It’s a little sad that I think Bill is right here. It’s sad we live in a society where people can’t just be nice and cool without having to learn how to not get taken advantage of
Usually, IMO it is the result of a lack of confidence in oneself. If you don't feel confident, it is difficult to strongly represent your opinions. You tend to joke, instead of being serious, because you don't feel that you represent authority, just the comic relief. The best way forward is to decide what small area you are an expert in, and develop your expertise in that compartment of your life. When talking in that realm, never joke or back down. Let it be known that, in that arena, however small, you are the expert, and expect to be taken seriously.
@@TheToledoTrumpton this is a really great point and something I've done without realizing it. just having that foundation to build off of will help with confidence in other areas as you learn the difference between how you feel when you really know something vs. when it's probably a subject you should wait to speak on until you're better informed. projecting confidence is knowing when not to speak as much as it is knowing what to say when you do.
"the anger of a gentle man" reminds me of the greats gatsby movie.. My man leo turn from zero to one hundred real quick.. From that moment i knew.. That's how you earn some respect.
I used to be the first guy. Ended up as the second guy. That's retail for ya. And life. The trick is harnessing the asshole so you can keep it on a leash while you're nice to everyone.
Kyhree Armstead the 2nd option is for guys who don’t have a personality so being a asshole is their identity. Same can go for nice guys. U don’t have to be an asshole or a nice guy just treat people how they treat u and pick ur battles.
Nothing like terrible customers one right after the other the completely eviscerate faith in human kindness. I've been working a customer service job right now, and I can't even muster trying to bullshit being nice when I'm dealing with an asshole customer.
I get the impression that he expects a certain reaction when he is being nice or trying to be funny. People can pick up that you need them to react the way you want them to, so they don’t respond that way as they feel you are trying to manipulate them. So, immediately give up the need for anyone to like you, just like yourself, give up the need to have others laugh at your jokes, give up the need for others attention, keep your focus on your own presence without judgment. Be spontaneous but always be appropriate in the circumstances. Don’t do anything for others unless you feel that it’s an equal treatment. If someone never helps you, always refuse to help them, they are only taking advantage of you. Be your own best friend and don’t be affected by what others think about you. No one can hurt your feelings unless you allow them that power over you. Good luck.
It's tremendously difficult establishing and enforcing personal boundaries and respecting others boundaries when brought up as an emotional toilet for those closest. Example: if I say no to a family members expectation to covertly manipulate and exploit me they rage out and add another cunty addition to their well established smear campaign. If I deny or resist my siblings/parent taking my own personal belongings they blow up big time, nek minute I start hearing things from random aquaintances asking me why I'm such a selfish/greedy cunt for not sharing. They've the "what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine to,...duh" ignorant mentality.
No one said it was going to be easy. Get some backbone, be a man , stop caring so much about what people think of you. That’s THEIR problem. Live YOUR life, don’t let people walk all over you. DO THE WORK!
be mindful of one's tone and expressions. learn how to do a serious face and tone helped me a lot. i was in the same shoe until i learn that. also learn how to walk away after having the last words
It’s really interesting how quickly we forget what it was like to be in our early 20s. There’s this palpable tension between people because you don’t know how to navigate them yet, and you haven’t met all the many many kinds of assholes yet. Try and look at this time as a time of discovery. Try not to get stressed out about figuring out who you are or predicting how you or anyone else is going to react to anything. Just be curious about everything and try everything twice.
Jesus christ, I laughed hard at this. Just picturing hitler, later, giving advice to someone in the bunker "Look, I just sat down... I wrote about my feelings. What makes me angry. What makes me sad..." oh god. It's too good.
@@cosmicmuffet1053 More like it's 1933 and Hitler is about to have a chancellor inauguration speech.. Sits alone in the backstage room.. The crowd in the hall is wild already, he can hear them all the way there.. Looks at his speech papers where the points he wants to make are.. AND A HUGE SMILEY FACE ON THE LAST PAPER.. detail on Hitler's face "sighs"
I think now we want all Bill's podcasts to be in this format with a live audience. .... Bill should sometimes see our reactions when listening to his ramblings. It'd make for a full TV show on its own. Where's the director at HBO Series who knows how to identify a money-making show when he sees one?
@@TheDeathMantis I mean, your right. For sure. But what if they put a big ass disclaimer in the beginning. Like south park does. They pretty much say because of the coarse language and content that their show should not be viewed by anyone. They should let him write the disclaimer haha he would say some shit about how hes just ignorant and stupid and his comedy doesn't reflect real beliefs and should not be taken literally. I think he calls himself ignorant once every special. At least once. So maybe if they had a strong enough disclaimer then he could get away with just about anything he wanted. Would be great.
Eddy Rodriguez horrible advice, never return anger with anger, that will only end up with more bitterness and it will become a self defense mechanism that can ruin jobs and friendships or possible friendships. Never return mean words back, sometimes you have to be the bigger person. What you described right there shows immaturity
@@lobothelobster9483 But you have to fight fire with fire at some point. Sometimes you've got to have a confrontation, just like Burr says. You don't want to respond in anger, but you do have to respond eventually. Too much maturity can get you in trouble. In a perfect world, schoolyard bullies go away eventually, but they never really do. You've got to learn to stand up to them somehow.
"How come nobody takes me seriously" "nobody seems to be able to picture me mad" honestly...keep the happy go lucky lifestyle, then start a cartel operation. nobody would suspect you...ever.....
Yeah. Bill Burr once said he was just a comedian and not to take him seriously, but from what I see, he is an older dude with life experience, and contrary to most other people at his age (and any age) is extremely good at explaining himself. So I think he's got merit. Past just being funny.
