I feel like INFPs are a mix of whimsical and childishly naive, never wanting to grow old, but also possess an equally intense old soul that takes their beliefs very seriously due to their idealism. I find them very relatable as fellow INxPs but wish I had some real ones as friends. -INTP
As an infp, i think you're spot on with that. Being kind of childish, like having that sense of wonder, and then having some kind of old soul-thing going on at the same time seems very relatable.
The word I believe is childlike not childish as we have the wonder and innocence of a child while childish would indicate a level of immaturity or idiocy. As an infp I haven't really changed since I was a child in the sense I still love what I love back then now and yet I have changed much in the sense of growth and stepping out of my comfort zone...😊
Hear hear!!! One professor I really respected in grad school described it well, in that even though one can be deeply affected by things, you can have that AND be very resilient at the same time. At least that’s how I feel.
@@nerysghemor5781 that's awesome! I do think it's important to challenge stereotypes bc half the battle when feeling depressed is "oh, I am a FEELING person, I must be sad all the time" when really, it just means more in tune with other people's feelings.
I really admire and respect INFPs for their individuality, inner strength and wisdom. One of my besties is this type, and I could listen to her spout her innermost ideas and theories all day! 💞
I think i'd be speaking on behalf of all INFPs when i say this. It would be an honor for us to have people like you around, listening to us spout our innermost ideas & theories. God knows how many of us never knew just how much we CRAVE for people like that to be a part of our lives.
As an INFP guy, I often find myself on a journey with no destination. Along the way I cry at movies, I mediate fights between my friends, and I always know when someone is hiding a secret. I never ask anyone to share their secrets, but when I'm sitting by myself at the beach, sometimes even strangers come along and tell me what they themselves need to hear.
Great vids on this channel on infps, because you dont go into the stereotypes. Love the way you use descriptive words like a novelist that constructs enduring characters.
As an INFP, I would have added whimsical and impish to the word list. There's a certain Alice in Wonderland feel to us, a certain desire to tweak the nose of reality and bring a little magic back into the world.
Nathan, that was superb! As an INFP (a 'mature' one at that), I feel absolutely seen, validated, and even celebrated. I marvel at the depth of your understanding, and the language you've used is poetic. Not once did you resort to stereotyping. I smiled and even chuckled to myself a few times. This makes me happy to be me!
Glad you enjoyed the video! At some point along the line people started telling me they'd send videos about their type to people in their lives as a quick and broad way to get to know them. That prompted some of these series ideas such as 'the types in 2minutes' and this current one. It's nice to balance going in depth with things then stepping back and capturing the broad strokes or the essence of a type ~ Nathan
This helped me to understand myself and not feel so different. I have no desire to be normal but I wish I could be more flexible to fit in. My perception is freakishly fine tuned. I tested high on visual perception and analytical thinking, but low in abstract thinking in an IQ test. That’s when the mbti test was recommended and talk about feeling seen and understood. I live in a lonely way because people who don’t understand things the way I do, don’t like me. That’s ok because we don’t all connect and we don’t have to.
Dunno if it's an INFP thing or just a me thing but I love it when people use fancy words and language to describe me. Makes me feel more special and interesting than I'm probably like lol. "Intransigent and Habitual" sound a lot nicer than "lazy" looooool Would love to see one of these for the ISFJs, they feel so underrated and definitely don't think they give themselves enough credit lololol
I wish I could live a day in an INFP mind. As an ESFJ I have and INFP friend…and so to understand him better I watched tonnes of INFP videos. Just wish I could daydream in full color and see the world and think like they do. I am so pragmatic and focussed on goals, I am totally missing those deeper thoughts and musings.
@@StacyRenardPiano being an INFP can certainly be beautiful and I take a lot of pride in it but it definitely has it's shortcomings ahahha. When you think and feel so constantly, it won't always be about the beauties of the world or even about your worlds. You can get so lost in the much more depressing parts of life and of yourself. It's also very hard to just get up and do things loloololol. Wouldn't mind spending a day here or there as an ESFJ, y'all are so instinctively kind and compassionate yet also productive and motivated (at least more than I am aahahahhaa)
As a non English native speaker, this comment represents me in the best way 😂 Although i agree with most of the comments and i wanted to comment too, but i feel like I can't write it beautifully like other people 😂 so i was struggling alone thinking about that then i found this comment 😂❤
I've only familiar with the word Empath. Google has been a good friend of mine when I had questions about a strange gut feeling about certain people and situations which is typical for empaths. So... I'd vote you're right.
As an INFP, I would also say that we are explicit : Being sufficiently clear and precise in the statement; which cannot be left with any doubt (you can correct me if you want, I just thought that it represent me A BIT WAY TOO MUCH like the thing I just did here so yeah lol.
