It's amazing to see her capacity for happiness. Also, there's a light around you guys in this thread too. Such kind words. Much love, peace, and respect to you all.
The language Jessica uses when talking about Kay is so inclusive and thoughtful. “When WE forget..” etcetera. Thank you for featuring someone with dementia.
I also like the way Jessica would naturally shift to include Kay. She would start out by addressing Chris's question to him, but would soon be talking to Kay while still answering his question.
Jessica seems like a lovely caring woman. But personally I am disabled and didn't like her saying "we". However, if Kay is alright with it then that is what matters.
like i said she reminds me of my grandmother's sister except she had down syndrome. but when she was born like kay they too referred to her with the dreaded r word cause they never heard of down syndrome
I love the brother. As the mother of a child with disabilities, it is alot to ask for an adult child to give up their own life to take care of their sibling. Thank goodness for people like him!
I’m one of them. But my mother doesn’t want to leave him behind for anyone to take care of him but a facility. And I’m upset! Because those places are awful.. they don’t take care of patients in them and no one is going to understand my brother like I do and I am older than him. My brother is non verbal and doesn’t sign doesn’t walk doesn’t eat by mouth and he isn’t toilet trained… and mentally he is between 18 months and three years old when it comes to coming to the understanding that he has to go to bed. Or that he needs to get dressed.
@@LoverofSunflowernBeeswhat you are handling can be a lot though. There is help available and it may be hard to find help that is good, but there is help if you search for it. I hope everything is well!
We all need a Kay in our lives🤗 I am 49 and was blessed from a toddler to be around amazing ladies like Kay. I grew up in So Cal in the 70's and there was a older couple in our church who had a mentally challenged adult daughter. Instead of putting her in a institution/hospital as many people did in the 50's-60's, they decided to open their large home to others like her. I spent so much time into my teens with the ladies, they thought I was their lil doll😊 The family home is still around to this day. I became a nanny for a teenage girl who was mentally about 3 and it was very rewarding. Then my career as a flight attendant put me around so many wonderful smiling faces like Kay.
Hello! @@Melissa0774 as an intellectual myself I'm trying to understand your comment here bc it was kind of out of place there but I don't think she was putting it that way she meant to say that now she is a former flight attendant but she sees people with intellectual disabilities everyday in that it puts a smile on her face :)
It’s never easy to be caretakers to a disabled adult. There are challenges which try the patience of even the most loving and supportive of people. The key is cooperation and coordination. The entire family works together to keep Kay active, feeling needed, clean and happy. It’s a privilege to watch them tell their story. I’m so impressed by the mature and caring attitude Liberty and America have toward their aunt. This helps Jessica stay positive as she does the bulk of the caregiving. I hope this family has some outside help in order for them to get away and decompress from time to time. Wishing them all the best. 🌹
It's not easy that's for sure, but very well worth it. I take care of disabled man, who's in a wheelchair. It can be challenging, but wouldn't trade it for the world.
It's a blessing that she was never put into a institution. We know that during the time she was a young child and even a young adult, many families were pressured to place their children into institutions bc there wasnt much support, understanding, and knowledge about these conditions or disabilities. Kay is very lucky to have had her mother who was dedicated to caring for her. And now her brother, sister in law and nieces, as they are lucky to have her
I'm glad to see an interview with older folks who were born with disabilities. Kay's sweet demeanor reminds me of my neighbor who is a disabled adult in her forties. We can easily turn a quick trip ro the mailbox into an hour long conversation. These people are just as wise as their more typical peers and have a thing or two to teach us about slowing down, being realistic, and yet finding joy in every part of life.
It makes me so happy to see this interview. This only proves that intellectually disabled people don't need to be put in institutions. She has a good quality of life, she lights up the enviroment around her, she teaches her nieces to be good people... just so happy to see her happy. Hope in the future we will be able to have intellectually disabled people aging with quality and happiness.
Not everybody is cut out to care for the mentally disabled. I personally am one of those people. I care so much and want so badly for people like Kay to be happy and have friends etc & it breaks my heart when they don't have friends etc. That being said, I cannot handle being around someone like Kay for very long without getting irritated and annoyed. I don't mean after just one hour but I mean all day or like this guy who has his sister living with him. No way, I couldn't do it.
Thank God she had family to go to once her Mom passed away ❤. Many older adults with learning disabilities end up in nursing homes after their parents become unable or pass away.
This happened to my uncle but he chose it because he wanted his own life in his own place. He ended up in a group home. And a bunch of the residents became his family there and came to the funeral. The nicest and sweetest caregivers and their children- who lived in the group home. The nicest people who lived with him. I was so happy that he loved it there and passed around people who loved him so much ❤
Strong family networks are SO important. Our capitalist system is literally incompatible with disability. It helps to have those strong family bonds and the shared sense of responsibility between family members for each others’ wellbeing. It’s so inspiring!
