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Signs that make me feel I can trust him..... -he’s open & not secretive -tells me more than I need to know/ask for -does/says things that shows he thinks about me when we’re not together -doesn’t makes excuses for silly things -very protective of me -talks about me n introduced me to everyone he knows Etc
@@cesttmoii trust that I have the intellect to know when someone is faking these things to me. Each one is subject to the condition they occur under, the behaviour, tone etc. Thank you but I’m old enough to know the difference of sincerity vs manipulation in each of these areas👊🏾
That last comment about “you being the partner that you want to find” it’s just amazing. Do not try to find the best partner, but become yourself the best partner and that you will be attracting into your life. Thank you and be safe! 🙂
I trust him He said I can call him at anytime Text him at anytime We are in a long distance relationship I am happy and satisfied about him. We have our time at night that we pray together.
1. You feel protected by your partner. 2. You know your partner is faithful to you. 3. You know you partner will always be a very close friend. 4. Your partner shares the chores. 5. Your partner works hard to increase the financial security. 6. Your partner makes you feel sexually desirable. 7. You have influence in the relationship. 8. In arguments, you can trust that your partner will listen to you. 9. Your partner's words and actions align and reflects the values you agree on. 10. Your partner takes your feelings into account when making decisions.
Approaching 6 months in my first & long distance relationship & I can easily check off all these boxes (except the things that haven’t come up yet like an argument), I’m so excited about this relationship 😊❤️❤️
did you listen to what matt said at the end of the vid? do you also do those things for him? if you don't, then he might not feel good enough to do those for you.
5 months into a Long Distance Relationship with my boyfriend all we fulfill all these categories. We might be going through a hard time right now (me with college exams being mentally and physically exhausted, and him with family problems) but we have our backs, and know that we will grow stronger from it. We haven’t had an argument yet but we always listen to each other. We trust and love each other. We are also fighting to be together after we have finished college to build up our future.
When I share something I know is really silly but am still experiencing, he doesn't belittle me or make me feel stupid. Instead, he shows me he understands.
He actually hears things I have shared and treats me accordingly without me having to remind him. He respects my opinion. He communicates his feelings effectively good or bad to allow me to find understanding in the moment.
11. You can trust each other to let go if necessary to become more trust worthy and possibly reunite for a better foundation. It can mean separating temporarily and trusting they will meet you on the other side.
I really enjoyed this. Thanks, Matt. I've been with a wonderful guy that's been going through a divorce. It hasn't been easy but I'm doing my best to be patient. We care for each other but at times he needs time on his own. Sometimes I feel neglected. Out of the 10 signs, I believe we account for 7.
Be wary as he may do this to you once he remarries. Ask him if he feels trapped with his wife as hell feel that with you too without counseling to work they it
Uh, never worked for me. .. It usually ended up with both of us wanting to kill each other at three in the morning. Going to sleep and seeing things with fresh eyes and a cool head works better for me
The man that I am involved with is already talking about marriage and I had to ask him to slow down because he was moving to fast. He agreed to slow down but I felt like he was a little disappointed.
Open out and talk...instead of shedding tears alone under showers....i didn't know he was that soft sensitive and told me he is always egoistic....i will melt once i see him in tears...but he kept on to himself the feelings
This is very good information. I agree with everything mentioned. Some of it I learned the hard way during a 46 year marriage. I am starting a new relationship now but I really don’t think I will ever find the true love I had in my marriage. However I think your guidance is spot on for all you young people in new relationships. Just thought you might want to hear from an older person who had a good long marriage and agrees with your good advice.
One that stood out to me is listening to each other. We do. Even if it’s not in the moment and he’s all hot headed. He will come back and apologize and even in the heated moments he may not act like he’s listening but he is
I need a man that won’t try to take my money and not be jealous rather secure our funds. My trust when it comes to money is so hyper vigilant. Protection is so huge. People can say it’s just money but if you’ve been around people that are financially abusive you’d understand
Man I learned a lot. I am not in a relationship yet, but I thought about my old pastor telling me that I need to be mate my man needs me to be. And I met someone recently who challenges me on this, so now I realize I can't be excellent after I say "I do" or he gets on one knee, it starts now while I take care of myself. I also realize I don't always communicate when things change and that is quite often. And that I don't have to volunteer my time for every cause or drama. I need me time and time for great. Thank you Mat!
