The devil works hard, but HG Tudor works harder. Thank you for being a the psychopathic agent of chaotic good that you've become. Not the hero we deserve but the one we need.
‘Faster than a yo-yo at the World Yo-yo Championships’ love love this! Thanks HG for making me lol. You know you’re healed when you can lol at their shenanigans- it makes me dizzy just thinking about it all now.
I’m afraid I had to put my narc eldest daughter on the shelf permanently! Haven’t seen her since 2018, it was exhausting being her mum, sad as it was it’s something that was unavoidable! But sadly she used the grandchildren as a weapon so I haven’t seen them since! Thanks HG.
I am sorry for your pain but immensely happy you are saving your sanity. The children will figure it out eventually and you will have a chance to show them healthy Grandmama. Keep up with loving you first💖
I'm sorry for you missing your grand babies. NO ONE deserves to have their grandbabies weaponized against them!!!! My daughter's hubby tried that with me. I got on a plane, took a rental car to their door, and knocked. When he opened the door, that look was Priceless!!!! He looked like he saw a demon. I just gave him the "beware. I'm a Grandmother" look. He's not tried that since. That was 2019.
Such a heartbreak! I had to also detach myself from my son over a year ago. Saddens me but not being mentally abused and being drained outweighs that sadness.
My ex is a grueling narcissist. I finally had enough, and just stopped it. No excuse. Nothing. I just stopped all and every communication. Mutual friends tell me "he said you had a nervous breakdown" or "we were told you were cheating". 😂
Has anyone noticed that HG Tudors videos are NEVER interrupted by a an ad or commercial b4 the beginning of his videos?? I love that bc many of the other tutors seem to permit ads or commercials to interrupt at the beginning of their videos? Thank you HG TUDOR for not permitting those ads b4 you have been able to soeak one word into your video bc we appreciate this!!
Chillingly evocative of things I'd forgotten. I sensed there was someone on the shelf, even as He sensed I was about done with Him after 7 years. You would think I would have felt jealous of her, but instead I feared for her sanity and safety when I finally left. And knew I could not warn her. She would never have believed ME. Within 6 months, mutual acquittances informed me that they had found Him in their bathroom during a party holding a glock to her head while she contorted on the floor crying. And I realized she was paying the price for me leaving. In His eyes. With these people, there is no karma, no come-uppance, no aha! moment. There is only stepping aside and watching the human debris they leave behind.
Tell me about it, 5+ bloody years of stalking, blank phone calls etc I had to endure after totally blanking this person. It only stopped when he was jailed!
HD Tudor you are invaluable to me in my quest for clarity about Narcs and for helping me find the strength I couldn't produce until you became my teacher! Live long, healthy and free!
Your sense of humor adds such a punch 🥊! It will be easier to remember the lesson. Thank you. I grew up with a father that had a very, very wonderful and keen sense of humor, and we had a lot of laughter in our family. This is probably why I appreciate yours so much, HG. Needless to say, my Narc Hubble had NO SENSE OF HUMOR, whatsoever.
Hi I can"t imagine smearing would work. My friends are grown ups not primary school children who listen to tales. If anything they would laugh. I told my narc he was a narcissist. I left last year. Haven't heard a thing since and I don't expect to. He would have to be very brave or very stupid to approach me.
I wonder if an unaware narcissist always needs agreeing sound boards that he creates through lies because what he really fears is himself. He isn’t strong enough to do it alone. Fears loss of control. Where’s the balls?
HG, would a narc disengage due to jealousy or envy? Not necessarily an intimate partner but a friend or family member? Would they potentially choose keep the company of those they feel are “below” them…to make themselves feel more superior in their company?
Good question. I second that emotion. Or would they choose to keep this company in an effort to lure their primary source back? Sort of an, "I don't need you, I have this instead. See how happy I am". Just curious about this scenario.
I do believe, HG Tudor did cover this in earliest videos. I suggest you watch those earlier videos and there is lots of information you can learn about narcissism. It is a very fascinating subjects.
My narc sister's envy of me was downright scary! She emulated everything abt me; haircolor & cut, shoes, clothes, sunglasses, mannerisms, voice, even the car! and I kid you not, the dog! Everything! She was slowly replacing me with a new version she deemed much more superior! When my son-in-law pointed it out to me, I knew I had to finally get out & stay out, before she killed me bc after all, there's only one me, and she wanted to be it!
