Yeah , exactly , just because you did everything right in life doesn't mean the world and society will treat you well. Life and the world don't give a crap how well or much you worked. A lot of college drop outs , crooks and lazy people have everything go their way in life, even if they don't give a crap about anything or anybody ,so go figure !
Totally agree with all you say here. One thing to add/go further is that people get depressed when they have those recurrent thoughts and feel like there's nothing that they can do about it. It's the loss of hope or a better future that make people so depressed and consider suicide. As Nietzsche said "He who has a Why to live for can bear almost any How."
As humans we generally choose the path of least resistance. We tend to be cautious and or fearful of change, this is why it’s so hard for people to fight chronic depression, because depression is linked to many things which effect our thought process. Our location and environment, our jobs and workplaces, the people we associate ourselves with, it all shapes our perception and ultimately sense of self. Depression, while dark, can be a great way to discover the things in life that make you unhappy and change them so you can find your happiness, but it’s a long and uncomfortable process mentally and emotionally. Just like the child who’s figuring everything out for the first time again :)
I think I get it. Tell me if I’m wrong. Things had been going downhill for me for a while. Work had become unbearable. Bad management, unappreciative supervision, benefits and amenities were being taken away left and right. Everyone’s attitude and morale was in a deep downward spiral. Many of us wished we could just walk out on a daily basis. All I wanted to do was sleep for multiple reasons. Then I injured my knee. No one likes to be injured or sick but that knee injury was a blessing in disguise. It gave me time to clear my head and get a fresh perspective. I was able to think about where I had come from, where i was and where I wanted and needed to be. I started to see a few things falling into place. My life was about to change big time. After 2 surgeries and several months of PT, I went back to my normal job. Had to for a while. Even with my new plans and goals, and my fresh perspective, I was falling back into the same pit because I had put myself back into the same atmosphere that had caused my depression in the first place. I still had to work out a couple of things but I kept my eye on the finish line and as soon as I could I got the hell outta dodge and I never looked back. Sorry for the cliches. Now I’m not telling anyone to quit your job. This is just my story. What I will say is that anyone who is overwhelmed, stressed or depressed needs to stand back, figure out what is messing with them and fix it. It can be done. I’m now training for my dream job which I should have figured how to make happen a long time ago. But that’s beside the point. Whatever your issues may be, things can get better.
This is great video describing depression. My mom suffered from post partum and chronic depression for most of my childhood and this video makes it easier to understand how depression works. Also, it’s my 26th birthday today. Thanks mom for birthing me!
Thank you for putting this into perspective. I have suffered from depression with melancholic features and anxiety since I was 12. I'm 19 now. I used to self harm I attempted suicide at 15 but I have come out the other side okay. I'm now pursuing a career in fitness and looking at going around to local schools to talk about mental health. I want to be able to help people understand what they're feeling.
You're responsible for your mind's emotional content in the same way that you're responsible for its intellectual content. Emotions are a consequence of the thinking you've done or failed to do.
✨Dear Dr, now I like you more. You graciously just open your heart for the sake of helping others. Your interesting past experience and educative insights are well appreciated. Thank you .!! 🌷
Ok serious question. You mentioned ADD. What’s up with all these young people on Adderall ? MANY people take these drugs to do better on tests in college and how does that screw up their brains when they aren’t taking them consistently? I’m talking med students in top schools. They take them for better performance and to have the edge in weight loss also. I’m not saying that some people don’t need these drugs but I KNOW many are taking them for performance and weight loss. I’ve even heard med students complain about these students with stimulants having an unfair edge. Did you run into this much in school? Thoughts ...
I wish You would have been there with Your videos when I was a student... would have saved a lot of time for me as a volunteer in the hospitals 😀 I just realised, that this kind of monologues were what kept me showing up to my mentors’ shifts all the time. So thank You, Buck Parker!
Doc... greetings! I'm reading the book you suggested, "The Subtle Art of not....", great book. Thanks for that. People who are suicidal or have SI, must understand that it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I see PTs everyday in my facility (Level II Trauma center but deals with Level 1 like it 'aint no thang) , we're the closest trauma center within a 70 mile radius, so we get the real deal Holyfield. We receive Baker or Marchment Acts on the daily, all day, often requiring the announcement, "Dr. Love, ER... Dr. Love ER... Dr. Love ER (protocol code) to contain/prevent the patient from not only harming us, but themselves as well. It's tough. I agree 100% with your insight.