Zedi what you said resonated with me so much. Sometimes we just need love man. I wasn’t originally so depressed and hateful toward myself but people have only started treating me worse over the years making me question my self worth.
@@juggerswood Kanye was at a game once and stared at a dollar for a whole minute with that "man what the fuck" look on his face lmao. Same concept, when you're so rich that average shit like that is weird to you
Lovely advice, Mr. Burr. Thank you for taking the time to provide this young man with a genuine, thoughtful response. Society would be a bit better if we all did this more often.
Whatever your thing is you do, be it music, some kind of art or whatever, throw yourself into it head first and keep on it. You'll feel more confident, and the little things start to bother you less.
He's probably good looking and nice. Everyone unconsciously wants to take him down. Know your stuff and be confident in it and defend it with grace but keep talking your point when you're interrupted ...works wonders at shutting someone up and making them respect your right to speak your sentences to the end at least
Jesus Christ, Bill our her being a therapist in this day and age makes so much sense yet is terrifying at the same time! This worlds on its last leg we’re all gonna die!!!😂
When I was sad one day at work, I drew a smiley on a piece of sandpaper ( I'm a carpenter ) and everytime I get sad I look at that sandpaper and it reminds me of the happy times and that good things are coming, it's just around the corner. I related to this video on so many levels, how no one could take him seriously and it really is frustrating.
As soon as he said "It seems like my whole life nobody ever took me seriously" I thought "Oh Fuck Dude, Hes the Joker" XD Bill saying "He's gonna have a mohawk any day now" was the cherry on top XD
Been seeing the podcast in my RUclips recommendations for a while. Almost didn't click it. Finally gave it a what the heck click, Russian American roulette. No regrets!
@@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou His standups are TOP NOTCHED when it comes to "Comedians". I love the fact that he says what he feels. If people feel bad about what he says, Ehhhh, they'll get over it. Lol! These "Sensitive People" are lucky Patrice O'neal isn't still alive. R.I.P. I'd give one of my testicles to hear his take on today's current events. Facts!
I know what he’s talking about completely, you try and treat everybody how you want to be treated and you get shit on. You can’t act like the playing field is even because it’s not, people are scumbags so just treat them accordingly.
Another thing - people also often comment on me "not being able to picture me mad". I am a skinny and tall guy, never been in a fight. And that's it. Dominance among men comes from the threat of physical conflict, or at least ability to take it there. Simply - integrated capability for aggression. Until you have that, you will always be just someone others are able to push around. I solved it (after a few years of contemplation) with jiu jitsu classes, but something like box would be great too (for you, if you are reading this, guy in the video). Would you be able to defend your girl if 2 drunk guys started cat calling her on the street? Would you be able to stand up for her and yourself? Or would you be afraid of them physically hurting you if you said something?
@@bh4223 Where did I say starting shit is a good idea? I asked some questions on the end and you filled in your answers in this way. You just projected your own mindset, haha.
It’s a skill. To stand up for yourself without losing your temper. There is an increasing number of toxic people around who will constantly look to cross your boundaries if you let them. And they rely on your inability to deal with awkward silences and confrontations to do so. Make peace with awkwardness and silences in a conversation. Say it “I don’t want to”, “No”. And then enjoy the silence that follows. It will be hard for some time. Mainly coz people around you are not used to it. Slowly the bad ones will leave and the good ones will learn to respect your boundaries.
Dude i am telling that my family since 5 years now !!! also i bet a kind of feminine voice. plus you are way too nice. i am turning this franchise around for me now, but its fucking hrad fo or us baby face/voice dudes. If you can, grow a beard. If you cant, test you hornome levels and there are really ways to grow a beard with medical help. At least here in europa. btw boqoreh. what do you mean with "until recently" you cut off a face from a bodybuilder and stick onto you ?
From what I know, everyone has the problem of how to confront people but confront them in a constructive way. I have a tendency to get angry when I have to confront someone but when that happens your point gets lost and then you things go sour.
Alien Intention totally agree. You could argue Bill is the anti-Carlin in a lot of ways. Carlin considered himself an intellectual while Bill always jokes about being uninformed, ignorant etc. I don’t think bill feels that what he says is of great import the way Carlin did.
That is me. It took 6+ months to be taken seriously in my job. I believe it is still a mild issue but I stood up for myself countless times and also when my 2IC was attempting to make work life impossible so that I would leave. She ended up giving in and leaving for another job and was such a negative haze on the whole place. Things are great now and I get treated with respect. The dude has to be careful not to get too angry though. I have lost jobs standing up for myself also. Employers are arseholes and think they can treat people like dirt then wonder why there is such a high unemployment rate.
For the 3% reading this, i hope you become successful in everything you dream of and accomplish more than you had imagined. My dream is to become a successful African artist.
Odds are this guys got his shit together and he's gonna do good in life. He just needs some grit and to get away from everyone. This reminds me of my family ex-friends and ec-coworkers. Once i got away from all of em there was no negative energy contributing to the suppression of the mindset i needed. A year later I have a career all my shits been working out for me. Negative shit from others can effect you even if you're strong willed. Cut them out..