As an INFP i love this, even though so many compliments flusters me a bit! I'm happy you talked about Fi empathy, so many people misunderstand that. You really understand us. I think you're the youtuber who understands INFPs the most for a non-INFP, and that's what keeps me coming back
Wow. This is just so spot on, as you usually are with INFPs. For every word, I have several examples from my life. I love how you see the positive things we can bring to the world, as sometimes that's hard to see for ourselves.
Such high praise and flattery, Nathan 🥺 As an INFP, I've always found my personality to be a bit paradoxical at times (though I suppose all MBTI types have contradictions), but this video captured the different angles really well. I love all the choices of words and even learned "Orphic" 💖 - "'not all who wander are lost'... the alternative is being on a path that you find no meaning in, then being lost is by far the better place to be" - "when Alice went down the rabbit hole it was kind of a risky move" 🐇 Also love the distinction of Fi and Fe in terms of empathy! (In MBTI theory, it's rarer to hear of Fi being associated with empathy, but I think INFPs do have a lot of capacity for empathy. As you've said though, it's different from how Fe users operate, in being more individualistically oriented and values-focused.) Watching this as an INFP feels a bit self-indulgent 😇
Ahhhh...now I know why I "fell" so hard...lol. Spot on accurate, all 20 qualities. What stood out for me was the Orphic quality (charmed spell slightly closed book, yep), the slightly "oppositional" individualism (not quite iconoclastic...but close), the enigmatic, the intense (Atlantis? yep), the mysterious, the highly perceptive, the melancholic spirit, the protean mental and artistic creativity, the intrasigence, oi! but also the gentle tolerance, yes (totally confusing), the quiet, often silly humor (playfulness), a certain stoicism, the seeming moving through in an unreal dreamworld, the preference to be both a kind of eternally unseen observer and a free, untethered wanderer. I saw that ineffable state, too--incredibly so. Yes, wow, all of this. INTP "cousin" here, feeling wistful...though smiling deeply.
The side of a personality type we get to see actually fluctuates. Weirdly enough, we all work on crossing the bridge between the dominant and inferior function (that becomes obvious to people who get to know us) while employing tactics that include the functions in-between. My mom used to be bossy (or good at managing things). But that was the side we got to see at home because we knew her well. Out there, into this wild, wild world, the functions that others got to witness more were her perceiving functions. And those made her forgiving, lenient, understanding, soft, careful,… I would often tell her that she needs to set certain firm lines in order to show self-respect. Cause let’s be real: the world is not necessarily a fairytale. If a person doesn’t learn self-respect and doesn’t show behavior that matches that, others aren’t gonna come and help. But she believed that. That people would care and be kind and help. Contrary to stereotypes, INFPs are experts when it comes to managing their emotions. People whose inferior function is the dominant one of an INFP are actually the ones who can find themselves in a pickle because they may struggle expressing their emotions properly.
Melancholic was articulated very accurately. Literally my morning routine. But I just want to know when Nathan is going to start professionally recording audiobooks?! I could listen to him all day. Can you imagine him reading some contemporary sci-fi or fantasy? Good heavens.
An INTJ here, I absolutely adore my INFP best friend. It was her who stayed with me and supported me the most during my depression episodes, she's literally an angel semt by God. Meanwhile, I helped her to become more confident with her body and more willing to deal with conflict head on. And surprisingly I am the more optimistic in the duo, maybe because while she often connect things with human condition (which can be great), I focus more on finding patterns and their elegance. For instance, once we hang out at a beach (seems like beaches are perfect for dark topics) and she sighed as she saw a seaweed washed up ashore with some trash entangled. She thought of pollution and how human ruin the natural beauty, while I appreciate how life always find a way as I noticed the seaweed had loads of fruits on it.
This was so beautiful ❤ I also appreciate the words you used so I can further expand my vocabulary. But I just adore your videos and how articulate and how well-versed you are on the MBTI types. Never stop doing what you do 🥰 your videos help me feel more seen and less like a walking stereotype. In an ironic way. Signed, an INFP subscriber ☺️
Hey! what're you doing? I was quietly feeling misunderstood and melancholic and now I don't feel either! Nathan the INFP-whisperer strikes again... I think I'm only going to get off my butt and do some Christmas tasks - when I've finished typing this of course, lol!
Melancholic and playful... I try to be funny even when talking about sad things. it's a form of abreaction, but not everyone understands it. It can be that taboo thing. You don't tell jokes at a funeral
Yes..."unobtrusive"...because the unobtrusive place is where you watch from and...understand...and therefore know what the whole construct in front of you means and not only what you need to do in it but, more importantly, why. And if there is no "why" then...it is quite possibly time to disappear and show up somewhere else where there's a "why".
