This is pretty long, but for those of you who might be questioning if they’re bi or lesbian, here’s my coming out story: I came out as a lesbian briefly in 2020, but nobody believed me because I had been in heterosexual relationships before and I was sexually active (I had no experience with women, and the act itself felt pretty good as long as I looked away). I felt EXACTLY the way this video described, but my aversion and discomfort was dismissed as a trauma response due to things I’d been through in the past. Meanwhile, I met this awesome, sweet guy that I really got along with. I told him I was gay, but he continued to hit on me and everyone around us kept saying we’d be great together, etc. I decided that since I liked spending time with him so much and we had such great chemistry, I must just be bisexual after all. We dated for almost a year and even moved in together. He was my best friend, but the problems I’d had before were getting exponentially worse, even though my PTSD symptoms had pretty much gone away. I also had intense fantasies about women and felt incredibly guilty for them, telling myself that I I must be terrible and shallow if I’m willing to lose everything I’d built for myself over some “curiosity” or “desire to experiment.” My therapist encouraged me to re-explore my sexuality, and everything made sense. After mulling it over for some time, I came to a heartbreaking realization and broke up with him. He won’t talk to me and I hate how much pain he’s in because of this. The fact that we still live together complicates things even more. BUT despite my feelings of guilt and shame, I’ve felt more true to myself and optimistic about my future than I have in a long time. I don’t wake up every day and go to sleep every night with the sinking feeling that something that feels wrong. I don’t internally cringe at the thought/sight of my partner naked, or dread having sex with him for “some reason.” I can think about my future without a sense of dread or claustrophobia and I can finally wear a label that feels like it fits. TLDR: trust your gut. Labels aside, if it doesn’t feel right, it ISN’T. Just because you like to hang out and you’re WILLING to have sex with someone doesn’t mean you’re attracted to them. If your “attraction” is more logical than emotional, and/or you had to convince yourself that you were attracted in the first place, that’s a red flag. We’re all doing the best we can, and hindsight is always 20/20. Please try not to beat yourself up over things you didn’t know. I really hope my story helps someone avoid my mistake or possibly get out of a similar one. Please take care of yourselves --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- UPDATE: It's been almost three years since my initial post, and I'm still living openly and happily as a lesbian. As I'm sure you guys already can tell, I've later come to realize this "awesome, sweet guy" really wasn't either of those things. Let's just say consent wasn't something he particularly valued. One of the "friends" that insisted that I date him later admitted they were just hoping he would turn me straight because they had a problem with the lgbtq+ community due to their religious beliefs (and to financially leech off of us because he lied about being an engineer with lots of money). I was only 20 years old when this all started (btw, this "friend" was about 35/36 at the time), and I had no outside friends or family to protect me from these people. That entire situation was pretty abusive and scary, but I've been completely removed from it for some time now and couldn't be happier. If you're reading this and feel that yohu can relate, I urge you to get help if/when you can. Once you leave, it DOES get better. Stay strong
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I can definitely relate to this and I'm sure, so will many others ❤❤ I'm so glad you are comfortable in your sexuality now xxx
This is my EXACT story except... I am still in the relationship as I am not in a safe space to break up atm. I would love to chat to you or be friends ! Please let me know if you would like a new friend :)
oh, that’s rich. he pursues you, you tell him you’re gay, he keeps pursuing you, you finally give in but a year later have to come to the conclusion that yep, you’re still gay and break up with him - and he’s butthurt over it and doesn’t talk to you anymore?! bro, she told you she was gay when you started hitting on her. listen to women!
@@internetfriend1861 I'm just now seeing this, but I hope you were able to get the resources and safety to leave him in these five months. Sending so much love
here a few years later stuck figuring out how i’m feeling while in my relationship. he’s so supportive and he’s the best person i could ever be with, but this keeps creeping back up :/ it’s scary but it’s so helpful to hear your story. thank u
I'm seeing so many women go through this recently! (Myself included) This is so relatable. Alayna's video really spoke to me too. Congrats on coming out! 🌈
leviosha well people you wouldnt expect to be in the closet Gay alot of people stereotype people and say that masculine women are gay but that is not true their are Feminine Lesbians women that are Feminine that wear lipstick and wear high heels and wear girly clothes .
