This is just the kind of video I needed today. When I feel like I don’t belong anywhere, I usually turn to your videos to remember that there are others who understand me and don’t look at me like I’m weird if I’m particularly stuck in my head. Which has been the case a lot this week. Thank you from an INFP.
As an INFP, I have maladaptive daydreaming sometimes I spent an hours just for daydreaming and i think that I can create a story/book but I'm too lazy to take an action.haha ,it's frustrating actually
fellow INFP… same. I find my Te doesn’t kick in to execute until I am feeling confident and extremely inspired. and finding out what makes me feel confident and inspires me takes a little investigation and experimentation… lately find that I’m using my Fi-Si team to give me the physical exteriority to ground me in routine. (ie a complex Hobonichi journal system, stickers both cute and morbid, and different colored stuff to catalog what’s in my brain)
I’ve played over a lot of scenes in my fantasy worlds (plural) lots and lots and lots of times. But I’ve only written down a small chunk. And it’s easy to get critical of that small chunk.
Sometimes I find myself crying because of the scenario happened in my head, and it feels so real to me, I can't help but act as if it actually happened. Anyway, thank you for this video
I know nobody cares but the crazy thing is that I have been dreaming of this scenario in my head for like 6 months. It is of me being with this guy I like but we never talk and I didn’t know his name or anything and now my dreams are actually coming true. Idk man it’s crazy
Your username made me laugh (as someone who writes poetry). I'm now kind of curious to see yours, assuming it wasn't just a randomly picked username. I post some poetry on my instagram. I'll let you seek that out should you wish ~ Nathan
@@lovewho yes I am a poet. I will check out your instagram. I’d be happy to share mine with you, a fellow poet but I don’t use social media so just let me know how!
I dont think age matters in this case. I think I'll still daydream about the perfect storyline in my head once I am 80 xD This is not meant in a bad way but it seems to me that you feel like you should've outgrown daydreaming at the age of 35 and I don't think that's true. I think daydreaming is not an age specific thing :D If I understood you wrong then that's my bad, sorry 😅
Probably a solid 6 hours a day for me is a daydream if I’m not out doing something or engaged in an activity. Like seriously that isn’t an understatement
I just left an online class where the lecturer is making everyone put their cameras and mics on, and shouting at us and pushing to ask questions... I just couldn't deal with it so I left and then found this video explaining why I couldn't with that type of lecturer. Best decision ever! 😂😂😂 Also thanks Nathan for your awesome INFP content and for understanding us!! 😁👍🏾
@@kuniso ENFJs and INFPs actually make the same amount of judgements, it's just that INFPs are more likely to keep those judgements inside. Judging is decision-making, btw
“Fantasy is just reality in waiting.” So poetic, well-articulated, and true, Nathan 💖 Indulging in fantasy sounds like the pinnacle of INFP-ism; more often than not, this tendency to do so is criticized for making one lose touch with reality. But if we bring our ideas into the world, it's no longer pure fantasy, is it? Fantasy is a tool that can inspire, that can make a positive difference in the world. Fantasy can be healthy - thank you for reminding us of this. “Seemingly existing outside the conventional sense of time, moving at their own speed and pace.” Why is this so true for INFPs? I often feel like I’m behind, running to catch up with reality. I think that’s why holing up in a cabin somewhere holds such a strong appeal at times. I recently had the opportunity to live by myself as well as travel in a foreign country. It was a period of time where I was free from the pressures of people around me and the confines of a fast-paced job; free to explore what truly interests me (that was when I found your channel!). I realize now that that’s pretty much the ideal INFP life (one of them, anyway). Thank you for making me very sure of my INFP-ism 😊🥲💗
This is so spot on wow. As an INFP I crumbled in a fast pace work environment and have absolutely thrived becoming a stay at home mom. I get to live in the fantasy world in my head all day long now 😂🥰
It's so important to understand these things about ourselves otherwise we'll always feel like fish out of water. Really great to hear that you're finding your place in the world better! ~ Nathan
Fantasy world for me is the most comfortable world! And this video just pointed out so much information that’s so precise about many things I feel and go through as an INFP. And yes at times, this world is so much pressure for us, the expectations of family and friends who are simply unable to understand us. Our values are not valued by them. That’s hurtful. Though I am growing to be less and less affected by what others say, today was a day that I was made to hurry and hurry and that really annoyed me and hurt me a lot! So nice time to see this video. I can again put things in perspective and move forward, as others are different and so they will see the world as how they are and I cannot change it but focus on what I can do and go after it! Thanks for the video Nathan 🌟👍
I literally think of my dreams like travel/play time, and I am very glad that I remember most of my dreams. (Even though some dreams are not so great.) One thing, though, I do NOT believe in is "equity" as you define it, as attempts to bring that about in reality for one person just end up clipping another person's wings. I think equal OPPORTUNITY is good but forcing equal outcomes just screws everybody. And yes, I am an INFP. It's just that for me, stripping people of their freedoms is the worst thing you can do, and that's what happens when you try to force equal outcomes.
"Birds can carry things just fine, just not when their wings are clipped." - Love Who, 2021 Never have I heard someone describe INFP mentality so elegantly, thank you from an INFP.
I really wish that I had discovered the personality types decades ago. Years of believing that I'm some kind of a "broken person" have taken their toll I think. Anyway, thanks for another great video helping to make me feel a little bit more at peace with my INFPness xx
I'm not a fan of life's pressures, particularly at work and having to conform and do what I'm told. I can't wait to retire. In fact, the day I started work, I wanted to retire lol. My fantasy is to tour the UK in a camper van or live in a remote cottage somewhere.
Spot on when it comes to being rushed. Also spot on when it comes to the good fight. As a former critical care nurse I experienced many fast paced emergencies. It puts you in the zone. Your focus is very acute, and time passes at a different rate. You move very rapidly and efficiently, like a practiced athlete. But, the rest of the time you can take your hurry sickness elswhere!
