My ❤️ sincerely goes out to anyone who has been recently discarded and is still within the trauma bond. During this stage the thought of the new supply is gut wrenching and soul crushing. During this time feel it all the anger, sadness, emptiness, so you can release it and move forward. As Andrew said the new supply is just that supply. The narc needs them to reenergize themselves and survive. It doesn't last in the way you think and the happy pictures they post on social media are not real. They are meant to get you upset and make you buy into their false reality. This is why it is so important to make sure you don't look, block them and go no contact. In time when you are well along on your healing path you actually see the new supply for what they were. SUPPLY. You become grateful that they took the narcs attention off of you. This is exactly what you want! You need this time without the distraction of the narc to focus on you and your healing. Now when I think of the new supply 6 months later I feel absolutely NOTHING. We all must reach a point where we move forward and accept that who the narc spends their time with going forward is none of our business. It's truly not. The relationship was toxic and in the past. Don't let it consume any of your energy in the present. Let them live their life and you move forward and continue to lead your new life narc free in peace and happiness. Take pride in knowing that with this education you will never allow yourself to be anyone's supply again. Great video Andrew. It reminds us that the light continues to shine brighter as we move forward out of the darkness. 💯💪😊🕊️
YES! In time, you won't even think about any of it. I walked around outside, on this beautiful windy day (here) and realized I'd been *smiling and singing*. I realized that I hadn't thought about anything that had happened. HA! Soo.. I set all the outside trash cans, or what could be used as such, and began chunking all the trash he'd left all over my backyard. BOY did that felt Awesome!
Let's all remember, at one point WE were the new supply. My heart and prayers go out to anyone who has the unfortunate situation of being "new supply". The only thing I thought of concerning the new supply is that I wish I could have warned them. It's terrible to think about what they will go through.
THANK YOU VERY, VERY MUCH TO ALL THE NEW SUPPLIES OF THE NARCS, YOU NOW CARRY MY BAGGAGE. FELLOW SURVIVORS, LET'S MOVE ON, A LOT OF NICE PEOPLE OUT THERE. THANK YOU, SIR ANDREW FOR THIS EDUCATING VIDEO. 💖💙💜💚❤
@@donnahazlett7305 It's truly beautiful reading the comments and seeing how far so many of come along their healing paths. It's great when you get to the point when you can laugh about it and say I really just don't care. In the words of the great Ray Charles Hit the road Jack and don't you come back no more no more 💪😂🤣
I am so thankful for people like you, Andrew, who raise awareness and supply people with the knowledge about Narcissists. I an aged and looking back can see how my life was riddled wit Narcissists. It was my faith in Christ that kept me strong all these years
My ex-narc got his new supply, married her, and then blew up her life. He took her down like a gazelle on the plains. She had a doctorate in teaching and was a school principal. Now, she spends her days alone, sewing-really sad. Oh, the only reason I know this is that the blow up was on tv on the news-yes, it was that bad! Glad I'm out for years now and healed. I come back for a booster shot every now and then. He emailed me 5 years after he married her-I ignored it and laughed.
Narcissistic abuse does take you down on every level. Emotionally, financially, physically, spirituality and on and on. I would never wish that on anyone. So thankful to be away from all narcissists and their abuse and on the healing path. Almost to the top of the mountain and reaching indifference. I love being on this healing journey. We will all get there. Love to everyone 💕
The most difficult things to heal from in a narcissistic entanglement are the profound betrayal by the narcissist and the fact that time is one of our most precious resources that was stolen by the Narc & we can never have it back.
He's right, every new supply gets treated worse and worse until you're discarded of and labelled "crazy". I saw who the new supply was..it was gut wrenching but i know the patterns of "nice, lovey" photos online...we had those every time something went horribly wrong that no one saw, so i can only imagine the termoil he's put them through. I'm thankful to be out of there and honestly..i don't think about it anymore but i hope the new supply got out too and is ok.
@@flamingsword777 That fits the pattern. Gotta get them tied down before the mask slips too much. I did same thing. Thought a year was enough. Thought at 50 I knew a thing or two. Nope.
@@lisaryckman22 I am so sorry for what you've dealt with, Lisa.... You're right though. She thinks she hit the lottery... What's ironic about this is that she us supposedly a ghost and demon hunter but yet cant see what's right in front of her... He told her on the very first date that he had feelings for her (they met on Tinder 2 weeks after I left) and she friend zoned him.
I know who the new supply is!! She’s a former friend of mine and current neighbor!!! She’s a recent and wealthy widow and a prime target for a narcissist!! I’ve already lived through she’s experiencing now or will experience in the near future. I still pray she opens her eyes to see who and what he is or her family who lives close will see. I’m still triggered at times but fewer times and it takes a shorter time to get out of it.
The new supply joined the Narc in destroying me because they were being live bombed at the time. Now she’s getting her karma for how she treated me…oh how the tables turned😆 I’m just glad she did what she did to me in order for me to escape the toxic Narc. The discard ended up being the biggest blessing of my life! There’s life after the Narcissist. Just focus on your healing process and move forward! 💪😊🙏💗
Yep! The new supply will eventually figure it out. The fact that the narcissist is the evil one. Not the previous supply. Then they will know that the old supply is in fact the lucky one that got away from the evil entity. They will be very envious of you then !!!!!
@@primaveraprimavera2415 That is so strange because I was thinking the same exact thing today on my walk. The new supply only knows the lies the Narc told them about us but when they see how amazingly happy and glowing we are without the Narc then they realize something doesn't match up. I agree once they see that they realize that you are in fact the lucky one for getting away. Life is so much better when you are no one's supply. Life is meant to be spent and enjoyed with the ones we love and love us for the person we are not the ones who wear a mask to trick and dupe us. One leads to a connection that is sustainable for a lifetime of happiness the other leads to an attachment that is doomed from the start. This is why it is so important to take time to heal so we can know the difference.❤️
@@christine11347 it is a really surreal experience with the narcissist. You love them but they pretend to love you. It’s heartbreaking at first when you realise that they don’t see you as a person who is special to them. You could be anyone. It’s horrible. So glad I am long gone. I celebrate that fact every day. We have to be so careful who we give our heart to! I didn’t understand it at the time. But something was off! All the best to you Christine 🌟
@@primaveraprimavera2415 I agree with everything you said 💯. It is surreal and horrible. We do have to be careful, but with self love, inner peace and trusting yourself you know who belongs in your life and who does not. I remember a few months out thinking how could I ever trust that someone would never cheat on me again. After a lot of inner work though you realize that if someone is going to cheat they are not the right person for you anyway. When you have a connection that is reciprocated and continues to grow and deepen with each passing day you would never want to do anything to jeopardize the beautiful gift by being anything less than 💯 faithful. Narcs don't look at it like that however. They look at you as supply that they can dominate and control in a one sided relationship where you give your all and they give nothing. It's when you start to pull back on the supply or are to beaten down to give anymore that they cheat. It's disgusting and has no place in any of our lives. We all deserve to be treated as the amazing treasures we are. For anyone that doesn't recognize that then look at it as them doing you a favor by leaving because with them gone you can move forward and find the happiness you truly deserve. ❤️
I haven’t reached the ‘I don’t care’ attitude yet….I’m even ashamed to say I feel jealous at times. I know that sounds crazy! But I’m working on it and looking forward to feeling indifferent. Thank you!
I’ll never forget that first time I saw the mask slip. My teddy bear revealed he is a Pitt bull. I was dumbfounded. Saw it creep up with service people over and over…in stores, restaurants, on phone, etc. We were building a house and people said they refused to return as they couldn’t stand the way he talked to his father. None of this came to light until after the wedding. I feel like I thought I married “ABC” but in reality got “XYZ”. Does that ring true for others?
There was always a new supply that was hidden from me. The one that wasnt hidden, she told me how wonderful he was and how much better than me he was ect....ect... After 3 months she left him and went to a different country. Keep to the high road , stay silent and have faith you are on the right path. Everything the narcissist does is destructive and hurtful, not just to you, to everyone they come in contact with. I knew I was healing because I feel bad for the new supply. I would never wish anyone to go through something like narcissistic abuse. I dont think there is a worse way to treat a person.
If you have kids by that narcissist, then there probably is no avoiding the new supply. Especially, during times like graduations, birthdays, etc. In which case, that narcissist might intentionally create a uncomfortable situation for you just to try and get a reaction out of you.
Knowledge about Narcissists should be taught in school to children! It could help young people to be aware of such people. Nowadays I can spot them easily in my every day life
The narc I knew discarded me for a an older rich person/fan, and made a big public show out of displaying the new person, probably wanting to demonstrate how "normal" they are, able to "move on" quickly and with a person who "really loves them" (aka: supplies them with money, Status, and adoration). It was comical: the narcissist and the fixer/healer who would "change" the narc with their "unconditional love". Block. Delete. Laugh. When you know what the narc "show" ingredients are, you send kind compassion to the new supply and continue living your life in peace and quiet contentment. The term "gold digger" is certainly gender-neutral, and the narc "sugar baby" taught me that! 😆😆😆
Its funny they pump and prance, thinking their the shit, but their dedication to a pretentious reality is a joke to all. Yet they are humored by thinking those around them approve of the vast special attraction they have. Many obligated by business or social desires. Country clubs are narc meets. Never was, could have easily been, but never needed the validation of such hollow people who endure the pain and agony of having to drive out of narcclub back into Normalville. So sad...
I think we need to realize the entire relationship, the drama it created and the aftermath has nothing to do with us. It was all about them, what they wanted & needed. I just pray he brings harm to no one else.
Well, after two days of driving (960 miles) I'm back in Southern CA. That's how far my narcissist is away now. Texted that I got here safe. Told her I hoped she found what she was looking for. That lead to a conversation.......the results of which were expected with what I've learned. Just confirms it. Time to cut the cord for good. Still painful. New life starts tomorrow. Thanks again Andrew..... I've got a ways to go.
“I flat out don’t care.” - Andrew Those are words spoke. From someone who is healed...❣️ God bless you and your work, Andrew...🙏🏻 the world Is a better place because of you! 🌟💫🙌🏻💪🙏🏻♥️😢
It’s been 40 years of marriage …..and a number of new supplies - that I did not know about - and found out about all at the same time! A number of years after the fact(s). Shocked and heartbroken. I realized I have no clue who this person really is.