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for making this!!! I’ve been looking forward to you doing this one for INFP since your first ‘20 Words’ and to hear it start off with one of my favourite words made it well worth the wait! ❤🎉
Almost all of these adjectives were used before by other people to describe me. But the one that impacted me the most is not on the list: methodic. I was in shock when I first heard it, because I always considered myself as chaotic (blame Ne). Then I realized that is exactly the ability to control the chaos that people sees and admires, like when you see a warrior that develops courage over his fears, and knows that he had to work harder than a fearless warrior.
As far as I'm concerned, this describes me perfectly. Of course, maybe because I am an INFP, I find all of these terms to be rather complimentary. So I like the description. :)
Wonderful video! That's an INFP. I think you nailed it. That's me to a T. I often felt that the description of passive wasn't on point. I go with the flow but if there's a vacuum that needs to be filled I can step in and fill it. I think INFPs can operate in different personality types if the need exists. And do quite well. But that process is draining and not something that you would want to do long-term. That's why learning about your personality type through MTBI can help you find the right fit in your life. I was part of a corporate leadership team and the company was very much into MTBI so we had a lot of training and exercises and seminars about it. I haven't spent much time in this realm since I left that environment. But you have stimulated me too reconnect. I have more time to myself these days and so I am continuing my wandering without being lost. Thanks for what you do
Thank you for this video Nathan, it is so beautifully presented and so very accurate. Far too often INFP's are overlooked and ignored, this makes me feel validated and seen.
Thank you for respecting that an Fi-dom can have empathy too! You’re very right that it’s highly focused on the individual, but NOT necessarily oneself. I definitely feel like I focus one at a time on people as opposed to the whole group at once. And yeah, we can be intransigent when we dig out heels in! THANK YOU too for acknowledging us as poised!! Maybe it’s more pronounced because I was raised by Te-doms but I do NOT like letting people see me losing it. I am very aware of what I am feeling most all of the time (and often why), and that awareness makes me feel like if I DO lose it, then it was with almost premeditated, because there were TONS of red flags. (It’s also what makes the ENTJ blindness to their own emotions and outright denial of their explosive and emotional nature so frustrating…like, HOW can you be that unaware of what’s going on inside you?) Another funny one…yes, I AM a creature of habit when it comes to my daily comforts. Repeatedly change up business processes at my job? Cool, I’ll try it. I work with a ton of SJs at my job and my lack of change resistance as far as our job processes go really sticks out. Kick me out of my spot in the office that I had set up exactly to my liking for years? NOW I RIOT.
Thank you..i feel like I'm with a friend who appreciates me for who I am and sees my full potential which is what I seek in relationships and rarely find 14. Ineffable - this is what defines me the most as infp. And it's never talked about
I love the 20 words series. Thanks for enfp's. I want to see it to all 16 personalities. Specially esfp. Cause I love how you stand for them. Also I want to see it for isfj's
Well done, thank you. This INFP approves as well. Yes "not all who wander are lost". I really liked the word descriptions. It helps me embrace my true nature all the more and understand myself and how I relate.
Best example for me talking about taboos: I asked my intp what he thinks about necrophilia. Just wanted to know. Gosh, he felt really uncomfortable that poor man. And again, I would love to talk to other infps but I am too shy... It gives me physical pain to only think about it 🙈
Yeah I’ve gone too far without realizing it bringing up taboo topics to people for the sake of discussion. I didn’t know that was an INFP thing until I watched this video. Very interesting!
This was lovely! Very accurate and insightful Showing a more than surface level understanding of us, not just understanding the more rigid rules of typing, but deeply comprehensive of how that translates into us as people. On the whole, very reassuring ❤
oh.. that touched a spot. That really stung, man. A good sting i might add. ;) "being on a path that you find no meaning in, then being lost is by far the better place to be"
Great video, i was curious about how different these videos would be for the types that share fuctions in almost the same order, but you definitely show infp and enfp unique characteristic and differences in each video
Very well put video, thank you. As an INFP the only word I disagree with is "Tolerant", as I vehemently disagree with and dislike people that are opposite of the principles and values I hold most important. I can't fathom how they could be so wrong and distance myself from such individuals instantly.
I felt kind of laid bare after this video. It was a little weird to be described so well. I thought I was unique but instead find I'm just like others of this type. It kind of readjusts who I think I am. Thank you for the opportunity Love Who.
This is brilliant Nathan, INFP Whisperer 💫 The synchronicities abound for me in the words you've chosen. I started tearing up right before you got to Melancholic 😌😉😊 How wonderful it is to be seen ❣
I think that, infps at their best are some of the most admirable people you can know. Unfortunately, most have their heads in the sand, or rather a white hole, because an immature one, due to their Ti demon, runs from the truth. -INTP
This was so well thought out, thank you! Really resonated with the wandering, sometimes the only way to be happy is to not have a specific plan, just find small things to be happy about along the road you didn’t know you’d be travelling down.