Recently, I've been like "do the 16 Personality Types really apply to autistic people?" but after watching this video I'm once again convinced I am an INFP. Oh dear, what I've learned from the internet... INFP AND autistic? No wonder I've always felt like I don't belong in this world. :D
My brother is 14 and autistic. Personality theory is interesting! I had him take the 16 personality type and he is a classic ISFJ, but don’t people with autism usually struggle with Fe? AH. Not my bro. He is the nicest, most caring, compassionate guy I’ve met. Also, I’m not sure if this has to do with being on the spectrum, but we have the best conversations about abstract concepts. (Ne) as an INFP I’m NEVER bored when he’s around. I love his info dumping and he keeps up with my wacky questions.
@@SomeNerd970 Honey…did you just compare being trans to being autistic? One you technically bring on yourself while the other is something you’re born with? I don’t mean to sound mean but read the room a little darling please
This is spot on. Couldn´t have said it better myself about equity before equality. "One size fits all"- solutions can look fair and juste on the surface, but they conveniently forget that we are humans and humans have all sorts of different strengths and weaknesses.
6 months later and I'm rewatching this. I can't believe how well you understand INFPs. I'm a fantasy writer and the reasons you described are exactly why I'm drawn to the genre.
Point #2 is huge for me. Some of the things that have improved my life most drastically have been directly related to that: Leaving a stressful, high-pressure (and injustice-filled at that!) 9-to-5 job with a long commute in favor of flexible freelance work from home. Leaving a stressful, chaotic living environment to live alone in peace. I always seek to minimize the stresses, pressures, and constraints in my life. I think often the biggest challenge is finding a satisfactory way to reconcile this with the need to work and make money. And in my case, obligatory relationships with family that I'm not compatible with can also be a source of stress and suffocation, but as an independent adult, I can keep those interactions to a minimum. #3 is 100% true! I had another part here about fantasy but deleted it because idk, it depends on how loosely we're defining fantasy. I do like dreaming and fantasizing and imagining, but most of it is rooted in real-life possibilities rather than a whole separate fantasy world. And I can enjoy some fantasy works of art/entertainment, but I really just enjoy good art in general, regardless of genre.
I’ve always liked that word escape! I made drawings on it when I was in school xd i have my own little escapes everyday, when listening to music, writing or just meditating... doing my thing and the world will be a bit more alright :)
Being an INFP and having Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder is NOT the best combination, especially when you already like an alien in an alien world due to your personality and how you're wired... There's nothing to ground you, you live in the clouds. But things like fantasy really help, oddly enough. Also, being rushed and witnessing inequality physically hurts me.
Love INFPs 😊 We have a common language of putting people first and responding to others in a warmer manner. They are attentive and caring 🙏🏻 I appreciate their presence and way of being. 🥰
I think one difference with fantasy worlds that INTPs and INFPs have is that INTPs may be more fascinated by the systems and hows things logically play out in the fan stays world Concepts such as how languages evolve, governments arise and the world changing may be much more fascinating to INTPs as it follows structures that can be creatively worked with INFPs may be more free towards their fantasy worlds in this sense being NFs who may be more invested to follow certain inspirations without the need for the structure
@@J11_boohoo Well, I’ve done testing for cognitive functions on different days; still getting the same flip-flop between INFP and INTP. Now, I don’t know much of what I’m doing (as I am new-ish to this all) I’m pretty sure that I’m INFP more though and in fact not a healthy one. INTP still keeps coming up; my feeling and thinking percentages are like 50/50 or their extremely close every time. I relate a lot to the Fi Si loop; INFP. With INFP it’s Fi Ne Si Te; but on different days I test Ti Ne Si Fe; INTP. I must need guidance or something I’m probably doing something wrong; it’s not possible to test between different functions, right?
@@rookiesquish1216 I also had a hard time distinguishing between Fi and Ti at first but when I heard about Fe, I just knew that my life problems were all about Fe and that I really devalued Te If your life problems comes from Fe and you still value it then you are INTP
@@J11_boohoo I went through a world wind of further research and it’s unbelievable but there is no doubt in my mind as weird as it sounds that I am an INTP. Thanks it’s been driving me nuts! It goes without saying that I haven’t slept.
I've noticed that I can get things done at work faster than anybody else, except when my boss is yelling at me to do it faster. Then I'm slower than most.
"to them, the system should bend to individuals and not the other way around." I feel this in my soul. I hate one-size-fits all approaches to life. Literally makes my skin crawl.
I’m infp or intp. I do have a lot of romantic fantasies but my job is as an analyst but I actually hate doing analysis. It’s something I can do but I don’t really enjoy doing. Which I think makes me infp.
Is it possible to be both somehow? Or is there just a lot of overlap? I feel like I have both INTP and INFP traits. However I do actually enjoy coding which probably immediately puts me in the INTP camp.
me I think if you enjoy code your surely intp. I’m a computer engineer by education and programming interested me initially but over long period, I was more interested in jobs where i don’t have to exercise that extroverted thinking function which drains me. If it were completely up to me, I would be an orchestra player. I was from orchestra in my high school. And I enjoy creating non-linear and non-logical things such as music, painting etc more. But I have to rely on my inferior function of the extroverted thinking for my job. However I gotten more to the design and feeling part, my job now is maybe just 30_40% analysis work and others are things that I enjoy
@@zebesiv you should check out "Cognitive Personality Theory". He explains infps in a way where I've felt best understood. Being Fi dominant doesn't mean your thinking functions aren't strongly preferred and used as well. It's a silly stereotype that feelers are not logical and artistic pursuits are the sole thing we're best at. INFP pursuing astrophysics who really enjoys Maths here.
It might just be that you are at a similar percentage for thinking and feeling. They might be at like a 50/50 or a 40/60 or so. I am an INFP and I think coding and such seems interesting. :D
While it's interesting and useful to consider, you shouldn't equal your job to your personality type. You can be a strict boss and still be INFP for example. Think about what you are generally like, the way you think, feel and act in general, how you interact with people, what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable, what is most natural to you, what scares you, how you approach or consider problems or just life in most aspects. There is so much more to a person than liking or being good at writing or programming or teaching or painting etc. You may even be good at or enjoy both stereotypically T _and_ F activities also!
I love sciencefiction and fantasy. The weirdest thing I did was read 'The Hobbit' 3 times in succession in 2 days because the journey was so enjoyable.
When I was 11 I once put most of my life on pause for a week because I was reading LOTR. I did nothing but eat, sleep, read, and daydream about what I'd read. It was awesome.
