Subtle Over Pursuit Causes Rejection
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- How to avoid subtly over pursuing your lover to the point that it causes unnecessary rejection, friend-zoning, being ignored or turning them off.
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make no mistake, "Good morning" and "Good night texts" are also too much, learned this the very hard way...
They’re good as long as you don’t do it every single day cause then it doesn’t mean shit. Use it strategically 👌🏻
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So true bro, i started talking t to a girl i just dated and then i found Corey channel and decided to backed out from this chick, sudenly she stared chasing me and mising me because i have been indiferent.Im so glad i seeing Coreys tips, I WANT THAT BOOK SO BAD!!!
Good gem Og👌🏾
Naked juicebox WTF You want it so bad? Dude it’s like 9 bucks for the kindle version. Download the kindle app. Go on amazon and buy the kindle version for $8.69. Please don’t tell me that 9 bucks is out of your grasp.
Common theme in almost all your videos. Girl likes guy, guy begins to like girl, guy chases girl too much, girl loses interest, guy becomes obsessed and chases more, girl gets weirded out and avoids contact, and then Game Over. Moral of the story, let the girl do all the chasing.
Very true buddy.
Most of these guys are getting the attention from a girl for the first time in their life or a rare time and they are reading way too much into her initial interest. I used to do the same thing and there's no telling how many other guys these girls are talking to, that's also a reason why the girl will suddenly go cold and it's because of another guy.
Champ1988 That's a very interesting take on it cause I do think girls will temporarily shop around and see what's out there because I've learned when a girl backs away or gives me the "lets be friends" speech or she "needs time to herself", it's usually all because she's wanting to sample some other guy and the interest level in me is medium at best but I have been dumped by one girl and she got another b/f and then when i left her alone, she found that the other guy was not like me, so she dumped him and came back to me. Another time I totally blew getting a kiss from a woman that I worked with but she was married, but we were at a mutual friends house and she followed me into the bathroom and closed the door and just stood there and it would have only been me and her that ever knew what went on in that bathroom, but I blew it and played the nice guy and i never got another chance like that again. ;(
Champ1988 Yeah, this particular girl was part Indian, long black hair, deep brown eyes and it was all I could do at times at work to keep my eyes off of her but I stayed respectful but I did bring myself to tell her eventually that I did have a thing for her and she told me that if she hadn't been married, she would have had a hard time saying no, so I guess that was a nice consolation. I later did meet a beautiful Hispanic woman on that same job 3 years later and she was married also, she went out on a date with me but it was her idea and 10 months later she divorced that guy and married me, only it didn't last of course cause 3 years later she was dumping me for the next guy, so I learned to watch for the red flags of getting a woman that's a relationship hopper. I'm older and wiser now but still continue to learn something all the time, thanks for your response Champ1988.
Champ1988 thanks man, well when she left, I never wanted her back, couldn't trust her around money, but the great thing is I started to focus in my job more, got up earlier and earlier , stayed later and later and built up more savings and had more disposable income than ever before and oh yeah ..... guess who wanted to come back 6 years later? and guess what the answer was? LOL. Anyway, she was just a user but I'm more wise to those tricks now, maybe I was gullible and got taken but those things don't happen anymore. I also learn a lot from MGTOW. Anything that promotes a healthy and balanced point of view about our world and society, I'm learning even at the age of 50, thank you and always continued success to you Champ1988.
ignoring her has worked like a charm! thanks corey i love you
@@lavieenrose7925 He teachest to shift your focus, and that's what he meant.
Wow dont come on to him so fast, looks like you werent reading the book
Don’t ignore my bru take time to respond and set dates 👌
Man, he cracks me up. Probably because I have done everything wrong that he makes jokes about.