This is very helpful information to me as a 70 yr old INFP since it confirms many of my own perceptions of myself relative to the world around me. Thank you, for your words provide confirmation and support of "where I live" without the often cruel misjudgments of my attributes that many people around me may make (often in the hopes of "Helping me fix my ways"). I am happiest where I am and as I am.
As someone who identifies as an INFP, all of these words resonated deeply with me. Kinda scary actually, but it's nice to be understood, even if not fully.
You have helped to explain me to myself. I am often perceived to be strange or contrary by others, but I think it's this strangeness that I love most about myself. It just makes it hard for me to fit in to the world of others. But do I really want to fit in to the world of others? Not really. But that pressure to do so is always present.
That was quite impressive Sir. Also this was the last type on my list. Of course I kept getting typed INTP or INFJ when tested at 8yrs old via therapist. I was one strange kid. But anyway, thank you so much. After asking my dad some things and now seeing this…I’m about 90% sure I am the one this speaks of. It was driving me insane not being able to figure it out. After 3 months of almost daily research , I can move to the next step. Again, I really appreciate your work. -T
As an INFP #12 made me laugh a lot. It was a perfect distribution and what’s funny is that we (at least I) perceive that I am an open book yet find out later that others see me as a “tough but to crack” 😅
I come back to this video whenever I need some self love. Because I relate to everything in this video sooo much, yet I tend to interpret everything about me as flaws. This is so beautiful 😭
My husband is an INFP and you absolutely nailed it. His favorite game is chess because it is the only one that is absolutely fair with no luck. Idealism with limited practicality is applied to everything. I'm an ENTP and we get into some heated debates. Its pretty fun actually to light a fire in quiet passive types . They need it to get into action mode.
Please do a video where you explain the least intuitive type all the way to the most intuitive type placing the types on a scale like you did with the introverted extroverted one.
in theory all the 4 intuitive dominant types are the most intuiive and the sensory dominant the least. Not one in specific is more intuitive than the other.
“Not all who wander are lost” is literally one of my favorite quotes -An INFP
It's always stood out to me as the quintessential INFP sentiment ~ Nathan
I feel like INFPs are a mix of whimsical and childishly naive, never wanting to grow old, but also possess an equally intense old soul that takes their beliefs very seriously due to their idealism. I find them very relatable as fellow INxPs but wish I had some real ones as friends.
-INTP
As an infp, i think you're spot on with that. Being kind of childish, like having that sense of wonder, and then having some kind of old soul-thing going on at the same time seems very relatable.
As an infp, that sounds pretty spot on. I guess many of us feel like we're old souls and kinda childish at the same time.
@@draug7966 True that.
The word I believe is childlike not childish as we have the wonder and innocence of a child while childish would indicate a level of immaturity or idiocy. As an infp I haven't really changed since I was a child in the sense I still love what I love back then now and yet I have changed much in the sense of growth and stepping out of my comfort zone...😊
INFP = I'm Not Fragile, People ❤️❤️❤️
Hear hear!!! One professor I really respected in grad school described it well, in that even though one can be deeply affected by things, you can have that AND be very resilient at the same time. At least that’s how I feel.
@@nerysghemor5781 that's awesome! I do think it's important to challenge stereotypes bc half the battle when feeling depressed is "oh, I am a FEELING person, I must be sad all the time" when really, it just means more in tune with other people's feelings.
yea, fragility is more of an adjective for the mentally unwell,not for a personality type (which just describes behavioral/thought patterns)
ANTI TI TI TI FRAGILE
Hi, wong. It's important to be realistic.
I really admire and respect INFPs for their individuality, inner strength and wisdom. One of my besties is this type, and I could listen to her spout her innermost ideas and theories all day! 💞
Thank you for being these kind of person in our lives
I think i'd be speaking on behalf of all INFPs when i say this. It would be an honor for us to have people like you around, listening to us spout our innermost ideas & theories. God knows how many of us never knew just how much we CRAVE for people like that to be a part of our lives.
Beautifully put! ~ Nathan
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Which type are you?
As an INFP guy, I often find myself on a journey with no destination. Along the way I cry at movies, I mediate fights between my friends, and I always know when someone is hiding a secret. I never ask anyone to share their secrets, but when I'm sitting by myself at the beach, sometimes even strangers come along and tell me what they themselves need to hear.
Great vids on this channel on infps, because you dont go into the stereotypes. Love the way you use descriptive words like a novelist that constructs enduring characters.
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As an INFP, I would have added whimsical and impish to the word list. There's a certain Alice in Wonderland feel to us, a certain desire to tweak the nose of reality and bring a little magic back into the world.
“Impish” is such an excellent word! Love it ~ Nathan
As a fellow INFP I approve this sentiment.
Absolutely! Love surprising people with a person my age being a Minecraft YTuber. Hilarious
Agreed, my oldest and his sister are both INFPs. Whimsical and impish is an apt description.