The way you make inspiring and from my perspective, accurate, content in these little snippets so I can share with people makes me happy... The way in which you continue to expand my awareness of the subtle nuances of the types (and here my type) ELATES me. Thank you
i'm an INFP, mistyped pretty long as an INTP, and i can absolutely say that those two types are really similar. One might be a type valuing logic and the other valuing pesonal values, but i think Ti and Fi can be pretty similar, as they work both very personally and basically do the same things, just with different goals. And ofc, we also share the Ne/Si too
@@averys3627 its a bit complicated to explain; basically i do value logic a lot and got kind of forced into a very T-oriented childhood neglecting my F pretty much (making it even worse being Fi turned towards the inside even more)... this means many traits of an INTP do fit for me, and i can relate a lot, but when broadening the view on what i care about, i realized that that's much closer to Fi, as i do consider logic to make choices, but in the end it's really just personal values making the decision, which try to be conform to the logical decisions, but arent always. In a way, i underrated all the feeling/value based processes within me because of a false impression of myself. That might sound a bit silly, but i tried to be consise and many things cant be really explained easily. Everything goes evidently much deeper, but this should be enough to understand it broadly
I wrote a 88 000 sci fi novel. Im an infp but it was through a vanity publisher which you need to not do. Also my book hasn't got that hook of realism that a good book needs in order to take off. After receiving criticism for being bland and or repetitive in my work i stopped writing all together, and still struggle today with it today but after learning im an infp i am googling all the struggles and solutions people come up with to produce a wonderful piece such as jrr tolkien or robert greene, both infps. I write poetry, usually sad, but nothing great. I noticed as an infp i tend to take work from here and there snd mix it up. Sometimes i don't even know that what ive said has been said and im thinking its original. I have to really sit with the enotions and try to convey it on paper, but i think playing music and dancing best expresses my emotion where as writing requires that extra part of my brain that always seems to say no 😂
One of the most deeply moving books i ever read was the underground man i just love to go inside the mind of the characters and feel their inadequacy, despair, loneliness and melancholy and go down the downward spiral with them and if there is a tragic ending at the end it feels magnificent just a true work of art , im not sure though that is an infp thing or not but personally its never a “ sunshine and flowers “ more like a dead wood with a lovecraftian theme where people suffer and some goes mad , people eating each others flesh and struggle to be human in inhumane world , nobody protect the weak and their is no heroes or wait the hero is one you wont even trust for a drop of water because he is the worse human being imaginable and evil prevails at the end kinds of story
Id argue a bit on this one. As infp i needed to be placed in uncomfortable situations and forced if you will to do the reality check otherwise i become to complacent and stagnant and will stay in my own world and let the environment and those around me down. But i hate hate being pressured and micromanaged. Im naturally quite rebellious and won't do something unless its of interest to me. And most def move at my own pace. I am sloth in most regards, the way i move and talk. Thinking can be too fast and scattered though. Im learning to overcome emotional reactions as i can over do or under do it. But that has been my life long war....emotion
i just want to say thank you for all your videos. i’ve recently become very interested in learning about the personality types (particularly mine), and these videos have SIGNIFICANTLY helped me feel “not crazy”. because before finding these videos, i thought for so long that there was something truly wrong with me. like… i needed to see a therapist and get medication because of how deep and vivid my imagination was. like… i thought there had to be something fundamentally flawed with me as a human being that i had MULTIPLE worlds going on in my head… to the point of sometimes imagining conversations, like you mentioned, in my head rather than in the real world. so finding these videos and gaining a better sense of the personality types is REALLY helping me understand not only myself but how to function in a world that doesn’t seem… quite right for me sometimes. so THANK YOU!
I play out conversations in my head sometimes to practice my reactions and sociability in general. I don't know. People still say I'm weird and awkward but whatever. I don't want to be accepted for what I'm not.
Thanks for doing one for us. Always insightful and on point :) I agreed on all of them except maybe the last it seemed more political. Views on equity and equality are on the spectrum of politics.
Th the first minute and a half made me think of the warning label for the ENTPs about the mouth managing to move faster than the warp speed brain. Truly captures Fi Intensity 🧠🕳
Lol 😂 the part about laughing to a made up thing in your head or something viewed or read is absolutely correct and everyone else going whats funny? I tell him and the look of seriousness is still there. Its like i endeavour to be funny but man do i miss the mark. While i am predominantly melancholy and a little too deep at times, i can have bouts of absolute giddiness and laughing at just about anything. I tell my partner, its alright, it'll pass while he looks at me funny like oh god here she goes again or laughs with me but at me 😅
Does anyone have advice on how to help my younger INFP brother “find his way”? I’ve found that a studying the Myers Briggs “types” has helped me better understand people but I can’t understand why someone with as much potential as him would make the choices that he does.
Give him the space and time to “find his way.” Don’t be too harsh on his choices, even if you don’t understand them. Perhaps he needs to make his own mistakes to find his way, or perhaps he's just taking a longer route. INFPs don’t take well to advice that feels like it’s being forced upon them, especially if they perceive it to be coming from a lack of understanding. That said, he might appreciate your genuine input and curiosity about his choices - just don’t push your opinions onto him and make the issues out to be so black-and-white. Seek to understand and acknowledge which values are important to him, support and help him with what you can, and he will appreciate that. - a random INFP on the Internet
One of the inherent traits of ANY INFP is unpredictability. Our logic & our course of action are solely our own & hell, even INFPs have difficulty understanding why other INFPs do what they do. With that said, then comes one of the things that ANY INFP would LOATHE, & that's having opinions shoved down our throats & being told that it's for our own good. INFPs, when allowed to express themselves in an environment without judgment (at least when said INFP perceives it to be so), would easily appear talented, have potential... & then squandering it to the bafflement of others. It's a process that, i'd say, happens to just about ALL INFPs other than the ones blessed enough to truly have a judgment-free environment around them. It's important to note that what society sees as important & a key defining factor of success, doesn't necessarily rhyme with us. An INFP could easily be given all those things & still feels miserable, simply because that's not what they want. Think of someone who'd rather drive a Honda Civic instead of a BMW 7 series, & INSISTS on doing so. Back to the unpredictability part a little bit. One of the reasons why INFPs make baffling choices is because even WE do NOT necessarily know what we know, & that's especially so for younger INFPs. Fumbling about & making bewildering choices, are simply our way of seeking exactly that. Finally, INFPs inherently care far more about being happy than working to our fullest potential. To us, success could only be success when we find happiness in it, & if doing so means squandering some bit of our potential to do so, so be it.
