How “Competitive Banter” Makes People Hate Being Around You
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A few recent Brie Larson interviews have caught the attention of Marvel fans. People have asked if the cast doesn’t get along with Brie, and even as an audience member it’s hard to sit through some of these interviews without cringing.
Today I will talk about what you can learn from these situations, and how to prevent yourself from doing specific behaviour patterns, that can make people dislike you without you even intending or even realizing it.
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0:41 - Issue #1: Reading negative intent in an ambiguous situation.
1:15 - Issue #2: Sarcasm requires a “tell”
4:33 - Issue #3: Don’t jump on every opportunity to call praise or attention to yourself.
7:15 - Issue #4: You should not try to win each moment of banter.
9:53 - Issue #5: Handling a compliment improperly
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I've met people who read an insult into everything. It must be hell living inside their heads.
it is, they need help
What about inside our heads when dealing with someone like that ?
It is, the thing is those people probably had someone who was real close to them who would always criticize them for everything which makes it natural for them to see everything as an attack on them.
Yeah, feminism does that to people.
It could be bc they’ve had so many people give them backhanded compliments in the past. I used to be like Brie, rude defensive and bitchy bc I used to have childhood “friends” that would lowkey mock me so I became tense
*Alternative title for this video:* dude on youtube makes me regret every conversation I've ever had
Then you're such a mess.
(sorry, I had to)
a mess 😂
Here I'm trying to remember every interaction I had in the last party I went to discover how much of a jerk I was 😂
I swear the points about sarcasm and not accepting compliments is me.
(I guess the point about calling attention to myself also works here)
@Gabyo Relatable. XD *laughs and proceeds to ugly cry* :’)
1. Reading negative intent in an ambiguous situation
2. Sarcasm requires a "tell"
3. You should not jump on every opportunity to call praise or attention to yourself
4. You should not try to win every moment of banter
5. Handling a compliment / conflict improperly
Thank you
Those are the points they tried to make. Idk if they all really applied here- I’m not convinced. But it’s great advice all the same 😅
It's really good. Now I can finally articulate why one coworker gets on my nerves sometimes although we get along great, in general. She does #3 quite a lot, turning any casual conversation into a competition. Or if we're in a meeting and the group praises me for something, she immediately tries to turn attention back to herself. Blegh.
Thanks saved me time
In psychiatry we call number 1 'hostile attribution bias'.
I hate how complicated human interaction is.
SAME HERE! I have always been so lost interacting with people.
Life would be kind of boring if it was simple.
@@HankTheTank23 True, it would feel like talking to robots.
@@HankTheTank23 maybe to you but to other people who arent as fortunate as you seem to be it would make gor less painful social interactions.
@@vice2versa I apologize if I came across as being insensitive to those who struggle with social interactions. That was not at all my intention. I enjoy talking to people, but I frequently find myself in situations where I don’t know what to say or do. That’s part of learning, growing up, and what makes life fun. From my perspective, if you could reliably predict exactly how someone would react to everything you said or did, life would be pretty boring. Nothing would be funny, and there would be no such thing as suspense or mystery. There’s a reason why (until perhaps recently with the advent of ChatGPT) automated chat bots have never been a substitute for real human connection and conversation. That’s just my perspective, but I understand where you are coming from.
Feels like Hemsworth tries SO HARD to make it comfortable for everyone and he just can't catch a break.
he's been trying all day and Brie thinks that's an attack, so they fight. she is a sociopath.
Claudio Ortiz are you aware of the definition of “sociopath”?
@@claudioortiz5830 Better term is, toxic. Or combative.
@@br9760 not for me
A point break?
I feel like a sim gaining a charisma skill after watching this
Hahahahahahahah RT
That is literally me
I’m dead !!!!!
Most relatable comment
Bro--- gotta use hacks next time
I know of somebody like Brie. God, it's exhausting and drains my energy just having a conversation with her. I would compliment her works and she is triggered for no apparent reason. As the conversation goes on, it almost feels like I was walking on eggshells. She thinks every single thing I say is like a personal attack on her. I wish to never have any conversations with her anymore. I'm tired.
leave, far away
I know someone like this and she is exhausting too. I have minimized my interactions with her over time. Her insecurities are pretty obvious when you engage her and she comes across like a victim most times. I have complimented her before and she actually negated and shot down the whole compliment. She does exactly what this video suggests NOT to do.
this could be a sign of depression. When I start seeing ill intent in people's comments I know my mental health needs attention
It really is exhausting and its no wonder why her co-stars don't like her. Brie Larson can't handle fame very well and its obvious that she isn't very well socialized.
She reminds me of that female terminator from Sarah Connor Chronicles.
Like, she's been sent back through time to singlehandedly destroy all that was fun...
The older I get, the more grateful I am that I grew up with a family who made sure I knew how to be kind and understanding in all social situations. This video really made me have so much more appreciation for Hemsworth and Pratt because it really highlighted their kindness, even in scenarios when I would had been bothered.
Thank you for the video!
"Be like Chris"
"Evans, Hemsworth or Pratt?"
"Yes."
Or Pine;)
"Chan"
@@megadeth1818 No... Please no. One is enough
Redfield. The biggest Chris.
Benoit?
It's cringy because it's like watching yourself at your worst.
Feels, especially when you watch drunk videos of yourself
me at my worst i'm 10 times better than that overentitled B**** ! ! !
krix pop I would still smash though
@@wtfmario
I don't know mate : to each its own ...
I would run.
The amount of nagging, judgment, etc, from her, would silence even an Apostle of Christ. And really: have you seen her a**, I've heard she used a double for that too , lmao !
She is a very troubled person that will project her insecurities, shortcomings (etc) on the person most close to her (a man, that is) and literally f***up his life.
edit: Stay away from crazy !!!
BeChickaboom YESSS
"If a literal interpretation of your sarcasm would make you look like a jerk, try again" is great advise
I didn't quite understand why everybody didn't like her till watching this, and now it makes SO MUCH SENSE.
For one, her character felt like a token character. Came outta nowhere, and somehow OP than others. And second, her acting felt mediocre at best. Endgame would've been better if they defeated the villain without a "new powerful ally".