Watching your videos prompted me to write a letter to my PCP, back in early May. I see him more than most people, because I have rheumatoid arthritis and its related issues. Since he is the clinic director of a medical school affiliated clinic and also is a professor at that school, I often worry about his mental state from stress. When I was in RN school, a physician I was working with killed herself after our patient (new mother) died during surgery. Anyway, I wrote a letter expressing thanks and appreciation for doing things for me, such as authorizing medication refills, working me in for a sick appointment between other patients, and filling out paperwork... just to name a few. I'm pretty certain he read it, though he did not mention it at the appointment I had this past Thursday. I do thank and express appreciation to him in person. I just thought it might be good to write it out (letter was handwritten) for him to read on days he needs a boost and feel like he is important. I will say that the day after I mailed it out, I thought "I hope he does not think I'm nutty or wasting my time!" LOL! 😮😮😂😂😂
So how did you override these negative thoughts Dr.Buck ? What did you do or what were you thinking if you don't mind to clarify please? I have the same problem and really tired of that,have no idea what to do. I would really appreciate your response, at this point I really need help.
what suicides ? the MO was amazingly the same.......Bourdain was a very tall man and the logistics were, well, more than suspicious. Spade ? please , who does not know she was " offed " ? someone in her funky , satanic ritual group, decided it was her time to hang on a door knob........Do basic research instead of watching MSNBC and CNN and the other fake news. They confuse you enough, to make a video while you are driving, like the guy who is posting this topic.
Dr. Parker, I think the data you are looking for is CBT. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Highly efficacious. The reminder on the physiology of neural pathway habit and the dark thought empathy were really very helpful. Thank you. Have a good weekend Dr. Parker!
yep.....when i learned this i was totally blown away too. and i'm even more blown away that it is not used for more behavioral changes such as depression, anxiety, etc.
How did you handle the stress of residency? As you said when you try your best and dedicate yourself but things are still not what you want, or even worse everyone is yelling at you for things that are not your fault in the first place? I loved this vlog so much... Deep and real af.
It is strange to me how people "diagnose" the underlying cause of depression. For example if a disabled person is depressed they "diagnose" the depression as being due to the disability. However someone might be congenitally disabled and very happy but then becomes depressed years later. There is a major difference beteen unhappy and depressed.
It depends on the culture and religion. Western European cultures and their derivatives view suicide as a negative. Since the prevailing belief system in these cultures is that there is nothing beyond matter and energy then of course killing yourself is viewed as the ultimate tragedy because there is nothing else. With this emphasis on the material body and its perpetuation, suicide shocks us and saddens us and we attempt to prevent it. In other cultures and religions, suicide is a door to a spiritual realm where the fleshly mortal coil is released and you enter into a dimension of greater awareness. Some cultures and religions state suicide is a positive where you atone for past mistakes, errors and shameful behavior. Thus, suicide is a release from the limitations of materialism. It balance out the imbalance created in life in a typical Yin Yang form.
I think you're right the only thing is the people that's going to understand if people like me because I'm suicidal and if you're that way you can understand the dark side I think you're right I think that there is a connection There we'll said thank you
Very interesting video and great perspective on some of these very prominent health issues! I also appreciate your realness and sarcasm, it's honestly quite refreshing. I did happen to see some of your past videos (a lot of great content, btw!), more specifically your case studies... those were freaking awesome, why the eff did you stop doing them?! Also, what's your take on Mid Levels? More specifically, NPs and PAs?
Ironic isn't it that they knew this 2000 years ago? The Bible says... What you speak with your mouth and believe in your heart shall come to pass. I don't think it's talking about casting spells or anything like that I think it's more introspective. Like you said things that you say or how you think repeatedly over time has an effect on the outcome. Like the cycles you talked about.