1. Pensive
2. Wise
3. Seekers
4. Individualistic
5. Empathetic
6. Intense
7. Taboo
8. Intransigence
9. Poised
10. Inquisitive
11. Reverie
12. Orphic
13. Wanderer
14. Ineffable
15. Melancholic
16. Perceptive
17. Playful
18. Habitual
19. Unobtrusive
20. Tolerant
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Thank you very much! ❤
Nathan, that was superb! As an INFP (a 'mature' one at that), I feel absolutely seen, validated, and even celebrated. I marvel at the depth of your understanding, and the language you've used is poetic. Not once did you resort to stereotyping. I smiled and even chuckled to myself a few times. This makes me happy to be me!
Yes! Perfectly spoken. 😁
Glad you enjoyed the video! At some point along the line people started telling me they'd send videos about their type to people in their lives as a quick and broad way to get to know them. That prompted some of these series ideas such as 'the types in 2minutes' and this current one. It's nice to balance going in depth with things then stepping back and capturing the broad strokes or the essence of a type ~ Nathan
This helped me to understand myself and not feel so different. I have no desire to be normal but I wish I could be more flexible to fit in.
My perception is freakishly fine tuned. I tested high on visual perception and analytical thinking, but low in abstract thinking in an IQ test. That’s when the mbti test was recommended and talk about feeling seen and understood. I live in a lonely way because people who don’t understand things the way I do, don’t like me. That’s ok because we don’t all connect and we don’t have to.
I, INTP. My 13 year old son, INFP. THIS IS FUN.
Dunno if it's an INFP thing or just a me thing but I love it when people use fancy words and language to describe me. Makes me feel more special and interesting than I'm probably like lol. "Intransigent and Habitual" sound a lot nicer than "lazy" looooool
Would love to see one of these for the ISFJs, they feel so underrated and definitely don't think they give themselves enough credit lololol
ESFJ’s too feel that way!
@@StacyRenardPiano you're so right lolol, my friend never gives himself credit for anything when he's out here giving his all
I wish I could live a day in an INFP mind. As an ESFJ I have and INFP friend…and so to understand him better I watched tonnes of INFP videos. Just wish I could daydream in full color and see the world and think like they do. I am so pragmatic and focussed on goals, I am totally missing those deeper thoughts and musings.
@@StacyRenardPiano being an INFP can certainly be beautiful and I take a lot of pride in it but it definitely has it's shortcomings ahahha. When you think and feel so constantly, it won't always be about the beauties of the world or even about your worlds. You can get so lost in the much more depressing parts of life and of yourself. It's also very hard to just get up and do things loloololol. Wouldn't mind spending a day here or there as an ESFJ, y'all are so instinctively kind and compassionate yet also productive and motivated (at least more than I am aahahahhaa)
We also type too much when replying to someone ahhahahahahh
The most enchanting melody I heard in childhood, on my mother's stereo, was, ironically, Debussy's "Reverie"....
...this ineffable thing that has to be felt...
I love that💕
ENFP with an INFP bestie
So accurate ❤ im happy to be an INFP 🙂
It's nice to feel so understood and appreciated.
As a non English native speaker, this comment represents me in the best way 😂
Although i agree with most of the comments and i wanted to comment too, but i feel like I can't write it beautifully like other people 😂 so i was struggling alone thinking about that then i found this comment 😂❤
"INFP's are calm, composed, and graceful in their domineers--"
*me being an infp and ugly crying after stubbing my toe*
Outstanding.
I'm an INFP, and an empath.
I wonder if all INFPs are empaths?
I find this collection of words surprisingly accurate.
I've only familiar with the word Empath. Google has been a good friend of mine when I had questions about a strange gut feeling about certain people and situations which is typical for empaths. So... I'd vote you're right.
I fit that description, too. Maybe so
As an INFP, I would also say that we are explicit : Being sufficiently clear and precise in the statement; which cannot be left with any doubt (you can correct me if you want, I just thought that it represent me A BIT WAY TOO MUCH like the thing I just did here so yeah lol.
As an INFP, I felt so called out with a lot of these words…Pensive, Orphic, Ineffable, Individualistic, and Melancholic especially.
As an INFP i love this, even though so many compliments flusters me a bit! I'm happy you talked about Fi empathy, so many people misunderstand that. You really understand us. I think you're the youtuber who understands INFPs the most for a non-INFP, and that's what keeps me coming back
This!
Wow. This is just so spot on, as you usually are with INFPs. For every word, I have several examples from my life. I love how you see the positive things we can bring to the world, as sometimes that's hard to see for ourselves.