Omg I’m 14 and lesbian I’ve been in my longest relationship coming up to 6 months with my gf and I’ve been watching your RUclips and I’m so happy to see this video ❤️💕🏳️🌈
I realized I'm gay and I need to come out to my fiance, in really scared. But thank you so much for this video, I can really really relate because I also really want to be a mom and have a family and was under the impression that I needed to have it for a man to be most "real" type of family. But that's just really messed up that I think that. I'm feminine too so I can relate. I'm not as lucky to realize at 22 like you, I'm 30 😭 I'm hoping it's not super horrible.
@@angiestone6580 . I was lucky that I didn't have a boyfriend for four years and no relationship with a man. It was just me. I was over 30 and it was a great feeling. Good luck. Be happy.
Your videos are very helpful and will help a lot of people. I have been with guys too back in college and I was trying to figure myself out in a lot of ways. I remembered having crushes on my friends and had a few moments of clarity that I liked girls.
Watching this video 2 weeks ago helped me come to terms that I needed to accept myself as a lesbian and leave my relationship. Even though it was miserable to leave the person i loved and cared for, it feels like such a weight pulled off of me now that I get to truly be me! Thank you so much for posting this video, it was very inspiring!
@@ellea.2189yeah I suffered from a lot of guilt, but if you’re totally sure about your sexuality it will absolutely pay off to seek a life where you can happily be you
Omg thank you! Our stories are very similar! I found your video whilst searching for courage in other's stories to come out myself. You're right there was not much representation of lesbian women in our childhood. I always got along better with boys than girls in terms of friendships. So while I've known since I first thought about the subject when I hit puberty, that I am attracted to women much more than men (and the men I do find attractive are always more feminine looking) I always just thought I would need to be in a relationship with a man because I always got along better with boys. But I've realized romantic relationships are different than friendships and not all girls are mean girls. There are so many unique people in this world and I need to allow myself to meet them. Same as you I've always felt awkward saying "boyfriend"! It was so nice to hear someone say the same!! It's never too late to follow your heart! And there need be no guilt. Leaving a relationship can be terribly hard, but it's important to do what is right. There will be heartache, but once it has healed the importance will be extremely important! Much Love to all on their journeys! And thank you again for this video! 💖💓🥰🌈
I am femme and also attracted to femme women. It was hard because some people find it hard to believe me. I have a guy best friend and we got along so well and I think until now he still believe I am bisexual. We had a conversation to clear that things up, told him--nope, I am gay, and I cannot imagine making love with a man. He was like, how can you be so sure if you have never dated a man. And I was like, "I don't have to because I already know what I want and what I don't want". Anyhow, I kinda understand him, if I am attracted to a man, we would be great couple. But that is not who I am. Our relationship would be no more than platonic. There is no helping it, it just the way it is.
Another thing people don't realize is that you don't have to be a butch lesbian or a feminine lesbian I'm a androgynous plants in the apartment lesbian
Thank you so much for sharing this, it was so good to hear. I have been through a similar experience this past year, and I relate to how you were feeling. I’m now happy! Lots of love to you and thank you
I'm so proud of you! 🥰😊. I'm gay. I'm a 14 year old boy and my family know I'm "bisexual", cause I used to be. But I haven't come out as gay to them yet. I came out as gay to lots of my friends and they were supportive. But currently I'm "unlabled" to them even though that was just me backing up and denying my gayness. I will come out to my family as gay as I've realised I definitely am now. They'll be supportive but I'm still scared and not ready yet. This video has helped me so much and once again I'm so proud of you.
Thank you so much, I don't think that you have to rush sticking to a certain label and I do think which label suits you best can change throughout your life, you sound like you're doing great having things so figured out 😊 thank you for the love and support ❤
Hi Abbie ! Love the video ! Until very recently, I identified as bisexual and I've always been open about it however when I looked inside of myself and did a lot of self reflection, I've come to realize I'm actually a lesbian as I just can't see a future with a man at all and I'm barely attracted to men whatsoever. I'm in the same boat as you in being a feminine woman who only saw "lesbian representation" on tv and movies as being tomboy/masculine women. I'm going to "re" come out as a lesbian. Sorry, this went on for longer than I thought. I just wanted to thank you. I really needed this right now
Femme lesbians are like a precious pearl. So difficult to find!!! I am also femme! And like you I got married to a man because I couldn't visualize a queer relationship. Also, I was chin deep in conservative Christianity. Fortunately, my husband and I are best friends, and I feel very romantically connected to him. Thanks for sharing your story! It will help so many.
