My Coming Out Story: Coming Out as a Lesbian After Being Married to a Man
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- Опубликовано: 24 авг 2024
- Resharing my coming out story of going from being married to a man to coming out as a lesbian. #comingout #lesbian
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I love hearing stories about other lesbians coming out much later in life because it lets me know I’m not alone and we’re all struggling with our identities even into our 30s.
Definitely not alone!
@iamme25yago :: I can understand why you ask; but keep in mind that living with another person can be complicated and sex alone does not make a happy marriage. Bad marriages producing kids exist.
I always enjoy your videos and thank you for sharing. I came out at 27 in 2016. I had a first out relationship. I found it really difficult and I remember my parents telling me, you are choosing a difficult life. It was very hard and it took me a long while to accept myself. I forced myself back in the closet and it caused me panic and misery after that. I dated a man and it caused me so much pain. I am now with a woman I love and I feel emotionally fulfilled. If anyone is reading this and struggling, please know it gets better and takes patience. My parents have been lovely and supportive. I'm now out to everyone and those questions and the insecurity has faded and me and my girlfriend are just happy and in the moment. Since 2016, I've kept a diary to express how I feel and have seen so much emotional growth. I am grateful for the chance to be my authentic self and to feel happy in my own skin. On my own path
Awww I'm glad you are living your authentic life and being true to yourself. It can definitely be hard but so worth it!
It really is. I'm so glad for you too. Congratulations on your engagement. You guys are a lovely couple x
@@dallinaq thank you!!
I've come out to a few friends, only a couple of them were surprised, the rest said they kinda knew I liked guys, it's weird how anyone would know before I told it. I. Hide it from most.
A lot of my fiance's friends and family had suspected once she came out
Your story is very familiar to mine. Raised in a Catholic family, married a man, had 2 sons, been divorced, came out when I was 41, I'am 63 now, everything you said makes sense.
I think a lot of us who've come out later in life have very similar stories
Thanks for sharing- so many people don’t understand comp het and the social conditioning that can delay coming out and understanding ourselves. Everyone’s story is different but they often have commonalities. I’m glad you found yourself ❤
My husband and I just separated and I am adjusting to life on my own. I would love to hear more about your life between separating from your husband and finding your fiancee and what that was like for you.
Thank you for sharing your story! I came out at 30 myself! Much love girl!
Aww you're welcome and thank YOU!! In case you missed it, I just launched an online community for "late lifers". Check it out if you're interested! We're doing a group zoom meet up this Sunday! the-late-life-lesbian.mn.co/plans/196176?bundle_token=4e848744e6dc255a1b999443a5d220b7
@@TheLateLifeLesbian awesome thank you! I will def. check it out!
You're welcome!
Most woman came Out at 3, but lie to man.
Thank you for sharing your story! This helps me so much♡
You're welcome! Are you on this journey?
Beautifully put Ms Bettis, you really are a wonderful person, regardless of gender.
Aw well thank you
Thank you so much for being so candid.
Haha of course!
Thank you for sharing your story. I feel like I can be more confident now. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story. Can I make a suggestion? Please add the letters er to late. Saying “late life” implies that it’s too late and it’s never too late to live your truth. I also came out as ace later in life and believe I came out exactly when I was supposed to.
Hi Emily C Bettis ❤🌹🙋♀️! It has been a while.....welcome my Fave 😍. I have missed you 😊. How are you doing? It's so great to see you. Yaaay, you are back doing videos again, thank you so much. This is sweet music 🎶 to my ears 👂👂😊. I love your real life love stories and journey ❤. Thank you so much for sharing. Some Qs: 1. What was it that was missing? 2. Have you finally found what you were missing? Enjoy your journey and trust the process. Wishing you all the happiness, love, peace and blessings 🙏❤. You deserve it. You're a beautiful Soul. Looking forward to your videos. Much love ❤❤🌹.
Hello! Hahaha what was missing was that I desired being with a woman ultimately, not a man 😜
@@TheLateLifeLesbian Beautiful 😍! I admire that.....being honest with yourself and others, in "pursuit of happiness". I am in awe of you ❤.
thanks for sharing your energy and experiences. much appreciated!!
Hey, your video is wonderful, i have currently broken up with my partner. She is in a marriage like you were in. But hasn't plucked any courage to leave it. Its so hatd because i honestly feel she is the one. But she may never leave her marriage because of her children. The husband didnt know about us but they both agree to do what the other wants behind closed doors. So basically an open marriage. I hate how she is hiding her true self. She is 41 now. We have agreed to not talk rught now, which is also hard for me. Im broken actually. Timing is a bitch which is the only reason why we arent together. What do i do? X
I'm so sorry. You're not the first woman I've heard from who has been in this situation. Unfortunately, there isn't a lot you can do because you can't force her to leave. That's a decision she has to make all on her own. I would take this time to focus on yourself and what you want (that isn't her). I do offer a 12 support program that helps women who are currently married to men, but have realized that they're lesbians be able to navigate that process confidently and successfully. I know you're not talking to her, but if you think it could be a benefit for her, I'm not sure if there is a way you could let her know about it, but even with that, it's something she has to actually want to do.