One time I told my husband that in my ideal world, the corporations work for us. He replied, "You would think that" (he's an ESFJ and he understands, he doesn't agree but he understands lol)
I'm not sure how common that is, but I do often find that certain types that are glamourised in the personality type community often don't enjoy being that type themselves. Maybe there's some kind of pattern there ~ Nathan
one thing that's very very strange for me who is one of INFPs. my imagination is so amazing all the time except when we have to think about creative thing. that's bad...somtimes?^^' like ahh I can't force myself to imagine or sometimes got many amazing ideas but can't say or no one listen to me when i try to present it 'always ToT' so sad guy... Are u an INFPs? Do u have same experient as me? let's share
Tho i took a personality test 2 times, the first one turned out that i was an INFP then the second is i was an INTP, both are so accurate, i was confuse lol. So i saw a comment in this video (ig that person was a INFP) saying that the made up scenarios in their head feels so real it made them cry, and boi did i tell you IT HAPPENED TO ME AT LEAST MORE THAN ONCE. Plus the INTP videos this guy makes is VERYYYY accurate too 😭 ig personalities aren't permanent to me
Good day everyone .Love Who I'm an INFJ , I'm here for a request . As flawlessly spot on ur discription on us is : I'm 14 years of age and I'd like you to please do a video on what it feels like to be an INFJ child
i really relate to everything you say abut infp but about liking fantasy (the genre, and the act of imagining sets and conversations) i really am not. despite living in my introspection and in this case having as an escape the books, series and movies I don't see myself as a dreamer also . is it possible for an infp not to fantasize much and not be a dreamer?.
🎼"Dreamers, they never, they never learn. Beyond the point of no retun. It's too late, the damage is done. The damage is done."🎵🎶 Radiohead "Daydreaming"
as an INFP who is studying dentistry which needs u to be exactly opposite of everything said in this video i guess i have to change either myself or my job can u change your personality?
Omg can't believe I'll find another infp that is in dentistry :" Yeah I can relate and hate every second of it. I'll cut off my limb to change my personality tbh
I'm an INFP and doing physiotherapy yet sucks at kinaesthetic stuff (like other INFPs). My mum's family are all in dentistry and because of that I know repetition, routine is a thing in that degree. I purposely chose physio, cause I'm aware of my weaknesses and I want to improve to become a better rounded individual. It would also encourage me to workout more often haha. That, along with helping others :) So by doing dentistry, I feel like that would encourage your Si & Te to develop a bit more, just like physio assists in my Se development. So even if it feels hard, you're growing to become a more mature person 😊
"Things you LOVE when you're an INFP"
- This video
cool band 😎 .. almost.. maybe?
"Of course this is all happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?"
-Dumbledore, Deathly Hallows
Spiritual happenings
AHHH THISSSS
A great INFP once said... "I love this video"
It's me, I'm the great INFP
Self love is the best love y'all
Bless ye, Bless Yie
Agape is better...
Hi cutie….
You're the best!
This is just the kind of video I needed today. When I feel like I don’t belong anywhere, I usually turn to your videos to remember that there are others who understand me and don’t look at me like I’m weird if I’m particularly stuck in my head. Which has been the case a lot this week. Thank you from an INFP.
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I think you're not weird at all but great and cool and probably beautiful as well. From a fellow INFP.
Hey remember INFPs are always in your corner... maybe a Lil far away depending on how we be feeling XD
Omg I relate so much to your statement ;-; 🙏 this was the reason why I became so obsessed with typology in the first place 😩💖
As an INFP, I have maladaptive daydreaming sometimes I spent an hours just for daydreaming and i think that I can create a story/book but I'm too lazy to take an action.haha ,it's frustrating actually
Well, if you want to add another maladaptive habit to your life then feel free to join me and the others on the love who discord server! ~ Nathan
Same!
fellow INFP… same. I find my Te doesn’t kick in to execute until I am feeling confident and extremely inspired. and finding out what makes me feel confident and inspires me takes a little investigation and experimentation… lately find that I’m using my Fi-Si team to give me the physical exteriority to ground me in routine. (ie a complex Hobonichi journal system, stickers both cute and morbid, and different colored stuff to catalog what’s in my brain)
I’ve played over a lot of scenes in my fantasy worlds (plural) lots and lots and lots of times. But I’ve only written down a small chunk. And it’s easy to get critical of that small chunk.
Sometimes I find myself crying because of the scenario happened in my head, and it feels so real to me, I can't help but act as if it actually happened.
Anyway, thank you for this video
Same here, glad it's not only me haha
I thought i just have very strong empathy 😂 ig not
I know nobody cares but the crazy thing is that I have been dreaming of this scenario in my head for like 6 months. It is of me being with this guy I like but we never talk and I didn’t know his name or anything and now my dreams are actually coming true. Idk man it’s crazy
Man when i was little i used to make scenes in my head when i was crying, yk. I cried more 😂😂
same here, I love to act out little scenarios with characters I make in my head and I know it's weird but it's so fun to do for me lol
The INFP’s three steps to success:
1. Stop
2. Reflect
3. Introspect
...and I hate to say it xD but ... 4. Taking Action 😭 also for us, actually especially for us
@@julianschmidbauer3508 That is true
“Fantasy is just reality in waiting.” - brilliant, Nathan.
Your username made me laugh (as someone who writes poetry). I'm now kind of curious to see yours, assuming it wasn't just a randomly picked username. I post some poetry on my instagram. I'll let you seek that out should you wish ~ Nathan
@@lovewho yes I am a poet. I will check out your instagram. I’d be happy to share mine with you, a fellow poet but I don’t use social media so just let me know how!
I still need atleast half an hour a day of 'daydream' time and I'm 35.