I commented on your vlog earlier on but wish I had waited till the end. I'm 46 and feel I can't be honest. I am supportive of my son being gay but I feel I can't come out as bisexual myself. Good luck too you xx
I felt like that too I loved them so much but I realised the attraction wasn't there, I just enjoyed them being attracted to me, it was heartbreaking at the time but so worth it xxx
Thanks so much for this video! I know I’m late to this, but I just found your channel because I’m considering buying pet rats, but I found this video, and as a young lesbian I really appreciate videos like this :)
Your coming out really resonated with me. I also had boyfriends for so long and I never really liked saying “my boyfriend” or even posted them on social media 💀
Proud of you 100% You are amazing! Your video is inspirational. Your comment about its never to late to change your life is relateable not in just coming out gay but life generally too. It definitely took guts to make this video so a massive well done from me! 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈 😀
Congratulations!❤️🏳️🌈 I basically have had a similar journey as you and recently ended a 5-year relationship. It was hard but it was something that I needed to do & now I am happier than ever for finally acknowledging myself💕 I honestly wish you and your girlfriend the best☺️!
So... I just came to terms with my sexuality yesterday... My fiancé helped me through this, and honestly I couldn't have ever admitted it to myself without him... But our situation is very specific, in the fact that, he is a woman in a man's body, and I love him/her. Everything is extremely confusing right now, because we basically came out to each other within the same week. I'm not sure what we're doing, but we do feel a lot more "free". Any advice would be very welcomed honestly...🤷
@@wesa4878h no, most older people with gender dysphoria have had it for decades but date and marry “straight” and live as being cisgender before eventually accepting they’re transgender, not because they watch porn.
@@iamme25yago Wow, sounds like you are projecting a situation of your own onto me honestly. It's been a long time since I posted this comment, but basically since then I have learned that love is a very complex emotion, and is different than sex even though they can go hand in hand. You do not have to be sexually attracted to someone to be their partner. Sex is also something you can do with anyone, you do not have to be sexually attracted to the person to have sex with them and enjoy some aspects of it. That being said, do not attempt to simplify people and their pleasure into such limited boxes.
I'm 25. From being age 7/8 I knew I was into girls. And like 90% of my relationships have been with men. And ive always identified as bi. I've only just discovered in the past couple of months that I'm acespec. And now im questioning whether I'm actually ace lesbian. I am in a 3 year relationship with a man and im so confused. Thanks for your video!🥰
Natasha. to deny your true nature is to deny that we are human. Do yourself a favor and walk away yes it will hurt but you must be honest with yourself. You Are Young you can easily start over. Sit down and have a talk with him and let him know what's going on and be honest. It's better to be honest than to live a lie and string him around. In life you only get one chance to find your true love if you missed the boat you'll regret it for the rest of your life. happiness is not something that is easy obtain in life, that took me 35 years on this planet before I realized that I was happy being gay.. you need to go out and explore your feelings take a break from your heterosexual life. As a young woman I can assure you will have no problem in today's age finding a partner unlike back in the 90s. Even though our emotions run deep as humans sometimes the heart knows what the heart wants and you must follow that want. Or you will regret it later in life. I wish you the best of luck and May the odds be in your favor. My advice to you is find a life partner that doesn't smoke drink and has a job. Find somebody with the same interest as you and explore the world together and most important build a bond for the rest of your life and unbreakable Bond and you will be happy. I hope you take my advice kid
Thank you so much for your video. Your story could be mine. Im over 40 and I havent come out yet as gay but soon. Im divorcing a man cos Im gay. Im like bambi on ice here but Im free.
Why would you um please don't be rude! I am proud of her this is 2021 not 1940. if you are hoping for more videos about pom pom i am sure they are on there way. This is pride month and I am proud of her, its a big step and coming out on youtube is the biggest so please just accept not everyone is the same and be happy. Much love xxx
What do you mean?! You need to be respectful as she was brave enough to come out on RUclips! I cannot force you to support lgbtq but please understand that it hurts when we’re mistreated
This is pretty long, but for those of you who might be questioning if they’re bi or lesbian, here’s my coming out story:
I came out as a lesbian briefly in 2020, but nobody believed me because I had been in heterosexual relationships before and I was sexually active (I had no experience with women, and the act itself felt pretty good as long as I looked away). I felt EXACTLY the way this video described, but my aversion and discomfort was dismissed as a trauma response due to things I’d been through in the past.