@@ottomobile64of course we can't because we are aware of what's going on in everiday life, we have to earn our living, pay bills, perform a lot of tasks, take care of others... She lives in her own world, all her needs are satisfied, she is looked after... She is like a small child.
What an absolutely sweet lady! When she was talking about her mom passing away, and told her not to die because we need you. Wow, that really made me feel sad. I'm happy Kay has an awesome brother, and sister-in-law, that cares about her immensely 🙏🙂
@@moby108 psst let me tell you something I'm an intellectual and blind artist who loves to draw I can totally make a book dedicated to her and in honor or memory of her! :)❤❤❤
😭 I am such a "cry baby"... Seeing Gerald tear up talking about his sister just makes my heart explode with joy. It appears that being "special" is different; the bonds made with loved ones are so strong words can't define it.
Kay is so happy, seeing her joy makes me happy! A little tip for communicating with people with dementia I learned from when my nana was in the last stages of dementia: Asking a direct question can sometimes be too confronting because they might feel put on the spot and the might feel insecure about forgetting a lot and they might clamp up or lash out because of it, whereas if you prompt them with a memory of your own they'll start sharing stories that are related to the topic. So instead of asking: Did you have any pets? You can say: When I grew I had a dog namesd Felix and he would always chase a ball with with stars. And they'll naturally start sharing stories about their pets or a neighbors pet they remember.
This is such a great interview. Love seeing light put on older individuals with disabilities. She is an absolute joy. She saw immediately when her brother got sad and gave him love
To Gerald: The term “retard” isn’t offensive because it’s too straightforward; it’s offensive because people often use it in a hurtful way, so it became known as a hurtful word. It’s fine to be straightforward about disabilities! In fact most of us prefer it 🥰
When a once used term become generally hurtful, then it must be abandoned. Read my comment above. I think it will clarify a lot of problems with terminology in general. I do appreciate what you are saying and agree that what was once not meant as offensive becomes offensive.
I agree my dad called me pd and r to my face. 20 years ago it still feels like yesterday. Situations like this never go away. I can’t imagining saying that to some one. Let Allona familly.
I liked hearing Kay’s brother talk about how the words have changed over the years, it helped me gain a new perspective- I’m a lot younger than him, so I’ve only ever heard the r word being used as a slur against me and people like me, so I tend to feel automatically afraid of people who use it, but it’s nice to see that some folks genuinely don’t mean it that way :) I’ll keep that context in mind next time im talking with an older person about this stuff
It's such an unfortunate cycle. People start to use a word in a mean way until the word itself becomes offensive. Then the people who want to be kind have to invent new politically correct words, but as the mean people adopt the new words they become the new insult. It is such a temporary bandaid on a problem that won't truly go away until we learn to respect everyone.
I'm not that old, but I feel like I have witnessed the full circle of the "r-word" while growing up. When I was a kid, it was used as a genuine medical diagnosis, or to refer to someone with an obvious intellectual disability. Then, when I was a teenager, it was used as an insult and something offensive. Now that I'm an adult, it is mostly seen as a slur and we've replaced it with other terms. Funny how languages work and evolve honestly.
One of my most favourite videos and families on this channel! Aunt Kay's laughter is contagious! The girls are amazing, she is super lucky to have them (and they are super lucky to have her!). Her brother seems to be a very warm and good-hearted man. And the brother's wife - all respect to her. Embrancing the whole situation so beautifully. She is a pure angel and I wanna be like her. What a role model to her kids! Greetings from Poland and lots of love to them all!
Chris' joke was hilarious. This senior's laughter was infectious. Kay is loved 😍 💖 💕She has a clear memory of her mother. 🎉Gerald is great but his wife is extraordinary. It takes a lot of love
Thank you for showing someone older with disabilities! My grandma has physical disabilities and I have epilepsy and POTS and we take care of each other and I always wondered how much people like her aren’t featured on here. Of course I know it’s usually special kids not seniors. But my grandma is mostly deaf and mostly immobile and she acquired both of these disabilities as she got older so it’s a unique point of view. So please continue to feature older people
Oh I loved this interview.. As an able bodied person, living in an abled bodied family, I've never really thought about seniors with disabilities. I guess they're portrayed very little on media. As always, after watching an episode of SBSK, I feel that I've gained valuable insight. Kris what you do, the way you do it is absolutely phenomenal. The way you can connect with everybody, no matter their limitations, warms my heart and inspires me deeply, to be more patient and kind in my everyday life. Kay is such a sweetheart and she's lucky to have such a loving sister in law and for her brother of course. ps. I want Gerald's shirt😆
Kay is delightful! I love how easy she laughs and smiles. She’s very engaging, sweet and sensitive. What a beautiful family. And I also think it’s a lovely tribute to their dear Mom, too.