Idk much about this lady but just bc said she did her own stunts bc she "thought that's what everyone did", that wasn't praising herself at all. In fact I believe assuming she was gloating is assuming negative intent.
@@nomoskarramin637so u didn't like the movie, so u take it out on the actor? 🤡
Hate tends to make people defensive, which then feeds itself when you're interpreting ambiguous situations in a negative way. Couple with the fact that you have someone (in this case, Don Cheadle) actually being hostile and to her it probably justifies her defensiveness. Then someone like Chris who seemingly has it all is being somewhat patronizing but fairly sincere on the other side. Not defending her actions really, but there are reasons to everything.
@@FreedomAndJustice4All true, but that's what most people are going to conclude since Chris was actively putting himself down to give praise to his stunt doubles, and Brie challenged him on the whole notion.
damn im gonna come out of quarantine with a whole new personality
LOL
@@feedstacker lol you been binge watching Charisma on Command?
as you should
and a pshycology degree
@@liii3622 INDEED HSHHS
Why do I watch these videos as if I'm some kind of alien trying to assimilate into human culture?
LOL
Or an AI trying to understand human kind
So you become a likeable alien
It's to understand psychology in x context
Hello fellow humanoid’s
I think most of us do not do any of things Brie does when we are happy and confident, and in our element. Problems begin when we are anxious and trying to be someone that we aren't.
Good point.
She comes off SO insecure. There's a point where you can be insecure while still being able to interact with others without projecting, however, all she seems to be doing is victimizing herself, and roping others into feeding her insecurity. It's not only her as a person, it comes out in her characters as well, especially Captain Marvel.
She's an Oscar Winner, the only woman leading her own action film making over a billion.... she cleared the mantel very early on. She's not the one whos insecure. what interests me is how depressing is it to live in a world were the so called men in our society get hurt so deeply by Brie Larson's words that one time, and continue to this day bitching and moaning about it..... here it is, the men crisis; bitching about this to no end. A real man wouldn't care....this video and the response to it perfectly captures my point.
@@aishaalamoudi599hold this L
@@aishaalamoudi599 What?? Are we watching the same video? I like almost everyone at first but she is unfortunately very off putting.
@@aishaalamoudi599nah she's terrible 😅
@@aishaalamoudi599Come on she’s just doing too much. There’s thousands of leading ladies who are extremely charismatic
Constantly redirecting the conversation on yourself makes people not want to talk to you.
I knew a guy that had an anecdote for fuckkking eveerrryytthingggg. Always had to have a fucking story, jesus.
Fr
I want this quote as wall decor at my house
i’m not gonna say any names but meghan mccain knows who she is
OMG THISS
I feel really bad for chris h. in that interview because you can tell how he's trying to telepathically tell brie to calm down but she doesn't get it
edit: this is the most likes ive ever gotten on a comment omds-
Exactly. He's like 'Girl, for your own good, STOP'
Titi Hilda I'm the 666th liker, hail satan
bAkA Congrats dude! I saw the 666 likes :D
What if she telepathically got it and just didn't want to.. who knows what went on between those two before..
@@frederickrueger7861 she became a feminist that happened
So happy I found this channel. One of the things that truly separates successful people from non successful people is all about social interactions. The master of social interaction will advance above more qualified people every time.
Sadly, that's true.
this is only true when everyone is in the same social class
I respect your opinion but, out of curiosity, why is that fact SAD to you?
@@Rog.Tiks._If you have a stroke, do you want to be attended by the doc who can make the boss chuckle, or the one who was top of his Harvard med class?
Definitely not always true. This is also a very abliest way to look at this. People who are neurodivergent (autism especially) are usually VERY bad at reading social cues but people with autism can still be successful. You don’t have to be charismatic to be successful
Simply put, don't let your emotions take over everytime, learn to sit back and enjoy the show until it's your time to perform, clap for others and clap for yourself.
It's called passive aggression .
@@JimDandy-rn4vd thnx man didn't know that, vocab updated
@@jollypoco2899 You be welcome
Brie Larson when someone asks for an autograph:
Do you want to fake my signature or something?
Jajajaja
Omg😂😂
😂
Laura Durango hahaha nice one
Haha
The whole interaction with Chris Hemsworth about stunts and strength is so cringey.
Feminism ruins women
I just recently read this online: Because I‘m a feminist, people often ask me, if I hate men and I answer that it’s the opposite - because I‘m a feminist men hate me ^^
@@WhatJuliaLoves Well, if man(in general)hate feminism there is a reason why, its a good idea to try to understand our side as well. Maybe man hate feminism because the movement dont care about man and only wants to put women on top of us and not on the same level.
@@WhatJuliaLoves If you're not a nagging, insufferable man-hating feminist then it's fine but if you're the kind like Brie where you read offense into everything and project your gaping inferiority complex into all aspects of life, yeah I probably would hate you.
B 27
Emoji man bad.
I'd say that she is deeply insecure. The reason she did so well with Craig's interviews, I think, is because he is so charismatic himself and was always charming to his guests. His aim i think was to make them feel as comfortable and secure as possible, relaxing them and getting them to drop their defences, buttering them up a bit, thus getting the very best interviews out of them. It really shows in his awesome interview with Harrison Ford.
People come here to learn about Charisma. Instead this video is so hateful, it is just plain hypocritical. Charismatic people don't put down the personalities or awkward moments of other people. That is just being a mean person. The male actors are all lauded for their wonderful personalities, while the flagrant on-air hostility by Marvel actor Don Cheadle toward Brie Larson is ignored. Instead, you target Brie Larson mercilessly, despite the fact that she never does anything horribly wrong. Something is really off here. It is obvious to me that you (and many of your readers) hate women. You need to stop bragging about your massive support garnered by this video and try to fix the harm you have done
brie larson stunts interview before chris hemsworth...No, it really all came out of ignorance, to be honest. I didn’t realize that you don’t actually do your own, most people don’t do their own stunts in these movies. I thought you did, and I’ve never been a particularly elegant or athletic person. I’m just an introvert with asthma and felt like I needed to be able to do that. I just thought, “I don’t wanna be on set, and they ask me to do things, and I don’t know how to do it.”