This is a really lovely comment. Thank you! ~ Nathan
Such high praise and flattery, Nathan 🥺 As an INFP, I've always found my personality to be a bit paradoxical at times (though I suppose all MBTI types have contradictions), but this video captured the different angles really well. I love all the choices of words and even learned "Orphic" 💖
- "'not all who wander are lost'... the alternative is being on a path that you find no meaning in, then being lost is by far the better place to be"
- "when Alice went down the rabbit hole it was kind of a risky move" 🐇
Also love the distinction of Fi and Fe in terms of empathy! (In MBTI theory, it's rarer to hear of Fi being associated with empathy, but I think INFPs do have a lot of capacity for empathy. As you've said though, it's different from how Fe users operate, in being more individualistically oriented and values-focused.)
Watching this as an INFP feels a bit self-indulgent 😇
Wondering while wandering
YES! "An Atlantis under their placid lake." I love that!
Ahhhh...now I know why I "fell" so hard...lol. Spot on accurate, all 20 qualities. What stood out for me was the Orphic quality (charmed spell slightly closed book, yep), the slightly "oppositional" individualism (not quite iconoclastic...but close), the enigmatic, the intense (Atlantis? yep), the mysterious, the highly perceptive, the melancholic spirit, the protean mental and artistic creativity, the intrasigence, oi! but also the gentle tolerance, yes (totally confusing), the quiet, often silly humor (playfulness), a certain stoicism, the seeming moving through in an unreal dreamworld, the preference to be both a kind of eternally unseen observer and a free, untethered wanderer. I saw that ineffable state, too--incredibly so. Yes, wow, all of this. INTP "cousin" here, feeling wistful...though smiling deeply.
The side of a personality type we get to see actually fluctuates. Weirdly enough, we all work on crossing the bridge between the dominant and inferior function (that becomes obvious to people who get to know us) while employing tactics that include the functions in-between. My mom used to be bossy (or good at managing things). But that was the side we got to see at home because we knew her well. Out there, into this wild, wild world, the functions that others got to witness more were her perceiving functions. And those made her forgiving, lenient, understanding, soft, careful,… I would often tell her that she needs to set certain firm lines in order to show self-respect. Cause let’s be real: the world is not necessarily a fairytale. If a person doesn’t learn self-respect and doesn’t show behavior that matches that, others aren’t gonna come and help. But she believed that. That people would care and be kind and help. Contrary to stereotypes, INFPs are experts when it comes to managing their emotions. People whose inferior function is the dominant one of an INFP are actually the ones who can find themselves in a pickle because they may struggle expressing their emotions properly.
I don’t know if your assessment is amazingly accurate or if I just enjoyed the validation, but I felt extremely seen and well described.
As an INFP, I totally agree with these words 😍🤩 thank you !
There are a couple of MBTI accounts that I follow, funny for the most part. But yours, you really make me think, reflect, you are great at this.
Same, this guy has such an accurate and deep understanding of all the types I haven't found from any other channel
Melancholic was articulated very accurately. Literally my morning routine. But I just want to know when Nathan is going to start professionally recording audiobooks?! I could listen to him all day. Can you imagine him reading some contemporary sci-fi or fantasy? Good heavens.
That would take the genre to a whole new level...🤔
More than compliments... Thank you
An INTJ here, I absolutely adore my INFP best friend. It was her who stayed with me and supported me the most during my depression episodes, she's literally an angel semt by God. Meanwhile, I helped her to become more confident with her body and more willing to deal with conflict head on.
And surprisingly I am the more optimistic in the duo, maybe because while she often connect things with human condition (which can be great), I focus more on finding patterns and their elegance.
For instance, once we hang out at a beach (seems like beaches are perfect for dark topics) and she sighed as she saw a seaweed washed up ashore with some trash entangled. She thought of pollution and how human ruin the natural beauty, while I appreciate how life always find a way as I noticed the seaweed had loads of fruits on it.
Pensive / Wise / Seeker
Individualistic / Empathetic / Intense
Taboo / Stubborn / Poised
Inquisitive / Reverie / Orphic
Wanderer / Melancholic / Perceptive
Playful / Habitual / Outsider / Tolerant
This was so beautiful ❤ I also appreciate the words you used so I can further expand my vocabulary. But I just adore your videos and how articulate and how well-versed you are on the MBTI types. Never stop doing what you do 🥰 your videos help me feel more seen and less like a walking stereotype. In an ironic way.
Signed, an INFP subscriber ☺️
My sentiments exactly! He is so VERY GOOD at this!
Hey! what're you doing? I was quietly feeling misunderstood and melancholic and now I don't feel either! Nathan the INFP-whisperer strikes again... I think I'm only going to get off my butt and do some Christmas tasks - when I've finished typing this of course, lol!
Melancholic and playful... I try to be funny even when talking about sad things. it's a form of abreaction, but not everyone understands it. It can be that taboo thing. You don't tell jokes at a funeral
I love being an infp
OMG THIS IS SOOOO FREAKING TRUE, I CAN"T BELIEVE IT. Thanks mate.
