Jesus said in Matthew 5:48, Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect. How can the Catholic be perfect, HOLY when they hate the other sinners who call themselves the Baptist? Or vise verses???
Thank you for recognize that I'm really wish that my kids admit it if really want to feel even better Tell them how you feel sorry and they we will going feel even very good
Same here.. Kinda don't want to admit that i have to still work on my interactions with the folks.. Ugghh.. Alright, Fr. Mike.. I hear you.. Thank you..🤗
Thankyou Father for this eye opener. I realized that at home you have the greatest opportunity to be vuneruble and ask for forgiveness and forgive. My home becomes a channel of God's Mercy. Praise be God!
I think it's harder for people who live with abusive parents. Because you're not only dealing with their behavior, you're also dealing with your trauma.
The parents are the reason for the trauma and it becomes impossible to heal, because the trauma is being caused over and over again. There are only two possibilities - to distance yourself completely (and heal), or stay (and continue to experience trauma while not healing)
All of my family is dead now. But I reflect on the end of my elderly mothers life with sorrow because I wasn't nearly as patient with her as I NOW wish that I would have been. Upon REFLECTION I can see how hard life was for her in her old age. When we were together I thought MORE about how things felt for me than how they felt for her. I say this in case anyone is caretaking an elderly parent. If your doing that now, I pray you do it better than I did. 😭 In the end, my mom showed so much forgiveness towards me it is truly humbling. I miss her very much.
The same happened to me and Im so sorry now, that I didn't spend more time with her, that I wasn't as patient as I should have been. I can't forgive myself for that. Blessings from Argentina
This is the first video that I vehemently disagree with. My college priest gave me similar advice whenever I told him about my struggles and he related it to everyone else's. But he didn't understand. It went deeper than that. And I remember thinking, "If I'm not holy at home, am I really holy/a Christian?" I beat myself up for years over being "selfish" and "unloving". I wrote so many prayers struggling about this and my relationships with my parents. A couple years after graduating, I learn that one of my parents suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and the other parent enables it and is distant from me. All of the concerns about being unloving, unholy and selfish were all lies that I had internalized from years of emotional abuse and emotional neglect. Needless to say, the advice on this video needs a disclaimer. My time with family certainly revealed that I was broken. But so was my family. I thought that I needed to be more giving, more selfless, more loving, more holy, do more around the house. But what I really needed was to learn about boundaries, experience healthy relationships and remove the toxic relationships from my life. I can't imagine what it would have been like to be sequestered at home with them in a time like this. By now, I would have been depressed, crushed in spirit and blaming myself for everything that was wrong. I thank God that I am free from this. I pray that others in similar situations may find the freedom that God is calling them to.
Hi brother/sister in Christ. We do have the same childhood to a tee, but all I can say is that there is an ending to all the evil in our life. There will come for time and healing. The pain and suffering you've been through will never go unrewarded if you offer it to Jesus Christ our Lord. Remember, he never came for the good and "healthy" ones. He came for sick and the unhealthy. That's why He died on the cross to reassure us that we are not alone. And just like how he died and ressurected on the third day, the time will come when all our pain and hurt and sin will die together with Him, and on His time, He will raise us from the death from trauma and will live with Him in love, light and happiness. And I am a living witness of this❤ -Praying for you, daughter of a narcissistic mom and a sociopath father and now happy thru Christ and Mary
No. This a cross some of us has to carry. I ran away, I didn't want to until Jesus led me back to them. It's hard but this sacrifice granted them so many graces since, I’m still amazed, how God rewarded my efforts. For example my hardcore atheist father has started to talk about God constantly and he’s seriously changing for the better every day. Now he wouldn’t harm a butterfly. (Someone with two narcissistic divorced parents.)
I cracked up at one of the last lines, Fr Mike. We have to love the people we are living with AND THAT IS HOW GOD WILL SANCTIFY US. I've been hearing a quote from one saint in my head---Jose Maria Ecriva. Don't say someone annoys you; say instead, they sanctify you. He is so right. Boy, my mom sanctifying me! When you look at it that way, it makes sense and in a way, it's a little easier and purposeful. It's God answering our prayer to be holier.
I’m still in high school so I live with my family anyway but some really good advice I got recently was that our parents are going to ask us to do things that we don’t want to do. Instead of thinking of that task as just a task that you dislike, think of it as an act of love and respect to your parents.
But it should also be said that if you're not asking God to change you and cooperating with His grace, you shouldn't expect to become holy "eventually".
I always felt like a horrible person because I couldn't be that good person while at home. And for the longest time, I hated myself for it. I felt like a misfit.. In light of this, I hope to work through my short comings. I'll be intentional to be kind, patient and loving to my family.