Meanwhile, I met this awesome, sweet guy that I really got along with. I told him I was gay, but he continued to hit on me and everyone around us kept saying we’d be great together, etc. I decided that since I liked spending time with him so much and we had such great chemistry, I must just be bisexual after all. We dated for almost a year and even moved in together. He was my best friend, but the problems I’d had before were getting exponentially worse, even though my PTSD symptoms had pretty much gone away. I also had intense fantasies about women and felt incredibly guilty for them, telling myself that I I must be terrible and shallow if I’m willing to lose everything I’d built for myself over some “curiosity” or “desire to experiment.”
My therapist encouraged me to re-explore my sexuality, and everything made sense. After mulling it over for some time, I came to a heartbreaking realization and broke up with him. He won’t talk to me and I hate how much pain he’s in because of this. The fact that we still live together complicates things even more.
BUT despite my feelings of guilt and shame, I’ve felt more true to myself and optimistic about my future than I have in a long time. I don’t wake up every day and go to sleep every night with the sinking feeling that something that feels wrong. I don’t internally cringe at the thought/sight of my partner naked, or dread having sex with him for “some reason.” I can think about my future without a sense of dread or claustrophobia and I can finally wear a label that feels like it fits.
TLDR: trust your gut. Labels aside, if it doesn’t feel right, it ISN’T. Just because you like to hang out and you’re WILLING to have sex with someone doesn’t mean you’re attracted to them. If your “attraction” is more logical than emotional, and/or you had to convince yourself that you were attracted in the first place, that’s a red flag. We’re all doing the best we can, and hindsight is always 20/20. Please try not to beat yourself up over things you didn’t know. I really hope my story helps someone avoid my mistake or possibly get out of a similar one. Please take care of yourselves
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UPDATE: It's been almost three years since my initial post, and I'm still living openly and happily as a lesbian. As I'm sure you guys already can tell, I've later come to realize this "awesome, sweet guy" really wasn't either of those things. Let's just say consent wasn't something he particularly valued. One of the "friends" that insisted that I date him later admitted they were just hoping he would turn me straight because they had a problem with the lgbtq+ community due to their religious beliefs (and to financially leech off of us because he lied about being an engineer with lots of money). I was only 20 years old when this all started (btw, this "friend" was about 35/36 at the time), and I had no outside friends or family to protect me from these people. That entire situation was pretty abusive and scary, but I've been completely removed from it for some time now and couldn't be happier. If you're reading this and feel that yohu can relate, I urge you to get help if/when you can. Once you leave, it DOES get better. Stay strong
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I can definitely relate to this and I'm sure, so will many others ❤❤ I'm so glad you are comfortable in your sexuality now xxx
My story too. My story too
This is my EXACT story except... I am still in the relationship as I am not in a safe space to break up atm.
I would love to chat to you or be friends ! Please let me know if you would like a new friend :)
oh, that’s rich. he pursues you, you tell him you’re gay, he keeps pursuing you, you finally give in but a year later have to come to the conclusion that yep, you’re still gay and break up with him - and he’s butthurt over it and doesn’t talk to you anymore?!
bro, she told you she was gay when you started hitting on her. listen to women!
@@internetfriend1861 I'm just now seeing this, but I hope you were able to get the resources and safety to leave him in these five months. Sending so much love
here a few years later stuck figuring out how i’m feeling while in my relationship. he’s so supportive and he’s the best person i could ever be with, but this keeps creeping back up :/ it’s scary but it’s so helpful to hear your story. thank u
I'm seeing so many women go through this recently! (Myself included) This is so relatable. Alayna's video really spoke to me too. Congrats on coming out! 🌈
Thank you 🥰
leviosha well people you wouldnt expect to be in the closet Gay alot of people stereotype people and say that masculine women are gay but that is not true their are Feminine Lesbians women that are Feminine that wear lipstick and wear high heels and wear girly clothes .
Omg I’m 14 and lesbian I’ve been in my longest relationship coming up to 6 months with my gf and I’ve been watching your RUclips and I’m so happy to see this video ❤️💕🏳️🌈
Awh thank you, I'm so happy for you and your girlfriend 💗
I realized I'm gay and I need to come out to my fiance, in really scared. But thank you so much for this video, I can really really relate because I also really want to be a mom and have a family and was under the impression that I needed to have it for a man to be most "real" type of family. But that's just really messed up that I think that. I'm feminine too so I can relate. I'm not as lucky to realize at 22 like you, I'm 30 😭 I'm hoping it's not super horrible.