Haha lmao so funny his imitations I laugh 😂
Never be too keen ... It's your indifference that can make all the difference ... :)
Gentlemen, this stuff works if you can just control your emotions. Let her contact you FIRST after that date, set another date, get off the phone. No texting in between unless you are responding to her and get off the phone RINSE REPEAT. Give her all the space to choose you. It’s just self control
When you're tempted to text her,beat your meat and see if you're still interested in texting her after you're done, that usually minimizes the risk of you reaching out first lol
How does this apply if for example every time you leave her house the next morning she messages you like an hour or 2 later? Can you set another date with her initiating then if you’ve been dating for like 7+ weeks? This is the part that confuses me so you don’t end up texting back & fourth trying to drag it out until the next day to ask.
This is exactly what I did. I feel for this guy. Been there, done that. Learn from it.
dude you are hilarious. I'm so glad I can laugh with you now instead of getting all butthurt. I bought the book keep up the good work!
8:09 "ACTING LIKE THE EMOTIONAL TAMPON" LMFAO i love this guy so much
I did that same part in 12:28. I texted "Had a blast tonight, we should do that again. Thanks for such a lovely night." Nobody texted anyone after that.
Actually that's sth for girls only to say, not men.
Ha!!
Me too bro, before I knew better. You should let them know you enjoyed their company before you part ways, then wait several days before reaching out again to make plans so the next date is about a week apart. Ideally they'd be reaching out to you to text that bubbly shit and then you assume she wants to see you and start setting up the next date. Sending bubbly shit yourself shows insecurity and women pick up on that. It's like you're trying to get them to mirror your enthusiasm by sending what you want to hear.
@@mastafull bingo, you nailed it. Well said.
RIP
illusion of action
that is the best dating advice ever
couldnt stop laughing at the facial expressions LOL love corey
This is the best video of all of them ( I have seen them all) and is a must watch. Don't skip this one.
Come one guys let's not act as if we're not the same way to an extent, we can take out a chick that we want to get to know, and she starts to come on too strong, gets clingy, and talks about being in a relationship despite the fact that you're on the second date. We tend to loose interest , ik I experience this from time to time.
Yes, it’s very uncomfortable and makes me want to focus more on work or doing creative activities. I’m very detached from reactive emotions so I need time to reflect
If she’s really cute I’m into the clinginess lol
@@rsanders219 hahahahha
Never date a single mother
Dude this mother that was pursuing me has a boyfriend
That was worse
@@fargeekslol
This video helped me to back off and get my girlfriend back after she know longer wanted me awesome thank you
I've dun no contact loads of times worked every time keeps you out off friendzone and back in the bedroom lol shame she's seems narccistic but all great learning from Corey Wayne s awesome book and videos
Is she still with you ?
Remember, the single mom's priority's list:
#1 kids
#2 money / resources
#3 You
If you bring enough resources you'll be lucky if you get to level #2
#3 is friends/family #4 freedom/independence #5 is you …don’t ever kid yourself you’re number 3 to a single mom unless you’ve been around for years. I recently made that mistake and found out I was much lower on the totem pole than I thought. I backed off since hoping she comes back around
Coach Corey's facial expression should have been the thumbnail for this video. XD Awesome info.
Amazing how he can be so serious and funny at the same time. Especially when "playing a part" XD
Happy thanksgiving Corey.
God Bless America!
There's a weird moral to the story here, which is that even if you shoot yourself in the foot (occasionally) the distance can turn things around. You need the mindset that it happens, nice, if not just live your life and move on. But you can guarantee the chase will never work.
@@brandontadday6288 So true bro. I'm in a situation with this girl. I've been seeing this girl for about a month. I didn't fuck her but I got so close a couple of times. Now she's hell of distant. So I just decided to stop talking to her. I havn't heard from her in about 5 days now. If she comes back, cool. If not I'll find another girl.
@@brandontadday6288Just focus on your purpose bro. It doesn't really matter if she comes back or not because things will all work out in the end.
That Star Wars reference aged like milk. The rest is solid. Thanks coach
hahahha, thanks for the good laughs Corey. Freedom is key.