Oh that explains it. He wanted to have a party when I did not, not on the day I was leaving for my studies. He still pushed through with it. He later on told me that I wanted him to be alone instead of with his friends while I was leaving. I really did not think that way. But now, it all makes sense. He wanted to be with his friends, instead of me, all these time. I am glad I got out of that relationship.
Hi Matt, you made such an impact in helping me understand how love works . It means a lot that you explain how a man acts and thinks when he’s in love. More power and blessings to you as you bless many! I am grateful to you.🙌 And this video on trust is for the longer term. Kudos!
This is timely. I just saw that you did this five years ago, especially for fatherless women who aren’t put on game by functional men, this is essential.
I was married for 9 years and with him for 11 years. He had none of these qualities. I can’t believe I put up with him for so long. Never listened to me, cared about what I thought about anything. Wanted sex on tap and when I said no he referred to me as a Ferrari “ what’s the point in having a Ferrari when you can’t drive it” ... I left him two years ago and now I’m with a man who has all those attributes you listed.... the reason I have a man with them now is because after 11 long years I know now exactly what I don’t want. The man I’m with now is absolutely perfect and I can see us spending the rest of our lives together.
I'm writing a book about my relationship with my late husband, Tim, and I really liked this person as my best friend as well as loved him, but my traumatic childhood dealing with narcissistic abuse and subsequent narcissistic abuse has made it difficult for me to trust my perception of reality. I was taught I was unworthy of love from a man, so it has been hard at times to see if my late husband actually loved me. So these videos help confirm that Tim, although he wasn't perfect, he was a good partner, whether my inner child thought I deserved that or not.
I really appreciated this! Ive struggled with trust issues in a lot of my relationships due to bad past experience. But what about when trust is broken? My husband is a good man in general but recently he broke my trust in a big way. I called him out on it and now he thinks I should get over it and things should go back to normal. How can I communicate to him that I need time to trust him again? That he needs to earn it back?
These people im talking about are people that knows his taken but still chooses to insult us by pushing my man or teasing him with another girl given that they know he had me already. That's fucking annoying.
You are my fav advice channel! You always cut it down to real points! Covering most important topics and love how the advice is so practical real and so on point! Where It all rings so true! Especially love when you confide on your own personal stuff too! Thank you so much for sharing all your advice! :) you’re like a big brother breaking it all down so I really get it lol only wish I saw some of these videos earlier..oh well live and learn! :)
I liked this video very much. It's good to see that most of trust and connection comes from simple but still very firm points. Usually, we overthink for silly things instead of focusing in the relationship as a whole. I like that you highlighted the positive points. And I like the final part - I recognized I had all of the points as a partner. It's very important to see both sides instead of complaining only about what the other doesn't do or isn't. As per my opinion, my boyfriend has all except the number 2 (partially), but don't know if it's something most made out of my head, although he already gave me reasons to doubt him but in overall, he is an amazing partner and our values align very much.
Simple stuff. Eye contact is a huge one for me. Eye contact is very intimate. I feel if you can simply look your partner in the eye to me creates a connection that they are paying attention and being present with you. The other is communication. If you can express what you want or need or how you can help them with their wants and needs. Ask them don't tell them, it creates a better environment to negotiate. Makes them less defensive.
Very well said. I agree...and I am the type of woman who is trustworthy. I don't place any expectation on anyone else, especially my man, that I don't place on myself first. So if I expect these things of him, of course I'm going to be doing the same.
Trust and communication are huge. I can understand and listen to anything he has to say, find a solution and a way to get past it until I feel like I’m being played over and over. Once you have that agreement, stop the games.
THIS is by far your BEST ADVICE video yet because we must get COMPLETELY honest and clear on BOTH sides, HIS and OURS! Thank You soooooo much as always! 💖🙏💙
The trust that i had seen to my BF is when his family invite him to have a get together party he always tell me ahead of time.. And if he said i'll be coming back at the time he said, he's there already.. I like the way he use trust on me bcoz he's very faithful and very respectful to me..
He pulls away he don't want to talk to me and we are in a long-distance relationship and we haven't met yet but still I would like him to do them things
I dated a guy for 1 1/2 years. Then he tells me he loves me but he's not in love with me. I asked him did he want to find someone he could fall in love with. He told me "oh no, I'm happy. I told him I needed someone who could fall in love with me. I hung up the phone and haven't spoken to him since. I kept on going to the places I met him. I didn't let him think I still cared. That was almost 3 years ago. I have met a man that is older than me. He already acts like he likes me. I'm not rushing into anything. I'm in a position I don't need financial help so if it's only friendship I'm happy with that.