Kay reminds me so much of my old neighbor when i lived across town, she even looks like her. She passed away several years ago. But her family was not kind to her. Thank God Kay has her brother and his family.
my friend's neighbor only had dementia. she always remembered when he was a little boy and delivered meals that his dad made. when i first went by to see her with him she thought i was his wife. lol
I believe the reason people are offended by the old terminology is because it was used in a derogatory way. It was used in a way to insult that person. I actually prefer the new terminology, it's gentle and kind. I smiled all the way through because Kay is an absolute Joy, that's testament to her amazing care givers, her family ❤
When I was in year 9, my school offered an after-school activity in which we went to a retirement home with a group of students and spent time with the elderly every Monday. I met a lot of amazing people like Kay there. One woman stuck out cause she was one of the rare cases of dementia, with which the person consciously realizes that they’re having it and how they’re losing their memory. That caused her to suffer from depression. She cried a lot and often times we would just sit with her and play with her, talk to her or go for a walk with her when she was deeply in a depressed episode. She had a huge family, but never had any of them visiting her, which made her depression even worse. And that’s why I‘m so happy that Kay has such a loving and caring family. The way she laughs and smiles just tells me that she’s happy about being with her family and seeing how much her family cares for her moved me to tears. The woman in the retirement home told me and the other students: „I may lose my memory, but the feeling of being truly happy and feeling loved, I will never lose that.“ And I think that’s what we should remind ourselves of: if we know a person with dementia or have a family member with dementia, they still need our love and care, they still need us, even though it might be challenging for us to accept that our loved one is losing their memory. They need us. Love always wins!
Aww, every time her brother pauses because of his emotions, she gives a reassuring laugh to let him know that it is ok to let his guard down & to express his emotions freely.
Beautiful caring and loving family. Kay still remembers her younger brother who died and the flowers. Wow, her mother was a remarkable woman to raise all her children, moving with them for her husbands work, their survival as migrants. One of lifes beautuful mums and wife. She'd be so proud of her son! God bless this beautiful family.
My heart is moved by the love and compassion of this amazing family. The way Gerald weeps when talking about Kay touched me so deeply. Blessings and health to each one of them ❤
What a beautiful family ❤❤❤ every one of them is so amazing. Kay is such a beautiful soul with the most amazing brother and sister-in-law in the world. They are wonderful
I love everything about this story. I loved watching Kay's face as her nieces speak so positively about her. They will so much more compassionate adults for having this experience of loving their auntie.
i absolutely love to see the nieces immediately jump into leading their aunt in questions. they are so understanding and supportive, that its just natural.
I worked with a patient years ago that laughed constantly. He was very small and frail amnd he laughed just like a wicked witch from a kids movie....He kept us laughoing all day and was the sweetest soul. We were his family as he had no one else . Hes gone now and we miss him dearly. ❤❤❤
that is love. He has a big heart and so does she. So beautiful to watch made me tear up. She is easy to love I can imagine caring would come with knowing her.
This is one of my most favorite interviews. Kay is so lovely and seems kind spirited. Gerald and Jessica are patient, loving angels. May God bless this family and always lift them up.❤
It's so sweet how much Gerald loves Kay, how Jessica takes care of her and is her best friend, and her nieces include her. They're going great helping Kay. I was a med tech at a memory care facility and I know how hard it can be.
I feel for Kay's family. My grandmother had dementia at the end of her life. It was heartbreaking to experience the decline of her cognitive abilities. But Kay is so bright, and hasn't a care in the world that she has been diagnosed with Dementia. Zero worries. God bless her and her caring, beautiful family.
I love how Gerald said that Kay was close on 30 and closer on 31 when it turned out their ages are 66 and 55. It was such a positive and loving way to have that conversation as well as playful and funny.
Kay is awfully blessed to have a brother like Gerald . A caretaker is not an easy life . I did it for my mom when she was with hospice but for someone you love you just do it .
Kay is such a sweetheart. One of my aunts has dimentia and alzheimer's. She doesnt remember anyone or anything now. Its heartbreaking to see her in the condition she is now vs how she was before her illnesses took over her mind and body. She became agressive and had to be placed in a nursing home where she has now 24/7 care and doctors and nurses. She is well cared for but Its hard for my mom and I to visit because we dont have transportation and its a bit far from us where she is at...so we get to visit her when ever my moms brother and wife go, they pick us up along with another uncle and we all go together. But it gets emotional because she hardly talks now and just stares at people like babies do. She needs to be hand fed and she cant walk. She can sit in a wheel chair for a while before they have to put her in bed again. I left in tears last time I went to see her. I do find some confort in knowing that she is being well taken care of and she eats very well and that is super important. Anyway just wanted to share that, be safe everyone.✌️
The lucid time before the end are so so precious, it becomes immensely difficult when that time is up and your loved one's personality disappears. Precious, precious time.