So happy you’re making videos again! I’d love to hear more about sort of the internal journey , struggle and feeling s you were having at the time that led to the decision to try dating a woman.how did you know that it was a woman missing and not something else?.
Thanks! I'll think on that and see what I can share! 😁
I'm so glad you shared this experience with us. Thank you! Your ex-husband sounds like a good man, and your son will have two very devoted parents forever. Everyone wins!! I also realized I was lesbian in my early thirties. What a journey, but every step of it was worth it. Is your fiancee the first woman you dated after your divorce?
You're welcome! And no I dated a few different women before finding my fiance (now wife 😊)
I'm sorry. I sort of jumped on board in the middle of this, so all I know is I'm very interested in your journey and I'm very glad I stumbled on your channel. I'm so happy to hear you're married!
Love your story and great to see you back!
Thanks!
Glad to see that you are back on line..
8:27 NOBODY is "EVERYTHING" to anyone, so how does a person KNOW ????
What do you mean? How do you know they're "the one"?
Reading the comments, one reoccurring point. Religion, biggest pain in the ass, since writing was invented!
Is a huge factor for a lot of people who come out later in life! So much feeling of obligation and guilt
I don't know if you can help me??? I am a trans woman and I am wanting to be with a lesbian woman 👭. I believe that being friends first builds a strong foundation for a relationship. Anyway, I really feel a strong desire to be in a long lasting lesbian relationship. I jus don't know where to go because my experience with relationships as a man was not good at all. Now, as a woman, it seems there are plenty of women who like me, but I can't seem to go on a date with someone who is worthy of me.
I think you just have to stand strong in knowing what you deserve and wait for the person who matches what you want and need
Your story is so similar to mine
Many women go through this and have similar stories ❤️
It does seem that many people who come out are from religious families. My family was but I was never religious I'm just coming out at 61 next month it is not the easiest thing in the world to do. I wish I could read my age backwards and I'd only be 16, giggle.
Did you and your ex husband ever consider or discuss the possibility of a poly relationship so you could remain with one another since you were happy together and this was the only issue?
Actually yes, but that wasn't for us and in my opinion inevitably doesn't work because I feel 1 or both would end up finding someone they wanted to be with more and then would result in divorce anyway. I feel like what we have now is perfect to remain friends and co parents for our son but to live our own lives as well
I completely get this. From the moment that I started becoming far more aware of the likelihood of being a trans lesbian (in 2015), I started thinking about how no matter how much a sappy hopeless romantic I am, I wanted to be up front about this increasing exploration. And it turned off SO many. I could not have a crush on someone without wondering "Would she still be attracted to me if I was to come out and transition?".
The transness is more specified to my situation, but so much of it is about honesty. Hearing Bout all the transphobia (especially toward trans women), I sometimes wonder if it would be easier to live life pretending to be a cis guy, and it would be dishonest to myself, future partners, family members, and anyone I interact with.
You’re a straight man 😂
Trans men suffer far more, barely anyone even brings them up, everything is about “tRaNs wAhMen” due to bio male privilege
No such thing as a trans lesbians. It’s incredibly misogynistic and lesbophobic to say you as a straight male is somehow a female attracted to females (lesbian). Only a male is that entitled.
Why is it that all ppl of the lgbt community come from a religious background 🤨
Think it might have just been the generation 🤷♀️
Because religion is all powerful. No one can escape from the power of Xenu!
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R u sure
Stupenda creatura no agisco cosa mi dici penso che amore e la cosa più bella che abbiamo nel cuore e va d'atto vai dove ti porta il cuore he ti acareza il cuore e ti apre le piene delanima eti farà volare nel blu dipinto di blu
So beautiful
That poor son
That poor husband
I understand why you would think that but my ex husband and I just took our some on vacation to Florida together for his birthday and all had a great time together. We still work together as a family but not being married is the right thing for us.
@@TheLateLifeLesbian *son
Emily my wife has some advice for you if you still love your husband give up trying to be a lesbian you will ruin someone's life and that is not right so if you still love your husband stop using your partner as a scapegoat so husband or the girl you married it is your choice forget your ex and think of your future with the one you have got now.
Ugggg!
So let me get this straight, you both agreed to get a divorce and put your son in a statistical disadvantage of coming from a broken home for the sake of BOTH of YOU being happy!? Gotcha 👌🏿🤔
Not real!!
Did you ever put god in the center of your relationship with your ex husband 😢 so that you could save your marriage for the sake of your son
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