Awh I'm sure coming out will be the best thing you'll ever do for yourself, I'm so happy for you 💗
Hey there. I have pasted the 40s... still havent come out.... but the man has left the building now
@@angiestone6580 . I was lucky that I didn't have a boyfriend for four years and no relationship with a man. It was just me. I was over 30 and it was a great feeling. Good luck. Be happy.
@JessieSamanthaEmily : Dear Jessie, I think it's a great decision. You will not harm yourself or your counterpart. That's great. Good luck :)
I am Gay man looiking Gay man I looiking for a Boyfriend
Your videos are very helpful and will help a lot of people. I have been with guys too back in college and I was trying to figure myself out in a lot of ways. I remembered having crushes on my friends and had a few moments of clarity that I liked girls.
Watching this video 2 weeks ago helped me come to terms that I needed to accept myself as a lesbian and leave my relationship. Even though it was miserable to leave the person i loved and cared for, it feels like such a weight pulled off of me now that I get to truly be me! Thank you so much for posting this video, it was very inspiring!
did you struggle with guilt in leaving the relationship? how did you approach the topic? i’m struggling with a similar situation
@@ellea.2189yeah I suffered from a lot of guilt, but if you’re totally sure about your sexuality it will absolutely pay off to seek a life where you can happily be you
@@skoomarae thank you for your supportive words. do you still have any kind of friendship with your previous partner?
Omg thank you! Our stories are very similar! I found your video whilst searching for courage in other's stories to come out myself. You're right there was not much representation of lesbian women in our childhood. I always got along better with boys than girls in terms of friendships. So while I've known since I first thought about the subject when I hit puberty, that I am attracted to women much more than men (and the men I do find attractive are always more feminine looking) I always just thought I would need to be in a relationship with a man because I always got along better with boys. But I've realized romantic relationships are different than friendships and not all girls are mean girls. There are so many unique people in this world and I need to allow myself to meet them. Same as you I've always felt awkward saying "boyfriend"! It was so nice to hear someone say the same!! It's never too late to follow your heart! And there need be no guilt. Leaving a relationship can be terribly hard, but it's important to do what is right. There will be heartache, but once it has healed the importance will be extremely important! Much Love to all on their journeys! And thank you again for this video! 💖💓🥰🌈
I am femme and also attracted to femme women. It was hard because some people find it hard to believe me. I have a guy best friend and we got along so well and I think until now he still believe I am bisexual. We had a conversation to clear that things up, told him--nope, I am gay, and I cannot imagine making love with a man. He was like, how can you be so sure if you have never dated a man. And I was like, "I don't have to because I already know what I want and what I don't want". Anyhow, I kinda understand him, if I am attracted to a man, we would be great couple. But that is not who I am. Our relationship would be no more than platonic. There is no helping it, it just the way it is.
I wpulda said how do u kw u not gay then. I hate when straight people do tht
Another thing people don't realize is that you don't have to be a butch lesbian or a feminine lesbian I'm a androgynous plants in the apartment lesbian
Thank you so much for sharing this, it was so good to hear. I have been through a similar experience this past year, and I relate to how you were feeling. I’m now happy! Lots of love to you and thank you
I'm so proud of you! 🥰😊. I'm gay. I'm a 14 year old boy and my family know I'm "bisexual", cause I used to be. But I haven't come out as gay to them yet. I came out as gay to lots of my friends and they were supportive. But currently I'm "unlabled" to them even though that was just me backing up and denying my gayness. I will come out to my family as gay as I've realised I definitely am now. They'll be supportive but I'm still scared and not ready yet. This video has helped me so much and once again I'm so proud of you.
Thank you so much, I don't think that you have to rush sticking to a certain label and I do think which label suits you best can change throughout your life, you sound like you're doing great having things so figured out 😊 thank you for the love and support ❤
@@abbiepascale thank you. I'm trying not to rush I think I'm finally there. You've helped me alot. Wishing you all the best ❤️
Awh good 😊 wishing you all the best too ❤
Hi Abbie ! Love the video ! Until very recently, I identified as bisexual and I've always been open about it however when I looked inside of myself and did a lot of self reflection, I've come to realize I'm actually a lesbian as I just can't see a future with a man at all and I'm barely attracted to men whatsoever. I'm in the same boat as you in being a feminine woman who only saw "lesbian representation" on tv and movies as being tomboy/masculine women. I'm going to "re" come out as a lesbian. Sorry, this went on for longer than I thought. I just wanted to thank you. I really needed this right now
Awh sending you so so much love xx
Thank you so much for your lucent comment xx
Came out at 24 in 2004. Thank You for your story.