I've felt that too. This book helped me a lot to realize that God doesn't want me to lose peace because of my sins! - scepterpublishers.org/products/searching-for-and-maintaining-peace
Personally I'm not a catholic anymore but I first saw fathers videos through my confirmation class. They interested me and I completely forgot about them until now haha. Now looking back and watching his videos it gives me some comfort to have advice even if I'm not really with this religion anymore. I still try to uphold some values that I learned through the Catholic church and it can be tough sometimes but I'm still going to try.
Wow. Just coming across this video as I so desperately am praying for patience and so much understanding with my children and husband. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I had just asked the Lord to help me with my anger and selfishness. This is Him answering my prayers. Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this today.
@@soutyz1211 Doesn't have to be hard. All it means is one knows what mistakes one has been making, and can finally try more than before to stop doing them. With God's grace all things are possible - even if we have to stumble to get there.
One more thing I want to mention, maybe as encouragement (though you may take this with a grain of salt, as these are just some thoughts of mine I wanted to get off my chest). Your sins aren't your identity, and they don't define you - you are a child of God through it all, so finding out you're doing something wrong (especially if it's a venial vice or venial bad habit) shouldn't overly discourage you or make you hate yourself. Mistakes are pointers that teach us what to avoid, and we don't have to go through this alone - we know God wants to help us with His grace - we have both the Eucharist and Confession which blot out our venial sins. In other words, we can indeed look at the bright side, since it's a bright side that shines from God out of love for us!
OH MY GOD I was just thinking about this! I'd had a fight with my Dad recently and I've been struggling to pray ever since. It's affected my spirituality so badly I've fallen down into this deep pit of hopelessness. Seriously, forgiving without getting an apology is the HARDERST Cross I've ever had to carry! Then Fr Mike had to hit me in the face with this video, I'm done!
Even Jesus had to get away. There is a lesson in that too. Too much togetherness is not a good thing. Yes, be loving and kind but don’t get smothered by other people in families that are not healthy. It is not always your own lack of growth - it may be someone else’s deficit. Acknowledge that too. Don’t blame yourself for other people’s problems.
I agree 100% We need solitude for our own wellbeing 💗 Family is challenging especially when stuck with each other during this pandemic. God bless you & all striving to grow in virtue 🙏✝️👼💗
I'm Serbian Orthodox from Belgrade. My paternal grandmother is Catholic, but this is not the reason why I love Father Mike Schmitz, he's such a great person, a true servant of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
My wife lost her job and because of lack of income we were forced to move in with my parents and leave our life behind. It has been extremely difficult as I joined the military to get away from the toxicity that still remains. I know I’m not the only one in this situation right now and thank God we have a roof for our family but the constant negativity that I’m forced to be around day after day is truly exhausting. I’ve prayed the rosary so many times and lift all my worries to God but the moment I’m surrounded by people that do nothing but complain about the world and the things they can’t change, breaks me and I’m flooded with thoughts of permanence that “this is my life now.” I will continue to bring all these things to God, but at the moment I feel lost.
I used to say, I'd have a first-class ticket to heaven if it wasn't for my sister 😩😩. IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW! I always felt like a better Christian around non-family members.
Fr Mike is a blessing. I struggle with family relationships. Very dysfunctional. I’m in the word daily and know I fall short. But my mother, sister and brother are never approachable. Being vulnerable with them is not possible. My mother lies and is emotionally unavailable, very into self. She knows very little about me for she never asks. It’s hard to respect her. My siblings and are superficial communicators anything deep there is no sincerity or empathy. It gets said “ you think you have it bad”. I pretty much keep my mouth shut, be kind, helpful and giving. It’s ok it’s not reciprocated. I will pray how Fr Mike says, asking for Gods help, for I surely am struggling Honoring the Mother. Praying for all of us in every situation. With God nothing is impossible.
I've had a whole fallout from my family. My mother is involved in the cult of MDM.. and my parents were provoking leading up to my wedding, wanting to cancel it, and my mother and my sister in law hated my future wife to be. Unfortunately I don't see my family anymore ever since my wedding day. And it's definitely sad. Our wedding Catholic Counselor said it's the worst case scenario she's ever heard leading up to a wedding. Her advice was that we need to stay away from the family because it's too toxic. My parents were narcissistic and abusive, mentally and emotionally. My wife and I at the time tried our best to resolve everything numerous times, but it fell through each and every time. Even to the point in my Father trying to financially ruin me so that the wedding wouldn't go ahead. It brought me to tears many times, and I've given it up to God numerous times as well. Luke 12:51 Jesus tells us that He also comes to divide, not simply bring peace, where Father is against the son and the mother against daughter in law.. etc.