confidence is the most valuable skill for an adult, it's weird how no one talks about that. no one's born confident, you just practice it or fake it until you got it, even impersonate badass characters in the mirror if it works, whatever practice comes to your mind just do it and over time you'll get more confidence, and therefore respect of others, self respect and more doors will open for ya
To the young letter writer: First of all, stop smiling constantly, because many people see that as an immature lack of confidence. Stop being overly polite, for the same reason. Stop over-explaining and stop justifying your thoughts and actions. STOP TRYING TO GET APPROVAL FROM EVERYONE. Wear a calm, unemotional expression on your face. Don't let people buffalo you into believing their bullshit criticism of you --stop responding to their manipulation and their DELUSIONAL AUTHORITY OVER YOU. Spend your time improving your OWN LIFE, instead of saving the world. Shut your phone off when you need uninterrupted time for yourself, and don't apologize for being unavailable. If manipulative people try to SHAME you and DISCOURAGE you for spending time on yourself, they are trying to buffalo you into always being subservient to their needs. Stop being so obedient, so cooperative, and so polite to assholes who insist that you must respect their DELUSIONAL AUTHORITY over you. If you don't control your own urge to be nice, people will take advantage of you in many different ways. If you care enough about yourself to build your body up with weightlifting, fewer people will try to intimidate you. Let your demeanor SHOW people that they are not in control of you because YOU are in charge of your life. And remember, IF YOU DON'T take damn good care of your own life, nobody else is gonna do that for you, dude.
@@antoinettelopes -Thank you!! - I needed this advice, too, and studied lots of self-help books, but mostly learned from my personal observations, experiences, and bits and pieces of advice I got from other people. Thank you for your kind reply. If you have time, I hope you will let me know if you make positive changes in your self-confidence, and how you are treated by others.
@@anonymousstrangeness7348 There was a good chunk of time where I was secure and didn't take anything from anyone. But the last few years have been extremely difficult and my circumstances forced me back around to being more of a pushover. So I started to isolate myself which makes things worse. I'm gaining my confidence back but people are getting even more bullying and controlling over the last few years it seems. I'm going to try to use your advice going forward. Thanks.
Bill and the audience started making fun of the guy as soon they heard others don't take him seriously. I guess the golden rule still applies - "Others will respect you only as much as you respect yourself".
Bill can laugh at this because he is old. He had been through so many shit that this is somewhat of a small matter that he can laugh about. Hell, I do too! People who had walked that path will always laugh. Because what else would we do? Laugh and learn. That's what we should do.
"He's gonna have the mohawk any day. Huh, you talkin to me, you talkin to me?" God it makes so much sense that Bill knows about Taxi Driver. Fuckin my favorite movie btw
A bed side baseball bat or hammer should cut it as long as you stick to hiding round corners for a close quarters advantage, realistically its not worth getting into a fire fight over you TV, its a very common cause of house robbers turning to murderers
@@chrissimmons4137 if you watch enough of his stuff you'll see that bill is absolutely a feminist. he just loves the reaction he gets when he makes jokes trashing women lol.
No one takes ya seriously mate on account of the fact that you're a professional stand up comedian. An extremely hilarious one at that. Keep it up young man.
People like that never change, they take it up the ass their whole life and hate themselves. But don't, being calm is harder, you are the real sunshines that go trough life (seemingly) always happy, never change
the psychological cornerstone in the back of anyone's head when they are making an effort to listen and take another person seriously in earnest is always either respect of who that person is or fear of the what they will do if you fail to pay attention
Been there done that. Lemme help (to all those people not reading this) 1. Realize the world is rough. People aren’t nice. Nearly everyone, even good ppl, will take advantage of you if you let them. Fair? No. But that’s reality. It’s tough out there. 2. Stop being nice. Don’t be a nice guy. Nice is just another word for harmless. Be kind. The most fear instilling guy can be kind with soft actions. But stop being nice. Figure the difference, and implement. 3. Assert yourself. If you avoid conflict to the point of compromising what you believe to avoid a conflict, stop. Start small. Voice a different opinion that is non consequential. Be polite, understanding, gentle, but also firm in your opinion. Repeat until it’s comfortable. Move on to more consequential conflicts. 4. Confidence. Good chance you lack it. Maybe not. If you ain’t confident, learn to not give a single fuck. Scared you might mess up or fail? Fuck it. The world is going to continue to spin if ya do. What happens, happens, stop caring. It’s hard to create confidence, so start with next best: not giving a rip and just doing it. Then grow as you discover your competence. 5. Backbone. Grow one. You think being nice helps make the world go round? It doesn’t. Sometime bad things, hard things, and jarring things make the world go round. You bring nice will inhibit some people from becoming their best. Don’t let others down by being weak. Grow a backbone for others. Standing up for yourself profits others as much as you. 6. If all else fails go listen to Jordan Peterson. He is smarter than me.
It actually took me to the age of, oh, 26, before I twigged to the fact that I didn't really know much of anything, anything important. Before that, of course, I knew everything.
Retail is the concept of buying things from other companies at wholesale price and reselling them at a marked up price. Literally nothing to do with clothes lol
To the emailer: speak slower, lower your tone, and start a muscle building program. Stop laughing as a defense mechanism or to ease tension. Improve your posture and stop being the first person to break eye contact whenever you're speaking with someone. You probably were never taught how to behave like a man but now is a good time to learn.
This is such good advice. Especially the muscle building and not being the first person to break eye contact are very relevant for me. Will start doing these seriously. Wish I had got this advice a few years ago when I was a teen but better late than never.
good advice! id add to that, when someone interrupts you,keep talking! most of the time the interuptor is gonna shut up and you show people youre no pushover.
Yeah totally agree I had that same problem even though I am young I learned quickly Just dont let anyone joke with you too much and dont be afraid to fight Dude once you're dont afraid to fight it's so easy to be dominant I also find boxing the air at night helps me get confidence that i can take anyone down (usually before my workout) as a warmup you could say
I have this problem and it stemmed from people taking my kindness for weakness. That's their mistake because when push comes to shove they are not expecting me to flip out and become very angry!! They underestimate me and we all know to never underestimate your opponent.
"How come nobody takes me seriously?!"