Some people are naturally distrustful no matter how honest you are. You will soon be beating your head against the wall. My ex threw away a 20 year relationship because of a paranoid assumption in a situation. No I was not heard nor believed when I tried to explain. It was such a shame, because we were very much in love.
Lemme add #5 is super in instilling value to the "CFOs" in relationships lol If you truly respect the earning partner there's no other way to show it than to safe guard what they work so hard for BOTH of you 💖
I am definitely aligned with all of those activities! He was worried about people writing to me on Facebook and Messenger. I told him he has nothing to worry about and i offered to delete my social media because i value him over anyone on there. He didn't want me to because he said he liked seeing our pictures on social media, BUT he won't put pictures of us on HIS social media. ? What gives? Then i offered to let him look through my phone ANY TIME he wants on more than one occasion and he didn't want to. I've even offered to let him TAKE my phone for a week on more than one occasion to show him I have absolutely NOTHING to hide from him! But he won't let me see his phone, not that I would ever go through it, because i honestly respect his privacy, but i asked him if he would let me see his phone one day, and he said, "No. It's my phone. It's private. You should just trust me." O_o ... uhm... okay.... HAD he given me his phone- I swear I would have just handed it back to him. It's the point of the matter.. But he wants me to trust him? We started dating Feb. 3rd of this year... Is it too soon to be worried about this? Am i being out of line? I just don't want to give 150% to someone who doesn't deserve it again.... i tend to do that and it hurts a lot.
@@adj5767 Thank you for your reply! I appreciate your straightforward response. .... I would still really love to hear Mathew's opinion... Does anyone know if he responds to questions on his comments like this? Or is it just through the videos he makes that he answers back to questions here?
I'd tend to agree with the other replies to your comment. But I'll also offer another perspective from personal experience. My husband and I never looked through each others' phones in the 18 years we were together. Some guys value trust and privacy, which can go hand in hand. Especially privacy. It's like not reading someone else's journal; most people feel a little miffed when others snoop around in their diary, even if it's with good intentions. When my partner passed away from cancer, and I had to contact his friends using his phone, there were no flirty texts, dating apps, or other signs of infidelity in his digital footprint. Short answer is that it depends from guy to guy. What I'll say is that, do find the right time to communicate and share your worries (in person, not in text). If he is willing to listen patiently, that's a good sign. If he dismisses your worries as unimportant, that in itself might mean that he might not be able to give you the support to the level that you expect from him. Hope this might give a balanced perspective from a male point of view, and also taking from previous conversations with my straight guy friends.
This is how im facing now my trust issues and faith issues becoz of my past pain relationship.this man of mine is amazing but im scared that one day i will get hurt. So im working on my trust and faith issues now..accepting that love is a risk.and im ready to be hurt again whatever it comes.
Thank you, this one has been enlightening, especially to know that you have a marriage mentor/ counsellor, you go to talk to. Great insight, thanks Matt!
Thank you for bringing this peace of mind. I suffered in my past relationships, but my current seems promising. i will keep in mind each one of these, makes me question if I’m also that kind of woman, I know I’m many of these but I will work hard to better myself.
Im a HUGE FAN of your Matt, i been watching your videos for a long time, this one Is Great ! I enjoyed the Message of this video, i am Going to Ask myself these Questions. Thanks Matt !! Showing Love From CANADA🇨🇦🇨🇦
Trust and Respect plays an important elements in norturing a healthy marriage and relationship..of course love must be present and put God at your center and everything will follow..
Awesome! I watched your six videos you shared but I didn't left some comments but this time I cannot leave these video without leaving some comment. You're really an expert Coach that's why I don't want to miss all your videos Thank you Matt . This is really helpful to make a relationship stronger.
Very nicely said Mat. And so true. I thought that it would be respect or communication, but if we don't, like you said, have TRUST, then neither respect or good communication can follow. Keep up the good work. I thoroughly enjoyed it and listened with a smile on my face.:)
Omg, i love mat boggs. I subscribed his channel because i learned a lot from here!! It really helps .. not for couple but also relationship lead to marriage.