You should have a door sign..all my ex's are lunatics btw in absence of your real name,should I just put Tabitha at weekends? Well it shows I listened to an Excellent video.
Narcissists never do that. That’s the empaths. Narcissists never put someone else life above their own, they don’t risk their lives for others, narcissists never commit su1cide.
Can it be said - Once a narcissist, Always a narcissist? … Or can the narcissist modify thinking and behaviour to lessen the control and fuel needed by being aware of habits?
@@cyndeetaylor I think you may be right… their heart is like shrivelling prune no matter how much you help, patiently wait or believe that they’ll change… it’s a DNA thing.
@@366783 Sounds like you have some experience with the "them." I've often wondered about the DNA thing, having been fascinated and horrified by their family dynamics.
@@cyndeetaylor Sadly - jealousy, victimhood, lying, manipulating and a self centred plan to be important (in their own universe at least) is ingrained and can’t be unlearned. That’s DNA…. Even hurting their own children in the process to prove a point by sucking them up into a web of lies to make others disappear from their lives. I walked away from a whole family to preserve my sanity.
I’m on the shelf and I cut my own cord!!! Im free and done!!! Nothing to be had here!
The devil works hard, but HG Tudor works harder.
Thank you for being a the psychopathic agent of chaotic good that you've become. Not the hero we deserve but the one we need.
The Lord placed this man in our lives for a reason. A good one!
HD Tudor is a smart guy doesn’t mean he’s a good guy.
‘Faster than a yo-yo at the World Yo-yo Championships’ love love this! Thanks HG for making me lol. You know you’re healed when you can lol at their shenanigans- it makes me dizzy just thinking about it all now.
I’m afraid I had to put my narc eldest daughter on the shelf permanently! Haven’t seen her since 2018, it was exhausting being her mum, sad as it was it’s something that was unavoidable! But sadly she used the grandchildren as a weapon so I haven’t seen them since! Thanks HG.
I am sorry for your pain but immensely happy you are saving your sanity. The children will figure it out eventually and you will have a chance to show them healthy Grandmama. Keep up with loving you first💖
I'm sorry for you missing your grand babies.
NO ONE deserves to have their grandbabies weaponized against them!!!!
My daughter's hubby tried that with me.
I got on a plane, took a rental car to their door, and knocked. When he opened the door, that look was Priceless!!!!
He looked like he saw a demon.
I just gave him the "beware. I'm a Grandmother" look.
He's not tried that since. That was 2019.
I am going through the same thing. I miss my grandchildren so very much. Its been difficult.
Such a heartbreak! I had to also detach myself from my son over a year ago. Saddens me but not being mentally abused and being drained outweighs that sadness.
@@plzhd2 Same for me. I hope you’re doing okay. ❤️
My ex is a grueling narcissist.
I finally had enough, and just stopped it.
No excuse. Nothing.
I just stopped all and every communication.
Mutual friends tell me "he said you had a nervous breakdown" or "we were told you were cheating".
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you did the best thing possible for yourself. well done !
Enjoy being free , and remaining free of the clutches of an NPD .
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Has anyone noticed that HG Tudors videos are NEVER interrupted by a an ad or commercial b4 the beginning of his videos?? I love that bc many of the other tutors seem to permit ads or commercials to interrupt at the beginning of their videos? Thank you HG TUDOR for not permitting those ads b4 you have been able to soeak one word into your video bc we appreciate this!!
Chillingly evocative of things I'd forgotten. I sensed there was someone on the shelf, even as He sensed I was about done with Him after 7 years. You would think I would have felt jealous of her, but instead I feared for her sanity and safety when I finally left. And knew I could not warn her. She would never have believed ME. Within 6 months, mutual acquittances informed me that they had found Him in their bathroom during a party holding a glock to her head while she contorted on the floor crying. And I realized she was paying the price for me leaving. In His eyes. With these people, there is no karma, no come-uppance, no aha! moment. There is only stepping aside and watching the human debris they leave behind.
Tell me about it, 5+ bloody years of stalking, blank phone calls etc I had to endure after totally blanking this person. It only stopped when he was jailed!
PS he was also a gay psychopath
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Disengagement was the best thing ever! The best thing he ever did for me. Thank you Mr Wager!
