What Men Find Highly Attractive In Women

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  • Опубликовано: 30 июн 2024
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    In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick dissects what men find highly attractive in women on a psychological level.

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  • @datingcoachryanpatrick
    @datingcoachryanpatrick  Месяц назад +1

    *NEW SUMMER 2024*
    I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂
    Check out my course offerings here 👉 www.boyfriendblueprint.com/courses

  • @Wavesfromthenorth
    @Wavesfromthenorth 4 года назад +910

    Only a mentally and emotionally strong man with great values can see these qualities attractive. The average dude is intimidated and has low self-esteem and feels inferior to these qualities.

    • @catm.l.5951
      @catm.l.5951 4 года назад +65

      But we don't want those guys either, girl! When you know your worth you will attract men who are deserving of your qualities!

    • @Wavesfromthenorth
      @Wavesfromthenorth 4 года назад +10

      @@catm.l.5951
      I brought that up because it's not something that is revealed in the video. Not that I go for guys with low self esteem.

    • @notthisuniverse
      @notthisuniverse 4 года назад +3

      word.

    • @ElizabetaDante
      @ElizabetaDante 4 года назад +30

      Well i know my worth since i was a kid and until now I didn’t meet a man like me, and yes men tell me I’m too smart” and it’s not good “ etc Men themselves tell me they are scared/ intimidated by one intelligent woman. When I asked why? They reply bc we can’t lie to you” because you see everything “, because you are higher level “ etc

    • @tamarayoung2534
      @tamarayoung2534 4 года назад

      💯

  • @Liveandlove31
    @Liveandlove31 3 года назад +194

    I would say this is what is attractive to CONFIDENT guys... insecure guys will always want women lower than them to help stroke their fragile ego 😐

    • @KayNovember26
      @KayNovember26 3 года назад +8

      Confidence is a big turn on. Arrogance a complete turn off. Be confident, be content (with yourself) and be open minded. And please!!! Be clean.

    • @Ljounieh
      @Ljounieh 2 года назад +1

      That's too true

  • @taz12184
    @taz12184 4 года назад +309

    Just found you yesterday totally binge watching you now. Luv your energy

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад +16

      Thanks Taz!

    • @angelahargro8033
      @angelahargro8033 4 года назад +1

      Me too

    • @adrijabiswas4564
      @adrijabiswas4564 4 года назад +1

      Same and I love his videos

    • @JaCkLeen84
      @JaCkLeen84 3 года назад +2

      I’ve Been Doing The Same Thing! Lol

    • @taz12184
      @taz12184 3 года назад +2

      It's like you know you play some videos in the background and just do your cleaning or whatever. You have to sit and watch Ryan because he's just so animated and funny

  • @geofferypmeyers
    @geofferypmeyers 4 года назад +394

    These only work if he first thinks you’re hot

    • @Dancediva240
      @Dancediva240 4 года назад +46

      Very true. Otherwise he sees nothing

    • @diademglow3429
      @diademglow3429 4 года назад +14

      Exactly....... this guy is full of it

    • @ioannak.4690
      @ioannak.4690 4 года назад +5

      true

    • @misspriss2482
      @misspriss2482 4 года назад +27

      With shallow immature men, yes. Mature grown men will spend time with a woman and try to get to know her before he wants a relationship with you. Once he spends time with you, hotness becomes less important. A hot woman who has nothing else going for her will only hold a man's attention for a short period of time.

    • @Dancediva240
      @Dancediva240 4 года назад +17

      @@misspriss2482 And a woman a man has no sexual attraction for will just become a lovely acquaintance, nothing more. It is in all of us, nothing to do with shallow or profound. A man who sticks around with a worthless woman only because she is hot is called shallow and immature. Sexual attraction is important and one should he honest about that.

  • @nevernow7527
    @nevernow7527 4 года назад +152

    But the man who find these traits attractive in a woman would have to be a very confident and self assured man.....very few men are like that.

    • @valkyrietarot1735
      @valkyrietarot1735 3 года назад +6

      Also a man who isn’t a chicken. Having these qualities helps you sort out the boys from the men, and the losers from the winners.