I was looking for some guidance this morning, I didn't expect that this particular video would be the answer I was looking for, but I feel that God has spoken to me through this. Thank you.
Hehehe, that's new to me to realize that, Father. I find it sooo truue and funny. No wonder you became a priest, you discovered the humor of God. And you exude that!!! Why take life so seriously when it is so easy to surf life when God really is the one who determines most of what happens to us, that is if we live within His statutes!!! Outside God, life is hell of course...thank you, Father Mike.
Well, a hard-to-swallow pill for me this time. I usually see this comment below each video of Fr Mike and for once it's my turn to admit I am broken. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you!
Truly eye opener that was given by The Father before, long overdue. Not anymore, I shall do his will, what he ask of me to do . Obedient’s better than sacrifice . Amen 🙏🏾
I told my mom I quit my job. The hours and work sucked, and the assignments were not helping my sleep schedule. She asked me, “Do you have a plan?” I said, “Kind of.” Roughly speaking, I didn’t think it through as thoroughly as some would perhaps like, but I was also pushed to my limit on the Feast of the Ascension, the day I quit my most recent job.
Dude, I think that happened to me when I started working last week, my new job, but still, I have hearing or language problems with my mom when I went home. I was trying to hide my tears at home. At work, they were nice, generous, hard-working, I enjoyed the peace there by working. I was trying to grow spiritually still, in the process. Guess God heard my tears or sorrows, even though I tried to hold it in, in my room. God always knows the right time perfectly. God bless you, Fr. Mike. 👍🙏.
God bless you Father Mike. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have moved home and realize I am here to help my elderly Father, yet it feels like I am a given the opportunity to start over again after 30 years. But I will say being looked at as ‘the kid’ again in the house. I am attempting growth daily. As I realize I do not feel free enough under my Father’s roof to be myself. Very intriguing times.
This is a very helpful video. I’ve been struggling in my relationship with my parents. I’m in college and failed all my classes this past semester. This is not the first time I failed a semester. I’ve been avoiding talking to my parents too much because I don’t want to tell them that I failed yet again. I’m really scared that they will get angry at me and I’m very terrified to tell them. I want to live a holy life, but I cannot when I can keep isolating myself from my parents and lying to them about my grades. I would really appreciate prayers from all of you, as I’m very distressed and feel stuck. God bless you all.
It is unfair of them to tie up all their happiness in your success. They should know that they're taking a risk funding your college. If you do bad, they might be mad because they love you, and dont want to see you waste your time.
I love this one Father Mike! And you know what's allowed for the greatest "self selecting groups?" Social Media. Here is where we find the ultimate cliques. The ultimate in tribalism. The ultimate echo-chambers. I wonder if this lack of exposure to others, via these online worlds, is helping to drive the schism that we see all around us, even wider and wider? Chesterton has a great quote re: the clique - which this reminds me of: “The man who lives in a small community lives in a much larger world. He knows much more of the fierce variety and uncompromising divergences of men…In a large community, we can choose our companions. In a small community, our companions are chosen for us. Thus in all extensive and highly civilized society groups come into existence founded upon sympathy, and shut out the real world more sharply than the gates of a monastery. There is nothing really narrow about the clan; the thing which is really narrow is the clique.” ― G.K. Chesterton, Heretics
Fantasy land is better than reality for most of these folks who live online. I take 6months off Facebook every year just to prove that I control it - it doesn't control me. Apparently addiction specialists say that if you can't last 3months off Facebook/twitter etc then you have a problem.
How dare you, Fr. Mike! How dare you answer my questions and make me reflect?! 😂♥️ I wrote an article 'in my journal' about how I hate being around my family. Because of the pandemic I had to stay back home with my family. Before that I knew I was doing the right thing 'coz I'm following Jesus the best way I can. After a month with my family I'm like 'how did I get here, Lord?' what did I do wrong?! I was soooo depressed. I was frustrated that other people see me good and my family could not and I'm having to always always feel bad about who I am. They make me feel like I'm the worst person on earth. 😂 After watching this, I'm absolutely gonna write in my journal again and contemplate on the areas that I need to grow in. I love you with the love of the Lord, Fr. Mike! ☺️♥️ Stay crazy. 😅Like crazy for Jesus!