(Crowd laughs)
Nick Lex HAHAHAHHAA
Our Odyssey well you can’t even spell sir.
Our Odyssey Lol (edited), nice.
Justin Waltzer Yeah he owes this dull american a thank you card lol. What an asswipe.
lol you didn't get it, it's funny because he's asking a comedian. You're the dull one.
It’s a little sad that I think Bill is right here. It’s sad we live in a society where people can’t just be nice and cool without having to learn how to not get taken advantage of
Usually, IMO it is the result of a lack of confidence in oneself. If you don't feel confident, it is difficult to strongly represent your opinions. You tend to joke, instead of being serious, because you don't feel that you represent authority, just the comic relief.
The best way forward is to decide what small area you are an expert in, and develop your expertise in that compartment of your life. When talking in that realm, never joke or back down. Let it be known that, in that arena, however small, you are the expert, and expect to be taken seriously.
@@TheToledoTrumpton i needed to read this today. right on time 💯💯💯
We live in a S O C I E T Y 😤
@@TheToledoTrumpton this is a really great point and something I've done without realizing it. just having that foundation to build off of will help with confidence in other areas as you learn the difference between how you feel when you really know something vs. when it's probably a subject you should wait to speak on until you're better informed. projecting confidence is knowing when not to speak as much as it is knowing what to say when you do.
Weeeee liveeeee in a society!!!!!!!!!
This whole story sounds like the first 15 minutes of the Joker...
Shit now I can't get it out of my head
Bill Burr=Robert De Niro
@@siddharthjha7022
Nah, De Niro's character was a cock.
You get what you deserve biiill Burrayyyy
It sounds like my life tbh.
“There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.”
wats scary about a moonless night? just turn your headlights on bro
@@texslanaker4813 It's metaphorical
Seneca yamma he either r/whooosh ed us or he is really dumb which i doubt tbh
@@play_sports_and_read_books Hahah yeah, just realised I almost certainly took a yuge bait
"the anger of a gentle man" reminds me of the greats gatsby movie.. My man leo turn from zero to one hundred real quick.. From that moment i knew.. That's how you earn some respect.
Bill, I love this way better than the "audio" only... keep em coming !!!
The man who sleeps with a machete is a fool every night but one.
@HTChamber top gear the tv show, lmao
I always keep a machete by my pillow
*wokeness 100*
I don’t deserve this kind of personal attack
Same with me binging survival series
I always say, it's better to be a nice guy who sometimes has to be an asshole, than an asshole who sometimes has to be a nice guy.
I like the second option. It gives a guy character.
@@juggerswood Having a little character isn't an excuse for being a dick to everybody.
I used to be the first guy.
Ended up as the second guy.
That's retail for ya. And life.
The trick is harnessing the asshole so you can keep it on a leash while you're nice to everyone.
Kyhree Armstead the 2nd option is for guys who don’t have a personality so being a asshole is their identity. Same can go for nice guys. U don’t have to be an asshole or a nice guy just treat people how they treat u and pick ur battles.
Nothing like terrible customers one right after the other the completely eviscerate faith in human kindness. I've been working a customer service job right now, and I can't even muster trying to bullshit being nice when I'm dealing with an asshole customer.
I get the impression that he expects a certain reaction when he is being nice or trying to be funny. People can pick up that you need them to react the way you want them to, so they don’t respond that way as they feel you are trying to manipulate them. So, immediately give up the need for anyone to like you, just like yourself, give up the need to have others laugh at your jokes, give up the need for others attention, keep your focus on your own presence without judgment. Be spontaneous but always be appropriate in the circumstances. Don’t do anything for others unless you feel that it’s an equal treatment. If someone never helps you, always refuse to help them, they are only taking advantage of you. Be your own best friend and don’t be affected by what others think about you. No one can hurt your feelings unless you allow them that power over you. Good luck.
Yea don't ever look for a reaction
JFairhart I just screenshot it 🤯 that’s so well said
Brilliant, thanks...
Tried that now I have no friends thanks guy
@@brandonstevens7371 welp
This guy needs boundaries. He needs to defend them and even Impose them .
It's more complicated than that. Stripes on a dog isn't the same as on the tiger.
@@Senorzilchnzero cool saying
@ learn to say no, learn to say things without having to joke about something would be 2 good places to start
It's tremendously difficult establishing and enforcing personal boundaries and respecting others boundaries when brought up as an emotional toilet for those closest.
Example: if I say no to a family members expectation to covertly manipulate and exploit me they rage out and add another cunty addition to their well established smear campaign.
If I deny or resist my siblings/parent taking my own personal belongings they blow up big time, nek minute I start hearing things from random aquaintances asking me why I'm such a selfish/greedy cunt for not sharing.
They've the "what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine to,...duh" ignorant mentality.
No one said it was going to be easy. Get some backbone, be a man , stop caring so much about what people think of you. That’s THEIR problem. Live YOUR life, don’t let people walk all over you. DO THE WORK!
"You talking to me? You talking to me? You don't respect my idea?" Lmao
I had the same story. He needs to learn to set boundaries.
Baby face ? or high voice ? Some people suggested this but I rekon its charactor that really makes a difference rather than appearance.
@@jaroroytapel Appearances can exacerbate the effects of character. If people only have your appearance to go on it'll take effect then too.
be mindful of one's tone and expressions. learn how to do a serious face and tone helped me a lot. i was in the same shoe until i learn that. also learn how to walk away after having the last words
@Alien Intention I do
@Max Designs 🤣🤣🤣🤣👌
I feel like he was reading a letter from me. Same age, same situation. I needed that.