I dont think age matters in this case. I think I'll still daydream about the perfect storyline in my head once I am 80 xD
This is not meant in a bad way but it seems to me that you feel like you should've outgrown daydreaming at the age of 35 and I don't think that's true. I think daydreaming is not an age specific thing :D
If I understood you wrong then that's my bad, sorry 😅
My mind is constantly looking for ways to daydream, even in an often pressured work environment. I'm 62.
@@katharina3322 no, i don’t feel bad about it at all. It was just a joke really, British self deprecation
Yeah I do waaaaaay over a half hour
Probably a solid 6 hours a day for me is a daydream if I’m not out doing something or engaged in an activity. Like seriously that isn’t an understatement
I just left an online class where the lecturer is making everyone put their cameras and mics on, and shouting at us and pushing to ask questions... I just couldn't deal with it so I left and then found this video explaining why I couldn't with that type of lecturer. Best decision ever! 😂😂😂
Also thanks Nathan for your awesome INFP content and for understanding us!! 😁👍🏾
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I’m an ENFJ in love with an INFP. I so enjoy learning more about him via your helpful videos. Everything you explained really rings true!
and judger' MBTI and Judge youe partner?not Love
@@kuniso I can't even understand what you're trying to say.
@@end4567 Love you
@@kuniso ENFJs and INFPs actually make the same amount of judgements, it's just that INFPs are more likely to keep those judgements inside. Judging is decision-making, btw
yay, at least one of my infp fellows are loved.....
“Fantasy is just reality in waiting.”
So poetic, well-articulated, and true, Nathan 💖 Indulging in fantasy sounds like the pinnacle of INFP-ism; more often than not, this tendency to do so is criticized for making one lose touch with reality. But if we bring our ideas into the world, it's no longer pure fantasy, is it? Fantasy is a tool that can inspire, that can make a positive difference in the world. Fantasy can be healthy - thank you for reminding us of this.
“Seemingly existing outside the conventional sense of time, moving at their own speed and pace.”
Why is this so true for INFPs? I often feel like I’m behind, running to catch up with reality. I think that’s why holing up in a cabin somewhere holds such a strong appeal at times.
I recently had the opportunity to live by myself as well as travel in a foreign country. It was a period of time where I was free from the pressures of people around me and the confines of a fast-paced job; free to explore what truly interests me (that was when I found your channel!). I realize now that that’s pretty much the ideal INFP life (one of them, anyway).
Thank you for making me very sure of my INFP-ism 😊🥲💗
This is so spot on wow. As an INFP I crumbled in a fast pace work environment and have absolutely thrived becoming a stay at home mom. I get to live in the fantasy world in my head all day long now 😂🥰
It's so important to understand these things about ourselves otherwise we'll always feel like fish out of water. Really great to hear that you're finding your place in the world better! ~ Nathan
That sounds wonderful!
@@lovewho are you an infp too?
Fantasy world for me is the most comfortable world! And this video just pointed out so much information that’s so precise about many things I feel and go through as an INFP.
And yes at times, this world is so much pressure for us, the expectations of family and friends who are simply unable to understand us. Our values are not valued by them. That’s hurtful. Though I am growing to be less and less affected by what others say, today was a day that I was made to hurry and hurry and that really annoyed me and hurt me a lot!
So nice time to see this video. I can again put things in perspective and move forward, as others are different and so they will see the world as how they are and I cannot change it but focus on what I can do and go after it!
Thanks for the video Nathan 🌟👍
@@shinamonsr ah sending my hugs friend. Take care...
Fantasy and imagination is what keeps me going personally
I literally think of my dreams like travel/play time, and I am very glad that I remember most of my dreams. (Even though some dreams are not so great.) One thing, though, I do NOT believe in is "equity" as you define it, as attempts to bring that about in reality for one person just end up clipping another person's wings. I think equal OPPORTUNITY is good but forcing equal outcomes just screws everybody. And yes, I am an INFP. It's just that for me, stripping people of their freedoms is the worst thing you can do, and that's what happens when you try to force equal outcomes.
"Birds can carry things just fine, just not when their wings are clipped." - Love Who, 2021
Never have I heard someone describe INFP mentality so elegantly, thank you from an INFP.
I really wish that I had discovered the personality types decades ago. Years of believing that I'm some kind of a "broken person" have taken their toll I think. Anyway, thanks for another great video helping to make me feel a little bit more at peace with my INFPness xx
I'm not a fan of life's pressures, particularly at work and having to conform and do what I'm told. I can't wait to retire. In fact, the day I started work, I wanted to retire lol. My fantasy is to tour the UK in a camper van or live in a remote cottage somewhere.
You sir are poetic. I thought at first that you were still reading the Tolkien quote.
Me as an ESTJ 👁_👁 🍿
Spot on when it comes to being rushed. Also spot on when it comes to the good fight. As a former critical care nurse I experienced many fast paced emergencies. It puts you in the zone. Your focus is very acute, and time passes at a different rate. You move very rapidly and efficiently, like a practiced athlete. But, the rest of the time you can take your hurry sickness elswhere!
Recently, I've been like "do the 16 Personality Types really apply to autistic people?" but after watching this video I'm once again convinced I am an INFP. Oh dear, what I've learned from the internet... INFP AND autistic? No wonder I've always felt like I don't belong in this world. :D
INFP and trans reporting in! Tell me about it haha
@@SomeNerd970 well at least you know it's a mental illness.
My brother is 14 and autistic. Personality theory is interesting! I had him take the 16 personality type and he is a classic ISFJ, but don’t people with autism usually struggle with Fe? AH. Not my bro. He is the nicest, most caring, compassionate guy I’ve met. Also, I’m not sure if this has to do with being on the spectrum, but we have the best conversations about abstract concepts. (Ne) as an INFP I’m NEVER bored when he’s around. I love his info dumping and he keeps up with my wacky questions.
@@SomeNerd970 Honey…did you just compare being trans to being autistic?
One you technically bring on yourself while the other is something you’re born with?
I don’t mean to sound mean but read the room a little darling please
@@YEDxFILMS you’re born trans tho? a person can be trans and not yet realise/not transition
This is spot on. Couldn´t have said it better myself about equity before equality. "One size fits all"- solutions can look fair and juste on the surface, but they conveniently forget that we are humans and humans have all sorts of different strengths and weaknesses.