    • @xfreja
      @xfreja 3 года назад

      fr

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 3 года назад

      So true.

    • @CJ-ft9yo
      @CJ-ft9yo Месяц назад

      I don’t think men think like this - most just don’t even know what they want.. they don’t think about the full package

  • @nevernow7527
    @nevernow7527 4 года назад +62

    I read the book “He’s just not into You” when it came out in the early 2000’s and it helped me move a lot a guys out of my space real quick. But when they realized I was no longer interested they all wanted to try again to date.. Not interested.

    • @nata3467
      @nata3467 2 года назад

      Just referenced this regarding a guy slow roll ghosting me...so liberating.

  • @mayahnussbaum1259
    @mayahnussbaum1259 4 года назад +101

    I love how Ryan likes a lot of people's comments. Like I feel like a lot of RUclipsrs don't really look at comments.

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад +22

      Hey Mayah! I’ll be honest, with the incredible growth to the channel the last two weeks, it’s been really tough to keep up with A LOT of them. I’m doing my best and hope folks understand id love to get to all of them. Many people share their individual stories and I try to give a nuanced answer, as you’ll see on comments on virtually every single video. Right now, I spend three hours a days on comments, so if I haven’t gotten back to you, I apologize. I’m truly doing my best to be apart of the conversation 😉

    • @mayahnussbaum1259
      @mayahnussbaum1259 4 года назад +7

      @@datingcoachryanpatrick Thanks! That's really considerate.

  • @Smjourney1223
    @Smjourney1223 4 года назад +82

    A quality man would be attracted to these things. Most men are intimated by my assertive thoughts and having a career. :(. Abusers like to control you, and they don’t want you to have an identity or your life. Male abusers and Narcissists want you to be dependent not independent.

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад +8

      Very true!

    • @bizznoir7838
      @bizznoir7838 4 года назад +6

      I barely have a career and it turns men off regularly. I never ask them for money, or anything like that, but lots of guys are really worried about "taking care" of a woman.

    • @atheistcrusader1160
      @atheistcrusader1160 3 года назад

      So many things wrong here

  • @nilablue8217
    @nilablue8217 4 года назад +32

    This is so tough the whole dating thing

  • @samanthak9612
    @samanthak9612 4 года назад +23

    AWESOME advice as always! Love that you are giving genuine advice. I find so often men are intimidated by these qualities, but you’re celebrating them! Thank you! Congrats on 15K!!

  • @eruditeamanda7262
    @eruditeamanda7262 4 года назад +4

    So, I just found you today, and I'm binging your channel now. You're phenomenal and have such a wonderful understanding of both men and women!

  • @savelikeaprowithleah5157
    @savelikeaprowithleah5157 4 года назад +14

    Congratulations on 15 K Subs ! Well deserved it!

  • @carolynbraun1788
    @carolynbraun1788 4 года назад +19

    I'm very independent n I don't need a man I want him to share my life

  • @--sanvi
    @--sanvi 4 года назад +55

    Your channel is growing in a snap.... I'm so happy for you...

  • @sylvannawilson5863
    @sylvannawilson5863 4 года назад +5

    This is one of the best channels I've ever watch... Thanks for the advice..

  • @annalerfald7768
    @annalerfald7768 4 года назад +5

    Found your channel by accident last night. Thank you so much for these video lessons!! Just got out of 15 year relationship and was feeling SO lost in the adult dating scene. I keep doing all the wrong things and did not understand what was going wrong! Ha!

  • @Pretty60s
    @Pretty60s 4 года назад +30

    You’re lovely. Straightforward and honest.

  • @user-vu7rv1xf1l
    @user-vu7rv1xf1l 2 года назад +4

    I am not these things nor do I find these things attractive. I want someone real, down to earth, & who understands life is a struggle & strives for happiness but can be supportive in the gutter too. I want love, not a never ending dog eat dog point to prove success & independence.

  • @norcell1001
    @norcell1001 4 года назад +3

    I love how you talk in your videos..Its like you are always making an eye contact to everyone on us..