You are so wise. I feel very strongly that these words are «some kind of» a Holy Bible to live after. It’ isn’t always so simple but when we’re meeting difficulties we just need to try a little bit harder and do our very best and always... do remember that we are “only human” and everybody can make mistakes! Remember WHY we love this special person in our hearts. ♥️ This video really touched my heart and must say that I have always felt like this myself, so it feels beautiful to hear this from a man! Actually the most important things in my life to try... my best to live after. “By the way”, do you have a twin brother?” Sorry.. 😁 just had to joke a bit.. 🤷🏻♀️
I look for: - signs he actually cares -needs & wants - sexual attraction & that he sexually desires me. I show him I desire almost everyday - signs to see if I can trust him - Communication definitely Many more..!!
Mine root for me, mine sailor will protect me, he said he will be faithful and for me not to worry, I can always talk to him about anything and he said I can always Confide in him. He really listen to me.
What sign do I look for that indicates that I can trust my man? CONSISTENCY. That is, does he tell me the same thing today that he told me yesterday (trust) or does what he says today not line up with/conflict with what he said yesterday (mistrust).
I knew it was trust, for me trust and loyalty are most important in any relationship. Speaking of the ropes course, my workplace did that by having us build a zip wire and push each other across.
I have always been enjoying watching your videos. Your personality makes the videos entertaining, plus always delivering great contents. In spite of that your titles sometimes create wrong expectations. For instance, this one is perfect example. I'd name it something like this " One primary principal that creates lasting love". Your title made an expression on me that the video is going to be about signs that your man is cheating on you. Your message here is obviously covers quite different and very important aspects of the relationship that could help people to stay together. Thanks for working hard to create enjoyable videos. 😁
Hey! Matt I must tell you one important think. Since when I follow your videos in RUclips, have notice everytime when you speak I see the thinks goes in that exact way. So I can't miss your videos and follow you. I must thank'you, for helping me to my relationship with my Adoreble Man with different view . Stay bless. Chiara
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Signs that make me feel I can trust him.....
-he’s open & not secretive
-tells me more than I need to know/ask for
-does/says things that shows he thinks about me when we’re not together
-doesn’t makes excuses for silly things
-very protective of me
-talks about me n introduced me to everyone he knows
Etc
Dragon Zodiac you are so right, nailed every item 👍🏼
Where you messed up is these things actually are not good because anyone can manipulate these things compared to the signs that Matt just stated
@@cesttmoii trust that I have the intellect to know when someone is faking these things to me. Each one is subject to the condition they occur under, the behaviour, tone etc. Thank you but I’m old enough to know the difference of sincerity vs manipulation in each of these areas👊🏾
Agreed! And tells you things before hand...
That last comment about “you being the partner that you want to find” it’s just amazing. Do not try to find the best partner, but become yourself the best partner and that you will be attracting into your life. Thank you and be safe! 🙂
How ?
I trust him
He said I can call him at anytime
Text him at anytime
We are in a long distance relationship I am happy and satisfied about him. We have our time at night that we pray together.
So sweet! Mine said I can always confide in him.
That is so beautiful.
SORRY, long distance NEVER WORKS. UNLESS IT CHANGES. He may have secrets. You don't know what he is doing.
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I look if his actions lines up with his words. Empty promises and endless sorries makes me turn away.
Thats true
Agree💯
I appreciate when my man consults me before making a decision. It makes me feel important to him and ultimately more secure in the relationship.
1. You feel protected by your partner.
2. You know your partner is faithful to you.
3. You know you partner will always be a very close friend.
4. Your partner shares the chores.
5. Your partner works hard to increase the financial security.
6. Your partner makes you feel sexually desirable.
7. You have influence in the relationship.
8. In arguments, you can trust that your partner will listen to you.
9. Your partner's words and actions align and reflects the values you agree on.
10. Your partner takes your feelings into account when making decisions.
Sounds like you need a house boy, not a real man . Good luck with this !
Sheny Lyn Salarda thanks for the summary
@@javar888 A real man would possess all of these qualities. A boy would be a selfish idiot.
Yes
Thanks so much for these important points! ❤️❤️
Approaching 6 months in my first & long distance relationship & I can easily check off all these boxes (except the things that haven’t come up yet like an argument), I’m so excited about this relationship 😊❤️❤️
My bf has none of these things😭time for a breakup
Same lol. Literally all of these things we don’t have 🤣 fml I knew it was a train wreck
It is hard at first but gets easier.a relationship that does not make you feel good is better to be finished
did you listen to what matt said at the end of the vid? do you also do those things for him? if you don't, then he might not feel good enough to do those for you.