I wish I could, I still hide it
AAHHHH , im so happy you found out your true sexuality , it really is the best feeling! happy pride month
Thank you so much 😊 happy pride month 🌈
Femme lesbians are like a precious pearl. So difficult to find!!! I am also femme! And like you I got married to a man because I couldn't visualize a queer relationship. Also, I was chin deep in conservative Christianity. Fortunately, my husband and I are best friends, and I feel very romantically connected to him. Thanks for sharing your story! It will help so many.
So we’re all living the same life huh😭
you are gorgeous oh my god IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU LETS GO PRIDE MONTH
Thank you 😊 Happy Pride 🌈
I commented on your vlog earlier on but wish I had waited till the end. I'm 46 and feel I can't be honest. I am supportive of my son being gay but I feel I can't come out as bisexual myself. Good luck too you xx
If it helps you feel more authentically yourself I sat do it, but you also don't owe anyone a label so it's completely up to you, sending my love xx
Congratulations, I'm sending you tons of love and support 💞💕💖
Thank you so much ❤
Congratulations! I’m so happy for you
Thank you so much!
@@abbiepascale Ofc!
Thank you for this video
I felt like that too I loved them so much but I realised the attraction wasn't there, I just enjoyed them being attracted to me, it was heartbreaking at the time but so worth it xxx
@@abbiepascale Thank you for your honest reply
@@veertjuh7 it does but you'll get through it sending love you ❤
@@abbiepascale Thank you so much sweetheart!!
Thanks so much for this video! I know I’m late to this, but I just found your channel because I’m considering buying pet rats, but I found this video, and as a young lesbian I really appreciate videos like this :)
Proud of you baby girl ❤
Good for you hun my son is gay and I'm proud of him. Be happy in every way xx
EXACTLY what I’m going through. This was so affirming, thank you for sharing 🤍
Sending love 💘
Happy for you boo 🌈🥰💕
Thank you 🥰💖
I'm Muslim lesbian and prude 😍🤍
Wait wtf how!?
Living Rosa has been together for 13 years and married for 7 years with 4 kids.
Your coming out really resonated with me. I also had boyfriends for so long and I never really liked saying “my boyfriend” or even posted them on social media 💀
Proud of you 100% You are amazing! Your video is inspirational. Your comment about its never to late to change your life is relateable not in just coming out gay but life generally too. It definitely took guts to make this video so a massive well done from me! 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈 😀
Thank you 🥰 love you 💕
You're a beautiful soul!
Congratulations!❤️🏳️🌈 I basically have had a similar journey as you and recently ended a 5-year relationship. It was hard but it was something that I needed to do & now I am happier than ever for finally acknowledging myself💕 I honestly wish you and your girlfriend the best☺️!
Thank you so much ❤
Omg
Thank you 🥰
nobody me wacthing this videos as my podcast at 11:26 pm 📓
Loved your video and congrats on coming out
So... I just came to terms with my sexuality yesterday... My fiancé helped me through this, and honestly I couldn't have ever admitted it to myself without him... But our situation is very specific, in the fact that, he is a woman in a man's body, and I love him/her. Everything is extremely confusing right now, because we basically came out to each other within the same week. I'm not sure what we're doing, but we do feel a lot more "free". Any advice would be very welcomed honestly...🤷
@@wesa4878h no, most older people with gender dysphoria have had it for decades but date and marry “straight” and live as being cisgender before eventually accepting they’re transgender, not because they watch porn.
@@iamme25yago Wow, sounds like you are projecting a situation of your own onto me honestly. It's been a long time since I posted this comment, but basically since then I have learned that love is a very complex emotion, and is different than sex even though they can go hand in hand. You do not have to be sexually attracted to someone to be their partner. Sex is also something you can do with anyone, you do not have to be sexually attracted to the person to have sex with them and enjoy some aspects of it. That being said, do not attempt to simplify people and their pleasure into such limited boxes.
@@iamme25yago You assumed by adding that I had intentions of malic through faking my feelings, which neither assumption was true.
Also, I wasn't an adult at the time either lol. So let's not add that to the mix either.
I'm 25. From being age 7/8 I knew I was into girls. And like 90% of my relationships have been with men. And ive always identified as bi.