So I started training as soon as I could, which was right after I wrapped, so it basically started right as I wrapped picture, I locked picture on the film that I directed. I then went into that, which then turned into nine months of training. And nine months of just training-training, and three months of stunt training with the stunt team. We spent two hours every day, five days a week.
And it wasn’t until … everyone just went along with it, and was like, “Cool.” It wasn’t until we started shooting, and I started doing all my own wire work stunts, and flips and stuff that people were like, “You know nobody, now we’ll tell you, nobody actually does this. We just didn’t want you to stop. But now that you’ve kind of accomplished this thing, we don’t normally do this.” And I was like, huh?
I've noticed this channel only talks about how men have charisma, i mean use women's example too? You mostly show bad examples of them. And why tf is everything supposed to be about how to become a chick magnet? In this vid, unfortunately Chris hemsworth was in the wrong, not brie as much. He interrupts her as she tries to complete what she wanted to say and then insults her…pretty biased of you
@@mikerandom1959 she's a c..t🤣😅😆😂
@@mikerandom1959 lol
This is why it's so important to understand that someone's perception of you is a reflection of them. Someone that chooses not to like you is the same thing as someone thinking they are better than you. That person probably has little to no self awareness, and will go through their life believing that they don't have any flaws. Which ultimately means they will go thorough life not understanding that they are self sabotaging all of their relationships. And instead of considering that they are part of their own misery, they will consistently place all of the blame for their own failures on other people.
this comment is a hot-take meta response lmao. it's not only a criticism of the actress, but it's a criticism of the public response to her, the interviews after the fact, this RUclips video itself ("5 Awful Habits That Make People Think You’re Low Status"... bruh), and all the commenters who are convinced they're "higher status" - well done 👍
Good point. That is a great description. I think this can be seen as being insecure, delusional and denying/projecting your (usually negative) feelings to others. Reminds me a lot of emotionally immature / narcissistic people which are often feeling insecure but want to hide it.
This perfectly describes the vulnerable narcissist (as opposed to the other type, the grandiose narcissist)- it's the eternal journey to victimhood.
Nothing, I mean NOTHING is ever their fault even though they self-sabotoge their entire life in every aspect either through inaction or action.
Another really obvious thing they all do is project something they are doing as they accuse you or some glaring character flaw they have. For example, if they are demanding something (money, a favor, stuff) and you refuse, they will to accuse you of being selfish. It's such a cliche that it's like that Reddit list of phrases a cheater uses when caught.
These folks are often twice, thrice divorced and all their exes are "crazy' and/or "evil". It never occurs to them that the common denominator in all of the failed marriages was them.
They also have burned every conceivable bridge on their personal life with friends and family and end up alone and bitter because "everyone has abandoned them" (it never occurs to them why- even though they have been told over and over again why). This is why it's a red flag when you meet a seemingly nice and normal person who offhandedly (and sometimes repeatedly) mentions that everyone always leaves them/all their friends left.
✅ Low contact/no contact adult kids.
✅No friends.
✅Colleagues who despise and tolerate them.
✅Unfortunate subordinates that acquire a life-time of trauma from them.
✅Neighbors that barely tolerate them due to them using the local police to intimidate/harass/control.
They often are the fuel of juicy gossip of the "nasty old man" or "crazy old lady" of the neighborhood in their old age.
They tend (not always, but there is a pattern) to become hoarders (junk and/or animals)- this is due to their perceived abandonment issues. They die alone, surrounded by piles of crap, and their family reluctantly deals with their funeral/possessions/residence.
The faux superiority always baffles me. One thing I do is when they are on a roll, I ask them where and who gave them their sense of superiority. I repeat it in honest bafflement. And then if they have an answer (they always do), have them break down what EXACTLY they have accomplished (not not accidental birth to the right race, class, genetic appearance, region, culture). It's always nothing. This shakes them up and they get really, REALLY defensive.
This makes them hate you but you lose nothing here. Sleep easy.
Lol, no it's that brie is unlikeable because of her attitude, it is not a reflection of the ppl disliking her at all.
Thanks now im gonna overthink every social interaction I have even more
balighy IKR?! I often overthink my overthinking 😳
just always think that people you interact with like you so you won't go defensive and the assholes will expose themselves soon enough anyways
@@richardbottom9843 That's actually a really good tip, dude.
no need for that
Never think, go with the flow, you'll learn from your faillures
Don Cheadle is just sitting there like "please end this I just wanna go home"
Priyank Bhatia lmao and their characters are supposed to get all lovey dovey pretty soon
Lol
@@kaligisee ifkr😂
Imagine when they have to kiss? Imagine the passion that will go into it 😂
After doing like 62362783624 interviews, of course he is, who wouldn't?
I dropped sarcasm completely from my communications with others, even though I mentally still think of sarcastic things. Nothing positive comes from sarcasm and it is too easily identified as just "meanness".
This seems like a list of manners/politeness/etiquette that most kids (should) get from their parents, but maybe not everyone gets the same set of instructions. Glad this video is here to fill in those gaps.
I think in modern times there is often not enough time spend together between child and parent. Both parents work and it could be long hours just to get by (that can be the fault of the workplace not paying enough or demanding overtime), in addition children go to kindergarten as toddlers, and then spend a lot of time at school when they get a bit older (education is important, but many things about it could improve), and when kids get home they have to do homework. And the parents may be too exhausted from work in the short time they spend at home. Modern technology also worsens the problem, its easy to just give the kids a smartphone or similar to play on and not give them much direct attention. Kids getting addicted to that technology only worsens the problem again.
The way Chris Hemsworth moves his head around in disagreement was honestly the funniest thing I’ll see all week
That is an bold statment. Its only monday
i know right. That was so funny. He honestly is my favorite lmao
He’s naturally funny as hell.
Always timestamp!
@@tjw937 @7:35
*gets this in my recommendations*
Me: Is this like, a personal attack or something?
@decembrist Yes!!! 😂😂
😄
I got this video & one almost identical under it😂 I felt kinda attacked but with my yt history...I understand 😭.
"Karen thinks you'd like this"
that made me actually lol
One thing I've noticed about popular, successful people is that they rarely if ever seem to be triggered in public anyway. My guess is they either had stable, loving childhoods or have done trauma work. If you have unresolved trauma certain social things can be massively distressing and will trigger a trauma response, which most people won't understand and will interpret negatively. Brie seems either triggered from past put downs/abuse/bullying or she's trying to be funny and it's falling flat.