You next one will be likely the same .... You probably bring very little to the table yourself .
Get out! HE WONT CHANGE!
i had a dream that made me think...
i don,t want to be with a guy that wants to hide me.
Been there..no more!!
Its so nice to have a good man and see other good men.
5 months into a Long Distance Relationship with my boyfriend all we fulfill all these categories. We might be going through a hard time right now (me with college exams being mentally and physically exhausted, and him with family problems) but we have our backs, and know that we will grow stronger from it. We haven’t had an argument yet but we always listen to each other. We trust and love each other. We are also fighting to be together after we have finished college to build up our future.
I love it when my partner consides me as his number one priority and shows it.
When I share something I know is really silly but am still experiencing, he doesn't belittle me or make me feel stupid. Instead, he shows me he understands.
He actually hears things I have shared and treats me accordingly without me having to remind him. He respects my opinion. He communicates his feelings effectively good or bad to allow me to find understanding in the moment.
11. You can trust each other to let go if necessary to become more trust worthy and possibly reunite for a better foundation. It can mean separating temporarily and trusting they will meet you on the other side.
I really enjoyed this. Thanks, Matt. I've been with a wonderful guy that's been going through a divorce. It hasn't been easy but I'm doing my best to be patient. We care for each other but at times he needs time on his own. Sometimes I feel neglected. Out of the 10 signs, I believe we account for 7.
Be wary as he may do this to you once he remarries. Ask him if he feels trapped with his wife as hell feel that with you too without counseling to work they it
Adorable that couples that have been together for a long time still have that passion💕
Great list Matthew! You are a big inspiration to us as a relationship channel as well!
The more I learn about relationships between men and women, the more I want to have nothing to do with them.
Yes
Agreed. Never cohabitate. Never marry. Pump and dump only
Never let each other go to sleep when their mad my husband & I learned that.
Uh, never worked for me. .. It usually ended up with both of us wanting to kill each other at three in the morning. Going to sleep and seeing things with fresh eyes and a cool head works better for me
True
@@gabrielafonseca4034 I'm sorry to hear that, but glad that you found something that worked for you.
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@@gabrielafonseca4034 😂😂
The man that I am involved with is already talking about marriage and I had to ask him to slow down because he was moving to fast. He agreed to slow down but I felt like he was a little disappointed.
Caring leads to trust. I think caring is the key for a successful relationship. A trustable man and a caring man aren’t the same
I know it when he never gives up on me no matter what. He listen to me and try to make my life better.
Open out and talk...instead of shedding tears alone under showers....i didn't know he was that soft sensitive and told me he is always egoistic....i will melt once i see him in tears...but he kept on to himself the feelings
So much wisdom in those 15 minutes! Thank you 🙏🏻
This is very good information. I agree with everything mentioned. Some of it I learned the hard way during a 46 year marriage. I am starting a new relationship now but I really don’t think I will ever find the true love I had in my marriage. However I think your guidance is spot on for all you young people in new relationships. Just thought you might want to hear from an older person who had a good long marriage and agrees with your good advice.
Wow this was one of your top best videos ever! All of your videos are great but this one is high quality.
So true.
One that stood out to me is listening to each other. We do. Even if it’s not in the moment and he’s all hot headed. He will come back and apologize and even in the heated moments he may not act like he’s listening but he is
I need a man that won’t try to take my money and not be jealous rather secure our funds. My trust when it comes to money is so hyper vigilant. Protection is so huge. People can say it’s just money but if you’ve been around people that are financially abusive you’d understand
He tells his schedules in advance to me so i wont be worried and thinking where he was and what he does.
If trust is number one, clear, open, good communication is the only what to achieve it I think.
Thanks Matt! So much of what you share is needed so badly in this world.
Have a love that's greater than the argument
Man I learned a lot. I am not in a relationship yet, but I thought about my old pastor telling me that I need to be mate my man needs me to be. And I met someone recently who challenges me on this, so now I realize I can't be excellent after I say "I do" or he gets on one knee, it starts now while I take care of myself.
I also realize I don't always communicate when things change and that is quite often. And that I don't have to volunteer my time for every cause or drama. I need me time and time for great. Thank you Mat!