I was certain that I was an INTP but I just compared both videos of INTP and INFP in 20 words and now I’m more confused than ever 😩
Yes..."unobtrusive"...because the unobtrusive place is where you watch from and...understand...and therefore know what the whole construct in front of you means and not only what you need to do in it but, more importantly, why. And if there is no "why" then...it is quite possibly time to disappear and show up somewhere else where there's a "why".
I feel like you described me in every single way. Amazing. Thank you.
i am an INFP and all of your choices are exceptionally spot on. This was very informative , thankyou
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for making this!!! I’ve been looking forward to you doing this one for INFP since your first ‘20 Words’ and to hear it start off with one of my favourite words made it well worth the wait! ❤🎉
Almost all of these adjectives were used before by other people to describe me. But the one that impacted me the most is not on the list: methodic. I was in shock when I first heard it, because I always considered myself as chaotic (blame Ne). Then I realized that is exactly the ability to control the chaos that people sees and admires, like when you see a warrior that develops courage over his fears, and knows that he had to work harder than a fearless warrior.
Very well said! Strikes me as something that a mature and well balanced INFP would resonate with ~ Nathan
As far as I'm concerned, this describes me perfectly. Of course, maybe because I am an INFP, I find all of these terms to be rather complimentary. So I like the description. :)
Genuinely had to take a minute out of my day to tell you how heard and seen I feel. Thanks.
About the habitual, my INTP friend & I agree on both of us being adventurous in our thinking, but not so much in our actions. :p
Wonderful video! That's an INFP. I think you nailed it. That's me to a T. I often felt that the description of passive wasn't on point. I go with the flow but if there's a vacuum that needs to be filled I can step in and fill it. I think INFPs can operate in different personality types if the need exists. And do quite well. But that process is draining and not something that you would want to do long-term. That's why learning about your personality type through MTBI can help you find the right fit in your life. I was part of a corporate leadership team and the company was very much into MTBI so we had a lot of training and exercises and seminars about it. I haven't spent much time in this realm since I left that environment. But you have stimulated me too reconnect. I have more time to myself these days and so I am continuing my wandering without being lost. Thanks for what you do
You have the most entertaining MBTI channel without a doubt
I am re-learning so much about myself. I love it. Thank you.
I wanted to write something about the stubbornness, but then it hit me ._.
Proud to be iNFP 💙
Thank you for this video Nathan, it is so beautifully presented and so very accurate. Far too often INFP's are overlooked and ignored, this makes me feel validated and seen.
This is so true having an infp sister
Coolness, one of my besties and my cousin are this type, and I really learn a lot from them! ❣️
Love this! As an INFP this has given me encouragement today to do my best!
Thank you for respecting that an Fi-dom can have empathy too! You’re very right that it’s highly focused on the individual, but NOT necessarily oneself. I definitely feel like I focus one at a time on people as opposed to the whole group at once.
And yeah, we can be intransigent when we dig out heels in!
THANK YOU too for acknowledging us as poised!! Maybe it’s more pronounced because I was raised by Te-doms but I do NOT like letting people see me losing it. I am very aware of what I am feeling most all of the time (and often why), and that awareness makes me feel like if I DO lose it, then it was with almost premeditated, because there were TONS of red flags. (It’s also what makes the ENTJ blindness to their own emotions and outright denial of their explosive and emotional nature so frustrating…like, HOW can you be that unaware of what’s going on inside you?)
Another funny one…yes, I AM a creature of habit when it comes to my daily comforts. Repeatedly change up business processes at my job? Cool, I’ll try it. I work with a ton of SJs at my job and my lack of change resistance as far as our job processes go really sticks out. Kick me out of my spot in the office that I had set up exactly to my liking for years? NOW I RIOT.
Thank you..i feel like I'm with a friend who appreciates me for who I am and sees my full potential which is what I seek in relationships and rarely find
14. Ineffable - this is what defines me the most as infp. And it's never talked about
I love the 20 words series. Thanks for enfp's. I want to see it to all 16 personalities. Specially esfp. Cause I love how you stand for them. Also I want to see it for isfj's
Well done, thank you. This INFP approves as well. Yes "not all who wander are lost". I really liked the word descriptions. It helps me embrace my true nature all the more and understand myself and how I relate.
Best example for me talking about taboos: I asked my intp what he thinks about necrophilia. Just wanted to know. Gosh, he felt really uncomfortable that poor man.
And again, I would love to talk to other infps but I am too shy... It gives me physical pain to only think about it 🙈
Why would he be uncomfortable about that?
You're similar to me haha, I have the wildest thoughts and I love people that I can talk about literally anything with
Yeah I’ve gone too far without realizing it bringing up taboo topics to people for the sake of discussion. I didn’t know that was an INFP thing until I watched this video. Very interesting!
Well observed.
"places that can only be found by getting lost" Oh my, yes. Yes yes yes yes yes.