Yep!
This hits different 💀
Some of them are trained to deal with it, depending on the profession. Also another way to look at it is maybe some of them are successful and popular BECAUSE they don't get triggered.
be yourself. trying to be anything else is usually a fail. some people are over the top, some people are shy. love people for how unique they are.
How if people don’t like you when you are yourself
This was actually really insightful, and made me recognize why some social interactions I've been in felt off or awkward
CalsZonee Yes! Undeniably, we’ve committed a lot of these ‘don’ts’ so we should all aim to do better
Truuuuuuueeee
CalsZonee Tienes razón...
Big words
One or two of these are still risk zones for me, the rest, I've... gotten better with, I think, but would _really_ have benefitted from learning about at a younger age. Just... all of the things, y'know? A lot of them come naturally until we realize they aren't helpful, give a bad impression, don't convey what we want to. Good food for thought.
when you're taking negative intent from a question as simple as "are you left-handed" then you need to reassess how you perceive people's intent.
Yes, but that can also be a manipulation depending on the context and maybe what seems ambivalent to the observer is an attack upon a person based on previous engagements that the observer may not be privy to... sociopathic manipulators love to do that kind of thing.
@@OfftoShambala Not sure how you can manipulate someone over something as simple as asking "are you left-handed", I mean the context HERE is a yes or no question. It's not really anything philosophical or deep, it really was just a yes or no response.
It's like being asked "would you like some water" and the response given is "Are you going to waterboard me?!". It's extreme, but still a huge leap in logic just like what Brie did here.
The point was she was being sarcastic at that part and joking
@@theheavenlyfb4071 see how well that sort of thing would work now?
@@OfftoShambala my stance on the matter hasn't changed
I I could could time travel back 50 years I’d take this video back with me. Such great insights for self improvement.Much thanks.
I’m not good at aspects of my job, and yet I keep advancing and the higher ups tell me how much they like me and how well I get along with my supervisors and peers.
Honestly, as a blind person, I cannot over emphasize the importance of the tone of a person's voice. With the first point, the third clip is the only one I was able to tell was sarcastic because with the other two, the delivery was so flat.
That is really good input
Sabrina Zarogoza wow.. this is the first time I’ve ever encountered a blind person in the RUclips comment section!
If you don't mind me asking, how did you type this as a blind person?
Precious Sketches maybe he or she is using one of those “text-to-speech” accommodations on their phone, where a synthetic voice reads out different pieces of text on their screen and converts it into an auditory message that they can understand.
You can’t exactly convert a RUclips comment to Braille lol
How’d you watch this
She was straight up rude in the interview with Chris hemsworth
lol shes rude period.... even war machine dislikes her
I liked her in Scott Pilgrim, but her takes and composure seem really off since she got with Marvel. Perhaps she was hired as a sort tool for Marvel to show they empower women too? Idk if that's even plausible.
Can marvel just replace brie Larson. I just think she causes too much drama. I would be better and most people wouldn't mind the change(If they even notice lol)
Pobrecita maybe she wants to stand out in this sea of famous people by playing quirky but she comes off as too serious and high strung...
I agree with you. I think just because Marvel chose her to represent women's power, she thinks she's special or something. Hemsworth was trying to rescue the interview, but she's just too good at destroying it
Social grace often competes with truth ... And folks may find themselves in a dilemma as to which is their higher calling.
The blended situation of presenting herself , both, as she is , and yet still being on a stage at the same time may be awkward.
To find out how any of these folks are , is a thing which really needs to be seen in person off screen.
What a great way to explain it.
I appreciate this. I was in a sticky situation at work (that didn’t involve me) where I thought a male coworker was being rude to a female coworker. She had voiced her displeasure at his remarks. I thought he was harassing her. Turned out the real dynamic between them was totally different. Who knew. It’s all about context apparently?
Slow your role, Cap't Save-a-Hoe.
Stop simping, nerd. You might just save yourself a beating.
Brie sounds like she is always on defense mode.
Famous rich feminist actor. The title explains it all
True
TRUE
@@chunkbaby7544 EVEN TRUER
Yeah true..maybe she grew up in codependency with borderline parents wich makes her defende her self all the time even now idk its hard to be around people that takes everything so personal!
When Brie brings up doing her own stunts, Hemsworth goes “ehhh okay” as if he senses the inevitable crap storm like a farmer senses rain
I really felt that it wasn't the situation to bring up that context.
I think anybody's reaction would be like ' jeeez okay there lady'
Uh she doesn't do her own stunts.
I would like your comment but you currently have 666 likes. Hail Satan...
5:44
These videos are incredibly useful. This helps people who never get to practice their social skilss
What works for me is flat delivery with a smile at the end. People look over at me with confusion because I'm not sarcastic often, then they see the smile on my face and laugh.
The best thing about Chris Hemsworth is that he isn't even mad that Brie is attacking him, he only gets mad when she attacks other people
He's such a good man
God of Thunder
Brie wasn't attacking Chris lol. Do you Americans not know what banter is?
@@lindai6988 most don't, they get offended over everything
Darth Vader it seems so
I always felt like people were overblowing things a bit, but that interview with Hemsworth is... wow.
He's a pretty chill guy too, if he doesn't like her something is definitely up..
The one with Jeremy Renner is even worse. He really looks like he can't stand Brie.
Yeah Hemsworth is the most easygoing guy to hang out with and if he feels uncomfortable then things are really not ok right there. But Brie was great back time, I wonder what changed her of being so offensive about every statement toward to her. It’s really cringy to watch her talking😕
Neo L Probably once she got her Oscar
@@iw6957 the sjw rhetoric I'd guess. I have experienced some of my formerly lovely ex aquaintances flip their personality after being exposed to the talking points and identifying with the ideology I'm guessing? Then it becomes a game of gaining acceptance from the, erm, "community", and by the time you realize you're in the race for the oppression Olympics well, it's already too late
I've done this as far as being completely sarcastic and playing it straight. People give you that look and it can be damaging around people who don't know.
This is EXCELLENT. Wow I love this. Such a powerful analysis and clever. And not over judgy, just good.