Are you me? WTF
You have a wacky waving inflatable arm flailing tube man as your god damn profile pic, broham. This is a hell of your own creation. Lmfao
Rubatano Oobledocker TRUE LOL
@@jessecapra2350 *AHH HA HA!* That's hot!
It’s really interesting how quickly we forget what it was like to be in our early 20s. There’s this palpable tension between people because you don’t know how to navigate them yet, and you haven’t met all the many many kinds of assholes yet. Try and look at this time as a time of discovery. Try not to get stressed out about figuring out who you are or predicting how you or anyone else is going to react to anything. Just be curious about everything and try everything twice.
"How Mein Kampf was written" by Bill Burr
Jesus christ, I laughed hard at this. Just picturing hitler, later, giving advice to someone in the bunker
"Look, I just sat down... I wrote about my feelings. What makes me angry. What makes me sad..."
oh god. It's too good.
@@cosmicmuffet1053 More like it's 1933 and Hitler is about to have a chancellor inauguration speech.. Sits alone in the backstage room.. The crowd in the hall is wild already, he can hear them all the way there.. Looks at his speech papers where the points he wants to make are.. AND A HUGE SMILEY FACE ON THE LAST PAPER.. detail on Hitler's face "sighs"
Fucking nailed it! 10/10
Dude are you a comedian yet because that was actually funny my guy
@@yeussean he does do a good job of describing the behavior of a certain group of people.
I think now we want all Bill's podcasts to be in this format with a live audience. .... Bill should sometimes see our reactions when listening to his ramblings. It'd make for a full TV show on its own. Where's the director at HBO Series who knows how to identify a money-making show when he sees one?
Bill Burr's "Sitting On Couches Talking Lifes' Comedies with Fans While Drinking Coffee" ??....
Nice idea but theres no way a network will let him talk like he does on the podcast. Without censoring the ever loving shit out of it.
Some of his improvised bits are as good as his stand up material! I think that would work!
@@TheDeathMantis I mean, your right. For sure. But what if they put a big ass disclaimer in the beginning. Like south park does. They pretty much say because of the coarse language and content that their show should not be viewed by anyone. They should let him write the disclaimer haha he would say some shit about how hes just ignorant and stupid and his comedy doesn't reflect real beliefs and should not be taken literally. I think he calls himself ignorant once every special. At least once. So maybe if they had a strong enough disclaimer then he could get away with just about anything he wanted. Would be great.
This being on youtube is fine. TV won't make it any better
This hit home for me.
yeah and if you're witty on making jokes use that wit to make fun of the person who's making fun of you
Eddy Rodriguez horrible advice, never return anger with anger, that will only end up with more bitterness and it will become a self defense mechanism that can ruin jobs and friendships or possible friendships. Never return mean words back, sometimes you have to be the bigger person. What you described right there shows immaturity
@@lobothelobster9483 i don't think he meant to be an asshole to the other person.
@@lobothelobster9483 not in an angry way but in a jokingly poking fun of the person like in a friendly way def not insult the guy you know
@@lobothelobster9483 But you have to fight fire with fire at some point. Sometimes you've got to have a confrontation, just like Burr says. You don't want to respond in anger, but you do have to respond eventually. Too much maturity can get you in trouble. In a perfect world, schoolyard bullies go away eventually, but they never really do. You've got to learn to stand up to them somehow.
"How come nobody takes me seriously"
"nobody seems to be able to picture me mad"
honestly...keep the happy go lucky lifestyle, then start a cartel operation.
nobody would suspect you...ever.....
Until the cartel notices how nice you are and then it's over.
Worked for Gus Fring....up to an extent.
@@mad4song01 Beat me to it lol.
Best advice here.
The LEVEL OF REAL between the writer and Bill is SO REAL. Bill is basically talking to his younger self. F"KING BEAUTIFUL.
When he was reading this guys story I was wondering if I got drunk and sent this in and he was reading about me
Richard Tipton lol same here man
My name is Richard, and i’m from a town called Tipton
Wait, this is your story ?
I recognized this guy's story in myself as well.
You work at bed bath and beyond? Lol
So he's telling him to write a Manefesto? hahahaha
You and 74 other people don't know what a manifesto is or how to spell it rofl
And why is it funny btw ?
@@Youwood667 who are you responding to 🥴
@@PWNHUB ya realized it was spelled wrong but realized i don't care lol and everyone knows what i meant. don't be that guy
@@dr.martinlroberts1908 To Ryan
This was actually pretty good advice lol
This is consistent.
Golden Knight lol you’re an idiot
Yeah. Bill Burr once said he was just a comedian and not to take him seriously, but from what I see, he is an older dude with life experience, and contrary to most other people at his age (and any age) is extremely good at explaining himself. So I think he's got merit. Past just being funny.
@Golden Knight A psycho is created when this guy continues getting advantage of and doesn't stand up for himself until he fucking snaps.
Zedi what you said resonated with me so much. Sometimes we just need love man. I wasn’t originally so depressed and hateful toward myself but people have only started treating me worse over the years making me question my self worth.
Bill "i thought retail was clothes" Burr
😂😂😂Bro!
Like Kanye West when he saw a 1 dollar bill at a heat game and got confused as fuck
@@well_as_an_expert_id_say lol what?
@@juggerswood Kanye was at a game once and stared at a dollar for a whole minute with that "man what the fuck" look on his face lmao. Same concept, when you're so rich that average shit like that is weird to you
...orrrrr "closed"?
Bill Burr sit down is as good as his stand up...this is awesome, more please.
Bill’s practical advice is hilarious and it’s of his best qualities.
“How come nobody takes me seriously?”
*everyone starts laughing*
Lovely advice, Mr. Burr. Thank you for taking the time to provide this young man with a genuine, thoughtful response. Society would be a bit better if we all did this more often.