So true Father Mike. I just thought of my children ages 29 and 34. I feel sometimes this generation is so much about themselves. A sense of entitlement. It might be the lack of faith. I sent this to them. My husband and I Through God are growing in patience. We are older and realize that my my mother in law is old and keeps repeating herself so we have learned just to listen, be patient and laugh. Soon that will be us. Our parents have given so much for us. Through God and time we learn and understand these things. God Bless you
This was something I struggled with so much as well while in college - I thought I was the only one but WOW I'm not! 😲🤯 Thank you for clarifying this matter Father! 🙌🏼
This video couldn't have come in a more perfect time. The other night i was talking to my mom on the phone and i was impatient and a bit aginated. And i thought that my mom was making me impatient and she to blame. But because of this video i realize that i havent been loving my mom as much as i should. And i should let jesus be the center of my relationship with family. Thank you father mike
Soooo true. Soooo insightful. Our "family"/ blood relatives & the community you live w/ are the biggest challenge & "battlefield" for our practice of holiness & our path to growth & transformation. Thank you Fr. Mike.
Wow this is is just what I needed to watch today, this is exactly what I have been struggling with home in quarantine is being a good and obedient and loving and selfless son to my parents. Especially because my main goal is to be a witness of the Catholic and Christian faith to them through my love, its really hard when I constantly fail. I loved your points about not embracing shame and about humbly asking your family members what they need from you.
Fr. Mike your timing is unbelievable, I really want to be a better person. As you said We need to present this sorrow to God and grow a little bit everyday.
Thank you, God our Father for showing me this video of Fr. MIKE! I've been suffering with pity and resentment with my family for 2 years!!! That's been my burden, I've not been emotionally ok because of that. But now, this sheds light to past. Now I know God wants me to develop my virtue. I'l learn more to Love God. Praying for all you do, Fr. MIKE!
I know Father Mike is in my head! Every week when I’m going through something, the discussion I need to hear is exactly what is being discussed. Thank you Fr. Mike once again.
Ouch ouch ouch! I'm way past college & have kids of my own, and I've been perplexed by this apparent dichotomy. Thanks for structuring the problem for me. I expect clergy and other religious certainly face the same problem, only with more self-doubt in light of their vocation. This is a very worthwhile lesson!
I think it’s a fine line between what he was saying and parents actually making things worse. I know with my dad he’s not very religious and I feel like he has this cloud of hate and negativity surrounding him.
I am 70. I am a sinner without much virtue. I have never been able to move beyond this. I have to rely on God to save me and move me forward anyway.
I am not catholic but man his channel helps me deal with so much.
Consider coming to a Catholic Church. It can be a beautiful experience! ❤
He's pretty good with words. I wish I was better speaking
Jesus said in Matthew 5:48, Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
How can the Catholic be perfect, HOLY when they hate the other sinners who call themselves the Baptist?
Or vise verses???
I was just frustrated because of the impatience i showed with my parents like 1h ago and now this 😭😭😭😭😭 thank you Jesus! Thank you fr Mike
Thank you for recognize that I'm really wish that my kids admit it if really want to feel even better Tell them how you feel sorry and they we will going feel even very good
Perfect timing-just got frustrated at seeing a fault of mine at home that is no struggle when I’m not at home. Thank you Fr. Mike!
totally - Same here. I needed this at this moment!
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Same here.. Kinda don't want to admit that i have to still work on my interactions with the folks.. Ugghh.. Alright, Fr. Mike.. I hear you.. Thank you..🤗
Perfect timing for me as well!
Thankyou Father for this eye opener. I realized that at home you have the greatest opportunity to be vuneruble and ask for forgiveness and forgive. My home becomes a channel of God's Mercy. Praise be God!
I think it's harder for people who live with abusive parents. Because you're not only dealing with their behavior, you're also dealing with your trauma.
The parents are the reason for the trauma and it becomes impossible to heal, because the trauma is being caused over and over again.
There are only two possibilities - to distance yourself completely (and heal), or stay (and continue to experience trauma while not healing)
All of my family is dead now.
But I reflect on the end of my elderly mothers life with sorrow because I wasn't nearly as patient with her as I NOW wish that I would have been.
Upon REFLECTION I can see how hard life was for her in her old age.
When we were together I thought MORE about how things felt for me than how they felt for her.
I say this in case anyone is caretaking an elderly parent. If your doing that now, I pray you do it better than I did. 😭
In the end, my mom showed so much forgiveness towards me it is truly humbling. I miss her very much.
I know, Me too!
May she rest in peace.
The same happened to me and Im so sorry now, that I didn't spend more time with her, that I wasn't as patient as I should have been. I can't forgive myself for that. Blessings from Argentina
@@silviae1000 if God forgave you, you can forgive yourself… trust God. His mercy wipes away your sins.
@@Hustin Thank you so much. It has always been easier for me to forgive others than myself. Blessings from BA
This is the first video that I vehemently disagree with. My college priest gave me similar advice whenever I told him about my struggles and he related it to everyone else's. But he didn't understand. It went deeper than that. And I remember thinking, "If I'm not holy at home, am I really holy/a Christian?" I beat myself up for years over being "selfish" and "unloving". I wrote so many prayers struggling about this and my relationships with my parents. A couple years after graduating, I learn that one of my parents suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and the other parent enables it and is distant from me. All of the concerns about being unloving, unholy and selfish were all lies that I had internalized from years of emotional abuse and emotional neglect.