The titles look like clickbait, but they aren’t
What sorcery is this
Carazy123 m a g i c
This is Clickbait,but its the good clickbait cuz it delivers
That's what I appreciate about the channel, it feels like he actually cares y'know!
I know right haha
"is that like a personal attack or something?"
Distinguishing sarcasm and seriousness as a brit
You just gotta add “mate” in the sentence
Worse advice ever 😂
if you talk to a Brit and they use really strong slang they are mostly joking
Greg The Fishburger hypothetically speaking that is
I'm a brit with international colleagues, they just say they assume everything being said has a double meaning.
Plenty of times I use mate when I'm being serious to someone
Reading positive intent in an ambiguous situation - Sarcasm requires a 'tell- You should not call into every opportunity to draw attention to yourself - You should not try to win over each moment or banter - Handling a complement (with humor), playfully with humor. Sincere thanking the other person ❤
brie larson stunts interview before chris hemsworth...No, it really all came out of ignorance, to be honest. I didn’t realize that you don’t actually do your own, most people don’t do their own stunts in these movies. I thought you did, and I’ve never been a particularly elegant or athletic person. I’m just an introvert with asthma and felt like I needed to be able to do that. I just thought, “I don’t wanna be on set, and they ask me to do things, and I don’t know how to do it.”
So I started training as soon as I could, which was right after I wrapped, so it basically started right as I wrapped picture, I locked picture on the film that I directed. I then went into that, which then turned into nine months of training. And nine months of just training-training, and three months of stunt training with the stunt team. We spent two hours every day, five days a week.
And it wasn’t until … everyone just went along with it, and was like, “Cool.” It wasn’t until we started shooting, and I started doing all my own wire work stunts, and flips and stuff that people were like, “You know nobody, now we’ll tell you, nobody actually does this. We just didn’t want you to stop. But now that you’ve kind of accomplished this thing, we don’t normally do this.” And I was like, huh?
People come here to learn about Charisma. Instead this video is so hateful, it is just plain hypocritical. Charismatic people don't put down the personalities or awkward moments of other people. That is just being a mean person. The male actors are all lauded for their wonderful personalities, while the flagrant on-air hostility by Marvel actor Don Cheadle toward Brie Larson is ignored. Instead, you target Brie Larson mercilessly, despite the fact that she never does anything horribly wrong. Something is really off here. It is obvious to me that you (and many of your readers) hate women. You need to stop bragging about your massive support garnered by this video and try to fix the harm you have done
People come here to learn about Charisma. Instead this video is so hateful, it is just plain hypocritical. Charismatic people don't put down the personalities or awkward moments of other people. That is just being a mean person. The male actors are all lauded for their wonderful personalities, while the flagrant on-air hostility by Marvel actor Don Cheadle toward Brie Larson is ignored. Instead, you target Brie Larson mercilessly, despite the fact that she never does anything horribly wrong. Something is really off here. It is obvious to me that you (and many of your readers) hate women. You need to stop bragging about your massive support garnered by this video and try to fix the harm you have done
brie larson stunts interview before chris hemsworth...No, it really all came out of ignorance, to be honest. I didn’t realize that you don’t actually do your own, most people don’t do their own stunts in these movies. I thought you did, and I’ve never been a particularly elegant or athletic person. I’m just an introvert with asthma and felt like I needed to be able to do that. I just thought, “I don’t wanna be on set, and they ask me to do things, and I don’t know how to do it.”
So I started training as soon as I could, which was right after I wrapped, so it basically started right as I wrapped picture, I locked picture on the film that I directed. I then went into that, which then turned into nine months of training. And nine months of just training-training, and three months of stunt training with the stunt team. We spent two hours every day, five days a week.
And it wasn’t until … everyone just went along with it, and was like, “Cool.” It wasn’t until we started shooting, and I started doing all my own wire work stunts, and flips and stuff that people were like, “You know nobody, now we’ll tell you, nobody actually does this. We just didn’t want you to stop. But now that you’ve kind of accomplished this thing, we don’t normally do this.” And I was like, huh?
When you are comfortable with yourself, it comes across in all sorts of situations, even uncomfortable ones. When you're not, that's every bit as obvious.
As a person with asperger, this channel is really helping me a lot to understand people
I was thinking similarly.
I Dino was gonna look for aspie comment and its right at second
Thats great to hear, i used to have severe aspergers as well, but i like to believe the internet, my therapy and smoking dope (yeah... Not recommended though i got addicted) made me able to understand how others feel alot better and i am now able to show empathy to people in a manner i could never have before, probably because of the way people can express themselves with freedom on the internet. I _almost_ feel normal.
THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. I... THIS. I just IMMEDIATELY tagged this as "FOR MY FELLOW AUTISTIC FOLK"
same here lol
There's always that one person in class like Brie
ikr!
If there's none, it could be you :v
I think thats me
@@c3ntravaswani427 sme
@@vyngo7825 boom!
Having a conversation after watching these videos feels like a chess game 😂
It’s not it’s just you overthinking it. 1. Someone comments you negative way then respond positive 2. Stay humble by making a joke about yourself at times. 3. Don’t take things too serious
I’ve never followed any of these people so the background with Marvel and how she may be feeling from those movies is interesting. Without that context my initial reaction or assumption would be that she and Chris had a thing going that ended badly where she now feels hurt, insecure or wronged in some way.
The sad thing is that you can actually see how insecure she feels the whole time... otherwise, there would be no need for all of those weird actions. Hope that she can grow comfortable into her own skin, I'm sure that she can be great if she deactivates her defensive mode!
Yeah, I feel like she’s just masking her insecurities in this whole “I’m so confident and amazing” act. I really hope she finds out who she is instead of faking it :,((
Shes just self absorbed
@@randybobandy678 she's really not, she said herself that she has a lot of anxiety all the time and is really socially awkward and you can definitely see that
Hey You a public figure will be judged regardless.
Overlord Supreme so public figures aren’t people too?
She protecc
She attacc
But most importantly
She thinks it's a personal attacc
😂
I appreciate this XD
@The Name Is Evian Heyy ✋can u pls reply dat why she is hated so much as captain marvel? ( she is strongest avenger) 【because I dont know much abt marvel】
@@rithikachhetri9638 I'm sorry, I kind of had a stroke reading that. Are you asking about why people don't like her as Captain Marvel or how people just dont like her?