Oh that explains it. He wanted to have a party when I did not, not on the day I was leaving for my studies. He still pushed through with it. He later on told me that I wanted him to be alone instead of with his friends while I was leaving. I really did not think that way. But now, it all makes sense. He wanted to be with his friends, instead of me, all these time. I am glad I got out of that relationship.
Hi Matt, you made such an impact in helping me understand how love works . It means a lot that you explain how a man acts and thinks when he’s in love. More power and blessings to you as you bless many! I am grateful to you.🙌
And this video on trust is for the longer term. Kudos!
This is timely. I just saw that you did this five years ago, especially for fatherless women who aren’t put on game by functional men, this is essential.
I was married for 9 years and with him for 11 years. He had none of these qualities. I can’t believe I put up with him for so long. Never listened to me, cared about what I thought about anything. Wanted sex on tap and when I said no he referred to me as a Ferrari “ what’s the point in having a Ferrari when you can’t drive it” ... I left him two years ago and now I’m with a man who has all those attributes you listed.... the reason I have a man with them now is because after 11 long years I know now exactly what I don’t want. The man I’m with now is absolutely perfect and I can see us spending the rest of our lives together.
When u find that SOUL EVERYTHING aligns x x x And there are alot souls on this planet. X
I'm writing a book about my relationship with my late husband, Tim, and I really liked this person as my best friend as well as loved him, but my traumatic childhood dealing with narcissistic abuse and subsequent narcissistic abuse has made it difficult for me to trust my perception of reality. I was taught I was unworthy of love from a man, so it has been hard at times to see if my late husband actually loved me. So these videos help confirm that Tim, although he wasn't perfect, he was a good partner, whether my inner child thought I deserved that or not.
Trust when am healed..now learning..
Thank you for beautiful, motivated msg.
I really appreciated this! Ive struggled with trust issues in a lot of my relationships due to bad past experience. But what about when trust is broken? My husband is a good man in general but recently he broke my trust in a big way. I called him out on it and now he thinks I should get over it and things should go back to normal. How can I communicate to him that I need time to trust him again? That he needs to earn it back?
Threesomes have become so common and love for me is one Other. Friendships are different and sharing makes more time.
He helps me to trust him, by listening to me and cutting people that is not helping with our relationship
Omg when i red it again i sound controlling lols
These people im talking about are people that knows his taken but still chooses to insult us by pushing my man or teasing him with another girl given that they know he had me already. That's fucking annoying.
You are my fav advice channel! You always cut it down to real points! Covering most important topics and love how the advice is so practical real and so on point! Where It all rings so true! Especially love when you confide on your own personal stuff too! Thank you so much for sharing all your advice! :) you’re like a big brother breaking it all down so I really get it lol only wish I saw some of these videos earlier..oh well live and learn! :)
Every woman need to watch this! 👏
I love ur videos ❤️❤️❤️
U have really helped me a lot
I liked this video very much. It's good to see that most of trust and connection comes from simple but still very firm points. Usually, we overthink for silly things instead of focusing in the relationship as a whole. I like that you highlighted the positive points. And I like the final part - I recognized I had all of the points as a partner. It's very important to see both sides instead of complaining only about what the other doesn't do or isn't. As per my opinion, my boyfriend has all except the number 2 (partially), but don't know if it's something most made out of my head, although he already gave me reasons to doubt him but in overall, he is an amazing partner and our values align very much.
Simple stuff. Eye contact is a huge one for me. Eye contact is very intimate. I feel if you can simply look your partner in the eye to me creates a connection that they are paying attention and being present with you.
The other is communication. If you can express what you want or need or how you can help them with their wants and needs.
Ask them don't tell them, it creates a better environment to negotiate. Makes them less defensive.
Some time I give little hints to him of what I want and he blows it out of proportion
Very well said. I agree...and I am the type of woman who is trustworthy. I don't place any expectation on anyone else, especially my man, that I don't place on myself first. So if I expect these things of him, of course I'm going to be doing the same.
Trust and communication are huge. I can understand and listen to anything he has to say, find a solution and a way to get past it until I feel like I’m being played over and over. Once you have that agreement, stop the games.
This video is important for every couple. I'm saving this video for the time when I meet my husband that God is saving for me.
Your advices are totally to the point! Thank you for giving us food for thought and opening our horizons through your constant learning and hard work.