Needless to say, the advice on this video needs a disclaimer. My time with family certainly revealed that I was broken. But so was my family. I thought that I needed to be more giving, more selfless, more loving, more holy, do more around the house. But what I really needed was to learn about boundaries, experience healthy relationships and remove the toxic relationships from my life.
I can't imagine what it would have been like to be sequestered at home with them in a time like this. By now, I would have been depressed, crushed in spirit and blaming myself for everything that was wrong. I thank God that I am free from this. I pray that others in similar situations may find the freedom that God is calling them to.
Hi brother/sister in Christ. We do have the same childhood to a tee, but all I can say is that there is an ending to all the evil in our life. There will come for time and healing. The pain and suffering you've been through will never go unrewarded if you offer it to Jesus Christ our Lord. Remember, he never came for the good and "healthy" ones. He came for sick and the unhealthy. That's why He died on the cross to reassure us that we are not alone. And just like how he died and ressurected on the third day, the time will come when all our pain and hurt and sin will die together with Him, and on His time, He will raise us from the death from trauma and will live with Him in love, light and happiness. And I am a living witness of this❤
-Praying for you, daughter of a narcissistic mom and a sociopath father and now happy thru Christ and Mary
No. This a cross some of us has to carry. I ran away, I didn't want to until Jesus led me back to them. It's hard but this sacrifice granted them so many graces since, I’m still amazed, how God rewarded my efforts. For example my hardcore atheist father has started to talk about God constantly and he’s seriously changing for the better every day. Now he wouldn’t harm a butterfly. (Someone with two narcissistic divorced parents.)
I wish I was as patient as Jesus. He is simply amazing.
Best Catholic Channel ever!
Hallelujah! This amazing video clearly shows the need for all of us to reflect, learn and grow. Constantly. Thank you.
Father has our lord been whispering in your ear. This definitely what we needed.
God bless you.
I cracked up at one of the last lines, Fr Mike. We have to love the people we are living with AND THAT IS HOW GOD WILL SANCTIFY US. I've been hearing a quote from one saint in my head---Jose Maria Ecriva. Don't say someone annoys you; say instead, they sanctify you. He is so right. Boy, my mom sanctifying me! When you look at it that way, it makes sense and in a way, it's a little easier and purposeful. It's God answering our prayer to be holier.
"Jesus, wanna come with me?"... into these new places.
....powerful!!!
God is sooo gracious....I'm kinda having problems with my family. This video came just at the right time.
I’m still in high school so I live with my family anyway but some really good advice I got recently was that our parents are going to ask us to do things that we don’t want to do. Instead of thinking of that task as just a task that you dislike, think of it as an act of love and respect to your parents.
I’m just over my family. Narcissistic dad, emotionally unavailable mother, and brother who does whatever he wants. And I just needed love and support.
Yes exactly this, minus the dad. I need advice that fits this familial dynamic
I went on a family vacation this week and wow! I've got some growing to do. Thanks, Father Mike.
There’s no shortcut to holiness. : )
Doing things FAST FAST FAST is the epidemic of our times.
Well, one of them.
But it should also be said that if you're not asking God to change you and cooperating with His grace, you shouldn't expect to become holy "eventually".
Just got into an argument with my dad and then one thing lead to another and my whole family started arguing. Thank you god for the perfect timing
I always felt like a horrible person because I couldn't be that good person while at home. And for the longest time, I hated myself for it. I felt like a misfit..
In light of this, I hope to work through my short comings. I'll be intentional to be kind, patient and loving to my family.
I've felt that too. This book helped me a lot to realize that God doesn't want me to lose peace because of my sins! - scepterpublishers.org/products/searching-for-and-maintaining-peace
Immaculate heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Amen
Personally I'm not a catholic anymore but I first saw fathers videos through my confirmation class. They interested me and I completely forgot about them until now haha. Now looking back and watching his videos it gives me some comfort to have advice even if I'm not really with this religion anymore. I still try to uphold some values that I learned through the Catholic church and it can be tough sometimes but I'm still going to try.
Easy to understand but may be difficult to implement. God first and this too shall pass. Thank you
Wow. Just coming across this video as I so desperately am praying for patience and so much understanding with my children and husband. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I had just asked the Lord to help me with my anger and selfishness. This is Him answering my prayers. Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this today.
I have a total crush on Father Mike and it's God's way of bringing me to be a catholic :-)
This is so true. I admitted it to myself during lockdown and it was a game changer.