With all due respect for your medical knowledge, on a humanity level - to me talking about suicide while driving is BEYOND DISREPECT. PS YOU may be able to focus and provide the world with your opinions WHILE DRIVING. But surely if you thought about it for even a moment - as a friend or family member - how would you feel? (We are used to "ordinary" people saying all kinds of things. But as a doctor - I do believe you do have a higher "DUTY OF CARE"!!!!
some people kill themselves while taking anti depressants . Written in the " possible adverse reactions paragraph". No one reads it. Just a regular disclaimer from pharma. Totally ignored. Serves their purpose.
Expecting the world to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting the bull to not charge you because you are a vegetarian!!!
Nella Rogers 👋
That's one 😂 funny analogy. 👍
Yeah , exactly , just because you did everything right in life doesn't mean the world and society will treat you well.
Life and the world don't give a crap how well or much you worked. A lot of college drop outs , crooks and lazy people have everything go their way in life, even if they don't give a crap about anything or anybody ,so go figure !
I’m so glad I found this channel.. depression and medicine! Thank you for this!
Totally agree with all you say here. One thing to add/go further is that people get depressed when they have those recurrent thoughts and feel like there's nothing that they can do about it. It's the loss of hope or a better future that make people so depressed and consider suicide. As Nietzsche said "He who has a Why to live for can bear almost any How."
As humans we generally choose the path of least resistance. We tend to be cautious and or fearful of change, this is why it’s so hard for people to fight chronic depression, because depression is linked to many things which effect our thought process. Our location and environment, our jobs and workplaces, the people we associate ourselves with, it all shapes our perception and ultimately sense of self. Depression, while dark, can be a great way to discover the things in life that make you unhappy and change them so you can find your happiness, but it’s a long and uncomfortable process mentally and emotionally. Just like the child who’s figuring everything out for the first time again :)
so well put Cameron!
This comment was actually very helpful.
I think I get it. Tell me if I’m wrong. Things had been going downhill for me for a while. Work had become unbearable. Bad management, unappreciative supervision, benefits and amenities were being taken away left and right. Everyone’s attitude and morale was in a deep downward spiral. Many of us wished we could just walk out on a daily basis. All I wanted to do was sleep for multiple reasons. Then I injured my knee. No one likes to be injured or sick but that knee injury was a blessing in disguise. It gave me time to clear my head and get a fresh perspective. I was able to think about where I had come from, where i was and where I wanted and needed to be. I started to see a few things falling into place. My life was about to change big time. After 2 surgeries and several months of PT, I went back to my normal job. Had to for a while. Even with my new plans and goals, and my fresh perspective, I was falling back into the same pit because I had put myself back into the same atmosphere that had caused my depression in the first place. I still had to work out a couple of things but I kept my eye on the finish line and as soon as I could I got the hell outta dodge and I never looked back. Sorry for the cliches. Now I’m not telling anyone to quit your job. This is just my story. What I will say is that anyone who is overwhelmed, stressed or depressed needs to stand back, figure out what is messing with them and fix it. It can be done. I’m now training for my dream job which I should have figured how to make happen a long time ago. But that’s beside the point. Whatever your issues may be, things can get better.
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This is great video describing depression. My mom suffered from post partum and chronic depression for most of my childhood and this video makes it easier to understand how depression works. Also, it’s my 26th birthday today. Thanks mom for birthing me!
Bianca S happy birthday🎂🎉
Alan Galdamez Thank you!! ☺️
Bianca S no problem party hard 🤙
Happy birthday! Welcome to 26! Blessings💕🤗
happy B Day!!!
Thank you for putting this into perspective. I have suffered from depression with melancholic features and anxiety since I was 12. I'm 19 now. I used to self harm I attempted suicide at 15 but I have come out the other side okay. I'm now pursuing a career in fitness and looking at going around to local schools to talk about mental health. I want to be able to help people understand what they're feeling.
You're responsible for your mind's emotional content in the same way that you're responsible for its intellectual content. Emotions are a consequence of the thinking you've done or failed to do.
Great ideas. I think I use food for that reward pathway. It’s amazing how much the brain and thoughts have an impact on physiology.