"Your feelings for [this made up scenario]... they are not real."
"They are REAL to ME!"
4:33 “From each according to their ability, to each according to their need.”
videos like this erase any doubt that I am in fact an INFP
I love your kind and compassionate understanding of INFPs, and also of other types. It's refreshing.
6 months later and I'm rewatching this. I can't believe how well you understand INFPs. I'm a fantasy writer and the reasons you described are exactly why I'm drawn to the genre.
Point #2 is huge for me. Some of the things that have improved my life most drastically have been directly related to that: Leaving a stressful, high-pressure (and injustice-filled at that!) 9-to-5 job with a long commute in favor of flexible freelance work from home. Leaving a stressful, chaotic living environment to live alone in peace. I always seek to minimize the stresses, pressures, and constraints in my life. I think often the biggest challenge is finding a satisfactory way to reconcile this with the need to work and make money. And in my case, obligatory relationships with family that I'm not compatible with can also be a source of stress and suffocation, but as an independent adult, I can keep those interactions to a minimum.
#3 is 100% true!
I had another part here about fantasy but deleted it because idk, it depends on how loosely we're defining fantasy. I do like dreaming and fantasizing and imagining, but most of it is rooted in real-life possibilities rather than a whole separate fantasy world. And I can enjoy some fantasy works of art/entertainment, but I really just enjoy good art in general, regardless of genre.
Same!!
This is so true. When working at a office desk job, I can't help it but doze off even while typing. Then the random dreams come.
I shudder when I hear “equity and inclusion” in every new corporate and government slogan. They mean the opposite. -INFP
I can’t explain how I feel most of the time and you’re videos make me feel heard. I’m going to show my dad this so he can understand me more.
"To them, the system should bend to individuals not the other way around!" 😭
I’ve always liked that word escape! I made drawings on it when I was in school xd i have my own little escapes everyday, when listening to music, writing or just meditating... doing my thing and the world will be a bit more alright :)
Being an INFP and having Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder is NOT the best combination, especially when you already like an alien in an alien world due to your personality and how you're wired... There's nothing to ground you, you live in the clouds. But things like fantasy really help, oddly enough. Also, being rushed and witnessing inequality physically hurts me.
Same…
@@Celestials1aurora Yay, someone like me! ☺️
@@RosheenQuynh ikrrr I always wanted to find someone like me and be friends with them because it’s not easy..
@@Celestials1aurora Yeah, it's not...
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I lived in my stories and books for many years. Only way I could survive the 'real' world.
Love INFPs 😊 We have a common language of putting people first and responding to others in a warmer manner. They are attentive and caring 🙏🏻 I appreciate their presence and way of being. 🥰
I think one difference with fantasy worlds that INTPs and INFPs have is that INTPs may be more fascinated by the systems and hows things logically play out in the fan stays world
Concepts such as how languages evolve, governments arise and the world changing may be much more fascinating to INTPs as it follows structures that can be creatively worked with
INFPs may be more free towards their fantasy worlds in this sense being NFs who may be more invested to follow certain inspirations without the need for the structure
I keep testing as INFP and INTP; INFP more frequently. Reading this just made me realize how.
@@rookiesquish1216 be sure your test is based on the cognitive functions
@@J11_boohoo Well, I’ve done testing for cognitive functions on different days; still getting the same flip-flop between INFP and INTP. Now, I don’t know much of what I’m doing (as I am new-ish to this all) I’m pretty sure that I’m INFP more though and in fact not a healthy one.
INTP still keeps coming up; my feeling and thinking percentages are like 50/50 or their extremely close every time.
I relate a lot to the Fi Si loop; INFP. With INFP it’s Fi Ne Si Te; but on different days I test Ti Ne Si Fe; INTP.
I must need guidance or something I’m probably doing something wrong; it’s not possible to test between different functions, right?
@@rookiesquish1216 I also had a hard time distinguishing between Fi and Ti at first but when I heard about Fe, I just knew that my life problems were all about Fe and that I really devalued Te
If your life problems comes from Fe and you still value it then you are INTP
@@J11_boohoo I went through a world wind of further research and it’s unbelievable but there is no doubt in my mind as weird as it sounds that I am an INTP. Thanks it’s been driving me nuts! It goes without saying that I haven’t slept.
I've noticed that I can get things done at work faster than anybody else, except when my boss is yelling at me to do it faster. Then I'm slower than most.
"weird" is just someone else's perception of "different" and spending a lot of time in our heads is just something a lot of people don't comprehend
You got me at the end. How could I not.
Can I just say how wonderful your editing and thumbnails are? ❤️
"to them, the system should bend to individuals and not the other way around." I feel this in my soul. I hate one-size-fits all approaches to life. Literally makes my skin crawl.
I’m infp or intp. I do have a lot of romantic fantasies but my job is as an analyst but I actually hate doing analysis. It’s something I can do but I don’t really enjoy doing. Which I think makes me infp.
Is it possible to be both somehow? Or is there just a lot of overlap? I feel like I have both INTP and INFP traits. However I do actually enjoy coding which probably immediately puts me in the INTP camp.
me I think if you enjoy code your surely intp. I’m a computer engineer by education and programming interested me initially but over long period, I was more interested in jobs where i don’t have to exercise that extroverted thinking function which drains me. If it were completely up to me, I would be an orchestra player. I was from orchestra in my high school. And I enjoy creating non-linear and non-logical things such as music, painting etc more. But I have to rely on my inferior function of the extroverted thinking for my job. However I gotten more to the design and feeling part, my job now is maybe just 30_40% analysis work and others are things that I enjoy
@@zebesiv you should check out "Cognitive Personality Theory". He explains infps in a way where I've felt best understood. Being Fi dominant doesn't mean your thinking functions aren't strongly preferred and used as well.
It's a silly stereotype that feelers are not logical and artistic pursuits are the sole thing we're best at.
INFP pursuing astrophysics who really enjoys Maths here.
It might just be that you are at a similar percentage for thinking and feeling. They might be at like a 50/50 or a 40/60 or so. I am an INFP and I think coding and such seems interesting. :D
While it's interesting and useful to consider, you shouldn't equal your job to your personality type. You can be a strict boss and still be INFP for example.