Yep, I realized the same, hard stuff
@@soutyz1211 Doesn't have to be hard. All it means is one knows what mistakes one has been making, and can finally try more than before to stop doing them. With God's grace all things are possible - even if we have to stumble to get there.
One more thing I want to mention, maybe as encouragement (though you may take this with a grain of salt, as these are just some thoughts of mine I wanted to get off my chest). Your sins aren't your identity, and they don't define you - you are a child of God through it all, so finding out you're doing something wrong (especially if it's a venial vice or venial bad habit) shouldn't overly discourage you or make you hate yourself.
Mistakes are pointers that teach us what to avoid, and we don't have to go through this alone - we know God wants to help us with His grace - we have both the Eucharist and Confession which blot out our venial sins. In other words, we can indeed look at the bright side, since it's a bright side that shines from God out of love for us!
Some of us need more lock-down for reals. It might be quite helpful.
As a convert, and the only Catholic in my family (much to the dismay of some members of my family), this was a great teaching and blessing. Thank you!
OH MY GOD I was just thinking about this! I'd had a fight with my Dad recently and I've been struggling to pray ever since. It's affected my spirituality so badly I've fallen down into this deep pit of hopelessness. Seriously, forgiving without getting an apology is the HARDERST Cross I've ever had to carry! Then Fr Mike had to hit me in the face with this video, I'm done!
Fr. Michael, you are so awesome, thank you always! God Bless
Even Jesus had to get away. There is a lesson in that too. Too much togetherness is not a good thing. Yes, be loving and kind but don’t get smothered by other people in families that are not healthy. It is not always your own lack of growth - it may be someone else’s deficit. Acknowledge that too. Don’t blame yourself for other people’s problems.
I agree 100% We need solitude for our own wellbeing 💗 Family is challenging especially when stuck with each other during this pandemic. God bless you & all striving to grow in virtue 🙏✝️👼💗
Thank you. That is why we have to create healthy boundaries. ❤
I'm Serbian Orthodox from Belgrade. My paternal grandmother is Catholic, but this is not the reason why I love Father Mike Schmitz, he's such a great person, a true servant of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
So true father mike family will always be there we have to love them.
My wife lost her job and because of lack of income we were forced to move in with my parents and leave our life behind. It has been extremely difficult as I joined the military to get away from the toxicity that still remains. I know I’m not the only one in this situation right now and thank God we have a roof for our family but the constant negativity that I’m forced to be around day after day is truly exhausting. I’ve prayed the rosary so many times and lift all my worries to God but the moment I’m surrounded by people that do nothing but complain about the world and the things they can’t change, breaks me and I’m flooded with thoughts of permanence that “this is my life now.” I will continue to bring all these things to God, but at the moment I feel lost.
At least you have a family. It's always better to have a family than to be alone in the world, trust me
I used to say, I'd have a first-class ticket to heaven if it wasn't for my sister 😩😩. IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW! I always felt like a better Christian around non-family members.
Perfect timing!
Father Michael Schmitz is real and really transparent and honest. What a blessing from God!
Fr Mike is a blessing. I struggle with family relationships. Very dysfunctional. I’m in the word daily and know I fall short. But my mother, sister and brother are never approachable. Being vulnerable with them is not possible. My mother lies and is emotionally unavailable, very into self. She knows very little about me for she never asks. It’s hard to respect her. My siblings and are superficial communicators anything deep there is no sincerity or empathy. It gets said “ you think you have it bad”. I pretty much keep my mouth shut, be kind, helpful and giving. It’s ok it’s not reciprocated. I will pray how Fr Mike says, asking for Gods help, for I surely am struggling Honoring the Mother. Praying for all of us in every situation. With God nothing is impossible.
I've had a whole fallout from my family. My mother is involved in the cult of MDM.. and my parents were provoking leading up to my wedding, wanting to cancel it, and my mother and my sister in law hated my future wife to be. Unfortunately I don't see my family anymore ever since my wedding day. And it's definitely sad. Our wedding Catholic Counselor said it's the worst case scenario she's ever heard leading up to a wedding. Her advice was that we need to stay away from the family because it's too toxic. My parents were narcissistic and abusive, mentally and emotionally. My wife and I at the time tried our best to resolve everything numerous times, but it fell through each and every time. Even to the point in my Father trying to financially ruin me so that the wedding wouldn't go ahead. It brought me to tears many times, and I've given it up to God numerous times as well.
Luke 12:51 Jesus tells us that He also comes to divide, not simply bring peace, where Father is against the son and the mother against daughter in law.. etc.
Heal me, Lord Holy spirit from doings of my own.