Amazing topic great content we need more doctors like this in the world 🌍 Never change 💯👍🤩
✨Dear Dr, now I like you more. You graciously just open your heart for the sake of helping others. Your interesting past experience and educative insights are well appreciated. Thank you .!! 🌷
Hey Dr. Parker, would you say that performing surgery becomes second nature to you once you've done it so much like with driving?
yes for sure certain things in surgery become automated.
Ok serious question. You mentioned ADD. What’s up with all these young people on Adderall ? MANY people take these drugs to do better on tests in college and how does that screw up their brains when they aren’t taking them consistently? I’m talking med students in top schools. They take them for better performance and to have the edge in weight loss also. I’m not saying that some people don’t need these drugs but I KNOW many are taking them for performance and weight loss. I’ve even heard med students complain about these students with stimulants having an unfair edge. Did you run into this much in school? Thoughts ...
I wish You would have been there with Your videos when I was a student... would have saved a lot of time for me as a volunteer in the hospitals 😀 I just realised, that this kind of monologues were what kept me showing up to my mentors’ shifts all the time. So thank You, Buck Parker!
Doc... greetings! I'm reading the book you suggested, "The Subtle Art of not....", great book. Thanks for that. People who are suicidal or have SI, must understand that it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I see PTs everyday in my facility (Level II Trauma center but deals with Level 1 like it 'aint no thang) , we're the closest trauma center within a 70 mile radius, so we get the real deal Holyfield. We receive Baker or Marchment Acts on the daily, all day, often requiring the announcement, "Dr. Love, ER... Dr. Love ER... Dr. Love ER (protocol code) to contain/prevent the patient from not only harming us, but themselves as well. It's tough. I agree 100% with your insight.
Pretty cool that you are able to express your past feeling like this.
And yes, it makes sense. Thanks.
Watching your videos prompted me to write a letter to my PCP, back in early May. I see him more than most people, because I have rheumatoid arthritis and its related issues. Since he is the clinic director of a medical school affiliated clinic and also is a professor at that school, I often worry about his mental state from stress. When I was in RN school, a physician I was working with killed herself after our patient (new mother) died during surgery.
Anyway, I wrote a letter expressing thanks and appreciation for doing things for me, such as authorizing medication refills, working me in for a sick appointment between other patients, and filling out paperwork... just to name a few. I'm pretty certain he read it, though he did not mention it at the appointment I had this past Thursday. I do thank and express appreciation to him in person. I just thought it might be good to write it out (letter was handwritten) for him to read on days he needs a boost and feel like he is important.
I will say that the day after I mailed it out, I thought "I hope he does not think I'm nutty or wasting my time!" LOL! 😮😮😂😂😂
So how did you override these negative thoughts Dr.Buck ? What did you do or what were you thinking if you don't mind to clarify please? I have the same problem and really tired of that,have no idea what to do. I would really appreciate your response, at this point I really need help.
Excellent! Thank you for the insight, brother. These suicides were shocking and sad.
Anthony Bourdain tweeted that he had information that would put Hillary Clinton away, not sounding like suicide anymore is it?
what suicides ? the MO was amazingly the same.......Bourdain was a very tall man and the logistics were, well, more than suspicious. Spade ? please , who does not know she was " offed " ? someone in her funky , satanic ritual group, decided it was her time to hang on a door knob........Do basic research instead of watching MSNBC and CNN and the other fake news. They confuse you enough, to make a video while you are driving, like the guy who is posting this topic.
Dr. Parker, I think the data you are looking for is CBT. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Highly efficacious. The reminder on the physiology of neural pathway habit and the dark thought empathy were really very helpful. Thank you. Have a good weekend Dr. Parker!
yes exactly.
I never thought of CBT as the deconstruction of negative cognitive automation. Mind blown.
yep.....when i learned this i was totally blown away too. and i'm even more blown away that it is not used for more behavioral changes such as depression, anxiety, etc.
This is amazing content. Thanks Dr. Parker
thank u so glad u like!!
You can get the data: Look up Dr. Jordan Peterson and his videos on depression and cleaning up one's life.
How did you handle the stress of residency?
As you said when you try your best and dedicate yourself but things are still not what you want, or even worse everyone is yelling at you for things that are not your fault in the first place?
I loved this vlog so much... Deep and real af.