Thank you Andrew, I can't even begin to explain on how much your channel has helped me through these dark times, including everyone else's comments too. When my wife isolated me for the majority of 2021, I think that this must have been one of the, if not, the most lonely and rock bottom places of my timeline on this earth and as for spending 29 years of my life with her, I can now reflect back on everything that I tolerated, I really didn't know any better about narcissism way back then, there was times that she was so cruel, especially with words, but she was so covert on so many levels that I ignored the red flags... There was one time I must admit that I was considering on calling off our wedding back in 1999 where I had spent an entire year fixing up our newly bought flat (apartment)... At that time she was working in her own job and was earning almost double on what I was taking home as a wage in my business, I paid the mortgage and all the stuff to decorate and I also did everything to the place and once or twice per week she'd visit to see the progress, while I worked on it. While I was working on the place she would tell me to get the kettle on and make her a coffee while she would pick out faults and talk about her wedding dress etc. tell me she was hungry and to phone for a Chinese takeaway, where I would go into town and collect... Sometimes, things that she said would hurt, but that was always covered up by "can't you take a joke?" The nail in the coffin back then was when she had phones me at my work, telling me that she was in the flat... What had happened was that the living room was the last room to finish i.e. it needed wallpaper and it was about three weeks until the wedding, but my wife couldn't decide on anything and kept putting it off, but telling me to hurry up... Thinking that she was stressed about the wedding, I took it on myself to buy wallpaper and I did an entire nightshift over the weekend to get it finished, I was exhausted and almost broke, so she phoned me at my work and said "Oh I see you got the living room finished" thinking that she would be delighted with it, her words were... "Me and my Mum had a good laugh at it, you'll be taking that off and changing it asap"... This absolutely crushed me and the following evening I went to see her and told her that I was having second thoughts because I don't want to go through my life being treated like this... She absolutely flipped out (I know, this was the red flag) but I was young and in love... She came to see me with her Mum at my parent's house the next evening and she put on the tears etc. and told me that she was so stressed out about the wedding, but she had done similar things like this before, I just didn't see them the way I do now, it was always hot and cold, almost from the beginning... After we got married it took over three months and a fight to get her to contribute anything towards the household bills and she kept saying "But that's my money"... Over the years I can certainly say that it got worse, way worse, but somewhere and somehow I just seemed to go into some autopilot mode and of coarse, thinking on having children would have brought us closer, when actually that was me closing the prison door and locking it, I'd never change the kids for anything because they're my absolute world... I'm pretty much convinced that she has a new supply and it's a work colleague, nothing would ever be spoken about her work and last year I noticed a lot of changes, her laugh, when with the kids had even changed, but I've never confronted her and to be honest, good luck to her or the new supply if there is one... The worry I have right now is our children, they are sick that I'm not there and they aren't even being fed properly, they tell me this... My Daughter sent me a good morning message at 4:41pm today and that her mum didn't wake her, no breakfast, no lunch, nothing, she also told me that her mum doesn't care about her etc.... I spoke with my Son tonight on facetime and he told me that his mum has been on her phone since this morning non stop in the living room and now our Daughter isn't speaking to her either... I really worry for them, but as my Mum told me about my wife... "give her enough rope and she'll hang herself" btw, that's a saying in Scotland that she'll show her true colours and shoot herself in the foot... On a good note, I've just launched my new business, it's early days yet, but I just finished a short production film for a client for my portfolio and they are absolutely delighted and it's gaining traction online already, it took me a lot of effort to get through the editing because of everything going on, but I pulled it off and it really lifted my spirits, and felt appreciated too! So hopefully this will be the start to healing now... Once again I apologise for a long rant, but hope that it helps others through their journey too. Bless
I get it.. You weren't appreciated or loved or respected. You spent your life with a selfish jerk. I'm sorry you're one of us...You're worried about your kids now...keep talking to them and document everything. Try to get them legally if you can (report her neglect) but just having you to talk to will help them so much. Sounds like your mom is supportive and you're moving forward with your work. Good things are ahead. Life is hard. Praying you find a way to help your kids and forgive this woman (for your sake). It does feel good to know you're not the only one who's been through this kind of thing on this channel and you are not alone but what you do next is important for you and the kids. They need you to help them. Document/journal and report her. Hopefully get them with you or your mom. ❤🙏
What a nightmare. Remember the core of who you are....a kind, decent and honest person, who only wants the best for other people. Unfortunately, like us all here, we did our very best and our love and respect was abused. Your children are very lucky to have a Dad like you, who is invested in them and it's good that they are able to talk to you. Yes I agree, keep records of everything, dates etc that they tell you......it's evidence if you need to act on things....you have a lovely supportive mum, so thank God for that. I'm glad to hear your business venture is a success.....long may it continue. Your best days are still ahead of you and it's only a matter of time when the "N" will show her true cours for all to see. Hang on in their and to your dreams and dream BIG.. It hurts, I know....we all know, but we are on the healing path now. Keep listening to Andrew and reaching out/reading the comments.....we have the support....we are not alone in our struggle. We all understand,. God bless 🙏
I was really never jealous of the new supply. Even though I was heart broken at the time I knew what he was going to get. She did not change for me, cheated on me, and I knew she was going to do the same to him in time.
Exactly 💯. Once a cheater always a cheater. The funny thing is now they cheat on each other. That's some kind of crazy train love I am so glad that I hopped off of. It's really sad when you think about it. People can have such little self love that they settle and accept being treated less than just so they aren't alone.
I really can sympathize with you Chris. Please never let her hoover you and come back because it sounds like early days and you still love her, but they don't change. I know from experience. Only 5 months later I caught him out with a person he met via work but because she jilted him he tried hoover me back. They are just about themselves. Narcs have no empathy, consideration, or remorse don't let her have the opportunity to get close to you again to give you another but even worse discard. Save yourself
@@zephyr187 I'm good, she left sixteen years ago and I moved on. I spent the summers in the gym, got a job making 10K a month, and I was getting alot of attention from females. She tried to sleep with when I went to see my kid and she was married to the NS. And she not to long had his kid from cheating with him. I got married to a very beautiful woman. We have a daughter. Last I heard the NS left here and filled restraining orders. Now she took him to court trying to get the house he paid for.I am laughing about it know because the Karma has come back on both of them.
@@chrismanning1171 wow Chris I'm so happy you are free then! Good for you about your rising from the ashes as Andrew calls it. I like to hear that Karma gets to narcs as it's the best lesson life could teach them without us normal good people having to get our hands dirty over such horrid behaviour from them. Maybe I can learn from you as I've been out my marriage almost 3 years and divorce was long and drawn out due to COVID and non cooperation from the narc I'm supposing as he was pissed at me that he didn't get to do the discard following his usual pattern. I'm just beginning to see my worth again now I'm out the fog. I'm also trying to improve my earning power and get my life to a point where I'm proud of myself again. I am not so great at going to the gym though but I'll get there if I don't worry I simply don't put weight on its fact for me. So I'll stay active and take your stunning example of being able to achieve such greatness and let karma continue to get to my ex too and never look back. Good on you Chris.
I would never want anyone to go through this. I dont think about the narcs sources. There is a mutual contact that can't be completely depleted. I have to hear from time to time about the narcs twisted plays of manipulation, for self gain, and playing the victim, the narcs innocent plot for sympathy. I love this tribe, and I love you back ,Andrew. Thank you, for this! 🥰❤💯🤟🌜🌠
Before things blew up a month ago, I often wondered what was going on or who he was texting until the early hours of the morning. Your video Andrew is always to the point and eye opening, thank you. They're not my competition....I'm not on social media so I don't care who they are? I'm more concerned with trying to heal and mend the bridges in my family. The "N" in my life blew up his family and divided us. Both my son's who live with me get it but my daughter who is married and has just recently had her new baby, is not talking to us but is in contact with her father. He knew how much I was looking forward to our new granddaughter arriving and now it's been weeks since I've seen her. That hurts so much, it's cruel and I will never be able to get that precious time back. He has made sure I don't get to see her. I hope in time that changes? So my focus is not on the new person because they are caught in the wb now of lies, deceit manipulation.....I feel sorry for them....I wouldn't wish this on anybody either Andrew. They've fine tuned their skills and it will only be a matter of time before they're dumped in the cruelest of ways. Thank God for this channel and wonderful subscribers. I'm so blessed to have found you all. We are not alone! Andrew thank you for all you're doing to help each and everyone of us, to come to terms with what we've been through and are still enduring. Healing slowly one day at a time. God bless us all. 🙏😊💛
Mine was alot less raging in the last month, but his phone behaviour was definitely odd. Glued to it and made me feel so ignored. I swear he was doing it on purpose. Constantly in his hand while I sat there like a 🍋
We love you too Andrew ! 🥰 This world needs more sincere, kind and authentic persons like you ! Thank you for being here for us and for being the beautiful humain being that you are 🙏😊 Have a nice weekend ☀️🌈💐☘️🌺🌸🌼
Thanks Andrew ✨️ Honestly, at first I had no idea what just happened when my husband brutally discarded me,when I realized he was grooming the secretary from his work and that she knew about me,I did think, "what the hell does he see in her?" Now I get it,it's just a source of energy for him. Because she knew he was married, I could care less what damage he causes in that situationship. Thanks for this video because this level of betrayal very painful
My ex was from Egypt. I saw all his Harem on FB. He said they were just friends. I was so trusting and looking forward to the holiday, which was and is known as the "shared fantasy". After I was discarded. But I had a kind of knot in my stomach about the old supply "Harem". I had a feeling they were a" back up. " But I did not know about NPD 9 months ago. I know for sure the Narc is back with some of them now. I try not to think about it now. But I say to all, please do not trust promises of vacations and a future after. Trust also your gut instinct, when the situation, is strange somehow. I wish I had just walked away earlier. Thank you Andrew, for your support to all. God bless.
The new supply was my 1st cousin I introduced him too while we were together I was naive and believed he would never disrespect and betray me on that level but I didn't know they were a narcissist just a messed up person but as I became aware of narcissists my both parents and immediate family are over run by them. Turns out my cousin is a narc and they were completely toxic worse than our relationship. I took him back after 6 years and he is worse than before and my cousin looks horrible she hasn't found better supply in nearly 2 years. Narcs are scum and they need to suffer quicker but I'm watching them self destroy and suffer silently.