She protecc
She atacc
But most importantly
She catch lots of flacc
Her hostile/negative internal dialog comes thru in the movie(s) also. Its interesting.
Reading positive intent into ambiguous situations is a superpower. Also, if someone is trying to cut you on the sly, taking it positively just pisses them off more. WINNING!
As for praise. ALWAYS praise others! Believe me folks know your role. But if you constantly spread the praise to subordinates, peers, and superiors, you will be thought of highly by all.
Great video! Subscribed thanks.
hollywood actor John Goodman does have one good friend who happens to be a newly minted Oscar winner: Brie Larson. "I love her. She is so charismatic. She would organize - she was like the only girl there, on set... every weekend she would organize stuff to do for people," he said of his Kong: Skull Island costar. "We'd go look at kangaroos and she'd organize a trip to an amusement park after they closed. Just stuff for people to do. Because she's over-sensitive about people getting nervous and angry and on each other's nerves. She's incredible."
Watching these videos always reminds me how hard social life is
i can barely talk to other people
@@prostatitiscpps7962 at least we can analyse others with this knowledge......
I have found (being an introvert that's pretty good at playing at extroversion/ being sociable) that being good at and willing to listen to other people is far and away the best and most vital social skill you'll ever need. Most of the time, people (who talk) just want/need to talk about their problems and interests anyway, and even providing them just a few crumbs of acknowledgment is enough to let them continue on and feel engaged. People who don't talk a lot might see or sense you have a willingness to listen and may open up to you in the right time & place. If you're a talker/ extrovert, you'll probably get along with other extroverts naturally unless you're _rude_ and *never listen* to others. Always provide others with time to voice their own thoughts and try not to dominate the conversation. If speaking to an introvert - asking them questions can give them opportunity to speak (we have lots of thoughts but often lack the courage or social timing to voice them, esp in large groups) but never single an introvert out to ask anything really 'big' or divisive in front of a large group - that's the fastest way to stress out and shut down an introvert, and they're likely to try and escape the situation asap.
only of you're a douche
I remember that everytime I go outside...
I think she has low self-esteem and may feel like everyone is always attacking her. Her responses definitely seem defensive.
Never speak to me again on the Paris consulship AS LONG AS YOU LIVE
I’m sure it also comes from years of acting a facing constant criticism weather it’s your looks, what you where, what your opinions are. If people are always judging you it’s easy to understand how someone could develop poor self esteem
I think she let that "women are oppressed" stuff enter her head. This kind of thing makes one very defensive.
Jordan Peterson has addressed multiple times that there is no such thing as self-esteem. It's something particular that she isn't happy about that she takes everywhere, whether it be a thought or a physical/emotional insecurity.
Especially since everyone always is attacking her
I always assumed Brie had been sarcastic and joking in all these interviews because I have the same sense of humor as hers. I was really surprised when people viewed it maliciously. It's the same way I'm sarcastic to an extent where you're just saying silly over the top things. It was a technique to make an uncomfortable situation more comfortable. But I used to make people feel awkward as well not realizing they weren't picking up on my jokes. I've since realized this and only go to this level of sarcasm with people I'm comfortable and closer with. People are more likely to assume negative intent with sarcasm even if you never mean it that way.
i mean i’m one of the most sarcastic people and i could hardly tell if she was being serious or not because her tone not body language doesn’t change which is the point of sarcasm😭 otherwise u get someone who seems defensive
I think it's the delivery of the sarcastic joke. I have the same problem. I have a personality that comes off as serious or quiet, and this bleeds into my sarcasm as well. it all really depends on what people already think of you.
It’s not a sense of humor. It’s being unpleasant
Personally I find sarcasm the funnier, the more serious the delivery is. Making it obvious, makes it to shallow for me.
Same... I thought that was the point of sarcasm. I also thought the example of "good" sarcasm with the eye squint was much more serious and I thought she was genuinely offended saying "thats my family".
I would like a breakdown of that interview with Russel Brand and how to read positive intent into an ambiguous situation!
Same
i love how Chris was trying to save Brie from going down that path but Brie just won't get the hints, and continued on just to win an argument.
Ed Potter Don Cheadle was also next to her, trying to remedy the situation.
I feel like with her below sub-par acting, her sucky emotional range, and the fact that she can't pick up on any context clues at all, she might be somewhat sociopathic.
@@ultrabigfella she's a narcissist. She probably wasn't before but there's a lot of signs to it now. Fame can do that.
@@ultrabigfella I know this is totally off topic but how do I apply to your sanctuary?
@@adumdumdum It's a sanctuary made just for you, No.😂
The worst part is that Chris gives her so many opportunities to correct herself and she fails to grab hold of any of them
It's strange that she's struggling with stuff like this, because in the movies I think she is playing her part really well. So she clearly knows how to act, hmmm
@@ImDrizzt maybe she doesn't know how to REact
It's like throwing an olive branch into a fire.
Agreed. It was very noticeable.
@@ImDrizzt what part has she ever played well, in your opinion?
Just be yourself and if people take it the wrong way then it is their problem.
This is when someone asks you a question and instead of answering, you pause and you try to figure out their angle for asking and then answer the question with an assuming, premised accusatory question.
Usually that response as a question indicates something that you are well aware to be true about yourself or an act that you actually did against that person, but you state it as if you're implying that person is accusing you of what you bring up.
The incredibly stark contrast between her old interviews and her more recent ones is astonishing. Like watching two different people.
Possibly something psychologically bad happened to her. She seems defensive, rather than rude. People accuse her of not being able to read situations, whilst it is them who cannot read her
@@AutumnSoldier413 Her PR didn't do a good job on that then.
rotaryfreak3 fame can do that
it's almost as if people change as they age.
I'm not sure if the format of the interview had anything to do with it. Talk shows are usually scripted or at least the guests know beforehand what to talk about, whereas film interviews are, to my knowledge, unscripted.
But yeah, she is definitely different.
Thor Odinson: I like this one
Chris Hemsworth: I don't like this one
I was thinking the same 😂
Sid Patil he was?