He smiles like he knows something that we don't.... And that's true actually..
Corey you work has changed my life. Thank you for all you do!
All hail The Coach!!
Honestly, thank you for your strategies. Even though, you have so many strategies on RUclips.
So true! Thanks Corey. I’m reading your book now.
Yaa dude learn the fundamentals, invest into his book. I learned from my mistake of being 17 and not having a job I could only use his videos and it made me very confused, applying what he taught without using the book. This made me lose the girl I liked and put me very depressed about a year ago. And when I finally hit rock bottom n bought his book it was too late!! So its your job to grab your nuts be a man and give here space, STOP BEING FEMININE LET HER THINK ABOUT YOU!! DONT BE WEAK NEEDY N insecure
Been binge watching your videos Corey. Thank you for the advice. Used to follow redpill strategies & my relationships would fail. Your way is the best way
'"HAHAHA!, 9:17- 9:23....what a reaction!!!
I’m always laughing at Corey’s impressions of the girls and guys hopefully they’ll be a video with just those clips 😂
GUYS....Buy the book!! the shit works!
FACTS ON FACTS
In my situation, everything was going textbook, her ex-boyfriend showed up and that was the end no matter what you did perfectly, Corey explains that and his one situation there's nothing you can do cuz they have emotional feelings for their EX they just disappear and ghost, because they don't want their ex to know about you
9:19 kills me😂😃😂
No contact works wonders
Meh....
super awesome expressions at 10:00
my exact situation lol. luckily it was ldr so I'm almost over it but damn.. seeing them go from 8-9 to a 3-4 sucks
Any better bro?
danielaung691 nah. LDRs aren’t worth it, no matter how well you connect with her
@@TH-cq7bj was that because your needs werent being met in the relationship or because of she changed?
danielaung691 both but that was due to the distance. It’s impossible to have your needs met in an LDR. Don’t do it bro. It’s a beta move
The Star Wars comment didn't age well🤣🤣🤣
haha the thumbnail for this one is awesome
XDDDD
Lol troll
Just love the confused face imitation!
COACH I agree I went no contact with my ex 5 days and just like that she texted me and invited me over and we had sex for 5 hours like we used to do yes it does work guys take urself out of the picture and trust me they come running back !!!
The funny text thing though, so classic of a repeated mistake haha
"...eehh"
This sounds like my gf.. We're long distance and for months she was all about me. Texting me up all the time but if anything changed in her life or something happens with her custody stuff I barely hear from her. I just wait it out and don't freak out. I just back off a little and leave her alone then one day she goes right back to acting how she was before.
Damn I think this might be the most helpful video I’ve seen of yours so far, at least in terms of relatability right now!
If only you knew how bad that star wars was going to be.
hahahahah coach you're awesome! !!! these are the golden rules of dating and hooking up.
THIS MAN IS HONESTY GOD
Love you Buddha
Man I love your confidence! Lol
Still stoked about Star wars Corey?......
Who really wants women like this? They are clearly Not wife material
L.A.W. - There is a "game" to be played.You better be prepared!
+1700 videos, always reminds 'it's not his real name' love coach Corey 😂
Hey Corey I think you can work as a part time comedian :D
12:25 funny as hell lol sooo true
I keep on hearing tons of talk about sex, career, goals and fitness...dudes, do you realize your life is ending, one day at a time? Who gives a fugg about where you're going, what you've accumulated in your small, transient existence; it could all end tomorrow, through a stroke, aneurysm, some other bio-systemic bullshidtt. I'm interested in significant, life-altering relationships. You are expiring...act as such. The candle is burning-the toy is winding down.
It's exactly like Star Wars 🤣 Anakin is fearful of losing Padme, so in the steps he takes to prevent it happening. He actually becomes the catalyst smh
Come on man
Such a delicate matter
Yes, it IS awesome that there's another Star Wars movie coming out! Can't fucking wait!!!