💯🎯 Step back live your best life. In time they will self destruct and we will not be there to pick up the pieces. My prayer for you Crystal is that you find the strength to leave him again. They will never get better no matter how much we want them to, so it is better to move forward and leave them in the past. 🙏💪🕊️✨
I like that you use the term new supply and supply. Pretty much sums it up. Mine ended a couple years ago, but I didn't begin to heal til I found this channel. I wondered about the new supply just like you described it. But now, I don't think of any of them. Moving forward and healing. Your videos are always 100% spot on. Thank you for taking your time to do all of this, it's helped me so much.🌞🌻🌷
@@christine11347 Christine! You took the words out of my mouth! A while back I had asked in the comments about what would you do if you ran into them? Go gray rock, or what. Then after reading other people's comments and giving it some more thought, even though I probably would never say anything, in my heart, I truly am grateful. My heart would be screaming out thank you! It's so good I can laugh about it now. I laughed so hard when I read your comment. I listened to this video three times in a row I thought it was so good for me to hear. This channel, Andrew and everyone who comments have brought me along so far to the point where now I'm just glad to be out of it all and I can laugh again. 😅
@@donnahazlett7305 I feel the same way Donna laughter is so important. I love to watch this ventriloquist Jeff Dunham. He has this puppet Walter who did this great set on the joy of divorce. It just made me laugh because I could identify with everything he was saying about being in an unhealthy marriage. Unfortunately we had to experience being in one of these unhealthy marriages. We can either let it ruin the rest of our lives or we can put it in the past and move forward and thank God for the beautiful second chance that he has given all of us to know what it feels like to live happy and be free ❤️
I agree with you both....laughter is the best medicine and you have to find the humour in all of the pain. It helps to heal a broken heart and crushed spirit. God is good and has closed the door on our toxic relationships. What's done in the dark is brought to the light. And Andrew through his videos is that light. He is a shining example of goodness by helping us all to navigate our way through the pain - he has suffered so much too and despite all of that, he selflessly gives to this group, his wisdom and knowledge, educating us, encouraging us.....his goal for nobody else to suffer this abuse and to make them aware of all things narcissistic. To the rest of us who have endured and are still recovering from the pain, it's helping us to heal. I feel so blessed to be a part of this brave band of warriors, as we cry, laugh and heal together. God bless us all.🙏❤️☘️
Im away from the discard 9 months. Feeling better, loosen up the wasteload. Y beggin to see new things, landscapes and horizons possible. There is a new hope raising! Thanks Andrew.
The Narc kept his new supply as a friend for years behind my back after their relationship ended. He left me and went right to her house. Now he wants me to be his friend. Rinse,wash,repeat. No thank you!!!!
Let go of them......in your heart and mind. They never deserved you in the first place. Take back your power and do something nice for yourself. I feel the same way too. I gave and he took everything from me and destroyed and divided our family....I'm still hurting but one thing I've learned in the past month since joining the group, is that we are not alone. Keep watching the videos, they're so empowering. We need to work on ourselves. Life will reward us when we maintain our boundaries and go no contact. Stay strong...you can do this. We are all on the healing path together. God bless 🙏
As an empath I could see exactly what this poor person was getting ready to suffer from this total monster. She is a recovering addict and had already been in abusive relationships. He could care less he actually saw her as a target that he could control and manipulate. She is 24 yrs younger than him he is an old Narc. He mirrored this person and is now pretending to be a Christian because she was recovering through becoming a Christian. He is the farthest thing from a Christian ever. It's just so sick.
omg she posted that they're engaged. he must have propsed to her from jail. maybe she'll post his 10k cash bond for habitual DV charges? the last of which were incurred with me. this is so jarring she's the woman that brought him meth last year when he was in a mentsal health crisis and he had been clean for 14.5 years... great friend. I will wait till I have the money for a private session to share the rest. Needless to say this was timely thank you.
When things ended, I just wanted to be left alone in peace and quiet and what happened next was awful. Many of the flying monkeys turned against my ex and were eager to contact me to make an array of disgusting personal remarks about my ex's new partner's appearance in comparison to that of my own and also sent me images of her to back up their claims. I found the whole business very immature and very distasteful and as a way forward, I simply blocked the sensationalism with the awareness that my ex's new partner would also be mistreated. Thank you for the time and effort you dedicate and for this I am grateful. Stay blessed & sending you healing thoughts.
Good for you Jean it's best to block all of them and move forward leaving all of them in the past. Even to this day when anyone tries to bring something about the ex narc I stop them midstream and remind them that I am not interested in knowing.
@@christine11347 precisely, I just wanted to move forward without all of those pretenders and chaos makers and as you remarked recently God has given us a second chance and I couldn't agree more and I'm loving the life I have. ⚘
@@christine11347 last time I visited the zoo, I noticed a sign stating 'DO NOT FEED THE ANIMALS' and best course of action with those cheeky monkeys. Happy to know you're also enjoying the life we were given. Stay blessed.
After I left the Narcissist 9 months ,I did throught about the love supply but now since it as been 9 months now of completely no contact , don't care any more ,I have gotten stronger move on with my life but I know I still have healing to do . Thank you for all of your videos & everyone comments here below & blessed 🙏 you all here & I Hoped you & everyone here have a wonderful blessed evening / night .🙏
@@primaveraprimavera2415 primates, thanks I'm feeling really calm and my little guy is asleep at my feet as always, I have no idea where he had him but it's clear he was missing his safe home. Thanks for your beautiful words I just love the support this channel is giving me. 🇦🇺
I never thought of the new supply but I can say I will feel sorry for them I'm to busy living my life narcissis free thank God 🙏👍 Andrew and survivors and thrivers 🙏🦋
I warned the new supply when I found out she already groomed him for marriage. So years after the divorced I spoke to him again and I had another warning for him. She was hoovering me and she would call me complaining about how bad he was treating her hoping I would listen to her. I ignored her and kept it about my kid with her. When I spoke to him I told him before you hit 10 years of marriage you better divorce her before she gets your retirement. Well some years later found out that he left her and filled restraining orders against her. Also found out that she took him to court to get the house that he most likely paid for. Karma is a bitch because I told him that she only wanted him for a military ID card and to stay out of my marriage. Life got better for me in time once he distracted the Narc so I could escape.
Thank you andrew I learn so much more every time I watch your videos. My narcs new supply works in the same work place. Go figure!!! It makes me so sick. Ican not even look his way at all it makes me literally sick. He is keeping it close lol. I'm happy he has to get so tired putting those masks on again. Ty
Enjoy your drive and listen to music that makes you happy. Sometimes the distraction and change of scenery helps us feel better and refocus our energy 🙏💪🕊️✨
So much for a drive because gas costs $4.60 a gallon. So I stayed home. At this point I'm grateful to have a home, semi country home. Thank you all for reminding me I'm still alive. Thank you.
I have thought about the new supply, even on the day we got married he invalidated me, however, I am finding out, I never gave him my heart (instinctively I knew it wasn't safe) so he never had that power, I always thought about his next victim and it is one of the reasons I stayed as long, because I didn't want him to treat the next one the way he treated me (there was a previous victim and I know how he treated her).....Now I have let that go....I can't be responsible for him or his victims, I am still keeping an sharp eye out for our daughters though....
Supply is a fine term to use in my opinion because that's all we are to them, but would also enjoy hearing any other terms you may come up with of course. Mine had a whole secret sex life and had no business manipulating me and ensnaring me. These people are sick in the head. They are twisted and do not change. And thoroughly enjoy it. It amuses them. They are just built different. It's all a game. It's all an act/masks. No empathy. People are just toys for them. I can no longer run from the truth. I must face the truth that I am powerless to change them. I say no to chaos today and say yes to healthy and to me.
Thanks, Andrew! 👍🏼 Well stated! 👍🏼The new supply/supplies were already a factor...had not been shy about inserting themselves into the situation. I regularly prayed for the new supply, asking our loving Creator to give much-needed strength and insights. My thoughts: Supply is a great term because it says it like it is for the narcissist which helps expedite healing. Using the term "supply" stops the would have, could have, should have thinking. The term is full-blown reality that we need to face. I encourage the use of this now standardized term. 🙏 🌞 🕯 🌞 🙏
Looking back while with the narcissist I wasted so much time, money, energy and lots of love . Post Narc I just realized I’m wasting time and energy. I am letting him still robbed me of things and he doesn’t even know it or would he care . I don’t give much thought to the new supply he’s had so many , Sometimes I just cannot get over how he has moved on so quickly , absolutely nothing seems to phase them especially the pain they put you through . The new supply was probably all of us at one time . We were a new supplies just in a different time for however long it lasted .. Have a blessed Sunday ! That would be a great topic how actually we were new supplies . A reminder post narc is doing what he did during our relationship ….
I am so conditioned to feel bad about anything I say, that now I feel like I need to explain that my ex-narc found his new supply while we were still unhappily married. She knew he was married, and actually called his Lawyer, on his behalf, the morning after he raged and left us. Karma is a gift from the universe. PEACE.
The new supply is a narcissist too. Just happened few days ago as a betrayal and did hit me hard tbh,but I'm grateful to be out of this insane relationship. Appreciate your wise words and love your channel, helps me a lot! Helps me to realize what was happening to me and why I let this to happen.
After now 18 months into my healing (thankyou Andrew x) I still often wonder whether he had other supplys while he was with me, either on the phone or in person, I used to wonder while we were together, my gut told me yes but my mind said no,,,now thinking back I could never put my finger on anything...........this ALONE should have been a red flag, has anyone else wondered the same when they were with their SO?
Mine had an ex and loads of random Facebook options. He even had his daughters friends mum inboxing him. He went with a woman from a dating app during one of my discards. Left her on his Facebook when he hoovered me. She was writing on his posts still. I asked if he met anyone. He was like no 😇😇 I've not had sex at.... so I message her. How do you know Mr narky? You've appeared on his Facebook and he's never mentioned you..... she said.... we met on tinder and we've met up a few times. I stayed over at his but he decided he didn't want a relationship. I was like wow!!!! He really was a cocky so and so
I cannot even begin to feel sorry for his new supply wife. She was stupid enough to believe his lies, hook, line and sinker. At least she's the reason he doesn't have to rely so hard on my girls for help doing the simplest of tasks anymore. She should be old enough to know more about life than she obviously does. :-) :-)
I have thought "I wonder who they are ensnaring next?" But ultimately I don't give a rats ass because anyone involved with them on more than a superficial level is going to have a very crappy draining and horrible experience. These types ruin lives and enjoy it. And you know exactly what you're talking about with this info, Andrew. And you present it with perfect real world examples which make it easy to grasp and sink in.
You asked to drop a comment. The new supply was my narc going back to his old supply. It was such a toxic situation. I can’t believe his Ex took him back after all the emotional abuse and how toxic their relationship is.
Thank you Andrew, I left the narcissist romantic partner 7 months now. I'm Really addicted to your coaching. The moment I get sad I realize I need my daily dosage of Vitamin A(ndrew). I stop everything to catch-up, and then my day just get better.