Wash away my iniquity through thy divine presence. Thanks, Fr. Mike
I’m a mom with a college daughter and it actually helped ME and enlightened me as to what I need to do. God bless you father
Thank you Fr. for an eye opening reflection. This is what I need. Thank you.
First to comment love you father mike
Thank you, Father Mike. We all need to grow in humility!
Thanks, Father for this truth.
this man has a lovely simple existence.
you can tell by the examples of the problems he has to deal with.
I was looking for some guidance this morning, I didn't expect that this particular video would be the answer I was looking for, but I feel that God has spoken to me through this. Thank you.
Hehehe, that's new to me to realize that, Father. I find it sooo truue and funny. No wonder you became a priest, you discovered the humor of God. And you exude that!!! Why take life so seriously when it is so easy to surf life when God really is the one who determines most of what happens to us, that is if we live within His statutes!!! Outside God, life is hell of course...thank you, Father Mike.
Wow God’s timing sure is something
Thank you, Fr, for slowing down. Now I can understand everything you say 🎉
Thank you Father Mike
Oh my gosh you just answered the one thing that's been bothering me for quite some time-Thank you
This video came at the perfect timing. Thank you Fr. Mike
Well, a hard-to-swallow pill for me this time. I usually see this comment below each video of Fr Mike and for once it's my turn to admit I am broken. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you!
Truly eye opener that was given by The Father before, long overdue. Not anymore, I shall do his will, what he ask of me to do . Obedient’s better than sacrifice . Amen 🙏🏾
I told my mom I quit my job. The hours and work sucked, and the assignments were not helping my sleep schedule. She asked me, “Do you have a plan?” I said, “Kind of.” Roughly speaking, I didn’t think it through as thoroughly as some would perhaps like, but I was also pushed to my limit on the Feast of the Ascension, the day I quit my most recent job.
Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 Mother Mary Pray For Us 🙏Abba Father Bless us and we Adore You 🙏
Dude, I think that happened to me when I started working last week, my new job, but still, I have hearing or language problems with my mom when I went home. I was trying to hide my tears at home. At work, they were nice, generous, hard-working, I enjoyed the peace there by working. I was trying to grow spiritually still, in the process. Guess God heard my tears or sorrows, even though I tried to hold it in, in my room. God always knows the right time perfectly. God bless you, Fr. Mike. 👍🙏.
God bless you Father Mike. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have moved home and realize I am here to help my elderly Father, yet it feels like I am a given the opportunity to start over again after 30 years. But I will say being looked at as ‘the kid’ again in the house. I am attempting growth daily. As I realize I do not feel free enough under my Father’s roof to be myself. Very intriguing times.
This is a very helpful video. I’ve been struggling in my relationship with my parents. I’m in college and failed all my classes this past semester. This is not the first time I failed a semester. I’ve been avoiding talking to my parents too much because I don’t want to tell them that I failed yet again. I’m really scared that they will get angry at me and I’m very terrified to tell them. I want to live a holy life, but I cannot when I can keep isolating myself from my parents and lying to them about my grades. I would really appreciate prayers from all of you, as I’m very distressed and feel stuck. God bless you all.
It is unfair of them to tie up all their happiness in your success. They should know that they're taking a risk funding your college. If you do bad, they might be mad because they love you, and dont want to see you waste your time.
I hope it went okay
Prayed for you. But also get some counselling for the right degree. It might be a bad fit. Then it's a waste of $$$, too. Ask God!
How did it go? 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Adrian, You will have to discuss this with parents if they are paying your tuition to college. If not now, when? When college kicks you out?
I feel like Fr. Mike is talking about me in this whole video LOL.
Thank you Fr. Mike :)
I love this one Father Mike! And you know what's allowed for the greatest "self selecting groups?" Social Media. Here is where we find the ultimate cliques. The ultimate in tribalism. The ultimate echo-chambers. I wonder if this lack of exposure to others, via these online worlds, is helping to drive the schism that we see all around us, even wider and wider? Chesterton has a great quote re: the clique - which this reminds me of:
“The man who lives in a small community lives in a much larger world. He knows much more of the fierce variety and uncompromising divergences of men…In a large community, we can choose our companions. In a small community, our companions are chosen for us. Thus in all extensive and highly civilized society groups come into existence founded upon sympathy, and shut out the real world more sharply than the gates of a monastery. There is nothing really narrow about the clan; the thing which is really narrow is the clique.”
― G.K. Chesterton, Heretics
Fantasy land is better than reality for most of these folks who live online. I take 6months off Facebook every year just to prove that I control it - it doesn't control me. Apparently addiction specialists say that if you can't last 3months off Facebook/twitter etc then you have a problem.
It is everybit so true. Thanks for this video. It has helped me a lot. Love from Jamaica.