I have a special needs brother. He's so cool. I wish you could interview him sometime. He was super close to my grandparents, and he very often calls ME "Gram" now because I guess I look and sound like her. LOL. These people are truly special and they just shine with innocence and everything humans COULD be if we tried harder. God bless you, Kay and your family! Big hugs!
Gosh, I would love to be around Kay and the happiness she spreads around her. What a wonderful spirit she has, her happiness is absolutely contagious! God bless Kay, her brother Gerald and his wife for loving Kay.
When Kay grabbed her brother’s hand, I really felt her love for him there. What an awesome woman and an awesome, caring, loving brother. Kay can put a smile on anyone’s face!
Kay is very blessed to have a loving family to make sure she is properly cared for. It is a lot of work and it takes patience and plenty of it. May God bless Kay and the entire family, especially Jessica. Kay laughter is intoxicating; I found myself laughing along with Kay.
Kay is such a ray of sunshine. It truly breaks my heart you can tell how much the mothers passing hurt and she thought it was a choice for her to pass or not. Despite everything she manages to smile and giggle that lights up a room. Her brother truly deserves the world because he made a choice many wouldn’t. Kay we all love you❤️
I feel like Kay and Gerald had a very traumatic childhood and are holding a lot back. I’d love to hear their life story, as I think it would be very eye opening ❤
She reminds me of my father 💚 He has brain damage bc of a stroke and it's been so difficult, but his laugh and his light makes our days the best 💚 Wonderful Kay!
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She has a light around her. Her smile is contagious.
Couldn’t agree more!
She's God's angel🤍✨💗
It's amazing to see her capacity for happiness. Also, there's a light around you guys in this thread too. Such kind words. Much love, peace, and respect to you all.
The language Jessica uses when talking about Kay is so inclusive and thoughtful. “When WE forget..” etcetera. Thank you for featuring someone with dementia.
I feel the same way! Very very thoughtful of her
i saw this too! she really loves kay, and is so accepting to her as a part of her family.
I also like the way Jessica would naturally shift to include Kay. She would start out by addressing Chris's question to him, but would soon be talking to Kay while still answering his question.
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Jessica seems like a lovely caring woman.
But personally I am disabled and didn't like her saying "we".
However, if Kay is alright with it then that is what matters.
Kay is a darling woman. Dementia is such a scary and trying condition. I wish her and her family the best.
i also thought dementia is a derogatory term. whoever thought of it never thought it was. they are not ''demented'', just lost in their own world
I love Kay! What a sweet and beautiful lady! ❤
I am also dulce candy. Love your comment
like i said she reminds me of my grandmother's sister except she had down syndrome. but when she was born like kay they too referred to her with the dreaded r word cause they never heard of down syndrome
and my friends neighbor also has a special needs sister. she is kay's age and is really fun to be with. still going strong.
id give anything to have my aunt back. now that I', older i could have helped her alot with my experience with special needs individuals
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the way she comforts gerald when he’s getting emotional is so sweet
I love the brother. As the mother of a child with disabilities, it is alot to ask for an adult child to give up their own life to take care of their sibling. Thank goodness for people like him!
Let alone for a sister-in-law to do it! Jessica is a gem!
I’m one of them. But my mother doesn’t want to leave him behind for anyone to take care of him but a facility. And I’m upset! Because those places are awful.. they don’t take care of patients in them and no one is going to understand my brother like I do and I am older than him. My brother is non verbal and doesn’t sign doesn’t walk doesn’t eat by mouth and he isn’t toilet trained… and mentally he is between 18 months and three years old when it comes to coming to the understanding that he has to go to bed. Or that he needs to get dressed.
@@LoverofSunflowernBeeswhat you are handling can be a lot though. There is help available and it may be hard to find help that is good, but there is help if you search for it. I hope everything is well!
I love her laugh! You can tell that her brother lives her so much!
You mean loves
@@lathafalls7675 yep! Exactly!
“Youre cryin gerald. Need a kleenex?” Omfg how can someone be so sweet yet so sassy at the same time?? I love her
The only thing that caught me off guard in this is the fact that the daughters are named America and liberty 😅
We all need a Kay in our lives🤗
I am 49 and was blessed from a toddler to be around amazing ladies like Kay. I grew up in So Cal in the 70's and there was a older couple in our church who had a mentally challenged adult daughter. Instead of putting her in a institution/hospital as many people did in the 50's-60's, they decided to open their large home to others like her. I spent so much time into my teens with the ladies, they thought I was their lil doll😊
The family home is still around to this day. I became a nanny for a teenage girl who was mentally about 3 and it was very rewarding. Then my career as a flight attendant put me around so many wonderful smiling faces like Kay.