Damn shit just got real.
Noobmaster69 no
So literally in point 😆 I mean I feel bad fir her in a way but so on point 😁
I feel like sometimes this comes down to the issue of “[insert character] Starring as The Rock” Syndrome, where the given actor struggles to create a unique personality for their character. The Rock himself can be hilarious outside of that of course, but sometimes this can extend beyond the acting position into a difficulty creating the “shift” in presentation and energy that usually accompanies dry humor like sarcasm.
For example, Robert Downey Jr. keeps his sarcasm subtle, but there’s always a change in his body language before he launches into “I have the Avengers logo in my office” that tells you he’s gonna pull shenanigans. In the bit where he didn’t invite Jimmy Fallon to his birthday party, when Jimmy sets the scene for him to drop a joke, Downey makes a face at camera that clearly broadcasts “welllll ya see,” as the prelude to his blunt admission that he didn’t invite him.
So the two parts of body language and tone shift are very useful for conveying sarcasm; one can be enough but only if you’re really good at it. Brie nailed the tone-shift in that earlier interview, but didn’t have body language or a tone shift in the Google Search interview.
If you look for bad intentions you will find things that make it appear as if there are bad intentions everywhere, it will poison every interaction and situation in life.
Assume good intention, protect incase it is actually bad
Brie seems like a COMPLETELY different person in that older interview than in everything post-Marvel.
Something must have happened to her between those two interviews
Some people change for the worse when they get rich and famous.
@@AlphaLuna Great way to cast assumptions and judgment without knowing anything at all. For all we know she was assaulted and it unnerved her forever, or she lost someone that was her rock or she began having mental health problems due to people making grandstanding statements about her. Who knows? That's why we shouldn't speculate and say things about people we don't know.
@@AlphaLuna Sometimes the internet attacks you like a pack of wild dogs
@@free22 Feminism happened
Don Cheadle’s face during the interview is hilarious. He just looks like he’s had enough of it all.
He did! I was laughing when he said “I told you not to touch it”.
Well, maybe he read comics and is scared thinking he will have to play love interest to Captain Marvel in upcoming movies, and that might be awkward if they didn't get along, lol.
YES PLEASE BREAK DOWN RUSSEL BRAND
He always looks like that.
Or maybe ... hear me out ... he was going along with the meme and pretending to hate her . So that way bored shit talkers and trolls watch the video .
I love your videos man. Very educational. Thank you!
I find the fifth point especially interesting from a cultural perspective. In some cultures people tend not to accept compliments because they are educated to “stay humble” or even to deny compliments. A typical (yet unfortunate) example is when someone praises a child for his/her academic achievements, parents brush it off as the child “just being lucky”
The example in the video isn't her downplaying a compliment, though; it's her using it as another opportunity to keep the "fight" with Chris going. She says "that's really nice, I'm still stronger than you though." If she had said "that's really nice, but I think you're exaggerating" or something like your example, it would have read completely differently.
Random guy: You're breathtaking!
Keanu Reeves: No, YOU are breathtaking!
Brie Larson: "No I'm breathtaking."
@@legg8866 Lol that killed me
@@legg8866 Me: "No you're not! 🙃"
@@legg8866 The Senate will decide your fate
I like how this is barely related to the vid and still manages to get 1k likes lol
Google: Would Brie Larson workout?
Brie : *So you have chosen death*
😂 It is a weird way to word the question, but obviously not meant to be offensive. I really hope she was joking because I loved her in Scott Pilgrim vs The World.
@@lizipearlvlogs I'm pretty sure she was
Right on. Thanks for sharing.
Oh my gosh. Where were you before I developed all my terrible habits?! You are SO RIGHT! I can do better now for the rest of my life after watching your channel! ❤
Just reminding you to check on it again(like myself)
Don Cheadle looks so uncomfortable during the Brie and Chris exchanges.
You need to look trough Jeremy Renner's interview. The poor guy could barely stay alive trough the interview
he literally tweeted to defend her
he called out people who thought he looked uncomfortable and from a direct quote said they were ‘children’ for trying to find fault where there isn’t any
Don Cheadle always looks uncomfortable
Is that a personal attack or something?
As a person with Aspergers who doesn't know how to converse. I think this channel is really helpful.
Watch some situational comedies, note why you find some stuff funny and that will stick with you in the future you may find something like that funny or even crack a joke! Be chill you can be a lot of things you don’t need to be funny too find your strength
ayy my brother has aspergers too, gonna send this to him
My husband has Aspergers and I have BPD see a lot of these traits in both of us, I'm going to show him this video as well.
Alex Haven Blackburn “conversate” is not actually a word....
@@calisongbird True. It's "Converse", but everyone hates the grammar police, so...
I just discoverd your channel! Great work, man :)
Positive vs Negatice intent when viewing/receiving the universe. In otherwords -- interpretation.
Hemsworth and Cheadle looked uncomfortable the whole interview. So different with his old interviews with Evans or other casts
Everyone looks uncomfortable when paired with Brie... Have you seen the interview with her and Jeremy Renner? Soooo cringy and awkward
i ruined the 69 likes, heHe.
What is that an attack or something?
Nobody: ...
Literally no one: ...
Not a single soul: ...
Brie: iS tHiS A pErsOnAl aTtAcK?!? 🙄😒😂
@@deannatracey4823 yes I have..😂
Compared with Karen Gillan, as the female and a newbie in Chris Evans and Mark Ruffalo's interview team, I think Karen is much better in "blending" with the other Avengers than Brie.
In England, just assume every statement is sarcasm
Perhaps you ought to take the plank out of your own eye before looking in mine
@@BitcoinMotorist I don’t know what that meant, but I’m assuming it was sarcasm
If you've typed that commend directly from England I know what to do now.
@@Leto85 lol
You have some england-y name so i must take your comment as a sarcasm, so that means every statement made by englishman are actually literal.
Brilliant video, please more of this
I think it really just comes down to tone and body language. If she said all these same things in a certain tone it would be likeable and make her appear strong.
I think she’s a bit insecure which makes her defensive
@@asimhussain8716 yeah, I mean I couldn't believe she is the same person
I'm a very insecure person as I have ADHD and bad self-image, but I don't act like her, I instead always use humour and sarcasm to defuse any situation, it works all the time. Until people want me to be serious, at that point I just lock off and stay silent.