Again, your delivery is unmatched. Thank you.. You are just too COOL. [Chuckles.] Keep your own healing moving forward. Your pain, your acquired knowledge, and depth of want by sharing to help many that have been blind and hurt so.. comes through directly of your being... I feel that you were hurt and getting stronger and stronger. You are aware and armed. YAaaH! " )
I thanked them both. When they broke up he tried to get me back. Lol. I said no didn’t I thank y’all both. Y’all should have to stay together and make each other miserable. I’m just here reviewing lessons learned. Unfortunately I’m too sick to enjoy much of the life I have left. I do try though. I have given up on meeting anyone for a year now. When I got free I was looking for information on narcissist there was none. I did see a video of a 72 year old man beating his wife. The police came she was afraid to file charges. They don’t change and I don’t want to be tricked again. I know they are miserable bc they are evil. A perfect match. 😂. Thanks for the review. I thank God Almighty for the problems I do not have.
Mine discarded me because he was seeing her the entire time we were together. Turns out, she is his ex friends, drug addicted wife. While I was being dumped, she was getting arrested...again .. for drugs. It's taken me some time to realize that he uses likely using drugs with her, or wants someone to rescue. I felt HORRIBLE about myself, thinking I wasn't good enough, yet, this person is. As you mention, Andrew, he most certainly has other supplies and was lining them up the whole time, too. I always felt like something was wrong, always walking on eggshells and anxious and thinking it was me because of abandonment issues. But my abandonment issues are exactly why he preyed upon me. I take comfort in knowing he is never going to change, never going to treat anyone the right way, and never going to find the peace he is seeking through others. Much love to everyone on your journey to Healing! We got this😃✌💞
My covert narcissist husband left me suddenly 5 months ago. He moved out of our house into an expensive apartment. I knew he'd instantly go find new supply, but what he told me yesterday was really beyond what I thought he'd do: he has a gay male friend of his moving into his apartment with him next week, on what would have been our 6th anniversary!! I've already spent two hours processing this in my journal this morning. He has again hooked me into feeling angry, shocked, and emotional now, when I was doing so well until he told me this. There's so much more to this story, but the fact that his new supply is a gay guy who is moving in with him next week really has my head exploding!
Insidious is correct andrew I no longer feel anything more upset with myself for letting them get away with it for the duration I spent in the fog and the abuse outrageous I feel fortunate it doesn’t bother me to even find out who the supply is I’m staying well away I have washed my hands completely I don’t even want her to get hit by a bus seriously I just don’t feel anything for anything about the narc time is the healer and change and of course the education from your videos has made me understand but so correct brother I am 95% ther feeling positive it’s never to late to start again but sort yourself out first I could not and wonder why I put myself through all of the carry on sending happy vibes and thinking you brother ✌🏽😎
When I left the narc I didn't care much about the other supplies he had anymore, I just wanted to be out of there. Down the line a little bit I did wonder if he was happy with someone else but then thinking about it he was never lasting in any of his relationships he had prior to me so I figured I had absolutely nothing to worry about because I knew he was going to destroy the other supplies too and any other supplies he gets new but now that he's passed away, I still feel like him being dead isn't enough for me and I don't know why.
I took a "trifecta" view of my situation once I'd weighed the evidence: 1) Initial guilt over "unleashing" such a dark predator into the outside world; while they were still here, to an extent I could mitigate some of the damage they generated, but once they exploded out the door, it was like watching a monster devour prey... then... 2) Since the trash took itself out, I evolved to "thank" the new supply for carting it away...aided at least in part by my Dr insisting "she is a victim too." I recoiled at that, because the new supply relished in pouring gasoline on the legal confrontation I was involved in against the narc. The new supply was essentially what is referred to as a "lesser narc." Good. Now you two can shred each other!!! 3) The 2 of them created chaos & confrontational upheaval everywhere, including courts & police... behaved like gutter trash looking for a fight at every turn, dressed like street trash. It didn't take long for police to realize they were being played: ***THE QUICKEST WAY TO PISS OFF A COP IS TO ATTEMPT TO MANIPULATE & LIE TO THEM!!! COURTS DON'T LIKE IT EITHER!!!*** It took about a year for reality to "sink in" to the legal arm, but slowly, some officers & judges started pushing back on THEM... & DEFENDING ME!!! The massive turning point centered on their being busted using the new supply's retarded son as bait to harass me: State Police JUMPED into that, delivering an ultimatum to both of them: ***CEASE IMMEDIATELY OR A 6x9!!!*** They tried to use the kid to get around the STAY-AWAY ORDER & it didn't work.... I KNOW the narc is pillaging the kid's drugs &/or selling them, mocking the kid behind his mother's back, manipulating money & anything else the narc decides today they want... And...what makes her think that narc won't "light her up" they same way BOTH OF THEM tried to burn me to the ground??? It's NOT AN IF... IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME... ***BUT IT'S COMING...*** 🖤
The new supply was a neighbor who lived up the street who knew he was in a relationship. She has no family so she can dote on him- but I’m sure he will do the same thing to her that he did to me.
Very true about that Andrew. I would have loved to know that before but hey i learn every day and with you i am learning so much. She did get a new boy friend and it didn`t last because she found someone just like her. I am very happy that it is ended. The only problem i have his the way she threat the kids and the kids are tired and the less they see her the more they like it. She can`t even acknowledged the way she talk and act around them. So thank you again for your video. They are a great help and i know in a year i will be at a very good step in my life.
@@denisguay4315 That's all we can do Denis. Having one healthy parent who loves and supports them is enough to keep them moving forward in a positive direction 🙏🕊️💪✨
God doesn't like ugly people! He left a diamond 💎 to polish a rock! In my case I caught him cheating on me with the new supply! I'm aware and awake, empowered... Education is key and my silence is golden! Again I love you 💞 Namaste 🙏
Everyone has already said it all. U r beautiful soul and man. U have turned your traumatized experience into intoxicating help 2 others. U educate people in a kind thoughtful way. U r shaping generations of people how to prevent themselves from coming under the narcs as their supply. How the narc effects their supply. U are an trusted authority that tackles the hard questions and offers relevant advice and advice how to get out of abuse. This cultivation of a an firm foundation of freedom and preservation of adulthood’s. U challenge us to lay down what is fake for what is real relationship. U r making an unique contribution into breaking the trauma bond and the return into an sponsored healing path. Offering insight into mind of narcs functionality. Your heart ♥️ truly involved in welfare and well-being of others.
I been noticing I fell in love with the beauty of the flowers. Other people have too , it's very theraputic. , It makes me feel like I can be privileged enugh to see them . And love . It there made perfect by god! .thanks 💜
I'm glad there's channels . We can self help . Glad the internet is usefull for something educational . Oh other channels I watch are geared for me I love that . You self helpers on tube are a blessing for all of us . !
The new supply im so happy for him or her.When that narcissist is finished with you, not even Psychiatrist can get uh betta.That time I'm fully recovered, as I'm half way already.Amen.Thank you Andrew.Hail Up from Jamaica One love same way. 💕💕🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏🙏
This is a very timely and helpful video. I know the new supply. It was a casual friend that the Narc and I hung out with and others over the Summer. I believe she is also a Narc. I believe this supply was in progress prior to my relationship dissolving as you had mentioned in other videos. It truly has been a challenge as I have had to change my activities and friends to avoid them. Super painful, but realize it is also a train wreck in the making. It helps to know that he does not love her either. But I wonder… there could be a level of relational success when 2 Narcs merge? Thank you Andrew. You have been instrumental in my healing journey that is in progress.
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My ❤️ sincerely goes out to anyone who has been recently discarded and is still within the trauma bond. During this stage the thought of the new supply is gut wrenching and soul crushing. During this time feel it all the anger, sadness, emptiness, so you can release it and move forward. As Andrew said the new supply is just that supply. The narc needs them to reenergize themselves and survive. It doesn't last in the way you think and the happy pictures they post on social media are not real. They are meant to get you upset and make you buy into their false reality. This is why it is so important to make sure you don't look, block them and go no contact.
In time when you are well along on your healing path you actually see the new supply for what they were. SUPPLY. You become grateful that they took the narcs attention off of you. This is exactly what you want! You need this time without the distraction of the narc to focus on you and your healing.
Now when I think of the new supply 6 months later I feel absolutely NOTHING. We all must reach a point where we move forward and accept that who the narc spends their time with going forward is none of our business. It's truly not. The relationship was toxic and in the past. Don't let it consume any of your energy in the present. Let them live their life and you move forward and continue to lead your new life narc free in peace and happiness. Take pride in knowing that with this education you will never allow yourself to be anyone's supply again.
Great video Andrew. It reminds us that the light continues to shine brighter as we move forward out of the darkness. 💯💪😊🕊️
Christine, thank you so much…I have met some very caring souls, like you, on this channel . I appreciate your comforting words so much! 🥰
You are so right. Thank you for your valuable words. So true.
YES! In time, you won't even think about any of it. I walked around outside, on this beautiful windy day (here) and realized I'd been *smiling and singing*. I realized that I hadn't thought about anything that had happened. HA! Soo.. I set all the outside trash cans, or what could be used as such, and began chunking all the trash he'd left all over my backyard. BOY did that felt Awesome!
Thank you for your comments.
@@vickery8205 You're welcome. I agree this community is full of caring beautiful people that get it ❤️
Let's all remember, at one point WE were the new supply. My heart and prayers go out to anyone who has the unfortunate situation of being "new supply". The only thing I thought of concerning the new supply is that I wish I could have warned them. It's terrible to think about what they will go through.
THANK YOU VERY, VERY MUCH TO ALL THE NEW SUPPLIES OF THE NARCS, YOU NOW CARRY MY BAGGAGE. FELLOW SURVIVORS, LET'S MOVE ON, A LOT OF NICE PEOPLE OUT THERE. THANK YOU, SIR ANDREW FOR THIS EDUCATING VIDEO. 💖💙💜💚❤
Love this...you now carry my baggage. To the new supply thank you for taking the weight off my shoulders and lightening my load.
I haven't laughed this hard in a long time as I'm laughing this evening reading people's comments! My sentiments exactly.
@@donnahazlett7305 It's truly beautiful reading the comments and seeing how far so many of come along their healing paths. It's great when you get to the point when you can laugh about it and say I really just don't care. In the words of the great Ray Charles Hit the road Jack and don't you come back no more no more 💪😂🤣
@@christine11347 Your comments have me cracking up tonight. I found the videos on marriage by Jeff Dunham. I'm watching one right now. It's funny.