Aww this is amazing reading this made my day!
You see a lot of people with intellectual disabilities as a flight attendant???
@@Melissa0774 former flight attendant here. We see a large cross section of people. Some have disabilities.
@@Melissa0774 could be those who cannot speak to those who are older and need special attention... absolutely, many types of people with disabilities.
Hello! @@Melissa0774 as an intellectual myself I'm trying to understand your comment here bc it was kind of out of place there but I don't think she was putting it that way she meant to say that now she is a former flight attendant but she sees people with intellectual disabilities everyday in that it puts a smile on her face :)
It’s never easy to be caretakers to a disabled adult. There are challenges which try the patience of even the most loving and supportive of people. The key is cooperation and coordination. The entire family works together to keep Kay active, feeling needed, clean and happy. It’s a privilege to watch them tell their story. I’m so impressed by the mature and caring attitude Liberty and America have toward their aunt. This helps Jessica stay positive as she does the bulk of the caregiving. I hope this family has some outside help in order for them to get away and decompress from time to time. Wishing them all the best. 🌹
It's not easy that's for sure, but very well worth it. I take care of disabled man, who's in a wheelchair. It can be challenging, but wouldn't trade it for the world.
@@AmberHorne34 … You are appreciated. 🌷
It's a blessing that she was never put into a institution. We know that during the time she was a young child and even a young adult, many families were pressured to place their children into institutions bc there wasnt much support, understanding, and knowledge about these conditions or disabilities. Kay is very lucky to have had her mother who was dedicated to caring for her. And now her brother, sister in law and nieces, as they are lucky to have her
I'm glad to see an interview with older folks who were born with disabilities. Kay's sweet demeanor reminds me of my neighbor who is a disabled adult in her forties. We can easily turn a quick trip ro the mailbox into an hour long conversation. These people are just as wise as their more typical peers and have a thing or two to teach us about slowing down, being realistic, and yet finding joy in every part of life.
It makes me so happy to see this interview. This only proves that intellectually disabled people don't need to be put in institutions. She has a good quality of life, she lights up the enviroment around her, she teaches her nieces to be good people... just so happy to see her happy. Hope in the future we will be able to have intellectually disabled people aging with quality and happiness.
What a beautiful comment and I agree 😊
Not everybody is cut out to care for the mentally disabled. I personally am one of those people. I care so much and want so badly for people like Kay to be happy and have friends etc & it breaks my heart when they don't have friends etc. That being said, I cannot handle being around someone like Kay for very long without getting irritated and annoyed. I don't mean after just one hour but I mean all day or like this guy who has his sister living with him. No way, I couldn't do it.
Kay is so sensitive to her brother's feelings, she knows exactly when he needs a hug. So touching...♥
I loved how Kay's nieces immediately knew how to help her so she could answer Chris's questions. The whole family seems so great
Thank God she had family to go to once her Mom passed away ❤. Many older adults with learning disabilities end up in nursing homes after their parents become unable or pass away.
This happened to my uncle but he chose it because he wanted his own life in his own place. He ended up in a group home. And a bunch of the residents became his family there and came to the funeral. The nicest and sweetest caregivers and their children- who lived in the group home. The nicest people who lived with him. I was so happy that he loved it there and passed around people who loved him so much ❤
Strong family networks are SO important. Our capitalist system is literally incompatible with disability. It helps to have those strong family bonds and the shared sense of responsibility between family members for each others’ wellbeing. It’s so inspiring!
Love her laugh..she seems content and happy in her life. Would that more of us could be like her.
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@@ottomobile64of course we can't because we are aware of what's going on in everiday life, we have to earn our living, pay bills, perform a lot of tasks, take care of others... She lives in her own world, all her needs are satisfied, she is looked after... She is like a small child.
What an absolutely sweet lady! When she was talking about her mom passing away, and told her not to die because we need you. Wow, that really made me feel sad. I'm happy Kay has an awesome brother, and sister-in-law, that cares about her immensely 🙏🙂
The love Gerald is showing Kay is amazing. Thank you for the video.
She gave him a hug when she noticed he was crying 😢 that was so sweet
This is what America Needs...... strong, devoted families, like this one. I wish Gerald would write a book about their family :)
I would totally buy that book.
@@moby108 psst let me tell you something I'm an intellectual and blind artist who loves to draw I can totally make a book dedicated to her and in honor or memory of her! :)❤❤❤
@@moby108 I may be blind but that won't stop me from drawing :)
@-In-A-Disableds-Life "people who boast their IQ are losers" -Steven Hawking
The world not just the usa.
😭 I am such a "cry baby"... Seeing Gerald tear up talking about his sister just makes my heart explode with joy. It appears that being "special" is different; the bonds made with loved ones are so strong words can't define it.