Greetings, I am a time traveler from the far future, here to tell you that the new Star Wars movies all suck.
This dude really sent a message
“Hey you” 😆😆😂😂
Lmao such a girl text
Hi Cory, I have narrowed down the advice that makes the most sense to me and this comes down to your work and Robbin/Madanes Ultimate Relationship Program. My dilemma is that you seem to say the opposite.
I tried to think of it as your work deals with shorter relationships and dating where as Tony Robbins URP deals with marriage and long term relationships.
Your work always says walk away until she reaches out. Tony Robbins always says the man should stand strong and be fully present for his woman to demonstrate unconditional love.
Your work seems to focus on what Robbins defines as a level 1 relationship where it is all about me. He states that this will never give a long lasting loving and passionate relationship. Of course there is much more to it from both sides. I wonder if you are aware of the Robbins URP and care to comment and throw some light on the difference. I am torn between the two and that creates confusion in trying to resurrect my 10 year relationship.
Ian Smith I think you're taking the "the Man should stand strong etc" out of context.
Ian Smith I think you're taking the "the Man should stand strong etc" out of context.
3:22 doesn't it work both ways? what if she's thinking the same thing, while the man is making himself scarce, and she makes herself scarce too. and they grow apart forever?
then they weren't really that into each other
If this happens they didn't really like each other... if they like each other no one will pull away they both will always put in the same effort
If a girl matches you and you initiated the conversation but she doesn't respond. Should I try it again in two weeks or duck it and thank you, next?
Never chase. It’s sooo simple.
This is the definition of my life I didn't realize I was making all these mistakes till I bought the book. But is there any way to salvage a relationship with a chick that I over pursued? She lost interest friendzoned me and now we don't talk? What should I do
Accept and take responsibility for your mistakes like a man (which it sounds like you have), and then use this acknowledgement as a way to learn for your future relationships, so you don't repeat the same mistakes.
It's as CCW says in the video above, "You should only keep someone who wants you"; if they come back, they come back! If not, who cares! There's a bus every fifteen minutes.
Pursuing them more and trying to make something happen will only worsen the situation as you'll come across as even more weak and desperate. If they get in touch with you, all you have to say is that it was nice to hear from them and set a definite date. Until that happens, if it ever happens, there's not much you can do.
Don't hold out hope or expectation they'll return, that's attachment. That's focussing about what YOU will get out of it. You go to relationships to give. So, what can you do now? Well -
"Inactions breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confident and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy!" - Dale Carnegie
Take your new found knowledge from your recent personal experiences, as well as the teachings of CCW, and go out, and get busy! Repetition is the mother of skill. Define exactly what you want, as CCW teaches, and start practicing! It's the only way to get better and achieve the results you want.
Good luck, you fucking catch!
Nothing. She put you on the friends zone. Move on meet other women and if she calls you know what to do. Other than that you do nothing
Jay Bisky If you bought the book and read it you know you shouldn't be asking that question regarding what to do, that's called the illusion of action. There's nothing you can do but focus 100% of your efforts on yourself improvement and goals in life, if she contacts you ask her to come over twice if she doesn't agree, you don't ask again unless she brings it up, but most importantly she needs to do 100% of the pursing not 90 or 95 or even 99% but 100% otherwise you will end up like the guy in the video did.
Jay Bisky when you get friendzoned you have to date other better girls who will raise your sexual market value and make the girl who friend zoned you regret it
Just ignore her, I was well and truly friend zoned with her refusing to meet with me for a month, so gave her an ultimatum, saying I wanted intimacy and if she couldn’t give it to me, I’d walk away and find another woman that would... six days of no contact later she texted me Saturday evening inviting me round that night, stayed overnight and we had sex... I’m back seeing her regularly, we’re fucking and she’s instigating all texts, calls and being the one to arrange dates with me.