I am so thankful for people like you, Andrew, who raise awareness and supply people with the knowledge about Narcissists. I an aged and looking back can see how my life was riddled wit Narcissists. It was my faith in Christ that kept me strong all these years
My ex-narc got his new supply, married her, and then blew up her life. He took her down like a gazelle on the plains. She had a doctorate in teaching and was a school principal. Now, she spends her days alone, sewing-really sad. Oh, the only reason I know this is that the blow up was on tv on the news-yes, it was that bad! Glad I'm out for years now and healed. I come back for a booster shot every now and then. He emailed me 5 years after he married her-I ignored it and laughed.
Wow this sounds so similar to what's happening with my kids narc father & his new supply!
Narcissistic abuse does take you down on every level. Emotionally, financially, physically, spirituality and on and on. I would never wish that on anyone. So thankful to be away from all narcissists and their abuse and on the healing path. Almost to the top of the mountain and reaching indifference. I love being on this healing journey. We will all get there. Love to everyone 💕
The most difficult things to heal from in a narcissistic entanglement are the profound betrayal by the narcissist and the fact that time is one of our most precious resources that was stolen by the Narc & we can never have it back.
Yes , time stolen from us is no fun . Diana Ross , said I will survive.l
Yes , time stolen from us is no fun . Diana Ross , said I will survive.l
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He's right, every new supply gets treated worse and worse until you're discarded of and labelled "crazy". I saw who the new supply was..it was gut wrenching but i know the patterns of "nice, lovey" photos online...we had those every time something went horribly wrong that no one saw, so i can only imagine the termoil he's put them through. I'm thankful to be out of there and honestly..i don't think about it anymore but i hope the new supply got out too and is ok.
I agree 💯 so thankful to be out.
My ex husband's new supply just got trapped today and she doesn't know it. YET.... They got married after knowing each other less than a year....
@@flamingsword777 That fits the pattern. Gotta get them tied down before the mask slips too much. I did same thing. Thought a year was enough. Thought at 50 I knew a thing or two. Nope.
@@lisaryckman22 I am so sorry for what you've dealt with, Lisa.... You're right though. She thinks she hit the lottery... What's ironic about this is that she us supposedly a ghost and demon hunter but yet cant see what's right in front of her... He told her on the very first date that he had feelings for her (they met on Tinder 2 weeks after I left) and she friend zoned him.
@@lisaryckman22 they just got married today as a matter of fact. Lol 😆
I know who the new supply is!! She’s a former friend of mine and current neighbor!!! She’s a recent and wealthy widow and a prime target for a narcissist!!
I’ve already lived through she’s experiencing now or will experience in the near future.
I still pray she opens her eyes to see who and what he is or her family who lives close will see.
I’m still triggered at times but fewer times and it takes a shorter time to get out of it.
The new supply joined the Narc in destroying me because they were being live bombed at the time. Now she’s getting her karma for how she treated me…oh how the tables turned😆 I’m just glad she did what she did to me in order for me to escape the toxic Narc. The discard ended up being the biggest blessing of my life! There’s life after the Narcissist. Just focus on your healing process and move forward! 💪😊🙏💗
🙏 Amen Paula I agree 💯. Life is so much better knowing we will never be anyone's supply again 💪💪
Yep! The new supply will eventually figure it out. The fact that the narcissist is the evil one. Not the previous supply. Then they will know that the old supply is in fact the lucky one that got away from the evil entity. They will be very envious of you then !!!!!
@@primaveraprimavera2415 That is so strange because I was thinking the same exact thing today on my walk. The new supply only knows the lies the Narc told them about us but when they see how amazingly happy and glowing we are without the Narc then they realize something doesn't match up. I agree once they see that they realize that you are in fact the lucky one for getting away. Life is so much better when you are no one's supply. Life is meant to be spent and enjoyed with the ones we love and love us for the person we are not the ones who wear a mask to trick and dupe us. One leads to a connection that is sustainable for a lifetime of happiness the other leads to an attachment that is doomed from the start. This is why it is so important to take time to heal so we can know the difference.❤️
@@christine11347 it is a really surreal experience with the narcissist. You love them but they pretend to love you. It’s heartbreaking at first when you realise that they don’t see you as a person who is special to them. You could be anyone. It’s horrible. So glad I am long gone. I celebrate that fact every day. We have to be so careful who we give our heart to! I didn’t understand it at the time. But something was off! All the best to you Christine 🌟
@@primaveraprimavera2415 I agree with everything you said 💯. It is surreal and horrible. We do have to be careful, but with self love, inner peace and trusting yourself you know who belongs in your life and who does not. I remember a few months out thinking how could I ever trust that someone would never cheat on me again. After a lot of inner work though you realize that if someone is going to cheat they are not the right person for you anyway. When you have a connection that is reciprocated and continues to grow and deepen with each passing day you would never want to do anything to jeopardize the beautiful gift by being anything less than 💯 faithful. Narcs don't look at it like that however. They look at you as supply that they can dominate and control in a one sided relationship where you give your all and they give nothing. It's when you start to pull back on the supply or are to beaten down to give anymore that they cheat. It's disgusting and has no place in any of our lives. We all deserve to be treated as the amazing treasures we are. For anyone that doesn't recognize that then look at it as them doing you a favor by leaving because with them gone you can move forward and find the happiness you truly deserve. ❤️
I haven’t reached the ‘I don’t care’ attitude yet….I’m even ashamed to say I feel jealous at times. I know that sounds crazy! But I’m working on it and looking forward to feeling indifferent. Thank you!
you are not crazy, you just unhealed
Understandable
You are not crazy and it's 💯 perfectly normal.
@@sll110 thank you 🙏
@@kimalonzo3363 thanks so much 🙏
I’ll never forget that first time I saw the mask slip. My teddy bear revealed he is a Pitt bull. I was dumbfounded. Saw it creep up with service people over and over…in stores, restaurants, on phone, etc. We were building a house and people said they refused to return as they couldn’t stand the way he talked to his father. None of this came to light until after the wedding. I feel like I thought I married “ABC” but in reality got “XYZ”. Does that ring true for others?
There was always a new supply that was hidden from me. The one that wasnt hidden, she told me how wonderful he was and how much better than me he was ect....ect... After 3 months she left him and went to a different country. Keep to the high road , stay silent and have faith you are on the right path. Everything the narcissist does is destructive and hurtful, not just to you, to everyone they come in contact with. I knew I was healing because I feel bad for the new supply. I would never wish anyone to go through something like narcissistic abuse. I dont think there is a worse way to treat a person.
If you have kids by that narcissist, then there probably is no avoiding the new supply. Especially, during times like graduations, birthdays, etc. In which case, that narcissist might intentionally create a uncomfortable situation for you just to try and get a reaction out of you.
Knowledge about Narcissists should be taught in school to children! It could help young people to be aware of such people. Nowadays I can spot them easily in my every day life
The narc I knew discarded me for a an older rich person/fan, and made a big public show out of displaying the new person, probably wanting to demonstrate how "normal" they are, able to "move on" quickly and with a person who "really loves them" (aka: supplies them with money, Status, and adoration). It was comical: the narcissist and the fixer/healer who would "change" the narc with their "unconditional love". Block. Delete. Laugh. When you know what the narc "show" ingredients are, you send kind compassion to the new supply and continue living your life in peace and quiet contentment. The term "gold digger" is certainly gender-neutral, and the narc "sugar baby" taught me that! 😆😆😆
Its funny they pump and prance, thinking their the shit, but their dedication to a pretentious reality is a joke to all. Yet they are humored by thinking those around them approve of the vast special attraction they have. Many obligated by business or social desires. Country clubs are narc meets. Never was, could have easily been, but never needed the validation of such hollow people who endure the pain and agony of having to drive out of narcclub back into Normalville. So sad...
I think we need to realize the entire
relationship, the drama it created and the
aftermath has nothing to do with us. It was all about them, what they wanted & needed. I just pray he brings harm to no one else.
Well said.
Well, after two days of driving (960 miles) I'm back in Southern CA. That's how far my narcissist is away now. Texted that I got here safe. Told her I hoped she found what she was looking for. That lead to a conversation.......the results of which were expected with what I've learned. Just confirms it. Time to cut the cord for good. Still painful. New life starts tomorrow.
Thanks again Andrew..... I've got a ways to go.
good luck!! you got this!!!
This is truth. Ty for sharing
“I flat out don’t care.” - Andrew
Those are words spoke. From someone who is healed...❣️
God bless you and your work, Andrew...🙏🏻 the world
Is a better place because of you!
🌟💫🙌🏻💪🙏🏻♥️😢
It’s been 40 years of marriage …..and a number of new supplies - that I did not know about - and found out about all at the same time! A number of years after the fact(s). Shocked and heartbroken. I realized I have no clue who this person really is.