Kudos to her sister in law for taking special care of this sweet lady.
Kay is so happy, seeing her joy makes me happy!
A little tip for communicating with people with dementia I learned from when my nana was in the last stages of dementia:
Asking a direct question can sometimes be too confronting because they might feel put on the spot and the might feel insecure about forgetting a lot and they might clamp up or lash out because of it, whereas if you prompt them with a memory of your own they'll start sharing stories that are related to the topic.
So instead of asking: Did you have any pets? You can say: When I grew I had a dog namesd Felix and he would always chase a ball with with stars. And they'll naturally start sharing stories about their pets or a neighbors pet they remember.
Wow, that sounds like a great tip. Thanks for sharing!
What a beautiful soul her brother is to take and look over his sister 💞💙
Her laugh is so fun. Seniors are so precious I love Kay so much, she's such a sweet little lady. ❤️❤️
This is such a great interview. Love seeing light put on older individuals with disabilities. She is an absolute joy. She saw immediately when her brother got sad and gave him love
She's a good crowd. Seriously. If I was to ever do stand up comedy. I want her in the front row.
To Gerald: The term “retard” isn’t offensive because it’s too straightforward; it’s offensive because people often use it in a hurtful way, so it became known as a hurtful word. It’s fine to be straightforward about disabilities! In fact most of us prefer it 🥰
I hope they pin this comment!
yeah, in everyday language, it’s used to insult someone.
When a once used term become generally hurtful, then it must be abandoned. Read my comment above. I think it will clarify a lot of problems with terminology in general. I do appreciate what you are saying and agree that what was once not meant as offensive becomes offensive.
I agree my dad called me pd and r to my face. 20 years ago it still feels like yesterday. Situations like this never go away. I can’t imagining saying that to some one. Let Allona familly.
Exactly!
I liked hearing Kay’s brother talk about how the words have changed over the years, it helped me gain a new perspective- I’m a lot younger than him, so I’ve only ever heard the r word being used as a slur against me and people like me, so I tend to feel automatically afraid of people who use it, but it’s nice to see that some folks genuinely don’t mean it that way :) I’ll keep that context in mind next time im talking with an older person about this stuff
It's such an unfortunate cycle. People start to use a word in a mean way until the word itself becomes offensive. Then the people who want to be kind have to invent new politically correct words, but as the mean people adopt the new words they become the new insult. It is such a temporary bandaid on a problem that won't truly go away until we learn to respect everyone.
I'm not that old, but I feel like I have witnessed the full circle of the "r-word" while growing up. When I was a kid, it was used as a genuine medical diagnosis, or to refer to someone with an obvious intellectual disability. Then, when I was a teenager, it was used as an insult and something offensive. Now that I'm an adult, it is mostly seen as a slur and we've replaced it with other terms. Funny how languages work and evolve honestly.
@@luchirimoyagoes to show just how powerful the human language can be, it’s kinda fascinating.
One of my most favourite videos and families on this channel!
Aunt Kay's laughter is contagious! The girls are amazing, she is super lucky to have them (and they are super lucky to have her!). Her brother seems to be a very warm and good-hearted man. And the brother's wife - all respect to her. Embrancing the whole situation so beautifully. She is a pure angel and I wanna be like her. What a role model to her kids! Greetings from Poland and lots of love to them all!
You're a lovely lady, Kay. You have a very nice family too!
Her brother is such a wonderful person to take care of her and he loves her alot her smile and laugh make me hsppy
Chris' joke was hilarious. This senior's laughter was infectious. Kay is loved 😍 💖 💕She has a clear memory of her mother. 🎉Gerald is great but his wife is extraordinary. It takes a lot of love
Brother loves her so much! I wish them more happiness and love!
Thank you for showing someone older with disabilities! My grandma has physical disabilities and I have epilepsy and POTS and we take care of each other and I always wondered how much people like her aren’t featured on here. Of course I know it’s usually special kids not seniors. But my grandma is mostly deaf and mostly immobile and she acquired both of these disabilities as she got older so it’s a unique point of view. So please continue to feature older people
Oh I loved this interview.. As an able bodied person, living in an abled bodied family, I've never really thought about seniors with disabilities. I guess they're portrayed very little on media. As always, after watching an episode of SBSK, I feel that I've gained valuable insight. Kris what you do, the way you do it is absolutely phenomenal. The way you can connect with everybody, no matter their limitations, warms my heart and inspires me deeply, to be more patient and kind in my everyday life. Kay is such a sweetheart and she's lucky to have such a loving sister in law and for her brother of course.
ps. I want Gerald's shirt😆
Kay is a doll! She seems like a lot of fun to be around. You’re doing a great job sister-in-law and brother!
like, seriously, the first 30 seconds, she can tell he's emotional, and tkes his hand to comfort him. love is all we need.