9:42 fkn nailed it lmao
I completely understand we aren't suppose to be the therapist or emotional tampon ... but what do i do if a girl im dating starts opening and vents about personal stuff thats going on in her life ... am I suppose to say "I'm not your therapist go cry to your friends" or what
“Let’s talk about this over dinner”
she was in the process of divorce and a custody battle. you have an ex and kids as well.
She's already starting this shit with you?
Dude...walk and never look back. if she calls. meet up and hook up. you don't need that in your life long term. keep your nose down and keep looking for a better one.
learn from your mistakes and find a better one who will be in your corner
12:26 lmao 😂 imitation so funny loll
Hey coach Corey, is the book also applicable for gay people who has feminine sexual polarity?
i havent read it not even 1 time couch i have it but been lazy bought it from amazon and i liked your video and just all the other people you talk about it was great at the beginning and after i fucked it up
Why did he fear her? She was obviously nice and relaxed and not pushy. Lucky him.
What's the distinctive difference between being her rock and the gay male girlfriend? Isn't the rock supposed to also offer some level of emotional support?
Shame no one answered this
This is a great question
Preach
New Star Wars is coming out 2016 or 17 I think.
2015
I love these old comments
and ive done everything wrong and she didnt want anything to do with me i tried to fix it but didnt work
This one was hilarious
9:50 LOL
Personally my problems are during the relationship. I never had a problem getting into a relationship or dates or numbers but the long term like year+ with 4 being my most. Honest opinion when you stop focusing on her and hang out with friends see her once or twice a week at first and times in relationships but they tend to manipulate the fact that I hang out with my friends and not message them (get controlling) idk if it’s my choice or my actions in the relationship?
I recently had problems even before even having a possible relationship with a lady, sure our chats and flirts have spreaded a possibility of a relationship but yeah not even dating has happened
It’s simple guys “be good looking and have a ton of cash”
Mike Davis Definitely a big part of the puzzle. Not acting weak and being funny are very important too. ✌️
this vato is hilarious
Hi Coach, What is your view on MGTOW. ( Men Going There Own way) ? Best wishes to you! Ian.
How does this apply if for example every time you leave her house the next morning she messages you like an hour or 2 later? Can you set another date with her initiating then if you’ve been dating for like 7+ weeks? This is the part that confuses me so you don’t end up texting back & fourth trying to drag it out until the next day to ask
12:20 lol
Star Wars random as shit 😂😂😂
It's like I'm listening to my own story. Fucking exact same shit. Women like this aren't ready for a committed relationship. They just wanna have fun. So just focus on having fun with them!
Thoughts anyone??? I had 2 dates in a week with this girl I really liked (2nd date kiss).....3rd date was due but she ghosted a few days.....then she texted with the "I'm just too busy at the moment" line.....all I answered with was: "No problem, if you'd like to catch up again sometime down the track just let me know"......she replied back with: "Will do, thanks for understanding"......it's been 3-4 weeks now with no contact
this normal? or basically she's gone??
The guy should have backed away till the custody problem got sorted...
Beta males hit the dislike button 🤣
What you fear, you attract.... I'm afraid of my crush...
9:18 I had the same fucking reaction holy shit 😂
Survey says "LOSER"
9:18
When you first interact with a girl is it ok to compliment a girl's eyes and say it take my fucking breath away?
If you are drawn into her eyes, she will know it. You don't have to verbalize it.
Women reject me the moment I tell them I have a disability, I literally have no hope whatsoever.
You dont want them mate. Trust me. If they dont have the heart, then you would have been miserable
What disability do you have that you have to tell them for them to know
The woman in this story is not typical! And this is not a normal way to treat a man!
This is the norm. If its odd to you than your probably better to have around than most woman. I salute you lol
LuLu B thanks a man wants to be respected not played.....
This is VERY commonly behavior the average male has to deal with lol
The girl definitely enjoyed the sex. Not the most appropriate case for the content
If a man is not making his feelings clear to me that he wants me then I will assume he is not, I’m not into men that just want to play games.