  • @krisfitness17kn13
    @krisfitness17kn13 4 года назад +11

    Wow!! 1K subscribers and now you're at over 100K! Congrats!! So glad I found your channel. Your videos are so easy to listen to. Your voice is soothing, clear and informative :-) and your content is awesome!

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад

      Thanks so much! I’m so glad you’re digging what you’re seeing here! 😀

  • @Dependencycourtsellschildren
    @Dependencycourtsellschildren 4 года назад +7

    I watched this video twice because I was mopping and didn’t retain some of it. Although I hit most of the points, I do need to learn my self worth, and it was a great reminder to work on that. Thank you Ryan!

  • @jhessc9057
    @jhessc9057 4 года назад +1

    Already at 16k!! Congrats, your channel will continue to grow and have success. Thanks for the content!

  • @sierra6847
    @sierra6847 3 года назад +4

    These are such amazing videos, and yes, I am now binge-watching them. So helpful, and I plan on sharing with my friends! Thanks, Ryan.

  • @ai4052
    @ai4052 4 года назад +4

    Thank you for your advices!! I appreciate your time and effort you place in your well spoken and eloquent videos. I've learned so much about the men psyche through you...I feel like you're my wingman! Thank you and congrats!! ❤️

  • @brilynn25
    @brilynn25 4 года назад +15

    Congrats on 15k! I found you with 3k that was like last week! Your channel is growing so fast!!!! I've learned so much from these videos!!!

  • @klaudiaczubajewska
    @klaudiaczubajewska 3 года назад +1

    I started watching you like 20 minutes ago! I AM OBSESSED ❤️

  • @eumesma4725
    @eumesma4725 3 года назад +3

    Found this channel About 4 days ago. I absolutely loveeeeee it. He is so good. Thank you

  • @LindseyMichelle35
    @LindseyMichelle35 4 года назад +6

    Thank YOU for giving us honest and FUNNY advice! 😊

  • @juliacrescenzi1289
    @juliacrescenzi1289 4 года назад

    Your Channel has helped me so much! I keep rewatching videos

  • @betty39031
    @betty39031 4 года назад +3

    Hey thank you for the content. I wish I had my crisis years ago so that I could really hear your message and act along earlier..

  • @lizd9082
    @lizd9082 3 года назад +1

    Ryan you're so comedic and just lovely. Thank you for your wonderful vids

  • @FeistyChic
    @FeistyChic 3 года назад +2

    Surprisingly this video reminded me of my self worth more than anything else! and thats a big deal..Thank you Ryan, new to your channel and enjoying your advice

  • @anitamatthews-hess4826
    @anitamatthews-hess4826 4 года назад +10

    Hiya, Ryan from Missouri..newbie here....loving your videos.

  • @karahoglund
    @karahoglund 4 года назад +4

    You're advice has been so incredible! I'm a bit forward with people and my biggest desire is to attract someone who loves that. I'm all about truth and communication and that's a core quality I will not stray from. But your videos have helped me perfect that quality and use it properly and not come off as too much, even to the right guy in the beginning. Basically its as if I have a constant flow of directionless words, but your videos have given the sentences specific paths to take. Still the same words, just dealt with better. 😄

  • @noradelosangeles4522
    @noradelosangeles4522 3 года назад

    I found you last night and i can't stop watching your videos. Thanks!

  • @pearlgeneste1890
    @pearlgeneste1890 4 года назад

    Great guide Patrick! Thankyou!

  • @rosalyndelapena148
    @rosalyndelapena148 4 года назад

    I love watching your videos Ryan and always looking forward to your tips 😊👍🏻👍🏻

  • @sumptuousbreakfast78
    @sumptuousbreakfast78 3 года назад +1

    This is the best video advice ever! Thank you so very much.

  • @juchebo100
    @juchebo100 3 года назад

    I have watched a few of your videos and I have learned a lot. Just subscribed to your channel!

  • @mamaknow8056
    @mamaknow8056 2 года назад

    You're my favorite Ryan! Thank you for you all of your info !!!