And breath!!!
13:12 to 13:16 🤣🤣 is a prime example of why I lurve HG's work ❤🔥
true.. my ex narc was very afraid for my two grownup sons who where not very amused for his behavior towards me! 😉
HD Tudor you are invaluable to me in my quest for clarity about Narcs and for helping me find the strength I couldn't produce until you became my teacher! Live long, healthy and free!
It’s not HD it’s HG just pointing it out!
@@aquarius5461 Hey thanks a lot Aquarius 54 😀
Hilarious! Love your witty humour.
Your sense of humor adds such a punch 🥊! It will be easier to remember the lesson. Thank you. I grew up with a father that had a very, very wonderful and keen sense of humor, and we had a lot of laughter in our family. This is probably why I appreciate yours so much, HG. Needless to say, my Narc Hubble had NO SENSE OF HUMOR, whatsoever.
With all this in mind..... Is this not the most dangerous time ?
My lifetime experience it's living with one.
Excellent video to revisit and quite calming in ways. Thank you, HG. Much appreciation
I have to listen to this at least one other time Thanks.
Hi I can"t imagine smearing would work. My friends are grown ups not primary school children who listen to tales. If anything they would laugh. I told my narc he was a narcissist. I left last year. Haven't heard a thing since and I don't expect to. He would have to be very brave or very stupid to approach me.
You sound like the narc
ThanX
Ngl, if she weren’t a narcissist, Tabitha sounds like my type 😂
I wonder if an unaware narcissist always needs agreeing sound boards that he creates through lies because what he really fears is himself. He isn’t strong enough to do it alone. Fears loss of control. Where’s the balls?
HG, would a narc disengage due to jealousy or envy? Not necessarily an intimate partner but a friend or family member? Would they potentially choose keep the company of those they feel are “below” them…to make themselves feel more superior in their company?
Good question. I second that emotion. Or would they choose to keep this company in an effort to lure their primary source back? Sort of an, "I don't need you, I have this instead. See how happy I am". Just curious about this scenario.
I believe secondary sources are shelved.
I do believe, HG Tudor did cover this in earliest videos. I suggest you watch those earlier videos and there is lots of information you can learn about narcissism. It is a very fascinating subjects.
@@Phlowermom yes! This too!
My narc sister's envy of me was downright scary! She emulated everything abt me; haircolor & cut, shoes, clothes, sunglasses, mannerisms, voice, even the car! and I kid you not, the dog! Everything! She was slowly replacing me with a new version she deemed much more superior! When my son-in-law pointed it out to me, I knew I had to finally get out & stay out, before she killed me bc after all, there's only one me, and she wanted to be it!
You should have a door sign..all my ex's are lunatics btw in absence of your real name,should I just put Tabitha at weekends? Well it shows I listened to an Excellent video.
"Watching porn and eating cheesy wotsits", love that joke
Question for HG. You say you feel no fear but it seems that the urgent need to maintain or regain control is a fear mechanism. ???
Good point. What Does the 'motivation' feel like?
@@sunnyadams5842 Sorry, didn't understand your use of motivation in that context.
HG, what if anything would cause a narc to give their life for someone? Would it only be if they were to gain a hero status?
Narcissists never do that. That’s the empaths.
Narcissists never put someone else life above their own, they don’t risk their lives for others, narcissists never commit su1cide.
Can it be said - Once a narcissist, Always a narcissist? … Or can the narcissist modify thinking and behaviour to lessen the control and fuel needed by being aware of habits?
They can modify behavior, they can mirror behavior, they can learn better manners. They cannot grow a heart.
@@cyndeetaylor I think you may be right… their heart is like shrivelling prune no matter how much you help, patiently wait or believe that they’ll change… it’s a DNA thing.
@@366783 Sounds like you have some experience with the "them." I've often wondered about the DNA thing, having been fascinated and horrified by their family dynamics.
@@cyndeetaylor Sadly - jealousy, victimhood, lying, manipulating and a self centred plan to be important (in their own universe at least) is ingrained and can’t be unlearned. That’s DNA…. Even hurting their own children in the process to prove a point by sucking them up into a web of lies to make others disappear from their lives. I walked away from a whole family to preserve my sanity.
Narcissists never changes, empaths never changes. They can be self aware but it doesn’t change who they are.
@hg Tudor