I think time itself found her as a child and thought she was perfect and held her in it's arms to keep her the same.
Already love the beginning
I know me too
What a sweet lady. Her laugh and smile are infectious.
Kay is delightful! I love how easy she laughs and smiles. She’s very engaging, sweet and sensitive. What a beautiful family. And I also think it’s a lovely tribute to their dear Mom, too.
Kay reminds me so much of my old neighbor when i lived across town, she even looks like her. She passed away several years ago. But her family was not kind to her. Thank God Kay has her brother and his family.
my friend's neighbor only had dementia. she always remembered when he was a little boy and delivered meals that his dad made. when i first went by to see her with him she thought i was his wife. lol
I believe the reason people are offended by the old terminology is because it was used in a derogatory way. It was used in a way to insult that person. I actually prefer the new terminology, it's gentle and kind. I smiled all the way through because Kay is an absolute Joy, that's testament to her amazing care givers, her family ❤
You could see how the daughters totally mirror the parents’ kindness. Jessica holds the family together.
Wish I could see this sister and brother when they were young. Their love for one another is palatable. 🙏🥰blessed are those who get to experience it.
Her laughter is contagious. God bless her brother and his wife I'm sure their mom is very proud. ❤
She is absolutely adorable, and her brother and his wife are awesome people.
What absolute angels for taking car of thier sister who other wise can’t do it for herself. She is an blessing to them!
Her brother is just a beautiful man inside and out the love and relationship these siblings have for eachother is inspiring thank you for this video!
When I was in year 9, my school offered an after-school activity in which we went to a retirement home with a group of students and spent time with the elderly every Monday. I met a lot of amazing people like Kay there. One woman stuck out cause she was one of the rare cases of dementia, with which the person consciously realizes that they’re having it and how they’re losing their memory. That caused her to suffer from depression. She cried a lot and often times we would just sit with her and play with her, talk to her or go for a walk with her when she was deeply in a depressed episode. She had a huge family, but never had any of them visiting her, which made her depression even worse. And that’s why I‘m so happy that Kay has such a loving and caring family. The way she laughs and smiles just tells me that she’s happy about being with her family and seeing how much her family cares for her moved me to tears. The woman in the retirement home told me and the other students: „I may lose my memory, but the feeling of being truly happy and feeling loved, I will never lose that.“ And I think that’s what we should remind ourselves of: if we know a person with dementia or have a family member with dementia, they still need our love and care, they still need us, even though it might be challenging for us to accept that our loved one is losing their memory. They need us. Love always wins!
beautifully written!
Aww, every time her brother pauses because of his emotions, she gives a reassuring laugh to let him know that it is ok to let his guard down & to express his emotions freely.
Beautiful caring and loving family. Kay still remembers her younger brother who died and the flowers. Wow, her mother was a remarkable woman to raise all her children, moving with them for her husbands work, their survival as migrants. One of lifes beautuful mums and wife. She'd be so proud of her son! God bless this beautiful family.
When I read the title I was expecting a woman who couldn't communicate much, but Kay is delightfully communicative. She's a gem.
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She is so frigging sweet and cute. I started tearing up with her brother within the first minute. I love this ❤❤🙏🏻
I think this is the quickest I've ever 'happy cried' in a video.
My heart is moved by the love and compassion of this amazing family. The way Gerald weeps when talking about Kay touched me so deeply. Blessings and health to each one of them ❤
What a beautiful family ❤❤❤ every one of them is so amazing. Kay is such a beautiful soul with the most amazing brother and sister-in-law in the world. They are wonderful
I love everything about this story. I loved watching Kay's face as her nieces speak so positively about her. They will so much more compassionate adults for having this experience of loving their auntie.
i absolutely love to see the nieces immediately jump into leading their aunt in questions. they are so understanding and supportive, that its just natural.
She has the most wonderful infectious laugh! I love the way she and her brother looks at each other with so much admiration and love 💓
Wow, she is a very happy and amazing person.
Kay is awesome. And so is her brother and his wife!
My goodness there is so much LOVE in this family!
I was about to write exactly the same. It's truly amazing and heartwarming to watch ❤
Kay is amazing. Gerald has so much love in his eyes when he talks about her.
I worked with a patient years ago that laughed constantly. He was very small and frail amnd he laughed just like a wicked witch from a kids movie....He kept us laughoing all day and was the sweetest soul. We were his family as he had no one else . Hes gone now and we miss him dearly. ❤❤❤
that is love. He has a big heart and so does she. So beautiful to watch made me tear up. She is easy to love I can imagine caring would come with knowing her.