  • @BlackCat-nn7rw
    @BlackCat-nn7rw 4 года назад +2

    This was really informative. Thanks

  • @valkyrietarot1735
    @valkyrietarot1735 3 года назад +7

    For the last two days, I’ve just been binge watching your videos. Learning how to play the players at their own game and find a man who’s a good guy, and good for me. 😁

    • @renatawarec
      @renatawarec 3 года назад

      Good luck, if they aren't married or have a girlfriend,they're gay.

  • @juanitamary8887
    @juanitamary8887 4 года назад

    Thank you Ryan, you are more open in your coaching.

  • @lakshyaa1544
    @lakshyaa1544 3 года назад

    I have been binge watching your videos. It's really helpful 😍👍

  • @angelaclark717
    @angelaclark717 3 года назад +1

    Just found u yesterday I am loving your videos x

  • @angelicavaldez6318
    @angelicavaldez6318 4 года назад +2

    Happy 15 K ryannn

  • @bichhanghanghang
    @bichhanghanghang 3 года назад +3

    I love this video so much. It explained why my ex didnt respect me enough

  • @78beckyboo
    @78beckyboo 3 года назад

    Absolutely loving all of your videos Ryan! Your advice had been so helpful in guiding me to the right guy. I've recently gone back to online dating 2wks ago and already have 5 dates set up. Re-evaluating and knowing my worth is so powerful 🙏

    • @terrystaples2086
      @terrystaples2086 2 года назад

      What date site are you using? Are you young?

  • @saoriosawa4128
    @saoriosawa4128 4 года назад +2

    New subscriber and SD living 🙌
    I was hoping to encounter you at Fashion Valley the other day and get interviewed! Haha

  • @sejalkothari6687
    @sejalkothari6687 3 года назад +3

    1000 subscribers? Now after 10 months it's 194k ! Awesome! Good going ❤️

  • @ginagold42631
    @ginagold42631 3 года назад +2

    Ryan is the best friend that every single girl needs!

  • @exoticpash8823
    @exoticpash8823 3 года назад +1

    Thanks for reminding me who I am/aspire to be ^ ^

  • @esobil2
    @esobil2 3 года назад

    Woww now you have 204k subscribes! It's unbelievable! You're videos are amazing!

  • @bsnouty4762
    @bsnouty4762 Год назад

    Thank you! I’m killing it

  • @thomhernandez
    @thomhernandez 4 года назад +4

    Hey tnx for your advices. They are brilliant👏👏👏

  • @idreamofgigi2023
    @idreamofgigi2023 4 года назад

    Yassssss!! Right on. Thank you Ryan.

  • @jowellthomas6510
    @jowellthomas6510 4 года назад +3

    I just subscribed 😉 whoooo

  • @christinemaddy6164
    @christinemaddy6164 4 года назад +1

    Thank you Ryan Patrick.. Love your videos.💌I found there are alot of guidances from you. It does give us benefits and we can have to think it over before anything is committed before and already dating especially those LDR that not even met..
    Haha, im one of them and im extra cautious who i be dealing with. No sex, no flirty thing. If like lets be friends but dont be blind ourselves! Different people has different characters all over the world! I may want a companion but im not hunger amd craze to have a man! Its hard, when we can find one good soul so for me, i've to take it lightly, do our best live happily and so on...Stay healthy.. Yes, we may not be rich, we cant go on holidays where we like, but this is our own life. So for people out there, we really cant force ourselves to want it!
    For those, who has a sucessful Relationship, near or far, am so happy for them💕

  • @dianakidd8267
    @dianakidd8267 4 года назад

    I've just recently discovered your channel, and wanted to tell you how helpful I believe it would be to all boys & girls ( & women & men) if they would include your type of advice in a curriculum in school. Seriously. Relationships (especially these days) are so complex, that simply manuvering the dating world by trial and error is quite primitive.

  • @rowiriri7579
    @rowiriri7579 3 года назад

    I just found you, thank you i will be trying all these ❤

  • @debra7752
    @debra7752 4 года назад +15

    Ryan You are the best in my opinion! I hope your channel continues to grow. I have no doubt it will!!!