Thank you for sharing this Barbara 🙏💯🙌
I am well on the path. I wake every morning and think "Better HER then ME"! Believe me, I know it's not cool, but he's her problem now. PEACE.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
Thank you Andrew, I can't even begin to explain on how much your channel has helped me through these dark times, including everyone else's comments too. When my wife isolated me for the majority of 2021, I think that this must have been one of the, if not, the most lonely and rock bottom places of my timeline on this earth and as for spending 29 years of my life with her, I can now reflect back on everything that I tolerated, I really didn't know any better about narcissism way back then, there was times that she was so cruel, especially with words, but she was so covert on so many levels that I ignored the red flags... There was one time I must admit that I was considering on calling off our wedding back in 1999 where I had spent an entire year fixing up our newly bought flat (apartment)... At that time she was working in her own job and was earning almost double on what I was taking home as a wage in my business, I paid the mortgage and all the stuff to decorate and I also did everything to the place and once or twice per week she'd visit to see the progress, while I worked on it. While I was working on the place she would tell me to get the kettle on and make her a coffee while she would pick out faults and talk about her wedding dress etc. tell me she was hungry and to phone for a Chinese takeaway, where I would go into town and collect... Sometimes, things that she said would hurt, but that was always covered up by "can't you take a joke?" The nail in the coffin back then was when she had phones me at my work, telling me that she was in the flat... What had happened was that the living room was the last room to finish i.e. it needed wallpaper and it was about three weeks until the wedding, but my wife couldn't decide on anything and kept putting it off, but telling me to hurry up... Thinking that she was stressed about the wedding, I took it on myself to buy wallpaper and I did an entire nightshift over the weekend to get it finished, I was exhausted and almost broke, so she phoned me at my work and said "Oh I see you got the living room finished" thinking that she would be delighted with it, her words were... "Me and my Mum had a good laugh at it, you'll be taking that off and changing it asap"... This absolutely crushed me and the following evening I went to see her and told her that I was having second thoughts because I don't want to go through my life being treated like this... She absolutely flipped out (I know, this was the red flag) but I was young and in love... She came to see me with her Mum at my parent's house the next evening and she put on the tears etc. and told me that she was so stressed out about the wedding, but she had done similar things like this before, I just didn't see them the way I do now, it was always hot and cold, almost from the beginning... After we got married it took over three months and a fight to get her to contribute anything towards the household bills and she kept saying "But that's my money"... Over the years I can certainly say that it got worse, way worse, but somewhere and somehow I just seemed to go into some autopilot mode and of coarse, thinking on having children would have brought us closer, when actually that was me closing the prison door and locking it, I'd never change the kids for anything because they're my absolute world... I'm pretty much convinced that she has a new supply and it's a work colleague, nothing would ever be spoken about her work and last year I noticed a lot of changes, her laugh, when with the kids had even changed, but I've never confronted her and to be honest, good luck to her or the new supply if there is one... The worry I have right now is our children, they are sick that I'm not there and they aren't even being fed properly, they tell me this... My Daughter sent me a good morning message at 4:41pm today and that her mum didn't wake her, no breakfast, no lunch, nothing, she also told me that her mum doesn't care about her etc.... I spoke with my Son tonight on facetime and he told me that his mum has been on her phone since this morning non stop in the living room and now our Daughter isn't speaking to her either... I really worry for them, but as my Mum told me about my wife... "give her enough rope and she'll hang herself" btw, that's a saying in Scotland that she'll show her true colours and shoot herself in the foot... On a good note, I've just launched my new business, it's early days yet, but I just finished a short production film for a client for my portfolio and they are absolutely delighted and it's gaining traction online already, it took me a lot of effort to get through the editing because of everything going on, but I pulled it off and it really lifted my spirits, and felt appreciated too! So hopefully this will be the start to healing now... Once again I apologise for a long rant, but hope that it helps others through their journey too. Bless
I get it.. You weren't appreciated or loved or respected. You spent your life with a selfish jerk. I'm sorry you're one of us...You're worried about your kids now...keep talking to them and document everything. Try to get them legally if you can (report her neglect) but just having you to talk to will help them so much. Sounds like your mom is supportive and you're moving forward with your work. Good things are ahead. Life is hard. Praying you find a way to help your kids and forgive this woman (for your sake). It does feel good to know you're not the only one who's been through this kind of thing on this channel and you are not alone but what you do next is important for you and the kids. They need you to help them. Document/journal and report her. Hopefully get them with you or your mom. ❤🙏
What a nightmare. Remember the core of who you are....a kind, decent and honest person, who only wants the best for other people. Unfortunately, like us all here, we did our very best and our love and respect was abused. Your children are very lucky to have a Dad like you, who is invested in them and it's good that they are able to talk to you. Yes I agree, keep records of everything, dates etc that they tell you......it's evidence if you need to act on things....you have a lovely supportive mum, so thank God for that. I'm glad to hear your business venture is a success.....long may it continue. Your best days are still ahead of you and it's only a matter of time when the "N" will show her true cours for all to see. Hang on in their and to your dreams and dream BIG.. It hurts, I know....we all know, but we are on the healing path now. Keep listening to Andrew and reaching out/reading the comments.....we have the support....we are not alone in our struggle. We all understand,. God bless 🙏
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I was really never jealous of the new supply. Even though I was heart broken at the time I knew what he was going to get. She did not change for me, cheated on me, and I knew she was going to do the same to him in time.
Exactly 💯. Once a cheater always a cheater. The funny thing is now they cheat on each other. That's some kind of crazy train love I am so glad that I hopped off of. It's really sad when you think about it. People can have such little self love that they settle and accept being treated less than just so they aren't alone.
@@christine11347 So true!
I really can sympathize with you Chris. Please never let her hoover you and come back because it sounds like early days and you still love her, but they don't change. I know from experience. Only 5 months later I caught him out with a person he met via work but because she jilted him he tried hoover me back. They are just about themselves. Narcs have no empathy, consideration, or remorse don't let her have the opportunity to get close to you again to give you another but even worse discard. Save yourself
@@zephyr187 I'm good, she left sixteen years ago and I moved on. I spent the summers in the gym, got a job making 10K a month, and I was getting alot of attention from females. She tried to sleep with when I went to see my kid and she was married to the NS. And she not to long had his kid from cheating with him. I got married to a very beautiful woman. We have a daughter. Last I heard the NS left here and filled restraining orders. Now she took him to court trying to get the house he paid for.I am laughing about it know because the Karma has come back on both of them.
@@chrismanning1171 wow Chris I'm so happy you are free then! Good for you about your rising from the ashes as Andrew calls it. I like to hear that Karma gets to narcs as it's the best lesson life could teach them without us normal good people having to get our hands dirty over such horrid behaviour from them. Maybe I can learn from you as I've been out my marriage almost 3 years and divorce was long and drawn out due to COVID and non cooperation from the narc I'm supposing as he was pissed at me that he didn't get to do the discard following his usual pattern. I'm just beginning to see my worth again now I'm out the fog. I'm also trying to improve my earning power and get my life to a point where I'm proud of myself again. I am not so great at going to the gym though but I'll get there if I don't worry I simply don't put weight on its fact for me. So I'll stay active and take your stunning example of being able to achieve such greatness and let karma continue to get to my ex too and never look back. Good on you Chris.
I would never want anyone to go through this. I dont think about the narcs sources. There is a mutual contact that can't be completely depleted. I have to hear from time to time about the narcs twisted plays of manipulation, for self gain, and playing the victim, the narcs innocent plot for sympathy. I love this tribe, and I love you back ,Andrew. Thank you, for this! 🥰❤💯🤟🌜🌠
WHERE EVER YOU GO ANDREW SPREAD YOUR WINGS AND FLY BABY FLY
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Before things blew up a month ago, I often wondered what was going on or who he was texting until the early hours of the morning. Your video Andrew is always to the point and eye opening, thank you. They're not my competition....I'm not on social media so I don't care who they are? I'm more concerned with trying to heal and mend the bridges in my family. The "N" in my life blew up his family and divided us. Both my son's who live with me get it but my daughter who is married and has just recently had her new baby, is not talking to us but is in contact with her father. He knew how much I was looking forward to our new granddaughter arriving and now it's been weeks since I've seen her. That hurts so much, it's cruel and I will never be able to get that precious time back. He has made sure I don't get to see her. I hope in time that changes? So my focus is not on the new person because they are caught in the wb now of lies, deceit manipulation.....I feel sorry for them....I wouldn't wish this on anybody either Andrew. They've fine tuned their skills and it will only be a matter of time before they're dumped in the cruelest of ways. Thank God for this channel and wonderful subscribers. I'm so blessed to have found you all. We are not alone! Andrew thank you for all you're doing to help each and everyone of us, to come to terms with what we've been through and are still enduring. Healing slowly one day at a time. God bless us all. 🙏😊💛
Mine was alot less raging in the last month, but his phone behaviour was definitely odd. Glued to it and made me feel so ignored. I swear he was doing it on purpose. Constantly in his hand while I sat there like a 🍋
We love you too Andrew ! 🥰
This world needs more sincere, kind and authentic persons like you !
Thank you for being here for us and for being the beautiful humain being that you are 🙏😊
Have a nice weekend ☀️🌈💐☘️🌺🌸🌼
Thanks Andrew ✨️
Honestly, at first I had no idea what just happened when my husband brutally discarded me,when I realized he was grooming the secretary from his work and that she knew about me,I did think, "what the hell does he see in her?" Now I get it,it's just a source of energy for him. Because she knew he was married, I could care less what damage he causes in that situationship. Thanks for this video because this level of betrayal very painful
My ex was from Egypt. I saw all his Harem on FB. He said they were just friends. I was so trusting and looking forward to the holiday, which was and is known as the "shared fantasy". After I was discarded. But I had a kind of knot in my stomach about the old supply "Harem". I had a feeling they were a" back up. " But I did not know about NPD 9 months ago. I know for sure the Narc is back with some of them now. I try not to think about it now. But I say to all, please do not trust promises of vacations and a future after. Trust also your gut instinct, when the situation, is strange somehow. I wish I had just walked away earlier. Thank you Andrew, for your support to all. God bless.
That goes away with time 🥳When you realize they did you a favor by leaving! 👍😁❤
The new supply was my 1st cousin I introduced him too while we were together I was naive and believed he would never disrespect and betray me on that level but I didn't know they were a narcissist just a messed up person but as I became aware of narcissists my both parents and immediate family are over run by them. Turns out my cousin is a narc and they were completely toxic worse than our relationship. I took him back after 6 years and he is worse than before and my cousin looks horrible she hasn't found better supply in nearly 2 years. Narcs are scum and they need to suffer quicker but I'm watching them self destroy and suffer silently.
💯🎯 Step back live your best life. In time they will self destruct and we will not be there to pick up the pieces. My prayer for you Crystal is that you find the strength to leave him again. They will never get better no matter how much we want them to, so it is better to move forward and leave them in the past. 🙏💪🕊️✨
Thank you for sharing this Crystal 💯🙌🙏💪
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I like that you use the term new supply and supply. Pretty much sums it up. Mine ended a couple years ago, but I didn't begin to heal til I found this channel. I wondered about the new supply just like you described it. But now, I don't think of any of them. Moving forward and healing. Your videos are always 100% spot on. Thank you for taking your time to do all of this, it's helped me so much.🌞🌻🌷
I honestly feel at this point if the new supply was standing in front of me and I had to say two words they would be THANK YOU!.
@@christine11347 Christine! You took the words out of my mouth! A while back I had asked in the comments about what would you do if you ran into them? Go gray rock, or what. Then after reading other people's comments and giving it some more thought, even though I probably would never say anything, in my heart, I truly am grateful. My heart would be screaming out thank you! It's so good I can laugh about it now. I laughed so hard when I read your comment. I listened to this video three times in a row I thought it was so good for me to hear. This channel, Andrew and everyone who comments have brought me along so far to the point where now I'm just glad to be out of it all and I can laugh again. 😅
@@donnahazlett7305 I feel the same way Donna laughter is so important. I love to watch this ventriloquist Jeff Dunham. He has this puppet Walter who did this great set on the joy of divorce. It just made me laugh because I could identify with everything he was saying about being in an unhealthy marriage. Unfortunately we had to experience being in one of these unhealthy marriages. We can either let it ruin the rest of our lives or we can put it in the past and move forward and thank God for the beautiful second chance that he has given all of us to know what it feels like to live happy and be free ❤️
@@christine11347 I agree! I like Jeff Dunham, I'm going to Google that on my phone and see if I can find it and watch it. Thanks.