Had the bottle to tell his story. Good start. I believe Bill when he says he's been that guy. Always some truth in what he says, worth listening to.
Whatever your thing is you do, be it music, some kind of art or whatever, throw yourself into it head first and keep on it. You'll feel more confident, and the little things start to bother you less.
He's probably good looking and nice. Everyone unconsciously wants to take him down. Know your stuff and be confident in it and defend it with grace but keep talking your point when you're interrupted ...works wonders at shutting someone up and making them respect your right to speak your sentences to the end at least
Jesus Christ, Bill our her being a therapist in this day and age makes so much sense yet is terrifying at the same time! This worlds on its last leg we’re all gonna die!!!😂
Four*Nobel*Clans he is your her
You talking about the guy from breaking bad?
When I was sad one day at work, I drew a smiley on a piece of sandpaper ( I'm a carpenter ) and everytime I get sad I look at that sandpaper and it reminds me of the happy times and that good things are coming, it's just around the corner. I related to this video on so many levels, how no one could take him seriously and it really is frustrating.
As soon as he said "It seems like my whole life nobody ever took me seriously" I thought "Oh Fuck Dude, Hes the Joker" XD
Bill saying "He's gonna have a mohawk any day now" was the cherry on top XD
Amazing! So happy to see a series made of your advice, really good idea to capitalize on the podcast content. I could watch hours of this stuff hahaha
“Bill told me to break some eggs!” Lmfaoooo
Too funny 😅😂
I love these uploads! We need more of these Bill "giving advice" Burr series. Keep em coming.
That eye bulge when he read "people say they could never see mad." Haha
This is good advice for people who want to be nice and peaceful. You have to stand up for yourself sometimes and tell someone to Fuck off.
Lol ol' freckles giving motivational speeches now
I’m all in dude XD If I’m going to take advice from somebody I’d rather it be bill burr.
I get a kick outta your comedy! Especially when you impersonate a women's voice! Most of your acts I watch over and over. You're GREAT Bill!
Same XD
Been seeing the podcast in my RUclips recommendations for a while. Almost didn't click it. Finally gave it a what the heck click, Russian American roulette. No regrets!
@@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou His standups are TOP NOTCHED when it comes to "Comedians". I love the fact that he says what he feels. If people feel bad about what he says, Ehhhh, they'll get over it. Lol! These "Sensitive People" are lucky Patrice O'neal isn't still alive. R.I.P. I'd give one of my testicles to hear his take on today's current events. Facts!
@@talmandgeperry1835 I'll chip in one testicle for that as well. Imagine him on JRE today.. He'd kill ten times more than Joey Diaz.
@@rajatbhateja5299 It would be EPIC! I love comics that speak THE TRUTH as well as being humorous.
I know what he’s talking about completely, you try and treat everybody how you want to be treated and you get shit on. You can’t act like the playing field is even because it’s not, people are scumbags so just treat them accordingly.
Reminds me of Joker!
Another thing - people also often comment on me "not being able to picture me mad". I am a skinny and tall guy, never been in a fight. And that's it. Dominance among men comes from the threat of physical conflict, or at least ability to take it there. Simply - integrated capability for aggression. Until you have that, you will always be just someone others are able to push around. I solved it (after a few years of contemplation) with jiu jitsu classes, but something like box would be great too (for you, if you are reading this, guy in the video). Would you be able to defend your girl if 2 drunk guys started cat calling her on the street? Would you be able to stand up for her and yourself? Or would you be afraid of them physically hurting you if you said something?
@@bh4223 Where did I say starting shit is a good idea? I asked some questions on the end and you filled in your answers in this way. You just projected your own mindset, haha.
“Sometimes you gotta break some eggs to make an omelette.”
I love that line.
It's from Fight Club 1999.
It’s a skill. To stand up for yourself without losing your temper. There is an increasing number of toxic people around who will constantly look to cross your boundaries if you let them. And they rely on your inability to deal with awkward silences and confrontations to do so. Make peace with awkwardness and silences in a conversation. Say it “I don’t want to”, “No”.
And then enjoy the silence that follows. It will be hard for some time. Mainly coz people around you are not used to it. Slowly the bad ones will leave and the good ones will learn to respect your boundaries.
Answer: you probably have a baby face. I had the same problem until recently
Ding ding ding
This answers so many questions! Thank you lmao
Dude i am telling that my family since 5 years now !!!
also i bet a kind of feminine voice.
plus you are way too nice.
i am turning this franchise around for me now, but its fucking hrad fo or us baby face/voice dudes.
If you can, grow a beard. If you cant, test you hornome levels and there are really ways to grow a beard with medical help. At least here in europa.
btw boqoreh. what do you mean with "until recently" you cut off a face from a bodybuilder and stick onto you ?
@@MrJust2times He prolly grew a beard
@@MrJust2times I smoke cigarettes and grow a Sunni beard and my cheek bones jutting like a supermodel...
From what I know, everyone has the problem of how to confront people but confront them in a constructive way. I have a tendency to get angry when I have to confront someone but when that happens your point gets lost and then you things go sour.
I swear this guy is becoming like the next George Carlin!
Just wait until he's in his 60s
Except bill is funny!
Alien Intention totally agree. You could argue Bill is the anti-Carlin in a lot of ways. Carlin considered himself an intellectual while Bill always jokes about being uninformed, ignorant etc. I don’t think bill feels that what he says is of great import the way Carlin did.
ಠ_ಠ very true Carlin always leaves me thinking, burr leaves me laughing my ass off
Doug stanhope has been like Carlin for years. Hes just way under the radar, and drinks a lot more
I hope he keeps reading letters like this... Bill has great insight.... another great layer to him I didnt know about yet.