Great video! I will definitely do some research on my own about neural pathways
You can be rich and famous and have everything you ever wanted and still be sad.
Anthony Bourdain tweeted that he had information that would put Hillary Clinton away, not sounding like suicide anymore is it?
Can depression be so abundant due to chemicals??And how we eat as a society???
or even excessive stimulation and loneliness and sedentary lifestyle? I know exercise releases endothelin the feel good hormones
I’d say it’s more linked to the massive data overload on our brains from all the media we’re exposed to
Anthony Bourdain tweeted that he had information that would put Hillary Clinton away, not sounding like suicide anymore is it?
GMO's/glyphosate......yummy.....mercury in vaccines, fluoride in drinking water, Round-up on the dandelions......and the winner is " Pharma" !!!!!!
Doctor Parker, May you take the time to make a video of some of the life changing/ inspirational books you’ve read? Thank you.
Very interesting perspective...and it makes sense.
At first I thought, What an asshole but listening to your entire video, made sense. Let's hope my neuroplasticity fires well.
Awesome video, it helps alot, thanks dude, keep it up.
Great video! Thank you for that!
It is strange to me how people "diagnose" the underlying cause of depression. For example if a disabled person is depressed they "diagnose" the depression as being due to the disability. However someone might be congenitally disabled and very happy but then becomes depressed years later. There is a major difference beteen unhappy and depressed.
I thought you were going to talk about Kate Spade handbags so I was confused. I haven't watched enough news to hear about it.
It depends on the culture and religion. Western European cultures and their derivatives view suicide as a negative. Since the prevailing belief system in these cultures is that there is nothing beyond matter and energy then of course killing yourself is viewed as the ultimate tragedy because there is nothing else. With this emphasis on the material body and its perpetuation, suicide shocks us and saddens us and we attempt to prevent it.
In other cultures and religions, suicide is a door to a spiritual realm where the fleshly mortal coil is released and you enter into a dimension of greater awareness. Some cultures and religions state suicide is a positive where you atone for past mistakes, errors and shameful behavior. Thus, suicide is a release from the limitations of materialism. It balance out the imbalance created in life in a typical Yin Yang form.
The problem is clear, but how you overwrite these negative way of thinking. When things are not looking they way we expected to be?
I think you're right the only thing is the people that's going to understand if people like me because I'm suicidal and if you're that way you can understand the dark side I think you're right I think that there is a connection There we'll said thank you
From watching your past videos to current ones, I’ve noticed a lump growing on the left side of your neck... Has anybody else noticed this?
Very interesting video and great perspective on some of these very prominent health issues! I also appreciate your realness and sarcasm, it's honestly quite refreshing. I did happen to see some of your past videos (a lot of great content, btw!), more specifically your case studies... those were freaking awesome, why the eff did you stop doing them?! Also, what's your take on Mid Levels? More specifically, NPs and PAs?
i know i need to make more case studies!
Accept that they were murdered.
more fun to push his specialty, while driving.
Ironic isn't it that they knew this 2000 years ago? The Bible says... What you speak with your mouth and believe in your heart shall come to pass. I don't think it's talking about casting spells or anything like that I think it's more introspective. Like you said things that you say or how you think repeatedly over time has an effect on the outcome. Like the cycles you talked about.
Strong 👍
Anthony did not kill himself.
With all due respect for your medical knowledge, on a humanity level - to me talking about suicide while driving is BEYOND DISREPECT.
PS YOU may be able to focus and provide the world with your opinions WHILE DRIVING. But surely if you thought about it for even a moment - as a friend or family member - how would you feel? (We are used to "ordinary" people saying all kinds of things. But as a doctor - I do believe you do have a higher "DUTY OF CARE"!!!!
they no the big pharma and medication. can be depressing in it self.
some people kill themselves while taking anti depressants . Written in the " possible adverse reactions paragraph". No one reads it. Just a regular disclaimer from pharma. Totally ignored. Serves their purpose.
oh i soooo sooorrrry
You surely look like another RUclipsr named Titus Frost!
probably one and the same. Ha...ha.....
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Christ I can't believe you spent the time and effort to reply to this.
lobsternutz I see you still have an ego. I’ll talk to you after m1.