You have a gift of relaying information and getting me captured in your words
This was lovely!
Very accurate and insightful
Showing a more than surface level understanding of us, not just understanding the more rigid rules of typing, but deeply comprehensive of how that translates into us as people.
On the whole, very reassuring ❤
Yeah I can agree with all of those, even the little more cliche one you completely understood why INFP(me) feel that way.
oh.. that touched a spot. That really stung, man. A good sting i might add. ;)
"being on a path that you find no meaning in, then being lost is by far the better place to be"
This is wonderful! Thank you!💓💯
Great video, i was curious about how different these videos would be for the types that share fuctions in almost the same order, but you definitely show infp and enfp unique characteristic and differences in each video
I love being an INFP! I agree with these words and really enjoyed your perspective. 💕
Who thinks of Shinji Ikari from NGE too? 🌍💕 Infps have a wonderful soul. ❤️ Great words, some never heard before. Thanks for explaining so well 💚❤️
Nathan: "melancholic"
me: ugly crying in bed
Awesome 👌!!!
This was awesome, and so true! Thanks for seeing us INFPs!
That was really great (INFP here)
Accurate and beautiful! thanks
Ineffable is a word I can really relate to.
These are beautiful words that I’m now going to add to my vocabulary 😀
Thank you Nathan, for everything you do.
Very well put video, thank you. As an INFP the only word I disagree with is "Tolerant", as I vehemently disagree with and dislike people that are opposite of the principles and values I hold most important. I can't fathom how they could be so wrong and distance myself from such individuals instantly.
I’m so thankful for this video. ❤
I felt kind of laid bare after this video. It was a little weird to be described so well. I thought I was unique but instead find I'm just like others of this type. It kind of readjusts who I think I am. Thank you for the opportunity Love Who.
This is brilliant Nathan, INFP Whisperer 💫 The synchronicities abound for me in the words you've chosen. I started tearing up right before you got to Melancholic 😌😉😊 How wonderful it is to be seen ❣
I think that, infps at their best are some of the most admirable people you can know. Unfortunately, most have their heads in the sand, or rather a white hole, because an immature one, due to their Ti demon, runs from the truth. -INTP
This was so well thought out, thank you! Really resonated with the wandering, sometimes the only way to be happy is to not have a specific plan, just find small things to be happy about along the road you didn’t know you’d be travelling down.
This was awesome and very needed. Thank you so much ❤️
This is very helpful information to me as a 70 yr old INFP since it confirms many of my own perceptions of myself relative to the world around me. Thank you, for your words provide confirmation and support of "where I live" without the often cruel misjudgments of my attributes that many people around me may make (often in the hopes of "Helping me fix my ways"). I am happiest where I am and as I am.
As someone who identifies as an INFP, all of these words resonated deeply with me. Kinda scary actually, but it's nice to be understood, even if not fully.
You have helped to explain me to myself. I am often perceived to be strange or contrary by others, but I think it's this strangeness that I love most about myself. It just makes it hard for me to fit in to the world of others. But do I really want to fit in to the world of others? Not really. But that pressure to do so is always present.
INFP supermancy
That was quite impressive Sir. Also this was the last type on my list. Of course I kept getting typed INTP or INFJ when tested at 8yrs old via therapist. I was one strange kid.
But anyway, thank you so much. After asking my dad some things and now seeing this…I’m about 90% sure I am the one this speaks of.
It was driving me insane not being able to figure it out. After 3 months of almost daily research , I can move to the next step. Again, I really appreciate your work.
-T
I love being an INFP! 💕 I feel like I can talk to almost anyone (if I weren’t so shy sometimes).
As an INFP #12 made me laugh a lot. It was a perfect distribution and what’s funny is that we (at least I) perceive that I am an open book yet find out later that others see me as a “tough but to crack” 😅
I come back to this video whenever I need some self love. Because I relate to everything in this video sooo much, yet I tend to interpret everything about me as flaws. This is so beautiful 😭
all eerely correct. well done!
Feel like you have us INFPs figured out. Hope you do an ISFJ in 20 words video.
That was such a good description of my INFP qualities. You put so much effort and knowledge into your discussions. Thank you!
You ended point 15) with "at least I believe". Your belief is right...: wholly right.
My husband is an INFP and you absolutely nailed it. His favorite game is chess because it is the only one that is absolutely fair with no luck. Idealism with limited practicality is applied to everything. I'm an ENTP and we get into some heated debates. Its pretty fun actually to light a fire in quiet passive types . They need it to get into action mode.
Please do a video where you explain the least intuitive type all the way to the most intuitive type placing the types on a scale like you did with the introverted extroverted one.
That would be interesting
in theory all the 4 intuitive dominant types are the most intuiive and the sensory dominant the least. Not one in specific is more intuitive than the other.
14. Ineffable 👌👌👌