I've only just discovered in the past couple of months that I'm acespec. And now im questioning whether I'm actually ace lesbian. I am in a 3 year relationship with a man and im so confused. Thanks for your video!🥰
Natasha. to deny your true nature is to deny that we are human. Do yourself a favor and walk away yes it will hurt but you must be honest with yourself. You Are Young you can easily start over. Sit down and have a talk with him and let him know what's going on and be honest. It's better to be honest than to live a lie and string him around. In life you only get one chance to find your true love if you missed the boat you'll regret it for the rest of your life. happiness is not something that is easy obtain in life, that took me 35 years on this planet before I realized that I was happy being gay.. you need to go out and explore your feelings take a break from your heterosexual life. As a young woman I can assure you will have no problem in today's age finding a partner unlike back in the 90s. Even though our emotions run deep as humans sometimes the heart knows what the heart wants and you must follow that want. Or you will regret it later in life.
I wish you the best of luck and May the odds be in your favor.
My advice to you is find a life partner that doesn't smoke drink and has a job. Find somebody with the same interest as you and explore the world together and most important build a bond for the rest of your life and unbreakable Bond and you will be happy.
I hope you take my advice kid
Congrats!! I’m so happy for you! :) my enby lesbian eyes have been blessed today
Thank you 💗
This is given me more confidence
Proud of you! ❤️❤️
Thank you 🥰
I NEED THIS TODAY THANK U
Congratulations!!!
Thank you 🥰
so happy for you, surrounding you with love!💓
Thank you so much ❤
i love your earrings
Thank you 💗
Your gorgeous! 🇨🇦
Thank you so much for your video. Your story could be mine. Im over 40 and I havent come out yet as gay but soon. Im divorcing a man cos Im gay. Im like bambi on ice here but Im free.
My sister as well. There are two beautiful ladies I know that have had their eye on that gorgeous little blonde sister of mine for quite some time.
Really beautiful ❤she lucky really got women as sweet you are and good heart loveing ❤❤❤
You’re very beautiful. Your girlfriend is very lucky. 😍
Ooo look she is taking about Abbie and julia 😘 they are my favourite
Now you are my favourite because you know my favourite couple ❤️❤️❤️
thank you for sharing
Do you have any tips to come out ?
You r beautiful 💖
I hind this for long time now know who I'm am lesbian like girls
You're so cute💜💜
Hi are you going to be posting again
😎😃😉😊😜😍😘💖
Are you from Yorkshire? X
Near Yorkshire but Lancashire
I'm trying find a femme lesbian girl want to get to know me and maybe want a relationship to and is in to me hopeing happen to me ❤
Hello can we get a rat update!?
Good lord.
I thought u were american
Iykyk
Um
Is there a problem?🥰
Why would you um please don't be rude! I am proud of her this is 2021 not 1940. if you are hoping for more videos about pom pom i am sure they are on there way. This is pride month and I am proud of her, its a big step and coming out on youtube is the biggest so please just accept not everyone is the same and be happy. Much love xxx
If you don’t like it, there is no need to comment.
What do you mean?! You need to be respectful as she was brave enough to come out on RUclips! I cannot force you to support lgbtq but please understand that it hurts when we’re mistreated
Are you a lesbian all week or just on the weekend?
I really don't appreciate this comment, I'm in a relationship with a women
@@abbiepascale so you're an "all week lesbian"......ok, that answered it.
You’re not funny :/
@@PiggieTime you must be an "all week" lesbian too 🤣
@@PiggieTime I really love you ladies, I've seen many lesbian videos on some sites. You girls are awesome 👍
What a beautiful communist!
Don’t kiss ur sister
What💀
Just checked your insta
Dude you're girlfriend is dope
She is so cute and i subscribe cute RUclipsr ❤️❤️as a guy do i have any chance to hit on you 🙄
Well I'm glad that even though you're a lesbian, you still realize that you're also still a woman and have kept yourself up.
What?
@@rk2144 Sometimes when women realize their lesbian they start cutting their hair and dressing like men. I like that she didn’t do that.
@@TheRock2004 I feel sorry for u that u are that ignorant. But ok
@@rk2144 oh how am I ignorant O Wise One.
There are butch, femme, etc. lesbians yk 😒
I think ur influenced Bekuz u don’t like ur boyfriend
She didn't like any boyfriend because she's lesbian 😂
Congratulations!!
Thank you 😊