Think about what you are generally like, the way you think, feel and act in general, how you interact with people, what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable, what is most natural to you, what scares you, how you approach or consider problems or just life in most aspects. There is so much more to a person than liking or being good at writing or programming or teaching or painting etc. You may even be good at or enjoy both stereotypically T _and_ F activities also!
This guy is so spot on. Keep up the great work 👍. I appreciate you greatly.
I love sciencefiction and fantasy.
The weirdest thing I did was read 'The Hobbit' 3 times in succession in 2 days because the journey was so enjoyable.
When I was 11 I once put most of my life on pause for a week because I was reading LOTR. I did nothing but eat, sleep, read, and daydream about what I'd read. It was awesome.
@@lunabeekhuizen8858 I read the Hobbit and LOTR and cried for three days when the final ships left Grey Haven - forever. I was way past 11. 😂
The way you make inspiring and from my perspective, accurate, content in these little snippets so I can share with people makes me happy... The way in which you continue to expand my awareness of the subtle nuances of the types (and here my type) ELATES me. Thank you
All I can say is: ❤️
Love,
INFP
I love you
Thank you for spreading these truths about me 🙏 I really appreciate your perspective on my forever misunderstood mbti type.
This is very accurate, even tho I may be an intp I can relate to anyone of those
I'm am INTP and resonate with everything in this video.
i'm an INFP, mistyped pretty long as an INTP, and i can absolutely say that those two types are really similar. One might be a type valuing logic and the other valuing pesonal values, but i think Ti and Fi can be pretty similar, as they work both very personally and basically do the same things, just with different goals. And ofc, we also share the Ne/Si too
@@andreas_rr So how'd you determine you're an INFP rather than INTP?
@@averys3627 its a bit complicated to explain; basically i do value logic a lot and got kind of forced into a very T-oriented childhood neglecting my F pretty much (making it even worse being Fi turned towards the inside even more)... this means many traits of an INTP do fit for me, and i can relate a lot, but when broadening the view on what i care about, i realized that that's much closer to Fi, as i do consider logic to make choices, but in the end it's really just personal values making the decision, which try to be conform to the logical decisions, but arent always. In a way, i underrated all the feeling/value based processes within me because of a false impression of myself.
That might sound a bit silly, but i tried to be consise and many things cant be really explained easily. Everything goes evidently much deeper, but this should be enough to understand it broadly
I wrote a 88 000 sci fi novel. Im an infp but it was through a vanity publisher which you need to not do. Also my book hasn't got that hook of realism that a good book needs in order to take off. After receiving criticism for being bland and or repetitive in my work i stopped writing all together, and still struggle today with it today but after learning im an infp i am googling all the struggles and solutions people come up with to produce a wonderful piece such as jrr tolkien or robert greene, both infps. I write poetry, usually sad, but nothing great. I noticed as an infp i tend to take work from here and there snd mix it up. Sometimes i don't even know that what ive said has been said and im thinking its original. I have to really sit with the enotions and try to convey it on paper, but i think playing music and dancing best expresses my emotion where as writing requires that extra part of my brain that always seems to say no 😂
"the system should bend to individuals and not the other way around"
still baffled by the dislike button inexistence ...
I hate being INFP. Feel like I'm someone elses toilet paper.
One of the most deeply moving books i ever read was the underground man i just love to go inside the mind of the characters and feel their inadequacy, despair, loneliness and melancholy and go down the downward spiral with them and if there is a tragic ending at the end it feels magnificent just a true work of art , im not sure though that is an infp thing or not but personally its never a “ sunshine and flowers “ more like a dead wood with a lovecraftian theme where people suffer and some goes mad , people eating each others flesh and struggle to be human in inhumane world , nobody protect the weak and their is no heroes or wait the hero is one you wont even trust for a drop of water because he is the worse human being imaginable and evil prevails at the end kinds of story
Id argue a bit on this one. As infp i needed to be placed in uncomfortable situations and forced if you will to do the reality check otherwise i become to complacent and stagnant and will stay in my own world and let the environment and those around me down. But i hate hate being pressured and micromanaged. Im naturally quite rebellious and won't do something unless its of interest to me. And most def move at my own pace. I am sloth in most regards, the way i move and talk. Thinking can be too fast and scattered though. Im learning to overcome emotional reactions as i can over do or under do it. But that has been my life long war....emotion
I'm too shy to join ur DC Channel, but after I watched a dozen of ur videos here u have my sub 😁
i just want to say thank you for all your videos.
i’ve recently become very interested in learning about the personality types (particularly mine), and these videos have SIGNIFICANTLY helped me feel “not crazy”. because before finding these videos, i thought for so long that there was something truly wrong with me. like… i needed to see a therapist and get medication because of how deep and vivid my imagination was. like… i thought there had to be something fundamentally flawed with me as a human being that i had MULTIPLE worlds going on in my head… to the point of sometimes imagining conversations, like you mentioned, in my head rather than in the real world. so finding these videos and gaining a better sense of the personality types is REALLY helping me understand not only myself but how to function in a world that doesn’t seem… quite right for me sometimes.
so THANK YOU!
They also love Cemetery Gates by the Smiths.
Yes. Is that you, God?
This is why the world is so very very hard right now. I'm very sad.
I play out conversations in my head sometimes to practice my reactions and sociability in general. I don't know. People still say I'm weird and awkward but whatever. I don't want to be accepted for what I'm not.
It's December and your audio still sounds great. Good job.
Thanks for doing one for us. Always insightful and on point :) I agreed on all of them except maybe the last it seemed more political. Views on equity and equality are on the spectrum of politics.
Th the first minute and a half made me think of the warning label for the ENTPs about the mouth managing to move faster than the warp speed brain. Truly captures Fi Intensity 🧠🕳
most prone to maladaptive daydreaming
Perfect way to start my day this morning
Don't let the world bring you down. Not everyone is that F'd up and cold!
I've struggled with guilt my whole life because of who I am as an INFP. Is that normal?
Everything is completely true and accurate to me. I feel like I relate to the fantasy aspect the most, haha.
