To say “just do a little digging” when OP possibly has, can be seen as condensing
I love the video and I love the comment section. Thank you 😊
Love how it backed up with scripture, great explanation. May God bless you
Prayers for all of us 🙏🏼 God’s timing is the best! Holy Spirit lead the way ❤️
Thank you soo much for this video..
God bless you
Wow, big Respect to you man, i have Never Heard Someone Talk about Dating as a Christian this clean and understandeble
That made me emotional🥺
And thank you for this!❤
I think I needed to know this ... I avoided it because I thought I should only watch it if I’m actually in a relationship .. but I think I need it more now .. before any mistakes . And I’m really glad that I found that my heart is still aimed at that “ I really wanna love him right “ and right is the way God purposed . Only that I need to pray more about this and spend a lot of more time on my relationship with God and simply loving Christ . I’m sure then I will be able to discern GodS will for this relationship. And also how to go moving forward in everything .. God loves all of you ! Thank you for this knowledge and wisdom .. I’ll use it 😊
No this is great to watch even before a relationship! So that you know what to do beforehand, instead of when things go wrong.
Hi,
I'm glad you want to do marriage according to God's words but dating is not how to have a godly marriage that will please the Lord.
Waiting on God and praying for the right person and timing makes things a lot easier and while people feel they can date without disobeying God, it's not possible because what's the essence of starting a relationship at 13 when they are to marry at 25 or 26? Why put a child through that level of emotional stress? When they could read their books and engage in more child friendly activity that could build them up?
And then there's me that does not want to date😅, patiently hoping and praying my first and only relationship leads to marriage.
Good luck 👍
yes me too lel
I used to think like that and it may happen to you though for me that has not been the case. In fact it's good to date in order to learn as there is a lot to learn.
Cool! May God strengthen you in the wait even when people tell you that it's impossible! I'm waiting too! God is able to answer our prayers abundantly! 🙏😊
Same😂
Thank you this was so helpful❤
Very good advice! Thank you!🧡😇🙏
Thank you very much sir/ma , similar to what the Lord told me 😊.
• Setting Boundaries
• Trusting Him to lead me
• Staying pure
Great video to share with my kids. Thankyou for preaching the truth in a way that relates to young Christian’s
This is powerful! I liked the video from the first point. Keep it up 👍🏼
Great video man, congrats on 100k!
I was thinking about this and it pops up I'm so thankful God bless you always May God anoint you with the power of the Holy Spirit.❤
Great job! I'm not sure why but.. I learn better with your videos than going to church (most of the times). God bless u all!
Thank you for sharing, I just found your channel and I have learnt so much in just a little while. God bless you for what you're doing. Thanks very much. Watching from 🇬🇧 ❤
Now this is something I needed especially for my future ❤️ I’m really glad I found this video. I love you so much and thank you for these amazing tips! God bless you Impact Video Ministries!! ❤️✝️🕊️
I’m a Christian girl who fell in love with my before online best friend who is a Muslim. We both love each other and we love god. We have a lot in common and we both are happy that we believe in god. Both of us don’t want to have sex before marriage and that’s what makes me so happy; that he understands me and will never push me to do anything. I’m happy with him. I thank god every day that we’ve found each other ❤
I can imagine how wonderful it feels. However I must warn you that scripture tells us to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. We are told not to partner with unbelievers
It's great that you two don't tempt each other to sin sexually, but are you able to help each other grow in faith? If the relationship turns to marriage, will you be able to emulate Jesus' marriage to the church? Just some thoughts!
Sorry not the same. Muslims people are the foolish Galatians. Go read the book of Galatians to understand better.
only possible reason a christian and a muslim can be in a marriage (or dating) relationship together is if one or both are either not serious about their faith, or one or both do not understand the theology of their faith. i don't know about islam because i don't read quran but according to the bible, christian God and muslim God are NOT the same God. if you've heard something like this before, and still disagree, we'll agree to disagree. if you haven't heard this before, give it some thought. i'm more than happy to discuss further if you want.
"But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be [b]accursed. 9 As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed." Galatians 1:8-9
"Moreover, brethren, I declare to you the gospel which I preached to you, which also you received and in which you stand, by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to you-unless you believed in vain.
For I delivered to you first of all that which I also received: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures" 1 Corinthians 15:1-4
Do muslim peoples preach this gospel ? If not, they are like unbelievers and you should act according to 2 Corinthians 6:14-15
I love the whiteboard series so much infact my mom and sister love as well and it gives them clarity on a lot of topics and the illustrations and visual are so AMAZING!!!
Don't end the whiteboard series! You're doing God's work ! Keep it up !❤
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@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@@edithbannerman4 I am doing good thank you very much.
@@leemay2278 how’s your day going and what’re you up to?
My day went well and I'm sitting with my family right now watching Rugby. How about you?
Thanks for your Godly wisdom great guidelines. This will help many disciples who are serious in having a Godly attitude towards their sister in Christ. The key word is being cautious and not running ahead of oneself easy to say yet very hard to do but not impossible.
thank you as a repent it helps a lot and you are right, God always knows what is good for you
When you want to do everything correct, you finish in the friend zone
Maybe that is where you're meant to be
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