I love her laugh so much. Beautiful girl ❤️
This is one of my most favorite interviews. Kay is so lovely and seems kind spirited. Gerald and Jessica are patient, loving angels. May God bless this family and always lift them up.❤
Amen and HALLELUJAH
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Awesome interview, she is a sweet heart and her laughter is lovely. Pure joy
It's so sweet how much Gerald loves Kay, how Jessica takes care of her and is her best friend, and her nieces include her. They're going great helping Kay. I was a med tech at a memory care facility and I know how hard it can be.
Such a sweetheart of a brother and his family. It proves that money can’t buy integrity and character.
Also I feel sorry for her loss to her little brother. She will definitely remember him until the very end. ❤ she loves him so much
I feel for Kay's family. My grandmother had dementia at the end of her life. It was heartbreaking to experience the decline of her cognitive abilities. But Kay is so bright, and hasn't a care in the world that she has been diagnosed with Dementia. Zero worries. God bless her and her caring, beautiful family.
She is happy within herself, which is more than most people.
The “…31?” Made me laugh she is so sweet
I know, that was so sweet 😊
I love how Gerald said that Kay was close on 30 and closer on 31 when it turned out their ages are 66 and 55. It was such a positive and loving way to have that conversation as well as playful and funny.
What a wonderful priceless brother.....❤
And kay is blessed❤
So much words spoken… through the quiet… thanks for sharing…. I need this…
I love the brothers shirt lmao
The love they show for their Mom really gutted me. Thats so nice to hear/see.
Kay is awfully blessed to have a brother like Gerald . A caretaker is not an easy life . I did it for my mom when she was with hospice but for someone you love you just do it .
Kay is such a sweetheart. One of my aunts has dimentia and alzheimer's. She doesnt remember anyone or anything now. Its heartbreaking to see her in the condition she is now vs how she was before her illnesses took over her mind and body. She became agressive and had to be placed in a nursing home where she has now 24/7 care and doctors and nurses. She is well cared for but Its hard for my mom and I to visit because we dont have transportation and its a bit far from us where she is at...so we get to visit her when ever my moms brother and wife go, they pick us up along with another uncle and we all go together. But it gets emotional because she hardly talks now and just stares at people like babies do. She needs to be hand fed and she cant walk. She can sit in a wheel chair for a while before they have to put her in bed again. I left in tears last time I went to see her. I do find some confort in knowing that she is being well taken care of and she eats very well and that is super important. Anyway just wanted to share that, be safe everyone.✌️
The lucid time before the end are so so precious, it becomes immensely difficult when that time is up and your loved one's personality disappears. Precious, precious time.
She’s a gentle delightful kind soul .full of joy and happiness.
Bless her heart, I just hope someone tells me she’s been happy all her life. I wanna give this sweet beautiful woman a huge hug.
Seconds in and i already love her and her relationship with her brother. The way she grabbed his hands. Wholesome man❤
I have a special needs brother. He's so cool. I wish you could interview him sometime. He was super close to my grandparents, and he very often calls ME "Gram" now because I guess I look and sound like her. LOL. These people are truly special and they just shine with innocence and everything humans COULD be if we tried harder. God bless you, Kay and your family! Big hugs!
Chris, thanks for opening up your channel all kinds of special kids!
Gosh, I would love to be around Kay and the happiness she spreads around her. What a wonderful spirit she has, her happiness is absolutely contagious! God bless Kay, her brother Gerald and his wife for loving Kay.
😊😊 I just love you all as a Family unit. So unselfish, your wife is a 💎 and you know such a grand brother!!
When Kay grabbed her brother’s hand, I really felt her love for him there. What an awesome woman and an awesome, caring, loving brother. Kay can put a smile on anyone’s face!
Kay is very blessed to have a loving family to make sure she is properly cared for. It is a lot of work and it takes patience and plenty of it. May God bless Kay and the entire family, especially Jessica. Kay laughter is intoxicating; I found myself laughing along with Kay.
Kay’s nieces seem so bright and mature. What a beautiful family. Kay is such a bright spirit.
Kay is such a ray of sunshine. It truly breaks my heart you can tell how much the mothers passing hurt and she thought it was a choice for her to pass or not. Despite everything she manages to smile and giggle that lights up a room. Her brother truly deserves the world because he made a choice many wouldn’t.
Kay we all love you❤️
I feel like Kay and Gerald had a very traumatic childhood and are holding a lot back. I’d love to hear their life story, as I think it would be very eye opening ❤
She reminds me of my father 💚 He has brain damage bc of a stroke and it's been so difficult, but his laugh and his light makes our days the best 💚 Wonderful Kay!
Her easy laughter brought a smile to my face after having a crappy day dealing with my own mental challenges. Thank you Kay, you are a sweet lady.
This sweet lady knows what's up. Lots of laughter and the love of your family.
Kay has an infectious smile and laugh. What an absolute joy she is💖 Gerald and Jessica are amazing people as well!!
Beautiful soul. ❤