Bill Burr uploads a video *instant click*
and instant like :)
This was surprisingly introspective at the end with the writing, glad I watched
I was this guy until my teens... you’re advice and analysis was spot on.
after you turned 13 you became a BEAST
Lol
That is me. It took 6+ months to be taken seriously in my job. I believe it is still a mild issue but I stood up for myself countless times and also when my 2IC was attempting to make work life impossible so that I would leave. She ended up giving in and leaving for another job and was such a negative haze on the whole place. Things are great now and I get treated with respect. The dude has to be careful not to get too angry though. I have lost jobs standing up for myself also. Employers are arseholes and think they can treat people like dirt then wonder why there is such a high unemployment rate.
For the 3% reading this, i hope you become successful in everything you dream of and accomplish more than you had imagined. My dream is to become a successful African artist.
God bless on your journey.
MusicBankTv
I give you my blessings too, thank you for this :)
Not my squanch, but gl brother.
Go man, do you!
Great Advice Bill Love your Comedy and everything you do keep up the good work.
Best wishes from Belgium
Odds are this guys got his shit together and he's gonna do good in life. He just needs some grit and to get away from everyone.
This reminds me of my family ex-friends and ec-coworkers. Once i got away from all of em there was no negative energy contributing to the suppression of the mindset i needed. A year later I have a career all my shits been working out for me. Negative shit from others can effect you even if you're strong willed. Cut them out..
confidence is the most valuable skill for an adult, it's weird how no one talks about that.
no one's born confident, you just practice it or fake it until you got it, even impersonate badass characters in the mirror if it works, whatever practice comes to your mind just do it and over time you'll get more confidence, and therefore respect of others, self respect and more doors will open for ya
That is when you have to show some anger every now and then. I did that at my old job. I shocked my manager once because I told him no..
Old job? Is that why you were sacked? Lol
Woobie you crazy son of a gun!
Never show anger, just be aggressive.
@@richardjamesclemo6235 isn't that the same?
Abdoulhay Ceesay
Anger is incompetence
Aggression is determination
To the young letter writer: First of all, stop smiling constantly, because many people see that as an immature lack of confidence. Stop being overly polite, for the same reason. Stop over-explaining and stop justifying your thoughts and actions. STOP TRYING TO GET APPROVAL FROM EVERYONE. Wear a calm, unemotional expression on your face. Don't let people buffalo you into believing their bullshit criticism of you --stop responding to their manipulation and their DELUSIONAL AUTHORITY OVER YOU. Spend your time improving your OWN LIFE, instead of saving the world. Shut your phone off when you need uninterrupted time for yourself, and don't apologize for being unavailable. If manipulative people try to SHAME you and DISCOURAGE you for spending time on yourself, they are trying to buffalo you into always being subservient to their needs. Stop being so obedient, so cooperative, and so polite to assholes who insist that you must respect their DELUSIONAL AUTHORITY over you. If you don't control your own urge to be nice, people will take advantage of you in many different ways. If you care enough about yourself to build your body up with weightlifting, fewer people will try to intimidate you. Let your demeanor SHOW people that they are not in control of you because YOU are in charge of your life. And remember, IF YOU DON'T take damn good care of your own life, nobody else is gonna do that for you, dude.
This really hit home for me dude. I just screen shotted this so I’ll never forget who I need to be in this world filled with assholes.
I needed this advice like 20 years ago. Spot on!
@@antoinettelopes -Thank you!! - I needed this advice, too, and studied lots of self-help books, but mostly learned from my personal observations, experiences, and bits and pieces of advice I got from other people. Thank you for your kind reply. If you have time, I hope you will let me know if you make positive changes in your self-confidence, and how you are treated by others.
@@anonymousstrangeness7348 There was a good chunk of time where I was secure and didn't take anything from anyone. But the last few years have been extremely difficult and my circumstances forced me back around to being more of a pushover. So I started to isolate myself which makes things worse. I'm gaining my confidence back but people are getting even more bullying and controlling over the last few years it seems. I'm going to try to use your advice going forward. Thanks.
This !!
“Should of been a gun guy”.... had a few of those over the years.
You fuck guys?
mushy are you a boomer?
I think I enjoy these advice talks more that his stand ups lately. They're somehow motivational and still funny.
Bill and the audience started making fun of the guy as soon they heard others don't take him seriously. I guess the golden rule still applies - "Others will respect you only as much as you respect yourself".
@Edmund Lee That's not the "golden rule", Ed.
@@LRBeforeTheInternet Undies before socks?
Bill can laugh at this because he is old. He had been through so many shit that this is somewhat of a small matter that he can laugh about. Hell, I do too! People who had walked that path will always laugh. Because what else would we do?
Laugh and learn. That's what we should do.
@@johnbonhamsinger If that's what you're into, John, i'm not here to kink shame.
@@vhalrougelarfouxe Exactly. I laugh because I understand and have been through the same.
"He told me to break some eggs" TURNS INTO THE PUNISHER😑😂
Wow I’m literally going through the exact same shit
Im digging this bill, u should keep it up! Its fantastic thanks!
Taxi driver reference was gold
Bill's advice here was actually pretty wholesome too! 👍
Who knew Bill Burr was such a softie inside, adorable
"He's gonna have the mohawk any day. Huh, you talkin to me, you talkin to me?"
God it makes so much sense that Bill knows about Taxi Driver. Fuckin my favorite movie btw
That Moment when Bill Burr becomes your therapist
Bill Burr “you’re a wholesome guy”
Also Bill Burr: You should go to therapy” 😂😂
Fucking love the guy!