I would like to add that a good sign that you can trust your man is when he is proud of you. He tells his friends about you, etc.
THIS is by far your BEST ADVICE video yet because we must get COMPLETELY honest and clear on BOTH sides, HIS and OURS! Thank You soooooo much as always! 💖🙏💙
The trust that i had seen to my BF is when his family invite him to have a get together party he always tell me ahead of time.. And if he said i'll be coming back at the time he said, he's there already.. I like the way he use trust on me bcoz he's very faithful and very respectful to me..
Hi good morning I'm always watching your video, I love your video
Words and actions line up for the good of everyone and not just himself
He pulls away he don't want to talk to me and we are in a long-distance relationship and we haven't met yet but still I would like him to do them things
I dated a guy for 1 1/2 years. Then he tells me he loves me but he's not in love with me. I asked him did he want to find someone he could fall in love with. He told me "oh no, I'm happy. I told him I needed someone who could fall in love with me. I hung up the phone and haven't spoken to him since. I kept on going to the places I met him. I didn't let him think I still cared. That was almost 3 years ago. I have met a man that is older than me. He already acts like he likes me. I'm not rushing into anything. I'm in a position I don't need financial help so if it's only friendship I'm happy with that.
Some people are naturally distrustful no matter how honest you are. You will soon be beating your head against the wall.
My ex threw away a 20 year relationship because of a paranoid assumption in a situation. No I was not heard nor believed when I tried to explain. It was such a shame, because we were very much in love.
Lemme add #5 is super in instilling value to the "CFOs" in relationships lol If you truly respect the earning partner there's no other way to show it than to safe guard what they work so hard for BOTH of you 💖
I am definitely aligned with all of those activities! He was worried about people writing to me on Facebook and Messenger. I told him he has nothing to worry about and i offered to delete my social media because i value him over anyone on there. He didn't want me to because he said he liked seeing our pictures on social media, BUT he won't put pictures of us on HIS social media. ? What gives? Then i offered to let him look through my phone ANY TIME he wants on more than one occasion and he didn't want to. I've even offered to let him TAKE my phone for a week on more than one occasion to show him I have absolutely NOTHING to hide from him! But he won't let me see his phone, not that I would ever go through it, because i honestly respect his privacy, but i asked him if he would let me see his phone one day, and he said, "No. It's my phone. It's private. You should just trust me." O_o ... uhm... okay.... HAD he given me his phone- I swear I would have just handed it back to him. It's the point of the matter.. But he wants me to trust him? We started dating Feb. 3rd of this year... Is it too soon to be worried about this? Am i being out of line? I just don't want to give 150% to someone who doesn't deserve it again.... i tend to do that and it hurts a lot.
Girl he is playing you. Or maybe not playing but you guys are not on the same page. AT ALL!
@@Oneandonlyfrenchcandy Thank you for your reply! He made me feel like i was being crazy for questioning him...
@@mlove559dalidelprincess3 you're making a mistake. Let him go.
@@adj5767 Thank you for your reply! I appreciate your straightforward response.
.... I would still really love to hear Mathew's opinion... Does anyone know if he responds to questions on his comments like this? Or is it just through the videos he makes that he answers back to questions here?
I'd tend to agree with the other replies to your comment. But I'll also offer another perspective from personal experience. My husband and I never looked through each others' phones in the 18 years we were together. Some guys value trust and privacy, which can go hand in hand. Especially privacy. It's like not reading someone else's journal; most people feel a little miffed when others snoop around in their diary, even if it's with good intentions.
When my partner passed away from cancer, and I had to contact his friends using his phone, there were no flirty texts, dating apps, or other signs of infidelity in his digital footprint.
Short answer is that it depends from guy to guy. What I'll say is that, do find the right time to communicate and share your worries (in person, not in text). If he is willing to listen patiently, that's a good sign. If he dismisses your worries as unimportant, that in itself might mean that he might not be able to give you the support to the level that you expect from him. Hope this might give a balanced perspective from a male point of view, and also taking from previous conversations with my straight guy friends.
This is how im facing now my trust issues and faith issues becoz of my past pain relationship.this man of mine is amazing but im scared that one day i will get hurt.
So im working on my trust and faith issues now..accepting that love is a risk.and im ready to be hurt again whatever it comes.
What makes love last? Trust
Thank you, this one has been enlightening, especially to know that you have a marriage mentor/ counsellor, you go to talk to. Great insight, thanks Matt!