Hey Fr. Mike. Protestant here. love this vid. Very relavant for my life right now. Thank You
This is so true, but family sure knows how to get to you
How dare you, Fr. Mike! How dare you answer my questions and make me reflect?! 😂♥️
I wrote an article 'in my journal' about how I hate being around my family. Because of the pandemic I had to stay back home with my family. Before that I knew I was doing the right thing 'coz I'm following Jesus the best way I can. After a month with my family I'm like 'how did I get here, Lord?' what did I do wrong?! I was soooo depressed. I was frustrated that other people see me good and my family could not and I'm having to always always feel bad about who I am. They make me feel like I'm the worst person on earth. 😂
After watching this, I'm absolutely gonna write in my journal again and contemplate on the areas that I need to grow in. I love you with the love of the Lord, Fr. Mike! ☺️♥️
Stay crazy. 😅Like crazy for Jesus!
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN!
God continue blessing you Father Mike and your family!
So true Father Mike. I just thought of my children ages 29 and 34. I feel sometimes this generation is so much about themselves. A sense of entitlement. It might be the lack of faith. I sent this to them. My husband and I
Through God are growing in patience. We are older and realize that my my mother in law is old and keeps repeating herself so we have learned just to listen, be patient and laugh. Soon that will be us. Our parents have given so much for us. Through God and time we learn and understand these things. God Bless you
Oh Fr. Mike,you've been the best,you've answered all the questions,God bless you,we're praying for you :)
Wow, this is super specific to what I've been wondering lately.
This was something I struggled with so much as well while in college - I thought I was the only one but WOW I'm not! 😲🤯 Thank you for clarifying this matter Father! 🙌🏼
Brilliant vid Father Mike like usual 👍
Noticing this especially during quarantine
Thank you for this Fr Mike. Very helpful.
This video couldn't have come in a more perfect time. The other night i was talking to my mom on the phone and i was impatient and a bit aginated. And i thought that my mom was making me impatient and she to blame. But because of this video i realize that i havent been loving my mom as much as i should. And i should let jesus be the center of my relationship with family. Thank you father mike
God just sent this message to me... I'm not that holy. The Lord has spoken thru you Father Mike!
That was awesome!!!!!!!!! Truth!!
Thank you for your videos, they're all appreciated! God bless
This is absolutely true! When you’re around your family, you are you, the good and the bad.
I praise and thank for you, Fr. Mike. God bless you!
So grateful for this. This is one of my favorite talks. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much!
Soooo true. Soooo insightful. Our "family"/ blood relatives & the community you live w/ are the biggest challenge & "battlefield" for our practice of holiness & our path to growth & transformation.
Thank you Fr. Mike.
Watch at .75 speed. Calmer.
Wow this is is just what I needed to watch today, this is exactly what I have been struggling with home in quarantine is being a good and obedient and loving and selfless son to my parents. Especially because my main goal is to be a witness of the Catholic and Christian faith to them through my love, its really hard when I constantly fail. I loved your points about not embracing shame and about humbly asking your family members what they need from you.
GOD is SO good! Perfect words in the perfect time. Thank you Father for this message!
Fr. Mike your timing is unbelievable, I really want to be a better person. As you said We need to present this sorrow to God and grow a little bit everyday.
Thank you, I needed that 😊🙏❤️
Thank you, God our Father for showing me this video of Fr. MIKE! I've been suffering with pity and resentment with my family for 2 years!!! That's been my burden, I've not been emotionally ok because of that. But now, this sheds light to past. Now I know God wants me to develop my virtue. I'l learn more to Love God. Praying for all you do, Fr. MIKE!
I know Father Mike is in my head! Every week when I’m going through something, the discussion I need to hear is exactly what is being discussed. Thank you Fr. Mike once again.
JESUS CHRIST bless!!!
thanks father mike
Yes, go home and love the people in our home!
I wish I thought about this more when quarantine started 😅
I was just praying to God about this, and here you are! Thanks be to God for His perfect timing! :)
Ouch ouch ouch!
I'm way past college & have kids of my own, and I've been perplexed by this apparent dichotomy. Thanks for structuring the problem for me.
I expect clergy and other religious certainly face the same problem, only with more self-doubt in light of their vocation.
This is a very worthwhile lesson!
All that I can say about this video, is: Yup.
So true 😢 Thank you Fr. Mike and Ascension team for this video.
He lost me at "it involves being vulnerable."
Please pray that I receive the grace, and have the courage to do this anyway.
I think it’s a fine line between what he was saying and parents actually making things worse. I know with my dad he’s not very religious and I feel like he has this cloud of hate and negativity surrounding him.
Father Mike calling me out!! Thank you Jesus!