No matter how anti-gun you are, when you are laying in bed and you hear a noise you will be like, "F*CK I should've been a gun guy!"
lazy people rather outsource their defense to other men and those men should charge them out the ass for being a lazy bitch.
A bed side baseball bat or hammer should cut it as long as you stick to hiding round corners for a close quarters advantage, realistically its not worth getting into a fire fight over you TV, its a very common cause of house robbers turning to murderers
I really love these live advice letters, keep them coming!
Bill Burr didn't have a confrontation or learn how to stick up for himself until his 30's? Is there some origin story I missed here?
And now he's married to a feminist I like burr but he doesn't drink his own koolaid
@@chrissimmons4137 maybe that's his secret?
@@chrissimmons4137 Yeah, real confident men only date submissive women who don't mouth off, right? :p
@@chrissimmons4137 if you watch enough of his stuff you'll see that bill is absolutely a feminist. he just loves the reaction he gets when he makes jokes trashing women lol.
Johnnythefirst yea because that’s the only other option
No one takes ya seriously mate on account of the fact that you're a professional stand up comedian. An extremely hilarious one at that. Keep it up young man.
Jokesters and kind people are never taken seriously bc that's what they became and it's hard to break. Make a change and reinvent yourself
Bill you have such amazing insight and you say the shit I used to say before my ex took everything.
When he speaks without all the F bombs every 10 seconds, I hear him much more clearly. Well done Papa Burr! Wonderful, encouraging advice 👏❤️
We need the full show!!
the revolution wil not be televised is true. It's streamed
hey richard
Venedikt Erofeev Hello
People like that never change, they take it up the ass their whole life and hate themselves. But don't, being calm is harder, you are the real sunshines that go trough life (seemingly) always happy, never change
the psychological cornerstone in the back of anyone's head when they are making an effort to listen and take another person seriously in earnest is always either respect of who that person is or fear of the what they will do if you fail to pay attention
Bill Burr out here doing the real work. Real comedy saves lives.
Great advice Bill. Seriously man👊👍
Been there done that. Lemme help (to all those people not reading this)
1. Realize the world is rough. People aren’t nice. Nearly everyone, even good ppl, will take advantage of you if you let them. Fair? No. But that’s reality. It’s tough out there.
2. Stop being nice. Don’t be a nice guy. Nice is just another word for harmless. Be kind. The most fear instilling guy can be kind with soft actions. But stop being nice. Figure the difference, and implement.
3. Assert yourself. If you avoid conflict to the point of compromising what you believe to avoid a conflict, stop. Start small. Voice a different opinion that is non consequential. Be polite, understanding, gentle, but also firm in your opinion. Repeat until it’s comfortable. Move on to more consequential conflicts.
4. Confidence. Good chance you lack it. Maybe not. If you ain’t confident, learn to not give a single fuck. Scared you might mess up or fail? Fuck it. The world is going to continue to spin if ya do. What happens, happens, stop caring. It’s hard to create confidence, so start with next best: not giving a rip and just doing it. Then grow as you discover your competence.
5. Backbone. Grow one. You think being nice helps make the world go round? It doesn’t. Sometime bad things, hard things, and jarring things make the world go round. You bring nice will inhibit some people from becoming their best. Don’t let others down by being weak. Grow a backbone for others. Standing up for yourself profits others as much as you.
6. If all else fails go listen to Jordan Peterson. He is smarter than me.
Bill Burr sitting there watching Oprah: “2.8 Billion dollars! I can do that.”
"They can't picture me mad"...That reaction on bills face.
Plot twist: this is Bill's letter to himself when he was 20
Bill burr is a very perceptive dude. Wise man. Funny is a plus.
Could you imagine dinging somebodies parked car, waiting for them and out walks Bill Burr.
“Bill Burr told me to break some eggs”
Holy fuck this is brilliant.
It actually took me to the age of, oh, 26, before I twigged to the fact that I didn't really know much of anything, anything important. Before that, of course, I knew everything.
This format is gonna be a massive hit
Retail is the concept of buying things from other companies at wholesale price and reselling them at a marked up price. Literally nothing to do with clothes lol
Bill Burr for late night. You would be better then any of them. Love your stuff.
Except Conan
To the emailer: speak slower, lower your tone, and start a muscle building program. Stop laughing as a defense mechanism or to ease tension. Improve your posture and stop being the first person to break eye contact whenever you're speaking with someone. You probably were never taught how to behave like a man but now is a good time to learn.
@@genofire3304 Whoa easy with the philosophy my man. I'm just trying to tell him how to not act like a bitch.
This is such good advice. Especially the muscle building and not being the first person to break eye contact are very relevant for me. Will start doing these seriously. Wish I had got this advice a few years ago when I was a teen but better late than never.
good advice! id add to that, when someone interrupts you,keep talking! most of the time the interuptor is gonna shut up and you show people youre no pushover.
That was actually some really good advice. Honest, but also not too hard on the guy.
Why does no one take me seriously, asks a giant goof
Great advice Bill. He's just learning the limitations of the mind... and it's endless!
Yeah totally agree I had that same problem even though I am young
I learned quickly
Just dont let anyone joke with you too much and dont be afraid to fight
Dude once you're dont afraid to fight it's so easy to be dominant
I also find boxing the air at night helps me get confidence that i can take anyone down (usually before my workout) as a warmup you could say
Are you 12? lol
I have this problem and it stemmed from people taking my kindness for weakness. That's their mistake because when push comes to shove they are not expecting me to flip out and become very angry!! They underestimate me and we all know to never underestimate your opponent.
5:43 being a little brother with a huge age gap between siblings teaches you how to deal with confrontation at a very early age. 🤬👊🤕🤣🤣🤣
Good deeds 🙌💯