  • @sallymustafa986
    @sallymustafa986 3 года назад

    Ryan you are great love all your videos and it’s good how a man can say what some ment are about thankyou

  • @jworksdatecoachingsinglesp7600
    @jworksdatecoachingsinglesp7600 3 года назад +3

    Hey there... Very much love your platform... Great personality you have!!! Very well spoken I like u! Very helpful👍 Here's my issue.. Need help! Men do not approach me... PERIOD!!! They are looking at me, I see them, their interested, they say hi to me over and over for a year in my subdivision as they pass me in their car and I am walking my dog!!! At the gym, they say have a nice day! Or hello and I can see certain men following me from one piece of equipment to another... Do I approach them... Ps: most men and woman guess me at 15-18 yrs younger then I am and that might be an issue... thank u for your advice ...😊

  • @hilhil6294
    @hilhil6294 3 года назад

    Got me hooked Ryan 🙌 you the man 😉

  • @susys8501
    @susys8501 4 года назад

    Great video!! 👏🏼

  • @Justiceone88
    @Justiceone88 4 года назад +5

    Thank you Ryan👍❤️

  • @newheart11
    @newheart11 4 года назад +1

    Love love love! Right on!

  • @dyneryzen
    @dyneryzen 4 года назад +2

    It's at 15k dude lol but yeah thanks for your work!

  • @mechigarcialochocki6025
    @mechigarcialochocki6025 4 года назад +5

    Your channel its soooo different! Thank you ryan 😍
    I have a new theme: from tinder to IG and now... whatsapp! How to talk until the date???

  • @Veganwanderlust
    @Veganwanderlust 4 года назад

    Love all your advices😘

  • @hellocutiepie6229
    @hellocutiepie6229 4 года назад +2

    Hey Ryan! When will you go live ? Waiting impatiently to hear from you.

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад

      In the New Year (realistically, probably mid-Jan)! Still isolating the right balance with schedule, but I think the Live videos will be super fun for all of us and am excited to get those going! 😄

  • @classyconversationswithrho344
    @classyconversationswithrho344 3 года назад

    It is a shame many people play games and take years from another by pretending. That is why your videos are so helpful even at 60 learning is key! Thank you for your videos and the time you take to provide us great advice. Thank you I just found you and viewed several already.

  • @starcharx9139
    @starcharx9139 3 года назад

    hi Ryan love your videos! I was wondering if you have or will create a video based on signs your co-worker is attracted to you? would help out a lot :)

  • @lynettelickley1178
    @lynettelickley1178 4 года назад +1

    That was amazing. Who'd have thunk men enjoy women with these qualities?

  • @dianagamez76
    @dianagamez76 4 года назад +14

    I guess I'm pretty attractive then. However, as attractive as we be it can intimidate a guy therefore he won't pursue us. Men who recognize an attractive woman tend to admire from a far. I can't win.

    • @s.h.3622
      @s.h.3622 4 года назад +1

      You can when your man comes along! Just stay patient and hopeful!

    • @dianagamez76
      @dianagamez76 4 года назад +1

      @@xm377Moyocoyatzin , I don't believe in "perpetually upgrading " which is why being selective is key and as difficult as it may be to believe not all women have that mentality. We are aware that men are not cars. I, like so many women work hard in bettering myself as a person because its a satisfying thing. If you watched the video in its entirety you would see that Ryan covered more than the esthetic beauty of a woman; he said its about attitude and personality. We can work hard at being the best person we can but for some reason men don't approach us, that was my point.

  • @zainabpindar563
    @zainabpindar563 3 года назад

    Thank you everytime I watch Nd hear you I get more wise

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 4 года назад

    great information!!

  • @tatiani6227
    @tatiani6227 4 года назад +14

    Well it's kinda complicate when you don't have so much self steem, your mental health doesn't help at all and even though you try hard, these feelings don't go away, you don't feel good enough for anyone.
    And you blame yourself when your relationships fail .