Will H idk because I do this and people take it as an opportunity to make fun of me and AGREE with me. This always made my insecurity 1000x worse because it was like everyone was confirming what I was already thinking
@@stopbeinginsecure4786 I know how you feel, thankfully I kept my circle of friends close and low overall maintenance, nothing to prove. Have 5-6 friends I've known since grade 7, it is hard sometimes for people like us but we'll get through it eventually..... hopefully.
I don't think she's insecure. 😏
i feel like she was bullied or something when she was younger as she’s clearly extremely defensive. maybe it triggers something in her where she thinks everyone is being horrible-just a thought.
Or she could be an introvert, a lot of introverts have this problem
Yea, so why hate her
I do so too and as someone who did go through bullying and have seen what bullying does to people, I know this type of behavior is not so uncommon among those who were bullied
yeah, you'd just wish she could be a little more like she was in the Craig Ferguson interviews, where she seemed much more charismatic and likeable
Yea I struggle with being defensive too. I think it’s bc my mom used to be verbally abusive and I used to be bullied in high school. I always wonder why I feel the need to stand up for myself at every sharp joke. I’ve been working on being humble and laughing at myself but it’s so hard bc it makes me feel like I’m just getting bullied by everyone around me and I’m just rolling over
Good info well delivered, just subbed Thansk you
I feel like this a lot, I have a deep sense of not fitting in anywhere & often misinterpret things, then over think them... I am working on that in therapy but I was emotionally neglected and abused as a kid, I feel like I don't matter and you do develop a sense of entitlement as your needs not getting met. I had a chaotic attachment growing up.
John Goodman does have one good friend who happens to be a newly minted Oscar winner: Brie Larson. "I love her. She is so charismatic. She would organize - she was like the only girl there, on set... every weekend she would organize stuff to do for people," he said of his Kong: Skull Island costar. "We'd go look at kangaroos and she'd organize a trip to an amusement park after they closed. Just stuff for people to do. Because she's over-sensitive about people getting nervous and angry and on each other's nerves. She's incredible."
Yeah, get roommate. Best thing ever happen is to get 2bdr condo/apartment n find roommates. U learn a LOT about genuine ppl n a LOT about fake “smart “ roommates, n slowly u d see everyone has flaws, what we see at work, party/dates all mask. In realize life that we are JUST normally “imperfect” like everyone else. I lived independently for 5 yrs before moving in with someone….i had 20 roommates, short term, mid term long term. Best learning experience ever. Some annoying as hell, some re smart wild party ppl, then flip into very wise relaxed humble girls …it’s crazy.
The positive intent part instantly reminded me of Jack sparrow when he gets called the worst pirate and comes back with but you've heard of me
One of the most memorable moments of the franchise.
Oh my God. That's actually a perfect example
"Burr, you disgust me--"
"Ah so you've discussed me."
Same vibes honestly
"I've got a jar of dirt,I've got a jar of dirt can't guess what's inside it."
Legendary but at the end actually not that good since a pirate doesn't want to be famous. That's like wanting to be a famous mugger
Gosh, I feel bad for Chris. Just look at his face. He's just trying to save the interview whilst she thinks it's a competition
Samuel F Exactly what I thought
which Chris?
@@gabreiliusgen4519 yes
Ikr and he's not the most outgoing or talkative of the cast so I can't imagine how awkward he must have felt trying to put out that garbage fire :/
@@gabreiliusgen4519 maybe Chris Hemsworth but idk
She could have been a MASSIVE star. But she shat on it with her personality
actor John Goodman does have one good friend who happens to be a newly minted Oscar winner: Brie Larson. "I love her. She is so charismatic. She would organize - she was like the only girl there, on set... every weekend she would organize stuff to do for people," he said of his Kong: Skull Island costar. "We'd go look at kangaroos and she'd organize a trip to an amusement park after they closed. Just stuff for people to do. Because she's over-sensitive about people getting nervous and angry and on each other's nerves. She's incredible."
How to make yourself more likable: sit down, be humble
True, except there are a lot of people that like arrogant assholes.
nobody will like you then. They can’t like you if they don’t know you exist.
Be humble. But don’t sit down.
Being humble might be a showing a fake personality
Everybody at work.... Cannot be humble or no bonus...
Edin To be humble does not mean to have a fake personality or to put yourself down. It simply means to listen to others when they speak. Michael Jordan was one of the most humble people on Earth but you’d never know it from his TV personality. But off the screen and off the court he’d listen to everyone who gave him advice, and it was listening to people that gave him his edge.
Damn so this is what insecurity looks like on the outside👀
So cringey
@John J Lucas Do you came out from the same cringey reddit page, like clones? How does It feels to share everyone the same one brain cell? 😂
Chizumi ??? You completely missed his point
@@leobryant1011 I don't think so. Pure stupidity and cringey redditism isn't a point, no more than a tantrum. No need to nobilitate it with a serious response.
Chizumi well I think your misinterpreting his point. I’m fairly certain he’s referring to modern day feminism. And the modern day feminists have a history of doing terrible things so they don’t have the cleanest track record. I’m pretty sure he’s not against feminism, just today’s 1st world feminism.
I think she treated the Google questions like it was Mean Tweets and so was just in defensive mode because she thought it has to be like mean Tweets
Never thought you could try too hard, but you can, thanks for you vids bud.
I wish people would point out that Don cheadle was very hostile and Chris hemsworth were interrupting her and insulting her while she was trying to explain what she meant. Maybe she can be abrasive but honestly in this moment, it felt to me like Don and Chris were just ganging up on her and it felt very immature, like school-yard bullying immature. I feel the hate she gets is way too much, the MCU fans are VERY toxic and mean.
actor John Goodman does have one good friend who happens to be a newly minted Oscar winner: Brie Larson. "I love her. She is so charismatic. She would organize - she was like the only girl there, on set... every weekend she would organize stuff to do for people," he said of his Kong: Skull Island costar. "We'd go look at kangaroos and she'd organize a trip to an amusement park after they closed. Just stuff for people to do. Because she's over-sensitive about people getting nervous and angry and on each other's nerves. She's incredible."