I do all those things and want my Werner to do the same. Communication is key
I hope you and Werner are still doing great.
It made me understand why I have distrusted in the past and how I too do things that can make a person distrust me. Thank you for the advice.
Thank you for bringing this peace of mind. I suffered in my past relationships, but my current seems promising. i will keep in mind each one of these, makes me question if I’m also that kind of woman, I know I’m many of these but I will work hard to better myself.
Im a HUGE FAN of your Matt, i been watching your videos for a long time, this one Is Great ! I enjoyed the Message of this video, i am Going to Ask myself these Questions. Thanks Matt !! Showing Love From CANADA🇨🇦🇨🇦
Trust and Respect plays an important elements in norturing a healthy marriage and relationship..of course love must be present and put God at your center and everything will follow..
He has our best interest in mind.
Awesome! I watched your six videos you shared but I didn't left some comments but this time I cannot leave these video without leaving some comment. You're really an expert Coach that's why I don't want to miss all your videos Thank you Matt . This is really helpful to make a relationship stronger.
Very nicely said Mat. And so true. I thought that it would be respect or communication, but if we don't, like you said, have TRUST, then neither respect or good communication can follow. Keep up the good work. I thoroughly enjoyed it and listened with a smile on my face.:)
Thank you Matthew. Personally, I value your advice. Applying these principles or to looking for these signs are a great guideline for us to consider
Thank you, very helpful piece
I also look for respect of my parents, mom especially!!!
Omg, i love mat boggs. I subscribed his channel because i learned a lot from here!! It really helps .. not for couple but also relationship lead to marriage.
I've always loved ur videos. Keep spreading positive, hopeful relationship building videos! ❤
I love that he doesn't even ask you to subscribe 💯
Trust & Comunication 💖
You are so wise. I feel very strongly that these words are «some kind of» a Holy Bible to live after. It’ isn’t always so simple but when we’re meeting difficulties we just need to try a little bit harder and do our very best and always... do remember that we are “only human” and everybody can make mistakes! Remember WHY we love this special person in our hearts. ♥️ This video really touched my heart and must say that I have always felt like this myself, so it feels beautiful to hear this from a man! Actually the most important things in my life to try... my best to live after. “By the way”, do you have a twin brother?” Sorry.. 😁 just had to joke a bit.. 🤷🏻♀️
I look for:
- signs he actually cares
-needs & wants
- sexual attraction & that he sexually desires me. I show him I desire almost everyday
- signs to see if I can trust him
- Communication definitely
Many more..!!
My parents had almost none of these! I've had to learn everything on my own
Same here! Good luck, it's really not easy!
You and I both
Self check...i love that. Its not just him its me too
I love your videos so much. Thank you for sharing and doing what you do for all of us!
You're a godsend. Thank you.
Mine root for me, mine sailor will protect me, he said he will be faithful and for me not to worry, I can always talk to him about anything and he said I can always Confide in him. He really listen to me.
I really needed this
What sign do I look for that indicates that I can trust my man? CONSISTENCY. That is, does he tell me the same thing today that he told me yesterday (trust) or does what he says today not line up with/conflict with what he said yesterday (mistrust).
I knew it was trust, for me trust and loyalty are most important in any relationship. Speaking of the ropes course, my workplace did that by having us build a zip wire and push each other across.
Mat, Great video. You rock! Thanks for everything...
Matt u are so positive. Awesome
What a great video. I like how you asked us women are we displaying the same things. Love that!!!
❤️ Your Videos = A Golden Ray of 'Hope' in Relationship. Thank You so much Matt.
I have always been enjoying watching your videos. Your personality makes the videos entertaining, plus always delivering great contents. In spite of that your titles sometimes create wrong expectations. For instance, this one is perfect example. I'd name it something like this " One primary principal that creates lasting love". Your title made an expression on me that the video is going to be about signs that your man is cheating on you. Your message here is obviously covers quite different and very important aspects of the relationship that could help people to stay together. Thanks for working hard to create enjoyable videos. 😁
Hey! Matt I must tell you one important think. Since when I follow your videos in RUclips, have notice everytime when you speak I see the thinks goes in that exact way.
So I can't miss your videos and follow you. I must thank'you, for helping me to my relationship with my Adoreble Man with different view .
Stay bless. Chiara