I agree with you both....laughter is the best medicine and you have to find the humour in all of the pain. It helps to heal a broken heart and crushed spirit. God is good and has closed the door on our toxic relationships. What's done in the dark is brought to the light. And Andrew through his videos is that light. He is a shining example of goodness by helping us all to navigate our way through the pain - he has suffered so much too and despite all of that, he selflessly gives to this group, his wisdom and knowledge, educating us, encouraging us.....his goal for nobody else to suffer this abuse and to make them aware of all things narcissistic. To the rest of us who have endured and are still recovering from the pain, it's helping us to heal. I feel so blessed to be a part of this brave band of warriors, as we cry, laugh and heal together. God bless us all.🙏❤️☘️
Im away from the discard 9 months. Feeling better, loosen up the wasteload. Y beggin to see new things, landscapes and horizons possible. There is a new hope raising! Thanks Andrew.
The Narc kept his new supply as a friend for years behind my back after their relationship ended. He left me and went right to her house. Now he wants me to be his friend. Rinse,wash,repeat. No thank you!!!!
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I stopped feeding his ego and that was the end for me, but actually it was my new beginning! I see that now.♥️🙏🥰
Exactly..🙏💯🙌😉
I tried hard, I lost EVERYTHING, they want me to forgive them. NO WAY. I may forget not forgive... All I need is justice. They mus be acknowledged
Good luck with that
Sending you prayers of peace and healing as you move forward. 🕊️
Let go of them......in your heart and mind. They never deserved you in the first place. Take back your power and do something nice for yourself. I feel the same way too. I gave and he took everything from me and destroyed and divided our family....I'm still hurting but one thing I've learned in the past month since joining the group, is that we are not alone. Keep watching the videos, they're so empowering. We need to work on ourselves. Life will reward us when we maintain our boundaries and go no contact. Stay strong...you can do this. We are all on the healing path together. God bless 🙏
As an empath I could see exactly what this poor person was getting ready to suffer from this total monster. She is a recovering addict and had already been in abusive relationships. He could care less he actually saw her as a target that he could control and manipulate. She is 24 yrs younger than him he is an old Narc. He mirrored this person and is now pretending to be a Christian because she was recovering through becoming a Christian. He is the farthest thing from a Christian ever. It's just so sick.
You inspire me daily to inform about narcissism. Great work. Very profound and true. Thank you.
I feel myself getting to that point where I can focus more on myself than my Ex. 🍒
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omg she posted that they're engaged. he must have propsed to her from jail. maybe she'll post his 10k cash bond for habitual DV charges? the last of which were incurred with me.
this is so jarring
she's the woman that brought him meth last year when he was in a mentsal health crisis and he had been clean for 14.5 years... great friend. I will wait till I have the money for a private session to share the rest. Needless to say this was timely thank you.
When things ended, I just wanted to be left alone in peace and quiet and what happened next was awful. Many of the flying monkeys turned against my ex and were eager to contact me to make an array of disgusting personal remarks about my ex's new partner's appearance in comparison to that of my own and also sent me images of her to back up their claims. I found the whole business very immature and very distasteful and as a way forward, I simply blocked the sensationalism with the awareness that my ex's new partner would also be mistreated.
Thank you for the time and effort you dedicate and for this I am grateful. Stay blessed & sending you healing thoughts.
Maybe they meant well.
Good for you Jean it's best to block all of them and move forward leaving all of them in the past. Even to this day when anyone tries to bring something about the ex narc I stop them midstream and remind them that I am not interested in knowing.
@@christine11347 precisely, I just wanted to move forward without all of those pretenders and chaos makers and as you remarked recently God has given us a second chance and I couldn't agree more and I'm loving the life I have. ⚘
@@jeanwolfendale405 I feel the same way Jean 💯
@@christine11347 last time I visited the zoo, I noticed a sign stating 'DO NOT FEED THE ANIMALS' and best course of action with those cheeky monkeys. Happy to know you're also enjoying the life we were given. Stay blessed.
After I left the Narcissist 9 months ,I did throught about the love supply but now since it as been 9 months now of completely no contact , don't care any more ,I have gotten stronger move on with my life but I know I still have healing to do . Thank you for all of your videos & everyone comments here below & blessed 🙏 you all here & I Hoped you & everyone here have a wonderful blessed evening / night .🙏
Beautiful Sue keep moving forward on the your healing path. You are doing great💛
@@christine11347 Thank you !
I remember when I was the New Supply. So BLIND. #NeverAgain.
Those were the days !!!!
Australia, Andrew everything you've just said is my ex husband I just couldn't rest with him taking my little dog now I have him back. Thank you
Yay! 🐕
🐕 I’m so pleased you have your little dog back.
@@kimalonzo3363Kim, Kate here thank you so much I just couldn't calm down worried about him, Thank you.
@@primaveraprimavera2415 primates, thanks I'm feeling really calm and my little guy is asleep at my feet as always, I have no idea where he had him but it's clear he was missing his safe home. Thanks for your beautiful words I just love the support this channel is giving me. 🇦🇺
I never thought of the new supply but I can say I will feel sorry for them I'm to busy living my life narcissis free thank God 🙏👍 Andrew and survivors and thrivers 🙏🦋
I warned the new supply when I found out she already groomed him for marriage. So years after the divorced I spoke to him again and I had another warning for him. She was hoovering me and she would call me complaining about how bad he was treating her hoping I would listen to her. I ignored her and kept it about my kid with her. When I spoke to him I told him before you hit 10 years of marriage you better divorce her before she gets your retirement. Well some years later found out that he left her and filled restraining orders against her. Also found out that she took him to court to get the house that he most likely paid for. Karma is a bitch because I told him that she only wanted him for a military ID card and to stay out of my marriage. Life got better for me in time once he distracted the Narc so I could escape.
Thank you for sharing this Chris..💯🙏🙌
The beauty of Karma. Theirs is bad and ours is good.
@@christine11347 True, I am doing so much better.
@@chrismanning1171 Me to ❤️
He rubbed the new supply in my face.. he had her in the shadows… its hard not to be hurt. 30 days and counting. Im struggling…..
Continue on the path.. you are doing great 🙌🙏💯
Thank you andrew I learn so much more every time I watch your videos. My narcs new supply works in the same work place. Go figure!!! It makes me so sick. Ican not even look his way at all it makes me literally sick. He is keeping it close lol. I'm happy he has to get so tired putting those masks on again. Ty
I'm not doing so good today. This video helped me. Thank you. Much....I will take myself for a drive now.
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They are not worth it. ♥️
Enjoy your drive and listen to music that makes you happy. Sometimes the distraction and change of scenery helps us feel better and refocus our energy 🙏💪🕊️✨
Take care of yourself. You're not alone. We're all rooting for you.🙏🌞💙🌷🌻
So much for a drive because gas costs $4.60 a gallon. So I stayed home. At this point I'm grateful to have a home, semi country home. Thank you all for reminding me I'm still alive. Thank you.
💞💞💞Love & an Abundance of Blessings to You, Andrew~ You are saving souls! Namaste 🙏💞💞💞
Thank you Taffy 💯🙏🙌
I have thought about the new supply, even on the day we got married he invalidated me, however, I am finding out, I never gave him my heart (instinctively I knew it wasn't safe) so he never had that power, I always thought about his next victim and it is one of the reasons I stayed as long, because I didn't want him to treat the next one the way he treated me (there was a previous victim and I know how he treated her).....Now I have let that go....I can't be responsible for him or his victims, I am still keeping an sharp eye out for our daughters though....
Thank you again Andrew.namaste
Supply is a fine term to use in my opinion because that's all we are to them, but would also enjoy hearing any other terms you may come up with of course. Mine had a whole secret sex life and had no business manipulating me and ensnaring me. These people are sick in the head. They are twisted and do not change. And thoroughly enjoy it. It amuses them. They are just built different. It's all a game. It's all an act/masks. No empathy. People are just toys for them. I can no longer run from the truth. I must face the truth that I am powerless to change them. I say no to chaos today and say yes to healthy and to me.
Thanks, Andrew! 👍🏼 Well stated! 👍🏼The new supply/supplies were already a factor...had not been shy about inserting themselves into the situation. I regularly prayed for the new supply, asking our loving Creator to give much-needed strength and insights.
My thoughts: Supply is a great term because it says it like it is for the narcissist which helps expedite healing. Using the term "supply" stops the would have, could have, should have thinking. The term is full-blown reality that we need to face. I encourage the use of this now standardized term.
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Looking back while with the narcissist I wasted so much time, money, energy and lots of love . Post Narc I just realized I’m wasting time and energy.
I am letting him still robbed me of things and he doesn’t even know it or would he care .
I don’t give much thought to the new supply he’s had so many ,
Sometimes I just cannot get over how he has moved on so quickly , absolutely nothing seems to phase them especially the pain they put you through . The new supply was probably all of us at one time . We were a new supplies just in a different time for however long it lasted ..
Have a blessed Sunday !
That would be a great topic how actually we were new supplies . A reminder post narc is doing what he did during our relationship ….
He's with the new supply that I do know and thought was a friend..just 2 weeks after I called it done ...go figure🥴🙄
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Great message again. I always resonate with your content. Just great value.
I am so conditioned to feel bad about anything I say, that now I feel like I need to explain that my ex-narc found his new supply while we were still unhappily married. She knew he was married, and actually called his Lawyer, on his behalf, the morning after he raged and left us. Karma is a gift from the universe. PEACE.
I feel sorry for the new supply. They do not realise what is awaiting them.
This is by far the best site for me in regard to my healing. Thank you.
Welcome Lorraine 🙏💯☀️🙌
Thank you. Namaste.
Namaste 🙏
The new supply is a narcissist too. Just happened few days ago as a betrayal and did hit me hard tbh,but I'm grateful to be out of this insane relationship.
Appreciate your wise words and love your channel, helps me a lot! Helps me to realize what was happening to me and why I let this to happen.
Welcome always 🙏🙌💯
After now 18 months into my healing (thankyou Andrew x) I still often wonder whether he had other supplys while he was with me, either on the phone or in person, I used to wonder while we were together, my gut told me yes but my mind said no,,,now thinking back I could never put my finger on anything...........this ALONE should have been a red flag, has anyone else wondered the same when they were with their SO?
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Mine had an ex and loads of random Facebook options. He even had his daughters friends mum inboxing him. He went with a woman from a dating app during one of my discards. Left her on his Facebook when he hoovered me. She was writing on his posts still. I asked if he met anyone. He was like no 😇😇 I've not had sex at.... so I message her. How do you know Mr narky? You've appeared on his Facebook and he's never mentioned you..... she said.... we met on tinder and we've met up a few times. I stayed over at his but he decided he didn't want a relationship.