  • @angelsattachedtoangst7576
    @angelsattachedtoangst7576 4 года назад +1

    You just described me ❤️

  • @applemarcos6261
    @applemarcos6261 4 года назад +3

    Thank you soooo much it made me realized those wrong doings that I've done for my past suitors. I'm really praying that it will sink in my mind because sometimes even if I just saw this person I felt like he's driving me crazy but I don't want ti show it to him. 😔

  • @stefenagraham6152
    @stefenagraham6152 4 года назад +3

    I loooooooove your advice 😍🙏🙌💯✅

  • @bambi0607
    @bambi0607 4 года назад

    Good one 👍🏻

  • @marialuciaompoc4367
    @marialuciaompoc4367 3 года назад

    Make more examples to those qualities that a woman should possess please ?? Thanks Ryan !!! Love your personality !

  • @slimpickens4742
    @slimpickens4742 3 года назад

    Awesome Alert!

  • @lorienymmaglangit9894
    @lorienymmaglangit9894 4 года назад +5

    How about in in long distance relationship ,chatting and seeing videos how he wil be attracted ,please coach Ryan thanks so much

  • @gracedlazydaisy3129
    @gracedlazydaisy3129 4 года назад +1

    Now you at 20k!! :D

  • @lisacox.salontalk254
    @lisacox.salontalk254 3 года назад

    Great video

  • @antoinettefernandes8133
    @antoinettefernandes8133 4 года назад +6

    Can’t wait for something on long distance... Did not imagine long distance can get intense ... I have all this but we are on different continents.. it’s insane ..

    • @mayahnussbaum1259
      @mayahnussbaum1259 4 года назад

      I had one of those once. Then he just like stopped contacting me and wouldn't answer texts. The last thing I sent him was telling him I couldn't take it anymore. Still haven't heard back... that was three months ago.

    • @antoinettefernandes8133
      @antoinettefernandes8133 4 года назад +1

      Crazy..... I truly always go by my gut feelings.. if something does not feel right it normally isn’t... Comes down to knowing your worth as a woman... living a independent life .. No validation needed ...

  • @tamararose2635
    @tamararose2635 3 года назад

    Watching you, great energy and binge watching too! Cute

  • @ginadiaz9037
    @ginadiaz9037 4 года назад

    Also binge watching 👌👌👌

  • @zarazalazar
    @zarazalazar 3 года назад

    You are the best!

  • @EllaMuna.
    @EllaMuna. 3 года назад

    You're at 224k now congratulations

  • @tulipsxw2
    @tulipsxw2 3 года назад +2

    Look, I am here just to confirm whether or not I’ve been doing it all wrong. I am slowly begin to realize that I am just meeting the wrong men and giving them any bit of time. I know who I am and all of my positive attributes and I’m willing to work on all of the negative attributes (if people are just brave enough to tell me constructively). The Universe has just been sending me men who just hasn’t reached that same epiphany and they need a woman like me to guide them, but they’re not yet committed to better themselves along the process. I care, but I am not someone’s mother or a therapist. I don’t get paid to give love and compassion while getting pain and heartbreak back. It’s not worth it.

  • @bethsanford9076
    @bethsanford9076 4 года назад +1

    Wow. All of those things! Not easy to achieve. They all seem like signs of an emotionally grounded, mature, secure woman.

  • @juliapurdy3950
    @juliapurdy3950 3 года назад +9

    Brains. In my experience, men find intelligence in women, by itself highly attractive. Maybe because they're not expecting it? All the traits you listed are traits of an intelligent woman. It doesn't have to be academic intelligence. But intelligence makes any person interesting because you never know what they will say or do and the unpredictability by itself is intriguing. Insecure men will be intimidated, immature men don't have enough experience, and the narcissists will try to destroy you, but real men who know who they are and have depth will be drawn to you, without question.

  • @ScotianLady80
    @ScotianLady80 4 года назад

    Ha! He says he just hit 1K subscibers; as of today there are 135K :) way to go!

  • @franomalley1562
    @franomalley1562 3 года назад

    Excellent.

  • @eyeofthebeholder7936
    @eyeofthebeholder7936 4 года назад

    Great advice!

  • @shannscoching
    @shannscoching 4 года назад +1

    Always awesome! Thanks for the insight!