Lol 😂 the part about laughing to a made up thing in your head or something viewed or read is absolutely correct and everyone else going whats funny? I tell him and the look of seriousness is still there. Its like i endeavour to be funny but man do i miss the mark. While i am predominantly melancholy and a little too deep at times, i can have bouts of absolute giddiness and laughing at just about anything. I tell my partner, its alright, it'll pass while he looks at me funny like oh god here she goes again or laughs with me but at me 😅
"I reject your reality and substitute my own."
I relate to this really well. Thank you for making this video
POV: you’re an INFP and you’re watching this in between videos of whatever your fave fictional character’s type is
Does anyone have advice on how to help my younger INFP brother “find his way”? I’ve found that a studying the Myers Briggs “types” has helped me better understand people but I can’t understand why someone with as much potential as him would make the choices that he does.
Give him the space and time to “find his way.” Don’t be too harsh on his choices, even if you don’t understand them. Perhaps he needs to make his own mistakes to find his way, or perhaps he's just taking a longer route. INFPs don’t take well to advice that feels like it’s being forced upon them, especially if they perceive it to be coming from a lack of understanding. That said, he might appreciate your genuine input and curiosity about his choices - just don’t push your opinions onto him and make the issues out to be so black-and-white. Seek to understand and acknowledge which values are important to him, support and help him with what you can, and he will appreciate that.
- a random INFP on the Internet
One of the inherent traits of ANY INFP is unpredictability. Our logic & our course of action are solely our own & hell, even INFPs have difficulty understanding why other INFPs do what they do.
With that said, then comes one of the things that ANY INFP would LOATHE, & that's having opinions shoved down our throats & being told that it's for our own good. INFPs, when allowed to express themselves in an environment without judgment (at least when said INFP perceives it to be so), would easily appear talented, have potential... & then squandering it to the bafflement of others.
It's a process that, i'd say, happens to just about ALL INFPs other than the ones blessed enough to truly have a judgment-free environment around them. It's important to note that what society sees as important & a key defining factor of success, doesn't necessarily rhyme with us. An INFP could easily be given all those things & still feels miserable, simply because that's not what they want. Think of someone who'd rather drive a Honda Civic instead of a BMW 7 series, & INSISTS on doing so.
Back to the unpredictability part a little bit. One of the reasons why INFPs make baffling choices is because even WE do NOT necessarily know what we know, & that's especially so for younger INFPs. Fumbling about & making bewildering choices, are simply our way of seeking exactly that.
Finally, INFPs inherently care far more about being happy than working to our fullest potential. To us, success could only be success when we find happiness in it, & if doing so means squandering some bit of our potential to do so, so be it.
I feel like I just listened to a blog post :chefkiss:
Not fantasy, but surrealism.
One time I told my husband that in my ideal world, the corporations work for us. He replied, "You would think that" (he's an ESFJ and he understands, he doesn't agree but he understands lol)
100 per cent spot on 😊
J R R Tolkien quote, I wish it was an ESTP video 😩
Ok you called me out… I’ll make one soon ~ Nathan
Am I the only infp that hate being infp ? I wish I can control daydreaming and fantasies… I want to be in the moment😔
I'm not sure how common that is, but I do often find that certain types that are glamourised in the personality type community often don't enjoy being that type themselves. Maybe there's some kind of pattern there ~ Nathan
I think INTPs aren't less bothered by "force exerted upon them", though. A primary Ti won't like that any more than a primary Fi.
one thing that's very very strange for me who is one of INFPs. my imagination is so amazing all the time except when we have to think about creative thing. that's bad...somtimes?^^' like ahh I can't force myself to imagine or sometimes got many amazing ideas but can't say or no one listen to me when i try to present it 'always ToT' so sad guy...
Are u an INFPs? Do u have same experient as me? let's share
Yup...😁
That's actually very common among INFPs, & it really indicates our lacking Te in reigning our Fi in.
Thank you for this. ❤
Tho i took a personality test 2 times, the first one turned out that i was an INFP then the second is i was an INTP, both are so accurate, i was confuse lol. So i saw a comment in this video (ig that person was a INFP) saying that the made up scenarios in their head feels so real it made them cry, and boi did i tell you IT HAPPENED TO ME AT LEAST MORE THAN ONCE. Plus the INTP videos this guy makes is VERYYYY accurate too 😭 ig personalities aren't permanent to me
Am I the only one who found themselves sinking into Discworld for decades now?
Please Please INTJ INFP relationship video
Thankyou for this video
I live in a daydream every minute of every day.
Listening to you talking like a rocket and following text is not easy.
Good day everyone .Love Who I'm an INFJ , I'm here for a request . As flawlessly spot on ur discription on us is : I'm 14 years of age and I'd like you to please do a video on what it feels like to be an INFJ child
Naive and inevitably used by bad people.
i really relate to everything you say abut infp but about liking fantasy (the genre, and the act of imagining sets and conversations) i really am not. despite living in my introspection and in this case having as an escape the books, series and movies I don't see myself as a dreamer also . is it possible for an infp not to fantasize much and not be a dreamer?.
The answer is “pink” 🌸
🎼"Dreamers, they never, they never learn. Beyond the point of no retun. It's too late, the damage is done. The damage is done."🎵🎶 Radiohead "Daydreaming"
I ❤ this.
Hey Nathan :D
I'm seeing what I need to see here but, what about Nathan from Love Who? 😊
as an INFP who is studying dentistry which needs u to be exactly opposite of everything said in this video
i guess i have to change either myself or my job
can u change your personality?
XXFPs, just like XXTJs have introverted feeling and extroverted thinking. Try developing your Te.
Omg can't believe I'll find another infp that is in dentistry :" Yeah I can relate and hate every second of it. I'll cut off my limb to change my personality tbh
I'm an INFP and doing physiotherapy yet sucks at kinaesthetic stuff (like other INFPs). My mum's family are all in dentistry and because of that I know repetition, routine is a thing in that degree. I purposely chose physio, cause I'm aware of my weaknesses and I want to improve to become a better rounded individual. It would also encourage me to workout more often haha. That, along with helping others :) So by doing dentistry, I feel like that would encourage your Si & Te to develop a bit more, just like physio assists in my Se development. So even if it feels hard, you're growing to become a more mature person 😊
I found Human Design a more useful indicator of personality and purpose.