I was like wow!!!! He really was a cocky so and so
I said to myself "I better get outta here while he still thinks he likes me. One day he's going to wake up and tell me to get out"
🎯 Have a plan, put it into action and get out on your terms before it is to late 💪💪
Thank you Andrew I love the . Part . They get a new supply . Thank God . . I don't even care. O more .
I feel odd because I left 3 months ago and couldn't care less who is he with or what he is doing. I really don't. I am too happy to care 💜
I cannot even begin to feel sorry for his new supply wife. She was stupid enough to believe his lies, hook, line and sinker. At least she's the reason he doesn't have to rely so hard on my girls for help doing the simplest of tasks anymore. She should be old enough to know more about life than she obviously does. :-) :-)
I actually could care less who he's with. Truly grateful it's not me anymore!!!! 🙏
I have thought "I wonder who they are ensnaring next?" But ultimately I don't give a rats ass because anyone involved with them on more than a superficial level is going to have a very crappy draining and horrible experience. These types ruin lives and enjoy it. And you know exactly what you're talking about with this info, Andrew. And you present it with perfect real world examples which make it easy to grasp and sink in.
Wow, perfect timing. I’ve been struggling with this this weekend. Can you do more on this topic?
I prefer asset instead of supply. I was used as an asset in every sense of the word.
Another great video Andrew and again you could not have put it any better. Thank you
You asked to drop a comment. The new supply was my narc going back to his old supply. It was such a toxic situation. I can’t believe his Ex took him back after all the emotional abuse and how toxic their relationship is.
Thank you Andrew, I left the narcissist romantic partner 7 months now. I'm Really addicted to your coaching. The moment I get sad I realize I need my daily dosage of Vitamin A(ndrew). I stop everything to catch-up, and then my day just get better.
Welcome 😌🙌🙏
Again, your delivery is unmatched. Thank you.. You are just too COOL. [Chuckles.] Keep your own healing moving forward. Your pain, your acquired knowledge, and depth of want by sharing to help many that have been blind and hurt so.. comes through directly of your being... I feel that you were hurt and getting stronger and stronger. You are aware and armed. YAaaH! " )
I thanked them both. When they broke up he tried to get me back. Lol. I said no didn’t I thank y’all both. Y’all should have to stay together and make each other miserable. I’m just here reviewing lessons learned. Unfortunately I’m too sick to enjoy much of the life I have left. I do try though. I have given up on meeting anyone for a year now. When I got free I was looking for information on narcissist there was none. I did see a video of a 72 year old man beating his wife. The police came she was afraid to file charges. They don’t change and I don’t want to be tricked again. I know they are miserable bc they are evil. A perfect match. 😂. Thanks for the review. I thank God Almighty for the problems I do not have.
Mine discarded me because he was seeing her the entire time we were together. Turns out, she is his ex friends, drug addicted wife. While I was being dumped, she was getting arrested...again .. for drugs. It's taken me some time to realize that he uses likely using drugs with her, or wants someone to rescue. I felt HORRIBLE about myself, thinking I wasn't good enough, yet, this person is. As you mention, Andrew, he most certainly has other supplies and was lining them up the whole time, too. I always felt like something was wrong, always walking on eggshells and anxious and thinking it was me because of abandonment issues. But my abandonment issues are exactly why he preyed upon me. I take comfort in knowing he is never going to change, never going to treat anyone the right way, and never going to find the peace he is seeking through others. Much love to everyone on your journey to Healing! We got this😃✌💞
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My covert narcissist husband left me suddenly 5 months ago. He moved out of our house into an expensive apartment. I knew he'd instantly go find new supply, but what he told me yesterday was really beyond what I thought he'd do: he has a gay male friend of his moving into his apartment with him next week, on what would have been our 6th anniversary!! I've already spent two hours processing this in my journal this morning. He has again hooked me into feeling angry, shocked, and emotional now, when I was doing so well until he told me this. There's so much more to this story, but the fact that his new supply is a gay guy who is moving in with him next week really has my head exploding!
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Dear Andrew, i love you too.
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Insidious is correct andrew I no longer feel anything more upset with myself for letting them get away with it for the duration I spent in the fog and the abuse outrageous I feel fortunate it doesn’t bother me to even find out who the supply is I’m staying well away I have washed my hands completely I don’t even want her to get hit by a bus seriously I just don’t feel anything for anything about the narc time is the healer and change and of course the education from your videos has made me understand but so correct brother I am 95% ther feeling positive it’s never to late to start again but sort yourself out first I could not and wonder why I put myself through all of the carry on sending happy vibes and thinking you brother ✌🏽😎
When I left the narc I didn't care much about the other supplies he had anymore, I just wanted to be out of there. Down the line a little bit I did wonder if he was happy with someone else but then thinking about it he was never lasting in any of his relationships he had prior to me so I figured I had absolutely nothing to worry about because I knew he was going to destroy the other supplies too and any other supplies he gets new but now that he's passed away, I still feel like him being dead isn't enough for me and I don't know why.
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I took a "trifecta" view of my situation once I'd weighed the evidence:
1) Initial guilt over "unleashing" such a dark predator into the outside world; while they were still here, to an extent I could mitigate some of the damage they generated, but once they exploded out the door, it was like watching a monster devour prey... then...
2) Since the trash took itself out, I evolved to "thank" the new supply for carting it away...aided at least in part by my Dr insisting "she is a victim too." I recoiled at that, because the new supply relished in pouring gasoline on the legal confrontation I was involved in against the narc. The new supply was essentially what is referred to as a "lesser narc." Good. Now you two can shred each other!!!
3) The 2 of them created chaos & confrontational upheaval everywhere, including courts & police... behaved like gutter trash looking for a fight at every turn, dressed like street trash. It didn't take long for police to realize they were being played: ***THE QUICKEST WAY TO PISS OFF A COP IS TO ATTEMPT TO MANIPULATE & LIE TO THEM!!! COURTS DON'T LIKE IT EITHER!!!*** It took about a year for reality to "sink in" to the legal arm, but slowly, some officers & judges started pushing back on THEM... & DEFENDING ME!!! The massive turning point centered on their being busted using the new supply's retarded son as bait to harass me: State Police JUMPED into that, delivering an ultimatum to both of them: ***CEASE IMMEDIATELY OR A 6x9!!!*** They tried to use the kid to get around the STAY-AWAY ORDER & it didn't work....
I KNOW the narc is pillaging the kid's drugs &/or selling them, mocking the kid behind his mother's back, manipulating money & anything else the narc decides today they want...
And...what makes her think that narc won't "light her up" they same way BOTH OF THEM tried to burn me to the ground??? It's NOT AN IF... IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME... ***BUT IT'S COMING...*** 🖤
The new supply was a neighbor who lived up the street who knew he was in a relationship. She has no family so she can dote on him- but I’m sure he will do the same thing to her that he did to me.
Very true about that Andrew. I would have loved to know that before but hey i learn every day and with you i am learning so much. She did get a new boy friend and it didn`t last because she found someone just like her. I am very happy that it is ended. The only problem i have his the way she threat the kids and the kids are tired and the less they see her the more they like it. She can`t even acknowledged the way she talk and act around them. So thank you again for your video. They are a great help and i know in a year i will be at a very good step in my life.
It's not easy Denis. Just keep supporting your kids and remind them you are always there for them. ❤️
@@christine11347 That is what i do. She did since the break up and me never stopped supporting them even when i was at my lowest point.
@@denisguay4315 That's all we can do Denis. Having one healthy parent who loves and supports them is enough to keep them moving forward in a positive direction 🙏🕊️💪✨
This was excellent Andrew. I felt so much better after listening to this. It completely calmed my doubts, which surface from time to time 🙏
God doesn't like ugly people!
He left a diamond 💎 to polish a rock!
In my case I caught him cheating on me with the new supply!
I'm aware and awake, empowered...
Education is key and my silence is golden!
Again I love you 💞 Namaste 🙏
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I hope he DOES get someone new!
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It's because we transfer our desire onto the next trophy. Sucks to be them tho' #beFREE! & HONEST...
& feel compassion for Them. :'(
Thank you for this video ❤
Thank you for the lessons Andrew 🙏 I'm taking it one minute at a time peace and love 🌻
Beautiful Vonetta 🙏💯🙌😊
I don't. It is a waste of time. Thanks for understanding.🙏
Welcome vesna 💯🙏😊
Thank you very much for this message, Andrew, so much needed this morning 🙏
Hi Andrew,
I loVe ❤️ your flowers.🌺 It is truly amazing the way U care for a little flocks under your guidance and influences
Everyone has already said it all. U r beautiful soul and man. U have turned your traumatized experience into intoxicating help 2 others. U educate people in a kind thoughtful way. U r shaping generations of people how to prevent themselves from coming under the narcs as their supply. How the narc effects their supply. U are an trusted authority that tackles the hard questions and offers relevant advice and advice how to get out of abuse. This cultivation of a an firm foundation of freedom and preservation of adulthood’s. U challenge us to lay down what is fake for what is real relationship. U r making an unique contribution into breaking the trauma bond and the return into an sponsored healing path. Offering insight into mind of narcs functionality. Your heart ♥️ truly involved in welfare and well-being of others.
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Thank you Carol..🙏💯🙌😊
I been watching the videos twice or more . Free is good . Lol ♥️ Andrew you were sent for me .I love this flower fell in love 😊
I been noticing I fell in love with the beauty of the flowers. Other people have too , it's very theraputic. , It makes me feel like I can be privileged enugh to see them . And love . It there made perfect by god! .thanks 💜
Some are strikingly. Beautiful, who wouldn't love them .
I'm glad there's channels . We can self help . Glad the internet is usefull for something educational . Oh other channels I watch are geared for me I love that . You self helpers on tube are a blessing for all of us . !
They can't even love themselves.
I found a way to be online today much thanks⭐
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The new supply im so happy for him or her.When that narcissist is finished with you, not even Psychiatrist can get uh betta.That time I'm fully recovered, as I'm half way already.Amen.Thank you Andrew.Hail Up from Jamaica One love same way. 💕💕🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏🙏
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This is a very timely and helpful video. I know the new supply. It was a casual friend that the Narc and I hung out with and others over the Summer. I believe she is also a Narc. I believe this supply was in progress prior to my relationship dissolving as you had mentioned in other videos. It truly has been a challenge as I have had to change my activities and friends to avoid them. Super painful, but realize it is also a train wreck in the making. It helps to know that he does not love her either. But I wonder… there could be a level of relational success when 2 Narcs merge? Thank you Andrew. You have been instrumental in my healing journey that is in progress.