INFJ, IT'S TIME TO SET THE TONE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
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Do you have close relationships that cause you more conflict than peace?
Yeah! That do😢
I have definitely closed off those type of relations, seemed like a learning curve to me.
Yes
Not anymore-- protecting my peace and energy for those I feel Right with. It did take awhile to appreciate. Your videos help remind me what was happening, anytime I might be close to confused again. Expressing myself openly is an ongoing practice-- so far, it works wonders!
Yes
~ I think our tendency of “going too deep, too soon” has been the one aspect that was, & remains, the one that I have to keep in my mind, when meeting someone new. Other than this, the older I get, the more I appreciate my unique way of being. 🙏
Your deep because your smart :;):)
@@bamgold4677 most of us are smarter than the average bear❣️
If you have been in a relationship for years where the only way to survive is to be totally reactive, it is an enormous adjustment to become proactive. After being slapped down, ridiculed, criticized for trying to exert your own energy with someone who does not welcome that, it is ridiculously hard to switch gears when you find yourself in the company of people who actually are as accepting of you as you are accepting of them. It feels risky to open up. But when you meet people who are able to appreciate your contribution, who encourage and even admire your ideas and your energy, it is the most amazing, wonderful feeling on Earth!
Exactly :):)
A trusted and stable life coach for INFJ's and those dealing with INFJ's. Good presentation.
Spot on. I had a lot of issues when I didn't want to follow people. Narcissists above all.
Many times I got this "why aren't you submitting?" stare, if not outright articulated.
i've tried that and people still get triggered or are envious, so while I appreciate the tips i'm done trying not to trigger people. i will just be myself even if that means i'm the weirdest outcast of society.
I was very reactive growing up until I discovered I was an INFJ. Now I'm much more confident and sure of myself and my strengths that I have been subconsciously becoming more proactive with every year. I'm still far from perfect at this however, and I struggle to avoid a reactive mindset in groups of aquaintances of strangers but I'm working on it.
Improving every month over the long run.
Ironically one of the first steps toward putting my energy out into the world was to actually do LESS. I participate less in other peoplea reality. I do whatever i want. I dont try to impress people or overwork myself. My energy is so chill and unbothered. I like it.
Off topic: ❤love your color palette from the nails to the wall 😅!
Wenzes can you please make a video on how to initiate friendships? Its easier to continue meaningful friendships with people that exist in my life but making new connections is difficult. Would love to learn more about it from you.
Which state or country are you in.
Great suggestion!
„People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves“ - Matt Kahn // You’re not going to make me responsible for your inadequacy.
Thank you so much ❤Each time I listen to you I hear something important
Agreed ❤!
CAME AT THE RIGHT TIME! THANK YOU 🎯 ❤FOR ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS SINCE I FOUND OUT I WAS AN INFJ.
Wow… reactive = not rocking the boat and staying small… wow. So much more makes sense. It’s true I like just being immersed in someone else’s world while keeping my world to myself - not healthy. Leads to eventual resentment and/or bringing in controlling people.
Proactive = just being myself, centering me. Maybe there won’t be a boat to rock, and leave us alone longer, but at least it’s a boat worth being on?
Perfectly said. Balanced assertiveness.
So the problem lies with when the other person or people do not want your energy. Ok so don’t take it personally OR stay away from such people which I guess is proactive and then no more triggers
Yup. I'm the Queen of 'leave me alone'
Wenzes I'm in a continuous reactive streak since I came across your channel of infj epic life for first time ever! It's now almost more than half a decade we're interacting time and again in reciprocative manner! I presumably understand that there's little to be known about me at least, because of the large amount outsourcing continuously fed here and there which I believe you should aware of! Do you still think I haven't done enough to keep a relationship going with crystal clear vividness! You think I'm not bringing enough energy to their table to remain in the group? I never made a list of things that you should have this or that which will make me comfortable to bring out more from my side despite the legitimate connection I needed to keep in touch with them to know what actions I have to take to expedite things between the two sides to settle for a decision which is I believe very much hanging in the air! We should make clear of things with a language both the sides should be capable of deciphering and any obscurity should immediately be understood and transmitted without wasting time and energy! During these time length we should be at least know what intrigues us that we lack enough clarity of dos and don'ts or if it's really a possibility of going forward! You cannot have more feedbacks of my everyday life than possibly any others' who stays miles and miles apart and all the time keeps guessing things and in doing so it's been becoming positive sometimes and the negative in some other! If you haven't clearly understood my disposition and the person and what they're capable of and what are the incapacities and what restrictions they're having to be communicative enough which are being harder and harder everyday! It'll be quite unfortunate if we're still trying to figure out what to do to be united for a solution to the relation! Come out with clear cut solution that helps whatever is the outcome! A matter has been taken to the state of marriage and then we finding excuses for not having a final settlement which remain hanging in the balance for the reasons I'm at least unaware of with all my wisdom I could accumulate! Are you talking of sinews of war or the presentability of my person to the group you mentioned? I'm always saying and showing this is me and if you want something what I'm not, then I'm not understood the reality yet! We're human beings and we all different from each other what makes us tick is the understanding and capabilities of adjustments to the things what I have and haven't with what you have and haven't! When we're unable to adjustments it becomes a no go situation and gradual avoidance increase will never foster the future! Everyone is moving back and forth from the remotest part of the world to the farthest and we're still not communicative enough to know what the issues are and what's going on the other side faraway! We shouldn't draw a conclusion by seeing a thing outwardly but we need to know them inside out why these have been floated to be known and we shouldn't be in a mind at a point of time and in another by just seeing a thing that didn't match the conception of what has been just been conveyed with the one what hasn't been in unison what was expected, because we're not close in a home but much farther to apprehend to get an immediate answer of the seemingly unexpected reactive response! I'm again emphatically saying I really want consistency and clarity of a viable solution maybe the programme is late but a settlement is necessary for peace of mind of all involved!
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Yes!!!!!!!!
we have to see relationships as "co-creating" of a certain dynamic and playing of roles... i definetely was not aware of that and go to things too deeply with people i don't actually want to create that dynamic with.
Basically...what is your value system ...that non negotiable ... do you they know?
Interesting! ❤. Ty
Thanks! YAY.
Yes!
It's like... "be the change you want to see"? How do we bring that into practice?
I don't really understand what you mean
This. ❤
I did the proactive way in the beginning of relationships but it ended up triggering people so I would stop because it makes them weirded out and then they pull away. 😢 So I am actually confused how that would work...
I am INFJ-T. Is there a real difference in “ T” and not “ T “
What exactly is turbulent… my emotions, reaction, behavior or thoughts, relationships ???
Emotions reactions. T means that you are high in neuroticism. It affects relationships and behavior. Though how it affects and what you do about that is a very different topic
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